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A L oc AL H o L id Ay G ift & o fferin G s G uide i nside ! charm t HA nks G ivin G • c H ristm A s • n ew y e A rs STYLE & GO: FASHION Holiday Events and what to wear HOLIDAY SPARKLE Get the Look for the Season DECK THE HALLS Decorate your home in style 2018 Untangle MMM, HOT CHOCOLATE The perfect recipe is inside! theHolidays

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It’s been a while!

The Rocky Mount Telegram is happy to bring back Carolina Charm magazine for a holiday issue. While we started working on this magazine in September -- when it was hard to find twinkling lights and holiday décor -- Thanksgiving is now in sight and the holiday season is in full-swing.

Our local businesses are the best people to work with to produce a local magazine! Owners and employees always go above and beyond the call of duty to help us put together a magazine featuring local products and services. There’s no need to travel to traffic-jammed cities to Christmas shop. Check out all of the Twin Counties’ (and Wilson) local shops and stores and support your neighbors!

But this issue is not just a gift guide. We’ve also got kid-friendly craft ideas from the Imperial Centre Art Center, hot chocolate recipes from a local coffee shop, a calendar of holiday events and more. My friend Lindy Kitchin, a local counselor, penned a great column about reigning in holiday expectations and enjoying family time – versus busy time. As most women know, sometimes the holidays become more of a hassle than a joy when you have to plan extra special meals, gift-buying, extraextra-curricular activities and other Christmas-themed stuff. One thing I try to do at least every other day, once we have our Christmas tree up, is sit in the quiet for a few minutes – just me and the tree and her twinkling lights. I usually do it in the early morning hours and just sit and be thankful and still.

Happy holidays to all of our Charm friends! We are thankful for you and wish you the very best this season, and into the New Year.

JENNY WHITE Editorial Content Producer for Carolina Charm
Publisher Kyle Stephens Editorial Content Jenny White Photography Alan Campbell Sarah Louya Advertising Kelly Ayscue Natasha Daniel Lewis Smith Chris Taylor Bryan Wilson Design & Layout Becky Wetherington charm On The Cover Photography by Alan Campbell 5-year-old Bella George reacts to the magic of Christmas
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Table of Contents

PEACEMAKERS CHRISTMAS TOY STORE

Read how one local non-profit offers holiday cheer to families in need – and how you can help.

STYLE & GO

Where, When and What to Wear. We’ve combined a holiday calendar with event worthy styles

Trax Coffee Bar shares a favorite homemade hot

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DIY FANCY HOT CHOCOLATE
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chocolate recipe
Winter 2018 | CHARM | 5 LOCAL HOLIDAY GIFT & OFFERINGS GUIDE Local stores offer their best gift tips SETTING THE TABLE Get your party started with a beautiful table setting BEAUTY: HOLIDAY SHIMMER Taking it up a level, tips and trends for holiday party looks KID CRAFT IDEAS Super Snowflakes for all ages DECK THE HALLS Our fave holiday décor finds from local stores HAUL OUT THE HOLLY How to make your own holiday wreath STAYING SANE DURING THE HOLIDAYS Tips and advice on turning down the Christmas chaos, turning up the family time GET SOME CHRISTMAS SPIRIT A calendar of local events sure to help you find your Christmas spirit 21 30 34 38 40 42 44 46
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Peacemakers

Christmas Gift Store

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Donna Clifton, left, the office manager at Peacemakers of Rocky Mount, and volunteer Ashley Hill set out toys and children’s clothing as they set up the Christmas Toy Store at Peacemakers.

Twin Counties residents turn up and turn out for many holiday charity efforts, but one non-profit that allows parents to pick out and pay for reduced-cost gifts for their kids has become an important part of Christmas mornings for hundreds of local families.

Peacemakers in south Rocky Mount will open their annual Christmas Toy Store to parents referred by social service agencies, other churches and non-profits or schools on Dec. 7 and 8. The Peacemakers Toy Store targets parents or guardians that find it difficult to add the cost of Christmas gifts to their monthly budget.

Peacemakers is asking the public to help with this project

by donating new, unwrapped toys to be placed in the store. Jesse Lewis, executive director of Peacemakers, says the toys are marked down by about 90 percent and families pay the markeddown price for the gifts they pick out. “We’ll need about 6,000 or more toys to stock the store,” Lewis estimates.

Lewis said toys can be dropped off at Peacemakers until Dec. 1, Monday through Thursday, 8:30 a.m. to 6 p.m. and from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. on Fridays and Saturdays.

Peacemakers is located at 1725 Davis Street. Peacemakers staff or volunteers can also come and pick up gifts, if needed.

Proceeds go back into supporting the toy store next year.

SUGGESTED GIFTS

GIRLS

0-2 Years Old: activity quilts, play mats, bath toys, plush toys, musical toys, baby books, pajamas, multiethnic dolls, educational toys (sorting, nesting, stacking, play sets)

3-5 Years Old: pajamas, ride-on toys, pedal and push toys, educational toys, role play toys, costumes, multiethnic dolls or doll houses, art kits

6-8 Years Old: pajamas, multiethnic fashion dolls, dramatic play (doctor, school, or grocery store sets), e-readers, sporting goods, art kits, puzzles

9-12 Years Old: games, tween accessories, multiethnic dolls, socks, headphones, handheld electronic games, hobby kits (jewelry making, hair braiding, etc.)

13-18 Year Old: teen room and personal items, gift cards for fast food or movie passes, headphones or earbuds

MOST AGES: Any electronic item, scooters, educational items, bath and body items, bikes, art kits, science kits, sports equipment or team items

BOYS

0-2 Years Old: activity quilts, play mats, bath toys, push or pull toys, toy cars or trucks, baby gyms, plush toys, musical toys, baby books, pajamas, educational toys (sorting, nesting, stacking, play sets)

3-5 Years Old: pajamas, ride-on toys, pedal and push toys, educational toys, role play toys, toy tools, toy cars or trucks, action figures, art kits

6-8 Years Old: pajamas, action figures, dramatic play (police, fire, and army play sets), construction, train or Lego/Magnetix sets, e-readers, remote operated toys, sporting goods

9-12 Years Old: remote operated toys, building sets, headphones, flat bill hats, hand-held electronic games

13-18 Years Old: gift cards for fast food or movie passes, headphones or earbuds, bikes

MOST AGES: Any electronic item, scooters, educational items, bikes, art kits, science kits, sports equipment or team items.

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Patty Deaton writes a reduced price on a toy while helping set up the Christmas Toy Store at Peacemakers of Rocky Mount.

Lewis said the concept has caught on in the community because it is not charity in the traditional sense of the word. Rather, it is a way for neighbors to help one another.

“This event is the highlight of the year for us,” Lewis said. “Christmas is a tough time for many lowincome families. Parents often lack the resources to provide gifts for their children. Most charitable organizations try to meet this need by adopting families for Christmas, and delivering wrapped presents to the home just before the holiday. A generous and wellintentioned approach, it can also have unintended consequences. Instead, Peacemakers operates the toy store with the goal of providing a process by which parents can take pride in selecting, purchasing and wrapping the gifts for their own

children.” Lewis said, “It's all about dignity and empowerment.”

Lewis said the organization is also looking for volunteers to work in the Christmas store Dec. 7-8 or the

week before pricing and organizing the toys. Anyone who is interested in helping the organization can call 252-212-5044 or go to http:// rockymountpeacemakers.org.

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Nikkie Allen organizes children’s clothing Thursday while helping set up the Christmas Toy Store at Peacemakers of Rocky Mount.
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HOLIDAY CALENDAR OF EVENTS

Style & Go

FASHION EDITION

We’ve gathered together two of the best parts of the holiday season: Fun, holiday-themed events and fashion options from the area’s most fabulous small boutique businesses. So sit back, sync your calendars and find the perfect outfit to wear!

ABOUT THE LOCAL STORES

Holiday Artisan Market

Sponsored by the Nash County Cooperative Extension Agency and Nash County 4-H Club.

Every Saturday, Dec. 1 – Dec. 22, 8 a.m. to 1 p.m.

At the Nash County Farmers Market on Peachtree Street Support local artists and crafters! Find great craft items and art, while checking everyone off on your Christmas shopping list.

Christmas with the Celts

At the Edna Boykin Cultural Center in Wilson

Dec. 15 at 7:30 p.m.

Tickets are $35 each and can be purchased at http://www. wilsonarts.com

This event features the national touring show that became a fan favorite on PBS. The Celts mix lively traditional Irish tunes with Christmas melodies, a host of instruments and energetic Irish dancing. It will be special!

Blissful Boutique

Blissful Boutique is a small boutique with a friendly staff that makes customers feel like they’re shopping with their best friends.

Blissful Boutique offers a constant stream of new trends in clothing, shoes and accessories, at prices that won’t break the bank.

Located at 3506 Jestream Drive in Wilson, you can visit their website at www.shopblissfulboutique.com

The Yellow Tulip

The Yellow Tulip, owned by Diana Alford, offers trendy and affordable boutique items for any age. Shop in store, 1061 N Winstead Ave., Ste 102, in Rocky Mount, or visit and shop online, www.theyellowtulip.co

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Tawanda Alston, owner of Five Touch Spa and Salon in Wilson, is wearing brown snakeskin printed flared pants ($39), a V-neck top with front tie ($35) and a disc and stone layered necklace ($18), all from Blissful Boutique in Wilson.

Georgia is Holiday-Pops-ready in this gorgeous shift dress from Ginger’s Boutique in Tarboro. This fully-lined, Charlie Paige dress features a traditional silhouette updated with ruffled sleeves. The dress is $55 and also comes in a plaid fabric. Georgia is wearing her own strappy nude heels to complete the look.

Alyana’s Boutique

Alyana’s Boutique at Kendall’s Hallmark Shop in Rocky Mount offers a great selection of clothing, jewelry, shoes and accessories, at all price-points. You’ll find fashion’s newest trends and classic staples with a friendly sales staff to help you find exactly what you’re looking for. Visit them at the Westridge Shopping Center or call at 937-4934.

Ginger’s Boutique

Ginger’s Boutique in Tarboro is owned by Ginger Crisp and offers women of all ages a fun and trendy place to shop. Ginger’s offers clothing, accessories, shoes, scarves, jewelry and more. Visit them at 215 E. Church Street in Tarboro or call, 252-592-1049.

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Dec 5 at 7:30 p.m. at Keihin Auditorium in Tarboro on the ECC Campus General Admission tickets are $25 and $10 for students. Order tickets by visiting
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A Christmas Carol, by Nash County Arts Council Shows at 7:30 p.m., Dec. 1, 2, 8, 9, and at 2:30 p.m., Dec. 3 and 10. At Nash Arts in Nashville, ticket info at nasharts.org. A local play based on Dickens’ most famous holiday story, featuring a cast and production crew of local artists.

Wreath Making Class Sponsored by the Nash County Master Gardeners

Learn how to decorate your own live wreath! Three classes to choose from, 2 to 5 p.m. Dec. 2; 9 a.m. to noon Dec. 3; and 5 to 8 p.m. Dec. 3

At the Rocky Mount Farmers Market Sign up by calling 459-9810 by Nov. 27.

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Brandy Kannon, is ready for a holiday date night. She’s wearing the perfect little black dress (also available in burgundy) in a ribbed material with elegant slit-bell sleeves ($44). Pair with gold jewelry like these beaded hoop earrings ($15) and sexy black pumps, all from The Yellow Tulip in Rocky Mount.

Tawanda is warm and casual

...in this Ash Purple scalloped chenille sweater ($48), a pair of medium wash skinny leg denim jeans ($64), Magnolia Bead and Horn necklace by SoCharm Designs ($72), and brown tassle and zip booties ($49). All from Blissful Boutique in Wilson.

Lisa Chappell knows how to combine style and comfort.

This look is perfect for a matinee or evening viewing of a holiday play. Lisa pairs Tribal pants ($87) with a beautiful top from Vintage Concepts ($110). Her theme of comfort+style continues with her shoes, Joanie from Sorel ($150) and silver jewelry from Pandora. All from Alyana’s Boutique at Kendall’s Hallmark, in the Westridge Shopping Center in Rocky Mount.

Swingin’ Christmas with the Tar River Swing Band

7:30 p.m. Dec. 18 at the Dunn Center for Performing Arts on the campus of N.C. Wesleyan College. Tickets are $20 each, free for students. Call Dunn Center Box Office for tickets. The concert will feature holiday musical favorites in a swing-style performance.

Cathy Smith is ready for a night out on the town – with the Tar River Swing Band. Cathy is wearing Multiples Slimsation Pants ($64) and a gorgeous blue top by Tyler Boe ($131). Her shoes are Lisebeth from Bella Vita ($89) and her jewelry is by Uno De. All from Alyana’s Boutique at Kendall’s Hallmark in Westridge Shopping Center.

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A Charlie Brown Christmas

At 7:30 p.m., Dec. 6-8 at the Imperial Centre

A local play production featuring community artists, showing us how Snoopy, Charlie Brown and the gang find the real meaning of Christmas. Call 972-1266 for ticket information.

Brandy Kannon is looking forward taking her two children to the local production of “A Charlie Brown Christmas.” And we predict she’ll look good doing it! Here she’s wearing, a red plaid flannel shirt ($32), underneath a beautiful cream knit sweater ($36). Her dark wash super skinny jeans have great stretch and are available in sizes 1-13, ($36). Her tan ankle booties ($40) and Christmas bow earrings (available in gold, red, silver, green and pink, $15) can be worn many times throughout the season. Her red shopper bag has room for snacks, wallet, phone and all the extras you need for hanging out with your kids ($40). All available at The Yellow Tulip.

Community Parades

The bands! The floats! Santa Clause! See one or go see them all!

Rocky Mount Parade, 3 p.m., Dec. 2; Tarboro Parade, 2 p.m., Dec. 9; Nashville Parade, 5 p.m. Dec. 2; Christmas N Middlesex, starts at 10 a.m. Dec. 8, parade starts at 2 p.m.; and Pinetops, 10 a.m., Dec. 1.

Georgia is ready to wave to Santa and grab some candy in this parade-worthy outfit: A Charlie Paige cape ($45), C.C winter hat ($25), Charlie Paige gloves with texting fingers ($12) and a waffle weave top by Racheal ($30).

All from Ginger’s Boutique in Tarboro. Georgia’s own jeans, from American Eagle.

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We asked Trax Coffee Bar in Station Square to share with us their favorite recipe for homemade hot chocolate. Trax Coffee Bar is open most days from 7 a.m. to 7 p.m. and is a local favorite for custom roasted and brewed coffees, lattes, teas, mochas and more. The recipe here makes one cup, but get extra ingredients and serve to family and friends for a festive holiday get-together. Or, make one cup, just for you – it’s perfect for a cold wintery day! Enjoy! Belgian Hot Chocolate Instructions 1. Add half milk, chocolate and salt in pan and heat on low heat. 2. Stir until all chocolate is melted. 3. Add remaining ingredients. 4. Heat on medium high heat. 5. Stir rapidly 6. Do not let boil 7. Once all ingredients are dissolved, serve warm. 8. Top with whipped cream and chocolate curls/shavings. 9. Enjoy! Recipe Ingredients • 1 cup milk • 3 ounces Quality Dark Belgian chocolate 56% min; 72% max. • 1 1/2 ounces Quality Milk chocolate • 1 pinch of salt • 1 teaspoon vanilla • Whipped cream such as Reddi Whip in the can • Dash of cinnamon (optional) • 1 Tablespoon White sugar (optional)

Holiday Sparkle

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Beauty

OMBRE IT UP

Ombre lips are a great way to give your pout some dimension and provide a fuller look. Use a darker tone for the outer perimeter of the lip and a lighter hue in the center. Blend well with a brush or your fingers.

Get ready to be the holiday sparkle at your next get-together to celebrate the season. Lynette Gonzalez, esthetician and makeup artist at Garden Day Spa and Salon, gets LaShawnda Abram ready for a Christmas soiree. Lynette talks us through her beauty steps, as well as some of the season’s hottest makeup trends and tips. For LaShawnda’s look, Lynette offered these tips: played up, or toned down.

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Lynette Gonzalez, esthetician and makeup artist at Garden Day Spa and Salon

Lynette says it’s important to start with a good base face when applying makeup. “Take care of your face and skin every day,” Lynette advises, “When you have good skin, you’ll need less makeup and it will take less effort to ‘get your face on’ every day.”

GLOW LIKE YOU MEAN IT

Go for a natural and dewy look for the daytime and add a beaming pop of highlighter to the high angles of your face to amplify and glam up for a night out on the town.

“It’s also important to prep and prime your face for heavy makeup you want to last all night,” Lynette says, “Prep your skin with moisturizer, primer or both and know what products work best on your skin. If you don’t know – consult with an esthetician near you.”

Last but not least, start with a little and add more as needed. “It’s easier to add more pigment than to take away. Start light and build to achieve the perfect look for you,” Lynette says.

On LaShawnda

Foundation: Bare Minerals Bare Pro in Hazelnut

Concealer: Eye Primer – Bare Mineral Correcting Concealer in Dark 2/Tan 2

Powder: Bare Minerals Tinted Minerals Veil

Contour: Kat Von D Shade and Light Palette

Bronzer: Bare Minerals Invisible Bronze in Dark Deep

Blush: Bar Minerals You Had Me at Merlot

Highlight: OFRA Cosmetics in EverGlow

Eye Shadow: Anastasia Beverly Hill, Pure Cosmetics, Colour Pop

Brows: Bare Minerals Definer Brow in Universal Dark and Pretty Vulgar Liner in Black

Eyeliner: Pretty Vulgar Liner in Black Mist

Mascara: Bare Minerals in Lashtopia

Lashes: House of Lashes, Bambie

Lips: Bare Minerals Liner in Graphic; Karity Liplock lipstick in Tick Tick Boom; Bare Minerals liquid lip in Naughty

Setting Spray: Tarte Cosmetics, Ready Set Radiant

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DECK HALLS the

Stores are decked out for Christmas Cheer and we found some holiday décor favorites at local stores. Here’s to never having too many twinkling lights or Santa figures in your house for the next 40 days!

The Luxury Light Angel ornament adds some twinkle to your tree or window. These ornaments come in a variety of sizes, $16.99 to $26.99, at John’s Gifts and Furniture, Inc.

For those looking for a more traditional decoration for your home, we love this soft-touch Holy Family decorative piece, $104 from Bulluck’s Furniture Store and Kenilworth Gift Shop. Add some greenery and votive candles, find a special spot on a mantle or table, and enjoy all winter long.

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Jim Shore’s Christmas carvings, figurines and ornaments are Southern holiday staples. Whether you have a collection or are looking for your first one, Kendall’s Hallmark Shop has a great selection with ornaments starting at about $16.99. This colorful tabletop St. Nick is $62 and is perfect to display with a collection or in your favorite coffee-drinking spot.

Sure to be a hit with the kids, this plush Santa and His Bag of Gifts is colorful and lights up with a twinkling string of lights. From Bulluck’s Furniture Store and Kenilworth Gift Shop, it’s $139.

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Wreaths and swags add beauty and color to your holiday design –inside or outside. John’s Gifts and Furniture offers custom designed wreaths for mantles, doors, porches or walls, or you can purchase your own to decorate, starting at about $26.99.

Candles are a great inexpensive way to decorate a room for the holidays and having a few festive themed candle holders can add some color and holiday spirit. We love this tall candle holder from Hallmark, $29.99, part of their Christmas In Evergreen Collection. Available at Kendall’s Hallmark Shop.

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Closing out the yearwithout the

CHAOS

Does the thought of Halloween and Thanksgiving immediately cause you to feel anxiety or fear about the approaching holidays?

Every year, I often say to myself and hear my colleagues, friends and family say, “Didn’t we just celebrate the holidays?” It feels like each year draws closer to the next, yet we still have 365 days to prepare.

Why on earth does a celebration of joy and hope seem so stressful sometimes?

I know that as my children get older, what I thought would get easier, seems to grow more chaotic and confusing to manage. Not only do I stress about shopping for my children, I am usually tasked with delivering presents for grandparents, teachers and other family members. When community, church and other giving obligations are complete, most parents feel that they are pouring from an empty cup.

These are some strategies that I have found helpful when counseling patients and helping my own family survive the chaos of the holidays.

Lindy W. Kitchin LCSW, LCAS, is a licensed mental health and addiction counselor and owner of Lindy W. Kitchin Counseling PLLC. Currently her private practice is located in the Roanoke Rapids area. She specializes in addiction counseling, serving both adults and children. She and her husband live in Scotland Neck on a family farm, with their three daughters, Deborah Hall, Law and Jayme.

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If so, then this column is for you!

DON’T SET UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS

As adults, we are all guilty of setting unrealistic expectations. We tend to be very unhappy when we wake up and fulfill other’s expectations versus what we expect of ourselves. We like to imagine what we think an experience will be like -only to feel let down or disappointed when it arrives.

What we must remember is that children expect what we tell them to expect. Communication of realistic expectations can be very important for all families, especially during the holiday season. Each family must set realistic expectations about the traditions and values that they place on gifts. Children tend to be very giftfocused and they will set unrealistic expectations if the adults around them let this happen.

Personally, I work to set a balance for my children’s Christmas list with the majority of items being a need versus a want. Setting realistic expectations of needs versus wants can greatly reduce chaos and stress during the holidays.

PRACTICE TIME MANAGEMENT

Holidays are a time for traditions. But, It can be hard to carry out the traditions that many of us hold on to. School and work schedules can be rigid and not allow for countless hours of shopping and wrapping or extra school, church and work festivities. Most people are struggling to manage their time and obligations every day of the year -- not just during the holidays.

My advice to minimize the chaos of being over extended is to accept that we do not suddenly have extra hours in the day, just because it is December.

It is important to remember that many of the traditions of the holidays are set for us through commercials and what has been standardized in our culture. Adapt traditions to suit your family life.

Here’s an example: In my family, we do not love the traditional menu of labor-intensive holiday meals. So, a few years ago, one side of my family decided that we would continue with a traditional Thanksgiving meal, but for Christmas, we would prepare a less complicated menu. We quickly realized that everyone was happy with a simple meal and our joy was found in just spending time together.

Be aware of activities that work for your family – and those that don’t. Social and community activities can be a great source of fun and excitement, or torture, depending on the age of your children! I can remember signing up my older two children for a church Christmas program, only to have my whiny toddler make it almost impossible for them to participate. Choose activities that fit the season of life your family is in, and don’t feel guilty about saying no to some things.

HAVE AND ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE AND GIVE BACK

No matter the budget, time or expectations which we have for the holidays, there is no greater joy than to give and expect nothing in return. Often we give to organizations that we do not have a personal connection to. We count our blessings that we can contribute financially and write a check. I encourage you to make this meaningful for your children, too.

Last year I encouraged my children to tell me about someone they knew personally that had a need or maybe had been through an emotional hardship. We all agreed on a family we knew that had faced many obstacles in the months leading up to Christmas. We went shopping together and purchased gifts for them, and wrapped and delivered them to their home. It helped our family learn to look at every relationship and see what we could do to help or show we care. We already have someone in mind this year that that we’ll be helping -and a new tradition for our family has been established.

A grateful heart is always a great place to start when we are trying to survive chaos.

This holiday season think about the season of life you are in, set realistic expectations, resist obligating to activities that do not bring joy and practice an attitude of gratitude to find where you can fill a need. Merry Christmas to all!

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hostessing holiday table decor

A pear with the bottom sliced off is a festive, unconventional way to decorate a place setting, said Liz Curtis, of Table + Teaspoon. It’s also one that guests often end up eating. NY Times Photo

A festive table setting is about more than just providing some décor for your holiday dinner. It can set the mood for a party, spark conversations among guests and give you an excuse to dust off your grandmother’s silver and china.

Here’s some advice for creating striking tablescapes.

Start With Linens

“The foundation of your holiday table is the textile you choose for your runner or tablecloth and napkins,” said Liz Curtis, the founder of Table + Teaspoon, a San Francisco rental service that offers preplanned table settings starting at $24 a person.

Go with a neutral color and pattern, rather than a holiday theme,

Make It Personal

“The holidays are a time to celebrate family, so the most meaningful decorations weave together the personal and the festive,” said Bronson van Wyck, who owns a design and event production company, Van Wyck & Van Wyck, with his mother, Mary Lynn van Wyck.

At Christmas dinner for family and friends, van Wyck, who is of Scottish and Dutch descent, uses tartanpatterned napkins and blue-and-white china. “Not an obvious combination,” he said. “But even patterns that don’t seem to fit the occasion work if they’re mixed and matched with confidence and whimsy.”

Decorate With Food

Caroline Bailly, the owner of L’Atelier Rouge, a Manhattan floral design and event company, likes to use purple eggplants, kale and bunches of root vegetables like radishes and beets to add texture, color and interest to her floral arrangements.

“I am always inspired by the farmers’ markets,” she said.

And combining flower stems of different lengths allows certain elements to stand out, adding depth to the arrangement. “The flowers are so beautiful on their own,” she said. “You don’t want to them to be packed together.”

Incorporate Nature

“In a season where many of us spend most of our time keeping warm indoors, there is something so special about using pieces from the earth, by adding a garland of greenery or winter fruits down the center of the table,” said Maggie Burns, the owner of Maggie Richmond Design, in Manhattan. “Pomegranates and figs add the perfect punch of holiday red to a place setting, and nothing smells more beautiful than sprigs of evergreen scattered throughout the house.”

Van Wyck likes to hang a magnolia wreath. “It’s a traditional symbol of hospitality in the South,” he said. “And the leaves look just as great dried as they do freshly cut, so it’s not a once-and-done purchase.”

He added, “The combination of deep green and brown and gold is a perfect palette for holiday decorating. You get a lot of bang for your buck, because they work for Thanksgiving as well as Christmas.”

Avoid Clichés

“Just because it’s Thanksgiving doesn’t mean that you’re required to put pumpkins and corncobs all over an orange tablecloth,” said Liz Curtis, of Table + Teaspoon. “Placing mandarins or oranges on each plate at a traditional blue Hanukkah table achieves style sans kitsch.”

Occasionally, she’ll slice the bottom off a pear and stand it in the center of a plate as decoration, or cut a persimmon or pomegranate in half, with the sliced side up. “Every time I’ve put an orange or a pear or a quince on a plate, at least one guest ends up eating it,” she said.

Break Some Rules

“I’ve never used a formula when setting a table, and I definitely don’t want it to feel so perfect that you’re afraid to mess it up,” said Ken Fulk, an event designer in San Francisco known for his exuberant style. “It should be loosely arranged for balance, but not perfectly symmetrical.”

Glassware and silver should be arranged in the order they’re used, starting from the outside and working your way in, he said.

Flowers aren’t the only way to add color to a tablescape. Caroline Bailly, a Manhattan floral and event designer, uses vegetables like eggplants and kale. NY Times Photo

Light the Candles

“The easiest, least expensive way to add drama to the dinner table is to light some candles,” van Wyck said.

“Everything and everyone looks amazing by firelight. For the most flattering light, aim for a mix of tapers and votives scattered the length of the table.”

And don’t skimp on them. “You can never have too many,” he said. “For a warm, inviting glow, at least triple what you think you’ll need.”

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Designer Maggie Burns likes to run a garland of greenery and winter fruits down the center of the table. NY Times Photo

KID • CRAFT • FUN SANTACLAUS IS COMING! LET’SMAKE

SUPER

SNOWFLAKES

Tracy Gosner, Arts Education Manager at the Imperial Centre for Arts and Sciences helped us come up with a simple, fun, winter-themed craft that’s fun for the whole family. These cutout “Super Snowflakes” can be as simple as you want or as elaborate as you can make them! Gosner suggests recycling used paper (from magazines, newspapers or old art projects) to use for this project.

Paint Brushes

Glue Scissors Paper

For this craft, you’ll cut out a snowflake and glue to a contrasting piece of paper. Here are the directions:

1. Paint a piece of paper any color you choose, or choose a colored piece of paper, or choose a recycled piece of paper, like from a magazine.

6. Unfold the paper to reveal your snowflake pattern.

7. Choose another piece of paper, of a contrasting color (or paint a piece of paper), a bit larger than your snowflake. Glue your snowflake to the paper.

2. Fold the paper in half diagonally, non-painted side out.

3. Cut off the excess paper, leaving a triangle.

4. Fold in half, and half again (optional)

5. Cut out shapes and lines using scissors, being careful not to cut all the way across the triangle. Cut as few or as many shapes as you like.

Gosner says you can punch a hole in your piece, tie some yarn on it and hang on Christmas tree or display a collection of them on a wall or in a window. “You might even want to do this project a few times, because as you make them, you’ll think of new ways to do it the next time,” Gosner suggested.

The Imperial Centre for Arts and Sciences has several holidaythemed classes, featuring cards and ornaments, open to students of all ages and families. “We will also have winter and holiday themed crafts and projects at the First Friday event on December 7, at the Imperial Centre,” Gosner added.

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Here’s what you’ll need to make Super Snowflakes:
Marquira White, 9, of Rocky Mount, makes a Super Snowflake.

Holiday How-To

Make your own Christmas Wreath

A Christmas wreath is a favorite choice for decorating a front door for the holidays – or even inside your house.

Sherry Peele of Carolina Wreath says starting with a live or artificial wreath and decorating it yourself is an easy way to spruce up your house for the holidays.

Peele prefers a fresh, live wreath and says you can create a gorgeous holiday wreath by just adding something as simple as some red berries for a pop of color, or make an elaborate creation with ribbons, holiday decorations, other greenery and lights.

“The most important thing is to be creative and have some Christmas spirit,” Peele advises. “And if you’re using a live wreath, make sure it’s fresh greenery so it will last throughout the season.”

Peele said she ships wreaths all over the country and she ensures her wreaths will be some of the freshest you can find. “Here in North Carolina,

we’re lucky we have access to fresh cut greenery.”

Carolina Wreath offers live Frasier fir wreaths and garlands in partnership with the Sharpe Christmas Tree Farm in the North Carolina mountains. Ricky Sharpe, from Nash County, has been offering Christmas trees, wreaths and garland in the Nash County area for over 30 years. The trees and wreaths are available in Nash County starting Thanksgiving Day.

Peele says you can find decorations for your wreath right in your backyard. Most natural elements can be woven into the wreath greenery with some 22 or 24-gauge floral wire. Things to look for in your yard:

• Contrasting greenery like holly leaves, Camilla bush leaves, magnolia leaves and other evergreens like boxwood stems, juniper or eucalyptus leaves.

• Berries from holly bushes or Nandina shrubs.

• Large or small pinecones

Other ideas to create a festive holiday wreath include:

Keep your wreath natural or add a large festive bow. If a bow isn’t your style, Peele says you can also secure your wreath by hanging it on a long, thick strand of bright red ribbon for a dramatic effect.

If foraging in your garden or yard is not up your alley, go to a craft store and look for artificial add-ins for your wreath. Peele says you can add gold or silver features, like berries and metallic sprigs of leaves, or get pieces that have been “flocked” or made to look like they’re snow-covered.

Peele says some even like to add in favorite Christmas ornaments, holiday glass balls and battery-powered strings of lights to wreaths.

“There’s no real limit to what you can do to make a Christmas wreath. That’s what makes them so special and fun to make,” Peele said.

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Tri-County Arts presents...

THE NUTCRACKER

Clara and her crew are ready for the holidays! Tri-County Arts presents “The Nutcracker” at 5 p.m. Dec. 15 at Keihin Auditorium at ECC Tarboro campus. Tickets are $10 at the door, $8 in advance. Call 443-9199 for tickets, more information. This photo was shot at the downtown store location of Bulluck’s Furniture and Kenilworth Gift Shop on Church Street. Bulluck’s staff turns the store into a Christmas wonderland for the holiday season. Many local families have a tradition to visit the store before Christmas to see the thousands of twinkling lights and ornaments. Go check it out!

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‘Tis the Season for HOLIDAY FESTIVITIES

Community Thanksgiving Meal

Nov. 21 from 1 to 3 p.m. at First United Methodist Church of RMT, 100 S. Church Street. Sit down and share a meal with neighbors in South Rocky Mount, or come volunteer to cook and serve. For more, information, call 977-0400.

Tar River Chorus and Orchestra “Messiah” Sing A-Long Nov. 25 at 4 p.m. at First United Methodist Church

Come hear a beautiful and audience-involved rendition of part of Handel’s “Messiah.” The event is free, but requires a new unwrapped toy for Peacemaker’s Family Toy Store, for admission.

Breakfast with Santa Dec. 1 from 9 to 11 a.m. at Sylvan Heights Bird Park in Scotland Neck Have breakfast with Santa and the birds, in the beautiful bird sanctuary. Get tickets by calling 252-826-3186.

Christmas Shopping at Southern Nash High School Vendor Fair Dec. 1 from 9 a.m. to 1 p.m. at Southern Nash High School Shop from some cool local vendors, all proceeds benefit the school PTO organization.

Tower Lighting at Rocky Mount Mills Dec. 1 at 6 p.m. at Rocky Mount Mills

See the Mills campus in full Christmas regalia and the debut of the Mill Tower’s Christmas Lights. There will be food and fun. Free to the public.

Meet the Express Employment Professionals Clydesdales

Dec. 1 from 1 to 5 p.m. at Ashlyn Stables in Nashville

Meet the horses, take a carriage ride and have fun playing games at his family friendly event.

The Light of Christmas Concert with the Tar River Children’s Chorus

Dec. 7 at 4 p.m. at First Baptist Church

Enjoy a fun Christmas concert with holiday songs and favorite carols.

Rocky Mount Mill Chill

Dec. 9 at 1:30 p.m. at the Rocky Mount Mills

A 4-mile race followed by food, music and fun for the whole family –whether you run in the race or not. Proceeds from the race benefit the National MS Foundation, Greater Carolinas Chapter.

Christmas Concert Dec. 12 at 4 p.m. at First Presbyterian Church Nash Central High School Singers join with the musical team at First Presbyterian Church to perform a holiday concert with all your favorite holiday songs.

Live Nativity

Dec. 14-16, from 6 to 8 p.m. each night at First Baptist Church of Rocky Mount, 200 S. Church Street See actors and live animals depict the holy story of Jesus’ birth.

New Year’s Eve Hop Drop Dec. 31, starting at 8 p.m. at Rocky Mount Mills Live music, food and fun to ring in the new year.

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