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DEAR RUTHIE SHE GOT TO FIRST BASE BUT STILL NOT PLAYING BALL
Welcome to the second edition of the newly designed Shepherd Express. Clearly, Milwaukee is enjoying our snazzy new format because emails for my little advice column keep rolling in. Let’s read one now. OK, sugar booger? OK!
Dear Ruthie, I’ve been attracted to one of my girl friends since college. She knows I’m a lesbian, and I’m sure she’s aware I like her. We went out with two friends last week, and I asked her to stay behind when they left. We ended up making out in my car. We haven’t spoken about it since, and now it’s awkward to bring it up. Is it too late? I’d like to explore a relationship with her even though she says she’s straight. I also don’t want to ruin the friendship. Please Help! - Loose Lips Sink Ships
Dear Loose-y, Oh, sweetie! Next time, ask a few questions before locking lips with a bestie. I know, I know… when passion comes calling, it’s hard to hit the brakes when all you want to do is play tongue twister. I get it. For now, however, you need to address the elephant in the room. In fact, say that: “We need to address the elephant in the room.” Ask her what she thinks about exploring a relationship with you. Let her know how your feelings and ask her thoughts. Here’s the catch: You’ve got to accept whatever she tells you. Don’t try to change her mind, make excuses or keep a torch lit for her. Listen to what she has to say and agree to accept it, particularly if it’s not what you hope to hear. Good luck! You got this!
Have a question for Ruthie? Want to share an event with her? Contact Ruthie at DearRuthie@ShepEx.com. Ruthie gives advice to the lovelorn and compiles Milwaukee’s LGBTQ-friendly social calendar.
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