Stellar Day Magazine, February Issue, 2017 by Stellar Day Magazine

STELLAR DAY ISSUE 18 | FEBRUARY 2017

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February Issue

THE TRUTH ABOUT RED LIPSTICK

Rennai Hoefer shares about how she knows that red lipstick can look good on anyone .

TRUE STYLE

Hear from The Body Type Stylist about why style is about more than just the clothes on your back .

SKINNY CHOCOLATE FRUIT DIP

The perfect date night in dessert for Valentine ' s Day is on page 30 !

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Confidence To Find Your Own Style Style, The Body Type Stylist Golden Globes Style Love Me Some Leggings The Truth About Red Lipstick A Day In The Life Style With Jennifer Stamps What Is Your Parenting Style?

Clothe Yourself In Compassion How Do You Relate? Reflecting The Good Skinny Chocolate Fruit Dip Clean Eating Taco Soup Women, Fashion & Art Inhale Confidence, Exhale Doubt 5 Foods To Boost Your Immune System Show Me That You Are Here Editor's Note

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CONFIDENCE To Find Your Own Style By Jessica Williams

myself, let go of the world’s expectations, embrace the flaws that I have, and embody who Christ made me to be. He made me new, and He makes me new every single day.

Somewhere along the way, I had to look deep down within me and decide who I wanted to be, who God created me to be, and who He was asking me to become. Somewhere along the way, I stopped truly caring what others thought. Any time I say that, I always get the one person who says, “Of course you care what others think. Everyone does to some degree.” And they would be half right. There is a small, inner circle group of people whose opinions I value, treasure, and cherish and I DO care about

what they think. As for the others? I truly don’t mind what they think, especially about me. Somewhere along the way, I had to look deep down within me and decide who I wanted to be, who God created me to be, and who He was asking me to become. I had to let go of what my flesh wanted me to think of

I’m not exactly sure when it was that I decided to shed the cares about what others think about me. I think one day I just got fed up enough that I took a stand for myself. I vowed to breathe confidence and to overcome my fear of what others thought of me. I chose to decide what I loved to put on my body and to wear it confidently. I chose to purchase things that made me happy and that made me feel

good, even if they didn’t and don’t match. I chose to forgo living by what the fashion magazines were telling me and our society, and to choose where I wanted to fit in. We all have a choice about where we belong, even in fashion. And I was sick of allowing others to tell me where I fit in. And when I thought long and hard, this is ultimately what I heard the Lord tell me: “Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the Lord will be greatly praised.” Proverbs 31:30 You see, I think fashion, clothes, accessories and style are all very, very fun. I love going shopping as much as the next person, and I love looking put together, feeling good in my skin, and wearing things that I feel pretty in. But at the end of the day, this isn’t where my hope lies. It isn’t where my worth comes from. The Bible tells me that charm is deceptive and beauty doesn’t last. That could mean aging, yes, but I also think that it’s telling me that placing our hope in those things won’t bring us fulfillment. That finding our hope in things of this world, how we look, and in stuff won’t bring us ultimate fulfillment that we are all search for and desire. It’s all going to pass away, and what we ARE left with is our heart. Here is what I know: I am a child of God. He thinks I’m beautiful. I have flaws, because we live in a fallen world. There is nothing I need to do to obtain perfection. God loves me just as I am. Jesus died for it all too. God asks us to take care of our bodies. But I believe that this it to be without comparison, guilt, self-hatred, or reaching goals that are unattainable. God wants us to feel beautiful. He thinks we are beautiful. This is different than the world’s standards of beauty. He asks us to throw off everything that trips us up. And to follow Him. So, with that as my compass, I decided to live in this world and enjoy the things the Lord has given us. I love clothes, makeup, design, and trends. But at the end of the day, I decide what goes on my body and what doesn’t. I decide what makes me feel pretty, and what isn’t for me. And I’ve learned to live in the confidence of not

caring what others think about my outfit choices mostly because I already now exactly where I stand with my heavenly Father. He has made me, ME. I’m not meant to fall in line with every single trend, style, magazine or fad. He has given me a brain and my own opinions and it’s totally ok if I choose where I want to fit, and it’s also ok if it doesn’t blend perfectly with society. I love finding clothes that make me FEEL good, that make me shine and that I can wear confidently no matter what. I love finding things that fit MY mold instead of fitting the mold of everyone else. I want to be exactly who God created me to be. ME. I challenge you to step outside of your closet and to decide what it is that you DO like. What really makes you feel beautiful? What makes you

He has made me, ME. I’m not meant to fall in line with every single trend, style, magazine or fad. shine? What do you want to add more of? Are there a lot of things you’ve purchased, never worn, and that are now just adorning your closet for no reason? Could you give those items away? Why are you hanging on to them? Knowing who it is that God created you to be and what He created you to love is the first step. You DO have the confidence to wear the things that you love, so take the step to stop caring about what others think so much. You ARE beautiful and you were made to shine!

Character. Intelligence. Strength. Style. That makes beauty. ~ DVF

Jenn Loyd ( pictured below )

STYLE

IT'S NOT JUST ABOUT THE CLOTHES ON YOUR BACK

by Jenn Loyd, The Body Type Stylist Fashion is exciting . It ’ s a simple way to communicate with others without having to say a word . Whether you realize it or not , we all communicate to others through the choices we make with fashion . Style is , of course , subjective . What I think is stylish for my four year old is not always what she thinks is stylish and vice versa ! Style is the way we do something or the way we have grouped things together . The fact it ’ s different for everyone is what makes it fun . Not everyone puts much thought or care into the way they dress , but style is my passion . STELLAR DAY MAGAZINE

Styling women , perfectly created with the bodies God gave them , is my calling . Simple adjustments from culling what ’ s hanging in your closet to tweaking the colors of your go to accessories can make a huge difference in your look and boost confidence . My two daughters have forever changed my heart and lit it on fire . My goal is for them to grow up feeling loved , loving themselves , loving each other , and ultimately finding their confidence in God alone . When I think about being their role model I get excited and a little scared . What do I want to teach them ? What values do I want to instill ? How

can I help them to let their light shine bright ? Each morning , when I get dressed I think about this . I am intentional with what I choose to wear because I have their little eyes watching me and copying what I am doing . I communicate to them how to be a woman , what a woman is and how to love themselves . I model this through my words , my actions and my style . In addition to my daughters , I am deeply committed to my husband of seven years . Most days , he is the first person to see me get dressed . I want him to see the confident and beautiful woman I know God created me to be . I communicate through my style to my family and , like you , to my friends . Girls nights out are a great time for my friends

“I AM INTENTIONAL WITH WHAT I CHOOSE TO WEAR BECAUSE I HAVE THEIR LITTLE EYES WATCHING ME AND COPYING WHAT I AM DOING. I COMMUNICATE TO THEM HOW TO BE A WOMAN, WHAT A WOMAN IS AND HOW TO LOVE THEMSELVES. I MODEL THIS THROUGH MY WORDS, MY ACTIONS AND MY STYLE.”

“THINK ABOUT THOSE MOST IMPORTANT TO YOU. WHAT DOES YOUR STYLE COMMUNICATE TO THEM? CAN YOU ANSWER THAT WITHOUT and I to display our personal style and build confidence in one another . Girls nights in with yoga pants and “ mom buns ” are perfect too . We are in this together . For me , there ’ s a good balance on both sides . However you define your style or portray yourself , my challenge to you is this : Think about those most important to you . What does your style communicate to them ? Can you answer that without cringing ? If not , change . Dress up that beautiful body in a way that accentuates your assets and boosts that smile . Do what works for you and let your light shine bright . If you don ’ t know where to start , I ’ m happy to help . My “ job ” is really more than that . I love helping women discover their style . It ’ s a privilege to be invited into an intimate part of someone ’ s life and help create a tangible vision of what they ’ ve always known is deep inside – that beautiful , perfectly made woman . www . thebodytypestylist . com

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GOLDEN GLOBES STYLE There are many fashion lessons

First off, if you see a look you

that can be learned from the

LOVE from an awards show

red carpet at awards shows

figure out what it is exactly

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that you love. Do you love the

awards show season (YAY!!).

color of the dress? Or the

While tens of thousands of

style? Or the shoes? Maybe it is

dollars will be spent on fancy

the combination of the hair

dresses and suits by Hollywood

style and makeup…There are

elite, this isn’t in the budget for

many parts that work together

most people, but we definitely

to create the entire look. Pick

let the red carpet be our

your favorite part and let that

inspiration for our own

be your inspiration. This is

personal style.

where Pinterest can be very

By Courtney Bareman

THINK ABOUT WHAT MAKES YOU COME ALIVE AND FEEL MOST LIKE YOURSELF… AND OWN IT.

helpful, although occasionally overwhelming. Creating a board of looks you love can help you create and refine your own fashion sense. Another lesson we can take away from the red carpet and apply into everyday life is how important it is to know the current trends. Whether you are an everyday fashionista or have an event coming up, knowing what is in style and will work for you will be hugely helpful. A little online research and personal observation in this area will go a long way as trends change quickly. Do you like bright, bold colors? Go for it. Or maybe metallic embellishments? A few jewels can go far in adding some sparkle to look. Do you have a favorite neckline or hemline that works well for you? The impact of interesting and flattering style of dress shouldn’t be overlooked. A good rule is find one or two areas to focus onfocusing on EVERYTHING will be too much. Have a main focus and shoot all your arrows at that target. And there is such thing as too much of a good thing. You don’t want try every single trend within one outfit, instead pick a few things that stand out to you and work well together- for instance, maybe you have an event where you want to wear a plunging neckline and an interesting hair piece in the back of your hair. This works well because they aren’t competing, instead they are working together to complete your outfit. But if you are wearing a deep neckline then be aware that you probably should be a little more conservative in the other areas of your outfit. It really is a sign of class to leave a little something to the imagination.

Let’s not forget the importance of accessories…The way an outfit is style can either sink it or make is soar! There are a couple different ways you can look accessories: Statements or delicate. Right now, delicate gold is very trendyespecially geometric shapes and natural looking jewels (druzy or opal for example). And if you are looking for something to really set you apart and sparkle then look for a great statement necklace. Adding some light and shimmer around your face is always a great idea, it only enhances your natural inner glow. Remember to keep expectations realisticunless you have a team of stylists and makeup artists along with a huge budget, it’s not fair to compare yourself to the celebrities. You can take inspiration from Hollywood and learn techniques for hair and makeup, but don’t hold yourself to the same standard as an A-list celebrity. That’s not fair to you. Also, we have a family motto that seems applicable “there is no win in comparison,” this applies to just about everything in life- even fashion. If you love something, whether it is considered trendy or not, go for it. Above all, you want to feel great. Think about what makes you come alive and feel most like yourself…And own it, confidently. Confidence goes a long way, as does a smile and kindness…and truly those are the things that are often the most attractive about a person’s style.

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love me some leggings By Christine Cram Think about your wardrobe for a second. Is there a certain article of clothing you just love? We can call it your “go to.” I can think of a few items. But, I would say hands down my most favorite piece of clothing I own are my leggings. And not just any leggings, LuLaRoe leggings. If you haven’t heard of that company or own any of their glorious leggings, you my friend are missing out. They are literally the softest, most comfortable leggings I have ever had the pleasure of owning (and not to mention I think they are flattering). Even my husband notices the difference between them and another company when I wear them. I was gifted with my first pair right after I gave birth to our second baby. I know, right? Perfect

timing. Let me tell you I went from being super discouraged that nothing in my closet really fit to feeling so pretty the moment I tried them on. I’m not kidding. Any of my mamas out there know just what I’m talking about…you walk into your closet, looking and hoping to fit into those pre-baby clothes, only to find yourself looking like a hot mess. And you know what…it's really ok. Your body just had a person exit it…for the love. Everything is going to be ok (this was the little pep talk I have given myself a bunch of times by the way).

"I am a t t his place in my life where I wan t t o look cu t e, be modes t , bu t mos t impor t an t ly be comfor t able."

FEELING GOOD

after baby I am at this place in my life where I want to look cute, be modest, but most importantly be comfortable. I have found all three of those things in LuLaRoe clothing. I now own 9 pairs of leggings. They are all different colors and patterns. You can become addicted. My daughter Chloe and I have matching pairs too. Yeah…its dangerous. I do not need clothes to make me feel beautiful, that’s for sure, but when you go through having babies, or just changes in your body, there is nothing like finding clothing that not only fits, but that’s cute and makes you feel good. I love LuLaRoe because they have sizes all the way from xxs to 3xl. They have a huge spectrum which I appreciate. They do not just target petite ladies, or plus size. They accommodate so many ladies. Check them out online and see for yourself how cute their clothes and leggings are. But just be aware, you might become addicted.

"I do no t need clo t hes t o make me feel beau t iful, t ha t ’s for sure, bu t when

you go t hrough having babies, or jus t changes in your body, t here is no t hing like finding clo t hing t ha t no t only fi t s, bu t t ha t ’s cu t e and makes you feel good."

THE TRUTH ABOUT

Red Lipstick

ARTICLE & PHOTOS BY RENNAI HOEFER

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The truth about red lipstick: it works on everyone, no exceptions.

outfit no matter the simplicity, how it instantly

The one thing you need to pull off a red lip is

cosmetics counter to try a few on first. Most

this: the courage to wear it out of the house.

makeup lines have their cult favorites: classic

Red lipstick is one of the most iconic and

reds that work on most people and become

timeless looks in makeup, suitable for

bestsellers, making them a great starting

afternoon errands or black tie affairs. When I

point. You may also want to play around with

first began venturing into the world of lipstick,

darker or brighter reds, and different

I thought bright bold colors would be more

undertones like blue, orange, and pink. Pick

reminiscent of clown makeup on my bigger lips.

your favorite and wear it home, see if it

After coveting the pigmented pouts of other

changes in different light and how it wears

women for far too long, decided I was the only

over several hours. Pick your red of choice and

one believing I couldn’t pull off red, and dared

wear it on February 3, national Wear Red for

to wear. Now, I’m a red lip connoisseur, my

Women day and support awareness and

favorites tending toward rich mattes. What I

education for women’s cardiovascular health

love most about a red lip is how it elevates any

with the American Heart Association.

helps me feel put together and how the fun playful color brightens my mood. If trying out red for the first time, I suggest heading to the

inspiration

A DAY IN THE LIFE Style WITH JENNIFER STAMPS, ASSOCIATE EDITOR FOR STELLAR DAY MAGAZINE Jennifer and I go way back. We have known each other for well over a decade because we attended the same church together, I photographed her wedding not long after that, and we have kept in touch via Facebook even through her move to Austin, Texas. When I launched Stellar Day Magazine, she reached out

TWENTY YEARS FROM NOW YOU WILL BE MORE DISAPPOINTED BY THE THINGS YOU DIDN’T DO THAN BY THE ONES YOU DID DO.

and wanted to be involved. One thing led to another and over a short period of time, I knew that I wanted her to help me in being the Associate Editor for the magazine. Now I keep in touch with Jennifer weekly and there isn't a single idea that isn't at least bounced off of her. She's provided sound direction, constant encouragement, and always points me up. I am thankful for her and all the work she puts into this magazine even though she has a million other things going on. She is a mom, wife, creative manager and associate editor at another magazine full time, and an awesome photographer herself. I knew that interviewing her about her LifeSTYLE would be the perfect addition to this issue!

1. Thank you so much for being willing to do this interview this month! We are excited to feature you here!! To begin, tell us a little bit about your lifestyle: who you are, your family, and where you work! Thanks so much for thinking of me for your next interview! A little about me… I’m a born Californian, turned Arizonian (Go Sun Devils!), turned Texan…er, Austinite to be exact. I am married to my college sweetheart and together we have an almost 12 year old rescue pup and almost 2 year old daughter. I work for a non profit as a creative manager and associate magazine editor and run a photography business as my side-hustle.

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"BECOMING A MOM HAS REALLY HELPED ME SLOW DOWN AND APPRECIATE EVERY LITTLE STAGE." 2. What is the greatest thing that you have learned and

the age when you actually realize how much of you and

love about being a mom?

your spouse is in your kiddo. You realize just how much they are picking up from you. And NOW is the time to

Oh my, just one? I’d have to say living and being in the

start developing those good habits. It’s kinda stressful.

moment. It’s not who I am by nature. I am a planner by

Knowing that this little person will be a pre-teen, then

nature and working as a photographer and in the

teen, then adult. I hope we are turning her into a good

publication industry, I’m always looking two, three,

future adult!

four months or even a year into the future. It’s too easy to live in the future. But becoming a mom has really

4. What do you love the most about being a working

helped me slow down and appreciate every little stage.

mom?

It’s so cliché, but it goes by way too quickly. My days off! Ironic, I know. But I cherish them so much 3. What is your biggest challenge you face in

more now than I ever did. We get them few and far

motherhood?

between that every holiday or “hookie” day is an adventure. We go to the museum, bookstore, coffee

Right now, it’s toddlerhood. It’s more amazing than I

shop, park, anything fun. I really love the days that I get

ever thought imaginable. But it’s also more challenging.

to just be with her with nothing else going on.

It’s not that she is bad or anything. But I think this is

5. You wear many hats and you do it well! Tell us about all you have to balance and the different roles you play. Well, it’s still something I haven’t figured out. And may never fully figure it out. But I set boundaries and limits and stick to them. For example, I don’t do Stellar Day or photography work while my daughter is awake. I just don’t. I wait for nap times or bed time. Because of that, I do have to say “no” sometimes. I had to give myself permission to say “no.” I’m a people pleaser and hate upsetting people. But being a mom has really taught me what my priorities are. I’m also getting back into the groove of exercising regularly. And we do it as a family. It’s fun. We put our daughter in the stroller and go running or walking just the three of us. It’s a way to get out and focus on my wellbeing while still spending time with my family. 6. What is your favorite style of photography and why? Documentary. Hands down. Documentary is literally that…I document lives. Nothing is posed. Nothing is scripted. I walk into a home and document the little moments that make our lives so uniquely us. From making coffee in the morning to reading books together to guitar jam sessions. Whatever it is that a family loves doing together, I love documenting. In fact I’m doing a few documentary personal projects. It’s so fun photographing my own life in that style. Just capturing what I see and feel in the moment. 7. What is something you face daily that is a challenge for you? Probably taking time for me. Some days it’s non-existent. But I’m trying hard to give myself at least 15 minutes a day. Even if it’s sitting in my office at lunch and just being. That’s actually one of the things I’m working on this year. Finding more time for me. If not daily, at least weekly.

8. What would you change about the lifestyle that you

10. What is something (that you can share) that you are

live? What do you absolutely love about it?

excited for in the future? Any fun projects or opportunities coming up?

I wouldn’t change anything. That might sound weird, but I fully believe in living a life you’re proud of. We live

Actually, yes! Last year I created the Love Is series. It was

minimally – just bought a 900 sq ft condo, which is

designed to give families facing life-threatening or life-

actually bigger than our last place by 150 sq ft if you can

altering illness/diagnose a donated documentary photo

believe it. We don’t have a lot of stuff and I like it that way.

shoot. Often times professional photography is the first

We live near a huge city park and love to go play on the

thing forgone when dealing with such life changes. But I

weekends. I think that’s what I love most. I love our living

believe that these families deserve and need

space and walking everywhere and spending time checking

photography now more than ever. Documenting the love

out the local food scene. Silly probably, but I love it.

that surrounds their family. Anyway, it’s my goal this year to be able to donate my Signature Storytelling session to at

9. What is one piece of encouragement you would give to

least 12 families. It’s something I’m so passionate about.

all women and why? I’m also doing a few personal photography projects I’m You are doing a good job. Seriously. This world isn’t easy.

super stoked about. But I think the Love Is series is what

And if it looks like it’s easy for someone else, A) stop

I’m most excited about!

comparing yourself to others, but B) realize that you’re seeing their highlight reel. We only get one shot at this life,

11. What are the best ways and places we can follow you

so rock it. Follow your heart. Ignore the haters. You do

on social media?

you, boo boo. And if you can, find your tribe. Even if it’s just one lady, find them, hold them close, and do this life

So as a photographer, I’m all about Instagram, obviously. I

thing the way your heart wants. You won’t be disappointed.

also have a Facebook page. But Insta is totally my jam! Instagram: www.instagram.com/jen_stamps/ Facebook: www.facebook.com/jenniferstampsphotography/

What Is Your PARENTING STYLE? BY KATE WILLIAMS We all have one, don’t we? You know – * The “everything is together” mom * The “loosey-goosey anything goes” mom * The “perfection” mom * The “nothing but grace” mom * The “flustered” mom * The “oh no, what did I do” mom * The “I got this, confident” mom * The “juggling too many balls” mom * The “Pinterest perfect” mom * The “work from home” mom * The “always tired” mom And on and on and on. What are you? There are so many styles of parenting. So many styles of being a mom. Yet, we are all in this journey of motherhood together, aren’t we? So let’s get with our sisters and lift each other up in our strengths and support one another’s weaknesses. After all, they say it takes a village to raise a child and it is so true. We were not created to be alone. We were designed for relationship and to lean on one another. No matter what our parenting style is, there are a few things, as moms, that we need to remember: * We are in this together and need to support one another * We all have strengths – let’s utilize them as a body for the sake of our children * We all have weaknesses – let’s not be ashamed of what those are, but support one another and lift each other up when we need we all need to give ourselves a little bit of grace Let’s combine our “styles” and join together as a force for good in the lives of our children, marriages, families and homes. You are the mom God created you to be and exactly who your children need. Be encouraged today in who YOU are, embrace your style, and let’s lift each other up in this wonderful, crazy, amazing, challenging, and rewarding time of motherhood.

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CLOTHE YOURSELF IN

Compassion So, chosen by God for this new life of love, dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you: compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, discipline. Be even-tempered, content with second place, quick to forgive an offense. Forgive as quickly and completely as the Master forgave you. And regardless of what else you put on, wear love. Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s your basic, all-purpose garment. Never be without it." Colossians 3:12-14The Message (MSG) "

We do whatever we can to cover our nakedness. Shame is the name of the game; we were born

By Sarah Humphrey

into a fallen world, and we are desperately trying to cover our way out of it. In a society struggling to find itself, dress in the wardrobe God picked out for you. Adam and Eve were in the Garden before they found the Tree of the Knowledge of Good and Evil; they were without remorse and without guilt. Since the first bite was taken, there has been a plethora of ways to find our identity again. Jesus already gave us our new wardrobe: covering instead of shame, peace instead of anxiety, love instead of judgement. In all the ways we try to find our identity once again, we can choose what we put on. STELLAR DAY MAGAZINE | 22

We are a technology driven society. It’s not necessarily good; it’s not necessarily bad. It just is. It’s the tool we have to work with at this time. It gives us a way to share ourselves, or “brand” ourselves, express our feelings and our creativity. It can make us or break us. What we see in the mirror or on our phones, is it reality? Are we clothed with compassion, kindness, humility, quiet strength, and discipline? Or is it something else? My favorite way to create style is from the inside out. It’s easy to look at a picture of someone else and wonder how we relate. Do we compare, contrast, like it, or don’t like it? Do we look at other styles and judge or copy? Or do we do the hard work of finding our true selves? I’d rather do the work, celebrate myself, and partake of the celebration of others.

Let’s be honest. Clothes and accessories are fun! Social media is fun! Connection is fun! Women were made for beauty, inside and out. To find out who they are and to share it with their world. We can be who we want to be; God desires us to be full in our identity. But we do have choices. Here is a list of a few identity glitches I see most in the woman population:

WOMEN WERE MADE FOR BEAUTY, INSIDE AND OUT.

Comparison: How do I measure up? Jealousy: She has what I don’t have. Insecurity: I don’t know who I am, or I’m not sure if I like myself. Shame: Covering up what makes me feel uncomfortable to face. Social Media Fascade: Make it look perfect. Time Management: Spending time on what doesn’t matter. Self-hatred/Depression: Let’s be honest. We’ve been taught to berate ourselves. Addiction: Feeding the hurt instead of feeding the source. If you flip these issues, you get camaraderie, purpose, security, pride, art, productivity, self-care, and freedom. This is where I want to spend time! This is what I want to be clothed with as I rest in God’s

acceptance toward me and allow Him to cultivate His redemption in my heart and in my service. We were made to be beautiful, to be ourselves, and to share our style and our gifts with the world. The redemption is found in the process, of working from the inside out, and from offering ourselves to Him first. In His wardrobe, we’ll always give from a place of true identity, uniqueness, and grace. To hear more, you can pick up a copy of Sarah’s latest devotional for teens and any woman who has ever been a teen (#letsbehonest) called “How to Take a Selfie: A 30 Day Social Media #Detox to Regain Confidence and Connection” available on Amazon. You’ll laugh, you’ll sigh, and you might even #hashtag a few quotes. In all of it, we’ll definitely be taking a new selfie.

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Relate?

Although many women dread their 30th birthday I whole heartedly embraced mine. My twenties were full of life change and with it many joys and struggles. I often noticed how women beyond their twenties seemed more grounded. Maybe they actually are or maybe they are just better at faking it, whatever the case I was determined to make my thirties better than the previous decade. I’ll be 34 next month and I can say in all honesty I’ve loved my thirties. So many things have changed in the last four years and I’m so thankful for that. I became a mom in this decade and God hasn’t stopped stretching me since then. He has grown me and healed me in areas I didn’t even know I needed. I can honestly say I’m not the same girl I

was in my twenties. I’m not even the same as I was a year ago. This decade has been so freeing! With it I’ve gotten to know myself better. I’m learning who I am and who I’m not. More importantly I’m learning to embrace Jesus’ love for me. I’m seeking to rest in who God says I am and embrace the truth his word says about me. One of the biggest things that have changed is my relationships. As I’ve become more comfortable with who I am my boundaries have changed, they’ve become healthier and better defined. I’ve learned how I best function in relationships, what I need, and what I have to give. I guess you could say I’ve found my relational style. Here are a few things I’ve learned about myself so far: STELLAR DAY MAGAZINE | 26

1. I straddle that line between introvert and extrovert. I love small group and one on one interaction, but am exhausted by talking to a bunch of new people. Sometimes I need time alone to recharge and other times I need dinner out with some friends. 2. I’m a phone person, I know that horrifies some of you but I actually like to talk on the phone. I feel like a dying breed but I really do need conversation beyond social media and text messages to really feel connected to someone. 3. Not surprisingly, I can talk a lot. I often joke that I have the spiritual gift of many words. A story that might take a friend 30 seconds to tell takes me a full two minutes. 4. I’m a verbal processor and need dialogue to help me

process through things. So if something is weighing on me I need my close friends to talk it through with me. 5. I like movies and shopping and other such fun things but in this stage of motherhood when I do get out I often just want to meet for coffee or dinner and actually have a real time conversation (and meal!) without a toddler interrupting me. As you may have guessed my daughter likes to talk a lot too. 6. I don’t do well with too much surface stuff. By that I mean I like to talk about all things home décor, Target finds, and hair trends but I need more meaningful conversation beyond that too. I’m more often in the conversational deep end than in the kiddie pool. 7. I don’t like to be the only one sharing the deeper stuff and hope you’ll share what’s on your

heart too. Perhaps most importantly, I’ve learned to not just accept but embrace who I am. That was a bit of a process for me because I first had to figure out who I was apart from other people’s expectations. For most of my life I allowed other people’s feelings to control me. I was like a chameleon, often adapting to what I thought others wanted or expected me to be. So although it’s taken me a while, I am finally able to appreciate how God made me. How He designed a personality and communication style unique to me. Knowing these things helps me see how I best relate to others and how I function in friendships. I’ve become a better wife, sister, daughter, friend, and mother for it. If you don’t already know your relational style I encourage you to do some reflecting and figure it out. Your relationships will be better for it!

Fashion is not something that exists in dresses only. fashion is in the sky, in the street, fashion has to do with ideas, the way we live, what is happening. -Coco Chanel

by Sarah Trapp

Reflecting The Good Style has always been a difficult concept for me. As a girl who struggled with being confident in her own skin, let alone clothing to display the body I was born with, in the past I have hidden in my clothes. As I've grown, I've had to come to terms with how I look, and the reality that style isn't simply a surface level description of whoI am. Style is and has become my outward expression of who God made me to be. I've never been a frilly girl; I like clean lines, neutral colors, and stripes. I wear little jewelry and I like natural make up with pops of color on my lips. I have piercings and tattoos that subtly point to who I believe God has shaped me into. A cross adorns my right wrist, "worthy" is on my left. I have the Hebrew word "selah" on my foot, reminding me to be still and reflect on what God has done.

I want my style to point people to Jesus. I want them to know by looking at me that my heart is for what troubles theirs, that I'm creative and open to what the Holy Spirit can do, and that I value my body enough to continually work towards health. I want them to know that while I like looking good, helping people work through the crap that brings them down makes me feel better. I believe that style is confidence, grace, understanding, selfworth, and the ability to sit with people in their messy. It's not the perfect contour, the best vibrant lip color, or the biggest and smoothest hair. Style is looking good, but reflecting the good of the Creator who has made us, shaped us, and molded us.

I believe that style is confidence, grace, understanding, self-worth, and the ability to sit with people in their messy.

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I’ve never met a dip that I didn’t like. No, seriously. Dips are my jam. Ooo jam. If you’re feeling festive this month in lieu of Valentine’s Day, this would be the treat to try! It’s healthy, it’s low on the calories, and it’s easy to whip up. AND it’s dip. You can’t beat it! Thank you Sammi with Grounded & Surrounded for sharing this with us!

Ingredients: 1/2 cup plain Greek Yogurt 1 tbsp cocoa powder 2 tsp coconut sugar 1/2 tsp vanilla extract 1/16 (a couple drops) almond extract Dash of salt Apple, strawberries, or fruit of choice Directions 1. Mix all ingredients (minus the fruit) in a small bowl. 2. Wash and slice apple. Cut into wedges or prepare other fruit of choice. Dip. Enjoy! STELLAR DAY MAGAZINE | 30

REAL STYLE IS NEVER RIGHT OR WRONG. IT'S A MATTER OF BEING YOURSELF ON PURPOSE. G. BRUCE BOYER

CLEAN EATING TACO SOUP With Homemade Taco Seasoning ARTICLE BY JESSICA WILLIAMS RECIPE & PHOTOS BY SAMMI RICKE WWW . GROUNDEDANDSURROUNDED . COM STELLAR DAY MAGAZINE | 32

We’ve had a LOT of cloudy days here in Arizona this winter! More than normal, and if it’s not more than normal, it sure feels that way! I came across this Clean Eating Taco Soup recipe by Grounded & Surrounded, and I just knew it had to be shared. May there be many more cloudy days this winter, and if there’s not well, I’m gonna eat this soup anyways. Plus, this recipe includes do it yourself taco seasoning! You can’t beat that! Thank you Sami Ricke from Grounded and Surrounded for sharing these recipes with us! You can follow her amazing food blog at www.groundedandsurrounded.com.

EAT GOOD FEEL GOOD TACO SEASONING INGREDIENTS 5 tbsp chili powder 4 tbsp ground cumin 1 tsp ground coriander 1 tsp onion powder 1 tsp garlic powder 1 tsp salt 1/2 tsp black pepper 1/4 tsp cayanne pepper 1/4 tsp red pepper flakes DIRECTIONS 1. Place all spices in a small jar. 2. Tightly seal with a lid and shake. 3. Store this seasoning for months in your pantry or cupboard!

TACO SOUP INGREDIENTS 1 lb ground meat (turkey, beef, venison) 1 onion, diced 1 bell pepper, diced 1 small zucchini, diced 2 cups frozen corn or 15 oz can 28 oz can diced tomatoes, undrained 15 oz can of beans, undrained (kidney, black, or pinto beans) 2 cups water 3 Tbsp homemade taco seasoning or 1 packet 1 packet ranch seasoning or salt and pepper DIRECTIONS 1. In a large pot, brown the meat. Add in remaining ingredients and simmer for 30 minutes. Taste. 2. Add more seasoning such as chili or cayenne powder, salt, or pepper if needed. 3. You can stir in a generous drip of Frank's Hot Sauce to kick it up a notch! 4. Top with plain Greek yogurt, shredded cheese, tortilla chips, avocado, or lime wedges!

Written by COURTNEY BAREMAN

Women, Fashion & Art

they wanted to wear, and why. Both of my daughters have very distinct taste, each style reflective of their personality. Their decisions had less to do with being on trend or flattering their sweet bodies, instead they cared about the colors they loved and how the clothes felt and fit. They

At its core, fashion is practical. We cover ourselves

didn’t want to be restrained by their clothes. When

in clothes that protect us and that we can afford.

their feet hit the ground in the morning they knew

But fashion has a large creative element that

what they wanted to wear…Their days were filled

shouldn’t be ignored. Creative expression is just as

with dancing, exploring, running, and jumping.

important as the practical reality of fashion.

Other days they wanted to be fancy- so they would

Fashion is more important that just merely

choose a frilly dress with gloves and a hat. Either

covering up. Studies have shown that we are

way, the loved their chosen look. And they owned

happier when we feel confident about how we

it, with all the confidence they have.

look, when we think we look good. Intuitively, we know this to be true.

I remember when I was young being inspired by what I saw in the pages of different fashion

As a parent it was remarkable how early my

magazines advertisements and articles, in store-

daughter’s had very strong opinions about what

front windows, and at fancy award shows. It took STELLAR DAY MAGAZINE | 34

me a while to dial in on what I liked and even

by creation, but we can take in and admire

longer to be secure enough to own it. My style has

gorgeous patterns, deep colors, and rich textures

changed over the years, like trends do. It has

in clothing. We get to play with dimension and

evolved and grown, like people do. And that feels

wear sky-high heels and sparkly bracelets and

right to me.

earrings. We can play dress up or dress to be our most authentic self. All of this is not just practical.

One thing I appreciate about fashion is that it is

This is art, every day and often overlooked art.

very subjective- everyone is allowed an opinion,

There is no room for shame or fear in the best art.

and is able to experience it differently. People can

Great art calls for bravery and authenticity by the

and should disagree about fashion and creative

creator. So as you get dressed each day

arts. Just because I love something doesn’t mean

remember.. In order to be the best version of

you need to, and vice versa. Art is meant to evoke

yourself there isn’t room for self-hate or body-

emotion, the best pieces do. A Degas painting of

shaming, both of which have sadly become socially

ballerina dancers can stop me in my tracks and just

accepted cultural norms. The perfect pair of jeans

about take my breath away. I smile every time I see

or a pair of Spanx can’t fix that, that problem runs

“The Kiss” by Gustav Klimt. Songs can both move

deep. Instead what if we as women were not only

me to tears or convince me to have a dance party

accepting of who we are, but were able to embrace

in my kitchen. I imagine I am not alone in this. Art

ourselves as works of art. AND what if we were

is powerful.

able to cheer on other women in the process. To trade in what we have been sold and told by

And to me fashion is made up of the best parts of

culture and replaced it with the confidence of the

art: creative and fun, not overly seriously or

girls we once were. Fearless and confident as we

stuffy…risky and beautiful. We get to walk around

explore the world that we are contributing so

this crazy beautiful world, and be wowed not only

much to.

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INHALE CONFIDENCE EXHALE DOUBT BY DANIELLE NESPER When I wake up in the morning and get ready for the day that doesn't necessarily mean putting on makeup or the cutest top in my closet. That being said style means a whole heck of a lot to this girl! I have been a true definition of girly girl all my life. I love fashion, clothing, and the hustle and bustle of retail for a very, very long time. I wanted to be a fashion designer for years (still do), I have sketched clothing and still do from time to time, when I don't have a 4 year old climbing all over me and I actually take some creative time for myself. I even made a few of my own clothing pieces back in the day that probably no one even knows about because I'm extremely shy when it comes to my work. My mom taught me how to sew when I was young. She also taught me about makeup, jewelry, dress up, enjoying being a girl, and all the wonderful things that come with it! Dating life, womanhood, being a

woman of God, motherhood, and a whole lot more. Throughout each season of my life so far my style has changed. Some seasons I care about how I look, but not in an insecure way. I genuinely just love dressing up and being girly! Some seasons I had spit up in my hair and crusty dried baby food on my shirt! Style is an interesting word because we have made style this fashion word when in all actuality it’s first definition states that it is “a manner of doing something” and the second definition for it talks about “a distinctive appearance.” I'm all for us individually having our own distinct appearance. I champion that actually! I have a shoe obsession just like the next girl! Raise your hand if you're with me shoe girls!! But as I've gotten older, and to be honest less superficial, I have really come to understand style as being about who we are on the inside much more than what's on the outside. What does my

"I THINK YOUR OWN STYLE COMES FROM WITHIN FIRST AND FOREMOST AND FROM THERE YOUR OUTWARD APPEARANCE JUST ADDS TO YOUR BEAUTY!"

"BE PROUD OF WHO YOU ARE AND WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE!"

heart look like? What's my style as me, Danielle? I think your own style comes from within first and foremost and from there your outward appearance just adds to your beauty! I think all you need when it comes to your own style is to just inhale confidence and exhale doubt. Own YOU. You're beautiful and your style is shown no matter what you wear because it all stems from your heart. We all have such individual, unique and beautiful souls and if we just really see who we are on the inside first then we will shine unashamedly! Some days I go out in public without makeup on {GASP}, I throw my hair in a messy bun, I don't care what I look like and I go run errands like a boss. I want my daughter to see that I can put myself together with makeup, cute clothes and those stinking cute leather Lucky bootie shoes I just got for Christmas but I can also own my true beauty and walk about town and just let my inner style shine! My challenge to all of us is to give our beautiful faces, makeup or no makeup, a break from time to time and just inhale that confidence and exhale all of that doubt! Be proud of who you are and what you look like! People will judge us no matter what we do so why not just allow yourself to be YOU and be confident in your style? Exhale that doubt girl! Breathe in that confidence! Now whoâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s with me for a mani pedi day?!

5 FOODS

To Boost Your Immune System By Sara Siskind

With the cold winter months setting in, we find

1. Eat colorful fruits and vegetables rich in

ourselves spending more of our time indoors and

vitamins and minerals. Reach for red and pink

hibernating from the harsh weather. This is the

grapefruits, oranges, kiwis, and berries. Choose

time of year people are more susceptible to colds

cruciferous veggies like broccoli, cauliflower

and the flu. One reason is that viruses tend to

and brussels sprouts. These fruits and veggies

live longer in cold air. Also, being indoors leaves

are not only loaded with essential vitamins and

us closer in proximity to others where germs can

phytonutrients, but they are also rich in

spread more easily from person to person. Since

antioxidants which give your immune system a

part of our wellbeing depends on how we treat

boot and help build up your digestive track.

ourselves, now is the time to fuel our bodies with immune boosting vitamins and minerals found in

2. Add in pistachios as a heart healthy, protein

a whole food diet. Prevention is key!

rich snack. Pistachios are also rich in

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antioxidants and the heart healthy fats to help your body absorb vitamin E. Vitamin E is needed by the immune system to fight off invading bacteria. Pistachios are also rich in vitamin B6 which also helps prevent infection and create healthy red blood cells your body needs. 3. Look for omega 3 fatty acids and selenium which are found in shellfish, salmon, mackerel, and herring. These foods help white blood cells produce a protein which helps clear flu viruses out of the body. Omega 3 fatty acids reduce inflammation in the body by clearing the lungs pathways. This can help protect from colds and respiratory infections. 4. Make yogurt your go-to breakfast or snack. Yogurt contains probiotics; â&#x20AC;&#x153;healthy bacteriaâ&#x20AC;? that your body needs to keep your immune system strong and keeps your digestive free of disease causing germs. Yogurt is also filled with protein that keeps your body energized and strong. 5. Spice up your food with turmeric, ginger, and cinnamon. These spices are especially known to contain antioxidants that help to protect your cells and keep inflammation in the body down. I add turmeric to soups, eggs, rice, and poultry. Fresh grated ginger brings warmth to any beverage. Cinnamon can be sprinkled on oatmeal, cereal, yogurt, and easily added to anything you bake.

about sarah

Certified Nutritional Health Counselor, Sara Siskind is the founder of Hands On Healthy, cooking classes for adults, families and teens based in New York. Sara has dedicated her career to educating clients on how food and lifestyle choices affect health, and how to make the right choices to look and feel your best each day. Sara translates the complexity of integrated nutrition into usable tools with easy-to-cook recipes that appeal to the entire family. Sara counsels privately to offer highly customized health and nutrition plans for her clients. She also works with parents on shopping and cooking smarter to create healthier homes. In addition, she teaches beginner to gourmet cooking classes with her signature "toss it in" approach. In addition, Sara regularly works with corporations and non-profit organizations to lead workshops and lectures on healthy eating. www.sarasiskind.com

"Style is a deeply personal expression of who you are, and every time you dress, you are asserting a part of yourself." Nina Garcia

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Show Me

That You Are Here BY ESTHER GALLAGHER

Christians have their own style . Not the cat - walk down the church aisles and Sunday - best kind but a style of worship , rituals , and perhaps traditions where they feel the most comfy , cozy , and homey in God ’ s house . It ’ s funny , growing up ‘ churched , ’ I never fully related to the style of sermonizing and worship music in my church and had a feeling that one day , I would have to find a church home that was ‘ more me ’ . So as a young married couple we start visiting and feeling churches out … some were not intimate enough or too big , others felt too loosey goosey while others too stiff and obligatory . Eventually , we settled into a Lutheran church that felt like it bridged my non denominational roots with

my husband ’ s Catholic upbringing . Not an easy thing to find , but you could say that in it , we felt a mutually acceptable comfort zone . We ’ ve all been here at one point in time in our church journey and maybe some of us now forgo church altogether because it doesn ’ t quite seem to fit with our family ’ s different personalities or individualized comfort levels . Maybe for you , church never quite felt just right like it did for the little bear in the childhood fable who burned his tongue on porridge before he finally found his perfect creature comforts . Because we are after all , human and therefore selfish by nature , and desire a custom - tailored

church experience ( and if we could place our orders , one that has service times scheduled perfectly after baby ’ s nap time or maybe earlier so we don ’ t miss our favorite football team ! ) . But what I ’ ve learned over the years is that , the church is not defined by the music leader , the priest ’ s robes , or the hipster pastor ’ s modern day skinny jean ’ s ; the folding chairs in the gymnasium turned church or the stately , wooden pews ; it ’ s defined by our hearts . We are the Church , we are His people and if we walk with Jesus in our hearts , we can walk through most church doors regardless of denomination and find Him there . I used to think that I could never get anything out of a

Catholic mass when I visited with my husband , a born - and - bred - New - York forever - Irish - Catholic . I just couldn ’ t relate to the traditions , the eulogy , the up - down kneel - sit - up - down - kneel thing , and the boring music . I was going because I wanted to honor where he felt the most comfortable but I preferred our home church ’ s contemporary service , a bible available in my church pew , the cry room available for my little bear , and what my husband calls its ‘ rock - n - roll ’ musical style . I could have told you several other reasons why Catholic church wasn ’ t for me , never would be and why I just didn ’ t feel God there . But one day , God woke me up in mass when I asked , “ Lord , help me get something out of this today . Show me that you are here ” . And He answered , My child , show Me that YOU ARE HERE , completely present and willing to receive me . Don ’ t overthink the stuff , the style , the denomination , the shoulds / should nots , the organ “

versus the drum set , heads bowed versus hands lifted . I am here with you and everyone else . Yes , you worship differently and uniquely but so does everyone else . Can ’ t you find Me everywhere ? Look again … If you can see Me in the sunrise and in the ocean tide , you can see me here , right next to you , and beside that woman in front of you and holding that small child ’ s hand , and touching that priest on his shoulder . Will you accept my invitation and open your heart to feel and your eyes to see Me ? ” And oh my goodness , did the tears flow as I felt the Holy Spirit doing a work in my discomfort . Of Him saying , don ’ t let your stylistic expectations of what feels comfortable or ‘ right ’ get in the way of Him . Wherever two or more are gathered , I am there - that ’ s His promise - with the Lutherans , the Catholics , the Methodists , the Pentecostals and even those who don ’ t know who they are or belong to just yet .

"Don’t let your stylistic expectations of what feels comfortable or ‘right’' get in the way of Him."

"But maybe we need to lean into that discomfort so we can understand that our selfish nature is often our own worst enemy." And when you really realize this , those words in that boring hymn start filling you with His grace , mercy , peace , love , and hope . And then you catch yourself finding meaning in the message and just know the pastor / priest fashioned it with you specifically in mind . And the prayer that once seemed so rote and obligatory , comes alive as you dive into its words one by one and reflect on what you are saying in community with others . And you feel Jesus in all his glory in that communion wafer and wine and you are struck with awe for his life - giving sacrifice . And instead of getting lost in religion , you get lost in Him . You understand that you were not meant to subscribe to religiosity , but to God ’ s love which , if we are willing , will reach us in any setting , both within and outside of our four walls , and in every environment . Sometimes we get so set in our ways that things feel uncomfortable when we step out into different territory . But maybe we need to lean into that discomfort so we can understand that our selfish nature is often our own worst enemy . It gets in the way of fellowshipping with other believers , of appreciating how we collectively and personally , commune with Him . Maybe you ’ re the opposite of me . Maybe you ’ re used to the structure of your ‘ fill in the blank denomination ’ and feel discomfort in non denominational churches . What could God be asking you to consider in that discomfort zone ? Maybe to trust in His wisdom and discernment , or to go deeper in your expression of his love ? Maybe this scares you because everyone else seems so different in how they praise God . Could you pray about that and ask God to help you understand why it scares you ? If like me , you

release yourself of the expectation of what church looks or feels like , could you go deeper with God , could you understand that being part of one body of believers means releasing ourselves of an us - versus - them mentality ? I ’ m not suggesting church shopping and I ’ m not suggesting a Catholic become a Bible church - goer or vice versa , but I am suggesting that maybe there ’ s something we can discover in communion with others and about our relationship with God if presented with the opportunity to visit other churches and ask Him to take down our guard just a little . While my husband will always be Catholic and I will always be more of a rock - n - roll kind of church girl , I know that I must keep this open heart with me no matter what kind of pew I sit in , no matter whose raising their hands in prayer or kneeling solemnly beside me . When we gather in His name , Jesus is always unfailingly , there . Show Him that YOU are there too .

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