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Here’s to loving love

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By Addison Lathers EDITOR-IN-CHIEF

Remember last week, when it was Valentine’s Day? Damn, that sucked. This year, the day of love was on a Monday, it was 14 degrees outside and every YikYak post was inexplicably horny.

We could barely laugh our pain away between classes, let alone think romantic thoughts (sorry to all the people trying to bump into their soulmate on the way to lecture).

Lucky for you all, I predicted this. Last summer, when we at The Daily Cardinal were planning out our publishing schedule for the 2020-21 school year, I proposed a super-sexy issue at the end of February to wipe all our pain away. “Is it going to be all about dating?” my love-hating Managing Editor Grace Hodgman* asked. “No, it’s literally going to be about sex, and like, life,” I said.

And so, the Sex and Life Issue was born.

Our board of directors loved it.

Sex! Sex sells, but we don’t

charge for our newspapers anymore, so this technically isn’t going to be any more successful than our other issues.

Either way, I believe there’s something for everyone in this issue — whether you like reading in-depth pieces about attachment styles, catching up with student orgs like Sex Out Loud, educating yourself on the latest consent terminology… or you just want to see what Lady Liberty is rocking under that 18 inches of ice (page 15).

We’ve gathered ( just about) everything you could ever need to know about getting cozy on campus in one newspaper, which I think is a feat in itself. We’re pushing the boundaries of free speech, people! Or, at least, we’re seeing what our advertisers are willing to put up with.

As you’ll see in the pages ahead, the University of Wisconsin-Madison wasn’t always a place where you could pick up free condoms at Dejope on the way to the dining hall. For the longest time, women and men couldn’t

live together on campus or off. Throughout the 19th and 20th centuries, the university expelled women for engaging in pre-marital sex, arrested students for “sodomy” and even led a “gay purge” of homosexual students. Oof. Lucky for my gay self, we’ve come a long way since then.

In the 21st century, students can once again fearlessly sift and winnow each other — whatever that means.

Afterall, didn’t we all have some grand vision of exploring ourselves, physically and emotionally, after coming to college? Why shouldn’t we explore, and have fun doing it? As far as education goes, middle school is about dreading (or looking forward to) sex ed with your gym teacher Mr. Johnson. High school is about actually developing the brain needed to experience love in a real and honest way — but most of us weren’t any good at it anyways. And then, suddenly, we’re here.

We’re here and half of our hometown buds are engaged and our Madison friends are hooking up and breaking up

at the speed of light.

Not only are we all experiencing sex and life at different paces than the rest of our UW peers, but we’re at different stages alltogether.

There’s grad students in your upper-level class with kids!

There’s a freshman sitting next to you who identifies as an incel! We’re a population of 40,000 students, crying and fucking and fumbling around within the same 2.5 square miles, re-deciding week after week which bars are cool and discovering ourselves while we’re at it. We have the most friends we’ll ever have and we’re the loneliest we’ve ever been. So cut the horny people on YikYak a break, because we’re all going through it.

So here’s to loving love, living life and looking at drawings of Lady Liberty’s rack while we’re at it. *Grace Hodgman doesn’t actually hate love.

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UW-Madison’s history of ‘policing’ sexuality

By Gina Musso FEATURES NEWS EDITOR

Today, students who interact on the University of WisconsinMadison campus and in University Housing are free to engage and live with each other as they please. But, for students attending the university in its first century of operation, discipline and regulations on campus regarding housing and sexuality looked very different.

Armed with discriminatory practices and an “in loco parentis” approach to fill guardians’ roles while their students were on campus, UW-Madison formerly aimed to eliminate expressions of sexuality on campus throughout the 19th and 20th centuries.

“The main operational standard for the university for nearly 100 years was something called in loco parentis, which is Latin for “in the role of the parent,” Public History Project Director Kacie Lucchini Butcher said. “So there was this idea that college students, when they went off to college, were not adults yet and that they still needed to be parented and needed people to guide them and help mold them into good

adults — civically minded participants in society.”

With this parenting role in mind, UW-Madison took measures to monitor student sexuality. On campus, men and women were not allowed to live in the same building, and the women’s facilities were required to have house mothers, or an adult who lived in the facility and cared for the women.

There were also disciplinary actions taken for students who were caught engaging in sexual activity. Scott Goodnight, who served as Dean of Men from 1916-1945, was infamous for seeking out students who were engaging in acts that the university deemed inappropriate.

“He got word that there was a man and a woman — students — who were in the same room together and he went to the room, knocked, tried to get them to come out,” said Luccini Butcher. “They wouldn’t come out, so he took a rocking chair and he sat and waited for them to come out because he knew that there was only one way out. Eventually he gave up, but he sat there for hours and it became this kind of campus joke.”

For some students, punishment was as harsh as an expulsion.

“There were women who were kicked out of school for being caught having sex out of marriage,” said Luccini Butcher. “Oftentimes you’ll see people try and justify it to get out of trouble. So they’ll say, ‘oh, we’re engaged,’ or ‘oh, we’re going to be married in the summer, so we’re allowed to hold hands, and kiss’... things like that. But the university is really policing.”

For students who did not identify as heterosexual, the punishments were harsher, and UW-Madison officials sought out and tried to rid campus of students who identified as homosexual.

“It’s worse because the university really views homosexuality as morally devious, and they believe that allowing gay students to continue to be on campus could be a corrupting force for other students. So they feel like they have this kind of moral obligation to rid the university of gay students,” Luccini Butcher said.

In 1948, 12 men, both UW-Madison students and Madison residents, were arrested for “sodomy” and “disorderly conduct.” Then, from 1948 to

1962, the university engaged in what was known as the Gay Purges, or an effort to find and expel homosexual male students.

A n net te Wa shbu r n, UW-Madison’s medical school’s first female doctor developed a program for the university’s mental health clinic, similar to what is contemporarily known as conversion therapy, for students who she considered “not true homosexuals.”

“She created this policy based on psychiatric best practices at the time, and she kind of differentiated that there were true homosexuals, and these were people that she believed could not be helped,” Luccini Butcher said. “They were unrepentant about being gay. They didn’t view their homosexuality as a problem and therefore they couldn’t be changed. The other people she thought were people who could be helped, and so those students — if they were deemed as not true homosexuals — were usually forced into therapy against their will to try and make them straight.”

According to Luccini Butcher, if students were deemed heterosexual after the therapy, then they were able

to return to school. If students did not agree to go to therapy, then they were expelled, their parents were called, they lost scholarships and graduate school opportunities and the UW-Madison dean sent letters to other potential transfer schools.

“Honestly the treatment of gay students was much more aggressive than straight students because with straight students it was like, UWPD found these kids making out at Picnic Point,” Luccini Butcher said.

“But with gay students they were bringing these gay men in, interrogating them and threatening to call their parents if they didn’t name five people that they thought were also gay. They were really using these kinds of aggressive tactics.”

Today, UW-Madison condemns and confronts systemic homophobia.

In 2021, Student Affairs released a statement regarding the history of Gay Purges on campus.

“It is painful to learn how challenging and cruel the college experience was for LGBTQ+ students at the UW-Madison,” the statement reads.

“There is no excuse for such actions.

The students’ stories are real and should be heard.”

Wisconsin siblings keep marriage in the family

By Halle Zides STAFF WRITER

The youngest Klemp brother married the youngest Schuelke sister 25 years ago, finalizing the streak of all siblings of each family being married to one from the other.

Doug Klemp and Denise Scheulke started dating in the mid-1990s. The oldest Schuelke daughters, Toni and Shelly, had already been married to the two oldest Klemp sons, Darrel and Dave, since the 1980s, according to The Post-Crescent.

When Doug and Denise decided to get married, they knew they had to be “all in,” because if they weren’t, family celebrations would be awkward.

“Some of [our guests] told us that when they got their invitations, they simply nodded and

said, ‘Oh, another ScheulkeKlemp wedding,’” Denise told The Post-Crescent on her wedding day.

All three couples are still married. “We can’t imagine it any other way,” Dave said.

The Klemp boys grew up in Black Creek and the Schuelke girls in Navarino. Donna Stucki, the girls’ aunt and boys’ neighbor, threw a graduation party for her son in 1985. After they met at the party, where Shelly claims she immediately started crushing on Dave, the families kept running into each other.

They both attended a rally with their church youth groups in Colorado. “And that was just the start,” Toni said. “The whole week kind of went that way. We ran into them all the time.”

Dave and Shelly started dating one day before Toni and Darrel.

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Wisconsin siblings married siblings of the same family, brother-in-law to husband.

In 1988 and 1989, there were two Klemp-Schuelke unions.

However, it took the youngest of the Klemp-Schuelke siblings four more years to get together.

Doug and Denise ended their respective relationships, and the siblings decided to set them up. The couples invited Doug and Denise to go with them and their children

to the Northeastern Wisconsin Zoo, commonly referred to as the NEW Zoo, in Suamico. According to The Post Crescent, the sisters invited Denise and the brothers invited Doug, but neither wanted to go — until they told them who would be there.

“The universe was always pushing us together,” Denise said.

It took a long time, but Denise and Doug finally got together.

On one hand, the other siblings were surprised to see them going steady, but part of them knew it had to be fate. After over 30 years, all three couples are still together. They even live near each other — Toni and Darrel in Navarino, Shelly and Dave in Shiocton and Denise and Doug in Black Creek.

“We always have each other to count on,” Toni said.

A deep dive into PAVE, a student organization

By Madeleine Afonso STAFF WRITER

Promoting Awareness, Victim Empowerment (PAVE) is a student organization on campus that aims to prevent sexual assault, dating violence and stalking through advocacy and education. The organization envisions a campus culture where healthy sexuality is embraced, celebrated

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PAVE is a resource, safe for victims.

and respected.

PAVE hosts a variety of opportunities for students to participate in advocating for sexual assault and victim empowerment, including interactive peer workshops, volunteer programs, campus events and awareness campaigns.

“Our main goal is being there for people and for people to know about the resources that are out there for them,” said PAVE Chair Jessica Melnik.

PAVE offers the option for student organizations and classes to request workshops facilitated by PAVE employees, which aim to teach about the resources available to students. Workshop themes include a general workshop that covers gender-based violence, an allyship 101 workshop and others focusing on unhealthy relationships and deconstructing rape culture.

“We’re working to change the culture so that we are actually supporting survivors in all aspects of their life, mentally, physically, spiritually — a holistic view,” said Melnik.

Students looking to get more involved with PAVE have the option to participate in two programs. The Volunteer Leadership Program is where volunteers work on projects for PAVE, such as contributing to research and helping with events. The Peer Education Program (PEP) provides the training necessary to help facilitate workshops.

Students can learn more about sexual violence prevention and anti-oppression work at PEP. Violence At UW, an upcoming campaign, will include student organizations that center BIPOC voices to join in coalition with PAVE to further reach the diverse student population.

“We are working to address violence in an intersectional way on campus and taking into account the different identities that make up the student body,” said Melnik. “To be honest, a lot of the services on campus are in place to serve cis white women, which is great for cis white women, but not so great for everyone else.”

In April, Pave will host the Sexual Assault Awareness campaign, where workshops about bystander intervention and consent will aid in the organization’s pursuit in putting an end to rape culture and preventing sexual assault on campus. The organization’s current Stalking Awareness campaign was launched in January for stalking awareness month, but it’s currently coming to an end.

Last November, PAVE sponsored ASM’s proposed legisla-

tion that centered around antiviolence measures. The new legislation hopes to combat oncampus violence through the introduction of an Anti-Violence Committee and an Anti-Violence Coordinator. These new additions seek to advocate for student survivors at the legislative level.

“The more partners we have in this work the more effective we are. Working with ASM and student government, they’re in the spaces with administrators and to have an advocate within those spaces will help lessen our burden,” Melnik said.

This semester, PAVE holds weekly support meetings for survivors on Mondays from 3 to 7 p.m. and plans to partner with Greek life and other student organizations to further advocacy efforts. They will host a book talk with “Ordinary Girls” author Jaquira Diaz on April 20.

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Sex Out Loud answers UW students’ questions

By Elena Price STAFF WRITER

Have you ever wondered how to ask your sexual partner if they have an STI? Or where to find sexual health resources on and around campus? Well, The Daily Cardinal and Sex Out Loud have the answers to these questions, and more, for you.

Sex Out Loud is a UW-Madison organization that provides sexual health resources from peer to peer.

They accomplish this by promoting healthy sexuality through sex-positive education and activism. Kyira Romero, the chair of Sex Out Loud, and Mia Warren, the club’s engagement coordinator, are also cohosts of the Cardinal’s podcast, Out Loud, where they discuss topics relating to sex, sexuality and health.

Mia and Kyira sat down with us and dove into questions ranging from sexual health resources available on campus to how to ask someone if they have an STI. For a full response to each question, check out the newest podcast episode of Out Loud.

This conversation has been edited for brevity and clarity.

What type of sex and sexual health resources are available on and around campus?

Mia: This is a great question.

Unfortunately, I do wish there were more. But the resources that we have are really great as well. So first, we have the GSCC, which is the Gender and Sexuality Campus Center, and that is located in the Red Gym. There is also University Health Services (UHS), which is really great about testing for STI needs. They also have survivor services and things of that nature. They’re located at 333 East Campus Mall.

And finally, there is Sex Out Loud! We provide a variety of programs and services to students, including peer counseling and programs ranging from pleasure to consent to any sexual health needs or services.

We’re located on the third floor of the Student Activity Center and our suite number is 3143.

There’s a big penis banana in there, you can never miss it.

“There’s a big penis banana in there, you can never miss it.”

Mai Warren

Ky: In addition to that, we [Sex Out Loud] also have library books, ranging from a bunch of sex and sexual health topics that any student can check out. We also have free condoms, free lube and a lot of great free resources for students.

Mia: I don’t know if this question necessarily was like in regards to sexual assault also, but there are a lot of resources for that on campus as well, including Promoting Awareness, Victim Empowerment (PAVE).

It’s located next to our office.

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Sex Out Loud representatives talked with one of our writers to talk about sexual health, healthy practices and esources.

As I mentioned before, UHS has a lot of great programs, and around campus, there’s also the Rape Crisis Center. There’s a lot in Dane County in general.

How can I, as a pansexual person, unpack my compulsive heterosexuality?

Ky: This is a complicated question. First of all, it’s important to recognize that everyone has preferences and sexuality is really complicated, and just because you like a man doesn’t make you a straight person. Just because you like a woman doesn’t necessarily mean that you only like women — like it’s a lot more complicated than that.

“... it’s important to recognize that everyone has preferences and sexuality is really complicated ...”

Kyira Romero

Understanding how you feel as a person individually is really important. And even identifying that you do have stuff to unpack is a really good first step. There are different groups on campus that do talk about these issues. So if anyone is interested in discussing fluid sexualities, the GSCC has a discussion group for undergrads that meets with students every Tuesday from 1 p.m. to 2:30 p.m. right at the GRCC room. There is also a graduate student group that meets on Discord Mondays from 5 to 6 p.m. I would suggest going on their website, going to one of these meetings and having this conversation further with people who may be in similar situations.

Do I have to use protection if I’m on my period?

Mia: Short answer to this is yes. There’s always a risk for an unwanted STI. So even during your period, protection is strongly encouraged. If we’re mainly concerned, though, about unwanted pregnancy, we should still be using our pre-

ferred form of protection. Even on our period, sperm can just chill in our uterus and fallopian tubes days after penetrative sex with ejaculation. So even though there’s a common misconception that, “I will be safe if I’m on my period,” that’s not always true. A lot of people don’t know when they’re ovulating. It’s very complicated; it can change all the time. There’s always a risk for sure, especially when you’re on your period.

Ky: I think pregnancy and periods and the timelines are very complex, and we don’t really get a good debrief on what that looks like. So it’s always best to just use protection to make sure, especially if you are worried about unwanted pregnancies. I also know that Planned Parenthood has a lot of great resources on its website and videos to watch.

How to bring up the “do you have any STIs” conversation with a partner?

Mia: We recommend talking

outside of the bedroom about STI status before any sort of sexual activity occurs, if possible. We do recognize that it is hard to talk about, especially if it’s just a casual hookup — it’s not something that a lot of people think is super sexy and they don’t want to bring it up, which is super understandable. But at the end of the day, being upfront and honest will likely be the most productive way to communicate about these things, and the best way to make sure we’re protecting ourselves and others from unwanted STIs. I also want to say, STIs are so common that the stigma around them is kind of absurd to me. They’re not gross or dirty or anything, they just happen. Of course, we want to prevent them from happening, but they do happen. We shouldn’t be ashamed to talk about these things. Especially in regards to this question. Just ask when the last time they

were tested or start the conversation by telling them when the last time you were tested and your status first.

For example, I had a hookup one time and I told them I hadn’t been tested in a while.

That changed the method that we chose to use while engaging in sexual intercourse. That’s totally okay. I’m sure they [one’s sexual partner] would appreciate it as well because no one wants to be uninformed when they’re having sex. That definitely goes into consent as well because it’s crucial to be informed when talking about consent. That means being informed on STI status, contraception, etc.

It’s really crucial to know what we’re going into for lack of a better term. We at Sex Out Loud like to say every three months if sexually active and this can be less if agreed upon with your partner potential long-term partners.

How to ask a guy to wear a condom?

Mia: Communication is the most important thing. Be straightforward and upfront, if possible. It is hard to have these conversations, just like with STI status. We recognize that, but it also is something that’s super important.

Discussing a preferred barrier method before any sort of activity is ideal, so it’s not happening at that exact moment. I think that can make the conversation harder and scarier. Talking about it before is really helpful, then you allow yourself to know what’s happening, and all parties are in agreement.

I think overall, that is the best way to ask instead of in the moment. In general, just be upfront about what you want.

You should never really be doing anything that you don’t want to do, especially if we’re thinking about having consensual safe sex that is on your term — just be aware of that and stand up for yourself.

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Shepherd Janeway: Teacher, activist, educator

By Sarah Eichstadt STAFF WRITER

Shepherd Janeway, 26, has taught creative writing for four years. As a “teaching artist,” Janeway describes their job as a way to merge social activism with art, giving young students the freedom to express their opinions.

“Sometimes [it’s] things like ‘I believe that we should have candy for dinner,’ and a lot of times [it’s] things like, ‘I believe that we shouldn’t be racist anymore’ and ‘I believe that we don’t need a wall’ and ‘I believe that love is love,’” Janeway said. “These are things that the students are coming up with themselves.”

E le me nt a r y s c ho olers in Madison are given this opportunity to express a cause that they believe in with Whoopensocker, the University of WisconsinMadison youth program that Janeway teaches for. Through creative writing, Janeway explained, children can.

“Young people and even very young people are paying close attention to what’s going on in the world,” they said.

Janeway is a transgender, non-binary activist, and Whoopensocker is not the

only way that they incorporate activism into education.

Janeway will also be on the ballot this April for one of the three open seats on the Madison School Board.

Janeway said that they have always had a strong interest in public office and education reform, but reading transphobic comments from Mary Jo Walters, who was previously the only candidate for the positions, encouraged Janeway to run.

In December, Walters commented, “I’m a trans-a-phobic,” on Facebook. Walters also posted that “women can’t be men, men can’t be women.”

Walters responded to backlash she experienced from her social media posts, saying “I’m not backing down,” according to the Wisconsin State Journal. “[She] was making a point of her platform to target and roll back progressive and inclusive policies in the district, and I was hearing a lot of concern and urgency in the community calls for someone to do something,” Janeway said. “So I decided to do something.”

Janeway said that while they took time to think about whether they were capable and comfortable run-

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Janeway strives for change and is running for a board position in hopes to enact it. ning, opposing Walters was a “gut instinct.” Defending transgender children in the school district, including their

Whoopensocker students, was a priority.

They added that they’ve always been an activist, and

their biological mother taught them to not only stand up for what they believe in, but be able to “explain why you believe in it.”

“Our existence, point blank, period, is political. Everything that we do has a consequence and has been informed by politicized decisions, whether or not they should’ve been politicized in the first place,” Janeway said, referring to their gender identity. “It’s a moral imperative to do what I believe to be the right thing all of the time because my existence is political. I want it to reflect my politics and not to just be a mirror of the politics around me.”

Janeway expressed relief when Walters dropped out of the race in December.

“Knowing that I could focus on being the best man for this job and not have to worry about responding to petty nonsense, I could really focus on being qualified for this,” they said.

Janeway now has one opponent, Laura Simkin, for seat three on the Madison School Board. The election will take place on April 5 and Janeway will appear on the ballot under the name Shepherd Joyner.

UW-Madison organization services for students children

By Ellie Bourdo STAFF WRITER

The Office of Child Care and Family Resources is an oncampus organization designed specifically to offer services and resources to student parents who attend the University of Wisconsin-Madison.

These services include parent resources, child care services, financial assistance and campus early education teachers designed to allow student parents to more comfortably pursue a degree while also providing care for their children. The students include both graduate and undergraduate students at UW-Madison. Among these students, the ages of children range from six weeks to four years old.

“We’re sort of a rarity.”

CCFR parent resource specialist Barb Douglass told The Daily Cardinal. “There’s not a lot of offices like this across Big 10 campuses, or really a lot of universities, so I feel like I’m fortunate to be here and the students really are fortunate to have what they have for student parent resources.”

According to recent estimates, approximately 22% of university students in the US are parents, making child care an important aspect of the educational experience for a large portion of individuals attending university.

There are currently approximately 150 student families who receive assistance from CCFR. Surprisingly enough, this number is low in comparison to previous years.

According to Douglass, the

pandemic has changed the needs of student parents and allowed many of them to stay with their children at home.

Douglass explained that the organization is designed to ensure that students with children can effectively pursue their education at UW-Madison while also ensuring that their children receive resources needed for earlier development.

“We invest in high quality child-care so the students don’t have to worry. They can go and do what they need to do,” she said. “Our mission is to serve the neediest families with the youngest children.”

Douglass’ description of the organization’s goals echoes the official mission of the CCFR, which states that they exist to “promote the academic and professional goals of the University of Wisconsin community through the administration of early education and family support programs.”

To be eligible for CCFR services, students must meet the income requirements, which is determined based on the Federal Poverty Guidelines, as well as be enrolled either full or part-time in classes on the UW-Madison campus.

CCFR currently operates

three child care centers on campus which are reserved for the children of students and faculty. These facilities provide care to children ranging from six weeks to twelve years old, with each facility focusing on providing early education resources.

CCFR also helps to provide student parents with resources to locate child care services not directly tied to UW-Madison. Some of these resources include the community-coordinated Data referral database as well as Wisconsin Childcare Star, which are designed to place student parents in

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UW-Madison student parents receive assistance and child care services from the Office of Child Care and Family Resources.

contact with trusted childcare workers.

CCFR additionally assists student parents with applying for grants, including the Child Care Tuition Assistance Program, Child Care Access Means Parents In School and Single Parent Scholarship Program, all of which are designed specifically to financially aid student parents.

Douglass explained that the CCFR is one of only a few organizations designed explicitly to assist student parents in the Big Ten school system and stated that the CCFR is considered a unique organization by other universities.

“We’re sort of considered a model, so we’re really proud of that,” she added.

Along with the child care and financial services that the CCFR provides, the organization also hosts events designed to foster a community among student parents on campus. These events give parents an opportunity to meet other individuals in similar situations in order to help establish support networks.

The organization’s in-person events have been postponed due to the pandemic, however they are hopeful that they can hold their ‘Lil Bucky Bash’ in person at the Eagle Heights Community Center this August. The event includes a free backpack giveaway for school and preschool aged children, a visit from Bucky and various outdoor activities such as family yoga, sidewalk chalk art gallery and more.

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Big Ten responds to Michigan-Wisconsin skirmish

By Ellie Scheirey SPORTS WRITER

Following Wisconsin’s 77-63 victory over Michigan on Sunday afternoon, coaches Greg Gard and Juwan Howard got into an altercation during which Howard struck Wisconsin assistant coach Joe Krabbenhoft.

Howard later stated he was unhappy Wisconsin called two timeouts in the last minute when they were leading by 15 points. He believed these timeouts were unnecessary, although Gard said he called the last time out with 15 seconds remaining to give his team enough time to cross halfcourt against Michigan’s fullcourt press.

The Big Ten issued fines of $40,000 and $10,000 to Howard and Gard, respectively. Gard himself won’t be responsible for paying the fine, though, Athletic Director Chris McIntosh explained in a statement Monday.

“Our staff has my complete support, as do our studentathletes. I consider the $10,000 fine from the Big Ten to be a “Wisconsin fine” and not a “Greg Gard fine,’” McIntosh wrote. “Wisconsin will assume the responsibility for paying the fine.”

While Michigan’s coach was clearly the aggressor in the scuffle, Gard did touch an already incensed Howard in the handshake line, contact which Howard referenced in his postgame press conference.

Howard also received a five-game suspension, which will run through the end of Michigan’s regular-season schedule. His absence shouldn’t have any implications for Wisconsin as the Badgers close

out their regular campaign.

The Wolverines do play Illinois, currently tied with the Badgers for second place in the conference, on Sunday, however Michigan’s chances of winning that matchup were remote regardless of who’s coaching. Associate head coach Phil Martelli, who filled in for Howard when the head coach was ejected during an NCAA Tournament game last year, will step in for the five games.

Michigan players Terrance Williams and Moussa Diabate received one-game suspensions for throwing punches, as did Wisconsin’s Jahcobi Neath.

The Big Ten released a statement Monday explaining that neither team, during Sunday’s episode, represented the level of sportsmanship expected from the conference.

“Our expectation is that the incident yesterday will provide our coaches and studentathletes with the opportunity to reflect, learn and move forward in a manner that demonstrates decorum and leadership on and off of the court,” conference commissioner Kevin Warren said.

Juwan Howard also expressed regret over his actions in a Monday statement acknowledging his punishment.

“I am offering my sincerest apology to my players and their families, my staff, my family and the Michigan fans around the world. I would like to personally apologize to Wisconsin’s Assistant Coach Joe Krabbenhoft and his family, too.”

The altercation already appears to be in the rearview mirror for the Badgers as they look to finish the regular

season with momentum and one of the top seeds in the Big Ten Tournament.

Wisconsin plays road games versus Minnesota and Rutgers before returning to the Kohl Center to host conference-leading and fourth-ranked Purdue next Tuesday. A March 6 matinee against Nebraska will close out the regular season and lead into a potentially lengthy postseason run.

“Our program is in the midst of the race for the Big Ten championship and my hope is that the focus can now be turned to our game at Minnesota on Wednesday,” MacIntosh wrote to conclude his statement.

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Chaos erupted after the final whistle Sunday at the Kohl Center.

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Greg Gard and Chris McIntosh spoke to the media following Sunday afternoon's incident at the game.

Wisconsin’s ‘Three-Peat’ quest starts at home

By Christian Voskuil SPORTS EDITOR

The No. 4 Wisconsin women’s hockey (23-6-4) team plays hosts to Bemidji State (11-18-3) this weekend in the best-of-three quarterfinal round of the WCHA playoffs.

The Badgers come into the postseason riding an unusual low, having suffered a sweep at the hands of the No. 2 Ohio State Buckeyes in Columbus. It was a rocky road trip for the Badgers, who saw fifthyear starting goaltender and Hockey Commissioner’s Association Women’s Goalie of the Year semifinalist Kennedy Blair get benched after letting in five goals over the first two periods in the opening game.

Ohio State’s Jenna Buglioni got the scoring going for the Buckeyes early, putting OSU’s second shot on goal past Blair for a 1-0 Buckeye lead. Just past the halfway mark in the first period, Ohio State doubled their lead when Paetyn St. Levis finished a one-on-zero fastbreak by faking out Blair. Ohio State’s Liz Schepers scored the final Buckeye goal of the first period as the Badger defense was scrambling back into position to make the lead 3-0 in favor of OSU. Wisconsin would pull one back late in the first period thanks to a Makenna Webster goal with 19

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seconds left, making it 3-1 going into the second period of play.

Much like the first, the second period was all Ohio State as the Buckeyes put two more past Blair before head coach Mark Johnson

pulled the graduate transfer. A power play goal from Sophie Jacques made it a 4-1 game with just under two minutes left in the period before Kenzie Hauswirth made it 5-1 Buckeyes with 30 seconds left

on the junior forward’s second goal of the season.

The Badgers couldn’t find the back of the net in the third and final period, despite having four power play opportunities. Power play opportunities have been a struggle for a Wisconsin team that neared the top of that statistic when they won the national championship last season. This season, the Badgers have converted just 16.85% (15/89) of their powerplay chances, the lowest conversion rate of the conference.

With the failed power play opportunities and Ohio State taking their foot off the pedal for the final period, the 5-1 lead stood for the Buckeyes in the Badgers’ worst loss of the season.

Cami Kronish, who entered the first game in the third period to replace Blair in goal, started the second game against Ohio State and got off to a much better start in her appearance.

After allowing no goals in the first period, it looked as though Kronish and co. were going to take command in the second. Then Hauswirth netted her second goal in four periods and her third of the season to finally open the scoring two minutes into the second period of play. From there, it was all

Buckeyes, as Ohio State would outshoot Wisconsin 25-1 over the next eight and a half minutes before scoring on their 26th shot for a 2-0 lead.

The Badgers’ Daryl Watts scored the only power play goal of Wisconsin’s eight chances over the weekend late in the period to bring it back to a one-goal deficit for the Badgers, but it was all Wisconsin could muster.

The third period was scoreless yet again as the Badgers failed to capitalize on opportunities and fell to the Buckeyes 2-1, just their second sweep of the season.

The Badgers need to start converting on their powerplays. As they head into the postseason, those chances are going to come fewer and fewer and will be even more important than they’ve been all season.

For a team ranked in the top five in the nation and the reigning national champions, it’s inexcusable to be 19th in powerplay percentage and behind teams that aren’t even above .500. If Wisconsin hopes to “threepeat,” they’ll need to take advantage of those moments.

The Badgers and Beavers will face off at 7 p.m. on Friday and 3 p.m. on Saturday. The teams will meet at 2 p.m. on Sunday if a third meeting is required. All games will be available to watch live on B1G+.

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Sex is great. STDs, however … not so much. From itching and scratching to bumps and boils (oh my!) to lifelong illness, sexually transmitted infections can have a host of negative consequences. We don’t want to scare you — like we said, sex is great. We want you to be having great sex (if you want to, obvi), and the first step to that is safety.

Sexual healthcare is often stigmatized, and shame around sex can keep people from seeking out care. The embarrassment is understandable — sex is a big taboo in American culture.

We don’t like to talk about sex, even though it haunts all of our media. But, just like many of the things we don’t like to talk about, it’s important! There is no shame in having (consensual) sex. There is no shame in not knowing exactly what safe sex means. There is no shame in seeking care to make sure you can keep having happy, healthy, great sex.

First, some clarification.

You may have heard the terms sexually transmitted disease and sexually transmitted infection used interchangeably, and in many cases, that’s just fine.

Many diseases, sexually transmitted or not, begin with an infection — but not all! Diseases like diabetes, for instance, are not caused by infection. So, a sexually transmitted infection can become a sexually transmitted disease.

STI prevention begins with keeping up to date on your vaccinations. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) recommends children between

ages 9-12 get the vaccination for Human Papillomavirus, or HPV. HPV is the most common STI in the US. It’s transmitted during sex (vaginal, anal or oral!) and can also be shared through close skin-to-skin contact. HPV infections are often asymptomatic, but can also present with genital warts. For your personal comfort, we’ve chosen not to include any pictures. Transmissions can occur even if the infected person is asymptomatic.

In severe cases, HPV can cause cancers of the vulva, vagina, penis, anus or even the back of the throat. As such, vaccination is a crucial preventative measure. If you were not fully immunized by the age of 12, it is by no means too late — reach out to your healthcare provider about getting vaccinated.

Now, let’s get to the actual during-sex safety. As you’re getting ready to engage in some mutually-enthusiastically-consented-to shenanigans, remember — wrap it before you tap it, whatever tapping it means for you.

Correct use of condoms and dental dams is one of the most effective ways to prevent an STI; the use of barriers protects against infections transmitted between skin and mucous membranes, such as syphilis, gonorrhea or trichomoniasis.

Condoms are often seen primarily as contraception, and while that is a great reason to use them, remember that not all contraceptives keep you safe from STIs. Birth control pills, IUDs and other hormonal contraceptives do not protect against infection — they reduce your risk of getting pregnant,

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With so many kinds of condoms to choose from, there's no excuse not to use 'em! Make sure to keep condoms on hand if you're sexually active -- it helps to have a variety. but not your risk of getting an STD. Ultimately, the only way to avoid STDs and pregnancy for sure is abstinence, but where’s the fun in that?

When using condoms and dental dams, you should use a new one for each new sex act.

For instance, if you switch from oral to anal sex, use a new barrier. If you’re in a pinch and don’t have a dental dam, you can make one by cutting the tip off a condom and making a cut up the side, creating a rectangle.

In any case, make sure your condom or dental dam is within its expiration date, and never

use an oil-based lube with a latex-based barrier!

Having a conversation with your sexual partner or partners is also an important aspect of safe sex. Make sure you both agree on what’s OK, and be open about your sexual health and about any other partners you may be seeing. If you’re having sex with just one partner and both of you are monogamous, the risk is lower. In either case, be prudent and get tested between partners!

For those at high risk for HIV — which includes males who have sex with males, peo-

ple who often engage in anal sex, and those who may be at risk due to the use of infected needles — consider asking your doctor about PrEP. PrEP is a combination of two drugs that is FDA-approved to reduce the risk of HIV infection that can be very effective if taken correctly.

Anyone who is sexually active can be infected with an STI, but that doesn’t mean you need to stop having sex to keep yourself safe. Communicate with your partner(s), use protection and get tested often, and you’ll be having great sex for as long as you like.

New York woman becomes third person ‘cured’ of HIV

By Sophie Reeves STAFF WRITER

On Feb. 15, 2022, it was reported that a woman, an unnamed New Yorker, is now the third person to to potentially be cured of human immunodeficiency virus (HIV), which can lead to the fatal acquired immunodeficiency syndrome (AIDS) if left untreated.

This recent feat was accomplished via a new method that utilized blood from an umbilical cord in combination with adult stem cells from a relative’s blood. The umbilical cord was obtained from a cordblood bank and was particularly selected because it contained an HIV-resistant genetic mutation that became activated in the immune system.

The woman was living with both leukemia and HIV, and was primarily being treated for her leukemia.

Doctors did not expect the eradication of her HIV as a result of this treatment.

The other two patients that

were previously cured of HIV, Timothy Ray Brown and Adam Castillejo, are both male. Their cures also both involved the same stem cell transplant with the HIV-resistant mutation, but in their case, it was a bone marrow transplant rather than a cord blood transplant.

Bone marrow transplants are much more difficult than cord blood transplants, which are more unprecedented in terms of treating HIV. One hundred days posttransplant, the patient’s new immune system containing the cord blood dominated. A little over two years post-operation, she decided to stop HIV treatment in order to measure the efficacy of the transplant.

M.D. Yvonne Bryson, the chief of pediatric infectious diseases at the UCLA School of Medicine, reported that the patient tested negative for HIV in this time period, indicating that her cells are now fully HIV resistant.

It has now been a year

since the patient tested HIVnegative, and she has been in remission since ceasing treatment. However, scientists caution against using the word “cure,” citing instances in which HIV has reappeared in patients even after a long dormant period.

Additionally, it is important to note that it is very dangerous to attempt an HIV cure via a stem cell transplant due to potential complications, including death. This new treatment and its results are promising, but there’s much more work to be done before widespread use.

We can, however, still view the success in treating the patient extremely favorably and as a building block towards helping others living with HIV in the future. The apparent success in eradicating HIV in this case is a large step forward in the fight against this disease as well as for the many communities that are at high risk of an HIV infection.

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By Seamus Rohrer ARTS EDITOR

Music is many things, but for the artist it’s often a therapeutic way to deal with feelings and emotional energy. Putting one’s feelings into lyrics and instruments is a great way to channel this energy, whether you’re celebrating an amazing relationship, lamenting losing your lover or anything in between. Because of this, the ‘love song’ is one of the most repeated tropes in music.

Love songs take many forms.

They span eras and genres, constantly evolving. Some love songs

are obviously and outwardly about love and romance, while others are more subtle and personal. With that, here are some of the best love songs written by artists from the Madison area.

“I Know What It’s Like” by Disq: The Madison natives Disq are starting to gain some critical attention, riding their guitar-heavy, melody driven indie rock. “I Know What It’s Like” was released as a single in 2020, and it’s among the band’s most popular songs. With layers of guitars, keyboards and harmonies, the song is melodically inviting and robust. There’s also a trippy

outro with all kinds of effects and reversed tracks to create a disorienting field of sound. Based purely on songwriting merit, this track is the band’s best.

“I Know What It’s Like” is a love song that doesn’t focus on a story or a person, but rather a feeling, with vocalist Isaac deBroux-Slone singing “I know what it’s like, to not feel love,” and then later “to not feel pain.” The chorus builds on these emotions and conveys feelings of being lost, using the metaphor of losing your page in a book. Disq is a talented group, and I still hold that “I Know What It’s Like” is their

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most impressive work. At heart, it’s a catchy power pop song, reminiscent of tracks like The dB’s classic “Black and White.”

“Idaho” by Slow Pulp: Pulp: One of the band’s most popular tracks, “Idaho” is bittersweet, spacey and luscious.

Like much of the band’s material, it’s heavily inspired by the shoegaze sound, with waves of guitars washing over the listener. The chorus is anchored by a catchy guitar riff, simple but perfect for the slower, hazy song.

“Idaho” is one of those subtle love songs, where the lyrics don’t exactly confirm the song’s romantic meaning. This makes sense though as the song is deeply personal and reflective. Discussing the song, lead singer and guitarist of the band Emily Massey admitted she was in a rough emotional state, feeling “really un-genuine to the people I was seeing, because they’re saying all these nice things to me, and I just wasn’t taking it well or believing it.” This isn’t a song about loving a specific person, it’s about learning to love yourself so you can love others.

“Damian” by Deryk G: The indie rocker and current UW-Madison senior Deryk G has a growing catalog of impressive tracks, but “Damian” might be his best yet. It’s one of his most listened-to songs on streaming services, and at his concert at Der Rathskeller in November, the small but passionate audience knew most of the words.

“Damian” is mellow and laid

back, while still being full of emotion. There’s a little Steve Lacy in Deryk G, and that knack for soulful melodies shines bright on this track. The pseudo-rap on the verses is also reminiscent of some of Lacy’s music. “Damian” doesn’t get too deep into specifics, but the lyrics paint a picture of a tantalizing relationship, making Deryk question and re-evaluate himself at every turn. It’s a song about an indescribable feeling, one that eats at you but gives you purpose at the same time.

We see this with the juxtaposition of lines like “I’m too busy living in my own head” with “You make me wanna be a better me.” “#1 Crush” by Garbage: “#1 Crush,” one of Garbage’s earlier songs, is their best love song. The song prominently features a very sexual moaning sample, with an echo that makes each moan land on beat. This sample, combined with a breakbeat and a funky bass line, form the basis for the track. “#1 Crush” throws the subtle, introspective love song out the window and goes for straight-up obsession. Singer Shirley Manson embodies this angle, with lines like “I will wash away your pain with all my tears” and “I will twist the knife and bleed my aching heart.” It’s psychotic and lustful, with some borderline masochist lines. The song is most likely written from the perspective of someone else, but regardless, it embodies a darker, bare emotional side of love that many musicians won’t even address.

Queer artists are driving change for stronger representation

By Rebecca Perla ARTS EDITOR

We are in the midst of an awakening of mainstream LGBTQIA+ representation in music where artists all across the spectrum can find success in their careers.

Queer music fans, now more than ever, are desperately seeking the validation that their stories matter and that music written about their experiences can be shared with listeners across the gender identity spectrum.

Artists like Kehlani, Cakes Da Killa, Hurray for the Rif Raff, Kim Petras and Troye Sivan are showing the industry that there is an audience for their music and that, more importantly, queer artists deserve to be seen and heard like their contemporaries.

Thankfully, today we are seeing a growth of independent voices and talent that traditionally would have been kept out of the industry. And thanks to services like SoundCloud, YouTube and Spotify, queer artists have been given a platform to release their music, gain an audience and prove that their stories not only matter to their queer fan base but to music fans at large.

Princess Nokia, a New York based rapper who spent years selfreleasing albums on SoundCloud and YouTube, has gained a cult following both in and out of the queer community. Her initial success was driven largely in part by her embrace of the queer community and ensuring that her and their stories were heard.

Expressions of queer identities

in popular music have evolved dramatically in the last few years, even months. In the decade-plus since Katy Perry sang her somewhat male-gaze-fueling “I Kissed a Girl” songs exploring sexuality have come to be far more overt. Now, pop albums speak frankly about the objects of affection. Empowered to sing about their lived experiences and to raise awareness of the LGBTQIA+ community’s struggles, these artists are defining the current pop music moment. And they are everywhere.

So how did queer pop become so ubiquitous? Some of it is just plain ol’ talent — Kehlani and Troye Sivan both have an ear for ultra-catchy melodies — and the number of queer people looking for reflections of themselves in popular music surely bolster their fan bases. But the rest? That is all the internet at work. The modern, thoughtful, lively discourse about pop and its purveyors all happens online now, and when you are producing songs people have been waiting a long time to hear, word spreads fast.

Unlike in previous decades, when record companies controlled what records were released and manufactured much of a pop artist’s look, queer performers now can release music with the messages they want and build fan communities themselves. And because their iTunes and Spotify streams and YouTube videos can now translate into chart success, their ability to shake up the world of pop music has never been greater.

From Bette Midler and

Madonna all the way through Lady Gaga’s Born This Way, performers courting gay audiences and incorporating lesbian, gay and bi-sexual themes into their songs is a pop music tradition. But increasingly, the latest crop is charging through the door, and it is more than just big-voiced divas tapping into the LGBTQIA+ community.

Hayley Kiyoko regularly struts the stage waving a pride flag, and songs from Troye Sivan’s Bloom

all sound like gay anthems. No one hides or switches up the pronouns in love songs any more. Even in Hayley Kiyoko and Kehlani’s “What I Need” music video, they play friends who run away from a homophobic aunt. The video garnered more than 6 million views in two weeks and its YouTube comments section is a haven of rainbows and heart-eyes emoji.

Artists are creating a space for LGBTQIA+ fans to feel seen. That

also translates into social media followers and other forms of engagement, making them a part of the fandom and, to varying degrees, the cause of LGBTQIA+ rights.

Overall, queer artists are driving the change for stronger representation across the music industry. There is still work to be done and the industry will not change overnight, but significant strides and changes have been made thanks to some of these artists.

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By Anupras Mohapatra SENIOR STAFF WRITER

College is a time when people get a great handle on who they are and what they want. At this stage, people stumble across life-changing revelations. In that spirit, I figured I should write about something that helped me understand my patterns and needs, life-changing stuff.

Like love languages, attachment styles are one of the multiple bits of information that can help us gain a better understanding of ourselves in relationships. As the name suggests, attachment styles describe how people attach themselves to others in a romantic context — crushes, dates or relationships.

Attachment styles emerged from attachment theory that British psychologist John Bowlby popularized. He described attachment as a “lasting psychological connectedness between human beings.” Research concluded that our relationship with primary caregivers determines how we attach as adults.

There are four attachment styles: avoidant, anxious, fearful-avoidant and secure.

While estimates vary, about 25% of people are said to be avoidant. Avoidant people tend to not express their emotions or feelings. They developed this tendency in response to how their caregivers treated them. They fear that emotional vulnerability will hurt them. Avoidant people tend to operate independently. They feel the other person’s absence less than normal and are quick to call someone clingy.

The anxious attachment style is the opposite of the avoidant. Various estimates put the anxious attachment population at about 20%. This style originates from the intrusive or inconsistent involvement of a caregiver in a child’s life. Anxious people tend to have low self-esteem. This can result in clingy behavior, as they think they are not worthy of the other’s love. Anxious people crave validation and attention to

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feel at ease, akin to an addiction in some ways. At worst, they can feel lost when the other is not around (withdrawal). They tend to be perceptive of minute changes in behavior because of the perennial fear of loss. This can result in protest behaviors based on simple factors like how or when someone texts back. Such behavior can be problematic, as things are seldom as bad as they seem.

Since anxious and avoidant styles are opposites, relationships between them can be devastating. Known as the “anxious-avoidant trap,” such relationships can be difficult to leave. The extremes of either person are the biggest nightmares for the other, but when one person eases off, the other eases off as well and the relationship feels great. Such a relationship requires a lot of effort and intervention to sustain, often not lasting the distance.

The fearful-avoidant (disorganized) style is the rarest of all. Only about 5% of people are fearful. People develop this style when primary caregivers are a source of fear. They are a mix of anxious and avoidant styles, craving attachment and struggling with low self-esteem like an anxious person, but withdrawing from attachment like an avoidant person.

If you cannot relate to any of the above things — at least not most of the time — congratulations!!! You are part of the remaining near 50% of people who have a secure attachment style. A secure attachment style is the ideal. Secure people can attach to others seamlessly. Most advice for people with insecure attachment styles is geared towards progressing towards security.

While attachment styles may form from childhood experiences, they can alter throughout life.

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The world of catfishing

By Kodie Engst STAFF WRITER

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Tinder is ruining your love life

By Lauren Ingrassia STAFF WRITER

Recently, the popular match-making app Tinder has become less about forming potential relationships and more about scoping out casual hookups, especially on campus.

With thousands of young and eager college students all within a five mile radius of each other, a hookup is only a right swipe away for those in need of a quick fix, but is it worth putting other potential genuine relationships in jeopardy?

University of Wisconsin-Madison student and former Tinder user Paige doesn’t think so, having had her fair share of less than pleasant romantic experiences thanks to Tinder, she swore off the app just recently.

“I realized that Tinder was the root of a lot of my issues when it came to relationships, especially with trust. The guys I was meeting in-person didn’t trust me because I had Tinder and I didn’t trust the guys I met on Tinder because I didn’t know who or how many people they were talking to besides me,” Paige said.

While some may argue that mind-

lessly swiping on Tinder profiles is harmless, the argument still stands for the damage the overall intent of the swiping does to forming in-person relationships. The excitement of meeting someone naturally and making a genuine connection can be so easily crushed by finding out that the charming boy you met at the coffee shop was swiping right on prospects for his night out just before you met.

“This was the main reason I deleted my Tinder account. I realized how much of a turn off it was when I found out the guy I liked had Tinder so I figured it had to be a two-way street,” Paige explained.

The same can be said for meeting someone in any organic situation.

Finding out that someone you know has Tinder is equivalent to finding their bawdy alter-ego that you never really wanted to meet, but now it’s in front of you and has to be analyzed, bio and all.

“When I find out that someone has Tinder I assume it’s either a joke or they want hookups, there’s not much of an in between, especially at college. Mine was mostly for jokes,” Paige said.

Have you ever talked to someone online who was too perfect? Too suave?

Too mysterious? Too elusive? Have you ever wondered if they were too good to be true? Or — like me — have you simply spent too much time watching Nev Shulman track down people who lie online?

Catfishing is defined by the Oxford Dictionary as the act of luring someone into a relationship via a false online persona.

Looking into the strange phenomenon that is catfishing is fascinating and concerning. With the expansion of the internet and the growing culture of social media, the amount of people you interact with online is only increasing.

Many online dating sites have put safeguards in place to hopefully diminish the proliferation of catfishing on their sites.These measures don’t stop everything, unfortunately. While some catfish-

ing instances are elaborate financial scams, others are meant to simply foster relationships with no intention of ever moving it offline. For these latter types of relationships, some have proposed that they’re a manifestation of attachment styles — those with high anxiety and high avoidance could feel safer and more in control in an online relationship with no real-world implications (at least on their end).

Self-identified catfishes have reported a wide range of reasons for catfishing, from loneliness to desire to an urge to explore their gender and/or sexuality. People who tested with high avoidance styles were 98% more likely to identify themselves as perpetrators of catfishing scams than those who demonstrated low avoidance styles.

While perpetrators of dating deception schemes do so for their own gain, it doesn’t mean that the people on the other end of these situations come

out unscathed. A neuropsychologist, Dr. Sanam Hafeez, explained in an interview with Bustle that being “betrayed” can lead to hypervigilance and difficulty trusting when moving forward.

None of this means that you cannot be safe online. It only means that being aware of who you’re interacting with should be a priority. Looking for red flags on social media accounts and meeting the person behind the profile’s pictures to verify their identity are common safety measures.

If you’re in a crunch and feeling sleuthy, you can also implement one of MTV Catfish’s favorite strategies — reverse image search! If you’ve been catfished, make sure to reach out to friends and family and find support systems to minimize detrimental effects of such behavior. The FBI reports that 18,000 people were catfished online in 2018 — you are not alone.

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+TINDER “However, you can definitely tell who wants to hook up based on their account,” Paige said.

Tinder also puts a strain on budding romance by placing an emphasis on sex too early in the relationship. This can be damaging if you know the person you like has Tinder and suddenly it feels like you’re in last place because you didn’t meet them on the basis of hooking up like others have.

Tricky questions may arise such as, “If I don’t hook up with them will they be less attracted to me?” or “Are they still using the app while we’re talking?” and most torturous of all, “Would they swipe right if they saw me?”

Few, if any, of these concerns may be voiced to a Tinder-using crush in fear of appearing as an over analyzer of a barely concrete relationship. This is the stage where your mind turns into your worst enemy and poses confusing, hurtful questions in your head.

Paige is no stranger to these concerns as she recalls, “I remember questioning myself all the time, and I still catch myself doing it. It’s hard when you’re in a talking phase with someone because these are such vulnerable questions to be asking and you don’t want to ruin anything.”

Despite being an ex-Tinder user for over a month now, Paige still finds herself thinking about the app in her relationships, “I think because I know how the app works I am actually more paranoid about it. I know how exciting it is to

get a new match and slide into their DM’s. That being said, it also sucks to know that the person you like can be feeling and doing the same thing and there’s nothing you can do about it,” she explains.

If there’s no predetermined exclusivity in a budding relationship, then what gives you the right to be mad over DM’s of your almost-partner talking to other people? Technically nothing. And just like that, emotional damage has entered the chat. You suppress the feeling of betrayal in order to save some face, but it still shows in forms of jealousy and neglect which are lethal to delicate relationships.

Many people have Tinder as a joke and rarely follow through with interactions made on the app. At most, their DM’s contain pickup lines of bad taste followed by meaningless conversations and an exchange of Snapchats that usually cease after a week or two. Still, the intentions behind this new era of Tinder are hard to ignore, especially for those looking for something real and meaningful, which is proving to be a rarity in a college campus dominated by hookup culture.

Paige is still on the hunt for a meaningful relationship, but is glad Tinder isn’t in her way, “I want to feel the refreshment of meeting someone whose motive behind a relationship isn’t just sex and I have a hard time believing that I will find someone like that on Tinder.”

There’s no shame in a casual hookup, but next time consider how its origins affect your relationships outside of the bedroom.

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While attachment styles may form in childhood, they can alter throughout life depending on personal experiences. +ATTACHMENT This malleability of attachment styles may seem scary but is great news. It means you can always work towards security. You are not consigned to a life of lonely doom and gloom.

Approaches vary between different types of insecure attachment, but clear communication is something that helps across the board. In my experience coping with anxious attachment, rationalization and distraction helps. The world does not revolve around me. If the object of attachment chooses to leave, it is their loss.

If anything, making boneheaded decisions and making some-

one feel uncomfortable is far worse. That way, the person leaves, and you feel guilt.

Evaluating the other person’s efforts is important.

Whether in romance or a friendship, if the other person has blatant disregard for expressed needs, it is worth reconsidering things. At least you could start a dialogue.

Make sure to appreciate those who do pay attention.

Avoidant and fearfulavoidant people can benefit from setting boundaries and taking space when needed.

Avoidant people in particular could practice being more vulnerable. Rationalizing can help as well.

Lastly, therapy is a great option for those who can access it. I put together this collection of information and approaches because it helped me. This does not make me an expert and this article is not medical advice.

Identifying a problem is the first step to solving it. People with insecure attachment styles should recognize it and work towards greater security.

Hopefully, this article helps you understand why people in your lives behave the way they do. Maybe it can reveal things you didn’t know about yourself. This way, we can strive to build a world that is more loving, helping everyone get as close to secure as possible.

opinion It’s time to de-stigmatize the stripper

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Research papers, lab writeups and hundred-page reading assignments — as college students assume immense responsibilities, “dropping out and becoming a stripper” always remains an option. The facetious remark voiced by many may appear harmless, providing a needed moment of comedic relief, yet there is a fundamental problem in correlating failure with being a stripper.

Our society has shunned the female-dominated stripper industry for years, labeling the community as crooked for exploiting women and their bodies. Yet instead of sympathizing with dancers, those employed in the industry are likewise disgraced.

To many, the idea that anyone would willingly choose a career in erotic dancing is unfathomable.

Dancers have instead been cast-off as broken and raunchy.

Seemingly, the most widely held critique with the industry revolves around the idea that these dancers are dressing provocatively to capitalize on their bodies for profit. Simply doing so makes those employed in the industry “dirty,” and the job in itself somehow less worthy of respect than other occupations.

If the #MeToo movement and ensuing events like that of Denim Day have taught our society anything, it is that there will always be people who view women and their bodies as an object. Females are disproportionately sexualized within the media and relentlessly sexually harassed in everyday occurrences.

Finding a way to profit from this disturbing truth does not make these dancers floozies, it makes them empowered. So long as women are forced to endure society’s disproportionate oversexualization of their appearance, why not capitalize on the male gaze.

Good for these dancers for profiting off the patriarchy.

Another common assumption is that those employed within the industry represent the “rebellious, young and uneducated type.” On the contrary, 1 in 3 erotic dancers are simultaneously putting themselves through college. These are not burnouts. These are highly driven women striving for success.

College tuition and subsequent student loans can be a crippling financial burden forcing many aspiring students to take on part-time jobs — or worse yet — put off college altogether.

Erotic dancing pays substantially above minimum wage, with the median earnings averaging at $25

an hour. For a woman without prior job experience, stripping can very well be the highest paying acquirable occupation.

Recognizing this truth and joining the industry should not induce disrespect. Recognizing this truth and joining the industry should be applauded as a wise financial decision.

So long as there remains this relentless fixation with women’s bodies, why not profit from it? In my opinion, I would much rather my future daughter use her godgiven gifts to perform and make an income than solicit faulty products in a period scheme or become a corrupt profit-driven political figure — professions that at the surface are more “respectable.”

As a society, we need to evaluate the reasoning behind this long held-stigma. It is time to welcome this occupation, not degrade it.

Exotic dancers are people and people need to — in no exception to any other job — pay the bills, put food on the table and provide for loved ones.

Em-J Krigsman is an Opinion Editor for The Daily Cardinal. She is a sophomore studying Political Science and Journalism. Do you think strippers are stigmatized?

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President Donald Trump and President Joseph R. Biden each representing "red" and "blue" teams.

Red team vs Blue team: How politics closely resembles a sports game

By ANUPRAS MOHAPATRA FORMER OPINION EDITOR

I grew up in the UAE, a country where politics aren’t much of a thing. Consequently, I didn’t have the chance to understand global political dynamics. It was enough for me to know the prime minister of my birth country and the leaders of the UAE. Any global leaders were an added bonus. However, since joining the Cardinal, it has been impossible to ignore American politics.

More so when it has a direct effect on non-citizens and citizens alike.

Growing up, I was familiar with the red and blue of the Republican and the Democratic parties. I also knew of the elephant and the donkey. I was prone to mixing them up, though. With the 2020 presidential election in the backdrop, I was getting used to the R’s and the D’s. The GOP elephant and the Democrat donkey. As an opinion editor at the time, it was a necessity.

I learned how the parties pretty much switched platforms over the course of U.S. history. According to historian Eric Rauchway, William Jennings Bryan — an influential Democrat in the early 20th century — began espousing greater government involvement. This was when Republicans were the party of big government.

This resulted in both parties briefly being in favor of expanded government. It was only when Franklin Roosevelt introduced progressive policies like the New Deal in the 1930s that the switching of sides was complete. Republicans now took the limited government stance that Democrats previously held. These platforms define the parties to this day.

The next — and perhaps most intriguing thing I learned — was just how tribal American political culture is. This has become only more apparent in recent years, with the increase in political polarization seen

in the U.S. While the trend is global, the U.S. is unique in how there are only two parties in power. In a more polarized world, these two parties are like two sports teams. Team red vs team blue.

Both political parties sell merchandise that people buy, boosting the campaigns of those they support while boasting their support for them in a manner akin to any sport in the world.

This seemed comical to me at first. Despite my opinions on various leaders and both parties, I would never want any merchandise. However, this sport-like support of politicians and political parties means that the biases seen in sports fandom creep into political discourse. People who make life-altering decisions for people both in the U.S. and abroad are viewed like athletes.

This country exists as blue and red cities and states.

Republicans view “blue cities” rife with problems like homelessness as a point in favor of their favorite political team. The same can be said for blue wave Democrats who dismiss the plight of “red states” when hit by natural disaster. Reality is often gray and not black or white — or in this case, red or blue.

Yet that is how things pan out, affecting priorities adversely. To a blue supporter, the blue can do no wrong, and the same goes for the red.

Every effort is made to one-up the other.

Besides, people are not accurately represented in the current ecosystem. The two parties act as massive, unsustainable tents. Big tent parties are not unheard of across the world.

However, the Democratic and Republican parties are humongous tents. They end up encompassing incompatible and even dangerous ideologies.

The neoliberal Democrats do not mesh well with progressives, yet a progressive independent voice like Sen. Bernie

Sanders (I-Vt) had to run for a presidential nomination on the Democratic ballot. Dangerous neo-Nazis and white supremacists are more extreme than moderate Republicans. A country with over 300 million people cannot be split into just two parties, no matter how one chooses to split the population.

The final observation is that despite this sense of tribalism where both sides back their team to death, they both have more in common than they would like to believe.

Fervent supporters of one party would love to take the moral high ground, when in reality, the difference is only a few inches. The younger me who mixed the parties up looks wise in hindsight.

I guess this begs the question: What is the solution? For starters, it would be great to see more parties rise. Coalitions between distinct parties sound more sensible to me than big tents.

As for ending tribalism within the existing framework, focusing on establishing the similarities between both sides is a start. The tribalism appears to come from a desire for moral superiority. Dealing with confirmation bias and the subsequent possibility of backfire effect is a challenge. However, once eyes are opened to the similarities, it becomes clear that there is no superiority.

I hope a day can come when presidential debates are not advertised like boxing matches, problems are seen as problems without a red or blue prefix and accountability is not left for dead by merchandise wearing Twitter clout chasers.

Anupras is a former opinion editor, currently on the editorial board. He is a junior studying Computer Science and Journalism. Do you find the growing sport-like fanaticism in U.S. politics odd? Do you think this needs fixing?

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Content warning: Mentions of sexual assault, harrassment In recent months, The Daily Cardinal has reported on a spate of sexual assaults. These assaults all took place on university grounds and they reveal a larger truth: the prevalence of sexual assault on campus.

The 2019 American Association of Universities survey reported that 26.1% of undergraduate women at the University of WisconsinMadison experience some form of assault. Most cases of assault do not undergo formal investigation. The university received 139 claims of sexual assault or violence from July 1, 2020 to June 30, 2021, and only 15 of these claims were formally investigated. This means a large portion of cases tend to be handled using other supporting mechanisms.

Considering this heavy reliance on such systems, one might think that they must receive greater funding. Right?

A major supporting mechanism in place for victims is UHS Survivor Services. Survivor Services is designed to provide victims of assault threefold support: advocacy, mental health and medical. Advocacy services involve non-clinical support for victims, mental health services involve therapy involving handling trauma and medical services involve forensic exams and handling pregnancy and infection related concerns.

This triad forms a robust set of resources for a victim. However, Survivor Services lacks adequate funding. Three months ago, the UW-Madison chapter of Promoting Awareness, Victim Empowerment (PAVEUW) made a petition demanding greater funding. The petition outlines how understaffed the program is under current funding. PAVE-UW also emphasizes the importance of greater funding. By their estimation, increased funding would make the services more accessible.

This, in turn, would help more people heal.

In addition to making firm demands of the university, PAVE-UW acts as a major support mechanism in itself. A student organization, it gets funding from the General Student Service Fund which is allocated from segregated fees paid by students each semester. This fund is run by the Student Services Finance Committee. However, the funds allocated to PAVEUW declined from Fiscal Year 2018 to Fiscal Year 2020, coinciding with a general decline in the student service fund. This drop in funding is ill-conceived, as PAVE-UW plays an integral role in campus-wide awareness.

PAVE-UW runs several comprehensive workshops that work towards awareness. This is crucial both for preventing assaults

and ensuring victims get connected to the right resources.

Much of this speaks to the prevalence of rape culture in our society. For us to accept that it’s okay to continually neglect and defund survivor resources suggests our complicity of sexual assault in our society.

It is the duty of this university to provide resources that support all of its students, which is something it has neglected to do before. Calls for increased mental health spending aren’t new, either. For years, students have lobbied the university to increase its spending on these critical services essential for student success.

For the 2020-21 academic year, UW Madison had a $528.5 million budget for its Auxiliary Fund. This fund accounts for services that the university provides to the campus or general public. The biggest chunk of this fund goes to University Housing and Intercollegiate Athletics — 23% and 22% respectively. Also included in this fund is UHS, which only receives 6% of these auxiliary funds.

According to the budget report, “Most auxiliary units are entirely supported by the funds they themselves generate and collect.”

UW-Madison readily invests money into programs that can thrive on their own, but fails to do so for a program lumped in the same category as athletics, expecting it to fend for itself.

UHS only accounts for 1% of the Universities total budget. The above report listed the universities total budget at $3.34 billion for the 2019-20 fiscal year. This year, that budget nearly doubled to $6.56 billion.

With this increased budget, UW-Madison must increase its investment in services offered to students in order to improve campus safety and health.

It’s the least that survivors deserve.

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In October, The Daily Cardinal was saddened to announce that Chancellor Becky Blank has decided to leave the University of Wisconsin-Madison at the end of the school year to become Northwestern’s next president.

The step down was taken not for professional reasons, but to make a break from the hunky and thoughtful Buckingham U. Badger and run away with longtime love Willie the Wildcat.

For the months following the exposé, Becky and Willie had done a thorough job keeping themselves out of the spotlight.

This changed on Valentine’s Day, when the pair were found galavanting around campus.

The couple was first spotted sharing a brat at State Street Brats, which would’ve been suggestive if Willie wasn’t already known to have a corkscrew penis much like that of a duck. After about 15 minutes, the room went

silent as Bucky walked in for his Monday night cheese curds.

Having come to grips with how he was mistreated during the course of their relationship, Bucky gave the couple a smirk as if to say “good luck, you deserve each other” and proceeded to have a couple Brathaus Bloodies with his friends, who happened to be everybody in the room, as Bucky has friends wherever goes.

While not his goal considering that he had moved on, Bucky ultimately left Brats having shown Becky whose campus she was on.

Having been thoroughly embarrassed, Becky and Willie were later seen getting off a bus near the Arboretum where they were presumably going to collect themselves.

“At first, they were just walking. Willie’s furry, matted paw was on Becky’s ass, which was kind of a weird thing to do in public, but whatever,” said an anonymous source. “But after about a quarter mile, Willie seemed

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tired. A few minutes later, he was completely gassed.”

While generally strange for a cat to lack athletic ability, the eyewitness account checks out, as Northwestern’s athletes have also displayed insufficient athleticism when facing the Badger football and basketball teams this season.

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Woman breaks up with fiancé after discovering he eats Trix cereal — ‘I thought he was a man, not a kid’ Mackenzie Moore ALMANAC EDITOR

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1. Mark Zuckerberg: Lightly toasted white bread with a teaspoon of ketchup for a little kick 2. Tom Cruise: Kale salad with fresh garden tomatoes and a zesty chloroform vinaigrette prepared by Scientology leader David Miscavige 3. Elon Musk: Food coloring 4. Ye: 2-day-old cheese stuck to the pepperoni hot pocket sleeves in Pete Davidson’s garbage can 5. Gilbert Gottfried: A New York slice with cocktail sauce, cheese whiz and seed-in red grapes with a side of clam juice 6. Katy Perry: The magic mushrooms consumed by her set designers sliced and put on Ritz crackers 7. Conan O’Brien: A cookie that he slapped out of his assistant’s hand 8. Kid Rock: Mayonnaise marked “Best by April 2020” straight from a white, manure-stained five gallon bucket (eaten with hands) 9. Machine Gun Kelly: Megan Fox’s dehydrated menstrual blood 10. Ben Shapiro: Brawny paper towels washed down with Colgate Total Advanced Pro-Shield Mouthwash

couple nobody wanted or asked for was Witte Residence Hall.

“I finally walked into Witte after a long day of classes and studying only to find that I couldn’t get into my dorm,” said freshman resident Kayla Loche.

“With the help of a friend, we were finally able to break in, only to find Becky and Willie just going

at it. I’d give you more details, but I’m honestly not sure what I saw.

Whatever it was, it definitely was not Call Her Daddy approved.”

Loche said that the vision caused her great emotional distress.

“Look, being single on Valentine’s Day is hard as it is.

I just wanted to curl up in my dorm bed with an Easy Mac and a watermelon High Noon and listen to Taylor’s 10 minute version of ‘All Too Well’ while thinking about my shitty high school boyfriend that I saw at a frat party on Friday,” said Loche. “Then, I open the door and am bombarded with the fact that Becky gets to have sex with a cat, but I don’t get to have a single promising Hinge match.”

It’s fair to say that Becky and Willie’s date night did nothing to improve the campus’s perception of their relationship.

However, it did solidify the idea that campus may be safer without her sordid antics.

By the time a healthy couple gets engaged, they’ve already talked about their shared goals and ideals as far as children, work, religion and finances. Twentysix-year-old Cottage Grove native Stacy Brenner thought she knew everything about her now former fiancé, Ryan, before the December proposal.

However, while she knew that she and Ryan both wanted kids, she did not realize that she was engaged to be married to one.

Following the holidays, the bubbly couple moved into their first house together. The happy home took a turn for the worst when Stacy awoke the morning of Feb. 15 to find that her future husband was eating Trix cereal.

“When we talked about our future, I thought I was planning it with a man, you know?” cried Brenner. “I know that part of a relationship is talking through potential misunderstandings, but how much more clear could it have been? The slogan has been in every commercial our whole lives — ‘Trix are for kids.’”

Brenner says that before she caught her former fiancé in the act, he hadn’t shown any signs of immaturity.

“He had a good head on his shoulders. Financial advisor, no criminal record, showered most days — the total package,” lamented Brenner. “Now, I can’t

help but think it was all a lie. It’s like he thought that if he bought me a big enough ring, I’d just ignore the fact that I was going to marry a literal child. Last time I checked, it’s not okay to have sex with a kid just because they can afford jewelry.”

After registering the situation, Brenner kicked Ryan out of their shared home.

“I’m not sure exactly when the cutoff for being considered a kid is, but 16 felt more like young adult territory, so I knew it was illegal for him to drive,” said Brenner. “I made him get in the backseat of my car and I dropped him off at a McDonald’s Play Place with 20 dollars and a library card.”

The now-single Brenner has since put the house on the market and moved back in with her parents.

“Since I moved back in with my parents, I’ve been able to take steps towards healing,” said the emotionally exhausted Brenner. “When I go to the kitchen in the morning, there’s

nothing to remind me of what Trix did to my relationship. My parents only eat oatmeal and buttered toast for breakfast, so I feel safe.”

Having dropped off Ryan’s belongings at his mom’s house, Brenner has not had any direct contact with her former beau since the incident.

“Despite everything, I don’t feel right selling the ring and keeping the money for myself,” said Brenner. “I think I’ll use the $200 I was able to haggle for to send him a remote control car and a couple Nerf guns for his birthday.”

Though she isn’t ready to get back out there yet, Brenner knows how she’ll prevent this from happening in the future.

“My friend hooked me up with a room at a nursing home.

As soon as the 90-year-old cancer patient living in it now dies, it’s all mine. The facility provides all of the meals, so I don’t have to worry about Trix ever again.”

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We're always looking for more funny and insightful writers with fresh takes on topics ranging from the UW campus to international news. We accept and encourage creative submissions as well! Any and all submissions are more than welcome. You can send your submissions and any comments or questions to almanac@dailycardinal.com.

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Sit first row at a basketball game Take a picture with Bucky Attend a CYC class Go to a night game at Camp Randall Stadium Sled down Bascom Hill on a Gordon Commons tray Go on the roof of Ag Hall Watch the sunrise on the Terrace Go out to Picnic Point Go bowling or climb the climbing wall at Union South Pull an all-nighter at College Library Go to the Farmers Market at Capitol Square Go to Freakfest Study on Bascom Hill when the weather is nice (or just lay out and pretend to study) Go to the Chazen Go ice skating at the Shell Watch a Varsity Band Concert Go up in the Carillon Tower Rent a boat and go out on Lake Mendota Go to a hockey game Go to a volleyball game at the Field House Go to a softball game Walk on Lake Mendota when its frozen Drink a beer on the Terrace Eat Babcock ice cream Try all the flavors of Babcock ice cream Tour the Capitol Stay up all night studying Stay up all night partying Get lost on the bus Be mistaken for a freshman Go to a concert at the Majestic Go to a concert on the Square Spend a summer in Madison Get lost in Humanities/Vilas Finally decide on a major Celebrate your birthday at the Nitty Gritty Study at the Historical Society Visit Monona Terrace Walk around Willy Street Try every restaurant on State Street Start a chant at a sporting event Share a Fishbowl at Wando's Make a friend in your class (great for studying!)

Join an intramural sport Jump in Lake Mendota at midnight (better yet, skinny dip) Check out the view from the top floor of Van Hise Take a class in Science Hall Play frisbee on Bascom Hill Read the Go Big Read book Go to a concert at The Sett Go to Vilas Zoo Crash a wedding at Memorial Union Thank a professor Study at all 42 UW-Madison libraries Jump Around”

Vote in an election Join a student organization Visit Monroe Street Have a bubbler”vs. water fountain debate Eat at every dining hall Go to office hours Take a class outside of your comfort zone Sing”Varsity” Eat cheese curds from Der m m Rathskeller Complete an internship Eat Ian's Pizza at 2 a.m.

Take a fitness class at the SERF Work out at the Shell Take a philosophy class Take a class for fun Rub Abe Lincoln's toe for good luck See the UW MadHatters perform Study in a cage at Memorial Library Go to the Mifflin Street Block Party Go to Revelry Music & Arts Festival Listen to a local Madison band Check out the Art Lofts (111 North Frances St.) Get to know a professor (they're always willing to help you and you can get letters from them in the future!)

Participate or chear on someone in the Crazylegs Classic run Have a brat at State Street Brats Take a random elective Live in the dorms Form a study group Attend the homecoming parade Study at College Library at a table overlooking the lake Visit all the different coffee shops to find your favorite study spot Shop on State Street Stargaze at the Observatory Visit your friends' hometowns in different states over the summer to try new places Study abroad, there are so many different programs!

Bring a paper to the Writing Center for a different set of eyes (great resource!)

Attend an away football game (like the Rose Bowl!)

Eat lunch on the terrace behind Liz Waters Stock up on your faves at It'Sugar Go to every sandwich spot (there's quite a few!) and pick your favorite Get lots of free stuff (espcially PIZZA) during Welcome Week!

Make an appointment with UHS Don't be afraid to try something new Go on a fun spring break trip with your besties Don't oversleep for graduation