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Anjana Prasad
Okoi Amadiowei Jacob
Kishor Kumar Mishra
Daniel Miltz
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DAVID SOH POH HUAT FEATUREDARTIST
I am 66 years old, married and currently working in the financial services industry for past 30 years. I have a passion in writing and in 2021 decided to publish two books.
“NATURE GIFTS OF THE SOUR SOP LEAVES” is dedicated to my late sister who passed away in November 2020.
“CARE GIVING GIFT OF UNCONDITIONAL LOVE” is dedicated to my late father who passed away in August 2011. These two books have received positive commendation and participated in books competition. For those who are interested visit me in my website; www.davidsoh.com
I expressed my thoughts in words and discovered that God has given me the gift to write poems. Besides my job, I have since been writing poems and they are saved in the facebook group Gift in Writing. I would like to thank God for these gifts and for my wife Catherine being supportive of my other vocation as international author and poet.
LOVE IN THE ‘AIR’
LOVE is in the ‘air’ especially in the month of every February Why, one may ask?
On 14 February everyone will be celebrating Valentine’s Day, a day of expressing one’s LOVE for the other On this day lovers will buy expensive gifts of flowers or jewellery etc, and some may choose this day to propose to their partner or celebrate their wedding day. We need to ask ourselves who benefit from the buying of gifts and do we really know the true meaning of Valentine’s Day or the real meaning of LOVE and when to express our LOVE, is it only on 14 February?
LOVE need not wait for just a day to be expressed, it should be a daily affair and a normal practice to express our LOVE for our partner, parents and even to our close friends.
LOVE must be totally UNCONDITIONAL and comes from the HEART. Those who share their LOVE from their HEART, the receiving person like our partner, family or friends can feel the warmth and sincerity of the giver. We may ask how they share their LOVE, it is from the way they talk and express themselves which sometimes make the giver vulnerable and can be easily taken advantage or manipulated by the other.
LOVE from the mind there are aplenty around. A person may express his or her LOVE not from the HEART but from the MIND. Such LOVE can be seen or discovered in later days or years when we see what the person projects status, greed and jealously over wealth of the other person who is blinded by the expression of LOVE. Such people will manipulate the other person or worst using the person to manipulate the families or friends to their benefit.
LOVE with benefits do we call it UNCONDITIONAL LOVE? No, it is known as CONDITIONAL LOVE which is sad as some LOVE for the greed of wealth or family inheritance. We need to go back to basic and ask ourselves in the LOVE we experience, is it really UNCONDITIONAL LOVE?
As a child our parents teach us the meaning of LOVE. How we impart this LOVE depends on our family values and upbringing. We always say a family that cares and shares their LOVE is bind by UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. TRUE LOVE is hard to find as it is UNCONDITIONAL. To discover the existence of TRUE LOVE we need to be tested on how we treat our family, siblings and friends. Some offer LOVE to their partner but to the partner’s parents they do not care about them and some care only if they have wealth. Relationship breaks up due to lies and they do not give UNCONDITIONAL LOVE. We need to experience what is UNCONDITIONAL LOVE first before we can share our LOVE with others. In order to do this we can start sharing LOVE daily with others and not only in the month of February. Let us in the month of February make a PLEDGE to ourselves that: “LOVE should be cherished and shared DAILY with our partner, families, siblings and friends. The LOVE we shared should be UNCONDITIONAL and comes from the HEART and not the MIND”
Let us make everyday our VALENTINE DAY.
David Soh Poh HuatLove Lies The
“There are hidden secrets in locked doors never to be revealed for the sake of healthy relationships. Sometimes, love makes the mouth silent.” Tess Ritumalta
NEVER HIDE BEHIND WORDS
Anjana Prasad
Lies have become a child's game in love these days Actually, these lies are not mistakes. They are said or done deliberately to make others feel special perhaps, rather than miserable However, without realizing, this action can become heartbreaking when unveiled. This Hide and seek in the name of love and commitment must end Couples who believe in deception lead a stressful life. Consequences of remorse free action result in loss of trust, respect and dignity. Even if lies are not an element to sustain any relationship, often marriages haul behind lies to sustain it. For the sake of children, for the sake of parents and many other liabilities Safety and security become an important factor for women to stick together in a family for many reasons, agonized by lies. Societal pressure too accounts for so-called togetherness under the same roof.
True love does not require lies. It blooms sans the fertilizer of those three special words 'I Love You ' People make immense efforts to sustain love through a series of lies for perhaps a single truth is harder to express Lies shatters trust and in due course relationship dies. Remember if love and concern come with a pot full of lies it is not TRUE LOVE. Love cannot be sustained on the crutches of lies It sabotages a relationship, self-esteem, as well as one's peace of mind. Manipulative love can never survive. When trust is lost, love is lost It is a simple equation Don't hide behind your words. In a relationship neither He nor She deserves to be lied to.
Lies make a relationship ugly Cursed tales of love and lies have been there for ages.
Lies stand as a boundary between two people. It baffles the senses and makes you feel deserted and cheated.
Lies are a choice. A white or a black, lie is a lie. Love is a commitment No one is perfect, nothing exists as a perfect relationship. If two people want to live together they have to work upon it, but not by withholding secrets Conflicts can be resolved without uttering lies. Promises can be broken but if apologies follow suit it makes a situation worth fixing
If you truly love a person you would never cheat or lie or try to hurt them. If you can't work without lies, that is not love but a haze of delusion that you are living with.
"Love conquers all, lies demolishes all."
A WRONG CHOICE IN MARRIAGE
Okoi Amadiowei JacobEbiere, the wife of Opu-Olotu has been a basic blessing to this village champion, from the beginning to an extent in their marriage. Her arrival from her parental home to her marital home was like the coming of manna from the atmosphere to an earthly environment. The values she came with had brought dignity to a man who was empty in life despite being a man of great reputation in traditional wrestling.
Ebiere came to his home with her beauty which was the talk of the town as being the most beautiful young lady in Forbini Kingdom at then. Men who were men with economic values exerted extra efforts towards securing her hands in marriage but this princess of pulchritude had made up her mind to be the worthy wife of a man whose only virtue in life was an ordinary popularity in moments of wrestling without accompanying virtues in marriage. Wrestling in those days was just a game of entertainment without financial benefits to those who were involved in it The available rewards were just ordinary Showers of Praises from fans and elders of the community whenever a champion performed very well to the delight of spectators without returning home with financial fruits for the family to survive from one's prowess in wrestling. Hence Ebiere knew she had made a majority mistake by getting married to a man who resides with zero percent economy in life. Having aware of the error in her choice of suitor, this princess of prize stressed herself beyond the margin to maintain her home with her own merit as she could not withdraw from him. By her philosophy, marriage is still marriage despite prevailing circumstances
She ignored the delicacy of her sparkling beauty, and got engaged in farming and fishing activities in providing for the needs of her home. Feeding of their home and other prominent expenses became her responsibilities without waiting for the husband.
She singlehandedly cared for the family without supplementary assistance from Opu-Olotu. Even money for their children school fees boldly belongs to her The only role being played by Opu-Olotu was to have a match of merriment with her which in turn results to arrival of new members to their home When Ebiere complained, he still had the effrontery to threaten her with divorcement, and that is a term she highly hated thus would avoid it forever.
The retired champion met his fortune one day as a friend of his became the Executive Chairman of their municipal province hence appointed him as Special Adviser to the Chairman in games and sports
Those who were aware of the sacrifices made by Ebiere in keeping her home alive till that moment thought that Opu-Olotu would acknowledge the commitment of his worthy wife in keeping their home safe for many years. However the full time fool rewarded Ebiere woefully by getting married to Tari-Ere who became the darling of his heart in marriage. Those who were aware of Ebiere's commitments were not happy with him. Even his friends frowned at the situation but Opu-Olotu's mind was already in Mecca thus could not return home for possible adjustment from wishes of wickedness being meted out to this princess of prize
At the climax of her circumstances in marriage, Ebiere confronted OpuOlotu one day, and reminded him of his prodigal promises of love to her in their preliminary periods in marriage 'Please darling, can you recall how you promised to love me with your whole heart, even for eternity? You took an oath to spend your life with me alone in marriage Now, you had not only broken your promises but also mistreated me because of that Good For Nothing Asawo Woman, whom you childishly referred to as your worthy wife
of mistreatment
legibly loved with totality of
life?' He growled and cleared his creaky throat before responding in rising roars. 'Sincerely speaking, you had not offended me in the least but as a man, I need to comply with tenets of tradition. I took that oath with childish mentality thus it has no effect on me. Even the scripture said, 'old things have passed away, behold all things becometh new.' So I had married her, and that is final!' Ebiere then gripped him, and said, 'you had replaced the legal Love of our Relationship with lexical Lies.
Can you simply explain to me, what was my offense to deserve such acts
from you, whom I
my
You must kill me now!'
LOVE AND LIE IN A RELATIONSHIP
Kishor Kumar Mishra(1) Introduction:
Ashok and Ava are wonderful couple. They met each other in a weekend celebration, liked each other and after a span of two years they decided to marry. In the consent of their parents, they got married. They are much cooperative and helping each other. They discuss all matters together and take decisions pertaining to their family.
Shyam and Sita have married since five years. They met each other in their work place, liked each other and decided to marry. Even though they are married for five years, things are not going well. Sita goes to office and comes back in time, but Shyam remains busy in office for more than ten hours. They almost don't get time to interact. Shyam use to tell lie in several occasions. This leads to misunderstanding between them and their marriage is at threat. These two cases reflect the bright and dark side of marriage and relationship.
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2) What is a Relationship?
A relationship is the way through which two or more people are connected. It also decides the way the connected people behave toward each other. It can also be described as a cohesive force existing between two or more people within the same group, such as family, social and friendship.
(3) Types of relationship: There are different types of relationship exist within the societies. Some important ones are: (a) Family relationship, (b) Friendship and (c) Relationship with acquaintances. We will focus here only on family relationship.
(a) Family Relationship:
These are basically of two types: (i) Relationship by Birth, (ii) Relationship by Marriage
(i) Relationship by Birth: This comprises relationship among all members within a family, such as: Father, Mother, Brother, Sister, Son and Daughter. Grand-father, Grandmother, Grand-son, Grand-daughter, Uncle, Aunt, Nephew and Niece also come within family relationship.
(ii) Relationship by Marriage: This relationship exists by virtue of marriage, such as relationship with all in-laws. Husband, Wife, Father-in-law, Mother-in-law, Son-in-law, Daughter-in-law, Brother-in-law, Sister-in-law etc. come under this relationship. We will focus on relationship in marriage.
(4) Marriage and Relationship
One of the most important relationships is Husband-Wife relationship, which exist by virtue of marriage. It is considered as one of the most sacred relationships It makes two persons of opposite sex to come under one roof with love, mutual trust and cooperation and selflessness with a purpose of satisfying basic physical needs and helping in procreation in a disciplined manner obeying all social customs However, it often becomes vulnerable due to certain factors, like hate, lies, mistrust, misunderstanding, selfishness, non-cooperation etc in addition to certain other factors
(5)
What is Love?
Love in true sense is selfless dedication, free from carnal desires and selfishness True love is selfsacrificial and unconditional. Deeper understanding of each other and sometimes, adjusting to the situations, helps in maintaining love parameters high throughout the conjugal life. Thus, it is sometimes said “Love is Supreme” or “Love is Divine”
(6) What is Lie?
Lie is a monster in the territory of love. Telling a lie, cheating, losing a trust etc all come under “Lie”. It kills a relationship. And, there is no gain in finishing a relationship. One must be very careful to keep himself/ herself as far away as possible from “Lie”.
(7) Love vs. Lie in a Relationship
(a) Love is Divine, but Lie is Devilish
(b) Love bears nectar fruits, but Lie bears poisonous fruits.
(c) Love brings trust and cooperation, Lie results in mistrust and hate.
(d) Love makes journey of life smooth, but Lie create hurdles in the journey of life
(e) Love maintains a relationship long, but Lie finishes a relationship in no time.
(8)
Making a Relationship Stronger
A good relationship brings only positive results. It brings a win-win situation for both the persons. The more it is strong, the more it is helpful in life
(a) Never tell a lie, no matter how much unacceptable the truth is.
(b) Never cheat the partner, it leads to mistrust.
(c) Help and cooperation are good catalysts. (d) A little sacrifice for the partner is a good tonic.
(e) Give more time to the partner
(f) Don’t expect much more from the partner.
(g) Praise the partner and encourage him/ her in good activities
(9)
Conclusion:
Relationship is the best bonding given by the Almighty to the mortals, specifically to the human beings. Without relationship, the world cannot move. When Love aids a relationship, Lie shatters it. The more the relationship is good and stronger, the more the civilization will prosper.
LOYALTY AND TRUSTWORTHY
Sudha Dixit
Every relationship is based on trust Money can be lost and regained. Many other things or people may leave you and come back but trust or faith, once broken, cannot be restored The very foundation of marriage is mutual dependability. Call it blind faith but unless you are able to trust your partner with your eyes closed, it’s not a complete relationship You may love something or someone and want it so badly that you succumb to untruth. It does not work. I can give a few examples
Episode 1. Suresh fell for a married lady, Prabha. He was decent and charming. Lady too developed feelings for him Once Prabha needed a drop for a meeting Suresh agreed to escort her. They got a bit cosy in the car and Suresh told her the wrong time so that he could spend more time with her She got late for the appointment. The meeting was not all that important but Prabha realized that Suresh had lied to her. She distanced herself from Suresh He never got back her confidence.
Episode 2. In a marriage alliance, photos of both the boy and the girl were exchanged Boy had ordinary looks. The girl was beautiful. The besotted boy, who had studied B. Com (which was not bad those days) wrote he had done M Com in his biodata Everything was fixed.
As usual, the girl’s father had made some inquiries about the boy. He came to know that all other facts were correct except that the boy was B. Com not M. Com. The girl’s father broke the engagement. He said that degree was a minor thing but the lie behind it was a big thing. He just could not trust the boy and his family any more.
Episode 3. A theatre actor liked a poetess He tried to woo her. He was good looking and quite presentable. Having a cultural background, he had the right attitude The unsuspecting girl was charmed by him. She was ethical and, at the same time, very intelligent too The actor confessed that he had a roving eye. The girl laughed and said that she could imagine it. She, also, added that she knew she does not own him but as long as he was with her, he should be honest and true to his words. The artist relied too much on his good looks and his acting abilities Though he liked her a lot, he was careless. No one can hold on to one’s false façade. She caught him lying to her quite often and withdrew He tried to make lame excuses and justify his stand but the girl was hurt and severed all contacts with him. For once the actor realized that he really liked this girl. She was different. He wanted to continue his relationship with her. The girl could not bring her to trust him again
Well, if you want to use someone or just have a shortterm fling; it’s a different matter. You may get away unscathed. You may go in search of your next prey. But, for a sincere relationship, you need to committed. For commitment you must have credibility. You have to be trust-worthy. Sometimes, a criminal goes unpunished from a court of law, due to lack of evidence; but the matters of heart do not need evidence. Love has a way of detecting absence of loyalty. The perception or sixth sense, always, finds out the reality. A mother knows when the child is trying to hide something and vice versa. Bosom friends understand each other like alter egos. The truth always comes out.
The chemistry between lovers is a special one. The transparency between them is and should be spiritual. A lie or deception has no place in their lives. One wrong step and the destination is lost forever. love and lies are like light and darkness. They cannot co-exist. Nobody can live without love At the same time, love cannot be taken for granted.
In bright light no ghost of suspicionor fraud can make an appearance. If one harbours phantoms of betrayal, one can never get lovethe heavenly light in one’s life.
It’s so simple to avoid the maze of fraudulent complexities and walk on the plain and straight road of simplicity, veracity, and morality. In the sun set time of your life you walk alone. Your only companion can, possibly, be the love you earned in your life. Do a little introspection and have a clear vision of what real life is all about. A complete and fruitful relationship is based on faith and loyalty.
FOR THE DREAMY TOWER OF LIFE!!!
S Afrose
Life! Dear life . How much time, you will wait? You want you make the dreamy tower, holding hands of beloved. It's not so easy Love! Mind seeks to touch its hub. Love makes delusion. Glittered all the time, to attract, but yet can't find out the gem . Is that true? No, dear. You must feel each word, emotion by heart Try to think thoroughly, but love makes all of us helpless, to think at that way Mind loses its way of life Sometimes, just a bizarre sight. What is right or wrong? Can't depict or define. Yes! It's the affected part of love Love! You're awesome. You're the soothing balm. You're the divine kite Mind wants to fly with you Mind wants to hold you, to get the soothing car. For this, lies come in as usual. Normal sense of life is collapsed A quote is heard- anything is fair on this platform of love. May be or not How can say? As for example, a tiny lie about time management may be accepted, to restore the door of love But the core point is trust. Passion and compassion commitment, to hold hands of beloved, at any state of life Within this, no lie can be accepted. But lies also peep to empower these sites. For your kind attention, any lie at those knots, help to lose the connection of hearts. Love may be collapsed gradually. So be careful Control your emotions Show love with caring heart, without any biggest lie. Here or there, a tiny part may be considered; but the biggest one only come to make the fissure. Mind it dear.
Love is the blooming rose. It has so many thorns. If want to hold, ready for the bite or bleeding art After that, can enjoy the fragrance of dear divine love.
He is a poor guy. At first sight, he falls in love with that princess She belongs from a rich family. Now? Love! You can do anything. He loves her so much due to her beautiful mind She doesn't lead a lavish life Helps poor person in the society. Loves to talk with them. She loves the nature, animals Who can't love her? But status is a prime fact. That man, as a poor one but so talented and honest Still, he has failed to control emotions This is love. Doesn't want to hear anyone. One day, he comes in front of her and has expressed his love The princess is surprised and laughed.
Do you love me? No answer! Just head moves as yes Again laughing sound. So? What do you want? Who are you? Do you know me?
Till that time, he can't make any word Now ,he says- What can I say? A poor human being, with a mind and heart. This is created by God. Mind loses its rhythms Heart beats for you I can't control my heart. Falling in love is not a crime. So I love you. May be I can say ,that I'm not your social status pattern. I could say that I'm a rich guy, But I can't imagine to hold your words on the base of a lie If my love is true, then I will definitely conquer my love. Will you believe me?
Will you accept my love? She smiles and says- You share your every thought honestly. I like this way. I also agree with you. If you want, you can say anything to flatter me. But you didn't do that. I appreciate your approach, but it needs time to say whether will be able to love or not. For that moment, we can be friends. He says- of course. Why not? I have expressed my feelings. That doesn't mean that you have also done that way. Take your time. Be my friend, be my love. She smiles cutely. Bye bye!
After this moment, so many years have passed. And they are best friends. From this friendship, they are made the knot of love ,with passion, compassion, faith , commitment and love. The eternal bonding of hearts.
Now they are a cute couple, made for each other. Tiny lies are flying as cute Butterflies �� ,to make the staircase of lovely hub adorably.
One night, under the moonlightThey are sitting, holding hands of each other.
He- how do you feel after so many years? She- I can say honestly, you have made me to realize, how beautiful this life! When it gets the true love on this earth. I will hold your hand until my last breath. You're my paradise.
TRUST OF LOVE
Vijaylaxmi SarmahThe scent of mothballs filled the room, when Tora opened her old trunk Her granddaughter, Mainu was standing beside and watching her, curiosity in her mind of the things inside her grandmother's trunk Tora had two big trunks underneath her bed kept well locked. Mainu had never seen her opened it before. A letter from Mainu's school requesting all parents to donate old clothes to some flood affected victims made Tora open her trunk.
' I have many old clothes in good condition, you can donate these in school ',she told Mainu. Tora took out the clothes one by one.
There were neatly folded sarees, trousers, old frilly frocks of Rita,her daughter and Mainu's mother. There were old suits and pant shirts. Being an army officer's wife, Tora was tidy and orderly All the clothes were stacked in the most efficient manner.
A blue paper bag slipped off Tora's hand and fell on the floor, A red silk gown came out of it . Before Tora could stop, Mainu picked up the gown and held it before her The soft silk gorgeously opened in frills like a curtain dropping in a movie hall.
'This is so beautiful, is this yours, did you wear gowns when you were young?', Mainu excitedly asked Tora. Tora stood quiet. Her mind flew back to past, thirty years ago Tora's husband Kamal was in the army. He had gone to Sri Lanka as a part of Indian Peace Keeping Force. He had gone leaving his young wife and one month old baby for two years.
Tora, being highly independent woman stayed alone with her daughter in a rented apartment, and taught in the Town's Missionary School.
However life was difficult without, Kamal by her side .
The day Kamal came back after completing his mission, Tora was in clouds nine.
She took leave from her school and waited for Kamal, adorning herself like a bride, wearing a blue saree, which he had gifted her before leaving.
Tora ran and cried in his arms as soon as he reached home.
It was her so long pent up emotions that broke like a river dyke.
She had missed him every moment of her life for two years.
She had counted every moment awaiting his return.
'Don’t leave us again ',she said sobbing. Kamal held both Tora and his daughter in his arms for a long time.
Tears welled up in his eyes, he too had missed them.
He had brought two beautiful sarees for Tora and a couple of frocks for Rita.
Tora in the evening cooked all his favourite foods and they had a wonderful candle light dinner.
After dinner, Tora opened Kamal's suitcase to take out his unwashed clothes, when her eyes fell on a beautifully wrapped velvet packet. She excitedly opened the packet and froze Inside was a red silk gown, and several photographs of Kamal and a girl in swimwear in intimate positions in the sea side
She never ever asked or confronted Kamal with accusations.
Nor did she stop taking care of him, since his last days.
Though all her trust, her faith, her beliefs in love were never same again
IT IS REAL LOVE IF IT ENDURES
Daniel MiltzIt is real love if it endures, like a real jewel that continues to shine despite time and circumstances The enthusiasm or vigorous commitment for an individual, cause, or ideal and assurance in its encouragement. Life is a staggering excursion, and love is an exceptionally huge piece of it. Being infatuated significantly alter the ways one sees things to be far superior and it is perhaps of the best inclination anybody can at any point insight. Indeed, even toward the termination of a friendship there are things that can be discovered that would help one to constantly improve Meaning a close connection between two individuals a relationship can begin one way and afterward change into something else entirely without an advance notice. LOVE requires a steady upkeep and support The demonstration or nature of demonstrating consideration or kind respect for other people. It indicates an unmistakable inclination of a profound connection. An extreme fascination and significant agreeability Every one of the films and books that embody "simple" connections where everything just gets sorted out and the two darlings never need to manage any struggle are LIES. Love is difficult. Love isn't straightforward Love is hard Love is extremely convoluted, yet love is likewise fulfilling. Whenever dealt with accurately and masterfully, love can endure and show a very lengthy manifestation.
I also think that in love, all is fair. I do not think there is any superior sex when it comes to love or there is somebody who loves more, I think they just love differently It would be very hard to quantify an emotion very special to human beings-which is love. Love, sexuality and family are three interrelated concepts that have had dramatic changes over the millennia. From the bestial, yet necessary act of sexual intercourse, through the complicated and often not understood feeling of love we end up with the smallest social unit that comprises society – the family. The interpretations of love, sex and the structure of family have always varied through the centuries, but no matter how, they have always remained as a foundation in the human life. Human has an embodied spirit who thinks, act, speaks and desires. Religious teachings say that humans are created in the image of god. They are different from animals because humans have the ability to love, be moral and have free will. Human life is a gift from almighty God We must value life God created us as intelligent beings with great respect and warm approval for someone (or something) the ability to control our actions, urges and varied emotions.
LOVE AND LIES
Ritu Kamra KumarLove has always been the biggest mysteries of the world. It can be a great power while at the same time it can be the greatest weakness Love has the power to make a person wise, while it can drive a person insane. That is why it is said love and lies go side by side When we say men are from Mars and women are from Venus, as clichéd as it may sound ,there are truths here that men differ in emotional quotient, as well as in the equation of an honest transaction. Transgressions come easily to men as adventure and novelty appeals more to them. Man is a natural forager, he is wired to explore new realms and many theories have proved that women on the other hand are natural nurtures and adjust a lot to make their love life worthwhile. In a world where marital love is deemed all exclusive, the idea of lies and affairs is both deeply disturbing and at the same time deliciously arousing We love and hate affairs, deny them, judge them, condemn them - and seek them out time and again.
Small lies which may be harmless are acceptable in marriage or relationships but cheating regularly or having an extramarital affair goes against the societal norms and is barricaded through sanctions of laws, religious restraints, moral strictures and a host of other penalties.
Some men may feel that promiscuity is so deep rooted, they may go neurotic attempting strict monogamy. Moral codes of men remain somehow tied to male solidarity, with women still as some sort of a male property. Men often seek justification for their lies and philandering on the frugality and restrictions at home
What about women telling lies. Some women may thrive on the emotional largesse of two devoted men- a husband and a lover And she lies to both Flamboyant lies sometimes enliven a jaded marriage and 'me space' is enjoyed by both the partners such as lying to spouse to attend a birthday treat of a colleague or an outing with friends is permissible and a natural human phenomenon but long drawn affair with emotional content ultimately leads to increasing one's own load of guilt
So we deduce that love is a powerful, mutable and multifaceted emotion, and must be nurtured with compassion. Better to take a relationship to the level where you don't have to lie!
HARMONY IN RELATIONSHIP
Saroja KrishnamurthyFrom the time we are born we adapt ourselves to the environment around us Relationships of different kinds begins at a very young age. A child observes the behaviour of its parents and others at home from a very close angle. It can make out the difference between genuine feelings and fake ones If you lie in front of a child you are caught As we grow up we interact with others in various kinds of affection. In a family where parents and children are very close to each other love and respect one another. They trust each other. But if that trust breaks in some manner relationship strains We start to observe them in a suspicious but in a sensitive and careful manner.
Love relationship between couples are put to various kinds of tests from time to time. Human mind is very complex Impulsive behaviour may turn ugly If the feelings are genuine love lasts long There is no certainty in human mind's play of emotions. There is no logic in our heart's demands. It's beyond all logic and reasoning. Intellect tells one thing. Heart's impulses does another thing. There is no harmony in our own thoughts, speech and action Here comes to help , the rules set by society and metaphysical beliefs. To a certain extent relationship can be saved from going astray from these guidelines.
Ultimately what counts is your honesty and sincerity in your relationships Sometimes you may have to lie to save the heart from breaking. Lies cannot take the relationships to a farther destination unlike genuine love. Lies create lot of conflicts leading to controversies and rejection and also dejection Mutual understanding is a must Accompanied by trust each of them can enjoy the delight produced by sincere feelings.
Love and lies never go together. No one wishes to compromise their affection for lies. Love never lies.
A WOMAN OR THE ACCORDION
Snežana Šolkotović
Thomas was a very handsome man. However, in the countryside, it meant nothing to him. One failed marriage was just a step towards finding another life companion under the pressure of a family and the villagers. He replaced one disappointment with another because the young woman was not what he wanted. In those bursts of disappointment, he would play the accordion. The song would sigh with him and the pain he put into the tristful melodies.
In the evening, he would go to the downtown so that he does not have to spend time with a young woman messing up with his tranquility...
"It seems like you spend more time with us than with your wife.", someone made a comment.
Thomas smiled bitterly. The woman was chosen by his family, not by him... He shook his hand as if he wanted to get rid of something. He removed thick dark hair from his forehead staring on the ground.
"Many times I wondered: if you had a choice, what would you choose: the accordion or a woman? ", the younger man dared to ask openly.
He knew the story about him carrying the accordion everywhere, which keys he touched gently as if petting them. The sounds would reach even the hardest of the hearts.
Thomas did not doubt – he readily replied: "The accordion "
The answer was clear... No further comment was needed.
RANGE BEDFELLOWS
Loreta C BandeShe married him who does not know she hid a love-child somewhere. To keep her secret safe she ignored the child who in her teens pleaded for recognition to establish her identity and fill her emptiness Her response to quieten her was to blame her daughter if her new family would be shamed and troubled. She never introduced her child to her two sons All other family relations she primed to be quiet for she now has found love built on a lie. She then initiated to live in another country
A schemer for love? She knows that a lie before marriage is a legal impediment that can nullify marriage entered into Morally her church that solemnized their union was deceived too. She had surgery to fake virginity. So brazen! Her love-child denied by her care after attempts at abortion failed is punished for her immoral premarital acts She is left in identity crisis. So unscrupulous! She who loves but lied and her deceived husband are strange bedfellows Are they the sinner and the saint tandem? Would these strange bedfellows be likely estranged? Isn't she living on self-deception and thereby her love is a false claim, fearful of painful opposition and prone to sanctimony about sincerity? How would the world look at her personal and social morality to gain justice for the unacknowledged child now another adult in search for kindness?
RELATIONSHIP
Madhuri KulkarniAny relationship needs trust, love, care, affection and faith to keep intact.. Be it parents-kids, friends, family, lovers or a couple.. Many a times we lie to each other for a reason... if it is a normal situation that doesn't hurt the other person in any way... It is okay... But sometimes the relationship goes for a toss... Love has no specific criteria.. But lies do... Helping a person overcome his/her grief in a bereavement.. or break-up can heal the hurt soul... But if lies prevail in an illegitimate manner.. and it is proved...the relationship lands in a break-up or a divorce.. Parents lie to their kids to keep them happy, and try their best to provide all possible eminities... The loans or mortgage they bear.. the exhorbitant rates of interest they pay are hidden from their children.. They smile on the outside though they are broken inside .. They always assure the children.. Everything is fine.. not to worry.
Love and lie go hand in hand... If you love a person dearly.. you lie sometimes to hold the person back with you... But love also needs trust. The unfailing faith to keep a relationship going... True friendship/family ties can also be broken if lies fly around... So always be fair and truthful in all relationships.
SHE STILL LOVES ME
Nathaniel D. CruzI thought everything are alright. I met her in a social media, she has a beautiful face and charming character. I was then nursing a broken heart, yet her smile seems to wipe the pain I have. I still have uncertainties, yet I tried the thing I’m not sure of. Do I really love her, would she love me back?
To make the long story short, through chats and phone calls, we became sweethearts, our days and nights became happier and worthier, even we're only chatting on our phones The day we met personally strengthens our bonds even more. And from then on, we talk regularly on phone, without exhaustion I visit her in her place once or twice a month to save some expenses due to our distances. Everything seems fine. It’s what I thought. I am wrong!
Until the pandemic came. Travelling was restricted, transportation are scarce, even the village where she leave do not allow non resident to come in that’s what she said!
Then came this chance that I called her, but she’s busy with another call. She said she was just talking to her mother
There’s something in her voice, I know, but I chose to understand. But it became frequent, until it became regular And I have to wait for them to finish, only for her to say goodnight. The time supposed to be mine is no longer mine. I know there’s something happening, but I can’t do anything, I can’t go out because of the restrictions. Until I tried to call her during lunch time, and she’s not in her work too, which is so unusual of her I learned from her friend, through begging, that she’s out with another guy.
The heart ache became even more painful, but still, I never confronted her, I wanted her to reveal it by herself, but she didn’t. Yet, her time for me is becoming limited, somebody is disallowing her to open her phone late at night. Then the revelation came, she admitted that she is dating someone, someone who’s nearer, and more moneyed… I don’t have money! Yet, she asked me to stay if I really love her, as if she’s planning something a great escape?
INFIDELITY
Azucena Libiran Gonzales
Is it really unquestionable that the best feeling in the world is love? We fall into it, seek it out and share it. An experience and expression that everyone assumably can understand. There are many mediocre things in life, love shouldn't be one of them. Without love, life is meaningless and empty. As we know, love is classified into different types which help us discern the kind of bond we are sharing with others Let us explore the form of love, particularly in romantic relationship; a passionate affection for a person of opposite sex, an object of love and devotion. How would you ever find a love so true? Once you've fallen in love, you'll realize Love is blind, so they say. Who cares about what you feel, it's very hard to conceal. When you're madly in love, you can't see clearly or can't think straight.
Yet with just a blink of an eye, it can all fade away, slowly fleeting, only then you'll know if it's true Lying in a relationship is the main reason a relationship is ruined. Deceiving someone you care about can result in breaking of trust, eventually produces conflict within a relationship; changes everything - hearts are broken, wounds run deep, anger persists, pain is long and lasting. Such case is particularly true when a spouse's partner turned into infidelity, knowing he/she has an affair or cheats on you. The feeling one gets when he/she finds out about the affair is absolutely heart wrenching. To be betrayed is to be completely deceived and a hard thing to endure. Relationship will never be the same again; damage done is irreparable. There's no fast and easy way to heal from its effects. Is there a magic formula for a long and lasting love? Respect and faithfulness probably take the top spots, lies result in cracks and deterioration in your foundation.
WHY I LOVE TEACHING MATH
I am not sure what it was exactly that I loved about it. But as the middle child of three who was often left in charge, it seemed a natural fit. As a child, I would set up school for my toy guns and spend hours pretending to teach them. What drew me to study math’s in college and see a future teaching is polar to why I came to love math’s and teaching it. In my opinion Math’s seemed to be organized and have a definitive end point Follow the steps and solve the problem Actually, Math is not like writing a paper that could be edited and improved infinitely or analyzing text that could be looked at from abundant amount of perspectives. MATH was predictable. I was a rule follower, and math followed rules. And that is what I did throughout almost all of my math courses –learned the rules and applied them.
As a Math Instructor usually begin by earning an undergraduate degree in mathematics and then pursuing a teaching license from the state in which they live., though
Licensure typically involves passing a certification test in the subject area and then applying for a teaching license through the Professional Regulation Commission (PRC). At the beginning. I’ll learn a lot on the job I will have many opportunities to exercise the qualities of good math educator. In my perception educators are in charge of planning and delivering instruction, making assessments, and meeting with parents as needed to discuss student progress. Many campuses systems have mentoring programs for new educators, may have an experience in teaching’s support early on.
Teaching math is meaningful career that can make a big difference in learners’ academic and professional lives. In this role, you can inspire a love of numbers in the next generation of mathematicians, engineers, and scientists In addition to meet the basic requirements for educators in your area, the right education can shape you into an effective educator with a strong handle on the best qualities of a math educator.
On my opinion in order to succeed as a Mathematics Educator must continue to learn, reflect, and improve their practice.
Below are some approaches, methods, and strategies in teaching mathematics in order to create better outcomes for their learners.
1.Connection – an important quality in a good math educator is the ability to help learners form connections with the subject Educators must make sure learners understand the concepts rather than just memorizing the equations. Instead of teaching math in a series of isolated units, instruction is more effective when it builds on skills previously learned.
2.Real – World Impact – good math educators show their learners why the material they’re learning matters and how it can be useful in actual situations Effective math educators seize opportunities to get learners out of the classroom to connect their learning to the real world in real-time
3.Classroom Management – educators must be able to focus the class’s energy on learning by limiting behavioral problems A valuable quality in a good math educator is proactive management Setting up the physical classroom in a way that flows naturally and allows learners to access materials and work together can help limit disruptions Another key to classroom management is maintaining learners engagement. Educators should stive to plan exciting lessons with enough variation to keep learners interested and less likely to act out.
4.Dedication and Flexibility – great educators are invested in their learners’ success and go the extra mile to ensure each one standards the material They may adjust their teaching strategies to reflect the learning styles of individual learners or the class as a whole Great educators anticipate problems and plan accordingly.
Generally speaking, Math is perfect It challenges the mind It has the power to solve real life problems. It explains real observations and appeals to intuitions most of the time And it takes us aback with counter-intuitive results. It produces exact answers Its abstract, yet purely objective and absolute. It’s man-made, yet all the universe is modeled by math It’s incorruptible It can create art. It can inspire creative thinking, and in that even solving problems is an art of its own And yet, as subjective of an art that means may be, the ends are still objective. It has practical uses, and yet you don’t need to concern yourself with them, man stands all on its own
THEWRITINGGAME SEPARATING THE WOMEN FROM THE GIRLS
Liege Lord LanreOn the first day of my first semester in the university, one lecturer ended her class with "Now let me tell you girls. You have come here to learn. Don't let anyone distract you." She looked quizzically at us and continued, "You see these guys sitting around you? Some of them will tell you they love you. It's a lie! They don't love you. They only make-believe they love you. Guys are snakes, they will lie and maneuver their way into your parted thighs and then dump you." She smiled wryly and added coldly, "When it comes to marriage, they know where to go get a wife." Then she walked out of the class.
I remember the look on the faces of the guys. They sat rigidly with flushed faces and open mouths. Some were blinking their eyes in amused contempt. Apparently, some of the guys had been fantasizing about the girls. But the lecturer had cold-bloodedly blown away their dreamy heads and shattered their world of erotic technicolor.
I then turned my gaze at the girls. They too sat in dumbfounded shock. I saw some of them whispering something to others. Their fears and apprehensions were palpable. No doubt, some of them had been ogling the guys and willing to be bedded.
To be honest, I too was puzzled by the lecturer's sinister address. "Whatever happened to love at first sight?" I asked myself. I've always believed that it's what two persons discover in each other that makes them fall in love. And that a love affair can develop into marriage if the lovers work on knowing each other more, and more intimately.
Let's be truthful about it. Not every man is the marrying type. Many women are goaded into relationship for men's pleasure. There are men who will take what a woman offers him without being committed. This often results in shattered romances and broken love affairs. Because the relationship is one-sided. If what the woman is a relationship that will lead to marriage, how can she tell if that's what the man is also looking for?
Even though women also lie and cheat in relationships, they often like to portray themselves as the victims in an unhealthy relationship. But who schemes the most in a relationship? This was the question I posed in my mind at the end of the day's lectures.
Since I came to the university as an aspiring writer, I decided to play devil's advocate. To find the answer to the question in my mind, I went around campus discussing the subject with other students. I took mental notes to be put on paper later. It was really an exciting research. I would playfully ask the girls what they looked for in a relationship. Loyalty was often top in their responses. When asked why a girl would date more than one guy at a time, the reasons were often based on lack of trust.
As for the guys, many of them were peevish in their responses. I was often put off by some of the answers they gave. Some of them, I gathered, liked to eat their cake and still have it. They liked to go after girls to defile. When it's time for them to settle down, they will be looking for an undefiled girl to marry. They also claimed lack of trust as the number one reason why they flirted and jilted the girls.
I went on to publish a pamphlet based on my findings. I titled it "Knowing Your Man". With its feminist overtones, I made no bones about coming across as a fighter for women. Because I was aching to help the girls. I instantly became famous with the girls and attracted my own constituency. I strutted around campus flanked by a harem of the ultra sexiest, most delectable, superbly put together girls on campus. They all fought to have the upper hand of my affection. A number of them were so forward in asking me to promise that I would marry them. But they were one too many for me to make a choice. How could I separate the women from the girls? I never wanted to marry the wrong woman for me.
The
university program. I was in hospital for a gunshot injury. But most of those girls who
milling around me never paid me a visit.
I returned to school with my right leg in a cast and on crutches. This was the time I needed the girls more than ever before. But I was disappointed as they all flew out the window. Not one of them looked back over their shoulder at me. I suddenly became overcome by a feeling of alienation and isolation.
moment of truth came when something terrible happened to me towards the end of my
were
But then, I was not particularly sincere with myself. For I had a girl in another school that none of my campus girls knew about. Her name is Amarachi. She was the one who induced me into entering the university in the first place. This is the woman I went on to marry because of her true devotion.
WE FIND LOVE AND LIARS ANYWHERE
Maria Elvira Fernandes CorreiaLove is a word that fills in mouth with good sensation. To the one who speaks and to the one who listens to it both are pleased. Shall we conceive a lie while uttering the word Love?
No, no... we shall love the other one for what he be persona. It's a task for a master who learned to deal with Human Beings. It's easy to comment on physiognomy from patterns of beauty. Something that all agree as true beauty; i.e., sun burned skin, straight hair, blue eyes, red lips, gentle manners, easy going personality, kindness, and much more. And the ones out of this pattern, are they going to be forgotten or neglected? - I don't think so! - It's like colors: blue, red, yellow lots of fans they do. Some like all of them, others by their own choice, and I dare to say we an add more colors to this short list. Sometimes, we lie not on purpose but to honor the other one who deserves merit. For me, It's out of my reach to consider it a pattern of beauty to be followed, but for the other ones, it's an excellent beauty in frame. Fifty-fifty, shall we agree? - Perhaps. It's like in relations, a lie keeps the flame of union burning, you give and receive caress without asking for and not damaging yourself in what you think about as true. Isn't a smile easier than a grimace? Don't show faces to anyone! It's not polite, and adds nothing to anyone
Imagine, it's a raining day, and you say: "Good Morning." - Should it be different? - We need rain to treat Nature good, and water in rivers, dikes to supply running water to any living creature. Water is our most precious treasure... without, we can't survive - This is more than an optimistic thought! - The ones who are pessimist, they don't forget to mention catastrophic damage by monsoon Once again, we shall blame Man for not taking care of Nature. We can not control weather, but respect to Nature is a duty of ours! - No dumpling at wrong places, discarding litter in right places only. Avoiding deforestation, polluting air with gases... by leaps and bounds we do move Nature into better.
All of us are liars, we have right thoughts of good life. Some of us put them into Practicing, others do not give them a chance and create dissonance. Are societal rules moving right into wrong? - Are we a little lazy and let good things to begin later? - Is it a lack of Love bad sentencing to the world? - Doubt, Doubts come to mind...darn hell, we shall ponder before anything.
A lie works for short time, but the truth is forever!
Loving one another as brothers and sisters, we go further on. If a lie is on the midway, we shall not let it grow even if at that very moment it seems the best, in near future we can't count it on.
My point of view on Love & Lies have a vast amplitude. It's like a wave length or, light reach. They travel distance for the benefit of what is expected to.
Love more, Lie less even when all seen cloudy. Love is like a pump to inflate Hope, Lie is like a short solution to near future damaging. There are always old slippers for any tired feet
Love is sublime. A liar can love, too. Can't he?
THE DARK SIDE OF LOVE
Leine Sibob
Falling in love at a young age is now very common. Teens at their young age started to get attracted to the opposite sex They started to develop crushes. Infatuations. Puppy love, that is what they call it. If we think about it, love begins when connection with someone is created. A desire for the opposite sex becomes almost the necessity to be with that person They do not go out for a date for marriage. They go for a date to discover the idea of love. They date in this stage to try and define their own conceptions of LOVE. We were just too young to be in love. Being in love in high school is so much more being attracted by the looks than the true feelings from the heart within. It is more on the idea of holding someone’s hands while walking Someone carrying your bag while he walks you home. And it's more than just going out with someone to be able to show among other teens and say, “I have a boyfriend or a girlfriend.” It is just the happiness and the excitement that it brings whenever you see that person walking towards you. Or even when that person passes by your side. The scent of their perfume that you loved to smell whenever you are together. This feeling pushes us to begin the need for someone more than we have ever needed anyone before. For most teens, love is for all the happy moments and memories that are created with that special someone But they don’t have an idea of how painful it is when heart breaks strike.
Some find their true love at a young age
For some lovers, they get to marry their first love when they reach the right age. For others, it is just a trial and error Just going on with the flow with their feelings. They tend to change partners whenever they don't feel the spark with that person anymore But what is love anyway? When I was young, I used to believe in the saying, "Love is an ocean of emotion entirely surrounded by sensation " It is indeed an emotion, a feeling that we feel from the bottom of our heart. The feeling that we have for someone A feeling that can make us both cry, smile and laugh. We can say we are deeply in love with someone. You will feel loved 30
One of the quotes says, “Loving someone may mean sacrifice and pain, but if the person I am to love is you, I would rather embrace pain and sacrifices than not to love you at all.”
You will be extremely glad. You will be flattered by the tender love and care given to you by your partner. Those sweet caresses. Those tight hugs and feeling secured by those warm kisses. But is that person really the one fated to be with you?
As we grow older, we will realize the true meaning of love, and what it really means to love and to be loved. Some are blinded by love. It is not like the feeling that we get when cupid's arrow first hit us. We often say, he is the one or she is the one. You can picture someone being with you until both of you get old. You shared the same dreams. Planning your future. Planning to build your own happy family. But most of us have the same questions running in our mind that we can't even answer. Those "What if's" in the relationship. We are not even prepared for what will happen next. Those excitements and happiness that we feel the first time we fell in love with that person will turn into so much pain. The idea of love that we had, the dreams that we have shared will all be turned into tears. Fact is, most of the time, LOVE is not like what we see in fairy tales. Happy ending does exist, but not for all of us. Most of us settle for love even if it causes us pain just to be with the person, we loved the most. The thought of losing them is our weakness. That is why we chose to stay and embrace the pain and sacrifices. Sometimes we choose to live with lies, even if we already know the truth just to be with that person.
The Gift Of Love
GIFT OF CHANCE
Maybe I have sense Deep relief
If my time is bad I will fix that World is amazing When I am and I Want to show world That I am good Time is amazing I need to be good Gift for you For my old love I will give
Maybe it is a time To stay gentle and nice World seeks only me My sense and my time.
©Amb Maid Čorbić
NOTHING FEELS BETTER
Nothing feels better than time spent with you So close by me makes the world stand stillA slowly spinning eternity of bliss indeed; Nothing ever feels better than time with you.
I can’t reach for the sun, so distant, Craving the moon’s lunar peace is a tall dream; Yet the twinkling stars are so far away, But you’re my friend , a rare gift so close.
Whatever pleasures I’ve known and felt Pale away in your shadows like morning mist, For nothing compares with your soothing presence; All else is nothing ,you’re all that matters.
As trees savor the wind’s tender rustling And waves caress the ocean’s azure face, So much more, you’ve become my dotting song: Yes, the winsome melody of my life.
(c)Olusola Abraham AsaoluThe gift of love, a precious thing, Sent from the heavens above It's a light that shines within our hearts; a constant source of love. Like a gentle breeze on a Summer day, it fills our hearts with joy and cheer. It guides us through the darkest of days and wipes away all of our fears.
The gift of love, it knows no bounds; It's a treasure that we can't deny It lifts us up when we falling down and helps us reach for the sky.
Let us embrace this gift with open arms and never let it slip away. For it is a blessing that truly sets us apart and brightens up each and every day.
-Concetta PipiaTHE ONE THAT I HOLD
Who am I not to resist, my love? To accept this kind of gift, A gift of heaven that is so legit, To be mine forever till the day I die.
I will just hold your hand forever, I will be yours, your only lover, Whatever people will ever say, Wi will be ok , in God's grace and care.
We will live a happy life, Free as the birds up high, Everyday and even nights There will be no dull moments in our life.
My forever love, hold into my hand, I promise to give you my life, Heaven and earth is our guide, For you are the one that I hold so tight.
-Irish SusaTHE DARK REALITY OF VALENTINE'S DAY
VALENTINE'S DAY originated as a Christian feast day honoring one or two early Christian martyrs named Saint Valentine and, through later folk traditions, has become a significant cultural, religious, and commercial celebration of romance and love in many regions of the world
What is the real story of Valentine's day?
Turns out, it was a pretty common name during Late Antiquity. As far as anyone can tell, the Saint Valentine of Valentine's Day was one of two guys preaching the good word in Rome in the third century. One of these two was martyred on February 14th 269, thus giving us the date for his eponymous day.
When was Valentine's day created and why?
Valentine's Day was actually designated by Pope Gelasius I in order to replace the ancient Roman festival Lupercalia, a celebration of fertility dedicated to the Roman god of agriculture, Faunas, and Roman founders Romulus and Remus. St. Valentine\'s day circa 1800.
Who is Valentine and what is his story?
One Saint Valentine was supposedly a Roman priest who performed secret weddings against the wishes of the authorities in the third century. Imprisoned in the home of a noble, he healed his captor's blind daughter, causing the whole household to convert to Christianity and sealing his fate.
What is the real story of Valentine's Day?
Turns out, it was a pretty common name during Late Antiquity. As far as anyone can tell, the Saint Valentine of Valentine's Day was one of two guys preaching the good word in Rome in the third century. One of these two was martyred on February 14th 269, thus giving us the date for his eponymous day.
How did it become a romantic holiday?
Apart from the name, these feasts share little resemblance to our modern, romantic notions of Valentine’s Day.
By some accounts, the true origin of Valentine’s Day didn’t come for another thousand years. Jack B. Oruch, a professor at the University of Kansas, argues that the poet Geoffrey Chaucer was the first person to link Valentine’s Day to romance in his poem The Parlement of Foules Oruch suggests that Chaucer might have linked Valentine’s Day to romance more or less by chance Valentine’s Day is approximately the time when European birds start mating. Later poets, including Shakespeare, followed Chaucer’s lead and helped create the romantic connotations we have today
Poetry
Planet International
Magazine
February 2023 edition is all about Love, Lies, and Relationships. The real story of why Valentine’s day exists and the greatest gift that cannot be bought, is expressed in poetry