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FEATURES
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You Only Win by Competing
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A Fine Bromance
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By Ben Cohen
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Calling on Coaches To Help End Bullying (Up2Us Partnership with StandUp Foundation) By Paul Caccamo
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Protecting Your Online Reputation
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From Closeted Coach to LGBT Activist
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8 In Your Face BEN COHEN, MBE, EXECUTIVE EDITOR
10 With You ERIC CARLYLE, CEO/PUBLISHER
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14 From Different to Special CONNIE WARDMAN, EDITOR-IN-CHIEF
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Billie Jean King – A Women’s Sports Diversity Pioneer
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IN EVERY ISSUE The Foundation: Making Sports A Safe Place Food: Paleo to Go Politics: The Potential of Powerful Partnerships to Stop Bullying Campus Life: Overwhelmed by my Teammates’ Support Success: Bullying and the Law of Attraction Sports: Disabled Veterans Add Sports to Rehabilitation Therapy
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INYOURFACE
By Ben Cohen, MBE
The Risk of Sportsmanship
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A LOT ABOUT HOW SPORTS women and men cannot risk their careers to be themselves, to speak out when needed or to stand up for others. As professional athletes we are often “managed” and told what to do and what to say. I think this erases character and harms sportsmanship. The spotlight is a blessing and a curse, to be sure. Everything that happens in it is scrutinized, commented upon, shared across social networks. To protect athletes’ reputations, agents and managers want their clients to just stay quiet, to never risk upsetting a sponsor or getting the backlash of a fan base. The problem with this, of course, is that athletes are role models, like it or not. Our culture needs athletes to speak up, to stand up. If we do not teach others to use their power for good, then sportsmanship itself is at risk. I think we need to be speaking up for every person who wants to play—and standing up for every person who is told he or she cannot. That is one of the primary reasons I am so supportive of Nike’s #BETRUE brand and campaign, and of the LGBT Sports Coalition. StandUp is fully aligned with this work for one reason: too many athletes and organizations think it would be risky. Leadership demands more than fear. Besides, since when are the fundamentals of sportsmanship—dignity, respect, fairness and equality—a risk to anyone? As athletes and sports fans, if we do not stand up for Fallon Fox, who will? If we do not stand up against the ignorance marring the upcoming Olympics in Sochi, Russia, who will? If we do not welcome Jason Collins and Brittney Griner to our teams, who will? If we do not support teens who are bullied or college players who are discriminated against, who will? These are our teams, our games, our athletes. I retired from professional rugby at the top of my career—just named player of the year —to start the world’s first anti-bullying foundation. Was it risky? Many around me said so. But it was not risky; it was right. For athletes at all levels, the character that sportsmanship teaches demands we know not just how to win, but how to win by doing what is right. To not do so risks sportsmanship itself.
Our culture needs athletes to speak up, to stand up. If we do not teach others to use their power for good, then sportsmanship itself is at risk.
Cheers,
Ben Cohen, MBE Founder and Chairman, the Ben Cohen StandUp Foundation
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WITHYOU
By Eric Carlyle
StandUp Magazine Celebrates its First Anniversary
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SAY THAT TIME FLIES WHEN you are having fun. This is definitely the case with StandUp Magazine. I can hardly believe that it has been a year since we first launched our groundbreaking publication and now we are celebrating our first anniversary. For a magazine the first anniversary is by far the most important—it is the “paper” anniversary after all. With a year’s worth of magazines in hand we are very proud of what we have accomplished in the last twelve months. We have brought you meaningful stories demonstrating courage, good sportsmanship, character and anti-bullying messages. We have interviewed individuals from athletes to executives who truly make a difference. Most importantly, we have all learned and grown in the past year, too. It is out of that growth that StandUp Magazine continually evolves. And evolve we will in the coming year. We will continue to bring you the best of sports culture but will do so from new and exciting distribution points. StandUp Magazine will grow in size with more stories, more photographs and more insight. In fact, as we share our insight with you, we look to you, our audience, for insight, too. Be a part of StandUp Magazine by contacting us with great stories, new ideas, letters to the editor or just to provide us with important feedback so we can continually improve on our content. While I take a moment to pause and reflect on the wonderful year past I think it is even more important to look ahead—at what will surely be a great year for StandUp Magazine!
Most importantly, we have all learned and grown in the past year, too.
With you,
Eric Carlyle CEO/Publisher
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By Patrick Davis
The Power of Partnership
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COCA-COLA. KIEHL’S. Some of the most beloved brands have shown their support for StandUp in ways we only ever dared to dream. These consumer favorites do not merely bring the power of their names and reputations to our anti-bullying work, they bring the power of partnership. Together, we can do more. For StandUp, sportsmanship is about togetherness, about what we can do when aligned to do something great. Why? Because sport, when played with character, is about dignity, respect, fairness and equality. Bring who you are, and give all you’ve got. Or, to borrow Nike’s rallying cry: #BETRUE. Playing from a place of truth defines winning for us, and we hope for everyone who buys the StandUp brand. Because of the generosity and confidence of our partners, StandUp is making big progress in our goal to increase anti-bullying awareness, education and funding through everyday purchases. Nike has provided StandUp with an incredible new prototype for our own pop-up shops, which will feature a broader range of new StandUp gear, including a number of amazing new shirt designs. Every purchase helps support the work and grants of the Ben Cohen StandUp Foundation. Coca-Cola showcased StandUp for other corporate and diversity leaders recently, providing us with a platform to share our story and build new relationships. The world’s most valuable brand also generously supported StandUp’s partnership with Up2Us, which uses the lessons of sports to advance youth development. Kiehl’s Since 1851 teamed up with us to launch a special selection of StandUp Sport Essentials during anti-bullying month. With each sale supporting the Foundation, protecting your skin also helps protect young people from bullying. We promised our supporters and ourselves that we were on a journey to create something truly new – a brand that would fund the world’s first anti-bullying foundation. With the incredible power of partnership, that journey is taking the StandUp brand and anti-bullying message to more consumers every day. Thank you for supporting the partnerships. None of them would work or last without you.
Playing from a place of truth defines winning for us, and we hope for everyone who buys the StandUp brand.
All the best,
Patrick T. Davis Co-Publisher Chief Executive Officer, Ben Cohen Worldwide, LLC
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FROMDIFFERENTTOSPECIAL
By Connie Wardman
More is Better When Addressing Bullying
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THE OLD ADAGE IF SOME IS GOOD, MORE IS BETTER doesn’t work in every instance, it certainly works when it comes to eradicating bullying. We all have personal power to change the world around us simply by our positive thoughts, words and actions. But when we add our power to that of other like-minded individuals and groups, we create synergy—our combined efforts become greater than our individual efforts. In this issue we’re looking at the power of partnership as we celebrate October as National Anti-Bullying Month. There are stories of two significant new partnerships for the Foundation—one with Kiehl’s and the other with Up2Us—that perfectly illustrate that synergistic power. And there is the power of Microsoft partnering with each of us who use the Internet to protect our personal reputations. We’re also looking at women’s sports diversity pioneer Billy Jean King as we celebrate the 40th anniversary of the Battle of the Sexes with Bobby Riggs. It forever changed the public’s belief that women athletes weren’t as capable or worth as much prize money as their male counterparts. While it was her personal power in the face of the bullying she endured that made initial changes in these areas, King has continued to share her influence with others to ensure a level playing field for women athletes, both literally and figuratively. Bullying behavior really masks a lack of confidence and self-worth on the part of the bully. It’s an attempt to make him or herself feel larger, more imposing and more important by making you look and feel smaller and insignificant by telling you that you’re different. The goal for everyone who is bullied is first to recognize and then internalize the message that you are not different—you are special! And when done within the context of sports that naturally promotes positive teamwork and good sportsmanship, it provides a positive peer group experience for kids of all ages. Please join us in this global effort to eliminate the bullying that harms, even destroys people’s lives. Add your power by partnering with organizations from local-to-international levels that are standing up for good sportsmanship both on and off the field. Why? Because you are special, too!
...when we add our power to that of other like-minded individuals and groups, we create synergy...
Connie Wardman Editor-in-Chief
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By Alison Doerfler
Making Sports A Safe Place
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PORT TEACHES THE CHALLENGES, REWARDS AND PURE JOY OF TEAMWORK. It does not discriminate or bully. Athletes are not immune, however, to behaviors that are considered bullying. These behaviors can lead to poor performance, compromised results and in some cases, abandoned goals. Whether it is from parents, players or coaches, bullying and other disrespectful behavior is a growing concern in gyms, at rinks and on playing fields. How can StandUp continue to raise awareness of the importance of using sports to enhance positive messages instead of highlighting negative behaviors? As a parent, I believe in the importance of sports from a young age to teach valuable lessons, to encourage activity and to have FUN. As the Executive Director of the StandUp Foundation, and an editor of StandUp Magazine, I believe in the importance of sports to elevate these messages to a public platform. There is no room in sports at any level for behavior that is anything other than focused and fair. Athletes that live and play as good team players as well as coaches that know the difference between “fair play and foul play� will help our children have a truly positive experience on the playing field. Sports, when implemented within a youth development framework, offer an ideal environment for young
people to learn skills, make friends and feel safe. Connection to role models, like coaches and other positive adults, can protect youth from the effects of bullying. The need for coaches who are trained to build strong positive relationships with youth and to make safe spaces for all youth to play sports is clear. As we launch our partnership with Up2Us, we are excited to support the implementation of a nationwide initiative to prevent bullying in sports. This is an example of where we invest the money we raise through the sales of our branded merchandise. Making Sports A Safe Place will provide coaches with a set of strategies and activities to help them create an open and accepting team culture for all youth, prevent bullying by fostering positive peer relationships and developing meaningful relationships with all youth, regardless of race, gender or sexual orientation. As we remember the principles of positive sportsmanship during anti-bullying month, I think our belief that champions have no time for bullying rings true. Sportsmanship is about fairness, equality, respect and dignity, and we are excited to combine our platform and messages with Up2Us and the reach they have in youth sports. Alison Doerfler is the Executive Director of the Ben Cohen StandUp Foundation & the Executive Vice President of Ben Cohen Worldwide, LLC
There is no room in sports at any level for behavior that is anything other than focused and fair.
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By Miriam Latto
Paleo to Go
ARE YOU LEADING A HECTIC AND DEMANDING WORK LIFE, are you a harried on-the-go parent, are you trying to improve your fitness level or in training for the next big competition? If you have answered “yes” to one or more of these questions then you probably find it difficult to eat as well as you know you should. Take heart – help in the culinary department is here. One of the newer healthy approaches to eating is the Paleo food movement that, in its strictest form, says we should eat only what our Stone Age hunter-gatherer ancestors had available to them—wild plants and assorted animals that were present in the Paleolithic era. Translated into today’s readily available foods, however, eating a Paleo diet consists mainly of grass-fed, pasture-raised meats, fish, vegetables, eggs, fruit, fungi, roots and nuts. Because it excludes grains, potatoes, dairy products, legumes, refined salt and sugar as well as processed oils, it is also a good choice for those needing a gluten-free diet. While there are certainly conflicting opinions on whether Paleo is a fad or here to stay, the fact is that we traditionally eat carbohydrate-heavy meals, especially breakfasts and lunches when we’re rushing to get out the door in the morning and grabbing a quick lunch on the go. Whether or not you choose to jump into the Paleo movement with both feet or just wet your toes a bit, there is a new book that provides healthy and delicious breakfast and lunch meals for on-the-go individuals. Author Diana Rodgers is a nutritional therapist and cooking teacher who also serves as a nutritional consultant for several Crossfit Gyms. She says that “For me, eating healthy has been a lifelong journey.” Suffering from celiac disease in her twenties,
stay focused on the primary goal of eating nutrient-dense foods to achieve optimum health.
Rodgers had to go on a very restricted diet. By her thirties she was feeling some better. But after she took the 30-day Paleo challenge (from “The Paleo Solution”), it changed her life and her relationship with food. Drawing on all her personal and professional experience, she offers 100 time-efficient, packable meals in her book, “Paleo Lunches and Breakfasts on the Go.” For athletes and nutrition/fitness enthusiasts, she takes the confusion out of how to make fast, gluten-free and hand-friendly meals without bread. Also included are meals that are ethnically diverse in their origin as well as a three-week schedule of school lunches. In addition to creative uses for toothpicks and packaging, there are sections on handheld wraps, commuter salads, and office-ready soup and stews. There is even a section with ideas for kids, although her recipe for curried green eggs and ham is found in the Busy Morning Breakfast section. The book is full of speedy gourmet meals that can be assembled in minutes with commonly found ingredients without needing a high level of skill as a cook. According to Rodgers, most people interested in the Paleo way of eating move into a blend of 80 percent Paleo and 20 percent non-Paleo. No matter where you are on the subject, though, it is good to remember her advice, which is to “stay focused on the primary goal of eating nutrient-dense foods to achieve optimum health.”
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POLITICS
By Troup B. Coronado, Esq.
The Potential of Powerful Partnerships to Stop Bullying
"Instead of focusing on their individual agendas, collaborative partnerships establish common goals. In order to address problems that lie beyond any agency’s exclusive purview, but which concern them all, partners agree to pool resources, jointly plan, implement, and evaluate new services and procedures, and delegate individual responsibility for the outcomes of their joint efforts." — Atelia I. Melaville with Martin J. Blank, “What It Takes,” Washington DC, Education and Human Services Consortium.
IN HONOR OF NATIONAL BULLYING PREVENTION MONTH, here are some statistics that indicate just how pervasive bullying is in the digital age: • Roughly 30 percent of all students in the U.S. are regularly involved in bullying, either as the victim or the perpetrator. • The highest percentage of bullying incidents involves students in grades 6 through 10. • 77 percent of students have experienced “verbal bullying,” which includes harassment, infliction of mental anguish or distress, and discriminatory or hate speech based on the victim’s race, gender, sexual identity, religion, etc. • Of the 77 percent of students who experienced verbal bullying, 14 percent had a “severe or bad reaction.” These reactions include low self-esteem, depression, anxiety and suicidal thoughts or behavior. • 80 percent of all U.S. high school students have “encountered being bullied in some fashion online. These growing numbers are being attributed to youth violence including both homicide and suicide.” • 35 percent of all teenagers say they have been threatened online on at least one occasion.
• 50 percent of teens report having used the Internet to write or share something intended to be mean or hurtful to at least one of their peers. All facts and figures provided by isafe.org and BullyingStatistics.com
When aggregated, these statistics illustrate that bullying is a systemic problem in the U.S., one that touches every student and teenager at one time or another. As with any complex social issue, stemming the tide of bullying requires a sustained, multi-pronged movement that simultaneously engages and unites parents, students, educators, administrators, advocates, law enforcement personnel, government officials and corporate leaders. With such a wide range of concerned parties, getting everyone on the same page is no small feat. If you look at other pervasive social problems, collaborative opportunities frequently fall off track because the key players can’t agree on an understanding of the problem, let alone the optimal way to intervene. Despite these challenges, partnerships have tremendous potential to create positive change when executed effectively. Whether in politics or activism, I always encourage collaboration over competition. I’m fortunate to apply this on a daily basis to
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my work on AT&T’s diverse partnership with the Trevor Project. Though appearing last in my preceding list of key players, corporations aren’t any less important than others in the antibullying movement. On the contrary, corporations MUST play a very active, collaborative role if the movement is to be successful. Non-profit expert and writer Erdin Beshimov provides an excellent perspective on this issue. “Not so long ago the business and non-profit sectors stood at arm’s length from one another and were even seen as polar opposites whose agendas conflicted. Businesses today are exhibiting broad receptivity to the socioeconomic agendas of non-profit organizations. In their turn, non-profits are putting greater trust in the message of social responsibility emanating from the business world. Businesses and non-profits today are exhibiting patterns of genuine collaboration, especially in areas where their interests intersect” — Beshimov, “Trends to Watch: Non-Profit and Business Partnerships,” www.experience.com
Corporations certainly have the resources to uplift other key players in the anti-bullying movement. But their role goes far beyond providing financial support. Because corporate America is responsible for most of the advertising messages and entertainment content that students and teens see on a daily basis, they also have the power to create widespread awareness about social problems. Integrating anti-bullying messages and themes into mass media and digital content can be very influential. Many corporations also have access to elected officials and other stakeholders whose support and engagement is necessary to end bullying.
In sum, for corporations the optimal role in the anti-bullying movement is a sustained commitment that results in broad, layered partnerships. In return for their generosity, businesses actively partnering to combat social problems cultivate a positive corporate image. They also send strong messages to consumers and competitors about their culture, priorities and values. Corporate partnerships are one of the most effective tactics available to support the antibullying movement—and they’re very good for business. Troup B. Coronado, Esq. is the founder/president of TROUP, a Los Angeles-based corporate strategy and communications firm. TROUP specializes in the LGBT and Latino markets. He is a member of the Media Out Loud Advisory Board.
In return for their generosity, businesses actively partnering to combat social problems cultivate a positive corporate image.
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COLLEGELIFE
By Shane L. Windmeyer
Overwhelmed by my Teammates’ Support
CAMPUS PRIDE’S OUT TO PLAY PROJECT is designed to address anti-LGBT slurs, bias and conduct in college sports. Its second resource is the 2012 LGBTQ National College Athlete Report that shares personal stories of almost 400 self-identified LGBT athletes. It is only through learning about their experiences and sharing them that we are able to provide necessary resources to further progress on LGBT issues in college athletics. Here is another story of one of our Featured Champions. BARBARA SANTOS, SOFTBALL, COLBY COLLEGE
When I got to college I was terrified of my peers finding out I was gay. I came from a conservative high school where being gay was not accepted. I thought college would be a similar environment so I had every intention of staying in the closet—especially if I was going to play softball. The last thing I wanted was to be isolated from my teammates for being gay. However, as the year went on and I got more comfortable, I started thinking about the possibility of being out. Before my freshmen season I decided to come out to one of my close friends on the team. She was very supportive, but I didn’t want to tell anyone else. One day she came to me and told me that our teammates had been asking her if I was gay. She told them she didn’t know anything because she felt like I should tell them. It made me nervous. Did they want to know just to know or did I make them feel uncomfortable? Were they going to start avoiding me? I didn’t know what to do so I just ignored the situation. No one ever said anything to me so I left it alone. Sophomore year, I came back to campus feeling more secure than ever. I was starting to come to terms with my
sexuality and my identity. I found that the more friends I told, the more support I got. During the offseason, after a team workout I was suddenly overcome with the urge to come out. I didn’t want to live a lie anymore. It was like I was one person with my friends and another with my teammates and it was exhausting. I set up a meeting with our team captain that afternoon and I told her. I told her I had been struggling with how to tell the team and how I didn’t want the team dynamics to change because of me. I didn’t want to make it a big deal. She listened and assured me that nothing would change. I had her full support. I never made any grand announcement to my other teammates. But word traveled and gradually people found out and the rumors about me stopped. It was a huge relief to get that off my mind so I could finally focus on playing rather than worrying about what my teammates thought of me. During my junior season, I began to take more of a leadership role on the team. I was out to all of my teammates, and it was no longer a big deal. During the last week of the season our college was celebrating gay pride week. Members of the LGBTQ Alliance had been giving out free rainbow bracelets in the student center. I talked to our team captain and asked if we, as a team, could wear them during one of our games that week to show our support. We talked about it as a team, and the team thought it was a great idea. So for our last series of the season, everyone on my team wore bracelets in support of gay pride week. I was overwhelmed by the support my teammates showed, not just for the community, but for me. I couldn’t believe that these were some of the same people I was afraid to come out to. They helped me learn not just to accept myself as I am, but also to celebrate it. A special thank you to Cyd Ziegler from OutSports.com for compiling the “Featured Champions” as part of the Campus Pride Out To Play Project.
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SUCCESS
By Michael Losier
Bullying and the Law of Attraction: Tools for Attracting Positive Experiences
HOW DO THINGS HAPPEN IN OUR LIVES? Do you believe it's by coincidence, synchronicity, fate or karma? If you do, you're right. Do you know you are attracting everything that's happening in your life? The Law of Attraction: I attract to my life whatever I give my attention, energy and focus to, whether negative or positive. The words we use create the thoughts we think. The thoughts we think cause us to have a feeling (a vibration or a vibe). The vibes we send (whether negative or positive) are matched by the Law of Attraction and we get our results. Words/Results Relationships
WORDS> THOUGHTS> VIBES> RESULTS> Negative vibes are sent when you are talking about what you DON’T want or when you worry or complain, feel discouraged or fearful, etc. Every one of these feelings cause you to send out negative vibes and in turn, the Law of Attraction gives you more of the same. People being bullied are sending out the vibe of fear, of being scared or worried. It’s natural to feel that way. The Law of Attraction, however, doesn’t know the difference—whether it’s a negative or positive vibration, it gets matched. If or when you were bullied, did you hear yourself saying this or something similar? Obviously it's not what you want to attract consciously but it is what you're vibrating, and the Law of Attraction is matching those vibrations perfectly. So what do you do? Change your vibrations and you'll change the results you're getting.
Each time you hear yourself talk about what you DON’T want, or you find yourself worrying or creating that negative story in your head, ask yourself this question: So, what do I want? If you really want to make a change in your life, there are three words you should eliminate from your vocabulary— DON’T, NOT and NO. Over the next couple of days when you hear yourself saying, DON’T, NOT or NO, stop. Now change that negative vibe by consciously choosing other words that send out a positive rather than a negative one. This gives you a tool to help change where you're putting your attention, energy and focus. Remember that the story you tell and the thoughts you think create the results you get. Also remember that you don’t always get what you want but you ALWAYS get what you vibrate. Michael Losier is an international speaker and best-selling author on the Law of Attraction.
If you really want to make a change in your life, there are three words you should eliminate from your vocabulary — DON’T, NOT and NO.
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By Brian Patrick
Disabled Veterans Add Sports to Rehabilitation Therapy OVER 100 RECENTLY INJURED VETERANS from across the U.S. participated in the Sixth National Veterans Summer Sports Clinic in San Diego last month. The fundamental purpose of these clinics is to provide early intervention for veterans of all services battling back from injury. The clinics not only strengthen their bodies but also help them overcome their injuries and improve their overall wellbeing and self-worth. Participating veterans have a variety of injuries, including
orthopedic amputations, traumatic brain injuries, burn injuries, psychological trauma, certain neurological conditions, visual impairments, spinal cord injuries as well as other eligible injuries. Recognizing the power of sports to challenge and motivate, the U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs (VA) sponsors these clinics to compliment the therapy vets receive in daily rehabilitation programs in VA centers across the country. The VA San Diego Healthcare System has hosted the event since its inauguration in 2008. The week-long clinic offered recently injured vets adaptive adventure sports and recreational activities such as sailing, surfing, rowing, archery, rock wall climbing, track and field events, kayaking and both hand and tandem cycling, all learned from experienced coaches at sites throughout the San Diego area. And there is a physical therapist on site ready to adjust equipment so everyone can participate in each event. Organizing them into teams that stick together throughout the week builds lots of camaraderie and support for team members.
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“Someone had to get me out of my room and get me into sports when I was depressed. It’s fulfilling to know that I can do it for someone else.” —Carlos Figueroa, a sports clinic mentor
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...it also enabled Stokes (pictured) to regain the camaraderie, the sense of family that was so strong during her service as a Marine.
According to amputee Carlos Figueroa, a sports clinic mentor from Long Beach, California, it’s about paying it forward. “Someone had to get me out of my room and get me into sports when I was depressed. It’s fulfilling to know that I can do it for someone else. If I can find one vet who’s an amputee that sees me doing something they don’t think they can do, I’m fine with that.” One of the participants in last month’s clinic is Crystal Stokes, an 11-year veteran of the Marine Corps who served three combat tours in Kuwait, Fallujah and Iraq. During that time she worked on water purification, served as a rifle and pistol coach and as a black belt Marine Corps martial arts instructor. Since her discharge she has been receiving treatment for PTSD (posttraumatic stress disorder). Always extremely active and a good athlete, Stokes comes from a Marine family – she is the daughter of two Marine Corps veterans and has a younger brother who also served in the Marines. She continues to stay active in her daily life with CrossFit, running and condition training. A defensive end and running back for the San Diego Surge Women's Football Team, she played on the 2007 team that won the Women’s Football Alliance Superbowl as well as the 2013 team that went 7-1 in the regular season.
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In 2010 Stokes started training as an MMA (mixed martial arts) fighter but sustained a knee injury in 2011. She’s now ramping up her conditioning again to achieve her goal of fighting in the MMA. For her, the Summer Sports Clinic was a way of not only helping her strengthen her body and try out new sports, it also enabled her to regain the camaraderie, the sense of family that was so strong during her service as a Marine. It helped to remove the sense of isolation that many vets feel during their transition to civilian life. Attending the Summer Sports Clinic allowed her to connect to a group of people who are going through the same experience while learning new activities and simply enjoying her love of sports.
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500,000 Celebrating three years of helping youth around the world discover their heroic potential through play, the One World Futbol Project, a mission-driven B Corporation has distributed more than half a million One World Futbols to an estimated 15 million children and youth living in disadvantaged communities worldwide.
POSITIVE COACHING ALLIANCE As a national non-profit developing “Better Athletes, Better People,� PCA works to provide all youth and high school athletes a positive, character-building youth sports experience. Content is copyright protected and provided for personal use only - not for reproduction or retransmission. For reprints please contact the Publisher.
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“Athletes Among Us� A new series by photographer Jordan Matter, features professional athletes off the court and field, going about their daily lives with the same dedication and drive as they have for their sport. Matter, who faced bullying himself growing up, used his love of baseball to strengthen his courage and confidence to not let that get the best of him.
100
Percent Cole Hamels, three-time All-Star and 2008 World Series MVP and pitcher for the Philadelphia Phillies, covers all of the foundation's expenses. As a result, 100% of every dollar raised goes to childhood education programs in Africa and in Philadelphia.
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YOU ONLY WIN BY
COMPETING By Cyd Zeigler
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AS
the LGBT sports movement came together last June in Portland for the Nike LGBT Sports Summit, the goal of all attendees couldn’t have been more clear — tear down the barriers that
keep LGBT people from participating in the sports they love. Many of the attendees were prime examples of the work: Trans MMA
fighter Fallon Fox who had fought against public sentiment and state licensing organizations for her right to fight; high school basketball coach Anthony Nicodemo who was so inspired by the summit that he came out publicly two weeks later; and Jason Collins, the NBA center who broke what many consider the ultimate barrier when he came out publicly while still an active player. Leaving that summit in June, more than ever I was present with the power of sports to change hearts and minds, and the important role that open competition plays in our culture. So when I heard about the calls for boycotting the Sochi Winter Olympics, they got my blood boiling. Why would anyone who has dedicated his or her life to creating opportunities for everyone to play the sport they love ever advocate removing opportunities for those very same athletes to compete? The answer? No one. Virtually all of the boycott demands came from outside the sports world — largely actors and activists. Correct me if I’m wrong but I’ve never heard Harvey Fierstein complain about the films that are shot in Russia and other countries with sub-par human-rights records. Stephen Fry didn’t care a lick about sports when the 2008 Summer Olympics host was human-rights violator China. In fact, Fry has happily visited the country himself when it has tickled his fancy. It’s certainly easy to cast stones from ivory towers. Luckily, no reasonable people in sports have taken any of these calls for a boycott seriously. Instead, we’re focused on creating an environment in Sochi that celebrates the men and women who have dedicated so much of their lives to this one singular goal, this one moment that has inspired youth and adults for over a century. It’s driven many of us in the LGBT Sports Coalition to get behind a fundraising campaign for out speed skater Blake Skjellerup. Believe it or not, a gay man has never competed in the Winter Olympics after coming out. This New Zealander has the chance to be the first. Like so many other athletes, Blake has focused his pleas against a boycott on the importance of competing. Instead of walking away from Sochi and handing more medals to the Russians, he aspires to be a symbol of hope. He wants to break the Winter Olympics barrier for gay men in the very nation that aims to silence him and all other LGBT individuals. I’m excited about the Winter Olympics ahead of us. Russia has picked a fight on the wrong issue. In 1936, many looked forward to seeing Jesse Owens and other black athletes stand on the medal podium in Berlin. In 2014 I look forward to cheering on out LGBT athletes no matter what flag they represent. None of that would happen without fighting for the opportunity for everyone to compete.
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A FINE
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BROMANCE By Ben Cohen, MBE
IT WAS THE HOTTEST week of summer, and Ben Cohen was about to pull on the cycling leathers that would form a second skin for the next 10 days. While many may have hoped to get him into such gear for some time, it was Chris Salgardo, president of Kiehl’s Since 1851, who made it happen. Succeeding took more than a year of planning and a compelling cause. Kiehl’s is deeply committed to three charitable areas—children’s well-being, protecting and nurturing the environment, and HIV/AIDS education, prevention and research. To support amfAR, the Foundation for AIDS Research, Kiehl’s sponsors its now famous LifeRide, which pulls together celebrities, media and communities across the United States to raise awareness and funds. When Salgardo asked Cohen to join LifeRide, the two saw an opportunity to make a difference in more than one way. Cohen’s huge social media following would help spread an important message. Kiehl’s additional work with children’s well-being could be a good match for StandUp’s anti-bullying work down the road. But a long road it would be—more than 1,600 miles on the back of a Harley. Along the way, the two formed an unexpected and powerful bond: how could they, together, make good things happen with each other’s support. It was the birth of a bromance … and the launch of a meaningful partnership across brands. Here is what they spoke about along the way. BEN COHEN: Ok, now that you have me out here in the middle of nowhere, wind-burned from riding all day, tell me why you do this over and over again? CHRIS SALGARDO: First, you need to wear Kiehl’s Cross-Terrain UV Skin Protector SPF 50 on your face to avoid the wind-burn. As for the ride, four years ago I decided that we needed to do more to help amfAR in the fight against HIV and AIDS. In addition to raising funds to help find a cure and a vaccine for HIV and AIDS, I wanted to raise awareness and really start a dialogue with people all across the country. I decided that our iconic motorcycle, the symbol of the spirit of adventure of Kiehl’s, was the perfect vehicle to take us from state-to-state and city-to-city for this mission.
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BC: It is a big commitment for sure. You have an entourage bigger than Beyonce’s I think, mate. CS: I’ll take that as a compliment. The entire company is behind this. LifeRide is the biggest thing Kiehl’s does every year. BC: But why? Why not just write the check? CS: I’ve always had a belief that if a company can write a check, they should. Organizations need funding. Beyond writing a check, we feel it’s important to devote resources and time to personally get involved in the cause and to start a conversation about a topic that people aren’t talking about as much anymore. BC: It’s a bit like StandUp, though we are much smaller. We are building a brand to support our Foundation. You are using your brand to support many foundations and causes. Where did that start? CS: It’s actually in our mission statement to give back to the community in which we do business. In 2009, we decided to take a deeper look at our three pillars and devised programs that we could do annually to support them. For the environment, we do an Earth Day collaboration with celebrities each year. For children’s charities, we do a holiday collaboration with an artist, and for HIV & AIDS, we created LifeRide. While Kiehl’s has always been a philanthropic company, with the creation of LifeRide, it has allowed us to generate more money and awareness than ever before in the company’s 162-year history. BC: It’s also personal for you, though, I think, like it is for me. Yes? CS: 100 percent. I am personally invested in all of the charitable work that the company does. I think it’s important to be involved and set an example at the top. I also do my part outside of Kiehl’s. I recycle and try to be as eco-conscious as possible. I sit on the board of a children’s charity called RxArt. I’ve also been personally supporting Project Angel Food in LA since the 1980s, and amfAR since 1993.
Kevin Robert Frost, CEO of amfAR (L), Ben Cohen (C) and Chris Salgardo (R)
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Sharon Stone (L), Ben Cohen (C) and Chris Salgardo (R) at the conclusion of the 2013 LifeRide
BC: And part of the Kiehl’s culture, it sounds like, with all of these amazing people on the road with you. Did that grow over time, or was it part of some big plan? CS: Yes and no. It’s really been organic. When we meet new influencers that ride motorcycles, and are like-minded in the way they want to better the community, we invite them. We’ve also been fortunate that celebrities within every genre from the Atlantic to the Pacific have heard about what we do, and they ask if they can get involved. BC: How do you keep the company running when everyone is out here? There can’t be one person left in New York from what it looks like here! CS: Good question, Ben. While we have many people from the home office
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along on the journey, there are still people from each department back in New York manning the fort. All of the Kiehl’s NY staff members on the ride have their blackberries and laptops, as well as cellphones, too. So we’re all accessible—except for while we’re on the bike or behind the wheel! And this is really where we are fortunate to have such a strong staff out in the field to support us. They’re so passionate that they volunteer to take extra hours and help out at stores within their distance that they may not usually work at. It really showcases how everyone plays a part. I love that about Kiehl’s. BC: What’s next? For LifeRide and for your other charitable areas? CS: Well, next year is the fifth annual Kiehl’s LifeRide for amfAR. It’s a BIG one. We plan on starting in Milwaukee where Harley-Davidson started. Then going to Chicago where we have a beautiful flagship store. Next is Detroit, followed by Canada, then into the North East with Boston, Connecticut and lastly, our flagship store in New York where it all started in 1851. BC: That’s amazing. OK, let’s talk about me [laughs]. What advice would you give to StandUp, as both a brand and as a Foundation? CS: Be committed. Don’t give up. Don’t get frustrated. Your work is important. It’s helping people at a young age to be comfortable with who they are. Just don’t give up. BC: I’m going to ask you something I’m nervous about now, ok? CS: You can ask me anything you’d like. BC: Partnerships are important to StandUp. We
Ben (L) and a StandUp supporter (R) at Kiehl's LifeRide event
would love to talk about partnering with Kiehl’s in a meaningful way. Something that will really appeal to our supporters and your customers. Can we talk about nailing that down? CS: Yes. BC: Well, that is amazing, mate. After our year of getting to know each other, supporting each other and riding together this week, I cannot think of a better way to toast to the future. CS: Yes, we are aligned. We focus on similar work through children’s well-being and anti-bullying, and we have like-minded approaches on how to get the public involved in supporting the cause. So, it’s a good basis for a real partnership. BC: That’s incredible. I’m going to owe you big time, aren’t I? CS: You will definitely be on our fifth anniversary LifeRide next year, I’ll say for sure!
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Calling on Coaches to help
END BULLYING By Paul Caccamo, Up2Us Founder and Executive Director
YOU
did nothing wrong to this someone. In fact, you don’t even know why this someone doesn’t like you. It might be someone from work—someone from your community—someone you met at a social gathering—someone you hardly know.
Welcome to “Bullying 2013.” This month across the country, several children have taken their lives because they couldn’t take the bullying. And yet we have made little progress on educating those responsible for our youth – our school leaders, our teachers, our coaches – on what to do about it. In part that is because many adults confuse “Bullying 2013” with “Bullying When They Grew Up.” It’s not the same – it’s more vicious because there are more means to communicate it. Up2Us is leading a national movement to advocate for sports as the solution to the critical challenges, including bullying, facing the nation’s youth by equipping coaches with the tools they need to provide transformational sports experiences for youth. At Up2Us, the flagship program is Coach Across America (CAA), which recruits, places and supports approximately 450 coaches working with more 56,000 youth. The coaches come to CAA enthusiastic about their sport and working with young people. Through cutting edge training provided by the Up2Us Center, they leave the program with a strong knowledge of how to coach for youth development and sports outcomes for their teams. Coaches go to a four-day training program at the beginning of their year of service and are given mentors to troubleshoot problems they face along the way. Coaches naturally receive the respect of their athletes. They are in a unique position to address diversity and inclusion among their teams and steer would-be bullies into pro-social behavior. They can also be intentional about engaging those youth who are bullied into participating in sports and facing athletic challenges that can provide them a new sense of dignity and self-worth. And, yes, all of this can take place in the context of “positive peer pressure.” After all, that’s what a trained coach fosters, and that’s what sports are all about.
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Coaches naturally receive the respect of their athletes. They are in a unique position to address diversity and inclusion among their teams and steer would-be bullies into pro-social behavior. Starting this fall, Up2Us will partner with the Ben Cohen StandUp Foundation to create a toolkit to help coaches use the power of sports as a solution to bullying. To create the toolkit, Up2Us will rely on experts in the field of inclusion in sports, like Diana Cutaia, founder of Coaching Peace. The toolkit will also draw on the best practices of the Up2Us network of more than 700 sports-based youth development organizations from across the country, integrating the lessons learned from training thousands of coaches how to create a practical, evidence-based tool for coaches. Coaches who use this toolkit will be empowered by the set of strategies and activities that help them create an open and accepting team culture for all athletes, prevent bullying by fostering positive peer relationships and developing meaningful relationships with all youth, regardless of race, gender or sexual orientation. Work on the toolkit has started and will be ready for coaches by the end of 2013. Up2Us, in partnership with the StandUp Foundation, is proud to lead a national effort to end bullying through the power of youth sports in America. Our youth need coaches who are willing to stand up for them to voice their support, invest in training and use the toolkit. Are you with us? Go to www.up2us.org to “sign up� and join the movement to stop bullying through the power of sports.
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Digital T.M.I. MAY BE AFFECTING YOUR ONLINE
REPUTATION By Kim Sanchez, Director, Trustworthy Communications, Microsoft
WE
are taught at a very early age to share. Adults teach kids that it’s nice to share their toys, a treat, or an idea. Just watch any playground or school yard and you’ll see various acts of sharing. Perhaps we should reconsider that well-intentioned habit, however, when it comes to our online behavior.
New forms of social media platforms make sharing everything from our morning cups of coffee to relationship status updates faster and easier. But there are unintended consequences to consider with all of this digital T.M.I. (too much information). According to a Microsoft study1, 14 percent of adults surveyed say they have experienced negative
consequences due to online activities by others. Twenty-one percent were fired from a job, 16 percent lost their health insurance, 15 percent were turned down for a mortgage, and 14 percent lost out on the college they wanted. What’s more, a recent Microsoft Safer Online Facebook poll2 revealed that more than half of the respondents have shared their location and 29 percent have checked someone in without their permission. On the Internet we all create an image of ourselves through the information we share in blogs, comments, tweets, snapshots, videos, and links. Others add their own opinions (good or bad) that contribute to your reputation. Anyone can find this information and use it to make judgments about you. So how do you manage your online reputation? Act online in a manner that reflects the reputation you want to earn—whether you are building on an existing reputation, discarding an old persona, or creating a new one. At Microsoft we recommend the following tips:
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Think before you share. • Before you put anything online, think about what you are posting, with whom you’re sharing it, and how this will reflect your reputation. Would you be comfortable if others saw it? Or if they saw it ten years from now? • When you choose photos and videos, think about how others might perceive them. • Talk with your friends about what you do and do not want shared. Ask them to remove anything that you do not want disclosed. Treat others as you would like to be treated. • Be civil in what you say and show on the web. • Respect the reputation and privacy of others when you post anything about them (including pictures) on your own or others' pages, or public sites. Remove anything that does not honor this. Stay vigilant about what is being said about you online. • Sign up for personal alerts. Some search engines will automatically notify you of any new mention of your name or other personal information. • From time to time, search for yourself to see what additional information has been catalogued across multiple search engines. • Periodically reassess who has access to your pages. Friends change over time; it is ok to remove those who no longer belong. Publish positive information about yourself. • To be your online best, create what you want others to see. Link anything you publish to your name. • Join a professional network such as Linkedin or CareerBuilder. Put together a robust profile and make connections with colleagues there. Ask for recommendations from those who know your work well. • Comment on professionally-oriented blogs, participate in online forums, and review books on subjects in which you have expertise. • Start a blog or register a website in your own name. • Publicize yourself through clear writing, straightforward design, and high quality images. • Write regularly (at least twice a month) on a subject about which you are knowledgeable. • Invite visitors to make comments to create a conversation.
Online Reputation Management Survey Executive Summary: aka.ms/2011RepMgmt Microsoft Mobile Research Highlights: aka.ms/2013MMM
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“If you find information about yourself that does not fit the reputation you want, act quickly. The longer it stays public, the greater the chance that it will be spread or archived.”
Consider separating professional and personal profiles. • Use different email addresses, screen names, blogs, and websites for each profile. • Do not link your real name (or sensitive personal information such as your home and email addresses, phone numbers, or photos) with other profiles that you create. • Add personal information to your professional profile judiciously and only as it reflects well on that image. Avoid cross-references to personal sites. • Some social networks let you build separate friends lists—for family, your sports team, work, and so on—so that you can manage what you share within one profile. • Look for Settings or Options to help you manage who can see your profile or photos, how people can search for you, who can make comments, and how to block unwanted access by others. If you find information about yourself that does not fit the reputation you want, act quickly. The longer it stays public, the greater the chance that it will be spread or archived. In a respectful way, ask the person who posted it to remove it or correct an error. If it is a correction, ask him or her to include a notice (CORRECTION or UPDATED) right next to the original (incorrect) material. If the person does not respond or refuses to help, ask the website administrator to remove the digital damage. If you feel a public correction is necessary, present your case simply and politely without attacking the person. For additional guidance, regularly visit the Microsoft Safety & Security Center where all of our tools and materials are available. “Like” our Facebook page and follow us on Twitter.
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FROM
Closeted Coach TO LGBT
ACTIVIST
Late one night this past summer I sat in a dorm room on the campus of St. Joseph’s University in Philadelphia thinking about how much my life had changed in less than a month’s time. My players headed off to bed after a great day of basketball and team bonding and I thought how lucky I am to coach this group of kids. Just two months prior to that I sat in a room surrounded by my players, assistant coaches, parents, alumni, an administrator and a close friend and announced that I am gay. The players reacted with initial shock before showing a tremendous amount of support. Leaving the room, I knew they would have my back throughout this process and in turn, our team would grow stronger. Just a week prior to that experience, I had attended the 2013 Nike LGBT Sports Summit (#BETRUE) in Portland. I had been asked to attend by Cyd Zeigler of Outsports and Roger Brigham of the Equality Coaching Alliance. I was excited for the trip but very unsure of what I was walking into. After all, I was a closeted coach that would be surrounded by many prominent people within the LGBT sports community. But all I received were words of encouragement and support. I thought to myself, I have been a leader my entire life, why was this any different. For so many years I preached always being honest with people yet I was living a lie. I knew at that moment things needed to change. I switched my airfare and opted to stay an extra night in Portland and the next morning I marched with the Nike contingent in the Northwest Pride Parade. Marching alongside Anna Aagenes of GO! Athletes and Pennsylvania Assemblyman Brian Sims was awesome and empowering. I boarded a red eye flight to Kennedy Airport that night knowing that my life was about to change forever. I alerted Cyd to the fact that I would be coming out and wanted him to write the story. We had communicated for many years prior to us meeting in Portland. I was aware this story could be a big deal and wanted to first alert those closest to me who did not already know. I met initially with a very good friend, Kevin Devaney Jr. of MSG Varsity. We exchanged thoughts and ideas of what the reaction would be. I then informed my principal who was more than supportive. He in turn reached out to the superintendent of schools who also expressed his support. My final advance warning was with a mentor, Henry Sassone. I began my career as a volunteer under him and we have remained very close every since. The next week was a blur. I reached out to various people who I felt needed to know prior to the article dropping. Assistant coaches, peers and alumni were all pieces of the puzzle. A few days prior to the article I was at a friend’s wedding and people began congratulating me and expressing support. The ironic thing was I had yet to tell any of them. I figured out that day that word travels quickly!
“I had to decide what to do now. Eventually the hoopla of the story will wear off and now comes the TRUE TIME TO CHANGE LIVES and help a movement. ”
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By Coach Anthony Nicodemo
Anthony Nicodemo (L) and Ben Cohen (R) at 2013 Nike LGBT Sports Summit
Once the story dropped, a media frenzy ensued. Local as
had attracted. I wondered … why had it been such a big deal?
well as national media began reaching out for interviews. The
So many others had come before me, so why was I any different.
New York Times sent a photographer out to the school and that
I also realized that things for me would never be the same. On
was followed by a reporter from Fox-NYC all within a few hours
July 4th I sat at a pool in Asbury Park, New Jersey and every
of the story breaking. This continued for a few days with “Good
few minutes my phone would buzz with a new friend request.
Day NY,” “WPIX Morning and Evening News,” National Public
After about 75 requests, I Googled my name to find out The
Radio and “Good Morning America” all covering the story.
New York Times had rerun the article, prompting a new group
My Facebook page blew up with friend requests as people from all over the country wanted to let me know that they
of responses. This still happens from time-to-time as different articles or interviews are released.
appreciated what I was doing. Emails were no different as folks
Ultimately I had to decide what to do now. Eventually the
from around the world expressed their gratitude. Several
hoopla of the story will wear off and now comes the true time
members of the U.S. Armed Forces reached out from
to change lives and help a movement. I could not sit back and
Afghanistan telling me I was an inspiration, to which I
fade into the shadows. I believe that I need to use my story to
responded that “you fight for our country thousands of miles
inspire others. I got the chance to speak at a GLSEN fundraiser
from your friends and family—you are the inspiration.”
on Fire Island in July. Speaking to others made my blood flow
After a few weeks I had a chance to sit back and relax. I was amazed by the amount of support and attention that my story
and I really enjoyed speaking to supporters. I was also able to follow up with a trip to Chicago to take
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part in the inaugural You Belong Youth Sports and Leadership
there use terms like gay and faggot as regular parts of their
Camp. Wade Davis and Darnell Moore came up with the idea
vernacular. Being gay is portrayed as a bad thing—it creates
as a way to give back and help reach LGBT youth. Wade asked
such a negative tone. Forget it if you have a closeted gay athlete
me to open the camp by speaking with the campers and
on the team. Any thoughts the student may have about coming
introducing former WNBA star Tangela Smith. I immediately
out will be thrown out the window rather quickly. I imagine
connected with the attendees having taught inner city students
that kid going home and completely suppressing the truth as
for the past ten years. Throughout the week I learned several
his mentors and teammates make him feel less than his worth.
of the campers were homeless yet they made their way to camp
In Portland we broke up into various groups, one of which
every day. It was an opportunity for them to escape from their
was K-12 educators. Advocates, such as Hudson Taylor of
tough lives for a few hours and just be kids. They were provided
Athlete Ally, sports pioneer Pat Griffin and others discussed
with gear from Nike, meals and some great educational work-
ideas to implement into high school athletics. My take is that
shops. Each camper left very grateful for the opportunity that
the way to reach coaches is to let them know that their actions
they had been provided.
might be hurting one or more of the athletes. If someone came
In conjunction with this camp, GLSEN held a training
to me and said, this hurts your team, I would immediately think
session for coaches in the city of Chicago. Throughout the day
about my actions and what I could do differently. Knowing that
they shared various statistics and stories that supported so many
I might be the cause of anguish for one of my kids would bother
LGBT students not playing athletics. The stats were mind
me to no end.
boggling and should be a real eye opener to many. Former
The problem is that as coaches, so many times we get more
Rutgers head coach Mike Rice was an attendee at the session. I
caught up in the game than thinking about how we are acting
have known Mike for 15 years and it was my first time seeing
as human beings. Mike Rice is a perfect example. He is not a
him since his firing and my coming out. We had a very good conversation about both of our situations. I remember watching the clip of his practices and really being bothered by the way he addressed the kids. I felt the words were used to hurt the players, not just make a point. I expressed this to Mike and we spent the day chatting about various basketball topics. As with my trip to Portland, I returned to New York empowered ‌ but in a different way. I realized how much help the LGBT youth needed and that I was in a role to help. What needs to be done to change the culture and eliminate homophobia not only in sports, but in general? So many coaches out
You Belong Youth Sports & Leadership Camp in Chicago
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bad person but during practices he worked himself to such an
educated to embrace inclusion, I believe an entire culture can
intense pitch that he did not think about his actions or how they
be changed. The key is education. Until something is in our
might affect those around him. Coach Rice is not the only
face, many times we do not address it. A war in another country
person guilty of this. So many coaches at all levels do this on a
is quiet until the media chooses to make it an issue. Many
daily basis. At some point we all need to recognize that these
student- athletes have not ever had to deal with the issue of
actions are not a prerequisite to coaching.
LGBT teammates, coaches, etc. When something is foreign to
On a recent vacation to Maine I had the pleasure of meeting
us, we naturally become inquisitive about the subject.
out athlete James Nutter. James played baseball at the University
Most people look at coaches and assume that their only job
of Southern Maine and he had come out to his family, friends
is to win games. This is a mistaken assumption that I take
and teammates. But prior to this, he had attempted suicide in
personally. Yes, winning comes with the job. However, for years
an effort to outrun who he truly was. His story resonated with
I have preached that I would take a loss if it was going to teach
me and I know that there are so many in similar situations.
my athletes something that would help them excel in their
James, who has persevered and is a great member of the
future lives. First and foremost, I consider myself an educator.
community, has a story that needs to be told. Members of the
Over the past few months I have been able to teach my kids
LGBT community will connect with him—they’ll understand
about something that they had no opportunity to learn about
the struggle that he has endured. It will give them hope, helping
until now. They are better educated and well rounded indi-
them to believe that it does get better. I feel that James also can
viduals because of it. As time moves on I hope to do the same
reach members of the straight community. He was a tremendous
with others.
athlete who was able to hold court in his school. Student-
While it’s hard to think that you as an individual can make
athletes will understand socially the type of life he led and that
a difference in the world, I have gotten even more confirmation
their friends may be no different. Yet they are afraid they won't
that my coming out has been a positive decision. On the first
be accepted.
day of school I checked my mailbox which is normally filled
I have never been so inspired to help people as I am today.
with advertisements and junk mail. But this day was different.
As I plan on speaking to various groups, I will also look to
I pulled out a bunch of envelopes handwritten with return
address various athletic bodies throughout the country to
addresses from all over the country. As I began opening them,
convince them that it is their responsibility to educate coaches
I was astonished at the content.
and athletes. I have begun work on a leadership conference to
Each contained a card or letter thanking me for sharing my
take place next spring that will help educate student-athletes,
story. One stated that the writer would give me a million
allowing them to return to their schools with more informa-
dollars if she could but the letter was all she could afford. There
tion and a better sense of acceptance. In our society sports
were postmarks from New York, Chicago, Columbus and a
seem to dominate the landscape. The students going to Ivy
town in Texas I’ve never heard of. Later on I shared some with
League schools do not end up on the front page of the paper
my team and reflected on what had occurred during the past
but rather it is the kid that scored 30 points in a game the night
10 weeks. When I finally decided to share the truth that I am
before. In most schools the superior student-athletes tend to
a gay man, I touched the hearts of people I’d never met or
dominate socially.
talked with before; my story gave them hope. Now, more than
Others look up to these successful athletes and seem to place them on a pedestal. If captains of these teams can be
ever I realize that change is upon us and it is time for each of us to make a difference!
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By Connie Wardman
Billie Jean King – A Women’s Sports Diversity Pioneer
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ANY ATHLETES WHO REACH THE HIGHEST LEVELS of both amateur and professional play in their sports of choice receive lots of attention, adulation, money and other perks that come with the fame. But fame can be fleeting. The character of an athlete isn’t measured by how well he or she plays the game but rather by how well that person uses the fame. Handling it well, giving back, making things better, helping another – these are actions that define true champions. An excellent case in point is tennis player Billie Jean King, a long-time advocate for social change and equality in women’s sports. Although far from fully reflecting the impact she has had on the world of sports in general and women’s sports in particular, here is a list of a few of her most important achievements: • Former No. 1-ranked professional tennis player • Winner of 39 Grand Slam titles (12 singles, 16 doubles, 11 mixed doubles) from the US, Wimbledon, Australian and French Opens • Winner of 1973 Battle of the Sexes against Bobby Riggs in $100,000 winner-take-all match that erased his claim that the women’s game was inferior to the men’s game. • Awarded Associated Press’ 1967 Female Athlete of the Year • First tennis player to be named Sports Illustrated Sportsman of the Year —first female to ever receive the honor • Founded the Women’s Sports Foundation in 1974 • Named one of the “100 Most Important Americans of the 20th Century” in 1990 by Life Magazine • Inducted into the International Tennis Hall of Fame in 1987 and the California Hall of Fame in 2006 • In 2006 the United States Tennis Association (USTA) rededicated its national center as the USTA Billie Jean King National Tennis Center • Awarded the Presidential Medal of Freedom, the highest U.S. civilian honor in 2009, presented by President Obama at the White House And the list of achievements and honors goes on. This September 20th marked the forty-year anniversary of the landmark Battle of the Sexes between tennis legend King and Bobby Riggs, referred to on a 1973 Time Magazine cover as “The Happy Hustler.” Held in the Houston Astrodome, the $100,000 winner-take-all purse went to King.
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The character of an athlete isn’t measured by how well he or she plays the game but rather by how well that person uses the fame.
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She knew that for women to have an equal opportunity in the sports world, it needed to start with equal prize money. In the year prior to this epic event with Riggs, King made $15,000 less than the men’s tennis champion. So she said she wouldn’t play in the 1973 U. S. Open if the prize money for the women didn’t equal the men’s, and she wasn’t afraid to stand her ground. She won the battle but was called “belligerent” for making the demand for equality. She could have retired from active play and lived on her formidable reputation from that victory alone. But she didn’t achieve one victory and walk away. The reason King, a women’s sports diversity pioneer, is still so relevant today is because she remains actively involved, lending her support to help others achieve their victories. Since she turned pro in 1968, King has worked consistently for sports equality for women – from working to win equal prize money for women athletes, working to make tennis a sport that is finally honored in the U.S., for playing against transgender Renee Richards in spite of harsh criticism from the tennis community
at the time, for founding the Women’s Sports Foundation, to her involvement with the President’s Council for Fitness, Sports and Nutrition to keep people active – she has devoted her life to the cause of women’s sports diversity. The U.S. Tennis Association (USTA) has in turn honored her by naming the world’s largest public tennis facility and home of the U.S. Open the USTA Billie Jean King National Tennis Center. She has also taken on the role of sports owner by recently purchasing the the New York-based NYC TTT KingPins, a new Professional Bowlers Association (PBA) League team. This makes her the first female owner in the recently formed PBA League. And in August she was inducted into the newly launched National Gay and Lesbian Sports Hall of Fame in Chicago, one of 26 athletes, and sports journalists that made up the inaugural class. The Battle of the Sexes was a publicity stunt by Riggs, a former No.1-ranked tennis player in 1939. But his jibe that the women’s game of tennis was so inferior to the men’s game that even though in his 50s at the time, he could beat the best female tennis player was a pretty fair reflection of the opinion generally held by U.S. sports lovers. It also revealed what little regard they had for the importance of tennis as a sport. That has certainly changed for the better over the last 40 years. And it has changed for the better because of Billie Jean King, a true champion and women’s sports icon.
The reason King, a women’s sports diversity pioneer, is still so relevant today is because she remains actively involved, lending her support to help others achieve their victories.
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By Mark Moon
Strong to the Core
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HE NUMBER ONE QUESTION I still get asked by clients has to be this: What is the secret to getting good abs? The secret to this success can be found by strengthening the muscles that form your center of gravity — the core. To get a strong core you need to train the muscles underneath the abdominals, the lower back and the fibres that surround the hip. These core muscles help maintain proper body posture and hold the spine in an upright position — and they are vital for lower back strength. Strengthening your core muscles will also help indirectly with weight loss. The stronger your core, the harder you can train without getting any injuries. Remember that core training should be a compliment to a balanced resistance and cardio training regime. Incorporate these exercises into your workouts three times a week and quickly see improvements. You need to select different exercises each time you work out, but here are three of the basics to get you started: 1. PLANK Lie on your elbows and straighten your legs while pressing your toes against the floor. Distribute your weight evenly across your forearms and toes and keep your back straight. Hold for 45 seconds.
2. REVERSE BRIDGE Lie on your back and place your hands by your sides with your knees bent so your shins are vertical to the floor. Lift your hips off the floor as high as you can and squeeze your butt. 12 reps. 3. SIT UPS Lie on your back with arms by your side and knees bent. Reach towards the feet as you sit all the way up. Keep your spine slightly rounded throughout the movement. 15 reps. For your FREE 8-minute abs instant download or for more information on Mark’s workouts and healthy eating plans visit markmoonfitness.com
To get a strong core you need to train the muscles underneath the abdominals, the lower back and the fibres that surround the hip.
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