Volume 47 June-July 2012
The Child Protection Issue
Special Report: A Fond Farewell to Esther Halim In a touching and heartfelt ceremony on July 31, hundreds of World Vision Cambodia and VisionFund Cambodia staff gathered to say thank you and appreciate Esther Halim.....
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Ny Sacrified Her Happiness Because of the Family By:Vichheka Sok,Transformational Development Communications Officer
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her new husband to fish, and with some money she bought jewelry for herself.
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I now see the world is beautiful. I love my family, love World Vision and love seeing my younger sisters grow.
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y name is Ny. I am 16 years old. I love others calling me Ny because I love this name so much, and it sounds sweet to me.
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loves her children. My father passed away for years because the boat sank and he disappeared. I miss him so much.
I am originally Vietnamese. All my family members live in Vietnam. I used to study in Grade 8 (in Vietnam). I like studying, and I dreamed of being a useful person for the family.
I was so mad at my mother when she found another husband, and she got pregnant. Since then, she completely ignored my younger sisters and me. I quit school to stay at home and take care of my younger sisters.
I have a mother who never cared about the children. My mother is a card addict. She loves playing cards more than she
My younger sisters and I moved to live with grandmother since my mother sold the house because she needed money for
I felt I had no love from my mother. I pitied my younger sisters so much who were studying and they needed my care. I wanted to buy a house for my sisters, and have a good job at home, so I could take good care of younger sisters. I am like their mother too because they don’t get any warmth from my mother. Once there was a neighbour who was about 50 years old. She has a granddaughter who I know very well. This old neighbour tried many times to talk with my mother and my grandmother to let me come to Cambodia to work in a casino. But my mother and my grandmother didn’t agree, and they wanted me to stay at home and look after my younger sisters.
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“In the evening one day, the same neighbour came to me and convinced me when I was alone at home. She said I would get a job in a casino in Phnom Penh and I could earn lots there. That way, I could help my family by sending them money monthly. Hearing this, I imagined I would be able to buy a house for my family and I could become a good hairdresser at home and be with my younger sisters all the time. “I decided to go to Phnom Penh with that old woman. Her granddaughter also came along. Actually this old woman own a small café shop in Poipet which is near the border of Cambodia and Thailand. That old woman told me to work in the café. “There are many guys who came and drank at the café. And the other girl who is the old woman’s granddaughter went out every night. Once, that girl told me that she earned a lot of money by selling herself to get money. The old woman also told me about selling my virginity because it would be easy to earn money. “When I heard about the easiness of earning money, I kept dreaming of buying a new house for my younger sisters and returning home. Soon after that, I sold myself. I slept with many guys, and they were Thai and Chinese guys. I received eight to nine guys per day. I got hurt very much for the first time, but I had no way to be better since this was a good way that I could earn for my family. I gave money every month to the old woman to send to my family in Vietnam. I realized that the old woman took a lot of my
money because my family received my money only sometimes, and some months they received nothing. “I got 10 US dollars per guest, and I handed all money to the old woman because she required it. “I met some guests who tried to convince me to use drugs, but I never used because I knew it wasn’t good. And I saw a few people who lived nearby the café who also used drug, and they had to drug themselves daily or their body would tremble and look pale. I rejected all guests who wanted me to use drugs before sleeping with them. Some guests used insulting words out loud towards me. “One day, in the morning, there was a Khmer guy dressed simply to come to have a cup of coffee, and he said he needed a girl to sleep with tonight and he asked whether this place has any girls or not. I told him there was a girl for him. Then in the evening, many policemen came to the café and arrested me, the old woman and her granddaughter. “I was referred to World Hope Organization in Siem Reap province. But there was nobody who could speak Vietnamese there, so they sent me to World Vision because there was a counselor who spoke Vietnamese. “At first, staying at the Near Vear Thmey Centre of World Vision made me feel so bad and I really wanted to go back to Vietnam to see my family. I don’t talk to anybody at the centre.
“A counselor who spoke Vietnamese at the centre was really nice to me. She kept saying kind words to me in Vietnamese, and she encouraged me to have hope in life from now on because I’m safe with love and care. “I started to like every word of my Vietnamese counselor. I compared my situation in Vietnam with my family, working in Poipet, and stayed in the centre. I loved the centre the most because everybody took good care of me and I have learned a lot about cooking, about the Khmer language, about planting vegetables and about braiding beads. “I received love and care that I never had experienced in life before. I now feel so lucky to know World Vision. I love a counselor named Kim as my mother. I consider her as my second mother, and I will never forget her in this life. “I feel sad because I will reintegrate to Vietnam soon. I will miss everything at the centre. But it’s life and I have to go and take care of my younger sisters. I will also learn how to be a good hairdresser in Vietnam. I hope to open a small hairdressing shop in Vietnam, so I can be always with my younger sisters, and I will treat them well. I will not let my younger sisters do the same as what I experienced. “I now see the world is beautiful. I love my family, love World Vision and love seeing my younger sisters grow.” Note: Ny* is the name that she gives to herself.
Hotline If you have knowledge or suspicion toward child sexual abuse, human trafficking and sexual exploitation, child prostitution, domestic violence, report immediately to Anti-Human Trafficking and Juvenile Protection by the phone number below:
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National: 023 997 919
Phnom Penh: 017 276 222
Battambong: 017 256 222
Kandal: 012 957 951
Kampong Chhnang: 017 326 222
Banteay Meanchey: 017 260 222
Takeo: 097 7780 005
Kampong Thom: 017 254 222
Siem Reap: 017 258 222
Preah Vihear: 012 266 238
Kampong Speu: 097 7780 018 / 016 701 632
Child Help Line: 1280
WVC Child Protection Hotline 017 666 717 / 017 666 873
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Public Awareness
World Vision Celebrates World Day Against Child Labour By: Um Vanndeth, Communications Associate
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n June 12, World Vision’s Social Mobilization Against Child Labor Project in cooperation with LICADHO celebrated the 11th anniversary of World Day Against Child Labour under the theme “I send my children to school, Do you?” at Nak Panh Toek, Battambang town. The event, which was attended by over 2,500 people, aimed to raise awareness and encourage parents, young people, employers of children, government authorities and the general public to join in protecting, preventing and eliminating the worst forms of child labour. There was marching from Toul Ta Ek temple to Neak
Panh Toek, a concert, and distribution of leaflets, banners and booklets spreading important messages to raise awareness and contribute to the end of child labor.
According to the UN, there are 215 million children trapped in child labour and 115 million of these children are in hazardous work around the world.
“As a child, I collected garbage to support my family,” said Sam Rotha from Battambang district. “Then World Vision met with my grandparents to persuade them to allow me to go to study at the organisation’s drop in center. While I was there, I requested to learn hair-dressing skills. Now, I have become a hairdresser,” she said.
“My family is poor and every day, my granddaughter and I always collect garbage. Sometimes I have to travel away from home and I must spend the night at the field to find junk,” said Mrs. Neak Oeurm, 60, a grand mother of Rotha.
“I would like insist all parents to please send children to school, and please don’t put them in hard work,” said Sam Rotha.
“Then one day, World Vision’s staff came to my home to explain and persuade me to let my granddaughter to go to school,” “Right now, my granddaughter has proper career and can support the family,” she adds.
Child Participation
Friendly Football Match Strengthens Boy Protection Network By: Um Vanndeth, Communications Associate
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n 7 June,World Vision Cambodia’s My Son project brought together nine football clubs from the Phnom Penh area for friendly matches at Beong Trabek High School to strengthen the relationships between the clubs and boy protection networks. “We organized friendly football matches to build relationships between football clubs from different locations and groups. We believe this will help strengthen our boy protection networks in our effort to protect boys from abuse and exploitation,” said Ms. Morn Borina, My Son Project Manager.
My Son project works with boy sexual abuse victims, vulnerable boys, and boys at risk of becoming child laborers, street children, child scavengers, child exploitation and prostitution in Phnom Penh. The purpose of the project is to prevent and protect boys from sexual abuse through capacity building, strengthening networks, and awareness raising that enables boys to protect themselves.
to sell. I think that these football matches are good as it keeps us from falling into the wrong crowd and doing drugs,” says Rithy, 18, from Wat Phnom, Sangkat Khan Daun Penh, Phnom Penh, said.
“I am happy to participate in this football tournament because most of my friends and I don’t have enough time to play football. Most of us are busy with studying and earning our living by collecting garbage
At the close of the tournament, the My Son project provided prizes for the top three teams: Psar Touch football club, Chbar Ambov High School football club, and Stoeng Meanchey football club.
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A Fond Farewell for Esther Halim In a touching and heartfelt ceremony on July 31, hundreds of World Vision Cambodia and VisionFund Cambodia staff gathered to say thank you and appreciate Esther Halim for her faithful service and the impact her leadership has made on children and communities across Cambodia. Esther served as Country Director from 2006 to 2012.
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National Director’s Farewell Our Guest
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Canadian Member of Parliament (MPs) Experience Child Protection in Cambodia
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Isabelle Morin, Canadian MP, looks on with a smile during a night outreach activity with Pharen San, Project Manager of Street Children Transformation Project
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Dean Allison, Canadian MP, impresses with how Leap, a peer educator, is teaching street children on how to protect themselves during night outreach of Street Children Transformation Project
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Wayne Easter, Canadian MP, checks the homework of a student during class at the Bamboo Street Children Centre
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Group photo of Canadian MPs and peer educators at the Bamboo Street Children Centre
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Canadian MPs, Wai Young (center), Dean Allison (left), and Russ Hiebert listen to a young boy who participates in the boy protection network of the My Son Project.
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Isabelle Morin, Canadian MP, having fun with a child while visiting My Son Project
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Canadian MPs showing solidarity with youth in Children of Hope 窶帰DP in Svey Pak District to protect children and end domestic violence and trafficking.
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Canadian MPs listen to youth on how youth and children clubs have transformed their lives and their community
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Media Guest
Radio Programme Takes Stand Against Child Labor By Nav Chantharith, Office Assistant for Writing
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radio drama on FM 102 MHz of Women’s Media Centre told the story of a child domestic servant who was raped by her employer representing hundreds of tragic cases involving Cambodian children. Child domestic worker is one of four topics on the worst forms of child labor prepared for radio production called Child and Labor by the Social Mobilization against Child Labor Project (SMCLP). This one-hour radio talk show program aims to raise awareness and disseminate messages to listeners, particularly to parents, to understand the consequences of children working as domestic servants including violence, abuse, other hazards. “I call for law enforcement and strong punishment for child labor perpetrators and child rights abusers,” said Pen Chantra, Advocacy Officer for SMCLP on the radio program. He went onto say that all parents should stop sending their children to work, but to school. Poverty, domestic violence, lack of knowledge, ignorance and carelessness of parents are the main causes of child labor.
Domestic labor badly affects children’s lives physically as well as mentally. Besides loss of education opportunity, children may be abused in various ways such as verbal and physical abuse, which can traumatize children and lead to distress and hopelessness. According to a survey by National Institute of Statistic conducted in 2003, there was about 28,000 child domestic workers working in Phnom Penh alone. Today, there is no exact figure of whether the number of child domestic servant has decreased or increased until there is a new survey. However, the decline of child labor number depends on to what extent the poverty has been alleviated. To tackle this issue, SMLCP closely cooperates with government and NGOs partners to educate community people and private businesses including brick factories owners and employers through many activities such as workshops, marches, concert performances and media including newspapers, billboards, and radio and TV talk show. Every year, SMLCP’s drop-in Center in Battambang province has welcomed more
than 120 working children from brick factories, scavenging and under-aged girls serving in entertainment industry such as in karaoke clubs. At the center, children receive non-formal education, schooling materials, counseling, life skills, two meals, field trips, health care, vocational skill training before they are reintegrated to public school or their families. The families of children at the center also receive income generating assistance for running small business to improve their economic livelihoods.
Parade of Bicycles to End Child Labour By: Lay Ratana, Communications Officer
Public Awareness
“The messages were meant to educate and raise awareness among the public, especially business owners, on child labour and child’s rights and to seek support and call for action to end the worst forms of child labour,” Pen Chantra Advocacy Officer of Social Mobilization against Child Labor Project said.
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nder the theme “Together Eliminate Child Labour for Human Rights and Social Justice,” All for eliminating child labour, send your children to school, not work, Cambodia ends the worst forms of child labour by 2016, were messages raised on International Child Labour Day in 12 June 2012.
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Across the country children of the very poorest families are engaged in hazardous activities that place them in constant danger. Over 313,000 children are trapped in the worst forms of exploitation such as drug trafficking and prostitution. Others spend hours in salt fields, work in factories or load carts with bricks to meet the demands of the booming onstruction industry.An ILO supported survey in 2003 reported one in every ten children in the capital above the age of seven was engaged in child domestic
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labour – working in the homes of others. The event was organized at Wat Phnom Park with 120 participants. It concluded with a parade of one hundred bicycles along a five-kilometer route in Phnom Penh Capital. The campaign was funded by World Vision and International Labour Organization and initiated by Inter-Trade Unions Committee to Combat Child Labour which is comprised of International Trade Union Against Child Labour (ITUCL), International Labour Organization - International Programme on the Elimination of Child Labour, Cambodia Confederation of Trade Unions (CCTU), Cambodian National Coalition (CNC) and Ministry of Labour and Vocational Training.
Staff Activities
Remember Those Who Died From HIV and AIDS on World Candle Light Day By Nav Chantharith, Office Assistant for Writing
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very year in May, World Vision celebrates World Candle Light Day to remember people who have died from HIV and AIDS. This year was the 29th anniversary of World Candle Light Day under the theme “Promoting Health and Dignity Better.”
who died from AIDS in Cambodia over the past ten years, their families, orphans and vulnerable children. Area Development Programmes also celebrated the event around the country with over 1,700 participating from communities and local authorities.
vulnerable children,” said Seng Chounleng, OVC Programme Manager. “And we still remember them and give dignity them. We aim for the event to contribute to three zeros—zero new HIV infections, zero discrimination, and zero AIDS-related deaths.”
During Monday Chapel, over 150 World Vision and VisionFund staff wore red ribbons on their shirts to express condolence and prayed for the 51,000
“We still work together with government, NGOs and community people to care for the health of people affected by HIV and AIDS, especially orphans and
Today, 4,386 families affected by HIV and AIDS and 4,014 orphans and vulnerable children including 323 children living HIV receive support from World Vision.
Carl Harris, Former World Vision Country Director, Recalls World Vision in 1970s
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what World Vision has done to develop Cambodia,” said Carl Harris, World Vision Cambodia Director during 1973-1975 on Monday Chapel, on 28th May at National Office.
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Today I have a great privilege of visiting World Vision Cambodia again. My co-workers and I really have been proud of our achievements for
Carl Harris recalled World Vision’s mission during the 1970s before the Khmer Rouge regime. World Vision rescued 26.000 patients and provided 32.000 houses for poor families. During the civil war in 19701975, World Vision worked with displaced persons by providing medical services, food and shelters.
Only a few World Vision staff, including Carl Harris, survived the Khmer Rouge regime. Esther Halim, the current Country Director of World Vision Cambodia said, “Carl Harris is a good witness for World Vision that should motivate us to strongly contribute our actions to develop communities. Even when we had challenges during the Khmer Rouge, God still has broadened His ministry here. World Vision continued to grow bigger and bigger.”
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ADP Profile
Child Protection in Children of Hope ADP By Nav Chantharith, Office Assistant for Writing
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hildren of Hope ADP (COH) launched in 2004 with support from World Vision Canada. Among the major challenges the COH sought to address was child trafficking, child labor and sexual abuse. Currently, the ADP works on enhancing community financial capacity for child wellbeing, strengthening community care for children, building hope for urban children, mobilizing community for child protection and child sponsorship in 10 villages, 2 communes. The objective of child protection in COH is to build capacity of authorities, community people, youth and children to develop mechanisms for safeguarding children from sexual abuse and exploitation and having the skills and systems to protect children. World Vision cooperates with government
and other NGOs to mobilise community partners including youth, child protection committees (CPC) and child protection networks (CPN). Today communities understand and value the role and responsibility of CPC and CPN to support and intervene in issues related to child protection. Community people, youth and children are able to gain more knowledge and understanding through public forums on anti-trafficking, child labor, and domestic violence law. Youth have advocated and played a major role in building capacity of community people and provided trainings and awareness on personal safety and peace road curriculum.Youth and children clubs understand child rights and are becoming aware of the risks within their communities, especially how to protect themselves and how to report incidences of child abuse.
“Child protection activities are very useful and helpful for the community in Children of Hope ADP because it responds to the needs and urgent cases within the community,” said Siv Sopheap, COH ADP Manager. “The project equips community people, including youth and children with capacity so that they can apply their roles and responsibility more effectively and efficiently to respond to support their communities on child protection,” she said. Next year, World Vision will continue to work with authorities, youth and children. The project will encourage youth clubs to apply for micro funding in order to support youth and children clubs and mobilize the integration of youth and children, CPC and CPN’s plans into sangkat investment plans.
WVC on the Media
CNN Interviews Sano Ray: Boy Soldier to Life Transformed Our very own Mr. Sano Ray interviewed by CNN’s Dr. Sanjay Gupta on 12 July! Sano shared about his transformation from being a boy soldier during the Khmer Rouge to having his own family and bringing restoration and hope to children in crisis. Filmed at WV Cambodia’s Trauma Recovery Center! The segment aired on Dr. Sanjay Gupta’s weekend programme on CNN US and CNN International.You can view the segment at: http://edition.cnn.com/video/#/video/world/2012/07/12/tsrpkg-gupta-cambodia-child-soldier-looks-back.cnn
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Advocacy
“Land is life”: Capacity Building Workshop and Debate on Land Issues By Nav Chantharith, Office Assistant for Writing
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dialogue and peacefully advocate with government official to solve land conflicts. Three communities excluded from land registration in World Vision target areas in Phnom Penh will soon get land title after a long effort to advocate for registration, and four other communities are also engaging with stakeholders to obtain land title, Mr. Sim Dara, Urban Discovery Project Manager said. Dara said during the workshop, “Today, we learned land law is important to our work to solve land conflict and housing for community people. Land conflict is a big issue in Cambodia and has negative affects on community development. The government and NGOs are working together to find solution to address and respond to these issues.”
“I will spread knowledge on land law to my staff and stakeholders through workshops in the community,” said Ms. Khimchheng, Land Management Education Project manager based in Preah Vihear province. “We know that communities who are able to understand land law are able to advocate successfully to government and companies,” she said referring to 1,666 hectares of land conflict in Preah Vihear province for 300 families.” “Land is life, they farm and earn income from land. Land supports child well-being,” she added. On the same day at Imperial Hotel, World Vision and other local non-governmental organizations conducted a public forum with ten political parties natural resource management and land tenure security policies. The event was for participants to listen and ask questions to each political party and for all parties to show their policies and commitment to resolving land conflict and ensure land tenure security. There were 204 participants including community people, NGOs representatives of nine political parties who were candidates for the commune election on 3rd May.
With this knowledge, community people have the courage to constructively
When Creativity Meets Development: ACT:S From US Visits Cambodia
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n June, ten members of ACT:S from the US visited World Vision Cambodia. The team was comprised of WVUS staff and volunteers who are photographers,
ACT:S (www.worldvisionacts.org) is World Vision’s activism network of 30,000 people. They work with college students to do “creative activism” on their college campuses and in their communities. They are about raising awareness and doing advocacy to care about others in the world. They are motivated by their faith to bring attention to the issues that the world’s poor face. In Cambodia, they gained deeper understanding of the country’s history and
culture, and the challenges children face, especially the risks of being trafficking, abused, and exploited. They also learned how World Vision is working to reduce child vulnerability, particularly through community and youth mobilization and micro-finance. By the end of the visit, the ACT:S team was able to collect compelling stories through video and photos of children and their families being helped by World Vision and VisionFund.
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VisionFund
“VisionFund and Children” An Authentic Video Reflecting the Positive Impacts to Children’s Education through Micro Loans By: VisionFund Staff
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resenting how a lady has improved her family’s living condition and being able to send her children to school by using micro loan provided by a microfinance institution, a fiveminute video produced by VisionFund Microfinance Institution in Cambodia has attracted huge interest and attention of the audience to see how the micro loan can help to bring out the potential of children and brighten their future roles in society. The video was presented by VisionFund Cambodia on 30 May 2012 at one Regional Forum on Strengthening the Resilience of Smallholder Farmers through Rural Finance Innovations in Siem Reap. Suon Ny, 46, a mother of three children living in Kirimon Village, Siem Reap District, Siem Reap province, has worked
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hard to provide three meals and support her children to school. “In the past, my biggest concern was not about my difficulties but I was afraid that my children would have to quit school; but thanks to VisionFund’s loans that I would not have to worry about my children’s illiteracy anymore,” Suon Ny said. VisionFund improves the lives of children by offering small loans and other financial services to families who need them. Its work is to empower the clients to grow businesses successfully which will enable their children to grow up with improved health and education. Working in partnership with World Vision Cambodia, VisionFund is committed to a long-term transformation to unlock potential of Cambodia’s future generations.
To see more detail of the video, Please visit the link below: http://www.visionfund.com.kh/ media/video-center/191-visionfundcambodia-and-children
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Pray for Children
Please Pray for Children as Mystery Surrounding Unknown Illness Is Solved By: Lay Ratana, Communications Officer
The World Health Organisation (WHO) and Cambodia Ministry of Health announced that a mix of pathogens are responsible for the unknown illness that have claimed the lives of over 60 children in Cambodia since April. According to the announcement, the pathogens include enterovirus 71 (aka. EV-71, often associated with foot, hand mouth disease), streptococcus suis and dengue. Also, the inappropriate use of steroids, which can suppress the immune system, worsened the illness in a majority of the patients. The Royal Government of Cambodia has closed all kindergartens and primary
schools two weeks early for the summer to prevent further spread of the EV-71 among children. Originally, summer break was to begin July 31. In early July, the WHO and Cambodia Ministry of Health partnered together to investigate the unknown disease. The mysterious illness started with high fever and respiratory and/or neurological symptoms followed by rapid respiratory deterioration. The majority of cases came from southern parts of the country. Most patients were between the ages of 2-3 years old and many passed away within 24 hours of admission to the hospital.
• Isolate children with symptoms as much as possible and as early as possible • Stay at home with your children, if they are sick to avoid risk of further contact and infection • Avoid crowded places, unless absolutely necessary • If your child shows any of the symptoms or appears sick, see a doctor immediately • Inform your manager • If you have no ‘child care facility’ at home please take sick leave or annual leave or extra leave
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Please pray for the protection of Cambodian children against this deadly disease and appropriate support for those children who have already been affected and their families.
Health Advice for all World Vision staff
• Managers to please work with your staff and grant permission for them to work from home, if necessary
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Child Discipline Writer, Translator and Photographer
Positive and Loving Discipline for Children
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e might be very busy at work, but we also want to have a happy family life. Parents who love their children will do what is best for them. This requires taking time with children, both in quality and quantity time, including positive discipline. The Bible says “Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him. Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die. If you strike him with the rod, you will save his soul from Sheol.” Proverbs 13:24; 23:13, 14. The Bible strongly stresses the importance of discipline. It is something we must all have in order to be productive people, and it is easier to learn when we are young. Children who are not disciplined often grow up rebellious, have no respect for authority, and as a result find it difficult to willingly obey. Below are tips for positive discipline for children: • Demonstrate Respect Principle - Treat the child the same way you treat other important people in your life - the way you want him/her to treat you - and others. • Incompatible Alternative Principle Give the child something to do that is incompatible with the inappropriate behavior. “Help me pick out 6 oranges” (instead of running around the grocery store). • Modeling Principle - Model the behavior you want. Show the child, by example, how to behave. Children are watching us – all the time – and they will grow up to be like us – whether we want them to or not. • Take Time to Teach Principle – Often we expect children to read our minds to know how to do things they have never been taught. Although our expectations may be clear to us, our children may not have a clue.
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• Pay Attention Principle - Keep your eyes and mind on what is happening. Don’t wait until the child is out of control to step in.
Mr. Albert Yu Communications and Media Relations Manager Ms. Lay Ratana Communications Officer Mr. Kong Sopheak Digital Media Officer
• Talk About Them Positively to Others Principle - Let them overhear you speaking positively about them, bragging about their good qualities and actions to others. • Privacy Principle – NEVER embarrass a child in front of others. ALWAYS move to a private place to talk when there is a problem (especially in a restaurant, grocery store, classroom, shopping mall) Create such a place in your home. Sometimes sitting in the car to talk things over is a good idea. • Use Actions Instead of Words Principle Don’t say anything. When a child says something inappropriate or hurtful, instead of responding, let the words “hang in the air.” Walk away or take his hand and move to another place. Give him a chance to “hear” what he just said. Very often, he will make an effort to “self-correct” or apologize.
Ms. Sok Vichheka Transformational Development Communications Officer Mr. Nav Chantharith Office Assistant for Writing Mr. Lychheang Seyha Communications Publications Officer Mr. Um Vanndeth Communications Associate
Editor Mr. Albert Yu Communications and Media Relations Manager Ms. Lay Ratana Communications Officer Ms. Sok Vichheka Transformational Development Communications Officer
• Whisper Principle – Instead of yelling, screaming or talking in a loud voice, surprise the child by lowering your voice to a whisper. This surprise often evokes immediate attention. It also helps you to stay in control and think more clearly. • Nap Principle - Take a break. A nap usually puts everything in better perspective. • Positive Closure Principle - At the end of the day, remind your child that she is special and loved. Help her to look for something good - about the day that is finished and the day that lies ahead.
Sources: • http://www.odu.edu/~kkersey/101s/101principles.shtml
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The Communications and Media Relations Department would like to thank those who contributed t o this edition of Moul Matte newsletter. We welcome all contributions for the next issue. Please forward your programme news, photos, staff opinion, recent events, etc. to seyha_lychheang@wvi.org (or send your letter to National Office) in the Communications and Media Relations Department before Friday, 24th August 2012. Thank you very much!