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volume 10, edition 2
c ontents what’s hot
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get some sleep
moms dish out baby sleep advice
celebrate
32 daphne oz’s foodie, fun & fuss-free pregnancy her secrets for relishing pregnancy 38 map out your pregnancy find everything you need—locally 44 ultrasound photos decoded baby’s first photo op 46 the crazy rules for naming your baby we break it down by state 54 what to quit list ditch these habits 56 q+a from meds to counting baby’s kicks
glow
58 moms in motion do intense workouts and pregnancy mix? 64 olivia wilde’s inspiring looks the star’s maternity wardrobe 66 symptoms you should never ignore what’s normal and what’s not 68 fashion checklist maternity wardrobe staples 70 q+a from belly buttons to midnight snacks
beyond
basics
delivery
nest
glow
celebrate
6 congrats a note from carley 8 meet our contributors pros who made this issue possible 10 the social club tweet, post and pin us 12 bumpie buzz baby news in los angeles and beyond 16 funny things that happen while trying to get pregnant making a baby isn’t all candles and romance 18 reasons to exercise during pregnancy real motivators to hit the gym 20 in the limelight citrus-hued baby gear 22 it’s in the bag must-haves for the hospital 24 the name game top california names— now and then 28 how big is baby? weekly growth and development
on the cover
Photography by KT Merry. Fashion styling by Annie Cavallo for Ennis Inc. Hair and makeup by Susan Donoghue for Ennis Inc. On model: sweater, Vince at select A Pea in the Pod stores; jeans, Joe’s Jeans at APeainthePod.com.
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lessons for a labor coach hand this advice to your partner
celebrate
nest
nest
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72 cool and collected a worldly nursery that inspires 78 what to register for the essentials for you and baby 80 babyproofing guide prep your pad with this checklist 82 q+a from nursery design to college savings
delivery
delivery
beyond
basics
92 my birth story a los angeles area mom shares 94 natural birth 101 what it means to plan a med-free delivery 104 birth plan use this checklist to prepare for labor 106 q+a from stages of labor to cutting the cord
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108 vaccine fears answers to your biggest questions 112 head of the class local classes to help you ace parenting 114 get pumped solutions to breast pump problems 120 you’re on call what to do with your tiny patient 124 q+a from baby poop to hiring a sitter
beyond
126 ready for bed bring on the big kid bed 128 5 toddler-friendly hot spots explore your hood with baby 130 get hooked organize your toddler 132 what parents around the world think you’re doing wrong parenting lessons from across the globe 136 toddler chore chart start small with this basic list 138 q+a from weaning to preschool
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There’s so much to know and do now that you’re pregnant, and if it’s your first, this is unchartered (read: overwhelming) territory. This handy guide will help by giving you the most essential info, like where to take the best childbirth classes and how to actually get baby to sleep (not always easy!). Want more? TheBump.com has expert answers to every question you may have. Plus, a huge club of other new parents and parents-to-be to chat with and compare notes. We’re all in this together!
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meet our
contributors MELANIE ACEVEDO, PHOTOGRAPHER
what did you love most about your pregnancy?
Being pregnant with my daughter Violet was the best time of my life. I never felt more sexy! I got a pair of black leather pants and a bunch of tank tops and rocked that look for nine months. Pregnant women are beautiful. @melanieacevedophoto
CHRISTINE SCHMIDT, DESIGNER
how did you make those amazing diy projects for your daughter’s nursery (p. 72)? It was convenient! I was writing my book, Yellow Owl’s Little Prints, while I was pregnant, so the projects worked for both. My mom was an art teacher and she’s the inspiration for most of them. @yellowowlwkshop
ADRIAN KULP, WRITER
I can’t have a favorite—I have to be equal. The day my daughter Ava was born was one of the happiest days of my life. After Charlie was born, and they asked me to cut the umbilical cord, I cried. With Mason, I simply thought about how truly lucky I am. @dad_or_alive
our expert panel
Ashley S. Roman, MD, ob-gyn and clinical assistant professor in the Department of Obstetrics and Gynecology at NYU Langone Medical Center; Preeti Parikh, MD, pediatrician at Pediatrics of New York, assistant clinical professor in the Pediatrics Department at the Icahn School of Medicine at Mount Sinai and a fellow of the American Academy of Pediatrics; Amy Tara Koch, fashion expert and author of Bump It Up; Nicole Meadow, MPN, RD, nutritionist and founder of NutritionWise; Shoshana Bennett, PhD, clinical psychologist and author of Beyond the Blues; Jennifer Ritchie, IBCLC and author of I Make Milk, What’s Your Superpower?
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the social
club
We dish out honest advice, along with our moms and moms-to-be, and share creative pics on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram.
We asked new moms to share the
must-haves they couldn’t live without, and here’s what they said: “A yearlong membership to a spa! Don’t be shy, ask for yourself.”
“DreamBelly Butter from Fairhaven Health! I swear by it—it’s so great.”
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–JAMIE K.
“INSPIRING BABY SHOWERS” IS OUR MOST POPULAR BOARD Moms-to-be can’t stop pinning décor, dessert and game ideas for their upcoming fetes. Get inspired at Pinterest.com/thebump
“Nipple balm. You never think you’ll need it (I didn’t!), but seriously, it’s a lifesaver.” –GILLIAN O. FACEBOOK.COM/THEBUMP
We’re tweeting around the clock about all the latest fertility, pregnancy and parenting news and trends—so you never miss a beat.
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We’re ready to go on camera with Kathie Lee and Hoda!
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Go behind-the-scenes with our editors for a sneak peek at all the fun we’re having backstage—and at the office!
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What’s new for you in Los Angeles and beyond.
COMMUNITY CARE There’s a brand-new spot to deliver baby in South Los Angeles. Serving the area’s 1.2 million residents, Martin Luther King, Jr. Community Hospital opened its doors earlier this year and features state-of-the-art labor and delivery services. Expect a welcoming environment and a nurturing multilingual staff. (MLKCommunityHospital.org)
resources granted Pregnant women and new moms in LA County will be seeing improved care thanks to a grant from March of Dimes. The funding, given to the LA Best Babies Network, will be used to educate local women about topics like gestational diabetes, breastfeeding and postpartum health. (LABestBabies.org)
hey Facebook, I’m pregnant! In a recent survey on TheBump .com, 63 percent of moms-to-be said they used social media to announce their pregnancies to friends and family first.
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what do you think?
genius idea or scary trend? the c-tuck
Women delivering via c-section are staying under the knife a little bit longer—to get a tummy tuck right after birth. Sounds like a great start to getting fit postbaby, but doctors warn of the risk of complications. “You’re more likely to get blood clots and to retain fluid,” says Karol A. Gutowski, MD, FACS. “There’s also a higher risk of infection when you’re operating on the uterus.” Our verdict? Scary.
b uckle up, baby Safety alert! As baby grows, he’ll eventually be too heavy for the LATCH system (your car’s anchors and tethers made to keep his car seat in place). According to new guidelines released by the National Highway Traffic Safety Administration, if baby and his car seat weigh more than 65 pounds combined, it’s no longer safe to use LATCH anchors. Instead, use your car’s seat belt and buckle to secure the seat.
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funny things that happen
while trying to get pregnant Sure, making a baby can be all candles and romance, but it can also be pretty wild (and a little embarrassing).
“I NEVER WOULD HAVE GUESSED I’D MEASURE HOW LONG MY CERVICAL MUCUS STRETCHED BETWEEN MY FINGERS. EW!” –DIANA Y.
“Honey! It’s 7:02 and we were supposed to trigger at 7! Hurry up—we’re missing our chance!” – KINGSGAL
–DANIELLE T.
–LAUGHQUEEN
“I stuck myself multiple times a day with a needle, had countless transvaginal ultrasounds, and spent thousands of dollars—all worth it!”
–MELISSASMOM
“I would lie in bed for 20 minutes after sex with my legs in the air. And my husband would time me!” –SUZIEQ
“I NEVER THOUGHT I’D BE CALLING AN IVF CLINIC TO SEE HOW MANY OF MY EGGS FERTILIZED!” –MARY S.
“After sex I made a beeline to the bathroom, and my husband yelled, ‘Hey! Are you peeing out our children?’ ” –KAYLA M.
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NAMES HAVE BEEN CHANGED
“I never thought I’d send this text when I got a positive on my ovulation predictor kit: ‘Code: Blinking Smiley, I repeat, we are at Code: Blinking Smiley.’ ”
“My husband makes an imploding sound, as if he knows exactly when his sperm has made it past my cervix.”
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reasons to exercise
during pregnancy
You’re swamped. You’re exhausted. You have crib shopping to do. There are tons of excuses not to hit the gym while pregnant, so we rounded up some real motivators. BY MEREDITH FRANCO MEYERS
Pregnant and grumpy? Even a little bit of exercise goes a long way toward improving your mood. And there’s actual science behind this. When your heart gets pumping, blood flows to your brain and endorphins are triggered. Endorphins are known as the body’s happy chemicals, and they usually kick in after 30 minutes or more of exercise. The more endorphins, the merrier!
you’ll have a healthier baby
Exercise is important in managing your weight gain, and in a Boston study, women who gained more weight during pregnancy increased their odds of delivering heavier babies. High birth weight predicts an increased body mass index later in life. In other words, exercise helps prevent weight issues for baby.
bonus!
Exercise now to help your body bounce back postbaby.
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complications are less likely
Expectant moms who keep working out tend to have lower blood pressure and a lower chance of developing gestational diabetes or getting preeclampsia, a scary medical condition that can mean bed rest, labor induction and birth complications.
you’ll have fewer aches and pains
When you get your heart rate up, you’re actually improving your body’s circulation. And that means less pressure on your joints. So there’s hope for those swollen, stiff ankles. Ditto for varicose veins.
you may avoid tearing or a c-section
Having a strong pelvic floor makes you more likely to be able to push baby out fast if needed—and avoid tearing or needing an emergency cesarean.
labor will be easier and faster (yay!)
A New Zealand study reported that expectant moms who exercise for at least 40 minutes up to five times per week are more likely to have babies of normal birth weight, who are easier to push out. Plus, fit women are more flexible, exhibit better muscle control and breathe easier while pushing too.
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you’ll be less moody
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in the
limelight
The citrus hue takes center stage with the latest baby gear.
pack it up
JJ Cole Collections’s System 180 bag is so chic dad will love using it. $70, BabiesRUs.com
have a seat
Svan’s sunny Bentwood chair goes from six months to five years. $180, Diapers.com
smooth ride
The stylish Dot stroller by phil&teds definitely turns heads. $450, BuybuyBaby.com
suds up!
Boon’s Naked bath collapses for easy storage. $70, BoonInc.com
safety first
Clek’s Foonf seat comes with extended rear-facing abilities up to age four. $450, Shop.ClekInc.com
cute cot
Babyhome’s Dream cot brightens up mom and dad’s room. $300, BabiesRUs.com
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it’s in the
bag
Get packing! You’ll feel less crazed if you’ve got a bag packed with everything you and baby will need at the hospital. Prep these items by week 35. PHOTOGRAPH BY KT MERRY
for labor/delivery: Insurance info, hospital forms and birth plan 2–3 pairs of warm, nonskid socks (for walking the halls) Headband or ponytail holder
A warm robe or sweater 2 maternity bras—no underwire—and nursing pads (whether or not you plan to nurse, you’ll appreciate the support and leak protection) Lip balm (also to combat dry hospital air)
Toiletries and personal items—hairbrush, toothbrush, toothpaste, face wash, deodorant, makeup, conditioner, lotion, contact lens case and solution (remember, travel-size products are your friend) Eyeglasses Pen and paper $1 bills and change for the vending machines and nonperishable snacks (you’ll probably be hungry after labor, and the hospital cafeteria could be closed)
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Sugar-free hard candy to keep your mouth moist (hospitals are dry, and sugar will make you thirsty)
for your stay:
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Cell phone and charger— program in phone numbers of people to call or text before and after birth, if you haven’t already Camera, if you’re using one, extra memory card, and battery or charger Flip-flops for the shower if you’re sharing a bathroom
for going home:
Comfortable going-home clothes in six-month maternity size and flat shoes (sorry, but you’ll still look pregnant) A coming-home outfit for baby
Warm baby blankets (for the ride home)
extras (take ’em or leave ’em—up to you!):
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Extra pillow (warning: it may get ruined) Bath towel (the hospital will likely provide a small, thin one) Soap, shampoo and heavy flow sanitary pads (the hospital supplies these things, but bring your own if you’re picky about brand) Hair dryer
don’t forget
Baby’s car seat! It won’t go in the bag obviously, but baby can’t go home without it.
Nightgown (your own might help you feel more like yourself than a hospital gown will) Slippers Breast pump, if you think you’ll use one
leave at home:
Any clothes or pajamas you really like (they could get stained) Stopwatch (your nurse or a monitor will take care of timing contractions)
Very light reading (think celeb mags, not War and Peace)
tip
Your iPod or tablet (loaded with your favorite tunes, of course), ear buds and mini-speaker
moms say avoid these
Massage oil and tools, like rolling pins or tennis balls, and lucky or inspirational objects (you may not even use them, but they’re good to have!) Ear plugs and eye mask (if you have trouble sleeping in a noisy, busy place) A duffle bag packed with a change of clothes and basic hygiene products for your partner
“Keep the baby book at home. You won’t have time to fill it out!” —JACQUELINE R. “We brought a bunch of outfits and diapers. But we used one outfit for taking baby home in and none of the diapers!” —MAYA R.
“We brought Monopoly. Um...don’t bring a board game!” —LILMSPRISS83
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the
name game
Wow, names sure have changed! Here’s the Social Security Administration’s list of the top 10 names for boys and girls in California—now and then.
top 10 boys’ names today
30 years ago
Jacob Ethan Daniel Jayden Matthew Noah Alexander Anthony Nathan David
Michael Christopher David Daniel Matthew Robert Jason Ryan Joshua Joseph
top 10 girls’ names
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today
30 years ago
Sophia Isabella Mia Emma Emily Olivia Sofia Camila Abigail Samantha
Jennifer Jessica Nicole Melissa Sarah Elizabeth Michelle Stephanie Christina Ashley
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get some
sleep
No, you’re not doomed to be exhausted forever. Moms who’ve been there before share the baby sleep advice that ultimately saved their sanity. PHOTOGRAPH BY KT MERRY
“Babies are used to noise in the womb, so don’t put them to sleep while hushing everyone around you.” –SARA K. “Enjoy the middle-of-the-night feedings. They were our quiet cuddle moments, and they don’t last long.” –ROXANNE B. “Sleep when they sleep. Sounds trite, but that advice helped me survive when my son was a newborn.” –LAURA S.
plenty of play fosters good sleep
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“Don’t freak out at every noise they make when they sleep. Babies are loud sleepers.” –MICHELLE J. “Swaddle!” –BREANNE B. “Set a bedtime routine. My son has done so well recognizing his routine and sleeps for about 10 to 12 hours a night.”
–NICKI B.
keep close Nighttime feedings just got easier. The new Halo Bassinest is a bedside sleeper that swivels over the bed, so baby can rest right next to you in his own safe, separate sleeping area. $250, HaloBassinest .com for stores
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78%
Number of women who buy or register for a baby monitor. Hello peace of mind!
“Never brag about your baby sleeping through the night. Just when you think there’s a pattern, they get sick or are teething and it throws everything off. Just go with it.” –KAREN D.
Learn tactics for parenthood at TheBump.com/baby
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how
big is baby?
See how she matches up to common fruits and veggies (and what the heck she’s doing in there) week by week. BY PAULA KASHTAN
week 5
apple seed Baby is starting to form her major organs, including the heart, kidneys, liver and stomach.
week 3
poppy seed Sperm met egg and—voilà— conception! Now your zygote sets off on a six-day trek through your fallopian tube to your uterus.
week 6
blueberry With joints starting to appear, baby is forming arms and legs—and growing new brain cells each minute. Wow!
week 8
raspberry Continuing to straighten in the trunk, baby can move those little arms, legs, and (slightly webbed) fingers and toes.
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week 9
olive The former embryo is now officially a fetus, and an ultrasound device may be able to pick up a view of her beating heart.
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week 7
sweet pea As blood begins to circulate, baby is beginning to develop eyes, ears, a nose, cheeks and a chin.
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week 14
lemon Your fetus is busy with thumb sucking, toe wiggling, making urine and breathing amniotic fluid.
week 15
orange Finally, all four limbs have functional joints. Your fetus squirms and wiggles like crazy, though you probably still can’t feel it. >
i’ m not fat. i’ m pregnant! week 12 week 13
peach While the intestines make their way from the umbilical cord to the fetus’s tummy, baby is developing teeth and vocal cords.
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prune Arm joints work, bones and cartilage are forming, and baby’s vital organs are starting to function.
plum As you get ready for the second trimester, almost all of baby’s systems are fully formed. From here, they grow and mature.
week 11
lime Now baby’s fingers and toes are no longer webbed, and her hair follicles, tooth buds and nail beds are forming.
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avocado Tiny bones are now forming in the ears and eyebrows, and lashes and hair are starting to fill in.
onion Baby’s skeleton is hardening, and those little fingers and toes are now defined with one-of-a-kind prints.
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sweet potato Baby has become amazingly mobile. She yawns, hiccups, rolls, kicks, punches, sucks, twists and swallows.
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banana Your baby is gulping down amniotic fluid for nutrition and to practice swallowing. Her taste buds work!
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week 37 to delivery
watermelon Your full-term (yay!) baby gains about half an ounce a day, and her brain continues to develop rapidly.
are we there yet?
weeks 29–32
squash Baby is going through major brain and nerve development, and her energy is surging. Her irises react to light, and all five senses work.
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papaya Settling into sleep cycles, baby snoozes 12 to 14 hours a day. Skin is becoming more opaque, and it’s taking on a pink glow.
weeks 25–28 eggplant Baby is getting her immune system ready by soaking up lots of antibodies. Her eyes are forming too.
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pregnancy The natural foods chef, author and cohost of The Chew shares her secrets for relishing pregnancy. BY ELENA DONOVAN MAUER PHOTOGRAPHY BY MELANIE ACEVEDO
Daphne Oz is one of those women you’d want to plan a play date with, if you could. She’s friendly and warm, quirky and real— personality traits that shine through on The Chew, the daytime lifestyle talk show she stars on with chefs Mario Batali, Michael Symon and Carla Hall and entertaining expert Clinton Kelly. Her success has skyrocketed in recent years. She joined the cast in 2011, and in 2013 wrote the cookbook and lifestyle guide, and The New York Times best seller, Relish. Now, a new challenge: parenthood! Daphne chatted with us about being pregnant with her first baby (also the first grandchild for dad Dr. Oz).
The Bump Other than your parents, Mehmet Oz, MD, of
The Dr. Oz Show, and author Lisa Oz, who are your role models?
Daphne Oz Role models evolve and change with every stage
in your life. Right now, it’s the moms who make time for their careers, if that’s what they want to pursue, and who make time for themselves. We tend to forget about taking care of ourselves when we’re taking care of everyone around us. >
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TB You and your cohosts seem like you might be friends in real life. True? DO We are! I get paid to eat some delicious things and hang out with great friends. If only we could tape our behind-the-scenes revelry. That would be a show you’d want to watch. It’s hysterical. TB So did you have to change what you ate once you were pregnant?
DO I love Mexican food and sadly have to stay pretty far away from it because I can’t take the heat. I miss the margaritas too!
TB Is there anything you’re nervous about? DO A huge learning curve. There are so many things I don’t know. >
daphne’s pregnancy tips
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WALK A LOT
DO DATE NIGHT
“I gave up superintense cardio— sorry, spinning! But I walked three miles a day. Walking keeps you toned without being stressful on your body. It helps me decompress.”
“Have time with your partner and time with your girlfriends. They’re the ones who will be there for you postbaby. Time with them will rejuvenate you when you need it.”
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TACKLE YOUR TO-DOS
“Whip up big batches of beans, quinoa, brown rice and lentils to store and pair with different flavors during the week. No need to spend a ton of time.”
“Get things off your plate before baby arrives, but if you can’t get it all done, don’t worry. Life won’t stop after baby is born—it’s just the beginning!”
SWEATER AND JEANS: ASOS, TANK TOP: PEA IN THE POD TANK FOR DESTINATION MATERNITY
TB What are you looking forward to most about motherhood? DO I can’t wait to read bedtime stories, do art projects, play dress up, have dance parties and bake delicious treats with our girl. All those magical things I loved so much about childhood.
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TB You’re really big on date night. Why? DO My husband, John, and I both thought
it was important not to lose sight of our relationship, even as we made way for a new addition. Even if it’s a 15-minute meal together, relishing uninterrupted time keeps us connected.
TB What’s the biggest change you made since you became pregnant? DO I try not to stress out if everything on my to-do list doesn’t get done. You start to realize how important it is to take care of yourself, so you can take care of another little person who totally depends on you. That means cutting out the energy drains that have no room in your life anymore. I used to be a terrible procrastinator, but now I have great reason to prioritize and be more efficient with my time.
daphne says:
“Make smart choices even when you give into cravings.”
TB What did you do to nest for baby? DO I nested like a crazy person. I really
de-cluttered and did major guttings of my wardrobe, books and papers. For the nursery, I worked with a furniture store called Bellini on a French blue and coral scheme. It has a soft, plush texture and fun tribal and geometric accents. I tend to be classic in my taste, so this was a chance to experiment, get a little funky and be playful, but sophisticated.
TB What are your favorite and least
favorite things about pregnancy? DO I love the kicks! I’m sure we’ll be making up some dance moves together. My least favorite thing is waking up uncontrollably at 4:30 a.m.! It’s like my body is advance training me for all the sleepless nights that are ahead. you look up to? DO Seems like Jessica Simpson and Jennifer Garner have a lot of fun with their kids! I’d love to learn how to juggle it all from Victoria Beckham.
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and the journey begins...
1st trimester
indulge those food cravings
Need ice cream, stat? A cone from Sweet Rose Creamery (SweetRoseCreamery.com) will satisfy your sweet tooth. The banana split just may be the most delicious thing on the menu, if you love a classic dessert. Want something more out of the box? Try the salted caramel ice cream, or the mint with chocolate pearls.
2nd trimester
prep for labor dress your growing bump At maternity maven Rosie Pope’s Santa Monica outpost (RosiePope.com), you’ll find everything you need to stay chic as your body changes. The stylish selection includes everything from maxi dresses to versatile blazers—statement pieces and staples that will take you from bump all the way to delivery.
Don’t freak out about giving birth—be prepared! Childbirth classes at Bini Birth (BiniBirth.com) in Sherman Oaks will ready you for labor. You’ll learn breathing and relaxation techniques to help ease your fears and make D-day go as smoothly as possible.
3rd trimester
get some prenatal pampering Got back pain? Feet swollen? Feeling stressed? Give your pregnant body a well-deserved maternity massage at Dtox Day Spa (DtoxDaySpa.com). An expert therapist will ease all your aches, reduce fluid retention and make you feel completely relaxed. Trust us, you need this—and you deserve it, mama.
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It’s time for baby’s first photo op! Here’s what you’ll be looking at when you peer into that little screen for the first time. BY LAUREN A. GREENE
Depending on your doctor, expect to have your first ultrasound sometime between 6 and 12 weeks, says Santa Monica–based ob-gyn Sheryl Ross, MD. Baby grows quickly and will look very different in just a few short weeks, so don’t
panic if you don’t see as much detail at an earlier ultrasound (the below image is about 12 weeks). The first ultrasound dates and confirms the pregnancy, as well as detects any potential problems. Here are some key things to know before you go.
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To determine gestational age, your doctor will measure the “crown to rump length” (top of head to bottom of tush). At 12 weeks, the average size is 5–6 centimeters.
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Underdeveloped or absent nasal bones have been linked to a high rate of Down syndrome. Your doctor examines the nasal bones to begin ruling out any potential problems.
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See that tiny dark gray circle right under the chin in the chest cavity? That bubble is the stomach starting to form, and your doctor will look to make sure it’s on track.
Depending how she’s positioned, you may not see all of baby’s arms and legs in the profile view (above), but your doctor takes a variety of angles to check on all of them.
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the crazy rules for
naming your baby Thought as parents you could give baby any name under the sun? Well, it depends. BY CYNTHIA RAMNARACE
Believe it or not, there are rules in place that restrict what names can be given. Here in California, only the 26 letters of the English alphabet are allowed, which rules out tildes (ñ) and umlauts (ö). Derogatory or obscene names are offlimits. Pictographs, such as smiley faces, or ideograms, such as a “thumbs-up” sign are also specifically banned. Want to know the rules in other states?
alabama
In Alabama, you can name baby anything you want—last name included. (Some states require baby’s last name be the same as the mother or father, but not Alabama.) Only the English alphabet is allowed. While apostrophes and hyphens are okay, numbers and symbols aren’t.
alaska
Chloë and Beyoncé aren’t a problem in Alaska! The state’s computer system handles umlauts, tildes and many other (but not all) foreign characters.
arizona
colorado
In Colorado you need to be able to spell the name using a standard keyboard, so no graphic symbols or foreign characters.
connecticut
You may choose any name in Connecticut, so long as it’s “not for fraudulent or nefarious purposes and does not infringe on the rights of another person,” and it uses English characters.
florida
If parents can’t agree on a first name, none can be listed on the birth certificate until both parents sign an agreement or a court selects a name.
georgia
Symbols are off-limits in Georgia, and yes, that includes accent marks.
hawaii
Even symbols are allowed, but the state’s computer software requires each symbol be accompanied by at least one letter. >
In Arizona, there’s a 141 character limit— 45 for the first name, 45 for middle, 45 for last and 6 for a suffix. Apostrophes, hyphens, periods and spaces are okay. You can have apostrophes, hyphens and spaces in a name, but they can’t be consecutive. Also, Baby, Babyboy, Babygirl, Baby Boy, Baby Girl, Infant, Test, Unk and Void are invalid entries in the data entry system.
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idaho
In Idaho, only letters are allowed. Special characters such as asterisks are banned.
illinois
There are no restrictions on what a parent may name a child. Recent updates to the state’s computer networks even allow for quirky names such as “1Der” or “2-Riffic.” So far, no parent has taken advantage of this with their baby’s first name, but there’s a child whose middle name is “7.”
indiana
No rules regarding first names in Indiana! But if mom is unmarried at birth, baby can only be given her mother’s surname, unless there’s an affidavit proving paternity.
kansas
mississippi
In Mississippi, if the mother is married at the time of birth, the baby’s surname is automatically that of her husband. If the parents would like a different surname, the request must be verified and witnessed by a hospital rep.
montana
Montana has no rules on baby names, but its data system doesn’t allow for special symbols. If a parent wants to use a symbol, once they receive the birth certificate, they can write it in and send it back to the vital records office for approval.
nebraska
No names that imply objectionable or obscene words or abbreviations.
Kansas explicitly requires that babies be given a last name and bans the use of symbols. Accent marks are okay though.
new hampshire
louisiana
new jersey
You can’t name your child an obscenity in Louisiana, or use diacritical marks (so, André isn’t allowed). As for the last name, if mom wasn’t married within 300 days of the birth, baby’s surname must match his mother’s name. If mom is married, baby’s surname must be the same as her husband, unless the parents agree to change it.
massachusetts
Only letters found on the standard English keyboard may be used in baby names in Massachusetts. So sorry, no æ, ë or ñ.
michigan
Michigan also requires only English letters.
minnesota
Numbers and all special characters are banned. Apostrophes and hyphens are the only punctuation allowed. First, middle and last names are limited to 50 letters each, for a maximum length of 150 characters.
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First, middle and last names must be within 100 characters total. New Jersey bans parents from naming their child an obscenity. Numbers and symbols are also prohibited.
new mexico
Diacritical marks, special characters and names Baby Boy, Baby Girl, Male and Female are banned. >
anything goes! states with no baby name rules or laws Delaware Iowa Kentucky Maine Maryland
Missouri Nevada Pennsylvania Virginia
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new york
In New York, first and middle names can’t be more than 30 characters each. Last names can’t be more than 40. Numbers and symbols are no-nos.
north carolina
Accent marks, hyphens and tildes (ñ) are totally fine to use in North Carolina. Name your child anything, but the data system doesn’t allow special characters. And the last name must match a parent’s.
ohio
The only punctuation allowed in Ohio is hyphens, apostrophes and spaces. Only letters are allowed, no numbers.
oklahoma
Oklahoma has no name laws, but its system limits names to the English alphabet.
oregon
texas
Stay under 100 letters total for first, middle and last name. Special characters, numbers and diacritical marks—like accents and umlauts—may not be used. So you may name baby John Smith III, but not John Smith the 3rd—and no way, José!
utah
Utah says that using marks not found on a keyboard “would make applying for and receiving a birth certificate more laborious.”
vermont
Oregon’s computer system can handle 40 special characters, including â, é, î, õ and ü.
VT says, “You may use trademarked names (IBM), diseases (Anthrax) and obscenities, but we highly recommend against it.”
rhode island
washington
Diacritical marks can’t be used on a birth certificate. But the state allows parents to use Aña or Zoë on other documents.
south carolina
Want to name your baby K8? In South Carolina you can. Numbers and symbols (think: M!ke) are both allowed.
south dakota
The only guideline is on length—30 characters for first names; 50 for middle and last.
west virginia
Only letters from the English alphabet are acceptable. This rules out umlauts and tildes. Numbers and symbols are banned too.
wisconsin
Spaces, hyphens and apostrophes are the only acceptable punctuation.
When one Wisconsin mom wanted to name her child a numeral, the state required that the number be spelled out.
tennessee
wyoming
Tennessee law is silent on first names, but there are a few complex last name rules.
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Helps maintain healthy nerves and red blood cells
VITAMIN B-6, 29 MG
Synthesizes serotonin VITAMIN C, 85 MG Helps the body absorb iron VITAMIN D, 5 MCG Assists with calcium absorption VITAMIN E, 15 MG Helps heal skin irritations RIBOFLAVIN, 2 MG For healthy cell function, growth and energy
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Premature birth, low birth weight and even stillbirth all have been associated with a mom’s use of cigarettes. Secondhand smoke is risky as well. So ask your partner to kick the butts too.
Sushi, raw or undercooked eggs, and raw meat heighten your risk for food poisoning. All your fi sh, meat and poultry should be fully cooked.
what to
Caffeine has been linked to an increased risk for premature birth and miscarriage. Limit your daily intake to 200 milligrams or less (one or two 8-ounce cups of coffee).
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cleaning the litter box
Fluff y’s poop could contain a pesky parasite called toxoplasma. What’s scary is that it can cross the placenta and infect baby. If you must change your kitty’s box, wear rubber gloves and a mask.
some medications
Bring a list of your prescriptions to your doctor, so she can tell you whether or not they’re safe to take during pregnancy. While many are considered unsafe (or untested), there are some situations in which a doctor believes the risk to an unborn baby is minimal compared with the benefi ts to mom’s health. Example: antidepressants.
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cold cuts
Say good-bye to turkey and Swiss on rye. Deli meats may contain bacteria called listeria, which can cause an illness that can lead to preterm labor and miscarriage.
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unpasteurized foods
Skip the cheese, raw milk or farmers market juice if the label doesn’t say it has been pasteurized. (Yes, even if you’re a foodie.) It could contain harmful bacteria.
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Can I take ibuprofen while pregnant? No, stay away from ibuprofen, commonly known by the brand names Motrin and Advil, right now. It can lead to serious problems for baby if you take it after 30 weeks or so. “Ibuprofen can cause an important passageway in baby’s heart to close when taken in late pregnancy. That passage needs to stay open while baby is still inside the uterus and is meant to close up soon after birth,” says Kelly Kasper, MD, ob-gyn and associate clinical professor at the Indiana University School of Medicine. “If it does close before birth, it can cause problems, including heart or lung damage and death.” Already took ibuprofen? Don’t freak out. “A one-time dose isn’t going to hurt baby, even if you took it past the 30week mark,” Kasper says. “The serious and scary side effects tend to occur with repeated, chronic use of the medication. If you happened to take a dose of Advil because you had a headache last week and you’re at 33 weeks, baby will be fine.” What about acetaminophen? Yes, go ahead and take acetaminophen (Tylenol). “We consider acetaminophen very safe to take in pregnancy,” says Kasper. Always follow dosing instructions closely, though. Too much acetaminophen
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is hard on your liver—and baby’s too. Also important: Don’t combine it with other medications without checking with your doctor first, since some of them (such as cold meds) contain acetaminophen too. Can playing music to baby in utero make him smarter? “There are no studies that say playing music to babies in utero makes them smart,” says Kasper. Of course, that doesn’t mean that listening to Beethoven, Bach or even Beyoncé prebirth doesn’t make baby smarter. There’s just no way to tell for sure. “You can’t study babies in utero,” Kasper notes. “You can’t see how their neurons respond to music. It’s impossible.” What’s certain is that babies can hear music (and other sounds) when they’re in the womb, and some scientific studies have reported what moms have known for years: Babies often move in response to music. “Some people might surmise from that, ‘Oh, baby likes it.’ Other people might surmise, ‘Oh, baby hates it,’ ” Kasper says. Hey, if you enjoy listening to music, go for it! Pick whatever tunes you like and crank them as loudly as you want. If it’s at all beneficial to baby, it’s probably because it helps mom-to-be relax. “A decrease in mom’s stress can have positive effects for baby,” Kasper says.
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If baby is moving less than usual, or if Should I line up a baby nurse for after you haven’t felt movement in a while, start baby arrives? What do they do? counting kicks. “Drink something cold and Baby nurses are pros at easing you— lie in a quiet room. Then see how long it and your brand-new baby—into your new takes to feel 10 movements,” says Goldman. life together. One can help establish a “If an hour—or at most, two hours—has bedtime routine, organize the nursery, and gone by and you haven’t felt at least 10 make sure you’re nourished and comfy movements, call the doctor.” after you’re home from the Not feeling 10 movements hospital. She can show you in an hour doesn’t necessarily how to deal with issues mean something is wrong. But like colic, gas and excessive Why do I have a lack of movement can indicrying, all of which can be a metallic taste cate a problem that could lead stressful, and pitch in with in my mouth? to stillbirth, so your doctor chores like packing the That funny will likely want to run tests to diaper bag and laundering metallic taste is check baby’s health—listening onesies. In deciding whether probably related to her heartbeat and possibly or not to hire one, consider to the high level doing an ultrasound or your situation. Do you have non-stress test. family or close friends nearby of estrogen in who are willing and able to your body, says Is it wrong to feel disappoinhelp you? Also think about Goldman. It ted about baby’s gender? your personality and whether usually fades as No, you might not hear about you and your partner will be pregnancy goes gender disappointment able to be up all night and on, the same way often because parents-to-be still function the next day. It’s morning sickness don’t always talk about it. definitely not easy. does. Eat acidic “There’s shame because foods, like citrus we’re supposed to feel grateHow often should my baby fruit or pickles, ful,” says Shoshana Bennett, be moving? PhD, a clinical psychologist. All babies are different. Some to cut the taste. Forgive yourself for feeling let are more active than others down—it’s a valid emotion. at different times, says Debra But remember that it’s based Goldman, MD, ob-gyn at on a fantasy of what your family should Women & Infants Hospital of Rhode be. “Talk about it with a trusted friend, so Island. Factors such as the location of you can let go of it quickly,” Bennett says. the placenta and baby’s positioning can “The truth is, you don’t know what this affect how much movement you feel. child’s temperament will be. They’ll have Some babies kick like crazy after dinner; their own passions. Look forward to discovothers go nuts at bedtime. With time, ering them along with him or her.” Good you’ll get to know your baby’s usual news: Gender disappointment tends to patterns of movement. Pay attention to disappear after birth. his habits and note any changes.
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moms in motion Social media has shined a spotlight on moms-to-be doing intense workouts like CrossFit, surfing and SoulCycle. Should these women be considered a cautionary tale—or an inspiration? BY AMANDA PRESSNER KREUSER
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ea-Ann Ellison, 35, never expected to find herself at the center of a social media firestorm. But when the Los Angeles–based mom of three logged on to her Facebook page one morning, she was stunned to find more than 5,000 comments on an image she had posted of herself lifting a barbell during her daily CrossFit workout. So why the backlash? Ellison was 32 weeks pregnant at the time—and the weight above her head looked almost as big as she was. “People wrote some very ignorant remarks, telling me that my choices were selfish and I was risking hurting my baby,” says Ellison. “They said I’d be to blame if anything happened to him.” But Ellison isn’t alone in catching heat for her fitness decisions. A few years earlier, mom-to-be Amber Miller ran the Chicago Marathon at 39 weeks pregnant—and gave birth to her daughter just hours later. Internet naysayers questioned Miller’s judgment and why she did something that seemed so extreme and self-involved at a time when she should have been focusing on her child. More recently, Kristina Olivares, an Australian surfer, raised eyebrows for riding waves through all nine months of her pregnancy.
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“People were telling me that my choices were selfish.” While all three women delivered very healthy babies, the controversy continues over whether or not moms-to-be should keep doing high-intensity workouts right up until childbirth. Can certain rigorous exercise subject expectant women and their babies to unnecessary risks—or is it somehow actually good for us?
cool it!
It takes momsto-be longer to cool down—give yourself at least 15 minutes.
experts weigh in
It seems that the expert consensus may fly in the face of what well-meaning moms, aunts and even friends have been telling you since you shared the happy news of your pregnancy. “As long as she consults with her doctor and gets clearance, there’s no reason that a healthy woman—one who is not deemed high risk—can’t continue the same type of workout she was doing prior to getting pregnant,” says Raul Artal, MD, editor for The American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists’ (ACOG) Clinical Updates in Women’s Health Care. Of course, not every type of activity is deemed safe. According to ACOG’s latest guidelines, you shouldn’t participate in contact sports like kickboxing and karate, or those activities in which you could inadvertently get hit with a ball, such as soccer or softball. You’ll also want to avoid the potentially hard falls you could take when skiing, snowboarding or horseback riding, and you should definitely skip scuba diving (it puts baby at risk for decompression sickness or even death). Artal confirms that even the popular training regimens that may seem extreme to some, like long-distance running, cross-training and indoor cycling, are safe for pregnant women to continue—but only if they’ve already been doing them regularly pre-pregnancy and they’re under the supervision of their physician. >
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A far greater issue is that many expectant mothers stop being active altogether, which can lead to excessive weight gain and gestational diabetes, both of which can negatively impact the well-being of the fetus, Artal says. “In fact, we strongly recommend that moms-to-be aim to get at least 30 minutes of physical activity five times per week.”
a myth that won’t quit
Doctors now agree that perceived exertion, a self-reported measurement of how hard you feel you’re working out, should be the benchmark used for when to slow down or stop. If you chart your exertion on a scale of 1 to 10 (where 1 means you’re barely moving and 10 is a red alert and you’re almost completely out of breath), you want to stay within the 6 to 7 range. Working out in that zone (rather than a 3 or a 4) can actually have positive effects on your pregnancy, according to research. To stay in a safe range, Pivarnik recommends making sure you can still hold a conversation during most of your workout (if not, slow down) and to stop immediately if you begin to feel weak, dizzy or in pain. It’s also essential to keep yourself well hydrated and avoid becoming overheated. That means while a prenatal yoga class is a good idea, a Bikram (hot) yoga class definitely isn’t. And when doing traditional yoga, you may have to modify your moves so you stay comfortable. If you’re exercising in a class setting, make sure the room you’re in has good airflow and you’re positioned near a door so you can make an easy exit if necessary. >
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Somewhere along the way, you may have heard that exercise during pregnancy is only safe if you avoid letting your heart rate go above 140 beats per minute. So then how can super-active workouts like spinning, Zumba or circuit training actually be good for you? Well, it turns out that number is old news. “The 140-beats-per-minute recommendation is outdated—and it’s long since been tossed out by the medical community,” says James Pivarnik, PhD, FACSM, professor of kinesiology and epidemiology at Michigan State University. And Artal, who was among the doctors who came up with the 140-beats-per-minute guideline a few decades ago, confirms that sentiment. “Newer research has since shown that our original theory was invalid,” he says.
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adjusting your routine
Even the most well-conditioned fitness buffs among us may need to make adjustments to our exercise routines to accommodate the changing demands on our bodies during pregnancy. These changes may include lifting lighter weights, pedaling more slowly during a spin class or running fewer miles at a reduced pace. “You don’t have to stop doing your favorite workout,” says Pivarnik, “but you need to be particularly vigilant about listening to your body and not pushing yourself to do more than what feels comfortable.” Pivarnik explains that pregnant women can be at slightly higher risk for injury because their bodies are producing higher levels of relaxin, a hormone that loosens up your ligaments and joints. While relaxin makes your body better prepared for labor, its increase also means you’re more susceptible to rolling your ankles or over-stretching your joints. “If you’re not sure how to best modify your movements,” don’t be afraid to ask your instructor to help you, says Jolie Walsh, a New York City–based SoulCycle instructor, who continued to teach and ride throughout both of her pregnancies.
focusing on the positive
Even if you’re making all the right moves to keep you and baby safe as your belly grows, you may still encounter comments from others about your exercise regimen. “There were a few people at my gym who didn’t agree with my exercise program,” says Tass Vorous, 36, who did classes like Zumba and Tabata throughout her pregnancy. “To deal with any negativity, I just focused on the support from the other expecting moms—we were almost like a tribe going through this together!” The bottom line: Doctors agree it’s critical to remain active during your pregnancy—so long as you’ve come up with a plan with your ob-gyn and follow all her instructions for keeping you and baby safe. Sticking with the workout you love may be the best way to prepare your body (and baby’s!) for the marathon of labor and delivery ahead. “After I got pregnant, my whole mind-set about working out changed,” recalls Ellison. “It wasn’t a competition anymore. It wasn’t about looking good anymore. Exercise was about staying strong and healthy so that I could be in great shape for one of the most important events of my life: helping my new baby come into the world.”
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olivia wilde’ s inspiring looks After stalking the star’s maternity wardrobe, this is what we’ve learned.
wear a belt above your bump to accentuate it
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basic black isn’t just safe—it’s timelessly glam don’t be afraid of a slinky dress
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News flash: There are a lot of changes going on right now. And some pretty weird things might happen—some are normal; others you should call your doctor about. BY ELENA DONOVAN MAUER PHOTOGRAPHY BY KT MERRY
If you spot or bleed (down there), you’ll probably freak out a little bit—but there are times when a tinge of blood is no big deal, say if you had sex recently, in which case you might have just irritated your cervix a bit (it’s more sensitive while you’re pregnant). Of course, bleeding can be a sign of something very serious—like a miscarriage or a problem with the placenta such as a placental abruption or placenta previa—so any time you do bleed, notify your ob-gyn or midwife just in case.
pain in the belly
Some aches and pains are to be expected (obviously!). After all, baby’s getting bigger by the day, and your muscles
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and ligaments are stretching—that can cause discomfort called round ligament pain, which isn’t worrisome. But if pain is severe, constant or if there’s bleeding or other symptoms, call. It could be a miscarriage, ectopic pregnancy or a cyst.
looking puffy
Granted, gaining four pounds a month is going to leave you looking fuller, but pay particular attention to your face and hands or severe and sudden swelling in your ankles and feet. This could be a sign of preeclampsia, also known as pregnancyinduced hypertension. It happens in about 5 to 10 percent of pregnancies. It’s serious, since it can affect the placenta, as well as your kidneys, liver and brain. Call your doctor so he can give you an exam and test your blood and urine.
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a shocker at the scale
You’re supposed to gain around 25 to 35 pounds if you have an average starting weight, but if you put on more than two pounds in a week, that could be another sign of preeclampsia.
itching and itching and itching
Your skin could be itchy simply because it’s dry and stretched, or you could get a nasty rash called PUPPP, which is irritating but not harmful. But, if you have allover or severe itching, talk to your OB. She may have to do a special test to rule out cholestasis of pregnancy—a liver disorder that can cause preterm labor and stillbirth.
spiking temperature
If you get a fever that lasts longer than 24 to 36 hours, see the doctor, so you can be diagnosed and treated quickly. There are a whole host of viruses that could be causing it, including a simple cold or flu, which aren’t usually a big deal, or something more serious, like cytomegalovirus or toxoplasmosis, which pose risks to baby if they’re left untreated.
hey, what happened to the kicks? If baby’s movements are pretty regular, that’s reassurance that everything’s A-OK, but if you notice a change in his kicking patterns, it’s worth the trip to the doctor’s office to check on his well-being.
“If you notice a change in baby’s kicking pattern, it’s always worth a trip to the doctor to check on him.” more than just a backache
Got pain in your back that just doesn’t quit? Your doctor should check to make sure any lingering backache is just normal pregnancy pain and not a sign of a kidney or bladder infection, cyst, miscarriage or preterm labor, since it might be pretty difficult to tell the difference yourself.
seeing blurry
If you stood up too fast, you could just be experiencing some normal pregnancy dizziness. But blurry vision that’s persistent or comes along with other symptoms, such as swelling, abdominal pain, headache or rapid weight gain, could be a sign of preeclampsia or gestational diabetes, both of which require medical treatment.
a gush of fluid—it’s go time!
This isn’t your average pregnancy discharge. Feeling constantly wet down there or having a trickle (or gush!) of fluid can mean that your water has broken. If that’s the case and you’re not in labor yet, you’re likely to be within 24 hours. Either way, it’s important that your doctor knows ASAP!
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fashion checklist
A mix of wardrobe staples and maternity pieces will get you through all nine months.
you have JEANS You should still fit into your roomiest pair for the first couple of months.
MATERNITY JEANS A dark wash (with a stretch panel) will work for day or night.
BLAZER Button up to hide your growing bump, or wear it open to let your belly breathe.
WRAP DRESS Adjust the dress to fit a fluctuating waistline pre- and postbaby.
TANK TOP You can rely on that stretchy shirt in your closet until the day you pop.
Cover up unbuttoned pants with extra-long styles.
T-SHIRT Slide by in a largersize shirt from your own stash for the first few months.
MATERNITY T-SHIRT Show off your great new cleavage with a V-neck style.
CARDIGAN Be ready for unexpected hot flashes. A basic button-up is easy-on, easy-off.
Get a neutral hue, like black, that you can dress up or down.
SKIRT Turn to a pencil skirt for a slimming style even when you start feeling bigger.
MATERNITY SKIRT Highlight your thinnest assets (your legs!) with a short hemline.
LITTLE BLACK DRESS A style with an Empire waist won’t restrict your growing bump.
BIG BLACK DRESS Take the maternity route and your dress won’t ride up in front.
HUSBAND’S T-SHIRT Steal one of his XL tees for some relief in the final stretch.
Don’t reveal any seams with your snug tanks and tees.
BLACK PANTS A side zip is easy to leave open unnoticeably.
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Why don’t I have the “pregnancy glow” everyone talks about? My skin actually looks awful. What’s the deal? Sorry, but the truth is shiny might be more like it; here’s why, according to Kenneth Mark, MD, board certified dermatologist, clinical assistant professor of dermatology at New York University. shine Blame it on hormones pushing your glands into overdrive. Specifically, an increase in progesterone levels is to blame for a super-shiny complexion. HOW TO FIX IT Wash with a mild cleanser. Avoid using harsh soaps or chemicals, and don’t wash more than twice a day, which can actually backfire and create more oil. pimples Your sebaceous glands are working overtime now—especially in those first three months when progesterone and estrogen levels are on the rise. HOW TO FIX IT The good news: Acne usually clears up on its own eventually. In the meantime, just use a mild cleanser and ask your doctor about topical treatments. redness If your once-attractive blush has veered off into blotchy, red-faced territory, the culprits are your hormones (again) and a blood flow increase of up to 50 percent. HOW TO FIX IT Avoid hot, spicy foods— they’ll just up your circulation even more. Slather on antioxidant cream rich in ingredients like green tea, vitamin C and vitamin E.
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What’s the deal with eating carbs during pregnancy? Should I? Which ones? Pregnancy is not the time to go low-carb. Carbohydrates give you energy and can be an important source of fiber and other nutrients. About half your calories should come from carbs during pregnancy. But all carbs are not created equal. Simple carbs are quickly converted to sugar in the body. They provide a quick burst of energy, with not much in the way of sticking power, says Debra Goldman, MD, an ob-gyn at Women & Infants Hospital of Rhode Island. To avoid simple carbs, stay away from processed and refined foods, since they contain more of them—and they offer less nutrition. This includes white bread, white rice, chips and candy. Instead, choose complex carbs, which include whole-grains such as oatmeal, legumes such as dried beans, and starchy vegetables. They take longer to break down in the body, providing energy over time. They also have fiber. Pregnant women should eat 9 to 11 servings of carbohydrates per day. (Before you go nuts, know that a serving size of carbs is smaller than you probably think: 1/3 cup of rice counts as a serving. So does 1/2 of an English muffin or 1 ounce of cereal.) Aim for about half of your carb intake to come from whole grains.
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As a designer of printed goods, it was only natural for Schmidt to make items herself, including the twig-and-felt mobile. Mixing new things—a Jenny Lind crib—with sentimental pieces, like a rocking horse made by an uncle, gives the room a collected look. >
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Schmidt shied away from theme and gender specificity so her daughter could make the room her own. When pieces don’t match, repeat an element throughout, she says. “Bright red ties the room together. I use that color all the time—I just can’t help it.”
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Pulling together a well-stocked nursery starts with registering for all the essentials. Use this list as your guide. PHOTOGRAPH BY LAURE JOLIET
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medicine cabinet
Crib, cradle or bassinet
Baby bathtub
Baby lotion
Crib mattress
Baby soap/shampoo
Baby nail clippers
2–3 waterproof crib mattress pads
2–4 soft towels or hooded baby towels
2–3 fitted crib sheets
Baby hairbrush
Cotton balls (don’t use swabs to clean baby’s nose or ears)
4–6 soft, light receiving blankets
2–4 soft washcloths
1–2 heavier blankets
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Bulb syringe/nasal aspirator
Rocking or arm chair
2–3 nursing bras
Medicine dropper
Sound machine or stereo to play music
Nursing pads
Crib mobile with blackand-white images
Nursing pillow
Petroleum jelly and sterile gauze (for circumcision care)
Baby monitor Night-light Dresser Toy basket Swing or bouncy chair
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Nipple cream Breast pump (even if you only plan to nurse, a pump will allow you to leave milk for baby if you want or need to separate)
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Milk storage bags 10–16 BPA-free, 4-oz. bottles and nipples Bottle brush Dishwasher basket for small items 4–8 bibs 6–8 burp cloths (or cloth diapers) 2–4 pacifiers
10–12 soft washcloths (for wiping) or unscented baby wipes
High chair
Diaper wipe warmer
4–6 undershirts
One dozen cloth diapers and 6–8 diaper covers, or 2–3 large boxes of disposable newbornsize diapers
4–6 long-sleeve onesies
Diaper pail or trash can
Baby thermometer
clothing 4–6 footed outfits 4–6 sleep sacks or swaddle wraps Infant hats
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b abyproofing guide Prep your pad room-by-room with our ultimate safety checklist. general safety Install a UL-certified carbon monoxide detector on every story of your house if you use gas or oil appliances or have an attached garage. Check the batteries of any detectors you already have.
Cut any looped blind or curtain cords and install safety tassels and cord stops.
Do the above routine for smoke detectors.
Check house and yard for poisonous plants, and move out of baby’s reach.
Purchase a fire extinguisher, learn how to use it, and put it somewhere easy to find. Stock your medicine cabinet or first-aid kit. Post emergency numbers next to landline phones, and program them into your cell. Install a temperature guard on your water heater, set at a maximum of 120° F. Get any flaking or peeling paint sealed or removed by a professional, especially if your home was built before 1978. (Dust from lead paint, which was banned from residential use that year, can be harmful if ingested.)
Always unplug and store your electric appliances not in use (iron, flatiron, etc).
Place baby wipes and supplies within your reach from the changing table, but out of baby’s. Put a thick rug below the changing table. Position the crib away from windows, heaters, lamps, wall décor and cords. Set all pillows, stuffed animals and thick blankets out of the crib and away from baby’s reach. If you plan to hook a high chair to your kitchen table, check that the table is sturdy and strong.
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Put nonslip pads under all rugs.
Install an approved rear-facing car seat in the backseat.
Cover all sharp furniture edges and corners with safety padding.
Put hanging shades on the back windows to block the rays.
Block all open outlets with furniture or use safety plugs. Close and latch any drawers, doors or cupboards within baby’s reach.
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Modern nursery design, repurposing baby furniture, saving for college and more…
How can I make the nursery modern yet still appropriate for baby? Zero in on furniture, colors and accents that echo your home’s clean, sleek aesthetic, then add a touch of whimsy, says Shalena Smith, of Shalena Smith Interiors and founder of GaGa Designs. Color is one way to play with that idea. Pair an on-trend power neutral, like gray, taupe or white, with a punchy color, like hot pink, turquoise or yellow. “It makes the space feel more fun and kid friendly, and you can update it easily too,” Smith says. “Bring in the color with a throw blanket, bed skirt, pillows—things that are less expensive and labor intensive to switch out. Or, invest in good quality window treatments.” Choose artwork that ties in with the room’s accent colors and theme, if there is one. Smith suggests personalized pieces, like family photos blown up on canvases. Don’t feel like wall art needs to be “babyish.” Abstract art makes baby’s room chic and adds high design. Light fixtures can also lend a stylish touch. That could mean anything from an ornate, sparkly chandelier to simple pendants or all-wood fixtures. And don’t forget about the floors. If yours are hardwood, choose a bright area rug to punch up yet soften the space.
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How can I repurpose baby’s furniture after he outgrows it? Pick pieces with longevity from the get-go. Here’s how to repurpose, recycle and reuse some nursery MVPs. CRIB Consider a model that converts into a toddler bed (bonus points if it also turns into a twin bed) to use for the long haul. DRESSER If space allows, invest in a model that has at least three adult-size drawers. This will give you plenty of room for stashing clothes, diapers and doodads. Use the top of the dresser now as a changing station— just attach and secure a pad. Once baby is potty trained, remove the pad and hang a mirror or a few shelves above it. BOOKSHELF Buy a unit that has a couple of drawers at the bottom. That’s because as kids grow older (and more hell-bent on wreaking havoc on your organization system), it’s easy to hide potential eyesores. ARMOIRE A nice compromise between a dresser and bookshelf, an armoire has space for hanging clothes, folded clothes, diapers and toys. And the armoire’s doors will hide any messes inside. Give the piece a coat of chalkboard paint to let it double as a cool place to scribble. GLIDER Choose one that’s easy to reupholster or use a slipcover to match another room. When you’re done with midnight feedings, it will probably end up elsewhere.
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Is it true I can get a free breast pump I’ve seen parents pushing shopping carts with car seats on top of them. Is that safe? through my health insurance? Yes, you may be able to—it depends on Nope. Because we see other parents with your plan. Part of the Affordable Care their babies’ car seats perched on shopping Act, the health insurance reform legislation carts, we think it’s okay, but it’s actually that went into effect August 1, 2012, more dangerous than you probably think. is meant to give people better access Shopping carts can tip over easily—and to preventive care, and that they’re more likely to if there’s a includes helping pregnant car seat mounted on them, women and new moms pay for says Debra Holtzman, author What is a 529 lactation support, counseling of The Safe Baby. “The cart has savings plan? and breastfeeding equipment. a narrow wheel base in relation It’s a plan So now, many health insurance to its height, so the center of operated by plans cover the cost of a gravity is affected when you the state or an breast pump (hooray!). put a child in it,” she says. How to get one: “When the car seat is on top educational of it, the center of gravity is CHECK YOUR PLAN First, call your institution to affected even more, increasing health insurance company help parents put the chances of tipping.” and ask what’s covered and away money for Adding groceries and other what you need to do to get it. a child’s college swag to your cart makes it It could be completely free tuition with tax even more unstable. “If the or come with a co-pay. advantages. car seat flips, your child will FIND AN IN-NETWORK PROVIDER There are several be trapped,” says Tom Patire, Your breast pump may be types of plans safety expert and author of covered only if you buy it available, so talk the Personal Protection Handin the right place, so make book. Instead of mounting sure you get the list from to a financial the car seat on the shopping your insurance carrier of its advisor to see cart, choose an alternative: in-network providers. There which might be may be some paperwork DO TAG-TEAM SHOPPING Let right for you. you need to fill out too. your partner take care of baby while you do the shopping, PICK A GOOD PUMP A doubleor vice versa. Or bring along a electric pump is a must-have friend who can hold baby (or push him in for a working mom who plans to breastfeed. a stroller) while you use the cart. See page 116 for our recommendations. USE A BABY CARRIER OR SLING Baby is much PRACTICE, PRACTICE, PRACTICE After baby more stable strapped to your body than he is born, practice using your breast pump, would be perched on a shopping cart. and save up some extra breast milk before your first day back to work. Knowing you TAKE SHORTER, MORE FREQUENT TRIPS Get have a freezer stocked with breast milk just what you need for the next day or to give to baby’s caregiver will make the two. You’ll likely have enough room to tote transition less stressful. everything in the stroller basket.
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Hand this advice (courtesy of a dad who’s learned a few things) to your partner. Tell him he can thank us later! BY ADRIAN KULP PHOTOGRAPHY BY KT MERRY
When it was my turn to coach my wife through the birth of our first, I wish I’d been better prepared. Case in point: As I rode the hospital elevator with another expectant dad, he asked me if I knew about “the bathing suit thing.” What!? (More on that below.) Since I’ve been down that road three times now, allow me to share my experiences with you, along with some advice from the experts.
you’ve got to make a plan
And I’m not talking about an escape plan! (It’s too late for that.) Before labor, sit down with your partner to map out how you want delivery day to go. To get started, research different hospitals, consult a doula or take a childbirth class together. Discuss what will make her feel positive and negative during a vulnerable time, says Latham Thomas, a doula and founder of MamaGlow.com. She recommends positive affirmations and guided imagery to help calm mom in the delivery room.
you should pack a few surprises
She’s giving you a child, the least you could do is give her a couple of lollipops, right!? You’ll win major points if you show up with some unexpected extras to comfort her, like her favorite music, some bottled water, mints or hard candies to alleviate dry mouth, and some lip balm. You have no idea how dry her lips and mouth can get during labor, Thomas says. Plus, the more prepared you are, the more relaxed everyone will be. >
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Huh? As I mentioned, this one caught me off guard. Why? Am I headed to the hot tub with the nurses clocking out from the day shift? Nope, sorry. Even if you’re not planning on a water birth, there may actually be a time during the rigors of early labor when water therapy could be used to alleviate some of the pain and stress on mom. Many hospitals have a tub or whirlpool available in the maternity ward (the shower can be used too), and it’s not uncommon for a coach to jump in (no cannonballs, please!) and offer some physical and emotional support.
you’re going to have to get into position
Wait, isn’t that what got us into this mess to begin with? But seriously, delivery isn’t just exhausting for her; coaching can be labor-intensive for you too. As a coach, it’s important to help the process progress as much as possible, says Christina Sebestyen, MD, a physician and owner of OBGYN North in Austin, Texas. Part of that includes suggesting that your partner switch positions when she seems to be “hitting a wall.” Changing positions can bring some relief and rejuvenate her mental state, Sebestyen says. So prepare to bend or squat behind her or even squeeze into the bed with her—whatever you need to do to help support and comfort her while she’s experiencing pain.
you’re allowed to take a break
I’m not going to lie, seeing your partner in pain can be tough to take, and it’ll be even tougher to leave her side. But as much as you need to focus on her, you also have to take care of yourself. An exhausted, nauseated or panicked coach won’t do mom any good. A lot goes on during labor, and you could be in it for the long haul. To start, bring a few changes of comfortable clothes and your toiletry kit (or in my case, a gallon-size zip-top bag with my toothbrush and random bathroom gear). If you need to step away for a break—whether it’s to grab coffee or to collect yourself if you get queasy—don’t feel bad. Just have a pinch hitter on standby, like her mom or sister, to relieve you for a bit.
you might have to skip taco tuesday
“Please, please, no eating in the labor or delivery room,” is a common refrain dads hear. This one drives doctors crazy— you can’t imagine what people do. In fact, Sebestyen once found some family members sitting around eating take-out while the mom-to-be was mid-contraction. General Tso’s chicken with a side of grunting and screaming? Not a good idea. Instead, you want to help create a serene environment throughout the entire process. You never know when a certain smell, sound or action could upset your partner. Translation: Go eat in the lounge! >
4 signs of labor BLOODY DISCHARGE
Sometimes called the “bloody show,” it occurs when labor is anywhere from a few minutes to hours away.
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LOSS OF THE MUCUS PLUG
This mucus-like membrane could come off all at once or little by little, like a thick discharge.
BROKEN WATER
When your water breaks, it might feel more like a trickle as opposed to a gush. Either way, call the doctor.
REGULAR CONTRACTIONS
If they’re coming five minutes apart and are centered in the pelvic area, it’s probably time!
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you’ll want to watch your p’s & q’s
Unless you want to get slapped across the face with a bag full of IV fluid, try to keep your complaining in check. Avoid any negative triggers, warns Linda Perry, a home birth midwife, who has been working with families for 23 years at Complete Woman Midwifery. I’m fairly certain these triggers could be physical actions—for instance, breathing through my mouth or cleaning my teeth with my tongue—but verbal too. Inappropriate banter includes: “Hon, how long do you think we’ll be here?” and “This stupid hospital guest chair is uncomfortable; it’s kind of digging into my back a little.” Seriously? Nothing you’re going through is anywhere near as bad as her situation, so suck it up and repeat after me: “This day is all about her!”
you’ve got to keep your head in the game
No matter how much you’ve planned in advance, you never know what might happen next in this whole crazy process. Regardless of whether or not labor and delivery takes two hours or turns into a 48-hour marathon, or if this is your first child or even your fifth, you’ll want to be prepared for the unexpected. The birth plan you come up with beforehand may all work out, but there’s a chance it will fall by the wayside, and if so, you’ll need to go with the flow. Get a good night’s rest during the weeks leading up to the due date, so you can be as present as possible for whatever may get thrown your way. Your job is to help maintain some semblance of peace and calm during the height of the storm, Thomas says.
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you need to be an advocate for your partner
There may be times throughout labor when mom won’t be in the best frame of mind to ask for what she wants or needs. Instead of constantly repeating questions like “How are you doing?” try taking a more proactive approach. Go down the hall and get her a cup of ice chips, find a pillow or a sock full of tennis balls that she might want to put behind her back, or call a nurse to come adjust the pain medication if she’s using it. Oh, and don’t be afraid to speak up if the doctors and staff aren’t following the plan you and your wife discussed. There may be a good reason why they’re veering from the original instructions, but you won’t know unless you remind them of what you want.
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Los Angeles–area mom Susana Colón shares the details of her baby’s very dramatic delivery.
false alarms
slow and steady
The process began at 11 a.m. I was advised that this could take two to three days, so there was no need to call all my family and get them in a craze. Doctors used a “balloon” inflated with liquid to forcibly dilate my cervix. Soon, I began having much stronger contractions. I took a hot shower and walked around the hospital until I was dilated to five centimeters. Then my nurse told me she was going to break my water, and suggested an epidural. I said, “Bring it on!”
close call
After many more contractions but no more dilating, the doctors were getting worried about baby’s dropping heart rate. It was very likely I would have to deliver via c-section. They set an hour countdown.
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Baby’s heart rate was dropping dramatically, so during each contraction, I breathed frantically in an effort to keep it up. My OB rushed in with six or seven nurses. They looked genuinely concerned and began unhooking the monitors. There was a lot of bleeding, and baby had to be turned around. After signing consent papers for an emergency c-section, I was given one more chance to try for a vaginal delivery. I took it.
welcome baby!
I pushed with all my might. After completing three total pushes, Ariana Raquel was born. I couldn’t hold her on my chest right away because she needed to go to the NICU, and I had to get stitches. But once Ariana was deemed “in great health,” the whole staff in the operating room sang “Happy Birthday” to her. That was such an awesome gesture.
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what it is
To make things super-confusing, the term “natural birth” has two accepted meanings. Traditionally, any nonsurgical, vaginal delivery can be considered natural. But these days, a natural birth implies one that is drug free and “doesn’t use any medical interventions to help speed up labor or delivery,” says Shelly Holmstrom, MD, associate professor at the University of South Florida College of Obstetrics and Gynecology in Tampa, Florida. That distinction will play a big role in your birth plan.
who’s doing it
The key to a successful natural birth is education, so start with a general class. “Hospitals can be a great resource to learn about natural birth,” says Tiffany Albinger, a doula and co-owner of Embracing Labor in San Diego. You’ll get the ins and outs of what happens during birth and techniques to help you cope with pain. “You’ll meet with other women learning about natural birth, which can make you feel supported,” she says. Then, dive deeper and explore childbirth methods like HypnoBirthing, Lamaze and The Bradley Method (see p. 102). These classes will give you even more tools to help you manage labor pains—and you’ll want as much experience with this as you can get. Practice what you learn at home with your partner. “I mentally prepared with HypnoBirthing tracks and videos,” says Paula P. “I also read positive birth stories and learned relaxation and breathing techniques.” >
“I’d tell anyone considering natural birth, ‘You can do this. Your body was designed for this!’”
Women having a natural birth are in the minority but not by much. Only about 60 percent of women who have vaginal, singleton (one baby) births get epidural anesthesia. Those going the natural route want to avoid drug exposures to their baby, says Christina Sebestyen, MD, FACOG, an ob-gyn at OBGYN North and Natural Beginning Birth Center in Austin, Texas. “They’re people who have a holistic mindset. It may also be about the sense of pride and empowerment.” “After my natural birth, I was up on my feet quickly and felt very good the next morning,” says Rachel O. “For anyone considering it, I’d tell them, ‘You can do this. Your body was designed for this!’”
what doctors think
Some doctors see the epidural as standard practice and wonder why you wouldn’t want it. “There are providers who find it easier to care for a mom with an epidural. They may shy away from natural birth because it’s more intensive. The mom moves around more and needs a team to support her,” Sebestyen says. So it’s imperative you find a doctor or midwife who’s on board with your choice.
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drug history pain-relief changes over the years Using anesthesia for birth is a fairly new phenomenon—only since 1847. Twilight Sleep was potentially toxic and caused memory loss. Then, the epidural became big. After World War II, doctors Grantly Dick-Read and Fernand Lamaze advocated natural birth. And in the 1960s and 1970s, feminists led the charge for drug-free birth.
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Seriously consider hiring a doula so you know you’ll have an extra, experienced labor expert to help you through the process. “My doula was with me during labor and suggested things that helped, like hopping in the shower and using nipple stimulation and squats to help speed things up,” says Maya B. And remember that being physically fit will also help. “I work out, do yoga and stretch daily to get my body ready,” says Reginah C.
where to deliver
Also important is where you give birth. It can be at home, at a birthing center or at a hospital. Today, only about 1.3 percent of births take place outside of a hospital— that number has been on the rise since 2004. There’s no wrong location choice, as long as the people who’ll be around you
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are on board for your desire to go natural, and that the room has plenty of square footage. “Allowing mom the space to move through the labor process is really important,” explains Linda Perry, a midwife in the New York City area. Moving around and putting your body into different positions can help you manage your pain and get baby in the right position for birth. Think hard about your priorities: “Many people prefer to be in a hospital setting because they want the safety net of Western medicine, in the rare case something goes awry,” Sebestyen says. Birthing centers may be part of a hospital, either a dedicated floor or a freestanding building nearby, but, Sebestyen says, they feel more like a home. “They’re a good choice if you want a home birth experience but don’t like the idea of the messy things happening in your house.” >
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It’s common for people to have negative connotations with the hospital setting—for example, if a family member has been sick or passed away there. At home you might feel more comfortable and relaxed. “There are women who feel safety at home—it’s their sanctuary; there are no restrictions on how many people can be there or whether you can eat and drink,” Sebestyen notes. There are financial considerations as well. Hospitals are the highest-cost option, but your health insurance may cover all or most of the bill if the hospital where you deliver is considered in-network. Birthing centers carry a much lower total price tag but may not be covered by your health insurance, or you may have to go through a reimbursement process. Home birth is the cheapest option, but the midwife and doula may only accept cash.
ways to get through it
There’s no way to sugarcoat it: Labor is painful. But that doesn’t mean your body can’t handle it. “Remember: People run marathons without epidurals,” Perry says. And yes, experts relate the pain of childbirth to that of running a marathon. Sebestyen says, for some, using endur-
ance to work through pain is scary, and for others, it’s exhilarating, like with running a long race. “It’s empowering for women to feel that intensity and work through it, and then look back and realize how amazing they did,” Perry says. It won’t be easy, but your finish line is your baby. Remind yourself that it’s okay to feel pain—it’s there to bring you your baby. “Get as much rest as you can early on—
“It’s really empowering for women to feel that intensity and work through it.” sleep, snack and hydrate—and try to relax through each contraction,” says Jackie R. “I remember panicking as the contractions built, so I wasted energy fighting it rather than just going with it, because each contraction will end.” >
how to deal if birth doesn’t go your way BE OPEN-MINDED
Even if you’re hoping to go as holistic as possible, be open-minded. If a doctor or midwife suggests introducing drugs, they’re usually looking out for mom and baby.
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Discuss with your doctor and your partner all of the what-ifs in advance and plan out your decisions, so you’re mentally prepared for (almost) anything that could happen.
“Having medical interventions doesn’t mean that you failed or that you did a bad job,” says Albinger. “That was the way that baby needed to be born, and as a mom, you made that successful.”
be sad about the loss of the birth that you were planning,” says Albinger. “But you used your power in making really great and well-informed decisions, no matter the outcome.”
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Use the methods you learned at childbirth class, such as breathing, visualization and positioning. “If you take advantage of the relaxation that can happen during the break between contractions, it becomes a manageable thing,” Sebestyen says. It doesn’t mean just following one specific breathing pattern or movement. “You need a whole toolbox of methods during labor to figure out what works best for mom,” Albinger says. “Try massage and change positions frequently to keep labor moving,” Albinger advises. Squatting or sitting on an exercise ball can help baby make his descent and may accelerate the birthing process. Find a focal point in the room, such as a picture on the wall, to center on during painful contractions. Some moms find that a TENS unit—an electronic nerve-stimulating machine—or acupuncture can help.
“Each time you try something new, you gain another hour or two of progress.” Water also can be very relieving for women in labor, so many moms-to-be order portable birthing tubs. If you’re at the hospital, sit on your birthing ball in the tub. In advance, flesh out which methods you’re willing to try and have them all at your disposal on that day. “Having things to try along the way gives the mom hope and helps build her stamina,” says Sebestyen. “Each time you try something new, you gain another hour or two of progress during your labor.” So keep busy! Most important, you’ll need positive reinforcement from your support group. Having them there, coaching you on, can really help you through all the rough stuff.
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birth methods These are among the top choices for birthing classes to help prep you for a drug-free delivery. LAMAZE Used by one-fourth of mothers, Lamaze is the most popular method. You’ll learn simple, natural strategies to use during labor, like rhythmic breathing, hydrotherapy, massage, position changes and walking. The classes (at least 12 hours overall) cover a wide range of information on what happens during and after delivery, possible complications and how to effectively communicate. ALEXANDER This method teaches posture and movement techniques to ease muscle tension and improve balance, coordination, back pain and digestion to use throughout pregnancy. With it, you’ll learn to coordinate your breathing and strengthen your pelvic muscles in preparation for delivery. BRADLEY Natural childbirth is the goal of this method—about 90 percent of class participants deliver without meds. The 12-week class series also stresses nutrition and exercise as precursors to a healthy delivery. You’ll learn techniques for breathing and tuning into your body, with your labor partner as an active coach. Bradley emphasizes relaxation (not distraction) for dealing with pain and stress. HYPNOBIRTHING No, not like that guy you saw in Vegas. HypnoBirthing relies on the power of suggestion to help you relax and let your muscles work to give birth. Affirmations and visualizations are used to guide thoughts and breathing and to naturally decrease stress and fear.
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birth plan Use this checklist to prepare you (and your doctor) for labor. full name:
partner’s name:
today’s date:
due date/induction date:
doctor’s name :
hospital name:
my delivery is planned as:
during labor, I’d like:
Vaginal C-section Water birth VBAC
Music played (which I’ll provide) The lights dimmed The room to be as quiet as possible As few interruptions as possible As few vaginal exams as possible Hospital staff to be limited to my own doctor and nurses (no students, residents or interns present) To wear my own clothes To wear my contact lenses My partner to film and/or take pictures My partner to be present the entire time To stay hydrated with clear liquids and ice chips To eat and drink as approved
I’d like my present during labor. Partner Parents Children Doula Other
I’d like my present after delivery. Partner Parents Children Doula Other
for pain relief, I’d like to use: Acupressure Acupuncture Breathing techniques Cold therapy Distraction Epidural Hot therapy Hypnosis Massage Meditation Reflexology Systemic medication TENS Nothing Only what I request at the time Whatever is suggested
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as baby is delivered, I’d like to: Push spontaneously Push as directed Push with no time limits, as long as baby and I aren’t at risk Use a mirror to see baby crown Touch the head as it crowns Avoid forceps usage Avoid vacuum extraction Use whatever methods my doctor deems necessary Help catch baby Let my partner catch baby Let my partner suction baby
I’d like to hold baby: Immediately after delivery After suctioning After weighing After being wiped clean and swaddled Before eyedrops/ointment is given
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How far apart will the contractions be? Your body will go through a few different stages before you and baby meet. EARLY LABOR In the beginning, contractions typically last about 30 to 45 seconds, with anywhere from 5 to 30 minutes of rest between them, says Robert Wool, MD, clinical instructor of obstetrics and gynecology at Tufts University. Don’t panic to get to the hospital or birthing center right away, but prepare yourself to leave, especially if your contractions are growing more intense, lasting longer, and happening closer together. ACTIVE LABOR Soon enough, contractions will last about 45 to 60 seconds, with just 3 to 5 minutes of rest between each one. They’ll feel longer and stronger. If you haven’t already, this is the time to get to your birthing center or hospital. TRANSITION PHASE During the last phase before your cervix is fully dilated, contractions usually last 60 to 90 seconds, with just 30 seconds to 2 minutes rest between each, Wool says. They’re intense and can even overlap. This can be overwhelming. URGE TO PUSH Once your cervix is dilated to 10 centimeters, contractions last about the same—45 to 90 seconds with 3 to 5 minutes of rest between—and you’ll feel a strong urge to push. Rest between them, because you’re at the home stretch!
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Is there a benefit to waiting before my partner cuts the umbilical cord? Yes! Early cord clamping—almost immediately after birth—has been the standard for decades, but a 2013 review of 15 medical studies found that delaying cord cutting improved babies’ birth weight, blood concentration and iron stores at six months of age without increasing moms’ risk of bleeding. That’s because clamping the cord immediately deprives baby of some of his normal blood volume. By delaying cord clamping, you allow baby to equilibrate, and get nourishment and oxygen from your body as he learns to take his first breaths. It can take anywhere from a minute to three minutes or so for the cord to stop pulsating, at which point it will be done delivering all that goodness to baby. Delaying cord clamping and cutting, even if just for a minute or two, may decrease the chances of baby developing iron-deficiency anemia and improve his overall health, so it’s worth requesting. What is perineal massage? Your perineum is the area of skin and tissue that separates the vagina and the anus. Some women will massage this region in the weeks leading up to delivery to make the area more supple and pliable in an effort to help reduce the need for
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cally easier to deliver than large ones, an episiotomy (a surgical incision into the Wool notes. Of course, when you’re in this area) or tearing during delivery. final stage of labor, every minute may feel There’s not a lot of research to prove that like an hour, so prepare yourself mentally this prelabor self-massage actually helps, and physically by taking childbirth classes. says Michele Hakakha, MD, an ob-gyn in That way, push comes to shove (sorry, we private practice in Beverly Hills, California. couldn’t resist), you’ll know what to expect And some doctors think it can actually and feel strong and confident. thicken the tissue rather than make it softer, so the decision The doctor told me baby is whether or not to give it a go transverse. What does that is completely up to you. What is TENS? mean exactly? When it comes time for you Transcutaneous Baby usually hangs out in to deliver baby, your doctor or Electrical Nerve a few different positions while midwife may gently massage Stimulation. A in the womb. Sometimes the perineum, helping to relax TENS unit is a she’s head down (vertex), the tissue around baby’s head portable device sometimes head up (breech), as she crowns. This can make that delivers mild and occasionally she may labor and delivery go more bursts of lowbe sideways (transverse). smoothly and help minimize voltage electricity As you near delivery, she’ll tears—especially for first-time through the skin pick a position and stay that moms—which will make your way. Luckily, very few babies recovery more comfortable. to the nerves to interrupt the flow actually stay in a transverse position because the uterus is How long will I actually have of pain signals. built to stretch up and down, to push to deliver baby? Some moms not side to side, says Melissa The “push” phase of your swear it relieves M. Goist, MD, assistant delivery depends on many labor pains professor of obstetrics and different factors, including and others say gynecology at The Ohio State what kind of shape you’re in it didn’t work University Wexner Medical (fit = shorter), how big baby is for them. Center. Plus, gravity should (large = longer) and if you’ve help baby get into place. By received an epidural (meds 36 weeks, she’ll likely descend can = longer). Some women into the head-down position. But in some push for as long as four hours straight, cases she might become breech. Delivering and some deliver baby on their second a breech baby vaginally poses some risks, push, Wool says. so if that’s the case, your doctor may There are a few more rules of thumb ask if you want to try and turn baby with that can help you estimate whether you’ll an inversion procedure to get her into a push for a little or a lot of time: In general, vertex position. If that doesn’t work, you you’ll probably push longer with your may consider having a c-section. Discuss first baby than you will with subsequent the pros and cons with your OB. deliveries. Smaller babies are quite logi-
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vaccine fears
If you follow the recommendations, baby will get five shots (and one liquid!) by the time he’s two months old. And it’s easy to wonder whether you’re doing the right thing. BY ELENA DONOVAN MAUER
Imagine if there was something you could do so baby would never get a life-threatening infection or a virus that could paralyze him. It seems so obvious you’d do it, right? But the parents who don’t vaccinate and the parents who do worry about it on the same level. So what’s really at the heart of the debate? We know beyond certainty that “vaccinating protects babies from dire infections, stuff that causes horrible
complications,” says Cheryl Wu, MD, a pediatrician in New York City. At the same time, information on the Internet and releases by anti-vaccine groups make them seem terribly unsafe and even medically unethical for doctors to administer. THE FEAR dangerous
side effects
Why give baby something that can cause diarrhea, allergic reaction, rash or fever?
what shots to get when
The CDC’s recommended vaccine schedule for baby’s first year-and-half.
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The potential side effects are less scary than your baby getting, say, diphtheria (as many as 1 in 5 kids who get it dies) or polio (it can cause lifelong paralysis). “Minor side effects are common—a sore arm, body aches, maybe a fever,” says Ari Brown, MD, a pediatrician in Austin, Texas, and author of Baby 411. “Those are a small price to pay for protection against a disease that is much, much worse to experience.”
“200 studies have said there is no link between vaccines and autism.” “Significant adverse effects are rare,” Brown adds. “For instance, the risk of having an anaphylactic reaction is about one in a million. Could it happen? Yes. No medication is risk free. But, the risk is extremely low compared to the great benefit.” Vaccines undergo rigorous testing before they come out on the market, and there are regular follow-up tests, says Michael T. Brady, MD, chair of the American Academy of Pediatrics’s (AAP) Committee on Infectious Diseases and associate medical director at Nationwide Children’s Hospital in Columbus, Ohio.
THE FEAR autism
There’s a connection between vaccines and autism, right? Nope. The AAP, CDC, World Health Organization and the Institute of Medicine are all clear on this. Vaccines do not cause autism. Autism and vaccines were first linked in a study published in medical journal The Lancet in 1998, in which 12 children were reported as exhibiting autistic behaviors soon after receiving the measles, mumps and rubella (MMR) vaccine. No one should have taken the study seriously in the first place, says Wu. “Twelve is not enough of a sample to definitively establish causation or association.” Even worse, in 2010, the study was found to have been fraudulent—the doctor who reported it intentionally altered the results—and The Lancet retracted it completely. “In the meantime, some 200 studies were conducted that have said that there is definitively no causation between MMR and autism,” Wu says. “We need to focus our attention and the research dollars to more promising leads on the cause of autism—like early brain development in the womb and prenatal and perinatal risk factors that might be prevented,” Brown says. Other variables that could have an effect on autism risk could be mom and/or dad’s age at the time of conception, premature birth and even mom’s weight before pregnancy. >
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THE FEAR “the other stuff” in the shot
THE FEAR
Can’t those preservatives harm my baby? You may have heard of thimerosal, a mercury-containing preservative used only in the influenza vaccine in the US, which worries some parents. “We have good data that says thimerosal in vaccines doesn’t cause problems,” says Brady, who notes that thimerosal is used more widely in vaccines in some other countries. Several studies, including one published in Pediatrics in 2010, have deemed it safe. THE FEAR
vaccines being useless
I doubt my baby will get polio—and measles is no big deal. What’s the point? It could take something as simple as someone with one of these conditions hopping a flight to cause an outbreak here, as it did recently with travelers carrying measles to the US, says Brown.
overdoing shots
Should a two-month-old baby really be given six vaccines at one appointment? “The worry is that you’ll overload a baby’s immune system and he won’t be able to handle it. But we know that’s not the case,” says Brady. “Vaccines provide only the minimum amount of material needed to create an immune response.” Because it seems like too much at once, some parents request a modified schedule, which means delaying shots, but that’s actually a gamble. “Being on the schedule means that the vaccine has been tested for this age,” Brady says. “We have evidence that this timing is safe and effective.” With a modified schedule, baby goes longer without protection—not a good idea when there have been outbreaks of measles and whooping cough in the US in recent years. “If a two-month-old gets whooping cough, he can die,” says Brown. “There’s no benefit in waiting—only risk.”
And sure, your parents may have had measles as kids and got through it, but it can lead to pneumonia and cause brain damage, deafness and even death. It’s so contagious that baby would only need to be in the same room as someone with it to catch it. In areas with fewer vaccinated kids, infections spread more easily. “I’ve been a pediatrician for 18 years, and I’m also a mom,” says Brown. “We all want to protect our kids. I vaccinated my children on the recommended schedule. I wouldn’t do anything differently for your kids.”
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Inactivated poliovirus (IPV) [3rd dose] Measles, mumps, rubella (MMR) Varicella (VAR) Hepatitis A (HepA)
Diphtheria, tetanus and acellular pertussis (DTaP) [4th dose]
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“The women that seem to have it the worst are school teachers, nurses, flight attendants and other people that don’t normally get breaks throughout the day,” says Jennifer Ritchie, a board-certified lactation consultant and author of I Make Milk, What’s Your Superpower? HOW TO DEAL Get a really good breast pump (see our top picks below). Look for one that’s a double electric, like the Medela Pump In Style or the one from Dr. Brown’s. “These can empty 95 percent of the milk in your breast in five minutes,” Ritchie says. YOU HATE the pulling and pinching
Instead of compressing like baby, pumps use suction to remove milk from your breast, pulling your nipple and areola into funny-looking plastic devices. Translation: a whole lot of ouch!
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your plastic breast shield—the trumpet-looking part that goes over your breast when you pump. “When you pump, your nipple should not touch any side of the breast shield,” Ritchie says. That can get pretty painful. If this is happening to you, it means you probably need to upgrade to a bigger shield size. Visit your pump’s manufacturer’s website or give them a call to see if there are larger shields available for your breast pump model. If not, it might be worth investing in a pump that offers them. Another way to alleviate some of the discomfort: Apply nipple cream (we like pure lanolin) before each pumping session to cut down on friction against the sides of the shield. >
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Medela Pump In Style advanced This double electric pump is portable, efficient and reliable, so it’s perfect for everyday use. Splurge on the Metro Bag version, which can be taken out of the bag and packed elsewhere. $360, Medela.com for stores BEST FOR COMFORT
Dr. Brown’s double electric breast pump If you’re worried about pumping pain, this one (formerly called the Simplisse double electric pump) is for you. The pump uses compression technology, which means it doesn’t tug or pinch as much as some of the other pump models might. $260, DrBrownsBaby.com for stores
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Perfect if you don’t pump often, this one is hand powered, is easy to use and has two modes to help you pump more milk. (And it doesn’t make a loud whirring sound.) Best of all, you can’t beat the price tag. $35, Lansinoh.com for stores BEST HOSPITAL-GRADE
Hygeia EnDeare breast pump Sturdy and super-efficient, this pump is all-around awesome at getting the milk to flow. The price is steep, but you can rent a highend pump from many hospitals and specialty stores for about $45 per month. From $920, HygeiaInc.com
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the frustration You pump and pump—it takes so much time and effort—and then you look at the bottles and see that you’ve got a measly ounce or two in each one. HOW TO DEAL Turn the suction on your pump to just the right level. “In order to efficiently get the milk out, the suction has to be very high,” says Ritchie. “It usually doesn’t say that anywhere in the pump instructions. I’ve had so many moms complain about low milk supply, and then they come in and I turn their suction up and they get three times the milk. They can’t believe it.” The trick is to increase the suction speed to as high as you can without causing pain—once it starts to hurt, your body will feel stressed and shut off its letdown response. Also, give yourself a little boob massage. Using your hands to compress your milk ducts—simulating the way baby feeds— can increase the efficiency of pumping. “Squeeze the boob like a lemon, like you’re making lemonade,” Ritchie says. “You can do it anywhere on the breast. It can really help to shoot the milk out.” YOU HATE
YOU HATE all the work involved It’s hard enough to find time to pump, much less time to wash and dry all of your pumping supplies. (And who wants to wash their breast pump parts in the company kitchen? Yuck!) “When moms think about pumping, and then cleaning everything, and then having to do it all over again in a couple of hours, they get overwhelmed,” Ritchie says. HOW TO DEAL You really don’t need to wash your pump parts after every single pumping session. Cue the sigh of relief! Yep, it really is perfectly okay to pump and then stash your supplies in a clean plastic bag to use again later in the day. Think about it this way, says Ritchie: “Freshly expressed breast milk is good when sitting out on the counter without any refrigeration for up to eight hours.
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“I feel sympathy for cows now— being milked constantly.” —PAPERTHISCLIP13
One drop of breast milk contains a million white blood cells, so any milk that remains in or on your pumping equipment will defeat any bacteria that would grow there.” More tricks for making cleaning speedier: Use specialized quick clean wipes and microwave steam bags. Or throw everything in the dishwasher.
perfect timing will I run out of milk after I pump? We get where you’re coming from: You want to work in an extra pumping session while baby’s napping, but you’re worried that she’ll wake up hungry and you’ll be tapped out. Don’t stress it, says Gina Ciagne, lactation consultant for Lansinoh. “Baby is efficient at getting milk,” she says. “You will always have enough milk for her.” so what’s the ideal time to pump? Multitask: Pump on one side while baby feeds on the other, or do it before baby wakes in the morning or after she goes to bed at night. When you’re away from baby, pump every time she’d normally have a bottle. Regular stimulation keeps your body making milk.
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Fever, diarrhea, vomiting—it’s all scary stuff when your tiny patient can’t talk and you don’t know what’s wrong. BY ELENA DONOVAN MAUER
Even though millions of people do this whole parenting thing every day, you may feel pretty inept at handling common symptoms at first. “There’s a steep learning curve,” says Cheryl Wu, MD, a pediatrician in New York City. “We’re not always around babies much before we have our own, and there’s a general anxiety that parents feel about their children’s well-being.” Use this cheat sheet to help calm some of your worries.
cold
Use natural ways to ease baby’s symptoms. “Running a humidifier can be helpful, and so can using a bulb syringe to help remove the mucus,” says Alanna Levine, MD, a pediatrician at Orangetown Pediatric Associates in Tappan, New York. “Cold and cough medicines aren’t effective or safe for babies.” WHAT OTHER MOMS DO “We get the vaporizer going, tilt the mattress, suck the snot out, use saline and do vapor baths.” –MAMABLASE1 HOW TO TREAT IT
WHEN TO CALL THE DOCTOR
If baby is working harder to breathe—for example, her belly is going in and out very fast, you can see nasal flaring or there’s pulling at the chest—make the call. If there’s a fever, see the fever section at far right.
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Wait it out for now—if it just happens once or twice, things are probably okay. WHAT OTHER MOMS DO “My baby had a GI virus with no fever or other symptoms, so there really wasn’t much to do other than watch his hydration and snuggle him.” –JENNA D. HOW TO TREAT IT
WHEN TO CALL THE DOCTOR
Pick up the phone if baby isn’t acting right or not responding well, or if he vomits more than a few times. Also call if you see signs of dehydration, including dried lips or fewer wet diapers than normal. “Babies get dehydrated quickly,” Wu says. If baby’s puke is greenish, yellowish or has blood, or if he can’t seem to keep anything down, he’ll need to see a doctor.
cough
HOW TO TREAT IT Suction baby’s nose with the bulb syringe to get rid of any postnasal drip that could be causing the cough. Moisture from the humidifier or a running shower can thin mucus too. WHAT OTHER MOMS DO “I put Vicks BabyRub on the bottom of her feet at night. It seems weird, but it’s worked amazingly well!”
–REGINA M.
WHEN TO CALL THE DOCTOR
You’ll want to get your doctor on the line if you notice that baby is having any trouble breathing (signs: his rib cage shows when he breathes, he’s grunting or his nostrils flare), or if his lips turn a bluish color when he coughs. You should call anytime baby has a fever along with his cough.
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“For a low fever, a lukewarm bath helps. I give baby a massage and dim the lights to calm her.”
diarrhea
Give baby plenty of breast milk or formula to rehydrate him, says Preeti Parikh, MD, assistant clinical professor of pediatrics at the Ichan School of Medicine at Mount Sinai and pediatrician at Pediatrics of New York. Then watch baby closely to make sure he’s improving. HOW TO TREAT IT
WHAT OTHER MOMS DO
“Our pediatrician had us switch formulas, and baby’s been great since.”
–BLONDIEBIA21
WHEN TO CALL THE DOCTOR
Get on the phone if there’s any blood or any mucus in baby’s poop, he has a high fever or has any signs of dehydration (mentioned on the previous page). If baby is dehydrated, he may need to receive IV fluids at the hospital.
constipation
HOW TO TREAT IT Be sure baby’s getting enough fluids here too. Some doctors recommend giving a small amount of prune juice or corn syrup, but ask first. WHAT OTHER MOMS DO
“We used glycerin suppositories a few times per our doctor. We also gave baby water—1 ounce three times per day between feedings. That only helped temporarily. The cureall was mixing 1 ounce of prune juice with 1 ounce of water every other day as needed.” –KITKAT307
WHEN TO CALL THE DOCTOR
If baby is breastfed and less than one month old, call as soon as you notice. Or call if he’s stopped up for more than three days. It’s also worth a chat if baby’s very fussy or strains to poop for minutes.
fever
HOW TO TREAT IT A rectal temperature that’s higher than 100.4 degrees Fahrenheit is considered a fever for baby, Parikh says. (And yes, rectal is best.) It’s okay to give baby a dose of acetaminophen (Tylenol), but ibuprofen (Advil) isn’t recommended for babies under six months of age. WHAT OTHER MOMS DO “For a low fever, a lukewarm bath helps. And then I give baby a massage with baby lotion. I also dim the lights and play relaxing music to help calm her as I wait for her fever to go down.”
–AUBRIANA R.
WHEN TO CALL THE DOCTOR
Always call the pediatrician if baby is under three months old, acts “out of it” or is very fussy. If the fever has lasted for more than 24 hours or is over 101 degrees, it could be serious, so you definitely want to touch base with the doctor to get her advice. She will likely want to check out baby in person. >
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First, look for an explanation. Baby could be hungry, tired or need a diaper change. Check for fever or even a hair “tourniquet,” says Parikh, who explains: “Hairs can get wrapped around baby’s fingers or toes, or even a boy’s penis.” Then, troubleshoot to see what will calm baby’s cries. Rock baby, walk him around your home, or try the baby swing. Burp him and bicycle his legs to help get rid of gas, in case that’s what’s making him uncomfortable. Is he teething? Try a cool teething ring or pacifier. HOW TO TREAT IT
WHAT OTHER MOMS DO
“When my daughter is inconsolable, we swaddle her and walk her around with a pacifier in her mouth. Once she’s calm, we put her in her swing, still swaddled, and turn it on with white noise, and she’s out in less than five minutes.” –KARI M.
WHEN TO CALL THE DOCTOR:
Phone the office if you’ve tried what seems like everything and there’s still uncontrollable crying, or if baby has other concerning symptoms. Wu says that if baby is crying a minimum of three hours per day, at least three days per week before she’s three months old, it’s likely colic.
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professional help It’s okay to call baby’s pediatrician anytime— don’t feel like you need to wait or that you’re being an alarmist. “New parents call my office more frequently than experienced ones do, and I encourage them to,” Levine says. “Parents shouldn’t be afraid to ask questions. What can be answered in a few short minutes can save hours of worry.” Here’s the info she’ll want to know: HOW OLD IS BABY?
Something as simple as a cold in the first three months is worth a visit, since babies under three months are particularly vulnerable. And a fever under eight weeks of age means a trip to the emergency room, if it’s outside of office hours. HOW’S HE ACTING?
When baby starts to seem off, keep track of how much he’s eating and sleeping, any noticeable difference in his mood and how often you need to change his diaper. If any of those four things are disrupted, say baby is excessively sleepy, he’s not as alert as he usually is, he’s supercranky or he’s not peeing as much as normal, it’s worth taking baby to the pediatrician’s office. Difficulty breathing, lethargy and dehydration are also considered emergencies. WHAT ARE YOU WORRIED ABOUT?
“If the answer is a variation of ‘I’m worried about the way he looks or breathes or acts,’ then that means a visit to the doctor or the ER,” says Wu. “If the answer is ‘I’m worried about his fever, but he looks okay to me,’ then he’s probably fine.” You may be new at this, but you do have instincts. Once you’re sure it’s not an emergency, it’s okay to keep baby at home and do your best to ease his symptoms. Consult the doctor about anything you’re unsure of—from Tylenol dosage to whether to use a warm- or cool-mist humidifier. “It’s always a good idea to seek guidance from a professional,” Levine says.
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When does breastfeeding get easier? Very soon. The first few days may be tough because your milk may not have come in, but it usually does within a couple days. You and baby may also have trouble getting the latch right, which can be painful and frustrating. Often, all it takes is practice, but it’s also smart to call a pro—a pediatrician, lactation consultant or a postpartum doula or nurse—to help you both get the hang of it. The earlier you can correct a problem, the more likely you and baby are to get on track. Since breast milk production is based on supply and demand, baby’s feeding prompts your body to keep making milk, so it’s important to nurse frequently. If you feel like all you’re doing is feeding your newborn, you’re actually doing it right! Don’t worry, he’ll get more efficient, and feedings will take less of your time in the coming weeks and months. “I’m a pediatrician and I’ve cried many times with all three of my kids due to breastfeeding frustrations the first two weeks,” says Josephine DlugopolskiGach, MD, pediatrician at Loyola University Medical Center. “After a few weeks, the babies and I both ‘got it.’” Other moms we know pretty much agree that breastfeeding got easier by three to four weeks, so hang in there!
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What should baby’s poop look like? If you’re breastfeeding, baby’s poop should be bright yellow, seedy and watery, and come 4 to 10 times a day. But for formula-fed babies, poop usually looks different. “It’s a little more greenish brown in color, pastier and usually less frequent,” says Sabrina Braham, MD, pediatrician in Menlo Park, California, and adjunct clinical faculty member at Stanford University. A formula-fed baby may only poop once a day. “Stool can vary day to day in breastfed babies but less in formula-fed babies.” Should I give my baby fluoride? No, babies less than six months old do not need fluoride supplements, but older kids may need them, depending on the amount of natural fluoride in your water, says Michael Lee, MD, assistant professor of pediatrics at UT Southwestern Medical Center and pediatrician at Children’s Medical Center Dallas. Call your local water utility about your water supply. If it contains between 0.7 and 1.2 parts per million of fluoride, you’re good to go. If your water supply comes from a private well and has less than 0.7 parts per million, or if your family drinks bottled water, fluoride supplements are recommended for toddlers, Lee says. Your child’s dentist or pediatrician can prescribe one.
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and guidelines for other tasks. That also Can drinking a beer really help with my means spelling out terms for your sitter breast milk supply? herself. Some good rules to start out with: There’s some truth to this old wives’ Show up on time, no texting or using cell tale. There’s an ingredient in beer—both phones for personal calls, no visitors, and alcoholic and nonalcoholic—that can always engage with baby by doing agetrigger the release of prolactin, a hormone appropriate activities together. that stimulates milk production. But no Things not working out as one has been able to prove planned? Talk to your sitter that drinking beer actually if there’s an issue. Most of the increases milk supply, says time you just need to clarify Amy Spangler, MN, RN, How long after your expectations to her. IBCLC, author of Breastfeeding: birth will it hurt “Speak calmly and include A Parent’s Guide. Plus, alcohol down there? solutions for any problem,” passes readily into breast Your rate of Kallweit says. milk, and even small amounts recovery depends of alcohol can affect milk Help! I have to go back to work production and milk release, on your physical and I’m having trouble getting Spangler says. (Defeats the condition and baby to take a bottle. purpose, right?) Most experts how much birth A lot of breastfed babies refuse recommend that breastfeeding beat you up, but everything but the real deal mothers drink no more than most moms feel at first. Be patient and know two drinks (that means two a whole lot better that with time (and hunger) ounces of liquor, eight ounces by six weeks baby will eventually accept of wine or two beers) per postpartum. something new. week to prevent baby from Every day will being exposed to alcohol FIND THE RIGHT BOTTLE NIPPLE get a little better, and keep your body’s milk Experiment with a variety production on track. Bottom (slow-flow, fast-flow, wide so just take it line: If you want to put this one achy morning base, narrow base, firm, flextheory to the test, go ahead, ible) to see which ones your at a time. but stick to nonalcoholic beer. baby will accept. Babies typically prefer the flow rate We’re hiring a new sitter. How (slow, medium, fast) that should we set the ground rules? matches their sucking skills. Watch baby Spell out your expectations from the closely during bottle feedings to get-go. “Never leave it up to the sitter see which type she’s adjusting to best. to assume that you need certain things BOTTLE-FEED THE RIGHT WAY Hold baby handled a certain way,” says Adrienne upright and encourage her to pause after Kallweit, founder of SeekingSitters, a few sucks. Stop the feeding as soon a national babysitting referral company. as baby shows signs of fullness. If baby Your ground rules might include basics still refuses a bottle, try a cup. Even on what to feed baby, nap schedules young babies can learn to drink from one.
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Time to ditch the crib? Bring on the big kid bed, along with some playful new design elements. PHOTOGRAPH BY HELYNN OSPINA
Your toddler may be ready for a big kid bed between age one-and-a-half and three. “I tell parents to put the bed in the room while there’s still a crib, so the child gets excited to sleep in it,” says Emily Mughannam of EM Design Interiors, who created this room for three-year-old Aden. “This a good time to redesign because they have a more developed personality and new interests.” Infuse your child’s favorite things in subtle, fun ways, like the car, truck and tractor on Aden’s pillow, wall art and dresser.
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Baby will be walking before you know it. Get ready to explore together at one of these fun local places. BY MADELINE SCHMITZ PHOTOGRAPH BY KT MERRY
5200 Zoo Drive, Los Angeles; (323) 662-5874; TravelTown.org This is the go-to destination for toddlers who are obsessed with trains. Not only can your tot see a real railroad and train, but he can actually go for a ride. Minitrains circle the perimeter of the museum (and they’re seriously super-cool). Afterward, explore adjacent Griffith Park and settle down for a picnic.
Wondertree Kids
710-A South Allied Way, El Segundo; (310) 535-0001; WondertreeKids.com You’re sure to find something to excite your toddler at this area hot spot—it has lots of fun and educational classes to choose from, including art, sign language and music . Attend Parent & Me toddler preschool, where you’ll help guide him as he learns new things and interacts with friends in his age group.
Ladybug Music
12400 Ventura Blvd. #656, Studio City; (310) 359-5391; LadybugMusic.com This mixed-age music class will get your toddler socializing with other kids from babies to four-year-olds. With you by her side, she’ll learn about rhythm and voice in an environment that encourages participation and silliness—no crazy dance moves are off-limits, and neither are any musical genres. Selections range from reggae to lullabies, so you two will keep guessing what’s coming next, making it an exciting (never boring!) class.
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Kidspace Children’s Museum
480 North Arroyo Blvd., Pasadena; (626) 449-9144; KidspaceMuseum.org In the newly renovated Early Childhood Learning Center at this fun and interactive museum, toddlers can climb, slide and play in nature-themed exhibits. There’s also daily music time for budding musicians, story time for avid “readers” and even sign language classes. While you’re there, stop by Kirby’s Kids Corner, an outdoor jungle gym, or Splash Dance Fountain, where your little one can cool off on hot days by running through its sprinklers.
Aquarium of the Pacific
100 Aquarium Way, Long Beach; (562) 590-3100; AquariumofPacific.org See live sharks, penguins and sea otters at this awesome aquarium, which houses over 11,000 ocean animals for you and your tot to check out. There are toddleradventure classes throughout the year that introduce young children to underwater creatures while teaching them about colors, numbers and senses. They’ll get to touch some of the animals, learn about underwater living and make a craft to take home as a keepsake.
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signs of an awesome day care Bring this with you when you take the tour. Don’t settle for less than all five!
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GOOD RATIOS
Ideally, there should be one caregiver for every three to four infants or young toddlers, and one caregiver per four to six older toddlers.
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Look for a licensed facility. They’re required to meet certain standards. Look for high state quality ratings.
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Look for a well-organized space with a variety of educational toys and lots of activities scheduled, like outdoor play, reading (it should be at least twice a day!), art, music and dramatic play.
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Ask if the teachers have early childhood education degrees and get professional development to regularly sharpen skills.
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Each staff er should have had a background check and be certified in CPR and first aid. There should be firm emergency plans in place.
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Create a space in your child’s room just for his mostused things. “Every kid goes through a favorite toy or favorite jacket phase,” says Sharon Montrose of Animal Print Shop, who created this cute wall with the help of designer Morgan Satterfield. “Dedicate a place just for those items, so you always know where they are.” Hang hooks low, within your toddler’s reach, so he can start to learn to put things away on his own.
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what parents around the world
think you’re doing wrong Midnight feedings, picky eating and baby poop are things parents across the globe deal with daily. But how we handle them can be vastly different.
CHINA
your six-month-old should be potty trained
In some countries, they don’t use diapers, at least not for long. “In rural China, when baby sits up, that’s when it’s time to potty train,” says Mei-Ling Hopgood, author of How Eskimos Keep Their Babies Warm. “Children are trained
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by 18 months old, and often earlier.” Every two hours or so, a Chinese mom squats her child over a basin or in the yard and makes a noise. As a result, the child learns to pee or poop when they hear it! Maybe some American parents aren’t excited about going diaper-free, but there are some who use a take on this method dubbed Elimination Communication (EC). >
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COSTA RICA
you’re a prude for covering up while breastfeeding
It seems like every new mama includes a nursing cover on her baby registry, and most feel nervous the first time they have to use it out in public. But those inhibitions don’t exist in many other countries—heck, plenty of mamas around the globe don’t use a cover-up at all. “In Costa Rica, breastfeeding is a priority and you see it everywhere, no matter the time or place,” says Maribel Reyes, a mom of two who recently moved there. Remember: You have the right to feed your baby wherever and whenever you want. You don’t have to be shy. JAPAN
you’re cold for using a crib
For most of the world, having your baby sleep separately is totally foreign. “Parents in most other countries believe that being together in the nighttime is an essential part of bonding with baby,” says Christine Gross-Loh, PhD, author of Parenting Without Borders. “When I was in Japan, some of my friends couldn’t believe that American babies are expected to learn how to go to sleep by themselves.” The problem with having baby sleep in your bed is that it can pose a SIDS risk. So consider a bedside bassinet to promote parent-baby communication. FRANCE
feeding baby plain cereal is confining
“In France, they introduce babies to a variety of foods early and have so many baby food flavors, like fish and chocolate rice cereal,” says Natalia Simmons, an American mom of two who moved to France. Leek soup, endive, zucchini, pumpkin and spinach are recommended as first foods by doctors there. Nothing wrong with feeding them to baby.
KENYA
push baby in a stroller? no way!
Kenyan mothers shun strollers and, instead, carry their babies on their backs. Not only because it’s convenient in a country full of potholed dirt roads, but also because being close to mom is comforting, Hopgood notes. Japanese parents have a similar mindset. “In Japan, there’s this concept called ‘skinship.’ It’s the notion that babies and children really need to have plenty of physical contact with their loved ones to grow up secure,” Gross-Loh says. Why not cut out some stroller time and mix in babywearing too? Research suggests that keeping your little one close for at least three hours a day has shown to lessen crying bouts by nearly 50 percent. It may also increase your milk supply and reduce your risk of postpartum depression.
“In France, there are so many baby food flavors, like fish and chocolate cereal.” CANADA
you should be teaching your toddler to talk to strangers
Ali Goldfield, a family counselor in Canada, points out that there’s a disadvantage to labeling all strangers bad: “If your child is lost, how is he going to find help without talking to a stranger?” Instead, she recommends helping kids to recognize creepy adult behaviors and telling them what to do when they spot it. “Looking at other cultures makes you realize there are a million ways to raise a happy, healthy child,” Hopgood says.
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toddler chore chart
Start small with this basic list of chores. Before you know it, your toddler will clean up after himself and you’ll have a few less things to do (score!).
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get dressed
make bed
put away toys
pick up dirty clothes
brush teeth
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We’re both ready. How do I wean my toddler from breastfeeding? Great job for nursing into toddlerhood! The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends breastfeeding for at least a year, but only about 27 percent of moms and babies actually make it that long— you did it! And while it might seem tough to wean now that you’re both so used to breastfeeding, the fact that you’re pros can make this a positive experience. GO SLOWLY If this happens too abruptly, it could cause engorgement for you and could be tough for your toddler to handle. Decrease the duration of each nursing session, or skip one entirely every few days or so. Provide your toddler with plenty of attention while weaning, says Jennifer Ritchie, IBCLC, author of I Make Milk, What’s Your Superpower? DISTRACT Many moms find that if they simply don’t suggest breastfeeding, they can successfully skip a feeding here and there. Don’t sit in the usual chair you would sit in to nurse, and keep her busy with a toy or story during that time. FOCUS ON DAYTIME FIRST You’ll probably find it easier to cut out the daytime feedings before the evening ones. At night, she’s probably come to expect cuddles and breast milk before bed. The nighttime feeding is usually the last to go.
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What’s the best way to deal with my toddler’s bossiness? Some toddlers are born trying to take charge of every situation; others are just passing through a bossy phase. Whichever category your toddler falls into, your goal is to avoid constant power struggles. Starting out with a pattern of arguments, even at the “terrible twos,” can cause a habit that’s hard to break as your child gets older. Start by setting limits without having a lot of emotional reaction, says Kate Roberts, PhD, licensed clinical psychologist in Salem, Massachusetts. Of course, your child’s health, safety and well-being come first, so in some areas—wearing a seat belt or holding hands while crossing the street—you have to be the one in charge. But with other, less important things, pick your battles. For example, if your toddler likes to dictate what she’ll wear each day, let her. Give her a few reasonable outfits to choose from. She may just want to feel she has a role to play in certain situations, and not that she’s always being dragged along. Give her a job: Tell her to count all the blue cars during the ride to day care, Roberts suggests. Letting her have some leeway and control, with a few firm limits, helps her learn what’s important. It will also make the family happier in the long run.
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