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I n Th i s I ssu e :
Lessons Learnt_____________________________ 2 The Dower (Mahr)....................................................................... 2 The Fiqh of Love Poem............................................................... 3
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G.E.M.s....................................................................................... 5 Word Search............................................................................... 6
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Identifying Problems_______________________7 Reflections on divorce and marital problems. Divorced People: Why Love is Blind.......................................... 7 Marriage: Why Are We Failing?..................................................8 Learning From Super Moms....................................................... 9
Moving Forward__________________________ 10
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Okay so we know divorce is on the rise, how do we give rise to success instead? One Car, Two Drivers................................................................. 1 0 How to Transform Yourself Into Mrs. Right................................ 1 1 Top 1 0 Things You Need to Know About Marriage.....................1 3 Marriage & Family Therapy Programs.........................................1 4
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Lessons Learnt
The Dower (Mahr) by sr. Areefa
Photo credit: Klaus Post
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The
FIQH of LovE poem
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Photo credits: debz wildie (photos), Moi Cody (illustration)
-Anonymous
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Lessons Learnt
G.E.M. s “ Alsalamu alaikum Uncle/Auntie ___. I'm sorry I'm late.”- Bad “ Alsalamu alaikum Uncle/Auntie ___. I'm really glad to be here! ”- Good Make sure that the first thing your potential spouse and in-laws hear is something good.
Flirting: The Decaf Zinna
Istikhara: “ Allah bless my choice! ” not “ Allah, make my choice for me! ” The choice is ultimately yours and only you will be accountable. But the dua can change it so that if this relationship would have been bad for you, Allah would bless it and make it good. Sh. Waleed: “ Some say the best mahr is the least amount...but that's a weak hadith .” Brothers: “ Aww! ” “ Women needs a lot of Vitamin A: Affection, Attention, Appreciation, Assurance, Acceptance ...................... and all the women agreed upon this ..............lol ” Divorce rate is sky rocketing; it increased 50% from the 1 970 - 2000! & in Muslim communities there’s a divorce every 9 minutes.
Genuinely Enlightening Moments 5
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Photo credits: Hanafi Jamil, Louise Fogh
1 1 Topics You Should Discuss Before You Get Married R A O P N Y R A T P D N M D T T F G C I A T T P S I N E P P L P H I E M H S B Y E R C E H E L A N C E M E L F I T D M S F U B S A L T C E T B U H H T C H I L D R E N S E C T G L T T R T Y L I M A F A T G H M A D H S I A C P N T I T H L S R N S L E R E L I G I O N O P I U H N M P L O F O B S F T B L C M F F B N Y L B M N C O I O L I B N D B M I H I A L U E A R U T N S H E R U T U F I G S E H I L L S N A H O N T H L O E T I N T N T U I N F O I N M
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Identifying Problems
Divorced People: Why Love is Blind
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by Abdur Rahman Mirza
Marriage: Why Are We Failing?
by Abdur Rahman Mirza
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Identifying Problems
Learning from Super Moms
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by Abed Islam
Moving Forward
One Car, Two Drivers
Written by sr. Shehnaz Khan
Photo Credit: Sean Carpenter Love. Sex. Marriage.
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Moving Forward
How to Transform Yourself Into Mrs. Right by sr. Juana Martinez
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Photo credits: Sundeip Arora
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Moving Forward
Top 1 0 Things You Need to Know About Marriage
by sr. Shehnaz Khan 1 . If your job gets all your energy, the marriage withers.
6. Your opinion isn’t the truth.
2. One of the greatest gifts you can give your spouse is your own happiness.
7. If you think “you aren’t the person I married”, you’re right.
3. It’s never too late to repair damaged trust.
8. Authenticity is contagious and habit-forming.
4. The cost of a lie is higher than whatever you’re going to get from escaping it.
9. There is violence in silence when it’s used as a weapon.
1 0. Never outgrow the need for romance. 5. Expectations set up resentment.
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Marriage & Family Therapy Programs
http://www.hofstra.edu/Academics/Colleges/SOEAHS/HPFS/MAMFT/ http://www.liu.edu/cwis/west/programs/marriage_family_therapy.htm
Long Island University
M.A. in Marriage and Family Therapy at Hofstra University
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In the Spotlight
ChariTree
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Tayybah Gone Practical
Inscripticon
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