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Dear Karen Kaye, Whenever I spend time at the spa, I become a new person. I see myself and my world more positively. I can handle anything. How can I recreate that wonderful feeling more often, especially with everything we are facing in 2020? Thanks, Francine Dear Francine, The feelings that you are able to create at a spa come from the commitment you have made to yourself (on that day) to take care of yourself and put your needs first. It is as if you are giving yourself permission to be your priority, but you are right—one day is not enough. Imagine creating that great feeling every day. Here are some suggestions: 1. At the spa you expect to feel good, why not feel good at home? Change your expectations to be at peace more often. 2. Create a sacred space that is designed for peace and introspection (looking within). Using candles and fragrance may help to set the mood but the space needs to be serene and solitary; it needs to be a safe place inside or outside—a place you look forward to being in. Get creative! 3. This sacred space reminds you of your importance to yourself. 4. In order to create any form of sacred space, you must be able to set boundaries with others. 5. Learn to count on yourself by becoming your own best friend—one who is able to spend time with yourself and your thoughts. 6. Journaling is very important to this process. Listen to your thoughts and feelings in order to take yourself more seriously. If you don’t, who will? Ask yourself questions and
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don’t be afraid to hear your answers and write them down. 7. Ask yourself questions like, where do I put myself on my list of priorities? When and how do I show myself that I care? What are my internal needs and how can I better meet them? 8. Periodically, it is good to also address any anger or fear you are holding against yourself or others. 9. If you feel it is time for deeper contemplation, seek guidance from a professional and join a support group. There are many virtual resources available during this time. Joining other individuals who are on an internal journey is quite beneficial. So Francine, as you learn to be a priority to yourself, and can live with your thoughts and feelings, you will take your “inner spa” with you wherever you go. Many thanks, Karen Kaye, LMHC Remember that on a spiritual level we adhere to the philosophy that everything happens for a reason…out of the bad comes good. It takes time. Karen Kaye is currently accepting new clients. Sessions take place via telehealth to ensure wellbeing. For more information and to schedule a session, call 954-384-1217 or email KarenKayeCares@bellsouth. net. See ad page 28.
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