EDITORIAL : VIRTUAL LOVE - ONCE YOU FIND IT HOW DO YOU KEEP IT?

I personally have years and years of experience with being in online relationships of all kinds, but I still find many aspects of relationships in general to be challenging. When I hear about the love stories of others, I’m incredibly inspired but then I wonder well what’s wrong with me?? Is that perfect virtual love out there for me too? What if I already found that person many times over, but I kept screwing it up? Very possible!

I went digging on the Internet to see what I could find. What can we do if we want our virtual love to last? What I found isn’t rocket science or anything new under the sun, but sometimes hearing it again can help. I kept thinking hey I did that while I was reading, but still failed. What gives?

Maybe there is an element of fate, destiny, “meant to be” that adds to the best of love stories. And that isn’t something we can find reading on the Internet. But these suggestions are a great start! Maybe you’ll find something useful too.

TALK AND ACTUALLY GET TO KNOW EACH OTHER

At times we get so excited about some one new in our lives that we fail to do the basic; get to know them to see if they are as compatible with us as we think they are before jumping in head first, or with other body parts for that matter. Are we on the same page? We should be!

BE HONEST & TRY TO UNDERSTAND

Not being honest about how we’re really feeling can be one of the biggest causes of our break ups. Also, if our partners are honest we often don’t like what they’re saying, and aren’t making it safe for them to continue being honest. Raises hand guiltily. Worth working on!

SPICE IT UP & DON’T FORSAKE SPENDING “PHYSICAL TIME” TOGETHER

Intimacy and naughtiness in our virtual relationships is just as important as it is in our real life relationships if we want them to last. Making it a high priority to do date nights, and leave little notes and gifts may keep our mates feeling warm and fuzzy, and remembering why he or she fell for us in the beginning. Make playlists with songs that are specifically meaningful and play them periodically. We shouldn’t stop doing those things that worked at first. And should never take one another for granted. Keep the passion alive while we have it so we aren’t having regrets about what we could have or should have done once it’s over.

MAKE A PLAN FOR YOUR LIFE TOGETHER & BE CONSISTENT

Talking about our expectations and making plans for how we’ll spend our virtual lives with our mates may be extremely helpful. You’ve heard that saying if you don’t plan, you plan to fail? Usually it’s in reference to business plans, but I think it applies to our relationships as well. Where are we heading, why are we together? Can’t hurt to figure it out.

DAILY COMMUNICATION & FEELING INCLUDED

Have you been in one of those relationships where you look up and it’s been 4 days since you’ve heard from your mate? You have no idea why they aren’t on or when they’re coming back? Definitely a relationship ender if you didn’t agree to that in the beginning. We should reach out to our loves and keep them informed on how our days are going even if we can’t sign on. Sometimes it’s really the little things that matter so much.

FIND THINGS TO DO TOGETHER ONLINE

If you and your mate have progressed to inserting some real life into your relationship, it may be fun to find things to do together like reading the same book or watching the same series on Netflix, even together if you have the means. Putting effort into finding what connects us can help us with longevity in our relationships if that happens to be what we’re after.

There are plenty of articles offering advice on how to keep our love lives passionately active. Most of them can be translated into what to do for our virtual relationships too with a few modifications here and there. So that you can see this hasn’t been my flawed advice, here are some references!

https://www.healthcarebusinesstoday.com/how-can-you-maintain-a-virtual-relationship-here-are-some-of-the-ways/ https://www.wikihow.com/Maintain-an-Online-Relationship https://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/advice/a2254/Wacky-Ways-to-Show-Your-Love-Online/

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