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I probably shouldn’t put this in print for fear of conjuring up a blizzard – but hello, spring! And as the flowers begin to bloom so does our second BUSINESS issue here at Vital VOICE. From how St. Louis Fortune 500 companies rate in the Corporate Equality Index and “The Business of Boycotts” to a sizzling hot SPREAD we’ve prepared a smart and stylish read ahead. Enjoy! I cannot stress enough the importance of supporting locally owned LGBT businesses and gay friendly corporations. Why? Because that age-old saying still rings true: Money talks. Where we choose to spend our dollars and which businesses we support speaks volumes. It remains key that we support those that support us! You know, I welcome April with open arms because frankly – March was a crummy month. The details aren’t important – but I was reminded of the power of friendship and more importantly, true friendship. True friends can withstand most anything. You love each other unconditionally, accept each other’s flaws, you fight and then you forgive, but most importantly – you hold tight and grow together. So here’s a shout-out to the true friends in this world. I hope each and every one of you is blessed with at least one. And if you are, give them an extra hug. Boy, do we need them. In Pride,
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Webster Groves Amends Fair Housing Code to Include Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity Protections Following a unanimous vote, Feb. 5, the Webster Groves City Council approved an amendment to the city’s Fair Housing Code protecting renters and buyers from being discriminated against based on their sexual orientation or gender identity.
“Sometimes progress happens one small step at a time - but each step brings us closer to justice.” -Judy Boncaro, via Facebook
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St. Louis Mourns Dr. Lynne M. Cooper Dr. Lynne M. Cooper, founder and former President of Doorways, passed away March 16, 2013 after a lengthy illness. Statements of sympathy and support from the St. Louis LGBT community have been legion.
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SPLC Wins Missouri Prom Fight One day after the Southern Poverty Law Center urged Scott County Central High School in Missouri to rescind its policy barring same sex couples from participating in prom, the school has revised their policy allowing Stacy Dawson and his boyfriend to attend the school dance together.
“I’m originally from down there and it’s not only incredbily impressive to see an openly gay kid in HS (this is on par with the depths of Alabama for bible beltitude), but also to see a kid with the guts to stand up for something he believes in and speak out. Very rare for the area. Looking forward to hearing what Stacy has to say. -Davis Dunavin, via Facebook
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Written by Colin Murphy – Editor Photography by Alex Galindo & The St. Louis LGBT History Project It took 30 years for Michelle McCausland to capture the title of Miss Gay Missouri 2012, and as the iconic entertainer prepares to relinquish the female impersonation crown at the 40th anniversary pageant this month, his words still ring in my ear. “All of my friends had won the title of MGM and I wanted that – I wanted that more than anything,” McCausland explains. “I wanted people to look back after I’m gone and say, he was a part of something
special, damn he was good.” Indeed, drag doesn’t get much better than this. With its marquee of formers and top-tier contestants, the stage is set for a lavish production and epic battle of the state’s top female illusionists.
annual Halloween Ball, the first contest consisted only of a walk-on-gown and talent competition. But almost instantly the pageant hatched from the city’s first LGBT rights organization produced a platform that many a drag performer embraced to serve their community.
Founded in October 1973 by “River Queen” Lana Kuntz, the very foundation of MGM pageantry is cemented in St. Louis LGBT history. Born from The Mandrake Society’s
“Thirty years later – I don’t think that feeling will ever go away,” says Vanessa Vincent, MGM 1982. “I was able to achieve many life goals outside of the drag
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community by being MGM 1982 – it’s how I became a hair designer, it’s how I started EFA. For me, I learned if you have something to say of substance and keep it intelligent, truthful, meaningful, and be an honest person – people will listen to you.” “I think Miss Gay Missouri is a leader in the community and shows that we are here for the long haul,” adds Lexsus Chaney, MGM 2000. “Many MGM’s are role models for up and coming entertainers and all have taken stances and raised money on issues such as AIDS, cancer, diabetes, sickle cell and organization such as AMFAR, Hope House, EFA, Doorways, Good Samaritan Project, etc. – all of which has helped raise awareness and help our brothers and sisters within the LGBT community.” In 1974, Lana’s twin brother and fellow “River Queen” Donna Drag took over the fledgling franchise crowning a host of dynamic entertainers. Five years later, the baton was handed to “Sex, Inc.” The comedy drag trio produced the pageant for the next eight years turning MGM into the largest attended LGBT event in St. Louis. For three years in a row the contest attracted over 1000 people and the quality of winners kept pace with the ever growing crowds.
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“Being Miss Gay Missouri has been one of my most treasured memories and accomplishments of my female impersonation career,” offers Melinda Ryder, MGM 1984. “I am very proud to be a part of this amazing tradition and legacy. The friendships I have made by being part of the MGM family are life-long friendships. It is truly a Sisterhood.”
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state compete for Missouri’s oldest female impersonation crown, they will battle it out in the categories of evening gown, on stage question, solo talent, male interview and talent (the latter oftentimes includes sets, dancers and choreography) over three nights of competition. While the pageant, which is an official preliminary to Miss Gay America, has evolved over the years –certain things remain sacrosanct. Unlike some of her sister pageants, MGA requires that contestants be “all boy”—hence no hormones or body augmentation below the neck is allowed. “The title of Miss Gay Missouri is the highest achievement for any entertainer,” says Vicki Valentino, MGM 1995. “The 40 year legacy of MGM is and has been the epitome of resilience and hard work of entertainers who believe in the foundation of what female impersonation started as: men entertaining as women.” “The journey to that night was a road of joy and fear, of elation and defeat,” explains Erica Foxx of her MGM 2009 win. “For the next generation, take this to heart – learn from those who have treaded that road. Be brave to stand alone and always believe in the success you want to be. I guess my legacy would be my determination to keep “old school drag” and elegance alive.” The duties of Miss Gay Missouri mirror that of the national title holder. The winner of the coveted sash and crown must perform at and administrate over the system’s many preliminaries throughout the Show Me State. “It was such an honor to be crowned Miss Gay Missouri and was a wonderful stepping stone for my career,” offers Charity Case,
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MGM 1987, who went on to capture the title of Miss Gay America 2001 (along with Vicki Vincent, MGM 1983 and MGA 1989 and Victoria DePaula, MGM 2006 and MGA 2009). “I honed skills as Miss Missouri that allowed me to continue on and win the titles of Miss Gay Texas and Miss Gay America. I am looking forward to performing in St. Louis for the 40th anniversary with all of my Missouri sisters.” “It’s the chance to travel the state and both work and learn from others,” concludes Jade Sinclair, MGM 2007. “In your year you have the chance to be directly involved with every qualified contestant. It is also a landmark accomplishment in one’s career. As Miss Gay Missouri you have the opportunity to be heard as you address thousands of preliminary audiences statewide.” MGM has been owned by a variety of entities since 1987 – from the Miss Gay Missouri Alumni and Daniel Flier (Vanessa Vincent) and Chuck Atteberry (Sex, Inc.) to Joie DiMercurio (Tumara Mahorning, MGM 1992). Since 2010, the MGM Alumni Board has owned and operated the pageant. The Board consists of former MGM’s Vanessa Vincent, Lexsus Chaney, Dieta Pepsi, Jade Sinclair, Atheena Voce’ and the current reigning Miss Gay Missouri. While the storied contest has been held in every major city throughout the state, most recently in Columbia for the past two years, it is only appropriate that it returns to the city of its birth for this, its ruby anniversary. The Miss Gay Missouri, America Pageant: Showgirls – Forty and Fabulous takes place April 11-13 at The Metropolitan Community Church of Greater St. Louis (MCCGSL). For ticket and further information check out www.mgmpageantry. com or find them on Facebook: Miss Gay Missouri, America Pageant. V
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A staggering 47% of workers have an office affair. One in ten fantasize about it. I guess when times get tough – the daily grind can lead to grinding of another kind with a certain hottie in the cubicle next to yours. While going daring in the workplace, why not go daring in your ties and button ups? Suits are still a man’s best choice for spring. The catch is to go with a ton of color and patterns. Bold suits are all the rage – think yellow or green! For both women and men, the 1920s-1950s are still holding strong, along with highlights of geometrics, patterns and floral prints. Women – mash-ups with lines, non-traditional cuts and splices and the power suit are part of your trends. A button up, tie and a suit may be pretty white collar, boring and conventional. That doesn’t mean you can’t look fashionable while you’re working nine to five. So stay safe and wrap one on when having your office escapade – but don’t play it too safe when it comes to your corporate wardrobe! V
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It may go without saying, but becoming a lawyer is no easy task. The study of law proves tedious and exhausting, while its practice dictates endless hours of mind boggling work. Lawyers from the queer community often encounter additional challenges in their personal lives and career – however, the best ones draw strength from their identities and show great personal drive and investment. St. Louis is blessed to have several business leaders and lawyers who proudly represent and support the LGBT community.
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Crow Terry Crow, a partner at Crow, Takacs, and Texier LLC and owner of several Great Clips stores, is also an enthusiastic horseman. Unfortunately, he sold his last horse, but he will still insist on one thing: “My goal is to always keep hay in the barn.” Crow utilizes this saying to describe his mentality for success: he constantly hopes to maintain economic stability, growth and replication in his life. Now a successful lawyer and businessman, Crow actually started with humble surroundings in Farber, Missouri. His dad worked at the local brick plant factory while his mother took care of him and his two siblings at home. They possessed very little, but his parents expected a lot. As Crow remembers it, “My father always told me I was too smart to spend my life in this small town of 472 people.” Working hard in high school, Crow earned scholarship money to Westminster College. Hoping to achieve his childhood goal, he continued to perform well and then attended the law school at the University of Missouri. Proving to be extremely thrifty and savvy, he utilized his Westminster alumni connections to earn his first job in Kansas City. He became involved in the trust business, and his
continued hard work and success eventually earned him the title of President and CEO at Guarantee Trust Company. This position, in turn, brought him to an audience with Edward Jones based in St. Louis, who offered him a job to help start up their trust department. Crow did not automatically accept the job, stating, “I would not accept a job at Edward Jones until they knew I was gay.” He gave them a chance to retract their offer, but they ultimately said, ‘If you won’t lie about that, then you won’t lie about anything.’” Crow came out as gay after law school, and fortunately found great backing from his family, friends and all of the companies who hired him thereafter. He adds, “There may be some hesitation on coming out, and it’s a very personal decision. But I guarantee that it is the most freeing experience to come out and be you.”
my community.”
Many will recall Crow’s runs for public office as an out candidate for both the Missouri House (2004) and University City mayor (2010). Although he narrowly lost, his campaigns opened several eyes and proved extremely inspirational for the queer community. Many gay business leaders and politicians in St. Louis cite him as a pioneer in the political world. Crow, however, does not call himself a politician. “I describe myself as involved in
Crow is extremely proud of his family, and he strives to keep providing for them and maintaining their luxuries. “It’s amazing how kids change the dynamics…Tom and I can now provide for them what they need and give them their best opportunities in life.” Indeed, Terry Crow’s success and lifestyle inspire many in St. Louis, and now everyone can have the same goal: to keep (while growing and replicating) hay in the barn.
He actively supports several organizations, including the University City School Board, Doorways and the St. Louis County Children’s Service Fund. This involvement, of course, is additional to his job and family. He constantly speaks to Edward Jones’ support, actually being their first openly gay partner, and credits them for giving him the financial stability he always desired. However, he found a life partner in Tom Peters and together they adopted their two children. To spend more time with his family and better support them, Crow now operates as a financial lawyer in St. Louis and owns several Great Clips hair salons, a “top 10 recession business,” that he continues to grow and replicate in St. Louis and Tampa.
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Needham Amie Needham is here, there and everywhere. A partner at Littler Mendelson, L.C., specializing in labor and employment law, she constantly travels for her job. It seems like an exhausting and frustrating lifestyle, but she takes it all in stride. Because, as she simply puts it: “I love-love-LOVE my job.” Needham grew up in Memphis, Tennessee, as part of a very tight-knit and religious family. Extremely supportive, her parents encouraged her and her two brothers to go out and achieve their goals. “My parents taught us all that there were no limits,” says Needham. “They told us we were capable and that you should go out and get what you want.” Needham elected to earn her bachelor’s degree at Oklahoma State before moving to New York to attend law school. From the Southwest to the Northeast, she then moved to the Midwest where she accepted a job offer at Thompson Coburn, LLP, in St. Louis, Missouri. At this firm Needham began her career in labor and employment law, an area that she finds to be very rewarding. “I think it’s the most interesting kind of law because you’re not just being reactive to
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situations, but also proactive,” she explains. “I get to work with clients to find solutions to their problems, whether it be crafting policies or making programs for employment. I really enjoy my work.” Always a mover, Needham fervently expresses that she could never be stuck behind a desk, finding a field that allowed her to work with clients outside of the office and develop longstanding associations. Working for Thompson Coburn for 12 years, Needham now maintains clientele relationships of over 13 years. Last summer she moved to LittlerMendelson, the world’s largest labor firm with over 1,000 lawyers. She serves as a litigator, defending several different groups that range from a few individuals to Fortune 500 status. No matter the company size, Needham is adamant about winning and achieving the best outcome for her party. In 2004, Needham came out as a lesbian, a process that she describes as surprising and evolutionary for her as for other people. She admits to being initially apprehensive about expressing her sexuality in a male-dominated and conservative industry, but ultimately discovered little opposition and received tons of positive support.
“With clients it’s difficult to gauge where they are with their comfort level,” she offers. “But I’ve been very fortunate and have not experienced any negative reactions. They tend to say, ‘If you’re the best lawyer and you happen to be a lesbian, so be it. Just win my case.’” Needham makes time in her busy work schedule to support several causes, including the Wyman Center, Lawyers for Equality and Food Outreach. She also serves on the national board for the Victory Fund, an organization that provides support for LGBT individuals running for public office. She feels these individuals, among many others, act as great models for the next generation “I want the youth to know that there is no reason for them to think that being LGBT should inhibit or prohibit them in any way,” concludes Needham. “SO many doors have been opened recently, and I think more will continue to open. Embrace your identity. It’s by being open that you change hearts and minds.” Undoubtedly, Needham’s identity also serves as reminder of what can be achieved through passion and commitment.
Serving as the Deputy Director of the Department of Economic Development for the state of Missouri, Jason Hall is a gay lawyer and businessman who can be openly called a “BIG deal.” But, as he demonstrates through his own life and assuredly states: “I aim to think bigger than myself.” Surprisingly, Hall is actually one of the first in his family to graduate from high school. From small-town Illinois and growing up in the St. Louis area, he admits his parents had very little but wanted him to be the best. “They sacrificed a lot to open up so much to me,” he explains. “I felt I owed it to them to not give less than 110%.” Hall continued to surpass all expectations by attending Bates College and graduating with an Economics degree – and, if that were not enough, he went overboard and earned a law degree from Vanderbilt University. It is an extremely inspiring story, one that could have been made all the more romantic if Hall
had accepted one of numerous job offers from firms in Washington, D.C. Luckily for St. Louis, he decided to return to his roots and became an associate at the Bryan Cave world headquarters.
course, led to an audience with Governor Nixon, who in 2009 nominated Hall to act as the Executive Director of Missouri Technology Company. With this position Hall would be expected to serve as the senior member of the Governor’s economic development team, While working on competition anti-trust law at basically working to create jobs and build Bryan Cave, Hall developed his personal selfbusinesses in Missouri. Hall was again nervous confidence. He admits to coming out as gay about his sexuality and its acceptance in later in life, specifically after law school at age Jefferson City. But, the governor wanted to give 27: “I was originally nervous about coming out representation of Missouri’s citizenship, and at work, but I found everyone [at Bryan Cave] the Chamber of Commerce, among many other to be supportive and they embraced me for groups, supported him as the best man for the who I was. They were extremely supportive job. Voted in unanimously, Hall says, “It was of all my projects, especially Lawyers for an honor to be asked to serve when it was the Equality.” single biggest issue in the state.” Hall started Lawyers for Equality after working on the 2004 Missouri marriage equality campaign, hoping to better connect St. Louis’ queer lawyers. Utilizing the connections he made through the experience, he eventually became a volunteer for Governor Nixon’s election campaign. This involvement, of
Hall served in this position up until the end of 2011, and in 2012 Governor Nixon decided to employ his talents as Deputy Director of the Department of Economic Development. He continues to grow and strengthen Missouri’s economy by best utilizing its technology and available resources, a job that constitutes the majority of his life. But Hall always has the bigger picture in his head, and he actively pursues extracurricular projects. Throughout his career he participated in organizations such as PROMO, Lawyers for Equality, Junior Achievement and several political campaigns. His main piece of advice to anyone wanting to be successful: activism and involvement. “The big thing is to get involved,” advises Hall. “I don’t care what the role is, GET INVOLVED. Don’t give a half ass job. Put everything you’ve got into it. In doing so, you can develop meaningful relationships and lifelong friends.” Hall is extremely grateful to those people who afforded him opportunities throughout his career, both personally and politically. He speaks reverently of those ”first” openly gay lawyers and businesspeople, citing Martha Block, Terry Crow and Frank Siano as some of his inspirations. These people and many others gave him the chance to be an openly gay lawyer. “You stand on the shoulders of those before you,” he offers. “Once that glass ceiling is broken, it’s easier to break again.”
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Thus, Hall looks to pay it forward and encourages youth involvement and activism. He seems to have little concern for his own future, simply hoping to continue to do his current job to the best of his abilities. But, he passionately talks about being selfless and developing the next generation’s talent and leadership. Because, as he so adequately expresses, “It’s all about issues that are bigger than you.” V
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Jobs are everything in today’s society. But even today, there is still rampant discrimination in the workplace. Here in Missouri, you can still be terminated on the basis of sexual orientation or gender identity. On the plus side, there are many companies that will fight tooth and nail to ensure that their LGBT employees have equal benefits, and equal rights under the law. Just this February, major Fortune 500 companies such as Apple, Facebook, Google and Starbucks banded together, filing “friend of the court” briefs in the battle to remove Prop 8 from California,
and challenge the Defense of Marriage Act, nationally. Missouri, St. Louis in particular, is home to a number of Fortune 500 companies. All of them, to some extent, support equality in the workplace – some more than others. We’re taking a look at where five major companies stand with equality. All of the rankings and criteria are taken from the Human Rights Campaign’s Corporate Equality Index (CEI). Every year the HRC scores major companies on their LGBT-related policies and practices. Categories ranged from equal employment
opportunity policies, in regards to sexual orientation, equivalent spousal/partner benefits, competency training, public commitment and responsible citizenship as a company. Some of these rankings are shining models for tolerance. Others are still beacons of business and acceptance in the workplace. Just remember – a ranking on this scale is good, no matter what the number is – the company is working towards equality in the workplace. The average score for a Fortune 500 company this year was 81. Let’s see where these locally based companies are ranked.
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THE COMPANIES: Boeing Co.
Boeing is one of the U.S.’s and the world’s biggest companies. The aerospace giant employs over 150,000 employees in jobs ranging from commercial planes, defense, security and others. Boeing’s CEI score is an 85, the same as their previous one. Their equal employment opportunity policy includes both sexual orientation and gender identity/expression. Boeing also received full points for equivalent spousal/partner benefits, organizational LGBT competency and public commitment. The only category they did not receive full marks on, which may boost their score in future indices, was for “soft benefits” and transgender-inclusive health insurance coverage. Boeing continues to be a leader in LGBT rights for its employees and as the index shows, has just a few things to work on.
Brown Shoe Company Inc. The Brown Shoe Company is a St. Louis tradition. With an estimated $2.3 billion in revenue, this company is best known for its Famous Footwear stores and the Buster Brown line for kids. Brown Shoe received a 35 rating on the CEI – excelling with an equal employment opportunity policy including sexual orientation, but not gender identity/expression. The company also received full points for their organizational LGBT competency – specifically for having either an employee group or diversity council. Brown Shoe’s score in 2011 was 45, and this year’s score may have something to do with partial points in the categories of “other ‘soft’ benefits” and “public commitment.” Regardless, this is still a great ranking for a fantastic St. Louis institution.
Express Scripts Express Scripts has been in the news recently for its $29.1 billion purchase of competitor Medco. The healthcare and pharmaceutical company employs over 10,000 – with its headquarters centered in Bel-Ridge, Missouri. Perhaps now that the merger is over with, Express Scripts can focus on broader equality in their company. The HRC’s CEI gives Express Scripts a score of 30 – only winning points for its equal employment opportunity policy. This is the same ranking given in 2012, for the same categories. Express Scripts could start with an employee group or diversity council (one of the CEI’s category point ranks), and expand on hiring LGBT citizens and grant them the same benefits that any heterosexual employee receives. Still, credit is given for having an equal employment policy that includes LGBT potential employees.
Nestlé Purina PetCare Co. Nestlé Purina PetCare Co. (formerly Ralston Purina) is another St. Louis staple company that has been around for years. (Since 1894 [officially] when it started as Purina Mills.) We’ve all seen the building as we enter downtown St. Louis, and some could even remember the old Arena, also known as the Checkerdome. Purina employs 7,000 and is a leader in pet food and health products. Nestlé Purina PetCare received a score of 45 on the CEI – the same as its previous score in 2012. The company has an equal employment opportunity policy, an employee group or diversity council and public commitment for LGBT equality. The company has partial points on equal “soft benefits” but that is the extent of their employment benefits. To improve their future scores on the CEI, Nestlé Purina PetCare could extend their benefits to equivalent spouses, make their healthcare program transgenderinclusive and add LGBT into their competency training programs. Of course, Purina is a subsidiary to the Nestlé corporation – so any change would come from the top at Nestlé and trickle down.
Wells Fargo & Company Wells Fargo is one of the world’s biggest financial companies – employing over 250,000 with a profit of $86.08 billion. Wells Fargo is also a leader in LGBT equality in employment. The company has had a perfect score on the CEI for the last two years – there is little to nothing, in essence, that Wells Fargo needs to work on. It has won multiple awards for its accomplishments as a company, including being ranked #1 in DiversityInc’s “Top 10 Companies for Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Team Members.” Wells Fargo is what a Fortune 500 company should be in this day and age – completely accepting of its LGBT employees. With this in mind, now you can see where these companies stand, what they’re succeeding in and what, with time, they will improve on to make full equality in the workplace a reality. v
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Dining Out for Life:
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Written by David Courtney With several FABULOUS restaurants to feature, the St. Louis community needs little incentive to leave their homes and enjoy a meal out. However, on April 25th St. Louis Effort for AIDS will be giving St. Louis dining a greater purpose with its annual Dining Out for Life event. St. Louis Effort for AIDS, known in the community as “EFA”, is the city’s oldest AIDS Service Organization. Founded as a nonprofit organization in December 1985, it has become a prominent fixture in the community’s battle against HIV/AIDS and the disease’s existing stigma. Dining Out for Life, a national event that involves local restaurants in several cities, is one of the group’s biggest fundraisers that allows the group to function and provide its necessary services. Jenna Schoenborn, Director of Brand Management and Communications for St. Louis Effort for AIDS, highlights the importance of EFA and Dining Out for Life. “[In 2011] we provided HIV and Syphilis testing for over 5, 277 clients and 11, 488 indirect clients; as well as food and veterinary services for 65 pets. Because
of DOFL, we were able to help over 18,000 people in the St. Louis Metro Area!” Schoenborn has been involved with Dining Out for Life for the past ten years, six as an employee and four as a Dining Out for Life host. She explains that EFA’s mission is to provide education on the prevention of HIV/AIDS and comprehensive support services to those affected by the disease. The group also looks to dismantle the stigma surrounding HIV/AIDs, thereby raising funds to support its efforts.
citywide event. Schoenborn is quick to highlight the importance of community involvement in the success of Dining Out for Life. “We collaborate with many individuals to ensure every aspect of Dining Out for Life is a success—this event thrives on community support!”
“Unfortunately, some individuals believe that our fight against HIV/AIDS does not affect their neighborhood or customers. The reality is HIV/AIDS does not discriminate. It can affect anyone involving in risky behavior, no matter their geographical location or socioeconomic status.”
Important contributors, of course, are the restaurants and their employees who agree to donate their time and money to the cause. “St. Louis restaurant owners, staff and supporters all have varying connections to HIV/AIDS,” says Schoenborn. “From living with HIV to being a caregiver to someone living with HIV, every supporter understands that through Dining Out for Life we can help ensure no one will fight HIV/AIDS alone.”
Dining Out for Life is a huge chance to educate and involve the St. Louis community in the fight against HIV/AIDS. The event started out small, being held in the homes of concerned volunteers over 20 years ago. Eventually the event moved to local restaurants and, through the generous support of the St. Louis citizens and businesses, grew to be a well-known
Participating restaurants agree to donate a minimum of 25% of their daily revenue, although some may choose to donate 35, 50, or even 100%. Atomic Cowboy, located off of Manchester Avenue in The Grove, chooses to annually donate all of its proceeds from Dining Out for Life to EFA. Chip Schloss, owner of the Atomic Cowboy, cites as a worthy cause that can be seen
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as both a business opportunity and, more importantly, a chance to give to a great cause. “…Talk about feel good...It is incredible the positive comments we get throughout the day & night for supporting this cause at the 100% level.” In order to partake, restaurants must fulfill their committed donation from the year before. Schoenborn makes a point in stating, though, that many restaurants choose to support other worthy organizations from year to year. “Their absence from the event does not directly correlate with their financial contribution.” If St. Louis community members are curious as to which restaurants are donating, they can find the list at Stlefa.org. EFA is very appreciative of any restaurant that decides to participate in Dining Out for Life, no matter the level of donation. “Their participation signifies that they want to experience a world without HIV/AIDS, stigma, fear or hate,” says Schoenborn. “They are giving a generous donation to help people they have never met, when they need it most.” In addition, EFA gives thanks to everyone that chooses to donate to Dining Out for Life. “The generous citizens of St. Louis have grown Dining Out for Life to be what it is today. Without the restaurants, sponsors, diners, or volunteers support, we wouldn’t be here…. It is incredibly moving to see strangers work towards a bigger picture and help their neighbors when they need it most.” To mark Dining Out for Life 2013, Vital VOICE will be hosting lunch from 11am to 1pm at The Wildflower (4590 Laclede in the CWE) and later supper at Hamburger Mary’s (3037 Olive in Midtown) . Gather your friends and family on April 25th and LET’S GO EAT!
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One property “landed” by Duffe Nuernberger is Piccione Pastry. The 2,000 square-foot property in the Delmar Loop, at the corner of Delmar and Skinker, will become an Italian-style pastry shop, featuring authentic Italian sweets. Piccione is scheduled for a soft open this month.
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Over last few years, the subject of boycotts has come up a lot. Boycotts are used with varying degrees of success to attempt change, particularly targeting major institution/corporation policies. The LGBT community has organized numerous boycotts, advocating against discriminatory practices and policies. The primary purpose of a boycott is to bring about change in a non-violent manner. The word boycott originated from retired British army captain Charles Cunningham Boycott. He refused to reduce rent for tenant farmers in County Mayo, Ireland in 1880. Calling for a non-violent protest, the tenants refused to communicate with Boycott. He left Ireland shortly after, but his name became synonymous with the practice of refusing to do business with a person or company with whose practices a group disagrees. There has been St. Louis participation in almost every boycott against antigay companies and organizations. The first LGBT boycott to receive wide-spread media attention was in 1977 against Florida Orange Juice. Pop singer and former Miss Oklahoma Anita Bryant was the spokesperson for the Florida Citrus Commission and founded an organization called “Save Our Children” – an anti-gay group rallying for the repeal of a Dade County, Florida ordinance that protected homosexuals from discrimination in employment and housing. There was mixed reaction to this issue,
and momentum for a boycott grew. Organizations responded, and many stopped buying or using Florida orange juice. Gay bars all over North America took screwdrivers off their drink menus. Even though Dade County voters repealed the gay rights ordinance by a large majority when put to a referendum, LGBT activists still found hope. Bryant’s status as a controversial figure cost her professionally. Bookings canceled, her personal life in shambles, she was condemned by many of her supporters and was fired by the Florida Citrus Commission. Another significant boycott was against the Coors Brewing Company. In 1973, labor unions began to protest the company’s biased and antagonistic views. Not only was Coors boycotted nationwide by the LGBT community, but also by many African Americans and Latinos. LGBT activists were incensed that the brewery put prospective employees through a polygraph test to determine whether or not one was a homosexual. At the time, Coors did not have an anti-discrimination policy, and prospective homosexual employees were not hired. Coors didn’t take notice of the boycott until 1978 when the company made minimal concessions of dropping the sexual orientation questions from polygraph tests and announcing a nondiscrimination policy. The boycott remained in progress for several years later. In 1995, Coors gave domestic partnership benefits to its LGBT employees and began to court
LGBT consumers. Coors became a major sponsor of Denver’s PrideFest and began to place ads in publications targeting the LGBT community. Even though Coors began contributing to LGBT causes and institutions, many are still not convinced if the brewing company is being sincere. The boycott remains strong in certain areas of the country. The conservative ideology of most of the family came to light when Pete Coors entered the Colorado Republican primary race for the United States Senate in 2004. Coors’ support for a constitutional amendment against same-sex marriage revived interest in the boycott. In response, the Coors Brewing Company, in ads stating their opposition to the Federal Marriage Amendment, has explicitly disassociated itself from Pete Coors’s support for the amendment. Boycotting can damage a business significantly, and the LGBT community will make sure of it. In 1991, one of the country’s most prominent restaurant chains known for its southern home cooking was in the spotlight. Cracker Barrel fired 11 gay and lesbian workers for violating a new policy banning the employment of persons “whose sexual preferences fail to demonstrate normal heterosexual values which have been the foundation of families in our society.” Homophobia of this kind was legal. The discrimination activated a wave of national criticism and protests at Cracker Barrel venues throughout the country. The National Gay and Lesbian Task
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Force called for a boycott. The chain did not take kindly to the bad publicity and rescinded its policy banning the employment of homosexuals. However, the company refused to rehire the dismissed employees. The boycott ended in December 2002 after Cracker Barrel announced the addition of sexual orientation to the company’s nondiscrimination policy. Many still refuse to patronize the restaurant. In more recent years, the LGBT community’s embrace of the boycott continues. Exxon Mobile was boycotted in 2001. The Mobile Corporation had had a specific statement against discrimination based on sexual orientation in its employment policy and had offered domestic partner benefits. However, once Mobile and Exxon merged, the language pertaining to nondiscrimination of the basis of sexual orientation was not there. The benefits question is still not resolved. The Salvation Army was also boycotted in 2001. The organization fails to provide benefits to same-sex domestic partners.
Michigan’s Genesee County chapter of PFLAG suggested that people concerned about LGBT rights refrain from donating to the Salvation Army’s Christmas fundraising drive. They should also place a reminder note in the collection kettle explaining that the potential donor was withholding a contribution because of principled opposition to the Salvation Army’s homophobic policies. The national PFLAG organization endorsed the initiative. The most recent boycott happened last year. Chick-fil-A is known for its views on homosexuality and traditional family values and its CEO Dan Cathy has made numerous public comments opposing same-sex marriage. This followed reports that the company donated millions to political organizations that oppose LGBT rights. Due to the controversy, several locations were dismissed from college campuses, and LGBT activists organized a “kiss off,” where couples would display their affection in front of the Chick-fil-A location. The controversy also resulted in some business partners severing ties with the chain. While the LGBT community boycotts anti-
gay companies and organizations, there is oftentimes a conservative backlash and push back. Many anti-gay groups like One Million Moms have protested and boycotted corporations that do support the LGBT community. Take, for example, when Oreo posted a picture of an Oreo cookie with rainbow colored filling and said, “Proudly support love,” anti-gay groups claimed that they would be boycotting Kraft foods since they are tossing moral values out the window. Other companies that have faced backlash include Cheerios, Disney World, Starbucks, Microsoft, Home Depot, Old Navy, Target, Macys, Gap, Ford and J.C. Penney. Penneys gained national attention when One Million Moms protested due to Ellen DeGeneres becoming the company’s new spokesperson. Boycotts can last from days to years. They can be acknowledged nationally or locally. They are, however, regarded as a useful and often successful strategy of protest. Boycotts may come and go, but with history as our guide, the LGBT community rarely backs down. v
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Featuring drinks at an inexpensive rail price, warm digs and an experienced staff, Premium Lounge opened its doors in 2007 at the old AMP. According to owner Dennis Gorg, he envisioned “a bar for everyone” and avoided branding The Lounge as gay because he believed many straight allies would visit The Grove, along with their friends. “I was wrong,” admits Gorg, who now flies a line of pride flags outside of his establishment. “What began was a five year odyssey of self-discovery. I have professed a community that needs no labels and that labels aren’t important and what I learned is that
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ast November, we published a feature by Denny Patterson celebrating the fact that that St. Louis is bucking the national trend of dwindling gay bars and holding strong. According to the 1992 “Damron Guide,” Metro St. Louis (including the East Side) had 16 gay every night bars. 20 years later that number had grown by two. And in 2013, we can add “Premium Lounge” and “honey.” to the list for a record-high of 20 community watering holes.
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assurance.” But Gorg, who is openly gay, is no stranger to branding a business as such. His Coffee Cartel has been a visible touchstone for the LGBT community in the Central West End for the past 15 years. “For Premium Lounge, it was this that caused me to look more closely as to why the gay community wasn’t supporting The Lounge,” he explained. “Was it identity? Was it a sense of belonging? Was it a sense of understanding? All of the above!” Accordingly, Premium Lounge officially “came out of the closet” earlier this year and Gorg hopes his community takes notice.
labels are important. We do need labels for the sense of community and belonging. Some labels are bad – or rather directed poorly, while some labels provide for a sense of belonging and
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4170 Manchester Road honeystl.com Shaun Hill and Christy Schaaf have opened “honey.” at the site of the former Grandma’s Rainbows End in The Grove. The soft opening of the gay dance club with the sleek look and cool feel took place on Mardi Gras weekend (Feb. 9). A grand opening is slated for later this spring. Hill and Schaaf were introduced by mutual friends—she wanted to open a bar and he was looking for an investment. And the rest, as they say, is history. “We got together and talked about what the concept was for opening a dance bar in The Grove,” said Hill. “We thought it would be a great idea, a great niche for the area. We wanted to provide a space that had a large dance floor for patrons to come together and have fun. That was the concept from the beginning.” It took six months to get the bar up and running. According to Hill, the space was a perfect set up with its three separate
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“We all gravitate to what we know – to find our comfort – to find our community,” offers Gorg. “Why is that not true in the businesses we frequent? It’s more than just flags, decorations and ads – it’s an attitude of wide acceptance. Even go-go boys (and girls on Saturday). It’s risky from the standpoint that some in the straight community now tell me they won’t come. I, we – hope that the support is there, even just for a drink once in awhile.” ,
rooms: “the bar area, the lounge area and the middle room for dancing.” And if numbers are any indication, the LGBT community seems to agree. “It’s been great,” offered Hill. “The weekends are definitely full. We’re getting a lot of good feedback on having a dance bar and having DJ’s that play good music. There’s some things we realize we’ve got to work on – the bathroom situation is one, we have two, single person bathrooms and on the weekends it’s a little overwhelming with that. The other is by just having the one bar things can get slow service-wise.” Plans are underway to renovate the patio for the season and to add satellite bars to accommodate service. “Honey.” offers a slate of signature drinks, including Honey Mint Cooler, made with cucumber vodka; the Bee Cool, made with gin and a splash of ginger beer and Honey Marmalade, made with Jack Daniels Honey. “It’s a very diverse crowd,” Hill concluded. “We’re very pleased with that.” V
networking Written by Thiago Martins de Magalhães Photography by Alex Galindo
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Today’s job society is changing. Say you’re a recent college graduate with some work experience, full of hopes and dreams for a career that has not quite yet started. You probably feel if you knew more people and had more professional contacts you would have better chances on finding a job, but where to start? Networking is the key to everything today. Here is a list of three local organizations which hold networking events in St. Louis every month. These professionals could help you increase your contact list and get you on your way. All you have to do is show up, bring your A-game (and business cards) and get talking!
Gateway Business Guild
HRC First Fridays
River City Professionals
The Human Rights Campaign was founded in 1980 and has since become the largest civil rights organization in the U.S., advocating for LGBT equality. The St. Louis chapter of HRC hosts the “First Fridays” social gathering every month to help bring more people onboard with HRC’s causes. As the name says, it happens every first Friday of the month each time at a different location. The March “First Fridays” took place at O’Shays Pub in The Grove. The event is free and open to everyone. www.hrc.org/steeringcommittees/st-louis
The Gateway Business Guild is an organization dedicated to connect LGBT owned businesses, LGBT-friendly businesses and LGBT professionals in St. Louis. The events organized by the Gateway Business Guild are free for their members but there is a cover charge for non-members. Their last gathering, Feb. 20, featured a presentation by A. J. Bockelman, Executive Director of PROMO, and Robyn Berkley, Associate Professor at Southern Illinois University – about discrimination at work. So in addition to having the chance to make new professional connections, you also get to learn something new! www.gatewaybusinessguild.org
The River City Professionals describes itself as “the young entrepreneurs and fresh thinkers of St. Louis.” They hold events every month, in a more laid back and intimate environment. All events are free and open to everyone. It is necessary to register online their website to receive information on when and where they will meet next. www.rivercityprofessionals.org
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How? how?
You know the places where you can network, but what if you don’t have a clue about how to approach people for professional contacts? Don’t worry! Dr. Bruce A. Johnson is here to help you! Dr. Johnson holds a Ph.D. in adult education, and has a business in which he offers resume writing services and career coaching. We talked about networking strategies and came up with tips and advice to make you a better networker:
There are many networking events held in St. Louis. What is the best way to approach someone? Is introducing yourself and giving a business card right away a good option? Start with a smile and set a positive tone. Don’t approach someone as if you are about to interrogate them. Establish rapport first and then move onto something more specific, such as sharing highlights from your background or career interests.
How do you move on without being rude?
This is the time to provide a business card and use that as a bridge to wrap up your conversation, while leaving the door open for future communication.
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Are there any specific rules on what to talk about? Stay focused on career trends and professional interests. Limit personal interests to initial talking points that may serve as an ice-breaker. You are there to make professional connections, not necessarily to make friends.
What is the dress code for a networking event?
While many people wear formal business dress clothes, business casual is also acceptable – provided that your clothes are well-laundered and you look professional.
How do you approach a possible business connection or employer found in an unexpected place (such as a bar) without being rude or awkward?
Use a simple introduction to begin with and then gauge how receptive they are. If you approach this carefully it won’t seem that you are trying to “get something” from them and they may be more willing to talk to you. Your disposition and tone will make a difference.
Are there any specific moments when it is best not to approach someone? If they are not available – either on
the phone, engaging with some form of technology or obviously having a conversation with someone else.
How do you make a good first impression?
Have a positive demeanor, avoid talking down to them or about anyone else and look for a way to create a connection. Be personable and relatable.
How should a person act during a follow-up meeting or job interview? Should they be more serious or professional?
A job interview requires professionalism. For this particular scenario the person is there at the interview because they made a connection, which means they know something about the potential employer. Before going to the interview they should have conducted research about the company. LinkedIn is a very helpful resource for finding background information about the company and the interviewer. The goal of the interview is to demonstrate they have skills and experience that are relevant to the job and the company. They should be prepared to answer questions about their background and career, and they need to have their own questions ready as the job search is about finding a mutual match. Happy networking and good luck! V
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April Fool’s Day – 4/1 Who doesn’t enjoy a good old prank? April 1st is the only day of the year when it is acceptable to laugh at the expense of others with no remorse. Celebrate the date with prank calls or making a friend worry with a made up story. Be creative, the sky is the limit!
Go! St. Louis Marathon – 4/6 http://www.gostlouis.org The 13th Annual GO! St. Louis Marathon & Family Fitness Weekend is scheduled for April 6-7, 2013. The popular event includes races for all ages and fitness levels, and attracts 25,000 each year. The event is Missouri’s largest competitive fitness event and includes a marathon, half marathon, marathon relay, 5K run/walk, children’s fun runs and a mature mile. If you want to participate, make sure to register on Go! St. Louis’ website.
Dada Ball & Dash – 4/6 Contemporary Art Museum, 3750 Washington Blvd., St. Louis, MO 63108 http://www.camstl.org/ Inspired by CAM’s current exhibition, Jeremy Deller: Joy in People, the Museum’s annual fundraiser extravaganza will celebrate contemporary British art and culture—featuring wild costumes, celebrity guests, eclectic dining and dancing into the night. Visit the CAM website page for a list of the events highlights and to buy tickets.
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St. Louis Cardinals Opening Day – 4/6 Busch Stadium, 700 Clark Ave, St. Louis, MO 63102 http://stlouis.cardinals.mlb.com Time for yet another season of baseball! Join the city and come cheer on the St. Louis Cardinals Opening day, April 8th. Visit the Cardinals’ website and click on schedule for more information and tickets.
Earth Day – 4/22 Earth Day was founded by Gaylord Nelson, then a U.S. Senator from Wisconsin, after witnessing the ravages of the 1969 massive oil spill in Santa Barbara, California. Inspired by the student anti-war movement, he realized that if he could infuse that energy with an emerging public consciousness about air and water pollution, it would force environmental protection onto the national political agenda. So let us all do our part and be conscious about our consumption and carbon footprint.
Million Dollar Quartet – 4/23 Fabulous Fox, 527 N. Grand Street, St. Louis, MO 63103 http://www.fabulousfox.com Million Dollar Quartet is the Tony Award winning Broadway musical, inspired by the electrifying true story of the famed recording session that brought together rock ‘n’ roll icons Elvis Presley, Johnny Cash, Jerry Lee Lewis and Carl Perkins for the first and only time.
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Mark Rumbak and Don Thake at Bastille
Nike Lake, A.J. Roach, Bryan Roling and Pat Tierney at The Handlebar
Lauren Rapp, Kailyn Davis and Tyler Cross (Siren) at Attitudes
Stacy Reese and Blake Phelps at Just John 48
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Jason Landers and Anthony Domijan at The Grey Fox
Scene & Styling
Kendall Edwards and Rico Suave at Rehab
Brian Cherry and Matt Rudolph at Novaks
Kailyn Davis, Bryan Ray (Suzy Cydal) and Paris Amor at The Grey Fox
Kaphia DuMonde at Korners
Amy and Patrick at honey.
Nino D’Ambrogio and Charlotte Sum Times at the Way Out Club
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