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October 2016
Volume 15, Issue 10
who’s who Publisher Delores Blount
Sales & Marketing Director Susan Bryant
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Featured Turn Around Look at Me by Rose Ann Sinay . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8 Our Very Best Dance Party by Diane Stark . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 14 Pink by Jennie Rook . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 16 Pip by Doreen Frick . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 22 A Bride’s Dilemma by Janey Womeldorf . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 28 A Mockingbird’s Dance by David Weiskircher . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 42 I Go Back by Erika Hoffman . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 44 Face Value by Anita Stafford . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 48
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letter from the editor Both of my children love music, led by their music-loving mother I’m sure. My daughter says she can remember hearing the sledge hammer beat of Led Zeppelin from her crib – that was my favorite house-cleaning music at the time. Our home had an eclectic playlist – along with Robert Plant’s soprano screams, Shawn grew up hearing everything from Vivaldi to Waylon Jennings to Frank Sinatra. As she grew up, she developed her own taste in music, most of which I loved – music was the one thing we could nearly always agree on, regardless of the many things on which we didn’t. Mother-daughter relationships can be difficult, and ours certainly was. One year, for her birthday, which is this month, Shawn wanted to go to Atlanta to see Radiohead, a band I had never grown to love like some of her other favorites. But, it was her birthday, so we went, just the two of us. I remember us finding our seats in the huge venue and listening to the opening act – I thought this was going to be a long night. Well, eventually, Thom Yorke, lead singer for Radiohead, walked on stage, an ordinary-looking man, surrounded by the other members of the band. He stood quietly in front of the microphone for a moment, looked out on the audience of thousands of people, and the opening notes of the first song began to play. When this incredible musician began to sing, every single person in attendance stopped. And when I say stopped, I mean there was absolutely no noise in the huge amphitheatre except the beautiful, ethereal music coming from the stage. The man and his music contained a magic that kept all of us enthralled for the next 90 minutes. It was one of the best concerts I’ve ever attended, and a memory I’ll always cherish of a time with my beautiful daughter that I love so very much. Her birthday will always be one of the best days of my life.
RE: Writer Photos Thanks, Leslie, for bringing back photos of your contributors. I really like being able to picture the person who has written an article, and you always have tremendous heartwarming articles! -Gloria RE: “Medicare Maze & Mania,” by Diane DeVaughn Stokes I laughed all the way through! It’s amazing what Big Brother knows about all of us! You even have to be careful what you Google! -Erika RE: “Shrimp, Then and Now – Still a Local Staple,” by Rick Baumann I love to read about the history of the area. Even though I am landlocked in the Midwest, your part of the country makes my heart sing. Great article. -Linda RE: “Why Be Busy?” by Erika Hoffman Erika was certainly channeling my life with her engaging essay. Humor is certainly the best medicine for what ails us. I’m off to the department store this very afternoon!
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Turn Around, Look at Me by Rose Ann Sinay
On our way home from a recent trip, my husband, Terry, and I saw signs advertising a flea market that we have bypassed on all our previous trips – never enough time to stop. But this trip was different. We had all afternoon. It would feel good to stretch our legs and peruse the fairgrounds packed with vendors and their interesting treasures. We circled the parking lot trying to find an empty spot. Just when we were about to give up and miss yet another opportunity, a truck pulled out right next to the roped entrance. We parked and immediately parted ways. We have learned shopping together doesn’t work. My husband talks me out of things I know I need to have, and likewise, I question his odd (to me) choices. It didn’t take long for me to find something enticing – halfway down the very first row of tents. I walked by the domed trunk embellished with tarnished brass and torn leather straps and tried to ignore it. It was too early for a big purchase. I gave in by the time I reached the fourth row of booths. I turned around. I had to get back to the trunk before someone else bought it. There had to be a place for it in my house . . . somewhere. The vendor let me leave it under the table while I continued shopping. I returned twice to store my purchases. I managed to fill half of the chest with books and a very old Chinese vase (Ming dynasty?) before Terry and I met up. He wore a big smile and carried a large, square box. “It’s an old record player,” he said removing the top to show me the arm and turntable. “And, we need this why?” I asked. “We have satellite radio, satellite TV
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music stations and several CD players with CDs. You have a record player and NO records.” I shook my head. His grin got bigger. “There’s a box of my old albums in the attic.” Oh no, I thought. Could he be talking about the collection of LPs purchased when he was a teen from the Record of the Month Club? I could have sworn that cardboard carton had been taken to the dump many years ago. What in the world made him think record albums from the ‘60s would survive the heat and cold and the haphazard storage, never mind, sound half as good as a CD? And, now, we would have this unattractive clunker of a box sitting in our living room. I would have to bide my time and find a hiding place for it. After we arrived home and unpacked the car, Terry headed to the attic. He came down the stairs with a stack of vinyl discs. “Just wait until you hear the sound of these babies,” he said blowing the dust from the covers. He disappeared with his new (old) toys, and I started dinner. I pictured the disappointment on his face when he realized his forty year old records were scratched, warped and melted. While I was preparing dinner, I heard movement in the dining room. “Let’s eat in here tonight,” he called out. I heard drawers open and close. I grimaced as I heard my china in the cabinet clatter against each other. “I’m setting the table,” he yelled as if to reassure me.
When I walked into the dining room with my food platters, the lights dimmed. Terry turned to the clunky box sitting in the middle of my table, my best china placed around it. I started to object, but Terry shushed me with his index finger to his lips. He lowered the needle on the black disc. Three familiar voices serenaded me. I recognized the song on the third note and sang along: “The Way You Look Tonight,” by The Lettermen . . . our first date . . . the trio on his eight track tape that filled the awkward silences between our “getting to know you” small talk. The sound was pure and sweet with nostalgia. I placed the food on the table, closed my eyes and listened: “When I Fall in Love,” “Blue Velvet,” “Portrait of My Love,” the faint (but distinctive) groove noise between songs that you only hear on a record. Our bodies swayed to the music, remembering the days; he drove a gray Chevy, and my hair was as long as my short skirt. Then came the song with the sad story that I rewound so many times the tape broke – “She Cried,” and, I cried – as I did all those times before. For a few moments, we were those young, crazy kids again – confident, stupid, innocent and ready to fall in love. Goosebumps traveled up my arms. “So, it wasn’t such a bad buy after all, huh?” he asked, waving a Simon and Garfunkel album at me. I swooned. The ugly box? I emptied our “new” antique trunk, polished the brass and oiled the leather. My husband dusted and cleaned the player. We carefully placed the box inside the chest. There was room for all the beloved albums to stand next to it. The combination of the old, blemished items was the perfect marriage. We had brought our quirky music box to life. Almost forgotten, now it was cherished. It had “The Look of Love.”
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Music & Memories Jacque Richardson: Thrive at Prince Creek by Leslie Moore
Is there a song or band that always brings back good memories for you? I have always loved beach music. In fact, my wedding song was “Be Young, Be Foolish, Be Happy,” by The Tams. Another song that always warms my heart is “What a Wonderful World,” by Louie Armstrong, and any Christmas music, especially by Luther Van Dross. What was the best concert you’ve ever attended? Who would you like to see in concert that you haven’t seen? I shy away from crowds and never go to big concerts. Growing up, my friends and I went to see small bands, not just to listen, but to dance! I love all kinds of music, especially live music, and would like to see Barbara Streisand because her voice is beautiful and Third Day because I love their message. Yanni is also an old favorite that I would like to see. How has music affected your life? In my hometown, Mullins, we had an event called Sing-a-long with Mitch that was held every year during the Christmas season. It started with a just few couples – all close friends. We would go to one friend’s apartment and decorate her tree, eat and sing Christmas carols. Each year it grew a little larger, and we would have more people. Eventually we moved to my friend’s river home and finally had to move to the National Guard Armory in Mullins. Hundreds of people came every year to decorate, eat and sing their hearts out. Their “admission” was a toy for a foster child. I will never forget how moved I was seeing a tractor trailer truck come to pick up all the toys we collected for children who wouldn’t have had much for Christmas without our help. My dear friend who started this event passed away, and she requested that two of her favorite songs from Sing-a-long with Mitch, “What a Wonderful World,” and “Christmas in Dixie,” be played at her funeral. It was an incredible tribute to a very special person. How have you seen music affect the seniors you work with? Especially those in memory care. Music is the international language. It touches everyone, no matter the age or stage in life. I truly believe it touches the soul and is a magical healing tool. I remember a woman who didn’t speak for years. When she attended a church service at my community, she sang every word, note for note of “Amazing Grace!” Even at the end of our journey, we can still hear and feel music. At our community we employ various forms of therapy, including music therapy – and our residents will always start clapping, tapping their feet and some even get up and dance.
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Our Very Best Dance Party by Diane Stark
“Mom, how long will it take to drive to the hotel?” My seven-year-old son, Nathan, asked.
in 1998, just one year after the release of that CD.
“Six hours, Buddy,” I answered. He sighed, and I could read his thoughts: he was worried about being bored in the car for that long. “It’s OK, Honey. I’m going to bring my CDs so the ride will go really quickly.”
We had quite the dance party in the car that afternoon.
“Are we going to have a dance party?” I smiled. Nathan really likes dance parties. “Yes, but it will have to be a quiet one because Grandma will be with us. She won’t want us to play the music too loudly.” He nodded. “OK. A quiet – but not too quiet – dance party will make the ride much more fun.” The next morning, I made sure to grab my CDs. I handed them to my daughters and said, “You guys are our DJs for the trip.” My CD collection isn’t vast, but it is varied. It is also rather vintage. Like most people, I don’t buy CDs that often anymore, so most of my collection is from the ‘90s. But that didn’t bother my girls. They chose a couple of old Shania Twain discs to get us started. We ended up listening to them for most of the ride. I hadn’t listened to her music for several years, but I still remembered the words. And listening to the girls teach them to Nathan was hilarious. Especial ly the song , “Man, I Feel like a Wo m a n ! ” Hearing my seven-year-old son sing those words was quite amusing. It also brought back a lot of memories. He wasn’t my first little boy to sing that song w i t h m e. Hi s older brother, Jordan, was born
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Jordan knew every word, much to his father’s dismay. But it was all in good fun.
Another song from that CD also brought back a lot of memories. “From this Moment” was the song my mom and stepdad used for their first dance at their wedding. My sister and I were my mom’s matrons of honor, and Jordan, who was just 17 months old, was the ring bearer. Jordan was grumpy that day, and the tuxedo made him feel itchy. I’ll never forget how worried I was that he was going to have a meltdown and ruin my mom’s big day. We got through the wedding without a major issue, although Jordan was holding his favorite Matchbox car in every one of the pictures. But at the beginning of the reception, the DJ came to me, looking troubled. “I asked your mom what song she wanted me to play for their first dance, and she said to ask you,” he said. “Me? How do I know what song they want?” I said. I found my mom, who said, “Doug and I don’t really have a song that we consider to be ‘our song.’ So you can just pick something that would be appropriate.” I racked my brain and realized that “From this Moment” would be the perfect song for them. Both Mom and Doug had gone through painful divorces after being married for many years. They’d known one another for less than a year when they’d gotten married. But “From this Moment” was a song about the present, not the past. It was full of promises for the future, which was the perfect theme for their w e d d i n g d ay. The past didn’t m a t t e r. T h e y were mov ing forward together from that moment on.
The only problem? The DJ didn’t have that CD. But I did. I ran out to my car in my bride maid’s dress and grabbed the disc. The DJ played it, Mom and Doug danced, and a wonderful memory was made.
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Sharing the memory with my kids made all of us smile. As I drove, the car’s disc player changed to another Shania Twain CD. A song came on, and my daughter, Lea, immediately began singing. “I don’t remember this one,” I said. “Oh, it’s called ‘She’s Not Just a Pretty Face’ and it says that women can be anything they want to be,” she said. “I love this song.” As I listened to the song, it didn’t seem as familiar to me as all of the other songs had – until Shania (and Lea) sang one particular line. The song lists all of these jobs that women can have. Today, we can be astronauts, engineers, and anything else we want to be. But the line that caught my attention said, “She’s a geologist, a romance novelist, she’s a mother of three.” When I heard those words, a sense of déjà vu came over me. I had listened to this song – many times, in fact. And I’d listened to that particular line with longing in my heart. While I had no desire to be a geologist, I desperately wanted to be the other two. But instead of a romance novelist, I was a special education teacher. I enjoyed my job, but I hated leaving my children to go to work each day. I just missed them so much. I longed to be a writer so that I could stay home with them. I also desperately wanted a third child – something my then-husband definitely did not want. Tears filled my eyes as I realized that the last time I’d heard that song, I’d felt longing when I heard that line. But now, I felt only peace. My first husband had left me over a decade ago, and I’d gotten remarried a few years later. My husband Eric had two children from his first marriage, and we’d had another baby together. Instead of becoming a mother of three, I now had five children to love.
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by Jennie Rook Pink. It is such a docile color. It is the color of softness. It is the color of a baby’s round cheeks, so sweet. Pink holds tight a little girl’s pigtails; it adorns her summer dresses. It echoes in the sounds of a newborn’s cry. Pink is the color of innocence. And this month, it is everywhere. “Pinktober:” The color of the October bandwagon. Goodhearted socks, emblems, pompoms, logos and other assorted accoutrements dance in every venue, giddy with goodwill and mammary glee. Pink, at every venue, from sporting events to supermarkets; every retailer, every product, each tied together by that unmistakable pink ribbon – all well-intentioned campaigns in the name of breast cancer. The commercial world has such laudable goals–to raise awareness of this disease that affects so many people on so many levels. Let me tell you what pink looks like in my world. I never thought pink was my color – until a few years ago.
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Pink isn’t just October for me. January 19 is pink on my calendar. That was the day I began to speak in a pink vocabulary; biopsy, malignancy, surgery. It’s the color of the tissue I lost after my mastectomy on March 10. March is pink for me too. It was a pink tumor removed from the pink of my chest wall that day. And then April, May, June and July– four months riddled with pink days of chemotherapy. Pink was the color of my dad’s t-shirt every Wednesday when he picked me up for my appointments. Pink quilts, a pink recliner, pink word art hanging on the walls of the office provides inspiration while the poison-filled IV tubes snaked up and around and into my veins to kill and crush the disease. It was an onslaught, a full-out pink massacre of cancer cells. Pink is the nurse’s bright smile, the tears in her eyes on chemo graduation day. August and September bring pink skin after thirty-three rounds of radiation and five extra blasters. Pink is my scar: The one that runs across my chest. The one I see every single day. Pink stares back at me in the mirror. A pink reminder of how my life has been forever changed. Pink is my son’s honest question – If they don’t know how you got it, how do they
know it won’t come back? Pink is raw. Pink is doubt. Pink is fear. I dream pink nightmares. I’m haunted by pink demons. Pink is fight. Fight like a girl? Hell yes! I fought hard on the pink battlefield and I won. – so far. Pink-polished fingernails crossed I hold onto that victory and remain undefeated. Pink is fire. It is courage. It is glory. Pink ribbons pinned to lapels. Pink shoelaces make strides across the nation to raise money and support. It is the color of my heartbeat, the color of the love for my family. Pink is resiliency. And it’s now October. Pink is everywhere. I try so painstakingly to swallow the pink bitterness that rises in the back of my throat when I see the perky cleavage of an NFL cheerleader so perfectly framed in pink. I am, after all, alive, albeit pinkly mangled and scarred. Pink is a color I wear yearlong. Pink reminds me the battle never ends. Pink is the color of a sisterhood of millions of women who don’t know each other’s names but recognize each other’s stories all too well. It is comfort. Pink is survival. It’s the doctor’s voice as he pronounces the word remission. Pink is life. It’s the promise of a cure. Pink is hope.
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Elizabeth Huntsinger: Bringing the Past to Life by Leslie Moore
Discovering the secrets hidden in the past of her beloved Georgetown is a passion of Elizabeth Huntsinger’s life. Author of the popular, Ghosts of Georgetown series and Waterline, her first Cheshire Cat Maritime Antique Shop Mystery, this talented writer shares her extensive knowledge not only through her books, but as a historical reenactor and popular local tour guide. And, best of all, she’s a pirate!
The day we met on the picturesque Harborwalk in Georgetown, Elizabeth came dressed and ready to do battle with anyone who might threaten her or any member of the Charles Towne Few, her group of historical reenactors (pirates) that attend events all over the state. “Our next event will be at Georgetown’s Wooden Boat Show on October 15 and 16. We will make camp at the Chamber of Commerce,” Elizabeth told me as we walked through town. Everyone passing by stared at the lovely, but fierce-looking, pirate in period dress so accurate it was almost as if she had taken a step through a time machine. “I attended the pirate siege during the former Harborwalk Festival many times and was always fascinated,” she told me
Southern Snaps when I asked what led her to join the swashbuckling crew. “I went to the about her personal experiences. She works part time as a ranger doing tours Pirate Camp at the Maritime Festival in Charleston and that’s when I began at Hampton Plantation outside of Georgetown and the first time she visited to fill out my kit.” the property was the closest she’s ever come to a supernatural experience. “I walked into a room upstairs, there were no walls, but when I stepped into By “kit,” Elizabeth means her costumes and accessories that include a one corner it was like I entered into someone’s private room – you know the working antique pistol that she can actually fill with powder and fire, and feeling you get if you go to visit someone in the hospital and accidentally a gorgeous period reproduction sword, along with handmade outfits that step into the wrong room? That was the feeling.” Elizabeth later found out are meticulously designed to be historically correct. “The clothing needs to that this very spot had been John Henry Rutledge’s room, and his spirit is be silk, cotton or linen, and I make or remake most of my own. Everything believed to still linger there. can be purchased online as well.” She went on to tell me that her outfit was based on one worn by Tia Dalma/Calypso, a character in the popular movie, “I have interviewed many people who have seen spirits,” Elizabeth said as we Pirates of the Caribbean, Dead Man’s Chest and Pirates of the Caribbean, At continued. “And, surprisingly, these are not people who wanted or tried to World’s End. “In the heat of summer the women would take the sleeves out see ghosts. It’s often the ones who don’t believe in the supernatural who see of their dresses and sew the bodice directly to the stays.” them!” She shares her knowledge of the mysterious stories surrounding the spirit world through her popular, evening Ghosts of Georgetown Haunted Her love of history also led Elizabeth to become a Civil War reenactor. “I Tours. “The tour is a mile and a half and takes about an hour and a half,” have to create my own outfits for this as well,” she said. “We leave the 21st Elizabeth began. “We walk by some of the most haunted spots in town, such century behind – no technology, no modern comforts.” I asked what the as the Winyah Indigo Society Hall, which has drawn paranormal investigagroup ate during their encampments and was a little surprised by her answer. tors from around the country.” Elizabeth went on to tell me the Kaminski “Most of the time we have a camp cook, and the food is good – we’ve had House also has a resident spirit, as does the Keith House, now a B & B on squirrel stew, venison and even pork chops.” Laughing, Elizabeth told me Front Street. “In the Keith House, many have seen a woman in black come a story of how some members do take a few shortcuts. “I remember seeing from under the stairs to foretell a death in the family.” a chicken roasting on a spit one day at camp. It smelled wonderful, and I thought it was such a lovely period scene,” she said. “When I mentioned All of this busy writer/historian’s work is not with the past; she is also very it, they told me they had brought the chicken already cooked and put it on involved in the present, and works as a naturalist on the tour boat, Carolina Rover twice a week, educating passengers about our estuaries and the work the spit!” it takes to preserve them. Of course, passengers learn some of the fascinating “I’ve been writing ever since I can remember,” this prolific author told me history of the area as well. “I’m so blessed to have work that reflects my when I asked about her books. “I had my first poem published in the second interests.” grade!” Her fascination with ghosts and mysteries came from her childhood, “My great-grandmother would tell my mother ghost stories when she was a “I love exploring Georgetown – I can always find something new,” began child,” Elizabeth said. “Mama said she would tell the most wonderful stories, Elizabeth when I asked her what she did for fun. “I really enjoy historical and she had to look under her bed and in the closet every night before she research.” Spending time with her daughter, Virginia Lee, is also a high went to sleep. She wouldn’t tell me the scariest ones when I was younger priority – Virginia Lee is a senior at CCU, Elizabeth’s alma mater. The writer and her family make their home in the Maryville section of Georgetown. and it tantalized me – I didn’t hear those stories for years!” A native of Manning, South Carolina, Elizabeth always knew her family had a Georgetown connection and was fascinated by the little harbor town. “My fourth great grandparents were from Georgetown and are buried here. I never knew how many resident ghosts we had in the area until I moved to Georgetown. It’s a seaport town, very humid, with a lot of water. That seems to be a conductor for spirits.” As much as she is fascinated by the spirit world, Elizabeth has never had a direct encounter. “I wish I would see one,” Elizabeth laughed when I asked
As we finished our interview, Elizabeth invited me to join her for Hampton Plantation Historic Site’s upcoming event, on Saturday, October 22, beginning at 5:30 pm. “It is named “Legends and Lore” and will be very eerie and historic, including sights most visitors to Hampton have never seen.” Elizabeth’s books are available locally at Waterfront Books, The Rice Museum, The Kaminski House, Litchfield Books and Hammock Shops General Store, as well as most major bookstores and online. To join one of her fascinating tours, visit www.ghostsofgeorgetown.com.
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Pip
by Doreen Frick The year was 1969. My dad was taking me and my sister on a trip, a trip that involved a passport, inoculations and school teachers assigning work to complete in each subject while we were gone. My English teacher wanted me to read Great Expectations which I began in good faith above the Atlantic Ocean on an airliner complete with a little lamp overhead. Dinner had already been consumed, steak done just the way I liked it, medium-rare on the tray with a hearty dessert my sister and I attacked first: Chocolate brownies. Diane began her homework, and I began my book and Dad fell asleep exhausted beside us, already weary from carrying our slug of schoolbooks through the Philadelphia airport. Diane, being the studious one, was hard at work, pencil in hand, scrunched-up eyebrows, furiously taking notes in her workbook while I, the lollygagger and elder statesman, read and re-read the same page over and over again until my eyelids drooped and eventually blotted out the great expectations of poor Pip, a name which for some reason had already begun to annoy me. By the time we touched down in London, I’d made up my mind that not only did I not intend to read the rest of the chapter, I had no intention of slaving away
on all the other dumb assignments my teachers had given me, some involving physical science experiments impossible to perform or understand while away from the classroom. My sister, however, could not be convinced of this logic, and since she was the tearful sensitive one, I let her alone to miss the wide open skies of the English countryside, the smell of London in spring and the freedom of being an American in England with the gall to disobey the kings and queens of our dull schoolhouse in the States. Let it be known that I was a straight-A student, at least up until this point in history, and so was she. Dad never claimed to be a good student, but he did his part for his two industrious daughters, faithfully lugging our suitcase full of schoolbooks all over England, Israel, Italy, Greece, and Switzerland. He complained about his shoulder. Somewhere between Italy and Greece the suitcase handle broke from the strain of all those textbooks. Something had to give. Dad was young, he could clutch the broken case to his chest if he had to, but eventually even young, ordinarily patient fathers can reach a breaking point, and when we touched down in Zurich he shook his head when he realized I was playing hooky big-time. “Why on earth did you bring all these books if you didn’t intend to study?” he cried. Clearly I was a mystery to him. I thought I’d clarify. “Because my teachers made me!” The whole trip I had been pretending to be doing my homework. Like a good big sister, I ignored my little sister hard at work while in the car traveling to the Dead Sea. Or at the restaurant where the waiter got Turkish coffee splashed all over him by a misplaced hand-waving tourist. Or while we were both down with food poisoning. Yes, while I was throwing up, Diane was computing math problems between episodes. And Dad? Dad was busy taking pictures with his free hand – shaky shots of me at the hotel pool sunbathing in a lounge chair, waving, smiling in my new sunglasses while Diane hunches over a stack of books completely covered in clothes and shade and not getting a tan – or noticing the lifeguard. Or the Israeli soldiers stationed on the rooftop. But this was not all fun and games. While at the Western Wall, Dad was intercepted by some men in uniform and
questioned. My sister and I were in a room nearby but to this day have no idea how Dad talked his way out of whatever trouble they seemed to think he was in. I think it had something to do with his camera or his passport or his heritage. Being a teenager has its advantages, you don’t really know enough about the world yet to be afraid of it. Dad set things straight and returned to us in good form, buying us souvenirs along the way: a cameo pin, a bracelet watch, a camel carved from olive wood, a cashmere sweater. And a pen in each country in case I’d forgotten one – to do my homework, not to write postcards to my friends. Conveniently I ignored him, after all I was a ninth-grader, and we know everything. Eventually our trip was over, and we flew home, ecstatic to eat a good old American hamburger and French fries, pizza that tasted like we remembered, hug Mom and tease our little brother and sister, and call all our friends before going back for one last week at school until summer vacation. Yeah, that one last week where all accounts became due, where my English teacher would quiz me on Pip and his adventures gloriously recounted in the book which I was happy to return even if I never got past chapter one. I tried to tell her, “Hey I had an adventure, and it was great, and I’ll write it for you if you want to read about it,” which of course might have flown in some schools, just not mine. That was my first “C.” A devastating blow. Nor did my Physical Science teacher, Mr. Unger, have much sympathy for the student who could fly all over the world but never so much as take thirty minutes to try and keep up with the students back home who’d slaved over test tubes and a pop quiz and tandem trials in the lab for the meager grades he doled out. No, Mr. Unger was firm, at least that’s how he began the test when I gave him my song-and-dance hoping he would reconsider, but the further I got down the page the more I realized I was in big trouble. Nothing made any sense; it was if I’d not only not studied, I hadn’t a clue as to what he’d tried to teach me all year. Was I just nervous? Or was science truly never going to be my true calling. All I remember is I performed badly, and upon receiving the word of an almost failing score my face went absolutely ashen. “Okay maybe that was a lot to ask of a student. Maybe I’ll just give you a ‘B’.” By the time my first day back at school was over, I was an accomplished failure – but a relieved one. Nobody actually
failed me; they just looked disappointed in the change that had come over their usually compliant student. Oh sure, she had sent postcards to the class from Rome, and even brought gifts for the teachers, but had she even bothered to actually complete one assignment? Where had they failed her? If your straight-A student doesn’t care, how could one possibly hope to motivate the ones teetering on the edge? And Dad, he never stopped the running joke about the books he carried all over the world for his two daughters. And the strap that didn’t hold. And the books that never got opened. What Dad couldn’t see was the future; the younger daughter who would make good use of all that effort and discipline and go on to become yearbook editor, a registered nurse, a mother who home-schooled two wonderful kids, yada yada yada, and the elder lackluster one who would graduate number eleven in her class (falling out of the top-ten in her last semester of high school), become a teacher’s aide in her former elementary school, then a mother of four who took education seriously, prodding and assisting kids with their assignments – her kids, anybody’s kids. Reviewing books like Great Expectations, which in truth she never actually got around to reading, she just watched the movie and let it go at that. Sorry Charles Dickens. I couldn’t. Maybe I could. But I didn’t. Maybe I will…someday. Oh, and that name, Pip? It found its way back to her when she had a kid, a studious one it turns out who would grow up to become a teacher; a kid she named Piper–and nicknamed, yes, of all things, Pip.
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A Bride’s Dilemma by Janey Womeldorf
We got married in a 16th century church in an English village so tiny, the only other thing it boasted was a pub and a post office. (Some might say, what else do you need?) My husband is American; I am English. When my husband realized that the quintessential English pub with its roaring fireplace, low ceiling and cozy ambiance was within walking distance of the church, excitement gripped him. “The Americans would love it,” he gushed. “We should have the reception there.” As idyllic as it sounded, I could not get my head around the image of a hundred of our family and friends piling out of the church and all marching in their heels and finery off to the local pub – comical on a sunny day; nightmarish in a thunderstorm. My heart was not up for such a risky, albeit memory-making, venture, and we settled instead for a local hotel. (As it turned out, we had glorious weather on our wedding day and could have all gone to the pub after all.) We booked the church for 2pm – the pub still ideal for any guest fancying a quick bite or pre-service tipple. ( T h a n k f u l l y, ever ybody still showed up on time and sober.) The hotel outdid itself and 27 years later, there is only one thing about the entire day I wish I could change; in fact, just thinking about it makes me squirm. I guess nobody’s wedding day is perfect though and to others, my squirm comparison.
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I remember watching a talk show once where people shared their wedding-day cringes. One bride was just about to say her vows when she heard the familiar pop and fizz of someone cracking open a beer. I laughed out loud when I heard this, only because our guests drank beforehand at the pub. Go online, and the internet will
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reveal a slew of stories: The fainting best man; a dropped ring; the inconsolable baby; the infant who releases an unmistakable bodily sound; and the child who announces something inappropriate during a silent prayer – all laughable, only if it’s not your wedding, or your child. We made the controversial decision not to have young children during our ceremony. We did, however, enlist the services of a professional nanny and only one couple expressed offense. They still came though, sans kids, and stayed for the reception and party afterwards. I guess they got over it. England and America have different wedding traditions, both of which we included. As is normal in both countries, the groom’s family and friends sat on one side of the church; the bride’s on the other. Such an AmericanEnglish divide had not happened since the Revolution; thankfully this one ended up in a harmonious tie. In England, it is frightfully inappropriate for the groom to kiss the bride inside the church – even if they are married. We balked this British norm, but as we puckered up and leaned in for our daring smooch, an almighty gasp rose from one side of the church. One American tradition I wished I’d embraced was having the bridesmaids and ushers walk in before the bride. We don’t do this in England; I wish we did; the anticipation is magical. On the flip side, one British tradition I wholeheartedly support is paying for the dresses and tuxedo rentals. I don’t understand the cheek of inviting someone to be your bridesmaid and then expecting them to pay for their own (usually expensive) dress. What is all that about? In England, you pay for the bridesmaids’ dresses, (probably the reason most brides only have two), and the tuxedo rentals, and you buy them all a gift. In our case, the guys in the wedding party all got
to keep their ties. The problem was, they were American and didn’t know this, so all those beautiful silk ties we bought got returned and lost forever in the pockets of their rented tuxedos–a shame, but still not my squirm-worthy moment. The American tradition that the Brits embraced with gusto was clinking the glasses. In America, clinking a glass obliges the bride and groom to kiss. In England, when someone clinks a glass, it’s a request for silence because it means they are about to give a speech. At the sound of the first clink, all the Brits diligently put down their knives and forks and stopped talking while all the Americans cheered and my husband and I kissed. The Brits loved this and started clinking away like crazy people. I barely ate a mouthful. Looking back, I wish I hadn’t even eaten that.
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We served roast beef at our wedding and at the end of the meal, my husband rose to give the first speech. The videographer periodically panned the guests but kept the lens focused mostly on us, regularly zooming in for facial close ups to romantically capture our every smile and loving gesture. The problem was, a single shred of beef, the size of a tree, had lodged itself between my two back teeth. As I gaze lovingly at my husband, oozing with pride during his heartfelt speech, the camera films my face contorting and one cheek systematically bulging as my tongue painstakingly attempts to sideswipe and dislodge the uncooperative piece of meat. A cow chewing the cud had nothing on this bride. The reality is, when every moment is being immortalized on camera, what are the options for a bride who gets something stuck in her teeth: A. Reach for the toothpick and gouge away? B. Bend under the satin tablecloth for a quick floss, hoping nobody notices? C. Grin and bear it, ignoring the tree trunk stuck in your teeth? Or, D. Never eat beef at a reception. All I know is that 27 years later, every single time I watch our video and see me doing “my ugly chew,’ I ache to reach into that screen. Maybe we should have all marched to the pub after all.
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The Wedding Singer by Sue Mayfield Geiger
As my younger son’s wedding was in the planning stages, he called me one night to inform me that he wanted me to sing while he and his bride danced at the reception. What? Was he crazy? No, he was absolutely serious. First of all, I didn’t want to turn my son down because he knows my history. I actually was a professional singer way back when. But it was a time when supper clubs ruled. Think a Frank Sinatra movie with tiny lamps on every table, a small bandstand, a threepiece combo (piano, bass, drums), and a singer holding a boxy mic whose repertoire consisted of ballads from the 1940s. Yet, that career was long ago, and my pipes were not in the best of shape. “What song did you have in mind?” I asked, as I rattled off everything I knew by Ella Fitzgerald, Judy Garland and the like. “No, Mom; It’s a Willie Nelson tune,” he said. “Something he recorded on his Red Headed Stranger album. It’s called ‘Hands on the Wheel.’ That song has always resonated with me and says everything about the way I feel about my wife to be.” Now, I live in Willie Nelson territory and have been a fan for decades and thought I knew every Willie tune that existed. But this one had me stumped – I’d never heard of it. “Let me think about it,” I said. “No thinking Mom. I really want you to do this. You can get it on iTunes, and you’ll do a great job.” As I hung up the phone, my first reaction was: “I can’t do this, and he will forget about all it in a few days.” After all, he lived over 1,000 miles away, and the wedding was going to take place even further away, in his bride’s hometown – Guadalajara, Mexico. How could I sing a song that was unfamiliar to me? Who would accompany me, how and when would we have time to rehearse? Most important: I’d not sung before a live audience in over 40
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years! Oh sure, I still belted out a few tunes at parties and sang along with the radio, but this was a wedding with 420 invited guests, in a foreign country, and 99% of the people attending were people I’d never met. As the days went by and as I conjured up every excuse possible to relay to my son as to why I could not possibly do this, I let this tiny voice in the back of my head plow through all the negativity. It said: “You can do this! Your son has made this request and you should consider it an honor. How many sons want their grayhaired mother up on stage belting out a tune when they could have hired a real wedding singer? He must be really proud of you to ask you to do this. If you refuse, you will hurt his feelings, and you will be full of regret. Now, run toward your fears and find the song and start learning it!” I found the song on YouTube with the iconic Mr. Nelson singing it in his very familiar style. The lyrics took my breath away. They were powerful. I was motionless for several minutes. Then I wondered how I could make the song my own and wedding-appropriate. Long story short, I did learn the song, recorded it and sent to my son, who in turn sent to the guitarist and violinist in Guadalajara. They in turn practiced it in my key, but we would not have a chance to do a live rehearsal until I arrived in Mexico. Even then we would only have an hour to do so since there were so many events taking place. The wedding was spectacular, and the reception was like a fairy tale. The night sky was full of stars as I picked up the mic and sang. I did not make eye contact with my son or his bride on purpose because I knew I would cry. So, I focused on a few faces in the crowd. This was not just my comeback moment – it was honoring my son’s request and proving to myself that I could do it. Everything got captured on video and when I watch it, I am amazed how I was able to pull it off. So, I thank that little voice that cheered me on, because the look on my son’s face and the tears in his eyes were my biggest reward.
Hands on the Wheel (condensed) Written by Bill Callery
At a time when the world seems to be Spinning hopelessly out of control There’s deceivers and believers And old in-betweeners That seem to have no place to go Well it’s the same old song It’s right and it’s wrong And livin’ is just something I do And with no place to hide I looked in your eyes And I found myself in you I looked to the stars Tried all of the bars And I’ve nearly gone up in smoke Now my hand’s on the wheel Of something that’s real And I feel like I’m goin’ home Well it’s the same damn tune It’s the man in the moon It’s the way that I feel about you And with no place to hide I looked in your eyes And I found myself in you.
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Greg Metcalfe: Southern Comforts Restaurant and Bakery by Leslie Moore
I know you do wonderful catering for weddings and parties. Who catered your wedding? Was it hard to let someone else do the work? Our wedding was catered by a friend of mine who had a catering service with a mobile kitchen. Our reception was in a tent on our lawn in Lake Wylie, South Carolina. He served 150 people with a choice of two entrees – Prime Rib and Chicken Dijon. It was fabulous, and he did a wonderful job. And no it was not hard at all! It was nice to have someone else do the cooking. I know you and your wife work together. How long have you been married? How has working together strengthened your marriage? We’ve been married for 20 years. It’s easy – she calls the shots, and I follow her lead! Isn’t that how it’s supposed to be? What is your favorite dish to prepare? What’s your wife’s favorite dish? Believe it or not, my favorite dish is lasagna. My family loves it, and so do I – five cheeses, Italian sausage and ground chuck with our family’s house sauce. My wife married a Chef, so she does the baking. Her favorite is her 36 carrot cake, and it’s fabulous.
I’m coming to Southern Comforts for dinner; what do I have to try? Our most popular dish here at Southern Comforts is the buttermilk fried chicken served on a bed of warm blue cheese slaw and topped with pepper milk gravy. I would suggest either the collards (which some would say are the best around) or the corn fritter casserole as your side. We won Best of the Taste of Charlotte out of 47 other restaurants back in 2008 with that dish. Of course, our menu is rather large, and everything we make is homemade and fresh, so I am sure there is something that would satisfy your taste buds! Visit Greg at Southern Comforts Restaurant and Bakery at 13089 Ocean Highway, at the South Litchfield traffic light or call 843-314-9369. The restaurant is open Monday through Saturday, 11am–10 pm and Sunday, 10 am–2 pm.
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Sasee found some unique and clever ideas to make your wedding stand out from the rest! The Dress
A hot new trend is to dip-dye the bottom of your dress to match your wedding colors. Not only does this solve the problem of how dirty that dress may get brushing the floor or ground for hours, it sets you apart from the rest! There are plenty of DIY tutorials online or you can order one done for you!
The Invitation
Make sure the dance floor is packed by asking invitees to jot down three favorite songs on the RSVP card; give your DJ the playlist.
The Welcome
Your guests will never forget your wedding with one-of-a-kind welcome boxes. Much more fun than a bag, they are easier to fill, arrange and deliver. Fill them with flowers, wine, snacks, a personal note and wedding information – or get creative and make it your own!
The Ceremony
Who says flower girls have to be children? Ask your grandmothers to stand in – it’s great way to make them a special part of your day.
The Reception
Place a blank card and pen at each place setting, and ask guests to write a favorite memory of you and/or the groom. Later, bind the notes into a scrapbook. Serve your food family style! This great way to serve is coming back because it encourages conversation plus comes with a budget-friendly price tag.
The Seating
Try using King’s Tables rather than traditional rounds. And, to decorate, forget using just one centerpiece. Multiple floral designs per table are on trend -- especially given the increased popularity of the extra-long King’s tables. The trend away from round tables means re-configuring not only the shape of the centerpieces, but also the spacing and quantity on the long tables.
The Bouquet Toss
If there are only a few single women at your wedding, try this new tradition. Early in the evening, give your flowers to the couple married the longest, and ask them to share a few words of wisdom with the crowd.
The Exit
For a unique way to end your wedding and keep the grounds clean, have guests ring a table of vintage bells you’ve set up. Or, offer guests a color flag to wave. Or, for an evening wedding, use sparklers!
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A Mockingbird’s Dance by David Weiskircher
One day while I was driving to meet Genie for chemotherapy treatment, I stopped at a traffic light. Out of the normal field of vision, something caught my eye. Across the street was a telephone pole, and at its top fluttered a mockingbird. Suddenly he leapt up and into a gust of wind. He somersaulted twice before leveling off. Then he danced across the sky. When the wind quieted, he came to rest on the pole. But when the wind blew again, off he’d dance. As I waited for the light to change, he did this a handful of times. There was no practical reason for him to do this. Was he doing it just for fun? I couldn’t help but smile. During the period that she worked, Genie and I would go to the doctor’s office in separate cars. I would have rather been with her in the same car. Truth be told, I would have rather been with her all day long and deep into the night. But there was something about those little solo drives I came to look forward to. Daily, there are too many things that require too many decisions from all of us. And even though and ever present in my mind was Genie, and cancer, I found a way to let my mind go on those drives, if for mere minutes a day.
There are a series of light poles in the middle of a divided road that fronts the restaurant. On top of one was a mockingbird. Probably not the same one I’d seen on the telephone pole, but who knows? This mockingbird, every time we came for lunch, would fly from pole to pole, singing, true to his name, an amazing repertoire of songs: a little robin, some cardinal, a little Sinatra, some church bells. He was singing like nobody’s business, but he was singing for everybody’s business. He sang from the heart straight to the heart, his gift to us. I think he recognized in Genie an appreciative audience. She welcomed him warmly and complimented him on his singing abilities. She heard his gift on those gloriously sun-filled days. When Genie died it seemed that sun-filled days were from a different time and place. All I saw were shadows. But one day, I pulled myself together. I felt like a concert, but I didn’t know if the performer was still there. It had been years.
For many, the world’s everyday worries mount, and sometimes they take over. Politics, war, the economy, the list goes on. Why is it only the dire and dour make the news? Where is the good news? Where are the smiles? Looking through the generations you’ll find that there was always a fear or two, maybe three or four, breathing on mankind’s neck. But there has to be more to life than that. There’s family, and there are friends. There’s your husband or your wife. They can be seen and held. The smiles and laughter are real, and they’re now. They are in our hands today, to kiss, to dance with, and to laugh with. In the beauty of spring, Genie and I would often have lunch at the same restaurant. After hard winters, we welcomed fresh flowers and bright sun, so we’d sit outside to better enjoy each other in the presence of the sun.
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It was a clear summer’s day, a day in which the blue of sky allows the thin clouds to look as white as freshly fallen snow. I sat next to a carpet of green grass and watched a little friend dance to his heart’s content in a gust of wind. I heard a little robin, Sinatra, and some church bells. And I smiled.
No; we have been as usual asking the wrong question. It does not matter a hoot what the mockingbird on the chimney is singing. The real and proper question is: Why is it so beautiful? Bertrand Russell
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I Go Back by Erika Hoffman
I remember Mommy. She’s squeezing her accordion in and out for all its worth, seated on a folding chair with a blue three sided cardboard stand unfolded and erected in front of her. She’s playing in the hallway of our split level home in Plainfield, New Jersey. The intense expression on her face bewilders eight year old me. It’s a stifling summer day. Above her upper lip, she sweats. She bites her bottom lip. Totally absorbed in the sheet music, she pounds the keys as the huge contraption pinches the flesh on her thighs. Mommy’s wearing shorts and espadrilles. Back and forth the pleats collapse and expand. The screen door allows in a tepid breeze. Mommy doesn’t want us kids to bother her. She’s in another world. We’re supposed to go out and play. Which suits me. I watch a moment. With gusts of concentrated energy and zealous enthusiasm, Mom belts out “Val-de-ri, Val-de-ra.” I follow her fingers as they mash tiny buttons. She sings aloud: “I love to go a wandering…” With a flourish, she finishes, inhales, blows out the breath, looks up, takes me in, and turns the page to start anew. “Mommy! Mommy!” I shout over the bouncy tune. She glares at me, “What are you doing, Mommy?” “I’m playing my accordion.” Her eyes never lift from the sheet music. I wait. When this piece ends, she looks up at me with uncertain eyes as though she’s never seen me before, like I’m an alien. “I used to practice two hours a day,” she mutters. I’d never seen her with the instrument before let alone witnessed her intensity tickling the keys and pushing the wind out of the thing as though her life depended on it. “I was really good, once,” she says solemnly. “I played with Charley Nunzio.” I stare at this stranger. But, she makes no eye contact with me. I notice sweat drip onto the white and black piano-like keys. “Aren’t you hot?”
She fixates on her page. She arches her fingers; she shifts the weight of the monster on her lap. “Maybe later.” I sigh. “I was an only child,” she adds. “This accordion kept me from being lonely.” She squeezes the boxy device again. I meander outside to join my brother and sister. “Let’s get a Good Humor down at the park,” I say. “I’ve a can of nickels and dimes.” “I got a silver dollar,” my sis says. “Aren’t we going to the shore?” she asks hopefully. “Will she take us?” I hear strains of “Moon River.” “Nah.” I look at the door; I gaze back at Mom hypnotized, in another world. The screen door slams behind me, and I take their hands. I realized then Mommy had another life before us. She was different from what I thought she was. She had passions, needs, memories besides this “now” situation of three little kids, a hubby, a mortgage and a pile of laundry sitting next to the mangle. All of this was a revelation in 1959. Now I have lived longer than the age Mom was when she passed. I so wish I could go back in time and tell her I understand now how a woman wants hobbies, friends, a career – basically a life besides being “Mommy.” And whenever I hear an accordion belt out a melody, I go back to that split-level, that un-air conditioned house, and I remember a woman, a smart, accomplished, ambitious woman, who was also my mom.
“So what?” “Why are you doing this now?” She shrugs. “It’s a good day to go swimming,” I meekly suggest.
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Exercise your 19th Amendment Right on November 8th by Leslie Moore
Passed by Congress June 4, 1919, and ratified on August 18, 1920, the 19th amendment granted women the right to vote. Johnnie Bellamy, President of the Myrtle Beach Republican Women and 7th District Director of the South Carolina Republican Women, talked with Sasee about how important it is for all women, regardless of party affiliation, to exercise this very important right in the upcoming election. How many women are eligible to vote in Horry and Georgetown counties? In Horry County, 54% of registered voters are women and the number rises to 57% in Georgetown County. Nationally, in 2012, 51% of registered voters were women. We, as voters, are turning out everywhere. For our July meeting, titled “Women are the True Architects of Society,” we invited all the female Horry County elected officials– and there were quite a few of them! Women are stepping up and leading the cause.
What advice would you give us about being a responsible voter? I would advise people to do their own research – the media can be very biased. We have to depend on ourselves to study statistics, attend meetings and have our legislators come and talk to us. We can then decide by their voting record if we would choose them as leaders. I believe that many women don’t believe in the veracity of the political process as it is stated in the Constitution. Politics have gotten a bad name. But, I do believe in the process. I wouldn’t be doing this otherwise. I have seen it work. American history has led the way to help people all over the world, and in order to sustain that ability to help ourselves and the world, we have to take a lead role in what our elected officials are doing.
November 8th, 2016
I grew up in a military family and know firsthand that a lot of people have given their lives to protect our precious right to vote. Voting is the most important responsibility of the American public. It’s so important to stand up for our beliefs – whatever yours may be. During the presidential elections, we predict a 63% turnout – people are very motivated. But, on the off years voter turnout is very different. In Horry County we’re lucky if it’s 17 or 18%. These small, local elections are very important. We, as women, can have the most effect on the local level.
It’s our right as American women to vote for what we want to see in our government, our schools and our culture, and it is the only way for positive change to occur. The very basic level of both major political parties is the precinct level. In Horry County we have 122 voting precincts. This is where the ultimate power lies. If we organize our precincts and our parties, we can get things done. If we don’t, nothing will change. South Carolina has a proud history of brave and talented people that have led this nation from the time of its creation. And, the bottom line is we’re all Americans and need to stand together for positive change.
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Face Value by Anita Stafford
At the mall yesterday I was approached by a salesperson, one of the entrepreneurs bent on snagging customers as they walk from one store to another. He didn’t snag me, but it wasn’t because I refused his pitch. I had not even noticed him until he spoke. “Excuse me, ma’am,” he said, stepping in front of me.
1. You’re always cast as the wicked witch or evil step-mother in plays.
I looked at him. Our eyes locked. There was a slight pause.
2. Children scream when you answer the door on Halloween, but you’re not wearing a mask.
“Have a nice day, ma’am,” he said, stepping away.
3. In public places, strangers tell you to smile.
I was baffled for a few minutes, until I realized what had just happened. The young man had taken one look at my face and changed his mind about trying to sell me his product. I scared him away with a glance, but it had not been intentional. I’m endowed with what’s known as Resting Bitch Face, or RBF. Judging his options with a split-second look, he dared not mess with me. The funny, yet sad, part of this is that he was mistaken about my disposition.
4. You’ve been asked if you’re mad so many times, it’s making you mad.
RBF delivered me out of the clutches of a mall salesperson this time, but it is not an asset I’m proud to possess most of the time. Having an exterior that doesn’t match the interior can often make a person misunderstood.
5. Your driver’s license photo resembles a mug shot. It doesn’t mean you are a flawed individual if you discover you have RBF, but you may be the recipient of harsh judgments. People who don’t understand may presume you to have an irritable personality. Hold your head up, you’re in good company. Observers of this phenomenon say Queen Elizabeth II and Angelina Jolie are both afflicted by RBF. In looking at photos of the two, I tend to agree with the assessment.
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1. An involuntary facial expression that implies a person feels superior to, or is annoyed with, those around her, even though it might just be her actual face.
From the time I was a child, people have been accusing me of having negative emotions because of my RBF. I remember being taken by surprise when other children would ask me what I was mad about when I didn’t feel angry or cross at all. Even after all these years, I’m a bit stunned when people inquire if I’m annoyed or if something is bothering me. On the inside there is no problem, but my face is deceiving. Too bad I haven’t been collecting dollars for every time I have been misread because of my RBF.
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Anyone can have RBF. Unless you’re in front of a mirror all day, it’s impossible to know how your expression looks to others. Based on my own experience, I have put together some clues that might indicate if a person has RBF:
My RBF does not give a true reflection of what I’m thinking or feeling inside as I go about my everyday business. What you see is not always what you get. I hope you won’t make negative assumptions about me if you see me somewhere wearing my RBF. I will smile at you if we meet, but be forewarned, my face may then resume its natural RBF position. It doesn’t mean I’m mad, pouting, or grumpy. My RBF is the way my features are put together. At rest my features don’t line up in a pleasant way. Please don’t fault me for it.
Just change your expression, you say. It sounds simple enough, but it’s not that easy. A RBF is the face one has when no thought is given to expression. It’s the face I portray to the world when I’m deep in thought or preoccupied in work. Everyone has a face we show when we are “being,” but not “reacting.” For some of us, our “being” face does not look like sunshine and roses. Having a face that takes the shape of RBF can give a person the undeserved reputation of being a grouch, or even worse.
Unless I wear a bag over my head or opt for plastic surgery, my RBF is here to stay. I might as well embrace it at face value and consider it to be my membership in a unique club. I’d like to trade stories with Angelina and Queen Elizabeth. It might even be fun for the three of us to go to the mall together for a few laughs. The vendors wouldn’t have a chance.
I have a fear that my RBF will get worse as I get older. I’m concerned that gravity may make this already unpleasant unconscious expression even more disagreeable. It would help if I could spend all my time thinking about keeping a smile on my face, but I get distracted by other thoughts. My face is what it is.
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Georgetown Sasee Takes A Look:
We have traveled near, and we have crossed state lines, discovering the shiniest gems to beautifully rugged shells in the sand - each charmed city wrapped in a sea of little-known past times and tried and true happenings and traditions. This month, the Sasee staff is traveling back in time, if you will, to the third oldest city in South Carolina. Following Charleston and Beaufort, this southern city of charm and history, a place we call Georgetown, South Carolina, was founded in 1729 and became an official port of entry in 1732. Almost a 300 year-old city, Georgetown embodies the mysterious South Carolina Lowcountry and is recognized nationally, not only for its history, but also for the beautifully preserved 18th and 19th century architecture, set along tree-lined streets in the Historic District. Providing a charming backdrop for a thriving commercial district, Front Street is a trove of boutique shopping treasures, chef-driven restaurants, vibrant arts, culture and of course, a welcoming, walkable lifestyle. Set on the lovely Sampit River, the picturesque Harborwalk is a favorite spot for strolling, as well as a docking point for those who come by boat. So load up the car or set sail in your boat and prepare for a glimpse in to the historic life of a centuries-old city. Georgetown has long been known for its warm hospitality and Southern charisma since its earliest beginnings as the probable site of the first European settlement in North America in 1526, to its present status as a vibrant and gracious city of 9,000 residents. From the years of early settlement, through the Revolutionary War and up to the onset of the Civil War, Georgetown thrived. Starting off with the production of indigo, it didn’t take long for this harbor town to turn to rice for their economic well being after the Revolutionary War. By 1840, the Georgetown District produced nearly one-half of the total rice crop of the United States, and the port exported more rice than any in the world. The local variety called “Carolina Gold” was in demand worldwide. However, the Civil War changed the region’s way of life. Where rice once brought riches, now it could no longer support the economy of Georgetown. The need for an economic alternative to rice was met by lumber. The Atlantic Coast Lumber
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Company was incorporated in 1903. By 1914, it was the largest lumber producing plant on the East Coast. Recovery began in 1936 when the International Paper Company built a plant here. By 1942 this plant had become the largest kraft paper mill in the world – and Georgetown’s largest employer. Adding diversity to Georgetown’s industrial base, the Georgetown Steel Mill and an array of other smaller plants were later opened. The industrial boom brought well paying jobs and Georgetown prospered. Last year, the steel mill was closed. But this is just another beginning for a resilient city! Plans are being made to spruce up and redevelop the site to act as an, as of now, undecided vision for the long-time community. The future of the Port of Georgetown is also being carefully considered in order to bring the most benefit to all. Both are significant figures to the heart and history of this city. We chatted with downtown Georgetown local and three-year Economic Development Director, Tee Miller, on the proceedings of these exiting new developments. “A high-profile panel of experts from all over the country,” he says, “will conduct comprehensive assessments to generate concepts and recommendations for the city to move forward in the vision to revamp and reopen each structure.” Officials are giving careful consideration to what choice advancement will best leverage the community’s assets, expand on its resources, provide economic opportunity to residents and attract outside investment that will in turn provide the highest and best use for the community as a whole. Mr. Miller also shed some light on social life in this age-old town, saying the Big Tuna was the watering hole many locals, and second-homers like to frequent. The River Room, with its historic waterfront ambiance, is a another favorite restaurant that has thrived and established itself in the community as the tried and true dining experience with thirty-plus years of fresh “serious seafood” and is considered a coastal tradition. Al Fresco Bistro,
Sasee Takes A Look: Georgetown, SC serving Italian and seafood delicacies, is the fine dining gem where a warm inviting atmosphere and smiles are always in abundance. This list of tasty food found in Georgetown long and varied. Trust me friends, you will never go hungry for history or delicious food in this town. Halloween may be our children’s most anticipated celebration this month, but in Georgetown, October marks the famous Wooden Boat Show. Keeping the maritime heritage of Georgetown alive, this now 27 year old event takes place every third weekend in October, falling this year on Saturday, October 15th and Sunday, October 16th. The show, which has no admission fee, will feature one of the nation’s best wooden boat exhibits displaying more than 140 classic boats, a wooden boatbuilding competition, children’s model boatbuilding, knot tying, maritime art & crafts, food, and music. And new for this year is a Cardboard Boat Regatta. Exciting for both young and adults alike, it’s off to the races! Find all the excitement along Front Street and the Harborwalk. What’s a historic town without some story telling venues? Nestled within the city are four museums bringing history to life. Take your pick and walk in to the past at the Georgetown County Museum, the South Carolina Maritime Museum, the Rice Museum or the beautiful Kaminski House. Or how about we set sail and see first-hand the beauty of the surrounding estuaries? With an abundance of sailing camps, lessons, tours and cruises, life on the water is as common as life on land to locals and second-homers alike. If you are new to the area, or just want a day of fun, try a tour with Swamp Fox Tours. Ride in comfort with knowledgeable guides who love their city. Tours are available Monday through Saturday. Walking tours give a closer look, and Strollin’ on the Sampit Walking Tours offers one hour walks led by tour owner and local historian, Debby Summey. Learn about the fragile ecosystem of the waters surrounding Georgetown on a boat tour offered by Rover Tours – tours are offered daily, depending on the weather. These are popular with locals and visitors alike – make your reservations in advance. A unique coastal community, the City of Georgetown offers an array of opportunities for business, fun and enjoyment. Revolutionary War heroes, like the “Swamp Fox” or Francis Marion, have walked these streets and prowled the nearby countryside. With beautiful sights to behold, Georgetown is a place for strolling live oak tunneled streets and taking a break from the daily grind.
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Zuill Bailey, 7 pm, The Reserve Golf Club of Pawleys Island, tickets $25 & $45. For more info, call 843-626-8911 or visit www.pawleysmusic.com.
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SC Water Media Society’s 39th Annual Exhibition, Myrtle Beach Art Museum. For more info, call 803-351-2721 or visit www.scwatermedia.com.
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Songs for a Better World, Carolina Master Chorale, 4 pm, Trinity Church, Myrtle Beach. For more info, call 843-444-5774 or email
info@carolinamasterchorale.com.
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The Company Men, 7 pm, The Reserve Golf Club of Pawleys Island, tickets $25, $35 & $45. For more info, call 843-626-8911 or visit www.pawleysmusic.com.
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Community Forum on Human Trafficking, 9:30 am - 4 pm, The Conference Center at Barefoot Resort, $15. For more info, call 222-2105 or vpmbrnmbwc@gmail.com.
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Martha’s House 11th Annual Lunch & Fashion Show, noon, The Lakes at Litchfield, $25. For tickets or more info, call Susan at 843-833-3286.
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Low Country Herb Society’s Annual Fall Garden Festival, 8 am-5 pm, Inlet Culinary Gardens, Murrells Inlet. For more info, visit www.lcherbsociety.info or sclchsnews@gmail.com.
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Marcus Anderson, 7 pm, The Reserve Golf Club of Pawleys Island, tickets $25 & $45. For more info, call 843-626-8911 or visit www.pawleysmusic.com.
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Barrett Baber, 7 pm, The Reserve Golf Club of Pawleys Island, tickets $25, $35 & $75. For more info, call 843-626-8911 or visit www.pawleysmusic.com.
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John Brown’s Little Big Band, 7 pm, The Reserve Golf Club of Pawleys Island, tickets $25, $35 & $75. For more info, call 843-626-8911 or visit www.pawleysmusic.com.
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Art in the Park, 10 am-4 pm, Chapin Park. For more info, call 843-446-3830 or visit www.artsyparksy.com.
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Taste of the Town, to benefit St. Andrew Catholic Church, 4-10 pm, Myrtle Beach Convention Center. For more info, call 843-448-6062 or visit www.totmb.com.
Halloween Happenings October 28th-29th
October 8th-29th, Saturdays
Candy in the Corn, Trick or Treat Trail
Thompson Farm & Nursery 1-2pm
October 20th - 22nd Conway Ghost Walk
Conway Visitors Center Tours leaving every 15 minutes from 7-8:30pm each evening
Atalaya’s Fall Festival and Haunted Castle Huntington Beach State Park 6-9 pm each day
Ingram Planetarium, Ocean Isle Beach 6pm each night
Front Street, Historic Georgetown 5:30-7:30 pm
Fright Lights
October 29th Howl-O-Scream
Broadway at the Beach parking lot near Wonder Works 10 am-3 pm, 10-11am is horn free
Boo-Fest Wear Your Costume!
October 28th
Judicial Center
October 28th-29th
North Myrtle Beach Park & Sports Complex 5-8 pm
Wee One’s Boo Bash at the Children’s Museum of South Carolina Myrtle Beach 5:30-8pm
Trick-or-Treating Cleland Street, Georgetown 4-5:30 pm, costume contest at 5 pm, elementary school ages only
October 22nd Rain Date: October 29th Trunk or Treat
October 31st
Barefoot Landing Noon-4 pm
Family Fun & Literacy Day
Kaminski House, Georgetown 1-5pm
Hammock Shops Village, Pawleys Island 3-5pm Halloween on the Marshwalk Murrells Inlet 5-6 pm, costume contest at 6pm at Drunken Jacks (kids only, adult costume contest is 7-10:30 pm) Broadway at the Beach 4:30-6:30pm, fireworks at 8 pm
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The Accessory Cottage...........................................................................................................................5 Agapé Hospice.........................................................................................................................................7 Aunique Boutique...................................................................................................................................7 B. Graham Interiors..............................................................................................................................15 Barbara’s Fine Gifts...............................................................................................................................33 Bloomingails..........................................................................................................................................49 Brookgreen Gardens.............................................................................................................................10 Burroughs & Chapin Art Museum....................................................................................................47 Butler Lighting.......................................................................................................................................17 Cabana Collections...............................................................................................................................32 Callahan’s of Calabash..........................................................................................................................55 Candice Adelle Photography..............................................................................................................47 Carolina Car Care.................................................................................................................................24 Chive Blossom.......................................................................................................................................27 The Citizens Bank.................................................................................................................................17 Coastal Youth Ballet Theatre................................................................................................................5 CoCo Salon & Spa................................................................................................................................31 Conway Medical Center........................................................................................................................2 Crady’s Eclectic Cuisine......................................................................................................................37 Dickens Christmas Show & Festival.................................................................................................20 Doodlebugs Children’s Finery & Gifts...............................................................................................7 Dr. David Grabeman..............................................................................................................................5 Dr. Sattele’s Rapid Weight Loss & Esthetics Centers....................................................................54 Eleanor Pitts...........................................................................................................................................27 Expo 216.................................................................................................................................................20 Finders Keepers.....................................................................................................................................13 Frame Factory........................................................................................................................................43 Friends of the Kaminski House..........................................................................................................29 Good Deed Goods................................................................................................................................31 Grady’s Jewelers....................................................................................................................................30 Grand Strand Plastic Surgery.............................................................................................................43 Harvest Commons................................................................................................................................17 Homespun Crafters Mall.....................................................................................................................21 Hospice Care of SC..............................................................................................................................10 Just Because IYQ...................................................................................................................................31
Kings Florist...........................................................................................................................................40 La Fayes Lamp & Lampshade Shop..................................................................................................13 Legacy Antiques....................................................................................................................................21 Little White Dress.................................................................................................................................26 Long Bay Symphony............................................................................................................................21 Lower Cape Fear Hospice...................................................................................................................60 Mickey’s 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2016 Schedule of Events
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Georgetown Historic District ~ Saturday, September 24, 9:00am - 3:00pm
4th Annual Seaside Palette Featuring “The Healing Force” & 7th Annual Chalk Walk Wet Paint Sale 9/24, 3:30pm - 5:30pm
Thursday, September 29, 7:00pm
17th Annual Pawleys Island Wine Gala
Thursday, October 6, 7:00pm
Zuill Bailey
Thursday, October 13, 7:00pm
Marcus Anderson
Friday, September 30, 7:00pm
Saturday, October 1, 7:00pm
Friday, October 7, 7:00pm
Saturday, October 8, 7:00pm
Friday, October 14, 7:00pm
Saturday, October 15, 7:00pm
Shana Tucker
The Company Men
John Brown’s Little Big Band
Peabo Bryson
Barrett Baber
The DooWop Project
For Info & Tickets • www.pawleysmusic.com • 843-626-8911 All events at The Reserve Golf Club of Pawleys Island unless otherwise noted. Tickets now available.
Celebrating 35 Years of exCellenCe and dediCation Join us in honoring:
Dr. Charles Sasser Charles Sasser, MD, Hospice and Palliative Care Physician/Horry, Georgetown and Marion counties
The Wheelers, long-time, generous supporters and donors to LCFH Mercy Care programs and services
Sr. Connie Fahey, founder, LCFH Mercy Care serving Horry, Marion and Georgetown Counties
We are proud to honor our past and celebrate our future by recognizing this very special group of dedicated individuals.
Thursday, October 27th, 2016
The Peanut Warehouse, Conway, SC 6-7 p.m. Cocktails and hors d’oeuvres ~ 7-8:30 p.m. Meal and Program Live music by The Paul Grimshaw Band
$65 per person Purchase tickets by October 17th at www.excellenceinhospice.org. Contact Carey Dickinson at cdickinson@mercyhospice.org or 843-848-6497 sponsorships & dediCations available Lower Cape Fear Hospice Mercy Care, a nonprofit hospice and palliative care organization, was created by community volunteers in 1980 to provide the highest level of care and comfort to patients with life-limiting illness; support and counseling to families; and education to our communities.