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A big thumbs up goes to the very brave June Brown for agreeing to strip off for her new role in the stage show Calendar Girls. At 82, June is the oldest of the ladies to cast off her clothes. It is a far cry from her role as God-fearing Dot Cotton in EastEnders but we know June will be sensational. According to David Pugh, the show’s producer, June is happy to be “a little more brave in the part”. But we couldn’t help being slightly puzzled at the tender age of some of June’s fellow stars, especially when the whole idea of Calendar Girls is to celebrate the ripeningg of beauty that comes with age. You can see June in her new role from July 28 to October 17.
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ON JULY 27, 1940, Bugs Bunny first spoke the immortal lines ‘What’s up, Doc?’ and took a bite out of his trademark carrot. The wise-cracking rabbit even won an Oscar in 1958. Bugs was the voice of Mel Blanc ‘The man of a thousand voices’, who did actually bite a carrot, but spit it out, every single time, as nothing else they tried sounded like the real thing. The cartoons are still shown on TV – this is one pesky wabbit with staying power.
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Dot would never approve! June with fellow Calendar Girls from left, Gemma Atkinson (24), Anita Dobson (60),Sara Crowe (43), Jill Baker (57), Jerry Hall (52) and Jill Halfpenny (33) at the piano. And here she is in her more usual fullyclothed EastEnders role
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Anonymous came to Britain from the US and has turned lives around ever since YEARS AGO, ON JULY 21, 1969, Astronaut Neil Armstrong took a small step and a giant leap on the moon. YEARS AGO ON JULY 23, 1986, Prince Andrew married Sarah Ferguson. They divorced just 10 years later, but stayed good friends.
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manda Redman laughs at the idea she’s about to become an icon for the over-fifties. While not entirely unhappy to join that band of women whose pictures are pinned to our fridge for inspiration – Helen Mirren, Judi Dench, Michelle Pfeiffer, Sharon Stone – she admits hitting the big five-o in August is making her feel just a little queasy. “It’s a big one,” she laughs. “But I think, ‘Come on, am I really going to feel any differently on the day after my birthday or will life just carry on as usual?’ “Friends over 50 talk about that feeling of invisibility that comes from getting older and I dread that. On the other hand, I look at my life and think, ‘Everything is well with the world. So why worry?’ It’s hard to imagine Amanda ever being invisible. As that big birthday approaches she looks as fabulous as ever. But she admits staying in shape doesn’t
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This pub pud has more salt than two bags of crisps By Ellie Guttridge
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alt in a sticky toffee pudding? It’s not something you would expect – yet some pub versions contain as much salt as two rashers of bacon, almost a third of our recommended daily intake. Shocking new research carried out by environmental health officers on behalf of Consensus Action on Salt and Health (CASH) reveals that a third of pub desserts contain more than 1g of salt, the equivalent of two packets of crisps. And that’s just the desserts – in some cases, a three-course pub meal contains more than the 6g daily maximum recommended limit for an adult.
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Eating out is a positive minefield. The officers sampled 57 popular menu items from 16 of some of the UK’s favourite pub chains and found more than half (55 per cent) of the main course dishes contained 3g of salt or more, half the 6g maximum daily intake for an adult. Nearly all – a massive 91 per cent – contained more than 2g. “We are now seeing a big difference in the UK between food bought from supermarkets and foods we eat in pubs and restaurants,” says Carrie Bolt, CASH nutritionist. “UK food retailers are leading the way in reducing salt levels in our food and making sure that their products are clearly labelled so that shoppers can see how much salt t and a saturated fat they contain. “But more and more of us are eating out o on a regular basis and when we buy b a meal in a pub or restaurant, we generally have no way of knowing how g much salt or saturated fat it contains.” m These high salt pub meals make us very thirsty, encouraging us to drink v
more, according to Professor Graham MacGregor, chairman of CASH and Professor of Cardiovascular Medicine at St George’s Hospital in London. “Food retailers in the UK have agreed to new 2012 targets for ready meals of 1.13g salt (maximum), 0.63g salt (average) per 100 grams, set by the Food Standards Agency. CASH would like to see the same 2012 targets set for all pub and restaurant chains and other meals eaten outside the home,” he said. Just 25 per cent of the salt we consume is added during cooking or at the table. The rest is hidden in the food we buy in pubs, restaurants and supermarkets. “Because not all food tastes salty, we just don’t realise how much we are eating,” says Joe Korner, of the Stroke Association. “Bread and cornflakes are often high in salt and some instant cup of soup brands contain more salt than is found in a cup of sea water.” A Burger King Big Breakfast Butty with HP sauce contains more than 5.5g
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Yours Beauty Editor says: You’ll need to stop waxing or using cream on the area for up to four weeks before treatment as the hair needs to be between 1-2mm in length for laser hair removal to be successful. Laser hair removal treatments work by damaging cells at the hair root. It doesn’t remove hair permanently but reduces growth, although you may need four to six sessions. You shouldn’t have the treatment if you have any history of skin cancer, a heart condition or diabetes. Laser hair removal generally doesn’t work effectively on blonde or grey hairs, only on dark hair. The treatment isn’t suitable for darker skin tones and you’ll need to stay out of the sun for a month beforehand, as it can’t be carried out on tanned skin. An alternative would be electrolysis, which, although time-consuming, is suitable for lighter hair. Ask you doctor to arrange for you to have a consultation with a dermatologist who will be able to go through all your options.
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very week there seems to be a party. All my earliest friends in show business seem to be laying on ‘knees-ups’. For birthdays, anniversaries, or celebrating something special – Frank Carson the buying of a new joke, Esther Rantzen standing as PM, Ronnie Woods attending the birth of his next girlfriend and me the 40th anniversary of my evening dress suit – I hear green is coming back in fashion! Just a couple of weeks back, I was tickled pink to be asked to say a few words during a unique lunch at a posh London hotel to celebrate Lionel Blair’s 60 years in show business… 60 years! No, I couldn’t believe it either. As someone commented to me on the day, “How come Lionel’s ten years older than you, yet he looks like your son?” He is an amazing bloke. He is in great shape – all that dancing (I must try to get both feet off the ground together one day). He still has an unquenchable enthusiasm for the job and still smiles that indestructible smile. Apart from that, he’s a dead loss! Proof of how much the lad is admired and liked was the turnout of workmates at the lunch. Lionel insisted that any money
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‘How come Lionel’s ten years older than you, yet he looks just like your son?’
raised should go to the charity, Elizabeth Finn Care, and it benefited by some £10,000! As a youngster, Lionel began entertaining with his sister, the late Joyce Blair. Together they danced and sang for the crowds sleeping in the Underground during the Second World War – whether the crowds wanted it or not! From this, he graduated to being a Munchkin in The Wizard
of Oz and then Puck at the Open Air Theatre Regent’s Park. After a career as a song and dance man, he choreographed and had his own troupes of girls. Then he did what no other dancer, to my knowledge, had ever done – he became a TV host: Name That Tune, Give Us a Clue, as well as playing in more than 30 pantos, and in all sorts of dramas and comedies. This summer, he’ll be in Edinburgh in School For Scandal. Lionel and I first met when he did the choreography for a revue I was in – a very special revue. It was the first big West End success for the late Danny La Rue (I will, of course, be writing about the late Dan in an upcoming column), Danny At The Palace. Lionel and the revue’s director, the legendary Freddie Carpenter, sat behind a desk while I sat looking at them – a bit like having a talking to from the headmaster and his assistant. Freddie launched into his ideas for the show – after every one Lionel looked at me and winked. I thought, ‘well, he’s obviously trying to tell me I should humour Mr Carpenter but the finished result won’t be like he’s said at all!’ I left the meeting, having been reassured by Lionel’s winks that all would be different. It was weeks later when Lionel apologised for winking, but explained he’d just had an eye operation. “Oh what a shame,” I said, “I thought you were flirting!” I became a friend of Lionel from that moment on. No surprise – everybody is a friend of Lionel’s. The guests at his party included everyone from dancers to dustmen, car dealers to carpet salesmen, milliners to mountebanks, producers to pantomimists and knights to nomads. Plus a positive plethora of children, in-laws and other family. Michael Winner flew in especially to praise Lionel and rubbish the food. Rolf Harris, Les Dennis, Philip Madoc, and yours truly had admiration to express, while the ladies – Diana Moran, Sylvia Syms, June Whitfield, Vicki Michelle and Anita Harris – all confessed they’d all had crushes on the lad. The ‘do’ finished with the showing of a recording of Sunday Night At The Palladium – remember that one? It was a song and dance duet with Lionel and Sammy Davis Junior. When it came to tap dancing, the only difference between these two great exponents was one was black. The entire room gave our hero a standing ovation for that spot and for 60 glorious years. YOURS // EVERY FORTNIGHT
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to become a model had entered me for the programme What Not To Wear. I was shocked as I thought I looked fine. She said: “Margaret, you’ve been in a time warp since 1974.” We had a very honest relationship! I headed to London and was so nervous that I stayed in the hotel room until the audition. There were 30 to 40 women when I entered the room and, as we got talking, it became apparent that these were all exceptional ladies – from a recovering cancer patient to someone whose house had burnt down. I told the director I stood no chance. The following day the BBC rang and said I’d been chosen for the next stage. I still wasn’t convinced I needed help, even though I’d had the same hairstyle after 32 years of marriage. My husband still approved of the way I looked, so maybe the BBC was wrong. I was petrified of being interviewed by Lisa Butcher, the show’s presenter, but she put me at ease. As I stood in the final line-up p of six I was
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to put the bullying behind me. Tony’s initial reaction had been dismay – he felt our private life was going to be aired in public and he wasn’t keen – but my family and friends were amazed by the diffierence in me. They say I’m now radiant to be around and my ‘can do’ attitude makes me feel I can tackle anything. Since the show, I’ve applied to a modelling agency which said I looked too young to be in my 50s, so it has kept me on file until I do. That’s a compliment, I suppose!
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Carers in touch Caring is stressful, but exercise can help give you more energy By Reader Care Editor Rosie Sandall
Exercise to relieve stress C
aring for someone else is hard work and carers often pay a high price as they neglect their own health and well-being. Many suffer from depression but they are often unable – or unwilling – to share their feelings with family or professionals and then do not know how to resolve it. Carers often report a whole range of problems including: physical exhaustion, mental stress, insomnia, feelings of guilt, depression or feeling trapped by the situation. One carer told Yours her method of relieving stress was to snap wooden kebab skewers into tiny pieces, another
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argaret Dodwell has had Parkinson’s disease for seven years and for the past six years she has been going to a weekly exercise class. “I used to go to keep fit classes before I was diagnosed with Parkinson’s and I’ve always been interested in the fact that exercise can help relieve stress,” says Margaret. “At first I thought I’d never be able to cope, but I joined Pilates and yoga classes and I find they help a great deal. “I certainly know by my joints if I’ve missed a week. There’s no need for anyone to feel embarrassed at a class. No
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told us that she simply goes into the garden and screams! Deep breathing is practised in both yoga and meditation to calm the mind, but a little gentle exercise can also really help. A walk in the garden or park is a good start and if you have a couple of hours to yourself why not try to build up to longer walks? Walking is a great way
to improve fitness, boost self-esteem and beat stress. Get some great tips on walking for health in Issue 70 of Yours. If your fitness level is boosted it may help reduce the chance of you falling ill. One of the biggest concerns for carers is what will happen if they become ill and can’t cope any more. It’s often hard for carers to take a break
one takes any notice of your ability. Many people think that gyms aren’t for them. They imagine the classes are full of slim, fit people wearing leotards. But according to keep fit instructor Anita Barker, they couldn’t be more wrong. She says: “Exercise classes with properly trained instructors are ideal for carers and many people with health problems. People with conditions such as MS and Parkinson’s benefit from gentle keep fit sessions, especially Pilates which strengthens the core muscles of the body and helps posture.” Anita says she finds it rewarding to
watch class members grow in strength and confidence. “I’m a firm believer in the phrase ‘use it or lose it’. Exercise helps keep your joints going and this is essential if you are a carer. Everyone tells me they feel better after the class, but I’d always advise people to seek the advice of their GP before starting any exercise. “Classes are sociable affairs and there’s often time for a cup of tea or a chat at the end.” Anita’s relaxation tip: “If you feel really stressed, sit down quietly. Concentrate on your breathing.
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Tips for coping with stress // Find a way of relaxing – ask your GP or local healthy living centre what’s available in your area. // Give yourself a break from caring – even if it’s just a couple of hours a week. // Try walking or swimming – great stress relievers. // Talk to other people who understand. Join the Yours Carers in Touch scheme by writing to Rosie at Carers in Touch, Yours, Media House, Peterborough Business Park, Peterborough PE2 6EA. // Learn to say no sometimes. // Have a few minutes for yourself.
simply because they can’t leave the person for whom they care. But experts agree that it’s vital for carers to look after themselves – otherwise they’ll be unable to carry on caring. If you feel you need advice on coping with caring, call Carers UK on the number below.
Where to get help
// Carers UK has an information sheet called Coping with Stress which encourages carers to try gentle exercise and relaxation techniques. Call CarersLine on 0808 808 7777, Wednesday and Thursday 10am to noon; 2pm to 4pm, or visit www.carersuk.org // Contact your local Age Concern or Carers’ centre to find out about exercise classes in your area. Many carers’ centres run their own classes for carers.
The Yours Caring Home of the Year Award The search is on for the The Yours Caring Home of the Year and we need your help!
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e at Yours want to celebrate all that’s good about the country’s residential homes. That’s why we are launching the prestigious Yours Caring Home of the Year award. The award will cover all nursing and residential care homes in the UK where people live permanently. It will not include sheltered accommodation. There will also be a special award for the staff member of the year. This award – the Yours Caring Staff Member of the Year Award - will go to someone who goes the extra mile to make a real
difference to residents’ lives. There will be seven regional finalists in both categories – South West; South East; Midlands and East Anglia; Wales; North East; North West; Scotland. And the judges will also be looking for a staff member whose care for residents is truly outstanding. All you have to do to nominate a special home or staff member is to fill in the form overleaf and post it to us. The closing date for the competition is Monday, August 3, 2009 and the winners will be announced in the Autumn.
THE JUDGES WILL INCLUDE:
Yours editor Valery McConnell
Reader care editor Rosie Sandall
Former GMTV presenter Fiona Phillips
Yours columnist Lynda Bellingham
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Anita helps Margaret with a gentle stretch
Breathe h iin very slowly l l and d then h breathe out slowly. Just think about your breathing and nothing else! Once you are breathing slowly, your body will slow down and you’ll feel less stressed.”
THOUGHT FOR THE FORTNIGHT “The redemption of our communities is up to individuals living by example and by the transformation of personal responsibility. It begins in our own homes and with sustained commitment to simple truths.”
Our inspirational thought is written especially for Yours by Dorothy McGregor, who runs a charity shelter for the n. homeless in Accrington. as Her tireless devotion has Lancashire’s Mother earned her the name ‘Lancashire’s Theresa’. You can write to Dorothy at: Maundy Relief, 29/31 Abbey Street, Accrington, Lancs BB5 1EN; tel: 01254 232328.
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Carer of the Fortnight and Carers in Touch will both be back in Issue 68 – July 28
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Elegant p o t k c e n t a o b
This top goes well with jeans or dress it up with smart trousers
MATERIALS
FOR S K N IT TE R D O WITH GONCE EXPERIE ★★★
6(6:7:8:8:9) 50g balls Twilleys Freedom Sincere DK Pair each 3.25mm (UK 10) and 4mm (UK 8) knitting needles One each 3.25mm (UK 10) and 4mm (UK 8) circular knitting needles 2 buttons 1 stitch holder 2 stitch markers Yarn quantities are based on average requirements and are therefore approximate.
TENSION
22 sts and 28 rows = 10cm/4in square over stocking stitch using Twilleys Freedom Sincere DK on 4mm needles or the size required to give the correct tension. Always check tension carefully and adjust needle sizes throughout if necessary.
BACK
Using 3.25mm needles cast on 93(99:105:111:117:123) sts. 1st row (RS) Knit. 2nd row Purl.
MEASUREMENTS To fit bust 81 86 91 97 32 34 36 38 Actual size 85 90 95 101 331 ⁄4 351⁄2 371⁄2 393 ⁄4 Length to back neck 53 54 55 56 22 21 211 ⁄4 211⁄2 Length sleeve seam 2 2 2 2 3 3 3 3 ⁄4 ⁄4 ⁄4 ⁄4
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107 42
cm in
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112 44
cm in
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58 223 ⁄4
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ABBREVIATIONS
NOTES Figures in brackets ( ) refer to larger sizes. Where only one set of figures is given this applies to all sizes.It is advisable to circle the size you wish to make.
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alt - alternate, beg - beginning, cm - centimetres, cont - continue, dec - decrease(ing), DK – double knitting, foll – following, g – grams, in - inch(es), inc – increase(ing), k – knit, k2tog – knit 2 stitches together, m1 - make one stitch (pick up strand between the needles and knit into the back of it), mm - millimetres, 0 - no stitches, rows or times, meas – measures, p – purl, p2tog – purl 2 stitches together, rem – remain(ing), rep – repeat, RS - right side, skpo – slip one stitch, knit one stitch, pass slipped stitch over, st(s) - stitch(es), st-st - stocking stitch (knit on right side rows, purl on wrong side rows), tbl – through back of loops, tog – together, WS - wrong side.
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Lynda’s
look at life… Yours columnist Lynda Bellingham reveals her secret recipe for happiness – the feeling as a child of going home to Mum, and an emptied dishwasher!
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want, I want, I want. Those who want don’t get. I remember that was my mother’s stock reply to my demands as a child. But was my list of ‘wants’ really going to make me happy? Or was it about getting things other people had, or because it would make me look good to my friends, or just because? We live in such an all-consuming, consumer society that sometimes I think we have been bamboozled into believing that only “things” can make us happy. Ask most young people today what makes them happy, and I bet it will involve something that can be bought, worn or played with. All involve money. I have been contemplating my own levels of happiness and trying to discover a more spiritual level of contentment. Obviously, it is easier in hindsight to spot moments of happiness. We do not always really appreciate them at the time. I can honestly say that memories I have of real happiness were not about money. Don’t get me wrong, I have known times of real hardship when a few quid would have changed my life. But real true happiness can come in strange forms. As a child, security meant happiness. I have never taken that for granted. Coming home to see my Mum in the kitchen and nd sitting by an open fire to eat crumpets with jam m and butter. Pure joy. Christmas is still a time of enormous happiness to me, even though over the last five years I have lost both my parents and my sister around that time. Although I miss them terribly, my joy of Christmas makes it easier. Looking at a lit-up Christmas tree makes me toe-tinglingly happy. Wrapping the presents and filling stockings for my boys, who are now 21 and 26, still fills me with complete joy. When I was younger, waking up in the early hours and feeling that stocking on the bed Happiness
‘Memories I have of real happiness are not about money’
I’m outside the stage door, eating a bowl of chips for lunch! Well, it’s been a busy fortnight. As well as Calendar Girls and Loose Women, I’ve been recording a series for Radio 4 called The Richest Man In The World – I play the mum of Mark Williams of The Fast
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is... Lynda pictured with her beloved sons when they we re younger
Show. I’ve ’ve also done a monologue for Radio 4’s afternoon slot called Three Women in a Motor Home written by Sue Teddern, who writes wonderful parts for women of a certain age. We older women are coming into our own. That’s why I can’t understand
rumours are true – why – if the rum the BBC would want to replace Strictly judge Arlene Phillips with Alesha Dixon. They shouldn’t ignore the fact that age brings wisdom and it’s up to us to make sure they don’t.
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was so exciting. Nowadays, I get the same feeling of anticipation after we have been to Midnight Mass. Honestly, I love it. The birth of my sons are memorably happy moments. I had never really planned children. Never had those broody, body clock-ticking issues. I had Michael when I was 35 and Robbie when I was 40. I could not believe how I felt – an overwhelming love for these boys. Crazy. There are all kinds of theories about the chemical process in our body that produces feelings of happiness. Chocolate springs to mind. But what is so s elusive I think, is that spiritual feeling of happiness. I do not have fe the th answers, but I do know that little lit moments of happiness are all around us and we should learn to enjoy them. Sometimes it could be as simple as stopping at a zebra crossing to let someone get to the cro other oth side and they give you a wave and a smile. How rare is that? Or it could cou be coming home and finding your you dear family has not only filled the dishwasher, but set it going and emptied it. Now that is happiness. emp
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