Protective Behaviours Workbook Day 2
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Introducing the Protective Behaviours core concepts Exercise Sheet Feelings Work Emotional literacy is the key to living a rich full life; can contribute to building healthy relationships and is essential for the ability to recognise when we feel safe or unsafe. From birth babies are attuned to faces, so it is never too early to start laying the foundations for being in touch with how we feel. Recognising and understanding our feelings helps us to manage them and not be overwhelmed by them.
Ideas for Feelings work
Feelings cards – naming feelings Miming feelings Feelings faces – cards, print outs, photos Teaching the names for feelings and encouraging talking about feelings Feelings Thermometer/iceberg model of feelings Feelings, Thoughts and Behaviour in relation to incidents, scenarios
Modelling the language of feelings so that children and adults become accustomed to hearing and using it Question: How could you encourage recognition of feelings with the people that you are working with?
Exercise 1:
Feeling Safe
Last week we also looked at the idea of a ‘Safe’ or ‘favourite place’, as a way of relaxing and experiencing: ‘Feeling Safe’. A key question to ask yourself before starting any intervention is: - What does this person need to feel safe to do this work? - What do I need to feel safe? Exercise: Safe Object: In Groups each take a turn to discuss your safe object, why did you choose it, what does it mean to you? This exercise can also be done as an art activity or by making a treasure box. How could you adapt this exercise to use with people that you work with?
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In Pairs Exercise: Establishing a relationship: Establishing a Relationship: In any intervention, (other than crisis) there is a higher likelihood of a better outcome if you are able to establish a good rapport with the person you are working with. What helps us to establish good working relationships? a. In pairs, one of you take the role of facilitator and ‘active listener’, one of you take the role of participant. Using the “All about me” sheet, ask the participant to write or draw some information about themselves (what do they think they are like as a person, what are they good at, not so good at? How do they think other people would describe them) b. Or - use the ‘Getting to know me’ sheet as part of your assessment c. Using the ‘How I spend my time’ sheet ask them to write down or draw -
activities/things that they like doing and/or ways that they spend their time, and/or situations that they find themselves in. What things do they do to feel good about themselves? What things do they do to get a buzz or for excitement?
d. You could also do this as a discussion a collage, or a diary Facilitator your aim is to find out more about the person that you are working with and what helps them to feel safe
Exercise 2: The Safety Scale The Safety Scale is a useful way of gauging how someone how good they are at taking care of themselves and managing risk. a. Using the safety scale provided, ask the participant to map the activities/situations they have described to different parts of the scale (Safe/Fun to Feel Scared/Risking on Purpose/Unsafe). Ask: How do they feel when they are doing that activity? b. Facilitator discussion points – is there anything that they notice or you notice in where they have put things? Are they doing activities mostly at one part of the scale? Do you as a facilitator have any comments or observations? If they are undertaking risky activities how could these be made safer? c. You could use scaling to ask questions – where would they put an activity/situation on a scale of risk from 0 – 10 (Safe – Unsafe)? What would need to happen for the person to get to the safe part of the continuum? What would need to happen for them to risk on purpose? d. You could also do this activity as a moving around game, or by having pictures or photos of different activities and asking someone to place them on the scale. 3 Safety Net, Manor Offices, Drove Road, Portslade, Brighton. BN41 2PA. Tel: 01273 411613 www.safety-net.org.uk info@safety-net.org.uk
Exercise 3: Early Warning Signs a. Pick one of the activities e.g. ‘riding my bike fast down a hill’ or ‘taking drugs’ and ask the participant how they feel when they are doing some of these activities? What do they feel in their body? Draw this onto the body outline. b. What were they thinking? c. What might other people feel or think about the situation or activity? d. If we have our early warning signs and it’s an unsafe situation, or we feel worried or scared, what could we do to feel safer again? Discussion points When we have our early warning signs it’s a signal for us to stop and think about what to do. How do we know if this is a fun to feel scared, risky or unsafe situation (choice, control and time limit). Hint: If someone can’t identify their early warning signs then you could also explore Early Warning Signs through activities and games such as the keeper of the keys/ blowing up a balloon etc. or do it in a one step removed way and think about how animals show us their feelings.
Exercise 4: Helping Hands a. On the piece of paper provided ask the participant to put in the circles the people that are around them b. Put the closest (by geography or support) nearest and the others further away. c. Explore the reasons why some people are close and some further away
d. Draw a solid line to those people we might choose to talk to if we had a worry or concern e. From this draw a Helping Hand/mobile list of people that you could call on to help you out. Can the facilitator give any other ideas for an up your sleeve of other services who could help?
Exercise 5: The safety Shield a. Use the Safety Shield exercise sheet to think about things that help them to feel confident and safe in each segment. This could include things that they like or are good at, their ‘safe objects’ and people who could help them.
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Useful Resources: Web-sites www.safetynetkids.org.uk Interactive site for children www.ExecutiveHomemaker.com for Feelings faces www.protectivebehaviours.co.uk for general information on Protective Behaviours www.safe4kids.com.au for Australian resources and ideas around Protective Behaviours www.incentiveplus.co.uk for emotional well-being resources www.luckyduck www.innovativeresources.org for feelings cards www.maginaationpress.com for resources www.freespirit.com for resources to meet children’s emotional and social needs www.niwaf.org to order a copy of ‘Helping Hands for Children’
Safety Net also has a resource Library that you can borrow from, please contact us for details.
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All About Me How do other people see me? Draw or write outside the body
How do I see myself? Write or draw inside the body
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Getting To Know Me 0= Strongly disagree; 5= strongly agree I Feel good about myself
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I like where I live
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I feel safe at home
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I feel safe at school
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I feel safe when I am out and about
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I know who to go to or phone if I need help
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I feel loved and cared for
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I trust other people
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I treat people with respect
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I like playing or spending time with my friends
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I sleep well at night
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I have people I can talk to if I am worried
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I have lots of strengths
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I have choices about what to do in life
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I feel positive about my future
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I belong to a club or group outside school
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I have hobbies and interests
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(with thanks to Oxfordshire County Council 2010)
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How I spend my time
Activities/situations that Situations I find stressful
Activities/situations that give me a buzz/I find exciting
Activities/situations I enjoy/help me feel good about me
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The Safety Scale
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SAFE
Fun to Feel Scared
Risking On Purpose
UNSAFE
Put Activities/how you spend your time onto the Safety Scale
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Early Warning Signs
STOP –what are you feeling? THINK – What are your Options? GO – What is the safest Choice?
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People Map
You
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Helping Hand Who would you put on your helping hand or speed dial?
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The Safety Shield
Feeling Safe
Safe Activities
Safe People
Safe Places
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We All have the Right to Feel Safe All of the Time
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