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COMING IN AUGUST THE Age is Just a Number ISSUE Enjoying Life at Every Stage

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in this issue

I had the pleasure of speaking at the Center for Women’s Connect the

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Dots luncheon last month. We had a lively discussion about our mission to

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celebrate and empower women and the changes we’ve been making here at Skirt to help us continue providing engaging and relevant content. Skirt has incredibly loyal readers who take ownership in Charleston’s first women’s magazine. You care about the content we provide, the women we highlight and how it’s all presented. And that fierce following is one of Skirt’s biggest strengths.Thank you!

Someone asked how we find content for the magazine.There is no shortage of women doing amazing things here in Charleston. When I talk with one woman, she can pass on a list of 10 more women who are each working to help make our community stronger. I write about one woman’s pursuits and hope

Author Mary Alice Monroe’s Inspiration

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Profile: Jennet Robinson Alterman

Best Places for a Girls’ Night Out

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Girls’ Night Out Fashion

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that another woman reaches out and connects to her or is inspired by her to follow her own goals

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and dreams.

The Creatives of The Vault on King

The July issue is our Girlfriends issue, so I dedicate this issue to my girlfriends. In May, 13 of my closest

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girlfriends from high school went on our 20th girls beach weekend. It’s a date we all have reserved on

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our calendars for the next 20 years. I’ve known some of the girls since we were in preschool. We’ve

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played together on the playground in elementary school and stayed up all night during slumber parties.

We navigated the more fraught halls of middle school together. We joined the dance team together in high school and bonded after long, hot afternoons marching on the asphalt of the high school parking lot

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and long bus trips to football games under Friday night lights. We celebrated our high school graduation,

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we stayed in touch in college before there was Facebook or Instagram or text messages.We celebrated

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when we landed our first jobs and when we got married and when we had children. We mourned

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when we lost classmates and babies and parents. We have been there for each other through divorce

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and sickness.The relationships survived my move across the country and back. No matter what’s going on in our lives, we keep showing up for each other. That’s what girlfriends do. These friendships have helped allow each of us to become strong, confident women.Thank you.

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COVER ARTIST TEIL DUNCAN Teil earned a Bachelor of Arts from Auburn University. She works as a fulltime painter and considers herself lucky to be an artist and to be able to pursue her calling in Charleston. Teil’s style is inspired by light, movement, eye-catching color combinations, pattern and social interactions. Her goal is to infuse these elements and form abstract, pixelated compositions.

She strides to find a balance of realism and abstraction in her art. www.Teilduncan.com Instagram: @Teilart Photography by Libby Williams

Edisto’s SARAH BURNELL Shares Stories of Growing up Gullah

CORRECTIONS Sandy Morckel’s name was misspelled in the June issue of Skirt magazine.

Skirt regrets the error.

A description of Make-A-Wish South Carolina’s Wishes in Bloom event at Magnolia Plantation and Gardens should have read: “Ashlyn’s wish enhancement was revealed by Charleston Shop Curator Andrea Serrano.” Andrea took Ashlyn on a shopping trip at Mount Pleasant Towne Centre. The shopping center was misidentified. Skirt regrets the errors.

by Shelley Hill Young

There’s been increased interest recently in Gullah culture – its dishes sprinkled with seafood and its music with catchy rhythms.

But there was nothing glamorous about growing up Gullah in the Lowcountry. That stark reality bares down on you hard like the hot sun after listening to 80-year-old Sarah Burnell, who shares her experiences Growing Up Gullah on Edisto Island on a boat tour hosted by Botany Bay Ecotours.

of cutting cabbage and ripping Spanish moss from the trees. Sarah and other laborers put the moss in boiling water, which killed the red bugs and made the moss have a softer, more elastic texture once it dried.The moss was then sold to furniture makers in North Carolina, who used it to stuff chairs and sofas. (According to Gullah tradition, Spanish moss also has a medicinal use: Put it in your shoes to help reduce your blood pressure.) Sarah was paid $3 a day.

Burnell, who was born in 1938, speaks matter-of-factly about her hard childhood growing up on Edisto before the small coastal town was lined with white and brightly colored beach houses on stilts and the waters were filled with kayakers.

Sarah tells of cleaning the house for her Mamma to help prepare for “the company” who would come over after church on Sunday.

She and her sisters used a dry grass called broom straw to clean the floor because they didn’t have brooms. Her doll was also dried grass twisted and pulled to form hair and a loose form of a body.

“There was nothing here,” she says, looking back at the houses on the shore.

There was no bridge to Edisto until the 1920s. That isolation allowed the West African traditions of descendants of slaves to endure, as it has on the sea islands along the Eastern coast from Jacksonville, North Carolina, to Jacksonville, Florida. The isolation also kept modern amenities, such as electricity, from reaching the island.

One of the first parcels of land developed was Edisto Beach State Park, but Sarah was not allowed to go. When state parks were ordered to desegregate in 1963, the park shut down for a time instead of opening up for African Americans.

Sarah recalls walking dirt roads to schools. There was no bus to take the African-American children to school. If the children didn’t arrive by 8 a.m., the doors were shut and they were sent home. She wore the same clothes to school five days a week. But her Mamma and Papa made sure that they were washed and ironed so Sarah could wear them again to church on Sunday.

She mentions one of her grandsons, who has a relatively short drive to school. “I cry sometimes just to see how far I’ve come,” she says.

Sarah attended school until she was about 15 and then began working on the farms that blanketed the rich coastal land. She tells 8

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Sarah and her family ate oysters and mullet fish, two Lowcountry staples she says she refuses to eat now.

Sarah has eight children, though two have passed away.When asked how many grandchildren she has, she says, “Oh, Lord, I have a lot.”

Meg Hoyle, the owner of Botany Bay EcoTours, met Sarah when Sarah’s grandson worked for her as an intern at the state Department of Natural Resources. Meg says she had to beg Sarah to join her on the tours and share her life experiences.

Sarah eventually agreed and has been a part of Botany Bay Ecotours for about five years.

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“Sometimes people ask Sarah to speak Gullah,” Meg says at the beginning of the tour. “But she is Gullah.”

“Her family’s reliance on the natural resources for survival reveal the inextricable link of natural and cultural history on the sea islands,” Meg says when inviting me to take the tour.

S T R A I G H T O F F T H E R AC K

Sarah clearly enjoys the opportunity to tell her story. When the women on the boat are distracted by the dolphins jumping near the boat, Sarah gets our attention: “I’ve got more to tell y’all.”

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their work on the turtle team. The latest book, “Beach House Reunion,” released in May, explores the theme of returning home, just as the sea turtles return to the same place to nest year after year.

Toward the end of the book, when the women have gathered at the beach house, Mary Alice writes: “They did what women have done since the days of hunters and gatherers. They shared their stories, their fears and triumphs, finding both solace and support in the process.”

Photography by Mic Smith Photography

“Beach House Reunion”

Mary Alice Monroe is a New York Times best-selling author of more than 12 novels, including “The Beach House,” “Beach House Memories” and “Beach House for Rent.” In her most recent novel, “Beach House Reunion,” two generations of women find the strength, love and commitment to break destructive family patterns and forge new bonds that will endure long beyond one summer reunion.

Left to right: Barbara Bergwerf, Barb Gobien, Jo Durham, Tee Johannes, Mary Pringle, Linda Rumph, Mary Alice Monroe, Bev Ballow; Photography by Barbara Bergwerf

MARY ALICE MONROE

finds inspiration for book series and lifelong friendships on Island Turtle Team

by Shelley Hill Young

Author Mary Alice Monroe joined the Island Turtle Team on the Isle of Palms and Sullivan’s Island soon after she moved to Charleston in 1998 to do research for a book. She didn’t realize it would be a life-changing experience.

Mary Alice would go on to write a best-selling series of books about a family’s beach house on Isle of Palms and the turtles that come to shore to nest. But more importantly, the members of the turtle team became some of her closest girlfriends, the support system that is essential for every woman’s well-being.

The women on the turtle team sit on the beach at night waiting for the sand to move to indicate the turtle eggs are about to hatch and the baby turtles are ready to make their way to the open water. While the women wait, they share stories.

“We all know about each other’s lives,” Mary Alice says. “It’s more than just taking care of the turtles. We take care of each other.

It’s a way women bond.”

Mary Alice was first interested in sea turtles when one of her sisters, who lives in Florida, told her that sea turtles appear to have tears in their eyes when they lay their eggs. The turtles are actually secreting salt water, but it is a beautiful metaphor that Mary Alice wanted to use as a basis of a book.

She wanted to write entertaining stories that people would read on the beach, but she also wanted to send a message about the importance of caring for the natural world.

“If you tell the story with emotion, the readers then care about the species,” Mary Alice says. “And if they care, they take care. I just think that’s the bottom line.”

Mary Alice says she’s always been willing to roll up her sleeves and volunteer to get up close and personal with her subject matter.

“I got so involved with the sea turtles that it changed my life, and it changed the way I wrote novels,” she says.

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JENNET ROBINSON ALTERMAN:

Photography by Jenn Cady

Women are paying fierce attention to issues that affect them

by Shelley Hill Young

Jennet Robinson Alterman shares story after story, each incredibly moving: An older woman had been abused by her husband for years and was finally ready to leave. A woman needed clothes for a job interview. A woman needed a loan to start a small business. All the women asked for help and turned the assistance they received into a catalyst for changing their lives and those of women around them.

“It’s just a strong affirmation of how such seemingly small gestures can help positively impact an entire family,” she says.

Jennet has many more stories to tell.

She’s been working as a passionate advocate for women’s rights to have equal opportunities since she was elected lieutenant governor at Palmetto Girls State when she was in high school.

About 10 years later, Jennet volunteered for the Peace Corps and was assigned to Afghanistan. There, she says she saw firsthand the lack of human rights, and in particular health care, for women and girls.

“Seeing 12- and 13-year-old girls pregnant is a picture I couldn’t get out of my mind,” she says.

Her experiences at Girls State and in Afghanistan motivated Jennet to dedicate her life to making both small and larger gestures to fight for women to have access to affordable housing, to health care, to education, to living wages and to representation in government.

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Gender Studies program, and she’s on the national Vision 2020 coalition, which is working to celebrate the 100th anniversary of women’s right to vote and to raise awareness about what still needs to be done to ensure women’s equality.

In June, Jennet taught a business networking class at the YWCA of Greater Charleston, and this month she’s helping to host a workshop aimed at advocating for the passage of the Equal Rights Amendment.

She’s also founder and CEO of J. Robinson Alterman LLC, which offers consulting services to nonprofits.

“It sounds like I’m stretched thin,” Jennet says, “but all these pieces fit together.”

As the chair of the Charleston’s Commission on Women, Jennet was instrumental in getting City Council to adopt a resolution that supports the elimination of all forms of discrimination and violence against women and girls. Charleston was the first city in the state to adopt the resolution when city council did so in February.

“It gives us a platform to move forward,” Jennet says. She says the commission is now working with the city to potentially update its maternity and family leave policy. Other issues the commission hopes to address are the wage gap, affordable housing and representation on government boards.

Jennet went on to work for the Peace Corps as a country director and in the D.C. headquarters for nine years. After returning to Charleston for family reasons, she served as the executive director of the Center for Women for 12 years, attracting the attention (and money) of Oprah’s Angel Network in 2005.

At WREN, Jennet has been working to encourage the state Legislature to pass the Pregnancy Accommodations Act, which would require businesses to give pregnant workers reasonable accommodations, such as sitting on a stool rather than standing, so they could work further into their pregnancies and continue to earn income for their growing families.

“I saw the potential for the Center for Women to be the go-to place for personal and professional development for women,” Jennet says.

“Nothing like that existed here.”

About 50 years after she attended Girls State, Jennet sees an increasing number of women who are advocating for their futures and the future of other women and families.

Today, Jennet’s name comes up in conversations with just about every organization that works to empower women. She’s the chair of the city of Charleston’s Commission on Women and is the chair of the board of the Women’s Rights and Empowerment Network, or WREN, a statewide organization based in Columbia. She’s a community adviser to College of Charleston’s Women’s and

“The momentum is happening because women and girls of all ages and stages are paying fierce attention to what is going on around them and its impact if they don’t come together and act.”

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– CARRIE BRADSHAW

Girls night out cover on “Sex and the City”

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out FOR EVERY NIGHT OF THE WEEK Every woman deserves a girls’ night out every now and then. It’s good for the soul to relax, have fun and catch up with your friends or to have the opportunity to make new ones. Here’s our roundup of some of our favorite places for a girls’ night out.

Here’s to the girls!

MONDAY

Napa Mount Pleasant in Mount Pleasant Towne Centre hosts Ladies Night the last Monday of the month. Enjoy bold wines, delicious food and giveaways. 5 to 7 p.m. July 30

TUESDAY

Bistro A Vin, at Market and Archdale streets, hosts wine tastings 5 to 7 p.m. every Tuesday focusing on a specific region of France or a specific French winemaker.

Catch up with the girls and de-stress as you paint “Dockside Ladies” on July 17 at Wine and Design in West Ashley.

Bring your own wine, beer and appetizer. 6 p.m., 1331 Ashley River Road

WEDNESDAY

Mex 1 Coastal Cantina hosts Wahine Wednesday, a weekly ladies’ happy hour, at the Sullivan’s Island and Charleston locations. Wahine is a Hawaiian term for female surfer and this makes for a laid-back girls’ night vibe. Drink specials include $5 margaritas and $5 rose. There’s also live music and giveaways.

Starts at 5:30 p.m.

JOIN skirt. for Wahine Wednesday at 5:30 p.m. at Mex 1 on Sullivan’s Island, 817 St. Andrews Blvd.

FRIDAY

Dance the night away with the Funktastics at The Commodore starting at 9:30 every Friday night in July.

SATURDAY

Shop local artisans and crafters including vintage, jewelry, soaps and candles the third Saturday of the month at the Charleston Night Bazaar. Food and beverages are provided

by Edmund’s Oast Brewing Co., Workshop, Proof Pool Bar and Merrows Garden Wine Bar. 5 to 10 p.m. July 21, Edmund’s Oast Brewing Co., 1505 King St. Ext.

SUNDAY

Make it a girls’ brunch out on July 8 for We Can’t Stop the Brunching at Bay Street Biergarten featuring DJ Natty Heavy spinning your favorite J. T. tunes including the old-school Disney days and NSYNC until now. 11 a.m. to 4 p.m.

The Cocktail Bandits present Trappy Hour with SheJay TO and live music by Matt Monday and Salis at The Royal American on July 15. Doors open at 8 p.m.

July 25

Certified sommelier Sarah O’Kelley leads you through wine tastings 5:30 to 7:30 p.m.Thursdays at Edmund’s Oast Exchange.

The space is amazing and the $5 donation for the tastings goes to Charleston Moves, a nonprofit that encourages the use of bicycles and walking, during the month of July.

Join Lowcountry Ladies for a wine social at 7 p.m. July 19 at Bin 526 on Daniel Island. Lowcountry Ladies is a monthly meetup for professional women who want to gather in a friendly atmosphere.

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THURSDAY

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’ When it’s time for your much-needed girls’ night out, go for something flirty and fun! Pair a solid ensemble with statement earrings and a bold clutch to add a touch of sass to your look. Shiny, metallic jewelry is a great accent that will shine bright under neon lights as you dance the night away!

P H O T O G R A P H E R : Jenn Cady S T Y L I S T : Kelsey Lorman

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Taneka Reaves and Johnny Caldwell met at a party on their first day at College of Charleston in 2004, the year Facebook launched.

The two say they knew instantly they had found a kindred spirit in the other. And they’ve been toasting the town with their brand of cocktail culture ever since.

The duo, known as the Cocktail Bandits, just released their first book — “Holy Spirits! Charleston Culture Through Cocktails” — through Evening Post Books and are hosting a launch party July 6 at Pancito & Lefty.

Taneka and Johnny officially launched the Cocktail Bandits brand after they graduated from College of Charleston and Johnny had graduated from law school. Neither could find jobs in the fields they had planned. They realized they could turn their life-of-theparty lifestyle into a business after an evening at Cocktail Club.

At the end of the night, they looked at their table with empty shot glasses and punch bowls, and Taneka said, “God, we’re the bandits of Cocktails.” And a brand and a business partnership was born out of a friendship. They launched their blog in 2013.

Sipping a glass of rosé at Graft Wine Shop and Wine Bar on King Street, Taneka says, “[We realized] that is a dope name, and we went with it 100 percent.”

Johnny says it was a hard sell at first – two African-American women talking about enjoying alcohol in the South. They had to search for other women in the beverage industry. But they noticed something was happening in Charleston with the food industry and knew they could help elevate the cocktail scene in the same way.They knew it should be more about the experience – quality over quantity.

In the tough early going, their ability to encourage and support each other helped them survive.

Taneka and Johnny also embraced social media from the beginning, at a time when few bars and restaurants had Instagram handles and there wasn’t a scene on Upper King Street. Today, they have almost 30,000 followers.

Their success can also be attributed to their Bandit attitude.

They encourage women to feel confident in walking up to a bar and ordering a drink. They encourage civility and not drinking to obnoxious excess with their hashtag #GentleLadySips.

They embrace their African-American culture and their natural hair in their tag line: “Curly ladies who talk cocktails daily.” They appreciate the history and culture behind the cocktails. And they know that the value of cocktails comes from creating a sense of community.They talk about seeking solace at Edmund’s Oast after they learned of the massacre of nine people at Emanuel AME Church and of creating mocktails for a gay prom.

“It’s not about the alcohol,”Taneka says. “It’s about the experience.”

Join the Party: “HOLY SPIRITS” BOOK LAUNCH PARTY 7 to 10 p.m. July 6 Pancito & Lefty MIXOLOGY CLASS 6:30 to 8:30 p.m. July 10 West Elm BOOK SIGNING 5:30 to 7 p.m. July 13 Blue Bicycle Books

“That’s when our friendship was so instrumental to our business,” Johnny says.

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Ingredients: 2 oz of orange juice 1 oz of pineapple juice 1/2 oz of lime juice Ginger soda Garnish: mint

Directions: Add fresh juices to mixing tin. Shake passionately. Fill tall glass with ice. Pour mixture from shaker over ice​​.

Slowly add ginger soda. Place mint garnish.

Take #GentleLadySips

P O R G Y A N D B E S S C O C K TA I L Ingredients: 560 ml watermelon water 25 ml fresh lime juice 50 ml Reposado Tequila 25 ml agave syrup Semi-sweet cider

Directions: Add watermelon water, lime juice, agave and tequila to mixing tin. Fill mixing tin with ice. Shake deliberately. Fill a Collins glass with ice. Strain cocktail mixture over ice.

Pour cider into glass. Take #GentleLadySips The cocktail is inspired by the Southern folk opera “Porgy & Bess,” inspired by the book written by Charlestonian DuBose Heyward.

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The MENU B L E N D E R G A Z PAC H O served with fancy grilled cheese sandwiches (The secret to the grilled cheese?

Using Duke’s Mayonnaise instead of butter.)

GROUPER CEVICHE with mango pico de gallo M I N I T O M AT O P I E S S E V E N L AY E R D I P B L AC K B E R RY B LO O D O R A N G E C O C K TA I L made with Striped Spiced Rum by Striped Pig Distillery, a cocktail soon to be added to the menu at Magnolias LEMON BARS with pecan almond crust, made by Magnolias pastry chef Mallory Ellis

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Magnolias executive chef and hostess Kelly Franz adds the filling for the mini tomato pies before her guests arrive.

The G UESTS

Magnolias Chef Kelly Franz Hosts a Girls’ Night In

M A L LO RY E L L I S pastry chef, Magnolias

When Magnolias executive chef Kelly Franz hosts a girls’ night in at her James Island home, it’s a casual, laid-back affair, but the meal is still more elevated than any takeout or pizza delivery could offer.

ANDREA UPCHURCH pastry chef, The Obstinate Daughter

When Kelly has her girlfriends over, she’s often entertaining other chefs, so the food has to be on point. But Kelly is confident and relaxed, taking care of last-minute details in her dream kitchen that she and her boyfriend have recently redone in the ranch-style house she bought a little more than a year ago. The night’s menu features lots of vegetables, but with plenty of cheese, Kelly says, as she expertly cuts avocados and adds slices of heirloom cherry tomatoes to the top of the mini tomato pies.

DANETRA RICHARDSON owner, Swank Desserts K E L LY C H U co-owner, Red Orchids Chinese Bistro Cirsea and Betty’s Eatery

As her guests arrive, they catch up on their lives and their work – pregnancies, a recent Hot Pot dinner, the never-ending need for rest and vacations, home renovation projects and ice cream.

“Let’s eat!” Kelly says. “I would like everyone to feel comfortable mowing down.”

As the women toast and gather around the table, it gets quiet – a sure sign they indeed feel comfortable and are enjoying the food.

Above: Andrea Upchurch, Mindy Flowers and Kelly Franz toast to an evening of good food, cold cocktails and close friends.

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“These little slices make it look fancy,” she says. “Look good, taste good.That’s the plan.”

M I N DY F LOW E RS server, Husk

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The Test of Time:

How do you make time for girlfriends when you have no time?

The RECIP ES BLENDER GAZPACHO

Ingredients: 2 English cucumbers, peeled and chopped 2 medium tomatoes, chopped 1 small can tomato juice (5.5oz) 1 stalk celery, chopped 1 medium carrot, peeled and chopped 1/2 cup diced yellow onion 2 cloves garlic Kosher salt to taste Directions: In a high powered blender, purée the first three ingredients until smooth. Add remaining ingredients and purée until completely smooth. Season with kosher salt to taste, chill for one hour and serve immediately or refrigerate in an airtight container for up to three days.

SEVEN LAYER DIP

Ingredients: (2) 8 ounce packages cream cheese, softened black bean purée, recipe follows 8 ounces brick sharp white cheddar cheese, grated 2-3 medium tomatoes, diced 4 ripe avocados, diced 2 bunches cilantro, chopped sliced pickled jalapeños, to taste tortilla chips Directions: Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Evenly press softened cream cheese into the bottom of a glass baking dish. Top with black bean purée and shredded white cheddar. Bake uncovered in the oven for 15 minutes. Top with fresh diced tomatoes, avocado, cilantro and jalapeños in separate layers and serve immediately with tortilla chips.

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BLACK BEAN PURÉE

Ingredients: 2 cans black beans, rinsed and drained 1 tablespoon cumin 1 tablespoon chili powder 1 stick whole butter 1 tablespoon kosher salt 2 cups water Directions: In a small sauce pot over medium heat, simmer all ingredients until water has reduced by half. Purée in a food processor until completely smooth. Set aside to cool.

MINI TOMATO PIES

Ingredients: 2 large heirloom tomatoes, peeled, seeded and diced) 4-6 slices cooked smoked bacon, sliced thin 2 cups grated cheddar cheese 1/2 cup softened cream cheese or goat cheese 1/2 cup caramelized onions, chopped small 2 tablespoons fresh basil, sliced thin 1 tablespoon kosher salt, or more to taste 2 teaspoons freshly ground black pepper 24 mini tart shells 8 cherry tomatoes, sliced into thirds Directions: Preheat oven to 350 degrees. In a mixing bowl, combine heirloom tomatoes, sliced bacon, cheeses, onions and basil. Season with kosher salt and freshly ground black pepper to taste. Spoon mixture into tart shells and bake on a sheet pan for 12-15 minutes until tarts are golden brown and filling is warm throughout. Top with a slice of cherry tomato.

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by Angie Mizzell

Abby and I met online. First, she commented on an essay I’d written for a parenting website. Then, I popped over to her blog and learned that she’s also a writer — smart and funny — and I felt an instant kinship. Even though I live in Charleston and Abby lives in Baltimore, we lead somewhat parallel lives: chasing our young children while trying to fit our creative work in the cracks.

FANCY GRILLED CHEESE Ingredients: 12 slices of crusty sourdough bread 6 slices Manchego cheese, or your favorite 1 thinly sliced English cucumber Duke’ s Mayonnaise

Directions: Coat one side of each bread slice with Duke’s Mayonnaise. Build grilled cheese sandwiches with Manchego and sliced cucumbers in the center and the mayo side of the bread on the outside of the sandwich. Preheat the flat top griddle on medium heat, then toast each side until golden brown. Serve immediately with gazpacho.

BLACKBERRY BLOOD ORANGE COCKTAIL

Ingredients: 1 cup blackberry purée 2 cans blood orange San Pellegrino 2 cups soda water Striped Pig spiced rum, to taste 2 tablespoons jalapeño simple syrup, recipe follows (optional) Directions: Combine all ingredients and mix well.

Serve over ice and garnish with fresh blackberries and sliced blood oranges.

JALAPEÑO SIMPLE SYRUP Ingredients: 1 cup water 1 cup sugar 1 jalapeño, sliced

Directions: In a saucepot, combine all ingredients and bring to a boil. Reduce by half, then strain simple syrup and discard sliced jalapeños.

Store in an airtight container.

Blog comments led to emails; emails led to phone calls; phone calls led to a few visits, and over time we developed an in-real-life (IRL) friendship. We hit our stride a couple of years ago, when we discovered a pocket of time at 2:30 in the afternoon as we sat in the school pickup line. We talked almost every day. But then our oldest children went off to middle school and my schedule changed, and we spent the next school year mostly missing each other.

As our kids get older, life get busier. In recent conversations, we’ve confessed feeling an undercurrent of loneliness as we move about our days. We’ve joked that we’re both looking for a sister wife — someone who’ll show up in our kitchens unannounced with a bottle of wine; a relationship where life’s collective burdens and joys are shared.

It’s not that we’re not comfortable being alone. We are. And it’s not that we don’t have close friends who live nearby. We do. But like us, our best girlfriends are busy with work and family obligations; always in the car and shuffling children here and there. Everyone has her own stuff to deal with.

Here’s the irony: In this stage of life, we need the deep bonds of friendship more than ever. The social aspect is a small part of it; the big part is the connection and support that we can only get from a girlfriend. But how do we make and maintain those connections when we have no time?

Never fear. Abby and I solved this problem on the phone one day.

While we were lamenting, we realized something. Just because we live 600 miles apart and can’t meet at the gym, escape to happy hour or take turns watching each other’s kids, it doesn’t mean that our bond doesn’t count. Every ounce of attention, love and support that we’re able to drop into the friendship bucket counts.

Face-to-face contact is ideal, but that’s not always possible. Talking on the phone is nice, but it’s often difficult to find time to chat in private without listening ears all around. Abby and I have tried so many ways to stay in touch: voice messaging apps, video chats, sky miles and hotel points. Typically, we text. It’s more than throwing likes and loves at each other on social media. (Although we do that, too.) There’s no right or wrong way to do it. We do what works. When it no longer works, we try something else.

We have to make the time. It’s true. We have to dig around in our overpacked schedules like a mechanic and find time that technically doesn’t exist. We also have to trust that the bond is there, when we simply just can’t. We need permission and freedom to go dark sometimes and trust that the other person won’t take it personally.

Trust is earned. If there’s one thing no woman has time for: it’s drama, jealousy and pettiness. Abby and I noticed that over the years, our radar for true friends has improved. When someone has our best interests at heart and loves us exactly as we are, we know. And when we feel that way about someone else, we know.

That mutual knowing is what makes a friendship stand the test of time. It’s the quality of our friendships — not the quantity — that counts.

As much as I’d love to discover Abby suddenly standing in my kitchen holding a bottle of wine, I’ll happily accept a text and a selfie of her drinking a glass of wine. (Like she did on Thanksgiving while hosting extended family.) It’s the comfort of knowing that no matter how much time has passed, we can pick up where we left off.

ANGIE MIZZELL is a contributing writer for Skirt. She’s also the co-founder of Charleston Storytellers which directs and produces the Listen To Your Mother show. A former television news anchor and now a mom of three, Angie writes a personal blog about creating a life that feels like home. Connect with her at angiemizzell.com.

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Girlfriends Find Power and Joy

Working Together in New Space on King Street

by Shelley Hill Young

Teeny Morrison was searching for a small office outside of her home for her interior design business. She was looking at space above 284 King St., and her real estate agent mentioned the ground floor was vacant.

“He was like, ‘You probably need 10 artists to fill the space,’ ”Teeny recalls, looking down the long hall of the 3,600 square-foot space.

“I said, ‘Give me 24 hours.’ ” Teeny contacted some of her closest girlfriends. She has known abstract painter Anna Bett Moore and artist Millie Sims since middle school in Charlotte. The three friends had done pop-up art shows with photographer Anne Rhett. Photographer Julie Livingston shot Teeny’s engagement photos. Teeny works with interior designer Maura Torpe as a representative for Loro Piana fabrics. Teeny also reached out to friends of friends and women she admires on Instagram.

By the end of the day, 11 women had signed on to work collaboratively in The Vault on King, a space that formerly housed College of Charleston’s Joseph P. Riley Jr. Center for Livable Communities and was originally Citizens and Southern National Bank of South Carolina.

A month and 70 gallons of white paint later, the women opened the doors to their new space.

“She’s our jewel box on King Street,” Teeny says proudly.

There’s three artists, a furniture maker and sculptor, three photographers, two interior designers, an event planner and a fashion designer. Each has her own space to display works and meet with clients. The last of the women, fashion designer Alice Colin, founder of Made En France boutique, moves in this month. The women are holding a Bastille

Day party 6 to 9 p.m. July 14 with live music and Champagne to celebrate the launch of the Made En France brand.

Some of the women recently left corporate jobs to focus on their creative passions. Some still work other full-time jobs. They range in age from 26 to 52. Three are mothers.

“We all juggle multiple jobs. We are strong women,” Teeny says. “We all have highs and lows, strengths and weaknesses.”

“We all support each other where one leaves off,” adds Anna Bett. She says the women aren’t interested in competing with each other or other artists, and see the space as an opportunity to lift up other women.

Teeny describes The Vault as a collaborative work space. You can see the separation of each artist’s style, but it’s also cohesive, which she says happened organically.

ANNA BETT MOORE ABM Canvas ALICE COLIN Made En France

ANNE RHETT Anne Rhett Photography

JULIE LIVINGSTON Julie Livingston Photography + Home MAURA TORPE Interior Designer

MILLIE SIMS Interior Designer

“It’s our artists’ playground,” she says.

Open the doors of The Vault and you’re greeted by a lovely mural of a large oak tree with Spanish moss, hand-painted by Millie.

The space is part art gallery, part chic home design center and part event space. The overall impression is dramatic yet welcoming – a place where you would love to hang out and get to know the artists behind the work on the walls. The bank vault door at the end of the room opens into a smaller room with hanging lights, where you can imagine all sorts of creative uses. The women plan to host pop-ups, trunk shows, fashion shows and dinner parties in collaboration with other artists and local businesses.

MINETTE HAND Minette Hand Photography

REAGAN BARNES Events by Reagan

RENE BARNES Fine Art Painter + Furniture Designer + Sculptor

The women are all seizing this opportunity to do what they love. And the best part?

They get to do it together.

TEENY MORRISON Interior Designer + Photographer + Loro Piana Brand Ambassador

“We all got more best friends through this,” Teeny says.

WHITNEY STODDARD Whitney Stoddard Art

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The Finest of Bag Ladies

by Caki Diehl I knew the gift was special, but I had no idea that it would be the “gateway drug” to a world of intricate handbags. Given to me in 2008, the floral, earthy scent of BOTTEGA VENETA perfume (contained in a simple, modern bottle) made me feel feminine yet bold.

Upon further investigation of the brand, it was love at first sight when I saw the treasured purses made by the high fashion house; I immediately saved to buy one. Well-made, Italian leather, and ageless, the over the shoulder “Hobo” gets better with time. It’s a “workhorse” and I can take it anywhere. Once acquired, I considered changing my Facebook status to “in a relationship!”

“If you are standing with other women in a circle,

Yes, a bit materialistic but having an affair with a piece of art is not against the law.

You can’t have too many handbags – like Christmas tree lights, shoes, ties, and even girlfriends! There is one for every occasion.

and there is a woman standing alone in your circle’s vicinity – the thing to do is notice her,

BOTTEGA VENETA CLASSIC

smile at her, move over a bit and say,

My best cohorts are like a classic Bottega. Dependable, respected and true, I revere these women and our enduring relationships. I was with two of them when they met their husbands so I feel privileged (and a little responsible thank you!) to have been on the “sniff check committee” for these gals.

“HI, COME JOIN US!” Even if she decides not to join your circle – even if she looks at you like you’re crazy – inviting her is STILL THE THING TO DO. This advice is meant for both literal and figurative circles.

While the ladies are different in their own way, they share a love of travel, food and wine, and are passionate about their work and families.

I remember poignant times gone by in big cities (New York, Rome, London, DC) and small beaches (Sullivan’s Island, South Hampton, Praia do Rosa) involving deep conversations where we figure out the “world’s problems.” Late nights and early mornings creating connection born from trust, good deeds, time and love.

”

WIDEN YOUR CIRCLE. ALL THE TIMES.

Best friends you have forever and will never go out of style. We can be apart for years and when we get back together it’s like we never missed a beat.

L.L. BEAN CANVAS TOTE

– GLENNON DOYLE

creator of Momastery and founder of Together Rising, a nonprofit for women and children in crisis

Another type is the travel companion with whom you share a hobby.To share a love with someone over sailing, camping, or writing is a healthy way to bond. I call this the Tote because like a canvas bag, you just say the word and they will go anywhere, anytime. While looking fashionable on the move, the Canvas Tote is always up for an adventure or exploration, doesn’t mind roughing it, and takes it in stride when the wind whips up to 30 knots.

SATURDAY NIGHT CLUTCH

Similar to the travel buddy is the wingman or Saturday night clutch. She is eternally up for fun! This woman is easy on the eyes and all the men flock to her. She is the life of the party and immediately lures the guys with her charm.

Before you know it, you are at the club surrounded by cute dudes buying you drinks and making plans to move to Bali. Also known as Hot Friend, she’s got the 411 on where the party is happening and is confident in herself to bring other ladies along because she knows that the more the merrier, she’ll get the pick of the litter, and what’s left over (for the tagalongs) ain’t so bad – it’s a win-win.The Saturday Clutch is beautiful and only comes out for special occassions.

MANY FLAVORS OF FRIENDS

There are new, Facebook, LinkedIn and Instagram friends.

I’ve got best family friends (read about Mom here! www.cakidiehl.com) and consider my Dad wise counsel who gives good advice. My older brother was a dear to me during college and I did his laundry like a dutiful sister should. He has the ability to make me laugh when I feel like crying.

I’ve got work friends who I adore and revere many of whom I’ve known for years and are like family, too. All derivations of timeless bonds and the finest of “bag ladies”– lucky me!

Indeed on the one hand (pun intended) you can’t have too many friends or handbags, but on the other, a really extraordinary one is rare and to be cherished!

CAKI DIEHL is a creative marketer, writer, and photographer based in Charleston. In addition to her daily inspirational Instagram posts, she writes personal essays on life. A marathoner and avid sailor, she enjoys spending time with family and friends. Caki recently published a quote book called “Gifts from the Lowcountry” and her work can be found on her website, Cakidiehl.com.

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MEN

in skirts.

Photography by Samantha Fuentes

“It’s so fulfilling owning this place,” Rob says.

“It’s a place where everyone is welcome.”

– R O B B O U T O N

ROB BOUTON finds authenticity and community in Queen Street Grocery Rob Bouton, who grew up in Greenville, worked as a “starving actor” in New York for a while and loved ducking into the bodega on his corner. It was part of the fabric of the neighborhood.

Glennon Wagner, one of the Queens who works the cash register, says it’s a safe haven for college students. “You don’t feel like you’re being judged,” she says.

So after a stint in Atlanta, when Rob decided he wanted to relocate to Charleston, he was attracted to Queen Street Grocery, which was built in 1922 and claims to be the oldest corner store in town. It wasn’t for sale, but he introduced himself to the owners and later when the opportunity came along, he bought it in 2012.

It’s the type of place that remained open during the snowstorm in January. TV shows have been shot there. Bill Murray has been known to visit. Matthew Morrison, best known for his role on “Glee,” stopped by recently. There’s an Instagram photo to prove it.

Rob isn’t a trained chef, but he loves food. “I love what food does for people. I love how food brings people together,” he says enthusiastically. He worked to expand the menu, which features build- your-own crepes, breakfast sandwiches and omelets, and to bring in local produce and bread.

“That is just a cool way to support local, but it also elevates the game,” he says. “It’s just legit.”

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The store, which is on Queen and Logan streets two blocks north of Broad, likely once served as the pharmacy for Roper Hospital when it was across the street. It’s been a video poker parlor, a convenience store and an incorporated grocery store.

Today, you can pick up breakfast or lunch, a newspaper, some batteries or a bottle of Westbrook Brewing’s rare Mexican Cake Stout.

“Stuff like that makes this place so much more than a corner store,” Rob says. Hence the tagline: “Not your average corner store.”

And Rob is probably not your average corner store owner.

His first job was at Chick-fil-A. He’s played a coffee barista on “Dawson’s Creek,” a press agent in “Leatherheads” and Tony Dinapoli on “Second Generation Wayans.” He continues to pursue acting roles.

In Queen Street Grocery, Rob has found authenticity and a spirit of community.

“It’s so fulfilling owning this place,” Rob says. “It’s a place where everyone is welcome.”

“People come to Charleston to go to FIG and to go to Husk and they discover Queen Street Grocery,” Rob says. “I think it’s the coolest place in town.”

“There’s joy in that randomness,” Rob says.

Sit at the counter at Queen Street grocery on any given day and you’ll see people from all walks of life come in the door: a nanny with a toddler, a touring musician, college kids, tourists, longtime neighbors who have been stopping in for years.

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NEWS

Why Crabbing is Therapy for

Can’t get enough of sushi and poke bowls?

Poke-San has opened at 207A St. Philip St.

OPENINGS AND CLOSINGS

Parcel 32 is now open on King Street.

Chef Shaun Brian Sells serves sustainable Lowcountry upscale fare.

Home Team BBQ has opened its Middle Street Market on Sullivan’s Island. It offers beach grub: beer, wine, sandwiches.

Tia Clark

Feeling the Francais for Bastille Day? Joséphine Wine Bar, 64 Spring Street, is opening as a modern French wine bar with food that plays well with wine. There are also made-from-scratch cocktails. Wine and cocktails are helmed by Melissa Yard, most recently at 5 Church. For more information, follow @josephinewinebar on Instagram and Facebook or visit josephinewinebar.com.

by Helen Mitternight

South Carolina allows you catch a crab that is up to five inches long, spine to spine.

The state even has handy stickers at likely crab-catching docks, but that doesn’t help if you’re not at a dock. So Tia Clark had a crab tattooed on her leg that’s exactly the right size so she can compare on the fly and make sure she’s compliant.

Anybody who will get a crab tattoo is crazy for crabs, and Tia Clark admits that she qualifies.

If you like your summers Tex-Mex, El Jefe Texican Cantina is now open for lunch and dinner and features not just the usual tacos, but also Texican Phos (noodles, protein and salad). El Jefe is at 468 King Street.

A Charleston native, Tia has been in the food and beverage industry her whole life, and she’s now a bartender at Park Circle’s The Mill. Her wake up call came when she broke out in hives after quitting her 20-year smoking habit. She began working with a doctor to change her whole lifestyle, including foregoing alcohol, and she knew she needed to lose weight to get healthy.

A year ago, Tia was at a family wedding when her cousin invited her to go crabbing.

Contributor Helen Mitternight dishes out the latest food and beverage news in the new monthly Skirt Table column. If you’d like your restaurant news to be considered, email submissions@skirt.com with Skirt Table as the subject line.

Something to crow about…the Grand Rooster Kitchen is open at 1809 Reynolds Avenue in North Charleston. The food is Spanish and Portuguese-inspired.

NEW MENUS Félix Cocktails et Cuisine at 550 King St. has added brunch 10:30 a.m. - 2 p.m.

Sundays. Brunch items include Pain Perdu, steak and eggs, and its yummy Raclette Burger, among other items.

The Darling Oyster Bar on upper King Street is collaborating with Revelry Brewing to serve a summer brew called – wait for it – Beach Bod. It’s a citrus-forward beer that pairs well with seafood.

EVENTS Mex 1 Coastal Cantina is hosting National Tequila Day events on July 24 at their locations in West Ashley, Sullivan’s Island and the soon-to-open Mt. Pleasant.

Many Charleston restaurants are trying to stop sucking this summer. Diners may find that they need to request straws with their beverages – or just bring their own reusable straw – as restaurants try to save the environment from plastic straw waste. #StrawlessSummer

CHEF MOVES Chef Ray England is the new executive chef at Tavern and Table on Shem Creek.

Chef Andy McLeod, formerly of The Lot, has taken over the kitchen at Dockery’s on Daniel Island.

Chef Michael Sichel, formerly of New Orleans’ renowned Galatoire’s, has been named executive chef of Hotel Bennett’s signature restaurant. The hotel and restaurant will open this fall.

Photography by Ferris Kaplan

“I was out there for about five hours,” she recalls, and she hasn’t stopped since. Working her crab lines and traps has contributed to a weight loss of more than 100 pounds, marked by a belt that keeps getting new notches to tighten it.

To share her crabby love, she started posting photos of her catches. A friend began a Facebook page featuring those photos, “Casual Crabbing with Tia,” and a business was born last June as the page grew to more than 600 followers in the first month.

We went crabbing with her recently at Northbridge Park and watched her toss hand lines baited with chicken legs.

“Yeah, they tell you it doesn’t matter if the chicken is fresh, but I’ve used old chicken and I’ve used new chicken, and my catch is better with fresh. Plus, the old stuff stinks up the car,” she says, laughing.

“You can see bubbles on top of the water. When you get them in a wire trap, you have to pull fast to draw the trap tight, or they can swim right out and they’re fast swimmers,” she says, pulling up a round wire trap that has a blue crab in it that measures the perfect size.

Tia doesn’t take her customers out on boats, but she says she doesn’t need to in order to get a good crab catch.

“Charleston is our oyster,” she says. “Any public land, any dock or creek. It’s all based on the weather and tides. The best water temperature is at least 70-75 degrees, but you can crab all year long. In the cold weather, the crabs just burrow down into the pluff mud.”

Guests can get a saltwater fishing license through Tia’s website and then she’ll help them catch all the crabs the weather and the state allow. Crabs aren’t guaranteed (“They call it fishing, not catching,” she grins) because Clark says she has no control over nature. What crabbers do catch legally, though, – mostly blue crabs – they can take home for a dinner they can brag about.

For Tia, crabbing is like therapy.

“I learn stuff about myself all the time out here. We took a guy out recently who used to fish, but had Alzheimer’s,” she says. “It was so special. It opened up a side of him that they hadn’t seen in a long time.”

Crabbing outings are $60 an hour for up to three people and an extra $10 an hour per person for more than three.

For more information, visit www.casualcrabbingwithtia.com

Local since 1922

Artist: Julia Deckman

133 Queen Street Charleston, SC 29401 • 843.723.4121 • @queenstreetgrocery #notyouraveragecornerstore

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TURNING LEAF

by Helen Mitternight

The young man had been in and out of jail. His family members were no help; most were living a criminal lifestyle. Last July, remembering a friendship with AMY BARCH, he enrolled in her program, Turning Leaf. After a rocky start, he graduated from the program, is about to get his two-year associates degree from Trident Tech University, just got his commercial driving license, and is working for the City of North Charleston.

“We work with men who are at the highest risk of re-arrest and we help them develop foundational skills like how to make a good decision, how to think in ways that don’t lead to criminal behavior, how to solve problems that don’t lead to crime or drug use, and managing difficult emotions like anger and frustration,” Amy says. “It’s intense group work over a sustained time, combined with incentives like a daily financial stipend to attend classes, employment opportunities and job training.”

The young man may not have realized, but, fortunately for him, Turning Leaf was founded by a woman who won’t give up.

Amy says that she drifted for a few years before finding herself passionate about criminal justice. She really liked the program at the University of Washington, but her earlier lackadaisical approach to school resulted in rejection. It was the only school she applied to.

Three months later, the organization called her, interviewed her and hired her.

It was Amy’s first chance to work in victim impact, a curriculum that involves showing inmates the impact of their actions from their victims’ perspective.

She moved to Charleston in 2010, and eventually brought that curriculum to the Lowcountry. By 2012, she had created Turning Leaf and moved more toward teaching cognitive behavioral skills than victim impact. When judges started “sentencing” inmates to her volunteer-led program in the jail, she decided to formalize Turning Leaf. Pregnant and waiting tables at night, Amy gave herself two years to make a go of Turning Leaf.

It took three. By 2015, the City of Charleston was a partner, and Amy was building staff and data.

The data shows efficacy. Since the six-month to one-year program revamped slightly to focus only on re-entry in 2016, about 85 men convicted of violent crimes to property crimes, have been through Turning Leaf.

The program costs between $5,000 and $6,000 per person, but that compares with the approximately $20,000 per person a year it costs to keep someone incarcerated.

After a complicated process that included convincing her food and beverage employer to vouch for her, she was in. She graduated at 26, but it was 2006 and a terrible economy for her field. Law school graduates weren’t being hired and they were providing an over-qualified workforce for the jobs that Amy wanted.

“Our group of people is really hard to work with, so we know they have a pretty high failure rate in terms of getting re-arrested,”Amy says. “If somebody can get through the whole program, thechances of re-arrest goes way down. It’s a 15 percent re-arrest rate forprogram graduates. For those who don’t get Turning Leaf, it’s 75 percent within five years of release.”

“I interviewed for the job and didn’t get it, even though I felt I was the right person,” she says. “I remember this really critical moment where I decided to call the lady up who interviewed me. I left her skirt . | july 2018

a voicemail and said, ‘I totally understand why you didn’t hire me but this is my passion and I’ll always want to work here. I want a second chance.’ ”

“Rather than deciding I should go somewhere else, I found a loophole,” Amy recalls. “If I moved there and got my associate’s degree from community college, I could transfer in.”

She was a case manager for a social service agency supporting the homeless in D.C. when she heard about a job at a nonprofit that dealt with inmate re-entry into society. She wanted the job; she got it in typical Barch fashion.

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GET INVOLVED Turning Leaf can use office/classroom supplies as well as $5 gift cards that it gives as incentives for its students. Financial contributions also are always welcome. For more information, visit turningleafproject.com.

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JEN SNYDER

CREATOR OF THE HMS LOG BOOK, LIKES TO TALK ABOUT AN ‘ENERGETIC BOOMERANG.’

by Shelley Hill Young Jen Snyder, founder of the HMS Log Book, believes that the energy you send out into the world will come back to you. That’s what she calls an “energetic boomerang.”

Jen notes that as we enter the month of July, we’re under the sign of cancer, a water sign, a time when emotions tend to be strong.

July 13 also marks the first of three eclipses, which also tends to be a more intense time, she says.

“It’s a high-voltage time to really be aware of our thoughts,” she says.

In other words, it’s a good time to focus on the positive and to set clear intentions about what you want to happen in your life.

With her HMS Log Book, Jen gives women a tool for starting off their day with all the positive vibes. The journal provides structured space to encourage you to start the day with gratitude and with setting a positive intention.

“Those things will return to you all day long,” Jen says.

Jen began her search for mindfulness after she had her daughter and later separated from her husband, went back to work and had to reinvent herself. She says the complete lack of time and space for herself drove her to develop a very focused way for her to track her daily actions so she could be more aware of how they affected her body, mind and spirit – her overall well-being.

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The method she developed to notice larger patterns and connections eventually became the HMS Log Book. The ninth edition is for journaling from July through December 2018.

But it wasn’t until about 10 years later that she first published the journal and shared her method with others. She says a bad breakup and a “crappy job” convinced her it was time she needed to do something for herself.

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have to perform like a rock star every day.

That is unreasonable.”

“I no longer wanted to respond to everyone else’s fire,” she says.

“I wanted to create this dream that I’d had that wouldn’t go away.

It was like this relentless tapping on my shoulder.”

She says she knew that since the Log Book had helped her steer her way through challenging times, it would help others, so she took a leap of faith.

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“It was crazy and made sense all at once,” she says.

Today, Jen leads classes, workshops and retreats that focus on mindfulness and help guide your experience with the HMS Log Book.

Women, Jen says, are often pulled in multiple directions and are called to “multitask times 1,000,” so it can be hard to make time for self-care.

“We have this culture of hustle,” Jen says. “In retrospect, there are times when you need to be introspective, to hibernate. Nothing in nature blooms all year.”

“You do not have to perform like a rock star every day.

That is unreasonable.”

JOIN JEN New Moon Gathering 7 to 9 p.m. July 10 Still Soul Studio 579 King St. For more information www.stillsoulstudio.com Take the Captain’s Oath found at the beginning of the HMS Log Book. It concludes, “I will always remember that am doing the very best I can at the moment and that every tomorrow is a new opportunity to make healthy choices for my mind, body and spirit.”

Easy self-care tips: Epsom salt can work as an energetic cleanser, Jen says. Salt cleanses any energy that is hanging around. And it’s very grounding. Soak in a tub or use it as a body scrub in the shower.

To ground yourself, literally get your feet on the ground – in the sand or on the soil. Washing your hands is grounding. The water flows from the faucet through pipes and down to the ground.

“If you’re having a bad day at work and can’t get away from the office, get up and go wash your hands,” Jen says.

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Skirt Launch Party

Connect the Dots: Women in Media

The Skinny Dip June 7

Center for Women June 13

Hosted by Skirt magazine

Hosted by Center for Women

Skirt magazine hosted a party at The Skinny Dip to celebrate our new design, launched with the June issue. We announced that Skirt

Skirt executive editor Shelley Hill Young was the featured speaker at the Center for Women’s monthly Connect the Dots luncheon in

is locally owned for the first time in 10 years. We also introduced changes to the look and feel of the magazine, including a new size,

June. Shelley shared the history of Skirt magazine, the reasons behind the changes the magazine introduced in June as well as her vision

coated cover and updated Skirt logo. With the new logo, Skirt is making a statement – asserting our power, the power of women in the

for the future of the magazine. She enjoyed the lively conversation with the women and hearing their thoughts and opinions about the

Charleston market. Skirt magazine was founded 24 years ago. Our mission is to celebrate women with attitude and empower them

magazine. She hopes to incorporate some of the ideas in coming issues. The Center for Women serves as an advocate for all women

in their pursuits. Special thanks to Hamby Catering and Events for providing the hors d’oeuvres, DJ Brandie Cannady for the tunes,

in Charleston so they are empowered to achieve economic success and leadership in their professional and personal lives, and in

Cannonborough Collective for the balloons and Samantha Fuentes for the photography.

their communities.

1. Thomas Giovanniello, Shelley Hill Young, Sarah Kravchuk, Susan Norfleet and Beth Lampen Maheu 2. Shelley Hill Young and Cora Webb 3. DJ Brandie Cannady 4. Jasmine Jones and Domanique Keegan 5. Sara Rossi, Ashley Mitchell, Sara Turner and Deja Knight 6. New Skirts arrived 7. Heidi Johnson, Kelsey Lorman and Honey Johnson 8. Mell Bell and Anna Garibay 9. Lisa Dabney and Melanie Frank 10. The guests listened to a short presentation by Skirt 11. Robert Sullivan, Heidi Finniff, Thomas Giovanniello and Sandy Morckel 12. Angie Mizzell, Helen Mitternight and Thomas Giovanniello

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1. Shana Johnson 2. Shelley Hill Young 3. Attendees ask Shelley questions during the Q&A portion of her presentation.

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calendar LIFE TOUR Get your groove on with Boy George, the Culture Club and the B-52s as they perform classic ‘80s songs such as “Karma Chameleon” and “Love Shack” at the Volvo Car Stadium.

Prices range from $25 to $155. Show begins at 7 p.m. Visit volvocarstadiumconcerts. com for more information.

JULY 20-22

July events JULY 1

STARS AND GUITARS WEZL country radio station brings some of Nashville’s biggest hit-makers to the beautiful Boone Hall Plantation.

Riley Green, Russell Dickerson and Kip Moore are the featured artists for this sure-to-be sold-out pre-Fourth performance. Beverages and food available for purchase on site. 6 to 10 p.m.

Boone Hall. For more information, visit boonehallplantation.com.

JULY 3

BACK TO BLACK: AMY WINEHOUSE TRIBUTE Join Remember Jones and his 12-piece orchestra as he plays his renditions of Amy Winehouse songs as a tribute to the late singer. General admission tickets are $15. 8:30 p.m. to 1 a.m., Charleston Pour House. Visit charlestonpourhouse.boldtypetickets.com for more information.

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PATRIOTS POINT 4TH OF JULY BLAST Stand on top of the Yorktown and enjoy the sea’s breeze, the live entertainment and the largest firework display in Charleston while celebrating our nation’s birthday. Activities for children include jump castles and face-painting. General admission tickets are $40. Food and beverages are available for purchase. A complimentary drink and catering service is provided for those who purchase the VIP package for $110. 4 to 10 p.m. Visit patriotspoint.org for more information.

“SHE DRIVES ME CRAZY” 34 West Theatre Company brings romantic comedy to tug at the heart strings. Music, nostalgia and coffee are all central to the ‘90s-themed story.

Think “Seinfeld” meets “Friends.” Tickets priced at $35 online. Showtimes vary per night, 200 Meeting Street. Visit www.34west.org for more information.

SEA STARS AND STRIPES Celebrate your independence day stressfree. Your all-inclusive ticket guarantees American fare, beer and wine and a waterfront view of fireworks. $60 for adults. $30 for children., 7 to 10 p.m., South Carolina Aquarium. Visit scaquarium.org/events/seastarsandstripes2018 for more information.

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UNCLE SAM JAM A salty breeze, patriotic crowd and great live music are guaranteed at the Mount Pleasant Pier in celebration of our country’s Independence Day. Purchase $8 tickets in advance. 7 to 11 p.m. Visit www.ccprc.com/1327/ Uncle-Sam-Jam for more information.

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RIVERDOGS Spend Independence Day watching fireworks and eating hot dogs at the Joe Riley stadium. For the first time in three years, the RiverDogs will celebrate the Fourth of July at The Joe against the Augusta Greenjackets. Game starts at 6:35 p.m. Visit riverdogs.com for more information.

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MOONLIGHT MIXER Show off your shagging skills under the stars as DJ Jim Bowers spins classic oldies and beach music. Tickets are $8 and should be bought in advance. 7 to 11 p.m. Folly Beach Pier. Visit ccprc.com for more information.

JULY 7-8

“HOT JERSEY NIGHTS!” Experience the authentic feeling of the ‘60s at the Charleston Music Hall.

The show will celebrate Frankie Valli and the Four Seasons with hit songs like “Sherry,” “Rag Dolls” and “Big Girls Don’t Cry.” 3 to 5 p.m. Times and prices vary.

Visit www.charlestonmusichall.com for more information.

LET THE GOOD TIMES ROLL Moranz Entertainment continues to bring us blasts from our pasts by casting talented artists to perform a wide range of music.

Get a taste of all your favorite rock, pop, country and Broadway songs at the Let the Good Times Roll musical variety show.

Show times vary. Charleston Music Hall.

Visit bradandjennifermoranz.com for ticket information.

JULY 21

LADYBUG RELEASE Experience the beauty of preservation with your family at the 5th Annual Ladybug Release. More than 200,000 ladybugs will be scattered across Magnolia Plantation in an effort to limit the population of harmful insects in the area.Tickets are $20 for adults, $10 for children ages 6 to 12, and children

5 and under get in for free. 9 a.m. to 2 p.m.

Visit magnoliaplantation.com for more information.

JULY 25

GIRLS’ NIGHT OUT Join Skirt for our girls’ night out at Mex 1 Coastal Cantina on Sullivan’s Island. There will be giveaways and live music. 5:30 to 8:30 p.m. at Mex 1, 817 St. Andrews Blvd.

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JULY 26

RUM DINNER Experience the blending of Caribbean and Lowcountry culture at the Rum Dinner.

Hosted by Circa 1886, this event promises a four course dinner and a beautiful evening on a patio. $90 per adult. 6:30 p.m. at Circa1886. Visit circa1886.com for more information.

JULY 29

NOT-SO-BASIC BRUNCH Join Skirt at The Cedar Room for signature cocktails, mimosas, tasty bites and fun vibes!

Come ready for an unforgettable Sunday Funday. Enjoy art, entertainment, innovative event design and top-notch cuisine. Food and beverage by Mercantile and Mash. Floral design provided by Petaloso and floral decor by Paper Swallow Events. Entertainment by Elan Artists. Beauty bar by Colur Studios. Custom candles by Candlefish.

Tickets are $65 in advance, $75 at the door. 11 a.m. to 2 p.m., The Cedar Room.

Visit eventbrite.com/e/not-so-basic-brunchtickets-45978099734 for more information.

CHARLESTON BRIDAL SHOW Watch your dream wedding come to life at the Charleston Bridal Show with some of the city’s top vendors. Spend the day enjoying live music and eating cake samples and hors d’oeuvres. Tickets $12 online and $15 at the door. 12 to 4 p.m. at the Gaillard Center. Visit thecharlestonbridalshow.com for more information.

JULY 11

CONNECT THE DOTS: 3 KEYS TO SELF - LOVE July’s luncheon hosted by the Center for Women will feature Lorraine Pursell as the guest speaker. The talk will be centered around ending cycles on anxiety, guilt and self-doubt. Lunch will be provided by Panera Bread. 12 to 1 p.m. $25 for guests. Visit c4women. org/event/connect-dots-3-keys-selflove/ for more information.

JULY 20

CHARLESTON MARGARITA FESTIVAL Grab your girlfriends and get down to Brittlebank Park where more than 20 restaurants prepare their best margaritas to compete in a ‘rita-off. Lasting from 7 to 10 p.m this event promises to have great food, a great waterfront view and great music. Buy tickets online for $39.

Brittlebank Park. For more information visit charlestonmargaritafest.com.

REGGAE NIGHTS SUMMER CONCERTS Bring a chair and get comfortable at this laid-back event. The headliner for the July concert is the Give Thanks Band.

General admission tickets are $10. Gates open at 7:30 p.m. Music from 8:30 to 11 p.m. James Island County Park. Visit ccprc.com for more information.

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skirt.W E L L N E S S Get in quality bonding time with your girlfriends and help recharge your mind and body. Invite a friend to meet you for yoga or a walk or run. Grab some kombucha or juice afterwards. That’s multitasking that we can feel good about. And when you feel relaxed and renewed, you are a better friend. Now, that’s what friends are for.

July 29, 2018 Noon till 4:00 pm Gaillard Center, 95 Calhoun St.

SUNDAYS Latin Flow Yoga 5:15 to 6:15 p.m., Holy City Salsa Dance Studio 1954 Ashley River Road Visit holycitysalsa.com for more information.

Tickets $12 available at: thecharlestonbridalshow.com

JOIN US

TUESDAYS Free Yoga in the Park 6:30 to 7:15 p.m., Riverfront Park, North Charleston JULY 2 Bendy Brewski 10 to 11 a.m., Ghost Monkey Brewery, 522 Wando Lane $15 at door JULY 4 I Got Legs 5k 7:30 a.m., 252 Ponsbury Road Visit runsignup.com for more information.

JULY 14 Barre Where You Are 9 a.m., Cannon Park JULY 15 Myofascial Release and Foam Rolling 12 to 2 p.m., Soul Yoga, 1836 Ashley River Road Visit soulcharleston.com for more information.

JULY 16 Yoga 12 Step Recovery 6 p.m., Longevity Fitness Charleston, 163 Rutledge Ave.

skirt. Girls’ Night Out | July 25 | 5:30 - 8:30PM Mex 1 Coastal Cantina on Sullivan’s Island | 817 St. Andrews Blvd.

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JULY 20 Buti Yoga with Katie 7 to 8:15 p.m., Yoga Den, 8600 Dorchester Road Visit yogadencharleston.biz for more information.

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JULY 23 Yoga & Wine 6 to 7:30 p.m., Edmund’s Oast, 1505 King St. Visit carynohara.com/events for more information.

JULY 24 Reclaiming Your Sovereignty 7 to 9 p.m., Still Soul Studio, 579 King St. JULY 25 Yoga for Mental Health Charleston Benefitting American Foundation for Suicide Prevention 5 to 7 p.m., Cannon Green, 103 Spring St. JULY 26 Daniel Island Happy Hour 5k 6:30 p.m., 161 Seven Farms Drive Visit timinginc.com for more information.

JULY 27 Moonlight Yoga on the Beach 8:30 to 9:30 p.m., Kiawah Island Golf Resort Moving Into Motherhood Walk Hosted by Postpartum Support Charleston 9:30 to 10:30 a.m., Pinckney Park JULY 29 Family Yoga Sunday 9 to 9:45 a.m., Community Yoga, 815 Savannah Highway Visit highlandyoga.com for more information.

Sweatin’ and Brunchin’ to the ‘80s ‘80s aerobics session with Barre South and lululemon Charleston Followed by Beats + Brunch 10:30 a.m. to 2:30 p.m. Cannon Green, 103 Spring St. Visit cannongreencharleston.com for more information.

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Whether you call them your tribe, your squad or your soul sisters, here’s to the girls who stand by your side, lift you up and cheer you on.

Here’s to the dear old ones you’ve known since high school or college.

Here’s to the ones you go on annual beach trips with, the ones you take the epic road trips with.

Here’s to the ones you think of when you hear your favorite strong-girl anthem, the ones you have dance parties with.

Here’s to the ones who stood by you when you said, “I do,” the ones who showered you with gifts and advice when you were expecting and changed your newborn’s diaper when they came to visit.

Here’s to the ones who like all your Instagram posts.

Here’s to the ones you reach out to when you need to talk or to cry, the ones who send a “How are you?” text when they haven’t heard from you in a while.

Here’s to the ones who listen without judgment, who encourage your dreams, share your joy and offer comfort in sadness.

Here’s to the ones who show up at every important stage of your life.

They’ve seen you at your best and your worst.

They are loyal, trustworthy and honest.

And you would not be the same without them.

– SHELLEY HILL YOUNG

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