how to win her heart: a cookbook to get the girl you deserve

how to win her heart a cookbook to get the girl you deserve

shanice lee

------------------------------------------this cookbook will help ensure that you get the girl of your dreams. as long as you follow the steps, it should be no problem at all. after all, instructions are failproof.

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course 1 appetizer/the approach

so, you want this girl. you’ve seen her from a distance, and she’s absolutely your type. you’ve screened through her instagram, facebook and twitter to find out that she’s single. perfect, it’s time for the approach.

------------------------------------------the ingredients you’ll need for a successful entry into her life are: initial attraction genuine interest a welcoming personality a personal backstory a sense of humor a ton of endearing awkwardness moments of vulnerability multiple shared interests optional: multiple ‘deeper’ questions -------------------------------------------

preheat your initial attraction to her. let this heat simmer in you and fuel your actions. separate your genuine interest in her into approachable little bite-sized bits. you don’t want to scare her away before getting to know her. after approaching her, mix your genuine interest with your welcoming personality in order to make her feel comfortable with you. in order to help the conversation move along, gradually add in a mix of your personal backstory, sense of humor, endearing awkwardness, vulnerability, and shared interests. optionally: if you find that the conversation going well and you think it could benefit from an extra bit of spice, throw in some ‘deeper’ questions into the mix. end the conversation at a good time, and leave on a good note. let her favourable first impression of you cook in the meantime. check back on her from time to time, and soon you’ll have made a friend out of her.

if you’ve successfully maneuvered this recipe for friendship, feel free to continue to the next course: earning her trust.

course 2 main/the trust

now that she considers you a friend, it’s time to deepen your relationship. time to become her close confidante.

------------------------------------------for this step, you’ll require: your attraction towards her your heart on your sleeve multiple moments of vulnerability delicate sensitivity a supportive and caring nature a pair of listening ears an attitude of a gentleman -------------------------------------------

preheat your attraction to her. always remember to let this heat simmer in you and fuel your actions. draw her in by wearing your heart on your sleeve. combine with vulnerability and delicate sensitivity to make her realise you’re different from other boys. pepper in your supportive and caring nature into your conversations, to let her know that you care and want the best for her. as conversations frequency increase, provide her with your vulnerabilites, and gradually open your heart to her. this will allow her to believe that you have faith and trust in her, as you have seemingly let her in to your deepest part of your soul. soon, she will act similarly, opening herself up to you. you must season your listening ear with supportiveness and caring. listening to her problems, no matter how inconsequential, will be a boon in your relationship with her, and will be a huge advantage to showing her how perfect of a boyfriend you could be. in addition, don’t forget to always be a gentleman around her, treating her with chivalry and courtesy. treat her with the respect you think she deserves.

as expected, you are now her closest confidante and this should easily lead you to the most exciting and delicious course: dessert.

course 3 dessert/the reveal

all seems to be going well, don’t you think? you’re hanging out with her most of the time, and you’re her closest confidant. after all that you’ve accomplished and endured, it’s time to confess your attraction to her.

------------------------------------------for tonight’s confession, you’ll require: 1 dinner plan your heart your attraction to her multiple guilt trips multiple comparisons to other boys optional: multiple demands that she give you a chance multiple insults -------------------------------------------

set up a dinner plan, somewhere nice so you can surprise her. if she asks, just tell her some story about a celebration. she’ll probably believe you. reveal your heart to her during dinner. in this public setting, there’s no way she can run away from your confession. continue by revealling to her how since the first time you laid eyes on her, you knew she was going to be yours. melt her heart by elaborating your attraction to her. mix in the idea of how since you’ve done all these things for her since meeting her, she should at least give you a chance, and insist that if only she gave you a chance, she’d see how perfect you are for her. continue by adding in how much of a gentleman you are, and the way you treat her with respect, not like other boys that will not treasure her the way you do. it may take a while, but reiterate these points if she continues to reject you, if she says she only saw you as a friend. ignore what she says and just continue to reiterate, she will give in eventually.

by this time, end the dinner and allow her to cool off. send her home regardless because you are a gentleman. once you know she has cooled down, send her a text. tell her again how much you are attracted to her, and why you think you’ll be perfect together. be careful not to spread it on too thick here. let her cool further for the next few days, allowing her to think things through. optionally: you can proceed to demanding that she give you a chance, because it’s only fair. if she had no intention of dating you, she should not have led you on. you may insult her by calling her a slut, whore, bitch, cunt or other choice of words. that will teach her not to lead you on, and decrease her confidence at the same time. it’s her fault anyway, might as well berate her for it.

------------------------------------------by this time, that bitch is no longer worth the trouble. forget her and move on. by the time she regrets and crawls back to you, she’ll realise that it’s too late. you already see another girl you’re interested in anyway.

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