Sasee October 2013

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October 2013 Volume 12, Issue 10

who’s who

Milestone Birthday Becomes Dream Vacation

Publisher Delores Blount Sales & Marketing Director Susan Bryant Editor Leslie Moore Account Executives Amanda Kennedy-Colie Erica Schneider Gay Stackhouse Celia Wester Art Director Taylor Nelson Photography Director Patrick Sullivan Graphic Artists Stephanie Holman Scott Konradt Accounting Ronald Pacetti Administrative Assistant Barbara J. Leonard Executive Publishers Jim Creel Bill Hennecy Tom Rogers

by Susan Harvey

Passengers

by Carrie Luger Slayback

In the Bag!

by Diane DeVaughn Stokes

Yes Please, Y’all Do It…

by George Vickery

Remember Us Young

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The Ties That Bind

by Linda O’Connell

A Lesson on Family

by Monica A. Andermann

The Newcomers Notebook

by Phil La Borie

Southern Snaps

by Leslie Moore

Summer Camp – for Grown-ups

by Diane Stark

Girlfriends Versus Husbands

by Janey Womeldorf

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Women & Men Who Mean Business . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .

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contributing writers letter from the editor Since my children were small, a few days of my year, dotted throughout the seasons, are always spent with my large, extended family. Many of them I only see at these gatherings, even though we keep in touch, but those crowded, loud days are always among the highlights of my year.

Over gallons of coffee and more food than any of us need, the ties that bind us together are strengthened, year after year. The children that ran and played together, under the watchful eyes of aunts, uncles and grandparents have now grown up, and still they come, now with their own families who quickly become a part of an ever widening circle, where a hug from Grandma solves almost everything. I leave exhausted, but happy, aware of how blessed I am to have this beautiful thing called family in my life.

Our Sasee family has grown this month as well, with a new occasional feature called “The Newcomer’s Notebook.” Phil La Borie, a recent transplant from “up north,” gives us a fresh perspective on this place we love and call home. Please let us know what you think! If you’d like to hear some fabulous music, in one of the most beautiful settings our community has to offer, I hope you’ll join us at the Pawleys Island Festival of Music & Art, held the first two weeks of October. Our lineup this year is nothing short of amazing. See you there!

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Monica A. Andermann lives and writes on Long Island. Her poetry, essays, and features have been widely published both online and in print media, including close to two dozen credits in the Chicken Soup for the Soul books.

Susan Harvey is a native South Carolinian, a retired college English instructor and a humor writer. Visit her website at www.susanharvey-writenow.com.

Phil La Borie is a recent transplant to the Grand Strand; in a former life he was a Connecticut Yankee. Phil has a long history as a writer/creative director in the ad biz, has written and directed numerous film and video projects and is also an artist/illustrator. He can be reached at plaborie@voxinc.net.

Nicole McManus has always loved to read, to the point that she is sure she was born with a book in her hands. This reader and writer loves the thrilling adventures that books give readers. Therefore, she writes book reviews, in hopes of helping others discover the magic that can be found through reading.

Linda O’Connell is an accomplished writer and teacher from St. Louis, Missouri. A positive thinker, she writes from the heart and finds humor in everyday situations. Linda enjoys a hearty laugh, dark chocolate and walking on the beach. She blogs at http://lindaoconnell.blogspot.com.

Carrie Luger Slayback is an award winning teacher and marathon runner. She writes on fitness and family matters. Her articles appear in the Los Angeles Times, and her series on preparing for the L.A. Marathon, 2014 is published in The Daily Pilot. Her son Ben is in grad school, and her daughter, Rachel, in T.V. production. Carrie lives in Newport Beach, California, with her husband and Chihuahuas.

Diane Stark is a former teacher turned stay-at-home mom and freelance writer. Her work has been published in 16 Chicken Soup for the Soul anthologies, A Cup of Comfort for Christian Women and dozens of magazines. She loves to write about the important things in life: her family and her faith. She can be reached at DianeStark19@yahoo.com.

Red Shoes, by Millie Doud Millie has always found joy in playing with visual possibilities unlimited by form of art or media. She enjoys working with a variety of media including glass, fiber, clay, found objects, pencil and paints. The artist takes pleasure in manipulating the art elements, and, as often happens in problem solving through a two or three dimensional visual projects, the original idea might change and grow differently in content or style as it develops during the process. That is part of the wonder of creativity. She hopes that the viewer will participate in her artwork, for it is that interaction that makes art come alive.

Born and raised in Pennsylvania, Millie came to the Grand Strand in 1992 having lived most of her professional years on the Maryland side of Washington, DC. She holds a Masters Degree in education and administration with specialties in art and English. In South Carolina, Millie helps to implement the art exhibits at the Richardson Gallery at Horry-Georgetown Technical College where she taught Art History and Appreciation for many years. She also was an instructor with CCU’s Lifelong Learning (OLLI) Department.

Currently, she serves on the Board of Directors of the Seacoast Artists Guild and exhibits her artwork in local galleries and at local shows. At Brookgreen Gardens, Millie enjoys being a docent in both the sculpture garden and in the wildlife areas. She says retirement has offered a wonderful world of busy days and new visions through the arts.

Email Millie at mldmb@aol.com, or call 843-497-4294.

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Diane DeVaughn Stokes is the President of Stages Video Productions, Host and Producer for the TV show “Inside Out” as seen on HTC, and “Diane on Six” heard on EASY radio. She performs in local theater and loves to travel with her husband, Chuck. You can reach her at diane@stagesvideo.com.

George Vickery is the author of the novel Beyond September. He is retired and lives in DeBordieu with his wife Kitty, formerly Kitty Inabinet of Briarcliffe Acres and Columbia.

Janey Womeldorf is a freelance writer who drinks too much coffee, loves elastic and can no longer wear high heels. She scribbles away in Orlando, Florida.

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Milestone Birthday Becomes Dream Vacation

by Susan Harvey

As a young girl I read Anne of Green Gables and dreamed of visiting Nova Scotia. Every year when my husband asked where we wanted to vacation, my vote was Nova Scotia. However, the other three family members voted Myrtle Beach. After the divorce, I never found the time and money – at the same time – to reach my dream vacation destination.

My vacation request seemed to fall on deaf ears year after year.

Imagine my surprise when on my sixtieth birthday I unwrapped a gift from my daughters and found the Fodor’s Guide to Nova Scotia. Inside the guidebook was a round-trip airline ticket to Halifax, Nova Scotia.

I’ve celebrated several milestone birthdays with parties, and all were memorable, but nothing can compare to the Nova Scotia vacation. Both daughters and my three grandchildren went with me. We each marked items of interest in the Fodor’s Guide and spent time at each one. Highlights for me included our visit to the Peggy’s Cove lighthouse, the Maritime Museum of the Atlantic, the recreation of the Titanic’s deck complete with deck chairs and blankets for picture taking, the Swissair Flight 111 Memorial, and last, but not least, Theodore the Tugboat. I watched this PBS show many times with the grandchildren and was as surprised and excited to see Theodore bobbing in Halifax Harbor as they were.

Prince George Hotel was home during our stay in Halifax. It sits atop

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a steep hill overlooking the harbor. We walked everywhere we went in Halifax, up and down the hill several times each day. By the time I returned home, I’d lost ten pounds. What a beautiful way to lose weight – walking miles with water in every view.

On the flight from JFK to Halifax, we told the flight attendant about my birthday and the trip. She announced it to all the passengers. As I disembarked, several people wished me a happy birthday. I asked the Customs official to stamp my passport. He said it wasn’t necessary. I asked him to stamp it anyway. On the return flight, we watched security personnel pull my older daughter from the line and search, wand and frisk. She even had to remove the barrette at the nape of her neck. Did they really think my blue-eyed, blonde, yuppie-looking daughter was a terrorist with a bomb in her barrette? And with her mom, her sister, and three children under the age of ten in tow?

The trip’s memories, the company of my children and grandchildren, the handmade pewter pieces purchased, the heart-wrenching memorials of the Titanic and Swissair, and the beauty of water around every bend in the road all contributed to a birthday gift that keeps giving – at least as long as my memory survives. Most importantly though is that my daughters remembered my recurring vote for Nova Scotia at vacation time. Who knew children actually listened to their parents?

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by Carrie Luger Slayback

“He picked his nose and touched me!” Our six-year-old daughter Rachel’s shriek pierced the air, accompanied by maniacal laughter from Ben, our 11-year-old son.

“Get your Barbies off my side,” boomed Ben, while Rachel opened the car window to toss out his Nintendo.

Paul decided we’d visit the Grand Canyon, a seven-hour drive from our home in Newport Beach. Rachel took the shorter middle seat and Ben, the entire three-passenger rear. We sped along peacefully. The lullaby of road rhythm and silence from the nether regions of the car allowed me to nap for the hour between my turns driving.

I awoke, stretched and turned to look at our lovely children, busy in their private territories.

But the third seat was empty.

Snuggled together on the shorter middle seat were Ben and Rachel, chummy, cooperative, playing Barbies. Ben’s army men waited beside him to share when Barbies got old.

Confronted with the option of severing relations, our warring passengers chose peaceful engagement. They didn’t even look up as I turned back to poke their father.

Twenty years later our children still project conflict into our lives. On the way home from work, Rachel calls to describe toxic people at her workplace, while Ben suffers from an irresponsible master’s thesis advisor.

We give advice, hoping to separate them from life’s torments.

We persist in offering help, when we should remember the lesson of the van and say, “Give yourselves time and space, and you’ll figure it out.”

Jerking my head up from a deep sleep, I growled “Pull over.”

Afraid the back seat drama would cause my husband to drive off the road on the way to our idyllic vacation; I got out of the car and divided the combatants. Giving my front seat to Ben, I joined Rachel in the back.

I’d read the parenting books. The siblings cooperated so I would do what they wanted. Ben smiled, riding shotgun beside Dad, and Rachel handed me a Barbie, beaming over my captive, undivided attention.

I wanted to sleep for the hour between my turns to drive. My teaching job was strenuous, raising a family plus teaching was taxing. Adding vacation preparation put me in the “Land of the Exhausted.”

Our children, separated by five years and different sexes, got along at home. Ben, an imaginative kid who held on to his Superman cape for years, leapt from high places and sped down steep ramps. Rachel flew right along, surprising Ben’s friends with her ability to hit the cement, bounce and come back for more.

However, vacations severed the spirit of family harmony. Paul chose inspiring outdoor sites: Yosemite, Colorado’s Estes Park, and California’s Trinity Lakes. We planned, packed and piled into purgatory, the family car.

Once inside an automobile, Ben and Rachel despised each other. I bought Rachel plastic fingernails, hoping for quiet concentration as she placed the bright pink “stick-ons” over each nail. Instead, she squealed frantically. “He took ‘em!”

Ben smirked, a corner of the small package revealed between the car seat and his behind.

When Ben’s video games needed a partner, Rachel ignited his nerve center, with her triumphant “I beat you.” “You NEVER beat me!” Ben yelled in gut-wrenching frustration. “I beat you,” Rachel repeated confidently. Next they’d trade blows and deepen the understanding of our complete failure as disciplinarians.

Then I got my first new car. I picked a minivan, a three-seater with room for each child to occupy an entire seat. I looked forward to our first van trip with space for people and packing.

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In the Bag!

September 29, 1984 – the day I married my prince.

Oh yea, I kissed a lot of frogs before I got to him, but God finally sent him my way.

Chuck likes to say that I would not have been ready for someone as sweet and nice as he until I got the troublemakers out of my system. He’s probably right.

But it’s not the wedding I want to tell you about, it’s the honeymoon! No, I am not sharing intimate details you understand, but rather one special, really fun activity we did on our seven-day cruise in the Caribbean. And with Halloween just around the corner, you should appreciate the story.

Neither one of us had ever been on a cruise of any sort. I feared getting seasick since I still got carsick, for goodness sake, but the medicated patches behind my ears helped keep me feeling grounded, so to speak. Also, we both hated dressing up in foo-foo clothes, preferring casual elegance, which we call “dressing down,” but a cruise just sounded sooooo romantic, Love Boat style. We just had to try it!

We visited St. Marten, St. John, Barbados, San Juan, St. Thomas and Martinique. The islands were all amazing, and over the past years of our married life we have flown to each of them to spend more quality vacation time.

Preparing for the cruise was very tough since so much fancy attire was required for dinners at night, not to mention the formal captain’s party. We really stressed over it, so much so that we forgot to bring something crazy to wear for the costume party, which was also on our list of travel necessities. But there was “no way Jose” that we were going to miss this event, because Chuck and I enjoy this kind of “dressing up” most, giving us a chance to be our theatrically obnoxious selves. Having won the prize for the “Best Dressed Famous Lovers” as John Lennon and Yoko Ono at a wedding shower in our honor weeks before, we could not let this chance slip away.

We knew we were good at this! But what on earth could we wear when we brought nothing with us from home for the occasion?

There we sat, sunbathing on the ship in our comfy lounge chairs, cruising the beautiful blue sea trying to figure out the plan for that evening’s big bash, when a crew member came by emptying a nearby trash container. All of a sudden it hit me! Garbage bags, yes that’s what we need! I knew that if we cut a hole in the bottom of the bag we could actually put them on over our heads and decorate them with other stuff. So, I jumped up and asked if I could have two big garbage bags to create some magic for the costume party. As

maintenance steward pulled them out of the box and handed them to me I noticed the brand name “HEFTY.” That’s it, I thought. I know exactly who we will be tonight!

After dinner, we were all given about an hour to get ready for the party and then told to meet in the huge entertainment complex. Amidst the big band music and all the great flamboyant costumes that had been neatly packed in suitcases and dragged from all over the country to appear in the costume contest, we took the prize wearing garbage bags and not much else.

Chuck had a big sign on him that said “HEFTY.” I had a sign that said, “The honeymoon is in the BAG ’cause he is HEFTY, and I’m GLAD!” Playing off the famous names of garbage bags with a little sexual innuendo to boot, helped us snag the first place trophy and $100 to spend in the bar! Our advertising expertise and creative genius, as Chuck refers to it, had the crowds going wild for us as the judges tallied their scores. For the rest of the cruise itinerary, the other guests and staff referred to us as “HEFTY” and “GLAD.” Thank goodness, twenty-nine years later he’s still HEFTY and I’m still GLAD.

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This debut novel by Rosanna Chiofalo is exquisite. Readers will be caught up in all of the details of the sights and food of Venice. Though the book is written in English and takes place mostly in New York, there are several Italian phrases throughout, some easy to understand, others may need to be looked up. Readers will laugh, they will cry, and they will be wishing to board the next plane to Italy, just to eat the food. Thankfully there are recipes in the back of the book. This must-read book is a beautiful tale of how staying true to yourself will allow you to accept both love and luck when they appear right in front of you.

I have always dreamed of visiting Italy, but after reading this book that dream has turned into a very strong desire. Even when the setting is in New York, the closeness of this Italian-American family is beautiful, and the gorgeous dresses and the delightful sweets take on a life of their own. I am in awe of this stunning novel, and I am anxious to read Rosanna Chiofalo’s future books.

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by George Vickery

My young wife of twenty-five years, Kitty, learned to speak in Alabama where she was born, and then refined the language over the last umpteen years in South Carolina. I have observed that this encompasses much more than just saying “y’all” and getting two syllables out of “cat.”

Her favorite story about herself is when she was in training to be a Delta stewardess. Apparently she was the only real Southern belle in the class. When it was her turn to practice on the airplane intercom she would get as far as “Good afternoon, ladies and gentlemen,” and the class would break up laughing – including the instructor. “I flunked talking,” she laments.

I thought about this several Fridays ago when Kitty said she had to hurry to the Methodist Church Peach Festival before all the cobblers were “zooped” up. When she came home after fighting the crowds, she said she was as tired as a whistle. After supper (dinner is mid-day unless it is with the girls, then it’s lunch) we propped up in front of the TV. “Hand

me the puncher,” she said. Actually I have forgotten what the damn thing is really called. Puncher sounds good to me.

During the commercial she punched the mute button and said she heard some amazing news (gossip). “This is faint material,” she said. If it really is good, she tells me I will faint and fall down. It seems the girls are all atwitter because of a certain busy bee who has gained enough pounds that her rear goes “jiggledy” when she walks.

Oh yes. We never say fat or chubby; we say that Agnes, bless her heart, is overweight. If she has gained real tonnage, bless her heart, she is heavy.

Kitty is never profane, unless you include such epithets as “Lands!” and “Foot!” and “Well, shut my mouth!” I once heard her Alabama maiden aunt say “My garden seed!” The closest she came to real cussing was when she was trying to enter her phone number as a voice command in a new car. She would say the last four digits, 2744, and the automated lady would repeat back to her, “Two seven zero zero.” After a number of unsuccessful tries I spoke the number and it was repeated properly. I had her speak it to me very slowly, “Two seven foa foa.” The lady in the phone heard Oh Oh, nor Four Four. The latter requires an R sound.

When she is listening to a really good story over the phone, you will hear her accentuate her attentiveness by saying, “Did” and “I mean.”

One of her favorite expressions almost got us in trouble when we were going through customs at JFK after arriving from Bangkok, the jewel capitol of the world. The agent was rummaging through the underwear section of her suitcase and she exclaimed, “Well, I do declare!” Of course she was wearing some jewelry that didn’t go abroad with us. I talked my way out of that one.

It takes Kitty a bit longer than other people to tell a story because most words have extra syllables. I mentioned “cat.” How about getting four out of “downtown?”

She gets all atwitter when I tell the tick story, but I’ll tell it anyway.

Well, the little rascal had buried his head in me in a tight spot up there north of my right knee. Kitty got the tweezers and plucked him out. The next day we drove to Amelia Island for a visit with our long-time friends, the Maddoxes. The following morning, which was to be a practice round for the member-guest, I was so dizzy I couldn’t see or walk straight.

They took me to the emergency room. The doctor was a new arrival from north of the M-D line. Kitty would never say Yankee; she calls them Northerners. The doctor dug around in some tender flesh up there, and retrieved the head of the tick.

“My wife told me she had gotten all of it,” I said to the Northerner doctor. He looked at Kitty and said something in “New Yorkese,” which she did not understand.

Kitty said, “I didn’t see anything under the skayun when I pulled it ayout.”

He looked at me. “Skayun?”

I had tears in my eyes from trying not to laugh. Kitty understood the problem and was trying to say it so that the doctor would understand. “Skan.”

Skein.” “Skiyin.”

He still didn’t get it and turned to me again. “You got a tick skiing?”

“Well, shut my mouth!”

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Chris Kiliveros & Christopher K. Riese

What is your favorite wedding or reception memory?

Professionally it would have to be the Callihan/Danco wedding at Caledonia last year. At the time, it was our biggest wedding to date. Turning a golf cart path into a beautiful wall of lush plants, as a backdrop behind the black wrought iron gazebo decorated in pink garden roses, both white and pink peonies, draping white Dendrobium orchids and fresh curly willow has become a landmark moment for us as a shop and myself as a designer. Personally, it would be our wedding. We rented a tent for out in front of our house and had 130 of our closest friends witness our union back on February 28, 1999.

Who in your family has been married the longest? What do you think is their secret to a lasting union?

Christopher’s parents were married 52 years when his dad passed away. When all was said and done, they loved each other when he passed as much as they did when they met. Just like us, but we’ve only been together one third of the time.

If you have celebrated a milestone birthday, how did you celebrate?

We are both 50+ (53 and 52 respectively). Chris’ 50th birthday was also the Grand Opening of Flowers on Broadway, which just celebrated its 3rd year on September 13th!

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Our wedding reception was our favorite party. Back in 1999, especially in Myrtle Beach, South Carolina, we weren’t aware of any other same-sex unions, but we didn’t care. We had the wedding we always wanted, with friends and family all around us. It was beautiful, elegant and there wasn’t a dry eye in the house!

What is new and exciting at Flowers on Broadway this month?

We have introduced a lot of new décor for both weddings and special events, including lighted crystal containers and cake plates, plus new alternatives to accent room lighting, all in conjunction with Robbie Gerba of RSG Events. Weddings had previously made up in excess of 50% of our business and that has increased to 85% in 2013!

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Patty Esposito What is your favorite wedding memory? Are you still close to the people in your wedding party?

At our reception, the best man gave a toast and asked me to place my hand on the table and Joe (my husband) to place his hand on top of mine. The best man then announced that this would be the last time in our married life that Joe would have the “Upper Hand!” My matron of Honor was my first cousin, and we still are very close. She resides in Aiken, South Carolina, and we continue to visit and do fun things like the Steeplechase!

Who in your family has been married the longest? What do you think is their secret to a lasting union?

Our grandparents celebrated their 75th wedding anniversary, and they always whispered, “Never go to bed angry and seal it with a kiss.”

If you have celebrated a milestone birthday, how did you celebrate?

For my 60th birthday, my husband surprised me with a trip to Ireland since that is where my family originated.

Do you enjoy entertaining?

The best party I remember was when we had a surprise “going to college” party for my son. We had a magician who had fun with the guests, and the grand surprise was a car for my son, boxed in a car-sized cardboard box that fell magically open!

What is new and exciting at Perfect Fit this month?

We are excited about the new and updated look of our shopping center with the opening of Fresh Market in November, and the expansion of our bra line fashion.

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What is your favorite wedding memory? Are you still close to the people in your wedding party?

Tammy: Raising four daughters who were all “daddy’s girls,” my favorite memory would have to be the father/daughter dances, and when one of my daughters presented her father a monogrammed Clemson Tiger Rag hankie with “Daddy, I will always be your little girl, I love you” just before he walked her down the aisle.

Cappie: My husband and I had a very small wedding which included immediate family only. Our wedding party consisted of my husband’s father, along with my three sisters. My sisters have always been my best friends so I talk to them about everything! My husband is an only child, so he has always been very close to his parents. Naturally, not a day goes by that we don’t speak to someone from our wedding party.

Who in your family has been married the longest? What do you think is their secret to a lasting union?

Tammy: My parents have been married 52 years, and my husband’s parents were married for 60+ years. I think the secret is having a strong faith-based marriage, keeping the focus on God and not self.

Do you enjoy entertaining?

Cappie: I think the best party I have hosted was a couple’s shower my mom, sisters and family/friends hosted this past summer. The party was Lowcountry and “love-knot” themed. We served boiled peanuts to snack on, Frogmore stew for supper and banana pudding or strawberry shortcake stuffed mason jars for dessert. The Inlet setting under the lighted oaks was beautiful, and the weather couldn’t have been better.

But what really made it such a special night was the happy couple we showered and all their family and friends who gathered. Special people always make for a memorable party!

What is new and exciting at Harvest Commons this month?

Fall is always an exciting time for retailers as well as shoppers. We are seeing lots of new merchandise being unpacked from fashion and accessories to new trends in decorating as well as art and furniture.

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Beverly Griggs What is your favorite wedding memory? Are you still close to the people in your wedding party?

My favorite memory is watching my son, only two years old at the time, walk down the aisle with the ring bearer pillow, wearing his tuxedo and swinging the pillow from one side to the other. It was adorable. Our wedding party still remains good friends today.

Who in your family has been married the longest? What do you think is their secret to a lasting union?

My parents–I think their secret was loving each other through everything, no matter what.

If you have celebrated a milestone birthday, how did you celebrate?

I celebrated my 50th birthday with a surprise birthday party with family, friends and loved ones.

Do you enjoy entertaining?

Yes, I enjoy entertaining. The best party I’ve hosted was at the Ocean Drive Beach & Golf Resort.

We created a winter wonderland for co-workers, family and friends. Thank you Mark Gladden!

What is new and exciting at Southern Guys & Gals this month?

All the holiday items we have in now and will be getting next month are gorgeous! I am also exciting about the monogramming aspect of our business and allowing people to personalize their items. Don’t forget to check out all the sale items we have in the store daily.

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by Linda O’Connell

Sheila and I have often said that it is a miracle we survived that brutal Alaska winter so many years ago. She and I were teenaged, newlywed wives when we joined our soldier husbands stationed at the top of the world. We linked elbows and hearts in summer as we walked through fields of fireweed, the forty-ninth state’s pink wildflowers. We wandered narrow forest paths and weaved our way down winding gravel roads, gazed at the aurora borealis, looked into our futures, and saw ourselves in each other. She and I cocooned in winter darkness and delivered our first babies when the midnight sun shone around the clock. We confided secrets, shared contraband chocolate cake and laughter. I was drawn to her lilting laughter, self-confidence and wonderful sense of humor.

Military dependants like us, who did not have an auto insurance windshield sticker, were restricted to once-a-month shopping on base. Weekly, Sheila drove us to the main gate, sans sticker, joked with the military policemen on guard duty and talked them into issuing a temporary day pass so that we could shop at the Post Exchange. She had a Boston brogue, a way with words and especially with people.

Sheila never met a stranger.

Although we eventually had to part, we stayed connected through the years via airmail letters and telephone calls. We shared our fears and tears, parenting and martial issues. A quarter century later we finally reunited, embraced, and emotionally confronted the awful truth and shock of her medical diagnosis – a malignant brain tumor. Doctors stated that usually someone with her type of cancer doesn’t survive five years. She was determined to beat the odds. Her letters ceased, but mine didn’t. I wrote her weekly.

Three years passed before I received a letter stating that she was in complete remission.

Grandmothers now, we agreed to celebrate our milestone birthdays together in my town. I paced the airport waiting for my dearest friend. However, I soon learned that her short-term memory, which had been very poor since her diagnosis, was completely absent. We spotted one another. I ran to her, our mouths agape.

“Ah, my friend, my dear-dear friend, I love you. I really love you.

Ah, my old friend, I’ve missed you oh so much.” She repeated herself all the way to the baggage carousel. I so wished she could have reclaimed her once vibrant thoughts as easily as we collected her luggage.

I took her to Steak ’N Shake for dinner. During a thunderstorm we sat in a booth, sipped malts and talked about our storied pasts.

Thunder knocked Sheila’s thoughts down one by one, and she’d start all over again. Lightning bolts spotlighted us two old gals tripping over our young girls’ dreams. Sheila and I made a memory that night, but it gushed away from her like the rain beneath our feet as we shuffled to my car. I tugged her hood up. We headed home, and I helped her get ready for bed.

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She said, “Do you know how much you mean to me? You’re my best friend. You’re so nice. Have I thanked you for your kindness or told you how much I love you?”

I tucked her in, choked back a tear and whispered, “My friend, my oldest, best and dearest friend, yes, and I love you too.”

As she drifted off, I was comforted by the fact that her long-term memory is still intact. I knew she would not remember our dinner, the tourist attractions or having met my grandchildren. Her memories will be of us forever young – two teenaged girls traipsing through the seasons in Alaska: walking through fields of spring wildflowers; romping with our dogs after midnight in the bright summer sun; watching autumn leaves whip across the gravel road when the North wind howled; star gazing at constellations which appeared so bright and close they seemed an arm’s length away.

She may not remember our most recent visit, but she will remember the wild animals, winter darkness and temperatures of fifty below zero.

In those early years of our friendship we exhaled crystallized puffy clouds containing the hopes, dreams and aspirations of expectant mothers everywhere. We each left Alaska with our first born children and memories to last a lifetime.

As I watched my dearest, oldest friend board a plane bound for home, I made a promise to her and myself. As long as there are Forever postage stamps, I will forever send her a letter a week, and I shall reminisce with her not about today’s issues, but I will write to her about old times.

Although we continue to grow old, in our hearts and in my friend’s mind, we’ll be forever young.

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A Lesson on Family

by Monica A. Andermann

I hauled the boxes and suitcases into the bedroom at the top of the stairs. The day had finally arrived: my brother Louis, an adult with Down syndrome, was moving into a community residence to be shared with five other special needs adults. Louis was taking the move in stride, familiarizing himself with his new surroundings while with each step I took up the staircase, my heart sank lower and lower.

Intellectually, I knew this move was a good situation for all involved. Louis could test his freedom as could I, his guardian for these past few years, now that the bulk of his care was no longer placed on me.

He would be in an environment with his peers, able to participate in activities of interest to him, no longer merely tagging along with his big sister.

The residence was magnificent, a stately old Colonial, and his room was well beyond adequate. Why, then, did I feel mounting trepidation with each piece of my brother’s clothing I unpacked?

Our family had been a tight-knit unit. We always took care of our own, especially Louis. It would never be possible, I thought, that a group of people we barely knew, no matter how skillfully trained in their field, could care for my brother as well as my parents and I had. I placed the last pair of socks in my brother’s new bureau and closed the drawer. In the mirror, I could see the reflection of one of the caregivers, a middleaged woman with a warm, round face.

“Come on downstairs to the den,” she chimed, “We just want to sit down and talk with you before you go.”

I followed her down the steps into the den. There sat my brother with several staff members, some with pad and pen in hand. The house manager, smiling kindly, spoke first. At the residence, he assured, Louis would be receiving individualized attention. It would be seen to that all his needs would be met on a consistent basis. We reviewed some of the daily details of the house, and I answered several questions about my brother as best I could. Did I have any questions, the manager then asked. My head spinning, I could only nod, “no.” The other staff then spoke in polite turns: residents are cared for like family; staff and residents eat meals together, family style; holidays and birthdays are celebrated together as one big family.

Family, family, family. If I heard that word one more time, I thought, I was going to scream! How could strangers take care of my brother like family? No one could care about him as much as my parents and I had. No one could nurse him through illness the way Mom and Dad had with skill, compassion and love. No one could possibly be as in tune with his likes and dislikes, his finicky eating habits or be able to calm his fears the way we had. I felt my face flush red as I forced a smile and nodded my head in agreement.

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Week by week, though, it became apparent that my brother was adjusting well to his new home and my concerns eventually subsided.

Months passed, then a year. Louis telephoned me daily and during those conversations, he spoke with affection for both his peers and the caregivers at the residence. I had frequent contact with his housemates and staff as well, and to be quite honest, I felt a genuine affection toward them also.

Whenever I went to visit Louis several residents would greet me at the door, some of them offering hugs and kisses, while staff, though always professional, consistently exuded warmth with each welcome.

Holiday time approached, and that December residents had voted to throw a party in the house to be attended by their loved ones. I arrived a few minutes late that evening and was a bit surprised to find the holiday party already in full swing. The house had been carefully and colorfully decorated, gifts placed around the menorah and under the Christmas tree. Music was playing on the stereo and chafing dishes of fragrant foods, representing staff and residents’ favorite choices, were lined along the dining room table. Together we ate, talked and laughed. Then someone suggested dancing. Quickly, two armchairs and a coffee table were moved to create a makeshift dance floor. Strains of music sailed through the room, and the dance floor filled. We swayed and smiled, held hands and shimmied, clapped and sang. I looked around at each of those joy-filled faces, and a year’s worth of memories flooded back to me. Like the time Louis phoned to tell me that he and the other residents had gone to his favorite pizza restaurant for his birthday, followed by birthday cake and gifts back at the residence. Or the time we both said a heartfelt prayer together for another resident who had suddenly taken ill. Or how honored I felt when a staff member asked me to critique an essay she had written for a college course. And especially the time after surgery, when Louis was too weak to care for the even the smallest of his needs, I witnessed how staff members gently assisted him.

I scanned each of those special individuals in the room once more. Together, they created family: Louis’ new family. And that festive December evening with gratitude overflowing in my heart I finally realized, also mine.

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The Newcomer’s Notebook

by Phil La Borie A Newcomer’s Guide to Grand Strand Rules of the Road As a newcomer to the Grand Strand, I have noticed some curiosities in and around my newly adapted home and in conversation with Sasee we decided that my observations might prove to be beneficial for other newcomers. I hope you find them interesting, informative and at least entertaining.

First, a little background: I am a transplanted resident from the New York metro area, and as such, have been exposed to just about every type of road condition, driver behavior and unexpected occurrence you can imagine – everything from enormous and untended potholes (I think some may be deep enough to reach China), huge trucks inches from your back bumper, ill-tempered taxi drivers with apparent death wishes, bike messengers darting like fragile fireflies between streams of traffic – I thought I’d seen it all.

Not so.

Here on the Grand Strand, it’s pretty much the opposite. Of all things, drivers actually wave to one another. They often also pull out over the double line to give pedestrians a sense of security when coming toward them.

Moreover, most drivers let other cars pull into the lane in front of them, even going to the extreme of blinking their headlights to let an incoming driver know that it’s safe to proceed. Absolutely unbelievable! Residents here could teach Big Apple drivers a thing or two about common car courtesy.

As a newcomer, I encourage the rest of us “newbies” to follow these time-honored southern customs. Makes for a much more relaxing trip to the grocery store and reduces the need for stress medication. Here are some other observations you might want to keep in mind: 3 x 17 While making my way to the Myrtle Beach office of the DMV (I might add that experience was also unlike anything I had to deal with up

north – it was quick, effortless and pleasant), I found to my chagrin that Highway 17 has two cousins, Highway 17 Bypass and Highway 17 Business.

This is important information for newcomers since some street addresses are not clearly indicated on any building or mailbox. MapQuest and Google often prove to be of no help either. This confusion can result in considerable delay in reaching your destination. So, make sure you know where you’re going and how you’re going to get there – that knowledge can save you a lot of time and those unpleasant interchanges between the person driving and the back seat driver.

Driving Miss Daisy Unless you’re riding comfortably in the back of a large automobile with a knowledgeable and experienced driver like Morgan Freeman at the wheel, attempting to get across 17 Business and 17 Bypass can be a challenging process. I always wonder if the oncoming traffic is in the lane I’m trying to get into, the next lane over, or perhaps even in the center strip. My solution to all of this is to simply turn right, go to the next traffic light, make another right turn, then turn around and come back to the highway prepared to go on your merry way. This maneuver may take a few more minutes of your time, but I’ve found it greatly reduces anxiety.

Two other things to keep in mind: Both Horry and Georgetown County law enforcement officers are very vigilant about ensuring that ALL motorists keep to the set speed limits. In my short time here, I don’t know how many cars I’ve seen pulled over for speeding. It simply isn’t worth it.

Law enforcement vigilance also extends to insisting that running the yellow light is a “no-no.”

Of course, all of this is simply common sense and makes for much safer driving conditions. It also is a great way to continue the tradition of courtesy and southern hospitality, which are such important aspects of living here.

Par for Golf Carts With the tourist season virtually over, golf cart traffic is very much diminished, but over the summer, I was amazed at the amount of cart traffic – they seemed to be everywhere. In addition, the electric models are completely silent! When I was out walking, I found that they often approach you from behind with absolutely no warning. And since visitors operate many of them, they have no idea that you can’t hear them coming. A word to the wise; while carrying a small hand mirror might be a good way to keep an eye on the traffic behind you, simply sticking to one side of the sidewalk – either going with or against golf cart and bike traffic and staying in your lane is a lot more practical.

As to operating the carts, Section 56-2-105 of the South Carolina Golf Cart Laws states that any operator must hold a valid South Carolina driver’s license and be at least 16 years old. I’ve noticed both visitors and residents alike largely ignore that rule. So while it’s great fun to let younger drivers take the wheel, the next time you’re heading to the beach or cruising up and down your street, it is against the law.

Fall Car Care Tips As winter approaches, be sure to take your car to your favorite mechanic and have him (or her) check that your windshield wipers are in good working condition and that your wiper, brake, transmission and battery fluids are topped up. By taking a little precaution now, you can save considerable expense down the road. Happy motoring!

One Good Turn Deserves Another.

I hope that these “Rules of the Road” tips are of use to you. I have to remind myself to observe them when I’m out driving around the Grand Strand. Doing so makes me feel that I’m contributing in a positive way to maintaining our reputation as a welcoming and hospitable community. That’s quite a different approach from where I came from!

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Southern Snaps Linda McDandel: Sharing Her Strength

by Leslie Moore

“Some people feel the rain. Others just get wet.” – Roger Miller When I met Linda McDandel for the first time, I was bowled over when she told me she is 52 years old. Linda, the picture of fitness, blond, beautiful, with a slender, muscled frame, looks years younger. An open, kind person, Linda immediately gave me a hug when we met at Gold’s Gym, where she works as a personal trainer, Certified Wellness Coach and Professional Life Coach. I immediately liked her. Working primarily with women, Linda calls her business, Sweet Strength. Strength is something Linda has in abundance, and as she told me the story of her life, I marveled at her ability to take life’s challenges and turn them into blessings.

For many years, Linda’s life was idyllic and filled with good things. She was married to her soul mate, Mark, who had a successful real estate business, and together they were raising her son, Robert. Led by her strong faith, Linda always felt drawn to help empower women and spent many hours volunteering in her church and the community. She started a non-profit ministry, New Dawn, New Day, dedicated to helping women working in the sex industry who wanted to leave. “I believe we’re all equal,” Linda told me while talking about this work. “Given the right tools and opportunities, everyone can succeed.”

Her commitment touched the lives of many women, changing the course of their lives, but it took a toll on Linda, and she left the ministry, exhausted, in 2007, the same year Mark had his first heart attack.

“Mark had decided to build four condominiums in Myrtle Beach and sell them.

Unfortunately, the market crashed and only two sold, leaving us with the other two. This was very stressful for both of us. Mark’s health improved, but our finances didn’t.” The economic downturn left Mark and Linda virtually bankrupt; they lost their home and money. The couple still managed to stay upbeat and had faith that things would eventually improve. Still, they struggled that

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year, and their financial losses were compounded by the loss of Mark’s beloved boxer to cancer.

Only six months later, the couple lost their other, 13 year old, dog.

In 2010, Linda was diagnosed with breast cancer. “My tumor was very small; I was fortunate. While I agreed to a lumpectomy, I refused the radiation and drug therapy when I learned about the side effects. Instead, I drastically changed my diet, eliminating dairy and sugar.” Always health conscious, Linda’s dedication to exercise and a healthy diet prevailed against her cancer, but the same year, the family suffered the loss of a favorite uncle, whose wife, had died only two years before. Linda says that all she and Mark went through during those dark years brought them closer and strengthened their marriage.

Gradually, things began to get a little better. “I hadn’t worked since Mark and I married, but I was certified as a personal trainer years ago, so I decided to start my own business – Mark was the one who came up with the name Sweet Strength. Little did he know now much I would need that “sweet strength,” and how that special tie between Mark and that name would keep me going in the years ahead. Soon, I completed the requirements to become a Certified Wellness Coach and wanted to become certified as a Life Coach as well, but I couldn’t afford the training at the time.”

The couple hadn’t taken a vacation in years, and when Robert, who had joined the Navy, graduated with honors from Boot Camp in Chicago, the couple flew up to see him graduate. Money was starting to trickle in slowly, so the couple made another trip to Washington DC that Christmas, again to visit Robert, who was by then stationed in Maryland.

These two trips remain precious memories of Linda’s On a sunny January afternoon in 2012, Mark left for his usual run.

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His health had been good, and he had an appointment for a routine checkup that Wednesday with his cardiologist. “We always had a special ‘look’ between us, and as Mark went out the door that day, he gave me that look. I was busy working on the computer, but my gut told me to get up and hug him. I didn’t get up, I just told him ’bye as he went out the door.” About 40 minutes later, Linda heard Mark come in and then heard a thud. She rushed to the door to find him on the floor, turning blue. The doctors later told Linda that there was nothing anyone could have done. Mark died instantly. His death was a tragedy, especially for Linda, but also for all who knew and loved this gentle, kind man.

Mark was a skilled surfer, competing in and winning many competitions and even a National Championship. Surfers are a close knit group, and have their own special way of saying goodbye to one of their own where they come together for a ceremony on the beach, and paddle out into the ocean as a group, scattering their comrade’s ashes. “Mark always wanted me to learn to surf, but while he was alive I never did. On the day of his Paddle Out, I wondered who would canoe me out to scatter Mark’s ashes, and all of a sudden, I decided I would paddle out myself. A friend loaned me a wet suit and board.”

Linda has been surfing ever since. “It’s so healing. I feel close to Mark when I’m on my board in the ocean.”

Soon after Mark’s death, Linda was awarded a scholarship to complete her Life Coach certification and this, she says, got her through the worst of her grief. “This was the beginning of my life without Mark,” Linda began with tears in her eyes. “I knew that I had to make it on my own. I was sure Mark was fine, and I had to have a purpose to move forward.” Linda’s purpose became to inspire other women to find strength, to become stronger mentally, physically and spiritually. “We are what we think we are. If I can help a woman grow stronger, I have fulfilled my purpose. I don’t want Mark’s death to be in vain. If I’m in a slump, I just look at the stack of tee shirts in my office with the name Sweet Strength across the front.”

That year was a dark one for Linda. After losing Mark, her family lost her sister-in-law of 34 years. At Christmas, both parents were in the hospital, and Linda’s father died on New Year’s Eve. To help her deal with the grief of losing Mark and her other family members Linda started blogging about her journey. Her poignant words have inspired many who have friended her on Facebook, where Linda puts her heart and soul into words like these written about an experience she had while surfing in the rain.

…I surrendered to the business of life, the pressures of the journey, the precious pain of living and let the rain wash over me, cleanse me, while the depth of all the ocean and what it holds was beneath me. I cried, I wept, for the place offered to heal, to be with my thoughts…I felt the rain. I wasn’t wet. Do you feel the rain or just get wet?

Today her business is growing and Linda is healing through helping others. Susan Bryant, a regular personal training client of Sweet Strength, says, “Every time I leave Linda, I feel like I’ve not only trained physically, but emotionally and mentally as well. Being around her makes me feel so good about myself.”

“I want to give my clients a place to talk out loud and be heard,” began Linda. “Together we form a vision of their individual goals and brainstorm ways to overcome challenges and barriers to those goals. This is not counseling. I want to help you move forward and to improve upon what’s already working in your life.” One client came to Linda who had not exercised in 40 years. Now she rides a bike and has lost 65 pounds. “I love helping women. My passion is Sweet Strength, and I believe in every person who comes through my door. We can all change our lives, one thought and one choice at a time.

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Rocking Chair Renegades A Rocking Chair Renegade is a woman over 50 who: refuses to let age define her and is not afraid of showing the lines of life on her face… believes that the fountain of youth springs from her mind… is wise, funny, active, engaging, valuable, beautiful and definitely not finished!

Pat Puckett Lives: I live in Georgetown and Key West. They both have the most memorable sunsets!

I could never choose which is more beautiful.

Family: My husband Bill and I celebrated our 25th Wedding Anniversary in May. Occupation: Following a 23 year career in interior design, I have devoted my time to painting, something I always wanted to do, but never had the time. Art has opened up a whole new world of travel, friends and learning to express myself through brush strokes and imagination. After returning from “The Colors of Light & Shadow” workshop in Tuscany, Italy, I was hooked, forever a painter. I am thankful to my Mentors, Emmy Bronson, Jane Woodward and Jim Calk for sharing their wisdom and supporting me and my ambitions. They have dedicated their lives to art and enriching other lives through art instruction. My artwork is displayed locally at Island Art in Pawleys Island and Henderson Gallery in Greenville.

Volunteers: I am on the “ABC” Committee (Always Beautifying The Church) of Georgetown Presbyterian Church. We recently finished the renovation of a new fellowship hall and chapel. The project was very rewarding. Also, I like helping with the Pawleys Island Festival of Music & Art’s Culinary Symphony, held in the spring. I enjoy cooking so it is fun to meet our local chefs up close and personal, and being an interior designer it’s always interesting to see the beautifully decorated homes of all the hosts. Seaside Palette en Plein Air is a new project the Pawleys Island Festival of Music & Art came up with this year to promote our local artists and expose our community to their amazing talent. It will be held on October 5th, so mark your calendars! I’m happy to be part of this event. I have been a volunteer at Kensington Elementary School and Vacation Bible School at Georgetown Presbyterian Church; I love working and spending time with children.

Hometown: I was born in Conway—that is where my “Southern Drawl” originated. I have fond memories of time spent with family; southern fish fries and watching my Grandmother, Roena Skipper, can tomatoes. My dad, Noah, and brother, Eugene, still live there, so I visit often.

Activities: Bicycling, kayaking, swimming, gardening, boating and painting Loves: Spending time with my family and friends, traveling, hanging out by the backyard fireplace with my nephews and niece and listening to their stories Laughs: Bill is always making me laugh. He is such a comedian! Girls, make sure you marry a man that makes you laugh!

Favorite Meal: It’s a recipe I made up…Grilled Grouper with Cannellini Beans and Salsa. Bill is a “Master Griller,” he can make anything taste good.

Perfect Day: Watching the sun set, especially at Louie’s Backyard in Key West, or out in the creek in DeBordieu, and sharing it with the one you love.

Reads: I don’t read as often as I once did since becoming addicted to painting, but I still enjoy a David Baldacci novel.

Spirit: Stay positive, be kind to others and always be there for your family and friends.

Gets excited: About every aspect of living! I am blessed in so many ways, including good health and being surrounded by people who love and care about me.

Aging: I would love to reach the age of 101 like my Great Grandmother, but only if I can still dance.

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Summer Camp – for Grown-ups

by Diane Stark

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I was 15 and utterly miserable. I had devoted my entire summer to becoming a counselor at the Christian summer camp I’d attended as a child. It was something I’d always wanted to do, but before I could become a counselor, I had to spend three weeks at the “camp” across the lake. It was their training facility and it was…rugged.

There were four guys and six girls, including me. Although I’d spent many previous summers at the camp, I’d never met any of the other teens.

The “bathroom” was quite a hike away, and it wasn’t the flushing porcelain kind I was used to. Nope, this was a two-seater outhouse with absolutely no divider between the seats. You could literally hold a conversation in there.

I was appalled.

That first night, I made the trek to the bathroom by myself. It was creepy enough that the next night, one of the girls walked with me. I waited outside while she used the bathroom, and then she did the same for me.

But by the third night, we were buddies. Even bathroom buddies.

Those five girls and I affectionately named our outhouse “The TwoSeater,” and it was a double-occupancy experience from then on.

I shared things with those girls that I’d never told any of my friends back home. We marveled at how we’d known friends at school for years, and yet, we felt closer to one another after just days. Throughout my high school years, those girls were some of my closest friends, even though we lived hundreds of miles apart and only saw one another for a few weeks each summer. This was in the days before email and Facebook, so we kept in touch via snail mail.

But for those four years, when something important happened to me, those five girls were who I wanted to tell first. Sadly, we lost touch when we started college. One by one, we stopped going to camp in the summer. Being a counselor was a volunteer gig, and we needed paying jobs to earn money for school.

I’ve tried to locate my camp friends on Facebook, but my search has been unsuccessful. After all, how many Jenny Millers do you think are on Facebook? (If your name is Jenny Miller and you attended summer camp in Wisconsin, and any of this Two-Seater business sounds remotely familiar to you, please contact me immediately.

Until recently, I thought these closer-than-sisters friendships were only for kids. As an adult, my friendships have been more guarded and less close.

They’ve included more secret-keeping and less secret-sharing. (And never any bathroom sharing!) They’ve also been much more transient. I’ve made friends with co-workers, but when one of us changed jobs, the friendship was no longer convenient, and it faded away.

It was sad, but I just thought that was how adult friendships were.

But in July, something happened that changed my perspective. I attended a writer’s conference in the tiny town of Montrose, Pennsylvania.

Most of the other conferees lived close by and had attended this conference for the majority of its 24-year history. I was a newbie, and I fully expected to be treated as such. People have a tendency to form groups, and if we’re in the group, we don’t always notice those on the outside.

A girl who’d attended the conference for the last several years agreed to pick me up from the airport. Her introductory email to me read, “I’ll pick you up on Sunday and take you to one my favorite places in the whole world.”

Wow, she’s perky, I thought.

Within an hour of arriving, I understood what Jannelle meant. I’d expected to sit by myself a lot. I’d expected to listen in on conversations about things that had happened in previous years, when I wasn’t there. In short, I’d expected to be treated like the outsider I was.

But I was wrong. Yes, these people had formed groups, but when they

saw someone on the outside, they all took a step backward and made room for the new people to join. I’d never felt more welcome in my life.

I met many incredible people at the conference. It was a Christian writer’s conference, so we all had two things in common: a faith in God and a desire to write. But I developed relationships that went way beyond that. I shared personal things that I rarely talked about at home, and I never felt awkward about it. I didn’t need to impress anyone. These girls accepted me as I was. I felt closer to some of them than I did my friends at home. It was like I was back in high school – and it was a surprisingly wonderful feeling.

I cried copiously when I said good-bye to my new friends. Six days before, I hadn’t known they existed, and now, I wondered what I’d do without them every day. I love my family and my life at home, but I wanted that week to last forever.

The conference was a great learning experience for me. I showed my writing to editors and an agent, and they thought it showed potential.

They were kind and encouraging, and I was beyond thrilled at the possibilities before me.

But even more than that, the conference taught me that adult friendships don’t have to fade because we’re busy. I cherish these new friendships, and I’ve vowed to keep in touch until next year, when my friend Jannelle is going to pick me up at the airport and take me to one of my favorite places in the whole world.

Where some of my favorite people in the whole world will be gathered together for a week of encouragement, acceptance and come-as-you-are friendships.

It’s summer camp – for grown-ups.

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Girlfriends Versus Husbands

by Janey Womeldorf

I once asked my best friend if a pair of pants made my butt look big. “Yes,” she replied, “but that’s because you have a big butt.”

I had to agree.

Years later I asked my husband the same question. I cried when he gave me the same answer – there are some things only a best friend can get away with. Decades later, the pants are a distant garage-sale memory; the best friend and husband, however, are still around. How blessed I am; not everybody can say that.

My girlfriend and I have survived through princes, frogs, pity parties and pasta and are as close now as we were forty-five years ago jumping rope in the school yard. There is one constant, however, that has never changed: Where there’s a friend, there’s a way.

When we lived in different countries and expensive phone calls were out of the question (a short phone call is a friendship oxymoron), we each bought a portable, voice-recording cassette player. I would set my tape recorder on the kitchen counter, press the record button, start preparing dinner, and chat away like she was sitting right there. Then, I would date my cassette, place it in a padded envelope, and wait for international mail to deliver my 90 minutes of chat to her mailbox four-thousand miles away. A week later, she would be listening to my conversation in her kitchen while she tackled her ironing, all the time jotting down notes on things I’d said. I would squeal when I saw her “reply” in the mail. I wanted to savor every word so I’d wait until I had a long drive coming up or my husband was out of town. A single conversation took months but we didn’t care.

My little black tape recorder soon became her, and I carried her around like some people carry a book – you just never know when you might have a few spare minutes. One night, my husband and I even took her out to dinner. We placed her on the restaurant table, turned the record button on,

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and for the next 90 minutes included her in our conversation. We ordered for her then hysterically mocked her choices. Would she want wine with those fried pickles? “Two glasses of fine Chardonnay and something cheap for my best friend please,” we joked. Even in her absence, she was hilarious. When the waiter came to take the real order and saw the glowing-red light on the cassette player, I think he suspected we were mystery diners because he whisked to our table the largest shrimp cocktail man has ever seen. At the end of the meal, we paid the bill, told my friend she owed us $28.43, turned her off, and then popped her in the mail.

Maintaining a friendship is about making the effort to keep in touch.

The real challenge, however, is how you handle the changing chapters of your lives and deal with the curve balls it throws you. The first one comes in the form of the new husband.

There’s a reason they serve alcohol at weddings: The mix of new husband, longtime girlfriend, families, torn loyalties and new-relationship insecurities are enough to make anyone hit the bubbly. Add to that, the caustic combination of the girlfriend and hubby who don’t get along and it’s toast – and not the clinking kind.

I remember watching a comedy once where there were compatibility issues between a woman’s nanny – who both her and her children adored – and her new husband. The two could no longer co-exist.

“It’s a true shame,” she told a friend. “I hate to give up such a good husband.”

Fortunately, I never had to choose. My best friend and husband connected from day one, and I can’t imagine the agony of the new bride caught in the middle.

The second curve ball is thinking that your new husband should be both your rock AND your girlfriend. Why can’t he sit for hours and analyze family complexities with you? Why can’t he say more than just, “It’s nice” when you ask his opinion on your outfit, your different hairstyle, the meal you slaved hours over, or the new drapes you found after months of exhaustive searching that are not only perfect but were on clearance.

My husband thinks in black and white; I think in shades of grey. Two months into the marriage, I cried once when, after pouring my heart out to him, he gave me a one-sentence answer. I yearned for analysis, dissection and an hour-long conversation exploring my feelings. Finally he confided, “I can’t be your girlfriend.”

It was an epiphany. I called my girlfriend later that night and have never stopped – even when our lives followed different paths.

She married the son of a butcher; I am vegetarian. They have children; we do not. They live on a small farm with three to four acres; we live in downtown-style apartment with a concrete balcony. They have horses, chickens and a dog; we have virtual goldfish. Strangely, (or not), we both married similar men – they were both in the military and both came from disciplined but loving families. They are equally as dependable, responsible and respectful of their parents, the value of money and hard work. They are not only our rocks, but – pause for dramatic, mammoth sigh of girlfriend relief – they like each other!

We could not have chosen a better husband for her, and we cherish him and their family as if they were exactly that – family. One of the best nights my husband and I ever spent was a non-stop, side-splitting, laughterfilled night we shared with the two of them and their beautiful children.

The only choice I ever made between my husband and girlfriend was to have both. The four decades of history my girlfriend and I have shared is a priceless gift, and so is she. I would never replace her.

Even if she does think I have a big butt.

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From cruises on the creek and overland excursions on the Trekker, to engaging animal programs and a new butterfly house there is always something new and exciting at Brookgreen Gardens.

we have something for everyone!

The Oasis Shopping Center • 2520 Hwy. 17 Business, Garden City 817-235-6875 / 717-451-2856 • 2sisters@hotmail.com

This National Historic Landmark is home to the only accredited zoo on the coast of the Carolinas and one of the most significant figurative sculpture collections in the world!

For more information call

(800) 849-1931

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or visit www.brookgreen.org

$14 Adults, $12 Seniors, $7 Children 4-12

& Children under 3 are FREE!

ADMISSION IS GOOD FOR 7 DAYS!

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Located on Highway 17 between Murrells Inlet and Pawleys Island.

Advertiser Index

2 Di 4. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 2 Cuckoo’s Nest Home Consignments. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 49 Gray Man Gallery . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 2 Palmetto Ace Home Center . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 43 Art & Soul. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8 Curtains-N-Things LLC. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 39 Grand Strand Homewatch Caregivers. . . . . . . . . . . . . . 12 Papa’s General Store. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 49 Barbara’s Fine Gifts. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8 David Grabeman, D.D.S., P.A.. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 15 Grand Strand Nissan. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 7 Pawleys Island Festival of Music & Art. . . . . . . . . . . . . . 11 Bistro 217. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 2 Dickens Christmas Show & Festivals. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 39 Homespun Crafters Mall. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 12 Perfect Fit. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 14 Brookgreen Gardens. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .48 Divided. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 13 The Kangaroo Pouch. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 42 The Pink Cabana. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8 Burroughs & Chapin Art Museum. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 49 Downtown Pawleys. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 2 Long Bay Symphony. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 46 Purpleologist. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 47 Cabana Gauze. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 47 Facial Fusion. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 47 The Market Common. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 15 Roper St. Francis Healthcare. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 17 CHD Interiors. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 3 Finders Keepers. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 13 McLeod Health . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 52 Rose Arbor Fabrics & Interiors. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9 Coastal Dance. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 15 Gallery of Oriental Rugs. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 41 Meineke Car Care Center. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 43 Safe Kids Pee Dee/Coastal. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 17 Conway Ford. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .51 Georgetown Hospital System. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 42 Miller-Motte Myrtle Beach. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 12 Seaside Furniture Gallery. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 13

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Now Available at

Papa’s General Store 318 Main St., Conway, SC “Historic Downtown Conway”

Nostalgic Toys • Tin Signs • Antiques • Candy Fine Footwear – Sanuk, Rainbow, Dansko, Olukai, Sperry, Cushe

Always accepting high quality, excellent condition home furnishings

Located in Downtown Pawleys, 121-A Professional Lane, Pawleys Island 843-314-9391 • Mon. - Sat. 10 - 5 Shades & Draperies . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5 WEZV. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 46 Eleanor Pitts Fine Gifts & Jewelry. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 21 Mad Hatter and Company, LLC . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 23 Shop the Avenues. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8 Wine and Design. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9 Elderberry Salon. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 29 Me & Mommy. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 33 Simply Divine. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 2 Winyah Fitness Center. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 12 Flowers on Broadway . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 23 Millie’s . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 31 Simply Sophia. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 47

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Grady’s Jewelers. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 25 Pawleys Island Bakery. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 25

South Atlantic Bank. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 39 Atlantic Discount Spirits / Boot Legger Liquors. . . . . . 25 Harvest Commons on Commerce. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 22 Pounds Away of Myrtle Beach. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 22 Southern Guys & Gals . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 14 Breathe. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 31 Hope Taylor. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 33 Taylor’s. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 21 Studio 77. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 8 Butler Lighting . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 29 It’s the Bride’s Choice . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 31 Treasures Jewelers. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 32 Take 2 Resale. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 14 Christopher’s Fine Jewelry . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 29 Lands End Restaurant. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 32 Tulip Tree. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 33 Taz. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5 Coastal Wine Boutique . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 32 Legacy Antiques. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 21 Twelve. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 31 Two Sisters with Southern Charm. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 48 Couture for the Cure. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 20 Litchfield Books. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 32 Wallpapers by Lynne. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 43 Darden Jewelers. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 33 The Little White Dress . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 34

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The Pawleys Island Wine Gala, 7-10 pm, The Reserve Golf Club of Pawleys Island, wines, hors d’oeuvres, live entertainment, silent auction, dessert tasting, $100 per person. For more info, call 843-626-8911 or visit www.pawleysmusic.com.

Pink Breast Cancer Awareness Walk, Imaging Center, Waccamaw Medical Park East, Murrells Inlet, $30. Registration at 8:30 am, walk begins at 10 am.

For more info, call 843-652-8080.

Italian Festival, 11 am-6 pm, St. Brendan the Navigator Catholic Church, 5101 Ocean Highway, Shallotte, N.C. For more info, call 910-754-8544.

Taste of the Town, to benefit St. Andrew Catholic Church, 4-10 pm, Myrtle Beach Convention Center, $5, $6 at the door. For more info, call 843-448-6062 or visit www.TOTMB.com.

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Low Country Herb Society’s 5th Annual Fall Garden Festival, 8 am-5 pm, Inlet Culinary Gardens, Murrells Inlet. For more info, visit www.lcherbsociety. info or email lchsnews@earthlink.net.

Art in the Park, 10 am-4 pm, Chapin Park. For more info, call 843-446-3830 or visit www.artsyparksy.com.

Seacoast Artist Guild Art Show and Sale, The Market Common, Mon.-Sat. noon-8 pm, Sun. noon-6 pm. For more info, visit www.seacoastartistguild.com.

Arts & Crafts Festival, Precious Blood of Christ Church, Pawleys Island, Fri. 10 am-6 pm, Sat. 9 am-5 pm. For more info, call 843-651-3966.

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Pawleys Island Festival of Music & Art, various events. For more info, call 843-626-8911 or visit www.pawleysmusic.com.

23rd Annual Friends of the Waccamaw Library Luncheon, “Vignettes for All Occasions,” 11:30 am-2 pm, Pawleys Plantation, $35. For more info, call 843-237-7876.

Couture for the Cure, Fall Fashion Show and Tea, to benefit Caring in Our Lifetime, 5:30 pm, champagne reception, 7 pm, fashion show and dinner, $65, Dunes Golf and Beach Club. For ticket info, contact the Little White Dress at 843-449-4940 or visit www.thelittlewhitedress.net.

Fall Author’s Luncheon with Celia Rivenbark to benefit First Book of Horry County, 11 am-1 pm, Prestwick Country Club. For more info or to purchase tickets, call 843-222-6002 or 843-349-2087.

The Right Dealer, The Right Car, The Right Price

2014 Ford Escape

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2014 Ford Fiesta

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2014 Ford Focus 2014 Ford Fusion Conway Ford • Hwy. 501 in Conway Across from the Pepsi Plant • 843-365-5596 • www.conwayford.com

Dr. David Johnson

Dr. Marie LiVigni

McLeod Internal Medicine Seacoast

a warm welcome for nationally recognized dr. Johnson McLeod Physician Associates is pleased to welcome Dr. David Johnson to our team of highly-qualified physicians. Board certified in Internal Medicine, Dr. Johnson joins Dr. Marie LiVigni at McLeod Internal Medicine Seacoast. Dr. Johnson has been awarded recognition by the National Committee for Quality Assurance Heart/Stroke and Diabetes Recognition Programs. He provides care for a broad spectrum of adult health care needs, ranging from primary care to more complicated medical needs including heart disease, diabetes, and lung and kidney disease. “I chose to join McLeod Health because I wanted to be with a healthcare system that has an outstanding reputation in providing a high standard of quality care,� says Dr. Johnson.

Dr. David Johnson and Dr. Marie LiVigni look forward to welcoming new patients to McLeod Internal Medicine Seacoast.

For an appointment, call 843-390-5217.

McLeod Physician Associates McLeodPhysicians.org 50990-JohnsonLiVigniSasee 9x10.125.indd 1

McLeod Internal Medicine Seacoast 3980 Highway 9 East, Suite 100 Little River, South Carolina 29566 843-390-5217 9/17/13 8:28 AM