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“You sway or bounce, and you aren’t even holding a baby.”
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“The only time you get to yourself is a five-minute shower.”
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“You’re on your lunch break, eating, pumping and Facebooking all at once.”
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8 bumpie buzz baby news from seattle and beyond 10 trending right now the hottest (and most absurd!) celeb trends 12 made for mamato-be pregnancy-safe beauty products 14 ace the tests timeline of prenatal tests 16 what’s in a name? top washington baby names 18 wacky products that work weird, but useful, baby gear 20 baby by the numbers fascinating stats 22 how big is baby? weekly growth and development 122 mommy deals save big on baby stuff
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26 third time around ali landry gets real about pregnancy 34 my pregnancy diary a local mom’s story 38 girlfriend getaways cool prebaby trips 44 baby horoscopes what’s baby’s sign? 48 picture perfect take great family pics
a shower is just the start unconventional ideas to celebrate baby
glow 52 all the right moves hilaria baldwin’s prenatal yoga poses 58 what’s going on with your skin? help for pregnancy skin issues 62 the pampered pregnancy local spots for a little indulgence 64 9 months of style best celeb fashion 68 eat great, feel better foods to ease your symptoms
nest 70 get inspired amazing ideas for your dream nursery 76 top 5 strollers our favorite baby ride picks 78 top 5 car seats you can’t go wrong with one of these
delivery 80 labor day childbirth basics 84 my birth story a seattle mom shares 86 natural-birth stories labor with no drugs
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basics 94 new-parent survival everything you need to know 100 biggest mistakes new moms make are you guilty? 106 jessica alba gets honest she chats about green living and parenting 108 hot topic: cry it out? is it harmful or crucial to let baby cry? 110 feeding trackers log input and output
beyond 114 first birthday basics plan the perfect party 118 7 weird toddler behaviors that are actually normal handling your child’s odd quirks 120 hot topic: early potty training? find the right time to get your kid started
Photography by Colette De Barros. Fashion styling by Shayoon Aboo. Hair by Julio Hernandez. Makeup by Davia Matson. Prop styling by Daniele Maxwell for Artist Untied. On Ali: silk blazer: Aidan Mattox; ruched maternity tank dress: Isabella Oliver; Monte Carlo pendant necklace: Tivon Fine Jewellery; Queen Ruby ring: Katherine Jetter, Reinhold Jewelers
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Congratulations! Finding out you’re pregnant is exciting, but it also can be overwhelming. That’s why we created this clever guide. It boils down pregnancy and baby info into the basics, like what’s safe and what’s not during pregnancy and where to take a new-parent class. (Of course, there’s plenty of just-for-fun and fascinating stuff here too.) But, we know you want more, so head online and check out our Ultimate Pregnancy Calendar at TheBump.com/calendar. You get know-how every day, are able to track all your to-dos and receive updates on baby’s growth and development. Bonus: It’s also a mobile app.
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Please note: The ideas, procedures and suggestions contained in this book are not intended as health care or other professional advice, diagnosis or a substitute for consulting with your health care professional. Every baby is different and circumstances vary, so you should consult your own physician and use your own common sense. The author and publisher offer no warranties or guarantees, expressed or implied, in the completeness or advisability of the information contained in this book for your particular situation, and disclaim any liability arising from its use. All product information was supplied by the designers and manufacturers. The Bump has made every effort to portray the products true to their original colors and styles, but we cannot guarantee 100-percent accuracy. Prices and availability may change based on factors including material, regions and season. Nothing contained in this guide should be construed as an endorsement by The Bump of any designer, manufacturer or product featured herein. The Bump Magazine © 2013 XO Group Inc. All rights reserved. Reproduction, in whole or in part, is forbidden without written permission from the publisher. TheBump.com and The Bump magazine are trademarks of XO Group Inc.
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What’s new for you in Seattle and beyond. by Brooke Showell
special delivery
Seattle Children’s Hospital’s neonatal intensive care unit (NICU) recently received regional Level IV designation. That means it has comprehensive services to treat all medical and surgical problems in newborns. Talk about the area’s infants being in good hands (206-987-2000, SeattleChildrens.org).
get moving
A recent study in Spain suggests that exercising at least three times a week throughout pregnancy reduces your risk of having a c-section delivery.
stress-free mama You’ve probably heard of HypnoBirthing, but how about HypnoMothering? The new class, offered by Seattle HypnoBirthing, helps you transition smoothly into motherhood by handling sleep deprivation, stress and new-mom emotions, plus gives advice on bonding with baby (206-6192660, SeattleHypno Birthing.com).
safer play
Examine your play yard. The US Consumer Product Safety Commission (CPSC) passed new federal safety standards for infant and toddler play yards (framed enclosures with a floor and mesh or fabric side panels), to prevent babies from getting trapped or hurt. To meet the requirements, products must have side rails that do not form a sharp V when folded, stronger corner brackets and sturdier mattress attachments. If you use a play yard, remove any pillows or thick quilts before you put baby in it.
morning sickness drug Feeling queasy? The FDA has officially given the green light to Diclegis, a prescription medication for nausea and vomiting during pregnancy—it’s the only one approved by the fda. when taken daily on an empty stomach, it poses no harm to baby, according to several studies.
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The latest, hottest (and just plain absurd) celebrity pregnancy and baby trends. By Brooke Showell
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camden craze
Trendy-name alert! Celebs like Vanessa and Nick Lachey, Kristin Cavallari, and Eric Gunderson all recently chose the cute name Camden for their baby boys—and, no, not after the city in New Jersey.
“Hormone pills, and then after that, it is hormone injections. They want to get as many eggs as they can because usually you produce them but they’re not good. They have to be perfect, perfect, perfect ones.” —Sofia Vergara, confessing to Vogue that she’s freezing her eggs
music to their ears
What do you think of shaping baby’s musical taste even before birth? Hilaria Baldwin Tweeted a photo of her growing tummy while wearing Bellybuds, little speakers that play directly to the womb, and announced her baby was listening to the popular Mexican song, “Cielito Lindo.”
say what? New mom Holly Madison shared that she planned to take placenta pills after giving birth—would you? Here’s what Bumpies said on TheBump.com message boards: “I’ve heard it works wonders, but I don’t know if I’m crunchy enough to try it!” —kdjudd “I did it, had a fairly easy recovery and got over the baby blues pretty fast.” —blathnat “It sounds horrifying, but now I’m curious enough to look into it.” —little_bren
“I just feel awful; I’ve been vomiting. The crazy thing is, I never knew that a wiener could actually make me nauseous.” —Jessica Simpson on Jimmy Kimmel Live!, letting the news slip that she’s having a boy
selfie portrait celeb moms and moms-to-be like Jessica Simpson, Shakira and Kim Kardashian have bared their growing baby bumps on Instagram and Twitter. Too cute or TMI?
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preggie pop drops “They’ve got a weird name, but these sour-fruit-flavored candies are a real pick-meup when I’m feeling queasy.” $6, ThreeLollies .com for stores
mama mio tummy rub stretch mark oil “Does anyone else hate how long it takes to rub in some lotions and creams? You can quickly slather on this oil—it dries and sets fast.” $35, MamaMio .com for stores
knocked-up fitness prenatal pilates-infused workouts
“Between work, my three-year-old and prepping for baby, I don’t have the time or the motivation to go to the gym. At-home workouts are much more doable.” $40, Knocked-UpFitness.com
belli pregnancy all day moisture body lotion
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“This is the only thing I’ve tried that keeps away the dry-skin itches.” $19, BelliSkinCare.com for stores
bellaband “A first-trimester must-have. It let me put off wearing maternity pants for longer. Wear it with your regular jeans unbuttoned.” $28, Ingrid andIsabel.com for stores
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“This line of polish prides itself on being free of DBP, formaldehyde and toluene.” $16, RGB Cosmetics.com for stores
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first prenatal appointment and ultrasound
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chorionic villus sampling
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what’s in a
name?
Still searching? Here’s the Social Security Administration’s annual list of the top 10 names for boys and girls in Washington. By brooke showell
HELLO n? It means 1 Mason Is this the new Jaso nts love it. pare l “stoneworker” and loca William, 2 Liam The Gaelic version of rs Liam acto ood lyw Hol by red it’s sha Neeson and Liam Hemsworth. losing its 3 Ethan Fashionable without . vibe e sitiv sen yetstrongpopes, 4 Alexander It’s been used by slatran has and emperors and kings, e. uag lang ry eve ut abo just tions in bs, Gisele 5 Benjamin A hit among cele e a son hav y Brad Bündchen and Tom in. jam Ben named
” or “to 6 Noah The meaning—“to rest for this iate ropr app ems —se der” wan ounding soothing and slightly quirky-s e. nam ’s boy biblical 7 Jacob It offers both a strong, e). (Jak e nam nick l name and a coo sed all 8 Daniel A fave for decades—u ations. over the world, with tons of vari never 9 Michael A classic that will a with d, date out m grow old or see e— Mike. strong and popular nick nam 10 James Your little man can name with six US presidents.
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MY NAME IS 1 Sophia Pretty but not prissy, classic but not frumpy—we get the appeal. 2 Emma One of the top names nationwide, it’s pretty fitt ing that one meaning is “universa l.” 3 Olivia This poetic nam e first popped up in Shakespeare’s Tw elfth Night.
4 Isabella It’s timeless wit h equally trendy nicknames—Ella, Ellie and Bella. 5 Ava It fits right in with today’s popular names—girly but stro ng. 6 Emily English-speaking countries around the world love the name. Emily is classic and feminine, but powerful.
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7 Abigail This Old Testam ent nam e sounds like a memb er of the trendy grandma-nam es-are -co ol-again trib e. 8 Elizabeth This royal-s ounding nam e com es with a slew of pot ential fun nickname s including Bet ty, Liz zy and Liza. 9 Mia It’s a pet nam e for Maria, Mary or Am elia . As for its meaning, we’d have to go with Am elia’s “en ergetic .” 10 Ella Not just a nickna me for Isabella or Elizabeth any more, this stylish nam e holds its own.
Get a new name idea every day at TheBump.com/babynames
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These crazy finds can make your life easier.
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Looks like a lunch box, but My Carry Potty is really, well, a potty that you’ll want to stash in your car, just in case. $30, RegalLager .com for stores
ease of use
Forget snaps. Magnificent Baby’s footie with magnetic closures makes changes simpler. $30, MagnificentBaby .com for stores
breast friend
Freeze your breast milk in Milk Trays; then take out as many one-ounce sticks as you need to fill baby’s bottle. No annoying bags! $22 for set of 2 trays and lids, SensibleLines.com for stores
call me baby
Keep baby from handling your cell and give him his own jChews smartphone teething toy. $15, JellystoneDesignsUSA .com for stores
self-warming
On the go? Yoomi heats baby’s milk wherever you are. $33 for 8 oz. bottle and warmer, Yoomi .com for stores
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tune in
Why go classic, when you can go rock? Play lullaby versions of popular songs by Rockabye Baby! $17, RockabyeBabyMusic.com
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The must-know (and just for fun!) baby stats. By Brooke Showell
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number of diapers you’ll go through in baby’s first week
crying sessions during baby’s first year (we’re talking about you, Mom, not baby—including happy and sad tears)
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babies conceived on Valentine’s Day in 2012 (New year’s Eve also ranks high)
32,400 minutes you’ll spend breastfeeding in baby’s first six months (if you exclusively nurse)
percentage of babies born today who will live to be more than 100 years old in major industrialized nations
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how
big is baby?
See how she matches up to common fruits and veggies (and what the heck she’s doing in there) week by week. by paula kashtan
week 5
apple seed Baby is starting to form her major organs, including the heart, kidneys, liver and stomach.
week 3
poppy seed Sperm met egg and—voilà— conception! Now your zygote sets off on a six-day trek through your fallopian tube to your uterus.
week 6
blueberry With joints starting to appear, baby is forming arms and legs—and growing new brain cells each minute. Wow!
week 8
raspberry Continuing to straighten in the trunk, baby can move those little arms, legs, and (slightly webbed) fingers and toes.
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week 9
olive The former embryo is now officially a fetus, and an ultrasound device may be able to pick up a view of her beating heart.
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week 7
sweet pea As blood begins to circulate, baby is beginning to develop eyes, ears, a nose, cheeks and a chin.
week 14
lemon Your fetus is busy with thumb sucking, toe wiggling, making urine and breathing amniotic fluid.
week 15
orange Finally, all four limbs have functional joints. Your fetus squirms and wiggles like crazy, though you probably still can’t feel it. >
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peach While the intestines make their way from the umbilical cord to the fetus’s tummy, baby is developing teeth and vocal cords.
week 10
prune Arm joints work, bones and cartilage are forming, and baby’s vital organs are starting to function.
plum As you get ready for the second trimester, almost all of baby’s systems are fully formed. From here, they grow and mature.
week 11
lime Now baby’s fingers and toes are no longer webbed, and her hair follicles, tooth buds and nail beds are forming.
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week 16
avocado Tiny bones are now forming in the ears and eyebrows, and lashes and hair are starting to fill in.
onion Baby’s skeleton is hardening, and those little fingers and toes are now defined with one-of-a-kind prints.
week 18
sweet potato Baby has become amazingly mobile. She yawns, hiccups, rolls, kicks, punches, sucks, twists and swallows.
week 19
mango Vernix caseosa, a greasy white goo, now coats baby’s skin. Some of it could remain at birth.
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week 20
banana Your baby is gulping down amniotic fluid for nutrition and to practice swallowing. Her taste buds work!
weeks 33–36
honeydew Baby can recognize and react to simple songs and may even remember them after birth. She now pees about a pint each day.
week 37 to delivery
watermelon Your full-term (yay!) baby gains about half an ounce a day, and her brain continues to develop rapidly.
are we there yet?
weeks 29–32
squash Baby is going through major brain and nerve development, and her energy is surging. Her irises react to light, and all five senses work.
weeks 22–24
papaya Settling into sleep cycles, baby snoozes 12 to 14 hours a day. Skin is becoming more opaque, and it’s taking on a pink glow.
weeks 25–28
eggplant Baby is getting her immune system ready by soaking up lots of antibodies. Her eyes are forming too.
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third time around
Ali Landry gets real about expecting baby #3. By Elena Donovan MaueR Photography by colette de barros
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Actress and model Ali Landry (you probably recognize her as the Doritos girl) isn’t just a pretty face. She’s a passionate mom, an entrepreneur and even a certified car seat technician. She dished to us about her maternity fashion secrets, her favorite products and what it was like shooting a movie as her due date neared (hello, pregnancy brain!).
The Bump Did anything surprise you about pregnancy the third time around?
Ali Landry During my other two pregnancies,
my skin glowed. But this time around, I got melasma [aka the mask of pregnancy]. I learned it’s really important to have a great sunscreen and protect your skin as much as possible. I wear a hat whenever I’m outside with the kids now.
TB What are your best maternity fashion tips? AL Part of me wants to wake up in the morning
and throw on a big pair of pants—probably my husband’s—and a sweatshirt. But when I do that, I look in the mirror and I just don’t feel good about myself. So I really try to pull it all together, and I do feel so much better. It’s important to get a great pair of maternity jeans. Right now, skinny jeans are all the rage, so find a pair that’s flattering and really comfortable. I buy a lot of non-maternity tops that look stylish with my skinny jeans. This time around, I got some shirts that button down for easy access for nursing, so I can get plenty of wear out of them after the baby arrives. A well-fitted maxi dress with a great statement piece of jewelry is always really comfortable—and it looks flattering and put-together.
TB We heard you’re working on something to help moms find the best products. Tell us about it.
AL Yes! What people really want to know when
they’re buying something—myself included—is “What is your favorite product?” I want to know what your ultimate favorite thing is, so I can go out and make an educated decision and possibly buy it. I’m always putting together emails recommending all of my favorite things to friends and asking them what great >
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products they’ve found, so we can learn from each other. I wanted to create a seamless way for people to do that. So my business partner and I created Favored.by. It’s a mobile app that lets you poll people on their number one favorite booster seat or jogging stroller and sort those results by either a community or people you follow, maybe like-minded people or celebrities. Eventually, we’ll expand beyond parenting and include a wider range of products.
Even a thirdtimer like Ali gets pregnancy surprises!
TB Are you nesting for the new baby?
AL We’re in the process of putting
our home on the market and buying a new one, because we’re bursting at the seams! My kids, Marcelo and Estela, are sharing a room, and I want all the children on the same floor as me. I have a feeling the nesting is going to come in when I’m packing and unpacking. Fortunately, I know that this baby is a boy, and I’ve saved everything from Marcelo, so I’ll be able to reuse a lot of his things. >
ali’s favorite products Amber Teething Necklace by Momma Goose “They really worked for Marcelo, and they’re just too cute when he wears them!” $19, MommaGoose .ca for stores
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Sage Spoonfuls by Liza Huber “This cookbook made preparing homemade baby food so easy. I think that’s why Marcelo is such a great eater.” $25, SageSpoonfuls .com
Baby Björn Travel Crib Light 2 “We took this portable crib to the beach and on all our vacations. It’s so light and easy to bring along!” $300, BabyBjorn.com for stores
Nuna ZAZZ High Chair “This high chair is beautifully designed, and it’s made to grow with your child, so it’s longlasting. Even an adult can sit in it.” $260, Nuna.eu for stores
fashion styling: shayoon aboo; hair: Julio Hernandez; makeup: Davia Matson; prop styling: Daniele Maxwell for artist untied. on Ali: Dress: Zayan; Earrings, Necklace, Bracelet, pinky ring: Trina Turk; Ring on middle finger of right hand: River Bed Fern Ring, Reinhold Jewelers
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celebrate
Ali, Marcelo and Estela hang out on the family’s patio.
TB We heard you can install a car seat professionally. Why is car seat safety so important to you?
AL I’m certified as a child passenger
safety technician by Safe Kids Worldwide. Going through the course opened my eyes, and now I want to shout about car seat education at the top of my lungs. It’s not necessary to move your child up to a larger seat or a booster as quickly as many parents want to. I know all parents want the safest option for their child, but when you don’t educate yourself, sometimes you make bad choices.
TB How was it filming the movie Little Boy when you were nine months pregnant?
AL It was hard. We shot the movie in
Mexico, and they actually had to have a helicopter waiting just in case I went into labor, to fly me to a hospital in San Diego. And I had pregnancy brain. I couldn’t remember my lines to save my life! I was very emotional. I had a crying scene—it was very easy for me to cry.
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TB And what was it like wearing maternity clothes from the 1940s?
AL It was hilarious. I wore a skirt that had a
cutout for my belly and tied at the top. The lengths of the skirts were all in the wrong places. Maternity clothes have come a long way in the last 70 or so years!
TB Are your kids ready for the new baby? AL I think Estela’s ready because she
already has a little brother, so she knows what she’s in for. We were at the doctor’s office, and the doctor said, “How do you like your little brother?” She said, “He pulls my hair.” Then the doctor asked, “So what do you think about having a new brother?” And she’s like, “I’m going to be bald.” So I think she knows that double-trouble is coming. Marcelo might be tougher to get ready. He wants to be with me all the time, and he’s very much still a baby. When I’m around, he clings to me. I might have to call in some of my expert mommy friends to help navigate our way through this.
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on ali: Robyn Maxi dress, Riller and Fount; earrings and bracelet: Kyle By Alene Too. on marcelo: outfit: gap kids; shoes: converse. on Estela: top: gap kids: Hood and blanket: Spirithood
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a shower
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Beyond the gifts and games, celebrate baby with one of these trendy new ideas. by brooke showell
Throw a low-key fete at home a few weeks or months after baby’s birth for friends to stop by, meet the little one and honor the new parents without the fanfare of a shower (though you might get a few gifts). Plan for late afternoon and serve cocktails and light bites. The best part? Baby’s already here!
save the date
No matter what style the soiree, announce baby-party plans with a festive invitation.
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gender reveal
This suspenseful party is hosted by expectant parents to announce their baby’s gender. But the trend has gone far beyond cutting a cake to discover pink or blue filling. One couple made a Gangnamstyle dance video; others have sent family members boxes filled with pink or blue helium balloons.
dadchelor party
Your guy’s life is changing too, so a dadchelor party (aka a man shower) isn’t just an excuse for a little man time but also a cele bration of baby. This can be a huge blowout—a trip to Vegas or Mexico—or a simple fishing trip or cigar party. Just make sure he plans it for at least a month before your due date.
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mother’s blessing
This intimate party is inspired by an ancient Navajo ceremony called a Blessingway. The ceremony prepares an expectant mom for her upcoming birth journey—by showering her with love, support and encouragement. It’s typically held at the very end of pregnancy—36 to 38 weeks—and 10 to 20 of the mom-to-be’s closest friends and family are invited. Guests may be asked to bring a poem, song or prayer about birth or motherhood as well as a bead to symbolize fertility. Once everyone has gathered, your guests read the passages they’ve brought and then string the beads together, so you can wear them during labor (or keep them nearby) as a reminder of all their love and support.
sprinkles
Second- and even thirdborns are getting more recognition lately, thanks to the “sprinkle” (as in a sprinkling of gifts, rather than a full-on shower). Secondtime moms are usually well set up with gear, but there’s still reason to celebrate. At a baby sprinkle, the new addition is honored with a get-together, including small gifts such as diapers, baby lotions or books.
4 tips for the perfect shower Melissa Moog of ItsaBelly Baby Planners in Seattle shares her tips for throwing a fabulous baby bash. 1 find a theme For example, build a cute home library for baby by asking each guest to bring a favorite book instead of a gift. 2 register early Aim for at least a month or two before the shower, and make sure Mom’s got the essentials on her list. 3 go green Instead of disposable paper goods, use china and silverware—not only is it a prettier presentation, it’s also better for the environment. 4 serve mocktails No baby shower is complete without a few fancy nonalcoholic drinks. Check out the book Preggatinis for delicious beverage recipes that allow mom-to-be to enjoy a glass with her guests.
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getaways You’ve probably thought of taking a babymoon with your partner, but what about escaping with friends? by elena donovan mauer
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Your social life has likely calmed down a little since you became pregnant (no parties ’til 2 a.m. anymore!), but it will probably come to a screeching halt, at least for a short while, once baby arrives. That’s part of the reason moms-to-be are planning girls’ getaways—dubbed “mommymoons”—while expecting. “Mommymoons are definitely a trend,” says Anne L. Fritz, founder of TheJetSet Girls.com, who’s pregnant herself and has gone on three trips like this. “Girlfriend getaways are so important because they help you bond with your friends and get back in touch with your true self, not to mention that they’re fun. Take advantage of the time you have now prebaby and have an escape—nap a lot.” Looking for some cool ideas? Try these. >
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Craving a little extra pampering? Even your nonpregnant friends will love the idea of getting massages and facials. “Everyone will be on the same page—that you’re there to relax and renew,” says Fritz. She likes Canyon Ranch, which has spa resorts in several locales across the country and offers treatments, yoga, fitness and even nutrition and parenting classes.
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How about inviting your favorite couples on a group trip? “My husband and friends and I went to the Fairmont Mayakoba Riviera Maya in Mexico,” says Fritz. Choose the right mix of people to bring along. “It was good for my husband to go out with my friend’s hubby, and she was happy to hang out with me,” explains Fritz.
go-nowhere trip
If you need to stick close to home or you’re saving your vacation days for after baby, you can (and should!) still have a girls’ night. Just bring the party to your home—or a close friend’s. Have a movie night, when you rent baby-themed flicks (Knocked Up, Three Men and a Baby, Baby Mama) and serve popcorn and movie candy. Or make it an at-home spa night. “See if a local spa or salon can send over a manicurist or two and have the girls over for manicures,” says Fritz. “If budget is a concern, go for DIY manis.”
fancy sleepover
The other close-to-home option is to rent a luxurious hotel room nearby and have a girls’ pampering or partying trip; this avoids the possibility that someone’s husband will crash the fun. Get adjoining rooms and designate one the quiet room, suggests Fritz, so your friends who stay up and party don’t bother you too much if you head to bed early. Plan lots of fun daytime activities and delicious meals.
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We know, we know, it doesn’t sound like fun to go on a party weekend to a sunny place when you’re not drinking and you’re spent by 10 p.m., but Fritz explains that this is a great option as long as you choose a destination where there’s lots to do, like Miami, San Diego or New Orleans. “Lie by the pool or ocean during the day, opt to go shopping or check out a spa,” she says. Spend the day and go to dinner with your friends, and if they want to go clubbing and you’re beat, say sayonara and head back to your cushy hotel room.
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You’ll need a ton of energy to keep up with a little ram. “Aries babies are very adventurous,” says Oliver. “Baby-proof your house well, because they’re very mobile and love to roam.”
Taurus babies are known to be a little stubborn, but that’s just because they like consistency. “They get fussy when their routines are broken,” Oliver explains. Regular naps are key.
“Introduce your Gemini to baby sign language, because they get frustrated if they can’t communicate,” Oliver says. Gemini babies love to learn, and they’re like sponges, so play games.
cancer june 21–july 22
july 23–august 22
leo
august 23–september 22
Cancer babies are sensitive. “They’re going to have a very strong bond with mom, and they need to spend a lot of quality time with her,” says Oliver. Cancer babies also love the peace of home.
Leo babies have a good sense of humor and the best smiles. “They’re the babies who everyone is drawn to,” says Oliver. “Play with your Leo baby a lot.” Don’t forget maracas, as they love music.
Virgos need routine, and they like things a certain way. “Virgo babies are always paying attention and trying to figure things out,” says Oliver. “When you’re doing something, explain it.” >
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Libras are social butterflies and love to make friends. “Get them involved with a mommy-and-me playgroup,” Oliver says, “and expose them to other babies at a young age.”
Scorpios are known to be intense, so they do everything with a lot of drive. “Everything they do, they do it with gusto,” says Oliver. “They’re very intense with their emotions.”
Sagittarius babies always want to do something: They can’t sit still. “They enjoy going on little road trips or to the park and getting some fresh air,” says Oliver. They want adventure.
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January 20–February 18
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February 19–March 20
Capricorn babies are very advanced mentally, and they’re achievers. “They want to do things before other babies, like crawling or talking,” says Oliver. Encourage those leaps.
Aquarians are spontaneous. “You’ll be surprised at the things that make them laugh. They always do things that are unexpected,” says Oliver. Encourage baby’s curiosity and individuality.
“Pisces babies are dreamers,” says Oliver. “Play soft music and read to them a lot.” And because they’re great sleepers, create a soothing mood with a white-noise machine.
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eye contact When baby gazes at you, he’s trying to get to know you.
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Kelly Stuart, talented photographer and cofounder of one of our favorite mom-and-baby-photo sites, shares her tips for taking family pictures. by Elena Donovan Mauer Photography by Kelly Stuart
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When career-driven Kelly Stuart and coworker (and friend) Violet Gaynor started thinking about starting families, they also began thinking about launching a website. And so The Glow was born, a stylish online destination that explores motherhood using real moms’ stories—and tons of Stuart’s gorgeous photos. “All our shoots for The Glow are very personal, just as if we were having coffee with friends,” she says. She’s photographed trendsetters, style-makers and celeb moms, such as Josie Maran, Constance Zimmer and Busy Philipps. And now, she and Gaynor have a coffee-table book forthcoming in spring 2014. Here she offers her advice for taking your own stunning family photos.
turn off the flash
Buy that memory card with extra storage, and don’t be shy about snapping away. “You can never take too many shots!” says Stuart. “This is also important as your children will quickly become very familiar with you taking their photograph, which will allow their personality to shine through.” The more photos you have to choose from, the more likely you are to have a great one.
be yourself in belly shots
If you’re having maternity photos taken, try not to think about smiling for the camera, and, instead, focus on enjoying yourself. “If a moment is genuine and natural, it will come across that way through the photography. But if it feels awkward, it will show,” she says. Making a wardrobe decision? Be sure it’s one that flaunts your shape. “Wear formfitting clothes that show off your bump. Every woman should have that special image that highlights her curves during the peak of her pregnancy.”
“Snap photos candidly to get imagery that focuses on being in the moment.”
“I shoot entirely with natural light,” says Stuart. “I also love my backlight (lighting from behind), so the brighter the better. For me, shooting with natural light allows those moments to feel soft, natural and intimate, while keeping the focus on the mother and the child.”
don’t stage your photos
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It’s tempting to want to set a catalogstyle scene and to try for just the right pose, but you’re not going to get the best shot by making things look contrived. “Children are at their best doing the things they love,” says Stuart. “Snap them candidly, so you get natural imagery that focuses on being in the moment.” Putting candid photos in black and white gives them a timeless, documentary feel.
do your research to find the right pro
If you’re having professional family photographs taken, know the photographer’s body of work before you commit to a shoot. There are many different photography styles, and you should be sure you’re getting exactly what you want. Their personality is key, too. “You should feel extremely comfortable with your photographer,” Stuart says. “That will help you all open up when in front of the camera.”
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What it is: The Cozywoggle Invented by: Cherlyn Jenkins
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What it is: BelliVita—Belly By Design Invented by: Laura Marie
Display your baby’s first home with a cast of your pregnant belly turned into beautiful art. Capture a memory that you can proudly display as a sculpture of a mother and baby as one. Call (855) BelliVita (235-5484) or (206) 841-1891. Visit BelliVita.com today.
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What it is: Windel, the diaper cabinet Invented by: Sarah Tamilarasan
Windel is the stylish solution to cleverly storing your diaper changing supplies anywhere in your house behind a lovely picture or work of art! USA-made of solid wood, the interior compartments hold creams and lotions, plus dispense a package of wipes and up to 40 diapers. Upscale-Mom.com
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Yoga expert Hilaria Baldwin (yup, she’s married to Alec) shows us some pregnancy-safe yoga poses to keep you feeling your best all nine months. by Elena Donovan Mauer photography by Christa Renee
Hilaria invited us into her New York City yoga studio to give us the scoop.
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The day before The Bump invaded Hilaria Baldwin’s New York City studio, Yoga Vida, for a photo shoot, she had her 20-week ultrasound, where she and hubby Alec caught glimpses of her baby-girlto-be. “We counted 10 fingers and 10 toes,” she gushes. “You see everything. It’s such a beautiful experience.” You may recognize Hilaria from the red carpet, where she often accompanies Alec, or from her gig as an Extra correspondent, but the Spanish beauty’s first love is fitness. She’s been teaching fitness and dance for more than a decade, and she cofounded Yoga Vida in 2005. Once pregnant, she has focused on her own health and nutrition and was inspired to create a prenatal yoga DVD.
staying fit while pregnant
If you think super-fit moms-to-be don’t have aches and pains, think again. “I get leg cramps and restless legs,” says Hilaria. “I accidentally kicked Alec in my sleep. I woke up and he was on the floor with blankets and pillows.” And, she admits, she’s had plenty of those off-days, when she needed extra rest. But exercise, she says, can give you a boost. ”When I don’t work out, I just don’t feel good,” says Hilaria. “If my legs hurt, even if I just stretch, I feel so much better.” Many pregnant women worry about exercise and that they may overdo it. “Listen to your body,” she says. “It will tell you when you need to stop.” And stick to pregnancy-safe moves like these yoga poses, which can help with discomfort. >
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pigeon-toed downward dog To relieve leg cramps and restless legs, get on all fours, with your hands underneath your shoulders and your knees beneath your hips. Walk your hands forward two to four inches. Press back and up into an upside-down V shape. Reach your armpits toward your ankles. Drop your neck so your head can move freely. Hold for five breaths. >
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side stretch Sit with your right knee bent and left leg extended. Reach your right arm up and over to feel a side stretch. Hold for 5 to 10 breaths. This helps with back and hip pain.
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straddle forward bend Relieve aches and ready your hips for birth. Sit and straddle your legs far enough apart that it’s challenging—but don’t overdo it. Flex your feet hard, stretching your calves. Walk your hands forward until you feel a deep stretch. Hold for 5 to 10 breaths. If your muscles are tight, prop yourself up with a pillow or blankets.
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newfound sensitivities
Many moms-to-be switch to lotions, washes and other products that are unscented and have fewer chemicals to cut down on redness and irritation. Skip the scrubs and exfoliants; instead, use a loofah or a soft, textured washcloth. “You don’t want to make micro-tears on your skin,” says Melissa Schweiger, coauthor of Belli Beautiful: The Essential Guide to the Safest Health and Beauty Products for Pregnancy, Mom, and Baby. “Stay away from triclosan, parabens and fragrance,” she says. These ingredients are potential irritants, and some believe they pose risks to baby.
breakouts (sorry!)
Some acne products are unsafe to use during pregnancy, so before you try anything, check it with your doctor. Prescription medications Accutane, Retin-A and tetracycline are definite no-nos. And the jury’s out on over-the-counter creams, since they haven’t been tested on pregnant women. Benzoyl peroxide and salicylic acid have been linked to growth problems and birth defects in animals, so they might not be worth the risk; talk them over with your OB. “You can safely use lactic acid, tea tree oil or sulfur to treat acne,” says Schweiger. Don’t touch, pick or squeeze pimples; wash with a mild cleanser twice a day; and use steam to clear pores. >
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If you’re dealing with dry skin, make sure to drink lots of water—you need more now that you’re expecting—and try running a humidifier in your bedroom at night. Use a gentle lotion or moisturizer. And if you get nasty itchy sensations because of your dry skin (and all that stretching), try a warm (not hot) oatmeal bath.
sun sensitivity
Stay out of the sun as much as you can while you’re pregnant. Your surging hormones make you susceptible to dark patches on your skin triggered by sun exposure, called the mask of pregnancy. So pull out the big floppy hat, find a beach umbrella and be sure to wear sunscreen with an SPF of at least 30 every day. “The sun protection that is safest to use during pregnancy is the physical or mineral blocks—the ones made with either titanium dioxide or zinc oxide,” says Schweiger. “Chemical sunscreens, such as oxybenzone, homosalate and avobenzone, may enter the bloodstream and potentially affect the fetus.” It’s annoying to decipher labels, but you’ll feel good knowing you made a safe choice for you and baby.
stretch marks
Not every mama-to-be winds up with stretch marks. “For most people, whether or not they get stretch marks has to do with genetic predisposition,” says Glenn Kolansky, MD, a board-certified dermatologist in New Jersey. Do your best to try to head them off by gently exfoliating and thoroughly moisturizing your belly, boobs, stomach, hips and thighs often. Drinking plenty of water may do the trick, too.
weird and freaky rashes
If you’ve got red, itchy skin, don’t ignore it. Itchy feet and hands can be a sign of cholestasis of pregnancy, a scary complication that can cause liver problems for baby. Your doctor can do a blood test to make sure that’s not causing your rash. Another common rash is PUPPP (pruritic urticarial papules and plaques of pregnancy), which often starts on the abdomen and spreads. PUPPP is harmless to baby, but it will be aggravating for you. Fight the itch with oatmeal baths or anti-itch cream. Your doctor may prescribe an oral medication.
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retail therapy
Just because your belly’s getting bigger by the day doesn’t mean you can’t look a-maz-ing. At Bump Urban Maternity Wear, you’ll find everything from cute dresses for work (or your baby shower!) to comfy cotton tops and pants for lounging around the house (425-454-2867, BumpBellevue.com). The diaper bags at Village Maternity are so stylish you’ll want to carry one of them whether you’re toting Pampers or not. Plus, the store has plenty of chic and comfy (read: frump-free) maternity pieces, like jeggings from Japanese Weekend and jeans from Citizens of Humanity that will expand with your belly (206-523-5167, VillageMaternity.com).
get the perfect fit
Give your new boobs the room they need. Make an appointment at Bella Materna Bra Fitting Boutique and let the pros help you find just the right size and style for your shape. Choose from a variety of luxe underthings, whether you want comfy or sexy (206-286-8108, BellaMaterna.com).
stay in shape
Channel your chakra and strengthen those muscles with the prenatal yoga classes at Aditi. Bonus: The studio offers a workshop where you and your partner can learn massage techniques that will help you through labor, plus helpful birth positions (206-428-6004, AditiStudio.com). Check out private yoga at Yoga Momma. An instructor will work with you to create custom mind-body sessions to leave you more toned and more relaxed (206-658-3573, Yoga-Momma.com).
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Now that you’re eating for two, you want to eat right, but you’re so busy gearing up for baby, it’s hard to find the time to shop and cook. We get it. That’s why we love Maven Meals, a meal delivery service that brings freshly prepared, wholesome dishes right to your door (206-295-8454, MavenMeals.com).
treat yourself
Designed just for moms-to-be, Elements Therapeutic Massage’s prenatal massage promises to lessen swelling, relieve soreness, tightness and aches and pains and relieve stress. And (did we mention?) it’s so relaxing (206-522-4000, ElementsMassage.com/greenlake).
nail it
Whether you’re too busy or too worried about all those fumes to go to the salon, it can be a huge stress-reliever to have a manicurist come to you instead. Relax & Rejuvenate can give you a chamomile or eucalyptus mani and pedi in the comfort of your own living room. Don’t want a solo experience? Invite some friends over and make it a no-fuss spa party (866-8673529, RelaxandRejuvenate.com).
chore busters
Wouldn’t it be awesome to hire someone to tackle your to-do list? Well, you can! Melissa from ItsaBelly Baby Planners can assist you with all things baby, from making your registry, getting your nursery (and the rest of your home) ready for baby and planning each detail for your little one’s arrival (503-297-5326, ItsaBelly.com).
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Our guest editor, maternity-fashion-guru Liz Lange, lets us in on her favorite celeb looks to steal during each time of year.
summer: claire danes
fall: malin akerman
“In the fall, practice proportion. If you’re wearing something loose on top, wear something tight on the bottom and vice versa. Malin Akerman did this well. Other celebrities who have sported effortless, yet proportional, fall looks include Penelope Cruz and Jenna Dewan-Tatum.” The takeaway Skinny pants and leggings are your maternity BFFs. They’re cozy on cool days too. >
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“One of my favorite summer pregnancy looks of all time was Claire Danes at the 2012 Emmy Awards. She rocked effortless elegance in a canary-yellow strapless Lanvin dress. The color screams summer and looked amazing on her. She was seven months pregnant, and she looked better than many of the nonpregnant celebs on the carpet.” The takeaway Don’t be afraid to sport a bright color as the temperature rises.
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every season: kate middleton
“Just as she does when she’s not pregnant, Kate Middleton has done a fantastic job of mixing high- and low-priced items: She wears brands like Topshop and Zara as well as more expensive labels, and she’s not afraid to put them together.” The takeaway Invest in a few good-quality, versatile pieces you can wear throughout your pregnancy, and complement them with cute bargain buys to switch up with each season.
winter: kristen bell
spring: fergie
“Fergie isn’t afraid to wear bold spring patterns and colors. She showed off her fearlessness at the 2013 Kids’ Choice Awards in a body-hugging Mary Katrantzou fish-tank-print dress and yellow Roxane heels. I love that she’s having fun with her maternity style.” The takeaway Stay true to your personal look, no matter how daring.
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“Kristen Bell has shown that you can pull off a versatile little winter dress and look beautiful no matter how far along you are in your pregnancy.” The takeaway Resist the urge to hide under bulky cold-weather clothes. They just make you look bigger. Formfitting things are more flattering. If you’re selfconscious, add a jacket or cardigan.
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Foods to ease five not-so-fun pregnancy symptoms. By Joanne Van Zuidam
morning sickness what to eat
ginger
When you’re feeling queasy, ginger’s your best friend. Brew ginger tea, chew candied ginger, snack on ginger snaps or sip ginger ale. Hint: Stirring the soda to get the bubbles
out makes it easier on the stomach, says Suzanne Merrill-Nach, MD, fellow at the American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists and an ob-gyn in private practice in San Diego. Don’t like the taste of ginger? It’s also available in capsule form (if you can stomach the idea of swallowing something whole). what else you can do
Let your aversions be your guide. You might naturally want to avoid strong smells and spicy foods.
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You can also experiment with the temperature of your food, suggests Melinda Johnson, RD, director of the Didactic Program in Dietetics at Arizona State University and spokeswoman for the Academy of Nutrition and Dietetics. You may get relief from eating cold foods, such as gelatin or a smoothie (yum). Other options that can be stomach settlers include raw veggies, cold sandwiches, lemon slices and, of course, crackers. Know that nausea is more likely to happen on an empty stomach— hence the name morning sickness, as that’s when you’re likely the hungriest. If you tend to feel nauseous when you wake up, keep crackers by your bed to nibble on right away. Also, eat sparingly but often. Consuming frequent, small meals is easier on your stomach than having three large ones a day. And don’t worry too much: Whatever you can tolerate is the right thing to eat, says Merrill-Nach. “If you’re throwing up, it doesn’t matter if it’s not the perfectly wellbalanced diet.”
The symptom
constipation what to eat
beans
Beans, berries and broccoli will boost your fiber intake, to keep things running smoothly. High-fiber breakfast cereals and oatmeal are also easy ways to ease this common pregnancy symptom. (Sorry about this one.) what else you can do
Keep a glass or bottle of water with you and drink from it as much as you can. Hydration is important to keep your digestive system moving. Also, MerrillNach says, the calcium in prenatal vitamins can, um, stop you up. Ask your OB to recommend a vitamin that contains a stool softener, which could get things going again.
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what to eat
what to eat
In general, acidic foods bring on the burn, making low-acidic fruit, such as bananas and melons, a good choice to lessen heartburn symptoms. Avoiding acidic foods can help, but in pregnancy, it’s not so much about trigger foods. In other words, you might sometimes be able to say that the chili you ate at lunch caused your heartburn, but in general, you can just chalk it up to being pregnant.
It’s common to become iron-deficient or anemic in pregnancy, making you even more tired (if that’s possible). If you’ve had pregnancies close together or if you follow a vegetarian diet, you can probably count yourself among that group, says Merrill-Nach. Vegetarians tend to have lower levels of vitamin B-12 and iron. Adding more iron-rich foods may help boost energy. That includes red meats, beans, leafy green vegetables like spinach and fortified breakfast cereals. Ask your doctor if you should also be taking an iron supplement.
heartburn bananas
what else you can do
Pay attention to what you eat and when you eat it. You might want to skip spicy foods and not nosh too close to bedtime, which can cause heartburn. Also, don’t lie down for at least an hour or so after eating a meal. If you do, Johnson recommends using lots of pillows to prop yourself up in a comfortable position and keep an antacid on your nightstand, Merrill-Nach suggests.
fatigue
spinach
what else you can do
You might not realize it, but staying hydrated is key to keeping your energy level up. “When you’re dehydrated, your blood becomes a bit sluggish moving through your body—making you sluggish too,” explains Johnson. Besides sipping water, you can eat soup, fruits and veggies to increase your fluid intake. But remember, you’re pregnant: Feeling tired is a given in the first trimester—no matter what you do. Rest as much as you can for now. And know that in the second trimester, you’ll get back some of your energy.
comfort The symptom
sleeplessness what to drink
decaf tea
A cup of decaffeinated tea or warm milk (plain or flavored) before bed helps some moms-to-be drift off to dreamland, says Johnson. But skip the hot cocoa if you’re sensitive to caffeine—it has a small amount of it, so you’re better off sipping just plain milk. Caffeine, in general, should be limited in preg nancy to less than 200 milligrams (about the amount in a 12-ounce cup of coffee) per day. And avoiding it may help you get the Z’s you need. If you can’t kick your caffeinated-coffee or -tea habit completely, try not to drink it late in the day, when it’s more likely to interfere with sleep. what else you can do
Supporting yourself with extra pillows at night can make you more comfortable and help you snooze better. You can use a big pregnancy body pillow or place a cushion between your knees to alleviate any back pain that may be keeping you up.
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get inspired Amazing nursery ideas you'll want to steal. by Brooke Showell
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Kristin Eldridge Photography
Think minimalist, clean and cool. A few key items—quirky artwork, a reupholstered rocker and graphic bedding—give baby’s room instant hipster cred. ”Choose a chair or glider that’s stylish and has longevity,” says Molly Pressey, co-owner of Merry Go Round in Bellevue. ”It will work anywhere, even in your own bedroom.” >
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Bright and internationally inspired details like maps, an exotic stuffed animal and a whimsical hot-air-balloon mobile all say global. Rotate favorite family locales. ”People are decorating with many different shades of gray,” Pressey says. ”A chevron print is also very popular.” >
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Nursery design is getting more refined. Integrate quality, timeless pieces to blend with your home’s overall style. ”Choose a ’lifetime crib’ that your child can use forever,” says Pressey. ”Change up the bedding, or repaint, but hold onto the furniture for life.”
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A must: a fun motif. Even a classic choice like animals don’t need to be overtly babyish. Artistic, abstract fish, turtles or sheep are perfect playmates well into toddlerhood. Pressey recommends an oversized stuffed animal or wall art that works for any age.
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4moms Origami It collapses with the push of a button; an LCD screen tells how fast you’re pushing, how far you’ve walked and the temperature. You can even charge your cell. $850, 4moms.com
Britax B-Agile Using just one hand, you can fold it completely flat and lock it into place, making grocery trips a breeze. $250, BritaxUSA.com
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quinny yezz So light you can carry it on your back! Weighing about 11 pounds, its carry straps and easy-to-fold design make for easier toting once baby gets bigger. $279, Quinny.com
maclaren triumph This umbrella stroller weighs only 11.5 pounds (most strollers are about 17 pounds), and the washable seat comes in bright colors. $185, ShopMaclarenBaby.com
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Bugaboo Cameleon 3 It’s got a trendy design, plus features like a suspension system and cool color combos. Multiple functions—carriage, car-seat stroller, beach walker— make it worth a splurge. $979, giggle.com
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combi coccoro The tiniest spaces can accommodate it. It fits comfortably in the backseat (great for multiples—or smaller cars). $200, CombiStrollers.com for stores
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graco snugride click connect 35 Take advantage of the convenience of popping it out of the car base (which is included) and into the stroller—and back again—without waking up baby. $180, GracoBaby.com for stores
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britax marathon 70 Special technology lowers baby’s center of gravity so she’s less likely to propel forward in a crash (very high-tech). $290, BritaxUSA.com for stores
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Maxi-Cosi Pria With its upright (good for older kids) and 45-degree recline (good for newborns) adjustable positions, it can accommodate your baby from birth until age four. $290, giggle.com
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labor day
The day you deliver your baby will be one of the , most days of your life.
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stage 1
labor (aka holy crap, this kid is coming!) Labor lasts from the first signs baby’s coming (see “Signs of Labor,” below right) until your cervix is fully dilated and you’re ready to deliver.
real contractions
You’ll know you’re in labor when you start to have regular contractions, which feel like a strong tightening in your belly and could be super-painful or just a little uncomfortable (it all depends on the mom-to-be). You’ll know they’re real contractions, because the pressure usually starts in your back and moves forward to your lower belly, instead of just being in your belly. They’ll be frequent, usually starting about 15 minutes apart and then speeding up to about 5 minutes apart.
the countdown
Start watching the clock (use our Contraction Counter at TheBump.com/contractions to keep track). Call your OB’s office and let them know what’s happening. The doctor will tell you at what point to head to the hospital, but be warned: It might not be right away. You may be told to wait a few hours before you can be admitted.
your to-dos
So what do you do at home? Finish packing your bag and relax. Staying calm and breathing deeply can help your body work its dilation magic, as can changing positions. Take a walk, nap, shower, listen to music, ask your partner for a massage— whatever you feel like doing.
active labor
When your body shifts into active labor, the contractions will come on stronger. Now, you might not be able to walk or talk during a contraction. At this point, you’ll likely be in the hospital (if not, go ASAP) and lying in bed, walking around, or sitting in a birthing tub or on a birthing ball. This is when things start to really hurt—and when most momsto-be opt for pain relief. These strong contractions dilate your cervix from 4 centimeters to 7 centimeters.
the transition
The transition phase is when your cervix dilates from 7 centimeters to 10 centimeters, and it’s pretty intense. The contractions come even faster and more furiously than before, lasting 60 to 90 seconds each. And because it’s an overwhelming sensation, some women feel like giving up. Just know that the “I can’t do it anymore” feeling is completely normal, and you most definitely can do it.
the urge to push
You’ll start to feel the need to push (like having to go number two badly), but you shouldn’t push until your doctor says your cervix is fully dilated (don’t risk injury). >
signs of labor How will you know it’s time? Look for these clues that labor is coming: Loss of the mucus plug This thick mucus (like a glob of snot) might exit your body. Broken water It may be a trickle, as opposed to a gush. If your water breaks, call the doctor. Regular contractions If they’re five minutes apart, it’s probably time! urge to clean Many women find the nesting instinct kicks in just before.
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Once you’re fully dilated and you get the go-ahead to push...push! You’ll get coached as you bear down at each contraction. For some women, especially second- or third- (or more) time moms, the pushing stage may last only a few minutes. For others, it can take a few hours. Then there’s the ultimate reward: your baby!
After baby’s born, you’ve got to deliver the placenta. Your uterus continues to contract. (Don’t worry—this normally doesn’t hurt.) This causes the placenta to separate from the uterus and leave the body. Usually, this takes less than half an hour. Then you’re (finally) done. Woo-hoo! Now enjoy that baby and try to rest.
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To deal with the ouchies, it’s using the same breathing techniques that chill you out when you’re stressed.
At the start of each contraction, take a really deep “cleansing” breath, like at the beginning of a yoga class.
Get more guidance and plenty of practice by taking a childbirth class. See the next page for options.
Operating under the idea that pain is a state of mind; trying to get more comfortable and distract yourself.
Imagine yourself in a happy place. Play calming songs. Get a massage from your partner. Stuff like that.
It’s hard to know exactly what’s going to work once you get there, so have a whole bag of tricks to try.
Usually a combo of meds that block your brain from feeling pain and (mostly) numb your lower half.
It’s given throughout labor and delivery through a tube inserted into your back.
You’ll be stuck in bed, since you’ll be hooked up to an IV and a fetal monitor to track baby’s heart rate.
Medications like morphine, Demerol, Stadol and Nubain, which are all narcotics.
Systemic meds are injected into the bloodstream or a muscle and affect the entire body.
They only really take the edge off. You may get nauseated, and baby can be exposed to them.
delivery-room tools forceps These are generally used to try to shift baby’s position and may also help guide the head out.
scissors Just in case you (sorry. really!) need an episiotomy.
vacuum If pushing is
proving ineffective, your doc will use this to pull the baby out with suction.
amniotic hook It looks a lot scarier than it feels, we promise. This long crochet-like hook is used to break your water if it hasn’t yet.
hemostat This clamp is used for containing a bleed and clamping the umbilical cord for cutting.
scalpel This will probably only
be used if you have a c-section.
want to know more? Take a childbirth class. These are among the top choices for birthing methods. Lamaze Used by one-fourth of mothers, Lamaze is the most popular method. You learn simple, natural strategies to use during labor, like rhythmic breathing, hydrotherapy, massage, position changes and walking. Your partner will learn to encourage and support you.
Bradley Natural childbirth is the goal of this method—about 90 percent of class participants end up delivering without meds. The Bradley Method focuses on self-awareness and trusting your body and emphasizes relaxation (not distraction) for dealing with pain and stress.
Alexander This method teaches posture and movement techniques to ease muscle tension and improve balance, coordination, back pain and digestion. With it, you’ll learn to coordinate your breathing and strengthen your pelvic muscles in preparation for delivery.
HypnoBirthing No, not like that guy you saw in Vegas. HypnoBirthing relies on the power of suggestion to help you relax and let your muscles work to give birth. Affirmations and visualizations are used to guide thoughts and breathing and to decrease stress and fear.
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Seattle mama Christina Kauffman’s unmedicated birth was everything she’d hoped for—and more.
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Contractions started coming on—hard. Each one would last a minute, and they were about five minutes apart. An hour later, they were each 90 seconds and coming closer together. Michael coached me through the contractions with a breathing technique we’d learned at HypnoBirthing class. Between breaths, we called our parents and told them to come over— baby was on his way.
hanging at home
I tried to distract myself as the contractions came harder and faster. The HypnoBirthing breathing techniques kept me calm, and my mother-in-law helped soothe the pressure on my back with massage.
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I labored at home as long as possible, but around 4:30 p.m., I was feeling nauseated and anxious—it was time to head to the hospital. On our drive over, I had the urge to push. We left our bags in the car and raced inside. I was already nine centimeters along.
time to push
I tried to focus on my breathing, and in between pushes, I’d try to rest. I was determined to have a short, unmedicated delivery. I tried squatting and then laid in bed to push. When my doctor and nurses told me they could see my son’s head, everyone was cheering me on.
baby makes three
The last few pushes were hard, but when they put Finnegan Dale in my arms, it was worth it. Despite the pain and swelling, I felt on top of the world! Our family was complete.
birth stats baby’s name Finnegan Dale size at birth 7 pounds, 14 ounces hospital Swedish First Hill Campus
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At 37 weeks into my pregnancy, I was ready to meet baby. I was three centimeters dilated and had been having irregular contractions for a few days. I woke up feeling tired and agitated. After making myself a steak sandwich (it seemed like a totally reasonable breakfast at the time!), my husband Michael and I watched TV to take my mind off baby.
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natural-birth stories Three women share their truly exceptional experiences delivering babies without drugs or doctors. You probably haven’t heard birth stories like these before. By Cynthia Ramnarace Photograph by Eric Kelley
on the farm When Talina Norris-Ryder first started prenatal appointments with her ob-gyn, there was one word she heard again and again: can’t. “No, you can’t walk around while in labor.” “You can’t have a water birth.” “You can’t eat while in labor.” “And considering you’re only a petite 100 pounds, odds are you can’t even have a vaginal birth.” Norris-Ryder doesn’t like being told what she can—or can’t—do. So she started investigating home births and midwives.
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But in Indiana, where she lives, tight regulations ban midwives from practicing in hospitals, and her husband was skeptical about a home birth. Research led her next to The Farm Midwifery Center, a naturalchildbirth oasis created by Ina May Gaskin, arguably America’s most popular midwife. The Farm, in Summertown, Tennessee, is a three-hour drive from Norris-Ryder’s home in Evansville. But after meeting her midwife, Norris-Ryder had no doubts. >
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“Our midwife made us feel really calm. She had the confidence, so I had the confidence.” Her daughter Everly was born on The Farm in 2009. Norris-Ryder arrived two weeks before her due date, and when her water broke, she walked from her cabin to her midwife’s house next door. In the early stages, she tried to rest, slept when she could and listened to meditative music. When it came time to push, midwives had her move until she found the right position. “They said, ‘Here’s the birth stool. Hang from the door handle. Do this. Do that,’ ” Norris-Ryder recalls. When she got on her hands and knees, the baby crowned so quickly that Norris-Ryder experienced a fourth-degree perineal tear. “There was some pain afterward, but I didn’t really feel it in the moment,” she says. Because muscle was involved, the tear was deeper than the midwives could suture. Norris-Ryder was transported to the local hospital. She nursed her baby while being stitched up.
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Everly’s birth was intense, and there was risk of tearing again with a second baby. But The Farm had given Norris-Ryder control over her birth experience. So two years later when she had her second baby, she headed back to The Farm and livestreamed Adalyn’s birth on her website. “People—my family included—didn’t understand The Farm the first time I gave birth there,” she says. “I really felt people needed to see.” This time, Norris-Ryder labored on a bed and, because she had bad back labor, it was very painful. She tore again during delivery, only to the second degree. When the baby crowned, then-two-year-old Everly “sat in bed with me” while her sister was being born says Norris-Ryder. “The Farm was an awesome experience.” >
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“Our midwife made us feel really calm,” she says. “She didn’t know me or my medical situation, but she had the confidence, so I had confidence.” Norris-Ryder’s husband, Nathan, wasn’t so quickly won over. He asked the technical questions: Was childbirth at The Farm safe? What did they do in case of an emergency? After seeing that The Farm had neonatal-resuscitation equipment, oxygen and the ability to deal with hemorrhaging, he finally agreed. What helped, too, was knowing that two-thirds of the $5,000 total cost would be covered by their health insurance.
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orgasmic birth If childbirth has a cliché, it’s the screaming woman writhing in pain. That was everything Jaiya Ma didn’t want, so she planned for an orgasmic birth. “For me, orgasmic birth is about bringing my baby into the world with pleasure, as opposed to pain,” says Ma, who is a sexologist by profession. “I had this idea of using the pain threshold and switching it from pain into more of a pleasurable experience.” She chose to labor outdoors in a Jacuzzi, staring out at Topanga Canyon and the mountains that are the backdrop to her California home. “I spent nine months training my guy,” she adds. He was to remain connected with her during labor through kissing, talking and eye gazing. He’d also be doing nipple and clitoral stimulation. Ma focused on preparing herself as well. She belly danced, had chiropractic care (to ensure the baby’s head stayed in position, she says), ate well, journaled and studied up on how to use oxytocin, the hormone associated with both labor and orgasm, to create a pleasurable birth experience. Ma’s 20 hours of labor did not equate to a 20-hour-long orgasm. But she did have orgasmic moments, one of which occurred as the baby was born and another while she had the intense contractions of secondstage labor. “I was in the tub outside, and we had seven horses making these crazy noises like they knew something was going on,” Ma says. “The wind was blowing, and I was getting an anal massage in the tub (from the doula). I was in bliss.” Anal massage? Yes. Relieving pressure in the rectum relaxes the entire pelvic region. And for Ma, that helped turn pain into pleasure. “Every time you have an orgasm, your uterus is contracting,” says Ma. “So it’s all about the frame. I can frame this as painful and horrible, or I can frame this as each contraction is an orgasm going through my body really intensely.” By the time Ma was ready to deliver Eamon Kai, night had fallen and tempera-
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tures had dipped, so she had to move inside. While she had a perineal tear during delivery, she didn’t feel pain. She credits this to her mental preparation. She never let her mind associate birth with pain. “If you want an orgasmic birth, don’t watch videos of women in horrible pain,” says Ma, who has a video explaining the hows and whys. “Reframe it psychologically. Get your partner involved. Really get in touch with your own pleasure. Get in touch with your orgasms. Have an open relationship with your partner, so that you have that communication and comfort.”
“I had this idea of using the pain threshold and switching it from pain into more of a pleasurable experience.” unassisted home birth When contractions woke Lia Reilly on a chilly New England morning in January, she knew how she’d spend her day. She asked her husband, Michael, to take the day off from work. Knowing his wife labored best alone, he took their two boys to the store. With TENS (transcutaneous electrical nerve stimulation) pads strapped to her back (they deliver electrical impulses that blunt pain), Reilly filled up her birthing tub with water. Each time she felt a contraction, she used one of the Hypnobabies relaxation techniques she’d been practicing. She felt pressure waves, not pain. At about 10:15 a.m., with her husband still not home, Reilly was becoming curious as to whether this labor was the real deal. >
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So for the next contraction, she didn’t use any of her pain-coping techniques. The pain she felt erased all doubt. The contractions started coming closer together. Minutes later, Michael returned home. Reilly checked her own cervix but felt only the bag of fluid. Thinking she must be close, she got into the tub. Her water broke. Her sons, Nathan and Quinn, occasionally peeked in to see if there was a baby yet. The pain intensified as the baby started to crown. Next came the shoulders, and with one big push, the baby was out. Reilly noticed that the cord was wrapped once around the baby’s neck, so she calmly uncoiled it and lifted her baby up to the surface. At 11:13 a.m., Lilliana was breathing but didn’t cry. With labor over and Lilliana nursing peacefully, Reilly called the midwives. Once they arrived, she delivered the placenta. They weighed and checked baby, who was perfectly healthy.
“There’s that surge of adrenaline that kicks your body into gear.” “I’ve been using the term unassisted birth, which is what people are familiar with,” says Reilly. “But family birth describes the experience a whole lot better. Unassisted birth sounds like this crazy thing. That’s not the way it felt. It was this nice family experience.” The first two births weren’t as peaceful for Reilly. With Nathan, she had planned for a natural water birth at a hospital. But exhaustion won, and she wound up getting an epidural. With Quinn, she had a home birth with midwives, but even that fell short of her expectations. “With the midwives, there was a level of commotion and lack of peacefulness,” says Reilly. “There were
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people rushing in and setting up. I did start to feel really uncomfortable.” What Reilly realized was that “my body works best when I’m left alone,” she says. So when she became pregnant again, she found a midwife who supervised her prenatal care, would be on standby in case anything unexpected happened and agreed to come to the house after delivery. Reilly was extremely confident up until the moment when Lilliana crowned. “There’s that surge of adrenaline that kind of kicks your body into gear to get that baby out, and that told me, ‘Oh my God, what are you doing? There’s no midwife here!’ And then she was born.” While how to give birth is a personal choice, the American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists asserts that a hospital is the safest place and points to research showing a two- to threefold increase in the risk of newborn death for babies delivered outside a medical setting. But Reilly, a doula who is training to be a midwife, says of her own home birth, “It was exactly what I was hoping for.’ ”
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new-parent survival Baby’s finally coming home! We’ve got you covered on everything you need to know. By Nina Carbone photograph by Erin McFarland
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head home what to wear
Take the approach of less is more when packing going-home attire. A simple T-shirt, diaper and baby blanket for wrapping work in warm weather; colder weather calls for a warm sleeper and some extra blankets for bundling.
how to travel
Get ready for the car ride home. Hospitals won’t even let you leave without an approved car seat—it should be rear-facing and strapped in the backseat.
know the basics
there are two soft spots One is on the
top of the head and the other is on the back. These are points on the head where baby’s bones haven’t grown together yet. Sounds scary but, in fact, there’s a tough membrane covering the opening in the skull. So there’s actually no real risk of puncturing baby’s head while you’re holding him.
nails grow fast
Trim her nails with infantsize clippers while she’s sleeping. Because nails are so small and grow quickly, early on, you may need to trim them up to twice a week. Smooth rough edges with a soft emery board.
acne happens
Baby has your hormones to thank for all those red bumps on his chin, cheeks and forehead. There’s just no way to prevent them, but never ever treat them like you would normally deal with your own acne. In other words: no picking or popping. Wash his face up to three times a day with warm water and then gently pat dry.
eyes can look crossed For about
the first six months, baby’s eyes tend to drift and wander, especially when she’s exhausted or focusing on something very close. Talk to the doctor if her eyes get stuck or make any odd windshieldwiper-like motions.
earwax builds up
Don’t stick anything into baby’s ear canal. If you’re concerned about buildup, talk to baby’s doctor.
birthmarks pop up Often called
a “stork bite,” such a mark can appear on a baby’s nose, forehead, eyelids, upper lip or on the back of his neck. It’s just a patch of dilated and stretched capillaries or blood vessels under the skin. If baby is crying or there’s a change in temperature, the spot may darken. Most disappear within 18 months, so if the doctor isn’t concerned, don’t worry.
skin needs moisturizing
Dry skin or eczema looks like red patches and can cover baby’s body and cheeks. Limit baths and slather on petroleum-based creams for relief. If it’s serious, the doctor may suggest low-dose, antiinflammatory ointments.
keep baby comfy
do tummy time
Babies spend a lot of time on their backs, but they need to develop other muscles too. Put baby on her stomach and on your chest, and then have her squirm toward your face.
decode cries Watch
and listen so you’ll be able to learn what’s wrong with baby. “I’m hungry” sounds rhythmic and repetitive. But “I’m in pain” is louder and more intense.
hold him right
Place his head in the crook of one arm and either wrap your other arm around baby or hold the original arm with the second arm. Keep his head supported.
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don’t sweat or shiver the way adults do. Pick lightweight, soft, breathable clothes in cotton and jersey knit. Throw on a cotton undershirt, if you dress baby in synthetic fibers. >
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get the poop first poops are dark Those first few
diapers will most likely contain stool that’s black in color and is referred to as meconium. Why is it so dark? It’s the result of all the nutrients that she received in utero. Don’t stress. In the beginning, this is normal and healthy.
color and smell change The shade of
baby’s poop depends on what you feed him. If you breastfeed, for example, it’ll be a shade of mustard yellow with what looks like seeds. The plus is that it doesn’t have much of an odor. Formula-fed babies, though, tend to produce poop which ranges anywhere from a shade of yellow to brown to green. Sorry, but this batch is much more stinky.
it gets animated
Because grunting, crying or turning red is normal when baby poops, there’s no reason to be alarmed. And once your newborn gets used to how his body works, he won’t be quite as loud about it. Remember that this is all new for him too.
color gives a clue
Certain bowel movements aren’t normal, but they’re fairly easy to spot. Poop in shades of red (this could mean blood), black (with the exception of the first few) or white should raise a flag, so take note.
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those first few months, you probably won’t be straying too far from home. If you do decide to venture out, though, here’s what you need: • diapers (pack one for every hour and a few extras to have on hand) • changing mat • plastic baggies for any dirty diapers • baby wipes • sample-size tubes of barrier cream for quick diaper changes • extra onesie or T-shirt
of dirty diapers varies from baby to baby. Some go a few times a day, while others only need to poop once. Typically, babies have an easier time digesting breast milk, so many breastfed babies will poop after almost every feeding. Be prepared for lots of changes, and keep in mind that most babies poop less as they grow (sometimes even skipping an entire day, which is usually normal).
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frequency is personal The number
“Let baby sleep. Most wake up when they’re hungry.”
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don’t wake her
Let baby snooze. If you’re deciding between waking up baby for a scheduled feeding or letting her sleep, you should leave her to get her z’s. Most babies wake up when they’re hungry.
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majority of babies don’t sleep through the night until they’re about three months old. Because their stomachs are so small, they need to wake up every three to four hours to eat.
remove bumpers
Studies have shown that the hazards of bumpers in a bassinet or crib far outweigh their benefits. Avoid putting pillows, stuffed animals or thick
blankets in there as well. All you need is a firm mattress and fitted sheet.
enjoy shut-eye
Newborns may sleep as much as 16 hours a day or more. It’s usually in three- to four-hour chunks.
dim the lights
Typically infants don’t mind the dark until they’re 18 months old. The room doesn’t have to be pitchblack, but the darker the better, since light signals day, which means baby will want to be awake.
don’t share a bed
Baby should have his own crib. It’s tempting to bring him into bed with you, but studies have shown there’s a higher risk of SIDS in homes where baby shared a bed with mom and dad. Instead, establish a routine.
m ark m ilestones 2 weeks old Your
little one may start to focus on faces a bit more.
3 weeks old Be
attentive to baby’s incessant crying. This is the point to watch for signs of colic. We’re talking nonstop cries that last at least three hours a day, three days a week. If you’re concerned, talk to your doctor.
4 weeks old Welcome all the new sounds, such as dove-like coos. This is also the time when baby may begin lifting and holding her head slightly off the floor all on her own. 6 weeks old If baby
was grinning before, it was definitely gas. Now he’s happily smiling. >
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down in the dumps You’re at baby’s
beck-and-call 24 hours a day, and you haven’t gotten a smile in return (yet). To say life has changed is an understatement. It’s normal to be down and it’s smart to acknowledge your feelings. Talk with your obgyn, so she can figure out if you’re stressed or if it’s more serious.
always exhausted
A sporadic sleep schedule (or no sleep) takes a toll. In one survey, 62 percent of parents said they had moments of wanting to run away from home, even just for a night.
having crazy thoughts What if I let
go of the stroller on this hill? What if I walk out while baby is in the bath? Sleep deprivation makes anyone slightly batty. It’s an overwhelming time because you’re realizing that you have such a huge responsibility on your plate. Consult a doc if your thoughts don’t change. And get out of the house. Groups like Mommy & Me will help you connect with other moms who may also be experiencing these same changes and emotions.
feeling far from maternal Did you
think once you gave birth you’d transform into instant mom? Just because you
don’t feel different and super-close to baby right away certainly doesn’t make you a bad mother. About 20 percent of women studied felt no bond with their baby in those first few weeks. Give it time; things will change and you’ll be feeling that mommy-baby bond.
disinterested in sex No, the totally
unsexy feeling is not going to last forever. Between the fatigue, soreness, dryness and new responsibilities, most women (and their partners too) have a nonexistent libido for at least a little while. Don’t panic, because you’ll both be getting back into the groove before you know it.
a class act You’ve made it a threesome. (Congrats!) Now adjust to your new life with baby at one of these helpful local classes. newborn group Join new parents in your part of town to chat about feeding, sleeping, baby development and more. Meetings take place in members’ homes. TAKE IT AT PEPS, from $150, (206) 5478570, PEPS.org stroller fitness Ready to get back in shape, but don’t want to shell out for a sitter? Stroller Strides is perfect for you. Power walk and use the stroller and the environment to strengthen and tone. TAKE IT AT Fit4Mom, $18 per class or 10 classes for $100 with one-time equipment fee of $20, (206) 265-2547, Seattle.Fit4Mom.com
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parent-and-baby yoga De-stress and get a workout with baby by your side. The class promises to ease neck and shoulder tension and tone pelvic and abdominal muscles. TAKE IT AT Yoga Momma, $15 per class or 10 classes for $130, (206) 658-3573, Yoga-Momma.com sign language Learn some everyday signs to help you and baby communicate before she can talk. You’ll also learn other ways to help language development. Plus, sing songs and play games! TAKE IT AT Hop to Signaroo, $128 for four-week series, (206) 789-7446, HoptoSignaroo.com
Find more newborn-care advice at TheBump.com/newborn
Ten fingers, ten toes. What else do you need to know?
All Babies Need Newborn Screening
Talk to your health care provider about your baby’s screening tests. When babies are screened early: • Many treatable disorders can be identified from a simple drop of blood. • Possible hearing loss can be found. • Babies can get needed treatment and services early in life to help them grow and develop.
For more information, visit our website at www.doh.wa.gov. Search keywords ‘newborn screening’ or ‘early hearing loss’. Or call 1-866-660-9050.
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biggest mistakes new moms make
No, it’s not the obvious “What were they thinking?” mishaps we’re talking about here. These are probably things you’re doing right now— without even realizing it. By Elena Donovan Mauer
You’ve got this brand-new, very small and vulnerable person whose health you’ve got to watch out for. But you are also recovering from childbirth, which is no walk in the park—especially if you had complications, like tearing or a c-section. You really do need extra rest, lots of water, nutritious food (with plenty of fiber) and TLC. Sure, you want to do it all, but try to take it easy and take care of yourself.
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becoming a hermit
Right now, it’s a big deal to put on real clothes, pack up the diaper bag (oh yeah, and the baby too) and head out the door. You and baby could definitely use some fresh air. If you hole up in the house, you’re going to feel even more frumpy, isolated, exhausted and down. Who cares if you haven’t showered since Sunday? No one will smell you. Go out and walk around the block—at the very least. >
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You swore you’d go drug-free but then begged for an epidural. You really wanted a water birth but had to get a c-section. It might not have happened the way you wanted it, but you and baby made it through childbirth and are A-OK— that is what’s really important. Let your regrets go and enjoy that baby.
not getting help with breastfeeding issues
One study suggests that only a third of women who want to breastfeed do it for as long as they had originally intended. We blame it on the fact that, well, breastfeeding can be a lot harder than some of us ever expected. If you’re having any issues, request help from a lactation consultant,
baby’s pediatrician or even an experienced friend or relative. Figuring out problems right away can keep you from being frustrated, and the sooner you’re back on track, the more successful you are likely to be.
stressing about every little thing
“Am I giving baby enough stimulation?” “Too much stimulation?” “Should I have gotten him the stroller that can face him toward me?” “What about that other carrier?” You name it, and a new mom worries excessively about it. But other than legitimate safety and health concerns, you’re pretty much just making yourself crazy. Most parents learn that by the time baby number two rolls around, they should stress less—or that they just don’t have the time to stress and they realize it’s okay. >
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not saying yes to offers of help
Someone volunteers to watch baby? Do a load of laundry? Get you some water? We know that in your prebaby life, you probably chalked up offers like these to good manners and, just as politely, turned them down. But everything’s changed now. Accept their assistance. This is the time when you need a salon trip, a nap and some good old-fashioned nourishment and hydration to make you feel normal again. And feeling normal is one more thing that helps you be a great mom.
taking advice that goes against your gut
Everyone from your mother to strangers in the supermarket is bound to give you advice. Their suggestion, for example,
to ignore that weird rash or rub rum on baby’s gums, just doesn’t sound right. Well, it probably isn’t. It doesn’t matter if you’re afraid of offending someone or if that person is supposed to know better than you—you’re the mom. Trust your instincts and follow them.
comparing your baby with your friends’
Your pal’s kid might be crawling and cruising, while your baby is still figuring out how to roll back to his stomach. It’s easy to get nervous and think something’s wrong, but every kid tackles milestones at his own pace. As long as baby’s pediatrician says baby is progressing normally and there are no red flags for developmental delays, don’t sweat it.
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how much sleep does baby need? age 0 to 1 month
daytime sleep
nighttime sleep
total
10 hours (various naps)
10 hours
20 hours
1 to 3 months
7 hours (three naps)
8½ hours
15½ hours
3 to 6 months
5 hours (three naps)
10 hours
15 hours
6 to 9 months
3½ hours (two naps)
11 hours
14 ½ hours
3 hours (two naps)
11 hours
14 hours
9 to 12 months
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All babies are different, of course, but here are some general guidelines.
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gets honest We bet you didn’t know these 5 things about Jessica Alba. by elena donovan mauer photography by Justin Coit
When a popular baby detergent gave her a rash, Jessica Alba didn’t ignore it. She got passionate about it—and started The Honest Company, a line of nontoxic, eco-friendly products. Now, the actress-turned-businesswoman has added a new credit to her résumé: author. Her book, The Honest Life, is packed with Jessica’s healthy and green secrets, from fashion and beauty to cleaning and planning baby’s nursery. She has also got these surprises up her sleeve.
Jessica’s go-green advice is actually realistic.
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she sometimes struggles with things (yes, really)
Doesn’t it seem like everything would come easily to Jessica? Not so. “Writing a book for the first time was challenging— and it wasn’t just because I was trying to juggle everything I’m doing,” she says. “Because the book includes all the naturalliving tips and tricks that I’ve learned over the years, I found it difficult to hone in on the most relevant content.” Her savior? Her husband, Cash. He took over baby duty on those mornings she needed to sleep in after late nights spent writing.
she admits she’s not perfect—and no one else is either
We asked Jessica for her best parenting advice. And no, it’s not to be organic-food-obsessed or to own all the right products. It’s to give yourself a break. “We all want to do the best we can for our families, but we can’t be superheroes all the time while balancing everything we need to,” she says.
she’s realistic about going green
Afraid Jessica’s book is only applicable to rich celebs? Anyone can use her advice. “Natural living isn’t about a huge lifestyle overhaul,” she says. “It’s about doing what you can and focusing on small, attainable steps that make the most sense for you and your family.” For example, buy vintage items instead of new ones.
she practices what she preaches
Jessica says she and Cash don’t just recycle and drink filtered tap water, they also make playtime into lessons about sustainability. “With my daughter, Honor, I love to do arts and crafts where we really focus on upcycling items and giving them new life.”
she has good advice for momtrepreneurs
There are many women interested in starting their own business, and Jessica is passionate about offering advice to them. “Surround yourself with experts in your field and learn from them,” she says. “Ask plenty of questions.” Starting your own business takes selfawareness. “Be honest with yourself about your strengths and weaknesses and build a team that complements your skill set,” she says. “Stick to your guns. If someone can persuade you to depart from your idea, it’s a sign the business might not be the right fit for you.”
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safer to soothe “When infants are crying and not being attended to, their brains release stress hormones. There’s evidence that this changes how they’ll deal with stress for the rest of their lives. This can damage the amygdala, which controls emotion. There’s also some evidence that it can damage the hippocampus, which deals with memory. The longer babies cry, the more stress hormones get secreted. There’s this notion that the tougher you are with children, the better they’ll be as adults. But actually, there’s research that supports the idea that giving children safety and contact early on leads to more-secure children.” MICHAEL LAMPORT commons, PHD
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crying is okay “If your goal is to get your child to sleep in her own crib, letting her cry it out often works when other things don’t. There’s no evidence showing that crying it out is harmful for kids—there’s actually research showing it doesn’t form attachment problems later on. We’ve seen that parents and kids who use this technique are happier, maybe because they’re getting more sleep. If a baby is crying every day, all day long, that’s certainly stressful and not good for baby. But if you use the cry-it-out method, it’s probably only for two or three nights that baby is crying a lot, and it gets better every night. This is a short-term intervention, and it’s effective.” JAMILA REID, PHD
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Baby has only one first birthday—and that means a lot of pressure to do the party right. We’ve got your step-by-step planning guide here. By Sarah Yang photography By story by mia
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Of course, you want your friends and family to be able to attend the party, so the weekend before or after baby’s birthday is a good bet. If baby has a sleep schedule, plan the party for after naptime, so she’s wellrested (and slightly less likely to be in a bad mood). As for how long you should extend the bash, make it just a couple of hours, rather than an all-day affair—parties can be overwhelming for small children, especially if there are a lot of guests. Hold the party in a venue that has a private quiet space, so if baby gets fussy or needs a breather, you can take her there.
how many people to invite
If it’s going to be intimate, the party might include grandparents, aunts and uncles, and a few baby friends from mommy-and-me classes. If you want to go all out and have a huge bash, invite extended family, friends, coworkers who have kids and so on. It ultimately depends on your own preferences. Your budget also plays a role in the size of your party—obviously the more people you have, the more food, beverages and space you’re going to need. Start with your must-invite list: the people you wouldn’t celebrate without. If you can add to your head count, keep going.
where to have it
If you host the event at home, your guests can hang out longer and baby has a place to nap if she gets tired (her room!). Plus, baby might be more comfortable in familiar surroundings. Having it at a restaurant or even a children’s play space could get costly, but the big advantage is that you won’t get stuck with cleanup. There’s also no prep to deal with beforehand, and you won’t have to entertain guests as much. If you live in an apartment or a house with space to spare, that setting may be ideal. Otherwise, why not head to your favorite park? You can set up food and decorations at a picnic table (some parks even have grills for barbecuing). And there’s already a play structure there to occupy the kids—just make sure that you have enough adults to keep an eye on them. Check with the local parks department to see if you need a permit or have to make a reservation for the space.
how to choose a theme
If your baby has a beloved giraffe toy that she sleeps with every night, try zoo animals as a birthday theme. If your favorite part of the day is reading to her at night, pepper the party with books. You can take inspiration from the season whether you’re having an indoor or outdoor party. >
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If baby has a favorite food, serve it. Foods and snacks that are healthy and can be eaten on the go are good choices. For kid guests, serve things like mini grilledcheese sandwiches, chicken fingers or single-serve boxes of raisins. For adults, try sandwiches, wraps, and veggies and dip. Double-check if anyone has eating restrictions or food allergies.
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You can give away fancy swag bags or keep it small with little harmonicas or a bath toy. Or have a favor that the whole family can take home, like a photo frame complete with a picture snapped and printed at the party. When it’s time to hand out the favors, give the goodies to parents first just in case they want to remove a few items or candies.
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If you don’t want to spend a fortune on baby’s birthday party, DIY is your best bet. Bake your own cake, have the party at home and shop at closeout stores (they often have great toys and stuffed animals for low prices). If you’re making your own cupcakes or treats, you can turn decorating them into an activity for guests. For invites, it’s fine to go paperless, which also includes RSVP tracking.
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Toddlers can be demanding and unrelenting. And if you have one, you know they’re also kind of strange. Doorknob licking and barking like a dog are commonplace. But these freaky behaviors do pass. “The vast majority of strange toddler behaviors are short-lived phases,” says Heather Witten berg, PsyD, psychologist and author of Let’s Get This Potty Started! The BabyShrink’s Guide to Potty Training Your Toddler.
child,” she says. Unless your kid is hurting himself or would rather bang his head than socialize, eat or play, just ignore it. “When your child gets a reaction out of you for something he’s done, he realizes there’s a big red button he can push when he needs attention,” Wittenberg explains. Suggest a replacement activity (“Try rubbing your bunny’s ears when you get tired”) to redirect the behavior.
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Rhythmic, repetitive motion helps calm an overstimulated nervous system, Wittenberg explains. And while you’d think that means just rocking or riding in a car, head banging qualifies. “What looks disturbing to us can be very soothing to a
And you thought you wouldn’t have to worry about this until puberty! But self-fondling is another habit that isn’t considered a problem unless your child chooses to do it over, say, playing with the kid next door or eating ice cream.
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Wittenberg says not to say no to it but to give guidelines: “You can do this alone in your room, but you can’t do it in the store or at school.” And give him interesting things to do to keep him from being bored.
crazy cravings
We know a mom whose daughter picks fuzzies off the couch and eats them—like a delicious snack! Wittenberg explains that kids use their mouths as tools for exploring the world. “They may be experimenting, or there may be some oral needs or a nutritional deficiency going on.” At the end of the day, it comes down to severity and frequency. So once-in-a-while weird cravings can be brushed off, but if your child is obsessed with eating, say, dirt or cat litter, it’s time to talk to the pediatrician.
nose picking
We know, it grosses you out, but a nostril is an interesting hole to explore. The key is to keep calm. Try something like this: “You can do this in your room or the bathroom with a tissue, but nobody wants to see it.”
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imaginary and stuffed friends
Know a toddler who’s so obsessed with her stuffed animals that she lines them up perfectly at bedtime or who’s made up a whole family of imaginary friends? This is a normal reaction to the realization that the world is confusing and difficult to understand. “A world of the child’s making is much more comfortable,” Wittenberg says. When you embrace your child’s imaginary world, you honor her creativity. When a furry friend gets lost or needs to be washed or sewn, it might be rough, but it’s an opportunity to show her how she can cope without her usual comforts.
playing with their poop (sorry)
Then there’s that sneaky toddler who takes off his diaper to explore the mess that he made during naptime. Ick! “It’s way more common than people realize,
and most of the time it’s just that they’ve discovered an intriguing new plaything,” Wittenberg says. Make poop not so interesting by giving your child plenty of acceptable opportunities to make messes (by building mud castles together or playing with modeling clay, for example). If he keeps it up, you can fasten the edges of his diaper with skin-safe tape and put his pajamas on backward, so he can’t take them off. “Prevention is critical,” she adds. “That, and watching them like a hawk.”
generally bizarre stuff
Some toddlers insist on wearing a cape all day or want to be naked no matter what. “My two-year-old thinks he’s a dog,” says one mom. “When I come home, he barks to greet me and tries to lick my face.” Wacky phases are a normal part of being a kid and figuring out his place in the world. As with other weird behaviors, so long as it doesn’t interfere with normal activities, it’s fine. You may have to explain that it’s a thing he can do at some times but can’t at others. Tolerate it, but make sure you record it on video, too. This is great footage to show at his wedding or bar mitzvah.
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early potty training?
too early causes problems “The number one cause of complications and disorders I see in my urology clinic—including dysfunctional elimination; bedtime wetting; urinary incontinence, frequency and urgency; and urinary tract infections (UTIs)—is kids not going to the bathroom on time. Healthy kids don’t get UTIs before they’re potty trained, so really, it’s healthiest to wait. Plus, the vast majority of them is also constipated because they’re ‘backed up’ from not going often enough. To be potty trained, your child needs the maturity to respond to body urges and go to the bathroom on time. They’re more likely to have that the older they are.” steve J. Hodges, MD
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