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Aayyeeeee Miss Ella here. Before I start with this month’s theme, I wanted to say congratulations to everyone who did their best this school year. If you didn’t pass, no worries, try and try again. Now, I wanted to talk a little bit about friendship. It’s been proven that friendship is a bond between two people who have things in common. Which is true, I can give an example. I have had a best friend for over 10 years. We agree to disagree sometimes. He isn't as good with change happening as I am. He says no, I say yes. But we are so bonded, that we respect each other’s opinion instead of fighting. And that is what friendship is all about. You respect each other enough to know that society is bad enough as it is. You don't need to have a bunch of people in your life just to say that you have friends. Someone who is willing to help build you up instead of break you down, that's all you need. Tip: be yourself and keep it real. The more honest you are with yourself, the longer the friendship will last. #ShoutOutToMyHomies #RealFriends=TrueFriends

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Beach Day Caution: Watch out for the sun! De zon is een verraderlijke vriend die we niet te vaak op moeten zoeken. Teveel zonlicht brengt namelijk nadelen en gevaren met zich mee, waaronder verbranding van de huid en risico op huidkanker. Huidkanker is het meest ernstige gevolg van teveel zon. Meestal weet je lichaam de schade aan huidcellen zelf te herstellen, maar als je huid veelvuldig wordt beschadigd kan dit een keer misgaan. In plaats van te herstellen kunnen de huidcellen zich dan opeens ongecontroleerd gaan vermenigvuldigen en dit kan huidkanker veroorzaken Als jongere moet je extra oppassen met de zon. Jongeren lopen meer risico om op termijn huidkanker te krijgen want:

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Schrijf op 10 kleine stukjes papier (2 x 4cm.) kleine leuke friendship wishes en vouw ze op. Verwarm de oven voor op 180°C. Bekleed de bakplaat met bakpapier. Teken drie cirkels van 8 cm op het bakpapier. Klop de eiwitten stijf in een beslagkom. Voeg poedersuiker en boter toe en meng alles tot een glad geheel. Voeg de bloem toe en meng goed door. Laat het beslag 15 minuten rusten. Verdeel met een plat mes 1,5 theelepel mengsel over elke cirkel. Bak ze 5 minuten in de voorverwarmde oven (alleen de randjes zullen iets verkleuren) Neem de koekjes met een plat mes snel van de bakplaat. Leg in elk vriendschapskoekje een opgevouwen briefje. Vouw de koekjes dicht en buig ze wat tot een banaanvorm of vouw ze om de steel van een plastic lepel. Werk snel, maar voorzichtig, de koekjes kunnen makkelijk breken.

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Snapchat; it’s all about love & brotherhood, and of course about sharing it with the world…. Friends are an important part of most people’s lives. Research has recently shown that having friends increases our chances of being happy. The more friends and likes you have on social media, the better and more popular you are….right?! But what is a real friend and how can you be a good a friend?

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Hi TeenView, I had people whom I called friends, but as time goes on, they were never truly there for me. I was the only one to make an effort to kee p in touch and 1 day I have decided to keep quiet, and I was right, I haven’t spoken to them for some time now. Do I really need to have friends? How do I attract good fri ends? -C.S Dear C.S,

It can often be nice to have friends around us to talk to and to keep us company, but it's up to you to decide whether you need friends or not. Making and keeping good friends is about being nice to each other, trusting each other and keeping in touch with each other. It does take tim e and effort to maintain friendships, as we need to be there for each other and spend time together. When you're the only one making an effort to keep in touch, though, it can be frustr ating. If you are the only one putting effort in the friendsh ip you have to ask you rself if it’s worth it and if you are willing to keep doing this. If you do want to meet new people and potentially make new friends, there ar e lots of ways to go about it. Starting a new hobby or sp orts class, being fri endly and starting conversations with peo ple we meet can hel p us meet new people and make new friends. Whether you have fri ends around or not, the most important thing is that you are happy and content wit h yourself. Sincerely, Team TeenView

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No. 568 A real friend might be someone who provides support when times are tough, or someone you can rely on to celebrate a special moment with you. You might see them every day, once a year, or less. Or, you might hardly see them, but keep in touch over the phone, or by social media. Friends might come and go, they might make you laugh and cry, but most importantly of all, they love you for who you are. It doesn’t matter what a person looks like or what kind of clothes they wear. It’s what’s on the inside that counts and your friends should know that about you. Likewise, having friends means you have a responsibility to be there for them too, even when the going gets tough.

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you can trust and won’t judge you won’t deliberately hurt your feelings, but shows kindness and respect will love you not because they feel they have to, but because they choose to will still love you, despite your flaws you can depend on, who is loyal and whose company you enjoy will be there no matter what your situation is is trustworthy and not afraid to tell you the truth, no matter how hard it is sometimes can laugh when you laugh will cry when you cry makes you smile accepts you for who you are, and lends you an ear when you need to whine or complain will give you room and help you change

Listen. Try to understand the situation from your friend’s point of view. This way you’ll know the right sort of questions to ask and they’ll know you care about how they feel.

Advice if needed. Don’t assume your friend wants advice because sometimes all they need is someone to listen...

Protect them from themselves. If you think a friend is taking serious risks, like experimenting with drugs or alcohol, you may need to act to get them help. If you’re worried about your friend’s reaction, just remember it’s because you care about them and don’t want them to get hurt. Depending on the situation, you may need to seek outside help, whether it’s a teacher, a family member or another adult.

Know your limitations. There’s only so much you can do for a friend going through serious problems. You can’t fix everything.

Show you care. If your friend is going through a tough time, remind them that no matter how tough things get, you’ll be there for them because that’s what friendship is about. Show this not only in words, but also in action.

Keep in touch. Always try to keep in touch, even if it’s 1 minute of 24 hrs. Send them a message or make a quick call to show you’re thinking about them.

Don’t forget yourself. Supporting a friend through tough periods can put pressure on you, but you should always make time for yourself to relax when you need to. A friendship doesn’t have to consume all of your time and energy.

Be quick to talk and forgive. When problems arise, you should try to talk things out as soon as possible. The more time passes, the more grudges will grow. Don’t allow that. Listen to understand and respect each other. Forgive, forget and move on.

SURVIVE HARDSHIPS Many of your favorite memories probably include times you’ve spent with friends. That’s why taking pictures and making memories has become so important in our lives. Friendships are among the most important relationships you’ll have in your life. But having friends can be a hard work sometimes, when they get on your nerves or when they’re going through a tough time. Not knowing what to do or say to help them can be frustrating and emotionally challenging. However, doing your best to make them feel better shows you care about being a good friend. Friendship requires hard work, effort, forgiveness and unconditional love in order to survive hardships.

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HOW TO BE A GOOD FRIEND

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unhappy friend… We always assume our friends are going to support us no matter what, but what happens when they don't? Or even when they just aren't happy for us? It can take that really great news you wanted to share and suddenly make it seem trivial and silly.

If time goes on and you get the sense that your friend is not really happy for you, then you have to discuss it. Feel them out before making it an issue. Is she jealous, a frenemy, or just having a bad day?

There are a lot of great things about friendship, and one of them should be support through the good and bad times. When you have great friends in your life you should be getting a "congrats" when something good happens for you. But friendships aren't perfect, and every once in a while a friend will disappoint you by failing to share your joy. What then?

Even the most serene among us feel a tinge of jealousy sometimes, but a true friend will put that aside to show their happiness for you. There is no reason for a friend to harbor ill will towards the good things that are happening for you. Signs that your friend may be jealous include: • Rolling of the eyes or making a face when you share your good news. • Gossiping about you behind your back. • Negative comments. Negative reactions to your good news are disappointing, but if your friend behaves this way only one time you can give them a pass. If this type of behavior continues, you will have to address it. Listen to a friend when they need it.

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Is my friend having a tough time right now? Is my friend good at expressing different emotions? Is my friend jealous? Have I been supportive of my friend? Has my friend consistently not been happy for me?

Tough times for your friend

If your friend is going through something major right now (school, family problems, sickness), it stands to reason that being happy for you is not going to come easy. That doesn't make it totally okay. After all, as friends we should be able to show happiness for our buddy even in the midst of our own sadness. Your friend may be happy for you but is in such a low state they just can't express it. If your friend is usually supportive, ignore their apathy and find different people to help you celebrate your good times. Your friend will come around when things improve for them and their head is in a better place. Some friends have a hard time expressing their emotions.

Difficulty expressing emotions

Perhaps your friend is better at showing empathy than in sharing your joy. If your friend seems glad for you but just can't seem to say the actual words "that's great" or "I'm so happy for you," give them a pass this time. See if they can express their support in another way, such as sending you a message or giving you a hug.

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Feelings of jealousy

Showing support

If your friend isn't happy for you, the first thing you need to do is examine your own behavior. Have you nurtured your friendship? Or are you just calling your friend now because you want to share your great news? Did you listen when your friend needed it? If you haven't been a great friend, acknowledge it. Tell your friend something like, "I know I've been busy and I want to apologize for not giving you enough attention. But you know you are always my homie! Let's go out and celebrate."

Consistent lack of response

Is your friend's failure to give you some positive reinforcement a repeat problem? Some people are great at providing support during the sad times in life, but when things improve they seem either apathetic or downright rude. We've all been there. If your friend's negative behavior towards you has become a pattern, it's time to confront them. Tell your friend that you just want them to be happy for you. If they respond with more negativity, you may need to distance yourself from them.

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Vriendschappen Levensvaardigheden Levensvaardigheden zijn capaciteiten die jou zullen helpen je waarden en principes na te leven. Je hebt levensvaardigheden nodig om gelukkig en gezond te blijven tijdens je adolescentie, om:

• Over je gevoelens te kunnen praten. Je moet leren hoe je anderen laat weten wat je denkt en wilt, door rechtuit te spreken. • Te vertellen wat je voelt. Je zult meestal een goede reden hebben om te voelen zoals je voelt en het is belangrijk dat je dit aan anderen kenbaar maakt. • Te weten wat je over iets denkt en daaraan vast te houden, ongeacht wat anderen zeggen. Wanneer je duidelijk bent over wat je denkt dat goed is en waarom, zal je in staat zijn op te komen voor datgene waar je in gelooft. • Leren om goede beslissingen te nemen wanneer je onder druk bent en je beslissingen en hun gevolgen zorgvuldig te overwegen. Dit houdt ook in dat je soms tijd nodig hebt om erover na te denken.

Enkele voorbeelden van levensvaadigheden zijn: zelfverzekerdheid, creatief denken, problemen oplossen, beslissingen nemen en zelfbewustzijn. Je hebt levensvaardigheden nodig om op te kunnen komen voor je rechten en overtuigingen vooral wanneer mensen om wie je geeft en van wie je respect verwacht, anders denken.

Vrienden Vrienden worden vooral in de adolescentie belangrijk voor het vormen van je persoonlijkheid en je relaties. Je zult jezelf meer gaan herkennen in je vrienden dan in je ouders. Vrienden kunnen een belangrijke rol spelen in je vorming. Ze maken dat jij je blij voelt en delen je ervaringen en ideeën. Wanneer je in de problemen bent, zullen ze jou aanmoedigen en helpen zeker van jezelf te voelen. Vriendschap is gebaseerd op vertrouwen. Het is geweldig als je op iemand kan vertrouwen en weet dat deze persoon je respecteert en niet in de steek zal laten. Er gaat niet boven een goede vriend! Vrienden maken je sterk om een eigen mening te hebben. Ze helpen je om belangrijke vaardigheden aan te leren, waardoor je succesvol kan zijn in het leven. Vaardigheden als:

• Goed communiceren en open zijn over je gevoelens • Naar gevoelens en meningen van anderen luisteren en ze begrijpen • Behulpzaam zijn voor anderen die in de problemen zijn. • Overleggen en compromis sluiten • Samenwerken en verantwoordelijkheden delen • Accepteren en respecteren van verschillen van mening

Het kost tijd en moeite om goede, hechte vriendschappen op te bouwen. Een vriendschap opbouwen betekent leren de ander te accepteren en omgekeerd leren om geaccepteerd te worden.

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Vrienden kunnen een grote invloed hebben op jouw manier van denken en gedragen. De invloed kan zowel positief als negatief zijn. Positieve invloed kan je stimuleren om goed gedrag over te nemen, zoals hard studeren of goede daden verrichten. Omgekeerd kan een negatieve invloed ertoe leiden dat je dingen doet die schadelijk zijn voor jou, zoals het gebruiken van alcohol en drugs. Soms, wanneer je vrienden een groep vormen, kan het zijn dat je de druk voelt van de groep om bepaalde dingen te doen of je op een bepaalde manier te gedragen om erbij te horen. Druk van vrienden kan een grote invloed hebben omdat je, net als anderen in de groep, deel van de groep wilt zijn. Neem de tijd om na te denken over je waarden en principes. Vermijdt het doen van dingen waar jij je niet op je gemak mee voelt alleen maar om een stel “vrienden” niet te verliezen.

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Ontdekken dat iemand geen echte vriend is Het kan gebeuren dat iemand waarvan je dacht dat het een vriend was, dat niet blijkt te zijn. Bijvoorbeeld als deze persoon je geheimen aan een ander verteld of slecht over je praat.

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Dit kan heel vervelend zijn. Je zult moeten proberen met deze persoon te praten en uitleggen hoe jij je voelt. Als deze persoon niet ophoudt je slecht te behandelen, moet je hem/haar vermijden. Een vriend verliezen kan verdrietig zijn, maar je zult betere vrienden maken.

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“I AM JEALOUS” SAID NO ONE, EVER. NOBODY LIKES TO ADMIT THAT THEY ARE JEALOUS, ESPECIALLY WHEN IT COMES TO OUR FRIENDS. WE'RE SUPPOSED TO BE HAPPY FOR THEM WHEN THINGS ARE GOOD, RIGHT?

But sometimes those negative feelings of jealousy get the best of us. Before you ruin your friendship over it, identify why you're jealous to help you move past it. These five signs can help you identify feelings of jealousy early on, so you can do something about them.

Unhappiness When a friend finally accomplishes a goal or experiences something great in their life, you should feel happy for them as their friend. If you don't, you need to ask yourself why.

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Very often the hardest thing to deal with is timing. When your friend achieves something before you do, it's difficult to accept their good luck while you're questioning your own fortune or ability to achieve a goal. This realization can show through in the form of jealousy.

Downplay Sometimes jealousy will come through as denial, and as a result you’ll try and downplay your friend's success. In other times, you might try to knock them down by telling them their achievements aren't as

big as they think they are. Either way, you’re not acting supportive and need to examine your motives.

Avoidance Whether on Facebook or in person, you’ll go out of your way to avoid talking to your friend. You’ll dread the thought of listening to their positive stories so you’ll fail to return calls and messages. Ignoring a friend so you don't have to listen to them talk about the good things going on with them is a rotten thing to do to a friend, and definitely is a sign of jealousy.

Clinginess The opposite of avoidance in friendship is clinginess, but both can originate from the same jealous feelings. In this instance, instead of running from a friend, you're afraid to leave their side. This type of behavior happens when someone makes new friends, and you're afraid they will leave your friendship in favor of another one. You might become clingy out of fear. Another time this can occur is when you're so jealous you're looking for gossip to spread to someone else, so you hang out more with your friend just so you can have more to trash talk about later on.

Keep yourself in check Even the best of friends can get jealous of each other at times. This is especially true if you're both going after similar things in life, like relationships, study paths, and personal goals. Jealousy has the power to ruin friendships if it isn't kept in check. While you can't help the way you feel, you can control how you react to a jealous tinge.

Different paths Even if you and a friend are going head to head in competition or at school, you have to realize that you are two separate individuals who will each make your own way, and this is true even if the goal you both have is the same. When you realize that your path in life is unique and unlike anyone else's (including that of your friend), you'll see that feelings of jealousy are a wasted emotion that just saps your energy. In other words, allowing jealousy to seep too far into your mind and heart will actually take you away from your own happiness.

What’s up with your self-esteem? So often, when we feel jealous, it's because we're doubting ourselves. Even if you and a friend are both trying to lose weight, for example, you wouldn't feel jealous when your friend hit her target mark if you were confident that you would eventually meet yours as well. You'd be happy for her.

Competitiveness You know you’re feeling jealous when you run right out to beat your friend's record or top their achievement. Perhaps you think that by doing more than your friend is doing, you'll eliminate your feelings of jealousy. Sometimes friends do compete with each other, and this competition can be healthy and allow both of you to push yourselves further than you ever had before. It's when you want to compete as a way to deal with jealous feelings that this behavior can be bad. A better approach is to figure out why you're jealous of your friend and work on that instead. Sure, you can still work toward your own goals, but don't be a bad friend in the process. After all, don't you want your friends to support you when you have happy news?

The same is true with work goals, money or relationships. If you doubt that you'll have that same kind of success, it's a sign that you need to work on your self-esteem. Poor self-esteem will not only keep you from your own life goals, it will cause you to act negatively toward your friend.

Inspiring If jealousy has a purpose at all, it's to fully open up your eyes to the possibilities in life. Instead of looking at the situation as if your friend has something you don't, look to the inspiration this person provides for you. You'll see that not only is your own goal possible, a new ambition may emerge as a result of your friend's success.

Guard your heart Here's the reality, you are going to be jealous from time to time. It's a normal feeling, just like other negative feelings you may have toward your friend occasionally, like annoyance or anger. Once you know that, you can handle it properly. This is especially important in friendship, where your job is to be happy and supportive. Part of the reason friendship can be such a hard thing to maintain is that it challenges us. But guess what? We need to be challenged. We need to step look beyond our own lives from time to time and cheer for someone else. It helps us to gain perspective and to become more self-aware, and it also reminds us that the world is not all about us. Even if you do feel a momentary pang of jealousy, don't let it linger for long. Allowing jealousy to set the tone for your friendship will end it. Remaining in a state of jealousy is not something you do if you're a friend.

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