Etiquestions

Dr. Barbara Baggerly-Hinojosa

Q: I am new to networking and socializing. What are your best etiquette tips for me as I try to meet new people and develop a strong network?

A: My best etiquette tip for networking is Use People’s Names! A name is everyone’s most prized possession, and you will be amazed at how doors open when you greet people by name.

Q: A friend of mine invited me to an event recently, and I really didn’t want to go. However, I didn’t know the proper way to tell him I didn’t want to go, so I went. I really wish I had told him I didn’t want to go because it was a miserable evening for me because I had a work project due date the next day. I ended up working all night long (with no sleep) to meet the deadline since I wasted time attending the event.

A: A common etiquette mistake people make is not being honest and instead saying “yes” or “maybe” when what they really mean is “no.” People feel like the nice thing to do is to say yes but then end up feeling overwhelmed or overcommitted. It is actually good manners, to be honest and say no when you can’t do something. People may be disappointed, but they will understand. The trick is to say no politely and provide a brief explanation.

Q: I have an acquaintance who I see a lot at social events. It is her birthday this week. What is the etiquette about giving birthday gifts to people you know but who are not exactly close friends?

A: I think it is always great to be kind in little ways. A birthday gift that is small but thoughtful is always a great gesture. Pay attention to what your acquaintance likes. Maybe the person likes a certain color. If so, you could find a scarf or a jewelry piece in that color. As long as the gift is thoughtful, it will be appreciated.

Barbara Baggerly-Hinojosa, Ph.D., is a wife, mother, and educator living in the Rio Grande Valley of Texas. She is a graduate of Our Lady of the Lake University with a Ph.D. in Leadership Studies. In addition, she holds an Associate of Arts degree in Education from McLennan Community College, Bachelor of Arts in Interdisciplinary Studies from the University of Texas–Pan American, and a Master of Arts in Educational Supervision from the University of Texas–Pan American. Dr. Baggerly-Hinojosa’s current research is focused on servant leadership, gender issues in leadership, and leadership communication. www.leadershipempowermentgroup.com