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November 2012 Vol. 1, Issue 2
Breast Cancer Awareness Month 7 Habits Series: Begin With the End In Mind Rights & Responsibilities in a Dating Relationship
Election 2012: Obama vs. Romney How the election affects YOU Spotlight: Tennis Star Sloane Stephens
Keke
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Talks New Mixtape & Lifetime Movie
What Women Do To Each Other • Betrayal, Gossip, Lying, Competition
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7 Habits Series: Begin With the End In Mind Election 2012: What It Means To You
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In This Issue Spotlight:
US Open Tennis Player Sloane Stephens
2012 Winter Fashion Guide Sweaters, coats, scarves, gloves, hats, boots, & MORE
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Fashion Spread: Boss Lady
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What to Where for an Interview or Internship
What Women Do To Each Other:
We betray, gossip, lie and compete, but WHY?
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On the Cover: Photo: Keke Palmer’s website www.kekepalmer.com
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All Grown Up: Keke Palmer
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Sista’s Keeper Vol. 1, Issue 2 LaPorsha Lowry Owner/Publisher Taris Easterling Contributor Yani Long Contributor Noma Vilane Contributor
Special Thanks Dr. Leeya F. Pinder, MD Dr. Susan Taylor, MD Patricia Atlman Breast Cancer Research Foundation Keke Palmer Leslie Sloane Annick Oppenheim Sloane Stephens
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In Every Issue Promotions & Giveaways
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Health: “Pink” Items That Benefit Breast Cancer Research
Beauty: Natural Hair Care
Entertainment: Real Housewives Of Atlanta-Season 5 17
How to do a Self-Exam
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Entertainment: Twilight Breakling Dawn Part 2
Health:
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Health: Breast Cancer & Prevention Tips
Furaha: Building Your 24 Relationship with God 25
Jando: First-Time Voters
Maua: Baby Steps & The Great Discovery
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Ndege: 27 Putting Yourself First Black Women In History: Ida B. Wells 46 November 2012
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What’s going on & what to do this month
Calendar Girl Talk “Tailoring Teens For Success” Graduation Brunch 9:30-11:30 am
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Contributors
What does the 2012 Election mean to you?
Taris Easterling
Yani Long
Noma Vilane
“Twilight: Breaking Dawn Part 2” (pg. 17)
Breast Cancer Prevention Tips (pg. 20), Building Your Relationship with God (pg. 24), & “Putting Yourself First” (pg. 27)
The Sapphires (pg. 17), First Time Voting (pg. 25), & Election 2012 (pg. 40)
Easterling is currently a freshman at North Carolina Central University. She’s an avid reader and writer so you will usually fi nd her doing one or the other. She’s the lead host on her very own personal radio show, Unscripted Radio. “It’s my fi rst time voting so it’s very important. I loved the thought of my vote making a difference and it DID. In 2008, I witnessed but in 2012, I’m taking part and for that, I am a proud American” ” @TarisUnscripted
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Long began writing at the young age of 11. In 2008, she attended Guilford Technical Community College and then transferred to A&T in 2010. She enjoys creating jewelry, spending time with her loved ones, watching her favorite TV shows, and playing cards. “I can’t vote but I do encourage others to vote because without our voices heard, we won’t be able to reap the benefi ts of what could be done for us. ” @WhoIsYaniLong
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Vilane is a senior journalism major at North Carolina A&T State University. Her hobbies include reading, writing fi ction, and spending time with friends and family. “It means the difference between going to college and have basic rights like health insurance, food, and housing or not. It means having rights as a female to choose what happens to MY body. It’s the difference between being oppressed or not. ” @SomebodysNoma
Breast Cancer Awareness: Taking Care Of Your Ta-tas
O& Sista’s Keeper wants to make sure that
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you know how to take care of yourself as you are developing. Whether you have big ones or small ones, you’re waiting for them or their already there, it’s important to know about them and use the best methods to prevent problems now and in the future. In this issue, we will talk about that and more! I attended the 16th Annual Susan G. Komen Race for the Cure (bottom left) in Charlotte on October 6th & talked to our sistas who were participating. Many of them were doing it to honor a breast cancer survivor who was close to them like Tatyana (bottom right), whose mother is a 15-year survivor!!!!! Our cover girl this month is actress Keke Palmer, who starred in the Lifetime movie “Abducted: The Carlina White Story”. She is a great example of how to handle yourself as you are growing up. She has successfully transitioned from child star to an adult without any scandals or mistakes that took her off her path. Take a few pointers from her to become a mature and successful young woman...the right way! Tennis player Sloane Stephens is following in the footsteps of her mentor Serena Williams & fearlessly taking on the tennis world, competing in the US Open this year. The 2012 Presidential Election is very important for all of us, whether you are old enough to vote or not. Many of the issues that President Obama and Mitt Romney are debating affect you and your future, like healthcare, the economy, and student loans to name a few. The next President of the United States will make decisions that will make a difference in the next four years and beyond. If you want to contact me or have any questions about the magazine, email me at: sistaskeepermag@yahoo.com or visit our website: www.sistaskeepermagazine.com
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Spotlight
US Open Tennis Star Sloane Stephens
After making it to the third round of the 2012 US Open, Sloane Stephens has made it to the forefront of the tennis world as a emerging star and serious contender. At 19, she is the youngest woman ranked in the World Tennis Association (WTA) Top 50.
On competing in the US Open this year: “This was my 5th year competing and my 2nd year in the main draw. It was really cool because it was the home slam and the biggest in US. I was one of younger players so there was a lot of pressure but there was a good vibe & energy. I had been playing well & was excited so I ended up playing well. ”
About Sloane
On being mentored by Serena Williams: “She’s really cool...I love her! She’s a great person & so sweet. We have a good relationship & it’s great for her to come back after all of her struggles. We message back and forth to check until we see each other.”
Name: Sloane Stephens Birthday: March 20th Age: 19 Hometown: Coral Springs, FL Current Ranking: #36
Future Plans (college, tennis, etc.): “I’m taking online classes right in order to get my degree eventually...one class at a time. I haven’t thought about a major yet.”
What it means to be my “sista’s keeper”: “It means to watch over them and be the responsible for one another. My three best friends are in college and I’m like the motherly one in the group. They feel like the precious jewels of my life because we want to see each other happy. We are really close & I take care or them. That’s how strong our relationship is.”
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Hobbies: “I am a compulsive online shopper! I also like hanging out with friends, watching movies & TV shows, & I LOVE eating.” Favorite Movie: John Q Favorite TV Show: Scandal What’s on your iPod? “I’m listening to a LOT of Katy Perry, India Arie because she is so inspirational, and of course Rihanna” Sista’s Keeper
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Beauty
Going Natural One of the biggest trends in black hair care right now is going natural. The stylists at Styles By Lisa in Charlotte, NC give you tips to get started on your natural journey. bi-weekly hair appointments for hair treatments is strongly suggested to minimize hair breakage during your growing-out process.” Styles by Lisa also gives advice for keeping moisture in all hair types. “When we are building moisture content and training new hair, it is important to keep hair hydrated with steam therapy or oils and moisturisers.” Natural Hair Q&A Q: Do I have to cut my hair to go natural? A: Not at all! Mann chose to transition out of their relaxer. There are many methods including pressing your regrowth & set styles (spiral sets, roller sets, twists, twist outs)
The biggest trend in black hair care today is going natural, or letting your hair grow naturally out of your scalp without getting perms or relaxers. Styles By Lisa is a hair salon in Charlotte, NC that was started by Lisa Fuller and specializes in natural hair styling and maintenence. When deciding to go natural, you have to be patient during the process because it takes time. “You will not see dramatic change overnight. Everyone’s experience will be different,” says the Styles By Lisa website. “The average time to grow out relaxed hair is at least one year, depending on the condition of your hair when you start.” Some women who want to go natural are afraid of the “big chop”, or cutting all of their hair off to get rid of the permed hair. However, keeping your permed hair until it grows requires maintenence as well. “Nothing will make hair that has been chemicallyrelaxed go back to it’s natural state. If you decide not to let go of your length all at once, weekly and 10
Q: How often should I wash my hair? A: Depending on your scalp’s condition, wash it every one or two weeks. Q: How will I maintain my hair at home? A: Depending on your style, maintenance is usually minimal. Natural oils (coconut, olive) is recommended for maintaining moisture. Most styles are kept with a use of a silk or satin bonnet at night. Q: What should I use for moisture? A: Natural oils add and maintain moisture. Light oils are good for finer hair & coconut, olive or castor oils are better for thicker hair. Q: How often should I get a trim? A: Trimming is recommended every 6 to 8 weeks & is a vital part of transitioning & maintaining natural hair. Have you gone natural? Let us know... Visit us on Facebook or Twitter to share your natural hair journey!
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Beauty
It Makes “Scents”
These fragrances will work great during the upcoming winter months, from Rihanna’s sassy scent to Beyonce’s powerful perfume. These will make a great Christmas present as well for the holiday season.
Rebelle by Rihanna
Pulse by Beyonce’
Sassy or sweet, Rebelle is a delightful enticement bringing to mind not only the warmth of the Caribbean sun, reflecting Barbados-born Rihanna’s roots, but also the exhilarating whirl of her present-day city life.
Energetic, powerful, and feminine: feel the power with Beyoncé Pulse. As show-stopping as the woman behind it, Beyoncé Pulse shimmers with life.
Defiantly sexy, dark and mysterious, they echo like the reggae hook in a Rihanna tune. Experience the fragrance from Rihanna with the Rebelle Eau de Parfum Spray.
The woman who wears it is a force to be reckoned with, combining sensuality and edge into one deliciously complex package. She draws you in and sends your pulse racing. Experience Beyoncé Pulse with this Eau de Parfum.
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Editor’s Pick: Halle Berry Pure Orchid Beauty blooms from within. A seductive, sensual experience awaits you with Pure Orchid, the floral, woody fragrance from Halle Berry: exotic, mysterious, and intensely sensual. -Walmart.com “This is my favorite fragrance right now. I got it for Christmas one year and have worn NOTHING else.” -LaPorsha
Winter Skincare Tips Dr. Susan Taylor, MD Founder Rx for Brown Skin
Beauty
Time to pull out the jackets and sweaters as winter approaches. Dr. Taylor lets you know how to take care of your skin during the colder months of the year.
1) Limit Your Baths/Showers To 5 Minutes And Only Bathe Once A Day • Turn the temperature of the water down so that you are now using warm (not hot) water “I know that it is difficult to give up those wonderful long, hot showers or baths, especially on cold mornings, but these changes will make a big difference in preventing natural oils from being stripped from your skin,” Dr. Taylor says.
3) Use A Mild Soap Or Liquid Cleanser During The Winter Months • Leave deodorant soap for the summer and minimize the amount of soap that you apply to your skin. “Many people put so much soap on their skin that they cannot see their normal skin tone (that's way too much),” Dr. Taylor says. “Also, consider using liquid cleansers that contain petrolatum which seals moisture into the skin,” she says.
2) Moisturize • Apply your moisturizer to damp skin (lather it on within 2-3 minutes of getting out of the bath or shower) • Plan to use your moisturizer at least two times a day (morning and night), or more “The moisturizer that you select does not need to be expensive to be effective,” Dr. Taylor says. “Look for thick and rich ointments and creams for the winter. For extra dry skin look for products that contain lactic acid or urea.”
4) Protect Your Skin From The Cold And The Wind With Scarves, Hats And Gloves “Clothing can make a big difference but avoid wearing wool and other rough materials next to the skin,” Dr. Taylor says. “It can help protect the skin from the cold, dry air, which can zap moisture from the skin.”
Dr. Taylor Recommends... Rx for Brown S-kin 3-piece Cleanse, Tone & Hydrate Kit $88.85 http://www.rxforbrownskin.com/
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Beauty
Winter Makeup Trends These tips are based on trends that were featured in the Mary Kay® Fall/Winter 2012 Trend Report.
Start With Eyeliner • Line eyes along the entire top lashline and outer third of lower lashline with Mary Kay® Eyeliner in Black. Add Layers of Mineral Eye Color. • Apply Golden Vanilla mineral eye color all over eyelid. • Blend Lavender Fog mineral eye color along top and bottom lashlines. • Blend Truffl e mineral eye color into eye crease. • Finish eyes with Mary Kay® Ultimate MascaraTM for bold, full lashes.
Prepped for Pout Perfection • Use the Satin Lips® Set to get lips ready for color. • Line lips with Clear lip liner along your natural lip line. If you want to play with color, pick another lip liner shade that complements your natural lip color, and line along your natural lip line. • Starting in the center of the lips, apply Really Red or Hibiscus lipstick to lips. Remember to go slowly. Keep your application symmetrical by pausing to look in the mirror. • Don’t forget to apply to the outer corner of the lips.
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Real Housewives of Atlanta: Season 5
The ladies from the ATL are BACK! With two new cast members & plenty of DRAMA...the new season is sure to continue to be a hit. Bravo’s hit TV show Real Housewives of Atlanta is back with a new season and two new cast members who are sure to shake things up. With Sheree Whitfield leaving the show & Kim Zolciac getting her own show, the producers decided to add Kenya Moore and Porsha Stewart to the show and they surely will not disappoint. The characters returning for the new season include NeNe Leakes, who is balancing her family & growing acting career, Kandi Burrus who has a blossoming relationship, Phaedra Parks who is working on more
business ventures, & Cynthia Bailey who is continuing to build her modeling agency. One of the new cast members is former Miss USA Kenya Moore, who seems to bring the drama and the crazy to a whole new level. She wants her boyfriend to move to the next step with her but she may end up driving him away. The other new cast member is Porsha Stewart, wife of Kordell Stewart. She seems like a sweet person who can bring it when she needs to. Look for her to show her lavish lifestyle as well.
Check out season 5 of the Real Housewives of Atlanta Sundays at 9pm on Bravo.
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By: Taris Easterling
The Last Twilight
Twilight: Breaking Dawn Part 2 will be in theaters November 16th.
It has finally arrived! Twilight: Breaking Dawn Part 2 is part of a series of two young lovers, Bella Swan and Edward Cullen, who fall deeply in love. The thing is....Edward is a vampire. The two battle through trials and tribulations. In the first movie, Twilight, the young lovers discovers that their love won’t be such an easy one. In New Moon, Bella recovers from the vampire attack that almost claimed her life and she looks to celebrate her birthday with Edward and his family. However, a minor accident during the festivities results in Bella’s blood being shed, a sight that proves too intense for the Cullens, who decide to leave the town of Forks, Washington for Bella and Edward’s sake. Initially heartbroken, Bella finds a form of comfort in reckless living, as well as an even-closer friendship with Jacob Black. Danger in different forms awaits. In Eclipse, Bella once again finds herself surrounded by danger as Seattle is ravaged by a string of mysterious killings and a malicious
vampire continues her quest for revenge. In the midst of it all, she is forced to choose between her love for Edward and her friendship with Jacob. In the last installment, Breaking Dawn Part 1, Bella and Edward are to marry. Jacob becomes upset when he learns that Bella is planning to consummate the marriage on her honeymoon Bella and Edward spend their honeymoon on the Cullen’s private island but discover that Bella is pregnant. The fetus is growing at an accelerated rate and everyone fears for Bella’s safety. In Breaking Dawn Part 2, Bella is enjoying her new life and new powers, after the birth of their daughter, Renesmee. Soon, however, their family bliss is threatened again when vampire Irina believes a child like Renesmee could challenge the Volturi, a cult of high vampires determined to destory human life. As Irina rallies the Volturi to destroy Renesmee, Bella, the Cullens and their allies are preparing to fight an ultimate battle to protect their family.
In Theaters: The Sapphires
By: Noma Vilane
Music Alicia Keys “Girl on Fire” Rihanna “Diamonds” Brandy “Wildest Dreams”
Photo : The Sapphires is an Australian film based on a true story of an Aboriginal singing group and was based on the play of the same name written by Tony Briggs, the son of one of the four singers. The film is a musical that explores the girl group which toured Vietnam in the late 1960s to entertain troops during the war. The group began with three Aboriginals, or dark skinned indigenous Australians who were discriminated against and only received citizenship rights in 1968, a point that led The Sapphires to lose after
performing in a local competition. The movie audience learns the competition was rigged for a white act to win. The group is noticed by Dave Lovelace (Chris O’Dowd), a drunken Irish musician, who believes they would be successful if they began singing soul instead of country music. He agrees to be their manager and enters them into a contest that allows them to perform for American troops. The movie briefly details the background of light-skinned Australian and “The Stolen Generation,” who were mixed children stolen from their homes and raised by
white families in hopes that the black race would die out. While the issue is not deeply explored, it does help understand the relationship between sisters Gail (Deborah Mailman), Julie (Jessica Mauboy), Cynthia (Miranda Tapsell) and their cousin Kay (Shari Sebbens) who is later added to the group. In Vietnam, they learn that skin color is less important than it is in their country. They begin to see the realities of the war,
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Winter Fas
Fashion
Time to bundle up and get ready for the colder months of the year coming up. These fashion items are a neccesity for the winter season.
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Essential Satin Back Blazer $27.80 www.forever21.com/
Solid Boyfriend Cardigan $15.80 www.forever21.com/
Solid Knee Length Skirt $17.80 www.forever21.com/
Striped Pencil Skirt $17.80 www.forever21.com/
Trend Report: Strategic color blocking- wearing at least two solid colors at one time
Wide-Heeled Shoes and Boots
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Stacked Heel Boots $32.80 www.forever21.com/
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Glittered Stretch Waist Belt $6.80 www.forever21.com/
Metallic Flake Scarf $10.80 www.forever21.com/
Accessories
Lovely Owl Necklace $3.80 www.forever21.com/ Buckled Booties $34.80 www.forever21.com/ Tribal Print Pumps SALE: :$12.99 www.forever21.com/
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Health
What You Need to Know About Your Breasts
Your breast health is important. As October ends and a new month begins, all the big-to-do about breast cancer will fade, but do not forget to continue to take care of your body. It is the only one you will get...be well! Breast Cancer Awareness Month is the time that we all take a minute to pause and reflect on breast health. Some of us have family members, friends, or even just know someone who has been affected by breast cancer. There is 1 in 8 chance of a woman being diagnosed with breast cancer at some time during her life. Don’t be completely alarmed by this number. This alternatively means, the chance that a woman will never have breast cancer is 87.6 percent, or about 7 in 8Understanding the structure of your breasts and how to examine them are important parts of recognizing when something is different about them. The breasts are made up of a complex network of milk-producing sacs (lobules), passageways for carrying milk (ducts), supporting tissue and muscle, and glands and fat. Most women do not consider much about their breast until they are breastfeeding an infant. Starting at
Dr. Leeya F. Pinder OB/GYN Charlotte, NC
puberty, the look of the breasts changes as well as the structure and function of the breasts. Each month, a woman has hormonal changes that are a part of the normal menstrual cycle. Estrogen, one of the hormones produced by the ovaries, stimulates the growth of milk ducts in the breasts. Another hormone produced by the ovary progesterone, stimulates the formation of the milk glands. These hormones are responsible for some menstrual cycle changes of the breast such as the swelling, pain, and tenderness that many women experience just before menstruation. During menstruation, many women also experience changes in breast texture, and most women will note that their breast feel lumpy. These are the glands in the breast enlarging to prepare for a possible pregnancy. When pregnancy does not occur, the breasts return to normal size and structure.
THE BREAST EXAM breasts. Do not be alarmed if they do not look the same in size or shape. Most women’s breasts are not. With your arms by your sides, look for changes in size and shape, or any changes to the skin of your breasts. These changes can be puckering, dimpling, sores, or discoloration. Inspect your nipples also looking for any sores, peeling, or change in the direction of the nipples.
How Do I Perform a Breast Self-Exam? Most people have no idea how to perform a breast exam. Most of the time people do not do their exams because everything feels lumpy and bumpy, and it is very confusing. If you get used to what your normal lumpy bumpy is, then when something is there that was not there before, you will know the difference.
The breast self-exam is a way that you can check your breasts for changes such as lumps. It includes looking at and feeling your breast. If you notice any changes you should report them to your doctor. When breast cancer is detected in its early stages, chances of surviving the disease are greatly improved.
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Also, the best time to do your breast exam is just after you menses (period) has ended. Your breast are less lumpy and bumpy during that time. Your self-breast exams can begin between 18-20 years old. Should you choose to do your breast exam, you can complete the exam in the mirror and in the shower or while lying down.
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Next, place your hands on your hips and press down to tighten the muscles beneath your breasts. Turn from side to side to look at the outer part of your breasts
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Clasp your hands behind your head, turn from side to side to inspect your breast. Also inspect the border underneath your
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Stand undressed from the waist up in front of a large mirror. Look at your
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Health
Are You Aware? Breast Cancer Preventative Tips Do you know what breast cancer is? It’s estimated that 39, 510 deaths will occur in 2012 due to breast cancer. The cause of breast cancer is harmful tumors that are comprised of the spreading of abnormal cells which are cancerous. Breast cancer and breast cancer deaths typically occur in women that are age 50 and older. Although it’s uncommon, five percent of women under the age 40 can be diagnosed with breast cancer. As a young woman you want to be mindful not only of your future but the future of your health. It is important to get your annual check-up and have your breasts examined for lumps.
Lumps found in the breasts are usually the first sign that a tumor is present; however, all tumors are not harmful so it won’t necessarily mean that cancer is present just because a lump is there. It is important to understand and become knowledgeable about what breast cancer is and its symptoms. Although it is rare in teens and younger women it is extremely vital to take care of your body and learn the risks to prevent breast cancer from occurring. Some risks include birth control pills, age, obesity or being overweight, family history of breast cancer, early period, and last but not least second hand smoke.
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You want to reduce breast cancer risk by: • • • • •
Talking to your doctor about it when you go for your annual check-up Become familiar with your breasts and learn how to perform breast self-exams Maintain your weight by eating healthy Exercise Avoid smoking and alcohol
Learn your body and get informed. For more information on breast cancer you can visit http://ww5.komen.org and www.cancer.org.
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Relationships
What Women Do To Each Other
By: LaPorsha Lowry Women are the most cruel and evil to other women. We betray, gossip about, lie to and compete with each other but why? We need to get down to the reasons so we can fix it and truly be “sistas” and friends. On a recent episode of Oprah’s Lifeclass, Oprah Winfrey brought author Iyanla Vanzant on to discuss the reasons that women are so mean to each other. Winfrey brought up some great points about powerful people (she would know), saying that “truly successful and powerful people want other people to be empowered.” She added, “When you focus on yourself, you don’t have time to focus on others. BETRAYAL Vanzant talked about how and why we betray each other as women. She said that we trust each other with our secrets only to share or have them shared with others. “You tell me, I tell someone else or put it on Facebook or Twitter the next minute,” Vanzant said. “You have to forgive yourself for betraying yourself then you can forgive others.”
Here are the reasons why we betray each other 1. Self-hatred- We bring attention to someone else to keep it off of ourselves. “I see in you what I refuse to see in me,” said Vanzant. 2. We seek external validation- When we get treated how we want, we go after each other. “When we don’t get validation, we get mean,” Vanzant said. 3. We don’t honor ourselves- We don’t know our true value and worth. 4. We mimic what we’ve seen-We see our mother, sister, friend, grandma, aunt, or cousin doing it so we do it too. 5. We hold unrealistic expectations of each other-We ask, “What are you going to do for me or give me?” GOSSIP Vanzant defines the word gossip as “a malice of intent or mindless third-party conversations”. It is when we don’t tell the person something but tell someone else something about them. “You think you have POWER in the moment,” Vanzant said. “We think it adds value to us. However, if you don’t want EVERYBODY to know it, then don’t tell anybody!
Here are the reasons why we lie to each other 1. We fear losing their love and/or respect- Our mindset is that “If you knew this about me, your opinion of me would change.” 2. We fear hurting someone or upsetting them- We as women think of each other’s feelings 3. We cover up our own issues of self-worth and value- -Who I am as I am is less than 4. We feel threatened 5. We lie to be polite COMPETITION Vanzant said that we as women are programmed & conditioned to believe that “if you get yours, then there won’t be enough for me”. If you succeed, then I have to take you down. Winfrey added that it is the message & program of oppressed people is to bring each other down. “When you are raised around success, you are familiar with it & expect it for yourself. When you are not, you feel threatened when other people become successful.” 1. 2. 3. 4. 5.
Here are the reasons why we compete with each other Fear that I’m not good enough Prove myself by showing how unworthy you are Personal gain ValidationEgo driven fears & beliefs
“Comparison is an act of violence against the self.”
Here are the reasons why we gossip about each other 1. It’s acceptable among women- We allow it to be done to each other* 2. We don’t recognize power of words-When you gossip, you put a CURSE on yourself and it comes back to you (KARMA). 3. It takes attention away from ourselves-If I put your business out there then you won’t be in mine LYING Vanzant stated that lying is when we withhold information from someone else or we change or shift the information.
Oprah and Iyalna say to believe you’re worthy & can do anything!!!!!
*Make a GOSSIP-FREE & DRAMA-FREE zone with you & your friends.
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Rights and Responsibilities in a Dating Relationship
Relationships
By: LaPorsha Lowry In life, we have rights (things we deserve to be given) and responsibilities (things we should give). Whether you are in a relationship or not, you have rights that you should protect and that need to be respected by the opposite sex.
Rights 1. I have the right to grow as an individual in my own way and not be criticized for it 2. I have the right to change my mind 3. I have the right to have my own opinions 4. I have the right to say “NO” 5. I have the right to be respected and loved and to live a peaceful life
Responsibilities
Oprah and Iyalna say to believe you’re worthy & can do anything!!!!!
1. Treat other people the same way I want to be treated 2. Only I can change my own behavior 3. I must understand that jealousy does NOT equal love 4. I must understand that my relationship is only one part of my life
STOP TEEN DATING VIOLENCE For more information about
Mecklenburg County Community Support Services Women’s Commission 704-336-3210 *Find programs & resources in your area*
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Furaha “Joy”
By: Yani Long
Falling In Love With Jesus
When times get tough and the people around you (familly, friends, boyfriend) cannot help or are not there, who do you turn to? Having a relationship with God often makes things better.
Do you sometimes feel a void or empty inside? Are there times when you absolutely have no one else to turn to? Do you want to know how to remain joyful and not allow the experiences of life to discourage you from pushing forward? Well you can fill that void and find the strength you need to progress into the young lady that you are destined to be by developing your relationship with God. As previously discussed in the last issue, we know the importance of building a relationship with God. Now, we want to tell you how… If you are not sure about getting an early start with your walk in Christ, the first thing you want to do is ask your mother, grandmother, teacher or pastor. If you belong to a church, your youth minister will answer all of the questions you need about anything that you are curious about or unsure of. Also, you should become one with your Bible. If you don’t have one, it is easy to get one. Read your Bible and try to get an understanding of the Word. If you don’t understand, ask questions. Today’s technology consumes us in many ways and you can always look up any information
yourself from legitimate sources. You want to educate yourself and learn why you are here. It is important to be knowledgeable of what Jesus Christ has done for you, women, and the world. Secondly, it is important to pray. Praying is an act of worship and your open line of communication with our Heavenly Father. Praying is your cell phone to call or text God to talk. There is no real right or wrong way to pray. You should never be afraid to open your heart and mouth to the Lord to get the answers you are looking for. Carla Cannon, CEO of the Women of Standard magazine says that she allows God to govern all of her relationships. “When in prayer, I always says this prayer: “Lord draw unto me those that are supposed to be connected to me and shield me from those in which I am not to be connected to. Lord increase my discernment so I will know who is who.” You want to surround yourself with like-minded people. Your friends are typically a reflection of who you are and sometimes can bring out the best and worse in you. When you surround yourself with people that share the same views and values, your growth to womanhood benefits from it more than it would if you were to be friends with those that don’t. “People often believe that being unequally yoked only involves being connected to unbelievers but you can also be connected to another believer and be unequally yoked if you all are not on the same path and possibly at the same level of spiritual maturity,” says Cannon. Cannon, who is a a woman of God, can testify the works of the Lord. She believes that it is important to develop a relationship with God early on to find out your purpose and understand why He created you. She contributes to the betterment of women aby simply being available. She does this by taking the time to talk and listen to women, and allows them to freely express themselves with whatever issues they have. “My focus is always on establishing a relationship with Jesus and knowing our true worth and never being afraid of being our true self authentically,” Cannon says. Sharing wisdom and responding with love, she works with women one on one and coaches them on how to get from where they are to where God wants them to be. Life isn’t just about making the right choices but developing the right type of relationships to help influence those decisions. First, love yourself. Secondly, get to know Jesus Christ and fall in love with him because His love is true lobe and the BEST friend that you can have.
Become A Woman of Standard Ms. Cannon suggests that you can narrow it down to 5 steps to building your relationship with God: 1. Salvation 2. Prayer- We must pray & learn how to boldly approach the throne of God and it is in prayer that we learn the voice of God. 3. Church Home- Being planted in a good church where the Word of God is being preached. 4. Fellowship- Connecting with other like-minded believers. 5. Being filled with the Holy Spirit- In developing a relationship with God, it is of an essence to be filled with His Spirit for that is where your “keeping power” comes from. For more information or to reach Ms. Cannon, visit www.womenofstandard.org
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Exercise Your Right
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“Initiation”
By: Noma Vilane
We spoke to students at North Carolina A&T State University and Tulane University who will be voting for the fi rst time this election. We wanted to know what issues were important to them, what makes them want to vote, how much they knew about each candiadate, and if they got involved with any campaigns. STERLING SIMMONS •Sophomore Biomedical Engineer major (NC A&T) 1.
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The issues that are important to me are getting job employment up and unemployment down. What makes me want to vote in this election is that I want to make a difference and being a part of a positive economic change. I know enough about the candidates to know exactly who I’m voting for and who I believe is best in office as President. I went in knowing which candidate I wanted to vote for, but I also did my research to make sure the choice was the right one. And I was still engaged in the debates and discussion issues between the candidates. This election I advocated how important it is to vote to those who were convinced their vote didn’t matter.
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life but the ones that I care about . I’ve watched both presidential debates and the vice presidential debate . So I like to stay current with the issues. Yes I went into the election knowing who I was going to vote for. I’m voting for the candidate that offers the best results during his presidency. Wink wink I actually did donate money to a candidate’s campaign.
BETTIE YEBOAH •Freshman Cell and Molecular Biology major, (Tulane) 1. 2. 3. 4. 5.
Gay rights, women’s rights, and education reform are all important issues to me. To see change in gay marriage, women’s right to abortion and contraceptives are issues that make me want to vote. I know a lot about the candidates and where they stand on the issues. I did more research than watching the debates I wasn’t very involved volunteer wise. But I would look up information from time to time.
DEVAN COTHRAN • Junior Journalism and Mass Communication major (NC A&T) 1.
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As a college student and a young woman approaching my adulthood, my focus is manly on tuition and jobs. My parents are well off on their own without having to pay for my education because of programs like pell grants and financial aid options and if those things are cut out of a government funded budget then I’m not going to school. These types of laws target a specific group of people and our voices need to be heard. I want to vote in this election because I am an AfricanAmerican woman, statistically we are the most underrated people next to our African-American men people think we don’t vote but they are wrong. so many women have fought to give me the right to vote it is my civic duty to honor them and myself there trials will not be in vain I keep up with the candidates and what they plan to do for our country because their policies not only affect my
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Maua
“Blossom”
By: LaPorsha Lowry
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The Great Discovery
This section goes along with the 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens feature on pg. 38. It is meant to be a worksheet for what you learn in Habit 2: Begin With the End in Mind.
Think of a person who made a positive difference in your life. What qualities does that person have that you would like to develop? Imagine 20 years from now: the most important people surround you in your life. Who are they and what are you doing?
If a steel beam were placed across two skyscrapers, for what would you be willing to cross? A thousand dollars? A million? Your pet? Your sister? Fame? Think carefully…
If you could spend one day in a great library studying anything you wanted, what would you study? List 10 things you love to do (singing, dancing, reading magazines, drawing, reading, daydreaming… Anything you absolutely love to do!
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Describe a time when you were deeply inspired.
Five years from now, your local paper does a story about you and they want to interview three people: a parent, a sibling, & a friend. What would you want them to say about you?
Think of something that represents you (a rose, a song, an animal). Why does it represent you?
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If you could spend an hour with any person who ever lived, who would it be? Why that person? What would you ask?
10. Everyone has one or more talents. Which ones are you good at? Write down any that are not listed.
Good with numbers Good with words Creative thinking Athletics Making things happen Sensing needs Mechanical Artistic Working well with others Memorizing things Decision-making
Building things Accepting others Predicting what will happen Speaking Writing Dancing Listening Singing Funny Sharing Music Trivia
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Baby steps are small steps towards a goal. You want to accomplish something but it can’t happen overnight...you have to WORK for it! Think of these tips as “baby steps” to go along with the 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens feature. Go to pg. 38 and read it fi rst, then come back to this page. Use this worksheet in your daily life.
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Determine the three most important skills you’ll need to succeed in your career. Do you need to be more organized, be more confident speaking in front of other people, have stronger writing skills?
Key crossroad I am facing:_____________________________________
The three most important skills I need for my career: ___________
The best path to take:_________________________________________
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Review your mission statement daily for 30 days (the time it takes to develop a habit). Let it guide you in all of your decisions.
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Look in the mirror and ask, “Would I want to marry someone like me?” If not, work to develop the qualities you’re lacking.
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the long run, what is the best path to take?
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Make a copy of the Great Discovery. Then take a friend or relative through it step by step.
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Think about your goals. Have you put them in pen & written them down? If not, take time to do it. Remember, a goal not written is only a wish.
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Identify a negative label others may have given you. Think up a few things you can do to change the label.
Negative label:______________________________________________ How to change it:____________________________________________
Putting Yourself First
“Flight”
Ndege By: Yani Long
There is a difference between being selfish and putting yourself first. Making sure that you are taken care is vital to taking care of others. “Women are programmed to be people pleasers. We try to please others and not ourselves, but when you live to please yourself you don’t have to worry about it.” Iyanla Vanzant said it best: as young women, you begin to feel and experience things you never knew you could. As you get older, there is plenty more to feel and witness as you grow into being the woman you are destined to be. However, the question is: what needs to be done to become that woman? The answer is simple: Put yourself first! Throughout history, men have been known to be the breadwinners in the family and women were to be stay-at-home moms who “took care of home”. It’s almost natural that women take care of others and put others first. In today’s society, more and more women are learning to be more independent, but the objective isn’t to outdo men by making more money or obtaining higher positions. It is simply becoming independent while maintaining our feminine nature. As you get older, you learn more about yourself. You learn what you like and don’t like, what makes you happy or sad, and so forth. More importantly, you grow to learn what you want to be when you “grow up. As a child, you develop friendships, as a teenager the emotions come, and as a young adult come responsibilities in addition to friendships and emotions. You have to learn how to control your emotions, maintain your relationships, and understand right from wrong. What does this have to do with putting yourself first? It has a lot to do with it. Have you ever heard the saying, “How can you love anyone else if you don’t know how to love yourself first?” Well, how can you do for someone else if you can’t do for yourself? For example, you go off to college and meet a guy. You really like him and you want to do whatever it takes to make him happy. You start to skip classes to spend time with him; you take your relationship a step further and engage in sex. Next thing you know, you’re pregnant and you have to find a job or drop out of college to take care of a child you aren’t ready for. You may or may not have family support. Now you’re stuck taking care of someone else before you really learned how to take care of yourself. Sure you can bounce back, get back on your feet, and finish school; but at the end of the day you are still second because you have to take care of someone else first. You want to always have faith in every decision you make and hope that everything will work itself out; however, the goal is to put you first so that you’re in a better position to be the best woman you can be. No one is saying that you can’t have relationships but to learn
how to maintain them. If a boy or young man really likes you he will understand that you have priorities. Your first priority is you.
Steps To Put Yourself First 1. Make A List Of Goals • Set a deadline for you to accomplish them 2. Focus On Where You See Yourself In The Future • Figure out how to get there. 3. Think Rationally Before Making Any Final Decisions • But don’t ponder too long. 4. Be Compassionate But Not Selfish 5. Control Your Emotions • It’s okay to be excited about love but don’t let it dictate your actions. 6. Get Educated • Become knowledgeable about everything you possibly can. 7. Don’t give in to peer-pressure • Be a leader not a follower. 8. Be Responsible And Prioritize 9. Be Confident In Everything You Do • You are your own worst critic. 10. Listen To Your Heart • Your heart will never steer you wrong.
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All Grown Up By: LaPorsha Lowry
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She burst onto the scene as a smart, word-spelling girl in Akeelah and the Bee. Now Keke Palmer has blossomed into an adult and is ready to take the next step in her career.
t 19 years old, Keke Palmer has had a successful career for almost 10 years. She has been in movies, had her own TV show (True Jackson VP) and also came out with her debut album in 2007. Known for playing the nice, sweet girl in her movie roles, she took a different turn in the Lifetime movie Abducted: The Carlina White Story. November 2012
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story until I read for the part.” After playing Carlina White in the movie, Palmer was able to talk to the real Carlina after filming. “She said that she really liked it and I did a good job playing her,” Palmer says. “It was important to me for her to like it because it’s her life and story. I didn’t want her to hate it because it’s about her.”
Mixing It Up
Palmer has a new self-titled mix tape that she released on her website. She was inspired to write songs and make music that girls her age could relate to. “I wanted to do something different and make some new and older music for girls like me who are growing up and going through the same changes,” she says. “I hope that they can relate to it & feel it. I want them to be like “I went through it too” or “I’m going through that.” Her favorite songs from the mix tape are “If 6 Were 9” and “Dip 2 Nite”.
Grown Up Keke
Becoming Carlina Last month, Palmer starred in the Lifetime movie “Abducted: The Carlina White Story”, which was about a woman who was kidnapped as a baby and raised as her kidnapper’s own daughter. Palmer chose to play the role of Carlina White because it was real and different and an interesting story. “This movie was lots of fun because it was something different and took me into a new area of my career,” Palmer says. “It was my first role as an adult after I turned 18 and also was my first time playing an adult character.” Palmer wasn’t too familiar with the story of Carlina White, but she was excited to take on the role. “I had heard parts of the story from my mom and what she had heard on the news,” Palmer says. “I knew she was kidnapped and raised by a different mother but I didn’t know the details of her 30
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Many child stars in the entertainment have a hard time growing up and fall victim to the dangers of fame. However, Keke Palmer has been able to avoid the controversy and has grown into a respectable young woman. “I honestly don’t know how I have been able to avoid the drama and controversy,” Palmer says. “Maybe it’s because of my family and support system that I have and the way that they are but I have been able to stay pretty grounded because of them.” “It also has to do with my morals and how I was raised. My parents were great at raising me and my siblings to be respectful.” Those morals have also helped her in choosing her movie roles. She is known for playing the sweet girl or innocent child but she doesn’t want to be typecast or play a thankless character. “I have read some roles that were different but I liked them so I’ll try it,” Palmer says. “I want to play characters that I can feel and understand. I want to be able to cry with them, laugh with them, and share emotion with the character.”
Keeping It Personal Keke has a boyfriend named Rodney and they have been together for more than a year. At 19, she is able to balance her relationship and career but says that there is nothing specific that she does.” “We have a mutual respect for each other and our jobs. He works in the industry behind the scenes,” Palmer says. “He’s patient and can handle my career so that’s a good thing.”
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Keke has two sisters named Loreal & Lawrencia and says that they are loving and open with each other. “I love them and my brother Lawrence and I’m very close with them. Everything that I do is for them,” Palmer says. Although Keke and her sisters are all busy, they make time for each other. “We still have family Sunday over my house or at my parent’s house. I support them however I can.” Palmer says that the biggest piece of advice that she could give to teenage girls is to love yourself. “Stay humble and be who you are,” she says. “Don’t change yourself for anyone or anything. What the media says should not define you; be happy and smart. Don’t dumb yourself down in order to impress someone else.” She also believes that being her “sista’s keeper” means taking care of one another; helping them and not hurting or harming them. “That phrase embodies what we should do and what we need to do for each other.”
About Keke
Full Name: Lauren Keyana Palmer Birthday: August 26, 1993 Parents: Sharon & Larry Palmer Siblings: Loreal, Lawrence & Lawrencia • Made acting debut in Barbershop 2: Back In Business • Starred in Akeelah and the Bee & True Jackson: VP on Nickelodeon • 5 NAACP Image Awards November 2012
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Winter Fun At The Mall Sista’s Keeper Magazine hung out at Northlake Mall in Charlotte, NC with our model Geornee as she did some holiday shopping and took pictures by the winter-themed holiday decorations.
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On Geornee: • Black Fish Tail Skirt: Dots, $18.80 • Sequence top: Goodwill, $3.99 • Necklace: Dots, $2.99 • Shoes: Torrid, $20 • Jean vest: Kmart, $18
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Meet Geornee Model: Geornee Jeffries 17 years old Charlotte, NC 12th grade West Charlotte HS College She Wants To Attend: NC A&T SU Intended Major: Fashion Design Hobbies: Dancing, singing, acting and modeling Activities: Color Guard (flag girl) at West Charlotte HS Favorite TV Show: Pretty Little Liars, True Blood, Bad Girls Club Favorite singer: Whitney Houston, Ciara, Chris Brown Favorite Movie: The Wiz, Sparkle, Friday, Hairspray Favorite subject: Fashion Merchandising
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The 16th annual Susan G. Koman Race for NC & Sista’s Keeper spoke to several young
1. Krissie (13) & A’Lexis (16)
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This was their fourth year in a row participating in the Komen race. “We were inspired by our grandfather,” A’Lexis said. “We want to help with the proceeds to raise money.”
2. Elese (14) & Amber (16)
They were first-time participants who were racing with a group in honor of close friend and mentor Fannie K. Little.
3. (l to r) Ariel (16), Elisia (13), Shayla (14), & Ayanna (15)
These ladies were participating on behalf of the Harding University High School Cheerleaders. Elisia’s grandmother’s sister is a breast cancer survivor as well as Ariel’s great aunt’s sister.
4. Aria (11) & Brianna (15)
In their third year doing the race, they participated in honor of a close friend’s mother.
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the Cure took place last month in Charlotte, ladies who were participating. 5. Alexis (12) & Courtney (16)
This was their third year participating in the race. Courtney did it for her grandmother & Alexis did it for a number of women, including Betty Daniels, Letha Vinson. and Doris Wallace.
6. Jayla (12) & Jasmine (15)
In honor of their mentor, Fannie K. Little and their aunt, Jayla & Jasmine participated for the first time this year.
7. Keonna (18)
She has been participating in the race for 10 years and does it in memory of her grandmother who had breast cancer and other family members.
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Since her mother beat breast cancer 15 years ago and became a survivor, Tatyana has been participating in the race. Her grandmother is also a 31year survivor.
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Be Effective!!!!!
Habit 2: Begin With the End In Mind
Last issue, we discussed Habit 1, which said that you are the driver of your life, not the passenger. Habit 2 says to decide where you want to go and draw up a map to get there. What It Means • Develop a clear picture of where you want to go with your life • Decide what your values are and setting goals
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Find a place where you can be alone without interruption Clear your mind of everything; Focus, breathe deeply, and open your mind Think about who you would like to be one year from now Over the past year: a. What have you done with your life? b. How do you feel inside? c. What do you look like? d. What characteristics do you possess? Get a feel for what’s important to you and what you’d like to accomplish within the next year a. b.
Why is it So Important?
You are at a critical crossroads in life & the paths you choose now can affect you forever If you don’t decide your own future, someone else will do it for you
Uncovering Your Talents
Who’s In the Lead
“Control your own destiny or someone else will.” –Jack Welch • • •
Friends, parents or the media’s interests may be far different from yours Easy to follow anyone who is willing to lead but it won’t get you far You’ll end up doing what everyone else is doing, which may not have YOUR end in mind
You have to choose which paths to take: a. b. c. d. e. f. g. h. i. j.
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Turning Weaknesses Into Strengths •
If you have weaknesses or lack skills, you have to work harder; struggles can produce qualities or strengths
The Crossroads of Life
Do you want to go to college or graduate school? What will your attitude toward life be? Should you try out for the team? What type of friends do you want to have? Who will you date? Will you have sex before marriage? * What values will you choose? What kind of relationships do you want with your family? What will you stand for? How will you contribute to the community?
*Sista’s Keeper Magazine recommends that you wait until marriage to have sex.
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Choice of Friends
Powerful influence on your attitude, reputation, and direction The need to be accepted & be part of the group is POWERFUL Sometimes it’s better to have no friends than to have the wrong friends; they can lead you down the wrong paths & it’s hard to go back after that Choice to Have Sex
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Discover what you’re good at; Everyone has a talent, a gift, something they do well We all blossom at different times FILL OUT THE GREAT DISCOVERY ON PAGE 26
Important decision with HUGE CONSEQUENCES If you wait until the “heat of the moment” to choose which path to take, it’s TOO LATE Affects your health, self-image, growth, reputation, who you marry, your future children, & MORE Think through…CAREFULLY Acknowledge potential risks & consequences (AIDS, STDs, & pregnancy) Can’t choose consequences
Paradigm-the way you see something, your point, frame of reference, or belief
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Negative Labels Labels are an ugly form of prejudice Breakdown the word “PREJUDICE” & you get “pre-judge” When you label someone you are pre-judging them; that means making conclusions about someone without knowing them If you’ve been falsely labeled, you can live with it; the real danger comes when you start to believe the labels yourself, because labels are just like paradigms; you’ll act out the label, but remember you are not the label “It’s All Over” Syndrome You’ve made a mistake (or two) & you say to yourself, “It’s all over, I blew it.” It’s NEVER over; if you have made mistakes, you’re normal
Key #2: Put It In Pen
Key #1: Count the Cost
Key #3: Just Do It!
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Wrong Wall Have you ever gotten something you wanted only to find that when you got it you felt empty inside In our quest to be more popular and to be part of the “ingroup”, we lose sight of things that are far more important, like self-respect, true friendships, and peace of mind Having no end in mind is a problem; but having an end in mind that leads us in the wrong direction can be an even bigger problem Stop, take a moment & ask yourself: “Is the life I’m living leading me in the right direction?” Be brutally honest & listen to your conscience
Go For the Goal
Once you have a mission, you want to set goals; more specific than the mission statement & can help you break down mission into sections
What will your goal require? Consider the benefits Are you willing to make the sacrifice? If not, then don’t do it. Don’t make commitments to yourself you know you’re going to break Smaller goals; add realism to them
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“A goal not written is only a wish.” A written goal carries 10xs the power
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“To everything there is a season”, time to say “I’ll try” & to say “I will” Once you commit to the goal, your power to complete it will increase
Key #4: Use Momentous Moments •
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Key to taking control is setting goals New school year, breaking up, new relationship, second chance, triumph, setback, new season, graduation, new look, new day Sticking with your goal when it’s hard is a test of your character
Key #5: Rope Up • Borrow strength from others; the more the better; friends, sisters, girlfriends, parents, counseling, etc.
Certain moments contain momentum & power
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Collect 1-5 of your favorite quotes, Bible verses, etc. Speed write about your mission for 15 minutes; don’t edit what you’re writing; just keep writing & don’t stop; write a rough draft (revise it, add to it, clarify it, or do whatever else you need to make it inspire it Plan time & go to a place you love & where you can be alone; think deeply about your life and what you want to make of it
My Mission Statement ____________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________
Personal Mission Statement • • •
States what your life is about; blueprint Opens your eyes to what’s important to you & help you make decisions accordingly Like a tree with deep roots: stable & not going anywhere but it’s also alive & continually growing
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ELECTION 2012 What It Means To You
If you are 12 years old now, you may not think that this Presidential election affects you. When the next president leaves office, you will only be 16 so it has nothing to do with you, right? WRONG!!!!! By: Noma Vilane The presidential election of 2012 is quickly winding down. While early voting has already been in effect in several states, the actual Election Day is Tuesday, November 6. For anyone who is still unsure of which candidate to vote for, sometimes all you need is to hear the candidates’ perspective on the issues. Our current President Barack Obama and his opponent, former Massachusetts Governor Willard Mitt Romney have discussed many issues concerning Americans that they will tackle during their presidency. Many know about our president, Barack Obama, but who exactly is Mitt Romney and where does he stand on the issues? Why does he seemingly flip flop? Can President Obama secure enough public support to win this election? Where does he really stand on the important issues? From tuition to healthcare, we will
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highlight candidates’ stances on issues that affect college-aged students.
Women’s Rights
Abortion: When challenged in 1994 by Senator Edward Kennedy, Romney said he supported a woman’s right to choose if an abortion is right for her and her situation. Now he is adamantlyagainst abortion. He currently believes that abortions are “the wrong choice except in cases of incest, rape and to save the life of the mother.”Romney does not believe there should be a federal ban on abortions and says that the issue should be decided at a state level. President Obama believes that the choice should be left up to the mother. He does believe that underage women who get preg-
nant should discuss abortion with their parents, but acknowledges that is not a possibility in all cases. Roe v. Wade: Roe v. Wade was a decision made by the Supreme Court that essentially made abortions legal in the United States. The case allowed for a woman and her doctor to choose an abortion in the earlier months of pregnancy without legal restrictions and allows for abortions due to health reasons in later months of pregnancy. The decision was made in 1973. Romney is in favor of repealing Roe v. Wade. In June 2007 at the Republican Presidential Debate, Romney stated, “I’d like to see Roe v. Wade overturned and allow the states and the elected representatives of the people, and the people themselves, [to] have the ability to put in place pro-life legislation.” President Obama, on the other hand, supports Roe v Wade. On the 39th anniversary of its passage, he remarked, “we must remember that this Supreme Court decision not only protects a woman’s health and reproductive freedom, but also affirms a broader principle: that government should not intrude on private family matters.” Planned Parenthood: Romney has supported programs aimed at defunding Planned Parenthood, which is a non-profit organization that provides reproductive health services, in addition to services for mothers and their children and women in general. While they do provide abortions, they are the biggest provider of services such as contraceptives and cancer and HIV screening. Obama has recognized the importance of Planned Parenthood as an important commodity for women and supports the program and all that it does for women and families across the country.
Education
Romney believes that education is essential, but he also believes that years of neglect by the federal government made the educational system ineffective. He also believes that all the federal money current dedicated to education is raising the cost of higher education and that states should be in charge of their education decisions, with a few federal regulations like standardized testing and teacher evaluations. Romney wants to have teachers’ paycheck reflect the academic results of the students instead of being based on tenure. He also believes that the No Child Left Behind program that was enacted by President Bush should be revised and put into effect. President Obama also believes that education is essential and announced his Educate to Innovate campaign, which is a nationwide effort to move American students back to the top in science and math education. He also asked all Americans to commit at least one year to higher education. But while Romney focuses mainly on lower level education (elementary, middle and high school), Obama focuses on higher education and the importance of going to college. Tuition/Student Financial Aid: Romney’s plan for higher education includes cutting funding for grants and loans, including the Pell Grant, which can be essential for middle and lower class to receive an education. Due to budget cuts community colleges and state universities are canceling classes and programs, with some state universities even turning away students. Romney’s running mate Ryan has plans that include increasing interest rates on student loans.
Economy/Jobs
Romney has listed his plans for the economy. He wants to increase domestic energy and drill for oil in America. That would help with jobs and could also lower the price of gas. The Romney Plan proposes taxes should be lowered for all Americans, even the super rich. He wants to lower corporate income tax rate. Romney also wants to repeal Obama’s healthcare plan and eliminate excess government regulation. Economists believe that at least parts of Romney’s plan could work. They agree that the current economic growth, or lack of it, is causing such high unemployment rate. History has shown that tax cuts help increase the economy because it allows Americans to hold on to their money, allowing them to spend more. Obama’s plan is to raise taxes on the rich and lower them on small businesses for them to hire more people without fear of being taxed. He also wants to give all businesses incentives for hiring more people. President Obama also wants to create jobs through fair trade instead of sending jobs overseas. He also plans to increase federal support for research and technology for companies and universities.
Healthcare
Governor Romney’s stance on healthcare has changed several times. He has public claimed that he does not support the healthcare act, but he passed a similar one when he was governor of Massachusetts. In fact, many experts believe that Romney’s healthcare plan was the blueprint for President Obama’s. President Obama signed The Affordable Health Care Act into law on March 23, 2010. Before the bill was signed, millions of people could not buy health insurance at any price due to preexisting conditions such as cancer or diabetes. Starting in 2014, the companies will no longer be able to deny them coverage. The will also not be able to charge the patients with pre-existing conditions more money. The bill was created to make healthcare available and affordable for the entire country. Editor’s Note: At the time this issue was published, President Barack Obama had been reelected on November 6, 2012 with 303 Electoral College votes to Mitt Romney’s 206.
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Education Feature
Getting Ready
This college prep timeline provided by http://www.getreadyforcollege.org/
7th & 8th Grade
Freshman/Sophomore Year • Take interest and skills assessments to help you explore careers options
activities
• Begin thinking about the high • Talk with your school counselor school classes about career options and the that will prepare education required for those careers you for college. Take the most • Talk with your parents about saving difficult classes and paying for college you can handle • Talk with friends, teachers, • Develop good counselors and your parents about study habits college
• Review your high school class plan. Take the most difficult classes you can handle. Stay focused on your schoolwork
• Volunteer in your • Participate in extracurricular community
• Enroll in a summer enrichment program
• Practice setting and reaching goals • Take interest and skills assessments to help you think about possible career options
• Talk with your school counselor and parents about careers that interest you
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• Check if your school requires 10th graders to take the PLAN to prepare for the ACT
• Sign up for classes that will earn college credit during your junior year through Advanced Placement, International Baccalaureate, Postsecondary Enrollment Options or College in the Schools • Explore internships and apprenticeships
Junior Year
• Attend college and financial aid events
• Mentor others and have a mentor for yourself
Schools
• Register for and take the ACT and/or SAT in the spring
• Participate in extracurricular activities
• Review your high school class plan. Take the most difficult classes you can handle. Stay focused on your schoolwork. Make sure you are meeting your high school graduation requirements
• Request admissions and financial aid forms
• Enroll in a summer enrichment program
• Sign up for classes that will earn college credit during your senior year through Advanced Placement, International Baccalaureate, Postsecondary Enrollment Options or College in the
• Get a job to earn and save money for college, or explore your skills through an internship or apprenticeship.
• Arrange campus visits to those schools that interest you
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• Research private scholarship options.
For College will show you what you need to do to get ready for college.
Senior Year
• Stay focused on your schoolwork and take the most difficult classes you can handle
• Take career interest assessments and determine the education needed for careers that interest you
By: LaPorsha Lowry
• Participate in extracurricular activities
• Volunteer in the community.
ATTENTION SENIORS!!!!!
Here is a month-by-month breakdown of what you need to do during your last year of high school to make sure that you are ready for college & beyond. September-November 1.
Arrange campus visits to those schools that interest you. It’s okay to go more than once
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Take or retake the ACT and/or SAT
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Meet with your school counselor to review your high school class plan & transcript
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Select the schools to which you will apply. Make a list of deadlines for each school
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Create a resume of your academic, athletic and work activities as well as other achievements. Prepare a portfolio if you’re interested in the arts
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Ask for recommendations (if required) from teachers, counselors and others who can comment on your abilities and talents Attend a financial aid event. Review a copy of Paying for College Check if there is still time to sign up for spring classes that will earn college credit through Advanced Placement, International Baccalaureate, Postsecondary Enrollment Options or College in the Schools
already done so. Review a copy of Paying for College 3.
Apply for scholarships offered by the colleges to which you have applied.
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Apply for financial aid by completing the Free Application for Federal Student Aid (FAFSA) as soon as possible after January 1.
March - May 1.
Have your final high school transcript sent to the colleges to which you’ve applied.
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Choose a college and notify in writing those you don’t plan to attend.
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Send in any required forms or deposits.
Summer 1.
Get a job to earn money for college.
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Review orientation materials from the college you selected.
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If living on campus, check with the college for a list of what’s provided by the school and what the school expects the student to provide.
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Contact your roommate.
December - February 1. Apply to four or more colleges that interest you. Some may have earlier or later deadlines. (Make copies of each application.) 2.
Attend a financial aid event if you haven’t
For more information, visit http://www.getreadyforcollege.org/> Preparing > College Prep Timeline September 2012
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along the breast, moving from bra line to collarbone. Continue the pattern until you have covered the entire breast. Repeat on the other side.
breasts. You may need to lift your breasts to see this area. •
Check your nipples for discharge (fluid). Place your thumb and forefinger on the tissue surrounding the nipple and pull outward toward the end of the nipple. Look for any discharge.
Lying down: •
You can lie down and place a small pillow or folded towel under your shoulder. Put your hand behind your head. Place your opposite hand on the upper portion of your breast with fingers together and flat. Body lotion may help to make this part of the exam easier.
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Think of your breast as a face on a clock. Start at 12 o’clock and move toward 1 o’clock in small circular motions. Continue around the entire circle until you reach 12 o’clock again. Keep your fingers flat and in constant contact with your breast. When the circle is complete, move in one inch toward the nipple and complete another circle around the clock. Continue in this pattern until you’ve felt the entire breast. Do not forget to also extend into your armpit.
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Place your fingers flat and directly on top of your nipple. Feel beneath the nipple for any changes.
In the shower: •
Now you will feel for changes in the breast. It is helpful to have your hands slippery with soap and water. Check for any lumps Place your hand on your hip and reach with your opposite hand to feel in the armpit. Repeat on the other side.
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Check both sides for lumps or thickenings above and below your collarbone.
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With soapy hands, place one arm behind your head to spread out the breast tissue. Use the flat part of your fingers from the opposite hand to press gently into the breast. Follow an up-and-down pattern
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Susan G. Koman for the Cure http://ww5.komen.org/
Continued from pg. 17 struggles within the group, including a slight feud between Gail and Kay. The movie has themes of racism, war, love, acceptance and more and is filled with comedic and dramatic scenes that tug at your emotions. In Australia, The Sapphires has become the highest grossing film of the year. The film has also been receiving critical praise at film festivals around the world for both its content and performances. The Sapphires doesn’t have a release date in the US yet, but keep an eye out for it as it was just picked up by The Weinstein Company and should be distributed soon.
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Black Women In History
Ida B. Wells-Barnett
The sharp-tongued journalist and activist
• African-American female journalist, newspaper editor, civil & women’s rights advocate • Born before the Emancipation Proclaimation and her parents were freed from slavery when she was one year old
About Ida B. Born: July 16, 1862 in Holly Springs, Mississippi
• She attended a school for freed people called Rust College (formerly Shaw University)
Died: March 25, 1931 in Chicago, Illinois
• Became owner of the Memphis Free Speech and Headlight
• Active in the women’s right & women’s suffrage movement • Establishing several women’s organizations such as the National Association of Colored Women & the National Afro-American Council • She documented lynchings in the United States (showed it was a way to control or punish blacks who competed with whites & led a crusade in the 1890’s
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By eighth grade, only half as many girls as boys are interested in math, science, and engineering careers. If each of us gives a girl our time and support today, she can find the courage, confidence, and character she’ll need to build a better tomorrow.