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NEWS

Idaho teaches sex ed Leslie Boston-Hyde Copy Editor

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Asst. News Editor

For children, the cost of cards and candy hearts is more than enough to win over the person you adored in class.

As the years pass, the limited expectations of childhood romance do as well.

When an average date for college students can consist of dinner at a local burger joint, Valentine’s Day dates are often expected to be more over the top and extravagant. They not only consist of a night out at a fine-dining restaurant but also flowers or a promise to do something out of the ordinary.

“I’ll probably spend $150 on dinner,” said Matt Monsen, senior business major.

“I mean I’m a pretty cheap individual but I’ll be going to Ruth’s Chris, which is an expensive restaurant, so I’m planning on paying $150, where as normally I would just pay $35.”

According to an article by the National Retail Federation, the average amount spent by people celebrating Valentine’s Day will be $142. In total, Americans are expected to spend more than $18 billion on candy, flowers, dinner and apparel this year.

Whether it’s said or not, the pressure to make Valentine’s Day special for a significant other mounts as the day gets closer.

“I think (there is pressure) and I think it’s usually the girl that puts a lot of pressure on,” said Catherine Tippets, junior psychology major. “They’re expecting some big, extravagant, fancy dinner or something like that. It’s over the top a lot of the time. It’s definitely a Hallmark holiday.”

After four years with her significant other, Tippets feels the day is more about spending time with the one she loves. Although she doesn’t expect anything special, her boyfriend usu-

ally does something for her anyway.

“For our first Valentine’s Day, he actually took me on a plane ride around the Treasure Valley,” Tippets said. “Other than that, it’s been flowers or the typical cheesy gifts: chocolates, teddy bears, stuff like that.”

Accrording to NRF, 37.8 percent of people will buy flowers, spending a total of $2.1 billion, and more than one-third of people (35.1 percent) will pay for a special night out, including movies and restaurants, totaling $3.6 billion.

For Claudia OrdonezLandry, freshman psychology major, Valentine’s Day means something a little different.

“It means lots of chocolate and sale candy the day after,” Ordonez-Landry said. “I’m going to go to the store the day after and grab all the sale candy because they’re going to try to get rid of it. I just like all the chocolate. That’s what I’m about.”

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Students are getting down and dirty whether they know how to have safe sex or not.

Idaho law does not require sexual education in public education.

Public high school districts individually decide if sex education should be in curriculum, and if it is incorporated, what is taught and what grade level it is introduced. The law states that families and churches have the “primary responsibility of family life and sex education.”

Some high school students in the Treasure Valley do receive sex education, however.

Kimberly Weatherill, senior graphic design major, recalled learning about means of protection within her sex education curriculum at Capitol High School.

“I was fortunate enough to have people who would talk to me about it, but I don’t think everyone has that. That’s how accidents happen,” Weatherill said. “(Sex education should be in public schools) because if they don’t, you’re relying on other people to, like families and parents.

Some people don’t have a good relationship or support system.”

Other students, such as Jacob Davlin, junior mechanical engineering major, had an instructor from the local health district teach on abstinence, how to have safe sex and the emotional aspect that can come when someone

engages in sex.

Davlin also had the information reinforced when he attended Skyview High School in Nampa.

“I mean, it’s necessary because people are going to have sex no matter what, whether they know about it or not, so it’s best that people have the best information to go off of and have protected sex rather than knocking everyone up,” Davlin said.

According to Stephanie Nobel, registered nurse at the Central Health District Department in McCall, approximately 60 percent of high school students in Idaho report not engaging in sexual activity.

Nobel is also an instructor for Reduce the Risk and teaches the program to sophomores in McCall.

She is concerned that her students aren’t grasping the information regarding contraception.

“I was trying to explain the birth control methods and, just conceptually, the kids’ brains aren’t fully developed,” Nobel said. “So then you kind of wonder, ‘Well, when they get a little older, are they going to remember and go to a clinic to get that teaching reinforced or not?’”

For Vincent Serio, doctor at Health Services at Boise State, sexual education is best when it includes clear health goals for prevention, linking goals to behaviors and incorporating strategies to improve decision making.

“You need to start influencing behaviors in early adolescence and middle adolescence before late

adolescence, which is the college age,” Serio said.

While some Idaho high schools do not include sex education, most students at Boise State are being safe. The Broncos are ranked 63 on the Trojan Sexual Health Report Card, four spots higher than in 2013.

Dorms are equipped with condom vending machines, the Norco Building supplies free condoms to any student and the Wellness Center has multiple sex education courses and outreach programs for students who want to participate.

According to Serio, the knowledge that students have carries over to their practices. Less than 5 percent of students who are tested for a sexually transmitted disease at the Health Center are positive.

“It’s pretty enlightening that sexually transmitted diseases or pregnancies are not in the top 15 diagnoses here every year,” Serio said.

Resources Women’s Center: womenscenter@ boisestate.edu Health Services: healthservices@ boisestate.edu Norco Building: 1529 Belmont Street

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NEWS

Employers vet students through social media Sean Bunce

Asst. News Editor

Whether you like it or not, your social media account may be the difference between landing your dream job and getting rejected.

From the pizza place down the street to large marketing firms, companies want to see if prospective employees will fit well within their organization. Employers search sites such as Twitter, Facebook, Linkedin and even Instagram, to see if applicants are professional, exercise good judgment and are passionate about their profession.

“When you’re hiring somebody, it costs a lot of money,” said Alex Gutierrez, associate director of the Career Center. “It’s not just flying-in for an interview: there’s a bigger picture. I’m hopefully looking at you long-term, so I’m going to make an investment in you.

If there’s something that can potentially raise a red flag, then I’m going to question that decision.”

A social recruiting survey conducted in 2014 by Jobvite found that 93 percent of job recruiters will look at a candidate’s social media account before deciding to hire that person.

Fifty-one percent of those recruiters reconsidered a candidate for employment, most of those because of negative content.

Although Linkedin is the most looked at in terms of job qualifications, employers will also look at Facebook and Twitter profiles for potential red flags including profanity, illegal drug reference, sexual posts, alcohol use, pictures of guns and even spelling and grammar mistakes.

“For any student going out there, I think it’s important, especially if they’re going into the job search, to be positive,” Gutierrez said. “I always say, ‘clean it up and/ or lock it up.’”

Gutierrez explains that ranting about work and other aspects of life can also work against potential job

candidates, doing more than just turning away employers.

“It also hurts you in your network, meaning that if you have an opportunity to recommend somebody for employment where you work and that person is always complaining about work… what are you going to say?

Would you put your reputation on the line for that person?” he said.

Kris Kerr, freshman social psychology major, believes some people may not understand that prospective employers would use social media as a place to look up applicants.

“People are still posting pictures of them partying and all that,” Kerr said. “I don’t really think they’re aware of what’s going on with companies. (I think) most people are ignorant to that, or maybe they don’t believe that it’s actually happening.”

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attention in class and to do your reading. If you are not paying attention, then you are not learning the information and there is nothing to turn into a memory.

Once you have learned a new concept, try to use as many senses as possible to relate back to the information: color-code notecards (visual cues), rewrite your notes (touch) and read your

notes out loud (hearing).

Get creative in the different ways that you study and learn.

Another trick is to relate the new information to something you already know. An example of this is to apply business concepts you are learning to your current job for your human resources class. Identify birds during your walk home from

school to beef up your ornithology skills.

The last tried and true memory improvement technique is to try teaching course concepts to a classmate in order to cement in the concept that you have just tackled.

Your memory is a limitless warehouse. Be sure that you are using it to your full potential.

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Netflix is true love Emily Pehrson Editor-in-Chief

Despite lingering ideas of Justin Timberlake and Jessica Alba, Netflix is the true heartthrob of our generation.

And, unlike celebrities who might slap you with a restraining order in return for your undying affection, Netflix has enough depth and substance to create a place for everyone.

For those of you who haven’t been entranced by the beautiful red glow of her header on your screen: it’s not her, it’s you. However it’s not too late for the love forlorn to turn to this leading lady and enjoy the benefits of her support.

I can honestly say Netflix is the healthiest relationship I’ve ever had. Further, it’s the best relationship the average college student can invest in.

As with all relationships, some things are more effective than others.

1. Don’t play with her

Netflix is happy to give you what you want but only if she knows. Having multiple people watching regularly under the same account plays with her emotions. How can she truly know you if you’re pass-

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ing her around?

Don’t worry about your best friend Jessica who is sharing your account: Netflix thought of her, too. She can have her own page and queue. Your freeloading buddy is welcome to share in the love without derailing your rapport, as long as she does it on her own page.

2. Communicate with her

Netflix is a lady. If you tell her the truth, she’ll respect you for it. Don’t be afraid to tell her “Trailer Park Boys” was one of the worst shows you’ve ever had the misfortune of watching. And give her a nod when the obscure British comedy she recommended tickles your socks off.

After two years of diligent, truthful rating Netflix will know what you like better than the people around you.

Her stamp of approval will be gold.

And, when Jessica recommends some terrible show about online gaming addicts and promises you’ll love it, take Netflix’s advice: if she says it two stars, it’s two stars.

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when, in shame, you mark “The Guild” with only two stars.

3. Be open to new things, change

I constantly hear people complain that the selection on Netflix is poor which is something I can hardly understand. My queue is always so full I never have time to watch it all, even if I continually delay my homework later and later into the night. The key to this is twofold: 1) you have to communicate (as I’ve mentioned before). 2) You can’t only watch the shows you saw network commercials for.

This is college. Live dangerously. Try something new.

And finally, be accepting when she changes. This is the hardest part of any relationship. Netflix will change and, yes, sometimes it will hurt.

When “Dr. Who” is taken out of the lineup and you’re not able to repeatedly torture yourself with the loss of Rose Tyler, you will experience a new sort of pain. But stick with her. Netflix will come back around and, eventually, she’ll reward you with new episodes of “House of Cards.”

Put others last, love yourself August McKernan Justin Kirkham Patty Bowen Arbiter Staff

Images of people holding hands, kissing and sugarsweet talking stalk students every Valentine’s day.

Relationships are huge, but they really shouldn’t be. Some students base their entire world around romance, while others wallow in loneliness.

“People talk way more about loving other people than they talk about loving themselves,” said Delaney Smith, freshman marketing major. “But I feel like you need to love yourself in order to love someone else.

You can’t really understand what love is until you love yourself.”

Acknowledgment of a broader and more diverse spectrum of love could play an important role in developing healthy self-image and self-worth, fully replacing the need for fickle, outside validation. “(Self-love is important because) it makes life worth living,” said Ranae Fannin, freshman exercise science major. “If you don’t love yourself, what do you love?”

Taking time to mold and craft yourself is vital before developing any further relationships.

“Sometimes I just like to go and get my hair cut or

get my nails just to feel pret- the fall semester, after our sorority started, we had a ty for a day,” Fannin said.

According to Mary thing called Fat Talk Free Pritchard, psychology pro- Week,” Smith said. “We all fessor, self-worth is the changed our profile pic“foundation of a healthy re- tures to something we love lationship.” A good mental about ourselves.”

Smith found that focusimage supports the mental and physical health of stu- ing on positive aspects of dents by helping safeguard oneself and complimenting others on their strengths them against depression.

These positive emotions can help to create a healthy boost the immune system environment for self-love.

This sort of action, comand help to deter mental health complications asso- bined with Fannin’s “treating yourself ” philosophy, is ciated with depression.

“I think negative self- incredibly useful nurturing esteem is a real problem, a stronger self-image and especially for college wom- bettering one’s self love. en,” Smith said. “It makes It can be extravagant like me sad because I feel that buying yourself several everyone should find them- new outfits from H&M or a selves beautiful.” social media #blessed post.

Negative self-images are It can be small like a perrampant and every student sonal reminders of worth should be aware of the toll but it is quintessential to their personal visualiza- remember to practice selftions have on their mental love whether you’re buywell-being. Regardless of ing flowers for yourself or identity, all students can someone else this Valenfind small ways to appreci- tine’s Day. ate themselves instead of “(For Valentine’s Day) vying for outside approval.

I’ll probably buy myself Smith currently belongs to the sorority Tri-Delta chocolate because I love who founded a program chocolate and splurge a called Body Image 3-D, little,” Fannin said. “Maybe which focuses on promot- go get my nails done for once.” ing a positive body image.

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Sal Mathis was embarrassed.

It was difficult enough speaking about his sexual orientation. Admitting that his boyfriend had sexually assaulted him was even harder.

“I honestly believed they would laugh me out of the (police) station,” said Mathis, a nurse at Boise’s St. Alphonsus.

“It wasn’t anything I had ever hear of: a gay man complaining that he’d been raped by his gay boyfriend.”

In recent years there has been a push to advocate and

raise awareness for victims of rape and domestic violence.

However in a subculture where members already feel alienated because of their sexual orientation, it can be difficult for the LGBT community to feel comfortable getting help.

“As a society all of our focus is on reaching women who are being hurt by men” said Rebecca Delong, advocate for the National Domestic Violence Hotline. “LGBT relationships happen between adult people so of course those participants experience the same dangers and violence ... I believe they’re represented in the statistics, even if it’s not explicitly stated.”

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million people are victims of intimate partner violence every year.

tural Student Services Center student support coordinator, believes the way LGBT members are portrayed in the media may impede their ability to speak openly about their relationships.

“Stereotypes from mainstream media can be damaging,” Geske said. “Homosexual couples are expected to be either promiscuous and non-committing or in perfect domestic bliss.”

According to Geske, most people see only the party-focused characters in television shows or the stalwart examples set forth by popular members of the LGBT community such as Neil Patrick Harris.

“There’s not a lot of difference between the violence seen between straight and queer relationships except for the safety nets there to protect them,” Geske said.

Because LGBT couples might already be alienated by their friends and family, many feel forced to stay in an unhealthy relationship, as they have no support system to pull them out.

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LGBT relationships happen between adult people so of course those participants experience the same dangers and violence ... I believe they’re represented in the statistics, even if it’s not explicitly stated.

—Rebecca Delong, National Domestic Violence Hotline

“I think people who identify as LGBT can face increased trouble ending an abusive relationship,” Delong said. “I think they already feel pressured not to cause any trouble because society is just now tenuously accepting them ... There aren’t a lot of resources directed at (LGBT members) and they’re a group at high risk from alienation from traditional support.”

A few years ago, Geske found himself in a relationship where his partner became increasingly controlling. He wasn’t able to get away on his own because he felt so reliant on his partner.

Eventually, when he could get away with the help of his sole supportive family member, Geske began receiving threats toward himself, his dogs, material possessions, friends and family.

Geske hopes that society can grow to a state where LGBT

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individuals, and all victims of violence, feel comfortable seeking help.

Looking back on his own situation, Mathis wishes that he could have spoken up and sought help.

“Rape and domestic violence are never OK and they are never normal,” Mathis said.

“It doesn’t matter what your sexual orientation is—you deserve better, and someone out there will listen and help.”

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Nearly half of all adults age 18 and up have experienced psychological aggression from an intimate partner

Resources Boise State Women’s Center: 208-426-4259 The National Domestic Violence Hotline: 1−800−799−7233 Idaho 24-hour Domestic Violence hotline: 1-800-669-3176 Boise State Couselling Services: (208) 426-1459

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Culture

Young couples debate early matrimony August McKernan Asst. Culture Editor

Shot by Cupid’s arrow?

Shotgun wedding.

Engagement announcements crowd Facebook, Twitter and Instagram feeds soon after high school graduation announcements. Some watch in horror as teenagers and young adults walk down the aisle. Others regard it as one of the most meaningful, valuable and ultimately wonderful experiences of their lives.

The hype concerning marriage can often create a biased culture that focuses on the

love aspects of matrimony in lieu of the logistical problems of creating a life together.

College of Idaho students, sophomore Brent Ruddy and junior Alethea Ruddy, married when they were just 19 and 20. They met the summer before Alethea Ruddy’s senior year at Borah High School and started spending time together due to a mutual involvement in church and choir.

“He asked me to Homecoming dance for our first date and we instantly clicked, saying things in unison multiple times during the evening,” said Alethea Ruddy. “I know

I was smiling the entire time.”

There are many appeals to marrying young. It can provide romantic, life-long companionship, financial security, social acceptance, love and security in an otherwise tumultuous world.

“People often marry young because they feel in love, which is why most people marry,” professor of psychology Roberto Refinetti said.

“But love is not enough.

Oftentimes, people overestimate the importance of love when they’re young and overlook the other stuff that makes a marriage successful.”

Published in the April

2014 issue of Journal of Marriage and Family, the study “Coresidence, Premarital Cohabitation, and Marriage Dissolution: 1985–2009” provided data on the divorce rate among those married young.

The study found that individuals who married at the age of 18 saw a 60 percent rate of divorce. Those who waited until 23 to commit; however, saw a divorce rate that hovered around 30 percent.

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Culture “There is a lot of social pressure on people to get married,” sociology lecturer Desiree Brunette said. “You aren’t really considered an adult until you’re married.

You haven’t experienced everything out there until you’re married. And you can’t truly live without having been married at least once in your life.”

Brunette hypothesized that people who marry young are often influenced by religious background or familial beliefs. Idaho, a state widely populated by Latter-day Saints, or LDS, especially exemplifies this belief.

Brent, a devout Christian,

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was influenced by his religion in his decision to marry but did not feel pressured in any way.

“My entire view of marriage is influenced by my religious beliefs,” Brent Ruddy said. “As Christians, we marry to display love the same way Christ has displayed love to us. A man is meant to love his wife the way Christ loves the church.

Sexual union is a symbol of this love, and for that reason, Alethea and I chose to remain sexually pure until marriage. However, our church in no way pressured us to marry young.”

According to Brunette, many stereotypes and stig-

mas surround marrying young.

These include the assumptions that those who marry young are either overly religious, an unplanned pregnancy occurred or that they are simply dumb.

She believes this negativity exists “because of the fact that we have had such high divorce rates, both in the younger age group and

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overall. We’re fairly jaded about marriage.”

Movies, books and advertisements tell students a story about what the perfect marriage should be like. It should be harmonious and happy, include passionate lovemaking and most importantly, never end.

According to Brunette, there’s a disconnect be-

Marriage is so idealized in the media that most people have a false sense of what marriages should be like.

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tween what students are being told they should experience and the reality of daily life.

“Marriage is so idealized in the media that most people have a false sense of what marriage should be like,” said Brunette. “So when people see their parents divorce or even experience it themselves, they become very jaded about the future.”

It seems as though this perspective hasn’t spread to the Ruddy household yet.

“I believe that Brent and I made an educated decision to marry. Since we are still in school, pursuing our individual dreams, it hasn’t made a drastic change in the direction of our lives,”

said Alethea. “We just get to create life together. Marriage is a big decision and commitment, but it is a lot less restrictive than people may think. I am forever committed to someone I love to be around and it is freeing.”

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Culture

This relationship is not a lie

Tumblr users meet over Skype call, fall in love with reblogs, text messages Justin Kirkham Managing Editor

Sometimes you see them across the classroom, furiously scribbling the date at the top of their fresh, unused notebook.

Other times you see them in a sea of bobbing faces. And, in the least likely of times, you might only hear the voice of your future partner.

Boise resident Michelle Reisz and Texas resident and English student Eileen Garbur, whose names have been changed to prevent search engine detection, met over a Skype call celebrating the anniversary of Valve’s popular video game, “Portal.”

“We gathered together with people from the fandom,” Garbur said. “I added a few people as new contacts afterwards, and Michelle added me.”

From there, the pair began exchanging Skype messages and Tumblr messages until their friendship grew into something much stronger.

In the end, Garbur realized her feelings for Riesz were more fervent than those for her boyfriend. After processing her emotions, Garbur broke the news to her boyfriend, called Riesz on her drive home and formally asked her to be her girlfriend.

Online vs physical interaction

The majority of the couple’s interaction stems from Skype calls, Tumblr reblogs, text messages and phone calls.

“I think, in a way, our relationship is much stronger than ones in person,” Riesz said.

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“We have to put in the effort to do things online with each other.”

According to Riesz, this helped the pair forge a relationship based on mutual appreciation and emotional companionship instead of immediate, physical pleasure.

“If any relationship is purely about physical attraction, it’s going to burn out,” Garbur said.

In the study “The Internet and Social Life,” New York University researchers John Bargh and Katelyn McKenna explore the complexities of online relationships.

“Tendencies to idealize one’s often-absent partner causes long-distance couples to report higher relationship satisfaction compared with geographically close relationships,” they wrote.

Even further, Bargh and McKenna wrote about the phenomenon surrounding self-introductions in an anonymous realm. Online, people have no preconceptions about each other, and therefore have to describe themselves for new potential friends. This disclosure creates a heightened sense of intimacy and can facilitate stronger relationships.

Meeting in person

During the final months of 2014, Riesz was able to book a plane ticket to Texas and meet Garbur in person while her parents were out of town.

“When she stepped off the plane, it was like she was coming home,” Garbur said.

“We already knew each other so well. I knew exactly what

she looked like and what she sounded like.”

Because they had grown to know each other in all facets, they were able to jump right into sync where they had left off over text message.

“It wasn’t like the only thing I knew about her was her Internet history or her blog,” Riesz said. “I knew her personally and she knew me.”

Moving forward online

While the currently distanced couple misses each other’s presence on a daily basis, their main struggle is more focused on conservative parents.

Reisz’s parents are aware of the relationship, but often dismiss it. Garbur, however, knows what telling her parents would cause.

“They would make me cut off all contact with Michelle,” Garbur said. “They’re huge homophobes.”

Because they have to tread carefully around potentially unsupportive peers, the couple is unable to make their relationship completely public. They hope to one day be able to see each other constantly and be intrinsically involved in every way possible. But, until they can garner further support, they have to lay low.

Until then, the pair continues to spend time together online, streaming movies in unison and cultivating their blogs together.

“It’s like walking down the road in comfortable shoes,” Garbur said. “For us it’s normal, it doesn’t get old and we’re happy doing it.”

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Leslie Boston-Hyde Copy Editor

Suffering from a severe back injury and muscle atrophy at age 42, SuChen Gee felt hopeless. She struggled to find a form of fitness that didn’t aggregate her injuries, including a senior swimming class.

In March of 2012, she noticed that her hairdresser looked slimmer and happier.

After learning that the results came from pole dancing, Gee decided to give it a shot.

“I couldn’t do a lot, but I was so elated that it didn’t hurt my back and neck,” Gee said. “I was just so excited that I could

do anything.”

Gee fell in love with the sport, losing 45 pounds and gaining large amounts of muscle mass. Soon she was the owner of Ophidia Studio in Boise.

“Pole literally changed and saved my life,” Gee said.

Pole dancing has grown as a form of fitness across the world. According to the International Pole Dance Fitness Association, Fawnia Dietrich began the revolution in 1994, holding the first pole dancing class for non-performers and founded the first pole dancing school.

This has resulted in schools

and classes popping up across the nation, including some YMCA’s teaching pole dancing classes. Major performing groups, such as Cirque du Soleil, now include pole dancing as a part of their act. Dancers can also compete in national competitions.

Pole dancing is a fast growing form of exercise in the Boise area as well. Ophidia had 132 new students in January, with the majority signed up for pole.

People have also found coupons on the website Groupon and decided to try pole, including junior health science major Sarah Bird and Boise

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State graduate Jen Call.

“My neighbor used to do pole dancing, and she was like, ‘It’s a really good workout,’” Bird said. “I know from the class I took yesterday and today—my whole upper body is incredibly sore.”

While Call had only taken one class, she enjoyed her experience and felt the physical demand required to pole dance.

“I didn’t feel a ton of cardio, like I don’t feel my heart rate was raised, but it definitely takes a lot of strength to hold yourself when you’re spinning,” Call said. “I could feel my muscles being fatigued.”

Gee has witnessed many students benefit from pole dancing. They have lost weight, increased muscle tone and improved their flexibility.

Her favorite part however, is seeing people connect with their bodies.

“People don’t understand the physical exertion that it takes to pole dance,” Gee said.

“It’s just different because you have to connect with yourself and it is just damn empowering.”

Some want to see the sport reach the international competition level. K.T. Coates, president of International Pole Sports Federation, has been working to have pole in the Olympics in the near future.

Coates has focused on creating rules, regulations and scoring guidelines to align with Olympic standards.

Gee hopes to continue to expand Ophidia and show people that pole dancing has many health benefits.

“It’s a great way to express yourself, get in shape and make that connection,” Gee said.

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Students mount the pole for fitness

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The Broncos faced Arizona State earlier this year.

Wrestling team fights uphill battle Ali Roberts Staff Writer

A disappointing season has not affected the mentality of the Boise State wrestling team.

Despite a 3-8 overall record—1-5 in Pac-12 matches—being far below the expectations of a once highly-ranked program, the team knows there are still opportunities to redeem this season.

“It has been a tough season for us,” senior Steven Hernandez said. “There’s still time and we need to come back and be ready for the Pac-12 tournament so our key goal for this season is just to finish strong.”

The primary lineup used by the Broncos this year is comprised of mostly freshmen that haven’t wrestled in these types of situations before.

“I think these guys just

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need to figure it out,” Hernandez said. “I think a lot of it is mental. Everybody needs to focus on their ability and what they are good at.”

“That’s one of the things that helped me out was my head game. Getting mentally tough, mentally strong, it was one of my big problems in my college career and I’m starting to get it. Once these guys get if figured, out they will be okay.”

Despite the team’s youth, head coach Greg Randall believes the team needs to better understand wrestling at the collegiate level.

“We got guys that just don’t know how to wrestle seven minutes. I know we are young but they have to learn one way or another that you’ve got to keep the pressure on your opponent,” Randall said.

The team currently has

an overall record of 3-8 since losing to Oregon State 29-6 in Corvallis on Feb. 8.

Boise State also lost to the Beavers at home on Dec. 13, 31-3.

With only one more dual meet remaining—at trip to Laramie, Wyoming on Feb. 15 to take on Wyoming— Randall has begun to shift the team’s focus to the Pac12 Championships.

Oregon State will host the Pac-12 Championships on Mar. 1.

“I think I might just throw all the goals out and get back to just hard work,” Randall said. “I mean that’s the only thing we know how (to do). I mean you’re losing you’re struggling and you got to get back into the wrestling room and the weight room and bust your butt and wrestle harder if you want to get better.”

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multiplayer dot game

dot game rules Players take turns to join two adjacent dots with a horizontal or vertical line. If a player completes the last side of a box they initial that box and then draw another line. When all the boxes have been completed the winner is the player who has initialled the most boxes.

Da riddles

1. What jumps when it walks and sits when it stands?

2. How many eggs can you put in an empty basket?

3. A blue man lives in a blue house. A green man lives in a green house. Who lives in the white house?

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Da riddles from monday 1. A bookkeeper 2. all of them 3. a nose

february recipes How To Make Breakfast Egg & Cheese Quesadilla

Ingredients: 2 flour tortillas, 2 eggs, 4 oz. of shredded Mexican cheese, and 1 tbsp. of cooking oil.

Directions: Prepare the scrambled eggs first and set aside once done. Once finished, lay one tortilla in the frying pan and cover evenly with a handful of shredded cheese. Continually check the tortilla is cooking every 1-2 minutes. Using a spoon or fork, spread the scrambled eggs onto the tortilla and any other seasonings/sauces that you would like. Use a fork or spatula to gently press down & seal the quesadilla’s edges, to prevent cheese and egg from oozing out. Once the initial tortilla has sufficiently browned and the cheese has began to melt, use a spatula to carefully flip the entire quesadilla to allow for the other side to cook. Cook for 2-3 more minutes, until the second tortilla has also browned and become adequately crisp. Let cool for about 3 minutes. Cut into manageable pieces and enjoy your delicious breakfast!

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