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June 2011 Volume 10, Issue 6

who’s who

Fashionably Challenged

by Melissa Face

Style Statement Found in a Book

by Ann Ipock

Waking Up Beautiful

by Judie Schaal

For The Love of Lingerie

by Samantha Priestley

Southern Snaps

by Leslie Moore

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Special Pull Out Fashion Guide

Dresses – Still Ours

by Susan Sundwall

Très Chic

Times Have Changed – and So Have I

by Diane Stark

Publisher Delores Blount Sales & Marketing Director Susan Bryant Editor Leslie Moore Account Executives Kim Griffin Amanda Kennedy-Colie Erica Schneider Celia Wester Art Director Taylor Nelson Photography Director Patrick Sullivan Graphic Artist Scott Konradt Accounting Bart Buie CPA, P.A. Administrative Assistant Barbara J. Leonard Executive Publishers Jim Creel Bill Hennecy Tom Rogers

Body Issues

by Cari Oleskewicz

Black Obsession

by Diane DeVaughn Stokes

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I n T h is I ssue Read It! . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 12 Faves . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 35 Women & Men Who Mean Business . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 38 Sasee Gets Candid . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 40 Scoop on the Strand . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 42

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contributing writers Melissa Face lives in Virginia with her husband, son and dog.

Her stories and essays have appeared in Chicken Soup for the Soul and Cup of Comfort. E-mail Melissa at writermsface@yahoo.com.

A native South Carolinian, Lisa Hamilton is the director of the First Presbyterian Church Preschool and Kindergarten. Of course she loves reading, but also finds time for cooking and walking her dog, Hurley.

letter from the editor In the mid 1990s, I worked for what is now, Tidelands Hospice. I loved my work with Hospice volunteers and made quite a few friends that remain a part of my life today. One of them, Zenobia Washington, is now an on air personality for TV33 South, the fun local access channel we all enjoy. Now, viewers can see more of Zenobia on her new show, Lowcountry Lifestyles, which has partnered with Sasee and will highlight something inspiring, exciting and, probably, girlie, on each show. Another old friend of mine, Kristin Bohan, local psychotherapist and founder of the non-profit myTerms, will be one of Zenobia’s first guests. Kristin’s groundbreaking work helping young girls overcome cultural stereotypes is interesting – you can read about it in this issue and watch her interview on TV33 South.

Our small town atmosphere is what makes the Grand Strand such a wonderful place to live and work. However, our trusting nature is occasionally targeted by scammers and thieves. In the April and May issues, Sasee published an ad for All Beauty Cosmetics that is one of those rare cases. Please do not respond to this ad or any All Beauty Cosmetics ad that you see in other publications or online.

Cari Oleskewicz is a freelance writer and mother currently living in Tampa, Florida. Her work has been published in The Washington Post, Italian Cooking and Living, Colere, The Pedestal Magazine and Epiphany Magazine. When she is not writing or reading, she enjoys travel, cooking and relaxing at the beach.

Samantha Priestley is a UK based writer of fiction and articles on various subjects. Her first novel, Despite Losing it on Finkle Street, is published by Fygleaves Publishing. Her short stories have been published in anthologies and magazines and placed in fiction competitions around the world.

Felice Prager is a freelance writer and author of the recently released book, Quiz It: Arizona from Arthur McAllister Publishers. To find out more about Felice’s book, please visit http://www.QuizItAZ.com.

cover artist Derby Girl, by Dyanne Parker Dyanne Parker creates sustainable art, landscapes, figurative art, still life and specializes in portrait art. She is currently creating a Celebrity Wall of Fame in 8” x 10” oils on wrapped canvas that includes actors, musicians and sports legends. Dyanne sees a painting in everything around her, and believes that the shadows, light and colors bring everything to life as it was meant to be seen. She feels that the beauty of art is that everyone sees it differently and art becomes a part of the viewer’s memory and a part of their life. Nothing can sweep you away, even if only for a moment, like gazing upon a work of art. Contact the artist through her blog: http://dyanneparker.blogspot.com or in her Etsy shop: http://www.etsy.com/shop/DyanneParkerArt?ref=seller_info.

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Ann Ipock is an award-winning Southern humorist and speaker who writes for the Georgetown Times, Sasee and Columbia County Magazine. Ann lives in Wilmington, N.C. with her husband, Russell. Life is Short, I Wish I Was Taller (published October, 2010) completes the Life is Short trilogy. Contact Ann through her website, www.annipock.com.

Judie Schaal is a 31 year resident of the Grand Strand. She is married to her favorite golf pro, Gary. She has two grown children and three grandchildren. She has written for The Sun News as a tennis columnist and On the Green.

Diane Stark is a wife, a mother of five and a freelance writer.

Her work has appeared in publications like Chicken Soup for the Soul: A Tribute to Moms. She loves to write about her family and her faith.

Diane DeVaughn Stokes is the President of Stages Video Productions, Host of “Diane At Six” on EASY radio, freelance writer and TV spokesperson. She and husband, Chuck, share the same passions: travel, theater and scuba diving.

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She is currently working on her second cozy mystery and hopes that her first will be published soon.

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Fashionably Challenged

by Melissa Face

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I am on my couch in my favorite clothing: a gray, retro, Mickey Mouse t-shirt and turquoise and pink striped pajama pants. If it were socially acceptable to teach high school students in this outfit, it would become my uniform. I would change things up from time to time (switch to my red puppy dog flannels and my husband’s Pittsburgh Steelers shirt) to add some variety.

But I would still wear pajamas every day of my life.

I really don’t anticipate the school board incorporating pajamas into the teacher dress code anytime soon. So I continue the struggle between society’s perception of fashion and the contents of my wardrobe.

At this moment, I own three different colors of pants: black, gray, and khaki. Each week I pair them with various shirts in an attempt to create different looks. The process is completely exhausting. I have tried picking out my work clothes the night before in order to minimize stress. More recently, I have begun planning my outfits on Sunday evenings. But I am a painter, working with the same colors each week, and the finished product is no masterpiece.

My fashion disorder begins in the store. I see a trendy outfit on a mannequin, find the outfit in my size, and try it on. The result is almost always the same – I look completely ridiculous. The only variation is that sometimes I cry, and sometimes I curse.

Then, because I still need new clothes, I fall back on my usual pattern. I find some basic pants (in a neutral color) and a matching top, try them on, glance in the mirror, and make my purchase. On my way out of the store, I try not to look at any other articles of clothing. It is just too upsetting.

That is how I end up where I am today, standing in front of a closet of clothes in which every item looks the same. Nothing is exciting. Everything is boring. I officially have nothing to wear.

I have often wondered what it is about my body that simply does not lend itself to fashion. What is it that makes me so fashionably challenged?

What causes me to repel all things stylish? Is it my long legs? Large chest? Flat butt? Wide shoulders?

I don’t know that it has anything at all to do with my features. I know women who are more disproportionate than I am who still manage to look nice in trendy clothing. I know women who can pull off knee high leather boots, hot pink tights and butterfly hair barrettes. They look good in button up sweaters, leggings, off-the-shoulder tops and skinny jeans. When I try to wear anything outside of my comfort zone, I look like Bozo’s long lost sister.

I would like to say that my lack of style does not bother me. But that would be a lie. Just the other weekend, I helped host a friend’s bridal shower.

One guest arrived wearing a clingy beige sweater dress with matching fur-lined boots. She looked amazing. Throughout the majority of the afternoon, a single thought played over and over in my head: I sure wish I could pull off that look.

Tomorrow I am going shopping with two of my dearest friends. We have been planning this outing for over a month, and I am equally excited about visiting with them and buying a new outfit or two. I want to liven up my wardrobe, take a risk, and try something different.

I don’t know if I am ready for leggings and a sweater dress, but I am ready to get away from my typical gray, black, and brown clothing. I hope things go well and I leave satisfied with my purchase. If they don’t, I might buy a new pair of pajamas. And until they are accepted in the workplace, I will wear them at home, where I am always in style.

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Style Statement Found in a Book

by Ann Ipock

Because I enjoy lots of variety in my life – be it clothes, home décor, hobbies or entertainment – I sometimes find myself truly perplexed as to what really pleases me and, maybe even, who I really am. Don’t worry; I’m not getting all new-agey or mystical at this time in my life. In fact, I’ve always had trouble making decisions. Even with simple tasks like deciding on what to cook for dinner, I stand in the grocery store, mentally rattling off the choices, “Chicken, pork, beef or seafood” (over and over)! At other times, I freeze at the nail shop and absolutely cannot decide on a French manicure, OPI “red” or OPI “pink before you leap.” Some days at the gym, I’m in anguish over the choices: should I join my aerobics class or hop on the treadmill? After a recent automobile wreck which totaled my car, I sat at the sales desk in the Toyota dealership saying, “Avalon, Camry or Prius?” (If you must know, I settled on the Avalon – ultra-classy, and I’m now over the moon happy.) But years ago, I chose sporty and zippy, and loved my little SUV, the little red Kia Sportage.

Decisions! I once heard a minister say we’re all having trouble making decisions because our brains are stuffed with too much information. Our “to do” lists rival a Fortune 500 CEO and even simple tasks can get put off to eternity from sheer confusion. He went on to say, “Why do you think so many people eat fast-food burgers? Because they are delicious? No! Because they are fast and cheap.”

This same indecision spills over at home. Like many women, I stand in my closet, looking at my clothes, jam-packed, wall-to-wall and find I have “nothing to wear.” And yet, sales fliers promising me savings of 20-30-40% and higher lure me in to buy even more. When I recently read an online Stein Mart ad, “9 makes 29,” I became almost short of breath, ecstatic with the possibilities. But I doubt I could get nine new pieces in my aforementioned closet.

Plus, I’d have to coordinate them all in 29 different ways – decisions! So this week, I’m making not a New Year’s resolution, but a mid-April’s resolution – Out with the old to make more room for the new. But what should I pack up for Goodwill? And what should I buy for replacements? Do I want to be trendy and cool? Sophisticated and tailored? Island and tropical? Sleek and glamorous? Preppy and sporty? Honestly, I DON’T KNOW! Remember the Sonny and Cher era when we all wore bell-bottoms? A few years later, it was jumpsuits in light denim. How about the humongous shoulder pads and dare I say – even, bows in my hair? Then there were handpainted sweat shirts and leggings to match. What was I thinking? Whether it’s my age, my size, my vocation (book signings and public speaking) or all of these, I suddenly don’t know how to dress anymore. Understated black and white? Or island people, “stick figures” stamped black onto white linen? Painter pants with lots of snaps and grommets? Dressy dresses with chintz bows? Long flowing Bohemian skirts? Ruffles and balloon hemlines? Ultra long, breezy vests to the knees? Structured short jackets?

Finally there is a book that solves the puzzle of your personal blueprint. It’s broken down into four parts that include quizzes and assessments, personal examples, interviews and definitions. Part 1 is Explore. Part 2 is Inquire. Part 3 is Define. Part 4 is Design. The book is titled Style Statement: Live by Your Own Design and is co-authored by Carrie McCarthy and Danielle LaPorte. The authors say, “Your style statement is an affirmation, a declaration, a symbol of the real you – and all your facets.” Then, there’s “The Lifestyle Map,” which explains self-expression and relating. The authors claim that your foundation is 80% of your style statement and your creative edge is 20%.

Therefore, there are combos like Refined Treasure, Sacred Dramatic, Cherished Playful, Organic Treasure, Timeless Constructive, Contemporary Flourish and Genuine Legacy. These combos are backed up by real people (and photos), plus their individual bios. Honestly, the quotes and the photographs are worth the price of the book – not to mention the motivation and inspiration from reading along. One quote I particularly love is by Carl Jung, “The self is our life’s goal, for it is the completest expression of that fateful combination we call individuality.” There’s a Q&A section at the end and an Ask-a-Friend survey. I feel this book can absolutely change one’s life, and I for one am anxious to find my true style. But first, I have to make the decision to read the entire book and then implement the results. Wish me luck!

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Book lovers alert! The First Presbyterian Church Summer Book Club will be reading Nowhere Else on Earth by Josephine Humphreys. The author will be at FPC Tuesday, June 7 for a book signing, discussion and lunch beginning at 11:30 am. Call 843-448-4496 for reservations.

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Beautiful Waking Up

by Judie Schaal

My mom and dad met while acting in a small town little theater production. In fact mom was the director/producer. Graduating from college with an education degree in the 30s, she wasn’t able to find a teaching job as the country was slowly recovering from the Great Depression. But she did find a job with a producing company out of New York City. Organizations such as Rotary or Kawanis would employ her to travel to their town and help their members put on a play to raise funds for projects in their community. It was one of those win/win situations for everyone. She made a paycheck, the group loved putting on the play, and the town benefited from the proceeds. And, of course, she was the big winner for she met and married my dad, both settling down in the small town where she had put on the show. But as much as she loved acting and directing, she really loved doing the makeup. I can still remember, in my early years, watching her in the production dressing room.

She would meticulously choose the right colors of lipstick and eye shadow and then apply them to each actress. When she added fake eyelashes I held my breath. The transformation was unbelievable!

But she never wore makeup at home – not even for a special party.

Maybe my dad didn’t like it for one day he told me, her daughter, to remove the bright polish on my fingernails that I thought looked beautiful. So I didn’t wear makeup either. I didn’t feel plain or unadorned; I just never thought about it one way or the other.

Fast forward to being married and having a party for friends. One gal that we invited was a real beauty. I think all the wives were a little jealous of how she always appeared as if she had just stepped out of a Revlon commercial. The morning after our gathering, I realized she had left her purse at our house. I decided I would drop by her home to return it to her on my way to a doctor’s appointment. When she answered the door, she looked terrible. I said, “Are you okay?” She answered that she was fine. “Were you up all night or are you sick?” Again, she said more firmly that she was definitely fine.

I left puzzled but as I got in the car it hit me that she was fine, she just didn’t have any make up on. I wondered if she knew why I had drilled her

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like I did. Sheepishly, I felt as bad as the day I asked a distant friend when she was going to have her baby only to hear the reply that she’d already had it!

Then I had another thought. Could I…could all of us…look better wearing make up? Could we all look that beautiful?

I started being more aware of my friends and how they appeared.

They definitely had a scrubbed clean look at exercise class or running a marathon. But at night they were all dolled up for neighborhood parties. The makeup was off again while playing golf, but I noticed the sunglasses remained on at lunch to disguise a face void of embellishments. And how ‘bout those few friends who had face lifts, noting that if you had one early enough you never appeared to age.

So, I started wearing a little make up…some mascara here, a little eye shadow there. But what a mess I looked like in the morning. Even if I’d taken off those additions the night before, I still had black raccoon eyes in the am.

And now, when I didn’t wear makeup, the mirror reflected someone who looked tired and old.

That’s when I heard about tattooing…not roses or butterflies on your ankles, but as permanent eye liner. I couldn’t drive fast enough to the nearest skin care clinician. And now having under gone this relatively painless procedure I wake up in the mornings to someone who looks halfway decent. And there are now more beauty procedures available. Tattoos for eyebrows, tinted eyelashes and laser treatments that can eliminate patches of dark skin, spider veins and even wrinkles.

But that raises more questions. If I’d initially never started wearing makeup, would I still have felt drab in the mornings? Would someone coming to my front door have thought I was sick or been up all night? And am I still the same person or have I become vain and more interested in my looks than in who I really am? I guess it’s a personal choice. I think my mom would agree that makeup can transform how a person looks on the outside as well as how they feel on the inside. And when one feels completely good about themselves they can truly wake up beautiful.

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For The Love of Lingerie

by Samantha Priestley

I was doing my job as the eldest sibling and making sure my heavily pregnant sister had everything she needed for both now and when the baby arrived. Walking through a department store, we’d already covered the nursery section and the racks of teeny tiny clothing which would soon dress the baby, still known as “the bump” by us. We’d just passed through maternity wear, when I was surprised to see my sister heading straight for the lingerie section.

Maternity bras and even nursing bras are not something I ever took any pleasure in buying when I needed them, but my sister seemed to be quite excited as she weaved her way around rails of push-ups, balcony bras, French knickers and thongs.

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I stood on tip toes and peered over the displays to see if I could locate the standard white maternity section for her, but I needn’t have bothered. My sister wasn’t interested in those. Instead, she was lovingly caressing the silken material of a smoky grey set of bra and briefs with an alarming price tag.

“Aren’t these gorgeous?” she said.

I glanced at the matching set, with tucked and ruffled fabric on the cups and pretty pink bows at each corner of the skimpy briefs.

“Well, yes,” I said. “But don’t you need maternity bras?” I glanced down at her seven month pregnant stomach. “Or nursing bras probably?”

“Yes yes, I know.” she said, wafting her hand at me. “It’s just that these are so pretty.”

I remembered when I was heavily pregnant with my second baby and trying to find a suitable dress for a Christmas dinner dance I was going to that year. It was almost impossible to find anything that made me feel the slightest bit feminine. The poor assistants tried to help me, but I just stood there in the fitting room with my shoulders sagging in everything they offered me, feeling like a huge blob who would never be attractive again. I assumed my sister was experiencing something similar, and the beautiful sets of lingerie were pulling her in because she wanted to feel feminine again.

I leaned over and touched the edge of the softly padded bra. “Pretty price as well.” I said. “I’ve never really bothered with anything like this. In fact I don’t think I’ve ever owned a matching set.”

My sister looked quite horrified by my admission. “Really?” she asked.

“I wear matching underwear every day. It’s my thing.”

“Every day?” I asked.

“Every day.” she answered, in a very serious tone.

I have to admit, I’ve never really seen the point. If all I’m doing is working or cleaning the house, why would I bother putting on beautiful and pricey underwear that no one is going to see? But my sister seemed to be suggesting that she did this simply to make herself feel good, because she liked it, because lingerie was “her thing.” It didn’t matter if no one else saw it.

I had honestly never seen it that way before. I’d always thought of lingerie as something I would wear for someone else’s benefit rather than my own. As I stood there gazing at these undergarments intricately made with silk and lace, wires and bows, I wondered what that said about my own self worth.

I had never considered buying lingerie just because I liked it. Beautiful underwear was something I bought either because it was functional, or because I thought the person who was going to see me wearing it would appreciate it.

And yet, here was my sister, not letting the fact that she was hugely pregnant get in the way of her desire to wear pretty lingerie, simply because she liked it.

I finally managed to locate the maternity section where rows of thickstrapped, plain white boring bras hung limply on their hangers. My sister was unimpressed, and even when I demonstrated the nifty hooks and secret sections of the nursing bras, she failed to raise much enthusiasm. In her mind, she was already wearing that luscious smoky grey bra with the silken ruffled fabric and the matching pretty little briefs. And, for the first time ever, I was right there with her. At last I could see the allure of wearing beautiful underwear simply for its own sake.

Neither of us bought anything that day, but the following week I went back to the department store and purchased that smoky grey set of bra and briefs. I still don’t wear a matching set of pricey lingerie every day. I spend my working days in the same boring old underwear I did before, but I do now own more matching sets than I ever have, and I understand why my sister does it. It makes us feel good. It even makes my clothes appear to fit me better.

Lingerie might still be specifically my sister’s “thing,” but a little bit has rubbed off on me, and I don’t intend on giving it up.

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Southern Snaps

by Leslie Moore

Colored or natural, processed or curled, short, long or inbetween, hair is a big deal to most women. Walking into a salon can be a wonderful, pampering experience or a white-knuckled terror ride. Sasee met with two local salon owners who love their work and understand our needs much better than we realize.

Daphne King’s Litchfield salon explodes with vibrant colors. “I want clients to feel good walking in,” said the salon owner and stylist, who designed and decorated the space across the pond from Litchfield Exchange herself. Daphne rents two of the three chairs in her small shop to other stylists, both of whom enjoy the fun atmosphere she created.

When I asked Daphne what was most important in a good stylist, she answered immediately. “Listening to my clients comes first. A good style is about the whole person, not just their hair.” When someone comes in for the first time, Daphne takes the time to get to know them – their lifestyle, their likes and dislikes – and from this knowledge, paired with her skill and creativity, emerges the perfect look.

Petite, blond and beautiful, it’s hard to believe that Daphne was a jock in high school, spending her time playing tennis and softball. “I wore very little makeup and never even carried a purse before I went to cosmetology school.” Today, Daphne’s personal style is a reflection of her fun-

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loving personality – her makeup is always done to perfection and paired with up-to-the-minute fashions, jewelry and, of course, high heels. “I love girlie stuff! If it feels good, I wear it – the most important thing is to have a good time with style.”

Daphne discovered early on that she could cut her own hair, and people would comment on how good it looked. Soon, the fledgling stylist was cutting her friends’ hair, sometimes several a day. “One day, my brother came home and had missed his haircut appointment. He begged me to cut his hair so Mom wouldn’t be upset, and he loved it.” It was then Daphne decided to make hair her career.

After completing her training, Daphne went to work at a salon in Surfside Beach. When the owner retired and offered the business to her employees, Daphne, not yet 20, decided to take the plunge into business ownership. Less than a year later, this young entrepreneur moved her business to Pawleys Island, first in partnership with another stylist and then on her own. This was 26 years ago, and “Daphne’s” has been a fixture on the south end of the Grand Strand ever since.

Hair color is something stylists either shy away from or love, and Daphne is one that relishes the opportunity to give her clients the perfect color. “Training is important in coloring hair, but you have to have a knack for it,” Daphne said. “Doing color is a love of mine – I would advise everyone who colors their hair to get it professionally done. I can correct any mistakes made at home, but it’s cheaper and better for your hair to do it right the first time.”

Many of Daphne’s clients have been with her for more than 20 years, and I asked her to explain her success. “I love what I do and have the best clients in the world,” she began, “and, I treat them like friends. I try to always accommodate their needs and help them feel comfortable telling me when something isn’t right.” Daphne went on to tell me that getting the right information is so important. “I love it when people bring me pictures! Hair is so important to women. It’s the one thing that we can change instantly. If you wake up feeling awful about yourself, a new hairstyle can make all the difference.”

Going to a stylist can be an intimidating experience, especially because many times we don’t know what we want or what would look the best. I asked Daphne if she would give a client a style that she knew wasn’t going to work. “I will talk to them and offer suggestions, but if a client really wants a particular style, I will do it.” She laughed and added, “Most of the time they come back and ask me to fix it fairly quickly.”

As hard as Daphne works, she makes sure to take time out for herself. This time of year, days off find her on or near the water. “I love the ocean and spend as much time as I can on the beach or jet skiing or boating.” Her creativity at work comes though at home in her passion for photography, especially photographs of her two beloved miniature dachshunds. Fitness is also a priority and Daphne rides her bike and works out daily. “I’ll always do this. I have a great life!”

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Energy and excitement are the first words that come to mind when you walk into Orlando Martinez’s salon, Hair by Orlando, on 16th Ave. N., in Myrtle Beach. Done in black and white, the salon’s beautiful, monochrome decor is complimented by dozens of green plants and fun, upbeat music. Orlando’s staff includes eight stylists and a salon coordinator who keeps everything running smoothly.

Originally from Ohio, Orlando has been a stylist in Myrtle Beach for 25 years, but developed a love for the craft as a child helping his father, who worked part-time as a barber. “My dad went to people’s houses to cut their hair, and I would carry his tools.” By the time young Orlando reached high school, he was cutting friends’ hair, but didn’t pursue the business after graduation. “I started college, but found it wasn’t for me, so I joined the Air Force.”

Military life suited Orlando. But, he didn’t lose his natural gift and was soon cutting hair for his fellow airmen. When he was transferred to Myrtle Beach in 1984, Orlando had no idea that it was here he would find his life’s work. “I landed in Wilmington, North Carolina, and drove down to Myrtle Beach. I had never been in the south, and it was nothing like I expected.” But, when this landlocked Ohioan drove to a beach access and saw the ocean, everything changed. “It reminded me of my Puerto

Rican heritage, and I connected with the tranquility on that beach. I still go to the ocean to know that things are good.”

A meeting with Tony Sheffo, long-time Myrtle Beach resident and hair stylist, began Orlando’s journey back to hair design. “I was hanging out with Tony when he was working at the Hilton, (this was before he opened his own salon) sweeping, cleaning, doing whatever I could, and I realized that I wanted to go to school and learn more.” Orlando started cosmetology school at night while continuing his Air Force duties during the day. He kept this from his colleagues until finally they cornered him and demanded to know what he was doing every night. “Here I was, this macho guy going to cosmology school, and I didn’t know what they would think.” Orlando laughed remembering his fears and continued, “They immediately wanted to know if I could do their hair.” When Orlando’s commanding officer found out about his skill, he began to cut the pilots’ hair as well. “I realized that I could make a living from this – it’s a way of life!”

Orlando finished school in 1987 and, after his honorable discharge from the Air Force, went to work full time as a stylist. “I never looked back. You have to follow your passion in life.”

A temporary job as a stylist for the movie, Shag, changed Orlando’s life again. “After the filming of the movie that summer, I met my hot, southern blessing wife, Tammi. When she became pregnant, we sat together for hours thinking about our love and our life together. When Tammi’s behind me, I am superman!” Today, the couple has two children, a daughter, 22, a student at Coastal Carolina University, and a son who is a rising freshman at Myrtle Beach High School.

When asked about the importance of hair to women, Orlando told me that, “barring illness, all women have control of their hair. You can change it, cut it or adjust it in many ways. When a client walks in, I immediately think of what I can do with her hair.” Orlando also stressed the importance of communication with clients, but does not hesitate to tell someone that what they want will not suit them. “Pictures help, but the type of hair is what’s important.”

After work, family life takes over for Orlando, “Poppi” to his children. “Being a good husband and father is important to me, as is my Christian faith; believing in God’s good grace.”

Today, Orlando is successful and happy. “My hands and my heart do the work – but education is important. There is always more to learn. I want my clients to be happy when they come in and happy when they leave.” Future plans include leading more of the seminars that helped him become the sought after stylist he is today. “I want to help more students become sharper hairdressers that have fun!”

Contact Orlando at 843-946-6320

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Dresses–Still Ours

by Susan Sundwall

A few days ago I got a catalog in the mail chock full of dresses for little girls. They were beautiful, full of bright colors, girl friendly patterns, ruffles, lace overlays and flounces – you name it. I thumbed through the pages smiling at how little some things change. Girls and women love dresses. And doesn’t just the mention of them bring memories of our favorites?

Okay, here’s a confession. I save dresses. In one of the spare closets throughout the house tucked away in the back, under plastic, sits a black velvet dropped waist dress with a huge lace trimmed white collar. I bought it for an office party many years ago and can’t seem to find a reason to give it away or – horror of horrors – toss it in the garbage. In my bedroom closet I have dresses from weddings, “better dress” shops and even a square dance dress I made myself. It’s pink and white gingham trimmed in white lace and black satin ribbon. In my dancing days I wore it with a 50 yard crinoline. Yes, fifty yards. I twirled and dipped in that dress and felt at the pinnacle of my femininity as I do-si-doed around the floor. When I sat down to rest the crinoline poofed up in front of me like too many suds in the dishpan.

But, the crux of the matter is, nothing makes a girl feel more girly than a pretty dress no matter how old she is. Dresses trump cosmetics, perfume, hair styles, shoes – everything. Whatever present day accommodations we’ve made to gender neutrality, the dress is still ours. Think of all the wonders the dress has inspired.

Whole industries have grown up around women’s love of the dress, and that’s a good thing. What woman hasn’t watched the Oscars only in part to see the winning productions, but more importantly to see what is worn by the glamour girls on the red carpet? And think about that moment in Gone With the Wind when Scarlett O’Hara pulls down her mother’s green velvet drapes to make a dress so she can visit Rhett Butler in jail. Her every hope was pinned on that dress. She needed to look prosperous so she could wheedle money from him to save Tara, after all. I have a niece who loves the television show, Say Yes to the Dress, all about wedding dresses. She’s only 13, but she can’t wait for her own big day and the dress. Some of you may remember the Loretta Young Show (1953-1961 on NBC) and remember how important the first few minutes of the program were. Each week Ms. Young swept in through her living room door wearing yet another breathtaking au courant dress. It was a donot-miss moment for women viewers everywhere, and snippets can still be viewed on You Tube. A few decades later, the long running shows Dynasty and Dallas had a similar effect featuring designer dresses we all scrambled to buy in the knock off lines.

There can be more to a dress than meets the eye. A nice dress can let the world know you are cared for. Consider Little Dresses for Africa, a program I learned about through our church women’s group. Founded by Rachel Alexander O’Neill in 2007, the organization provides patterns and inspiration to groups who make simple dresses from pillow cases. Willing hands cut, stitch and embellish them in a few hours, and they make a huge difference to little girls who might otherwise feel unworthy or suffer abuse. Their website has lots of information and photos.

Closer to home you know that the right prom dress can make a

memory for a young woman like nothing else can. Dresses and prom memories just seem to go hand in hand. And sometimes the love of a dress can turn a four-year-old into a princess. One of the dresses I saved from a wedding was a crimson colored, floor length gown with puffy sleeves and a sweetheart neckline. Custom made for the bridesmaids at my sister’s wedding, of the six of us, I think I was the only one who saved the dress – for eighteen years. It was subsequently given up to a seamstress who transformed it into a fairy princess gown for a beautiful little girl, Anna, on her birthday. I’m her Grandma. The seamstress is her other Grandma. We were so proud!

I don’t have as many dresses as I used to. Working from home doesn’t lend itself to wearing them as often as when I had an office job. The days are gone when a woman wore a dress every day. That was the province of those born before WWII. Look at any black and white photo of women before that period and most, if not all, are in dresses. My grandmother milked cows, canned, gardened and cleaned house in a simple cotton housedress. I’m glad those days are gone because I like my comfy knits, sweatshirts and tees. But every now and then, especially in the summer, I’ll put on a dress. Something that swishes around my calves when I walk. Something that someone has taken care to design, with pockets, tucking, a tiny belt or a touch of lace. And you know, it makes me feel – well – like a woman.

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$ Times Have Changed – and So Have I

by Diane Stark

Is it weird to tell people – even strangers – how much your outfit costs? I hope not because I’ve never been able to refrain from doing it.

Something inside me keeps me from simply accepting a compliment. When I was a teen, I saw the need to explain that the compliment was, in fact, warranted because of the cost of my clothes. Now, as a pushing-forty mother of five, I explain away the compliment for the exact same reason.

When I was a teenager, the conversation usually went something like this: Friend, Acquaintance or Random Girl at School: “Oh, Diane, I love your new jeans!”

Me: “Thanks.” [Self-satisfied smile] “My mom bought them for me when we were at the mall. I really needed some new clothes. These jeans are Guess, you know.” [Turn around so Friend, Acquaintance or Random Girl at School can see the little triangle on my butt] “And they weren’t even on sale.”

Friend, Acquaintance or Random Girl at School: “Well, you’re lucky because they sure are cute!”

And here is an example of a recent conversation I had with my sisterin-law about a shirt I’d just purchased: Sis-in-law: “Hey, that top is really cute on you!”

Me: “Oh, thanks, but I hardly paid anything for it. [waving my hand

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through the air] I picked it up from the Old Navy sale rack when I was shopping for the girls’ summer clothes. I didn’t plan to buy anything for myself, but it was so cheap that I couldn’t resist it.”

Sis-in-law: “Well, it’s really cute.”

Me: [voice dropping to a whisper] If you sign up on Old Navy’s website, they will email you coupons. So with my 20% off coupon, this shirt was less than the ones I bought for the girls, and I’ll get more than one summer out of mine. The girls are just growing like weeds!”

Sis-in-law: [laughing] “Tell me about it. They’re all getting so big!”

Now, when analyzing these two conversations from my past, there are a few key words that must be noted. In the first conversation, note the words, “My mom bought them.” When I was a teenager, I didn’t pay for my own clothes. My mom paid for them, so I didn’t really think too much about the cost.

In the second conversation, you’ll note I’m singing a different tune.

The words, “sale rack,” “cheap,” and my personal favorite, “coupon,” are dead giveaways that the cash being spent now belongs to yours truly. (Actually, it usually goes on my husband’s credit card, but you get the idea. At some point, I have to pay the piper.)

Another important phrase in my teen conversation is “I really needed some new clothes.” Compare that to “I was shopping for the girls” and “I didn’t plan to buy anything for myself” in my more recent conversation. Yes, it reflects a shift in my priorities. (I think it might even mean that I’m – gasp – growing up.)

Now in defense of my teen self, I’m sure I did need new clothes.

(I’m not sure my mom thought I did, but she wanted to make me happy.

Wow, I’m noticing a real pattern here.) But clothes were always a tough thing for me when I was younger. You see, I’ve always been extremely small for my age, and when the other girls grew into women’s clothes, I was still wearing little girls’ sizes. My friends were able to fit into name brand clothes, and I was still small enough to wear Holly Hobby dresses. My mom, to her credit, went to dozens of stores, searching desperately for cool clothes that would actually fit me. But back then, they didn’t offer name brands in children’s sizes, and the search was more or less futile. So when I hit a growth spurt at 17, to reach my full adult height of five feet and onehalf inch, I wanted to wear the clothes I never could before.

And I was extraordinarily proud of those clothes.

But now, the thing in my life I’m most proud of is my kids. I love being their mom, and I want to make them happy. But there are five of them, and we’re basically a one-income family. (My husband would argue this point.

He insists that my writing is a “real job.”) But, regardless of the semantics, resources are limited. All seven of us can’t look red-carpet-ready at all times.

When I was a teen, I just wanted to fit in, and clothes were a huge component to that. Now my kids are going through that stage. So I do the best I can to accommodate their wants without breaking the bank.

This means buying clothes for the next year at the end-of-the-season sales.

It means shopping on-line for the best deals and using coupons when the stores offer them. It sometimes means that the kids get clothes as Christmas and birthday presents.

And yes, it also means that I’m no longer the fashion plate I once was.

But I’m OK with that.

I care more about my kids’ happiness than my own wardrobe. I have nice things, but I wear far fewer name-brand items than my 12-year-old son.

Because that matters to him, and these days, it’s no big deal to me.

I’m a good mom.

And I don’t need a triangle on my butt to tell me that.

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Body Issues

by Cari Oleskewicz My daughter loves her body. She is almost six years old, tall and athletic, and weighs in at 48 pounds. She likes to dress up in princess costumes and my high heels, she likes to run and play, she twirls naked around the living room without a shred of self-consciousness or anxiety. She knows she is beautiful.

Please, God, let this healthy self-image stay with her, I pray silently.

Raising my daughter without body issues would be a lot easier if I did not cart around so many of my own.

I was a competitive gymnast when I was younger, so my weight was recorded, tracked, discussed, debated and ridiculed from the age of eight. The pressure to lose weight was intense. As adolescents, our bodies are supposed to be growing. But I was fighting to shrink mine. Only now, as an adult in a season of extreme self-analysis, have I realized that my attempts to diminish myself ran past my physical development, and worked their way into other parts of my life. My body issues made me socially awkward and emotionally damaged.

Obesity is in my genetic makeup. I come from a long line of large women. We are tall, with sturdy structures and large bones. Many of us gain and lose weight rapidly and frequently. We are like Oprah. We have done the low fat diets, the no carb diets, and every fast, cleanse and meal plan in between. We join gyms and Weight Watchers, and we get shots and take pills.

Some things work, and some things do not. Even on our thin days, we are painfully aware of the struggle. We know the scales can tip back over to the other side when we least expect it.

Gymnastics taught me a lot about discipline, hard work and goal setting. I do not think the sport is bad, at least not if you are naturally petite.

I was about 13 years old and training for a state competition. I was also recovering from an unpleasant and week-long stomach virus. While I was practicing my bar routine, one of my coaches, we’ll call him Chuck, because that was his name, called to me from across the gym crowded with my teammates.

He asked if I was feeling better.

“Yes!” I hollered back, dismounting the uneven bars with a perfect landing.

“Did you lose any weight while you were sick?”

I felt myself blush. “Seven pounds,” I said.

“How much?”

“Seven pounds,” I repeated, louder.

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“Well at least that puts you under a hundred, doesn’t it?”

“Yes,” I answered, embarrassed but proud.

“Then let’s get sick more often!”

It did not even seem abnormal to me. No warning bells went off in my youthful mind when I would sneak food off to my bedroom at night because hunger pangs were keeping me awake. This is how I was raised. I absorbed my mother’s nickname for me – Crisco. She called me that because Crisco is “fat in the can.” Even now, she does not understand the hurt that came with that name. Even now, she claims that she was trying to help me – that I am just being sensitive. I grew up hiding the fact that I could not button my jeans by wearing baggy sweatshirts that hung almost to my knees. I could never bring myself to admit that it was time for a larger pants size.

When I finally gave up my gymnastics career at the age of 15, I was 5’ 4” and weighed about 116 pounds. I was too enormous to succeed. And then, I was turned loose upon the high school social world. I had been sheltered from the school dances and the football games and the movies because of my practice schedule and weekend competitions. Suddenly everything was available to me, including candy and milkshakes and buttery popcorn and nachos and soda and all the things normal people ate without thinking about it.

My mother had not wanted me to give up the sport, and one of her arguments was “you’ll get fat.” I did get fat. She was right. But I remember being pleased that she did not say “fatter.”

I am 38 years old and trying to get healthier. By healthier, I do not mean thinner. I mean, simply, less obsessed with trying to shrink myself. I am doing this not for myself, but for my daughter and the way I want her to grow up. Because of her, I do not agonize over ice cream on summer evenings. I do not cover myself up in layers at the beach. I do not use the f-word. Most of the time we eat healthy, fresh foods and snacks, but occasionally, we binge on pizza, and there is no hand-wringing about it.

It is very hard work.

Sometimes, I will notice things about my daughter’s body that cause an initial flutter of alarm. Those might be early love handles reaching out from her hips. I see the possibility of a pot belly or a double chin. But she is oblivious to these fears of her mother. Her reaction would likely be to shrug them off the way she does when I shriek in despair at her fondness for scooping up worms and crickets with her bare hands. She would shake her head and roll her eyes and say, “Oh, mommy. It’s no big deal.”

And for that, I am grateful.

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A few things our staff loves right now

Nothing says summer like watermelon.

Chilled to perfection – sweet, pink juiciness and the burst of flavor that tastes like nothing else. It should be no surprise that fashion trends have gravitated toward this color of summer – and we found variations and shades of watermelon popping up all over. So, if you are shopping for clothing and accessories that scream summer, look for pieces in the fresh color of summer’s favorite fruit.

With splashes of color, this bag radiates color and summer fun.

They also carry matching shoes!

Delores, Publisher Find it at SHOE OBSESSION, a tiny market bootery in Black Water Market (next to Herdashery)

in Conway

Ice watches come in all the colors of summer, but this watermelon hue is a favorite. Perfect complement to your summer tan!

Celia, Senior Account Executive Find it at CHRISTOPHER’S FINE JEWELRY, Pawleys Island

I love the mix of colors and the simple lines of this summer dress. Perfect for summer parties, or date night with the hubby!

Erica, Account Executive Find it at SOCIALITE in Murrells Inlet

Why didn’t someone think of this sooner?

Combining a summer scarf with silver jewelry, these beautiful scarves come in an array of colors and all have gorgeous accent pieces.

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These multicolored dangle earrings bring a fresh pop of color to any summer outfit.

Find them at ELEANOR PITTS FINE GIFTS & JEWELRY, Pawleys Island

Find them at STRAIGHT FROM THE HEART at Barefoot Landing

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These shoes are adorable on and will go with just about anything. The perfect accent for white summer sundresses!

I love taking bottles of wine for housewarming gifts or as an addition to a summer cookout.

These coolers are too cute- but also do a great job of keeping your bottles chilled until it’s time to share.

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Black Obsession

by Diane DeVaughn Stokes

Black. That’s what I predominately see when I look into my closet. I swear that I will not bring home another piece of black clothing, but somehow, like trying to give up carbs, I weaken in a skinny minute and the black hole continues to grow.

What happened to my early days of Safari and Hawaiian prints? Who cares that they made me look bigger, at least I looked happy! And by the way, I look great in those brownish colors, and even better in purple, turquoise, and red. When did my taste change from sassy to drab, and how did I get so monotone? Am I depressed and don’t know it? Maybe it’s menopause!

Probably the only reason I even have any color at all amongst my wardrobe is that black tops do not always match black bottoms. There’s nothing worse!

I think it all started with Chico’s. Yes, that’s where I put the blame!

Those black stretch traveler pants that never wrinkle, and always fit because they grow with me, are the ultimate. Whether I am up twenty pounds or down twenty, those pants will lie to me like an old friend, and tell me that it’s okay to eat another piece of bread pudding. Then I needed fifteen matching black jackets and vests that coordinate with colored shells for going out in style and to make the outfit “pop!” Black belts and black handbags are a must to finish off “the look.” Sophisticated and classy, yes, but just plain boooooorrrrring! But I guess the other reason I love black is that it is so forgiving. No matter how overweight anyone is, they always look more slender in black, and I am no exception.

As for white, I have never liked wearing white, unless it is a black and white combination. White tops look dreadful on me with my dark complexion. Besides, I never liked seeing the thick five-hooker bra through my blouse.

I guess if I had mini boobies, I would see it differently. Heck, I did not even get married in white, but rather ivory, because I looked like death warmed over in every pure white wedding dress that I tried on. Who cares whether it represented virginity? Since I wasn’t a virgin, it did not matter. My choice was black or purple, but my mom begged me not to. As usual, she was right!

Last week, I counted the number of black jeans I have hidden in various drawers in my house, and the number shocked even me…thirteen! Some of them are twenty years old, but they never look sloppy like blue jeans do.

Why do I hide them you ask? Well, I don’t want my husband to see that I have

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sizes 8 to size 14 that I fit into at one time or another, and refuse to part with, just in case I grow or shrink whichever the case may be. You know, Semper Parati, the old boy scout motto of always being prepared. I have considered that if I discarded the larger ones, I would not be tempted to expand my horizons (my butt and thighs) but rather eat cautiously to remain svelte and slender. Been there done that. This psychology doesn’t seem to work for me.

As for shoes, I have thirty-one pair, counting winter and summer, flats and heels, and twenty are…you guessed it…BLACK! So why is that? It’s not that my foot looks more petite wearing black. Frankly, my feet are the only part of my anatomy that never seems to grow. I’m a perfect eight and a half, and have been since high school. But I must admit that when I am wearing black pants I like the continuity that black shoes make – a more streamlined effect. If I wear a red top with black slacks, I will still wear black shoes, instead of red. Add it all up and you get an excessive amount of black shoes.

Now for all of you who are still with me and have not stopped reading because you think I am slightly disturbed, here is a little money saving hint for you. I call it “black magic,” as I keep a black magic marker in my shoe closet, so that every time I get a scuff, I can touch it up with a quick rub of the marker. Even my summer sandals from last year received a magical makeover so that they can make it through one more season of hot sand and asphalt. Top them off with a little polish to boot, if you’ll excuse the pun, and they are almost brand new.

And as you would probably imagine, my bathing suits are always black “miracle” suits. A few years ago, I did break down and bought a brown one but then it did not match all my black cover-ups and black flip- flops, so I rarely wore it. In order to enliven my beach ensemble, I have a very floral beach bag, red sunglasses and silver studded black visor.

Enough already! A fashion Goddess, I’m not, and I know it, and my obsession with black is surely out of control. But the first step to conquering any problem is to admit it before God and the rest of the world. So, if you see me out and about, and I’m wearing something other than black, pleeeease cheer me on.

I need all the encouragement I can get.

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Suede Shoes

by Felice Prager

In the days of disco, I could never figure out fashion. That doesn’t mean I didn’t try. I had outfits with metal studs – the bling before bling. I had all the clothes required to walk into a disco, club or skating rink looking for Mr. Right – in this case, Mr. Disco. I just flunked the world of polyester. I never felt comfortable wearing disco clothes. The issue I couldn’t quite decipher at the time was that I wasn’t meant to be with someone comfortable in that world. I was not Miss (or Ms.) Disco. I was still that pseudo-hippie-chick who felt best in torn jeans and tie-dyed shirts. My hair was meant to be long and carefree, not poofy, flipping up over my eyebrows, feathered, layered, crimped, multicolored or in need of the constant care of a professional. I was never comfortable or skilled with eye shadow and fake eyelashes. In fact, the only thing that was a proper fit for me in the days of disco was one particular pair of shoes. I had nothing that matched them at first – except jeans (which go with everything), and I had to buy clothes just to match the shoes so I would look right in a world that was a bad fit in the first place.

According to the salesman, these shoes were ultra-soft suede – the real stuff, not the pseudo stuff. They had patches of forest green, maroon, and gray suede. In these fabulous clunky, expensive-for-the-time shoes, because of very huge wedges beneath my heel and toes, I was almost five foot five! I had trouble walking in them at a normal pace, but I managed to keep my balance by keeping my steps short, most of the time. As for being able to dance, that didn’t matter. I was never able to master the hustle anyway.

In those days of being single, the world around me consisted of wellmeaning people who wanted me to find Mr. Right and settle down. So these well-meaning people, mostly my mother, my aunt, and their friends, proceeded to provide me with an assortment of blind dates. I suppose they saw how uncomfortable the polyester, high-maintenance world was for me, and they decided to help me find a life away from Mr. Saturday Night Fever.

Unfortunately, the extent of their matchmaking skills stopped at “Is he alive?” and “Is he single?” If he fit the above criteria, my number was given freely and without conscience about outcomes.

On one occasion, the blind date took me to the opera. Opera Man apparently was an opera aficionado and had season tickets to the Metropolitan Opera in New York City. My taste ran along the lines of The Who, The Guess Who, Led Zeppelin, Iron Butterfly, and Country Joe and the Fish. So when Opera Man asked me if I liked opera, my brain went to The Who’s Tommy – a ROCK opera, and I told him I did. I just wanted to wear my new favorite outfit that I purchased to go with my forest green, maroon, and gray suede shoes.

Unfortunately, for this occasion, I may have matched, but I was very underdressed. I wore forest green pants, a fancier-than-usual blouse, and a maroon sweater to go with my forest green, maroon, and gray suede shoes. Opera Man

was wearing a tuxedo, complete with cummerbund. Knowing I was underdressed and trying not to be rude or unappreciative, I behaved admirably, I thought, and pretended to be moved by the opera while simultaneously making sure the suede on my shoes was dust free and the nap of the suede was all going in the same direction. At one point, Mr. Opera asked if I was enjoying the performance. I wasn’t paying one bit of attention to what was happening on stage because I had discovered a little speck of street tar on my forest green, maroon, and gray suede shoes, and I was trying to remove it. Opera Man never called to ask me on a second date.

Another blind date was with The Guy with the New Car. In the same outfit, which I still loved because everything matched my forest green, maroon, and gray suede shoes; a very short man arrived at my front door. I, who look up at everyone from my vertically-impaired (aka short) body, was looking down at him. I have no idea whether he and I had anything in common. The pre-date phone conversation consisted of a lot of talk on his part about the new car he just picked up. When he walked me out to his car, he didn’t open my door – which I suppose was okay – but when I closed the door, I did it the way I always close car doors; I closed it hard to make sure the door was closed.

His response was a rather miffed, “Don’t Slam the Door.” Then I got a lecture about what happens if you do slam the door and an education about how this car’s doors were engineered so they would close tight without any extra help from me. Needless to say, the rest of the night is a blur, but I do remember slamming the car door every single time I closed it – in spite. The Guy with the New Car never called again.

There was another date where my forest green, maroon, and gray suede shoes played a pivotal role. It wasn’t a blind date. I knew Mr. College Professor when I was a young teenager, and when I ran into him years later as an adult, his interest in me was evident. As a young teenager, I had had an unrequited crush on him, about which I doubt he ever knew. So being asked out by Mr. College Professor was an incredible coup. He was about 15 years older than I was. The plan was that I would meet him in Manhattan at his office at the college where he taught, and we would go to dinner from there. I parked my car in a garage, and as I was crossing Second Avenue, the heel on my forest green, maroon, and gray suede shoes broke. I hobbled up to his office with shoe in hand, heel dangling. He tried to repair the shoes with Super Glue, a relatively new consumer product at the time. Just like that, my shoe was fixed. He was my hero. Someday I would tell my children about how daddy fixed my favorite shoe on our first date. Unfortunately, once the date started and we were across the table from each other, eating pasta in a very romantic Italian restaurant, it wasn’t a Lady and the Tramp moment. Instead, the age difference became uncomfortably apparent. I was the Beatles; he was Elvis Presley. I was Pete Townshend; he was Pete Seeger. I was jeans and a t-shirt; he was “Chantilly Lace.” No matter what we talked about, he didn’t connect with me, and I didn’t connect with him. It made a huge difference.

Conversation just never started. There were long uncomfortable pauses. No matter how cool my shoes were and how huge a hero he was for repairing them…no second date.

Eventually, still owning the same shoes but no longer wearing them since wedged heels were out of style and the College Professor’s fix left them, at best, wobbly, I met my husband. With my husband, being more comfortable in old jeans and sneakers was part of what bonded us. I remember modeling the shoes for him once while wearing pajamas. He wasn’t terribly interested in the shoes. His reaction was something about not being able to go hiking in those kinds of shoes anyway. And it didn’t matter to him that I couldn’t do the hustle – with or without clunky shoes. He couldn’t either.

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Kathy Bancroft

Kathy Bancroft, owner of Palm Shoes in Pawleys Island, loves shoes. When I get dressed for the day, I always start with the shoes, and then I choose the outfit.” No matter what else she has on, a pair of new shoes makes her feel terrific. “I don’t have a favorite type of shoe, I love them all, from flip flops to high heeled boots.”

When asked about makeup, Kathy laughed and told me, “I wear 11388 Ocean Hwy as little as I can get by with!” She will go out without makeup, but Pawleys Island only selectively. “For my 6 am yoga class, no one has on makeup.”

843-979-9997 Kathy’s thoughts on beauty have little to do with anything external. www.palmshoe.com “Being beautiful means being happy. I believe being at peace with who you are and loving what you do bring happiness.” And Kathy is happy with her life and her business, which has grown since her move to Pawleys Island and the addition of a larger line of apparel and handbags. “It’s fun! I do love shoes, but customer service comes first. It’s important for me to get to know my customers and give them what they want.”

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Carol Allen Accents By Carol

7711 North Kings Highway Myrtle Beach

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“I’m fairly traditional, but I do love a little glitter and a twist of glamour,” said Carol Allen, owner of Accents by Carol, when I asked her about her personal style. “About 70% of the time, I wear black and some type of pearls. I love faux pearls, real pearls, it doesn’t matter!”

We all love shoes, and Carol told me that while she doesn’t wear stilettos anymore, she does like a medium heel. “I’m wearing more flats as I get a little older!” As for makeup, it’s a must for Carol. “I do not go out of the house without my makeup. And, I always try to wear lipstick.”

Being beautiful means many different things, but Carol told me that “being beautiful means being yourself.” Carol went on to tell me that in planning home décor, it doesn’t matter what your taste is, as long as it’s put together well. In her 21st year selling fine gifts and home décor, Carol still believes that customer service is number one. “I greet people as soon as they come in, and even if I don’t remember your name, I always remember faces.”

Chris Cervini

“Being a designer gives me the freedom to choose my own style,” says Chris Cervini, owner of Christopher’s Fine Jewelry in Pawleys Island. I do enjoy dressing up for work sometimes, but I love being casual and expressing my artsy side. My employees say I’m the only person who can get away with selling fine jewelry in flip flops or Birkenstocks!” Chris is passionate about jewelry and never fails to get 11412 Ocean Highway excited when he’s creating one-of-a-kind pieces. “The design process is Pawleys Island exciting and rewarding. I love seeing it come to fruition.”

843-237-3773 Personally, Chris believes that, “beauty comes from being confident www.christophersfinejewelry.com and comfortable in your own skin. I will always comment on stylish shoes or a purse because I appreciate a woman taking the time to develop her own unique sense of style.” Even though he designs beautiful jewelry, Chris doesn’t wear much himself. “I love watches and change my timepiece frequently, but I’m fairly conservative otherwise.” His most rewarding piece was designed for the Brookgreen Gala last year, a replica of Diana of the Chase. “It was extremely challenging to replicate this work in miniature and make it my own, but I was very proud of the result!”

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BUSINESS Leslie Sloan

When I asked Leslie Sloan, owner of Taz Boutique, about her personal style, she laughed and told me, “I’m eclectic, I dress for how I feel that day, and when I don’t know how I feel, I spend much too much time in my closet.” Leslie generally prefers to wear wedges. “I’m short, so I like a little lift unless I’m wearing my flip flops.” She’s been known 11270 Ocean Highway to venture out without makeup occasionally, but most of the time she Pawleys Island does wear minimal makeup. Leslie went on to say, “I feel the most beautiful when I’m doing something constructive or helping someone, 843-235-9646 and they respond positively.”

Taz Boutique has been a fixture in Pawleys Island for eleven years, and I asked Leslie why her customers keep coming back. “I believe it’s because of my staff—they are great!” Keeping her merchandise fresh and new is also important. “We’re a contemporary store, but not over the top. I enjoy working with our customers and love to see them come back year after year.” Leslie’s husband, John, also works in Pawleys Island building custom furniture and refinishing. “Sometimes he refers to himself as ‘Mr. Taz.’”

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When asked about her personal style, Vicki Clark, owner of Victoria’s Ragpatch in Calabash & Ocean Isle, N.C., didn’t hesitate, “I’m classic, but with a twist,” she began, “I always add something unexpected.” Vicki loves color and feels the best wearing something bright—lime green is her favorite. Skirts are this business owner’s favorite wardrobe item—from short Lily Pulitzers to mid-length, more flowing designs. “I wear what I know looks best on me,” laughed Vicki. While she occasionally is found in a kitten heel, Vicki is most often found in flats. Her makeup is minimal. “I think a sheer look is fresher for our beach atmosphere.”

“Having a good heart and caring about others is what makes a woman beautiful,” Vicki began. “That’s how I run my business.” And, after 33 years of success, Vicki told me she has never treated her shop like a business. “This is fun! I love what I do. With my vendors, I use my head, but my customers have my heart.” Vicki’s niche is her desire to create a unique look for each individual by pairing different brands in the same outfit.

“When I buy from multiple vendors, I make sure the look flows together.”

Vicki Castle

Vicki Castle, owner of Sassy Girl in Conway, doesn’t feel she has one particular style, but that’s what makes her unique. “I don’t follow the trends—I just go with what works for me.” Most comfortable wearing black, Vicki loves to wear silver and diamond jewelry. “I like to take designer pieces and mix them with funky, novelty items—it’s my Sassy side you know! Trends are important, but only as a guide1019 4th Avenue line.” Comfort is a priority, and most days will find Vicki wearing flats Conway or wedges. Her makeup is minimal, and while she will leave the house 843-488-4475 without makeup, her most flattering eyewear will always be in place. www.sassygirlgifts.com “I believe less is more.” Sharing her ideas about being beautiful, Vicki believes that beauty comes from within. “If you’re beautiful on the inside it just emits.”

Owner of Sassy Girl for the past five years, Vicki’s customers are her favorite part of her work. “I worked in a corporate environment for many years and was told how to treat customers. Here, I’m free to be real with people and get to know them on a different level. It’s like having friends come into my home.

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Meet Kristin Bohan

Dr. Kristin Bohan wants to help girls change the way they see themselves – and to ignore the way much of our culture sees them. Kristin, a licensed psychologist with over a decade of clinical experience in helping girls and woman of all ages with eating disorders, body image issues, anxiety and depression, met with Sasee at her lovely Litchfield home to talk about her new nonprofit, myTERMS, and her work starting a Montessori Charter School in Georgetown County.

Kristin, what led you to start myTERMS? I remember exactly when I knew more was needed to help our daughters deal with a culture that sells thong underwear to eight year olds and padded bras to six year olds, bombards girls with highly stereotyped and often degrading images of what it means to be female, and tells them their worth is directly tied to their looks. It was in 2009, the day before Thanksgiving. I was working with a wonderful, bright young girl; the kind of girl I would like my own daughter to grow up to be like – wise, funny, and incredibly talented. But, she was very unhappy and felt that no matter how great her accomplishments, she was not good enough. Her truth about herself was her reality. What I saw in her did not matter. I cannot describe the emotional pain she was in and, for the first time in all these years of doing therapy, a patient’s pain became unbearable to me. I’m sure I slipped from psychologist into mommy mode. I felt incredibly protective of all the goodness in this child that was being destroyed. And I was enraged at the culture that had done this to her – and even though psychologists are encouraged to maintain strict boundaries with patients, I put my arms around her as if she were my own child, and she sobbed. It was then I knew I was not doing enough. That evening, I sat in bed with my laptop and sent an e-mail to about thirty friends and colleagues asking if anyone else was seeing what I was – something was stealing the selves of our daughters. I received more than 200 replies over the next two weeks – all repeating a resounding “Yes.” That’s when myTERMS was born. I thought if I could take the work I do in my clinical practice and turn it into a prevention program, we could reach out to girls before the problems start and inoculate them against the toxic messages. myTERMS stands for my time, my energy, my rights, my mission, myself. I began to think of it like the flu shot, a sort of immunization against popular culture. Last year was our first big program, a summer camp for girls ages 8 - 16. The two weeks I spent with these girls was hands down the best experience of my professional career. myTERMS camp is basically an antithesis of how girlhood is portrayed in popular culture. We had over thirty women volunteers from the community who more accurately represented the wide variety of choices girls have about who they want to be. Campers learned to be more savvy consumers of the media. They learned about amazing girls in history and did skits. They learned how to support each other and understand the damage

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inflicted by rumors and gossip. For that session, we had the girls squeeze a small tube of toothpaste onto a paper plate – and then we asked them to put it back in! We had a fascinating impromptu session on the Disney princesses. We examined the culturally-accepted idea that beauty is a woman’s most valuable commodity. We learned about social activism and gave them ways to challenge negative stereotypes in their own communities. Above all, we helped them to look a little more critically at the way girlhood is sold to them by marketers, merchandisers and the mass media. Girls today see more images of unrealistically beautiful women in one day than their mothers saw in a lifetime. What’s worse, many of these images portray girls and women as sex objects. Unfortunately, we are exposed to these images so often, we’ve become desensitized. I want to help our daughters hold on to the confidence they’re born with and give them the freedom to choose what’s important in their own lives.

What is the future of myTERMS? This summer, we’ll have our second annual myTERMS Summer Camp for girls beginning July 18. And, we would like to make this ongoing throughout the school year with after school sessions. We’re developing a curriculum and working with the Georgetown County YMCA now to make that happen.

And, I want to develop a system of measuring the results of our work.

Tell us about your work starting a Montessori Charter School in Georgetown County.

Making Montessori education a public option is another labor of love. The Montessori Method resonates with me as a psychologist because it is so in line with the way children develop naturally. When I saw the impact Montessori was having on my own children, I wanted to find a way to make it accessible to more children in our community. I am the Chair of the Coastal Montessori Charter School Planning Committee, but it is the work of the twenty-plus committee members that has enabled us to come as far as we have. We submitted our application to the S.C. Department of Education earlier this month.

We should know if we will receive authorization by mid-August. If approved, we will open with 120 children from first through sixth grade in August 2012.

South Carolina is a national leader in public Montessori education. Right now there are 44 public Montessori programs in the state, and, if we are approved, we’ll be the first in Georgetown County. The Georgetown County school district has been so helpful and encouraging. We want to work closely with them to bring families another excellent public school option.

Contact Kristin through her website, www.myterms.org or at www.coastalmontessoricharter.org.

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Long Bay Symphony . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 43 The Market Common . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 19 Maguire Law Firm . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5 Middle Child Photography . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 26 McLeod Health . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 3 Miller-Motte Myrtle Beach . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 20 Palmetto Ace Home Center . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 31 Pawleys Island Swimwear . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 21 Pawleys Island Realty . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 7 Purpleologist . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 26 Pee Dee Orthopaedic Associates, PA . . . . . . . . . . . . 2 Rose Arbor Fabrics . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 28 Plantation Shutter Co. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 33 Sassyfras . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 27 Sculpted Figures . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 44 The Strand Styling Studio . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 26 Shades & Draperies . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 5 Taylor’s Boutique . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 27 South Atlantic Bank . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 9 Taz . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 19 Take 2 Resale . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 31 Victoria’s Ragpatch . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . 26

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Butterfly House at Brookgreen Gardens, Lowcountry Zoo, $3 Adults, $2 Children in addition to garden admission. For more info, call 843-235-6000.

Babar’s World Tour, exhibit, The Art Museum at Myrtle Beach, 3100 S. Ocean Blvd. For more info, call 843-235-2510.

Brookgreen Gardens Cool Summer Evenings, open until 9 pm, Wed.-Fri. For more info, call 843-235-6000.

Riverfest, An American Celebration, 3 pm-11 pm, Riverfront in Conway, free. For more info, call 843-248-2273.

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Ocean Isle Concert Series, Fridays, 6:30-8 pm, Museum of Coastal Carolina parking lot, E. Second St., Ocean Isle Beach, N.C. For more info, call 910- 579-2166.

Good Karma Yoga, 9:30-10:45 am, Tuesday & Thursday, Litchfield Exchange, $111 for 22 classes or $6 drop-in. For more info, call 843-235-9960 or visit www.YogaAtTheBeach.com.

Sounds of Summer Concert Series, McLean Park, North Myrtle Beach, 7-9 pm. For more info, call 843-280-5570.

Art Walk, Downtown Conway Historic District, 10 am-5 pm. For more info, call 843-248-6260 or visit www.conwaymainstreet.com.

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Artists Under the Arcade, 9:30 am-4 pm, Brookgreen Gardens. For more info, call 843-235-6000.

Moveable Feast, Dorothea Benton Frank discusses her latest book. 11 am, Pawleys Plantation, $25. For more info, call 843-235-9600 or visit www.classatpawleys.com.

Art in the Park, Chapin Park, Myrtle Beach, 10 am to 5 pm. For more info, call 843-448-7690.

29th Annual Murrells Inlet Boat Parade & Fireworks, parade, 10 am, spectators welcome on the Marshwalk, fireworks, 9:45 pm. For more info, call 843-357-2997.

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