Edition 18 november 5th (hr) by Saint Ignatius

T IGNATIUS COLLEGE SAIN

Newsletter

Edition 18, November 5th 2015

From the Principal Welcome!

Coming Events Term 4 November Mon 9th Melbourne Camp Monday to Friday Mon 9th Year 11 Exams Commence Mon 9th Parents and Friends’ Association Annual General Meeting Tues 10th Year 11 VCAL Walkathon Wed 11th Year 7 and 8 Sport Mon 16th Kickstart Mon 16th Mosaic rehearsal Mon 16th Year 7 Music Concert Thurs 19th Student Free Day Thurs 19th Mosaic Evening A more detailed calendar is on the last page.

Mosaic Evening and arrangements for classes on the day Mosaic is a very special annual community celebration for our College. All members of our school community are encouraged to attend this wonderful evening on Thursday 19th November at Costa Hall, Deakin Waterfront Campus. The Student Art & Technology display commences at 6.00pm in the Costa Hall foyer followed by the celebration evening that commences at 7.00pm in the main auditorium. We have received very positive feedback over the years about this major College function. However, one area we acknowledge for improvement was the length of last year’s program. We have made a determined effort to reduce the length of this year’s evening. I hope this will be a further incentive for you to attend as well as wanting to support our community by your attendance and to be part of a very enjoyable and uplifting celebration of the 2016 school year at Saint Ignatius College.

Please note that most Years 7 - 11 students will not be required at school on Thursday 19th November 2015 so staff can prepare for the evening and students performing can rehearse. Having had the day off school it is expected that students will come to the evening instead of their classes for the day. Students in Years 7 - 11 who are performing in the evening are expected to come to school on the day for the rehearsals. Year 12 students will attend school as per their exam timetable. I look forward to joining with students, families and friends of the College to celebrate the school year. As was the case last year no tickets are required to attend, all you will need to do is turn up at Costa Hall, and you will be ushered to a seat. There is no cost to attend, and you are most welcome to invite Grandparents, other family members, and family friends. ....continued on Page 2

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In Brief

From the Principal (cont.)

This Page: ‘From the Principal’

Year 12 exams and pathways

Page 3: From Rev. Fr. Kevin Dillon Page 4: Faith Matters Page 5: State Championship for our Chess Team and Booklist Correction Page 6: College Christmas Appeal Page 7: Year 7 Italian Magic Show Page 8: VCE and Curriculum News Page 9: Canteen Roster, Parents and Friends’ Association and Jesuit Province trip to Timor Leste Page 10 and 11: Parents and Friends’ Association 2016 College Fees Raffle Page 12: Geelong - Viqueque Friendship Schools Trivia Night Page 13: Parenting Your Teenager Page 14: Men Alive Men’s Weekend Page 15: Log on with your kids Page 16: Advanced Carrer Training Page 17 and 18: ‘Manage like a cat, nuture like a dog’ by Michael Grose Page 19 and 21: Community Notice Board Page 22: School Calender

Yr 12 VCE students across the State are well and truly into their exam period. Many of our students undertaking these major assessments have sat two or more exams since last Wednesday, with this week being particularly busy. Please keep these students in your thoughts and prayers at this time that they can revise well and demonstrate their learning to the best of their abilities. Our Year 12 VCAL students have finished their classes for the year, and I wish them all the best for their next step toward employment or further study. I know some of them have already picked up an apprenticeship and others are enrolling in a vocational course for next year. So it is also important to keep them in our thoughts and prayers as they make this very significant transition from secondary school. I know Mr. Bruce Connor, our Work and Further Education Coordinator, has provided support to many VCAL and VCE students and parents when they were considering possible pathways. Mr. Connor remains available for the rest of the school year (and into the next school year) if any student or parent would like some support or information re pathways, courses or employment. He can be contacted by phoning our Office.

East Timor visitor Fr Weyms Sanchez SJ, Principal of the new ‘Colegio Loiola’ (Loyola College) in Kasait, East Timor, visited our college in midOctober. Fr Weyms was accompanied by Fr Chris Gleeson SJ, Provincial’s Education Delegate. The purpose of Fr Weyms’ visit was to build friendship between his school and ours, thank us for the financial support we have provided to his developing school, thank our school community for our support of East Timor in general and to share his school’s needs as a way of indicating where we could be of further help. Fr Weyms talked about the importance of education as a way forward for the East Timorese and the great desire for places at the Jesuit secondary school. He was also very interested to hear from the students who participated in the East Timor Immersion trips mid-year about their experiences. Fr Chris sent me the following message he recently received for Fr Weyms. “I would just like to drop a note to thank you and all our Jesuit schools and Partner schools for allowing me to personally visit the schools and speak to their school councils, executive teams, faculty and students.

I hope that my little presentation has helped in putting a face to our education project that they have been extending assistance to in the past three years. Their assurance of continued support both in terms of financial help and resource sharing is very encouraging for us at Colégio de Santo Inácio de Loyola. The school visits and conversations with school officials have also been very informative for me and has opened many possibilities that we can work on at our school. We have a long way to go indeed; however, the enthusiasm and generosity of our schools give us the hope and energy to pursue our vision despite the many challenges we need to overcome. Once again, thank you very much for the opportunity and support that you have given. We shall keep in touch.”

Remembrance Day As you are aware, next Wednesday is Remembrance Day. We will be conducting a short memorial service for students and staff in their classes. Toward the end of Lesson 4, the College will be called to attention. Students are to remain in classrooms and to give their full attention to the ceremony broadcast over the College’s public address system, under the supervision of the teacher. We will begin with an introduction about the significance of Remembrance Day. This will be followed by the playing of the “Last Post.” The College will be called upon to observe one minute’s silence. This will be followed by the “Rouse.” The poem “In Flanders Fields” will then be recited. The ceremony concludes with the Ode of Remembrance. All students will be asked to repeat, “Lest we Forget.” Thank you to Mr. Paul Lewis (DP) for organizing and leading this service.

Best Wishes On behalf of our school community, I wish Mr. Bill Miles an enjoyable and restful time as he takes Long Service leave for the remainder of this year. I am grateful to both Year 10 Homeroom teacher Mr. Terry Tolan, who will take over as Year 10 Coordinator and Mr. Kevin Arthurson, who will take Mr. Miles remaining classes and Mr. Tolan’s relief classes. Best wishes,

Michael Exton Principal

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You don’t need a group hug or a company away day to bring you closer to colleagues - just to sing together. In fact not only does singing break the ice, it helps people to bond more quickly than other activities, UK researchers say. People who took singing lessons became friends faster than those who signed up for other classes - possibly because group singing may trigger the release of feel-good brain chemicals. University of Oxford scientists asked people in creative writing and crafts at night school how close they felt to classmates. Although all felt equally friendly by the end of the seven-month courses, the singers bonded more quickly. Researcher Eilunid Pearce said: “This is the first clear evidence that singing is a powerful means of bonding a group simultaneously”. “Herald Sun”, Thurs. Oct. 29

From Fr Kevin Dillon “The Choir that sings together….” It would not come as news to anyone who has ever been a member of a Choir to learn recent British research has determined that people form a special bond when they sing together. The “Choir of Hard Knocks” was a sensation (and rightly so) a few years ago when founder Jonathan Welch combined with the ABC to form a choir of homeless and disadvantaged people. The exhilaration, sense of dignity, unity and common purpose which being part of the choir gave them was evident. The TV series which followed them became a favourite with audiences across the country. Here at St. Mary’s each Monday afternoon, the Geelong Stroke Survivors’ Choir gathers in our Hibernian Hall to sing together. In recent years, the discovery has emerged that some people whose speech has been compromised by a stroke can still sing - and singing with others is a wonderful experience for them. In doing so, consistent with the University of Oxford report, they form friendships, have a sense of bonding and unity with each other, and also provide entertainment for the staff in the adjacent Parish Office. And of course our own St. Mary’s Basilica Choir provides a high standard of liturgical music at the 9.30 a.m. Mass each Sunday, and at other major liturgical occasions. It has also developed long and enduring friendships over the years.

The regular meeting of members both at Mass itself and at the Thursday evening practices combines with their common interest in music to make the unified singing a very positive experience. St. Mary’s Parish should be (and we are) extremely grateful to the Choir for its enduring commitment to the life of the parish and its indispensable contribution to the quality of the liturgy in our Basilica. In fact, having a Choir of such distinction was an important component in the successful application for St. Mary’s to be recognised as one of Australia’s five churches honoured with the title of “Basilica”. Singing in our Basilica Choir might be an option you have never considered. If you like music, if you can sing in tune (not everyone can!), and if you want to be part of a group which not only helps the parish but develops valuable friendships as well as a sense of achieving something worthwhile in a common effort, then why not come to a practice in the Sodalities Room on a Thursday at 7.30p.m? You might be pleasantly amazed both at what you can give and what you can gain! Fr Kevin Dillon, Geelong Deanery Coordinator and Association of Canonical Administrator President OAM

Evening 2015 An evening of celebration showcasing our fine programs and achievements during the year at Saint Ignatius College St. Ignatius. Inspiring me to be a leader

Date: Thursday November 19th at Costa Hall, Deakin Waterfront Campus Time: Doors open at 5.30pm for foyer displays and perfomances, main presentation from 7.00pm in the auditorium (open from 6.45pm). No tickets required

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Faith Matters All who believe in Jesus have eternal life and I will raise them up on the last day. Jesus said to the crowd: ‘All that the Father gives me will come to me, and whoever comes to me I shall not turn him away; because I have come from heaven, not to do my own will, but to do the will of the one who sent me. ‘Now the will of him who sent me is that I should lose nothing of all that he has given to me, and that I should raise it up on the last day. Yes, it is my Father’s will that whoever sees the Son and believes in him shall have eternal life, and that I shall raise him up on the last day.’ John 6:37-40

Those who have fallen asleep

Jesus said to the disciples:

November is time of remembrance for the Church. We begin the month with All Saints, where we remember and pray for the Saints. The following day is All Souls or The Commemoration of All the Faithful Departed, where we remember and pray for all those who have passed away. These events on the Liturgical Calendar are central to our understanding of Christ and of our faith.

‘Do not let your hearts be troubled. Trust in God still, and trust in me. There are many rooms in my Father’s house; if there were not, I should have told you. I am going now to prepare a place for you, and after I have gone and prepared you a place, I shall return to take you with me; so that where I am you may be too.

Throughout November we as a community at Saint Ignatius will follow in the tradition by celebrating and remembering the lives of all who have departed. We are sure that those who have died have been raised with Jesus to a new and eternal life; and that we will one day be with them again when we also return.

You know the way to the place where I am going.’ Thomas said, ‘Lord, we do not know where you are going, so how can we know the way?’ Jesus said: ‘I am the Way, the Truth and the Life. No one can come to the Father except through me.’ (John 14:1-6)

Our belief is affirmed and strengthened throughout our lives. In receiving the sacraments, interpreting the Scripture and learning from the Magisterium we are certain of the promises of Christ. I would like to highlight a number of scriptural references underpin this belief. In contrast to the Old Testament there is very little redaction or hyperbole in the New Testament, and therefore we can be sure that the text is direct and genuine. I would like to firstly note a reference from St Pauls letter to the Romans, as many of us begin our journey with Jesus as an infant through Baptism. In his letter to the Romans, St Paul teaches: When we were baptised in Christ Jesus we were baptised in his death; in other words, when we were baptised we went into the tomb with him and joined him in death, so that as Christ was raised from the dead by the Father’s glory, we too might live a new life. But we believe that having died with Christ we shall return to life with him: Christ, as we know, having been raised from the dead will never die again. Death has no power over him any more. (Rom 6:3-4. 8-9) This passage reminds us that from our first moments with Christ we enter into His mystery. When we are cleansed of our sin and saved through the water and the words “I baptize you in the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of Holy Spirit”.

By virtue of faith in Christ we look forward to life after death in the room that he has prepared for us. We also know that those who we have lost are with Him, waiting for us also. The house Jesus refers to is of course Heaven. Unlike pre-Vatican II understandings we do not believe heaven to be filled with clouds, angels and harps or in hell that is full of fire and dancing devils with pitchforks. We know that heaven is being eternally with God, whereas hell is being eternally separated from God. Dwelling in His house forever is the promise of heaven that Jesus proclaims in the reference above. Throughout November I would like to encourage you to reflect on the readings offered above, of your journey through this life with Christ and the promise of life eternal. Pray for yourself and for those you love who have fallen asleep, along with those also listed in the daily prayer on Xuno bulletin items. In doing so we pray that we may truly be a Church, as the Creed announces: “the communion of saints, the forgiveness of sins, the resurrection of the dead, and the life everlasting”. Yours in Christ, Brendan Nicholls Liturgy Coordinator

The promise of eternal life with the Father awaits, throughout our lives, guided by the Spirit, we walk with Jesus and seek to follow the Gospel. The second reference is from the Gospel of St John and bookends the previous. As people near death we can be comforted by scripture as Jesus assures us that through the Paschal Mystery we will live with him eternally and that he awaits us.

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State Championships for our Chess Team Saint Ignatius Chess team after State Championships in Melbourne recently Lto R: Matheson McEwen, James Kerr-Nelson Kent Baden, Shaun Pender and Cahill Hardman Absent: Jessica Vella

Parents and Friends’ Association Raffle

Booklist Correction This is to advise you of a printing error on the Year 7 student booklist for 2016.

Booklist Information now online

The booklist was given to you recently and your thoughts will be turning to the purchase of texts for next year as your son/daughter enters Year 7.

We have recently added a page on our website detailing how to access ordering online of required books for 2016 through our supplier Campion as well as booklist pick up dates and times.

Under the listed books for Humanities there is the following note (compulsory to buy new edition). This is incorrect and should have been deleted prior to printing as the new edition was brought in for the commencement of 2015. Therefore, you are completely at liberty to purchase existing second-hand Humanities textbooks as available through the College’s second-hand book-selling facility. We apologise for any inconvenience that this oversight may have caused.

On this page you will also find links to the Sustainable School Shop where secondhand books can be bought and sold and the process involved. Please go to: www.ignatius.vic.edu.au and then look under ‘Teaching and Learning’

The Parents and Friends’ Association is currently conducting their annual raffle during Term Four 2015. Tickets are on sale between November 12th and December 4th. Raffle ticket flyers will be distributed via homerooms over the next week and are also available in this newsletter to be downloaded and printed. First prize is paid tuition fees for a student for the 2016 school year and the Association looks forward to your support in conducting this fundraiser. The raffle winner will be drawn on Tuesday December 8th and notified subsequently. See page 10 and 11 for more details.

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College Christmas Appeal The Social Justice Committee will be conducting our annual College Christmas Appeal leading up to Christmas. Each homeroom will be given a Christmas Hamper box to be filled with non-perishable favourite Christmas items for a family in need this Christmas. Please remember those less fortunate when selecting a food item and think of the type of foods you appreciate eating at Christmas time. The type of good quality foods that we are looking for include: Plum Pudding Shortbread Fruit Cake Tinned Veges Tinned Fruit Preserves Mince Pies Custard Gingerbread Xmas napkins Ice cream topping

Coffee and tea Soft Drink Cordial Nuts Bon Bons Candy Canes Dried Fruit Lollies Chocolate Jams Biscuits

Thanking you in anticipation of your generosity.

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Year 7 Italian Magic Show In week 4 of Term 4, Saint Ignatius College was visited by the fantastic magician Luigi Zucchini who came to our Year 7 students with his amazing Italian Magic Comedy. Students enjoyed his stylish Italian moustaches and accent and were able to interact with his magic bunnies, tricky birds and on top of the magic, his great sense of humour. Students were actively involved in his performance not only with questions asked in Italian by our magician, but also through volunteering during his show. The Year 7 students found Luigi Zucchini hilarious and funny. One of the top moments was when he suddenly threw the hammer that he was using for one of his tricks in to the crowd (evidently he had replaced his real hammer with a rubber one!). Here some student comments: Nicholas B: “ It was funny how well he was misdirecting the audience!” Max C: “He has done amazing tricks that I have never seen before!” Jasmine: “ I loved his great interaction with the audience!” Mr. Francesco Melli

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VCE and Curriculum News The VCAA examinations are well under way and the Year 12 students seem to be confident in the exams that they have completed. The English examination was a wellbalanced exam and the students feel that they were able to confidently answer the Text Response and Language analysis sections. The students completing the Further Mathematics exams mostly attempted the sections on Matrices, Business maths and networks. It is a real credit to all VCE teachers on how settled and confident our students are feeling as they attempt each exam. Many teachers have made themselves available for extra 1-on-1 tutoring in the lead up to their exam and many students have taken up this opportunity. The Year 11 students are completing their final week of structured classes and will begin Unit 2 examinations next week, beginning on Monday November 9th and concluding on Friday November 13th. All Year 11 students are required to come to school each day as this attendance contributes to their overall semester attendance. The year 11 students will begin their Unit 3/ 4 subjects on Monday November 16th with the commencement of the KickStart program. The students will have 7 periods in each of their subjects to allow them a head start on their last year of secondary schooling. This is an extremely valuable experience for both students and teachers. Students going on the World Challenge experience will be attending 3 periods per subject and all course material delivered during KickStart is available on the College Intranet. Year 10 students who have been approved to accelerate and undertake a Unit 3/ 4 study in 2016 will participate in the program up until their exams commence on Monday November 23rd. Specific queries related to this program can be directed to Mrs. Anna Oliver, VCE Coordinator during normal school hours or via her email: olivera@ignatius. vic.edu.au

Year 10 students are currently finishing their final assessment tasks in core subjects in preparation for Semester 2 examinations. The core examinations will commence on Monday November 23rd and conclude on Wednesday November 25th. Timetables have been emailed to students and parents and will be available on the College news feed next week. Year 9 students begin exams after Year 9 camp, on Friday November 27th and conclude on Tuesday December 1st. Revision material will be available on the College intranet in the coming weeks under each core subject area. It has been a very busy and exciting year in Curriculum and the final run home will be no different. Students in Years 9 and 10 need to be honing their study skills in order to prepare for the rigors of the senior years. Students can reflect on skills delivered to them in the Elevate Education program and begin to implement effective study strategies in order to be fully prepared for their upcoming exams. Happy studying Mrs. Anna Oliver

Second Hand Book Sales Saint Ignatius College is conscious of the need to provide the most efficient process for families to be able to buy and sell their second-hand textbooks and other student resources. With this understanding in mind, the College has recently subscribed to Sustainable School Shop to mange its second-hand items. The P&F Association that has managed second hand sales in previous years will no longer be involved in this process and the College wishes to extend its sincere thanks to that organisation for all its prior efforts to manage this complex process.

As students complete their academic programs at various levels, parents and guardians will have the option to list texts for sale and similarly, others will have the option to purchase texts listed for sale. In all instances, where texts are offered for sale or purchase, it is essential that parents and guardians first consult the 2016 College booklist to ensure that the item to be exchanged using this method is the one referred to on the official College booklist for that level. Links to the 2016 Year 7 to 12 booklists will be available on the College website and via the Sustainable School Shop webpage by the end of October 2015. To assist with further understanding of the buying and selling of items, a user guide [pdf] will be located on the Sustainable School Shop website, as well as on the Saint Ignatius College website on the ‘Booklists and Second Hand Text page’ within the ‘Teaching and Learning’ section. Hard copy user guides will also be available from the College office by the end of October 2015. Families are offered three levels of access: l Search only - registering/logging-in on the Sustainable School Shop, searching all the for sale ads and gaining the sellers’ contact details is free. l Single items cost $1.00 to be advertised l Subscription - an annual subscription costs $19.95 and is the most anyone will pay. Families that have many items to advertise take the third level of access. All enquiries should be made directly to the Sustainable School Shop on: 1300 683 337. Help is also available through ‘Contact Us’ on their website at www.sustainableschoolshop.com.au Mrs. Annette Chidzey Deputy Principal [Curriculum]

Commencing in Term 4 this year, Saint Ignatius College will begin to implement this new initiative.

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Canteen Roster Starting 9th November Monday 9th C. Hunter, J. Wilcox, B. Rees, I. Bauer, A. Cassels-Rantall, C. Lyons Tuesday 10th B. Downey, M. Dunstan, S. Crawley, L. Irving, T. Mifsud Wednesday 11th C. Ford, M. Fanning, K. Walker, M. Sideris Thursday 12th M. White, M. Gill, L. Eastwood, R. Vallelonga Friday 13th V. Durbidge, S. Anson, D. Byron, H. Moore

Parents and Friends’ Association:

Meetings

The Parents & Friends’ Association cordially invite all those interested to their meetings for 2015 held from 7.30pm onward in the Food Tech Centre on the following dates: Meeting schedule: November Monday 9th AGM Followed by normal meeting December TBA

Uniform Shop New Location The uniform shop is now located in the Music / Performing Arts Area (access off Gillies Rd) and is now open Monday afternoons between 2 and 3.30pm.

We have a wide variety of uniform in stock and we also sell new socks.

The Minutes for all meetings can be found on the College website in the Parents and Friends’ Portal when available.

Please email uniform@ignatius.vic.edu. au for any enquiries regarding buying or selling uniform.

The Agenda for the up-coming meeting is also available from the website just prior to the meeting date.

We are also looking for volunteers to help out once a month either mornings or afternoons. If you are interested contact us on: uniform@ignatius.vic.edu.au

Starting 16th November Monday 16th A. Brown, J. Chainski, A. Cassels-Rantall, E. Hudson Tuesday 17th L. Vella, C. Carey, C. Duncan, Needed Wednesday 18th R. Scott, M. Sideris, R. Hay, L. Eastwood Thursday 19th No Canteen Student Free day Friday 20th J. Marles, C. Lyons, S. Schwaiger, Needed If unable to attend, please make sure you get a replacement.

Sandra Woodall Tel: 0417 050 258

Jesuit Province trip to Timor Leste As you know each year we are invited to send two students on the Jesuit Province trip to Timor Leste. This is a different trip from our own school Immersion trip to Timor Leste in June. The Jesuit Province trip is where two students are selected to represent our school and join with students from each of the other Australian Jesuit schools to travel as a group of about 16 students on an Immersion experience in Timor Leste. Thank you to all students who applied. We had a number of applicants who had to write a letter of application, gain references and then be interviewed. Thank you to Jacob Cuthill and Nicola Gordon, the two students who participated in this years Jesuit Province Trip, who assisted with the interviews of the applicants for next years trip. Congratulations to Bethany Johnstone and Cooper Seiffert who will represent Saint Ignatius College on the Jesuit Province Immersion next year. Well done. Mr. Paul Lewis, Deputy Principal [Mission, Formation and Pastoral Care] Bethany Johnstone

Cooper Seiffert

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Saint Ignatius College Geelong A Jesuit Partner School

27 Peninsula Drive, Drysdale. Vic. 3222

T: (03) 5251 1136 F: (03) 5251 3547 E: registrar@ignatius.vic.edu.au W: www.ignatius.vic.edu.au ABN: 59 345 224 293

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2016 College Fees’ Raffle

The Parents and Friends’ Association are organising a raffle. This will be a Major Fundraiser for our College. Tickets are $ 25.00 each and the prize is:

Prize

College Tuition Fees’ for 2016

(Fee applicable for youngest child at The College, does not include TELP Program, VCAL or VET Levies or other extra-curricular activities.) Donated by Saint Ignatius College Geelong.

Raffle will be drawn on Tuesday 8th December 2015. Proceeds from the raffle will be used for the purchase of equipment or the support projects to benefit staff and students of the College. Please return the slip below with payment to purchase tickets or contact the school office to purchase tickets over the phone. This will need to be completed by Friday the 4thof December 2015. We look forward to your support of this Fundraising event.

Abraham Papp,

Fundraiser Chairperson.

Payment Method:

Cash / Cheque / Credit Card

Card Details:

Name on Card: Card No: Expiry Date:

CV: /

Signature:

……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………… .

Parents & Friends’ Association College Fees’ Raffle Ticket 2016 Student Name: Number of Tickets Required:

Homeroom: @ $25.00 = $

This reply slip is your Ticket and will be removed and placed in the raffle draw it is to be returned to your Homeroom Teacher or it can be processed over the phone.

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Presents:

Commencing: Monday 9th November

Time: 7.00pm – 9.00pm

Parenting your

Teenager A program for parents of adolescents aged 13 to 18 yrs

Location: “Ariston” 245-249 Pakington St, Newtown

Cost Gold Coin Donation

Phone

Are you mystified, anxious, angry or have just given up trying to understand your teenager? This program will attempt to give you some of the answers!!! The four-week program explores topics including: • “What is normal adolescent behaviour?” • The important art of continuing to communicate with your teen, even when they don’t say much • Knowing when you should be concerned • Can you still have fun with teenagers?

5272 4817

Limited Places

Note: Places are strictly limited so registration is essential

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When was the last time you felt really alive?

God is glorified when men are fully alive St Ireneaus

MEN’S WEEKEND The menALIVE Men’s Weekend is an opportunity for men to explore what makes them feel fully alive. The experience of the weekend is powerful and dynamic and many men are inspired and encouraged with a new sense of purpose and mission. The weekend is organised by men in your local community and conducted by an experienced team of menALIVE leaders. It is suitable for all men from 18 years of age.

28th and 29th November 2015 Our Lady's Star of the Sea Catholic Primary School John Dory Drive, Ocean Grove. VIC For more information, contact:

$60 investment includes:

Xavier Kenworthy 0428 497 489 Matthew Joordens 0418 139 781 ogmenalive@hotmail.com

* Workshops * Morning and afternoon teas * Lunch & BBQ dinner on Saturday (Concessions available)

The p urp ose o f me nA L I V E i s t o b r i ng me n t o ge t h e r, t o renew t h e i r f a i t h i n G o d, a nd t o e n co u r a ge t h e m t o bec om e a n a ct i v e f o r ce w i t hi n t he Chur ch. men’s weekend

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You will spend 120hrs teaching your Child to drive, this event is focused on how you will support your Child in the online world.

For Families of Children aged 8-12 years.

27TH OCT 6.30-8.00PM

LOG ON WITH YOUR KIDSCOMMUNITY ED SESSION

Technology is here to stay, Children have never been so connected. This session has been developed for Parents/Carers and their Children to come together and talk about how to navigate the cyber world BEFORE they become adolescents.

Rsvp: admin@batforce.org.au leigh

VENUE COMMUNITY CATS Pool end of Skilled Stadium under the Doug Wade stand www.batforce.org.au 6.30-8pm

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INSIGHTS Building parent-school partnerships WORDS Michael Grose

Manage like a cat, nurture like a dog

Here’s how to get the mix of firmness and nurturing right when communicating with young people. When speaking about raising teenagers I make the planned observation that parents should ‘manage like a cat and nurture like a dog’. So what does this mean? Teenagers need a mix of firmness and nurturance from their parents. Like toddlers many teenagers wear L-plates when it comes to navigating their expanding world. Of course, the world a teenager inhabits is far broader than that of a toddler so the risks are multiplied hundredfold. They still need to be managed, but not necessarily in controlling or confrontational ways. Due to physiological changes most teens will revert straight to their reptilian brains when they feel threatened or experience angry, aggressive discipline. They will fight you all the way, or escape conflict by going to their rooms or withdrawing into themselves. Better to manage like a cat so they hear your message rather than pick up your vehemence.

Finding your inner cat We all have some cat and dog in us. It’s just a matter of accessing those parts and bringing them out when we need them. The cat is the credible side we all have, but find difficulty accessing. It is always expressed through your non-verbals – that is, your tone of voice, your posture and your head. A cat speaks with a flat, clipped voice. His or her head is very still and body upright and confident. The quickest way to access your inner cat is to speak with you palms facing the ground. You can try this now. Stand up with both hands in front of you with your palms facing the ground. Now start speaking. You’ll find you’ll naturally speak like a cat – clipped voice, still head and body and more serious expression. This is your credible (and calm) side.

Like her or loathe her you can’t deny she has authority. That’s because she accesses the cat side of her nature in public. You manage a teen like a cat by speaking calmly, quietly and staying still when you speak. Cats will also withdraw eye contact rather than stand and argue so look away or respectfully walk away rather than become involved in argument. Cats also look for ways to manage visually (look away to indicate not arguing) or kinaesthetically (a touch on the shoulder, move close and whisper) rather then repeating themselves. If they do repeat themselves they are more likely to lower their voice than raise it to get attention. These cat behaviours work well when managing teens.

Using your inner dog We also have a dog side to our nature.

When you speak from your cat side people will usually believe what you have to say. It gives you authority.

This is the approachable, conversational,

Australia’s foreign minister Julie Bishop is a good example of using cat behaviour.

inflection in your voice.

relationship-building side. When you access this side you’ll speak with lots of