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Dannel Malloy, 60, graduated from Boston College law school and went to work for the Brooklyn D.A.’s office.

He moved back to Stamford to go into private practice and was first elected Mayor of Stamford twenty years ago.

Good timing: 9/11, an expanding financial services industry, and some would say a new aggressive mayor helped propel of lot of success in that city as many large companies moved to Stamford. That success, after a bruising gubernatorial primary loss to then New Haven mayor John DeStefano, would eventually help propel him to a razor thin victory to become Governor in January of 2011. Just five years later, Malloy is seen by some as a caustic figure, and to others a battling liberal who has bucked a conservative tide.

His reelection helped boost him into a national profile and he was appointed head of the Democratic Governor’s Association. In the past year, his stands on gun control and Syrian immigrants have won him praise from Democrats and a seat next to Michelle Obama at this year’s State of the Union. New Haven publisher Mitchell Young interviewed the Governor in early January to learn more about the person behind the policies.

••• There were eight children in your family, were you the “baby”?

I was the youngest, was I permanently the baby? I don’t think so. I have one sister and six brothers. My sister was born first.

I’m the seventh son, the eighth child, the eighty-eighth Governor.

I guess that would appeal to the Chinese, eight is a big number for them.

Seventh Son is biblical, it must have been meant to be.

You have three sons and at the press Christmas party your wife said she was looking forward to having a granddaughter and dressing up in tandem with her.

[Laughs] Yes, she wants a granddaughter.

Where did you start the idea of yourself in politics, did you run for class president?

I think I’ve held office continuously since the fourth grade. I was [laughing] president of the class in the fourth grade in the Glen School in Stamford. Mrs. Mitchell was my teacher. I just think I was prone to playing leadership roles.

Weren’t you still having trouble with your dyslexia?

I think the two things were connected. My mother was way ahead of her time, and ahead in understanding learning disabilities.The great choice that she made was not to dwell on my weaknesses but to dwell on my strengths. So as a result, things that I was good at like speech and leadership took precedent over reading and coordination.

So the dyslexia effected your coordination? You don’t seem to have a coordination problem now?

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I think the two things [difficulties] were separate. I don’t, but I didn’t overcome it until the eighth grade.

And it was probably a result of I was a late in life pregnancy. It was a difficult pregnancy, the physical aspects probably came as a result of my mother’s very difficult pregnancy.

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But like some of my siblings, I was also born with learning disabilities, just far more severe, and it took me longer to overcome. My mother was there and she promoted me doing the things I was good at. I was senior patrol leader in my boy scout troop, generally elected the class or student council. I found those experiences to be rewarding.

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I like to say, and not from a PC standpoint, “different abilities,” maybe Dyslexia creates a different way of thinking?

I think it does, and also as something to do with how people compensate. I think they’re doing a much better job of getting through.

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You’re never not dyslexic, but working through it. If you’re of my generation, you worked around, you developed certain propensities and talents.

Do you think having to overcome this difference effects how you view problems today?

Absolutely. I don’t think you can separate one’s experiences, particularly one that is as tender and consuming as a learning disability. I don’t think you can separate that from the rest of the personality.

Do people have higher expectations of you in that social arena because you had your own challenges?

I speak to parents and students with learning differences a number of times a year. I go to schools that specialize in teaching dyslexics and other learning differences, on a regular basis.

I’ve been honored by a number of schools, one up in [Wheeler] Providence, and down in [the Lb School] Washington D.C. I do set aside time to talk to them.

Are all your siblings still alive, it must be quite a holiday event?

Yes, it is quite a Christmas Eve. Everyone instate gets together, not only the eight and seven with spouses, but there’s thirty children on that side and probably forty grand children. We’re a very close-knit family.

What did your parents do for work?

My dad had an independent insurance agency that he initially purchased into in 1946. My mother was a nurse.

Would they be happy with your policies in those areas, both really big here in Connecticut?

Sure they would be. I think they would have been happy with what I accomplished here and in Stamford, but neither one lived to see any portion of that part of my life. I was elected to the Board of Finance in Stamford while my parents were alive.

What was the hardest thing you had to do in Stamford? The biggest challenge to make you think “am I even happy doing this”?

I was always happy doing it.

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evolutionary. Government at its best needs to be evolving on a constant basis, the Internet, twenty years ago didn’t exist.

The first cell phone I ever had I got when I was Mayor, 1995, it was in the car.Young people now in fourth grade have their own phone, it is a very different world. Government may use technology, but they don’t necessarily understand technology and don’t maximize it.

Some of that must be simply “big is hard”?

If you think about the early users in technology, it was government. It’s how we landed someone on the Moon, how we paid people’s Social Security. But it’s expensive, it’s cumbersome to learn, it requires change for your workforce or change out your work force.

We’re struggling now with replacing a fortyyear-old motor vehicle system. Everyone wants instantaneous gratification, it doesn’t happen that way. Because it doesn’t happen that way I think my predecessors never got around to doing it because they didn’t want to live the struggle. It is a struggle.

Stamford came to be dominated by some big companies?

I’m going to correct you on that, they moved in, but that is different than they’re being active.

When I was growing up in Stamford, companies were more active than they are in Stamford today or in Hartford.

At one point they talked about Hartford as having the “bishops,”Aetna, and Travelers and the Hartford….

We moved companies in, I think you have to look at company headquarters as something that is changing.They are going to come and they are going to go. The role that Stamford played is misunderstood. It’s the place you can grab jobs out of New York and if you play your cards right, they spread through other parts of Connecticut.

I used to joke that Shelton is the city that Stamford built.

How do you view the increase in partisanship we see around the country and certainly here in Connecticut?

When I became Governor five years ago, the technology the state was using was way behind what we were using to run Stamford. No one had invested, no one had replaced antiquated systems because it was too hard.That doesn’t stop me.

I think I was better prepared than some other Democrats might have been because I was mayor of a city that had the second largest Republican Party in the sate. I’m very used to partisan politics and have lived in that fishbowl since 1983.

So you were never discouraged. But what was the breakthrough moment, the now I really get it?

Probably not as bitter and difficult as today?

I was forty years old, what I did almost instantaneously was to change Stamford’s view of itself. The whole time I lived in Stamford and growing up in Stamford and until I became Mayor was this ongoing debate of whether we were a town or were we a city?

I answered that question we’re a city, let’s treat ourselves like a city and not ask the question anymore. We’re not Greenwich, not Darien, we’re not New Canaan, we’re Stamford.

We’re a place where forty-four thousand people commute everyday to work.That is a different situation than confronts many other municipalities in the state and we needed to have city-based or urban-based responses to problems.

We even changed the city’s slogan, I chose The City That Works. But our prior saying, Moving Forward for People, what the hell is that [laughing]?

Sure! Partisan politics are hard, they don’t lead to close examination of anything, but they’re hard.

What do you want to be known for?

A bunch of things: our commitment to holding people accountable in education, real results in urban environments, for lowering crime and establishing a second chance society in the state, for transportation, for modernization of government. I’d like to solve the pension issue for Connecticut, it is not as hard as people think it is. I’ll be disappointed if people can’t say one thing they remember me for.

I know there is a no labels movement, but I’m not in it, what is the label people in Connecticut people have for you, are you a progressive a liberal?

I think some think I’m a son of a bitch and some of them tolerate me and some of them love me.

That’s what I think.

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spending the lowest percentage, no one would pick me.

I very much think of myself socially as progressive a liberal, those terms have become interchangeable but I’ll go to the “L” word.

I advocated for civil unions, for [same sex] marriage, I passed a transgender protection law the first year I was here.That’s where I live, that’s who I am and what I am.

Isn’t that just a reaction to where the world is today, the state, where there is growth in the world and in our country?

you had a claim in New Haven, but the person had previously been served in New Haven, you had to wait for the paper file to get to you to be able to review historical data. We’re five years into this [new system] and we’re nowhere near where we need to be.

That’s why technology is very important because once we use it properly, we can save even more money.You should be able to interact with government from your home. Maybe you could do ten percent of transactions with government today from your home, we have to get it to fifty, sixty, seventy percent.

Connecticut has had a great healthcare system, a growing one, a lot of new hospitals and facilities were built in the past decade, you have focused on management compensation, but what about the scale of the system, is it too big?

Why hasn’t government done better?

That’s not an area where I tread, its too expensive. Recently the head of the Hartford healthcare system, the largest system in the state, admitted they waste thirty percent—a third of dollars. Government at its worst isn’t at thirty percent.

I think on a fiscal basis, I’m probably more conservative than a lot of Democrats are. We as Democrats want to do everything and we don’t live in a time that we can do everything.

What we actually have to do as Democrats is set our priorities. Everything cannot be a priority.

I don’t mean this as a right side talking point, but is government simply too big in the state?

Government is substantially smaller since I became Governor. If you asked who has overseen the smallest state government, Rowland, Rell, or Malloy, unless they knew [people] would say Roland or Rell. But I have a smaller state workforce than either of them. If you asked people in Connecticut who increased

People don’t want to be blamed for failure; therefore they don’t try, simple as that. l Sublloie, the CEO of Tangoe says “Don’t Ask for Permissions Ask for Forgiveness” are your willing to go there?

I’d say ask for permission and forgiveness [laughs]. We were being sued across the board on Social Services when I became Governor because it took us too long to make a decision, and the reason was because of paper files. If

As someone who has been in the healthcare system as a patient a lot in the past few years, I can say they do a lot of things. I don’t know if they are driven by regulation or patient care, but there are a lot of people in a place like Yale New Haven for new haven

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example. If it was thirty percent smaller, wouldn’t we be laying off a lot of people?

bioscience, the Engineering School and other technical programs at the state, at Southern, Central, University of Connecticut.

No, I think there is a difference between people and expenses and how you spend our money. I don’t think he was saying we’re wasting thirty percent of our money on our staff. When Tylenol costs you twelve dollars for two pills in a hospital, there is something wrong.

I understand that someone had to put it in a cup and someone on a tray and someone to get it to your room, and twelve dollars is probably the wrong number, it’s probably fifty dollars.

I was asked why don’t you grow the school [UCONN]? The answer was we don’t have enough water.

God knows there is enough water in Connecticut.

We need a great healthcare system that is as concerned about how it spends its money.The simple message that I’ve delivered is that you can’t count on government to subsidize you in the way they have.

I’m also the publisher Business New Haven. I talk frequently to business people and they are ctritics of govrnment in Connecticut. What is the vision to go back to that person that says here’s why we are making it and we’re not going to be upstate New York, another faded glory.

We need more vibrant cities, and I think Stamford is a vibrant city, Norwalk is becoming one, New Haven is absolutely moving in the right direction. I think New Haven made the mistake of taking Yale for granted and Yale made the mistake of taking New Haven for granted for the better part of twenty or thirty years.

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Is that a legacy concept?

Maybe it should be bigger throughout cities in the state?

I think that UCONN was too small where it was and I think UCONN needs a bigger footprint.

What did the two UCONN basketball teams teach the people of Connecticut, isn’t there a lesson about competition and winning there?

I haven’t thought about it in philosophical ways, it’s fun, it’s exciting, it allows people to express pride and love for their state.

Was UCONN basketball popular in Stamford?

Yes and no, I think UCONN has historically had a love/ hate relationship, mostly hate of its smaller campuses. I tried when they won the national championships to get them to bring the team down to Stamford, but they weren’t interested.

I know people on the Storrs campus resented people on the Stamford campus because they saw everything as a zero sum game.

There seems to be a rocky relationship with business and I’m not referring to the GE Aetna scuffle, but more generally, that is not the strongest support team you have, would you agree with that?

No. Is that a political answer or.. [interrupts] It’s not true.

People in one state aren’t going to be critical of the government in another state. Let me assure you when I go to New York, businesses are critical of the government in New York, in Massachusetts [the same]. I think we make a bigger deal out of it in Connecticut.

I’ve been in Politics a long time, Connecticut is pretty tough on itself, that’s the reality. For instance, we have the lowest crime rate in forty eight years, we don’t hear anyone talk about that. We have a prison population that is twenty percent smaller than it was a few yeas ago, you don’t hear anything about that. Recidivism rate is dropping dramatically—you don’t hear about it.

Just yesterday in the Hartford Courant there was a top news story that the Macy’s in Enfield was closing and ninety five people would lose their jobs and then a much smaller story down on the page that Comcast is hiring two hundred people [for their Enfield operations].

How do you view your relationship with what is a much smaller press than the past?

Pretty good. I’m probably more available than any governor they ever worked with. I’m like every other politician, you would like only nice things said about you. I sometimes say “who bays at the moon,” it is what it is.

You’re out as Chair of the Democratic Governors and that has helped bring forward some issues that are both local and national for you, Syrian immigration for example. When you made the decision about the Syrian immigrants, you probably knew a lot of people in Connecticut would be uncomfortable?

I suppose, a lot of people in America have forgotten they’re immigrants. Is that what you mean?

I did the right thing.

You have indicated that you might run again, aren’t you concerned that this would be an issue for a lot of people in the state?

It could be, but I don’t make political decisions, I make decisions about what’s right, particularly when other people’s positions are based on ignorance. You had one Republican Governor call for a ban on accepting refugees and within thirty-five hours every Republican governor had done the same.They had someone on their staff that works with the Federal government on immigration issues.

None of those Governors, as far as I know, even conferred with their person to at least understand what the process was.

Starting in 1951, the US was a signatory to a set of protocols generated by the United Nations. In 1951, we had still failed to resettle the World War II population, many of them Jewish people.

We signed to play a role, that’s our obligation.The process is the United Nations interviews people, they make recommendations, and in the case of those recommended only a fraction were being considered and of those, you’re talking a twelve to twenty four month review period.

I just think my Republican governor colleagues wanted to score relatively cheap political points.

We can dissect a lot of issues and I’m not really interested in that I’m happy to listen to the interviews on NPR for that, let me ask a final thought.

We’re doing a lot of good things, we have a higher graduation rate in our recent history, forty-eight year crime low, but what gets reported on becomes reality.

I get it, change is hard. NH

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he search for love and companionship is complicated, time-consuming, gutwrenching, expensive, or sometimes as easy as saying hello to the person sitting next to you in History class. Some people need help, and that’s where a Date Doctor comes

in—either to give new opportunities to meet people, or provide a bit of coaching to get singles to stop the bad habits. Others know what they want, like the singles that spoke to us about their experiences and what they look for in a match.

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It’s a quick conversation, so they are encouraged to break out their best material.Think beyond asking about a favorite color or what animal you would be.

“I had one woman who cried on every first date—over her mother dying 18 years before.

She discovered she was trying to connect emotionally way too quick, but moving forward she had to realize that she was the one sending them running.” Good advice, don’t cry on a first date.

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aimy Blazynski, better known as The Date Doctor to hundreds of clients around the state, has been in the business of dating for ten years. She was inspired in the new career path by a bad divorce and subsequent successful remarriage to a man she met on match.com. It was the lessons learned in the bad relationship that taught Blazynski what she wanted, but also what mistakes she’d been making.“I started doing sporadic speed dating events and pulled people in a room and had them sit, but if they had “issues” or negative believes about dating or unhealthy patterns, it didn’t matter, they’d end up dating the same person in a different shell over and over again.”

And that’s where the coaching came in.The Date Doctor still runs speed dating events, but

the coaching service is for those who just don’t know what they’re doing wrong.The speed dating events pair up a dozen men and a dozen women in a public place. Events are typically organized by age, and participants spend five minutes with each attendee of the opposite sex.

Blazynski also started a service called three blind dates under the theory that people are tired of being trapped on dating websites. Some people aren’t good at writing those messages – they just want to sit across from someone and talk.The service began a year ago and a single provides an application listing all of their “dealbreakers.” From there, they are sent on three separate blind coffee dates. With the dates come emails from Blazynski with tips – no Dunkin’ Donuts, stand up to greet her, pay for the coffee, pick somewhere nice, etc.

“That service is popular. It competes really well with Match.”

“One woman, she was young and beautiful but had zero hobbies because all she did was work on finding a guy.That was her problem.

She focused all of her energy on him, following him around and waiting around for him, instead of going out and doing things for herself. She wasn’t interesting, had nothing to talk about.”

Blazynski explains that a lot of people hate the hobby questions typically found in online dating questionnaires or “about me” sections. She asks people what they do for fun or like to watch on t.v. A client might say she likes watching crime shows and going to tag sales to decorate her house.

“It’s important to stick with that, don’t pretend to love museums and travel, but do the things you like to take your mind off dating.”

She advises everyone to push themselves to break the pattern of not doing anything.That can lead to being too available.

When asked about the kinds of advice people seem to need the most, Blazynski says it’s different for men than for women.

“Women need to trust their gut and maybe to feel good about who they are. Don’t just always make decisions based on what would make the guy happy, decide based on what you want. If he doesn’t like it, let him move on, attract the guy that doesn’t do that.”

“Men have so much wrong information. Guys will come and say ‘oh I’m a nice guy and girls don’t want a nice guy anymore.’ No, it’s your

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insecurity and weakness and vulnerability and lack of decisionmaking.They misinterpret that.

Other guys think girls just want a rich guy. I have never come across a gold digger. Most women want a genuine, normal, nice guy who is confident and likes his life and his job. I would prefer to date a guy digging a ditch who is happy than a rich guy who hates everything.

They sometimes try too hard to impress women, like talking about owning a successful business or playing football in high school. He is hiding behind his insecurities.”

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ick Gleifert, full-time Residence Hall Director and graduate student in the Master of Business Administration Program (MBA) at Southern Connecticut State University, said with his hectic and busy schedule, one important aspect of a relationship for him would be patience.

“I think given what I do for my work, patience is something they really have to work with me on,” said Gleifert.“As a hall director, we don’t have a fixed schedule and I can be working anywhere from 35 to 40 hours a week.There have been times where I have been talking to a person and because I’m so busy, it can cause some problems.”

Throughout his experiences with relationships and finding someone that is a good fit for him, Gleifert has grown to always know that relationships are a “two way street” and each person has to make an effort in order for it to work.

“I feel like people can make relationships very Hollywoodesque,” said Gleifert.“Where the female always gets catered to by the male, but I think I should be catered to as well. I think it is definitely a joint effort between two people.There have been times where I have put in so much and they didn’t put in as much in return because they felt like they didn’t need to.”

Gleifert said a relationship is “another lifestyle,” one that takes a lot of work and effort to make successful. A relationship is also something that two people really need to work on together.

“It’s kind of like what us students do with school and work,” said Gleifert.“If someone is doing so much and only one person is making the effort, they can burn themselves out.”

In Gleifert’s eyes, a partner for him is someone that can maintain the relationship as fun and interesting—someone that knows how to be serious, but also not so uptight either.

“I am still fairly young,” said Gleifert,“so the person I am looking to be with would be funny, definitely. If you’re looking to date somebody with the hopes that you will be with someone forever, you have to keep it interesting.”

With a “big smile and kind tone” Gleifert said whenever he is interested in someone during the search for a relationship, he is able to start conversations and approach individuals quite easily.

“I’m pretty outgoing and I think with approaching people, I have a good personality for that,” said Gleifert.“Depending on the type of person I am talking to, say if they work a similar job as me or don’t, I can have those kinds of intellectual conversations.”

Gleifert likes to get deep and personal—one of the most important aspects of life is his family, so maintaining the idea of family in a relationship is key.

“Since I am definitely looking to have a family of my own someday,” said Gleifert,“I want the person to know that my family is important to me and that I will always maintain that importance in my life.”

Gleifert said one aspect of modern day that is both a positive and negative for relationships is technology. It provides a great outlet for people in order to meet different indivduals, but can also cause problems.

“Technology has more positive effects than negative effects on relationships,” said Gleifert.“When people are in a relationship they can use social media to portray the kind of relationship they are in.

People can also use it to show their type of life and personality to other people. It is a much different way than what people used to have. It

gives people a chance to see all different types of personalities.”

Throughout relationships and meeting new people, Gleifert is confident that he will do whatever it takes to please someone; a quality that has always been maintained within his family.

“I will always go out of my way for someone,” said Gleifert.“I always make sure that even if it is not me, the person that I am with will always be happy and content with me and the [relationship]. My way is to make sure that the other person and everyone else is always happy.That is also my family life and what we do. I know there is somebody out there who wants to be that happy and can count on me to make them happy.” NH

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find the person—it might be easier to divorce.”

He’s never been divorced.

He makes a strong effort to put together a good date and most recently, took a first date skydiving. He says it was a lot of fun but unfortunately, she “forgot” her wallet and never returned his call or paid for her $250 trip.

Bummer. He stays nice, though.

“Seeing how my roommate deals with online dating is a good incentive for me not to be a piece of crap. She gets awful comments from guys when they make a forward move and she slows it down. I always tell her to take a screen shot of that and we’ll find them online and send it to their moms.That would get’em.” NH

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ustin Chuff lives on the shoreline, works in IT, has been single for about a year and says the search is good, but he’s not really searching.

“I take it as it goes and see who I bump into.

I’m at a point in my life where I can spot it if I see it. A lot of people are on the internet a lot looking for people, getting jaded from the types of people they meet.”

Chuff prefers a face-to-face encounter, but more specifically, doesn’t like the idea of people hiding behind a website. It helps that Chuff is not afraid to talk to strangers. He recently tried a speed-dating event and admits that he had low expectations and thought that anyone that needed it had to have something wrong with them. He was pleasantly surprised to find young interesting professionals who seemed cool.

“I introduce myself and try not to say anything creepy. I stay away from complimenting people because I feel like it puts people on the defense and they feel like I’m coming on to them. I don’t talk about current events, that’s boring, so I throw something weird out there like ‘hey what’s up I’m Dustin, my mom left when I was 12. Now you go.’” Dark humor has its charm.

He feels its important to stay busy, he plays sports, is in a band, and tries to do fun things often—he always has something to talk about and that’s key.

“You don’t want to be bored – you want someone fun to hang out with and someone who will keep it exciting. Not everything in life is fun, so when you’re going to work everyday, or having bad days, you want someone who can make you feel better.”

Chuff wants to have a family one day. He’s not just dating for fun, he wants to see where things could go with the right person, but does he feel pressured by a timeline?

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athy Geremia has had two unsuccessful marriages, but admits she still has hope that the right guy will come along. She has the job of her dreams—helping those on public assistance and re-entering the workforce from prison through a job-training program with CT Works. Her three children are grown and out of the house and she even has grandchildren.

“The only part that doesn’t seem to work out is relationships, everything else is great.”

Raised in a strict Catholic household, Geremia was married at the age of 19 and within a year, the couple had their first child. He was a friend from high school, it started out casually, when she gave him a ride to the store to get ice cream, and they fell in love.

They had three children together and stayed married for twenty years, but, Geremia admits,“the entire marriage was abusive.” It was her religion that kept her

committed, continually trying to work through their problems.

New York so she could pick out a diamond.

“We were very strict Catholic. I thought if I got divorced I would go to hell and I didn’t want to go to hell, so I stayed. Now I know it’s ridiculous.”

“I was so happy at that time because it was such a depressing and horrible time watching my father waste away. We went, I picked a diamond, he got down on one knee at a restaurant and proposed. We set the wedding for after my daughter graduated from high school and we went to the hospital and told my father. He was very happy for us. He passed within days.”

Her husband was also unfaithful.

Women would call the house at odd hours and he would pretend to be confused.

“It was easier to believe him than to recognize the truth,” says Geremia.Then, finally, after a long and ugly divorce, he was gone.“My kids were better, I was better. He was dating 20 year olds and I was left to raise 3 teenagers.”

She stayed single for a while. It wasn’t until a family member coaxed and cajoled her to meet a friend of hers, that she went on a date.

“He seemed nice and polite. He was a cop, I thought he must be a nice guy. So that helped me let my guard down.”

They began seeing each other, but could only meet up about once a week.They both had busy schedules and with Geremia living in Woodbridge and her boyfriend in Middletown, it was what they could manage.

It was after about 2 years of dating that her father was diagnosed with cancer and quickly began to waste away. Diagnosed in July, he passed in November. When he was in hospice, her boyfriend asked her to take a day off from work and go to

Unfortunately, it took another almost two years for husband #2’s temper to show itself.

“I had been so worried about getting into another bad relationship, but it happened.”

They were soon divorced and she was on her own again. She had a

boyfriend for a few years, but it didn’t work out, she says “he was a good person, but a little selfish.” She tried online dating, but admits she was just going on dates with men she wasn’t very interested in, so she stopped.

“I don’t necessarily trust my own ability to decipher who is good and who isn’t.” However, she has a lot of hope and few regrets.“I pray for a nice and honest man.Those are my lessons or scars, but I don’t feel like I’m damaged, I feel like I needed what I went through to make me a very strong person and it has given me so many lessons that I could totally understand with almost anything that someone says to me, that I can totally get it. I’m empathetic, sympathetic and I can relate, and it’s what has made me successful in my job.” NH

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here, we hear confession every day. Maybe the imagination is different?” said Father Marek Sadowski of St. Michael’s Parish, Derby. He’s a Vincentian Father from the Northeast of Poland and came to the U.S. in 2004, at the Church’s request, to help with the church’s needs in the U.S. First, he was sent to Brooklyn, then Wisconsin, then Concord, New Hampshire, before finally returning to Connecticut and St. Stanislaus Polish church in New Haven.Two years ago, he moved to St. Michael’s Polish church.

There are three Polish churches in New Haven County: St. Michael’s in Derby, St. Stanislaus in New Haven and a smaller parish, St. Joseph’s Church in Ansonia.

Father Marek hears from not only Polish Catholics, but also Russian and Czech. Slovak, he says, is similar to the Polish language and he learned Russian a long time ago in Poland.“In my time, we learned Russian,” he explains. Many may not be parishioners, but they know that St. Michael’s does Confession every day.The first Friday of the month, the line for Confession is almost out the door.That phenomenon relates to a promise of Revelations in the Bible.

He believes the majority of the region’s Polish population lives in the valley area.

FatherFather Marek keeps two bibles at the pulpit, one in English and one in Polish

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Part 3 of a Multi-part Series Diversity in Greater New Haven

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eligion is a sensitive topic, and often contentious—even the Census Bureau hasn’t asked Americans about their religious beliefs or practices since the 1950s, when the issue of the “propriety” of the government collecting such details was widely debated and the practice was stopped. Sometimes, a particular religious group can be easier to spot, like a Catholic on Ash Wednesday or a Sikh with wrapped hair—or even because that particular practice takes place in a non-traditional location (deep in the woods) or in a language known only to a few. Religion often becomes a way to find a community in a new place, or to connect to heritage or community left behind. According to a private count by the Association of Religion Data Archives (ARDA), there are approximately 586 houses of worship in the county covering about 78 different religious sects. In talking with our neighbors, we learned a few new things about some of the most well known religious groups here.

St. Michael’s was founded in 1905, the building celebrated its 110th birthday in 2015, and in all that time, services have always been offered in Polish. At this point, they are also offered in English and they consider themselves a bilingual parish, but there are plenty of parishioners still wishing to worship in their native language, or the language of their parents and grandparents.

The second and third generations of many families are still involved in the church—and still speak Polish.

The church offers a Polish Saturday school, which teaches Polish to the community’s children, in addition to the traditional catechism offered by Catholic churches. Currently, the Polish Saturday school has about 130 students.

“The kids may speak Polish to their parents and at Polish class, but they speak English to each other and everywhere else. It’s easier for them,” Father Marek admits.

As the dominant religion in the region with about 35% of the county identifying as Catholic, there may be a Catholic Church in almost every town and most school districts have at least one Catholic school. Culturally, however, the Church remains diverse to serve the differences in language and history that its congregants represent. Nationally, Connecticut maintains the largest number of Polish congregations than any other state, according to the ARDA.

The church keeps traditions that are common in Polish churches: Christmas trees in December with Polish Christmas carols sung half an hour before a midnight Polish mass, and a tomb at Easter.The tomb isn’t exactly what many churches may do in America, but it is the Polish tradition.

“Polish culture and American culture are very similar, but we do confession every day. I think that’s different. In other Catholic churches, the important thing is to take Holy Communion, but

Recently, for Wszystkich Swietych, or All Saints’ Day on November 1, more than 300

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“The kids may speak Polish to their parents and at Polish class, but they speak English to each other and everywhere else. It’s easier for them”.

One of the many volunteers at St. Michael’s, Sandra Jemioto, works as a secretary in the office. She was married in the church 53 years ago and says it’s the beauty of the building that inspires her to worship. She says the interior looks the same as it did when she was married but, unfortunately, she admits, some changes were made to the ornate style after Vatican II when the church relaxed some of its rules and cut back on the “opulence.” Some of the decorative wooden railing and an ornate pulpit were removed from St. Michael’s for more modest accouterments.The interior still hosts an impressive array of murals and stained glass, however, and a 76-year-old Italian marble statue of the Virgin Mary still stands outside the main doors.

parishioners came for a special service to honor their deceased relatives. All Saints’ Day has been a solemn holiday in Poland since the 7th century A.D. Mass is held at the church, and then as a procession, Father Marek and his parishioners go to the cemetery and pray. Visitors may leave flowers or light candles for deceased loved ones.

In Poland, only 2% of the population is said not to visit a grave during All Saints’ and All Souls Day on November 2.

In December, the basement was full of church volunteers preparing fillings for a fundraising holiday pierogi operation.The pierogi, a dumpling of unleavened dough wrapped around either savory (potatoes and cheese or sauerkraut) or sweet (prunes) fillings boiled and served hot, was expected to bring in a

“She gets crowned every May 1. People use her as a landmark here on Route 34.”

Parishioner volunteers make pierogies for a fundraiser, mashing potatoes and cheese to fill approximately 600 pastries to sell.

According to Father Marek, St. Michael’s is like any Polish church in Poland from 100 years ago.

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ccording to a study sponsored by the Jewish Federation of Greater New Haven in 2010, there are approximately 23,000 Jews living in the county, the second largest Jewish community in the state (Hartford has closer to 33,000).

3,000 centers worldwide and they are open to all Jews.There are 8 Chabad centers in New Haven County and in the case of Chabad, the ritual is about connecting with people, not necessarily just the language and the clothes.

The core element, the hallmark, is outreach.

The Hassidic community of Chabad is about outreach, offering the Jewish experience to anyone who is interested—and at any level.

Well, then, where did the myth of the reclusive Hassidic Jew who avoids the outside world come from?

Rabbi Sheya Hecht, headmaster of the Southern Connecticut Hebrew Academy in Orange, is the second generation to run the school started by his father, the late Rabbi Maurice Hecht, in 1945.

“Oh, that’s not a myth at all, it’s real,” Mendy and Sheya Hecht, father and son rabbis agree, “that’s just not Chabad.That’s not us, or what we believe.”

“We don’t quarantine,” explains the senior Rabbi Sheya.

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The founding of the school was a part of the first wave of the Day School Movement in the United States. It was in the 1940s that the 300-year-old Chabad movement came to New York from Europe after World War II.The Chabad Rebbe (leader) Schneerson, settling in New York, wanted his leaders to go and found day schools in Jewish communities. He felt that America was no different from the “old country” and that traditions could be maintained at all levels from dress, to Shabbot observance, to the education of children. Rabbi Maurice Hecht was one of those rabbis, and he came to Connecticut.

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Recruiting for the Hebrew Academy in 1945 was difficult, even the most observant homes shut the door to him. Jewish parents said things like “this is America, we work on Saturdays, we don’t dress like that. We need to mix with everyone otherwise it’ll be Germany all over again.”

Chabad’s message then, as today, was that the observance could continue in the traditional sense. Jewish life existed here, no compromise of traditional practice was necessary to conform. Non-Hassidic Jews are often part of the outreach. It was important for Chabad, as an organization, to give the experience to young people—like on college campuses, where Chabad remains very active.

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A Birder and a Crafter Build A New Nest in Downtown New Haven

The open floor plan of the living room, dining room and kitchen was the idea of The Kitchen Company, and made for a brighter and bigger space.

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Dr. Bill Batsford and Karen Batsford are retired and downsized to an urban space where everything is walkable.

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n 1974, Dr. Bill Batsford, cardiologist, and his wife Karen moved to the towers at 100 York Street when the building was less than twenty years old.The couple met at Cornell as undergraduates and after a few years of bouncing around to Philly and Staten Island, they were relocating to New Haven for Bill’s new position in cardiology at Yale, where he served the medical school for 36 years.They only stayed in the towers for a few years before purchasing a home on Livingston Street in East Rock to raise a family.The 6-bedroom, 3-floor house served the Batsfords well for many years, but things began to change in 2011 when first Karen retired from The Foote School and then a year later, Bill retired from Yale.The couple was ready to downsize.

Lucky for the Batsfords, the Towers they had once lived in more than 30 years prior had been converted to a co-op in 1981 and units were for sale. Single units could

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run small, but over the years, many homeowners purchased adjacent units and knocked out walls to create larger living spaces.The building is practically a self-contained neighborhood.There is a community room, organized residents planning parties and events for socializing with neighbors, and a built-in pool with deck-side grills for summer parties.

The Batsfords were able to buy a previously combined unit, although they still wanted to make substantial changes.The space wasn’t exactly flowing the way they wanted and there was a bathroom to walk through to get from one end of the unit to the other that seemed to be in the wrong place, so

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“Karen’s room” of looms and supplies is separated from the living room with a handmade set of stained glass doors.

they took it out to make a longer hallway and a more natural and connected floor plan.

Lucky for the Batsfords, a good friend and former neighbor from Livingston Street, Nancy Clayton, is an architect—a senior associate at Pickard Chilton, actually. Clayton was a big help in sorting out where to take out walls and put up new walls to get the 1800 square foot space just right.

To deal with a small narrow galley kitchen, the Batsfords reached out to The Kitchen Company, who suggested extending the kitchen through the living and dining area and creating an open well-lit space with a center breakfast bar around a support beam, instead. Because their space consisted of two combined apartments, they had a second kitchenette at the other end of their unit—which they kept as a mini wet bar.

The Towers on York Street offer views of the city all the way to West Rock and Sleepy Giant. The Batsford’s balcony stretches the length of their two combined apartments.

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Dr. Bill Batsford, former president of the New Haven Bird Club, likes to take pictures of wildlife and his mini gallery leads visitors through the main hallway of the apartment.

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With the help of their contractor, Tim Kovaci, who knows the building really well and has worked on many projects at The Towers, they were able to get all of the work done in six months with only one minor snafu—the day they moved in, none of the bathrooms were fully operational yet and they had to use the lobby bathrooms for a night until a single part could be replaced

by Kovaci to make at least one of them fully functional.

Karen’s room is just off the living room, enclosed by a beautiful stained glass set of double doors adapted from a Frank Lloyd Wright design the couple appreciated and had crafted by Renaissance Studios in Westport.The room holds two wooden floor looms and weaving supplies for Karen’s creative work— like the soft patterned pillows

found in almost every room, cozying up chairs and sofas.

Karen considers the t.v. room to be “Bill’s room,” but as the former president of the New Haven Bird Club, Dr. Batsford’s amateur wildlife photography lines the apartment’s hallways, as well.

The choice to move to one of the only co-op buildings in the city was easy: no snow shoveling and the restaurants and activities like concerts and lectures that interested them most would be in walking distance. Dr. Batsford says the space is laid out so that they could grow old there—although hopefully not for another twenty years. Karen admits that “the markets downtown aren’t as good as the ones on Orange Street and we miss Romeo & Caesar’s, but there’s always Grubhub.” NH

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BIBL IO F I LES W ORDS o f MOUTH F Ê TES IN STYL E O U TDOO RS B O DY & S OU L Peabody’s The Great Hall.

One of the first collections of such bones in the world, the Peabody dinosaur hall still boasts an impressively large display.

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Picking Over New Haven’s Most Prized Rocks and Bones Richard Coniff: History of The Peabody Museum

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rivaled his own. Marsh later became famous for his “dinosaur wars” with E.D. Cope—a Pennsylvania nemesis constantly rushing to scoop Marsh on the next big thing, typically ending with –asaurus.

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he City of New Haven boasts many treasures: historical landmarks, pizza, and worldclass museums.The Yale Peabody Museum of Natural History is a local treasure that at its founding, was at the forefront of international research in archaeology,“lost” civilizations and even human history and the teaching of science in North America. In Richard Coniff ’s upcoming book about the Peabody, House of Lost Worlds, the dramatic histories behind some of the most cutting edge collections of scientific research and discovery come to life.The book is published by Yale University Press and is due out in April of this year, perfectly timed to celebrate the 150th anniversary of the Peabody.

The visionary behind the museum, Professor Othniel Charles Marsh, nephew of wealthy philanthropist and the museum’s namesake George Peabody, set out for a bone-hunting expedition in the “wild” west in 1870, accompanied by a band of wealthy recent grads. A few private handshakes with the likes of William Tecumseh Sherman and others, and the scholarly party’s archeology routes were conveniently coinciding with the army, which was good news because violent skirmishes with Native Americans were still commonplace. An early member of the military escort party, William F. Cody—or Buffalo Bill—seemed intrigued by Marsh, whose tall-tales

Over the next decades of his illustrious career, Marsh brought piles of bones back home to Yale University, piecing together species after species of long gone beasts—making Yale the first site of a complete stegosaurus, among others.

Prior to Marsh’s work, there was only minimal scientific collection happening at the university, mostly in mineralogy. In 1825, two prominent Yalies, Benjamin Silliman, founder of The American Journal of Science, and college president Jeremiah Day, set out on a tremendous fundraising mission to maintain a mineral new haven

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Yale student expedition – Marsh (standing, center) and his crew of Yale men, armed to the teeth. Upper right, the lieutenant with a U.S. Army escort for this 1872 expedition

collection at a time when the school’s annual income was about $30,000. It was in those days that the school was attempting to become more than just a Divinity School, but also a hub for scientific

study and research.They raised about half of their goal, but it was enough to keep the collection, stored in one of the academic buildings. Collecting would eventually become a priority.

It took many years and architectural plans for the first iteration of the museum to be constructed, originally on High Street and only a fraction of what Marsh had hoped to accomplish, but his work continued. He made special deals and arrangements with Native Americans in the West to gain access to bone fields and fossils on reservations and closely held territory, most famously striking deals with Oglala Sioux Chief Red Cloud of the Black Hills, and later defending Chief Red Cloud’s claims of mistreatment and abuse at the hands of the government, which received widespread news coverage. Marsh, one of the most famous men in his field—and even nationally—at the time, was able to take those complaints directly to President Ulysses S. Grant.

This groundwork made it possible for other explorers spawned by the university, like Hiram Bingham,

who brought back treasure and tales of Machu Picchu in 1911, the sacred Incan city in the Andes of Peru. While dubbed a “lost” world, the villagers at the base of the mountain were fully aware of the city’s existence and when a young boy offered to show Bingham the explorer the site, little did they know the Peruvian government would one day engage in a long custody battle with the university, ultimately leading to the return of many of Bingham’s pinched artifacts. Still, the Machu Picchu exhibit remains at the Peabody and was an early example of the museum’s wealth of knowledge and resources about ancient civilizations.

The building on Whitney, built in 1924, stands today as the final resting place of the drama and intrigue that has been scientific collecting from the 19th century on.

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The hip New Haven artist talks openly and intellectually about the complex thought processes, the creative journey and stories infused onto each canvas.

Chris Barnard: The Art of Inquiry Story and Photos By Lesley Roy

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alking into the Gilbert Street artist collective tucked into an unassuming building in West Haven, one is surprised by the quality and calibre of paintings stacked on the floor and hung on the walls of Chris Barnard’s studio. It is like walking into a mini-museum, a beautiful slice of a private world unfolds.The hip New Haven artist talks openly and intellectually about the complex thought processes, the creative journey and stories infused onto each canvas.

Chris Barnard was born and raised in NYC until the age of 11, when the family moved to Westport, CT. He received his MFA from USC’s Roski School of Fine Art, Los Angeles, and a BA from Yale University. Yale is where Barnard met Lauren, his life-partner of 17 years, along with the two biggest influences in his artistic career: Professors Robert Reed and Lisa Chorine Davis, both of whom he describes as unrelentingly tough.They had great influence on the budding artist,“sometimes it was hard to hear what they had to say, but you always had the feeling they 32 January/February 2016

were supporting you.” Barnard benefited from their dedication and valued their ‘tough love’ pedagogy and now, as an Assistant Professor of Art at Connecticut College in New London, the soft-spoken thirtyeight year old approaches art and teaching with an empathetic and thoughtful mindset.

After college, where Barnard had spent his junior year abroad, he decided to return to Paris to teach high school language through the ministry of education for one year— then moved to NYC for 3 years before he and Lauren applied to Grad School in 2003 and attended the University of Southern California. Lots NEWHAVENMAGAZINE.COM

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Working seamlessly between abstraction and representation, his paintings serve as a moral compass tracking society’s collective progress.

of bouncing around in the next five years meant various teaching opportunities, but they both dreamed of moving back to New Haven.

Early in his creative career and while attending USC, the artist painted daily in a two-car garage studio in San Diego. Barnard recalls a friend’s introduction to a gallery owner; Luis De Jesus in Los Angeles, as a combination of “extremely good fortune and great timing.” Luis put two paintings in a group show— they didn’t sell, but Luis liked his work and they’ve exhibited four solo shows since. Friends warned that it was a great risk to one’s career to not have a studio in NYC or LA, so he gave up the garage and rented a studio in LA.

the ideologies that have long fueled racial inequalities, environmental degradation, state-sanctioned violence as well as a willingness to wage war and how the landscape is colonized by military presence.”

The series ‘Toward Trinity’ explores imperialism in America and how the psychology of militarism has seeped

into our culture and belief system to become widely celebrated.

The painting Homo Erectus is a bold example of the fascination with militarization— “the same rockets engineered and developed to take astronauts to space, get unscrewed and mounted with warhead bombs for missiles.”

Barnard remembers seeing points of value, either oil or military bases across America. One sign in Huntsville, Alabama invited visitors to the U.S. Space & Rocket Center.

He recalls,“there’s a science space camp for 8-11 year old boys, with all manner of artillery, guns, shoulder mounted weapons, sponsored by the military right outside the missile park.” This idea sparked another painting in the ‘Toward Trinity’ series.

In his large scale painting, “Gateway Drug,” Barnard makes the comparative connection that the boosters on the end of rockets are so awe inspiring to anyone who sees them, that they are similar to a gateway drug like marijuana—it may lead to the use of other addictive

His first solo show in 2008, ‘No Exit’, from paintings done while living in France, was well received.

The exhibition addressed questions in the artist’s mind about the wars in Iraq and Afghanistan and his ongoing interest in the representation of the American West and, more specifically, on the manifestations of American expansion and its consequences on various environments.

Through such stringent inquiry and training, Chris Barnard plumbs the depths of his imagination and layers it over vividly unromantic reflections of a new landscape. The painting, “Legacy” is part of the ‘Bounty Series’ proposing that the landscape itself is becoming sick.

Billowing clouds encrusted with red shards of pallet paint scrapings infuse the air with toxic texture.

Working seamlessly between abstraction and representation, his paintings serve as a moral compass tracking society’s collective progress.

Chris Barnard’s art is deep…very deep—“In my work, I wrestle with the politics of painting, focusing on

“Homo Erectus”, 2012, oil on canvas, 70 x 60 in.

The painting, “Homo Erectus” is a bold example of the fascination with militarization— “the same rockets engineered and developed to take astronauts to space get unscrewed and mounted with warhead bombs for missiles.”

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drugs, but it’s the one that gets you hooked.

Barnard explains,“the overlay of education is virtually choreographed to inspire awe and wonder in young minds. Space, science, exploration are code words for imperialism and military invasion and dominance. Of course, none of this is that direct.”

The painting, “Legacy” is part of the Bounty Series proposing that the landscape itself is becoming sick.” Billowing clouds encrusted with red shards of pallet paint scrapings infuses the air with toxic texture.

Another important artistic influence and inspiration is the book, The Making of the Atomic Bomb by Richard Rhodes. Barnard’s father gave him the door-stop book as a young man and it has taken years to process. Barnard explains,“there’s so much in that book—it’s about this slippage and gray areas in civilian scientific inquiry and research used to fuel a militarized application.

Oppenheimer was tortured by his conscience after discovering atomic energy and how it was developed for destructive power. They knew it meant the power of the universe unleashed.” He wonders,“Where does it stop being civilian and begin being about war and power?”

During a recent visit to the Aerospace Museum in DC, Barnard took photos of the ‘Enola Gay’ while standing on a catwalk overlooking the plane and was struck by a plaque that simply read —“it flew the last mission and it dropped a bomb.”

He said,“it’s miseducative —it’s not to take a stand and not to use the atom bomb.This machinery is being displayed to get people excited about it, and a lot of people find it horribly offensive.” The painting, ‘Mother’ depicts the actual vantage point of the ‘Enola Gay’ in the seventy-million dollar hangar built to display it.

“Gateway Drug”, 2011, oil on canvas, 60 x 84 inches. In this large scale painting “Gateway Drug”, Barnard makes the comparative connection that the boosters on the end of rockets are so awe inspiring to anyone who sees them, that they are similar to a gateway drug like marajuana (it may lead to the use of other addictive drugs) but its the one that gets you hooked.”

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In his most recent exhibit, ‘White Tide’ Barnard confides,“I have been thinking about White Supremacy and I have found myself painting more abstractly. White Supremacy, it seems, is everywhere— it is in us, and at the same time, we are swimming in it.” Barnard applies to the canvas,“hunks of dried paint as a compositional parasite, able to alter, subsume, and even destroy all that it NEWHAVENMAGAZINE.COM

“Mother”, 2011, oil on canvas, 50 x 74 inches. During a recent visit to the Aerospace Museum in, DC Barnard took photos of the ‘Enola Gay’ standing on a catwalk overlooking the plane and was struck by a plaque that simply read —“it flew the last mission and it dropped a bomb.” , ”it’s miseducative —its not to take a stand and not to use the bomb. This machinery is being displaying to get people excited about it and a lot of people find it horribly offensive.” The painting, ‘Mother’ depicts the actual vantage point of the ‘Enola Gay’ in the seventy-million dollar hangar.

touches. White is a rising tide, coming in waves, unending, overtaking and destroying its own environment —I’m sensitive not to over simplify issues like police brutality in my work but I see the color white becomes a force. Black holes are where everything disappears—swapping in white —the colors are sucked in and suffer disappearing.” With humility and reverence Barnard muses,“it’s a great privilege to be a painter— I’m lucky to be able to only theorize about racial issues.”

Chris Barnard’s body of artwork is as widely varied in technique and style as it is breadth of content influenced by local, national and farreaching global events.

A teaching position at Connecticut College in New London offered an opportunity to move

back to the area, and the couple contemplated the commute, but chose to live in New Haven.

Barnard smiles,“what I like about New Haven is that people like art and want to engage with it —participating in City Wide Open Studios is great. Art and artist can be intimidating and so I try to be accessible. It’s great that Lauren’s not an artist - we talk to our friends about the art and their kids come ask questions about art —we just love it here —we’re more connected with New Haven now. We have a porch and we sit on it every night.”

Barnard is still exploring where he’s going next with his art,“I always have 40 ideas queued up like planes circling LaGuardia waiting to land, but we have no plans to leave New Haven.”

Smiling,“I would even love to show my work in

New Haven; that would be awesome. There’s a great audience here and I would welcome the dialogue. New Haven is not superficially cool like New York or Los Angeles—it’s actually cool.”

“As always, my process remains driven by questions. In this case, questions like: What role does abstract painting play in the face of concrete social and ecological crises?

How much do conceptual intentions matter in abstract painting—to the work itself and to how others experience it? What does it mean to think about pressing issues of our time—racism, dehumanization, inequality, environmental degradation and so on—and then to paint abstractly, and in particular as a straight, White man?” www.chrisbarnard.com www.LuisDeJesus.com

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CALENDAR Belles Lettres

Bijou Theatre, 275 Fairfield Ave., Bridgeport. 203332-3228, thebijoutheatre.com.

Maureen Sherry, “Opening Belle” A novel told by a former Wall Street insider who reveals what it’s like for a working woman to balance love, ambition, and family. 7p.m.

Feb.10 at R.J. Julia Booksellers, 768 Boston Post Rd., Madison. Free. 203-245-2959, rjjulia.com.

Lincoln Lawyer Mick Haller (Matthew McConaughey) is a charismatic defense attorney who does business out of his Lincoln Continental sedan. Mick spends most of his time defending petty crooks and other bottom-feeders, so it comes as quite a surprise when he lands the case of a lifetime: defending a Beverly Hills playboy (Ryan Phillippe) who is accused of attempted murder. 7p.m. Feb.11 at the Bijou Theatre, 275 Fairfield Ave., Bridgeport. $12. 203-332-3228, thebijoutheatre.com.

Helen Shankman, “In the Land of Armadillos” A collection of linked stories from a two-time Pushcart Prize nominee, set in a German-occupied town in Poland, where mythic tales of Jewish folklore meet the reallife monsters of the Nazi invasion. 7p.m. Feb.17 at R.J. Julia Booksellers, 768 Boston Post Rd., Madison. Free. 203-245-2959, rjjulia.com.

Douglas Kennedy, “The Blue Hour” From the #1 internationally bestselling author of The Moment and Five Days. 7p.m. Feb. 25 at R.J. Booksellers, 768 Boston Post Rd., Madison. Free.

203-245-2959, rjjulia.com.

Cinemas Burning Love: My Big Fat Greek Wedding Enjoy happy hour while watching the film and special themed cocktails. 7p.m. Feb.18 at the

Kate Classic Film: Holiday “Holiday” brings together one of the favorite matches, Kate and Cary Grant in a story of an average guy Johnny (Grant) who is to marry his fiancé Julia (Doris Nolan) who he met on holiday, but finds that he just may have more in common with Julia’s sister Linda (Hepburn). 2p.m. & 7p.m. Feb.9 at The Katharine Hepburn Cultural Arts Center, 300 Main St., Old Saybrook. $8. 860-510-0473, katharinehepburntheater.org.

Reel Law: In the Name of the Father Unemployed young Irishman Gerry Conlon (Daniel Day-Lewis) gets by as a petty thief in 1970s Belfast. When local IRA leaders get fed up with him, he flees to England and meets up

with his friend Paul Hill (John Lynch). On the same night that the IRA bombs a nearby pub, the friends get kicked out of their communal digs and are forced to sleep in a park. He returns to Belfast, but is arrested as the prime suspect in the bombing and imprisoned, where he spends 15 years trying to clear his name. 7p.m. March 10 at The Bijou Theatre, 275 Fairfield Ave., Bridgeport. $12. 203-332-3228, thebijoutheatre.com.

BANFF Mountain Film Festival World Tour The largest, and one of the most prestigious, mountain festivals in the world. 7p.m. March 5 at the Shubert Theatre, 247 College St., New Haven. $20-$54. 203-624-1825, Shubert.com.

Salam Neighbor This is a critical moment, with more refugees today than any time in the last century. In Syria alone, more than 4 million people have fled the country to escape the atrocities of war. As the first filmmakers ever allowed by the United Nations to be given a tent and registered inside a refugee camp, this film gives a never before seen look into the world’s most pressing crisis. 7:30p.m. Feb.9 at Fairfield Theatre, 70 Sanford St., Fairfield.

Free, reservation required. 203-319-1404, fairfieldtheatre.org.

Comedy “It’s All Fun and Games” presents the improv of Ron Hill, Anthony Reimer, Chris Booth, Rebecca Vigil, Nick Carillo, Josh Hurley, Langston Belton, Devin Heater, and Jack Carter. 8p.m. Feb.12 at the Bijou Theatre, 275 Fairfield Ave., Bridgeport. $10-$25. 203-3323228, thebijoutheatre.com.

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Ivy League Comedy Ivy League of Comedy returns to the Kate this February with an All-Star lineup. Jon Fisch made his late night television debut on Late Night with David Letterman and has appeared on Comedy Central. Frank Vignola is a 20+ year veteran of the NYC comedy club scene. Shaun Eli, in addition to being the man behind Ivy League comedy, brings his quick wit and hilarious storytelling to wrap up a great evening. 8p.m.

Feb.26 at the Katharine Hepburn Cultural Arts Center, 300 Main St., Old Saybrook. $25. 860510-0473, katharinehepburntheater.org.

Gilbert Gottfried 9p.m. Feb.27 at Sports Haven, 600 Long Wharf Dr., New Haven. $25-$27.50.

203-946-3201, treehousecomedy.com.

Comedy Open Mic Hosted by Dan Rice 9p.m.

Feb.3 at Café Nine, 250 State St., New Haven.

Free. 21+. 203-789-8281, cafenine.com.

Battle of the Sexes Comedy Show Features four headliner stand-up comedians from latenight TV. Starring Andy Pitz, who has made multiple appearances on Letterman, Ophira Eisenberg, who has been on Craig Ferguson and has her own show on NPR, Liz Miele, who regularly tours Armed Forces Entertainment, and host Shaun Eli. 8p.m. Feb.5 at Infinity Hartford, 32 Front St., Hartford. $25-$35. 860560-7757, infinityhall.com.

Billy Winn with Leighann Lord. 9p.m. March 12 at Bistro B, 1595 Post Rd., East, Westport. $20.

203-268-5857, treehousecomedy.com.

The ever difficult and entertaining Gilbert Gottfried on Feb.27 at Sports Haven, New Haven Drew Lynch 7p.m. March 6 at Hartford Funny Bone, 194 Buckland Hills Dr., suite #1054, Manchester. $25. 21+. 860-432-8600, Hartford. funnybone.com.

Culinary Be my Valentine Cooking Class with Chef Paul Barron. 6:30p.m.-10p.m. Feb.13 at Weekend Kitchen, 6 North Main St., Essex. $85. 860-7671010, weekend-kitchen.myshopify.com.

Persian Immersion Cooking Class. 6:30p.m.10p.m. Feb.20 at Weekend Kitchen, 6 North Main St., Essex. $75. 860-767-1010, weekend-kitchen. myshopify.com.

Moroccan Feast with Chef Amanda Cushman.

6:30p.m.-10p.m. March 1 at Weekend Kitchen, 6 North Main St., Essex. $80. 860-767-1010, weekend-kitchen.myshopify.com.

Paella with Chef Danny Roche. 6:30p.m.10p.m. March 12 at Weekend Kitchen, 6 North Main St., Essex. $75. 860-767-1010, weekendkitchen.myshopify.com.

CONNfection 2016 A showcase featuring a delicious assortment of Connecticut sourced food, wine and craft beers. 5:30p.m. March 9 at The Palace Theater, 100 East Main St., Waterbury. $25. 203-346-2000, palacetheaterct.org.

Family Events Sunday Funday The JCC will kick off an exciting series of “Sunday Fundays” for members and their guests in addition to the activities that happen every Sunday – family swim, open gym, family Zumba, teen-fit, and family movie. 9a.m.-6p.m. Feb.7, 14, 21 & 28, and March 6, 13, 20, & 27 at JCC of Greater New Haven, 360 Amity Rd., Woodbridge. Free for members, guest rates apply. 203-387-2522, jccnh.org.

Family Day: Cartoon Art (Session 1) activities include arts & crafts and a child friendly gallery tour designed for ages 4-10. 1p.m.-2:30p.m.

Feb.20 at Bellarmine Museum of Art at Fairfield University, 1073 North Benson Rd., Fairfield. Free.

203-254-4000, Fairfield.edu.

Aquarium after Dark A family-friendly night out includes a complimentary sea lion Show, NEWHAVENMAGAZINE.COM

a visit with our African penguins and a meet & greet with mascot, Petey the Penguin. There will be hands-on educational activities-- Shark Encounters, Discovery Lab and Scales & Tails.

Pizza, hot dogs, chicken fingers, nachos, and dessert will also be provided. 6p.m.-9p.m Feb.6 at Mystic Aquarium, 55 Coogan Blvd., Mystic. $16.95-$25.95. 860-572-5955, mysticaquarium.org.

Seal Watch Cruises Public trips takes guests to the waters to see these Gulf of Maine natives that traveled here for their winter vacationing in Long Island Sound. Feb.6-April 24 at Project Oceanology, 1084 Shennecossett Rd., Groton. $25-$30.

860-445-9007, oceanology.org. Check website for departure times.

Mind, Body, Soul

Lulu Ride One of New Haven’s longest-running and bestknown weekly rides. The usual route is about 60 miles, through the hills to the north of New Haven before coming back down to the shore and returning to the city from the east. There’s an option for a shorter, +/- 30 mile route as well. Training pace, generally 16-18 mph. 10a.m.-2p.m. every Sun. in Feb. and March at Lulu’s Coffee, Cottage Street, New Haven. Free. Elmcitycycling. org.

Outspokin’ Ride A casually-paced destination oriented ride, leaving each week from Lulu’s Coffee Shop. Occasional extended adventures involving train trips or overnight stays-always an adventure! 10a.m.-2p.m. every Sun. in Feb. and March at Lulu’s European Coffee House, Cottage Street, New Haven. Free.

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Coffee Pedaler Ride ride of varying length and route. 9a.m.12p.m. every Sun. in Feb. and March at Coffee Pedaler, 605 East St., New Haven. Free. Elmcitycycling.org.

Full Moon Gong A deep sound healing and relaxation. Gong vibrations can elevate awareness and rebalance your physical, emotional and spiritual bodies. 7p.m.-9p.m. Feb.6 at Your Community Yoga Center, 39 Putnam Ave., Hamden. $22. 203-2872277, yourcommunityyoga.com.

Road Races

Restorative Yoga Workshop Retreat from your everyday life, journey into tranquility and well-being. In this workshop the nervous system will relax and adrenals will restore. 2p.m. Feb.8 at Your Community Yoga Center, 39 Putnam Ave., Hamden. $27$33. 203-287-2277, yourcommunityyoga.com.

Run for Refugees Raises funds and awareness for the hundreds of refugees who start new lives in Connecticut each year. The course runs through East Rock Park. 10 a.m. Feb. 7 at Wilbur Cross High School, 181 Mitchell Ave., New Haven. $15-$32.

203-481-5933.

Hearts of Light and Fire Exploring practices to burn away the obstacles to the free flow of energy to guide the light of a peaceful mind. 9a.m.-10:30a.m. Feb.16 at Your Community Yoga Center, 39 Putnam Ave., Hamden. $18-$20. 203-287-2277, yourcommunityyoga.com.

Full Moon Gong 7p.m.-9p.m. March 25 at Your Community Yoga Center, 38 Putnam Ave., Hamden. $22. 203-287-2277, yourcommunityyoga.com.

Boston Buildup 25K 9a.m. Feb.28 at Silvermine School, 157 Perry Ave., Norwalk. $15-$50. clubct.org/Buildup/BBSked.html.

YMCA Sweetheart Run 10a.m. Feb.13 at Boothe Memorial Park, 5800 Main St., Stratford. $12-$25. 203-375-5844 Ext. 17, hitekracing.com/sweetheart.

Fight for Air Climb: Scale 360 State Street Participants raise funds to support the mission of the American Lung Association while training to climb the stairs of 360 State St. in New Haven.

8a.m. March 5 at 360 State St., New Haven. 860-838-4371, action. lung.org.

ShamRock & Roll 5K A flat course and after party with beer for runners at New Haven’s legendary Toad’s Place 21+. 7:30a.m.

March 6 at Toad’s Place, 300 York St., New Haven. 203-481-5933.

History 40 Acres: The Promise of a Black Pastoral Sculptures and images as a narrative form depicting the historical relationship of African Americans and agriculture and looking closely at works for a meditation upon the promise of 40 acres, a refrain that linked Black politics and agricultural expectations for nearly a century. Feb.11-Sept.30 at The Amistad Center for Art & Culture, 600 Main St., Hartford. Open 11a.m.-5p.m. Wed., Thurs., & Fri., 10a.m.-5p.m. Sat. & Sun. and 11a.m.-8p.m. first Thurs. of the month. $5-$10. 860-838-4133, amistadcenter.org.

yale institute of sacred music presents

Natural History Animal Tracking Learn to look for clues in nature and uncover some fascinating signs that local wildlife left behind.

Dress for cold weather and bring snowshoes. 1p.m. Feb.7 at Ansonia Nature Center, 10 Deerfield Ln., Ansonia. 203-736-1053, ansonianaturecenter.org.

Talking Feather Workshop In American Indian culture, the Talking Feather was and is still used. During a ceremony, or a gathering of two or more people for a discussion, its use ensures the utmost respect. The feather is passed from one person to the next, allowing the person who holds it the privilege of speaking. The workshop is taught by Ranger Dan in constructing this item that can be incorporated into a family tradition. 2p.m. Feb.13 at Ansonia Nature Center, 10 Deerfield Ln., Ansonia. 203-736-1053, ansonianaturecenter.org.

Bird & Nature Walk in Earle Park 7:30a.m.-9a.m. Feb. 19 at Connecticut Audubon Society Center at Glastonbury, 1361 Main St., Glastonbury. 203-259-0416, ctaudubon.org.

Annual Maple Festival Starting with a pancake breakfast with real maple syrup, sausages, juice, coffee, and tea. There will also be a maple bake sale, crafts, live animals, tree-tapping demos, and more. All proceeds benefit critter care. 8a.m.-3p.m. March 5 at Ansonia Nature Center, 10 Deerfield Ln., Ansonia. 203-736-1053, ansonianaturecenter.org.

Cycling Devil’s Gear Bike Shop Tuesday Night Shop Ride A road ride averaging 15-17 mph, no drop. 6-8 p.m. every Tues. in Feb. and March at The Devil’s Gear Bike Shop, Orange Street, New Haven.

Free. 203-773-9288, elmcitycycling.org.

Thursday Night Medium Pace Ride 16-18 mph pace, some hills. 5:30-7:30p.m. every Thurs. in Feb. and March at Café Romeo, Orange Street, New Haven. Elmcitycycling.org.

New Haven Critical Mass Part of the worldwide Critical Mass movement, New Haven’s ‘Kinder and Less-Critical Mass’ is a monthly celebration of bicycling. The ride is generally slow; length may vary. 5:30-7:30p.m. Feb.26 and March 25 at the New Haven Green, near the flagpole. Free. Elmcitycycling.org.

the orthodox paschal cycle

Members of the Anchiskhati Church Choir from Tbilisi, Georgia perform

friday, march 4 · 8 pm Christ Church New Haven

magnificats old and new

Matthew Halls guest conducts Yale Camerata, Glee Club, and Schola Cantorum

sunday, march 6 · 4 pm Woolsey Hall, New Haven

between clock and bed

Exhibition curated by Jon Seals Works by Mosquera, Mijatovic, Moran, Knudsen, Jensen, and Rysz

march 9–june 2 · weekdays 9–4

Sterling Divinity Quadrangle · 409 Prospect St. Opening reception Wednesday, March 9 · 5 pm art credit: Natalija Mijatovic, Sneyg, 2015, Acrylic and conté on wood

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STAGE One Flew Over the Cuckoo’s Nest The story of a charming rogue who contrives to serve a short sentence in an airy mental institution rather in a prison. 8p.m. Feb.5, 2p.m. & 8p.m.

Feb.6, 5p.m. Feb.7 at the Bijou Theatre, 275 Fairfield Ave., Bridgeport. $18-$28. 203-332-3228, thebijoutheatre.com.

National theatre live in HD: As you like it Shakespeare’s glorious comedy of love and change comes to the National Theatre for the first time in over 30 years, with Rosalie Craig (London Road, Macbeth at MIF) as Rosalind.

Disguising herself as a boy, she embraces a different way of living and falls spectacularly in love. 7p.m. Feb.25 at the Katharine Hepburn Cultural Arts Center, 300 Main St., Old Saybrook. $20. 860-510-0473, katharinehepburntheater. org.

The Lightning Thief Percy Jackson is about to be kicked out of boarding school, again.

And that’s the least of his troubles. Lately, mythological monsters and the gods of Mount Olympus seem to be walking straight out of the pages of Percy’s Greek mythology textbook and into his life. 1p.m. March 12 at the Katharine Hepburn Cultural Arts Center, 300 Main St., Old Saybrook. $12-$20. 860-510-0473, katharinehepburntheater.org.

Saturday Night Fever Fueled by vintage Bee Gees hits, this contemporary retelling of the classic coming-of-age Disco fantasy story captures the energy, passion and lifechanging moments that have thrilled movie audiences since 1977. 8p.m. Feb.19, 2p.m. & 8p.m. Feb.20 at The Palace Theater, 100 East Main St., Waterbury. $50-$67. 203-346-2000, palacetheaterct.org.

Shen Yun 2016 Inspired by the spirit of an ancient culture, Shen Yun Performing Arts brings to life classical Chinese dance and music in a gloriously colorful and exhilarating show with an elite company of dancers, singers, and musicians. 2:30p.m. & 7:30p.m.

Feb.13, 2:30p.m. Feb.13 at The Palace Theater, 100 East Main St., Waterbury. $60-$125. 203-3462000, palacetheaterct.org.

STOMP The eight-member troupe uses everything but conventional percussion instruments – matchboxes, wooden poles, brooms, garbage cans, Zippo lighters, hubcaps – to fill the stage with rhythms. 8p.m.

March 11, 2p.m. & 8p.m. March 12, 1p.m. & 6:30p.m. March 13 at the Shubert Theatre, 247 College St., New Haven. $12-$82. 203-624-1825, Shubert.com.

Burning Desire World premiere, written by and starring Lou Diamond Phillips.

Feb.18-March 13 at Seven Angles Theatre, 1 Plank Rd., Waterbury. $57. 203-757-4676, sevenanglestheatre.org.

The Great Gatsby Feb. 12- Feb.21 at the Downtown Cabaret Theatre, 263 Golden Hill St., Bridgeport. $23. 203-576-1634, dtcab.com.

Hooking up with The Second City A show all about relationships featuring hilarious sketches, songs and world-famous improvisation from Chicago’s best and brightest. 8p.m. Feb. 4 at the Shubert Theatre, 247 College St., New Haven. $22-$47. 203-6241825, Shubert.com.

Yale Opera presents A Midsummer Night’s Dream 8p.m. Feb.19 & Feb.20, 2p.m. Feb.21 at the Shubert Theatre, 247 College St., New Haven. $10-$46. 203-624-1825, Shubert.com.

The Berenstain Bears Adapted from the classic children’s book series by Stan and Jan Berenstain, this live show brings everyone’s favorite bear family to life. 11a.m. & 3p.m.

Feb.27 at the Shubert Theatre, 247 College St., New Haven. $15-$25. 203-624-1825, Shubert. com.

The Russian National Ballet Theatre presents Cinderella. 2p.m. & 6p.m. March 6 at the Shubert Theatre, 247 College St., New Haven. $12-$58. 203-624-1825, Shubert.com.

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Evita The story of Eva Peron’s passionate and unforgettable meteoric rise from the slums of Argentina to the presidential mansion as First Lady. March 11- March 26 at the Downtown Cabaret Theatre, 263 Golden Hill St., Bridgeport. $28. 203-576-1634, dtcab.com.

The Moors In the bleak moors of England, two spinster sisters—one desperately unhappy, the other resolutely miserable—live with their elder brother and their mastiff in a gloomy, old mansion. A governess is then summoned to their isolated home, teeming with secrets and desires. Inspired (perhaps) by certain 19th-century gothic romances, and the sisters who wrote them, Jen Silverman’s The Moors courses with a distinctly contemporary, darkly comic sensibility. Jan.29Feb.20 at Yale Repertory Theatre, 1120 Chapel St., New Haven. $25-$59. 203-432-1234, yalerep.org.

42nd Street The story of a starry-eyed young dancer named Peggy Sawyer who leaves her Allentown home and comes to New York to audition for the new Broadway musical Pretty Lady. 8p.m. Feb.5 & 2p.m. Feb.6 at The Palace Theatre, 61 Atlantic St., Stamford. $30-$60. 203325-4466, palacestamford.org.

Romeo & Juliet Feb.11-March 20 at Hartford Stage, 50 Church St., Hartford. $25-$85. 860-5275151, hartfordstage.org.

Seminar A provocative comedy of four aspiring young novelists that sign up for private writing classes with Leonard, an international literary figure. Under his recklessly brilliant and unorthodox instruction, some thrive and others flounder, alliances are made and broken, sex is used as a weapon and hearts are unmoored. Feb.19-March 12 at Theatre Works, 5 Brookside Ave., New Milford. $18-$23. 860-350-6863, theatreworks.us.

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MUSIC Ana Popovic A blues singer, songwriter and guitarist. 7:45p.m.

Feb.12 at the Fairfield Theatre, 70 Sanford St., Fairfield. $35. 203319-1404, fairfieldtheatre.org.

Leon Russell Singer, songwriter, sideman, bandleader, and American treasure Leon Russell became a member of the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame in 2011. His style is made up of bits of blues, rock, gospel, bluegrass, and more. 8p.m. Feb.20 at the Fairfield Theatre, 70 Sanford St., Fairfield. $45. 203-319-1404, fairfieldtheatre.org.

Howie Day After sales of over a million albums and two Top 10 hits, Howie Day is back on the road showcasing old favorites, as well as new material from his upcoming studio release. 7:45p.m.

March 3 at the Fairfield Theatre, 70 Sanford St., Fairfield. $28. 203319-1404, fairfieldtheatre.org.

8p.m. Feb.6 at the Palace Theater, 100 East Main St., Waterbury. $40. 203-346-2000, palacetheatrect.org.

Winter Jazz Series: Manhattan Vibes A percussion-oriented, vibraphone-based band that merges odd meters and contemporary American grooves with international influences. 7p.m. & 9p.m. March 4 at the Palace Theater, Waterbury.

Winter Jazz Series: Nicki Parrott As an accomplished composer, adventurous improviser and superlative bassist, Parrott brings beautiful tone, rhythmic assuredness and a touch of allure to inventive jazz arrangements. 7p.m. & 9p.m.

Feb.12 at the Palace Theater, 100 East Main St., Waterbury. $24.

203-346-2000, palacetheatrect.org.

Winter Jazz Series: Manhattan Vibes A percussion-oriented, vibraphone-based band that merges odd meters and contemporary American grooves with international influences.

7p.m. & 9p.m. March 4 at the Palace Theater, 100 East Main St., Waterbury. $23. 203-346-2000, palacetheatrect.org.

Satisfaction: The International Rolling Stones Concert 8p.m.

March 5 at the Palace Theater, 100 East Main St., Waterbury. $35.

203-346-2000, palacetheatrect.org.

The Weight Playing songs of The Band- Featuring former members of The Band, Rick Danko, and Levon Helm Band. 8p.m.

Feb.13 at The Katherine Hepburn Cultural Arts Center, 300 Main St., Old Saybrook. $40-$45. 860-510-0473, katharinehepburntheater. org.

Def Leppard with Styx and Tesla 7p.m. Feb.13 at Mohegan Sun, 1 Mohegan Sun Blvd., Uncasville. $59-$79. 1-888-226-7711, mohegansun.com.

Daughters of Legends A night featuring the Daughters of Rhythm and Blues. Rhonda Ross (Daughter of Diana Ross and Berry Gordy) joins Robyn LaJoya Charles (daughter of Ray Charles), and Carla Cooke (daughter of Sam Cooke) honor the music of their parents while creating sounds all their own. 8p.m.

Feb.19 at The Katherine Hepburn Cultural Arts Center, 300 Main St., Old Saybrook. $56-$60. 860-510-0473, katharinehepburntheater. org.

Luke Bryan 7:30p.m. Feb.26 & 27 at Mohegan Sun, 1 Mohegan Sun Blvd., Uncasville. $99-$139. 1-888-226-7711, mohegansun. com.

Dropkick Murphys 7:30p.m. March 11 at Mohegan Sun, 1 Mohegan Sun Blvd., Uncasville. $31. 1-888-226-7711, mohegansun.com.

The Most Excellent Order of Sir Paul This all-start band delights fans of Paul McCartney and The Beatles, and features original cast members of Broadway’s Beatlemania! 8p.m. March 12 at The Katherine Hepburn Cultural Arts Center, 300 Main St., Old Saybrook. $38-$40. 860-510-0473, katharinehepburntheater. org.

Palehound 7p.m. Feb.6 at The Space, 295 Treadwell St., Hamden. $10-$12. 203-288-6400, thespacect.com.

O.A.R. with The Hunts 8p.m. Feb.10 at College Street Music Hall, 238 College St., New Haven. $35. 203-747-2499, manicproductions.org.

The Rocket Summer 7p.m. March 25 at The Space, 295 Treadwell St., Hamden. $16-$21. 203-288-6400, thespacect.com.

Josh Ritter & The Royal City Band with Elephant Revival 8p.m. Feb.18 at College Street Music Hall, 238 College St., New Haven. $25.50-$30. 203-747-2499, manicproductions.org.

David Ramirez with Lucette 8:30p.m. Feb.24 at Café Nine, 250 State St., New Haven. $12-$14. 203-747-2499, manicproductions. org.

Lucinda Williams with Buick 6 8p.m. March 12 at College Street Music Hall, 238 College St., New Haven. $26-$39. 203-747-2499, manicproductions.org.

Aaron Carter 7p.m. Feb.19 at The Space, 295 Treadwell St., Hamden. $20. 203-288-6400, thespacect.com.

Tenet: “The Sounds of Time: Music of the Ars Subtilior” 7p.m.-9p.m. Feb.6 at Marquand Chapel, 409 Prospect St., New Haven. Free. 203-432-5062, ism.yale.edu.

Liturgy Symposium, Henry Parkes Professor Parkes is a specialist in the musical traditions of the central Middle Ages, with particular expertise on music’s place within the institutions, rituals, and intellectual life of the Western Church.

4:30p.m.-5:30p.m. Feb.8 at ISM Great Hall, 409 Prospect St., New Haven. Free. 203-432-5062, ism.yale.edu.

Joint Choral Concert-Magnificats Old and New Matthew Halls is the guest conductor. 4p.m.-6p.m. March 6 at Woolsey Hall, 500 College St., New Haven.

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Samuel Suggs, double bass. Doctor of musical arts degree recital. 4:30p.m.

Feb.16 at Morse Recital Hall, 470 College St., New Haven. Free. 203-432-4158, Norfolk.yale.edu.

Mari Black Multistyle violinist and champion fiddler Mari Black is rapidly building a reputation as one of the most dynamic young artists of her generation. 8p.m. Feb.25 at The Outer Space, 295 Treadwell St., Hamden. $8. 203-288-6400, theouterspace.net.

Anne Marie Menta Band & The Birdmen 8p.m. March 3 at The Outer Space, 295 Treadwell St., Hamden. $5. 203-288-6400, theouterspace.net.

Hunter Valentine Hunter Valentine’s power rock music and fiercely intoxicating live performances have transformed them from veteran indie artists to breakout music and television personalities. 9p.m. Feb.11 at Café Nine, 250 State St., New Haven. $10-$12. 21+. 203-789-8281, cafenine.com.

Sarah Borges Band and Eric Ambel 4p.m. March 6 at Café Nine, 250 State St., New Haven. $10-$12. 21+. 203-789-8281, cafenine. com.

Dead on Live A note-for-note celebration of the Grateful Dead’s long, illustrious and stylistically diverse career. A cast of world-class musicians, directed by multi-instrumentalist Marc Muller, create the signature sound of one of the most iconic rock bands in American history. 8:30p.m. Feb.12 at Infinity Hartford, 32 Front St., Hartford. $24-$39. 860-560-7757, infinityhall.com.

Marshall Tucker Band 7:30p.m. Feb.21 at Infinity Hartford, 32 Front St., Hartford. $65-$80. 860-560-7757, infinityhall.com.

Red Hot Chili Pipers Originally from Scotland, this band performs Celtic rock featuring bagpipes, guitar and drums.

8p.m. March 9 at Infinity Hartford, 32 Front St., Hartford. $44-$59.

860-560-7757, infinityhall.com.

Tetzlaff Trio Oneppo Chamber Music Series. 7:30p.m. Feb.23 at Morse Recital Hall, 470 College St., New Haven. $13$31. 203-432-4158, Norfolk.yale.edu.

Del McCoury and David Grisman with Professors of Bluegrass 8p.m. Feb.25 at College Street Music Hall, 238 College St., New Haven. $23.50-$67.50. 203-867-2000, collegestreetmusichall.com.

Piano Jazz Summit Featuring three keyboard legends: Barry Harris, Toshiko Akiyoshi, and Aaron Diehl. 7:30p.m.

March 4 at Morse Recital Hall, 470 College St., New Haven. $10-$32. 203432-4158, Norfolk.yale.edu.

Mike Casey Trio 8:30p.m. Feb.26 at The Side Door Jazz, 85 Lyme St., Old Lyme. $27.37. 860-434-0886, thesidedoorjazz.com.

Hammer of the Gods: The Led Zeppelin Experience Considered by many to be “The Ultimate Led Zeppelin Experience,” Hammer of the Gods recreates the sights, sounds and mystical aura of a real Zeppelin concert.

Jacques Lasure Quintet 8:30p.m. March 5 at The Side Door Jazz, 85 Lyme St., Old Lyme. $37.92. 860-434-0886, thesidedoorjazz. com.

Disney Fantasia- Live in Concert 3:30p.m. & 7:30p.m. Feb.20 at Foxwoods Resort Casino, 350 Trolley Line Blvd., Mashantucket. $20-$75. 800-200-2882, foxwoods.com.

Fall Out Boy 8p.m. March 5 at Foxwoods Resort Casino, 350 Trolley Line Blvd., Mashantucket. $45-$65. 800-200-2882, foxwoods.com.

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11a.m.-8p.m. Thurs., 10a.m.-5p.m. Sat., noon5p.m. Sun. $10-$15. 860-229-0257, nbmaa.org.

Exhibition in HD: The Girl With The Pearl Earring The Kate and Florence Griswold Museum come together with the second in the year’s series: The Girl with the Pearl Earring and other treasures from the Mauritshuis Museum Netherlands. ‘Girl with a Pearl Earring’ by Johannes Vermeer is one of the most enduring paintings in the history of art yet the painting itself is surrounded in mystery. This new documentary seeks to investigate the many unanswered questions associated with this piece. 1p.m. Feb.20 at the Katharine Hepburn Cultural Arts Center, 300 Main St., Old Saybrook. $15. 860-510-0473, katharinehepburntheater.org.

Andy Warhol to Sally Mann: The Collection of Kevin McNamara and Craig Nowak A brilliant selection of prints and photographs by innovative artists. The prints in this collection illustrate the shift in imagery that occurred in the 1960s and 70s, with iconic swirling compositions by Alexander Calder (1898–1976), faces obscured by saturated color in the work of John Baldessari (b. 1931), and Andy Warhol’s (1928–1967) ubiquitously pop Flowers (1970). Jan.23-April 17 at New Britain Museum of American Art, 56 Lexington St., New Britain. Open 11a.m.-5p.m. Mon.Wed., Fri., 11a.m.-8p.m. Thurs., 10a.m.-5p.m.

Sat., noon-5p.m. Sun. $10-$15. 860-229-0257, nbmaa.org.

Ten/Forty: Collecting American Art at the Florence Griswold Museum This exhibition is designed to reflect thoughtfully on the evolving nature of how the Museum has approached building and stewarding a collection of American art, in the context of new scholarship and how museums have changed their approach to the subject over the past forty years. Feb.13-May 31 at Florence Griswold Museum, 96 Lyme St., Old Lyme. Open 10a.m.-5p.m. Tues.-Sat., 1p.m.-5p.m. Sun. $8$10. 860-434-5542, florencegriswoldmuseum. org.

Everything is Dada Dadaists challenged the concept of what constitutes a work of art and its aesthetic value, thus setting the stage for many later avant-garde movements, including Surrealism. Drawing on the original Dada spirit, the exhibition is accompanied by a series of performances inspired by and in dialogue with the artworks. Feb.12-July 3 at Yale University Art Gallery, 1111 Chapel St., New Haven. Open 10a.m.-5p.m. Tues., Wed., Fri., Sat., 10a.m.-8p.m. Thurs., 1-6p.m. Sun. 203-432-0600, artgallery.yale.edu.

NEW/NOW: Clinton Deckert Feb.20-June 7 at Yale University Art Gallery, 1111 Chapel St., New Haven. Open 10a.m.-5p.m. Tues., Wed., Fri., Sat., 10a.m.-8p.m. Thurs., 1-6p.m. Sun. 203-432-0600, artgallery.yale.edu.

Becca Lowry & Tom Burckhardt Feb.27-March 26 at Fred Giampietro Gallery, 1064 Chapel St., New Haven. 203-777-7760, giampietrogallery. com.

Local Color: Connecticut Stories Fiber art works by members of Studio Art Quilt Associates (SAQA) in the Connecticut Region, broadly interpreting Connecticut history, from text messages to literary references and beyond. Feb.5-21 at Guilford Art Center, 411 Church St., Guilford. Open 10a.m.-4p.m.

Mon.-Sat. & 12p.m.-4p.m. Sun. 203-453-5947, guilfordartcenter.org.

Connecticut Blacksmiths Works by blacksmiths working in CT and the Guilford Art Center forge. Feb.26-March 10 at Guilford Art Center, 411 Church St., Guilford. Open 10a.m.-4p.m. Mon.-Sat. & 12p.m.-4p.m. Sun. 203-453-5947, guilfordartcenter.org.

Filtering Noise Susan Clinard’s new work continues to chip away at the essence of our shared and complex humanity. The centerpiece of the exhibit is a life size wood composition entitled “The Waiting Room”, a

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New Geometry Exhibition works by artists Power Boothe, Anoka Farquee, Will Lustenader, Gary Stephan, Robert Storr, Blinn Jacobs, Celia Johnson and Don Voisine. Jan.9-Feb.20 at Fred Giampietro Gallery, 1064 Chapel St., New Haven.

11a.m.-6p.m. Mon.-Sat. 203-777-7760, giampietrogallery.com.

Hello, World! An exhibition that explores how a queer identity can function as a clear projection of self while simultaneously resisting and reframing normative definitions of identity. Dec.4, 2015-March 2, 2016 at Art Space, 50 Orange St., New Haven. Open 12p.m.6p.m. Wed. & Thurs., 12p.m.-8p.m. Fri., & 12p.m.8p.m. Sat. 203-772-2709, artspacenh.org.

Everything is Dada Dadaists challenged the concept of what constitutes a work of art and its aesthetic value, setting for later avant-garde movements. The exhibition is accompanied by a series of performances inspired by and in dialogue with the artworks. Feb.12-July 3 at Yale University Art Gallery. poignant glimpse of the embodiment of fear and hope. Clinard will also show kinetic works in paper, and 3-D wire wall hangings. Feb.4March 2 at Da Silva Gallery, 899 Whalley Ave., New Haven. Open 10a.m.-5p.m. Wed.-Sat. 203397-2530, dasilva-gallery.com.

Contemporary look, Drawing attention, Palate to palette, Urban landscape Four exhibitions, each with a different theme: contemporary, drawing, food, and urban landscape. March 4-April 15 at Lyme Art Association, 90 Lyme St., Old Lyme.

Open 12-5p.m. Wed.-Sun. 860-434-7802, lymeartassocation.org.

Many Voices, One Song Feb.18-March 20 at Kehler Liddell Gallery, 873 Whalley Ave., New Haven. Open 11a.m.-4p.m. Thurs.-Fri., 10a.m.4p.m. Sat.-Sun. 203-389-9555, kehlerliddell. com.

Ongoing 24 Annual Associate Artist Exhibition & Wonders of Winter Landscape, portrait, and still life paintings, as well as sculpture

by Associate Artist members. Winter scenes by members of all levels on display in the Goodman Gallery. Jan.22-Feb.26 at Lyme Art Association, 90 Lyme St., Old Lyme.

Open 12-5p.m. Wed.-Sun. 860-434-7802, lymeartassocation.org.

Couples by Kathleen Zimmerman Jan.14Feb.14 at Kehler Liddell Gallery, 873 Whalley Ave., New Haven. Open 11a.m.-4p.m. Thurs.Fri., 10a.m.-4p.m. Sat.-Sun. 203-389-9555, kehlerliddell.com.

Nor’Easter: The 46th Annual Juried Members Exhibition This prominent showcase highlights the exceptional work of emerging artists throughout the country in a variety of media. Jan.9-Feb.14 at New Britain Museum of American Art, 56 Lexington St., New Britain. Open 11a.m.-5p.m. Mon.-Wed., Fri.,

The Nation’s Greatest Hits: 100 Years of New Haven’s Shubert Theatre One of the Elm City’s most celebrated cultural institutions, the Shubert Theatre has been a performing arts center presenting plays, musicals, opera, dance, classical music recitals and concerts, vaudeville, jazz artists, big bands, burlesque, and a variety of solo performances since 1914. This exhibition spotlights both the fully polished and the merely promising stars, composers, playwrights, and others who brought glamour, drama, music, and laughter to the Shubert Theatre, and New Haven, for an entire century. Through-Feb.27, 2016 at New Haven Museum, 114 Whitney Ave., New Haven.

Open 10a.m.-5p.m. Tues.-Fri., noon-5p.m. Sat. 203-562-4183, newhavemuseum.org.

All Time Favorites of the Low Illustration Collection Action and adventure, love and romance, humor and cartoons, all will be found in this exhibition of the “best of the best” illustration art. Works by the leading 19th and 20th century illustrators the likes of Stevan Dohanos, James Montgomery Flagg, J.C. Leyendecker, Howard Pyle, and Norman Rockwell. Sept.9, 2015-Feb.21, 2016 at New Britain Museum of American Art., 56 Lexington St., New Britain. Open 11a.m.-5p.m. MonWed., Fri., 11a.m.-8p.m. Thurs., 10a.m.-5p.m.

Sat., noon-5p.m. Sun. $10-$15. 860-229-0257, nbmaa.org.

Boundary Conditions The unveiling of the LeWitt Family Staircase where undulating, effervescent abstract forms seemingly float above the staircase landing. The artist, Soo Sunny Park, is known for creating otherworldly, immersive installations that transform their environments into seas of NEWHAVENMAGAZINE.COM

dancing light, reflection and shadow. Through March 9 2016 at New Britain Museum of American Art, 56 Lexington St., New Britain. Open 11a.m.-5p.m. Mon.-Wed., Fri., 11a.m.-8p.m. Thurs., 10a.m.-5p.m. Sat., noon-5p.m. Sun. $10-$15. 860-229-0257, nbmaa.org.

The Human Form Drawings, paintings, sculpture and photography depicting the beauty, agility and challenges of the human body. Jan.22-March 13 at Spectrum Art Gallery, 61 Main St., Centerbrook. Open 11a.m.-6p.m. Wed.-Fri., 11:30a.m.6p.m. Sat., 11:30a.m.-5p.m. Sun. 860-767-0742, spectrumgallery. org.

Meant to Be Shared: Selections from the Arthur Ross Collection of European Prints at the Yale University Art Gallery Beginning in the late 1970s, philanthropist Arthur Ross avidly collected works of art by some of the most renowned printmakers of the last several centuries. The Arthur Ross Collection eventually came to comprise more than 1,200 17th- to 20th-century Italian, Spanish, and French prints of exceptional quality. Highlights include works by Francisco Goya, the first artist whom Ross collected; Giovanni Battista Piranesi’s views of 18th-century and ancient Rome, and Édouard Manet’s illustrations for Edgar Allan Poe’s famous

poem The Raven. Dec.18 2015-April 24, 2016 at Yale University Art Gallery, 1111 Chapel St., New Haven. Free. 10a.m.-5p.m. Tues.-Fri., 10a.m.-8p.m. Thurs. (Sept.-June), 11am.-5p.m. Sat.-Sun. 203-4320600, artgallery.yale.edu.

Sound & Sense: Poetic Musings in American Art This exhibition explores the connections between American poetry and painting, sculpture, and decorative arts and presents a diverse landscape of masterpieces from the museum’s collection that incorporate poetic inscriptions in their composition or have direct relationships to America’s rich poetic traditions. Until April 17 at Wadsworth Atheneum Museum of Art, 600 Main St., Hartford. Open 11a.m.-5p.m. Wed.-Fri., 10a.m.-5p.m. Sat.-Sun. $5-$10. 860-278-2670, thewadsworth.org.

Drawn from a Private Collection: Works on Paper from 1880-2009 This exhibition focuses on drawings by renowned American artists from Winslow Homer to Fred Wilson. Ranging in date from 1880–2009, the works exhibit an array of subjects and styles in the development of the drawing medium in American art. Jan.15-April 9 at Mystic Arts Center, 9 Water St., Mystic. Open 11a.m.-5p.m. daily. Free. 860-536-7601, mysticarts.org.

Works on Paper from 1880-2009 Drawings by renowned American artists from Winslow Homer to Fred Wilson. Through April 9 at Mystic Arts Center, 9 Water St., Mystic.

Many Voices, One Song Feb.18-March 20 at Kehler Liddell Gallery, 873 Whalley Ave., New Haven.

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B IB L I O FI L E S WORDS of MOUTH F Ê T EAS Pho There’s In My Soup Khoa Nguyen isn’t so sure there is a large Vietnamese population in the state, but that doesn’t stop diners from coming to his restaurant in Wallingford, Pho Ethan to slurp up a big bowl of pho, Vietnamese noodle soup.

He co-owns the restaurant with his mother, who also owns Pho Saigon in West Hartford.

While the “D2” pho soup (beef) is the most popular menu item, the restaurant also offers hotpot and barbecue at special tables.

Pho is typically served in a lightly seasoned broth with your choice of meat, fish or poultry (or pig’s blood and tripe) with some vegetables and noodles, a side of hot peppers, limes and bean sprouts to taste—as well as a lazy susan at each table bearing hoisin, chili oil, fish sauce and other condiments to bring your bowl to the sweet/salty/spicy level of your choice.

They also serve beer, wine and bubble tea.

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Ripe Is Ripe For Drinking What was once an Old Mill built in 1706 has now turned into a rock n’ roll coffee shop at 23 Main Street in East Haven, owned by Howard Engelhard and his daughter Jennifer.

Class Rock originally opened on Nov.

21, 2014. However, it was shut down due to complaints about road work construction in Sept. 2015. They just recently opened back up for business in Nov. 2015. Sip some java, nibble a snack while

surrounded by rock n’ roll memorabilia.

The many television screens are for watching and for videogames, and the shop will feature live performances, game nights, and karaoke.

Cool hangout.

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David Leff shares with readers the varied and nuanced flavors of real Maple Syrup in his new book Maple Sugaring – Keeping It Real In New England. Along with backbreaking stories of hard work, tradition and work ethic, Leff includes recipes that go beyond sweet sticky Saturday morning pancakes.This all-season sauce is great as a salad dressing or drizzled on warm roasted vegetables.

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Former Maple Syrup Producers’ Association of Connecticut board member David K. Leff waxes poetic about drilling trees for sap, lugging hundreds of gallons back to his garage to boil down into a few drops of fresh maple syrup, and the raw chapped hands and broken back that resulted in his new book Maple Sugaring: Keeping It Real In New England.

As an avid practitioner of “sugaring,” Leff tapped every maple in his yard, his neighbors’ yards, the local church’s yard— and eventually half of Collinsville, Connecticut, numbering about 80 trees around town.

He congregated with other

sugaring pros, a vast New England Network of tree folk obsessed with a hobby that involved long laborious hours for small reward. About 40 gallons of tree sap yields only about one gallon of pure maple syrup.

New England history and pride, they say.

The tradition dates back to Native Americans who collected sap in hollowed out tree limbs and boiled with the use of hot rocks to extract the sugar. The tradition continues all over Connecticut, both as a hobby and for larger operations looking to profit, but it takes a lot to make a little. Leff checks in with regional sugaring experts on technique, equipment, history—and best of all, recipes.

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Well, What Is It Now?

once famously did and begin slicing off appendages, but it’s still a cool hangout.

There are, in fact, healthy delicious options as well. The salad menu is a cut above the average with choices like the Pomegranate Beet Salad – the grapefruit is a surprisingly nice touch in this salad combo. The Winter Quinoa is hearty and very filling, despite the frisse, but a topnotch menu choice is definitely the Blackened Cod and Grits. Cod is an underappreciated fish most commonly relegated to fish and chips duty, but this dish, including lobster sauce and a side of asparagus, does the meaty whitefish justice in a new way. Of course you can always order the burger, which comes on an english muffin with a dollop of red onion marmalade and a few other accouterments, if you aren’t into fish.

Casual Eats With A Social Flair If you ever get bored with the New Haven restaurant scene, just wait a few months and 266 College Street is bound to open up as something new.

From Bespoke to Gilt to Briq to the latest—Elm City Social—it’s a great location with an ever changing cast and menu. This latest – Social – is all in the name: the menu is full of sharing plates and comfort food and an ample cocktail list of creative mixology. There is a certain angle to this restaurant, which features an ample happy hour selection, a late night menu, and an ever-flowing calendar of events.

Although not that enticing now, with this location, they’ve inherited a rooftop space and outdoor seating area overlooking College Street.

Serving lunch, brunch, dinner and late night—it seems like they’re always open.

The Zucchini Chips (social menu) are excellent and although they are covered in parmesan cheese and served with a dipping sauce based in mayonnaise, it has zucchini in the name so it feels like it’s not a bad

choice. Much of the menu feels this way, small rich bites of delicious things to share. Executive Chef and Partner John Brennan, formerly of Georgetown Saloon in Redding and before that Plan B Burger Bar, is attempting to evoke a pre-prohibition theme with Elm City Social and this historical bent is most apparent in the cocktail menu: Ramos Gin Fizz?

Absinthe Flip? It’s our hope that the local artists won’t get tangled up in absinthe the way Van Gogh

The type of menu and ambiance offered at ECS tends to thrive in New Haven – just look at Prime 16, Cask Republic and Rudy’s – so the revolving door of a location aside, the place has surely got potential.

Frozen Times Call For Frozen Treats Gelato Giuliana began with the Maravalle family’s restaurant on Chapel Street, Café Bottega, quite a few years ago. They produced small batches and customers were rapidly increasing take-out demand of the sweet treat, so Gelato Giuliana spun off moved to a small distribution facility in Wallingford to focus exclusively on small-batch creamy heaven.

Now widely distributed in grocery store chains like Stop & Shop, smaller markets like P&M or Liuzzi Cheese, and served at restaurants like Pacifico, they’re in a larger space at Long Wharf and expanded flavor offerings like the seasonal eggnog. Guiliana Maravalle, a native of Italy, started producing gelato because there just wasn’t a good gelato out there. Don’t worry about the calories, gelato uses less butter fat than ice cream and is typically a full third fewer calories, grams of fat and sugar.

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Top Choices For Dinner On The Couch With the advent of grubhub and foodler, it’s easier than ever to get your favorite restaurants delivered to your door. This is ideal during hibernation season when snowed in, iced in, or too lazy to make any effort further than picking up the phone or pointing and clicking. Also, privacy is key-who wants to sit in a restaurant and eat three entrees alone when you can order it to your house and pretend you have friends coming over?

Georgie’s Diner Georgies-diner.com 203-933-1000 427 Elm Street, West Haven Comfort food, burgers, breakfast, gluten free, Greek specialties, melts and anything you could want from a diner experience, without having to warm up the car. Georgie’s in West Haven serves an excellent breakfast, but they also deliver. Sister restaurant to the Vegetarian Enclave.

Pitaziki Mediterranean Grill Pitaziki.com 203-773-5000 170 Temple Street, New Haven

meatballs, one piece of eggplant rollatini, a small bowl of escarole—not a mountain. Their dessert menu also includes a separate pizza dessert menu.

Beat that.

Soga Sushi Sogasuhinorthhaven.com 203-239-3355 170 Washington Avenue, North Haven

Formerly Sahara, now Pitaziki, this location is still offering traditional favorites like shawarma and falafel brought to you. Why stand in line like a chump? The food is fresh, typically served with salads and vegetables, overall a healthy option if you’re not even going to bother to take a shower and leave the house today. You definitely didn’t burn any calories signing that credit card receipt, so you might as well try something healthy and delicious.

Tolli’s Apizza Tollisapizza.com 203-469-9582 410 Main Street, East Haven Italian food you can feel comfortable slurping and slopping all down the front of your shirt – because they will bring it to your house and no one will be the wiser. Boasting excellent pizza, Tolli’s also offers entrees and small plates when you just want a few

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To survive as a sushi restaurant, all you really need to do is not kill anyone with bad old fish. However, some places will always do a little more to make sure customers come back for a little something special – like Soga, whose special rolls are worth the phone call. If you like it spicy, try the Kiss of Fire, the Green Roll is a great vegetarian accompaniment and the Black Dragon Roll is killer. You can eat with a fork and no one will know!

Shoreline Diner and Vegetarian Enclave Shorelinediner.com 203-458-7380 345 Boston Post Rd, Guilford Even if you’re better than everyone else because you don’t eat meat and do yoga four times a day, it’s still nice to get that vegetarian meatloaf delivered to your yurt instead of having to go out and get it yourself, right? With vegan, vegetarian and meatloving options, there’s almost nothing they can’t make you—and bring you. The Crabcake BLT will help you forget it’s winter.

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M y N ew Ha v e n

By Bruce Ditman

I am...

“We’re all fools,” said Clemens, “all the time. It’s just we’re a different kind each day. We think, I’m not a fool today. I’ve learned my lesson. I was a fool yesterday but not this morning. Then tomorrow we find out that, yes, we were a fool today too. I think the only way we can grow and get on in this world is to accept the fact we’re not perfect and live accordingly.”

Ray Bradbury, “No Particular Night or Morning,” The Illustrated Man I am 40.

That is to say, by the time you are reading this I will be. And, I’m not going to lie to you…it’s messing with me. I wish it wasn’t but it is. Despite my better efforts, it turns out that I am not immune to the relentless cultural pressure to hate and fear getting older. And while that dread isn’t exclusive to my particular age, the threat that looms off the coast of 39, or so EVERYONE will tell you, is particularly ominous. “A storm’s coming, Bruce” they’ll tell you as they describe the creaky-jointed, you’re-just-notwhat-you-used-to-be El Niño, waiting just offshore. By their telling, it’s nothing short of a swirling maelstrom of your Dad’s friends’ worst attributes, threatening to set upon your birthday morn like a deluge of hilariously labeled “over the hill pill” novelty-store jelly beans each coated with an acute sense of your own mortality.

But, what do they know? Who knows what will come in my forties (and beyond, one hopes)? There’s no question about creaking joints - I got ‘em already. But aging, when compared with it’s alternative, is the best of the two and the truth is that the past decade of my life has been, on balance – for the better.

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It’s been hard, really hard, at times but it has also been thrilling and I’ve never felt more like the person I want to be than I do writing this to you.

Recently, I was talking to my kids (10 & 6) about how teenagers act and why. “All teenagers are dopes,” I explained to giggles, “but that’s just because they’ve never been teenagers before.

They’re dopey because they’re making it up as they go along, but for the most part, they’re just doing their best.” And, as the words came out of my mouth I realized I was also talking about me. I added, “You know, guys, this is Daddy’s first time being your Daddy. I’ve never been 39 year old Daddy before and I’m kind of making it up as I go, too. And so when I’m dopey it’s for the same reasons.” More giggles.

But it’s true. Whether brilliantly stated as by Bradbury and his philosophical astronaut Clemens or plainly stated by a parent to a child over dinner, I think this concept is the most important thing I’ve learned in my 39 years and few hundred days. We are all just making it up as we go along and that’s OK. I think I’ll be glad to put that behind me and start, however much the fool, again at 40.

Let us relieve ourselves of the burden of expertise and allow for today’s mistakes, made in good faith, to be forgiven tomorrow. Forgive yourself for not knowing better what could not have been known. Let us disassociate dominance with success and align judgment, instinct and good will with prosperity. If we were meant to master our domain than what place do we make for daring? What place for art? For trust and for love? I’ve been building a life here in New Haven for more than a decade. My daughter learned to walk on its streets, my son to climb in its parks. And I, happily and lovingly, call it home. Thank you, New Haven, on my fortieth birthday, for being a place where people can live and learn, create and fail, dare and succeed and be forgiven when they are, as they will most certainly occasionally be, dopes.

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Thursday, February 25 7:30pm Woolsey Hall

Music Director William Boughton leads the NHSO in two orchestral blockbusters: Brahms’ Second Symphony and Beethoven’s “Emperor” Concerto, featuring pianist Nick van Bloss, the international sensation who has inspired audiences with his refined artistry and touched hearts through his battle with Tourette Syndrome.

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