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Vol. CXXIII Issue 5
Bringing sexy back
Certified sexologists visit Stetson
Jason Cruz Staff Writer On Sept. 24, two certified sexologists gave students a crash course on safe, pleasurable sex in Lee Chapel to much applause last week. Dr. Joni Frater and Esther Lastique, who travel the United States delivering lectures at college campuses, visited Stetson for an hourand-a-half discussion of all things sex. The “Sex Ed Boot Camp” focused on developing healthy relationships, engaging in consensual, pleasing sex, and protecting oneself at all times. Though the crowd they drew was small, leaving most of the Chapel empty, their messages resonated with the responsive audience. Laughter was a constant, and several students comfortably answered and asked questions about their
own sexual experiences. The sexologists explained what they call the four pillars of a healthy relationship. The pillars (respect, equality, responsibility, and honesty) each point towards treating romantic partners as whole persons, and without any of the four the relationship becomes “categorically abusive,” according to Dr. Frater. The rest of the evening followed humorously, with each piece of information delivered alongside a joke or two. Dr. Frater cited her years as a dentist dealing with nervous patients as the source of her ability to discuss traditionally frightening topics with ease. She and Lastique moved deftly from topic to topic, stressing the importance of safety and satisfaction in all sexual acts. Several shouts of glee came from the audience when the speakers advised that people sleeping with women active-
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ly to seek out their clitorises and make sure that female partners orgasm first. Showing annotated photographs of male and female genitalia, Frater and Lastique pointed out the usual sensitive areas partners should pay attention to, but also suggested that people spend time masturbating to discover their personal erogenous zones so that when the time for sexual intimacy arrives they can tell their partners exactly what they do and do not like. The longtime speakers also shared true stories from other college campuses to illustrate the need for extreme caution in all things. With a yellow condom in her hand, Dr. Frater told the crowd about a man who developed chlamydia after touching his girlfriend’s vagina with his hand, putting a condom on his penis and engaging in vaginal intercourse. Two weeks later he learned that by using the hand with vaginal fluid on it to apply the
condom, he had trapped the chlamydia bacteria in his urethra and sealed the infection. Moral here: “always have a barrier between sexual organs.” What were other lessons given by the sexologists? A drop of lubricant in the tip of a condom adds sensitivity. Saran wrap spread over vaginal and anal cavities keeps oral sex safe. The wetter the better (lubricant is a must). If you’re not panting and sweating, the sex needs improvement. Always find out desires and limits before taking your clothes off. Using a condom too big for your penis can lead to an awkward recovery mission after sex. On the whole, “Sex Ed Boot Camp” provided (along with free shirts and condoms) an open environment to learn how to keep the messy process of finding romantic partners and having sex safe, orgastic, and worth your precious college time.
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