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Lindsay Lohan Glitter-Bombed, Jailed Again The actress was dusted in glitter outside court, then sentenced to serve rehab time It’s not a good time to be Lindsay Lohan. The “Freaky Friday” actress was sentenced to 90 days in rehab, 30 days of community service and 18 months of psychotherapy after pleading guilty to reckless driving.

On March 18, Lohan pleaded guilty to reckless driving, providing false information to

a police officer, and willfully resisting, obstructing or delaying an officer, according to the Los Angeles Times.

The incident took place last summer in Malibu, when Lohan was involved in a car accident during the filming of the television movie “Liz & Dick.”

Lohan was “glitter-bombed” on her way to court, a form of protest

frequently reserved for those who oppose gay marriage.

In 2008, the troubled actress reportedly said she wanted to marry her then-girlfriend, DJ Samantha Ronson.

Lohan has denied being a lesbian. Asked about whether she’s bisexual she told Harper’s Bazaar: “Maybe. Yeah,” adding “I don’t want to classify myself.”

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N.M. officials spearheading bill to get county clerks to issue marriage licenses Santa Fe Mayor David Coss and several city officials held a press conference announcing that gay couples should be allowed to marry in New Mexico because the state’s marriage law is gender-neutral.

City Attorney Geno Zamora is one of the officials backing Coss’ proposed bill to start handing out marriage licenses to gay couples.

“New Mexico already recognizes valid marriages performed in other states between same-sex couples; it would violate our state’s constitution to deny equal rights in our own families,” Zamora said in a statement For her part, City Council member Patti Bushee, who is openly gay, said getting the bill

approved won’t be easy, and expects the issue to reach the state Supreme Court.

“It is disheartening to me to be creating laws for my community for 19 years and not be treated equally in the eyes of New Mexico law,” Bushee said. “We are the last group allowed to be legally discriminated against.”

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removing sex organs, the Korea Times reported.

According to the Gay Star News, transgender women experience some visibility in South Korea, with popstar Choi Han-bit being first transgender model to be featured on a Korean television show last year.

However, a television talk show that planned to discuss

trans issues was pulled off the air after the first episode following protests by conservatives.

In Florida, changing a legal name does not require a sexchange. However, changing the gender mark on government documents does require a letter from a physician stating that the person is undergoing a transition.

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Bay Harbor Islands Town Approves Domestic Partnership Ordinance Town employees in the small community in Miami-Dade County will now enjoy new benefits.

Chipotle Drops From Boy Scouts Event in Utah After Mounting Pressure The Mexican-style restaurant chain honored the company’s non-discrimination policies.

Lesbian LAPD Officers Settle for $1.2 Million Over Alleged Discrimination Two officers filed the lawsuit claiming a supervisor made vulgar sexual comments.

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news world Florida Schools Unsafe Environments for LGBT Students Sergio N. Candido

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Broward may have been the first county in the nation to recognize October as LGBT History Month, but Florida schools are among the most hostile environments for gay teens, new research indicates.

The Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network has released its findings for the 2011 National School Climate Survey, a biennial study that study documents the school experiences of LGBT students nationwide.

The results show that gay teens in Florida face high levels of harassment based on their sexual orientation or gender expression and regularly hear anti-gay slurs from students and staff.

Nine in 10 LGBT students between the ages of 13 and 20 said they regularly heard homophobic remarks like “fag” or “dyke” at school.

“While we have seen some progress nationally in the 14 years since we started our National School Climate Survey, much work remains to ensure that all Florida schools are safe and affirming environments for LGBT

students,” Dr. Eliza Byard, GLSEN’s executive director, said in a statement.

“We look forward to working with our Florida Chapter partners to ensure that every LGBT student has equal access to a quality education.”

The 2011 survey includes responses from 8,584 students from around the country. A total of 416 respondents came from Florida schools; of those respondents, 38 percent said they were physically harassed (pushed or shoved) because of their sexual orientation.

GLSEN also found that few Florida students had access to any LGBT-inclusive resources or curriculum at their schools.

More numbers: •20% of LGBT students were physically assaulted (e.g., punched, kicked or injured with a weapon) because of their sexual orientation.

•Only 1 in 10 (12%) were taught positive representations of LGBT people, history, and events.

•Only 5% attended a school with a comprehensive anti-bullying/ harassment policy.

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+Georgia Senator: I Won’t Support Gay Marriage Because I’m Not Gay Opposition is still strong despite what Politico calls a dramatic swing in public opinion toward supporting gay marriage.

An ABC/Washington Post poll found that only 36 percent of Americans oppose gay marriage, down from 55 percent in 2003.

The poll comes at the same time that Ohio Senator Rob Portman became the first Republican to reverse his stance

Republican Senator Saxby Chambliss is on a long list of GOP members who are still against marriage equality. Chambliss decided to be more vocal than his counterparts and reaffirmed his beliefs when asked if he would change his stance on same-sex marriage.

“I’m not gay,” Chambliss told Politico. “So I’m not going to marry one”

on the issue. Portman’s son, Will, came out to him and his wife, prompting the conservative’s change.

“I have come to believe that if two people are prepared to make a lifetime commitment to love and care for each other in good times and in bad, the government shouldn’t deny them the opportunity to get married,” Portman wrote in The Columbus Dispatch.

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Buzinski agrees with Uible, calling the routine “lame.” “[The Jacksonville Jaguars] need all the season-ticket holders that they can get, so here’s hoping Shad takes Uible’s letter seriously.”

Former Lesbian Singer Michelle Shocked Goes AntiGay, Petition Starts to Cancel Concerts

After coming out in 1990, singer Michelle Shocked lived up to her namesake by going on an anti-gay tirade at a recent concert in San Francisco.

Shocked’s first set went on without an incident, but while onstage for her second set Shocked said she lives in fear that the world would be destroyed if gays are allowed to marry, according to tweets from concert goers.

The San Francisco venue shut the show down.

“You can go on Twitter and say ‘Michelle Shocked says God hates fags’,” Shocked said before fans stormed out of Yoshi’s club.

And tweet they did.

Christine Penfield wrote on Twitter that, “[It] seemed clear that she designed the show to deliver this message.”

Shocked responded to the criticism with a simple tweet: “Truth is leading to painful confrontation.”

John Becker from Burlington, Vermont has started a petition an online petition asking venues worldwide to cancel her upcoming appearances. The petition has over 2,000 signatures.

According to Becker, a venue in Illinois has already cancelled an upcoming Shocked concert in light of her anti-gay rant.

“Freedom of speech and artistic expression are critically important, but this isn’t free speech,” Becker wrote in his petition letter.

“This is hate speech.”

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Still, South Carolina Sen. Lindsey Graham sides with Chambliss.

“I believe in traditional marriage — between a man and a woman, without animosity,” Grahm told Politico. “I don’t mind if people are able to transfer their property, visit their loved ones in hospitals, but marriage to me, I’ve stayed with the concept of traditional marriage.”

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Colombian Model Says Eating Chicken with Hormones Turns Boys Gay

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Gay Jacksonville Jags Fan to Team: ‘Stop the Kiss Cam’

Dave Uible, a gay man that owns season tickets for the Jacksonville Jaguars, has written a letter to team owner Shahid Khan asking him to put an end to the team’s use of a “kiss cam” during games that often pokes fun at gay people by showing two players from the opposing team on screen.

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OutSport’s Jim Buzinski wrote that his website has long decried the use of a “kiss cam” at sporting events that try to bait male fans into kissing. Uible told OutSports he feels the cam is unnecessary and hopes Khan will put an end to it.

“In the grand scheme of things, this bit hasn’t bothered me enormously,” Uible told OutSports.

“I’m hoping Mr. Khan will just end it since he is new on the scene and seems like a stand-up guy.

The Kiss Cam on its own is perfectly fine, but why insult people at all at the games?”

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Colombian top model Natalia Paris is trying to prove she’s not just a pretty face. Paris has theorized that eating chickens injected with hormones causes young boys to turn gay.

Television station CaracolTV reportedly filmed the model making her controversial statement as she greeted fans outside a store in Bogota, the country’s capital city. In the clip, Paris starts out by saying girls between the ages of seven and ten are developing faster than normal because of growth hormones used in chicken. She then goes on to say those hormones turn boys gay.

“That’s why those boys who are eating those chickens … they’re starting to turn into homosexuals,” she said according to the Huffington Post.

Paris, a notorious animal rights activist, has taken heat from Facebook fans and the National Federation for Colombian Poultry Farmers who called Paris’ claims “urban myths.”

“When you hear this kind of a statement from a public figure like Natalia Paris, we must express our total outrage,” FENAVI president Andres Fernando Moncada said.

Paris isn’t the only person who has accused chicken of turning people gay. Bolivian president Evo Morales claimed that eating chicken with hormones could lead to homosexuality and baldness, according to the Guardian.

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Jazz from TKPRF with Thomas Roberts (left) and Anthony Rapp.

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Women In Network’s (WIN) 18th Annual Charity Golf Tournament takes place on Saturday, April 6 at the Boca Greens Country Club. This year’s event benefits TransKids Purple Rainbow, an organization that helps transgender kids.

The tournament consists of two parts.

Several rounds of golf are followed by an awards dinner, and dance that takes place at 6 p.m. the same day. DJ Heather Craig is working double duty as host and entertainment. Don’t let the name fool you – Women In Network is South Florida’s premier Lesbian networking organization, but the event is open to everyone. A full field of 144 golfers is expected.

“We hope that a lot of people who aren’t golfers, but who want to take part in the event will come to the awards dinner and dance after the tournament,” says Denise Spivak, President of WIN’s Board of Directors.

This year’s event promises to be a little different from those in the past, in part, because of the beneficiary. TransKids Purple Rainbow Foundation (TKPRF) is a nonprofit organization that supports transgender kids and their families, even offering grants for medical needs not covered by insurance.

You may have heard of this organization before. Its most famous member is a young girl named Jazz who was born a boy. Her story has been featured on 20/20 with

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TransKids Purple Rainbow Foundation organizes retreats, gatherings and other programs to assist kids that are struggling with their gender identity. TKPRF also helps finance research about transgender and gender non-conforming children. If you’re wondering about the name and why the group chose the color purple? The founders say it’s an alternative color to the pinks and blues assigned to children.

“I actually had to pinch myself when I heard we were chosen as this year’s beneficiary,” said Jazz’s mom and TKPRF co-founder Jeanette. “No one has ever done anything like this before. We are not a popular charity because of the stigma attached to being transgender. This is the biggest thing that has ever happened to us.”

Women in Network is a South Florida community organization dedicated to the development, leadership, and empowerment of LBT women, their friends and supporters. It provides professional and business networking opportunities, social and recreational events, advocacy efforts, health and educational programs, and philanthropic and scholarship support.

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By Lisa Keen, Keen News Service The U.S. Supreme Court took the marriage equality issue on a roller coaster ride Tuesday as it heard almost 90 minutes of argument in the case testing the constitutionality of California’s ban on same-sex marriage.

For supporters, the highs included Justice Sonia Sotomayor asking whether there was any other context other than marriage where there would be a rational basis reason for using sexual orientation as a factor in denying rights to gay people rights, to which Yes on 8 attorney Charles Cooper conceded “I do not have anything to offer.” And they included Justice Anthony Kennedy commenting on the importance of considering the “immediate legal injury” that 40,000 children in California suffer because their same-sex parents are not allowed to marry.

The lows included the considerable time justices spent wrangling over whether the Yes on 8 supporters of Proposition 8, California’s ban on same-sex marriage, have proper legal standing to appeal the case. It included Chief Justice John Roberts saying the debate was “just about the label” marriage. And it included Justice Antonin Scalia repeatedly interrupting marriage equality attorney Ted Olson demanding that he identify “when did it become unconstitutional to exclude homosexuals” from marriage. But none of the three attorneys had an easy day.

Chief Justice Roberts tackled Solicitor General Donald Verrilli over his brief to the court, saying it was “inconsistent.” Roberts

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noted that Verrilli was arguing that the children of same-sex couples do as well as the children of male-female couples, while also arguing that Proposition 8 harms the children of same-sex couples.

“Which is it?” asked Roberts.

Cooper stumbled, too, when Justices Stephen Breyer and Elena Kagan challenged his argument that marriage is all about regulating procreation. If so, asked Breyer, why does California allow sterile malefemale couples to marry? If so, asked Kagan, why allow people over 55 to get married.

(Cooper, to much laughter in the courtroom, offered that it was “very rare that both parties in such marriages are infertile.”)

Olson, lead attorney with David Boies of the American Foundation for Equal Rights team representing two same-sex couples, got into the most prolonged and exchange of the session when Justice Scalia demanded to know “when” it became unconstitutional to exclude gays from marriage. Scalia repeatedly insisted Olson identify a “specific date in time.” Olson tried several times to answer the question and eventually shot back, “you’ve never required that before.”

Gay legal activists seemed impressed with the overall discussion and most enthusiastic about Justice Sotomayor’s pointed question to Cooper, concerning other areas where gays could be excluded from rights.

“It was basically asking him whether it’s permissible to treat gay people differently from everyone else in anything else other than marriage,” said Mary Bonauto. “And [Cooper] said, ‘I can’t think of anything, no.’”

“I thought that was extremely important

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The U.S. Supreme Court took the marriage equality issue on a roller coaster ride Tuesday as it heard almost 90 minutes of argument in the case testing the constitutionality of California’s ban on same-sex marriage.

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in terms of acknowledging equal treatment,” said Bonauto. “I thought that was critical.”

Jon Davidson, legal director for Lambda Legal Defense, said a high point for him was Kennedy’s remark about the “legal impact” on children of same-sex couples.

“I was really encouraged that he was thinking about the children of same-sex marriage. That is a very good sign.”

Kate Kendell, executive director of the National Center for Lesbian Rights, said she was a little surprised by the “rather heated exchange” between Scalia and Olson, over when it became unconstitutional to exclude gays from the right to marry.

“What Ted Olson should have said is, ‘It’s always been a violation of the constitution but, like in many of the other cases [involving rights withheld from other groups], it took a while for us to recognize that this right always existed for these people that we treated differently in the past.’”

“I doubt that if any other lawyer had been up there it would have been as heated,” said Kendell, who said the exchange was like “two old friends” having a debate.

But each of the legal activists cautioned that it’s important not to read too much into what the justices said or asked.

“We all know you can’t tell from argument how it’s going to go,” said Evan Wolfson, head of the national Freedom to Marry

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group. “The argument showed they’re wrestling with a lot of these big questions. I think standing is very much on their mind — very much a live part of the case. But they also were really grappling with the merits.”

Though none mentioned it, it must have been somewhat worrisome for marriage equality supporters to hear Justice Kennedy say, “the problem with this case” is that it is asking the court to “go into uncharted waters.” That mantra was repeated by several other justices during the argument in the case, Hollingsworth v. Perry. Justice Samuel Alito echoed it when he told Solicitor General Donald Verrilli that marriage for same-sex couples is a “very new” phenomenon, newer than cell phones.

“You want us to step into” this debate, he said, when “we don’t have the ability to see into the future. Why not leave it to the people?”

But hearing it from Kennedy was even more worrisome because he is considered the most likely fifth vote to provide a majority on one side or the other. Kennedy wrote the opinion in the 1996 Romer v.

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opinion mcnaught’s notes Brian McNaught

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Laying an Egg in Another’s Nest To help prepare us for a planned summer on Tupper Lake, our friend Susan sent us the book Adirondack Nature Notes. The book is organized by the months of the year. In the section on June, I was introduced to the cowbird. I didn’t like what I read.

There is something inherently unjust about the behavior of the cowbird. It reminds me of people who won’t take responsibility for their actions. Ray thinks I’m being too hard on the cowbirds because they’re only following their instincts. Unlike humans, he says, they have to follow their nature with no awareness of choice. Maybe.

Though they are capable of building their own nests, and nurturing their own offspring, cowbirds instead sneak into the nests of other birds and place their egg among those there. Often, they will throw out an existing egg to make room for their own. They do this up to thirtysix times a season.

Sometimes, the bird whose nest was invaded will destroy the foreign egg, and sometimes it will raise it as its own. If a cowbird sees its egg destroyed, it will often destroy those of the other bird.

The cowbird chick demands more food than the other chicks in the nest, and frequently bullies them into starvation.

If the cowbird chick survives, it doesn’t take on the characteristics of its foster parents when mature, but rather mimics its mother’s practice of forcing other birds to care for its offspring.

The description of the cowbird’s behavior pushes my buttons. “It isn’t fair,” I think. But, is it wrong to be angry at cowbirds if they allegedly can’t help being irresponsible? If so, what about being angry at people who won’t take responsibility for the eggs they lay? Is it in their nature to be selfish? Or do they have choices?

It doesn’t seem fair to me that some people won’t take responsibility for their actions, and dump the consequences of their behavior on others. Who hasn’t seen people leave their empty popcorn bags and drink cups on the floor of a movie theater, or a dog walker fail to scoop the poop, or a driver throw a cigarette butt out the car window? Do these people have a choice not to be irresponsible, or is it their nature?

Ten years ago, the American people were suckered into a war to force Saddam Hussein out of power. When I read reports of the young veterans returning from Iraq

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A Brown-Headed Cowbird. If a cowbird sees its egg destroyed, it will often destroy those of the other bird.

The cowbird chick demands more food than the other chicks in the nest, and frequently bullies them into starvation.

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and Afghanistan missing their limbs, or their emotional stability, I get angry at the people who started those wars, and then went golfing, because the consequences of the wars were no longer their responsibility.

They laid an egg and left others to raise it.

Is there a difference between hawks and cowbirds? Can either help themselves?

People who know the risks of unprotected sex, and nevertheless choose to engage in risky behavior, often contract HIV, and then sometimes see themselves as a victim. “If I wasn’t gay, if I wasn’t Latino, if I wasn’t young, this wouldn’t have happened to me.

I didn’t feel I had the choice.”

People who act out at work, come in late, leave early, impose their moods on others, disrupt the cohesiveness of the office, and then get written up for poor performance, often respond by saying,

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“You’re only doing this to me because I’m black, because I’m gay, because I’m old, because I’m a transgender woman, etc. I’m filing a grievance.” And then they go to the leadership of their Employee Resource Group, or to their union, and say, “Fix it.”

Some drunk drivers kill other people and blame the bartender who served them too much booze. They tell their families and the courts, “Everyone knew I had a problem, and no one did anything about it.” They lay their egg in someone else’s nest.

New York Mayor Michael Bloomberg wants to outlaw giant, sugary drinks, and hide cigarettes, because some people can’t help themselves. They can’t make healthy choices. Do we have a responsibility to stop people from engaging in unhealthy behaviors because irresponsible people end up with diabetes, heart conditions, and

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cancer, and drive up the cost of health care for people who choose not to gulp sugar or inhale smoke?

Cowbirds are selfish, self-absorbed creatures who, from my perspective, behave as if the world owes them. And yet, cowbirds would be extinct if all other birds rejected the egg in the nest that wasn’t theirs. If we didn’t accommodate cowbirds, they would die out, or change their behaviors in order to survive. But, they don’t have to change because some of us enable their lifestyle.

Maybe it’s true charity, or maybe it’s emotionally unhealthy co-dependency that drives us, but there are many of us who take on the responsibility that others refuse to take. Some people adopt the crack babies, or the HIV-positive babies, who have been abandoned by their mothers. Some people, like Ray and me, pick up the popcorn bags and soda cups left on the floor by other movie goers. We clean up public restrooms where others have thrown their hand towels on the floor, or failed to flush the toilet. We even pick up dog poop, though we no longer have a dog.

Though cowbirds and their human counterparts refuse to take responsibility for their behaviors, those of us who do take responsibility for the effects of their behaviors have to ask ourselves if we’re helping or hurting. In each instance, the answer will be different. We’re helping by taking responsibility for the child that would otherwise die of neglect, but we may be making things worse by making it easier for irresponsible people to pay no price for their behavior, like giving them money so that they can continue to live the cowbird life.

Cowbirds are not all bad. They eat a lot of insects. Cowbird people are not all bad either. Many of them contribute significantly to our lives. It’s their irresponsible behaviors, and attitudes of entitlement, that make them unattractive and unwelcome in my nest.

Brian McNaught was named “the godfather of gay diversity training” by The New York Times. He works with corporate executives globally, is the author of six books, and is featured in seven educational DVDs. He and his spouse Ray Struble divide their year between Fort Lauderdale and Provincetown.

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opinion le t t e r f r o m t h e ed i t o r Gideon Grudo

We Will Keep Doing

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As you’re reading this, your phones and tablets are ringing with news of SCOTUS’ ongoing DOMA and Prop 8 Supreme Court cases.

Many of you have waited a long time for this. Others are being born into it. Some fought hard for it, others reap the benefits of those battles. Regardless, every one of you becomes a witness to it: A participating witness or a passive witness; a part of history or an observer.

The excitement belongs to us all.

Along with every other LGBT outlet out there, SFGN is here to record the excitement.

And along with the movement itself, SFGN is plowing ahead.

I’m pleased to announce that Jason Parsley is SFGN’s new associate publisher.

I’m pleased to announce that Mike Trottier is SFGN’s new director of sales and marketing.

I’m pleased to announce that Justin Wyse is SFGN’s new sales manager.

I’m pleased to announce that I’m SFGN’s new editor-in-chief.

Our internal composition means little to you, but here’s what does matter: Our print edition has been completely revamped. Our website has been forcefully inducted into the 22nd century. We’re reinventing ourselves and finally adapting to a brave new world.

A world where long-awaited reinventions are finally approaching — societal ones, economic ones, sexual ones.

And I’m taking it personally.

My new year’s resolution was to go big or go home.

I have many people chirping around me in emails and phone calls about the limitations that a small, weekly newspaper faces. And limits indeed we face. But the reaction is simple, and I’ll let Robert Heinlein take over for a moment: “Always listen to experts. They’ll tell you what can’t be done and why. Then do it.”

Haughty as it may sound, it’s a way of life here in our Wilton Manors offices, where a digital future gleans down at our paper product. And so we stare right back at it.

Going big means taking risks. It means opening locked doors and facing dark rooms.

It means not always going — sometimes it means falling. Sometimes the cynical experts were right. And while they may sneer at a loss, we smile at the experience.

The redesign brought with it some hiccups.

The new website did, too. Every single bump is a lesson. Every single (overcome) obstacle is a notch on our belts.

SFGN could have maintained the status quo. Old design, old website, old news. That would have kept us safe at harbor, but that’s not what ships are meant for.

Our new website is reactive. That means it adjusts itself to work on your computer, your tablet, and your phone. Adjusting and evolving is a choice. We can make it. If we do, we survive. If we don’t, well, you know.

But a new site or a new design or a new staff doesn’t finish this endless journey. Go take a look at our site. Find things you don’t like? Email me and let me know. Find things you like? You can email those, too.

Have an unrelated question? Holler. An unturned stone? Turn it!

The staff of SFGN and I are here to serve you, and we can do that best when we talk about what you want, and what you don’t.

The email servers can handle your messages, and the phone lines are blinking in anticipation.

We will continue to change things. Every day. Every month. Every year. It’s the nature

of the beast. Sometimes, we’ll do good.

Sometimes, we will fail.

And when we fall on our face, that’s when the real quality comes. We will stand up, brush the dirt off our knees, mend our wounds, and note our mistakes.

Then we will keep walking, and we will keep running, and we will keep doing.

Yours in ink, Gideon Grudo

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My HIV Diary Over It, Week 29

My numbers are doing well. I’m still undetectable and my CD4 count is in the 700s for the first time in a long time.

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Ryan Dixon (a.k.a former porn star Kameron Scott) has started taking HIV medication.

He’s keeping a diary of his experience.

Being in my mid-20’s isn’t easy, add HIV on top of that and we have one hell of a complicated life. I’m making the best out of the hand life has dealt me and the decisions I’ve made along the way. Writing helps free my mind. Hopefully these words will help you understand the plight of others like myself, and inspire you to live each and every day in the moment.

Week 29

(March 14 to March 21) This week’s entry has a lot of mixed emotions in it. I was asked last week how I pushed through dark moments and I said that I always remember that someone may need me to be strong for them one day. I have to confess, I’m not as strong as I may appear to be. Truth is, I’ve been fighting a lot with myself the last week.

Since my last doctor’s appointment over a week ago, I haven’t taken a single pill. As I’m writing this, I’ve purposely missed taken seven doses of my medication and I can tell you why: Plain and simple, I’m tired.

It’s tough to have to take pills every day and struggle with it. “Am I taking these pills for myself or am I taking them just because of the study?” These thoughts are something I’ve been struggling with for some time now. I talked to the doctor overseeing my study to express my concerns. I’m mentally exhausted with the burden of having to take

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my medication to not screw up millions of dollars that are going into this research. I’m thinking to myself, “I’m not doing this for myself any more.”

He and I discussed possibly stopping the study. I don’t really want to quit, but yet I do. You can’t beat free medicine in a day and age when a month’s supply of ARVs costs thousands of dollars. Plus, the medication is working. Truth be told, maybe I’m tired because I haven’t taken my pills. I know back in the beginning I found this new burst of energy in my life once I started a medicine therapy. But now, what is really helping he is also burning me out at the same time.

It may sound silly that taking three little pills could really disrupt my day or make me tired, but trust me, it does. I used to take my pills in the morning when I woke up, but now the new pill I’m on has a food restriction. I have to take it with a certain amount of food. To ensure that happened, I changed my time to take my pills from breakfast to lunch. Unfortunately, with my new web writing assignments for SFGN, I sometimes have a late lunch or sit at my desk and type through it. I’ve remembered after work to take my pills but then had to wait for dinner. I almost feel like these lifesaving drugs are getting in the way of living a normal and productive life.

I’m a believer in the power of medicine and the wonders man can do, but, right now, I just want my life to go back to normal.

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opinion letters to the editor Taxation Without Representation Neil Was A Good Person Dear Editor, Your article in the current issues on DOMA and Bill Clinton’s enactment of the bill clarified a lot of questions I get from supporters of my situation from friends and relatives in the US and Canada. My partner is a dual citizen of Italy and Colombia. We have been partners for 4 and 1/2 years. He has resided in the US for the last 11 years under a student visa, earning an MBA in accounting, then with a H1B work visa which we hope will be extended to October 2014. Then he will have to leave the US. I am a permanent resident of the District of Columbia. I am now 72 and retired and spend several months every winter in Ft. Lauderdale.

Marco is 39 and employed in the business office of a prominent Washington theatre company. He is basically frozen in his job situation, exploited and under-paid, because of his visa status. We can legally marry in DC, but DOMA precludes Federal recognition, so I am hesitant to take that step, only to have him deported, and have a husband in another country. Repeal of DOMA seems to be the only answer, concurred by a prominent

immigration attorney today who I paid $400 for an hour of time (on top of about $8,000 I have paid over the last couple of years to get an extension of the H1B visa).

As A resident of he District of Columbia, I have no voting representation in Congress; thus our license plate with the inscription: “Taxation without Representation.” Last week, I contacted Nancy Pelosi and John Boehner asking them to represent me on the DOMA issue because I would not otherwise be represented in Congress. Nancy Pelosi responded within 12 hours with a very encouraging email that 212 members of the House had joined in an amicus brief to he Supreme Court. I’m still waiting to hear from the speaker.

If I can sponsor Marco for a green card, after DOMA is overturned and equal rights are given to same-sex marriages, we will probably relocate to Ft. Lauderdale. He can probably find a better job here with his MBA, and speaking English, Spanish and Italian.

Jim Duley Ft. Lauderdale

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Hi Norm, I lived in Wilton Manors from 1992 until 2012. I found Neil Rogers very early on as I have always been a radio fan.

Also became good friends with Craig Worthing, and enjoyed your show also.

I met Neil just a couple of times back when he used to do spots. Oh how I loved listening to Neil. Really the greatest of any I ever heard, by far. I really got to love the guy.

Anyone who listened enough realized that deep down Neil was a really good person.

He made my day, and like all of us some days were better than others. I’ll never forget him. I just wish he had a happier personal life then he seemed to have. He sure deserved it.

I am writing to thank you for the excellent piece you wrote titled “The Diarrhea in our Lives.”

I have been following your life a bit also. You have written some really beautiful columns over the years and I remember your cancer battle well. I certainly hope you’re going to be O.K. for many years to come.

I live in St. Pete now. A little more laid back and friendlier here and I like it. I find your paper at the Alibi here. Thanks for sending it to St. Pete. I really enjoy your paper.

Just felt like saying hello is all.

Sincerely, David Bonazzoli

Seiler Adverse to Equal Rights Dear Mr. Seiler, I bring to your attention (but I think you know it already) a national bipartisan initiative called the Mayors for the Freedom to marry Mayors for the Freedom to Marry | Freedom to Marry in support of marriage equality. Currently 323 Mayors met this commitment, the largest cities of the country and also medium size or small communities.

Marriage for same gender couples is not legal in Florida and same gender couples married in other states are denied all federal rights by a law called DOMA. This is discrimination with many practical consequences on their lives.

These mayors take a stand against discrimination and make good on the promise of the Pledge of Allegiance : “with liberty and justice for all”. I hope that you will take a stand for justice for all your citizens as our President did, many mayors in Florida (27 mayors) and join this initiative.

“You and I, as citizens, have the obligation to shape the debates of our time - not only with the votes we cast, but with the voices we lift in defense of our most ancient values and enduring ideals.” (B. Obama, Inauguration speech).

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adverse to equall rights for your Gay and Lesbian citizens, but I don’t understand that, as a mayor, you hurt Fort Lauderdale’s economy and interest.

Increasingly progressive businesses will opt to avoid cities and localities that do not oppose discrimination against LGBT citizens.

There are multiple examples of this already.

It also hurts the tourism industry, especially in a city like Fort Lauderdale. Here is an article from the Stateline about the consequences of an anti gay policy and not supporting their basic rights: Arizona’s latest move to rescind samesex health benefits for state employees has some worried that it will hurt the state’s tourism industry.

Edwin Leslie, a member of the Arizona Tourism Advisory Council, stepped down Tuesday (July 10) to protest the state’s attempt to get approval from the U.S. Supreme Court for the benefits change, which was denied by lower federal courts. In a letter to Governor Jan Brewer, who appointed him, Leslie wrote that the governor’s actions “are contrary to those needed to ensure the success of the Tourism industry in Arizona.”

Arizona is one of 19 states that offer benefits to the same-sex partners of state

employees, according to the National Conference on State Legislatures. In its filing with the Supreme Court, Attorney General Tom Horne wrote that rescinding the benefit for state employees “furthers the State’s interest in promoting marriage.”

Michael McFall, publisher of the Arizona Pride Guide, a tourism publication aimed at the gay community, toldThe Arizona Republic he estimates gay travelers bring in $122 million a year in tourism revenue.

The national economic impact of gay and lesbian travelers is estimated by Community Marketing, Inc., a San Francisco-based marketing company that focuses on the gay and lesbian market, at more than $65 billion each year.

Policies affecting gay rights have an impact on tourism, according to the International Gay and Lesbian Travel Association. The association’s president, John Tanzella, cited the recent example of New York, which legalized gay marriage last year.

“New York City is actively marketing for domestic and international gay couples to visit, get married and honeymoon,” Tanzella said in a statement. “The city predicts it will generate $310 (million) over the next three years in incremental revenues.”

Thank you Mr. Seiler, have a great day.

Tricia Jones I wish you all the best Norm.

Tricia Jones

Marco Rubio is Misguided, Un-American Senator Rubio, I appreciate your service to the State of Florida and the United States.

However, as a fellow Florida Citizen, a fellow American Citizen, and a fellow Christian Citizen of the kingdom of the Lord, I am concerned by your declaration at CPAC that “just because I believe that states should have the right to define marriage in a traditional way does not make me a bigot.”

Let’s not mince words here, sir. You are clearly referring to your opposition to the marriage rights of same-gendered Citizens.

How, then do you define “bigot”? According to Merriam Webster’s Dictionary, a bigot is “a person who is obstinately or intolerantly devoted to his or her own opinions and prejudices; especially: one who regards or treats the members of a group with hatred and intolerance.”

In that same speech you stated that “in order to work together with those you disagree with, there has to be mutual respect; that means I respect people who disagree with me on certain things, but they have to respect me, too.” Sir, YOU are not the one being persecuted; it is you who are perpetrating the persecution. YOU are propagating, preaching and instigating unholy hate and persecution and violence

and subjugation of a group of Citizens – your Equals, whether you like it or not - based on your own personal and private views of theocracy; presuming, like the tyrant King George - the power to deprive Citizens of THEIR lives, THEIR liberties, and THEIR pursuit of happiness. As a doctor friend of mine once said, “you do not persecute those you love, you persecute those you HATE.” Your relentless, misguided, un-American belief that gays Citizens are not your equals is a doctrine of Hitler, sir. You are free to be passionate about your beliefs, but you may NOT run us over with them. I must insist that you, as a servant of the People of Florida, start speaking for the defense of ALL Floridians, not just the ones who suit your fancy or fit within your moral cookie cutter; for I assure you sir that, though Florida Citizens are deprived of the right to have you recalled, you will stand nonetheless before the Judge of the Universe, whom you profess faith in, to account for the harm that is caused to each and every homosexual in Florida because of your “obstinate and intolerant devotion to your own opinions and prejudices”. Neither the United States nor the State of Florida is a theocracy or a democracy, and I must insist that you immediately submit to the

command of the United States Constitution which mandates a Republican form of government. You say you are a Republican; then behave like one or STEP DOWN, sir.

We will have justice here, not the whims of men. There is no just cause to deny to unrelated adult human Citizens their sovereign birth right to marry. May I remind you that American “traditional values” also included slavery. I will close by reminding you of the words of Jesus and Paul who said, “Laying aside the commandment of God, ye hold the tradition of men… Why do ye also transgress the commandment of God by your tradition?”

“Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits anddoctrines of devils, speaking lies in hypocrisy, having their conscience seared with a hot iron, FORBIDDING TO MARRY”.

With you as our senator, I’d like to look forward to Florida’s future as place of liberty and justice for all, not a Spanish Inquisition.

Rev. Jim Cunningham King James Bible Ministries International www.gaychristiansurvivors.com/

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Online Radio Show Provides Voice for LBT Women’s Health Andrea Dulanto

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Since 2009, the Area Resource and Referral Organization for Women (ARROW) has been providing lesbian, bisexual and transgender women in South Florida with credible healthcare information and referrals.

Some of its notable accomplishments include the Women of Color Health Expo, an online directory of LBT sensitive health providers , and certification to train healthcare professionals in cultural competence.

Recently, ARROW has found that a BlogTalkRadio show may be another way to increase awareness about LBT women’s health.

For those unfamiliar with BlogTalkRadio, this online platform gives individuals and organizations the opportunity to host their own radio shows. It is free to listen to episodes, which are available as live broadcasts and on-demand.

In an email interview with SFGN, founder and president of ARROW, Nan Van Den Bergh, discussed how ARROW’s radio program, LBT Health, relates to the nonprofit’s mission: “Rather than women having to travel to a location for a health promotion workshop, they can just listen to these shows from the comfort of their own home, or phone,” Van Der Bergh said. “Furthermore, having a BlogTalkRadio show allows people to broach questions [via online chat] to health promotion experts, and to get an immediate response!”

When ARROW started broadcasting on BlogTalkRadio in June 2012, listeners were introduced to the host, Kay Richardson, an occupational therapist and clinical coordinator for the Occupational Therapy Assistant program at Keiser University in Miami.

“As a lesbian, I look for educational seminars and health care providers that are sensitive and allow me to feel free and comfortable discussing my health concerns,” Richardson said. “Some LBT women are not comfortable discussing their needs openly with providers or family members, so ARROW allows them to connect socially and locate medical providers that are sensitive to the subjects surrounding LBT health.”

Richardson is also “a business coach who specializes in marketing, help[ing] nonprofits and small businesses identify and reach their target market.”

As she developed her vision for ARROW’s radio show, she was driven by the idea “that their message needed to reach the LBT community locally and globally.”

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ARROW, who presented information about its mission and services. Unfortunately, part of that episode is inaudible due to problems with a phone connection.

However, LBT Health resumed its broadcasts in February 2013 with most technical issues resolved. And despite these glitches, the sense of purpose is unwavering.

“We are trying to get the word out about breast and reproductive cancers in LBT women as well as general health,” Cohen told SFGN. In the past month, the program has featured various guests and subject matters: Amy Sears on Complementary and Alternative Cancer Therapies; Ann Fonfa of the Annie Appleseed Project; Planned Parenthood on Safe Sex for LBT Women; Nutrition and LBT Women’s Health; and The Mautner Project on the health needs of African-American LBT Women.

“One of ARROW’s strengths is our connection to the network of highly talented and knowledgeable health care providers interested in LBT women’s health promotion,” Van Den Bergh said. “We have been blessed with the generosity of those individuals willing to share their expertise and time.”

Upcoming episodes will be announced on ARROW’s website as well as on the LBT Health page on BlogTalkRadio.

For more information about ARROW, go to arrowlbt.org.

To listen to ARROW’s LBT Health program at BlogTalkRadio, visit blogtalkradio.com/ lbt-health

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Gay Porn King Michael Lucas’ Love Affair With Unlikely Gay Mecca David-Elijah Nahmod davidwriter@msn.com

When most people think of Israel, they think of a country that exists in a perpetual state of war.

For many years, the news media has been flooded with reports of suicide bombings and rocket attacks across the Holy Land.

Images of Ultra-Orthodox Jews standing in prayer before Jerusalem’s Western Wall led many outsiders to assume that the country was controlled by conservative religious fundamentalists.

All that began to change when gay porn entrepreneur Michael Lucas released what he now says is his all time best selling title: Men of Israel. The film, shot entirely on location in the Jewish State, was the first gay adult feature to showcase Israeli models. Sex scenes were brazenly filmed outdoors in various locales around the country. To the Russian born Lucas, who has been very public about his strong Jewish identity, Men of Israel was an idea whose time has come.

Lucas has never been afraid to shy away from controversy. In addition to his work in the gay adult industry, he’s a columnist for The Advocate, and has also contributed to Huffington Post, Pink News and the New York Blade. He’s been an outspoken critic of drug use and barebacking in the porn world, and has no qualms about condemning the rampant homophobia among Orthodox Jews and Fundamentalist Muslims.

This year, Lucas unveiled his first nonpornographic feature. With Undressing Israel: Gay Men in the Promised Land, the filmmaker’s camera takes his audience on an eye opening tour of Tel Aviv, the beachfront Israeli metropolis that has, in recent years, emerged as the Middle East’s answer to New York, San Francisco, West Hollywood and South Beach.

As the film opens, the Knesset, the Israeli Parliament, offers an official declaration of support for Israel’s annual Pride festival.

The camera then follows Lucas as he tours Tel Aviv, chatting with local gay residents.

What we see is an out, vibrant community with a strong sense of self, and even stronger family connections.

As Lucas walks down a quiet Tel Aviv street with gay father Yossi Berg, founder of Rainbow Families, gay couples, some pushing baby strollers, can be seen. Lucas also attends

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an Israeli gay wedding, where a proud Mom gives her son away to the man of his dreams.

“I am ethnically Jewish,” Lucas told SFGN. “I was born into a Jewish family in the Soviet Union and many of my relatives died in the Holocaust. Growing up I experienced not only homophobia but also anti-Semitism.

So I understood from a very early age the importance of the State of Israel.”

Lucas is unconcerned with how the religious and anti-Israel lobbies perceive him.

He said that he’s never been in contact with the Orthodox community. His condemnation of queer-identified activist organizations such as Jewish Voice For Peace, which protests the Israeli occupation of the West Bank, is harsh.

“There is no point in having a conversation with that self hating group who have made up their minds and only care about the destruction of Israel,” he said.

But Lucas is no anti-Arab hater. On a stopover in Jaffa, Tel Aviv’s historic, ancient neighbor, he has a friendly, upbeat chat with Hader Rayan Abu-Seif, an openly gay Arab-Israeli.

Many surprising fact emerge in Undressing Israel. The country’s gay citizens enjoy a level of federal equality that their American counterparts are still dreaming of.

“I hope to show Israel as it is,” Lucas said.

“A country that is not only a champion of gay rights in the Middle East, but is also way ahead of many Western countries.

And of course, I want to see more tourists go to Israel.”

In addition to founding Lucas Entertainment, currently one of the largest and most respected brand names in gay adult cinema, Lucas was himself a popular and award winning gay adult performer. He said that his notoriety in the industry had no effect on his ability to obtain interview subjects for Undressing Israel.

“Israelis know me as a friend of the country,” he said. “I’m well known in the gay community so that can only help spread the word.”

For more information, go to www. undressingisrael-themovie.com Undressing Israel: Gay Men in the Promised Land has toured at various film festivals. A DVD release is expected to follow.

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Editorial

by NORM KENT

Quietly Advances Gay Rights

This could have been a news article.

It is going to be a short editorial.

Most of all, it is an absolute directive from me to you to go online and view this subtle video, which in a few scenes says more about emerging diversity in America than any commercial I think has ever been produced.

It has won my ‘Addie’ the equivalent of an Oscar, Emmy, or Golden Globe rolled together.

I want to tell you about it on one hand, let you see it first on the other.

So spoiler alert, read it here first, or watch it on you tube later: Beach Scene.

Tropical Waves.

Sun, Umbrella.

Handsome Man. Beautiful Women.

Boy Hits on Girl.

Says we ‘should get a drink.’

She Politely declines.

Points to beach bar.

“My husband,” she says, “is getting me one now.”

Handsome man not offended; not put off.

He turns to gorgeous women, and says: “How about that?” he replies, “So is mine.”

Camera flashes to beach bar, where his husband, And girl’s husband, both flash a smile and toast their drinks.

HERE IS THE LINK: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lS3t9reE364 Wow! Human Rights, so simply defined.

A commercial, so superbly produced!

SFGN’s compliments to the chefs, the creators and the visionary minds who put this all together.

How much it says, and how well it says it.

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Pride Center Offers Plenty of “Senior Stuff” An interview with Bruce Williams Jesse Monteagudo

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The Senior Advisory Council (SAC), a program of the Pride Center at Equality Park, works in concert with other groups to promote visibility and awareness of LGBT seniors and their issues through supportive, educational programs and activities.

On Jan. 3, 2013 Bruce Williams became the Center’s Senior Services Coordinator, in charge of overseeing senior activities.

Williams comes to his new job with excellent credentials: “My first postcollege job was with The Oneida County Department of Social Services where my role was to provide services to nearly 100 Spanish speaking families living in upstate New York. After working a mutual case with Charlotte Harvey, director of social services at St. Luke’s Hospital, I was offered a position, left the county and began my acute care experience. Loving my hospital work but hating the cold, my loyalties were tested when I was offered the assistant executive director’s position at Treemont of Houston — a continuous care retirement community. I accepted the offer and worked in that position for 12 years. When our director decided to retire, I was promoted to her position and served in that capacity for another 12 years until my retirement.

All of the above combined to afford me an immeasurable understanding of our aging process from home-based aging in place, to acute hospital stays, rehab/long term care residency and finally to end of life activities.”

According to Williams, the Senior Advisory Council began when “the center organized a group of skilled volunteers in the community to advise, organize, create and coordinate activities, events and resources for LGBT seniors. Spearheaded by passionate seniors in the community, the center saw an unmet need and organized to better serve local seniors. At one point, grant funds allowed the center to employ a part-time Senior Service Coordinator.

Thankfully, due to the generosity from some local foundations and the proceeds of our annual Senior Health Expo, the center was once again able to hire someone dedicated to expanding and enhancing senior services.”

SAC’s goal is “to further the Pride Center’s efforts to provide a safe, welcoming, inclusive space for everyone. We do this by planning and sponsoring social activities, offering education that addresses our diverse needs,

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NORC for all LGBT seniors in South Florida. With its mission as a safe, inclusive and welcoming place, the Pride Center has provided the opportunity for the SAC and our community at large to convene, to identify, to assess, and to address our mutual needs.”

The Pride Center’s web site (www. pridecenterflorida.org) lists a variety of “senior stuff” organized by the SAC. According to Williams, the “flagship of the Center’s senior programming is our ‘Coffee & Conversation’ programs every Tuesday at 10 a.m. Each week over 100 people show up to enjoy coffee, goodies and to hear from our weekly sponsor.

Our Tuesday gatherings also include planned afternoon activities” which alternate The Pride Center’s Senior Services Coordinator, Bruce Williams between “Games Days” and Photo Courtesy of The Pride Center a “Speakers Series.”

The center also provides acting as advocates, collaborating with other service providers, promoting interaction with seniors with an Enhance Fitness Program members of the community at large, providing (in conjunction with the YMCA of Broward community resource materials and promoting County), a Matter of Balance course, bridge intergenerational communication,” Williams game gatherings, Pinochle and Hearts said. “Studies have shown that members of sessions and even Mahjong.

While “Coffee & Conversation” draws over today’s senior LGBT community have fewer family, social and financial resources than 100 followers, the afternoon sessions attract their heterosexual counterparts. Many LGBT between 25 and 50 attendees while the seniors have become estranged from their exercise classes are enjoyed by 150 people. families and may only have their partner and/ Women comprise about 20 percent of most or a small circle of friends to help them face program participants.

The SAC also works with other groups, the many issues of aging. During the working environment in which these folks existed, they such as SAGE (Senior Action in a Gay often had to remain closeted or face losing Environment), Prime Timers and Broward their jobs as a result of prevailing and powerful Meals on Wheels. According to Williams, “in homophobic attitudes. As a result both the the past, some of our morning participants numbers and needs of the current LGBT would leave for lunch and not return for the community have been not only understated afternoon session. Broward County Meals On Wheels has graciously come to our aid but have remained almost invisible.”

The Pride Center tries to deal with and now provides lunch on a weekly basis. this dilemma by providing LGBT seniors Not only has this helped increase afternoon with a Naturally Occurring Retirement participation by those individuals who formerly left after the morning session but Community (NORC).

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limited social contact in their homes. SAGE sponsors ‘Coffee & Conversation’ and offers a weekly Men’s Drop-In and Computer Class. The Prime Timers hold their monthly meeting and pot luck dinner at the Center and are most active in sharing information about all the goings-on that occur.”

Williams’s position is funded in part by proceeds from the center’s annual Senior Health Expo and a gift from the Howard Greenfield Charitable Foundation. The Foundation, Williams said, “recently awarded the Pride Center a $25,000 gift dedicated to Senior Services. The Center also received a $2,000 gift from the Vasquez Family Foundation Fund of the Community Foundation of Broward. The Center is humbled and honored by these gifts and remains committed to using the money wisely and strategically to enhance LGBT Senior Service locally.”

Though most of the Center’s senior activities are of a social nature, Williams would like to offer more on the “enlightenment” side: “We all face issues as we grow older. Perhaps because I have worked with the elderly for several decades, I am more acutely aware of the need for advance planning. That we will age is a given but one can choose to become more aware of aging process and the resources available.”

“The SAC has a history of identifying and meeting the needs of our community.

We recently provided 2 AEDs (Automatic External Defibrillators) that could literally save lives at the center. In response to a seating issue, the SAC initiated a campaign, raised money and provided the chairs as needed. The SAC recently contributed nearly $2000 toward renovation of the exercise area in Building B. In conjunction with AARP and the Area Agency on Aging, we have scheduled a CarFit Program which will help area seniors to make certain their vehicles are safe and maximized for their best use. Plans are underway to schedule Safe Homes programs where information is made available to increase safety and optimize living arrangements in one’s home. Needs of our seniors are ever evolving and the SAC is prepared to continue to identify, to initiate and to adapt where necessary in an effort to provide the needs of our aging LGBT community.”

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Taking a Closer

k at L Premature Ejaculation Photo Courtesy of Okko Pyykkö

Sean McShee While male relationship dysfunctions number in the thousands, only two major male sexual dysfunctions are recognized - premature ejaculation (PE) and erectile dysfunction (ED).

No valid estimate currently exists for how common Premature Ejaculation (PE) is among all MSM (Men who have Sex with Men). The studies that do exist, however, show some interesting patterns. In one study, lower urinary tract symptoms, HIV positive status, having fewer than six lifetime sexual partners, and dissatisfaction with sexual life were associated with greater risk for PE. In another study, condom usage was found to decrease the risk for PE. Several studies found that Erectile Dysfunction was more common among MSM than the exclusively heterosexual, but PE was less common among MSM than the exclusively heterosexual.

People in these studies reported two unusual sexual dysfunctions: delayed ejaculation and painful receptive anal sex. The U.S. Government Healthy People 2020 Initiative has identified health disparities between MSM and the exclusively heterosexual an obstacle to the national health. As a result we should be seeing more and better research on this topic.

SFGN recently conducted an email interview about PE with Dr. Dr. Mohit Khera, an Assistant Professor of Urology at Baylor College of Medicine.

Can you define “premature ejaculation”?

Three common themes occur in patients with premature ejaculations (PE): 1) A rapid ejaculation usually less than one minute.

2) Feelings that they lack control of their ejaculation timing.

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3) Experiences of distress and interpersonal difficulty, possibly leading to frustration and avoidance of sexual intimacy.

The studies on premature ejaculation are very interesting.

We give the couple a stop watch and ask them to time their sexual intercourse. Before we used the stop watch technique, we found that many men with PE tended to underestimate their time to orgasm and men without PE tended to overestimate their time to orgasm.

How common is PE among men in general?

Roughly 30 percent of men suffer from premature ejaculation, yet very few men seek treatment. The percent of men with PE varies among countries and different ethnic groups. For example, it tends to be higher in Asian countries but lower in European countries. This may be due to cultural differences, different attitudes, and beliefs towards sex.

What factors are thought to influence PE? Biological factors include an increased sensitivity of the head of the penis, an inflamed prostate, chronic pelvic pain, thyroid problems, and certain drugs. Neurobiological factors include problems with neurotransmitters in the brain, such as serotonin. Finally psychological factors play a large role in the development of PE. These factors include history of sexual abuse, impaired self-body image, depression, performance anxiety, and problems with intimacy.

What types of treatments are available for PE? While several treatment options exist for men with PE, the use of local anesthetics to diminish the sensitivity of the penis

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is one of the oldest and well-proven treatments for PE. Another commonly used therapy is anti-depressants.

SSRIs can treat PE because they increase serotonin, which is known to delay orgasm. Many men with PE also suffer from depression. While antidepressants effectively treat PE, they need to be taken daily or at least 4-6 hours prior to intercourse. Antidepressants can also have systemic side effects such as, nausea, headache, dry mouth, weight gain, and reduced sexual desire.

Finally, psychological counseling, or sex therapy, is very effective in treating PE. This therapy focuses on teaching techniques, such as the squeeze technique or the start-stop technique, to delay ejaculation. The goal of psychological counseling is increased confidence, lowered performance anxiety, increased partner communication, and reduced interpersonal problems that may have caused the PE. What would be the best way to approach your doctor about a problem like PE/RE? Only 9 percent of men with PE actually seek medical attention for their condition. Most men do not seek treatment because they are embarrassed or do not believe treatment will help. A recent study found that 91.5 percent of patients who did seek treatment for PE felt that the treatment was not effective. Furthermore, many physicians are also uncomfortable discussing PE with their patients. Let your physician know that you suffer from PE and you are interested in discussing treatment options.

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lifestyle history

Women’s History Month The gay pioneers

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Barbara Gittings / Gay Pioneer 7/31/1932 - 2/18/2007 “For [48] years I’ve had the satisfaction of working with other gay people all across the country to get the bigots off our backs, to oil the closet door hinges, to change prejudiced hearts and minds, and to show that gay love is good for us and for the rest of the world too.”

Barbara Gittings participated in the first organized annual gay civil rights demonstrations, helped convince the American Psychiatric Association to remove homosexuality from its list of mental disorders, and helped persuade libraries to include gay content.

Gittings began her career in activism in 1958 when she founded the New York chapter of the Daughters of Bilitis, the first lesbian organization.

She edited their magazine The Ladder from 1963 to 1966.

In 1965, Gittings marched in the first gay picket lines at the White House to protest discrimination by the governmenta and also participated in the first annual demonstrations for gay and lesbian civil rights each July 4 from 1965 to 1969 at Independence Hall in Philadelphia. These yearly protests laid the grouzzhndwork for the Stonewall rebellion in 1969 and the first New York gay pride parade in 1970.

In the 1970’s, Gittings campaigned with Frank Kameny and others to have homosexuality removed from the American Psychiatric Association’s list of mental disorders. She recruited “Dr. H. Anonymous,” a gay psychiatrist who appeared, masked, on a panel at the 1972 APA conference to tell his colleagues why he couldn’t be open in his own profession.

Gittings also crusaded to make gay literature available in libraries. Though not a librarian, Gittings found a home in the Gay Task Force of the American Library Association, the first gay caucus in a professional organization. Her campaign to promote gay materials and eliminate discrimination in libraries was recognized in 2003 by an honorary lifetime membership conferred by the American Library Association.

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Founders of the first lesbian organization and the first same-sex couple married in California Phyllis Lyon & Del Martin 11/10/1924-

5/5/1921-8/27/2008

“Two extraordinary people ... that have spent the greater part of a half century ... fighting for their right to live the way so many of us, frankly, take for granted.” – Mayor Gavin Newsom

Del Martin and Phyllis Lyon founded the first lesbian organization in the United States and have fought for more than 50 years for the rights of lesbians and gays. On June 16, 2008, Martin and Lyon became the first gay couple to be legally married in California.

Martin and Lyon both earned degrees in journalism.

While working as journalists in Seattle, the two became romantically involved. The couple relocated to San Francisco and moved in together on Valentine’s Day 1953.

In 1955, finding it hard to develop a social network in San Francisco, Martin, Lyon and a small group of women founded the first lesbian organization, called the Daughters of Bilitis. The name was inspired by Pierre Louys’s “Songs of Bilitis,” a collection of poems celebrating lesbian sexuality.

Though it was intended to be a secret society, Martin and Lyon wanted to make the Daughters of Bilitis more visible. The group began publishing a monthly magazine, called The Ladder, which was the first-ever lesbian publication.

In 1964, while fighting to change California sex laws criminalizing homosexuals, the couple joined religious and gay community leaders to form the Council on Religion and the Homosexual (CRH).

In 2004, when gay marriage was offered in San Francisco, Martin and Lyon were the first to wed.

A California appellate court ruling subsequently invalidated their marriage. Then in May 2008, a California Supreme Court decision provided same-sex couples the right to marry. On June 16, 2008, they were the first same-sex couple married in California.

The wedding was officiated by San Francisco Mayor Gavin Newsom.

On their 50th anniversary, the documentary “No Secret Anymore: The Times of Del Martin and Phyllis Lyon” premiered.

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Lilli Vincenz / Gay Pioneer 9/26/1937“We were laying the groundwork for what we hoped would be later activism that would give homosexuals equal rights.”

Lilli Vincenz was the only lesbian to participate in the first White House picket in 1965. From 1965 to 1969, Vincenz demonstrated each Fourth of July in front of Independence Hall and the Liberty Bell. These protests, called Annual Reminders, launched the gay and lesbian civil rights movement.

Vincenz was born in Hamburg, Germany, and grew up during World War II. In 1949, after her mother married an American, the family moved to the U.S. From 1959-60, Vincenz earned bachelor’s degrees in French and German from Douglas College, and a master’s degree in English from Columbia University.

After college, Vincenz enlisted in the Women’s Army Corps and worked at Walter Reed Army Medical Center. After serving nine months, she was outed by her roommate and was discharged for being gay.

In 1963, Vincenz joined the Mattachine Society of Washington (MSW). She was in the MSW delegation that held the first meeting with the Civil Service Commission to discuss discriminatory policies toward gays and lesbians.

In 1971, Vincenz helped launch the Frank Kameny for Congress campaign. This marked the first time an openly gay person ran for public office in the United States.

Vincenz filmed two important gay rights demonstrations: the 1968 Annual Reminder in Philadelphia and the first anniversary of Stonewall, known as the first New York Pride Parade.

From 1971 to 1979, Vincenz hosted a monthly Gay Women’s Open House in Washington to provide a safe setting for socializing and discussing common concerns.

Vincenz has written for numerous publications and has appeared on television and in film.

She resides in Arlington, Virginia, with her partner, Nancy Ruth Davis.

lifestyle views of the news

Thousands Flock to Florida AIDS Walk and Pride Palm Beach

PrideFest The twentieth annual PrideFest of the Palm Beaches and Lake Worth took place this past weekend in downtown Lake Worth at Bryant Park. Organizers estimated that 20,000 attended over the two-day festival, which featured vendors and live entertainment including Gioia Bruno from Expose, NBC’s The Voice contestant Michaela Paige, Teri Catlin, Tony Cruz and Voices of Pride.

“Pretty much by every measure this was the most well attended PrideFest to date, the parade was the longest, vendors told me they had two amazing days,” Executive Director of Compass Tony Plakas said. “What really moved me is that when I first entered the park on Sunday it really felt like it was an event for everybody. I saw just as many

straight people, as from our community.”

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Florida AIDS Walk The AIDS Healthcare Foundation’s eighth annual Florida AIDS Walk and Music Festival took place this past Sunday. Last year’s event more than 3,400 walkers raised more than $826,000. Since its inception the event has raised more than $3 million. SFGN is still waiting on this year’s numbers. SFGN’s team however raised $3,575.

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ou may love to cook at home but every once in a while you like to go out to eat and get served. So we decided to give you a smattering of the delicious restaurants found in the Greater Fort Lauderdale area that some of our staff and readers enjoy eating at. If you stop in at any of these establishments, please tell them SFGN sent you and enjoy!

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Humpys Pizza – 2244 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors Tropics – 2000 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors Courtyard Café – 2211 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors J. Mark’s – 1245 N. Federal Hwy, Fort Lauderdale Stork’s Bakery - 2505 NE 15th Ave, Wilton Manors Pink Submarine – 2041 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors Rosie’s Bar & Grill – 2449 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors Alibi – 2266 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors The Floridian – 1410 E. Las Olas Blvd, Fort Lauderdale NY Grilled Cheese Co. – 2207 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors Lips – 1421 E. Oakland Park Blvd, Oakland Park Il Mulino – 1800 E. Sunrise Blvd, Fort Lauderdale Bill’s Filling Station -2209 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors Rodeo Restaurant & Bar – 2033 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors Mojo’s – 4140 N. Federal Hwy, Fort Lauderdale Java Boys – 2230 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors Le Patio - 2401 NE 11th Ave, Wilton Manors Christina Wan’s – 664 N Federal Hwy, Fort Lauderdale Beefcake’s at Boardwalk – 1721 N. Andrews Ave, Fort Lauderdale Michele’s Dining Lounge – 2761 E. Oakland Park Blvd, Fort Lauderdale Naked Grape Wine and Tapas – 2163 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors Dapur Asian Tapas & Lounge – 1620 N. Federal Hwy, Fort Lauderdale Old Florida Seafood House – 1414 NE 26th St, Wilton Manors Galanga – 2389 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors Peter Pan Diner – 1216 E. Oakland Park Blvd, Oakland Park Nuts About Yogurt – 2207 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors Aruba Beach Café – 1 Commercial Blvd, Lauderdale by the Sea Siam Cuisine – 2010 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors Angel’s Café – 2287 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors Double Dippers Hershey’s Ice cream – 2031 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors CG Burgers – 1732 N. Federal Hwy, Fort Lauderdale La Bamba Mexican & Spanish Restaurant – 4245 N. Federal Hwy, Oakland Park Tee Jay Thai Sushi – 2254 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors

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American Idol alum Constantine Maroulis takes the stage at West Palm Beach’s Kravis Center this weekend in the most famous bipolar role of all time, Jekyll & Hyde. The long-maned rocked is joined by the incomparable Deborah Cox in this tragic Victorian love story. The new touring production makes the stop in South Florida before heading to Broadway later this spring. And Tonynominated composer Frank Wildhorn has some special connections to the region — he and his family moved from New York to Hollywood when he was a boy. Catch performances through Sunday afternoon. Tickets start at $25 at Kravis.org.

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We have to agree with People magazine that Channing Tatum is definitely the sexiest man alive. This weekend, the hunky Magic Mike star returns to the silver screen in the latest installment of the G.I. Joe franchise, Retaliation. We’ll be drooling over the handsome action star from the cozy couches, cocktails in hand, at the Cinemark Palace Premier Club, 3200 Airport Rd. in Boca Raton. The theatre recently installed fancy XD environics technology that will allow you to see every drop of sweat on Tatum’s chiseled abs.

Now that’s the way to enjoy a movie. Showtimes and tickets at Cinemark.com.

The cast of Priscilla, Queen of the Desert will have you dancing in the aisles at Miami’s Arsht Center.

Photo Courtesy of Joan Marcus

SAT Art

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Head over to the city’s only urban arts district, FAT Village, NW 1st Ave. and NW 5th St. in Fort Lauderdale, for the monthly art walk tonight. This month features the Night Owl Market from 5 to 11 p.m. Participating businesses and galleries will offer free wine, beer and cocktails all night to enjoy as you meander between the artist workspaces and galleries. There will also be plenty of vendors and even some food trucks nearby. While in the neighborhood, take in the latest production from Andrews Living Arts, Last of the Red Hot Lovers. For more information, go to Facebook.com/FatVillageArtsDistrict.

Theater

3/31 MON Awards

Only two weekends remain to catch the critically acclaimed production of Annie Baker’s Drama Desk-winning play, Body Awareness, at Empire Stage, directed by Tony-nominated Michael Leeds. The show, a coproduction of Empire Stage and Island City Stage, is a funny and poignant look at a “non-traditional” family— lesbian lovers Joyce and Phyllis and their 21-year-old son, Jared, who may have Asperger’s Syndrome — who must confront their senses of self-image when Phyllis’ college hosts Body Awareness Week on campus. Thursday through Saturday at 8 p.m. and Sundays at 5 p.m. Tickets are $30 at IslandCityStage.org.

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Hollywood’s awards season may be over for the year and we’re months away from the Tonys on Broadway, but South Florida has the Carbonells, its regional theater awards. Lovingly referred to as “Theater Prom,” the annual ceremony will return to the Broward Center’s Amaturo Theater in Fort Lauderdale tonight and members of the region’s active theater community will be dressed to the nines, too. The ceremony, produced and directed by Stuart Meltzer and Michael McKeever, will include performances from the Carbonell-nominated musicals, and usually, some surprises. Dig out those fancy duds and join the party. Tickets are $25 at BrowardCenter.org.

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Shake your groove things because that infamous pink bus, Priscilla, Queen of the Desert, is pulling into Miami’s Arsht Center for a weeklong run. Dance to the biggest hits of the disco era in this musical gender-bending tale of love and acceptance set in the dusty sands of the Australian Outback. If you loved the 1994 film, you’ll love this adaptation that had fans dancing in the aisles on Broadway before hitting the road last year. Heck, just go for the 500+ outrageous Tony Award-winning costumes! Priscilla, Queen of the Desert runs through April 7. Tickets start at $26 at ArshtCenter.org.

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PHOTO OF ORGINAL BROADWAY CAST BY GAVIN BOND; ILLUSTRATION BY M ACIEJ HAJNRICH

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Let’s Celebrate Women’s History Month!

Throughout March SFGN will be gathering photos of our lesbian readers to showcase online and in print in April.

Send them via Facebook, Twitter or email with the hashtag #ThisIsWhatALesbianLooksLike (Deadline to submit is March 31.)

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See it: The Hookies 2013 Gay Escort Awards And Black Party Expo Tony Adams

The annual international gay escort awards called the “Hookies” were announced in New York City on Friday, March 22, 2013 at Roseland Ballroom as part of the Black Party Expo featuring an erotic fashion show; a performance by vintage disco queen Billie Ray Martin; and booths and displays featuring porn studios, purveyors of erotica,

all types of toys, fetish gear, and men working the happy crowd in little more than studded leather jocks.

In other words, a fairly typical New York City night.

This Expo was made scintillating by the attendance of an abundance of gay media personalities including the Village Voice’s

Michael Musto, fiendishly roving video star Mike Diamond, gorgeous activist Jack Mackenroth — who was the cover boy of a recent issue of SFGN’s The Mirror — legendary NYC TV host and retired porn star, Robin Byrd, Sirius XM radio host Frank DeCaro, renowned gay porn producer Chi Chi LaRue and Miami’s playwright/actor David

Leddick who stopped by with the cast of his NYC production “Rentboy The Musical.”

Kisses flew across the red carpet, and everyone agreed that the difference between this group of hot, eager-to-please and honest escorts and the hypocritical clergymen and politicians who often make headlines was refreshing.

April 5th & 6th, 2013 8 pm

The Fort Lauderdale Museum of Art Auditorium Erotic fashion show at the annual Black Party Expo held at Roseland Ballroom in New York City on March 22.

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Do you like Judy?

The Golden Girls?

Naughty jailbirds doing the tango?

If so, you’ll love the Original Fort Lauderdale Gay Men’s Chorus’ Spring show: Guilty Pleasures. Join us April 5th & 6th, 2013 at 8pm for a fantastic night of the entertainment that will satisfy all your musical desires!

Tickets: $25 General Admission & $40 VIP

For updated information on our concerts, events or joining our chorus, please visit our website www.theftlgmc.org Funding for this organization is provided in part by the Broward County Commissioners as recommended by the Broward Cultural Council. or call 954.832.0060.

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And the Winner is…

Carbonells to Recognize Best in Regional Theater J.W. Arnold

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The many talented actors, designers and directors who are usually on stage or tucked away behind sound or lighting boards will find themselves in the audience on Monday, April 1 as the best achievements in South Florida theater are recognized at the 2013 Carbonell Awards.

Held at the Broward Center’s Amaturo Theatre, the ceremony has lovingly been dubbed “Theater Prom,” as the many creative characters in the industry dress up to celebrate an especially strong season.

Named after Manuel Carbonell, the recently deceased Cuban sculptor who designed the first awards nearly 40 years ago, the Carbonell Awards are modeled after the American Theatre Wing’s Antoinette Perry Awards — the “Tonys” — awarded on Broadway.

Awards are presented for Best Production

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of a Play and Musical, Best Performance by an Actor and Actress in a Play and Musical, Direction, Choreography, and technical categories such as Lighting and Set Design.

Nearly 100 productions from theatres in Miami-Dade, Broward and Palm Beach counties were eligible for consideration, said Mary Damiano, coordinator of the selection process.

“It’s actually a two-stage process,” she explained. “First, we send a team of nominators on opening weekend.

If they agree on a specified number of categories, the production is considered by a panel of judges.”

The judges make nominations and ultimately vote for the award-winners, but it takes more than 30 nominators and judges to oversee the entire process.

Maltz Jupiter Theatre’s The Music Man and Ruined, produced by GableStage in Coral Gables, earned the most nominations during the 2012 judging period, with 18 theaters earning nominations. The Maltz Jupiter Theater earned the most nominations of any with 23, while GableStage, Actors’ Playhouse in Coral Gables, and Palm Beach Dramaworks in West Palm Beach tied with 12 nominations each.

“The South Florida theatre community is blessed with a diverse and dedicated group of art makers and theatrical producers as evidenced by this year’s nominees. We celebrate and thank the many professional theater companies in Miami-Dade, Broward and Palm Beach counties that participate in our awards process every year,” said Scott Shiller, chairman of the Carbonell Awards board of directors, in a statement.

“This was an exceptionally strong year,” commented Tony Finstrom, a Fort Lauderdale playwright and Carbonell judge. “We had to make some very difficult decisions.”

The South Florida theatre community was rocked last year with the sudden closure of several companies, including The Promethean Theatre in Davie, Mosaic Theatre in Plantation and Caldwell Theatre in Boca Raton. Now dark, their achievements were remembered with several nominations, including Caldwell’s Best Play nominee, The Elaborate Entrance of Chad Deity.

Three new theatres were also nominated in their inaugural seasons, including Arts Garage

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Held at the Broward Center’s Amaturo Theatre, the ceremony has lovingly been dubbed “Theater Prom,” as the many creative characters in the industry dress up to celebrate an especially strong season.

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in Delray Beach, Manalapan’s Plaza Theatre and Island City Stage in Wilton Manors.

“Our Carbonell nomination for Twentieth Century Way was so important as we work to build a new company. It’s helped us with fundraising and really validated our approach,” said Andy Rogow, artistic director of Island City Stage.

The awards ceremony, produced and directed by Stuart Meltzer and Michael McKeever with music direction by Caryl Ginsburg Fantel, promises to be a nailbiter for many in the audiences. And, all eyes will be on the stage Monday as, one by one, the envelopes are opened and the winners announced.

IF YOU G What

37th Annual Carbonell Awards

When

Monday, April 1, 7:30 p.m.

Where

Amaturo Theatre, Broward Center, Fort Lauderdale

How Much

$25 in advance, $35 at door at

More Info.

BrowardCenter.org or box office

community announcment Purina and Humane Society Create Seniors for Seniors Program Richard Gary Thanks to Purina, the Humane Society of Broward County has a unique adoption program now.

But only if you are 55 years of age or older, and if you are willing to take home a canine or feline over three years of age..

“If you adopt a dog three years of age or older, or a feline over the age of six months, you may qualify to have the pet adoption fee waived,” said Cherie Wachter, the program director Clinical evidence indicates that pets help people stay healthy.

People with pets have lower blood pressure, fewer heart attacks and less illness. They live longer and happier lives. Potential adopters must still meet all the HSBC adoption criteria and there are a limited number of funded adoptions available, so don’t wait, your new four-legged

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family member could be waiting for you now.

The regular adoption fees are $100 for dogs and $25 for felines over the age of six months.

All pets are spayed or neutered before leaving the shelter, given preliminary vaccinations, a microchip, heartworm test for dogs seven months and older, feline leukemia test, a 10-day health care plan courtesy of VCA Animal Hospitals, a bag of Purina ONE food and, of course, you are getting a friend for life.

The Humane Society of Broward County is a private, non-profit organization that is located at 2070 Griffin Road, a block west of I-95 in Fort Lauderdale. Adoption hours are Monday through Saturday 10 a.m. to 6:30 p.m. and Sundays 10 a.m. to 5:30 p.m. For more information call 954-989-3977 or visit www.humanebroward.com.

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Morikami in April T.D. Baker

Japan is 10,354 miles away from South Florida, but there’s a special place in Deerfield Beach, offering visitors a taste of Japan.

Six days a week, the Morikami Museum & Japanese Gardens is open to visitors. The living tribute is representative of a unique history shared by the “Land of the Rising Sun” and the “Sunshine” state. George Morikami, a Japanese settler who became one of Palm Beach County’s original colonists, donated the land where the museum that bears his name now stands.

More than three decades later, the museum is thriving like its beautiful gardens. Outgoing curator Tom Gregerson has given the last 35 years of his life to Morikami. He made it a place where everyone can find something to enjoy as they get a glimpse of Japanese culture in Palm Beach County.

Morikami is home to six historic gardens, each one telling a story from Japanese history. Travel the path and you will find yourself on a journey back in time. Visiting the museum can also be a hands-on experience. In the coming months, special exhibits and classes are offered to museum members and visitors. Karen Myers, a snowbird from Brooklyn, NY said “even if just for a few hours walking the gardens, I feel like I am having a true getaway.”

“Morikami offers visitors a glimpse into the fascinating culture of Japan,” said Director of Marketing and Events Kizzy Sanchez Sherven. “For those who want to learn more, our educational programs are a great way get a more in-depth look at different aspects of Japanese art and culture, from sushi making to the art of bonsai.”

The vault is already open and displaying what Gregerson calls “cool stuff.” It features artifacts from what is called “objects of daily living,” items used by Japanese citizens in daily life throughout history.

Some of the featured items include: Okuizome Baby’s First Taste, a special set of dishes and utensils used to celebrate a child’s first taste of solid food; a bamboo basket for collecting tea leaves made of bamboo and hemp; and a brazier which is a hibachi made out of a tree trunk from the 1800s.

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tradition that comes with it, consider the Tea Ceremony Workshop or the Sado Omote Senke Tea Ceremony Class. Both teach the art of tea ceremony and students will be able to prepare a bowl and serve it to guests.

Morikami also offers visitors the opportunity to learn the language. In the Japanese Nihongo Language class, offered on Tuesdays in March and April, attendees learn conversational skills in addition to the ability to read and write. There are multi-levels available to students allowing them to grow and learn as much as they are interested in.

To learn more about Morikami and its classes and tours, go to morkiami.org.

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Ikenobo Ikebana Flower Arrangement Class

When

Tuesdays, April 2, 9, 16, & 23, 2013, 1 p.m. – 3 p.m.

Where

Oki Education Center

How Much

$70 (Members $60) + Flower fee of $60 for all 4 weeks payable to the instructor (Advance registration required)

The Morikami Museum & Japanese Gardens in Delray Beach.

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Sumi-e Ink Painting Floral Class

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Sogetsu Ikebana Flower Arrangement Class

When

Thursdays, April 4, 11, 18, & 25, 2013, 10:30 a.m. 12:30 p.m.

When

Fridays, April 5, 12, & 19, 2013, 1:30 p.m. - 3:30 p.m.

Where

Oki Education Center

Where

Oki Education Center

How Much

$60 (Members $55; Advance registration required)

How Much

$52.40 (Members $45) + Flower fee of $30 total for the 3 weeks payable to the instructor (Advance registration required)

What

The I-Ro-Ha of Japanese History through the Coolest Objects in the Morikami Museum’s Collection

What

Sumi-e Ink Painting Landscape Class

When

Thursdays, April 4, 11, 18, & 25, 2013, 1:30 p.m. 3:30 p.m.

What

Sogetsu Ikebana Flower Arrangement Introductory Class

When

Wednesdays, April 3, 10, & 17, 2013, 10:30 a.m. – 12:30 p.m.

Where

Oki Education Center

When

How Much

$52.50 (Members $45) + Flower fee of $30 for all 3 weeks payable to the instructor (Advance registration required)

Thursday, April 11, 2013, 7:15pm, museum doors will reopen at 6 p.m.

Where

Morikami Theater

Where

Oki Education Center

How Much

$10 (Members $7) (Advance ticket purchase required)

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$60 (Members $55; Advance registration required)

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Broward County *Body Awareness

Thursdays through Saturdays at 8 p.m. and Sundays at 2 p.m. through April 7 at Empire Stage, 1140 N. Flagler, Fort Lauderdale, the Island City Stage presents Annie Baker’s award-winning play. Call 954-678-1496 or visit www.islandcitystage.org

“Bare”

Wednesday, March 27 – Friday, March 29 at 7:30 p.m. and Saturday March 30 at 3 p.m. and 7:30 p.m. in the Amaturo Theater. Broadway actresses Jodie Langel and Mimi Jimenze star in this award-winning musical with singer/songwriter Ray Boltz. Tickets are $35 and are available at the AutoNation box office. Call 954-462-0222 or visit Browardcenter.org

Tift Merritt

Sunday April 7 at 7:30 p.m. in the Amaturo Theater at the Broward Center for the Performing Arts.

Singer-songwriter Tift Merritt is known for her fusion of folk, soul, country and rock and roll.

Tickets are $25 and are available through the AutoNation box office. Visit Browardcenter.org

*Follow the Leader

Thursday April 11 at 7:30 p.m. at the Miramar Cultural Center | ArtsPark, the Southern Circuit Independent Film Series concludes with a bildungsroman that explores the impact of 9/11 and President Obama’s election on three American boys with Presidential hopes. The late Senator Ted Kennedy has a small cameo. Tickets are $15. Call 954-602-4500 or visit MiramarCulturalCenter.org

*Spank! 50 Shades Parody

April 19 and 20 at 8 p.m. at the Parker Playhouse, a live-action musical interpretation of the soft-core novel that out-sold Harry Potter. Tickets range from $36.50 to $46.50. Visit BrowardCenter.org.

An Evening with Maxi Priest

Saturday March 30 at 8 p.m. in the Miramar Cultural Center. The Signature Series continues with international reggae performer Maxi Priest fusing R&B with reggae and gospel. Individual tickets are $30, $40, and $45. Visit MiramarCulturalCenter.org

Howard Hewett

Saturday April 13 at 8 p.m. in the Miramar Cultural center.

R&B singer Howard Hewett and Michel’le Toussant, featured on the World Class Wreckin’ Crew’s single “Turn off the lights,” are joining together and bringing more soul to the center than it has heard before. Individual tickets are $35, $40, and $45. Visit MiramarCulturalCenter.org

“THE BEST MUSICAL OF 2012” — The Advocate

The Five Beethovens

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Laffing Matterz

Miami-Dade

Presented over three days, on Sunday Apr. 14 at 2 p.m., Monday Apr. 15 at 8:15 p.m and Tuesday Apr. 16 at 8:15 p.m., acclaimed pianist Conrad Tao will perform all five Beethoven concertos. The first three concertos will be played the first two nights, and the last two will be played on Tuesday. Tickets range from $50 to $75. Visit SymphonyOfTheAmericas.org Laffing Matterz continues at the Broward Center Thursdays and Fridays at 7:30 p.m., Saturdays at 8:30 p.m. and selected Sundays this season at 4:30 p.m. Taking on the latest scandal, social media, current events and everything in-between, Laffing Matterz combines dinner theater with topical satire.

Admission is $59 and $65 and includes the show, dinner with house salad and warm sourdough bread. Visit BrowardCenter.org

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In the Heights

*Betty’s Summer Vacation

April 11 – 13, and 18 – 20th at 8 p.m. at Stage West, located near Palm Beach State College’s Lake Worth campus, the theatre department presents a play

by Christopher Durang. General admission tickets are $12 and $5 for students with IDs, and PBSC faculty and staff with IDs. Call 561-868-3309, visit Duncantheatre.org, or stop by the Stage West box office the evening of the performance.

Brassy Brittania

Saturday April 20 at 7:30 p.m. in the Duncan Theatre at Palm Beach State College in Lake Worth, South Florida’s professional British brass band performs.

General admission tickets are $25, seniors tickets are $15, student tickets are $10, children under 12 and PBSC / PBA students enter free. Call 561-2674078 or contact info@orchidcitybrass.org

Exit the King

Friday March 29 at 8 p.m. in the Don and Ann Brown Theatre, the play about an incompetent 400-year old king debuts. Playing through April 28, individual tickets are $55. Visit PalmBeachDramaWorks.org or call 561-514-4042.

Night and Day April 8 and 22 and 7:30 p.m. in the Plaza Theatre, Leah Sessa and Mike Westrich perform the music of Cole Porter. Tickets are $30, group rates are available. Visit ThePlazaTheatre.net or call 561-5881820

The Last Romance

March 22 to April 7, the Tony award-winning author Joe DiPietro’s new comedy is being performed at the Delray Beach Playhouse, 950 NW 9th, Delray Beach.

Tickets are $30. Call 561-272-1281 Ext. 4 or visit DelrayBeachPlayHouse.com

Waist Watchers — The Musical!

Generously sponsored by:

Friday March 29 at 8 p.m. in the Aventura Arts & Cultural Center, the Tony award-winning Broadway play about Army cadets struggling through basic training in Biloxi, Mississippi is being produced

by Montana Rep. Tickets are $39.00. Visit AventuraCenter.org

Broadway Unplugged

On March 23 and 24, at 2 p.m. and 5 p.m. both days, the Broward Center for the Performing Arts hosts the family friendly “Get the Sillies Out” tour of the TV show turned live performance. Tickets range from $26 to 46. Visit BrowardCenter.org

Friday March 29 at 7 p.m. at Florida Atlantic University in the University Theatre. A play by Dustin Lance Black chronicling the federal trial for marriage equality. One night only. Tickets are $10.

Visit FAUevents.com or call 561-297-5710.

For tickets and group discounts call Broward Center’s AutoNation Box Office at 954.462.0222 or visit BrowardCenter.org.

Neil Simon’s Biloxi Blues

Yo Gabba Gabba! Live!

“8” The Play

March 27 - 30

A.R. Gurney’s comedy about life is being performed from May 17 to June 2 at the Delray Beach Playhouse, 950 NW 9th, Delray Beach. Tickets are $30.Call 561272-1281 Ext. 4 or visit DelrayBeachPlayHouse.com

Through Sunday May 12, the Plaza Theatre presents a comedy with parody lyrics to popular tunes that has been selling out across the country for six years now. Set mostly in a women’s fitness center, the musical directed by Andy Rogow is starring Shelley Keelor and Missy McArdle. Call 561-588-1820 or visit ThePlazaTheatre.net

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Friday March 29 and Saturday March 30 in the South Miami-Dade Cultural Arts Center, hits from classic Broadway musicals like Rent, American Idiot, and Hair will be performed acoustically. Advance tickets are $25. Visit smdcac.org March 6 to April 7, the four-time Tony Award winner about chasing dreams and discovering home is being presented in the Actor’s Playhouse at Miracle Mile. Tickets range from $15 to $50. Call 305-4449293 or visit www.ActorsPlayHouse.org.

Maestros in Concert

Thursday April 4 at 8 p.m. in the South MiamiDade Cultural Arts Center, Santoor player Pandit Shivkumar Sharma & Zakir Hussain perform “Maestros in Concert.” Tickets range from $10 to $30, visit smdcac.org

An Appalachian Spring

Sunday April 7 at 4 p.m., the Miami Symphony Orchestra presents clarinet player Nuno Antunes, Bassoon player Adrian Morejon, and conductor Daniel Andai. Tickets range from $21 to $66, visit smdcac.org

Broadway in Miami 2012-13

Ziff Ballet Opera House will hold the Broadway In Miami spectacle through May 12. Experience the return of Les Misérables - in its lavish new 25th anniversary production, along with the Miami premieres of Broadway’s biggest fun-filled hits including the high-stepping Mary Poppins, the outlandishly colorful Priscilla, Queen of the Desert, the Rock of Ages -- a 2010 Tony Award winner. Visit ArshtCenter.org

From Darkness Comes the Light Saturday April 6 at 8 p.m. in the Aventura Arts & Cultural Center, the South Florida Symphony Orchestra presents talented cellist Zuill Bailey for its Master Concerts III. Tickets range from $35 to $55.

Visit AventuraCenter.org

Step Afrika!

Thursday April 4 to Saturday April in the South Miami-Dade Cultural Arts Center, the worldrenowned “Step Afrika!” is stomping, clapping, and chanting to high-energy dances linked to African traditions. Visit smdcac.org

Fusion Brazil to Cuba

Friday April 5 and Saturday April 6 at 8:30 p.m. in the South Miami-Dade Cultural Arts Center, Cuban musician Pedro Alfonso will blend a variety of styles to take his audience on a musical journey around Latin America and the rest of the world. Advance tickets are $25. Visit smdcac.org

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Broward County *Fifth Annual Spin-A-Thon

Friday April 19 from Noon until 5 p.m., the Kids In Distress (KID) of Broward and Palm Beach counties, an agency dedicated to preventing child abuse and preserving families, will register teams of cycling enthusiasts to ride more than 100 spinning bikes overlooking the New River for 360 consecutive minutes. $300 per team. Contact LeaKuhry@Kidinc.org

*Annual Flower Show

April 6 and 7, 10 a.m. to 4 p.m., the Fort Lauderdale Garden Club is selling native and exotic plants in the Garden Center at Hugh Taylor Birch State Park, 3109 East Sunrise Boulevard, Fort Lauderdale, FL, 33304.

Free entry.

Media and Politics

Sunday April 14 at 1 p.m. in the Unitarian Universalist Church of Fort Lauderdale, FAU Communications professor Mike Budd is discussing these topics. 3970 NW 21st Avenue, Oakland Park, 33309

Floral Designs for the Holidays

Janice Hamlin, Master Flower Show Judge from the Manatee River Garden Club in Bradenton, Florida will inspire us by demonstrating the creation of flower designs for the holidays. Call 954-561-8475.

Visit FLGardenClub@gmail.com

LGBT Quit Smoking Groups

Did you know that LGBT people are more likely to smoke than most other populations in the United States? Being around other smokers can make it more difficult for people to quit. But many of us are trying, and the Quit Smoking Now Program in Wilton Manors is here to show us how. Visit My.vcita.com/MyQuitCoach QuitsmokingWM.com or call 305-942-6378

Island City-Wide Yard Sale

Annual yard sales are held at Hagen Park, 2020 Wilton Drive, on the second Saturday of the month through April 2013 from 8 a.m. to 2 p.m. Spaces available to purchase. Last year there were 60 to 90 vendors, so register early while there is still space.

More info call the Leisure Services Department at 954-390-2115 or 954-390-2130.

The Four Noble Truths

It is our mind of attachment that continues to deceive us, causing us to relate to things in mistaken ways, leading us straight into problems and misfortune. Learn how to break this cycle. $10/class or $30/series includes vegetarian food after class, members free. Visit MeditationInFortLauderdale.org

Pozitive Attitudes

Topic driven Peer lead support group for gay and bisexual men who are infected or affected by HIV/ AIDS. Meets every Wednesday 7-9 p.m. at the Pride Center 204 N.Dixie Hwy Room 204. Refreshments, no charge, open meeting. PAHereandNow@aol.com or visit PozitiveAttitudes.com

GLBX Business Advantage Referral Group

GLBX Business Advantage Referral Group will be held at the chamber offices on the 1st and 3rd Wednesday of the month from 8 to 9 a.m. If you are interested

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joining, please contact Ken Stollar at Kenneth.

Stolar@sci-us.com to see if your category is open and to attend as a guest. Visit http://bit.ly/YtzmPY

Latinos Salud’s programs

Multiple programs/groups for bi/gay Latino guys.

Latinos Salud’s SOMOS for guys 18 to 30. Proceeds benefit Latinos Salud with HIV Prevention and testing. Join Core Group every Thursday night at 7 p.m., to help plan activities. 2330 Wilton Drive. Call 954-533-8681 or visit LatinosSalud.org

Man2Man Discussion

Man2Man Discussion Group meets at the Pride Center on Mondays from 7 until 8:30 p.m. Any subject may be discussed. Members regularly reassemble afterwards for ‘repast’ at The Courtyard, PeterPan Diner. Visit GLCCSF.org

Meditation After Work

On Mondays from 6-6:30 p.m. there will be Guided meditation w/ western Buddhist teacher Gui Passow.

Looking for a way to rest and re-charge before starting your evening? Come in for a free guided meditation to clear your mind at the end of the day.

This class is free at Drolma Buddhist Center. Call 954537-9191 or visit MeditationinFortLauderdale.org

Buddhist Meditation Classes

All the happiness there is in the world arises from wishing others to be happy. By abandoning selfcentered thoughts and replacing them with the belief that others are important, we will overcome our suffering and find true happiness inside our own hearts. $10/class or $30/series includes vegetarian food after class. Call The Drolma Buddhist Center at 954-537-9191.

Dream Car Classic

Every Sunday of the month from 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. Pre-1980s classic cars, modern classics and custom cars from 1981-2012 will be showcased. $10 car registration from 8 a.m. to 10 a.m. (Show Car Entrance: 20th Avenue & Tyler Street). People’s Choice Award - 2 Classes; Top Ten Vehicles Award.

Call 954-214-2457

Living Healthy

Eating Disorder Support

Meets Friday evenings from 6 p.m. - 7:30 p.m. At Sun Serve’s Wilton Manors location at 2123 Wilton Drive, second floor. A “drop-in” psycho-educational support group. Free. No registration required.

Donations welcome. Call 954-764-5150

Sunday Jazz Brunch

First Sunday of every month. An ideal way to relax and enjoy Fort Lauderdale’s scenic Riverwalk. Live, outdoor concert series bringing the area’s best local jazz artists. Listen to the soulful sounds on four different stages. Well-behaved, leashed pets welcome. Plenty of room for chairs, blankets and picnic baskets.

Young Adult LGBT

A social group open to all LGBT people ages 18-35.

Meets Fridays at the Pride Center in Wilton Manors from 7:15-9 p.m. Meeting starts with a discussion on current events followed by introductions and then a group activity. Visit PrideCenterFlorida.org/ contact-us

Boardwalk Friday Fest

Come to Hollywood Beach Theatre East of A1A at Johnson St and the ocean. Admission: Free every Friday of every month. Live jazz, blues, pop and everything in between along Hollywood’s signature 2.5 mile boardwalk. Charming oceanfront cafes and restaurants serve up delicious innovative cuisine while you enjoy the best array of live music and tropical ocean breezes. Visit HollywoodFL.org or call 954-924-2980

Toastmasters

Meetings are comprised of about 20 people who meet weekly for an hour or so. Participants practice and learn skills by filling a meeting role, ranging from giving a prepared speech or an impromptu one to serving as timer, evaluator or grammarian.

Toastmasters meet at the GLCC/Pride Center Monday at 7:15 p.m. Call Ted Verdone at 954-5662074 or email: Tedverdone@comcast.net

Tuesday Night Eatin Meeting

Tuesday Night Eatin’ Meeting will be held at The Alternative MC Clubhouse at 4322 NE 5th Ave in Oakland Park. Fun, food, and fellowship. There will be hamburgers, hotdogs, all the fixins, cold drinks, desserts, and snacks. Meeting begins at 8 p.m. and ends at 9 p.m. Visit Alternativemc.com/events/ florida-events

Gay Male Empowerment

Topic discussions include issues and concerns about being a gay man in South Florida. Meets Thursdays at the Pride Center from 7 - 8:30 p.m. Call 954-353-9155

Fusion in Wilton Manors will be having a free workshop on healthy choices, and healthy living on Tuesdays from 6 p.m. to 8 p.m. This workshop provides interactive learning, practice and mastery techniques for a healthier and more active life, and positive changes for quality of life. Call 954-630-1655

PFLAG

Life Coaching

SunServe Therapy Groups

Survivor Support

Fusion Wilton Manors Connections

Latinos Salud’s Life Coaching program is for Latino gay/bi guys ages 18-44. Come by Monday through Friday 11 a.m. to 7 p.m. for free one-on-one life coaching with certified CRCS coaches. Set your goals, and meet action steps to make them come true. 2330 Wilton Drive. Call 954-765-6239. Visit LatinosSalud.org

On the first and third Wednesday of each month at the 211 Community Center, 250 NE 33rd Street, in Oakland Park. The Florida Initiative for Suicide Prevention (FISP) is sponsoring this free support group and is open to all family members and friends of those who have died by suicide. Call 954384-0344 to register. Meets from 7-8:30 p.m. Visit FispOnline.org.

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Meets on the 2nd and 4th Tues. of the month at the Sunshine Cathedral at 1480 SW 9th Avenue to support the parents of LGBTQ youth in Broward. No charge.

Visit Community.pflag.org/pflagfortlauderdale

Provided for the LGBT community at SunServe on a regular basis. Call the Intake Coordinator at 954-764-5150 to learn which therapy groups have openings. Groups Include a Gay Men’s HIV+ Long Time Survivors’ Group, a Safe “T” support group for gender variant adults, an Intimate Partner Abuse group and others. Visit SunServe.org

Gay men’s group discussion. Different subject every week. Dr. David Fawcett, a gay therapist, who has been in private practice in Fort Lauderdale for the last ten years, leads the event. No charge. Starts at 7 p.m. Call 954-630-1655.

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Women4Women Support

A safe and loving place to explore all the concerns and topics raised by group members. This open drop-in meeting is held Wednesdays at 6 p.m. to 7:30 p.m. at the New Sun Serve Building at 2312 Wilton Drive in Wilton Manors. Call 954-764-5150

Palm Beach County Age of Angkor Exhibition

Opening reception is April 11, from 6:00 to 8 p.m. in the Griffin Gallery Ancient Art Center (608 Banyan Trail, #113, Boca Raton, 33431). The word ‘Angkor’ translates to ‘capital city,’ and refers to the main city of the Khmer Empire that ruled in modern Cambodia, Thailand, Vietnam and Laos between the ninth and 12th centuries. Call 561-994-0811 or visit www.griffingallery.net

FAU Annual Juried Student Exhibition

Friday March 22 through Saturday April 6in the Ritter Gallery on FAU’s Boca Raton campus. Gallery hours are Tuesday through Friday 1 to 4 p.m. and Saturdays 1 p.m. to 5 p.m. Visit fau.edu/galleries

Coming Out Support Group

Coming Out Support Group for all ages, men and women. Meets every Thursday evening at Compass, GLCC of the Palm Beaches , 201 N. Dixie Highway, Lake Worth, Florida from 6:30 to 8 p.m. Call Forrest @561-479-8313

Lake Worth Bike Night

The Lake Worth bike night is fun, and it’s for a cause. Join loads of people in downtown Lake Worth every Thursday from 7 p.m.-10 p.m.. The event is free and open to bikers and non-bikers. Visit LakeWorthBikeNight.com

Alternative Life Style Show

Featured guests contribute to the community. All are welcomed to call in. Many give aways and prizes including a contest for free buffets at Isle Capri Casino in Pompano. You can also listen by adding W4CYRADIO to SKYPE or call in at 561-623-9429.

Up coming spotlights on parties of interest and special events.

PFLAG

PFLAG is a monthly support, coming out and rap groups for families of & for Gay, Lesbian, Bi, and Transgender people. Meeting in Palm Beach County is at 6:30 on the third Wednesday of the month. Call or email Carol at 561-716-9464 Pflag@pobox.com

New Alternatives

Social group with regular outings and social mixers for LGBTQ ages 18 to 30. This meeting will take place at The Gay & Lesbian Community Center of Palm Beach County. Email matthew@compassglcc.com or Visit CompassGLCC.com.

Lambda North Recovery

Clubhouse hosting 12-step recovery meetings including AA and NA. Sober Sisters AA lesbian group meets Mondays at 7 p.m. Good Orderly AA meets Tuesdays and Thursdays at 7 p.m. and Sat. at 5:30 p.m. Out of the Closet; Into Recovery NA group meets Monday and Fridays at 7 p.m. Lambda North is located at 18 S. J Street in Lake Worth. Email tcamie@aol.com. Visit LambdaNorth.net

PBC Gender Support

All ages support group dedicated for transgender individuals. This meeting happens the 1st and 3rd Thursday of every month at 7:30 p.m. These meeting will take place at The Gay & Lesbian Community Center of Palm Beach County. Visit CompassGLCC.com

Seniors vs. Crime

Seniors vs. Crime is a free service that provides help to seniors who have been victimized by businesses or service providers and need assistance. This event will take place at Mae Volen Senior Center at 1515 W. Palmetto Park Road. By appointment only so call 561-736-3820 or 561-395-8920.

Yoga On The Waterfront

Lake Pavilion at 101 S. Flagler Drive, West Palm Beach, FL / Yoga On The Waterfront in downtown West Palm Beach on Wednesday Evenings at 5:45 p.m. Residents $40 per 8 week session, NonResidents $50 per 8 week session, Drop-ins $10 per class. To register, please call 561-804-4902.

Yoga Among the Orchids

It’s time for Yoga Among the Orchids at the American Orchid Society, 16700 AOS Lane, Delray Beach. Relax and replenish the flower inside with an hour of breathing exercises, toning, and yoga poses under a canopy of lush orchids. Classes are Wed. at 9 a.m. Cost is $20 and RSVP is suggested. Call 561-4042011. Visit OrchidWeb.org

Jazz on the Palm

In downtown West Palm Beach Waterfront - Gather with friends and family to enjoy the vibrant sounds of jazz under the stars every third Friday of month at the new downtown West Palm Beach waterfront concert series. Free and open to the public. Guests are encouraged to bring blankets and chairs. From 8 p.m. to 10 p.m. Visit Wpbgo.com/2010/06/jazz-onthe-palm

BrothasSpeak

This group is a black gay men’s discussion group that is held at the Compass in West Palm Beach. Every Wednesday from 7 p.m. to 8 p.m. this group will be directed toward issues for and about black men. Visit CompassgGLCC.com

Miami Beach Pride

On April 8 at 6 p.m., outside the Miami Beach City Hall, a rainbow flag raising ceremony will start the week-long pride celebration. The flag raising ceremony will be followed by a reception honoring the founders of Miami Beach Gay Pride. The parade starts at 12 p.m. on April 14, near the Art Deco district of Ocean Drive. Free to attend, visit Miamibeachgaypride.com

4th Annual Pride Cruise

From Ocean Drive to the ocean waves, Miami Beach Gay Pride 2013 is setting sail once again with Source Events for the “Miami Beach Pride Cruise” immediately following all the Miami Beach Gay Pride festivities. The Pride Cruise takes place from Monday, April 15 to Friday, April 19. Visit SourceEvents.com

Ransom Mondays

This amazing party takes place at Mokai in Miami Beach. The party, hosted by Mark Lehmkuhl, sort of takes now-defunct Bella Rose’s Black Sunday murder mystery theme but gives it a Patty Hearst twist.

Every week, some prominent nightlife fixture gets held for ransom, and the only way it gets returned is if you party your ass off. Only $20 to attend. Visit Mokaimiami.com

Rainbow Circle

A peer-led LGBTQ support & discussion group.

Topics often include coming out, relationships, bullying, peer pressure, drugs & alcohol, depression and self-esteem. You are able to express your thoughts and feelings without fear in a safe and supportive environment. This group takes place every Monday from 6 p.m. to 8 p.m. at the University of Miami, Flipse Building #302. Visit Pridelines.org

Paths is a social/discussion group held at Compass in Lake Worth. This men’s group takes place every Monday from 7:30 p.m. to 9 p.m. Paths men’s group will be discussing relationships, coming out, safer sex issues and more. Visit CompassGLCC.com

Yoga

Lambda Dade Clubhouse

Yoga with Deborah will change your life. Bring a mat and get ready to stretch the stress away every Tuesday at The GLCC in Palm Beach from 6 to 7 p.m.

This yoga experience will uplift and transform your life. $6 Entry Fee. You must bring your own mat.

Visit CompassGLCC.com

Living Buddhism

On the 2nd Tuesday of every month at 7 p.m.

Compass in Lake Worth will be holding a discussion group for overcoming obstacles and obtaining happiness. This group is great for getting internal enlightenment. Release your inner stress, and become free. Visit CompassGLCC.com

Miami-Dade

*Miami Beach Small Biz Symposium

April 10 at 7:30 p.m. and 11 from 8 a.m. to 5:30 p.m. at the LGBT Visitor Center Miami Beach, the City of Miami Beach’s LGBT Business Enhancement Committee presents a mini-symposium for small business owners during the city’s Pride week festivities.

Florida Renaissance Festival

From March 30 to April 14, in Miami Cauley Square Historic Village, the 16th century time-travelling experience returns.

Tickets range from $20 for adults, $7 for children ages six to 11, and free for children under five. Seasonal passes are $39 for all three weekends and group discounts are offered. Call 1-800-3-REN-FES or visit www.ren-fest.com

The Latin Mix A sizzling mix of authentic Latin Rhythms predominantly consisting of Salsa or Mambo with some Guajira, Cha-Cha, and Merengue in the mix.

Occasionally a Bolero, Bachata, or Rumba may be added in. A must for SALSA LOVERS! $15 admission is good from 5:00 through 11:00 PM. Party Mix Starting at 8:30PM with a large crowd already revved up from the Salsa session, an upbeat mix of Swing, Hustle, Latin, and Ballroom music is played. It is an energizing evening for singles and couples of all ages. Admission is $15 anytime between 5:00PM and 11:00PM!

Sex Talk

Conduct outreach events, record video messages, participate in a series of performances and organize special events with a purpose. This event takes place the second and fourth Thursday every month at Pridelines Headquarters located at 9526 NE 2nd Ave #104 In Miami Shores from 6 p.m. to 8 p.m. Visit Pridelines.org

Paths

Every Sunday

A meeting place for the Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual & Transgender communities and friends in recovery. Hosts Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), AlAnon, Crystal Meth Anonymous (CMA), Debtors Anonymous (DA), Narcotics Anonymous (NA), and Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous (SLAA), meetings.

305 573-9608. 212 NE 24th Street. Miami. Visit LambdaDadeClubHouse.org

Key West

Retro Revue Matinee

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Fridays and Saturdays at 5 p.m., Key West’s only daytime drag show is hosted at the 801 Cabaret. Call 305-923-9296 or visit www.801girls.com

Gay Key West Trolley Tour

Saturdays at 4 p.m., the Key West Business Guild and Old Town Trolley Tours sponsor a gay tour of the city starting at 628 Duval Street. Advance tickets are $25 and available at gaykeywestfl.com or call 800535-7797.

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Tea Dance: A Key West Tradition

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Sundays at 4 p.m., the La Te Da hotel, restaurant, cabaret and bars (1125 Duval Street) host this earlyevening dance and Key West tradition. Call 305-2966706 or visit lateda.com

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NEED WOOD Tips for Getting Timber

By Woody Miller

HIV DISCLOSURE SHOULD I ASK OR SHOULD YOU TELL?

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HeyWoody, I know I'm a little late on the subject but I just got through reading my back issues of this magazine and I can't believe the bull crap you wrote about disclosing HIV. You totally let HIV positive guys off the hook. I can't believe you actually said it's more important that negativesaskthanpositivestell.

Earth to woody! Positive guys have the moral obligation to tell people whether asked or not. I'm surprised at you. Since when are you afraid of hurting someone's feelings?

Anybody who gets HIV these days willfully gets it. You can't plead ignorance and you can't plead innocence. I say quit coddling positive guys, Woody. Tell them what they need to hear: If you go home with someone you must tell them you're HIV Positive. It's time to stop thinking with your d!*k and be more concerned about spreading the disease than spreadingyourseed.

-Stillshakingmyhead Dear Shaking, First off, I did NOT say positive guys shouldn't disclose. Listen to Dr. Brad Thomason (my exboyfriend, of all things) for my reasoning.

Thomason is a psychologist at the Center of HIV Educational Studies. (By the way, we broke up after my parrot exposed his infidelity. Every time I came home the parrot kept saying, “Give it to me hard before Woody comes home.”) Anyway, Thomason works with a lot of HIV patients and you wouldn't believe the horror stories they tell him about disclosing. That's why he believes - and convinced me--that it's more important for negatives to ask than for positives to disclose. It's not//because negatives should shoulder more of // 3.27.2013 // SFGN.com

the burden. It's because it's so much easier for them. I'm negative. What's the worst that can happen to me if I tell someone my status and ask for theirs? There's very little likelihood anybody's going to reject me (most guys are negative).

Now, ask Thomason about the HIV patients he sees after they disclose. Many go through the emotional wringer—from getting cussed out to being abandoned, to getting beat up. “What is merely awkward for a negative person to bring up,” says Thomason, “is dangerous for the positive person.” My own experience with friends supports his contention. Some HIV'ers are so emotionally vulnerable they feel like walking piñatas. It's one thing to get your candy cracked open by a big stick in bed, but it's an entirely different thing to have it done on your heart. I have a friend with HIV who dated a “keeper” several times before telling him. The words of his stinging rejection still ring in his ears: “I'm not dating anyone I have to bury.” My friend burst into tears. “I felt like damaged goods. But then I got mad and thought, damn, I should've told him, 'most couples don't die simultaneously, you ass, so no matter what, somebody's burying somebody in a relationship.” My point with these sad-sack stories is that positives take a whole lot more emotional and physical risks disclosing than negatives do. Psychologist Thomason's first underlying principle is that each person is responsible for their own health. I agree. If you won't take responsibility for your own health, you don't have the right to bash somebody who won't take responsibility for it either.

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By Dylan Bouscher, Calendar@SFGN.com

Broward County 321-Slammer

Bathhouse. 321 W Sunrise Blvd, Fort Lauderdale, Florida, 33311. Slammer sex club the best place to cruise for the hottest gay men. Thursday’s is leather night, Friday and Saturday night live DJs. Monday & Tuesday -- $9 entry fee

Atomic Boom

2232 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors, FL 33305, 954630-3556 Best Sound & Light Show in Broward County.

Mondays “porn bingo” with Desiree Dubois. $3 Margaritas, $1 Draft

Bill’s Filling Station

2209 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors, FL 33305, 954-567-5978. Large bar/ nightclub, amazing drink specials in Wilton Manors! Wednesday’s after 9 p.m. $10 Miller Lite Beer Bust

Boardwalk

1721 N. Andrews Ave, Fort Lauderdale, FL 33311.

954-463-6969. A Cute Little Hangout in Fort Lauderdale.Pool-room/game room on one side and a bar/strip club on the other. Mondays $3 Well & Dom, after 9 p.m. $3 U-Call-It Shots

The Club Fort Lauderdale

Bathhouse. 110 NW 5th Ave., Fort Lauderdale, FL, 954-525-3344 Good. Clean. Fun. 1/2 price rooms...

Tuesday Nights and 1/2 price Lockers. Thursdays Nights. Always busy.

Clubhouse II

Bathhouse. 2650 E. Oakland Park Blvd, Fort Lauderdale, Florida 954-566-6750. A Private Club for Bi/Gay men.“Bear and Friends” Thursday $5 Off a room 8 p.m. to 11 p.m. Tuesday Leather Night - $5 off for those in full leather gear.

Corner Pub Bar

1915 N. Andrews Ave, Wilton Manors, FL 33311, 954-564-7335. Redefining what a bar should be.

Thursday’s margarita madness $4, Monday’s “Underwear Night. 2 for 1” until 9:30 p.m.

Cubby Hole

823 N. Federal Highway, Fort Lauderdale, FL 33304, 954-728-9001. The Cubby Hole is one of Fort Lauderdale’s most unique and popular Neighborhood bar for men. Underwear Wednesday’s. “Boxers n’ Briefs” get 2 for 1 drinks 9 p.m. to close

The Depot Cabana Bar and Grill

2935 N. Federal Hwy, Fort Lauderdale, FL 33304, 954-537-7076. Voted the “Friendliest” Gay Bar in Fort Lauderdale. Monday’s $1.99 Drinks and $.50 wings open to close

Dudes Bar

3270 NE 33rd St Fort Lauderdale FL 954-568-7777.

Sexy hot men starting to shake the booty daily from 6 p.m. to 9 p.m. On Sundays enjoy karaoke with Peter Petrucci. Great drink specials every Monday with $1 well drinks from 9 p.m. to 2 a.m.

Georgie’s Alibi

2266 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors, FL 33305, 954565-2526. Fort Lauderdale’s best & longest happy hour. Wednesdays $2 Domestics & $1 Schnapps after 9 p.m.

Johnny’s

1116 W. Broward Blvd., Fort Lauderdale, FL 33312, 954-522-5931. Monday Dragon with TP Lords, Daisy D. and DJ Rob Sky Some of the hottest guys around with great happy hour drink specials. Bring all your friends to this sexy Bar.

The Manor

2345 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors, FL 33305 954626 0082 - Come Dine, Dance, Drink, Mingle and of course Relax. 2 for 1 happy hour Tues-Friday 3 to 9 p.m. Indoor/Outdoor Dining. Dance the night away Thursday through Sunday. Live music Wed., Fri., Sat., Sun. Visit themanorcomplex.com

Matty’s on the Drive

2426 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors, FL 33305 954564-1799. Matty’s is one of the few bars in Wilton Manors that’s just that –a bar. Wild Wednesday’s $.75 Drinks, 13 Drinks for less than $10. 5 p.m.

Mona’s 502 E. Sunrise Boulevard, Fort Lauderdale, FL 33304, 954-525-6662. The eclectic décor and a friendly staff makes. Mona’s a great place to have fun in Fort Lauderdale. Thursday’s College Boy’s Night 8 p.m.

Enjoy College Boy’s Choice 2 for 1 Monkey Business

2740 North Andrews Ave, Wilton Manors, FL 33311.

954-514-7819. The Monkey Business Bar is a Small Outdoor Bar Among The Shops Just off Marina Blvd.

No Frills But Comfortable and a Great Place to Stop and Meet Good People. Happy Hour 8 a.m. to 9 p.m.

Naked Grape Wine Bar

2039 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors, FL 33305. 954563-5631. A Casual, Hip, Fun Experience and if You Have a Taste for Deliciously Unique Wines, You Need to Make This Your Next Stop! Happy Hour All Night on Thursday

New Moon

2440 Wilton Drive, Wilton Manors, FL 33305, 954563-7660. Your neighborhood lesbian bar in the heart of Fort Lauderdale and just minutes from Fort.

Lauderdale Beach. Wednesday All the fun, half the price 2-4-1 All Day, All Night

PJ’s Corner Pocket

924 North Flagler Drive, Fort Lauderdale, FL 33304, 954-533-0257. One of The Most Diverse Bars in Fort Lauderdale. $2 Drinks Every Wednesday, Spades Every Thursday

Ramrod

1508 NE 4th Ave, Fort Lauderdale, FL 33304, 954763-8219. South Florida’s Leading Levi, Leather and Uniform Bar/Club. Every night is Bear Night. Bear Happy. Hour Every Thursday. Caged Hunks Sat Night

Rosie’s Bar and Grill

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Scandals Country Western Bar

Oakland Park, FL 3334, 954-567-2432. Scandals Gay and Lesbian Country Western. Dance Bar in Wilton Manors. Tuesdays Pool League, and Free Dance Lessons

Sidelines Sports Bar

2031 Wilton Drive, Fort Lauderdale, FL 33305, 954563-8001. Sidelines Sports Bar and Billiards is a unique, friendly, and accepting place to relax with a cold beer, great drinks and Martinis. Happy Hour M-F 4 p.m. to 2 a.m.

Miami-Dade Club Space

34 NE 11th St ,Miami ,Florida, 33132,305-350-1956 Space Miami Voted Best U.S Club IDMA 2011. The go-to venue for any nightlife enthusiast in the nation, the club is proudly marching on into its second decade of operation.

Club Sugar

2301 SW 32nd Ave, Miami, Florida, 33145, 305-4437657. All the sweetness you’ll need in one club. Every Thursday “drag wars” with TP Lords. $5 house drinks & $4 Domestic beers all night.

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Johnny’s

3038 North Federal Hwy, Fort Lauderdale, FL 33306, 954-561-1724. Great Local Hangout in Fort Lauderdale with Great Drink Specials. Saturday’s Free Breakfast to Order – 8 a.m.

205 East Oakland Park Blvd., Oakland Park, FL 33334, 954-565-4506 A neighborhood bar with a different theme every night, from drag shows and bingos, to bears and underwear.

2829 W. Broward Blvd., Fort Lauderdale, FL 33312, 954-587-2500. Your Dance Destination Till Dawn.

Open Late for You To Devour The Night. Open 7 nights a week till 4 a.m.

Village Pub & Piano Bar

2283 Wilton Dr. Wilton Manors, FL 33305, 754-2005244 Villagepubwm.com Looking for a relaxing place to spend the early afternoon? Or perhaps you want to come in and “work?” We have incredibly fast WiFi, complimentary outlets for you to power up your phone or laptop AND 2-4-1 Happy Hour MondaySaturday from 11 a.m. to 9 p.m.

Palm Beach County The Cottage (Tea-Dance Sundays)

522 Lucerne Ave, Lake Worth, Fl, 33414. 561-5860080 Great Service, Great Food, Full Stocked Bar, Great Professional Tea-Dance every Sunday

Fort Dix

6205 Georgia Ave, West Palm Beach, Florida 33405 Directions, 561-533-5355. Mostly local crowd looking to mingle and relax. Place rocks with a Fabulous DJ on Fridays, Saturdays, and Sunday T-Dance.

H.G. Rooster

823 BELVEDERE ROAD, WEST PALM BEACH FLORIDA 33405, 561-832-9119. H.G. Roosters is West Palms oldest gay club. Sunday’s Complimentary BBQ 5 p.m., Hot Male Dancers 6 p.m., Karaoke 11 p.m.

Mara (Thurs-Sat)

1132 North Dixie Highway, Lake Worth FL $3 Drinks.

No Cover. Open till 5 a.m. Ladies night on Thursdays and Karaoke on Fridays.

The Mad Hatter

1532 North Dixie Hwy ,Lake Worth, FL 33460. 561547-8860. Cheap drinks, friendly bartenders, and free pool Sunday-Thursday. Stop by and relax at this no-attitude haunt.

The Bar Lake Worth

2211 North Dixie Highway Lake Worth. 561-370-3954 Thebarlakeworth.com. Men and women share this mostly-locals space as a calm and friendly watering hole. The bar often features live music which can be a nice break from thumping bass.

950 NE 2nd Ave, Downtown Miami, Florida 33132,305-350-9084. One of the best night clubs In Miami. Every Saturday the hottest DJ’s from the top performers. Drink Special Every Saturday

8201 Biscayne Blvd. Miami 305-754-3444 Open 6 days a week Happy Hour 5 p.m. – 9 p.m. Free parking, and on Thursdays. Back to Paradise. A night of Soulful NYC House music. DJ David Solero

Miami 62 NE 14 Street Downtown Miami Florida 305-640-8749. Open Wed. through Sun. The hottest men in the universe strip shows nightly from 6 p.m. sexy from wall to wall. Free entrance. Free parking.

Free VIP rooms. Featuring the Hottest Male Dancers and The Best VIP ROOMS and always $5 Drinks. Full Lineup at ed at Facebook.com/JohnnysMiami

Score

727 Lincoln Rd, Miami Beach, Florida, 33139. 305561-5521. Score is located in the heart of South Beach in the thriving and infamous promenade, Lincoln Road. Bigger Saturday’s sexy male dolls.

Swinging Richards

17450 Biscayne Blvd, N Miami Beach, Fl 33160 954357-2532 Tuesdays-Saturdays from 6 p.m. to 6 a.m.

Come and enjoy fully nude guys dancing to the best music in South Florida.

Twist

1057 Washington Ave, Miami Beach, Fl, 33139. 305538-9478. Never a Cover…Always a Groove. Resident star DJ Mika spins tribal. Every Saturday TWIST is full of the hottest men in Miami. Muscle boy dancers taking it off in the Bungalow Bar.

Key West

801 Bar 801 Duval St., Key West, Florida, 305-294-4737.

Cabaret shows upstairs with nightly performances by famed performers Sushi, Kylie, RV Beaumont, Margo, and others. Happy hour specials daily from 11 a.m.- 8 p.m The Bourbon St. Pub

724 Duval St. 305-296-1992. Key West’s premier video bar with LIVE DJ’S nightly. A taste of N’Awlins in the heart of Old Town – Enjoy Key West’s hottest music videos on the large screen while the boys entertain on the bar. No Cover.

La Te Da

1125 Duval St. 305-296-6706 Fun Gay-Friendly atmosphere. Cabaret entertainment during season including Randy Roberts and Chris Peterson. Enjoy great live music Tuesday thru Sunday with Lenore Troia. Cover charge may apply. Great outside bar if you just want to enjoy a cocktail and chat while people watching on Duval Street.

Club Aqua

711 Duval St.,Key West, Florida,305-294-0555. Monday’s Dueling Bartenders. Your Bartender’s sing, shake, and stir their way through happy hour 5:30 p.m. - 8:30 p.m.

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