Pastor's Corner

Filling Your Own Cup

BY PAUL HATHCOAT

AS A PARENT raising a child with disabilities, your journey is uniquely challenging and beautifully complex. You may feel overwhelmed, worn down, and often wonder where to turn for strength and encouragement. The Bible offers guidance and inspiration that speaks directly to these struggles, reminding us of the importance of selfcare while highlighting the sacred role of individuals with disabilities in God’s Kingdom. Let’s look at how you can care for yourself, to be able to care for others, from a pastor’s perspective.

The Call to Care for Yourself

As a parent, your instinct is to pour out everything you have for your child—emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Yet, this can often leave you drained. In the Gospels, we find an example of Jesus practicing self-care by retreating to rest and pray. After feeding the five thousand, Jesus “went up on a mountainside by himself to pray” (Matthew 14:23, NIV). Jesus recognized that constant giving without replenishment leads to burnout. If even the Son of God took time to care for Himself, how much more should we?

Scripture encourages self-care because it aligns with God’s design for holistic well-being. In Matthew 22:39, Jesus commands us to “love your neighbor as yourself.” This is not a call to neglect yourself for the sake of others, but a reminder that loving others effectively requires loving and caring for yourself first. As parents, you cannot pour from an empty cup. Prioritizing moments of rest, prayer,and even seeking support when needed allows you to continue to the Burden Together

It’s easy to feel isolated in this journey, as though you must bear the full weight of your family’s unique needs alone. However, Galatians 6:2 calls us to “carry each other’s burdens, and in this way, you will fulfill the law of Christ.”

The Bible consistently encourages community and mutual support. Don’t hesitate to lean on your church family, friends, or support groups. This not only eases your burden but also allows others to fulfill their Christian duty by helping you.

Jesus also speaks directly to those who are weary and burdened, saying, “Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest” (Matthew 11:28, NIV). Surrender your anxieties and troubles to Him, knowing that He walks beside you, carrying your burdens with you.

The Value of Individuals with Disabilities in God’s Kingdom

The Bible is clear about the inherent worth of every individual, regardless of ability. In Exodus 4:11, God reminds Moses, “Who gave human beings their mouths? Who makes them deaf or mute? Who gives them sight or makes them blind? Is it not I, the Lord?”

This verse highlights a profound truth: disabilities are not accidents or mistakes; they are part of God’s divine plan. Your child is fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14), designed with purpose for His glory.

Jesus’ ministry further reveals God’s love and care for individuals with disabilities. He healed the blind, the lame, and the deaf, but these acts were not just about physical restoration. They were signs of His Kingdom— where all are seen, valued, and loved. Your child, with all their unique challenges and gifts, reflects God’s image in a way that no one else can.

In a world that often measures worth by productivity or ability, the Bible offers a radically different perspective. Every person, including those with disabilities, is precious in God’s eyes. Through your child’s life, you have the opportunity to witness God’s grace, power, and love in profound ways. The challenges you face are not in vain; they are part of a larger, redemptive story where your child is a beacon of God’s goodness and glory.

Truth & Challenge

Caring for a loved one living with disabilities is a holy calling, filled with both struggles and blessings. God calls you to take care of yourself so you can be sustained for the road ahead. Trust that in your journey, God sees you, loves you, and has a divine purpose for both you and your people. Be encouraged by the knowledge that individuals with disabilities are not only cherished by God but are crucial to His Kingdom and you can care for yourselves to truly care for them well!

Blessings to you all!

Do you have a thought, idea or information that you would like to see in this section in an upcoming issue? Email Paul Hathcoat at phathcoat@wrcc.org.