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When grown kids move back in
Blame it on the economy The Applebys certainly aren’t alone in finding their nest not so empty after their children grew up. According to a 2009 survey by the Pew Research Center, 13 percent of parents with grown children reported that one of their adult sons or daughters had moved back home during the year. In large part, this trend has been fueled by difficult economic times. While the recession has touched Americans of all ages, it has hit young adults particularly hard. A job loss — or the inability to find a job in the first place — makes it difficult to
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By Carol Sorgen Columbia residents Wendy and Michael Appleby’s two children moved back home after college, joining other “boomerang” kids of their generation who have fled the “real world” and are once again living with Mom and Dad. Their son Jared, now 26, stayed for six months before fleeing the confines of home. “He hated it here,” Wendy recalled. By contrast, she said that having their daughter Lauren home for the past four years has been “copacetic.” Lauren agreed. “It’s pretty easy here.” “I wanted to save my money for the future,” said Lauren, 25, co-owner of Serendipity, a clothing and gift boutique in Highland, Md. That future is coming up next year, when Lauren and her fiancé will be married (and, it is assumed, moving out on their own). Wendy, 53, an interior designer and dental hygienist, and Michael, 56, a member of the Secret Service, said they always assumed Lauren would come back home. Still, despite their obvious good rapport with each other, there have been times when issues had to be dealt with. “If something annoys me, I just make a snide remark,” Wendy chuckled. “Lauren always gets it and changes whatever it is that’s irritating me.” Similarly, Wendy admitted that though it was difficult for her, she realized she had to start backing off: “If [Lauren] were living on her own, I wouldn’t know everything she’s doing, so I shouldn’t necessarily know it just because she’s here. On some levels, ignorance is bliss!”
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Wendy and Michael Appleby welcomed their grown daughter Lauren back home four years ago. Like many among the growing number of such “boomerang kids,” Lauren moved in with her parents to save money. When adult children return home, open communication about expectations on both sides can avoid strain.
pay rent. According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, in October 2009, 15.6 percent of those 20 to 24 years old were unemployed compared with 8.7 percent of those over 25. Kids come home for other reasons, too. They may be in debt from college loans, they may be getting over a divorce, or they may just realize they can’t afford the comfy lifestyle they had been used to at home. But parents bear some part of the responsibility for this phenomenon, too. “Boomerang kids are home not just because of the recession, but also because in the past generation there has been a shift in child-rearing,” said psychiatrist Scott
Haltzman, author of The Secrets of Happy Families: Eight Keys to Building a Lifetime of Connection and Contentment. “We have treated our kids like friends, allies and colleagues,” he said. “We’ve blurred the lines that once clearly defined the parent-child relationship. “We’re much more indulgent than our parents were,” Haltzman continued, “and we’ve made home a really comfortable place for our kids. They have little desire to leave. They experience some independence at college and then they’re ready to come home.” See BOOMERANG KIDS, page 14
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