a quarterly magazine that celebrates your soul
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Autumn’s Letter TRUST& FAITH
Our Lion Within
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{soul life} Greetings Fellow Soul Life Travellers! We are excited to offer you another issue of Soul Life Magazine. This fall issue is filled with delightful morsels to nourish your soul as we reap the abundance of our summer activities. We continue to stay committed to providing you with reflections, information, teachings and sharings that will help you expand your soul and live a life that is based in that heart-centered, soul-filled way. As we shift again to a new season, whether you are moving into fall or awakening into spring, know that your soul calls you to listen, to take action and to be all of you in each moment. We at Soul Life have been surprised by the words and the reflections that have come forth for this second issue. Our souls called us to write about
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our personal stories of 'coming out’ and deepening our faith and trust to honor the nudges that help us live a life in soul. Inside your find book reviews, recipes, beauty through photographs, and so much more. We’ll also be sure to give some insight on how to keep yourself and your children glowing from that inner spark. So whether you’re a mom or dad, single or married, in a relationship or in transition, a 9-5er or a entrepreneur, know that you are welcome here and better than that, this publication was created for you! Please enjoy the journey. We invite you to join us in play on Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and Google+. We’ll keep the conversation going until we reach the season.
From our hearts to yours! Dani, Joey and Lora
contents Autumn's Letter........................................................................................3 Soul Walks.................................................................................................6 Trust & Faith..............................................................................................7 What Makes Your Soul Come Alive?.........................................................11 Soul Reads..............................................................................................12 The Lion Within.......................................................................................14 Soul Food................................................................................................18 Soul Kids: Teach Gratitude.......................................................................22 Soul Words..............................................................................................24 Soul Art...................................................................................................25
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Autumn’s Letter by Joey Paynter
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{soul walks} On the Earth: Alive and Thriving, A Walk in Culloden Battlefield, Scotland Photography & Inspiration by Dani Palacio
Does it matter if I know my lineage? Only if it helps you know who you are and why you’re here.
Who Am I? A small grain can yield many things – but most of all nourishment for the discovery.
Where do I come from? From the blood of my ancestors, ripe, red and ready! What if I can’t find the mystical and magical signs? Then it will show up in the visible and caw at you until you listen.
Who will show me the way? Look for the whispers of life, do you see the dragon fly…its wings iridescent.
Will there be post markers along the journey so I know my path? Yes, you are guided every step of the way – guided back to yourself to live and love as you never have before!
Soul Walks are a time to really “see” into nature, to walk consciously, breathing awareness into your being and allowing your soul to speak to you. So often we go along our days missing those soft subtle moments, those whispering questions that our soul wants to ponder. Soul Walks don't have to be far. They can be down your street and even through your backyard. This issue's Soul Walk was shared by Dani Palacio during her walk on the Culloden Battlefield in Scotland. We challenge you to grab a camera, enter into a meditative walk where you breathe into the moments and listen with your soul wide open. We invite you to send us your images and soul questions to soullifezine@gmail.com.
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TRUST & FAITH by Dani Palacio
What does it mean to have a vision? What does it mean to believe that you are guided? How do you accept the visions, the guidance, the knowing given to you without being attached to its outcome and expecting it to show up a certain way? These are the questions that have been floating in my mind and causing my heart to stir in ways that have excited me and have caused me to question even more. I’ve dipped into my fear and doubt and then bounce back into the truth of my heart. It’s been a wild ride. I believe that I am guided. I believe that The Universe, God, my Guides, the Angels hold my Highest Potential and as I walk the path of my soul’s journey in this life, I am given insight at specific times that help me keep my faith. The faith that I am loved and that my life has a purpose keeps me walking the path. I’m grateful that I trust in this knowing. I am grateful that inspiration and hope show up for me as visions about the next step or next few steps of this beautiful life.
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Sometimes the vision comes as nudge, an intuitive knowing or a reoccurring theme. Sometimes it’s a full on vision – I see it, I feel it as if it were so already. That’s what has been happening as of late...I was reading a book and there was a passage about Scotland that resonated so deeply that I could feel my whole body vibrate. Then I got a nudge to look up Scottish surnames and from there, a world from the past opened up. That was the start and the immediate need and knowingness that I need to get to Scotland as fast as possible. Within a few days I had booked my ticket and the full on experience began. The six weeks between booking the ticket to the actual take off has been full of affirmations that I am
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meant to go to Scotland for lots of reasons. I love that my heart, soul and body are all in alignment. I love that I have friends and family in my life that support me unconditionally. It’s a knowing and it’s also been given in visions of what is to come… If it were only that easy! Now I’m in the process of keeping the faith that the vision is real without the human ego interfering. I find that as information comes to me and I get more insight about the overall picture of what is and what is possible, I am tempted to attach a meaning to it, to get stuck in the visual insights I’ve had, and that’s a very slippery slope! The inner dialogue is combative. I have faith that what I saw, felt, and experienced within my heart. I
also trust that there is something more waiting for me in Scotland. It. Is. Real. And that’s the thing, it’s so real to me and yet it hasn’t happened yet. So of course my logical, intelligent mind and ego want to take over and organize, dissect, and attach to the vision. How do we keep the insight, the vision alive and fluid without creating meaning and expectation to it? The only way I’ve been able to do this is to trust in something bigger than me. To know that I am loved by a force that holds me and guides me. So when I feel the attachment, which by the way I totally believe is a natural human experience, I breathe deep, let go of the cord that is trying to hold down the vision and then visualize it flying free once again. That helps
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me to keep the vision pure and helps me honor the natural tendency to attach and create meaning. So if you’re in an experience of feeling guided, inspired and seeing the possibility in dreams or meditations, let me say you are not alone!! It’s a fine line between the grace of a knowing and the desire to have it. It tests your faith and challenges your mind. What a combination – it’s one that I enjoy. Here’s to visions and inspirations! Here’s to wonder and delight! Here’s to believing. Trust and Allow!
Faith consists in believing when it is beyond the power of reason to believe. - Voltaire
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A Celtic Prayer
by Jen Delyth
Fís Croí na beanna, nochtann mo bhealach. Croí eagna beanna, treoir ar mo bhealach. Neart Croí na beanna, a chosaint ar mo bhealach. Heart vision of Raven, reveal my way. Heart wisdom of Raven, guide my way. Heart strength of Raven, protect my way.
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What Makes Your Soul Come Alive? by Joey Paynter
One of my most favorite questions to ask others is “What makes your soul come alive?” I find these six simple words open a world of seeing and exploring from the day to day to the deeper dreams people hold inside the hidden pockets of their life. I first explored this question myself almost 17 years ago and since then I have made countless lists to answer this inquisitive query my soul sent me on. I set the intention to hit at least 100 things that made my soul come to life. Last time I checked the list was up to at least 500 and it’s filled with everything from eating a bacon, egg, and cheese on an everything bagel from Mr. J’s bagel shop in Harrisonburg, Virginia to driving at night with music blaring - windows down and singing along at the top of my lungs. There’s also traveling to a new culture and connecting with the people to walking barefoot in the sand to seeing the forgotten in abandoned buildings to laughing until the tears start to fall. I have so many more and even creating the list is part of what ushers my soul into life. I used to challenge many of my clients to make a list and anytime they felt disconnected from life I would ask if they had done anything from their list lately. Most hadn’t. I suggested they find at least five and see how this changed their perspective. Each time something shifted and their hearts opened. So my challenge and question to you is... What makes your soul come alive? We’d love to hear and share some of your discoveries in our next issue. Please email us at soullifezine@gmail.com
Here are a few to help you get started. 1. Seeing the colors in the sky change 2. Skipping rocks – At least five jumps 3. Traveling to a new place 4. Taking pictures of people (in different countries) 5. Laughing so hard my gut hurts 6. Playing Basketball (hitting a 3 pointer) 7. Acting like a dork and not caring 8. Playing in the rain 9. Walking barefoot on the beach 10. A quality conversation with a friend and some cool crisp Sauvignon Blanc 11. Being on a canoe on the lake/river 12. Doing something I haven’t done before 13. Chalk drawing late at night 14. Finger-painting 15. A blank canvas, paints, and friends 16. Finding a book I can’t put down 17. Sitting around a campfire with friends 18. Staring at the stars – overwhelmed by the beautiful magiK of our world 19. Sticking my hands in rice, sand..etc.
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{ soul reads } I'm Spiritual Dammit!: How to Keep Your Feet on the Ground and Your Head in the Stars Written
byJenniffer Weigel
REVIEWED BY LORA KEDDIE -- I read this book in three straight days. I couldn't put it down except to get tissues to wipe my tears of laughter and tears of knowing the exact heart-bursting feelings she was going through. All of us searching for the MORE of our spiritual side can appreciate the humorous way former television news reporter Jenniffer Weigel shares her own discoveries. This non-fiction book is steeped in gems we can all use. Weigel provides 13 common-sense rules for developing a sane and satisfying interior life--ranging from "trust that you are where you are supposed to be in every moment" to "always look for signs"--to "don't get lost in a guru." What makes this book so fun and refreshing is Weigel's voice--and the fact that, in the words of one of her friends, she is a "magnet for really bizarre shit." I'm a big believer in you have to laugh your way through this stuff and Weigel does just that with her own experiences bringing you along to share in the giggles.
~ Gilda Radner
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Some stories don’t have a clear beginning, midd le, and end. Life is about not knowing, having to change, taking the moment and making the best of it, without knowing what’s going to happen next. Delicious ambiguity…
Thinking Outside the Church examines 110 ways
people connect with their spirituality. It does not seek to supplant the religious feeling many people experience inside a church, but seeks instead to supplement that experience by suggesting a more expansive view of spirituality. In this view, the world and our activities outside the church are also seen as the sites and rites of worship and spiritual practice, as ways of connecting with our personal vision or version of the sacred. From art, nature, and dreams to dancing, traveling, and parenting, Jennifer Leigh Selig points readers toward the potential and the power present in diverse pathways that may not traditionally be seen as religious or spiritual. In addition to her own thoughtful introductions, Selig collects quotes that span cultures, time periods, religions, and wisdom traditions, each testifying to the universality of seeking the spiritual by Thinking Outside the Church. Learn more about writer, teacher, lecturer and photographer Jennifer Leigh Selig or purchase a signed copy of her book at
JenniferLeighSelig.com
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Our Lion Within
by Lora Keddie
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I do believe in spooks, I do believe in spooks. I do, I do, I do, I do believe in spooks, I do believe in spooks, I do, I do, I do, I do! - Cowardly Lion, Wizard of Oz
I sat there ready to run or to throw up. I wasn't sure which. The doorknob turned, a book fell on the shelf –at least I thought it was the shelf because it was pitch dark. I sat in tears in the meditation room that had once been filled with fading sunlight, but now was pitchdark. Something brushed my face softly. Something touched my back. Then I heard a whisper and my mind screamed. I sat there alone wondering in hysteria what feared me more, believing there was something unseen touching me or believing my mind was creating this and I was crazy. I was caught between two fears and it was tearing me apart. Walking to the meditation room before the rest of the retreat group got there for our evening session made sense at the time. I walked there in the light before sunset. My night blindness was bad, and without my eyes to tell me things weren't really there my fears took over. The light was gone now, and I hadn't thought to turn on the lights before I sat down to meditate. Before sitting I had pulled an oracle card. It had a picture of a lion - and the words COURAGE. I couldn't see it now but I knew it laid there in front of me. It's called to me and it called me out. In tears, I laughed, "I'm so more like the Cowardly Lion than the King of the Jungle." There I rocked, I felt, I heard, until the other student arrived. I stayed stuck between those two fears for years. Is what I'm feeling and hearing real? Or am I going insane? These fears were surrounded by more. Mainly the fear of telling anyone what I was going through. Both are not exactly socially acceptable. I was caught, and I was spinning. I was becoming more and more miserable. My mental, emotion and physical health was taking a toll.
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I hit my rock bottom. I say, MY rock bottom, because I believe you can continually spiral down infinitely until YOU decide enough. I was in my "dark night of the soul", or as I like to put it, my "dark monkey forest" on the path to Oz. The details of this darker period aren't important. We all of them. It's what got me out that's important. COURAGE. I decided to face my fears. I signed up to work with a Shaman to intentionally learn to contact spirits. It happened to be in the town where my stepdaughter was attending college. I walked up to the front gate, and then proceeded to turn around and get back into my car. I called my step-daughter up and asked her to go to dinner. At dinner I told her all my "What if" fears. She listened and said, "What's the harm in just trying?" Sometimes you have to borrow a little bravery until you can find your own. I walked through those gates and had the most profound experience of my life. I met my spirit guides and over the years I've become more fluent in conversing with them and others spirits. I was the Cowardly Lion. I had been sitting in the dark monkey forest, and here comes Dorothy, The Tin Man, and The Scarecrow, aka my spirit guides. They are heading to Oz... they want to invite me on the journey, but I'm going to scare them and tell them to go away and leave me here, even though I terrified of this place. What I really was - was afraid of myself. I took courage to acknowledge who I was. I had to find a deep, deep love for myself first that gave me the courage to find the brave lion that was inside of me. It's not that suddenly I said, "I love me! I'm not afraid!" I wish. It took time and patience. Each brave step lead
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to another brave step. I met obstacles, but each time I took the path of unconditional love for myself those obstacles became small. I had fears of abandonment of family and friends, lost of work. My family, friends and work evolved with me. All are richer than ever because of my courage to be myself. As for my work... it evolved too. My fears have now become my work. My biggest hold back was thinking my fears were special. Yours aren't either, no matter how much
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you try to convince yourself they are and no one will understand. Your fears that you are so in love with are not keeping you safe. They are keeping you a shadow of yourself. We all have a lion inside. I found my lion inside. This Cowardly Lion too found her courage hiding away in the land of Oz. She roars with delight when I now introduce myself now... Lora Keddie - spirit talker.
Dani Palacio
Conversation. Connection. Community. With each new day a part of ourselves awakens. We are eternal and we are born of love. I've been many things in my life and today I get to choose who I am and how I want to feel. Let's meet heart to
heart.
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{ soul food } Warm Up with Harvest Inspired Recipes prepared by Dani Palacio
Pumpkin Bread 1 ½ cup sugar ½ cup oil 2 eggs 1 cup pumpkin 1 tsp ea. of cloves, nutmeg, cinnamon & allspice (fyi…I’m liberal with the cinnamon and nutmeg) 1 tsp ginger 1 ¾ cups flour ¼ tsp baking powder 1 tsp baking soda 1 tsp salt ½ cup water This recipe is delicious and can easily be made into muffins or mini loaves of bread. Add a bit of cream cheese frosting to make into a delicious and decadent dessert!
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Directions: 1. Mix the ingredient in the order list above…sugar, oil, eggs and pumpkin then add the spices. 2. Once mixed together then add the dry ingredients and lastly the water. This is a very forgiving batter but don’t over mix it. 3. Bake at 350° for 35 minutes or 325 degrees for 60 minutes. Makes 2 – 1lb loaves. Optional Variations: ½ cup cranberry or raisin, ½ cup nuts or dates. The Healthier Options: Substitute sugar with coconut palm sugar, use coconut oil or butter (just melt it first) versus canola or vegetable and feel free to use organic ingredients! *Recipe taken from the Saint Elizabeth Anne Seton Church Cookbook, Isanti Minnesota circa 1976. I still have the original and it’s a childhood favorite! Thanks to the mothers and women who shared their special recipes!
Chicken Kale Soup 1 whole chicken 1 medium yellow onion 3 cloves of garlic 1 tbls dried rosemary 1 tbls dried thyme 4 medium red potatoes (peel & cut) 1 large bunch of your favorite kale (chopped) 2 large carrots (peel & dice) salt & pepper – to taste Serves 4-6
Directions: 1. Either cut up your chicken or get a pre-cut chicken with skin and bones. 2. Add chicken to a soup pot, then add cut up onion and whole garlic cloves with herbs then add water to cover. I add the salt now to cook with the chicken but you can wait until the end as well. 3. Boil and simmer for 30 minutes. Then strain the chicken and keep the stock. 4. Once chicken is cool, debone and cut chicken into nice size pieces. 5. Add the chicken back to broth then add peeled and cut potatoes, chopped kale and diced carrots. 6. Bring to boil and then simmer for 20 minutes. 7. Adjust seasonings – salt and pepper. 8. Feel free to add some red chili flakes or some fresh parsley. I sometimes like to add a half of fresh squeezed lemon to add a bit of brightness to the soup.
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Coconut Curry Butternut Squash Soup 2 butternut squash 1 medium onion 3 garlic cloves 1 tsp cinnamon ½ tsp nutmeg 1-2 tbls curry (to your taste) 1 medium sweet potato or yam 1 medium apple 1 can of coconut cream + 1 can of coconut milk** coconut oil salt & pepper red pepper flakes 2-4 cups vegetable broth
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Directions: This is super simple since it will all be blended so no need to cut or dice anything to perfection. So here we go… 1. Use a large soup pan. Peel and cut the butternut squash. Set aside. 2. Cut up onion and add to pan with 1-2 tbls of coconut oil, salt lightly and let onion sauté. Add garlic cloves and curry powder. Simmer for a couple of minutes. 3. Then add squash, yam, and apple. Cover with vegetable broth or water depending on what option you chose. 4. Add the cinnamon and nutmeg. You can also add the red pepper flake at this time. 5. Simmer for 20-30 minutes until all is tender in the pan. 6. Then either use a blender or hand blender to liquefy the soup. 7. Then add the coconut milk/cream. You can adjust the thickness by adding water or more vegetable broth. Always adjust to your taste. 8. Top with toasted croutons, roasted pumpkin seeds, or bits of cranberry. Enjoy!! **FYI: you can use 2 cans of coconut milk if you can’t find the cream. Trader Joe’s sells the cream.
There’s this amazing team we each have, that want us to live fuller, happier and healthier lives. I’m just here to help you hear them.
Lora Keddie spirit talker
for individuals: Spirit Guidance Readings and Divination, Power Animal Retrieval, Extraction, Soul Release, Soul Retrieval
for homes & businesses: Clearing, Saging & Blessing
lora@lorakeddie.com | lorakeddie.com
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by Kerry Swenson
All parents want to be the best parent we can be. We are providers, nurturers, protectors, moralizers, entertainers, and peacekeepers all wrapped within one body. As a parent to three highly sensitive and empathic girls under the age of six, there are many things that I must do, be and teach daily. There are challenges to overcome and at times it can be overwhelming. When you are raising a sensitive empathic child (let alone three) what would seem to someone else as a little issue can seem semi-crippling to a sensitive child. A paper cut on a finger can be so painful to the sensitive child that they cannot think of anything else but the pain. A bad dream at night can make a sensitive child physically ill the next day. A child at the park who uses mean words to a sensitive child can hurt their spirit so much that they will want to leave the park. Helping my sensitive children through all of these scenarios (and many more), I have learned to try to keep them focused on the positive things around them. If we don't focus on the things we are grateful for and the things that are good in our life, a sensitive empath could easily spiral into a world of darkness and negativity. Over time, I now realize the feeling that always keeps
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Teach Gratitude
us grounded and present is gratitude. By learning gratitude, children can look outside themselves and understand the things they have and what people do for them (give hugs and kisses, wash their clothes, brush their teeth). Instilling gratitude in children will help them be more optimistic and will benefit your child throughout their whole life. Here are a few ways to help teach children the gift of gratitude.
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Work gratitude into your daily life. You are the most important model for your child. Talk out loud to your children about what you are grateful for. “I love the sound of the rain on the roof while we are all cozy inside.” “Our dog, Boo, is the cutest and best dog ever!” “It makes my heart happy when you listen to my directions the first time.” Our family talks about what we are thankful for and what our favorite part of the day was at dinner time. It is the part of the day that we are all together and it is a great way to have positive conversations. When you make gratitude a part of your everyday routine it is more likely to remain with you.
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Have your children participate in daily jobs around the house. There are many jobs that even very small children can do to help your household community. My eighteen month old daughter (with the help of her four year old sister) will feed our dog. An eighteen month old can scoop food out of a bag and put it into the dog bowl. My oldest daughter who is six has been helping clear the dishes from the table and bring them to the sink after a meal. Not only is she proud to be old enough and responsible enough to do this, but it is hard work. She appreciates it more when I am doing the dishes because she has more of an understanding of the work it entails. I know that it would be easier if I just did these little chores myself, but my children are learning that even these little jobs take an effort. My daughters are more grateful for the bigger jobs that get done.
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Doing small acts of kindness lets my children see how we can participate in helping others. When we had a new next door neighbors moving in, my girls and I decided to bake them some scones. We all walked the treat over to the new neighbors. We also gave some to the movers who were working so hard moving all their furniture. Our new neighbors were so thankful for this gesture and my girls were so proud of themselves. Another act of kindness that we have done is when I am getting a load of things ready to donate to a local charity. I always have my daughters look to see if they have any toys that they could give to a child in need. They always find something and are happy it will go to another child who doesn’t have any toys.
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Mastering the art of saying “no” to your children is also important. We have all been there. You are in a store when your child begins screaming and throwing a tantrum because they want a toy. They believe that they will not live unless they have that toy at that moment. And just to not make a scene and to make your child happy and quiet you may consider buying that toy. But it is very difficult, if not impossible, to feel grateful when your every desire is granted. If you as a parent are able to say “no” to your child (and possibly leaving the store), when you do get to say “yes” it is just that much more beautiful! Over time, gratitude will continue to develop in you and your children. Through challenges, accomplishments, disappointments, celebrations and successes, love and gratitude are always there to guide you. So remember the next time you want to scold your child for jumping on the bed: be grateful that they have arms and legs and they are healthy enough to be jumping on the bed, and then scold them!
About our guest writer: Kerry Swenson
Kerry Swenson is an early childhood, special needs, and parent educator and advocate. She has more than ten years experience helping children grow in peaceful, healthy and spiritual ways. Kerry lives in Portland, Oregon with her husband and three highly intuitive and empathic daughters.
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{ soul words } Often a word pops into our heads (hearts) that summarizes what we are going through, what we need to work on, or what we are noticing evolving in front of us. These words have significance when we look at them deeply and apply them in the here and now, and can have deep soul understandings. Here are a few words that have bubbled up for us this season.
cu⋅ri⋅os⋅i⋅ty
An aroused desire to seek out what has yet to be seen or known. An inquisitive call from within to explore the unknown places. Our soul’s most natural gift. A chance to see life through the eyes of a child.
rich
sumptuous, opulent, luxurious, luxury, deluxe, lavish, gorgeous, splendid, magnificent, costly, expensive, fancy; informal posh, plush, ritzy, swanky, classy, swank.
be⋅lief
: an acceptance that a statement is true or that something exists. : trust, faith, or confidence in someone or something.
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What did you do as a child that made the hours pass like minutes? Herein lies the key to your earthly pursuits. ~Carl Jung
{ soul art }
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We are all artists. Each of us, gifted with a unique expression of soul. It’s not necessary to call yourself an artist, we just want to see and experience your soul through any medium you wish to use. Whether it’s through the stroke of your paintbrush, or an image frozen in time from the lens of your camera is up to you. Each piece is a celebration of soul and our hope is that as you look into each image you will feel inspired, connected, and ushered in to your own beautiful creativity. If you would like to share your expression of soul with the rest of our community, please email us at soullifezine@gmail.com.
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about Dani Palacio
about Joey Paynter
I’m an international citizen of our glorious planet. I’m an intuitive woman standing tall in my power and a lover of all things joyous. I’m a creator of sacred safe space for others and myself so we may all live in our authentic expression. I’m a woo-woo wonder of magic and light. My soul is my guide. I’m a fierce and loyal friend. I love my family. I am a baker, cake decorator, intuitive cook and creator of yumminess. I really am just a big kid who loves to have fun in the most delicious ways.
I’m an artist and a wounded healer. I’m constantly entering into the unknown edges of the shadow world with the intention to help others see their beauty, especially if it’s been hidden in the ashes. I’m a photographer, a teacher, a healer, a speaker, and a storyteller. I believe stories hold the magic of our souls.
My current passions include conversations, offering my experience as a guide for others, and dreaming my life into existence. I am blessed to have had many experiences and roles such as worldwide marketing manager, life coach, Reiki Master, teacher, workshop facilicator and now I’m offering a series of classes on Sacred Living, offering one-on-one mentoring and trusting my guides and the Universe for continued guidance. To learn more about me, I invite you to my personal website www.danipalacio.com and feel free to connect directly by emailing me at
dani@danipalacio.com.
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My diverse background in psychological studies and my ever-growing passion for empowering the human soul has led me around the world to work with others in giving a voice to their story. I attained a B.S. in Psychology and Religion from James Madison University, a Masters in Clinical Psychology from Vanguard University, and am currently in the process of attaining my Ph.D in Depth Psychology at Pacifica Graduate Institute. I’ve also completed a 2-year SoulArts apprenticeship program under a practicing Shaman, which has helped me attune to the spirit world. I’ve worked with individuals and groups for over 15 years and I specialize in relational struggles, depression, anxiety, and (re)discovering one’s dreams. I’ve traveled extensively to over 40 countries as a counselor, healer, lecturer, and photojournalist, You can view my work at www.joeypaynterphotography.com and www. aseekersjourney.com and please feel free to drop me a note anytime.
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about Lora Keddie I am gardener, a writer, a business owner, a farmer's wife, and... an Empath and a Spirit Talker. There I’ve said it. It’s taken me years to admit it, understand and accept it. Now in doing so, I’ve opened my life to this amazing world. For years I tried to block, hide and get rid of my abilities thinking that I just might be insane. With love and support, I’ve learned to hear spirit and to travel through worlds that many of us have yet to experience. I study Shamanism, which is a practice of direct relevation through listening to your own intuition, soul and your loving spirit guides. With the aid of sirits I can help heal and open souls. Lovingly nicked named Pandora Lora, since working with me you’ll often find yourself opening to something more… more that is out there and the more that is available in you. I help to open the “box” that’s been closed in you, and the box you’ll find doesn’t want to be closed again. All that being said, there is very much I’m still learning. I believe I always will be learning and feel that sharing my experiences through this journey just might help the next person who is waking up to this wild and wonderful life. Whatever it is that you are trying to open up to, please feel free to contact me. If I can’t help, I may be able to direct you to someone who helped me.
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