health&wellness By Deborah Duley, MSW, LMSW
Girl, Put That Crystal Ball Away! I know who you are. You. Yes, you! You’re the one who is always predicting what could happen, what might happen, what should happen, and then spiraling down the rabbit hole worrying about all the freaking possibilities of each tiny possible outcome (even if it’s virtually impossible for it to come true). I see you, girl. And believe it or not, this kind of “crystal ball” thinking is quite common among those of us who are struggling with anxiety and even among us high-achieving, successful women.
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It’s part of why you’re successful, right? The ability to be prepared for every possible scenario is not necessarily a bad thing. And actually, it’s a good way to keep anxiety at bay, too (more on that later). But, it can be debilitating to imagine all the possible horrific negative outcomes because this just feeds into your anxiety monster and makes you feel worse. So, here’s a little tip: Write down the event you are worried about (not the worries, but the actual event/ conversation/meeting, etc.) and then write down all the positive outcomes of what you’re hoping for. Example: You’re supposed to give a report at your meeting WELCOMING NEW THERAPISTS Francesca Orfila, MSW, LMSW Seeing girls & teen girls in Dunkirk Mindy Hill, LGPC Seeing girls & teen girls in Leonardtown
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tomorrow. You’re terrified you are going to freeze up, forget your words, be made fun of and then get fired (see what I did there?). Instead, let’s rewind. You’re giving a report tomorrow at your meeting. You talk confidently and smoothly, using your PowerPoint and notes that you created to keep yourself on task. Your co-workers praise you and your boss remarks how helpful
your presentation was. You nailed it! Whew, that was MUCH better! Notice how differently you feel when you imagine all the positive outcomes that will happen instead of worrying about how you’re going to screw it all up? Next time you see this coming, try this little tweak and let us know if it works for you. Happy anxiety slaying!
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