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It is with great excitement that I share the special Tu B’Shvat edition of the Washington Jewish Journal, a groundbreaking publication that proudly stands as the first Orthodox magazine of its kind south of the NY/NJ area. It is a true privilege to represent the vibrant Greater Washington Jewish community.

I extend my deepest gratitude to our advertisers and writers for their unwavering enthusiasm. What began as a side project has grown into something far more meaningful, thanks to the dedication and hard work of a talented and devoted team—you know who you are.

Tu B’Shvat, the New Year for Trees, reminds us that strong roots sustain growth. Just as trees draw strength from their roots, our community thrives through deep connections, values, and traditions—something this edition of the Washington Jewish Journal celebrates.

This edition is filled with inspiring stories from our community. Bonei Olam’s upcoming event highlights their vital work, while Yad Yehudah’s food pantry and Tu B’Shvat food drive showcase the immense chesed happening daily.

On a personal note, this edition gives me an opportunity to reflect on my grandfather. In 1964, Rabbi Pelcovitz zt”l addressed a crowd of hundreds at the ribbon-cutting ceremony for the final phases of the new White Shul building on Empire Avenue and Sage Street in Far Rockaway. Standing before the community he pointed to the street signs and said, ‘Today, we move our kehillah to this new makom. Though it might seem barren now, it will be here that we create an Empire full of Sages.’

I had once asked him, ‘If you could add one more sentence to that speech today, what would it be?’ Without hesitation, he answered, ‘An empire isn’t built in a day, and it isn’t inherited—it’s built every day.’

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How true his words are. The most meaningful legacies aren’t simply received—they are nurtured, strengthened, and expanded through daily effort. Growth comes from perseverance, and true success is measured not by what we inherit, but by what we build with our own hands. Every moment of learning, and every act of kindness adds another branch to the towering tree of our legacy.

With contributions from so many individuals and organizations, this edition reflects the heart and soul of our community—just as Tu B’Shvat reminds us to cultivate and strengthen the roots that sustain us.

Wishing everyone a joyful Tu B’Shvat and a peaceful Shabbos, Alex Gross ads@wjmag.com

SHACHARIS

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Greater Washington Daily Minyan Guide 2025

Young Israel Shomrai Emunah

Greater Washington Daily Minyan Guide 2025

Young Israel Shomrai Emunah

Silver Spring Jewish Center

Southeast Hebrew Cong., Knesset Yehoshua

Beth Sholom Congregation

Chabad of Silver Spring

Ohev Shalom Talmud Torah OLNEY

Silver Spring Jewish Center

Young Israel Shomrai Emunah

YGW

Young Israel Shomrai Emunah

YGW

Ohr Hatorah

YGW

Ohr Hatorah YGW

Kemp Mill Synagogue

8:15 AM 8:30 AM 8:45 AM

Ohr Hatorah

Silver Spring Jewish center

Beth Joshua Congregation / Berman Hebrew Academy

Chabad of DC

Chabad of Potomac

Chabad of Upper Montgomery County

JROC

Ohev Sholom Talmud Torah/The National Synagogue

Silver Spring Jewish Center

Silver Spring Jewish Center YGW (Summer Only)

YGW (Summer Only)

Young Israel Shomrai Emunah

Ohr Hatorah

Kemp Mill Synagogue

Ohr Hatorah

Young Israel Shomrai Emunah

Magen David Sephardic Congregation

W, F

Woodside Synagogue/Ahavas Torah

Magen David Sephardic Congregation

Silver Spring Jewish Center

Woodside Synagogue/Ahavas Torah

Silver Spring Jewish Center

Young Israel Shomrai Emunah

Chabad of Upper Montgomery County

Kemp Mill Synagogue

Chabad of Upper Montgomery County

Kemp Mill Synagogue

Southeast Hebrew Cong., Knesset Yehoshua

Woodside Synagogue/Ahavas Torah

Southeast Hebrew Cong., Knesset Yehoshua

Young Israel Ezras Israel of Potomac

Woodside Synagogue/Ahavas Torah

Kesher Israel

Young Israel Ezras Israel of Potomac

Kemp Mill Synagogue

Kesher Israel

Kemp Mill Synagogue

Ohev Sholom Talmud Torah/The National

Kesher Israel

Synagogue

Ohr Hatorah

Ohev Sholom Talmud Torah/The National Synagogue

Young Israel Shomrai Emunah

Ohr Hatorah

Chabad of DC

Th M, Th

W, F

Chabad of Potomac

Young Israel Shomrai Emunah

JROC

Chabad of DC

Chabad of Potomac JROC

Kemp Mill Synagogue

Southeast Hebrew Cong., Knesset Yehoshua

Kemp Mill Synagogue

Young Israel Shomrai Emunah

Young Israel Shomrai Emunah (Sfardi)

Southeast Hebrew Cong., Knesset Yehoshua

Young Israel Shomrai Emunah

YGW (Yeshiva Session Only)

Young Israel Shomrai Emunah (Sfardi)

Magen David Sephardic Congregation

Young Israel Shomrai Emunah

Beth Sholom Congregation

YGW (Yeshiva Session Only)

Kemp Mill Synagogue

Magen David Sephardic Congregation

Kesher Israel

Beth Sholom Congregation

Magen David Sephardic Congregation

Kemp Mill Synagogue

Ohev Shalom Talmud Torah OLNEY

Kesher Israel

Southeast Hebrew Cong., Knesset Yehoshua

Magen David Sephardic Congregation

Woodside Synagogue/Ahavas Torah

Ohev Shalom Talmud Torah OLNEY

YGW (High School; School-Contingent)

Young Israel Ezras Israel of Potomac

Southeast Hebrew Cong., Knesset Yehoshua

Young Israel Shomrai Emunah

Woodside Synagogue/Ahavas Torah

YGW (High School; School-Contingent)

Young Israel Ezras Israel of Potomac

Young Israel Shomrai Emunah

Young Israel Shomrai

Lockwood Dr, Silver Spring, MD 20901

Synagogue/Ahavas Torah 9001 Georgia Ave, Silver Spring, MD 20910 Yeshiva Gedola of Greater Washington (YGW) 1216 Arcola Ave, Silver Spring, MD 20902

Chabad of Silver Spring Kemp Mill Synagogue

Chabad of Silver Spring

Kemp Mill Synagogue

MINCHA

Silver Spring Jewish Center YGW YGW YGW

Ohev Shalom Talmud Torah OLNEY

MINCHA/MAARIV Before Shkiah,S-TH

Beth Sholom Congregation

Chabad of Potomac

Chabad of Silver Spring

Beth Sholom Congregation

Chabad of Potomac

Chabad of Upper Montgomery County

JROC

Chabad of Silver Spring

Chabad of Upper Montgomery County

Kemp Mill Synagogue

JROC

Kesher Israel

Kemp Mill Synagogue

Magen David Sephardic Congregation

Kesher Israel

Ohev Sholom Talmud Torah/The National Synagogue

Magen David Sephardic Congregation

Ohr Hatorah

Silver Spring Jewish Center

Ohev Sholom Talmud Torah/The National Synagogue

Ohr Hatorah

Southeast Hebrew Congregation, Knesset Yehoshua

Silver Spring Jewish Center

Woodside Synagogue/Ahavas Torah

Southeast Hebrew Congregation, Knesset Yehoshua

Young Israel Ezras Israel of Potomac

Woodside Synagogue/Ahavas Torah

Young Israel Shomrai Emunah (Asheknaz)

Young Israel Shomrai Emunah (Sefarhadi)

Young Israel Ezras Israel of Potomac

Young Israel Shomrai Emunah (Asheknaz)

MAARIV

Young Israel Shomrai Emunah (Sefarhadi)

8:15 PM 8:45 PM 9:00 PM 9:30 PM 9:45 PM 10:00 PM

OSTT (OLNEY)

MAARIV

SHC, Knesset Yehoshua YGW

8:15 PM 8:45 PM 9:00 PM 9:30 PM 9:45 PM 10:00 PM

OSTT (OLNEY)

SHC, Knesset Yehoshua

Silver Spring Jewish Center YGW

YGW

Silver Spring Jewish Center

YGW

Silver Spring Jewish Center Ohr Hatorah YGW

Silver Spring Jewish Center

Ohr Hatorah

YGW

THE SIGNIFICANCE OF FRUIT

BY: RABBI AARON LOPIANSKY,

ROSH YESHIVA, YESHIVA OF GREATER WASHINGTON-TIFERES GEDALIAH

Tu B’Shevat is halachically a very minor festival. It marks the cutoff point for the tithing year for fruits, so that fruit grown one year may not be included in the tithes of a second year. As a result of this halachic feature, it is a day when no Tachanun is recited. This is about the extent of its halachic significance. Mystically, the day has taken on greater importance, including the recommendation that one eat fruits on Tu B’Shevat, especially fruits that the Land of Israel has been blessed with. Some kabbalists have devised a “Seder,” which has gained popularity in recent years. And some Rebbes

different blessing over animal foods and vegetable foods, but there is also a real distinction between fruits and vegetables. Also, at Creation we find that G-d created the grasses distinct from the trees bearing fruit. Are they really so significant as to merit having a distinct creation?

When man was created, he was herbivorous, and it wasn’t until after the flood that he became omnivorous (see Rashi, Bereishis 9:3). The animal kingdom was also herbivorous until the flood (see Ramban, Bereishis 1:29), yet the Gemara states that when G-d punished Adam and told him that “you will eat the grass of the field,”

Another area of difference seems to be the amount of effort needed by man to derive his sustenance from either of the two.

Chazal greatly detail the hardship of deriving bread from grain.

Thus, the Mishnah in Shabbos describes the thirty-nine activities that count as “work” on Shabbos by highlighting the process of growing grain, refining it, and producing the bread, as the template for “work.” To get bread out of grain requires the ultimate in human effort.

On the other hand, the Gemara says that when Mashiach comes, “fresh

Rabbi Shimon ben Elazar said: Did you ever see an animal that needed a trade to support itself? Rather, it sustains itself without labor. [How can this be?] For if they, who were created to serve me [eat effortlessly], then I, who was created to serve my Creator, should certainly eat effortlessly. The answer is that I have sinned and thereby lost my livelihood.

would hold a tisch (a chassidic gettogether) on Tu B’Shevat, the central theme being fruit and the fruits of Eretz Yisrael. The following remarks are an attempt to understand some of the meanings and significance of fruit

The Distinction between Fruit and Vegetable

One of the unusual aspects of the Torah’s classification of various elements of our diet is the distinction between fruits and vegetables. We could easily understand a distinction between animal and vegetable foods, but the distinction between fruits and vegetables seems to be relatively minor and insignificant. We would expect a

“his eyes welled up with tears,” and he cried, “Am I and my donkey to eat out of a common trough?” Wasn’t he herbivorous all along? Indeed, what was G-d’s punishment to Adam when He told him that he would be eating grass?

Rav Tzadok HaKohen (Pri Tzaddik) explains that before Adam sinned, he ate fruit as his diet, whereas after the sin he ate grass and grain. And that is why he complained bitterly that he would be eating grass with his donkey from a common trough. We thus see a practical distinction between the fruit and the vegetable, but we do not yet see the significance of that distinction.

rolls will grow on the trees.” Thus, an “effortless” food is seen as growing on trees. (Even colloquially, when we wish to use a metaphor to describe easy money, we speak of it as “growing on trees.”)

After the Sin

This distinction between the easy acquisition of food to strenuous toil and sweat in order to produce a morsel of bread is explained in a mishnah in Kiddushin that deals with the issue of learning a trade to support oneself. The mishnah states:

The Mishnah is teaching us that Hashem deals with His creatures

on a twofold track. In those areas that a person is supposed to realize his potential, he is expected to toil and perform. In all other areas, he is given his needs gratis, as an expense account, so to speak.

Rabbi Shimon ben Elazar said, “G-d created man with the purpose of using his energies to serve his Creator.” It was meant to be obvious that he would receive all his bodily needs from Hashem so that he could use all of his time and abilities to serve G-d. But once man sinned, he was no longer worthy of receiving his food gratis. He would now have to toil to bring forth the very food that had rightfully been his. This is what Rabbi Shimon ben Elazar meant by “I have sinned and lost my livelihood.”

This is the essential difference between fruits and vegetables (and grains). Fruits are almost always “ready to eat.” They are the food of beings that are engaged in fulfilling G-d’s will. They require no effort to process, whereas grains always require a lot of toil to process. Grains are the food of people who have stopped fulfilling the Divine will and as such have no right to a “free lunch.”

Nature’s Offering

This point helps clarify for us a difficult Chazal that debates what was the species of tree that was the eitz hada’as. One of the Tanna’im says, “It was wheat.” It’s difficult to understand how wheat could be identified as a tree, but in line with our explanation, it’s possible that this is the very point that Chazal wish to make.

Before Adam sinned, wheat was actually a form of “tree.” It was akin to the days in the future when the trees will offer up fresh rolls. After the sin, the very product that the eitz hada’as tempted us with suffered in the string of demotions meted out by G-d to the various participants in the sin. This distinction is true in the reverse as well. The Ramchal explains that while the primary goal of man is to lift himself closer to G-d and to cleave to Him, the ultimate goal is to bring the entire world to perfection. Since man is the only being in the world with free will and the ability to act morally, he is the only being that can elevate the entire world with his deeds, much as a locomotive propels an entire train. It is therefore the desire of the entire world to subsume itself to human endeavor,

so that it realizes its own purpose within human achievement. This is the same as a person who is intensely proud of his nation, and willingly serves it, incorporating his own puny being in what he perceives to be the overwhelming greatness of this state. To the person who is actively engaged in pursuing this goal, creation willingly bends over and serves. Thus “fruit” is the offering of nature to man, for man is serving nature. Even botanically, the fruit is produced by the tree in order to be consumed (biologically, it is seen as a means of propagating the seed) and has all the characteristics for enticing man into consuming it (color, smell, flavor, texture, etc.).

But when man sinned, Chazal tell us that the grasses yelled out, “Trample me not with your haughty feet!” The world at large no longer had reason to serve man. No longer would it willingly offer its products to man, for man was no longer helping it realize its destiny. Eating grain requires the consumption of the grain itself — its cannibalization, so to speak. It is man living at the expense of creation rather than as its benefactor.

When Creation Will Serve Man

A closer inspection of the pasuk that describes the creation of the fruit trees emphasizes this point even further: “G-d said, ‘Let the earth sprout vegetation, seed yielding herbs and fruit trees producing fruit, in which its seed is found...’ ” (Bereishis 1:11).

Hashem created the trees bearing fruits whose seeds are within the fruit. This emphasis that the seed is within the fruit is seemingly meaningless. We understand that the plant world has seeds and perpetuates itself. This is stated with regard to the creation of grass as well. Why is it so important to describe the fruit as containing seed? The answer is that the pasuk is describing the very phenomena that we have explained. When a person eats a plant, he destroys it. When he eats a fruit, he is helping propagate and perpetuate the species, by carrying the seed further afield and inadvertently leaving the seed to sprout. The act of eating the fruit not only does not destroy the tree, but rather multiplies it.

The same is true of the interaction of the tzaddik with this world. What he “takes”

from this world does not destroy or denigrate it. Rather, it brings out the hidden potential and causes it to flourish.

When Hashem created the world, man’s relationship with the world was symbiotic. He took of this world for the purpose of elevating himself and the world around him. Every act of eating was not a consumption of creation, but a propagation and enhancement of the world. As he partook of the world, it flourished, and in turn it gave of itself willingly to man so that he could elevate himself and itself further. He ate the fruit of the universe.

When man sinned, that whole symbiosis came crashing down. He no longer elevated and benefited the world; his use of the world’s goods became consumptive rather than beneficial. And the earth began giving its goods begrudgingly. It gave forth thorns and thistles, and when wheat finally grew, it needed backbreaking labor to make it fit for humans. This became the vicious cycle that we are locked into today. We do not use the world properly, and it in turn stymies our efforts at working it. On a day when trees begin to blossom, we entertain the hopethat the day is close when “wheat will rise as tall as a date palm” and the trees will “give forth fresh rolls.” Man will serve his Creator faithfully, and creation will serve man in order that he may fulfill his destiny.

With over 20 seforim authored, Rabbi Aaron Lopiansky brings to the Greater Washington community and the yeshiva the cumulative impact of decades of learning at the Mir Yerushalayim. He continues the mesorah of his rebbeim, Harav Chaim Shmuelevitz zt”l, Harav Nachum Partzovitz zt”l, and his father-inlaw, Rav Beinish Finkel zt”l (the late Rosh HaYeshiva of the Mir). His approach to learning was also deeply influenced by his long association as a close talmid of Harav Moshe Shapiro zt”l. The Rosh Yeshiva’s seforim and shiurim can be purchased and accessed at www.eshelpublications.com.

Greater Washington Daily Shiurim Guide 2024-2025

SUNDAY

6:30 a.m.

7:15 a.m.

Sunday Morning Daf Yomi with Mr. Judah Lifschitz/Rabbi Hess @ Yeshiva of Greater Washington (Beis Medrash)

Daf Yomi with Rabbi Rappaport @ OSTT Olney

Following 7:15 a.m. Shacharis

8:45 a.m.

Sunday Morning Kollel Zichron Amram @ Ohr HaTorah

Mishnah Brura - Shabbos with Rabbi Ben-Horin @ OSTT Olney

8:15 a.m. (Approx.)

9:30–10:30 a.m.

Daf Yomi (Rabbi Uriel Charlap) @ Ohr HaTorah

Illuminating Inquiries in Halacha Judaism 102

Sunday Brunch & Learn (For men) @ YISE, 1132 Arcola Ave, Kemp Mill - Rabbi Mandel - Rabbi Shaps - Rabbi Grossman

Navigating Navi

9:45 a.m.

7:30 p.m.

8:15 p.m.

8:00–8:45 p.m.

8:45–9:30 p.m.

9:00–9:45 p.m.

Tanya Class (Rabbi Wolvovsky) @ Chabad of Silver Spring (Zoom) Parsha Exploration (Rabbi Yitzchok Grossman) @ KMS (Zoom)

ID: 655-813-1022, Password: 365636

Tehillim Expositions (Rabbi Schwartz) @ Greater Washington Community Kollel (Zoom)

Hilchos Shabbos (Teens) (Rabbi Zaks) @ SSJC (Ma’ariv follows)

Daf Hashavua (Rabbi Frank) @ Ohr HaTorah

Night Kollel (Ma’ariv follows) @ Ohr HaTorah

MONDAY

6:00–6:45 a.m.

6:30 a.m.

7:30 am

11:00 a.m.

12:00–12:15 p.m.

8:30–9:30 p.m.

Michtav M’Eliyahu

8:45 p.m.

9:00 p.m.

9:15–9:45 p.m.

Morning Kollel and Daf Yomi (Rabbi Uriel Charlap) @ Ohr HaTorah

Daf Yomi (Mr. Judah Lifschitz/Rabbi Hess) @ Yeshiva of Greater Washington (Beis Medrash)

Daf Yomi with Rabbi Rappaport @ OSTT Olney “Da’as Atzmeinu” (Laura Goldman) @ KMS (Zoom, Classroom B)

Rashi a Day (Rabbi Weinberg) @ KMS (Zoom) Evening Learning @ SEHC (For men) @ 10900 Lockwood Drive, Silver Spring

– Rabbi Musicante

Semichas Chaver Program (Rabbi Shaps) @ YISE (For men)

Daf Yomi (Mr. Judah Lifschitz) @ Yeshiva of Greater Washington (Beis Medrash) K’tzos Hachoshen (Rabbi Frank) @ Ohr HaTorah

TUESDAY

6:00–6:45 a.m.

6:30 a.m.

7:30 am

12:00–12:15 p.m.

8:00 p.m.

8:15 p.m.

8:30–9:30 p.m.

Morning Kollel @ Ohr HaTorah

Daf Yomi (Mr. Judah Lifschitz) @ Yeshiva of Greater Washington (Beis Medrash)

Daf Yomi with Rabbi Rappaport @ OSTT Olney

Rashi a Day (Rabbi Weinberg) @ KMS (Zoom)

Jewish Unity Learning (Greater Washington Community Kollel, For men and women) @ KMS (In Person)

Machshava Shiur (Chazon Ish: Emunah/B’tachon) (Rabbi Zaks) @ SSJC (Ma’ariv follows)

Halacha Class (Rabbi Wolvovsky) @ Chabad of Silver Spring (In Person)

Inspired Tefillah (Mrs. Sara Malka Winter) @ Greater Washington Community Kollel (Zoom, For women)

Evening Learning @ SEHC (For men) @ 10900 Lockwood Drive, Silver Spring

– Rabbi Grossman & Rabbi Mandel

Timely Topics in Halacha

9:00 p.m.

9:15–9:45 p.m.

Daf Yomi (Mr. Judah Lifschitz) @ Yeshiva of Greater Washington (Beis Medrash)

A Deeper Understanding of Tefillah (Rabbi Frank) @ Ohr HaTorah

BETHESDA

Magen David Sephardic Congregation [S] 11215 Woodglen Dr, North Bethesda, MD 20852

GAITHERSBURG

Chabad of Upper Montgomery County [Ari] 11520 Darnestown Rd, Gaithersburg, MD 20878

OLNEY

Ohev Shalom Talmud Torah (OSTT) 18320 Georgia Ave, Olney, MD 20832

Woodside Synagogue/Ahavas Torah 9001 Georgia Ave, Silver Spring, MD 20910

Yeshiva Gedola of Greater Washington (YGW) 1216 Arcola Ave, Silver Spring, MD 20902

Young Israel Shomrai Emunah [Ashk + S] 1132 Arcola Ave, Silver Spring, MD 20902

POTOMAC

Beth Sholom Congregation

11825 Seven Locks Rd. Potomac, MD 20854

Chabad of Potomac [Ari] 11621 Seven Locks Rd, Potomac, MD 20854

Young Israel Ezras Israel of Potomac 11618 Seven Locks Rd, Potomac, MD 20854

ROCKVILLE

Beth Joshua Congregation/ Berman Hebrew Academy

13300 Arctic Ave, Rockville, MD 20853

JROC

11304 Old Georgetown Rd, Rockville, MD 20852

WEDNESDAY

6:00–6:45 a.m.

6:30 a.m.

7:30 am

9:00 a.m.

12:15 p.m

8:00 p.m.

8:00–8:45 p.m.

8:30–9:30 p.m.

Morning Kollel and Daf Yomi (Rabbi Uriel Charlap) @ Ohr HaTorah

Daf Yomi (Mr. Judah Lifschitz/Rabbi Hess) @ Yeshiva of Greater Washington (Beis Medrash)

Daf Yomi with Rabbi Rappaport @ OSTT Olney

Siddur Class (Esther Dziadek) @ KMS (Zoom)

ID: 970-1398-4837, Password: 613

LINKS Learning (Rabbi Shaps) @ Greater Washington Community Kollel (Zoom)

Bereishis: An In-Depth Study (Mrs. Sara Malka Winter) @ Greater Washington Community Kollel (For women)

Hilchos Shabbos Class (Rabbi Weinberg) @ KMS (Zoom, Classroom B)

Hilchos Shabbos (Teens) (Rabbi Zaks) @ SSJC (Ma’ariv follows)

Yesodei Hatorah: Gemara Skills Building

9:00 p.m.

Evening Learning @ SEHC (For men) @ 10900 Lockwood Drive, Silver Spring – Rabbi Sussman

Daf Yomi (Mr. Judah Lifschitz) @ Yeshiva of Greater Washington (Beis Medrash)

THURSDAY

6:00–6:45 a.m.

6:30 a.m.

7:30 a.m.

7:30 p.m.

8:45–9:05 p.m.

8:15 p.m.

8:30 p.m.

9:15–9:45 p.m.

9:20 p.m.

Morning Kollel and Daf Yomi (Rabbi Uriel Charlap) @ Ohr HaTorah

Daf Yomi (Mr. Judah Lifschitz/Rabbi Hess) @ Yeshiva of Greater Washington (Beis Medrash)

Daf Yomi with Rabbi Rappaport @ OSTT Olney

Thursday Night Shiur with Rabbi Ben-Horin @ OSTT Olney

Halacha/Parsha Shiur for Women (Rabbi Frank) @ Zoom

Yesodei Hatorah: Gemara Skills Building (Rabbi Sussman) @ Greater Washington

Community Kollel (Zoom, For men)

Parashas Hashavua (Rabbi Grossman) @ Greater Washington Community Kollel (Zoom)

Tanach Shiur (Rabbi Frank) @ Ohr HaTorah

After 10:00 p.m. Ma’ariv

Daf Hashavua (Rabbi Frank) @ Ohr HaTorah - Chumash Shiur (Rabbi Riengold) @ Yeshiva of Greater Washington

FRIDAY

6:00–6:45 a.m. 6:30 a.m. 7:30 am

Morning Kollel and Daf Yomi (Rabbi Uriel Charlap) @ Ohr HaTorah Daf Yomi (Mr. Judah Lifschitz/Rabbi Hess) @ Yeshiva of Greater Washington (Beis Medrash) Daf Yomi with Rabbi Rappaport @ OSTT Olney

SHABBOS

9:00 a.m.

Post-Kiddush

Chassidus Class (Rabbi Wolvovsky) @ Chabad of Silver Spring (Before Davening) 5th/6th Grade Boy Learning @ Ohr HaTorah Beis Medrash

20 Minutes Before Later Mincha

25 Minutes Before Ma’ariv (Motzei Shabbos)

10:30 a.m. (Winter Only)

3:40 p.m.

Iyun Chaburah (Rabbi Frank) @ Ohr HaTorah Mishna B’rurah Shiur (Rabbi Frank) @ Ohr HaTorah Daf Yomi (Mr. Judah Lifschitz/Rabbi Hess) @ Yeshiva of Greater Washington (Beis Medrash)

New Series! Bitachon Gems with Rabbi Rappaport @ OSTT Olney

Motzei Shabbos Parent Child Learning and Melave Malka (Winter)

@ KMS (Grades 1–6) | @ YISE (Grades 1–6) | @ SSJC (Grades 1–6) | @ YGW/Ohr HaTorah (Grades 1–6)

SILVER SPRING

Chabad of Silver Spring [Ari]

519 Lamberton Dr, Silver Spring, MD 20902

Kemp Mill Synagogue

11910 Kemp Mill Rd, Silver Spring, MD 20902

Ohr Hatorah

1009 Kersey Rd, Silver Spring, MD 20902

Silver Spring Jewish Center

1401 Arcola Ave, Silver Spring, MD 20902

Southeast Hebrew Congregation, Knesset Yehoshua

10900 Lockwood Dr, Silver Spring, MD 20901

WASHINGTON

Chabad of DC [Ari]

2110 Leroy Pl. NW, Washington, DC 20008

Kesher Israel

2801 N Street, NW Washington, DC 20007

Ohev Sholom Talmud Torah/ The National Synagogue

1600 Jonquil St NW, Washington, DC 20012

Chabad of Aspen Hill

13411 Arctic Avenue, Rockville

Chabad of Potomac Village

10500 Burbank Drive, Potomac, 20854

Chabad of Chevy Chase

3604 East West Highway, Chevy Chase

Chabad of Greater Laurel

312 Marshall Avenue, Suite 104, Laurel, 20707

Bais Menachem Chabad Jewish Student Center UMD Chabad 7403 Hopkins Avenue, College Park, 20740

Chabad of Germantown 22101 Ridge Road, Germantown, 20876

Chabad of Greater Bowie, Greenbelt and Beltsville 6101 Highbridge Rd, Bowie, MD 20720

WASHINGTON

Chabad Lubavitch of the AU Community 4357 Westover Place NW, Washington, 20016

Chabad Georgetown 3313 N Street NW, Washington, 20007 DC

Chabad GW University 2211 Washington Circle NW, Washington, 20037 DC

VIRGINA

Chabad of Northern Virginia 3939 Prince William Dr, Fairfax, VA 22031

Chabad Tysons Jewish Center 2107 Chain Bridge Rd, Vienna, VA 22182

Chabad of Alexandria-Arlington 1307 N Highland St, Arlington, VA 22201

Chabad of Springfield and Burke 8322 Traford Ln Suites A & B, Springfield, VA 22152

CELEBRATING TREES AND THEIR MESSAGE OF HOPE

BY RABBI BRAHM WEINBERG

The Mishna (Brachot 35a) says that there are different brachot that Chazal instituted for foods depending on their type, growth, and usage. One of the things the Mishna tells us is that the bracha over fruit of the tree is “Borei Pri Haetz” and the bracha over fruit of the ground is “Borei Pri Haadama.” How do we define fruits of the ground vs. fruits of the tree? What is the halachic definition of a tree? Do we follow the botanical or scientific definition? Do we follow some colloquial definition? Do we follow a definition that is subjective based on what we see and feel?

According to the simple reading of the Gemara, the fruit of perennials would be haetz, whereas the fruit of annuals would be haadama. Fruit that comes from a plant that remains from year to year and simply generates new fruit would receive a bracha

of haetz, whereas fruit that comes from a plant that needs to be replanted each year would receive a bracha of haadama. Regeneration is part of the definition of a tree.

The Gemara is pointing to the great hope of regeneration that is inherent in every tree. Even when a part of the tree that remains after the season is over appears to be lifeless, one can and must have the faith and understanding the beneath the surface there is still the potential for life and rebirth. What an amazingly hopeful and empowering thought! The tree itself by its nature provides for such a marvelous metaphor for life and a philosophy that each of us can strive to emulate: Even when things seem down or depressed or dull or tedious or wearying… we can and must still believe that beneath the surface radical change is happening and that more of life is yet to come.

It is that metaphor of hope for life contained within the very DNA of a tree that is celebrated and reinforced by the holiday of Tu Bishvat. It is a day which reminds us of the importance of looking at life not in a superficial way, but in a way that sees the hope and the possibilities that lie beneath the surface. May those hopes come to fruition, and may we enjoy the fruits that are yet to come.

Rabbi Brahm Weinberg has served as the Rabbi of Kemp Mill Synagogue (KMS) since August 2015, where he inspires members through his vision, scholarship, and unwavering commitment to the growth of the community. Under his guidance, KMS has become a dynamic center of Jewish life, offering innovative programs and fostering a warm, inclusive atmosphere that motivates individuals and families to deepen their connection to Judaism.

Rabbi Weinberg earned his Master’s degree and Semicha from Yeshiva University’s Rabbi Isaac Elchanan Theological Seminary (RIETS), where he studied in the esteemed Katz Kollel. His academic and spiritual excellence were recognized through numerous honors, including the Torah Umadda Award for exemplifying the ideals of Yeshiva University, as well as awards for distinction in Gemara and History. These achievements reflect not only his intellectual rigor but also his passion for Torah learning and teaching. His impact extends beyond the synagogue walls, as he serves as Secretary of the Vaad Harabanim of Greater Washington, where he contributes to the strength and vitality of the broader Jewish community.

Together with his wife, Elana, and their family, Rabbi Weinberg exemplifies a life of dedication, scholarship, and service, inspiring KMS and the wider community to strive for growth, connection, and excellence. Rabbi Weinberg delivers multiple daily shiurim, including his renowned "Rashi a Day" and the "5-Minute KMS Divrei Halacha," which are updated daily and available on Apple Podcasts.

Understanding Tu B’Shevat: Insights into a Timeless Debate

BY RABBI EPHRAIM MIRETZKY

REGIONAL EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR, GREATER WASHINGTON NCSY

While the holiday of Tu B’shevat is just the date of the hebrew calendar, the mishna in Rosh Hashana brings a machlokes between Beis Shamai and Beis Hillel. Beis Shamai says that this day should be the first of Shevat and Beis Hillel says it should be the 15th of Shevat, which as we know is Tu B’shevat. However, what is the significance of this day and what are the underpinnings of the machlokes between Beis Hillel and Beis Shamai?

The Lubavitcher Rebbe, and others as well, develop a common theme to help us understand the machlokes between Beis Hillel and Beis Shamai throughout Shas. One of those places which we can use as a reference for this is the gemara in Shabbas 23b which discusses what is the proper way to light the menorah. Beis Hillel says we start with 1 on the first day and we are way up to 8. Beis Shamai says we start with 8 on day 1 and subtract a candle for each day until on day 8 we only light 1 candle.

While the gemara brings specific reason for each opinion, the Rebbe uses this gemara to understand the underlying theme when Beis Hillel and Beis Shamai argue. The distinction he makes is koach and poel. Beis Shamai will hold of koach, loosely translated in this context as potential. On day 1 of Chanukah we are commemorating that there was the koach of 8 more nights of miracles. This contrasts with Beis Hillel who holds of poel, which is what is in front of us right now, as on the 1st night of chanukah we had only one night of nes so we only light one candle, and on the 2nd night it has been two nights of miracles until 8. This same approach to understanding Beis Hillel and Beis Shamai can be utilized in the mishna in Rosh Hashana quoted above. The mishna is discussing what day should be the rosh hashana l’ilan, for the trees. What is the purpose of this rosh hashana? It establishes the year for maaser for ones fruits. If it grew before the Rosh Hashana L’ilan it was to

be calulated for the year before, and if it grew after the Rosh Hashana L’ilan it would be calculated for the year after. This would make a difference on the total fruit one grew in that specific year which one would need to know to quantify the total maaser he would need to give.

We paskin like Beis Hillel that this day is the 15th, but how do Beis Hillel and Beis Shamai get to their dates? The Rebbe quotes the gemara in Rosh Hashana 16a that the day we are judged on water is Sukkos, which is the 15th of Tishrei. However, on Rosh Hashana, nidonin al hakol, everything is judged. The rebbe says on Rosh hashana we are also judged on the water. If so what is the difference between our judgement for water on Rosh Hashana and on Sukkos? On Rosh Hashana we are judged, but this is only in koach, the potential. The final judgement with the poel, is on sukkos.

This explains the reasoning for the machlokes for the day of Rosh hashana l’ilan. Beis Shamai, who holds of koach/ potential, bases his date for Rosh Hashana l’ilan on the koach date of when the rain for that year will fall. This is the 1st of Tishrei, which 4 months later is the 1st of Shevat. Beis Hillel , who holds of poel for the rain, bases his date off the first day of sukkos which is the 15th of Tishrei. 4 months later is the 15th of Shevat.

This can be wrapped up with an idea of the Satmar Rebbi quoted in the sefer Maayan Hamoed. We saw that Tu b’shevat is the Rosh Hashana for ilan, for the tree itself. The gemara in Megilah 31b says that Shavuos is the rosh hashana for peiros hailan, the fruits of the tree. What is interesting is that the minhagim done on these chagim do not seem to allign with what they are a Rosh Hashana for. On Tu B’shevat which is the Rosh Hashana

l’ilan we eat fruits and on shavuos which is Rosh Hashana for the peiros hailan, we put trees in shul. At first glance it would make sense to eat fruits on the rosh hoshana for peiros hailan(shavuos) and place trees in the shul on the rosh hashana for the ilan(tu bshvat). But we do exactly the opposite! Why is this?

On Shavuos, when we are judged on peiros hailan, it is best to look back and ask where this fruit came from. This fruit didn’t pop out of nowhere. What are its roots that got it here? It has a mesorah. When one celebrates the fruit, one puts trees in the shul to remind us that when we learn Shavuos night that the fruit came from trees. The torah came from something. While Shavuos is about the poel, the torah in front of us, it is important to look back at the koach, the potential of what the torah came from

On Tu b’shevat we celebrate with the product. Tu B’shevat is during the winter, and when one looks at a tree they see a froze and barren tree, but there is sap flowing inside ready to go. There is potential inside this tree just waiting for the right situation and enviorment to thrive in. So on tu bshvat we remind ourselves of that koach/potential by taking the fruits which are the results, the poel of the tree.

So, this Tu b’shevat we should be looking both at the actuality in front of us, and at the potential inside ourselves and those we find ourselves around. Ki ha’adam eitz hasedah, a person is compared to a tree of the field with infinite potential. We should all be zoche to reach that potential and help out family, friends, and community around us realize the poel and koach that we all have.

Rabbi Ephraim Miretzky serves as Regional Director for Greater Washington NCSY, leading impactful programs that inspire Jewish youth and foster leadership. Rabbi Miretzky can be reached at Miretzkye@ncsy.org.

Silver from the Spring Turning Over A New Leaf

BY NATHAN WITZTUM

The opening mishnah of that, according to the opinion of Beis Hillel, the 15 the month of Shevat constitutes a new year for the trees. From a halachic perspective, the primary significance of this start date is that it acts as a cutoff point for tithing. Terumos, the portion of produce given to Kohanim, and ma’asros, the two sets of ten percent separated subsequently, are supposed to be taken from each year’s produce. Additionally, the intended purpose and recipient of ma’asros were not identical every year. Therefore, it is necessary for there to be a date codified as the onset of a new year, and it is this role that Tu BiShvat serves. Yet, we also find that Tu BiShvat is a day to celebrate the tree. The Shulchan Aruch (Orach Chaim 131:6) rules that we omit Tachanun on Tu BiShvat, which is usually the mark of a joyous day. Moreover, the Magen Avraham writes that one should partake of extra fruit on Tu BiShvat. If Tu BiShvat is simply a deadline for cutoff date for taxes, what exactly are we celebrating?

As we know, trees are vibrant and productive in the spring and summer, sporting bright leaves and succulent fruit. Conversely, in the winter, a tree conveys hardly any signs of life, standing bare and empty. This is true even on Tu BiShvat. Take a look outside and observe that there are still no leaves on the branches.

flower blossom transforming into the fruit bud, which is the defining criterion with respect to Tu BiShvat, won’t occur for another two or three months. Yet, already now, the trees are considered to have begun a new year.

The takeaway is that sometimes we may feel empty and unproductive, with nothing to show for ourselves. And perhaps, even with a change of heart, we may not achieve meaningful results for a long period of time. But, just like the tree, if we commit ourselves to a new course of action and chart a new path, that alone constitutes a renewal and is something worth celebrating.

Nathan Witztum is the author of Marchiv Gad: A Haggadah Companion and writes the weekly Imrei Shefer parsha sheet. He initiated the Daf Yomi shiur at Ohr HaTorah, which he delivered for two years. Professionally, Nathan is a senior ship systems engineer for the U.S. Navy, designing and optimizing cut ting-edge naval systems that power the fleet. He has lived with his wife and children in Kemp Mill since 2019.

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The Power of Identity: Lessons from Shemot and Tu B’Shvat

Finding Growth and Strength in Times of Challenge and Change

BY RABBI BEREL WOLVOVSKY

As we enter deeper into the Book of Shemot, we are reminded of the resilience and faith of the Jewish people during their time of exile. Shemot tells the story of a nation that, despite the hardships of slavery and the lowest levels of impurity, held steadfast to their identity by preserving their names, language, and dress. This unwavering connection to their roots ensured their survival and ultimate redemption. In a world filled with distractions and competing values, their story serves as a powerful reminder of the importance of staying grounded in our faith and traditions.

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This week also brings Tu B’Shvat, the New Year of Trees, which beautifully complements the lessons of Shemot. Just as a tree thrives by staying connected to its roots, so too do we draw strength and nourishment from our spiritual foundations. Tu B’Shvat inspires us to reflect on our growth, renew our commitment to our values, and plant seeds of goodness that will bear fruit for generations. It reminds us that even during times of difficulty, renewal and transformation are possible.

Thanks to all who joined us for the evening of inspiration with Orit Mark Ettinger. As Orit shared with us on Sunday, we must be the light and spread the light. This message resonates deeply with the themes of Shemot and Tu B’Shvat, encouraging us to shine brightly and illuminate the world with mitzvot and kindness.

As we move forward, let us embrace the lessons of Shemot and Tu B’Shvat, strengthening our connection to Hashem, the Torah, and our community. May we merit to grow tall and strong, illuminating the world with the light of mitzvot and kindness, and witness the ultimate redemption with the coming of Moshiach.

Rabbi Berel Wolvovsky serves as the Rabbi and spiritual leader of Chabad of Silver Spring, a vibrant community of over 250 families. With dedication and warmth, he has guided his congregation in fostering growth, connection, and deeper engagement with Torah and mitzvot.

The Soulmate Guide From First Date to Forever

WE WERE SO PERFECT IN THE BEGINNING… CAN WE BRING BACK WHAT WE HAD?

BY RABBI BEN TZION SHAFIER

What’s wrong is that you’re mistaking infatuation for love.

Dear Rabbi Shafier,

I am 20 years old and have been married for four months. I never dreamed I would be writing to ask marriage advice. The reason I never dreamed it is because I married the perfect guy. He was everything I wanted: a serious learner from a great family, great middos, great sense of humor, tall and good looking and put together too. We just totally clicked as soon as we met and we got engaged after six dates. Our engagement was amazing, I felt like the luckiest girl. I was flying. I was so excited to marry him. Every story he told me was so interesting, every joke was so funny. The wedding and sheva brachos were like a dream.

But now, four months later, everything feels different. I don’t know what’s wrong. He still looks the same and acts the same, but I don’t feel the same anymore. I used to get so excited just seeing his number flash on my cell phone. Now it just feels regular. I mean, it doesn’t really feel like anything. Sometimes, if I’m on the phone with my sister or my friend, I don’t even want to pick up.

I used to watch the clock waiting for him to come home. I loved cooking all his favorite foods and we would sit over supper for two hours, just schmoozing, and not even realize how late it was. I can’t even remember now what we used to talk about. We still schmooze, but it’s not the same.

I feel terrible talking about my husband this way. Don’t get me wrong. He’s a great guy. He’s not abusive and he doesn’t have bad manners and he treats me well. But I get annoyed with him sometimes, about stupid things. Like he sings totally off-key — which for the first few months I didn’t even notice. Now it drives me crazy. I used to think he was so special, I felt so special. Now everything just seems normal and regular.

It’s not like we’re married for ten years and drowning in work and kids. I’m still a newlywed! I walk around with this pit in my stomach. What happened? Why was it so great in the beginning and why did it end? How can I get back to how things used to be? I’m terrified that I’m going to go through life having to pretend to be happy. I look around at all the young couples and I wonder what I’m doing wrong.

First of all, what you’re experiencing is normal and common. You get married, everything is great, but then a little while after the wedding, one spouse (sometimes him, sometimes her, sometimes both) wakes up one morning and thinks, Help, what’s going on here? Why am I not excited anymore? What’s wrong?

Nothing’s really wrong — with your marriage, or with your spouse. What’s wrong is that you’re confusing infatuation with love.

Until now, you were experiencing infatuation. That flying-high feeling — infatuation. That way you hung on to every word he says — infatuation. That sense that he was perfect and could do no wrong — infatuation. That special feeling — infatuation.

Infatuation is instant. You don’t do anything to cause it. It just happens. You just feel it. But it’s also temporary. It has a shelf life — usually not more than six or maybe twelve months. Then it wears off.

So don’t panic. Nothing’s wrong, you’re totally normal. Infatuation always wears off. It’s not a sign of dysfunction or failure.

But now what? If the “high” is over, are you doomed to “pretend to be happy” forever?

Infatuation is not a quirk in human nature. It’s not a weakness or an immaturity. It’s a tool that Hashem designed to serve a very specific purpose. It gives the couple a head start on the often challenging and intense journey of marriage. It’s like the sulfur on a match — it flares up briefly and then goes out. It’s not supposed to last — it’s supposed to light a fire. Infatuation wasn’t designed to last. It was designed to start things off; then the couple has to work on the real bond of love.

When a couple is infatuated, they think everything is great. He thinks she’s perfect; she idealizes him. Because they feel that way about each other, they each act exactly as they should. He showers her with attention, and she treats him with tremendous respect. This gets them and their marriage off to a great start. They’re both happy (thrilled), they both behave ideally toward each other — and it’s so easy.

What’s the point of infatuation if it’s just going to wear off? It shows the couple what they’re supposed to do. In marriage, a man needs to feel that he has the respect of his wife, and a woman needs to feel that her husband loves her . How does an infatuated couple behave? He showers her with attention, loves talking to her and being with her. She treats him like he can do no wrong, values everything about him, and honors him. When the infatuation inevitably wears off, they have a model for how to behave toward each other. A successful relationship will not leave you “pretending to be happy.” The work of marriage

will yield a deep, meaningful, satisfying, joyous, and loving bond between you and your husband, and the infatuation stage got you started on the right foot.

Right now, you’re experiencing the stage where the infatuation is wearing off, and that frightens you. But it’s totally normal. In fact, it’s not only normal, it’s inevitable. Hashem programmed people to work that way.

Infatuation was the beginning of your relationship. It’s the perfect way for you to begin your connection. But it’s a temporary assist. Now it’s time for you to work on the real bond between the two of you and create a happy, satisfying, enduring love.

This is the Second Really Dumb Mistake that Very Smart Couples Make: They mistake infatuation for love.

But infatuation and love are totally different. Infatuation takes no time, while love takes a lot of time. Infatuation takes no work — you just feel it. Love takes a lot of work — it requires sacrifices, giving to the other, putting your spouse’s needs before your own. And infatuation has a very short shelf life, while love is enduring.

It’s interesting to note that infatuation is not essential to a loving, satisfying relationship. You don’t need it. If you never had it, that doesn’t mean you won’t have a successful marriage. Certainly when infatuation disappears, it doesn’t mean your marriage is doomed. I’ve seen many successful marriages where there was very little (if any) infatuation in the beginning, and the couple went on to build a beautiful bond and a strong, happy marriage. And I’ve seen couples who were head-over-heels, stars-in-their-eyes infatuated, but once the infatuation wore off (often pretty quickly), they did not succeed in creating a real connection. Infatuation is simply not indicative of the future success of the relationship.

People assume that love is infatuation grown up. But that’s not true. Infatuation is a temporary state. In fact, infatuation is measurable: Psychologists can describe the changes that occur in the brain’s neurotransmitters when an individual is in a state of infatuation. Its effect on dopamine and adrenaline are real and measurable. Scientists say that infatuation has an impact on neurochemistry similar to cocaine use.

Quite literally, when you’re in that state of infatuation, you’re “high.”

Hashem wants marriages to succeed, so He created many tools to help a couple bond and connect. Infatuation is one of them — it gives you that initial boost to hit the ground running. Some of the other tools are romance, friendship, and appreciation. These tools are designed to help you create a bond of love and lasting happiness in your marriage.

The letter writer wants things “to go back to how they were,” but when a couple works to create a bond of real love, their marriage will be better and stronger than ever before.

Rabbi Ben Tzion Shafier is the founder of The Shmuz, a transformative Torah platform offering live webinars, podcasts, and shiurim loved worldwide. His latest book, The Ten Really Dumb Mistakes That Very Smart Couples Make, is available on The Shmuz website and in Jewish bookstores. To contact the author email rebbe@theshmuz.com. Originally featured in Mishpacha, Issue 880.

The Lesson of the Almond Tree: Be a Doer, Not a Don’ter!

By Rabbi Hillel Shaps Director, Greater Washington Community Kollel

“Hashkeidia Porachat – the almond tree is blossoming!” Closely associated with the day of Tu Bi’Shevat is the blossoming of the almond tree. Unlike most other trees, the almond tree puts forth its blossoms – from which its fruit eventually grow – before its leaves. It is for this reason that following Korach’s rebellion, when the other tribes challenged Shevet Levi’s right to serve in the Mishkan, Shevet Levi’s distinguished status was affirmed when Aharon Hakohen’s staff blossomed and grew almonds. Rav Samson Raphael Hirsch explains that the almond tree symbolizes an eagerness and zeal to accomplish its goal. While other trees are still “making up their minds,” the almond tree has already acted and put its goal – the production of almonds –at the forefront. Only after it has begun the process of achieving its objective does it produce its leaves, which will help develop and sustain the fruit. This is the trait known as zerizus and was the hallmark of Shevet Levi which distinguished them from the other tribes.

We find two instinctive reactions among people who are presented with an opportunity to do a mitzvah – whether it’s a favor for someone else, getting involved in a community endeavor, a new Torah learning opportunity or something else. Some will reflexively decline. Only after a fair amount of arm-twisting will they begin to reconsider. This group we can call the “Don’ters.” Others will instinctively want to give a “yes.” For them, it is just a matter of figuring out how it could be done. This second group are the “Doers.” They demonstrate the trait of zerizus

The opening halacha in the Shulchan

Aruch (O.C. 1:1) bids a person to “strengthen oneself like a lion to arise in the morning to serve one’s Creator.” From our very first moments of wakefulness, we are called upon to get fired up for the opportunity to serve Hashem – to be people who get things done. How do we cultivate this trait of zerizus within ourselves and ensure that we are amongst the Doers?

If we were to ask the Don’ters why they cannot help or participate, we will certainly hear many valid reasons such as: they don’t have time, they don’t feel comfortable, they are too tired etc…

The Mesilas Yesharim writes, however, that at the root of many of our excuses is a natural sluggishness, an aversion towards exerting ourselves – or to put it in simple terms: difficulty getting off the couch.

The antidote to this sense of heaviness is, as the Mishna in Pirkei Avos (5:20) teaches us, “to be light as an eagle.” Rav Shlomo Wolbe points out that eagles aren’t actually so light – they just have big wings. To feel light, we too need to grow wings. Our wings, says Rav Wolbe, are our sense of joy in life. The more we can engender feelings of appreciation and happiness in our lives, the more energetic we will feel!

Another thing that can hold back the Don’ters from taking on new challenges are feelings of inadequacy. Rav Wolbe notes that the Gemara (Nedarim 36a) contrasts zerizim with shefeilim – lowly ones. It seems

that feelings of lowliness can be the opposite of zerizus. Thoughts like, “What is my help worth?” or “It’s too difficult,” can prevent us from pulling our weight and accowmplishing. To overcome this, we can turn to the same Mishna in Avos that bids us to “be bold like a leopard.” Rashi (Pesachim 112b) explains that the Mishna is instructing us to strengthen ourselves to do a mitzvah even if we don’t feel capable Leopards are opportunistic and when they see a chance for a kill, they are not deterred by the size of the prey. Similarly, we have to take advantage of the opportunities presented to us. If we take the first step, Hashem will give us the tools and strength to see it through.

Finally, the Orchos Tzaddikim writes that if we want to be more accomplished Doers, we have to try to eliminate the distractions in our lives. Hobbies and recreation are important for most people, but we must be calculated about how much we engage in them. If we are involved in too many futile endeavors, we won’t have time for the important things in life. We should be particularly careful about more addictive activities like using social media. Pulling away from these distractions can take great might, which is another calling of the same Mishna: “be mighty as a lion.”

Rav Wolbe points out that the word “ratz – to run” is closely related to the word “ratzon – will” for we run to fulfill that which we desire. May we merit to align our own wills with the will of Hashem so we can “run like deer… to fulfill the will of our Father in Heaven!”

The Art of Home | Interior Design

The Key to Beautiful Design? Trusting the Process

BY AVIVA WAXMAN, SHEVA INTERIORS

“Design is a process," a design mentor encouraged me. I was working, at the time, with a pretty difficult client. We had already searched a couple of showrooms for a particular main component of the project and still had not found a satisfactory choice. To heighten the stress, the client’s self-made deadline was fast approaching, making her slightly anxious and hysterical. After one particularly difficult meeting, I reached out to a veteran interior designer for guidance and she told me this magical phrase; “Design is a process.” I knew this was the answer.

My client was incorrect because “design is a process,” she was waiting to see the results too fast. Design is not, one hour in equals one hour of outcome. In design, you can sometimes spend five hours working on an item or layout and not see progress till many hours later it begins pulling together. The process of design and the time that goes into it is very much part of the progress even though many times it is seems as though the work was useless. To understand, design is much like building a puzzle in random order, you connect a few pieces here and there but the full picture does not take shape until the pieces come together and suddenly you have a large part of the main picture. This phrase became my mantra: “Design is a process." Whenever the client got frustrated, I would respond “design is a process” and then like a budding flower, her project pulled together in a stunning way.

As I write this, I cannot help but see the correlation to the upcoming Chag of Tu Bshvat, the birthday of the trees. Plants and trees have much the same pattern of a seemingly invisible process that one day, as if out of nowhere begins to, literally, bear fruit.

There is great significance in this lesson that applies to so many areas of life. We many times expect to see outcome from our actions, when in reality our actions are another building block for the necessary outcome. So when designing your home, remember: the process is slow and steady and the value is in the process itself. Time builds on itself and with patience, you will eventually see a beautiful culmination of your time in your beautiful new space.

Aviva Waxman is the owner of Sheva Interiors, an interior design firm covering Maryland and DC. Aviva loves to work with her clients to bring out their style in a contemporary and You-nique way. She can be reached at shevainteriors@gmail.com

An Evening of Hope: Greater Washington's Mission to Bring New Life

Join Bonei Olam in Supporting Local Couples on Their Fertility Journey

On February 23, 2025, Bonei Olam of Greater Washington will, IY”H, host its annual fundraiser, An Evening Out, an event dedicated to supporting the Greater Washington Bonei Olam chapter. It will take place at Kemp Mill Synagogue starting at 7 p.m.

The evening will feature addresses by Rebbetzin Atara Rosenbaum, Rebbetzin of YI Shomrei Emunah and a noted educator, and Rebbetzin Estee Silver, Rebbetzin of YI of Long Beach, a former assistant Rebbetzin at YI Shomrei Emunah, and a fertility nurse and educator. The program will include a video presentation by Dr. Nathan Fox, a Maternal-Fetal Medicine specialist in NYC. Guests will also enjoy a lavish fleishig buffet catered by The Knish Shop, including various food stations. Additionally, there will be a Chinese Auction featuring fabulous prizes, exclusively available at the event. This event is more than just a fundraiser; it is an opportunity to plant seeds of hope for families yearning to grow their worlds. Every dollar contributed is a step toward building homes filled with laughter and love.

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provides some support for the February 23 event, all funds raised will be specifically earmarked for the Greater Washington chapter (GW) to assist local couples with fertility treatments.

Fruits of Your Support

At the time of last year’s Bonei Olam Greater Washington event on April 4, 13 couples were in the pipeline seeking assistance, each of them holding on to hope for a brighter future. These families faced emotional and financial hurdles that seemed insurmountable, but through the support of the Greater Washington chapter, they found a pathway forward. Over the past 12 months, the impact of this support has been remarkable: five beautiful babies were born to couples in the Greater Washington area, bringing immeasurable joy to their families and communities. Additionally, 19 couples received much-needed financial funding, allowing them to pursue fertility treatments without the crippling worry of how to cover the costs. Beyond financial aid, 27 couples were provided with counseling and guidance, offering emotional support and expert advice to navigate the often-complicated journey of infertility treatments.

has been an investment in creating new lives and transforming dreams of parenthood into realities. Behind every number is a story of perseverance, compassion, and the power of coming together to make miracles happen.

Bonei Olam was founded in 1999 in Brooklyn, NY, to assist couples struggling with infertility and the extensive costs of fertility treatments. Since then, the organization has expanded to 27 chapters across six countries. Each local chapter operates independently and fundraises for its own community. While the parent organization, based in Lakewood,

Over the last five years, the total spending to assist Greater Washington couples has steadily increased, reflecting both the growing need and the community’s determination to address it. This rise in financial commitment is a testament to the chapter’s dedication to helping families plant seeds of hope and build worlds of their own. Every dollar raised

Our fundraising goal last year was $100,000, but we fell short. This year, we aim to surpass that target to ensure no couple has to remain on a waiting list while funds are secured. Please help us achieve this goal!

Donations can be made online at www. boneiolam.org/greaterwashington or via check sent to 11501 Daffodil Lane, Silver Spring, MD 20902.

Why Support Is Critical for Families in Need

Infertility is a challenging diagnosis, but thanks to advances in modern science and medicine, couples now have options that were unimaginable

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Financial funding provided for provided with counseling and guidance $ 5 $167,358 19 families

27 couples

just a few decades ago. The journey, however, is often fraught with emotional, physical, and financial challenges that can feel overwhelming. The high cost of fertility treatments— ranging from $15,000 to $35,000 per cycle—places an enormous financial strain on couples desperate to start their families. These treatments often require multiple attempts, with no guarantees of success, and insurance coverage for such procedures is minimal or nonexistent. As a result, many couples find themselves spending tens of thousands of dollars, exhausting their savings, and facing heartbreaking decisions about whether they can continue pursuing their dreams of parenthood.

only plants seeds of hope but also nurtures them into flourishing families. Each child born is a testament to the power of community support and the miracles that can be achieved when financial burdens are lifted. Their work transforms heartbreak into happiness, turning despair into opportunities to create new beginnings. With every baby born, Bonei Olam builds a brighter future, one family at a time.

Be a Part of the Miracle on February 23, 2025

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Bonei Olam’s mission is to ensure that no couple is deprived of the chance to build their own world due to financial constraints. Established with the goal of removing these barriers, Bonei Olam has become a beacon of hope for families across the globe. With G-d’s help, over 13,000 precious babies have been born through the organization’s assistance, each one representing a world of potential and joy. By providing funding for costly medical procedures, medications, and consultations with top specialists, Bonei Olam empowers couples to take the next step in their journey.

Through their efforts, Bonei Olam not

Please join us for an inspiring and enjoyable evening to learn more about Bonei Olam’s work and support this vital cause. Together, we can help plant seeds of hope and build worlds for couples yearning to create families. If you’d like to assist with spreading the word or fundraising, contact Aliza Mervis at 917-783-2493 or aliza320@ gmail.com.

As a reminder, donations can be made at www.boneiolam.org/ greaterwashington.

Your support makes miracles possible, and we look forward to seeing you on February 23!

BRIEFING THE

Israel’s High-Tech New Breed of Security: Robotic Dogs Step

into the Battlefield

Israel is deploying robotic dogs similar to those used by the U.S. military (Q-UGV) and U.S. Secret Service agents who protect presidents. These high-tech canines replace traditional

units for tasks like intelligence gathering, detecting explosives, and protecting troops on the battlefield. A game-changer in defense strategy. Another W for Israel, that’s for sure.

Fake Inspection Stickers Flood

Philadelphia: Link to International Shipping Raises Red Flags for DC-Area Drivers

The U.S. Customs and Border Protection agency has seized more than 20,000 counterfeit Pennsylvania vehicle inspection stickers. These fraudulent stickers were shipped from Israel to an address in Philadelphia.

Stories Worth Sharing: Washington's Page-Turners of the Month

Bite-Sized Parenting: The Go-To Guide for Busy

New Parents

Sharon Mazel’s Bite-Sized Parenting is the ultimate sanity-saver for new parents. Packed with colorful infographics and no-nonsense, science-backed advice, this book breaks down baby’s first year into easy-to-digest tips and strategies. Whether you need quick answers or a deeper dive, Mazel’s month-by-month guide is here to help you navigate parenthood with confidence and calm. Perfect for anyone short on time but big on wanting the best for their little one!

When Presidents and CEOs Collide: A Fascinating Look

at Power Struggles

Have you ever wondered what happens when a U.S. president locks horns with a CEO? Tevi Troy takes you behind the scenes to reveal the dramatic—and sometimes surprising—battles that have defined American history. With untold stories and sharp analysis, this book is a must-read for anyone who loves history, politics, or just a great story.

The Four Elements of Inner Freedom: The Exodus story as a model for overcoming challenges and acheiving personal breakthroughs

Rabbi Shlomo Buxbaum’s The Four Elements of Inner Freedom offers an inspiring journey through the Exodus story, reimagined as a personal roadmap for growth and transformation. This book isn’t just a retelling of our history; it’s a guide to breaking through inner barriers and unlocking potential. Drawing from Torah teachings, Kabbalistic wisdom, and psychology, Rabbi Buxbaum combines practical advice with deep spiritual insights, inviting readers to reflect on their own inner “Egypt” and take the first steps toward freedom. His warm, accessible style makes this book both enlightening and deeply relatable.

The Red Envelope Pizza

Jackpot: Ben Yehuda’s Annual January Giveaway - Free Pizza for a Year?

Ben Yehuda Pizza owner Josh Katz holds up the coveted annual red raffle envelope, which could contain a winning ticket earning you free pizza for an entire year! In his other hand is a custom-made Ben Yehuda Travel Tumbler, a prize for another lucky winner. The tumbler comes with an extra perk: free fountain sodas, coffee, and hot cocoa for the entire year!

Starting in late November, hundreds of these red envelopes were distributed to customers spending over $25, creating a buzz that has the entire community on their toes. The rules are simple yet thrilling: keep the envelope sealed and bring it to the store between January 1 and January 31 to open it and see if you’ve won. The first-place prize? One free pizza every week for a year!

Here’s a fun and inspiring twist: last year’s winner of the free pizza donated their entire prize to charity, spreading joy far beyond the walls of Ben Yehuda Pizza. This annual raffle not only delights pizza lovers but also showcases the spirit of generosity in the community.

Baltimore’s $1.9B Water System

Overhaul: What You Need to Know

Baltimore’s Department of Public Works has proposed a three-year utility rate hike starting February 1, 2025, to fund critical infrastructure improvements. Water bills could rise by 9.66%, with additional increases of 8.4% in 2026 and 2027. The $1.9 billion plan includes replacing water mains, reducing sewer overflows, and addressing inflationdriven costs. Seems like change and an increased water bill is on the horizon, aimed at a stronger, more reliable water system for Baltimore.

Seatbelt Alerts for Rear

Passengers Coming in 2027

SGrand Auction Babysitting Available In loving memory of Adel Raizel Bat Avraham Dovid 9:30am to 12:00pm

tarting September 2027, all new U.S. passenger vehicles must alert passengers if rear seatbelts aren’t buckled. The rule, finalized by the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration, also requires enhanced warnings for unfastened front seatbelts. This life-saving measure is expected to prevent 50 fatalities and 500 injuries annually—a major step toward safer roads.

A Community Evening of Growth

Kehillas Shaar Simcha, a vibrant and growing new initiative to bring lively song-filled programs and Tefilos to Kemp Mill, hosted a special shiur and kumzits with Rabbi Michoel Frank of Ohr HaTorah. Rabbi Frank shared inspiring insights in preparation for Asara B’Teves, and Rabbi Shlomo Buxbaum led the group in heartfelt song. The evening exemplified the warmth and depth that Kehillas Shar Simcha brings to the community, blending spiritual growth with friendship and music.

A Humble Legacy

When asked about his greatest accomplishment, Rabbi Hershel Schachter humbly replied, “I’m just a link in the chain.”

“I never felt my purpose was to achieve something extraordinary. I see myself simply as a link in a greater chain, עושוהיל

לבק השמ and for that, I feel satisfied. Baruch Hashem, I have nine children—all Shomrei Shabbos and Shomrei Mitzvos, some of them more than others, some more into Kodesh than the others. I’ve had the privilege of teaching talmidim and, most importantly, ensuring I didn’t break the chain. We should all strive to be mamshich the mesorah to the next generation.”

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• Shalom Kosher

• Moti’s Market

• Southeast Hebrew Congregation

• Woodside Synagogue

• Kemp Mill Synagogue (outdoor bin)

• Young Israel Shomrai Emunah

• Beth Sholom Congregation

• Capital Kosher Pantry

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Silver Spring, MD 20901

IKEA To Bring Innovative ‘Plan & Order’ Store to Hunt Valley, MD

IKEA is shaking things up in Hunt Valley this summer with its new 2,000-square-foot ‘plan & order’ store at the Towne Center. This innovative concept lets shoppers design their dream rooms with help from IKEA employees and order furniture for delivery or pickup. Doubling as a hub for online order pickups, it promises unmatched convenience for local customers.

This is IKEA’s third Maryland location to embrace the ‘plan & order’ model, joining Annapolis and Gaithersburg. With Hunt Valley’s shopping center undergoing a major transformation, including new dining spots like Honeygrow and CAVA, this addition is sure to attract design-savvy locals.

Red No. 3 Gets the Boot

The FDA has officially banned Red No. 3, a notorious artificial food dye that’s been linked to cancer. Despite its bright appeal, this coloring has quietly lingered in countless products like candies, cereals, and even cold medicines. Finally, it’s getting the axe, bringing a sigh of relief to health-conscious advocates who’ve campaigned for years to see it gone.

TikTok Takes a Stand Against Hate Speech

TikTok has begun cracking down on hateful comments targeting Jews, including phrases like “Free Palestine,” labeling them as violations of its community guidelines. This bold move seems to align with U.S. values and could be part of a larger strategy to combat online toxicity while courting a potential American buyer. Whether it’s a genuine push for a safer platform or savvy business positioning, TikTok’s actions are sparking heated debates across the internet.

CNN Chief Calls for Open Minds During Trump Coverage

CNN’s new boss, Mark Thompson, is calling for a shift in tone, urging top anchors like Jake Tapper and Anderson Cooper to set aside personal outrage and avoid ‘pre-judging’ President-elect Trump. With the focus on his second term, Thompson is challenging his team to approach the inauguration with professionalism and an open mind, signaling a fresh perspective for the network’s coverage.

The World is On the Move Again: International Travel Soars Back to Life in 2024

In 2024, the world packed its bags and rediscovered its wanderlust, with over 1.4 billion people traveling internationally—almost reaching the bustling pre-Covid days of 2019. Tourists didn’t hold back, spending a whopping $1.9 trillion, averaging $1,000 per person. Europe stood strong as the ultimate getaway, welcoming 747 million visitors despite ongoing challenges like the war in Ukraine. Unsurprisingly, France reigned supreme, charming 100 million tourists with its iconic romance, culture, and cuisine. The world is traveling again, and the journey is just getting started!

A Presidential Cheers

Trump received the first-ever Presidential Commemorative Inaugural Diet Coke bottle from the Chairman and CEO of Coca-Cola Company, James Quincey. A unique toast to history in a bottle!

Innovating Healthcare for Klal Yisroel

Washington Jewish Journal had a conversation with Rabbi Moishe Katz, the dedicated and visionary CEO of United Refuah, about his inspiring journey, his commitment to Klal Yisroel, and his passion for revolutionizing healthcare through a community-driven model. As healthcare challenges grow increasingly complex, United Refuah presents a bold reimagining of what it means to care for one another, both physically and spiritually. This model not only exemplifies Jewish ideals but also has the potential to serve as a template for other faith-based or values-driven communities striving for sustainable, community-oriented solutions.

Rabbi Katz, thank you for you time. To dive right in, how does United Refuah compare to regular health insurance?

Moishe Katz: It’s essential to clarify the difference between insurance and health sharing.

A health-sharing group is a group of people with shared religious beliefs coming together to share medical expenses under a non-profit framework. Unlike insurance companies, which are designed to generate profit for stakeholders by managing policyholder expenses, health-sharing groups focus on helping members manage health-care costs collaboratively.

Our goal as a non-profit health-sharing ministry is to focus on health outcomes, ensuring members access the best care without restricting them to networks or providers. Members can use any doctor or hospital worldwide. At the same time, we strive to make costs affordable—both membership fees and the costs of care.

How do you maintain affordability and flexibility while managing costs?

We rely on industry benchmarks to determine fair pricing for medical services. We often look at Medicare’s rates for a service in a given area and allow up to 50% more than that amount. For instance, if Medicare would pay $200 for a service, we’ll allow up to $300. If the bill is within $300, it’s eligible for sharing, though there may still be some member responsibility.

If the bill exceeds that threshold—say $350 for a $200 Medicare service—the additional $50

becomes the member’s responsibility. However, we don’t have network restrictions, which allows members full flexibility in choosing providers.

Beyond cost management, our values of sharing and caring define our approach. When members call, they speak to someone who truly cares about them. Our team continuously improves the program based on member feedback, not profit goals.

Can you give examples of how the program has evolved?

Absolutely. When we started, there was no sharing for dental expenses because dental care is often separate. About three years ago, we introduced dental credits, allowing members to submit three dental visits per year, with $50 covered per visit.

After a year, we saw that dental costs were significantly higher, so we doubled the credits to $100 per visit. For a family of six, that’s up to $1,800 in dental credits annually.

Another example is mental health. Initially, we limited coverage to 10 visits, but we realized it wasn’t sufficient for many members. We raised it to 12 visits. Similarly, for screening mammograms, we increased coverage from $250 to $300, ensuring it’s not subject to pre-share costs (similar to deductibles).

Our goal isn’t to cut services but to add value by addressing real needs.

What distinguishes United Refuah from insurance companies?

The primary difference lies in purpose and structure. Insurance companies are for-profit entities required by law to promise payment based on issued policies. Health-sharing groups, like United Refuah, don’t promise to pay. Instead, funds come from members’ monthly contributions, which are used to pay medical expenses.

We ensure financial stability by maintaining a buffer. Since we began, only 51% of the money collected has been used for medical expenses and overhead. The remainder stays in the share fund, which belongs to the members.

How do members perceive the program?

Many members find the program valuable. For example, I recently met a high-volume health insurance broker who proudly introduced himself as a United Refuah member. He explained that he doesn’t use the insurance he sells—he prefers United Refuah because it’s more affordable, flexible, and meets his family’s needs!

In fact, I can name three health insurance brokers who use United Refuah for their families. We also have doctors, lawyers, accountants, and other professionals as members. It’s a testament to the program’s appeal.

We’re not insurance, and we’re transparent about that. The government allows us to exist as a healthsharing ministry because they recognize the importance of communities supporting one another.

Features Leaders of Faith and Family

A WJJ Conversation with Dr. Ira and Lizzy Savetsky

BY DOVIE NEUBERGER

Dovie Neuberger: Lizzy and Ira Savetsky, thank you so much for joining us on the Washington Jewish Journal Podcast. It’s truly an honor to have you both here! For those who may not already know, Lizzy, you’re a powerhouse influencer, activist, and advocate for the Jewish community. Ira, you’re a highly respected plastic surgeon who has gone above and beyond—not only excelling in your day-to-day work but also dedicating your skills to the Jewish people. Most recently, after the tragic events of October 7, you provided free surgeries to IDF soldiers, wounded Israelis, and dozens of victims of antisemitic attacks. The impact of that work speaks volumes about your values and commitment. Together, you’ve built an inspiring life that merges creativity, tradition, and a deep sense of purpose. I’m so excited to dive into your story. Let’s start at the very beginning: Can you take us back to how you first met and what that moment was like for each of you?

Lizzy Savetsky: (Smiling) The first thing I ever said to Ira was, “Can you take a picture of me and my friends?” And now, 15 years later—

Dr. Ira Savetsky: I’m still taking pictures. I was the OG Insta husband. I’ve been doing this since circa 2005.

Dovie Neuberger: That’s incredible. Let’s rewind a bit—what were your first impressions of each other?

Ira: Honestly, she was like a foreign person to me. I was like, “Who is this?” She had headshots of herself on her fridge, you know, like something you’d expect Donald Trump to have on his desk. But she was so interesting— definitely not the typical “five talents” girl I was used to hanging out with. And then she had this digital camera and was constantly taking pictures. Facebook was the thing back then, and she would post these huge albums from every night out.

Lizzy: (Laughing) I was definitely ahead of the Instagram curve!

Dovie: Ira, would you say meeting Lizzy made you confront things you’d been doing on autopilot?

Ira: Absolutely. It made me question a lot about myself—my values, my approach to relationships. There were two cultural separations: one was religious, and the other was geographical. Southern versus New Yorker. It really came to a head when we were planning our wedding.

Dovie: What made that so challenging?

Lizzy: (Laughing) Don’t even bring it up—I have PTSD from that time.

Ira : It was the hardest time in our relationship. My family is traditional Orthodox from New York, and her family is Southern and not observant. Managing those differences was tough.

Dovie: How did you get through it?

Lizzy: Open-mindedness and a lot of

communication. At the end of the day, we focused on what really mattered: building a meaningful life together.

Dovie: Lizzy, when you first met Ira, were you thinking about marriage?

Lizzy: Not at all. I was 19, and I had tunnel vision on my singing career. I wanted to be a famous singer and was performing everywhere. When Ira called and left me a voicemail asking me out for coffee, I didn’t call back. I found out he was studying for his MCATs, lived at home with his parents on Long Island, and was Orthodox. I just wasn’t in that mindset. But I always had a positive impression of him.

Dovie : And yet, here you are. What clicked?

Lizzy: That’s for Part 2. (Smiling) You’ll have to wait to hear the rest.

Stay tuned for Part 2 of this interview, where Lizzy and Ira share more about their relationship, their journey, and the lessons they’ve learned along the way.

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Pinny for Your Thoughts

Insights from Pinny Roth, LCSW-C on Love, Connection, and Mental Wellness

BY PINNY ROTH, LCSW-C

Dear Pinny,

I’ve noticed a pattern in my marriage where my husband seems to shut down whenever our conversations start to touch on deeper, more emotional topics. It feels like he’s uncomfortable exploring these things, and I end up feeling alone and frustrated that I’m carrying the emotional weight for both of us. I don’t want to push too hard and make him feel attacked, but I also don’t want to keep avoiding important conversations that could bring us closer. He is not presently open to seeing a therapist. How can I create a space where we can explore these deeper issues without overwhelming my husband or causing him to shutdown?

Sincerely,

Dear HW,

Thank you for sharing your personal question—it’s a brave step, and I admire your willingness to seek insight into your relationship. I want to highlight two reasons why you are already starting at an advantage compared to many couples and therefore can feel hopeful:

1. You are connecting dots and noticing patterns in your relationship. Recognizing recurring dynamics is the first step toward understanding the primary emotions driving those patterns. Awareness lays the groundwork for meaningful change.

A2. You are sensitive to your husband’s emotional experience and take accountability for how your actions may impact him. This shows not only emotional maturity but also a genuine commitment to your relationship.

The good news is, you’re addressing a dynamic that’s incredibly common between partners with different levels of comfort around emotional

Qvulnerability. It sounds like your husband may fall into the role of a “withdrawer.” Withdrawers often retreat from emotional discomfort out of a need for safety, not because they don’t care. I like to call this “turtling” because, just like a turtle withdraws into its shell, your spouse might be protecting himself from what feels overwhelming or uncertain.

The ABCS of Attachment

All humans—yes, even those who turtle!—are wired to seek out four key elements in relationships. (NOTE TO PARENTS: Your children and teenagers are seeking these ABCS from you, as well!)

• Acceptance Being embraced as you are, without judgment or conditions. Example: You share with your partner that you’re feeling overwhelmed and frustrated after a tough day at work. Instead of your partner saying, “Why do you always let little things get to you?” they respond with, “That sounds so hard. I’m sorry you had such a

rough day. Is there anything I can do to help?” In this moment, they are accepting your feelings without criticism or trying to change how you feel.

• Belonging Feeling like an important and integral part of the relationship team. Example: During a family gathering, your partner includes you in decisions like where to sit or what to serve. They say, “Hey, can you help me pick out the snacks? You’re the best at this.” These actions show that you’re not just there—you’re an essential part of the team.

• Comfort Finding reassurance and soothing in times of stress or uncertainty. Example: After you receive difficult news, you turn to your partner, and they give you a hug or hold your hand. They say, “I’m here for you. You don’t have to go through this alone,” or offer to handle something small, like cooking dinner, to lighten your load. Their presence and actions provide a sense of calm and reassurance during a tough moment.

• Safety Feeling secure enough to express vulnerability without fear of rejection or criticism. Example: You confess a mistake, such as forgetting to pay a bill or messing up at work, and your partner responds with, “It’s okay— we all make mistakes. What can we do to fix it?” rather than reacting with anger or blame. This response creates a space where you feel safe sharing your fears or imperfections, knowing they won’t lead to conflict or shame.

Keeping these in mind, here are practical ways to slowly (and gently!) help foster deeper connection and openness in your relationship:

1. Start Small and Safe

Imagine your conversations like tandem scuba diving into the sea of emotion. You trust your oxygen tank and are willing to risk diving deep, but your partner does not even feel safe snorkeling yet! Instead of diving into intense emotional topics right away, try starting with less charged subjects where he feels more at ease. For example, talk about a shared memory or something light that connects you. Over time, these small “safe” conversations can build trust and pave the way for deeper discussions.

2. Use Curiosity, Not Criticism

Approach your husband with genuine curiosity about his inner world, rather than frustration over his withdrawal. For instance, instead of saying, “You never open up to me,” try, “I notice you get quiet when we talk about certain things. Can you help me understand what’s going on for you in those moments?” This invites dialogue without putting him on the defensive.

3. Validate and Reassure

When he does open up—whether it’s a single sentence or a heartfelt confession—validate his feelings, even if they’re difficult to hear. You might say, “(Sigh)Wow, that sounds really hard. I don’t know what to say. I’m just really glad you shared it with me.” Let him know that you’re a safe space.

4. Focus on the Present Moment

Instead of dwelling on why he withdraws or trying to fix it immediately, pay attention to what’s happening in the here and now. For example, if you sense he’s pulling away during a conversation, you might say, “I feel like you’re shutting down right now, and I want to make sure I’m not overwhelming you. Is this a good time to talk, or would you like to revisit this later?” This lets him know you notice his needs while still expressing your own.

5. Celebrate Small Wins

Every small moment of vulnerability or connection is worth celebrating. For example, if he shares even a minor thought or asks for your guidance thereby expressing a level of dependence on you, acknowledge it warmly: “That means alot much to me—thank you for letting me in.” These affirmations encourage him to continue opening up over time.

Always keep in mind that deepening emotional connection is a process that requires patience and persistence. It’s like tending a garden: with consistent care, even the smallest seeds of openness can bloom into something beautiful. Knowing this will help keep you motivated during the many setbacks that are bound to occur!

Warmly,

Pinny Roth, LCSW-C

A Dozen Delights: The 12 Best Kosher Certified Products of the Last Few Years

Celebrating Innovation, Tradition, and Flavor in the Kosher World

By ILAN COHEN

1. Skittles Littles (2024)

Candy lovers rejoiced when Skittles Littles Original received official kosher certification from the Orthodox Union in 2024. While some imported Skittles varieties had previously been kosher, this marked the first official certification in the U.S., making it a momentous occasion. An OU spokesperson confirmed that Skittles Littles Original, whether in bags or tubes, are kosher even without the OU symbol printed on the packaging. However, the absence of the OU symbol on these certified products raises significant questions about transparency and consumer trust. Why hasn’t Skittles chosen to include the certification symbol, despite meeting all requirements? Regardless, the colorful, fruity candies are now a guilt-free treat for kosher consumers, adding a sweet burst of joy to every bite.

2. Tate’s Tiny Chocolate Chip Cookies (2024)

3. Unreal Chocolate Covered Pretzels & Almonds (2024)

Unreal Snacks continues to push the boundaries of healthy snacking with its latest offerings: chocolate-covered pretzels and almonds. Debuting in March 2024, these treats cater to various dietary needs, being grainfree, gluten-free, and certified vegan. The milk and dark chocolate pretzels deliver a satisfying crunch, while the dark chocolate and dark chocolate coconut almonds are a creamy, nutty delight. Perfect for guilt-free indulgence, these snacks are available online and at Whole Foods, offering a sweet escape for chocolate lovers who want to keep it kosher and health-conscious.

4. Yasso Frozen Fruit Bars (2024)

Yasso, known for its creamy frozen Greek yogurt, took a refreshing turn in 2024 with the launch of three frozen fruit bar flavors. Strawberry Chocolate Crunch, Strawberries & Cream, and Creamy Mango Bars deliver a delightful balance of fruity sweetness and indulgent textures. Made with real fruit, these bars are a healthier dessert option that doesn’t compromise on flavor. Whether you’re cooling down on a summer day or enjoying a light treat after dinner, Yasso’s fruit bars are a vibrant addition to any kosher freezer.

Tate’s Bake Shop charmed cookie fans in 2024 with the introduction of Tiny Tate’s, a miniature version of their classic cookies. Available in chocolate chip and snickerdoodle flavors, these bite-sized treats come in resealable bags for snacking convenience. Their crisp, buttery texture makes them perfect for a quick indulgence or sharing at social gatherings. Alongside these, Tate’s also launched full-sized snickerdoodle cookies and salted caramel chocolate chip varieties, expanding their already delectable lineup. Widely available at major retailers, these cookies are the ultimate combination of taste and portability for on-the-go lifestyles.

5. Dove Milk Chocolate Tiramisu Promises (2024)

Dove Chocolate elevated its Promises line in 2024 with a luxurious twist: Milk Chocolate Tiramisu Caramel Promises. These decadent morsels feature a tiramisu-flavored caramel center, combining rich coffee, creamy chocolate, and luscious caramel in perfect harmony. Packaged in stand-up pouches, they’re ideal for gifting or savoring one piece at a time. Dove’s commitment to crafting indulgent, high-quality treats shines through in this koshercertified offering, bringing a taste of Italy to your candy bowl.

6. Impossible Burger (Certified in 2018)

10. Blue Diamond Almonds (2019)

Though certified kosher in 2018, the Impossible Burger continues to make waves as a trailblazer in plant-based eating. Its meaty texture and savory flavor have won over vegetarians, vegans, and even meat lovers. Perfect for grilling, sautéing, or crumbling into dishes, it’s a versatile option for creating classic comfort foods with a modern twist. Certified by the OU, this burger aligns with kosher dietary laws while catering to environmentally conscious eaters. Whether served as a burger or as part of a creative dish, the Impossible Burger remains a groundbreaking choice in kosher-friendly dining.

7. Tic Tac Breath Mints (Certified in 2018)

Tic Tac, the iconic breath mint brand, became officially kosher-certified in 2018, delighting fans of the tiny treats. With their signature snapopen containers, these mints bring freshness in a portable and playful package. Available in classic flavors like Freshmint and Orange, as well as limited-edition varieties, Tic Tacs are perfect for keeping in your pocket or bag. Their small size and big flavor make them an ideal companion for everyday life. As a kosher-certified product, they’re a staple that’s as practical as it is refreshing.

8. Gatorade (2010)

In 2010, Gatorade made history by announcing that several of its products had been certified kosher by the Orthodox Union. This milestone brought an iconic sports drink into the kosher market, ensuring athletes and fitness enthusiasts could hydrate with confidence. Known for replenishing electrolytes and fueling performance, Gatorade continues to be a trusted name in sports nutrition. Its kosher-certified options cater to a wide audience, blending practicality with a commitment to dietary inclusivity. Whether on the field or at the gym, Gatorade’s kosher line has become a staple for active lifestyles.

9. Bob’s Red Mill (2017)

In 2019, Blue Diamond Almonds entered the kosher market, offering its beloved almonds with certification to meet kosher dietary standards. From lightly salted and roasted varieties to bold flavors like Wasabi & Soy Sauce, their almond snacks cater to every palate. Known for their health benefits, almonds are a great source of protein, healthy fats, and energy, making these snacks perfect for on-the-go munching. Blue Diamond’s kosher-certified line ensures that their products maintain the highest quality while adhering to dietary requirements. Whether snacking solo or sharing with friends, Blue Diamond Almonds are a delicious and nutritious choice.

11. Reese’s Baking Mixes (2024)

Reese’s, synonymous with the perfect pairing of peanut butter and chocolate, entered the baking aisle in 2024 with three irresistible mixes. The Reese’s Lava Cake Mix, Peanut Butter Muffin Mix, and No-Bake Bars Mix bring the brand’s signature flavors into your kitchen. Whether you’re whipping up a decadent dessert or a quick snack, these mixes deliver the unmistakable Reese’s taste with minimal effort. With two permanent additions and a limited-time lava cake offering, these kosher-certified mixes are a must-try for fans of sweet, peanut butter-infused creations.

12. Dave’s Killer Bread Rock ‘N’ Rolls (2024)

Known for its organic and wholesome breads, Dave’s Killer Bread introduced its first-ever nationally available rolls in 2024: Rock ‘N’ Rolls. These soft, flavorful rolls are USDA organic, nonGMO, and free from artificial ingredients, making them a standout choice for health-conscious consumers. Perfect for sandwiches, burgers, or dinner rolls, they bring a hearty, nutritious twist to any meal. With their signature bold flavors, Dave’s Killer Bread continues to rock the bread aisle while staying true to its kosher-friendly roots.

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The Value of You: Walking Humbly with Confidence

Exploring Self-Worth in Jewish Tradition

ABY DAVID PELCOVITZ, PH.D

ny discussion of the Jewish approach to instilling a positive self-concept in children must first deal with an obvious question. How does one reconcile the strong emphasis that Jewish tradition puts on humility and modesty with the emphasis that psychology places on enhancing a child’s self-worth and importance? The following Talmudic passage is but one of many examples of the emphasis placed by our Sages on the importance of humility: Rava said, “ It [the Torah] is not in the heavens ” (Deuteronomy ) 30:12) …neither will it be found in one who believes his mind is as broad as the ocean — it [the Torah] is not to be found with the person who, because of some level of Torah knowledge, is overly expansive in his selfesteem as the sea. R’ Yochanan said: “It is not in heaven” — it [the Torah] is not to be found among the arrogant ( Eiruvin 55a).

passage: Our Rabbis taught: He who eats in the marketplace is like a dog; and some say that he is unfit to testify ( Kiddushin 40b). Expounding on this Talmudic passage, the Rambam says that we can’t accept the testimony of an individual who doesn’t respect himself. Rav Aharon asks, “Why nullify the testimony of somebody who eats publicly? What does self-respect have to do with honesty?” He explains that the greatest deterrent to falsehood lies in asking oneself, How can I do such a thing? Without respect for oneself, one is not able to have proper respect for others. Such an individual can’t be trusted to testify truthfully.

An episode that illustrates this point was told about a father who was concerned about the level of religious observance that his son would adhere to while attending graduate school away from his family and the intense Jewish environment in which he had been raised. He decided to bring his son to a rabbi for whom he had high regard to get a blessing before he left for the university. After giving the blessing the rabbi said that he would also like to give him advice on how to resist the temptations of living in a totally secular environment.

In fact, the Talmud in Sukkah (29b) explains: The sin of arrogance is equivalent to all [the others]; in contrast, regarding the humble it says: “But the humble shall inherit the earth” (Psalms 37:11).

Rabbi Aharon Kotler, zt”l (of blessed memory), stresses the crucial importance of recognizing one’s self-worth. In Mishnas Rav Aharon (Volume One, p. 151), he explains that the essence of an individual’s identity is based on his ability to recognize his importance. We learn this, Rav Aharon explains, from the following Talmudic

Expecting advice that the university student should establish a relationship with a local rabbi who would be his teacher and mentor, the father and son were surprised when the rabbi suggested that he seek out a younger person to whom he would teach Torah. The rabbi explained that being a role model for somebody else would serve as an

even greater motivator in keeping him loyal to Torah. If tempted to associate with the wrong friends and participate in unseemly activities, the graduate student would be restrained because he would be fearful that his student might see him and thereby lose respect for his teacher.

The Talmud in Sanhedrin (37a), marveling on the uniqueness of each individual, comments: If a man mints many coins from one mold, they all resemble one another, but the supreme King of kings, the Holy One, Blessed is He, minted every man in the stamp of the first man, and yet not one of them resembles his fellowman. Therefore every single person is obliged to say, “The world was created for my sake.”

The obvious question regarding this statement is how one reconciles this with the necessity to be humble as typified by Abraham who said, “I am but dust and ashes” ( Genesis 18:27 ).

In a well-known statement regarding reconciling the seeming contradiction between these two apparently competing imperatives, Rav Simcha Bunim from Peshischa suggested that everybody needs to have two pockets that should be dipped into as needed: One pocket should contain the phrase, “The world was created for my sake,” and the other should have the words, “I am but dust and ashes.” The ideal balance in achieving an appropriate self-image is attained when individuals are able to reach into the appropriate pocket depending on the demands of the situation ( Simchas Yisrael, Mamorei Simcha , Section 12).

Rabbi Shraga Feivel Mendlowitz, commenting on this insight of Rav Simcha Bunim, noted that people often reach into the wrong pocket at the wrong time. For example, when a person feels that he has been slighted by being given an honor in shul that he feels is beneath him, he reaches into the “The world was created for my sake” pocket and is inappropriately hurt and angry. When approached to do something for the community, however, he goes into the “I am but dust and ashes” pocket, claiming a false and misplaced sentiment that he isn’t up to the job.

In an age of indulgence and entitlement it is important for parents to note the

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context in which the Talmud discusses the concept of “The world was created for my sake.” The mishnah in Sanhedrin (37a) discusses this view of man in the context of a witness’s responsibility to testify reliably and honestly. In an attempt to instill a sense of awe about a witness’s responsibility in a capital case, the mishnah highlights the unique sanctity of each individual. The intention of teaching the concept of “The world was created for my sake” is, therefore, not to impart a sense of entitlement, but rather, to teach one’s responsibility to others.

Parental Role

Parents play a central role in the development of a child’s self-esteem. They play a pivotal part in the following factors that have been found to influence a child’s self-concept:

1. A respectful, accepting attitude that children receive from others, particularly parents, is a key building block of a healthy sense of self. Repeatedly, studies have found that parents who provide a home that provides warmth, clear expectations, consistency and appropriate modeling are likely to raise children who experience high levels of self-esteem.

2. The child’s history of success and the resulting status that this earns the youngster at school and at home is another key force shaping a child’s view of himself. A child’s self-esteem is largely the result of the mirrors held back to him by family members, teachers and peers. A high level of selfesteem is likely when the reflected appraisals of others are positive.

3. How a child defines success or failure, as well as his general attitude toward negative feedback, is another important influence. This dynamic is shaped by both temperament and how the child is parented.

In addition to the forces that shape self-esteem, it is helpful to keep in mind that a child’s self-concept is not a monolithic concept. Psychologists describe the following dimensions that comprise self-esteem:

1. Academic competence: How “smart” a child feels himself to be relative to his peers. Since

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intelligence is made up of multiple domains, it is possible to feel that one shines in one area of intelligence and is relatively weak in another. For example, a child who is a brilliant writer may feel “dumb” if he has difficulty with math. This domain of self-concept is particularly important for Jewish children, who typically live in an environment that emphasizes academic skills above most other assets.

2. Physical Appearance: This is a particularly important source of self-esteem for girls. In a shidduch climate that often places inordinate emphasis on a girl’s weight and general appearance, physical selfconcept can be a major contributor to a girl’s overall sense of worth. Research has shown that having a poor physical self-concept can be an important risk factor for eating disorders.

3. Behavioral: How a child views his behavior relative to peers is another component of self-concept. If a child views himself as “bad” he may be more likely to engage in rebellious behavior and is at increased risk for gravitating toward negative peer influences.

4. Athletic: In the Orthodox world, athletic ability is often not as major a force in shaping self-concept as in the general population. However, parents of young boys know that a child who is a poor athlete often feels badly about himself, particularly during his elementary school years.

5. Social: Feeling popular, particularly during adolescence — when fitting in with one’s peer group is a major psychological need — is another major dimension of self-esteem.

Of course the sum can be greater than each of its parts. A child’s global self-worth may be excellent, even if he suffers from a poor self-image in some of the above dimensions. The combination of a child’s temperament, how his parents make him feel about himself and how much relative importance he assigns to a particular component of self-esteem will determine each child’s overall selfimage.

This approach to understanding self-esteem has several practical implications. Research has found that helping youngsters discount the importance of domains in which they are not competent or facilitating an improvement in their competence in areas where they are weak are among the more effective ways of improving children’s self-images. For example, in the case of children who are not particularly skilled athletes, selfesteem can improve by helping them see how, in the long run, this says

nothing about their value as a person — while other areas of competence, such as academic skill or good character traits, are far more valuable assets. Another effective approach would be to give such an individual coaching that would improve his athletic skills. Of course, an approach using both of these strategies would have the best chance of improving the child’s selfesteem.

Development of Self-concept

Children’s self-concepts become increasingly stable as they grow older. Until the typical child starts school he tends to view himself in an unrealistically positive and optimistic light. His true abilities have not been tested by day-to-day comparison to peers. Consequently, preschoolers will often describe themselves as being the “smartest” or “strongest,” regardless of their true behavior and skills. Research finds that as children move through the early elementary school years their sense of competence sees a decline relative to the preschool years. Their sense of self becomes increasingly more objective and grounded as they forge a sense of relative confidence by comparing their abilities to those of their classmates. In the laboratory of real life, young children gradually discover that they have strengths in some areas and weaknesses in others.

Self-concept gradually improves and stabilizes as children go through the later elementary school years. Parents should be aware, however, that there are various transition points where a child’s sense of worth typically declines. This is especially true during the early adolescent years — a period often marked by insecurity and a lack of confidence. As the young teen undergoes the transition from elementary school to middle school and endures the stresses that

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often attend the onset of puberty, many domains of self-concept have been found to drop. A sense of confidence and competence typically reemerges during the latter years of high school. The above is only a very general map of how self-concept develops in a typical child. Any child who feels inferior to peers in academic ability, popularity, athletic skills, appearance or behavior will have low self-esteem in that area regardless of his or her stage of development. Despite competence, children who are raised in a home that is dominated by criticism, a punitive disciplinary style, or a failure to find a balance between love and limits will also be at risk for suffering the ill effects of a poor selfconcept.

Subtle Contributions to Self-Esteem

One of the most powerful contributors to self-esteem is a child’s perception of what he is capable of doing. This is shaped both by the expectations of others, as well as the expectations he has of himself. In Chovas HaTalmidim , the Piacesner Rebbe asked his students to try to picture where they wanted to be in six months. He recognized that a child’s dreams and aspirations are powerful forces that shape his ability to actualize his potential.

In one of the classic experiments in the field of psychology,⁷ a group of researchers randomly chose one out of five elementary school children in 18 classrooms. Their teachers were told that these students were

unusually bright and were expected to make remarkable progress during the coming academic year. Even though these children had no greater inherent potential than the other 80 percent of their classmates, they made unusual progress during the year that their teachers viewed them as gifted. Relative to their peers, significant increases in verbal skill, reasoning ability and overall intellectual ability were documented on intelligence and achievement tests that they were given at the end of the year.

The authors of this study speculate that expectations of children are transmitted in the most subtle of ways. Facial expressions, posture and tone of voice are all unconscious, yet powerful ways that communicate expectations. This is certainly the case with children. Parents often shape a child’s view of what he can and can’t do via the subtle expression of a raised eyebrow or an understated scowl. Setting appropriately high standards for one’s children while, at the same time, not overwhelming them with inappropriately high expectations is an important ingredient in raising children with high levels of self-esteem

Ultimately, raising children with strong self-esteem isn’t about perfection— it’s about intention. When parents model humility, demonstrate respect, and show that effort matters more than immediate results, they lay the foundation for their children to grow into confident, grounded individuals.

As with all aspects of parenting, a little patience, empathy, and self-awareness can make a world of difference in shaping the next generation.

The following is adapted from Balanced Parenting by Dr. David Pelcovitz and his father, Rabbi Raphael Pelcovitz. This insightful book, authored by a father and son—a psychologist and a rabbi—explores the balance between love and limits in raising children. Published by ArtScroll Publications, it is available for purchase on their website Artscroll.com

Dr. David Pelcovitz, a renowned clinical psychologist with over 45 years of experience, has dedicated his career to helping individuals and families navigate trauma, child abuse, and parenting challenges. He is widely respected for his compassionate approach and deep insights, which have made a significant impact in both clinical and academic settings. Dr. Pelcovitz holds the prestigious Straus Chair in Psychology and Education at Yeshiva University's Azrieli Graduate School, where he mentors future leaders in Pastoral Psychology and advises the university as Special Assistant to the President. Previously, he held prominent roles at North Shore University Hospital and NYU School of Medicine, shaping the fields of psychology and psychiatry. A gifted author and speaker, Dr. Pelcovitz has written extensively on topics of resilience and faith, including Life in the Balance: Torah Perspectives on Positive Psychology and , co-authored with his late father, Rabbi Raphael Pelcovitz zt”l. His work is widely celebrated for blending psychological expertise with timeless Jewish wisdom.

The History of Ohr HaTorah: A Journey of Growth and Dedication

BY ILAN COHEN

The First Ohr HaTorah Shabbos in the Towers

In 2011, a group of passionate former talmidim came together with a shared vision: to build a shul that would radiate warmth, energy, and a deep sense of community for the alumni of the Yeshiva of Greater Washington. That vision took shape on November 3, 2012, when Ohr HaTorah held its inaugural Shabbos morning minyan in the Towers Party Room. The rented space, available for just three short hours each Shabbos morning, may have been modest, but the atmosphere was electric. On the very first Shabbos, which coincided with Hurricane Sandy, over 75 displaced families came to daven. Jews from all over began filling the room. The sense of togetherness and purpose was palpable, setting the stage for what would grow into a thriving and enduring kehillah.

Following that memorable beginning, the congregation settled into a core group of a several dozen regulars, primarily young

couples, many of whom were alumni of the Yeshiva of Greater Washington. Around 20 couples had married locally in the year leading up to Ohr HaTorah’s founding, marking the start of a growing trend of Yeshiva alumni establishing roots in Kemp Mill.

In August 2014, Rav Michoel Frank was appointed as Rav and Mara D’Asra, bringing leadership and spiritual guidance that propelled the shul and the entire community forward. On May 12, 2017, Ohr HaTorah moved into its current building, a permanent home that could support its growing membership.

Today, Ohr HaTorah is a thriving kehillah, serving 190 families and standing as a central makom for Torah, tefillah, and community life. From its humble beginnings, the shul has grown into a center of growth, connection, and community unity in the heart of Kemp Mill.

Below: Rav Malkiel Kotler, Rosh Yeshiva of Beth Medrash Govoha (BMG), graciously traveled to deliver heartfelt and inspiring remarks at the hachtarah of Rav Michoel Frank (installation ceremony), celebrating a milestone moment for the community.

Modular Miracles: How Ohr

HaTorah’s Shul Made Its Way to Silver Spring

Ohr HaTorah’s journey to its permanent home wasn’t without drama. The modular units, preassembled in Birmingham, Alabama, arrived in Silver Spring on massive trucks that navigated past the Kemp Mill Shopping Center. To avoid the steep incline of Kersey Road, part of the Silver Spring Jewish Center’s playground fence was temporarily removed so that the trucks could turn directly off of Arcola. The first three trucks made it through without issue, but the fourth stole the show when its axle cracked, blocking traffic for three hours. Once resolved, construction carried on smoothly, leaving a story that still brings laughs at Kiddush tables.

The first three trucks navigated the route successfully, but the fourth, carrying the final piece of the shul, hit a snag when its axle cracked. Here’s a photo of the shul blocking Arcola Avenue for three unforgettable hours.

Top Photo: A view of Ohr HaTorah when in rented space in the Kemp Mill shopping center (above CVS) while the kehillah was building the Kersey Road building.

Fruit for Thought

The Tu B’Shvat Q&A You Didn’t Know You Needed

Questions:

BY RABBI YITZY FOX

1. What is the connection between Tu B’Shvat and Shavuos?

2. What halachic practices does the Shulchan Aruch mention regarding Tu B’Shvat?

3. What is Orlah, and how does it relate to Tu B’Shvat?

4. Is there a real source for eating fruit on Tu B’Shvat?

5. What customs related to Esrogim are observed on Tu B’Shvat?

6. Are fasts permitted on Tu B’Shvat?

7. How many 15th-of-the-month days do we omit tachanun?

8. When having a feast with many fruits, which should be prioritized for brachos, and in what order?

Answers:

1. Both are significant “tree dates.” According to Beis Hillel, Tu B’Shvat marks the new year for tree fruit (Rosh Hashanah 14a, Mishnah 1:1). On Shavuos, the world is judged on tree fruit (Mishnah 1:2).

2. The only practical halacha is omitting tachanun (Orach Chaim 131:6).

3. The Torah forbids eating a tree’s fruit in its first three years (orlah). In the fourth year (neta revai), the fruit must be eaten in Yerushalayim or redeemed. From Tu B’Shvat of the fifth year, it may be eaten freely (Shulchan Aruch Y.D. 294:4-5).

4. Yes! The Mishna Berurah (131:31) notes the custom of eating extra fruit. Some Chassidim wear Shabbos clothes and hold a fruit seder (Minhag Yisrael Torah 131:5).

5. Some eat an esrog or esrog jelly. There's also a minhag to daven for a beautiful esrog for Succos (Bnei Yissaschar 2:2; Kaf Hachaim 664:60).

6. No. The Shulchan Aruch (573) rules that public fasts are postponed for Tu B’Shvat. A chosson who fasts on his wedding day should not do so (Mishna Berurah 573:7).

7. Five: Tishrei (Succos), Shevat (Tu B’Shvat), Adar (Shushan Purim), Nissan (Pesach), and Av (Tu B’Av).

8. The Bahag prioritizes shivas haminim, while the Rambam favors personal preference unless equal. The Shulchan Aruch (O.C. 211:1) cites both, but the Mishna Berurah follows the Bahag. If in the same category, completeness (shaleim) comes first; if equal, preference applies (M.B. 211:4; S.A. 168:1). The shivas haminim order is: 1. Wheat, 2. Barley, 3. Olives, 4. Dates, 5. Grapes, 6. Figs, 7. Pomegranates. If one food is preferred, its berachah comes first.

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