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VOL.29, NO.2
Taking a chance on romance
The dating service option At the same time, Grossman, a resident of Rockville, Md. who has been married twice, says, “I think I’m done with marriage. I’ve done too many tours of duty.” Also, unlike Finkel, Grossman has eschewed online dating. “I’ve never really been into computer dating because I’ve heard too many negatives about it — that people weren’t really what they appeared to be in their biographies or their pictures,” he said. Instead, Grossman turned to Options —
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By Barbara Ruben Hillary Finkel discovered “it was a whole new world out there” when she decided to try online dating four years after her husband passed away — swiping right or left, catphishing, photo editing apps that make people look 10 years younger. Finkel considers herself lucky that she didn’t encounter anyone who had created a fictional persona, the definition of catphishing, and didn’t venture onto Tinder — a dating app where users swipe their fingers left to reject a profile or right to say they’d like to learn more. In fact, using the online dating sites Match.com and JDate, which is for Jewish singles, she “met a lot of really nice people. But we didn’t click, for me at least. The chemistry wasn’t there,” she said. It took some perseverance, but Finkel reports that, “Finally, I was very successful and met the love of my life.” Finkel, who is 59 and an attorney who just published her first novel, recently moved from Howard County to Bethesda to live with the boyfriend she met online. Whether people are looking for love at one of the dozens of dating websites that promise happily ever afters (or short-term flings), or using dating services that serve as matchmakers, many of those over 50 have a different outlook on dating than they did when they were in their 20s. “We’re older, and we’re wise enough to know what we want,” said Stephen Grossman, 65. “Our philosophy changes as we get older. Companionship and friendship have moved up as priorities. The concept of give and take has grown as we’ve gotten older. It’s a two-way street.”
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ARTS & STYLE Naiomi Kooritzky founded Options dating service 23 years ago. More recently, she started a Prime Time matchmaking service for older adults. People looking for love later in life usually have a different set of priorities than when they were in their 20s. But like young people today, more of them are turning to online dating sites and companies that screen participants.
a dating service that matches up clients after a thorough screening process that can include an interview and in-depth questionnaire about preferences. This more personal touch can help establish trust and ensure compatibility, said Naiomi Kooritzky, who founded Options 23 years ago in Tysons Corner, Va. The company now works with clients nationwide. She says that Options has an 87 percent success rate, defined by the number of members who put their profiles on hold for at least a year, signaling they are in a long-term relationship. “Sadly, we live in a society where people have an insatiable shopping mentality,” Kooritzky said. “When it comes to dating, they think they’re on Amazon shopping for a mate. It’s all about what someone sees on
the surface, and that skews. That can be totally distorted.” A few years ago, she began Options Prime Time for clients over 50. Her father, a retired lawyer, now oversees that program. “We realized we have a number of older clients, and they have some differing needs and priorities,” Kooritzky said. In fact, most clients in Prime Time are in their 60s through 80s. Among the questions asked of participants in this program are ones about hearing loss and whether they walk with a cane. If they answer yes to either question, “we tell them it will be more challenging. We [also] tell people if they’re obese it’s going to be more challenging. We tell people if See DATING, page 16
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