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Being gay and gray in Howard
New county task force The task force began meeting a few months ago. It is now composed of 10 members, including social workers, lawyers, county Office on Aging officials, and other advocates. Its goal is to help the local older LGBT community with any problems it faces, and to educate county residents about the LGBT community. According to Dayna Brown, who recently left the county Office on Aging after being its Administrator for the past three years, the impetus behind the new task force was not a rise in documented cases or complaints of discrimination lodged with the county. In fact, Nicole Baptiste Patterson, the Howard County Office on Aging ombuds-
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By Robert Friedman “As Bette Davis said, ‘Old age ain’t no place for sissies,’ so imagine what it means to be old and gay,” said Imani Woody, a human services specialist who works with older lesbians, gays, bisexuals and transsexuals in what is today known as the LGBT community. What it could mean for many LGBT older adults, especially if they go into assisted living or nursing homes or need special services, is a return to the closet as they face prejudice from other elderly residents or caregivers, said Woody, who recently brought her message to Howard County. Woody, founding director of Mary’s House, a new affordable housing option for LGBT older adults in Washington, D.C., recently presented the documentary Gen Silent in Columbia on behalf of the newly formed LGBT Older Adult Task Force for Howard County. Woody led a discussion about the film, which showed how older LGBT people fear discrimination by caregivers or bullying by other seniors. The fears are no doubt based on experience. In a recent Pew Research Center survey of LGBT individuals of all ages, 30 percent of respondents reported being threatened or physically attacked, and 21 percent said they had been treated unfairly by an employer. Nearly 4 in 10 reported being rejected by family or friends because of their sexual orientation. That said, it is difficult to find first-hand reports of discrimination against older LGBT adults here in Howard County.
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Susan Garner and Genna Browne got married in Ellicott City last year, when Maryland legalized same-sex marriages. Like many area LGBT couples, they say they have found Howard County to be welcoming, though there persists a perception that prejudice may still be a problem in some quarters.
man for people living in long-term care homes, said in her seven months on the job she has had no complaints of LGBT issues from residents of the homes in the county. Similarly, Vernon Gray, administrator of the Howard County Office of Human Rights, said he has received no recent complaints regarding the treatment of older LGBT adults. Still, there appears to be a strong perception among advocates that either problems exist and are not being reported, or that older LGBT adults are so afraid of a backlash that they avoid discrimination by keeping their sexual identity under wraps. “There’s no real data in Howard County” about such prejudice, Woody said. “But there is data about prejudice nationally,
and I don’t think Howard County would be that much different.” Task force member Jessica Rowe, a social worker and geriatric care manager, said, “We are all aware that as LGBT adults get older, they have to use such formal services as hospitals, healthcare agencies and nursing homes, and they may feel that they will be forced back into the closet or are afraid of discrimination.” Rowe noted that while there are antiLGBT discrimination laws for Maryland hospitals, she has heard of instances where staff members were reluctant to treat gay patients. Furthermore, there’s the fact that older adults came of age in a time when anti-gay See GAY AND GRAY, page 15
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