MARCH 2020
HEALING IN THE HAMPTONS
MARCH IS WOMEN'S HISTORY MONTH! RE-WRITE YOUR HER-STORY AND CREATE YOUR OWN NEW STORY! Greetings beautiful women of heart and soul! I hope this finds you well as we say goodbye to February, the month of Love which concludes with the special energy of a leap year. I want to share the feeling of transition I’m experiencing as the new month of March enters. March honors Women’s greatest moments in history. As such, I’ve taken pause to feel into my history, how I rewrote my story and how we each get to choose to rewrite ours through deliberate intention and the unseen forces of our deeper guidance. Both are powerful and work together in coherence to manifest your truest longings. I would love to share a bit of my history which lead me to this new journey that has created space for women to be seen, supported and to experience personal transformation in your lives. I title my story ‘My Wounds are my Gifts’.
February 21st 2020 marked my 6-year anniversary of having major surgery and my entire life began to transform in so many wonderful ways. I had cervical fusion on my neck from C4-7 at the Hospital for Special Surgery. I had a ski accident in my 20s that developed into advanced Stenosis & Neuropathy two decades later. The pain in my hands was so severe that my hands throbbed at night, I never slept and the muscles in my arms and hands were atrophying. I tried chiropractic treatments, physical therapy, epidural injections at my neck and yes - Energy Healing which put me on the path to changing my life! There's a saying, which I first heard at The Brennan School of Healing Science is "Our wounds are our Gifts to Heal" - is so true for me and everyone! I was in a career that in my case 'broke the camel's neck'. The stress & commute pushed my condition to the edge and I ended up needing major surgery. Yet it was the demands that I placed on myself my entire life, of burying my childhood trauma, and holding distorted images and beliefs about myself that were the underlying cause of what finally manifested in a physical way for me. It’s my experience that working in Corporate America as a woman can be soul-sucking – if you do it long enough - and I did it for 25 years. I had loved my career for many years, and it was rewarding. When I got married at the ripe age of 39, I became pregnant with my first child within three months, moved out of the city to Sag Harbor and began commuting. I began to feel the split and pressure as my priorities changed. I had no balance in my life for me, my marriage and family life. Six years after my son was born, we adopted a precious baby girl. The pressure and lack of sleep intensified everything as I felt my passion and fulfillment from my career slip away. I was so tired of ‘working for the man’ and it started to really get to me. Friends would ask, how do you do it; to which I would say, ‘I do it because I have to’. In truth, I did it until I couldn't do it anymore. I was commuting from Sag Harbor to NYC for 10 years and in the final year, driving to and from Great Neck daily.
My surgery saved my soul, my family, and me. For the first time in my life, I had the blessing of literally doing nothing as I convalesced for six months after surgery I had time to sit with and ask myself what I wanted to do next. I pondered what my longings were. What was my passion to fulfill & my life purpose? What resonated for me? I took a massive leap of faith and permitted myself to walk away from identifying myself by my Vice President title and lucrative career. I felt naked and vulnerable without the position, titles and paycheck. AND, I felt that I could finally made space in my heart to discover what I longed to do and be – something greater that would heal me & fill my soul!
When would NOW be a good time to start re-writing your story? Guidance came in with the quiet stillness of my healing post-surgery. It was so clear....this was my time to heal not just from surgery, but emotionally, spiritually and mentally. I decided to enroll in the worldrenowned Barbara Brennan School of Healing Science (BBSH), a four-year accredited college in Energy Medicine. I had no idea what to expect or what was around the next corner; I just knew it was the right decision and that my deeper knowing and guidance lead me there. I’ve never regretted the decision or looked back. In those four years, I received training from world-class master healers to become an energy healer myself. In order to become this, I had to rip off the band-aids of my childhood trauma to deeply heal my wounds for the first time in my life. Before going back to school and changing my career and life, I held onto so much anger, resentment and anxiety that I was largely unaware of or how it shadowed every aspect of my life. I was disconnected from my true self, defended my heart for fear of betrayal or abandonment that my younger self still held onto, I felt misunderstood & lonely, not really seen and mistrustful of others. I had no idea who I was, what I wanted to do, and how to be authentic with myself and in relationships. I have learned what it means to embrace and embody my life’s journey - to live imperfectly, in joy, gratitude, love, vulnerability and in connection with others - and to not deny or sweep away my sadness, fear, anxiety, not enough-ness, people-pleasing or self-judgment when it arises. There is a saying that we are all spiritual beings having a human experience and that we are not our stories or history. I believe we come here to heal our wounds and fulfill our soul’s longings. I am amazed by what is possible to manifest when I come from a place of love, courage, and integrity, ask for support from the universe and other kindred souls on their spiritual journeys. I can sincerely say I love my life, my family, what I do, and who I support - women on your journeys who are ready to heal, live out loud and experience true freedom to create, do, and be what lights you up in your life!
Sharon Daffner Bakes, Owner Healing in the Hamptons Certified Brennan Healing Science Practitioner Energy Therapy, Transformational Guided Meditation, Intention & Manifestation Life-Health Coach B.S. Nutrition, Masters Public Health Contact me for a Complimentary Discovery Session! 917-509-6189 www.healinginthehamptons.com
You can heal your emotional, spiritual and physical wounds that stand in the way of experiencing what gives you pleasure in your life to pursue that which fills your heart. It really is never too late. You have the free will to align with your soul’s higher divine purpose and experience the fulfillment of your life's calling. Your joy, ease and pleasure await you within the journey you choose that has always been your birthright and blessing! You get to rewrite your her-story and create your own new story!
Embody & harness your true gifts, restore health, well-being, relationships; Live a fulfilled life in serenity, joy, belonging and safety!