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health&wellness By Karl A. Smith, DDS, MS

Resolve to Take Better Care of your Teeth Are you ready to eat right, toss the cigarettes, and “sweat to the oldies”? New Year’s resolutions are most often about leading healthier lifestyles, but we don’t think about including our mouth in those thoughts. They may just be the most important part of keeping us healthy, especially during COVID-19. This year we saw heightened complications in the midst of the pandemic in patients with tooth and gum issues. Tooth decay and gum disease is a major health problem that does not normally get a lot of New Year-New You, attention. In fact, 80 percent of adults have some form of gum disease. Many are not aware of the diagnosis, symptoms, or its lasting effects. People with gum disease are more likely to develop diabetes or

heart disease. Pregnant women increase their risk of delivering low-birth weight and premature babies, and periodontal disease has been linked to increased risk of Alzheimer’s and Pancreatic Cancer. Periodontal disease presents inflammation in the body, which can lead to an increased risk of breathing difficulty, causing devastating, life-threatening impact to patients who have been hospitalized with COVID-19. There is no better day than today to take better care of your mouth and teeth. A few tips: • Brush twice daily: Mouths are your front-line defense for bacteria that damages not only your teeth and gums, but also other organs and systems in your body. • Floss daily: Your toothbrush cannot reach between

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your teeth where bacterial film likes to build up. Daily flossing cleans the spaces between teeth, depriving bacteria of a safe haven. • Get two professional dental cleanings a year: Your dental hygienist supplements your daily brushing and flossing by cleaning the pockets where bacteria may escape your own routine. Additionally, the hygienist provides a vital screening for problems between dental checkups. • Schedule an annual dental check-up: Preventative dentistry is better for your health – and much cheaper – than dealing with major dental problems. • Visit a periodontist for gum evaluation: All adults should have full periodontal examination once a year. This important assessment provides you and your dentist with a baseline measurement to record your pocket depth (space between your teeth and gums), the presence of gum disease, gum recession, bleeding, tooth mobility and plaque build up. • Eat, drink and be wary: The enemy of oral health is a group of natural bacteria that thrives on sugar and dissolves the protective enamel covering the teeth. Refined sugar is present in an overwhelming number of foods and is part of the modern diabetes “epidemic.” This year, make a commitment to tooth and health-conscious eating habits. • Consider a new and stronger smile: Getting dental implants and crowns for missing or broken teeth isn’t a luxury; these problems

can have a domino effect that will leave you with shifting teeth, a vulnerability to gum disease, and other growing damage. These necessary restorations will improve your quality of life and your long-term health. Do not wait for slight gum problems to become severe. Get screened and seek an expert evaluation from a periodontist today. Improving your dental health and preventing tooth decay can have a larger health impact than just a healthy mouth and brighter teeth – it may just save your life. Dr. Karl Smith Karl Smith has been in dental practice for more than 34 years. He received his Doctor of Dental Surgery degree from the University of California, Los Angeles in 1981. He retired from the US Air Force as a Lt. Col, in 1996. Dr. Smith has advanced education in the specialty of Periodontics with additional training in Sedation and Dental Implants. He is consistently voted TOP DENTIST by his peers and listed in several publications including Washingtonian Magazine.

health&wellness By Dr. Mansi Vaishnav, Brem Foundation

Breast Screening 101: What to Expect During a Mammogram to protect herself from the exposure. Once the images are done, your exam is complete.

You’ve scheduled your mammogram - great work! Here’s information on what to expect during your visit. Women at average risk for developing breast cancer should begin getting annual mammograms at age 40, and earlier if breast cancer runs in their family. If there is a history of breast cancer in a first-degree relative (i.e. your mother, sister, or grandmother), then you should begin screening 10 years prior to their age at diagnosis or at age 40, whichever comes first. When you arrive at the breast center, you’ll check in at the front desk and will be asked for your insurance card if you have one. Before the exam, you’ll be asked to change into a medical gown. The technologist will place radiodense stickers on your skin on top of any moles, scars, or raised skin lesions so the radiologist is aware of them while interpreting your images. This does not hurt at all. It is also important to provide the technologist with your medical

history especially pertaining to your breasts. A mammogram machine is a tall standing structure that uses X-rays to image the breast tissue. The technologist will position your breasts in the mammogram machine and apply compression. The pressure can feel somewhat uncomfortable at first, but you are only required to be in compression for a few seconds at a time while the images are taken. Compression is important because it decreases the radiation dose to the patient and decreases the time to obtain the images. Once you are in an optimal position, the technologist will leave the room. She will then take multiple images from behind a glass wall. The radiation in a mammogram is very minimal and nearly inconsequential to each patient, however, because the technologist performs this process on many patients throughout the day, she needs

After the images are taken, your mammogram will be interpreted by a radiologist who will generate a report with the results. The results will include a finding of any new or dominant masses, asymmetries, or calcifications. If a mammogram is completely clear and has no findings to report, that is considered a BI-RADS category 1 or negative. If there are findings to report that are stable or do not require a further evaluation, then it is reported as a category 2 or benign. If there is a finding that needs further evaluation or work up, then it is reported as category 0 for further evaluation. The radiologist interpreting your images will also evaluate breast density. Breast density is the amount of connective tissue (or fibrous tissue) versus fatty tissue in your breasts. There are four categories of breast density, ranging from category A (fatty or not dense) to D (extremely dense). On the mammogram, the fibrous breast tissue appears gray or white, and fatty tissue appears black or dark gray. The four categories of breast density are: 1. Almost entirely fatty 2. Scattered fibroglandular density 3. Heterogeneously dense 4. Extremely dense The sensitivity of mammograms decreases with increasing breast density. Therefore, supplemental screening with ultrasound or MRI should be considered in those with a category 3 or 4 breast density.

After the test, you’ll receive a report in the mail within 30 days or uploaded to your medical portal. The doctor who ordered the mammogram will also receive a copy of the same report. The report will often include information about your breast density, based on your mammogram images. Make sure to learn your breast density and if you have dense breasts, request an ultrasound in addition to your mammogram. It is very important to keep up with yearly screening exams to maximize your chances of finding cancer early – when it’s most treatable and survival rates are the highest. The most helpful tool for a radiologist when evaluating your mammogram is comparison to prior exams. If you have prior examinations from an outside institution, it is highly recommended to obtain those studies for comparison. Remember: Annual mammograms are the key to saving lives. Dr. Mansi Vaishnav is a 2020-21 Alumni Brem Fellow and works closely with the Brem Foundation to Defeat Breast Cancer to maximize women’s chances of catching early, curable breast cancer. Dr. Vaishnav is currently a Breast and General Radiologist at Comprehensive Radiology Services in Hattiesburg, MS. Led by Dr. Rachel Brem, the Brem Fellowship is the only breast imaging fellowship in the country that combines advanced breastimaging training techniques with community service and public outreach.

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“Stengthen Your Soul, Body and Mind ” Have you been looking to enhance your exercise routine and improve your strength, balance, flexibility and coordination? Would you like to join a community of like-minded people guided by the expertise of a knowledgeable instructor? Are you ready to make an investment in yourself, your fitness and your overall health? 10

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If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, then you may be interested in an exciting new exercise option open in Southern Maryland. Club Pilates SOMD is conveniently located in the shopping center with Harris Teeter at 44940 St. Andrews Church Road in California, Maryland. Club Pilates, introduced by local business owners Gary and Kathy McKay, promises clients a new kind of fitness experience designed to challenge muscles, relieve stress, and foster a mind-body connection.

“We are really excited to have brought Club Pilates to Southern Maryland in 2020. Compared to other popular fitness programs, Pilates is a fantastic option for everyone, from beginners to athletes to seniors to individuals experiencing back pain or other health issues,” said The McKays, adding that Pilates is a “tried-andtrue” fitness program developed by German physical trainer Joseph Pilates with a proven track record of benefits, including increased strength and stability, improved posture and balance, and greater endurance.

to return to the US and started with Club Pilates opening their first two studios in Pennsylvania in 2019. After some delays from COVID-19, they were able to continue to expand in Maryland with the goal of creating a space where the Southern Maryland community could enjoy the benefits of Pilates. “Being healthy and feeling good is something important to us, and we would love for everyone to experience the rewards of taking care of themselves. Pilates is especially fantastic because it is accessible to so many people,” said the McKays. A low-impact exercise routine, Pilates uses classic movements and emphasizes correct form and technique, with a focus on strengthening the core. At Club Pilates, one major benefit is the availability of specialized equipment, including the Reformer, EXO-Chair, Bosu Ball, TRX Suspension Trainer, springboards and more, for maximum effectiveness.

Born and raised in St. Mary’s County, Gary McKay has always had a passion for helping others in his community improve the quality of their lives. Following several years of debuting fitness facilities in Belize, Central America, Gary and his wife decided

“Pilates is an excellent workout for anyone because we can tailor it to individual needs. If you’re a beginner, someone who is experiencing chronic back pain, injury or other health conditions, a new mother, or someone who is experienced in fitness and is looking for a new challenge – Club Pilates will benefit you because an instructor would be able to recommend the correct form, modifications, and appropriate amount of tension in the equipment,” explains Tere Hubler, Lead Instructor at Club Pilates SOMD. Expert instructors and small class sizes are just two of the benefits offered by Club Pilates. Instructors are required to

Private Training Available In addition to small group classes, Club Pilates also offers personal Pilates instruction in their dedicated private training room. A oneon-one training session affords you the privacy and undivided attention necessary for your Club Pilates instructor to acquaint themselves with your unique situation, while they tailor your workout for your optimal benefit. Contact us today at 301-686-7799 to learn more!

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be certified with a minimum of 500 hours of comprehensive training, and classes are designed to both create a sense of community while still allowing individual instruction designed to help every client achieve their goals.

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“We currently offer more than 60 classes a week at varying hours and varying levels, according to our clients’ needs,” said the McKays, noting that they will continue to adjust class availability as required.

In the summer of 2020, I was diagnosed with Peripheral Arterial Disease (PAD) in my lower extremities and I had to undergo the first medical procedure in July and a second more invasive surgery in September. This was the surgery that would ultimately change the quality of my life. I spent the next three and a half weeks in a walker then the next three months using a cane in order to maintain balance. My good friend, Christina, suggested I look into Pilates as a possible means of strengthening my core and improving my balance, which I did. After some research I signed up in December of 2020 and, in short, Pilates and my instructors saved my life!

However, more than just a physical workout, Pilates also emphasizes a mind-body connection. The premise of Pilates is to bring balance back to your body. As you perform various movements, you’re fully aware of what you’re doing. It’s a fantastic way to unplug and de-stress in a busy world. For more information on Club Pilates SOMD, visit their Facebook page @clubpilatessomd or stop by their website at clubpilates.com/somd.

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Sheila Simms In August of 2020, I was scrolling through Facebook and saw an advertisement for Club Pilates. I put in my information and was contacted by Stacey, the office manager, to join for a free intro class. I came in, did the intro, loved it and I was hooked! At that time, I had just retired from Simms Insurance Agency and turned 74. I felt that I was getting out of shape and if I wanted to have quality of life I needed to start a low impact exercise program, and that’s when my journey begun! I started going three times a week, which soon increased to six days a week, and some days I would do double classes! I completed 100 classes in the winter of 2020 and by May, I had finished 250 classes. Pilates has helped me with my flexibility and has given me strength. I can move easier even after I had to miss classes due to a knee replacement. I could feel my body was missing Pilates. I am back in classes, enjoying life and working toward my 500th class! Give Pilates a chance and join me working towards a healthy life!

Stacey Hill Following several years of debuting fitness facilities in Belize, Central America, Gary and his wife decided to return to the US and started with Club Pilates opening their first two studios in Pennsylvania in 2019.

I have been a member of Club Pilates Southern Maryland since April 2021. After having surgery, my doctor told me I needed to find an exercise program that was low impact on my knees and joints. My introduction class was easy. The “real” work began in my first class. My instructors keep me motivated to come back when I feel like giving up. I have been taking classes since April 2021. When I started, I could not do planks on the floor mat, getting on and off the reformer was a challenge; doing different exercises such as tabletop positions, working my core area (butts up), and my knees were not cooperating with me. Now, I can do all those things. My knees and joints feel so much better. My mind and body are in tune with one another. I am more active at my church, Leonardtown Church of the Nazarene, and with my family. I can walk a good distance and not be winded, and dance for hours without pain. Pilates has strengthened my soul, mind, and body. It has helped me to build muscle and strength in places that were looking “soft.” I am thankful for the team of instructors who continues to push me to be the best me I have been in years!

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finances By Stephanie Taubert Dali

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law By Attorney Laura T. Curry

Estate Planning: Not Just Your Parents or Grandparents Often, we think estate planning is just for those who are elderly. While the elderly certainly need to have their affairs in order, estate planning is for anyone who cares what happens to them, their things, or their family. For someone who is young and healthy, estate planning may be the furthest thing from your mind. You may be thinking about your New Year’s resolution of going to the gym, celebrating your loved ones’ birthdays, or planning your next family vacation. How could you need estate planning when you have such a busy lifestyle? Accidents

happen, even to the young and active. In fact, according to the Centers for Disease Control, accidents are the leading cause of death of young adults. If you die without an estate plan, each state has one for you, which is known as intestate succession. If you are unmarried, intestacy laws would typically result in everything going to your parents and/or siblings. Unless you have a Will or Trust, you have no say over which member of your family gets your assets or has control. Also, your family members that you wanted to inherit your estate will not be able to receive it just because

you always said it would go to them. Your wishes must be in writing with the appropriate legal formalities.

If you die without an estate plan, each state has one for you, which is known as intestate succession. If you are unmarried, intestacy laws would typically result in everything going to your parents and/or siblings. Unless you have a Will or Trust, you have no say over which member of your family gets your assets or has control. It may be unlikely that you pass young, as most accidents are not fatal. But you could be in medical need due to an accident or illness. For example, consider the case of Terri Schiavo, who collapsed at home at age 26. A battle between her loved ones ensued over her care. Her matter is often referenced as one of the landmark cases of why it’s important to have solid planning in place. In your estate plan, you can detail who you want to make medical decisions for you if you are not able to make them for yourself. Similarly, you can voice your opinion about end-oflife decisions. Another part of an estate plan is a financial power of attorney, which allows someone to make financial decisions for your assets while you are alive. You could give that power to someone so they could act immediately or the power to

act only upon your incapacity. Appointing a trusted family member or friend to act in your stead is essential for items that involve paying your bills, managing your accounts, and handling your affairs. As the saying goes, age is just a number, and you can determine to take control at any point. Sinclair Prosser Gasior can assist with all assets of your estate plan, and you can choose whomever you want to make decisions for you and to receive assets upon your death. Whatever you decide, you will have peace of mind knowing you have planned ahead for any eventuality. Laura T. Curry first became interested in estates and trusts when practicing as a family law attorney at the start of her career. It was quickly apparent to Laura that each family had their own dynamics which shaped their goals and desired outcome. She focuses her practice on estate planning, incapacity planning, and elder law issues. Laura was admitted to the Maryland Bar in 2009, and is a member of the Maryland State Bar Association. She is also a member of the Women’s Bar Association and a member of the American Academy of Estate Planning Attorneys. Laura is dedicated to educating the public on the estate planning choices they can make to provide both financial and emotional security for their families and loved ones. She is currently offering a popular Wills and Trusts seminar online so you can watch from the safety of your own home. To view the details and register for an upcoming webinar, please visit: www.spgasior.com/seminars

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finances By Carlisa Kent

The Age-Old Debate: Cash or Credit? The holidays are behind us, and the New Year has begun. Where are you in the classic struggle of cash or credit? Did you use more credit than cash to get through the holidays? Are you feeling the pinch of “holiday blues”? Let’s look at this age-old debate of cash or credit. Yes, it’s so easy to swipe that credit card. You’ve only spent $7 at Starbucks about 15-20 times this month. You don’t think about it for 30 days… and then you get that statement and cringe at just how many times you’ve swiped.

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You can only spend what you have. Paying with cash

keeps you from spending money you don’t have. This means, if it’s not budgeted for at the beginning of the month, you can’t spend it at the end of the month. Studies show you spend less when spending cash. A study from the Journal of Experimental Psychology: Applied found that its psychologically less painful when you use a credit card over cash because it feels like you’re spending “future” money, rather than present money. Spending cash makes you think about your purchases twice before you spend it.

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to the 2021 Identity Fraud Study released by Javelin Strategy & Research, criminals made off with $13 billion in 2020 by stealing people’s personal financial information. Each time you swipe a credit card, you increase the chance of identity theft.

Cash back. Here’s the truth: cash back rewards programs do not mean money in your wallet. To get $100 back, how much do you need to spend? And when you get that $100, it usually goes to paying off your credit card statement. So, who’s winning here?

Paying with cash keeps you from spending money you don’t have. This means, if it’s not budgeted for at the beginning of the month, you can’t spend it at the end of the month.

Control your spending with tracking. Check that statement. How many times did you swipe at 7-11 or Dunkin Donuts? Why did you spend $100 a week at Giant or Safeway when your grocery budget was $450, and you spent it all at the beginning of the month?

Cash doesn’t come with fees. Some places require a minimum purchase to use a credit card, meaning you may have to spend more than you planned. Some places don’t take credit cards at all, and you must find an ATM machine if you want to make that transaction and often pay a fee. Cash is usually accepted in more locations, with no fees.

Why Do People Use Cards? Making purchases online. I only have two words: DEBIT CARD. Debit Cards are the same as cash in the sense that you can only spend what you have. And it’s just as secure as using a credit card.

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Making travel arrangements. Again, use the debit card. There may be a temporary hold on some funds, but if you budget for your trip just plan for this additional charge. If you don’t have any additional incidentals, you get that deposit back.

The Best Plans are the Ones We Put into Motion How did you do this holiday season? Are you dreading opening your statement this month? Are you wondering how you’re going to make it the next couple of months? Remember your budget does not need to be stressful. It is a habit that alleviates financial surprises. Contact me today and set up a time to go over your plan and how to best execute it. The best plans are the ones we put into motion. My calendar link can be found at https://linktr.ee/ Carlisacares. Carlisa Kent is a Ramsey financial coach, helping individuals to conquer their finances in a smart and sustainable way. She is a graduate of Trinity College, Washington D.C., and a proud mother of four. Having lived through a financial crisis of her own, Carlisa learned to save for her future before the emergency hit. This impactful experience inspired her to help others prepare for the unknown and share her successes.

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Mother’s o str ke

THE PHONE CALL

SEPT. 30, 2006 @ 4 P.M. CALLER ID: CHAMBERSBURG HOSPITAL 717-555-5555

Hello? Hey Dad. Okaay?

What. Happened?

PUSH ON REGARDLESS: A family lesson in love and loss

How. Is. She?

BY: PEGGY ANNE MCALOON

Is there anything I can do? Should we come up? Dad, is she up and talking? Dad, I’ll make some phone calls, then we will come up.

Okay – we want to come up.

Me and my Mom

Peggy Anne, this is your father. Your mother is in the hospital. She’s had a stroke. She was cooking pancakes this morning and slumped over the stove. I got her to the ﬂoor and called 911. We’ve been here all day. She’s been moved up to a room. Well, I’ve left a message for Paul, and you should call Patrick. I’d wait until we know more. No, she’s unresponsive.

Okay, but she is really out of it and doesn’t know what’s going on. Okay, I’m just telling you, so you are not surprised when you get here… she’s unresponsive.

I’m screaming and gasping for air…”momhadastroke, MOMHADASTROKE!” I cry out repeatedly “OH MY GOD OH MY GOD” as Mike leads me back into the house.” Ja nua ry/Februa ry 2022 | SouthernMarylandWoman.com

I hang up the phone, stumble out of the garage and follow the sound of the pressure washer to the front door to find my husband Mike. I don’t remember when I started screaming… MIKE, MIIIKE, MIIIIIKE. He finally turns to see me and drops the sprayer, holding out his hands to me as he walks towards me. I’m screaming and gasping for air…”momhadastroke, MOMHADASTROKE!” I cry out repeatedly “OH MY GOD OH MY GOD” as Mike leads me back into the house and helps me lie on the couch, he’s on his knees, head tilted towards mine, stroking my hair…”shhhh shhhhh shhhhh”. I gulp air until I can repeat what Dad has told me. Mike packs a bag as I scream. We get in the car and Mike begins to drive. I make some phone calls then stare blankly out the car window. My Mom had a stroke. That phone call made a pivotal change in my relationship with Mom. She would never speak a complete sentence with ease nor say “I love you” without a lot of prompting. Mom would never effortlessly rise from a chair nor independently sew a pair of PJ bottoms. Although there were countless more nevermores, there were even more amazing accomplishments... but I’m getting ahead of myself. After recovering medically from the stroke, Mom moved to the fourth floor in-hospital rehab to regain physically as much as she could. John, the social worker, gave me pamphlets about the mechanics and recovery stats of strokes and I was still at a loss. “What am I supposed to do?” I asked. “I’m not sure what you mean,” John replied. “I need a book...My Mom Had a Stroke, Now What Do I Do?” He chuckled and said, “You take it a day at a time.” And that’s what we did. A day, a therapy session, a meal, a laugh, a cry at a time, we supported Mom. Dad knocked being an advocate for Mom out of the park. He cared for all of the minutiae of Mom’s care, from her chemo-ravaged hair to her funky toenail. Dad stood right beside Mom as she fought to get independent enough to return home to live with him for 10 more years, fought to see her first grandchild grow into a smart, talented 18-year-old, fought to hold her next two grandchildren the days they were born, and fought to hold her last grandbaby the day before she died. Mom was full of miracles. Mom’s last breath was a miracle. Her son Paul’s birthday is Sept. 2. As I sat next to Mom’s bed at 12:30 a.m. on Sept. 3, I held her hand and whispered in her ear, “It’s not Paul’s birthday anymore, it’s Sept. 3.” Forty-five minutes later I saw Mom take her last breath and felt her last heartbeat. You see, Mom would never die on her son’s birthday. Mom’s most recent miracle came to me as a grackle bird. On Sept. 2, 2021, without realizing the following day would be the fourth anniversary of Mom’s death, I told a friend that I have never felt the presence of Mom since her death. The morning of Sept. 3, I was on the deck talking with Dad’s lifelong friend, Juanita, sharing stories about Mom. A grackle landed on my knee. When I expressed my awe to Juanita, she simply said, “Do you think she wants us to stop talking about her?” For the next HOUR, this grackle hopped all over me, pecked at my toe ring that was a small ring of Mom’s (ticky tacky, she would say), sat on my head pulling out hairs (she used to pull out my grey hairs), even hopped on my shoulder and pecked at my lips. When I called Dad, he giggled and said, “Mom would have loved that.” I replied, “Dad, I think it IS Mom.” The grackle started ca-cawing over and over again and Dad said, “Is that the bird?” It was as if the grackle was taunting,

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“That phone call made a pivotal change in my relationship with Mom.” Mom and Dad, married 52 years when Mom died

 Mom with her oldest granddaughter R.J.

Mom seated next to her son Paul, who’s holding his son Benjamin, the youngest grandchild. saying “I’m here, I’m here!” I was left teary-eyed and speechless. The next day, Mike and I were selling a car for Dad and the grackle returned for 20 minutes, hopping on Mike’s shoulder, picking at the wife’s jewelry (Mom loved jewelry), hopping across the back of the car, landing on the husband’s arm. This grackle certainly felt like a grand finale of miracles. Mom always had attentionseeking behavior. Mom’s health and subsequent aftershocks brought about a number of lessons for me and my family. As we worked through this new life the

Peggy Anne McAloon lives in St. Mary’s County, Maryland. She has been a daughter to Peggy and Pat for 50 years, an early childhood educator for 34 years, a wife to Mike for 15 years, a Mom to Joseph for 14 years and Julie for 12 years, and a fur-mama to cats Ziggy and Buzz for 1.5 years. She has a passion for encouraging and guiding young children to their fullest potential and writing about her life adventures. To read more, visit www.peggymcaloon.blogspot.com.

“When life is hitting you in the head with oversized lemons, it can be difﬁcult to think “Let’s make lemonade!” But Mom had such a sunny attitude towards situations.”

stroke forced upon us, we realized it is good to make a plan, but we truly had to live one day at a time. Directly after the stroke, we knew our goal was for Mom to come home to live, but we were unsure how long that process would take, what that life at home would look like, or if coming home was even a possibility; we had to wait it out a day at a time. We learned to look at the positives in every situation. Ever since people had to run from wildebeests so as not to be eaten, the human brain has been wired to seek out the negative in order to survive. We have to retrain our brains to be wired towards positive thoughts. When life is hitting you in the head with oversized lemons, it can be difficult to think “Let’s make lemonade!” But Mom had such a sunny attitude towards situations. When she was in the chemo clinic, Mom would hoop and holler, raising her hand in a wave when she saw familiar faces. People laughed and greeted her in what was usually a room full of pain and sadness. Mom enjoyed wearing mismatched crazy socks and funny hats, bringing smiles to everyone around her. It was easy to forget that communication was a frustrating daily struggle, that just getting dressed was a challenge. Mom’s positive outlook made any life she touched a bit easier. We learned the difficult lesson of perseverance. Dad coined the phrase “push on regardless,” which turned into “POR” for short. When we had setbacks, were discouraged by a diagnosis, or just having a low day, Dad would remind us to push on regardless. No matter what was going on, we got out of bed every day and did what needed to be done to make it through another day. Dad has since inspired others with his POR philosophy. A dear friend of our family has passed on the POR phrase to motivate his staff and to inspire people in crisis. Truly, the motivation to push on regardless can be used throughout daily life and that’s just what Mom did and our family continues to do. We learned the difficult lesson of acceptance. Mom was able to spend nine years at home after the stroke. When the Multiple Myeloma started taking its toll on Mom’s strength, the decision was made for her to move into an assisted living facility. I can remember the difficult talk I had with Mom to explain this choice. She cried. She mourned for her home and independence. At one point, our heads bent together, foreheads touching, tears on our cheeks, I said, “Mom, sometimes life doesn’t look like we want it to, but it’s the way it’s supposed to be.” I still reflect upon this lesson today when life isn’t going my way. What would Mom tell you if she could? Look for the positives in every situation. Put on your battle gear and practice some perseverance. Take a deep breath - hold it - slowly let it out, and try to accept life on life’s terms. When all else fails, put on some crazy socks and wear a hat with flair. Sometimes laughter is the best medicine.

Mom with my two children, Joseph and Julie

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community

The Gals Lead Teen Mentorship Program: How Can You Make a Difference in the New Year? January is National Mentoring Month, so we took the time to meet women who mentor teen girls through Gals Lead, part of the Dream Queen Foundation. The foundation was created to serve women and girls, to support one another and celebrate their dreams. Their programs and events offer opportunities to align girls’ careers with passion and purpose. We had the opportunity to meet with Gals Lead facilitators Tatonya Holman, Dee Scott, Maryanna Lanham, Beth Graeme, Maria Thorpe, and Kim Bannister to get more insight on the program and what it means to be a mentor. Why did you decide you wanted to become a Gals Lead Facilitator? Dee: I saw a need in young ladies and wanted to be a part of the solution. I attended a similar program as a teenager and valued the impact it had on my life as a young adult.

them to set goals and write them down is part of helping them to take action. Maryanna: I enjoy the open conversations on topics that are exciting to them. I love seeing each of them change their points of view and learn to empathize with one another.

Kim: I am passionate about helping others and mentoring teen girls to assist them in navigating the many challenges they have and will continue to face.

Beth: I like to ask open-ended questions and if no response, I like to share personal stories to help guide the thought process.

Tell us about a specific girl in your club you feel the program had a major effect on: Tatonya: Heather entered the Club with a yearning to learn and because of her excitement she shared with her friends who also joined the Club. She became our teen ambassador.

Which activity for teen girls is your favorite?

Maria: Come prepared to listen and have an open heart to discuss life challenges through the eyes of a young woman.

Tatonya: If you ask the right questions, you will be able to have them open up.

Maria: I wanted to give back to my community and prepare young ladies for opportunities and future possibilities relating to dreams they have for their future.

Dee: One of my favorite activities is the development of the vision board. Helping

Kim: Patience and communication is key.

Do you have a personal style in facilitating?

Beth: I’d been a member of the association for a long time, and it had a big impact on me and my business. I knew that impact may help someone else.

Tatonya, Maria, Beth & Kim: Sister Circle! A fundamental Gals Lead initiative, it is a safe space to openly share vulnerabilities, deepen connections, and grow from one another.

Tatonya: Get certified, and make sure you share your authentic self. It is so important for the girls to see truly who you are.

If someone wanted to become a facilitator, what advice would you give them before they get started?

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Dee: I met the mother of one of the young ladies. The mom shared how the club helped her daughter and the positive impact I had on her life.

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and a Healthy Environment for All BY ROSA HANCE, GREAT MILLS RESIDENT AND CHAPTER CHAIR OF THE MARYLAND SIERRA CLUB

The air, water and lands across our state have been continually polluted and exploited with disproportionate health impacts on people of color and degraded and diminished natural habitats for all living beings.

ne thing proud Southern Marylanders from all walks of life can agree on: our love for our coastal home. Our treasured Chesapeake Bay watershed includes so many beautiful scenic views to enjoy along the Bay, Potomac, and Patuxent Rivers. Our forests and shorelines are teeming with flora and fauna to the envy of more developed regions of the state and a legacy of rural stewardship. Maryland owes a debt of gratitude to the native peoples who sustainably conserved the beauty and bounty of the water and land for generations. Many of the names of Maryland’s rivers, forested tributaries and coastal wetlands still come from the Piscataway and

other not-yet federally recognized indigenous peoples. But since the founding of our state – even with recent stringent environmental laws – the air, water and lands across our state have been continually polluted and exploited with disproportionate health impacts on people of color and degraded and diminished natural habitats for all living beings. If you look at the foundational documents of our state, the Maryland Constitution you will find that declaration of rights includes free speech, free press, right to vote and right to education and yet mention of the environment is nowhere to be found.

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to the ballot where it can become part of our constitution if approved by voters in November 2022. But it can be done. New York voters recently adopted their version of this Amendment with 68.9% of voters approving. Help us declare the value of clean air, water, and a healthy environment for all, from the first peoples to the most recent immigrant communities. Let us guarantee that stewardship of our earth is fundamental to who we are as Marylanders.

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1. Sign petition: https://bit.ly/scMDEHRA 2. Register for lobby night: mdlobbynight.com

The Maryland Sierra Club is proud to be working alongside diverse partners to amend the State Constitution to guarantee the right to a healthful sustainable environment and to direct the state to act as trustee and steward of our natural resources for current and future generations. As simple as this principle is, the status quo is very strong. Enactment of this Amendment will take large scale organizing, coalition building, and public support to ensure passage by 3/5 majority in the General Assembly legislative session that runs from January through April. If successful, it will head

3. Send a letter or call your elected officials in the Maryland General Assembly 4. Check out sierraclub. org/maryland/calendar for more events

SIERRA CLUB MOTTO:

TO EXPLORE, ENJOY, AND PROTECT THE PLANET The Maryland Chapter of Sierra Club has more than 70,000 members and supporters and our local group in Southern Maryland always needs volunteers! Our organization is unique in that much of the work is done by volunteers, supported by a small number of paid staff for the whole state. We work together to protect the environment in Maryland, and we cannot do it without you. Please consider a gift of any size today.

“The Sierra Club Maryland Chapter is an inclusive and diverse organization that prioritizes both people and the planet. They have created a resilient community that is always looking for new ways to learn and grow, even during a pandemic. I will continue to support the Chapter; it is an honor to volunteer surrounded by so many powerful women.” - Ashley Cobaugh, volunteer social media coordinator

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health&wellness By Kyle Webber

Summer Camp Brings Happiness to Kids During Tough Times “Kids have changed during the pandemic!” I have heard this a lot lately, and in part I’m inclined to agree. However, I think that kids are constantly changing. Ask yourself how many times you have heard the phrase: “When I was a kid…” (you can fill in the rest). The fact of the matter is that times change. Fifteen years ago, if you’d told someone your kids were watching cartoons on your cell phone, they’d probably have been amazed. Nowadays, it’s the norm. There’s no denying that Covid-19 has had an effect on children. As a matter

of fact, I want to go on the record now and predict that in five years the pundits will be calling young people the Covid generation, or maybe generation ‘Rona. But it’s not just the kids who’ve changed through the last two years. I think you could argue that adults have changed through the pandemic too. Although culture, behavior, and people change from one generation to the next, there is a universal constant that no one can escape: Children need structure and to learn. Every year at my academy, we run a summer camp. The camp provides an outlet

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where kids can practice selfdefense, meet new friends, get plenty of exercise, and learn about the five tenets of Taekwondo: Courtesy, Integrity, Perseverance, Self-Control, and Indomitable Spirit. Back in March of 2020, when the State of Maryland entered lockdown (the word still gives me an uneasy feeling), I thought that it’d be two weeks before we were back up and running. How silly I was. By the beginning of May, our classes were still significantly restricted, and at that time the prospect of running a youth camp in June seemed very slim. However, that’s just what we did. By the end of May in 2020, many of the restrictions that effectively closed my academy were lifted and the governor of Maryland, Larry Hogan, announced guidance for youth camps. Due to the hard work and adaptability of our staff, that season we were able to pull off one of the best years of summer camp to-date. The camp in 2020 was fascinating. There were some obvious changes from previous years. We had to compartmentalize our kids

into pods, and everyone wore a mask. But all things considered, it went extremely well. During that time, it felt like we were back to ‘normal’. The really interesting part was how much the kids seemed to relish being around other people their age. We saw a huge increase in comradery among the groups and it was FUN! Moreover, we ran the entire summer with a single case of Covid-19. By the start of the 2021 camp season, we really reached our stride running a camp in the era of Covid, and things were better than ever. Here’s the point: Structure, safety, discipline, exercise, and healthy relationships tend to make for happy, healthy kids. At Black Belt Academy we can offer all of that and more. So, no matter what the obstacles, we will continue to work hard and use Taekwondo to make sure that every kid in Calvert County has the place to build strong bodies, strong minds, and learn good self-defense. Black Belt Academy is licensed by the Maryland Department of Health- Youth camp certificate: 04-YC-13177

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BY MEGAN JOHNSON

I’m generally pretty patient and understanding with myself. I’m human, you know? Just a frizzy-haired, doing-herbest human. But for the last seven years, friends, I’ve been carrying around some serious mom guilt — a heavy sack that has lightened with time, but still weighs on me with the disappointing knowledge that I . . . I . . . I never read any pregnancy or childrearing books. None. Newly pregnant with my son Oliver in 2014, I remember walking into a bookstore intent on purchasing “What to Expect When You’re Expecting.” I was so excited about this rite of passage that I’d even wrapped up my second breakfast (or was it third?) quickly so I’d have more time to browse on my lunch break. Copy in hand, I was ready to be enlightened on the journey ahead. I’d learn everything I possibly could and be so totally ready for childbirth! Then I’d move on to the “first year” books for newborns. I’d be calm and knowledgeable. It would be fine! All fine! That lasted all of 30 seconds. A minute, max. Because as soon as I started skimming the pregnancy guide, the details — and birth-y buzzwords — made me sweaty. I looked up themes in the massive index, thinking that would be less

overwhelming than the endless maw of the internet, but my heart was pounding. It was too much. Completely overwhelming. I didn’t know everything I didn’t know... until I did. And for perhaps the first time ever, I left a bookstore empty-handed. Of course, I soon realized childbirth was just the beginning; we’re expected to raise an actual human being next. Looking through a gifted copy of the American Academy of Pediatrics’ “Caring For Your Baby and Young Child” was enough to make me question whether I was capable of peeling a banana independently. There was just so much to worry about! So much that could go wrong! Crushed by hormones, I remember turning to my husband in tears. “What happens if an eyelash gets in their eye?” I sputtered. “How will we even know?” I don’t know if “eyelash injuries” are covered in the academy’s tome, but we have 935 pages of opportunity there. In my defense, even if I had devoured the books, there’s so much about parenthood that’s impossible to understand before sliding into the trenches. Those trenches, for example? They’re loud. Sometimes I wonder if my children were born with an extra set of vocal cords.

Surely, there is a biological reason for why my 6- and 4-year-old are inadvertently imitating WWE announcers at 6 a.m. The best is when they accuse the other of “talking over” them, thus requiring both Hadley and Oliver to carry on two shouted conversations simultaneously. Add in whatever “Hamilton” tune I was listening to and whip for a frothy mommy meltdown. Those are the times I think, you know, maybe I should have studied up more for this parenting gig — only the most important job of my lifetime. And encased in those baby books could have been the magical key to volume control! How would I even know? I still have the book . . . you know, just in case. So if you need me, I’ll be checking the index for “inside voices.” Probably covered right around eyelashes. Megan Johnson is a lifelong Marylander who adds Old Bay to vanilla ice cream. Author of the former long-running “Right, Meg?” column in Southern Maryland Newspapers, she now works in healthcare communications. Megan lives with her husband and two children near Waldorf. Reach her on Instagram at @writemeg.

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pa ion profile Kaprece James is a social entrepreneur and active duty United States Marine Corps spouse. She has been volunteering and working in the nonprofit sector for over 25 years. Kaprece is the CEO and Founder of Stella’s Girls.

ON YOUR MOTIVATION What motivated you to become a feminist leader and public service advocate? For as long as I can remember, starting back to Kindergarten, I wanted to be a civil rights attorney. From the age of seven until now, as a 38-year-old, I have volunteered and advocated in the community and been a member of key civic organizations such as NAACP, Delta Sigma Theta Sorority, Incorporated, The Links Incorporated, National Junior Honor Society, National Key Club, etc. As an HBCU graduate of Savannah State

Becoming the CEO and Founder of Stella’s Girls has been an amazing experience. Since 2016, we have provided resources to over 5,000 women and girls in over seven countries. This was accomplished with an allvolunteer staff.

University, my experience in college studying political science made me aware of how policy changes and influences all aspects of our lives and how critical it is to have a voice in spaces that matter. As an active-duty military spouse having to move every two to three years, this experience shaped my view on society. It helped me realize the needs of many communities quickly. These experiences led me to evolve into a feminist leader because women and girls were most often disenfranchised in these communities. ON BEING CEO AND FOUNDER OF STELLA’S GIRLS What has this experience been like? Becoming the CEO and Founder of Stella’s Girls has been an amazing experience. Since 2016, we have provided resources to over 5,000 women and girls in over seven countries. This was accomplished with an all-volunteer staff. My role as CEO is to empower, educate, and train our future leaders. Serving as a CEO of grassroots international nonprofit means that I have no typical days. One day I may be solely focused on Maryland, and the next day I may be in meetings and advocating for females in Sierra Leone or Liberia. I love waking up and going to bed late every day serving our communities on the ground. ON LESSONS LEARNED Advice

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to other women looking to make a difference: Start with what is important to you! Over the last eight years, I have traveled and worked in over 15 countries, and the same has been true; women are dealing with the same issues as mothers, wives, sisters, professionals, advocates, and trying to figure out this thing we call life. If you are interested in serving a community on the ground, find a mentor or volunteer with organizations that share the same passion as you. Our TIME is the most valuable thing we have to offer next to financial support. ON WHAT’S NEXT? What do you hope to accomplish within the next five years? Personally, I hope to start a family of my own as I am a woman who struggles with PCOS and suffers from infertility. I also hope to be awarded my Ph.D. as my work serving has become my priority. As the Founder & CEO of Stella’s Girls, I hope that my team continues to grow and that we have sanctioned Chapters on the ground for women and youth to address the inequities that every community faces. As a feminist and the new Diaspora Vice-Chair for FEMNET, the largest African women’s member organization globally, I hope to bring organizations together to connect, collaborate, create, and be a resource for one another to help our communities around the globe.

In each issue Southern Maryland Woman recognizes a local small businesswoman doing exceptional work in the community, a leader who is paving the way to changing our attitudes and inspiring confidence in the future. To nominate a champion to be featured in an upcoming issue e-mail: oda@southernmarylandwoman.com.

ON YOUR PASSION: In 2012, I started my eight-year journey of traveling back and forth to Liberia, West Africa learning and recognizing the critical need for advocates and resources for females through my work with B4 Youth Theatre. During my time on the ground, I learned that the females we were working with did not have the resources to attend school, work, or access safe menstrual hygiene care. So, in 2013, I began providing resources, holding essentials drives, back to school drives all on my personal time and dime. In 2014, my Marine received orders to Okinawa, Japan. Living in Okinawa for four years allowed my eyes to open even further on the needs of women around the globe and how, as an African American woman, my personal experiences could benefit other women by sharing, providing, and researching resources that could be beneficial to other women in other countries. As I continued to work and provide resources to Liberia and Japan, I was presented with opportunities to work with ambassadors, presidents, and other community leaders in these countries. Due to this continuous work and individuals and organizations asking how to get involved, Stella’s Girls was birthed in 2016.

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