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I am reminded of a song from the early 60’s by Sam Cooke. “Cupid” It’s about enlisting the help of cupid to pierce the heart of a girl he wanted so badly to love only him. Cupid, draw back your bow And let your arrow go, straight to my lover’s heart for me…. Cupid with your arrow make her love strong for me, I promise I will love her until eternity… Reflecting on this, I started to remember how painful heartache can be. Realizing further that the heartache we endure leads us closer to God, closer to DIVINE LOVE! I felt the heartache of a friend of mine this past week. She was suffering, not because she was at the side of her dying father, but because she was uncertain of where he would be spending eternity. She ached for the love of her father’s soul. Wow! I was so moved by this, and so inspired by her love. She called on her friends to ask that they pray for him to turn to God in his last moments of life; and to ask God to have mercy on him. Now, it’s important to know that this was a very kind, compassionate, gentle man all of his life. However, she knew her father could not wrap his heart around all the suffering in our world and could not understand how our God could allow it, and turned away from him because of it. So thankful she asked me to pray for her father. So glad we have a merciful God. Why suffering? Suffering can bring about a good. If God eliminated suffering, the corresponding good also would be eliminated. So suffering leads to charity (love), the unleashing of love in a human person, the unselfish gift of one’s self. Only when we are weak do many of us rely on God. We become humbled and small and recognize our need to trust God. Think about cupid’s arrow piercing the heart of the girl. The result is that her heartache led her towards the man that loved her. She drew near. We saw Jesus suffer on the cross with a pierced heart. It was from his pierced heart and his suffering that we are given the opportunity of eternal life. His suffering brings us closer to Heaven. What power flows from the pierced heart! “Love is stronger than death” (Song 8.6) Love is stronger than death because love does not cease to give life even after death. I pray you love your soul and the soul of others as God Loves It,

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Make Brushing Fun! Some dentists would recommend a small mechanical brush; maybe one that plays music (2 min.). It’s important that the brush head is small enough to brush each individual tooth; front, back, and bottom (the part that chews the food). Take about 10 seconds for each tooth, brush the tongue. Be careful not to go too far back. Gag! Rinse brush with very warm water after each use. It’s recommended that you replace the brush every 3 – 4 months.

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Dear “Momsolvers”, “How can I help my child (9 years old) develop a positive attitude? He is so competitive and is a bit of a sore loser, going so far as to refuse to congratulate the other team when his team loses.” u Personally I have noticed that our kid’s reactions have to do a lot with copying patterns they see at home. It has to do with our child’s perspective of what each competitive situation represents in their personal life. In my case, teaching our kids the relevance, for example, of a game in their life. We focus on doing our best and have a great time doing it. A good question to ask is why do you want to play in the first place? Usually It’s because they like the sport and want to have fun. When we stop having a good time and become angry all the time it defeats its purpose. We all want to win but it’s not all about winning. When we lose we learn how we can improve and get better; always maintaining the focus on why you started playing in the first place.

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u For picky eaters, I have a one bite rule. They have to eat one bite of everything I put on the table. If they don’t like it after that they can make themselves a bowl of cereal, but they have to clean it up themselves. However, my kids do eat almost everything, and this rule also applies to their friends who come over to eat with us. After the “one bite” rule, they discover they actually do like something they never would try before. There was one friend who had never tasted a pear, and loved it! ~ Sherrie E., reader and mom of 2

Dear “Momsolvers”, (The Chore Wars) “My husband did not have to do chores when he was a child and does not completely embrace my theory that chores help kids develop a sense of responsibility. I would like to know how other parents feel about giving kids chores. Thanks.”

~ Reader and mom u I have had a situation like this with one of my own boys (age 8). We immediately approached him after witnessing his bad behavior and let him know that if he ever acts so rude and ugly again we will take him off the team. Never a problem again, and he actually thanked us after his team won and he was paying attention to the losing teams’ attitudes; he was impressed with their good sportmanship behavior. ~ Beth, reader and mom of 4 boys u Witnessed this type of behavior with my daughter! She was warned about this being “ugly” and “disrespectful” behavior. She did it again, I pulled her from the team’s next game. Yes, I did get a lot of flack from other parents and her coach, however, she has time to think of what mattered most. ~ Paul, reader and dad of 2 girls and 2 boys

u I don’t think anybody likes doing chores, so I don’t know if the war ever ends. I just made them do it because it’s part of their participation in the house. I approached it more for the need of their help then because they need to be responsible. We all need to help out. ~ Reader and mom u In our home, each of our children has had an understanding, from little on, that as a family member they are to make a contribution to our small community’s success. This includes basics like making a bed and picking up after themselves, as well as occasional larger chores, such as helping rake the yard or wash a car. My oldest two (26 and 20) are independent, self-sufficient adults and I plan to continue this practice with my 15, 10, and 8 year old. Pitching in, being accountable, and working for a greater good are all really important life lessons. ~ Kimberly M., reader and mom of 5

Dear “Momsolvers”, “Help! I am a foodie with a child that is a ‘Picky Eater’! Suggestions from Momsolvers??” u I was a very picky eater myself; so in order for eating not to become an issue, make the things your child likes or try to disguise the food and flavors that displeases your child. For example, I didn’t like the texture of cooked onions, if a food had onions in it I would not eat it; but if the onion was blended and I could not see it, I would eat the meal. It is the same experience with my kids. Now I eat everything including onions and my oldest son loves them too. ~ Reader and mom u I like using Ellyn Satter Institute’s Division of Responsibility in feeding children, where the parent is responsible for the what (the food that is being bought, prepared and served) and when (regular, predictable meals and snacks) and the child is responsible for how much he decides to eat at those structured feeding times. I’m not only a registered dietitian nutritionist, but also a mom of three boys, including a preschooler who is a picky eater himself! ~ Rivka B., Nutrition Expert

u Children who have no sense of responsibility grow up to be selfish, entitled adults. By giving your children chores now, you are doing your part to develop responsible adults. It may sound like a good idea for your kids not to do chores now, but when they are 30 years old with no job and no motivation to get one, your husband may finally see your point. Proverbs 22:6. ~ Nikki W., reader and mom

Next month: How would you handle these dilemmas? Find these online at www.facebook.com/momsolvers I would like to take better care of my Husband. He is overworked and stressed. He will not go to a doctor. Surely, others have a man who carries the world on his shoulders. Thank you in advance for your answers. I would like to know from the Momsolver community if anyone has experience with starting a blog? I have a collection of recipes I have been holding for many years and would like to blog about them. Any suggestions on how to get started? Any “momsolver bloggers” out there? My husband wants to adopt a puppy. Don’t laugh but I am scared of most dogs, even puppies. Should I work on myself or keep saying, no way!

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TOP 10 Acts a Chivalrous Husband Does for His Wife 1. He always thinks of her first: This may sound like a “no-brainer,” but it’s also true that many of us play out our role as husbands while by-passing the brain as a matter of routine! Make this a personal discipline until it becomes second nature.

2. He opens the door (Not just the car door, but every door, every time): Yes, the car door thing is cliché. But it – and every door – is such a good opportunity to let both our wife and the entire world know how you honor her.

3. He holds her hand. A lot. For no good reason. Just holding your wife’s hand with no ulterior motive lets her know she’s deeply connected to you and that you prize her affection. It signals warmth and protection. And that she’s the only gal for you.

4. He walks on the street side of the sidewalk: Remember walking? Remember sidewalks? This action has its roots in shielding women from the mud and the splash. However, splash or no splash, it’s a posture that says, “I will protect you; I place myself between you and danger.” Simply moving around to that side is a huge statement of respect.

5. He gets soaked fetching an umbrella: Again, it’s the principle of the action. You get the car, you run around in the rain and open the door, you shield her with the umbrella. This kind of initiative is a way of life, not a novelty action.

6. He coaches his children in selfgiving love: Don’t let it stop with you, All Pro Dad. Teach your children, especially your sons, to look out for their mother and to put her first. Kindness, when they see it in you and practice it in their own lives, will heal your family.

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7. He serves her coffee or tea in bed in the morning: Don’t ride in on the horse, but do serve her in this way as much as possible. And it’s also a good idea when the whole family eats together, that no one takes a bite until mom lifts her spoon. It’s a way to honor her sacrifice of preparing the meal.

8. He is always courteous: Many men are un-chivalrous in the way they put themselves first and fail to think of the needs of their wives. Say “please” and “thank you.” Do not raise your voice. Turn off the distractions when you eat together (she’s more important than answering the phone). Make it obvious that the relationship is primary. Believe us, courtesy sets the tone and it is always reciprocated.

9. He washes her car before he washes his: We know the way things look around us. No family communication. Ten-plus hours of media saturation daily. Close to zero incidence of family mealtime in the average week. The disappearing act that used to be family vacation. Televisions in the kids’ bedrooms. But that doesn’t mean we throw our hands in the air and fold. Fight the battle for a family ethos defined by balance. Be deliberate and your kids will thank you.

10. He stands up and takes the heat: Does she know you “have her back?” Was the repair guy surly when she talked with him on the phone? Is she getting the run-around trying to sort out the insurance claim? Was the waiter at the restaurant or the clerk at the store out of line? We’re not suggesting you go Rambo on these people, but consider stepping up and saying, “Excuse me, but it’s unacceptable for you to talk to my wife that way.” But leave the shield, the lance, and the sword in the car. Reprinted with permission: This is where dads in any stage of fatherhood can find helpful resources to aid in their parenting. Fathers can also sign up to start or attend one of our All Pro Dad’s Days chapters.

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Encourage family members to express what they need and want. You can’t give people what they need and want if they don’t know what that is. Offer extra support to a family member who can’t identify what she needs and wants. Don’t let her always sacrifice her opinion for whatever the rest of the group wants. Every member of the family needs to know how to dig deep and express her own point of view. If you ask for wants and needs, you’ll encourage every family member to figure theirs out. Spend quality time with each person in the family. Love should never be a competition. My daughter loves to spend daddy-daughter time with my husband, and I’m glad she does. They have the things they like to do together, like watching slapstick comedy shows on TV or going out to their favorite breakfast place. And my daughter and I have our favorite things to do like watching chick flicks or going shopping. Be sure to carve out quality time with every family member, including your spouse. Teach kids to be caring to others. Teach kids how to make thoughtful gestures that make the most of their talents. Or get them out of the house and involved in assisting a good cause. If family members have trouble expressing care to each other, maybe they will have an easier time expressing affection and concern outside the family. If having you around seems to make them less charitable, then let another trusted adult guide them. Hug your family members at every age. It has been scientifically proven that hugging lowers blood pressure and reduces stress, so what more of an excuse do you need? If your older kids try to brush you off, tell them you have to hug them - it’s for their good health. And, of course, encourage kids to receive hugs when they are struggling emotionally, so they don’t become habitual sufferers.

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then teach your family members to become conversant. According to Gary D. Chapman in his book, The Five Love Languages, people experience love in five ways. We experience love through words of affirmation, by spending quality time together, by receiving gifts, by performing acts of service, or through physical touch. According to Chapman, every person on earth has a primary “language of love.” I understand what Chapman means when he says every person processes love uniquely. And I also think that there is much to be gained by playing around with all the love languages and encouraging members of our families to do the same. Which acts of love make you feel seen, appreciated, and cherished? What about your spouse and the kids? We can all learn to communicate what we like and need to our family members, so everyone can get their needs met and no one has to end up feeling misunderstood or neglected. Here are ten ways to increase family affection at home: Set a loving example. If you want your kids to have self-esteem and so they can live the best lives possible, you have to teach them to love themselves first and foremost. Unfortunately, if the parents can’t model this, the children are not likely to learn it, at least not from them. So, take good care of you first, and then take good care of your brood. Love yourself and care for yourself so you can best love others and care for others. Personalize “I love you” for each family member. Childhood nicknames can create affectionate moments in later years. If calling your child by a nickname will offend, even in private, then express the sentiment in whatever way the recipient will hear you best. Forget how you want to say it, and opt for what will garner the most positive response from your child.

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Picture books about love and affection:

Guess How Much I Love You by Sam McBranty, Illustrated by Anita Jeram

The Runaway Bunny by Margaret Wise Brown, Illustrated by Clement Hurd

Goodnight Moon by Margaret Wise Brown, Illustrated by Clement Hurd

Hug by Jez Alborough

Love You Forever by Robert Munsch, Illustrated by Sheila McGraw

On The Night You Were Born by Nancy Tillman

Don’t forget, “We all love you.” Get in the habit of speaking for the whole family. A family is a “we,” and love goes at the center of this complex constellation. This does not mean your toddler, teen, or college grad will always be eager to express emotion. So go ahead and be the voice of the whole family, as needed. Then, once you have spoken for all, let even a begrudging nod of agreement be enough. Love life and it will love your family back. Your attitude towards life is either going to inspire or haunt your family.You may think you are being realistic, but if you constantly chorus that life isn’t fair, that money doesn’t grow on trees, and oh well, it could have been worse, your kids are going to grow up expecting life to let them down. Sure, life can be a bumpy ride sometimes, but never forget that it’s unconditional love and positive encouragement from the people we love most that makes the challenges more bearable.

Squeeze in small gestures of love. Find little ways to express physical touch, especially for those family members who try to shirk it. Squeeze a shoulder, pat a knee, rumple some hair, kiss your hand and then pat their cheek. And mix it up a little. It’s when affection becomes rote that teens roll their eyes at you and groan. So, get creative and say it like you mean it. Catch them when they least expect it, and they won’t have time to duck away. Appreciate the attempt. Remember that there is no such thing as perfect families. Also remind yourself that sometimes love will flow more readily and easily between family members than other times. And when a family member tries to do something genuinely kind or nice, try to appreciate the sentiment behind the gesture. Don’t let them be teased or called names for expressing affection. Love is a sign of strength, not weakness. When it comes to love and affection, you can’t always get what you want, but if you try consistently, you will find there are plenty of opportunities in any given day to acknowledge and appreciate the most important people in your life. • Christina Katz is an author and freelance journalist. She loves her family, her pets, the world, and what she does for a living. Her latest book is Permission Granted, 45 Reasons To Micro-publish.

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is a scary experience for many children. The dentist is a virtual stranger, even after several visits. Plus, the dentist and hygienists wear masks that cover their faces for most of the visit, making them appear even less friendly. It can be a very over stimulating experience with the bright lights, loud buzzing and smell of chemicals. Plus, the expectation of holding still for an extended length of time is frustrating for many children. Fortunately, there are some ways to make the visit a bit less frightening and easier to handle.

• Find a pediatric dentist. Pediatric dentists have specialized training in treating children. Their offices are often designed to be more comfortable and inviting to children.

• Start early.

The American Academy of Pediatric Dentistry recommends that children see a pediatric dentist as soon as their first tooth comes in, typically between six and twelve months of age. Getting children accustomed to dental visits from a young age often makes visits less traumatic.

• Tell your child what to expect.

Children typically only see the dentist twice a year. They may forget what happens at the visits in between appointments. Walk them through what to expect before each visit. Read books about going to the dentist. Don’t gloss over parts that they struggled with last time. For example, if they became agitated when it was time to swish the fluoride rinse around their mouth, gently let them know that they will have to do it again. Neglecting to mention it could lead to more anxiety, as well as possibly distrust in you when they are confronted with it again.

• Practice good dental hygiene at home. Brushing and flossing your child’s teeth daily will help keep teeth and gums healthy. This may result in quicker and easier dental visits. Feeding your child a healthy diet and limiting sweets will also help accomplish this.

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• Start some traditions. A few days before the dentist appointment, start reading books or watching cartoons about dentists, teeth and tooth care. Find a song about going to the dentist or make up one of your own. Sing it in the car on the way to the appointment. Have a special plan for after the dentist, such as visit to the park or trip to the movie theater. Do these things before and after every visit to give your children good memories of going to the dentist.

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Children pick up on their parent’s worries. Your child won’t be able to be calm or relaxed if she knows you aren’t. Take time to address your own issues before the appointment so you don’t project your negative feelings onto your child’s experience.

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• Deal with your own fears. Many adults still have severe dental anxiety.

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Dentist visits don’t have to be terrifying – for child or parent! • Rachael Moshman is a mom and freelance writer. She actually enjoys going to the dentist. Find her at www.rachaelmoshman.com

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ne-third of the cases of infertility

are related to the male partner. When it comes to conceiving a baby, diet and lifestyle are just as important for men as for women. Some common causes of sperm-related infertility are low sperm count, slow moving sperm, abnormal shape and size of sperm and problems with semen. Diet and lifestyle choices can affect the health of a man’s sperm. Use the following information to make healthy choices:

Eating for Fertility n Be colorful! Get Your Fruits and Vegetables Color your plate with at least 2 1/2 cups of vegetables and 2 cups of fruit: leafy greens, purple and yellow vegetables, apples, oranges, kiwi, blueberries and melon.

n Choose Whole Grains Eat at least half of all grains as whole grains each day, like bowl of oatmeal in the morning, wholegrain bread at lunch and brown rice with dinner.

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Dairy products are full of calcium, vitamin D, potassium and protein – all nutrients that keep your body functioning well. Choose at least three servings of low-fat or fat-free dairy, such as 1 cup of milk or yogurt or 1 ounce of cheese each day.

n Cut Down on Meat (Dare I say) Eat less red meat and choose leaner protein sources: fish, turkey, chicken breast or pork chops. Eat vegetable proteins like beans, nuts, seeds and tofu.

n Be Smart about Fats Limit saturated fats from meats, full-fat dairy products and fried foods. Replace with healthy fats. Snack on an ounce of walnuts or almonds each day, drizzle extra-virgin olive oil on roasted vegetables and salads or add avocado to your sandwich.

Other Healthy Lifestyle Choices for Conception n Don’t Drink Too Much Alcohol Over-consuming alcohol is linked with poor production of normal, healthy sperm. If you drink alcohol, follow these guidelines for men: no more than two drinks a day (one drink equals 12 ounces of beer, 5 ounces of wine or 1½ ounces of spirits).

n Keep a Healthy Weight Research has shown that overweight and obesity can lead to fertility problems by creating hormonal disturbances. Eat right and balance calorie intake with exercise. By eating fewer processed foods and more whole foods, like fresh fruits, vegetables, whole grains, healthy fats and lean proteins, there’s less room for mindless eating and empty calorie consumption. On the flip side, being underweight has negative effects on sperm, such as decreased count and poor function.

n Exercise in Moderation Aim to exercise five days a week for 30 minutes. Too much exercise has been shown to decrease testosterone, which can indirectly lower sperm counts. Avoid steroid use; it can affect fertility by causing testicular shrinkage. •

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Fabulous Moms Share Their Best Advice... “Be flexible. It’s nice to have a schedule when kids are young but they are people, not machines. Eating early or staying up late once in a while will not bring the world to an end.” Caroline, mom of 2 “If you have more than one child, try to do something alone with each one regularly. Whether it’s playing Legos when siblings are otherwise occupied, bringing special lunch to school and eating with that child or even taking them shopping for new shoes while dad stays home with the siblings they will appreciate the one on one time with you.” Caroline, mom of 2

“Eat together as a family whenever possible.” Robin J.W., reader and mom of 3 “Sometimes listening to your child is better than always advising.” Robin J.W., reader and mom of 3 “Pick your battles.” Robin J.W., reader and mom of 3

“Keep your sense of humor, it can be catching.” Robin J.W., reader and mom of 3 “Remember to SMILE at your husband and children each day. Talk to them with even more courtesy than you would a friend.” Bobbi, mom of 5

“Remember to treat YOUR parents with respect and honor... you’re teaching your children how to treat you, both now and in your old age.” Bobbi, reader and mom of 5

“If you need to talk about something uncomfortable with older kids, do it in the car. They are more likely to be open if they don’t have to look you in the face.” Caroline, mom of 2 “You can never give too many hugs or say I love you too many times!” Libby, reader and mom of 2

“Trust God with your family size. His plan is best...you’ll never know who you missed!” Bobbi, mom of 5 “Don’t scrub dishes...let crusty dishes sit overnight with a dryer sheet and water in them ...in the morning, the crust comes off easily-with no fuss!” Bobbi, mom of 5

“My grandmother told me never to leave my children any place where I wouldn’t feel safe leaving a million dollars.” Kelly, reader and mom of 3

What makes someone a fabulous mom? She doesn’t necessarily wear pearls and high heels to vacuum (but she might!). She doesn’t necessarily spend her weekends hiking in the wilderness, pointing out the various species of vegetation and animal life (but she might!). These fabulous moms are just like you: they love their kids! Here are some gems they’ve found make their family lives just a little bit easier....

“Teach your kids to do household chores as soon as possible, while it’s still fun for them. Then, never do for them things they can do on their own, teaching them responsibility and the value of being a contributing member of the family.” Bobbi, mom of 5

“When we got married, the priest told us that “the best thing you can do for your children is to love your spouse.” In light of that advice, in lieu of buying us a Christmas present every year, my in-laws come to town to watch our children once a year so my husband and I can get away for our annual “honeymoon trip”. Our children have fun spending time with their grandparents and my in-laws love spending time with our children, not to mention, it’s our favorite Christmas present ever!” - Anonymous

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“Wisdom is not knowing right from wrong, it is distinguishing between right and almost right.” Bobbi, reader and mom of 5

“Don’t try to mediate every little argument. Kids are working out interpersonal skills, and if you get in the middle of everything they won’t know how to remedy disagreements themselves one day.” Kelly, reader and mom of 3

“Teach them to cook. For both boys and girls, this will be one of the best skills they will have later in life.” Angie, reader and mom of 2 “Sometimes a hug is better than anything you can say.” Shelly, reader and mom of 1 Try potty training in the warmer months! Just set our a couple of little potties and let the children wear loose fitting clothes or for girls sun dresses are a great option! Natasha, mom of 3

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The Know It All Irving Community Calendar Parents: Some programs require tickets and/or reservations, always contact event locations to confirm times and requirements. Feb 1. 1st Saturday. 10:00 a.m. – 2:00 p.m. Children’s Art Activities, Art in Action Sculpture Demo, Art Scavenger Hunt, Family Tours and more. Free to everyone. Nasher Sculpture Center. For more information visit www.nashersculpturecenter.org. Feb 1. Play and Learn. 10:30am to 11:30am Cimarron Recreation Center is serving as a temporary location for this Valley Ranch Library event. Families, Friends and children from birth to 5 years old play, create and explore together at this program. This program helps pre-schoolers develop their cognitive and positive relationship skills through art projects, singing, storytime and more! 972-910-0702. Feb 1 & Feb 8. Kimbell Kids Drop-In Studio 1 – 1:45 p.m. Kimbell Art Museum. Free program introduces children 12 and under and their adult companions to fun inspiring way to enjoy art together. For more information call 817-322-8451 ext. 725. Let’s go to the Museum! Feb 1. Conversaciones @ Your Library. 1:00 – 2:00pm Central Library. Conversation tables will be available at Central Library weekly for English language learners to practice conversational English skills in an informal, friendly environment. 972.721-2606 Feb 1. 2:00 to 4:00 Make Your Own Natural Cleaning Supplies West Irving Library

Learn to make a variety of homemade and natural cleaning supplies. Save money and avoid toxic chemicals in your home! 972.721-2691

shirt, a great finisher medal, plus food and fun! See website www.texashalf.com for more details and to register. Or call 817-706-0368.

Feb 1. Many Voices: an Afternoon of Chinese Culture to celebrate the Lunar New Year. Central Library. 2:30 The music and Dance of China in the auditorium then at 3:30 explore the fascinating artistry of calligraphy with China Hubei calligrapher Meng Shun Bo in the Children’s Program Room. Refreshments will follow the programs. Programs are for all ages. 972.721-2606

Feb 2. Modern Art Museum of Fort Worth. Two free drawing programs for Children: for ages 5 to 8 and for ages 9 to 12. Bring a sketchbook and pencils. Attendance is limited; early arrival is encouraged. For more information visit www.themodern.org.

Feb 1-2. 4th Annual Hunting for Children. Group of athletes who are physically challenged come together for sports events and social activities. Check the RISE website for more activities. www.riseadventures.org space is limited visit website for more information. 2500 Oak Grove Loop S, Grapevine. Feb 1 to 23 Every Saturday & Sunday Studio Creation: Think, Feel, Paint . 1:00 p.m. to 2:30 p.m. Choose from several of our artinspired prompts, and create your own abstract painting. Dallas Museum of Art. For more information visit www.dallasmuseumofart.org Feb 2. 12th Annual Texas Half & 5K Run. 8am-12pm. Lace up your running shoes! The Texas Half & 5K returns to the Irving Convention Center. This event offers participants a great

Feb 2. Going to the Dogs. 2-3pm West Irving Library. Going to the Dogs is a dog therapy program designed for participants five years and older with an adult caregiver. Activity centers will include Certified Therapy Dogs, manipulatives, stories, crafts, and computers. Irving Public Library’s Reach Out programs are designed for individuals with special needs and their peers. An adult caregiver must attend. Space is limited and registration is required. Please call (972) 721-2691 with questions or to register. Feb 3. Mother Goose @ Cimarron Recreation Center. 10:30am Cimarron Recreation Center serves as the temporary location for this Valley Ranch Library event. Lapsit program designed for infants age 4 to 18 months and their caregiver. Space is limited. Please stop by the Customer Service Desk at the Cimarron Recreation Center to pick up your admission ticket. Feb 3. Play and Learn. 10:30–11:30am

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COMMUNITY STORY TIMES All Story Times are free.

Central Branch

Note: these are the regularly scheduled sto rytimes, call to confirm as schedules are subject to change.

801 W. Irving Blvd, 972-721-2606 Monday - Preschool Story Time 7:30pm, ages 3-6 Tuesday - Preschool Story Time 10:30am, ages 3-6; Family Story Time 7pm Wednesday - Toddler Story Time 10:30am, 18 mos - 2yrs Thursday - Bilingual Story Time 7:30pm

East Branch 440 S. Nursery Rd, 972-721-3722 Tuesday - Bilingual Story Time 11am, all ages

Valley Ranch Branch 401 Cimarron Trail, 972-721-4669 Monday - Mother Goose Story Time 10:30am, ages 4mo-18mo, registration required Tuesday - Family Story Time 7pm, all ages, registration requited Wednesday - Family Story Time 10:30am, all ages, registration required

West Irving Branch 4444 W. Rochelle Rd, 972-721-2691 Wednesday - Mother Goose Story Time 10:30am, ages 6mos-18mos Thursday - Family Story Time 7pm, all ages Friday - Family Story Time 11am, all ages

Central Library. Families, friends and children from birth to 5 years old play, create, and explore together at this program. “Play & Learn” helps pre-schoolers develop their cognitive and positive relationship skills through activities such as art projects, singing, storytime and more! Feb 3. Zumba 6:00pm to 7:00pm East Branch Library The entire family can get into shape while dancing to a Latin rhythm. 972-721-3722. Feb 4. First Tuesday. 11am-2pm Dallas Museum of Art. Turn your thumbprints into funny faces and crazy creatures. Meet Arturo our mascot. Visit our creative games gallery. Explore Shadows and shapes. For more information visit www.dallasmuseumofart.org

Feb 5. Friends of the Library Members Only Book Sale 3000 Rock Island Road. As a member of the Friends of the Library, gain admittance to the members only book sale on the first Wednesday of every month. The proceeds benefit the library.

Feb 4. Family Storytime. 7pm Central Library. Stories, Music, Art and a time of playful interaction designed for families with young children. 972.721-2458

Feb 5. American Sign Language Conversation Tables 4:00 to 5:00pm Central Library. American Sign Language Practice is available weekly in the Children’s Area. All ages and levels of experience are welcome. No registration required. 972-721-2457.

Feb 5. Family Storytime. All ages welcome. 7pm Cimarron Recreation Center serves as the temporary location for this Valley Ranch Library event. Everyone in the family will enjoy educational and entertaining stories, flannel boards and songs. Space is limited. Please stop by the Customer Service Desk at the Cimarron Rec Center to pick up your admission ticket. Feb 5. Mother Goose Storytime 10:30-

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Feb 6. JumpstART Stories & Art. 10am. Celebrate the legacy of the Dance Theratre of Harlem. Fun art project and a variety of exhibitiions. FREE at the Irving Arts Center. Includes take-home art project. Ages 2y and up. Feb 6. Family Storytime. All ages welcome. 11:00 to 11:30ampm West Irving Library. Everyone in the family will enjoy educational and entertaining stories, flannel boards and songs. 972-721-2691. Feb 6. Bilingual Storytime 11:00 11:30am Central Library Stories , songs and more presented in both English and Spanish. 972-721-2458. Feb 7. Father and Daughter Valentine’s Dance. 7pm-9pm. Mustang Park Recreation Center. Fathers and father figures and their daughters ages 4–13 can dance the night away at this party with music, refreshments, gifts and door prizes. Photographs will be available for an additional fee. Register by Feb 6. Space is limited. $30 per couple and $12 per additional daughter. Call for details. 972-556-1334 Feb 7. Family Storytime. All ages welcome. 11:00 to 11:30ampm West Irving Library.

11am, West Irving Library. Lapsit program for ages 6 to 18 months and their caregiver. Enjoy stories, music, rhymes and a time of playful interaction. Free no registration required. 972-721-2692. Feb 5. Midweek Mysteries 12:00 – 1:00pm Central Library Join in on lively discussions of the best works of the mystery genre. Light refreshments will be served. Attendees are welcome bring a sack lunch.

Feb 4. Bilingual Storytime.11am-11:30 East Branch Library. Join this storytime with crafts and puppet shows in English and Spanish 972.721-3722.

Feb 6. Conversaciones @ Your Library. 6:30 – 7:30pm Central Library. Conversation tables will be available at Central Library weekly for English language learners to practice conversational English skills in an informal, friendly environment. 972.721-2606

Feb 5. YAAC Meeting 4:45 to 5:45pm Central Library. Teens in grades 9 to 12 are invited to work behind the scenes in the library to receive volunteer hours for school. Registration and acceptance is required. 972-721-2606. Feb 5. Conversaciones @ Your Library. 6:30 – 7:30pm East Branch Library. Conversation tables will be available at East Branch Library weekly for English language learners to practice conversational English skills in an informal, friendly environment. 972.721-3722.

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Everyone in the family will enjoy educational and entertaining stories, flannel boards and songs. 972-721-2691. Feb 7. Himprov. This 100% family friendly, free improvisation show entertains audiences the first Friday of each month. 7:30-9:15pm Bent Tree Bible Fellowship, 4141 International Parkway, Carrollton. www.himprov.com Feb 7-Feb 23. Irving Arts Center presents Blue Roses, a world premiere of a musical adaptation of Tennessee Williams’s The Glass Menagerie. $35. Phone 972-252-2787 for ticket information. Feb 8. Irving Arts Center presents the first concert of the new year! Featuring 12 year old violin virtuoso Claire Wells. 8pm. Call 972-2522787 for tickets. Feb 8-Feb 9. Dallas Comic Con Sci-Fi Expo. 11AM-7PM. Irving Convention Center at Las Colinas. Admission starts at $35. Space is limited! Don’t miss out on the biggest Texas Comic and Pop Culture event of 2014 Call for ticket details 972-966-0680 Feb 8. Play and Learn. 10:30–11:30am Central Library. Families, friends and children from birth to 5 years old play, create, and explore together at this program. “Play & Learn” helps pre-schoolers develop their cognitive and positive relationship skills through activities such as art projects, singing, storytime and more!

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Behind The Bench! DALLAS MAVERICKS American Airlines Center • 2500 Victory Lane, Dallas www.nba.com/mavericks

Feb 3

7:30

Cleveland Cavaliers

Feb 7

7:30

Utah Jazz

Feb 18 7:30

Miami Heat

Feb 26 7:00

New Orleans Pelicans

Feb 28 7:30

Chicago Bulls

DALLAS STARS American Airlines Center • 2500 Victory Lane, Dallas stars.nhl.com

Feb 8

7:00

Feb 27 7:30

Phoenix Coyotes Carolina Hurricanes

DALLAS SIDEKICKS Allen Event Center • Allen • dallassidekicks.net

Feb 16 4:00

Harrisburg Heat

Feb 22 7:00

(Playoff Game)

ALLEN AMERICANS Allen Event Center • Allen • www.allenamericans.com

Feb 1