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ENCHANTED WEDDING • 2014
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Newlyweds
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Weddings
Winter, Spring,
Summer and Fall
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Engaged to be Wed
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Trending in 2014
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The Dresses
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Marriage Milestones
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Rehearsal Hot Spots
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Hiring a Wedding Photographer
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Flowers, Flowers, Flowers
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A Bite of Cake
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The Littlest Attendants
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For the Honeymoon
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Marrying Finances
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Details Matter
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Wedded Wisdom • About the Cover •
This year’s cover reflects a moment between newlyweds Amy Loughridge and Charles Pinckney. Snapped by Matt Ramos at Congress Park, it is the winning entry in our first ever cover contest. More than 25 shots were submitted by area photographers; every one fit the bill of an enchanted wedding, but none quite captured this same joy in such a quintessential Saratoga location. To learn more about the couple and their wedding, turn to page 6. Thank you to all of the photographers who participated in the cover contest. Each has work featured on the following pages, and by their talent, the magazine is brimming with actual weddings, real brides and grooms, and true magic.
Owner/Publisher Chad Beatty General Manager Robin Mitchell Managing Editor Trina Lucas Creative Director Jessica Kane Advertising Chris Vallone Bushee • Jim Daley Cindy Durfey Graphic DesignERS Frank Garguilo • Jessica Kane Colleen Sweeney Writers Stephen Kyne • Trina Lucas Courtney Nettleton • Katie O’Malley Megin Potter • Rob Spring Photographers Susan Blackburn • Tracey Buyce Deborah Neary • Courtney and Peter Nettleton Matt Ramos • Niki Rossi • Rob Spring Stephen Whiting
Published by Saratoga TODAY Newspaper Five Case Street Saratoga Springs, NY 12866 tel: (518) 581-2480 fax: (518) 581-2487 saratogaTODAYnewspaper.com Enchanted Wedding is brought to you by Saratoga TODAY Newspaper, Saratoga Publishing, LLC. Saratoga Publishing shall make every effort to avoid errors and omissions but disclaims any responsibility should they occur. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means without prior written consent of the publisher. Copyright © 2014, Saratoga TODAY Newspaper.
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Contributors ENCHANTED WEDDING • 2014
Susan B lackburn Blackburn795@aol.com
K atie O ’ M alley
katieo@KatieOEvents.com
Looking at my own wedding photo, from almost 24 years ago, I realized just how far wedding photography has come. There was very little photojournalism then. One of the things I try to do is to think, “If this were my wedding, how would I want to remember it? What would the most important pieces be, and how can Blackburn Portrait Design capture them best?”
Katie O’ Weddings & Events brings the sparkle to every wedding, allowing the bride and her family to relax so they can truly enjoy the big day, worry-free. Our team will have it under control. We help create memorable moments for you and your loved ones, taking you from overwhelmed to over-joyed!
Tracey Buyce
Megin Potter
tbuyce@gmail.com
meginpotter@yahoo.com
On your wedding day, I become part of your family, one of your friends. Your story is told truly through the eyes of a friend. By welcoming me into your world, all the emotions of the day are documented – the serious, the silly and the poetic.
Megin Potter is a writer, artist and mother living in Argyle, NY. After dating for more than six years, she married James Potter, Jr. in 2006.
Stephen Kyne
Matt Ramos
smk@SterlingManorFinancial.com
matt@MattRamosPhotography.com
Stephen Kyne is a partner with Sterling Manor Financial in downtown Saratoga Springs. Securities and investment advisory services are offered solely through Cadaret, Grant & Co., Inc. Member FINRA/SIPC. Sterling Manor Financial and Cadaret, Grant are separate entities.
While best known for his creative wedding work, Matt Ramos and his team also shoot aerial photography, maternity and baby sessions and family portraits. Matt has been published in various magazines and websites, most recently winning “Best of the Knot” for the third time, and the 2013 “Bride’s Choice Awards” through Wedding Wire.
Deborah Neary
Niki Rossi
djn@DeborahNeary.com Deborah Neary is a local photographer who specializes in portraits, weddings and “Women in Nature.” An exhibit of her work will be on display through March 31, 2014, at Roosevelt Baths in the Spa State Park.
Courtney & Peter Nettleton courtney@pjnphotography.com
PJN Photography has a passion for humanity and an eye for art that drives what we do. Whether we’re photographing your family portraits, the moments and details from your wedding day, or the character and mission that define your business, you’ll have photographs to share and cherish for years to come. Photo by Justin Michau
nikirossi@gmail.com Niki Rossi, a native Saratogian, has been photographing weddings in the area for 20 years. Niki Rossi Photography has added videography to our menu of services and we have several photo teams available no matter the date. Visit nikirossi.com to learn more.
Rob Spring
info@RobSpringPhotography.com Rob is the owner and primary photographer at Rob Spring Photography, Inc. He graduated from the Hallmark Institute of Photography, where his portfolio earned him a spot in the top 10% of his class. His work is part of the permanent collection at the Hallmark Museum of Contemporary Photography. Photo by Lucy Schultz
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Once Upon a … Amy Loughridge met Charles Pinckney. It
was 2002 and they were in the 10th grade at
Guilderland High School, each just starting to date. “Yes, he was my first boyfriend,” Amy admits.
TIME... by Trina Lucas; photos by Matt Ramos Photography
Unlike most high school romances, theirs lasted beyond graduation, through Charles’ undergraduate years at Union College and Amy’s at Siena. Shortly thereafter, Charles moved to Saratoga, and after completing her Master’s degree, Amy joined him here in 2010. The couple knew they would marry one day, but was focused now on building their careers and spending time together in a city they loved to call “home.” One Monday evening, as Amy started to make dinner, Charles suggested the pair go out instead. “Something immediately felt off,” recalls Amy. “We never went out to eat on a Monday.” When Charles pulled her toward Congress Park for a “quick walk before dinner,” Amy knew this was definitely not an ordinary Monday night. The park was out of the way, a detour from the restaurant. Sure enough, as they neared the Casino, Charles bent on one knee and asked her to marry him. After taking in the moment, and the applause of all who witnessed it in the busy park, Amy and Charles walked to the Adelphi for a champagne toast in the historic courtyard. He then led her to Sperry’s where she found their families and closest friends. Earlier that day, Frank Adams Jewelers had called Charles to let him know that Amy’s ring was ready for pick-up. The piece featured his great-greatgrandmother’s diamond in the center, and was 6 | Enchanted Wedding | 2014
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designed like a ring Amy had casually pointed out years earlier in a magazine. Charles had gone back and ripped out the page, keeping the photo until the time was right. Knowing he couldn’t wait to give her the ring now that he had it, Charles had picked up the phone and orchestrated the impromptu engagement dinner, even getting Amy’s best friend here from Long Island, with less than three hours notice! That was July 2011. Fast-forward 22 months to May 18, 2013, the first spring date available at the couple’s chosen venue, the Canfield Casino. Amy spent the morning being pampered from head to toe with her five bridesmaids. She wore an ivory A-line Tara Keely gown by Jim Hjelm, adorned with rosettes on the skirt and a sweep train. Topped with a cathedral-length veil, she slipped into golden Jimmy Choo pumps, a wedding wish granted by her father.
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shoulder for the couple’s “first look.” After shooting Amy and Charles separately, photographer Matt Ramos captured the joy of this moment perfectly.
Charles knew how much I wanted those few special moments alone with my dad,” remarks Amy. “And he made it happen.
In nearby Congress Park, Charles posed for preceremony photos with the groomsmen while waiting to catch a glimpse of his bride. Donned in his tux, he felt like James Bond, sporting the new TAG Heuer watch Amy had given him for the occasion. (He gave her diamond earrings.) And like Bond, Charles got his girl, as Amy tapped him on the
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Charles then surprised Amy with a private car he had arranged to take her and her father, Dennis, to the church.
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“ That was the
best part of the day. ”
“Coming down the aisle with my dad, seeing Charles waiting… even after we had a first look, it was still very emotional,” Amy says. “The ceremony was my favorite part of it all.” And Charles’ favorite? “He tells everyone it was the actual act of marriage, becoming man and wife,” she relays. “That very moment was so powerful for him.” Following the 5:30 p.m. Mass, Amy and Charles joined 160 guests for their reception at the Canfield Casino. Catered by Mazzone Hospitality, another of the things Amy knew from the start that she wanted, the celebration began with champagne and strawberries and delicious hors d’oeuvres. The sit-down dinner featured filet mignon and potato-
encrusted salmon, followed by chocolate wedding cake layered with raspberry preserves and topped by butter cream frosting. A homemade ice cream station added unique flavor to the festivities. The bride and groom had their first dance to Van Morrison’s “Crazy Love” before Mike Garrasi of Music Man Entertainment kicked things up to keep the crowd dancing well into the night. The weekend-long party continued with brunch at the Mouzon House the next morning. Amy and Charles then drove to Boston to take flight for their honeymoon on the Amalfi Coast of Italy; ten wonderful days spent exploring Positano, Capri and Pompeii. Looking back, Amy recalls the best advice she received. “Someone told us to be sure to stop and take it all in. And we did. At various points throughout the day, we stepped back and looked around and really saw what was happening. I vividly remember every one of those moments and know I will for years to come.”
More Details Bridesmaids’ Dresses • Bill Levkoff Tuxedo • Hart Schaffner Marx (Nordstrom’s) Hair/Makeup • Renee Pierre Invitations • Carta Bella Design Wedding Planner • Christine Wheat Special Events Flowers • Renaissance Floral Design Transportation • Today’s Limousine
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“Never are voices so beautiful as on a
Winter’s evening…”
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Maria Coloccia & Ryan Losanno February 23, 2013 • Saratoga National Golf Club
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The Details Photographer • Rob Spring Dress • Mori Lee, Danielle’s Bridal Bridesmaids’ Dresses Bari Jay, Danielle’s Bridal Tuxedo • Choppa and Sons Rings • Glen Peter Jewelers Makeup • Jennifer Norton True Grace Make-up Hair • Jenna Huneau Flowers • Dutch Touch Florist Transportation Advantage Limousine Caterer and Cake Mazzone Hospitality DJ • Piano Man, Fernando First Dance Overwhelmed, Tim McMorris Honeymoon • Cancun, Mexico
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Jenna Domin & Jared Moore December 8, 2013 • Canfield Casino
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The Details Photographer • Matt Ramos Dress • Venus 2014, The Wedding Works (Endicott, NY) Bridesmaids’ Dresses Vera Wang White, David’s Bridal Tuxedo • Tuxego Accessories The Wedding Works; Etsy (fur stole) Hair/Makeup • Make Me Fabulous Invitations • JA.M Scripts Flowers • Fleurtacious Designs Transportation Premiere Transportation Videographer • NuVue Cinema Caterer and Cake Mazzone Hospitality Favors • Personalized playing cards No Design Boundaries (Etsy) Band • Grand Central Station First Dance • Lucky, Jason Mraz Honeymoon • Lake Placid 18 | Enchanted Wedding | 2014
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“And
Spring
arose on
the garden fair, like the Spirit of Love felt everywhere.” ~ Percy Bysshe Shelley
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Jennifer Park & Steven Severenko May 18, 2013 • The Mansion Inn
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The Details Photographer • Rob Spring Dress • Pronovias (New York City) Bridesmaids’ Dresses• Ann Taylor Tuxedo • Victor Talbots (Greenvale, NY) Accessories • Tejani (New York City) Hair/Makeup • Make Me Fabulous Invitations D.H. Fitzgerald Designs, Etsy Flowers Felthousen’s Florist & Greenhouse Cake • Mansion Inn Favors Donations to the Alzheimer’s Association and American Cancer Society Tent/Lighting/Drapes/Chandeliers Rain or Shine Tent Company Videographer • Philip Coltart Films Band • Alter Ego (Syracuse) First Dance • Luckiest, Ben Folds Honeymoon • Maui, Hawaii 22 | Enchanted Wedding | 2014
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Danielle Federico & Brian Turner MAY 25, 2013 • HALL OF SPRINGS
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The Details Photographer • Niki Rossi Dress • La Sposa, Wedding Atelier (New York City) Bridesmaids’ Dresses • Monique Lhuilier, The Wedding Library (New York City) Tuxedo • Formals by Antonio (Rocky Hill, CT) Bride’s Purse • Jesse B. Collection Hair Joseph’s at the Carriage House (Syracuse) Makeup • Laura Mercier Consultants Invitations Admire Design (Broad Brook, CT) Flowers • Renaissance Floral Design Transportation • Today’s Limousine Caterer and Cake • Mazzone Hospitality Menu and Place Cards Homemade by the bride Favors Donations to the American Heart Association in memory of their grandfathers Cigar Roller Habana Premium Cigar Shoppe Rentals • Total Events Band • City Rhythm First Dance • All I Want is You, U2 Honeymoon • Galley Bay Resort, Antigua
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“Shall I compare thee to a
Summer day?” ~ William Shakespeare
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Leah Serbalik & Collin Grady June 21, 2013 • National Museum of Dance
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The Details Photographer • Rob Spring Dress • Sue Wong, Something Bleu Bridal Bridesmaids’ Dresses • Target and Etsy Tuxedo • Men’s Wearhouse Accessories Bridesmaids’ sashes made by the bride Rings • M. Rahal Jewelers Hair • Fresh & Co. Makeup • Cristel Rivera Invitations Paper Dolls (designed by the bride) Flowers • Central Market Florist (centerpieces created by the bride) Transportation • Today’s Limousine Caterer Longfellows; Esperanto’s doughboys Cake • Lake George Bakery Favors Cookies homemade by mother-of-the-groom DJ • Mike Garrasi, Music Man Entertainment First Dance • Somewhere Over the Rainbow/ I’m Yours (mash-up) Straight No Chaser Honeymoon Mini-moon to Kennebunkport, Maine Isla Mujeres, Mexico
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Carolyn Majors & Joshua Weissbard JUNE 1, 2013 • SARATOGA POLO FIELD
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The Details Photographer • Niki Rossi Tuxedo • Hugo Boss Hair/Makeup Roosevelt Bath and Spa Wedding Planner Katie O’ Weddings & Events Flowers • Fleurtacious Designs Transportation • Saratoga Trolley Caterer • Old Daley Inn Band • Bad Chaperones First Dance This Kind of Love, Sister Hazel Honeymoon • Cabo San Lucas 34 | Enchanted Wedding | 2014
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Autumn!
“Delicious My very soul is wedded to it…” ~ George Eliot
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Katherine Bellucci & William Maron, MD October 18, 2013 St. Mary’s Catholic Church • Ballston Spa Saratoga National Golf Club
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The Details Photographer • Tracey Buyce Dress • Enzoani, Ferri Formals Bridesmaids’ Dresses Alfred Sung, weddingtonway.com Tuxedo • Men’s Wearhouse Hair/Makeup • Make Me Fabulous Flowers • Renaissance Floral Design Transportation Advantage Limousine Videographer • NuVue Cinema CATERER AND Cake Mazzone Hospitality Favors Lakeside Farms cider doughnuts DJ Mike Garrasi, Music Man Entertainment First Dance When You Say Nothing at All Alison Krauss Honeymoon • Naples, Florida 38 | Enchanted Wedding | 2014
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Katherine Griffin Hurd & Patrick Joseph Casey September 21, 2013 • FASIG TIPTON
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The Details Photographer Stephen Whiting for Rob Spring Photography Dress • Reem Acra, Saks Jandel (Chevy Chase, MD) Bridesmaid Dress • J. Crew Tuxedo • Bonobos Hair • Simplicity Salon Makeup • Stacy Hunter Wedding Planner Katie O’ Weddings & Events Flowers • Gillooly & Co. Design (Sheffield, MA) Transportation • Today’s Limousine; Upstate Transportation (school buses for shuttles) Caterer and Cake Mazzone Hospitality Band Body & Soul of the New York Players First Dance The Man in Me, Bob Dylan Special Touches Welcome bag with The Candy Company chocolates, Saratoga Water and The Original Saratoga Chips Honeymoon • Northern Spain 42 | Enchanted Wedding | 2014
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THE
PERFECT by Trina Lucas; photos by J.P. Elario
M atch
Katie O’Malley knows weddings. The self-appointed “CEO of Sparkle” has played a role in hundreds of Capital Region weddings as the head of Katie O’ Weddings & Events. But all that planning for others left little time for herself. Sure, she has dated through the years, and even had long-term relationships. But no one clicked. And with her busy schedule, she really didn’t have the energy to make something work that wasn’t. So at the start of her down season in December 2012, Katie asked a friend to redo her profile on Match. com. “I decided to make it my job to meet as many men as possible before weddings became my job again in April,” she says.
And date she did. Through Match and friends and anyone who heard she was looking, Katie met several interesting men over the next few months. Just not one she could envision meeting at the end of an aisle. With her Match.com subscription ending on March 17, Katie gave it one more shot a few days before. After that last date with a not-so-great guy, she asked her friend, “Can’t I just be done?” 44 | Enchanted Wedding | 2014
She went online to cancel the subscription before auto-renew charged her credit card. There, she found an email from Nate Maloney. Nate mentioned that a mutual friend suggested he meet Katie. This triggered a memory: Katie recalled that two years earlier, an acquaintance had told her she knew a guy Katie should meet. But she was in a long-distance relationship at the time and not interested. She remembers later learning that “the guy,” Nate, had asked for a photo and upon seeing it, said, “No way. Redheads are crazy!” But something about Nate’s email now, and its last-minute appearance in her Match inbox, prompted Katie to schedule a date for the following Tuesday, March 19. That turned out to be the snowiest day last winter. Work and road conditions made Katie late and by the time they met at Milano in Loudonville, the restaurant had closed due to the inclement weather. Not to be deterred, Nate proposed they go somewhere else and Katie agreed to follow him to Scarborough’s. She blindly drove behind him through the snow, narrowly avoiding a tractor trailer on the saratogaTODAYnewspaper.com
Albany-Shaker traffic circle. Shaking, Katie finally pulled into the restaurant, desperately needing both a drink and dinner after her long day and the harrowing experience on the road. It was a nice date, ending abruptly because Scarborough’s was closing early too. Later, Katie wondered if he would call. Nate did, and asked her out for the following Monday. After another nice date, this time at The Local in Saratoga, Nate told her to plan the next one. Work schedules pushed their third meeting into April. Katie racked her brain trying to come up with a place Nate hadn’t been before. “He loves good food and good wine and has been everywhere,” she states. She decided to try something near her Troy studio, settling on Bacchus for dinner, with drinks at the Lucas Confectionary and Wine Bar afterward. “Maybe it was the second glass of wine, but suddenly, I looked at him at the bar, and that’s when I knew,” Katie declares. Nate must have felt it too, because as they left the Confectionary, he stopped and dipped her in a classic Hollywood move. With that first kiss, their fate was sealed. “It was quick, but right,” says Katie. “Suddenly, we were in a relationship that was fun and easy like nothing I’d ever known. We had Sunday dinners with each other’s families and would meet for drinks and walks after work and it all clicked. You would have thought we’d been together for years.” How does one plan a surprise for the ultimate planner? How to top, or at least rival, every fabulous proposal story this wedding planner had ever heard? Leave that to Nate Maloney. Katie is booked solid from April through November. But last summer, there was not one event scheduled for the weekend of August 24, Travers Day in Saratoga. This was a stroke of luck for her boyfriend, who prides himself on the over-the-top party he throws at the track every Travers. Katie was excited to attend the soirée and had searched for the perfect dress to wear, finding one from Vineyard Vines covered with embroidered horseshoes. She couldn’t bear to spend the money on it, however, even after Nate found the matching pants. But Nate could. Because the dress was the perfect disguise for a bigger gift he was about to give her. saratogaTODAYnewspaper.com 2014 | Enchanted Wedding | 45
With some new business plans in the works, Katie needed promotional photos. Nate mentioned that he wanted an updated headshot too, and encouraged Katie to schedule a shoot with her favorite photographer, J.P. Elario. She booked Elario to come over on Thursday, August 22. Little did she realize the two men were in cahoots together! Long story short, or somewhat, Nate presented Katie with her perfect dress for the Travers. And while she was still holding it up, thanking him, he got down on his knee to propose with the ring he had whipped out of his pocket. Elario captured every moment, from her realization of what was really happening to the “yes!”
a wedding to manage last summer, she basked in the glow of her own new engagement, spending four work-free days with the love of her life. “He makes every one of my dreams come true,” she states. With more than a little bit of sparkle in her eye.
photo provided
The fun wasn’t over, though. After a toast with Elario, Nate whisked Katie into a waiting car for a ride to Saratoga. Their favorite band, Grand Central Station was playing at Siro’s. The couple had a ball, celebrating with friends as they shared their news. They only said good-bye because Nate told her of a private dinner he’d planned at Yono’s. But that was only half true. Nate had the driver stop at home so Katie could freshen up, buying time for those they had just left in Saratoga to get to Albany. As they arrived at the restaurant, he turned to her, “Honey, I have one more surprise.” Inside, 50 of their closest friends and family were waiting to celebrate their engagement at a party carefully orchestrated by Nate just one week earlier. And so, on the one weekend Katie O’ did not have 46 | Enchanted Wedding | 2014
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Say “ Yes! ”
To ENGAGEMENT photos
by Courtney and Peter Nettleton; photos by PJN Photography
An engagement session can be a couple hours of playful interaction and important conversation that result not only in special photos, but also a connection with those capturing your wedding. The time you spend with your photographers now, both in front of the camera and when the flash stops, is vital. Most, if not all, of the nerves will be worked out during this session, and you can better understand the photographer’s personality, work style and direction. A couple that has confidence
and familiarity with their photographer is going to be more at ease; this will translate into better wedding photographs. Engagement sessions can go in a number of directions. For instance, photos can be completely different than the planned wedding. If a formal event is in the works, engagement shots could be taken while picnicking in the park. Having a rustic barn wedding? Glam it up with a winter engagement shoot.
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Or, let the photos hint at the wedding tone and style. This works well for save-the-date pieces, building anticipation for the big day. Options abound for the location too. Choose a beloved place to capture sentimentality, or look for a unique backdrop of stunning architecture or botanicals. We’ve photographed couples at their parent’s farm, in their own living rooms, at public gardens, in favorite parks, on main streets and in fields of grass. Remember, even if the location doesn’t seem picture perfect, photographers are artists and will be able to see the spot with fresh, creative eyes. If you love it, we can make it work! It’s also fun when couples choose something interactive: sitting at home drinking coffee and playing with the puppies, strolling along the beach, playing carnival games, or sharing a milkshake at a favorite diner. 48 | Enchanted Wedding | 2014
Unsure where to start? Collaborate with your photographer ahead of time. Since we’ve seen it all, we can talk about the locations, activities, props and clothing that will work best for you. And in the end, provide those photos that truly reflect the two of you during this special, joyful time. saratogaTODAYnewspaper.com
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Un-TRADITIONAL
by Katie O'Malley
One of the biggest trends in 2014 is breaking tradition. More and more couples are opting to switch things up, steering away from the expected toward their own vision. They are truly embracing that this is their day and should reflect their unique personalities, as a bride, a groom and a couple.
A “first look” is definitely among the most popular nontraditional choices couples are making. Seeing the bride before the ceremony, in her gown or not, was long considered bad luck. The first look gives couples private time together, just the two of them, before being swept into a crowd of family and friends at the ceremony and reception. It can be a very special, very intimate moment. Some couples think that a first look takes pressure off the ceremony and the moment they would traditionally see one another down the aisle. It is also a great idea because time is freed to socialize with more guests during the cocktail hour. After
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the first look alone, many couples choose to do the more formal group and family photos too. Photographers may suggest this because of the lighting, especially during the fall and winter when dusk comes early. On the other hand, there are plenty of reasons not to do a first look, tradition and superstition being one. And the moment when the bride and groom see each other for the first time, walking down the aisle, is magical. (Some say it is their favorite part of the day!) So couples should pick and choose from the traditions they break or keep. A completely original wedding could still be one where the aisle look is the first look. photo by Matt Ramos
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Cake-cutting is another tradition often being cast aside. Couples are choosing cupcake towers or creative dessert buffet, in lieu of the classic wedding cake. After all, there are people who just don’t like cake! If a mother or grandmother is having a hard time accepting this choice, a small “cut cake” can be created for a photo opportunity. It doesn’t need to be ceremonial, however, or interrupt the flow of the evening.
PRE-CEREMONY RECEPTION Couples also want to spend as much time as possible with their guests. If the ceremony and reception are taking place at the same venue, welcome everyone during a half-hour pre-ceremony reception. Serve champagne and a signature cocktail with light bites, greet guests and enjoy a few minutes of quality time before saying, “I do.” Then after the ceremony, a more traditional, full cocktail party can lead into dinner and dancing.
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The bride doesn’t have to wear white! This one may take even the self-proclaimed non-traditionalists by surprise. But there are so many gorgeous dresses out there, and brides want their wedding to be unique. There is no better way than to “wow” your groom and guests with a dress of a different color. Many highprofile designers have created stunning gowns in soft blush, champagne, pink and pale blue. Take a chance and make it your own!
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Radiant
ORCHID by Katie O'Malley
The unveiling of the Pantone® Color of the Year has quickly become one of the wedding industry’s most anticipated moments. This year, the lucky winner is the romantic hue known as “Radiant Orchid.” For the many brides who wish to feel radiant on their wedding day, it is just the color to add. Invitations, flowers, attire and even lighting can all be enhanced with this shade.
INVITATIONS Invitations make a first impression. Some couples like to give a sneak peek of what is to come, the overall design and feel they are planning, while others prefer to send a traditional invite, saving their special colors to highlight the wedding itself. Radiant orchid is a stunning hue that can be used for bold impact or soft subtlety. To go big, consider printing the entire suite on radiant orchid paper with silver or gold foil lettering to add shimmer. For a simpler touch, use crisp white paper, accented with a patterned radiant orchid envelope liner or painted edge.
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FLOWERS Brides can also take inspiration from the flower that inspired Pantone®. Orchids are beautiful blooms that complement almost any wedding. The flower has natural variegation that lends itself to a broader palette, which could incorporate darker and lighter purples, silver and white. Bridesmaids can carry small orchid bouquets to match the groomsmen’s boutonnières, and the flower is easily woven into a bridal bouquet.
photo by Niki Rossi
Depending on the time of year and type of orchid, pricing may vary significantly. When more expensive, the radiant blooms can be used sparingly for a pop of color, rather than being the focal point of arrangements.
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and understated. Radiant Orchid is fun to accessorize. It looks exquisite under gold and silver, so an elegant dress can be adorned with mixed metals in jewelry and shoes. And everyone does not need to match. One can wear silver, another gold. Let each lady’s personality shine through. Groomsmen might sport the color with pocket squares and ties and yes, even socks.
LIGHTING Lighting is a popular design element that easily transforms a reception space, setting it apart from every other wedding held there. Whether used for accents or to wash a room, a purple hue will make a dramatic impact, providing the “wow” factor as guests arrive. Add touches with strategically placed, individual up-lights, or cover the entire space. To keep it interesting, select two or three different colors to use at various stages of the celebration. Have a lighter, softer hue for cocktail hour, warmer, deeper shades for dinner, and then kick it up with the bold, club-like tone as the dance floor comes alive. However you choose to do it, don’t be afraid to add color to your wedding. Have fun and find the palette that reflects you as a couple, painting the picture you both want for your special celebration. Then no matter the shade, it will radiate love and sparkle!
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PANTONE SPRING 2014 PLACID BLUE VIOLET TULIP HEMLOCK PALOMA SAND
FREESIA CAYENNE CELOSIA ORANGE RADIANT ORCHID DAZZLING BLUE
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Style your
BRIDAL Party
by Katie O'Malley; photos by Rob Spring Photography
The days of matching bridesmaid gowns and traditional tuxes are dwindling. Personality and creativity are shining bright as couples pay more attention to styling their bridal party for a bold impact on their wedding day.
Ladies Mismatched bridesmaid dresses are the perfect way to add style and spotlight the unique personality of each woman. Consider dresses that are all the same length, in a similar color, but with varied shades or patterns. All of the dresses should still complement each other, but they don’t need to be the exact same dress. This styling technique helps the ladies as well. Typically, attendants are not the same size or shape. This allows each one to select a dress for her fit, ensuring she feels comfortable and pretty. There are many local boutiques that offer dresses in either matching styles and different colors, or the same hue in unique styles. Saratoga’s Bird of Paradise carries a range of options from some of the top designers. For a fun, bold look, The Pink Paddock features Lily Pulitzer designs. For traditional matching dresses, add extra sparkle with non-traditional accessories. Lola Accessory Boutique in Saratoga Springs can dress the ladies with bold statement necklaces, bracelets and earrings, foregoing the classic pearls. They also carry the popular Kate Spade line of whimsical bridal accessories. And if celebrity-style is the goal, Saratoga Trunk offers one-of-a-kind GAS Bijoux pieces directly from France.
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GENTLEMEN Keeping an eye on the men, equally important players for the day, Jos. A Bank in downtown Saratoga provides quality service and attire. A traditional tux is always a safe bet! Jonathan Reid and Tuxego offer great rentals, fit to each groomsman. For the guys out of town, visit www. theblacktux.com, renting classic and slim-fit suits and tuxedos delivered to the front door. Many grooms are also choosing to dress their buddies in suits fitting the season, like seersucker for summer, and even blazers with dress shorts. These options allow the guys to personalize their outfits too, with pocket squares, ties and wild socks. ď ™
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The Dressing Room
Come dress yourself in let the journey begin.
Love,
~ Francesca da Rimini
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Something Bleu Bridal
Gown by Cymbeline Paris; vintage French choker
“Luxury must be comfortable. Otherwise, it is not luxury.” ~ Coco Chanel
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Lily Saratoga
Gown by Augusta Jones
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Gowns, left and right, by Modern Trousseau (“Made With Love in the USA”); Center gown by Augusta Jones
Dress by US Angels
“Elegance
is not about being noticed, it’s about being remembered. ~ Giorgio Armani
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THEIA Bridal Girls’ dresses by Collection D-Alli
“Fashions fade,
Style
~ Yves Saint-Laurent
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When the Wedding Planner
Gets Married by Katie O’Malley
When the wedding planner becomes the bride, it definitely makes for a different experience. As a bride-to-be, I have learned that many things I thought I wanted, prior to becoming engaged, have changed with the reality of being a bride. Since I am a planner, I suggested that the first thing Nate and I do (after taking some time to enjoy just being engaged) was create our guest list. This is important because the size of your guest list often dictates, or at least informs, your venue decision. As we considered our families and friends, the list grew and grew. I looked over our tentative invitees and started to realize that my top spot, the Canfield Casino, would not work for our wedding. (I am not marrying an orphan!) At first I was a little disheartened, but quickly remembered that it’s not the venue that is the most important part to us, it is having a space that can fit all our loved ones and favorite people. So, after thoughtful deliberation, we selected the Hall of Springs and could not be more excited for our big day! Another eye-opening experience for me was wedding dress shopping. I’ve been to a lot of bridal salons helping numerous brides and friends hunt for their perfect gown. When it was my turn, I prepared in much the same way I advise my clients. I spent time on Pinterest and thumbing through magazines looking for gowns that caught my eye. I was repeatedly drawn to one style in particular and
looked forward to trying on some of these dresses. Once I made it to the bridal salon and browsed through the gowns, so many beautiful gowns, I started to feel a little overwhelmed. I was finally shopping for myself and I was going to pick a dress. Eventually.
in different styles because they know the general fit of the various designers they sell. True to form, when I tried on my first dress in the style I found to be “the one,” I had my “Aha!” moment. It was amazing!
A third change from the preengagement vision is my wedding Stepping into that first gown was party. For a long time, I had surreal. It was definitely not my been sure I would have just two dress, but it was an incredible attendants stand up for me on my wedding day. After thinking about this when I started planning, I quickly realized that there are far too many special women in my life for this count. You see, I truly believe that the role of a bridesmaid is not only about wearing a pretty dress and planning the shower and bachelorette party. It is about having this person who knows you best, who you trust more than anyone, who supports your relationship and loves you unconditionally, by photo by Stephen Whiting your side with emotional support throughout the entire moment. Much to my surprise, process. the style I thought I loved wasn’t at all what I had imagined on myself. I felt beautiful, but it didn’t feel like me. I tried a few more on in the same style and finally, at the suggestion of the salon, tried something different. When dress shopping, I remind my clients to be open-minded to the process; what you think you want may not be what you end up with. Actually, that happens all the time! I also tell my brides to be open to suggestions from the bridal consultant. They know their gowns and can easily place you
As a wedding planner, this was vital to me successfully planning the wedding and making it to the altar. Luckily, I am blessed to have wonderful friends. And since my original two are not local, having more women to help plan and to lean on has definitely made it much easier. The five women I have chosen to be by my side are far more than bridesmaids, they are my “life-maids” and I know we will share many more years of friendship, love and good times to come.
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John & Suzanne
DeVITO
Laughing Together for 25 Years by Megin Potter; photos provided
Life and love have a funny way of sneaking up sometimes. Suzanne Fiorre knows this firsthand. She was a junior at the SUNY Institute of Technology in Utica, in a committed long-distance relationship with her high school sweetheart, when a mutual friend invited her to meet John DeVito. Although they had seen each other at the college pub the previous year, it was at this meeting that they really hit it off, in part because of John’s lively sense of humor.
Shaking with surprise, Suzanne was excited, and devastated. This proposal was not the grand affair she had envisioned. Still, wedding preparations were well underway when she started to get cold feet. Fearful that the allure of their romance would diminish once they were living together as husband and wife, Suzanne and John broke off their engagement. “I never got mad or upset. As a man, you have to be understanding. If it is meant to be, then it’s meant to be,” said John.
“Keep ‘em laughing and they’ll stay with you,” said John.
Seven months later, the couple decided they were ready. The wedding they had originally planned was set Good advice it seems, since the couple celebrated their into motion, and on December 4, 1988, they were wed in a ceremony at St. Joseph’s Church in Babylon, Long 25th wedding anniversary in December. Island. At the lavish reception that followed, John and “I think I laugh every day,” added Suzanne. Suzanne celebrated with 262 guests, 12 of whom were Of course, with the laughter came challenges, and more not even invited, enjoying what they described as “a crazy, awesome party” that people still talk about today. than a few tears. Suzanne and John dated for three years, half of which they were apart since she worked as The honeymooners escaped on a cruise to Puerto Rico a nurse and lived with her parents on Long Island, while and the Caribbean Islands. While there, they rented a John worked as an electrical engineer upstate. video camera, a rare luxury at that time, and started During one of his regular visits, Suzanne was sitting on her mother’s couch, talking on the phone, when John delicately slipped off one of the rings she frequently wore, replacing it with a diamond engagement ring. He said simply, “You know I love you.” 64 | Enchanted Wedding | 2014
recording their life together. It was the first of many vacations to come. Today they have 15 cameras, three video cameras and hours of footage. More photo opportunities came in 1992 with the birth of the DeVitos’ first daughter, Dominique, followed by her saratogaTODAYnewspaper.com
sisters, Adriana, in 1995, and Maria, in 1999. “You get to relive times in your life that would’ve been totally forgotten, like Dominique eating a clementine in her highchair, that are the simplest things and the greatest things,” said Suzanne. Appreciating the little things has helped the pair make it through tough stretches. They moved several times and worked staggered shifts, resulting in a loneliness that left Suzanne crying every day for years. She was diagnosed with Ulcerative Colitis and spent weeks in the hospital. Then, on a snowy day in 2009, at 46 years old, Suzanne suffered a heart attack. Just a year later, she had to undergo open heart surgery. “There’s no room to be narcissistic in a marriage,” said John. “You become as one in that you feel what the other one is feeling. It’s tough sometimes, but that’s what you gotta do. You love this woman and you gotta protect her and take care of her and that’s it.” And he kept up his sense of humor through it all. “There were times I would say, ‘don’t make me laugh, it makes my chest hurt,’” recalled Suzanne. Their love, laughter and determination were witnessed by everyone at Our Lady of Grace Church recently. The couple stood before the Ballston Lake congregation, gazed into each other’s eyes and renewed the same wedding vows they uttered 25 years ago. Once again, John secretly slipped a ring out of his pocket when Suzanne wasn’t looking. “This time I was totally, totally shocked and didn’t expect it at all,” said Suzanne. Life has held countless surprises for Suzanne and John, but humor, empathy, appreciation and love have guided them all the way. “We pulled through and holy man, look at what life deals you,” said John with a smile.
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Alfred & Theresa
Meslar
More than 50 Years of Happy Days by Megin Potter; photos provided
Behind them are the nostalgic memories of their courtship during America’s Golden Age. Before them is the wealth of wisdom that comes from staying together into their golden years. Theirs is a story as iconic as if it had been scripted for television. Theresa “Tess” Schmidt was a 17-year old Catholic school-girl when she pulled her Cadillac up to the neighborhood gas station and caught sight of a smooth-faced greaser nicknamed “Fonz.” “He was standing there and that was it, that was just it,” remembers Tess today. At 19, Alfred “Fonz” Meslar was fresh out of the Navy, the cool, popular guy. He sought advice on where to go for their first date; Tess was different than a lot of the girls he was used to being around. He ended up buying her a corsage and taking her to see the epic movie, The Ten Commandments.
When the couple returned home they celebrated their marriage with the live music and glamour found at the treasured Tavern on the Green in New York City’s Central Park. Fonz worked as an auto body mechanic while Tess stayed home to raise their two children, Denise and Michael. Family was a priority for the couple. “The ‘50’s were magical. It wasn’t crazy back then. There were no drugs at all. We had a party every weekend, but the children were in the playpen in the other room. That was our fun,” said Tess. Fonz and Tess remained very different individuals. Fonz was the life of the party, but Tess liked to hang back, instead keeping herself busy in the kitchen. She was happy to cook up her great-grandparents’ old-world Hungarian recipes for the gatherings that became commonplace at the Meslars.
“I don’t believe in that 50/50. One person has to give in,” said Tess. “When he came home, I had dinner on the Within the year, Fonz and Tess decided to get married. On October 10, 1958, the couple was wed in a small, low- table, my hair done. By 7:30 p.m., the kids were in bed and we had the rest of the night to ourselves.” key church ceremony. The rain outside turned to snow as the newlyweds cruised up route 9N to The Georgian To ensure their extended family remained close, the Hotel in Lake George, a 6-hour drive from where they Meslars moved to Saratoga Springs in 1973. Denise has lived in New Jersey. fond memories of all the time she and her cousins would spend running around at her grandparents’ farm in “It was beautiful back then, absolutely gorgeous,” Cambridge. recalled Tess. 66 | Enchanted Wedding | 2014
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“We were always together, no matter what. I think it’s the greatest thing in the world,” said Denise. Denise owns Something Bleu Bridal in Saratoga Springs. A true romantic, the original name of her bridal salon, Immortal Beloved, was inspired by Beethoven’s infamous and achingly beautiful letters to his one true love. His sentiments are something that Denise sees echoed in her parents’ commitment to one another, and the inspiring idea that love can go on forever. “Don’t give up, dress up!” advises Tess. And dressing up is something she has been helping women do for the last 33 years. She began by painting whimsical tropical-themed designs on t-shirts for Denise’s Bird of Paradise Boutique. Sales were so strong that Tess couldn’t keep up with the demand. As Denise shifted her attention to bridal wear, Tess started creating delicate jewelry pieces in a line called Tessa Originals, which complements her daughter’s exquisite wedding dresses with the simple elegance of crystals and pearls. Tess knows that staying simple can be powerful. For her, the three strongest words in the English language are simply, “I love you.” The love she and Fonz share was celebrated at a monumental anniversary party several years ago. Denise arranged for her parents to celebrate their 50th with a stroll down memory lane to when it all began. She surprised them, renting a shiny and rare ’58 Cadillac El Dorado for Tess and Fonz to cruise over to Fifty South Restaurant and Bar in Ballston Spa. There, a group of 50 friends and family dined on ‘50’s era favorites created by owner Kim Klopstock and her Lily and the Rose catering company. “I was shocked that everybody was there. It made it very special and (Fonz) was happy as a clam,” said Tess. “American Graffiti and Happy Days, that’s what our life was like.” saratogaTODAYnewspaper.com 2014 | Enchanted Wedding | 67
The Party Before
Party the
by Katie O’Malley; photos by Niki Rossi Photography Saratoga Springs is certainly a desirable location for “destination weddings.” When couples finalize their reception venue here, they often say the choice was based on the proximity to a host of dining, shopping and entertainment options for their guests. The city is perfect for a full weekend of fun! Many Saratoga weddings are not intended to be celebrated in just one day, as most couples plan a rehearsal dinner or welcome party the night before to highlight this charming city. To do both, host an intimate dinner for family and the bridal party and then open the evening to out-of-town guests, taking advantage of the special time together before the blur of a wedding reception. There are a wide variety of unique rehearsal spots in Saratoga. Whether a couple wants to start with a casual kick-off to their wedding weekend, or set the tone for an elegant celebration, these are some favorites that fit the bill. The DZ Restaurants have two options for small dinner parties in the Spa City. Three seasons of the year, the covered patio at Forno Bistro is decorated
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with flowing draperies, lush plants, terra cotta statues and copper fountains, transforming the outdoor room on Broadway into a Tuscan escape. Just a few blocks away, Chianti Il Ristorante offers seating for up to 32 guests in the La Porta Santa Room. The space features a large window looking into the bustling Italian kitchen for a festive dining experience. An iconic “Saratoga spot” is Sperry’s on Caroline Street. Providing culinary masterpieces since 1932, the restaurant boasts top-notch food and service. Rehearsal events can be held in either the side or back rooms, or within the whimsical walled patio and bar. Entering the garden from the street is like stepping into a different world: private, sophisticated and very special. Located 5 minutes from town, Saratoga National Golf Club stands out as a reception venue, but can also provide a relaxing, upscale rehearsal year ‘round. Spring and summer, the back veranda and sprawling porch are idyllic. Inside, the Howard Room includes a cozy fireside lounge and private wood-paneled dining room with a mural ceiling.
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The Mazzone Hospitality reputation promises outstanding food and service no matter the size of the gathering. Looking for a more laid back get-together? Countless options are walking distance from the downtown hotels. Saratoga City Tavern on Caroline Street has a fairly large private room with a pool table, bar, fireplace and big screen TV. They also have a rooftop patio perfect for pre-event bridal party toasts and post-reception celebrations.
A block away, on Phila Street, the second floor of the Seven Horse Pub is a completely private space with exposed wooden beams, a private bar and even upstairs bathrooms. The food is all homemade, onsite, and the staff truly delivers a worry-free night. Want to step away from the restaurant scene? Spare no fun at the bowling alley! Saratoga Strike Zone is an energetic option for couples who love a party atmosphere. The VIP Room offers six private bowling lanes, a fully stocked bar with bartender, custom menus, state-of-the-art lights and sound and two giant video screens. The possibilities are endless for a creative affair before or after the big affair. Finally, welcome family and friends cheerfully at the Saratoga Winery & Tasting Room, one of the most distinctive spots in the area. Their rustic elegance is an ideal backdrop for enjoying handcrafted wines and farm-to-table cuisine. Events are held in the tasting room or outside on the beautiful Adirondack-style patio complete with wine barrel tables. It’s a stop that guests will truly remember. They may even take home a bottle of their new favorite wine, locally grown!
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Picture Perfect Hiring the Right Wedding Photographer by Rob Spring; photos by Rob Spring Photography
As a full-time wedding photographer myself, clients often ask who photographed my wedding and how I chose them. There are three things I tell them to consider. First, the price has to be right. Funny to hear that come from someone who makes a living trying to sell wedding photography, isn’t it? Don’t overpay and spend the wedding day regretting a credit card charge and how far in debt you’ve gone. Of course, you also can’t make it your lowest priority. (Unless you don’t care what your photos look like; in which case you’ve already stopped reading this article.)
Next, the product has to meet your expectations. Once you’ve found the right price point, make sure you really love the photography. If you can’t tell the difference between good and bad photography, consider yourself lucky. It will make your decision easy! Finally, and most importantly I feel, do you like the photographer? Everyone knows that your pictures are the lasting keepsake of your day, the only piece of the wedding that will last as long as your marriage. But, too often, people forget that the person you hire will be at your wedding, talking to Grandma and dealing with your nieces and nephews. Wouldn’t it be embarrassing if he or she turned out to be a total jerk? If you have a beautiful wedding photo taken by a photographer you hated, you have failed. Because every time you look at that beautiful photo, you are reminded of how you missed the cocktail hour, stood in the freezing cold, in the rain, and heard your photographer tell your grandmother to get out of the way, just to “get the shot.” I know plenty of talented photographers, but at the end of the day, my wife and I hired someone who, had we known her better, we might have invited to our wedding as a guest. That is how much we liked her. Once you’ve found the photographer of your dreams, here are some tips to ensure you get the best photos possible.
That’s me in the unedited photo, and in this case, I am the secondary photographer. Right, edited photo (without me).
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1. Do the engagement shoot – or pay extra for it. This is your chance to work with the photographer outside of the wedding day. You can see how he works, and he can see how you and your future spouse interact. This way, everyone is comfortable when the wedding day arrives and schedules are tight and light is fading fast. Don’t be the awkward couple!
2. Be clear on how long you have the photographer and be clear on what “family” photos you’d like to have. They don’t know your family like you do. No photographer wants to waste your time taking pictures you don’t care about, or miss anything you can’t live without. Telling your photographer that you’d like “the usual” family photo combinations does not count. Every family is different and every couple has a different idea of what they’d like.
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3. Have a “first look” if you actually want to be at your cocktail hour and don’t have an extra hour planned between the end of the ceremony and beginning of the reception. (This is especially important if your ceremony is going to end after sunset.) You can’t have everything. You can’t go to your cocktail hour and still get all those photos of the bride and groom you see on photographers’ websites. No photo of the groom watching the bride walk down the aisle can beat the expressions we capture from the first look. You are guaranteed your own private moment, you are guaranteed it happens in a great spot and you are guaranteed an amazing photo. If you’re resistant, you’re probably thinking “this just makes the photographer’s job easier.” You’re right. I wouldn’t ask you to mow the lawn with a pair of scissors when you own a lawnmower. Don’t ask a photographer to shoot an hour’s worth of photos in three minutes, after dark, and expect the same thing she shows in her “best of” portfolio.
5. Do not invite your photographer to view your Pinterest page. If you have one or two photos you love, great. Send them over. But not twenty. It’s a terrific way to get ideas for décor (we are always looking for those ourselves), but if you spend the
4. Hire someone to do hair and makeup. And have a dress rehearsal. Photoshop does not fix your makeup in hundreds of photos. We can fix one or two for a print, but your guests are taking photos and posting them to Facebook before we even leave the reception. Make sure you look good in every single one! entire day trying to recreate someone else’s wedding photos, you will miss your reception and will not have any fun. If you don’t trust your photographer to take great photos, don’t hire him. Period. 6. Booking a photography package with two photographers is always ideal. Sure your wedding guest list isn’t huge, but as a single photographer, I am primarily concerned with “getting the shot” because I’m on my own. With a secondary 72 | Enchanted Wedding | 2014
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photographer you get more photos, but you also get more creative photos from your primary photographer. I can take risks to get the artistic shots when I know there is someone else there just “getting the shot.” Now, armed with these tips, schedule some appointments, meet a few photographers and choose one you love. 2015 will be here before you know it!
Rob Spring is the owner and primary photographer at Rob Spring Photography, Inc. He graduated from the Hallmark Institute of Photography, where his portfolio earned him a spot in the top 10% of his class. His work is part of the permanent collection at the Hallmark Museum of Contemporary Photography. Originally from Glens Falls, NY, Rob’s photography has taken him to 47 of the lower 48 states. Anyone getting married in North Dakota? He’s still waiting… saratogaTODAYnewspaper.com 2014 | Enchanted Wedding | 73
Seasonal
Garden
Winter, Spring, Summer and Fall, There is a Flower for One and All Featuring the floral designs of Blooms, Dehn’s Flowers, Native Farm Flowers and Posie Peddler Ideas provided by Barbara Jefts, Native Farm Flowers
Winter Wonders
Winter weddings are exquisite when accented with white pine, berries, pinecones and a touch of baby’s breath, reminiscent of fresh snow. Dehn's Flowers
Native Farm Flowers
Posie Peddler
Blooms; Rob Spring Photography
Calla Lilies symbolize... Magnificence
Amaryllis Pride
White Roses Worthiness
Red Roses Passion
Baby’s Breath Innocence
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Spring Blossoms
Posie Peddler
Pink roses, gerbera daisies, celosia, hydrangea, teal peacock feathers and hosta leaves create a whimsical bouquet.
Native Farm Flowers
Native Farm Flowers
The soft colors of a Victorian bouquet offer a beautiful contrast for bright spring dresses.
Daffodils symbolize... Chivalry
Hyacinth Sincerity
Lilac
First Love
Peonies
Devotion Dehn's Flowers
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Summer Stunners
Blooms; Scott Kretschmann Photography
Pink Roses symbolize...
Sunflowers
Appreciation
Peach Roses New Love
Adoration
Zinnias
Thoughts of Friends
Delphinium Strength
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Native Farm Flowers
Roses, gerbera daisies, orange butterfly flowers and calla lilies make a hot summer bouquet.
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Posie Peddler
Dehn's Flowers
Dehn's Flowers
Posie Peddler
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Fall Favorites Dahlias symbolize...
Amaranth
Dignity
Unchanged
Larkspur
Statice
Lightness
Loyalty
Celosias
Affection Blooms; CAJ Photography
Blooms; Rob Spring Photography
Dehn's Flowers
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LET THEM EATCake Though trendy in the past 10-15 years, the groom’s cake actually dates back to the Victorian era. The first was a heavy, dense fruit cake. It was cut, with pieces boxed for each unmarried woman attending the wedding. The cake was never to be eaten, but instead, put under her pillow, a sign of hope that she would find a husband. In the 1890s, this became known as the “Lady Cake” or “Plain Bridegroom Cake.” Cut by the groom, it was served with wine to the bridesmaids before they went to the church. This custom became quite popular in the southern United States. During the mid 1900s, the groom’s cake was incorporated into the tiered version, with his on top and hers the bottom layer(s). Traditionally, the couple cut the cake together, and fed each other to symbolize their marriage and commitment to take care of one another. It was then served to the guests. However the uppermost cake, the groom’s, was saved to be eaten later (often on the first wedding anniversary). Today, the groom’s cake is a separate reflection of his individuality, added to the celebration as a toast to the one who lets his bride shine that day.
photo provided by Cake
photo provided by Cake
photo by Tracey Buyce
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Many caterers will be happy to handle the wedding cake too, but there are several skilled bakers in the Capital Region who can design a custom creation for the bride and groom. Alissa Woods of Cake offers some quick tips for choosing a baker. As with most vendors, someone who is prompt and friendly from the first call will tend to be so through planning and delivery. Be sure to request testimonials from other brides. Satisfied customers are the best reference. Look for someone who has a website, or ready portfolio, filled with photos. Variety is important too. Request a tasting! Yes, the cake is a photo opportunity and even part of the wedding décor, but it needs to taste good as well. Better than good… delicious!
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Kids
Kids will be
by Katie O’Malley
Is hav in g children in the weddin g a goo d idea ? Adorable, sweet, cute, charming… all words that come to mind when imagining a flower girl and ring bearer in the wedding party. Sometimes, children can be those complete angels. However, too often, the reality reflects adjectives like upset, uncooperative, disrupting and difficult.
unexpected when making children part of the day. Know that things may not run smoothly, and that’s okay. Some of the most adorable, memorable moments can involve a tired flower girl taking a break halfway down the aisle, in the middle of the aisle. Or a ring bearer who turns left instead of right.
If it is important to the couple that a child be involved, they should carefully consider whether the little one is old enough to actually make it down the aisle. The best age for the job is 5 years and over. Even then, the key is to be prepared for the
Another thing to consider when selecting the youngest attendants is how it will affect their parents. Are they in the wedding party too? If so, this can mean more work and distraction for them on the big day. It might be nice for Mom and Dad to be free to focus their
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photo by Matt Ramos
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energy on the bride and groom and their duties as attendants, rather than worrying if Johnny will refuse to walk down the aisle or Susie will burst into tears. For couples close to several young children, a fun solution may be a “whimsy parade.” The littlest attendees can march, run or skip down the aisle all at once with cute signs or ribbon wands. This can be done to herald the start of the ceremony, or at the end. Another option is to give each child bubbles, pinwheels or noisemakers to lead the recessional walk back up the aisle. No ceremony worries for the bride and groom and a very sweet surprise for guests after the Mr. & Mrs. are pronounced! Katie is heeding her own advice! Learn why she broke up with her flower girl – www.katieoevents.com/blog/ posts/2013/december/20
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Flirty Ivory lace chemise and matching robe, both by Zinke
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Trousseau Lace, silk and satin, a well-placed bow The sweet, sexy things found at Torso. photos by Deborah Neary
Sensual Rose and gold lace chemise with matching panty, both by Zinke
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T imeless Ivory silk satin chemise by Bruleé
Classic One-size, silk satin kimono by Mary Green (Ideal for bridal hair and make-up!)
Necessary A bridal must! Nude, long-line bra with deepplunge back and detachable straps by Cosabella
Inviting “Tie the Knot” and “Breathless” garters by Mary Green
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Provocative Kitty cupless bra, garter belt and ouvert panty, all by Lascivious
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Exhausted Silk satin sleep mask and lace-trimmed, silk jersey-knit boy short, both by Mary Green
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STRUCTURE & SURROUNDINGS Photos by PJN Photography
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Money Unfortunately, money is one of the most common stressors for a couple. Let’s go over some financial basics, in no particular order, that are important to consider as you embark on a new life together. Once upon a time, the way to manage family finances was to have joint-everything. All of the income went into one kitty, and from there, the bills were paid. This doesn’t always work anymore. With couples marrying
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mong the hustle, bustle and excitement that come with planning a wedding, it’s important to keep in mind that the big day is truly just the first day of the rest of your lives. Ensuring marital success through the days and years to follow requires a bit of additional planning and forward thinking. Open communication is a crucial part of any successful marriage, and open communication about the family finances is paramount.
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ours." Joint bills (the mortgage, utilities and groceries, for example) are paid with ‘our’ money, while car payments and credit cards are kept separate. Each partner contributes a share of the joint expenses and then chooses what to do with the rest of the money. The beauty of this set-up is that even if one partner is a bit of a spendthrift, it shouldn’t matter since the bills are being paid. This can eliminate quarrels starting because the joint account has been raided for something frivolous, or, for that matter, disagreements over what qualifies as “frivolous.” You’re not alone anymore, and it’s important to understand that accidents happen. If one spouse becomes disabled, or passes away prematurely, there will be an economic impact on the family. It is vitally important to insure against death or disability. Married couples should take full advantage of the disability insurance available at work, and even consider purchasing a supplemental policy privately to protect cash flow. Likewise, consider purchasing a term life policy, which is the most economical form of life
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important to a happy, successful marriage as financial stability.” later, after already establishing independence, many are finding that keeping separate accounts works best. Having separated finances generally means that money is divided into "yours, mine, and
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insurance, to be sure that your family can continue to prosper in the event of one spouse’s death. It’s not a thought anyone likes to have, especially when planning a wedding and marriage, but it’s crucial to be prepared for the unexpected. Start saving for retirement today. Very few people love their job enough to want to work forever, so plan for the day you can stop working. Budget savings as if it is any other household expense. Some employers offer a 401(k) or other savings plan that pulls contributions directly from your paycheck, allowing you to save without a second thought. Many 401(k) plans will even match a portion of your contributions, giving you “free” money in your account. A Roth IRA can be a great option for additional savings since it will provide tax-free income upon retirement. When it comes time to buy a home, remember to use a good agent, and be sure to have it inspected thoroughly. Don’t stretch your budget. Larger homes require more maintenance and more time to clean, which translates into less time and money to spend living. Be sure to not only purchase homeowner’s insurance, but an umbrella policy as well. If someone slips in your driveway and sues for a million dollars, but your homeowner’s policy doesn’t go high enough to cover that, where does the rest come from? An umbrella policy that provides liability insurance above-andbeyond your other insurance. When buying a new car, try to arrange financing through the
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bank or credit union, rather than the dealer. It may add an extra step or two, but you can save money in the long run since many dealers will add to the interest rate you’d otherwise qualify for to increase their profit on the sale.
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and a child completes their family. For other couples, a black lab is a better complement to their lifestyle. Know which you are, and pursue the course that makes you happiest. If you do decide to have children, be sure you’re financially
Remember, you’re not just planning a day, you’re planning a life.
Take vacations. Budget for them with everything else. Even if you can’t afford to go somewhere exotic, be sure to take time off to travel together, or even just to complete a project at home. It helps break up the daily monotony and allows you to reconnect as a couple. This is especially important if you choose to have children; leave them with Grandma from time to time. On that note, kids are expensive. Contrary to what your mother says, children are optional. Some couples were made to be parents,
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stable enough to provide for their every need, so the expenses don’t add an unnecessary burden to your happy family. As you begin this new chapter in your lives, keep in mind that financial wealth is not as important to a happy, successful marriage as financial stability. And financial stability starts with making smart money decisions each day. Every choice you make will have a financial impact well into the future.
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Give guests a happy ending to the celebration, one they can take home! Candy buffets have become quite popular, satisfying everyone’s late night sweet tooth while providing a “make-it-yourself” favor. Paula Dyson, Sweet Coordinator for the Village Sweet Shoppe in Ballston Spa, suggests taking it a step further with a full “Sweet Bar.” Building a display of colorful candy, chocolates, cookies and cupcakes can be a fun, budget-friendly way to serve dessert. It also offers another chance to personalize the reception, either with the couple’s favorite sweets, themed to-go containers, or special messages on ribbons and bags.
Details MATTER Having a summer wedding? Outdoors or in, self-service beverages like iced tea and lemonade let your guests quench their thirst pre-ceremony. Personalize the station with photos, a unique floral arrangement or a basket of wedding programs.
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Seating is rarely a couple’s favorite part of the planning process. A few even choose to forego formal tables, opting instead for dinner stations and cocktail rounds. But for a sit-down dinner, table assignments make family and friends feel they are a carefully considered part of the day.
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Be creative with this reception welcome! For a sporty couple, assignments could be listed on stats sheets. Mini clotheslines enhance décor when strung with handstamped cards or seed packets that double as favors. Potted plants with seating tags add interest to the tables as each guest arrives. And book lovers can file seating alphabetically in Dewey-Decimal style, while wine aficionados might label custom splits.
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Get crafty! Baskets of scrapbook supplies will result in a completed keepsake when guests fill pages with duplicate photo strips and personal messages.
Have everyone “leaf” a thumbprint and signature for a treasured work of art.
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Don’t forget the littlest guests! Place activity bags at their seats to keep them busy creating colorful masterpieces for your new home.
Postcards written at the wedding can be collected and mailed by a friend, filling the first year with love notes and advice. Once received, slip the cards in an album to read again each anniversary.
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Married 5 to 50 years, Saratoga couples share their advice for an enchanted wedding day, and the happily ever after.
Jill and Michael DeAnzeris Married 8½ years
“The best advice we received for our wedding day was to make sure we took a walk, just the two of us, right in the middle of it all. A few moments to escape the craziness and the celebration, to remember the moment, and make sure we were focused on each other. And through the years we have done the same in our marriage. It makes a difference. It helps us remember our priorities and what really matters.”
Michele and Ed Kane Married 35 years
“The most important advice we would give is to communicate. Talk things through, and really listen attentively. Show respect, and a willingness to be flexible. Care for each other both physically and spiritually. Put the other’s needs before your own. Keep romance alive. Cherish your time together, hold hands, be creative and adventurous. And never forget to keep your sense of humor. Laughter always gives you a healthy perspective on life.”
Melissa and Chris Zieker Married 15 years
“Luckily, we knew when we got married that the wedding was only one day, a spectacular day, but one day nonetheless. The marriage is everything that happens after that grand party. It’s navigating careers, childcare, parent care, and building a life together. We’ve learned that it’s vital to carve out couple time. We spent years feeling too guilty to leave our kids, or feeling obligated to do things or go places because others expected it of us. Doing that, we neglected to put our marriage first. We now know that the best thing for us, and for our family, is making sure we are a top priority to each other.” 98 | Enchanted Wedding | 2014
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Lisa and Augie Vitiello
Married 36 years
Married 14 years
“Always kiss good-bye, always kiss good-night, and always, always, say ‘I love you’ before you hang up the phone. Your husband should be your best friend, your confidante, your lover… the person you go to for anything and everything. My heart lifts when he comes in the room, and after 36 years, four children and 39 dogs, he is still the love of my life.”
“Marriage is something that shouldn’t be taken lightly, especially once you have children. It is wonderful and fulfilling, but very challenging. Make an effort to find happiness in yourself. Don’t expect your partner to create your happiness. Respect, love each other and take the time to communicate about the little things before they become big things.”
Heather and Rocky Fresh
Beth and Jasper Alexander
Jayne and Emmett McCarthy
“We still have so much fun together. Just love each other deeply. Trust God and challenge each other. Give each other room to be imperfect, and to grow. And be the person in whom your partner finds all the belief, courage, and strength they could ever need… without having to ask for it.”
“The key to a happy marriage is love, friendship, teamwork and laughter…and never go to bed angry. I never miss an opportunity to tell Jasper I love him and the same goes for him. Relax and enjoy life…hold hands and cuddle!”
“Be silly with each other and laugh a lot. Have your own circle of friends and activities, but always find time for your partner.”
Married 12½ years
Married 16 years
Married 48 years
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