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Vol. 38, No. 9
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October 2016
How to Make it in Hollywood and Remain a Mensch The 2017 Main Event featuring Joshua Malina Joshua Malina may inspire ag itation among millions of people on a weekly basis, but on Decem ber 6, he will find himself in front of an appreciative crowd. Malina, who plays David Rosen, the morally conflicted at torney general of the United States on “Scandal,” the hit television show by Shonda Rhimes, will be the featured speaker at the Jewish Federation of Greater Charlotte’s Main Event, cochaired by Debra and David Van Glish. After graduating from Yale University with a B.A. in Theatre Studies, Joshua Malina made his professional acting debut in the Broadway production of Aaron Sorkin’s “A Few Good Men.” He went on to star as Jeremy Good win in Sorkin's critically ac claimed television series “Sports
Night.” Later, Joshua costarred as Will Bailey in Sorkin’s multi Emmy winning show “The West Wing.” Other Sorkin credits in clude the hit features “The Amer ican President” and “Malice.” For three seasons, Joshua por trayed multimillionaire Peter Alpert on USA Network’s hit “In Plain Sight.” Joshua’s film credits include the comedy “A View from the Top” with Gwyneth Paltrow and Mike Meyers, “In the Line of Fire” with Clint Eastwood, and “Bulworth” with Warren Beatty and Halle Berry. A cocreator of Bravo’s hit show “Celebrity Poker Show down,” Joshua recently wrote, produced, and costarred in the comic web series “Backwash.” Costars in the project include Jon Hamm, Michael Ian Black, Sarah
Josh Malina Silverman, Hank Azaria, and many others. Joshua has been active in Jew ish affairs for some time. He ap peared in the Jewish Federation's
Mark Your Calendar for the 20162017 JCRC Speaker Series Center for Cultural Arts at Shalom Park. This year’s series will focus on a twopart session on the U.S. Presidential Election, Israel and the United Nations as well as the regional turmoil challenges in the Middle East. The role of the JCRC includes promoting and cultivating positive relations be tween the Jewish community and the larger Charlotte community,
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The JCRC is proud to an nounce our ongoing 20162017 JCRC Speaker Series, which will start up again on November 15 with the first of a two part series by Ralph Nurnberger. Lectures will take place on January 26, 2017, February 28, 2017 (the sec ond part of the US Election series with Dr. Ralph Nurnberger) and March 23, 2017 in the Sam Lerner
participating in the improvement of our local and global communi ties and encouraging engagement with and fostering a strong rela tionship between the local and Jewish and greater Charlotte com munities and Israel. The JCRC Speaker Series endeavors to cre ate a strong Charlotte Jewish community that is educated, pas sionate, and connected to Israel and the Jewish people worldwide through thought provoking, stim ulating, and engaging lectures and conversations with renowned speakers on Israel and relevant Jewish topics of the day. All lectures are free and open to the public but RSVPS are re quested. For more information, please contact Tal Stein Director of Community Relations and Is rael Affairs at tal.stein@jew ishcharlotte.org or 7049446751. More detailed information will precede each event, as time gets closer. (See page 17 for more de tails.) Y
“Live Generously” campaign, and starred in a video preparing Jew ish high school students for the possibility of facing an antiIsrael climate on college campuses. In an appearance on “Celebrity Jeop ardy,” Joshua won $50,000 for Bet Tzedek, a pro bono law firm in Los Angeles, and in July he took Mazon’s SNAP Food Stamp Challenge. Over the last few years, Joshua has spoken at dozens of Federation’s and Hil lel’s across the country. The Main Event on Thursday, December 6, 2016 will begin at 7:30 PM at Temple Israel. Tickets are $36 per person and can be purchased online at www.jewishcharlotte.org; by call ing 7049446757 or by mailing in your check to Jewish Federation, 5007 Providence Road, Suite 101,
Charlotte, NC 28226. Or with a donation of $180, we invite you to be an “Honorable Menschen” (in cludes two Main Event tickets, signed autographed picture, recognition in event program, CJN and Federation website). For additional information, call the Federation office at 704944 6757; or visit our website at www.jewishcharlotte.org. Y
Third Annual Charlotte Hadassah Fair Featuring Israeli Products, November 13 The 3rd Annual Charlotte Hadassah Fair Featuring Israeli Products will bring the commu nity together to “Support Israel, by Buying Israeli.” This year’s 3rd Annual event will take place on November 13 at the Sam Lerner Center at Shalom Park. The event will feature Israeli and local vendors offering Ju daica, Jewish holiday themed items, as well as kosher foods and products. A number of vendors with a large variety of products have already committed. In addi tion to Israeli jewelry, we will have special jewelry made out of rocket pieces from the 2014 war, as well as a huge collection of Jewish children’s books, the ever beautiful and popular Ronit Furst eye glass frames, beautiful art and pottery, and a variety of kosher and Hanukkah themed items. Vendor tables can be purchased for $50. Vendors can register on line at http://tinyurl.com/2016 Vendorform. If you are interested or have additional questions re garding purchasing a vendor table, please contact Shellie Barer at s.barer@yahoo.com. Event tables can also be purchased by Jewish community agencies and organi zations for promoting Jewish and Israeli themed products and infor
mation. Additionally, the Fair will fea ture children’s activities and a large variety of raffle prizes. Plans are in the works for a reading and activity by a published Jewish children’s author. Stay tuned for more information. We thank you for your interest and support of this amazing event. For additional information, please contact Stacy Baum at 704808 0423 or schree@carolina.rr.com or Amy DeLoach at 910617 1264 or amybdeloach@g mail.com. Additionally, if you have personal or business items to donate for our raffle, please con tact Hilary Rosenbaum at dhrose4@gmail.com. Looking forward to seeing you at the Fair. Y
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JEWISH FEDERATION NEWS
Apple Picking with PJ Library More than 200 kids, parents, and grandparents joined PJ Li brary and the Jewish Federation for our Annual Rosh Hashanah Apple Picking at Carrigan Farms. Our group got a chance to experi ence an ageold holiday tradition first handpicking some delicious apples from the orchards and learning how honey is being made. All families who attended the apple picking enjoyed a goody bag from our PJ Library partners! Many thanks to the Levine JCC, the LevineSklut Judaic Library, the Charlotte Jewish Preschool, Jewish Council of Lake Norman, Jewish Preschool on Sardis, Tem ple Beth El, and Temple Israel for
their donations. For more information about PJ Library and upcoming events, please contact Tair Giudice, Di rector of Outreach & Engage ments, 7049446759 or tair.giudice@jewishcharlotte.org. PJ Library, a Jewish Federation Beneficiary Agency, provides free, highquality books and music to families raising Jewish children. Y
SHABBAT AND HOLIDAY CANDLE LIGHTING FOR OCTOBER 2016 Sunday, October 2, Erev Rosh HaShanah, 6:46 PM Monday, October 3, 2nd Rosh HaShanah, 7:53 PM Friday, October 7, 6:39 PM Tuesday, October 11, Erev Yom Kippur, 6:34 PM Friday, October 14, 6:30 PM Sunday, October 16, Erev Sukkot, 6:27 PM Monday, October 17, 2nd night Sukkot, 7:34 PM Friday, October 21, 6:21 PM Sunday, October 23, Erev Shemini Atzeret, 6:19 PM Monday, October 24, Erev Simchat Torah, 7:25 PM Friday, October 28, 6:13 PM
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Bernstein Leadership Group Graduates Its 10th Class The Jewish Federation of Greater Charlotte is excited to an nounce the August graduation of the tenth class of the Bernstein Leadership Group (BLG). This 18month program of the Jewish Federation offers young adults (ages 2145) a unique opportunity to gain a more intimate view of our Jewish community. During
the 18month program, BLG par ticipants delve into the Jewish tra dition of social responsibility and learn valuable leadership skills that will help them contribute to improving our community. This program is generously funded by Don and Bobbi Bernstein. Recruitment for Class XI of the Bernstein Leadership Group will
take place this fall. For more in formation on how you or someone you know can take part in this ex citing program, please contact Tair Giudice, Director of Out reach & Engagement, tair.giu dice@jewishcharlotte.org or 7049446759. Y
The Graduates Eric Althofer, Lauren Althofer, Kadey Ballard, Adam Berman, Ivy Berman, Elizabeth Bernstein, Melanie Brown, Bene Burpee , Melissa Duller, Alexis Fish, Ben Fish, Jamie Krusch, Jonathan Kulbersh, Ellie Kunkes, Glenn Kunkes, Alyssa Levine, David Levine, Madison Levine, Scott Lieberman, Gabe Mathless, Jeremy Naman, Liz Naman, Yael RosenbergOsvski , Michael Rousso, Sheri Sisson, Nicole Solis, Becca Stern, Jessica Weill, Lisa Wielunski
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Lifelong Learning at the Li brary is offering a oneofakind class with customized curriculum. The first class in the series is “Is rael: 1948 to Present,” taught by Rabbi Yossi Groner. Study the changing interests and positions of the parties involved; Israel, the West Bank, the Arab states, and
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School New Beginnings, New Goals for Jewish Preschool on Sardis By Dedee Goldsmith, executive director It is an amazing feeling to begin the school year, to delve into new goals and new relation ships. That beginning of the school year excitement continues on through the High Holidays and a new Jewish year. All of us at the Jewish Preschool on Sardis are excited to try new things, set new
goals, and start working on im provements in our school and in our lives. Our teachers have set some goals for their year and I’d love to share just a few. Two seasoned teachers would like to expand their skills with new creative ac tivities through an exploration of our curriculum and beyond. An other mentioned improving guitar
skills to play along with the chil dren during the day. One long time teacher would like to in crease her Hebrew vocabulary by engaging with our Israeli children, families, and staff and yet another would like to attend a Judaic re lated conference this coming year. Several teachers set goals to max imize their environment and con tinue to use the classroom as a
safe place to take chances and de velop relationships with children, families, and one another. Beyond what is stated as goals, two of our teachers (our newest staff member and our longest serving teacher) joined a leader ship program for early childhood educators. There they will engage in selfreflection, skill develop ment, and executing their goals into practice. We know they will excel in this yearlong program and bring back information that will only enhance the Jewish Pre school on Sardis and the early childhood community as a whole. The excitement is palpable and
the beginning of the new year is just the place to hit the ground running. From the Jewish Pre school on Sardis family to yours, we wish you Shana Tova and hope you achieve your goals for 5777.Y
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Continuing Your Education in Parenting By Mariashi Groner, CJDS Head of School Save the date for the Joined in Education (JIE) Event in February 2017. Author, Julie Lythcott Hains, will present compelling child rearing intelligence based on her bestselling book, How to Raise an Adult. The subject matter is one that can cause us to even tremble when thinking about it. I’ll leave the philosophy, the statistics, and the eloquence to Julie’s book, her talk, and her guidance, because there is certainly a lot of it and I know you’ll enjoy it, learn from it, and hopefully apply it as you continue to raise your children to be the very best they can be. I want to share a little story I
heard about raising an adult that had a powerful impact on me and one that I don’t think is happening often enough in our society. A mom I know related that her daughter was in camp and, as is common, was forced to write let ters to her parents. This activity was not met with enthusiasm by her daughter. However, this youngster is a smart cookie. So she took to folding a blank paper and putting it into the envelope and mailing it, thereby getting the camp administration off her back, and avoiding the arduous task of having to write about something that she saw as unnecessary and possibly even a waste of time. A few times she did write, but only to remind mom that there were a
few things she needed at camp, or that she would need for school. Well, although this mom hadn’t yet read Julie LythcottHains’ book, she had an innate sense of what it means to raise your child and she took matters into her own hands. She wrote her daughter a letter that reads as follows: “Please don’t send another let ter with a list of things that you want. Your letters this summer have been a complete disgrace for someone your age. They are either blank or a list of things that you want. I’m so disappointed that you can’t write a letter telling us what’s going on at camp and how appreciative you are of the expe rience we have given you. “Susie (name is changed to pro
CJP Kicks Off the School Year with Team Building By Becca Weiner On Sunday afternoon in August before we welcomed back out halfday teachers, 20 of our staff members gathered for a team building session at Temple Israel. VentureUp, a company that spe cializes in building community among staff members, organized a plethora of activities to increase communication and collaboration among our faculty. Needless to say, the program was an incredible success. In the four hours that we spent together there was as much laughter as collaboration. The teambuilding day ended with a circle in which we went around and each shared some thing. It could be anything we wanted to say to the whole group. There were no interruptions as each staff member expressed their gratitude for the opportunity to get to know each other better and learn how to function as a cohe sive team. “This is my 7th year teaching at CJP,” remarked one teacher, “and this is the first time I’ve had the chance to spend time with people from the ones team since our schedules are so differ ent.” When it came to specific activ ities, a threes teacher commented, “I enjoyed the activity when we tossed stuffed animals to each other. Not only did we learn new staff member’s names, but we all laughed during the game. We also had a chance to learn some fun facts about each other.” Of course, not all activities were easy at first – when we had to transfer a mar ble from one end of the room to the other using fragments of a halfpipe our teachers exercised their patience as well as their abil ity to step back and be a partici pant instead of a leader. “I had to work through having patience in the pass the ball through the tracks
CJP teachers during their team building program.
activity. It was hard for me to see us not working as a team, but after we regrouped and established a plan we were back on track,” wrote a fours teacher. Thanks to the overwhelming success of our Staff Team Build ing Day we started off the school year on the right foot. We look forward to next year’s team build ing activity with an even stronger turn out among staff members. “I found this event helpful for all of the returning staff,” wrote a Twos teacher. “It gave us a chance to let our guards down and just have fun and get to know each other more.”
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tect the innocent), you need to learn to BE PRESENT and enjoy what you have instead of worrying about what you don’t have. ‘Things’ and ‘stuff’ will never bring you happiness, and the sooner you learn that, the happier you will be. I would prefer not to hear from you than to get a blank letter or a list of crap that you think is so important. It’s embar rassing … Honestly. You really need to think about what your let ters sound like, because it makes me feel like we must be doing something wrong as your par ents.” I wanted to hug this mom and cheer her on because I know it wasn’t easy, but she did the right thing by her daughter. I believe that if we would all
have the guts and nerve to stand up to and for our children, risk their discomfort and possibly even tears (even when away from home, or away at camp) we would have a generation that would be more resilient, caring, and respon sible and ready to take on the world as we need them to. I hope to see you in February for this engaging presentation that will be sure to shape your parent ing approach.Y
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JIE Features “How to Raise an Adult”; Parents’ Resiliency Mark your calendar for another provocative parenting symposium from Joined In Education on Feb ruary 8 and 9, 2017. The focus this year is How to Raise An Adult and break free of the over parenting trap to prepare your children for success. Relevant to parents of toddlers as well as teens, JIE is a rallying cry for those who wish to ensure that the next generation can take charge of their own lives. Now in its sixth year, this two day educational symposium is an event that parents and child care professionals look to as a valuable and well respected resource for quality programming. Between parents and professionals that at tend this annual event, we believe that we affect 4050,000 children and their families in the commu nity each year. The keynote address will be given February 8 by Julie Lyth cottHaims, former Dean of Freshman Students at Stanford and author of the New York Times bestseller, How to Raise An Adult. Her talks and themes are riveting, addressing the effects of overpar enting and overscheduling on kids as they get older, enter college, and then the real world. Ms. Lyth cottHaims’ TedTalks are so pop ular and topical that one was recently featured on a PBS Ted Talks program. She offers practi cal alternative strategies that un
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derline the importance of allow ing children to make their own mistakes and develop the re silience, resourcefulness, and inner determination necessary for success. She draws on research and conversations with educators and employers to highlight the ways in which overparenting harms children, their stressedout parents and our society. We will be having the Keynote address and reception at Provi dence Day School again this year. The following day, there will be two separate workshop tracks: morning sessions for parents and an afternoon session for educators and professionals. Workshops will be held at Shalom Park. For more information and tickets go to www.joinedineduca tion.org or on Facebook
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Shalom Bayit Program Becomes Part of Jewish Family Services’ Continuum of Care By Howard Olshansky, executive director, Jewish Family Services I’m sure you have all read sto ries about domestic violence, es pecially those where the victim ends up being killed. And I’m sure you probably think these are situ ation that couldn’t ever affect you or your loved ones. But the stories you read about in the media are just a very small percentage of sit uations of domestic violence which often occurs closer to home than you might expect. Victim abuse does not favor one eco nomic, religious, or ethnic group over another. It is found in all groups—and yes that includes the Jewish community. As October represents Domes tic Violence awareness month, Jewish Family Services is pleased to announce the incorporation of the Shalom Bayit program as part of our continuum of services. Through the leadership of Marsha
Stickler, the Shalom Bayit pro gram has generated a much greater awareness of Domestic Vi olence within the Jewish commu nity. To continue her efforts, JFS will be promoting a number of ac tivities to ensure our community continues to respond to the impor tance of ensuring the protection and safety of our community. Just as in child abuse, victims of domestic violence are often afraid to disclose their abuse or come forward for help and sup port. The signs of abuse are often subtle such as frequent trips to the doctor or emergency room, con trolling behavior on the part of a spouse, or threatening behavior to a senior parent. These are all ex amples of signs that abuse may be occurring in a family. Jewish Family Services will not only be continuing the aware ness efforts of the Shalom Bayit program but also providing pro
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fessional services through our trained staff in our counselling and case management services. Through our network of partners, JFS is able to not only provide di rect services to individuals but also connect victims of domestic violence with community re sources to ensure their protection and safety. Throughout Shalom Park, pull tab stickers are being posted in the bathrooms with JFS’s informa tion, purple pins representing Do mestic Violence awareness month will be available throughout the park, and silhouettes with stories of Jewish individuals impacted by domestic violence will be sta tioned around. The first step as a community is all of us opening our minds and hearts. Being aware and knowl edgeable that abuse may be occur ring in the home of your neighbor, your child’s friends’ family or with your own children. We can not close our eyes and think “not me, not us.” If you suspect abuse is occurring, find out more or re port it. Don’t let the situation be come that rare case that ends up on the front pages of the newspa per. For further information, call Jewish Family Services at 704 3646594.Y
JFS Volunteers and Donors Month of August Volunteers: Rick Abrams, Ben Aizenman, Andrea Cronson, Sheryl Effren, Mel and Caren Frank, Robert Friedman, Jennifer Golynsky, Gail Halverson, Bob Jacobson, Eva Kantor, Zoe Kap eronis, Gary Lerner, Matt Luft glass, Frada Mozenter, Allan Oxman, Raghu Padma, Barbara Rein, Sara Steinmetz, Jeff and Stacy Strauch, Liz Wahls, Amalia Warshenbrot, Mike Weinberg, Jan Weiner, Mary Wennen, Dori Whitman, Lisa Wielunski, Nancy Wielunski Hadassah Cooks: Barbara Abrams, Phyllis Berlin, Margie Bower, Ilene Cantor, Gladys Cherny, June Hirschmann, Judy Kaufmann, Penny Krieger, Shel ley Leibman, Lois Mazer, Fran Schuler, Shayna Strasser, Zachary Strasser Food Pantry Donations: Temple Israel and Temple Beth El congregants, Marcia Stern, Barbara Rein, Mike Weinberg, Frada Mozenter, Dawn Stubbs, Chantal Rubin, Bonnie Barman, Gleiberman’s Kosher Mart, Judy Kaufmann Tzedakah Donation: Robin and Logan Ciordia (The Secret Chocolatier); Abby, Molly and Emily Kosofsky; Temple Israel Minyon Special Recognition: Sydney Abeshaus for a Food Drive for the pantry Y
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Community News Creating a Legacy with the Hebrew Cemetery By Brian Yesowitch, president, Hebrew Cemetery Association For the past four years, many of the Jewish agencies in Charlotte have been bolstering their en dowments through the Create Your Jewish Legacy program, an initiative directed locally by the Foundation for the Charlotte Jew ish Community. Your Hebrew Cemetery Association has been fortunate to have received com mitments from over 50 individu als and families who recognize and appreciate the gravity of our sacred work in providing a digni fied burial for Jewish Charlot teans. I am often asked why Martha and I are so committed to the Cemetery. It’s been my privi lege to have served the past four years as this institution’s presi dent. But my leadership isn’t our family’s only commitment. Throughout that time, my wife Martha has also been at the Me morial Service, attended our Tu B’Shvat events, (she even ran the preschool program at our inaugu ral event), washed headstones dur ing Mitzvah Day, dusted and vacuumed the historic chapel building during the Federation’s Bernstein Leadership Group Tikkun Olam program, and also leant a supportive and compas sionate ear to many of you who have lost loved ones during the past nine years we’ve been in the community. In short, my wife Martha Yesowitch has been an ex tremely active member of our Cemetery Association. What is it about the Cemetery that inspires Martha and me to serve? What is it about the Cemetery that has in spired Jewish in Charlotte to con tribute, serve, honor, celebrate, and embrace? I will spare you readers the minutiae and simply say that when Martha and I were at our lowest point in our grief, the Cemetery Association, its director at the time Joe Kodsi, President Kevin Levine, and Association members were there with sensi tive ears and supportive hearts. We expected the dignity. We didn’t expect the warmth. We learned shortly thereafter, that since 1870, the Hebrew Cemetery Association has been there sup porting Jewish families at their time of loss. This comes regard less of income or even the ability to pay for your own funeral. You, the members of this Community have inspired us. We can do no less than model our behavior after the fine example all of you have set. Each month, I ask you to con sider joining the Cemetery for our low membership fee of $72 per family annually. This month, I am asking all of you to join us in mak ing your commitment to the Cemetery. Did you know that joining the Create Your Jewish Legacy program costs nothing up front? There are many ways in which you can participate in the Create Your Jewish Legacy pro gram and create a lasting relation
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The 201617 school year has just begun and more than 4,000 students from public and private schools in Mecklenburg and five surrounding counties are sched uled to participate in the Levine JCC Butterfly Project Workshop. The following quotes are from students who attended a workshop during the 201516 school year. Peyton, age 12: The world is filled with true horrors, and some people do not live through them, but in the end, amazing people with amazing stories come out of it and it’s their stories and their lives that really affect me, not just something out of a textbook. I re ally enjoyed what I did here today. It is really awful what happened, and I hope it never happens again. Christopher, age 13: I feel that while doing the Butterfly Project, I helped change the world. Jackson, age 11: I think that this was an awesome project be cause it shows that we should all be one and that we should not dis criminate because we are all the same person deep, deep inside. Alex, age 12: I feel the memo rial and Mr. Bienstock were the most inspirational to me because of the realworld value they have. Mr. Bienstock is an example of lasting perseverance and the me morial is an example of memories that will last forever. Mia, age 13: It changed how I thought about the Holocaust to hear about the experience first hand. I had always thought about how awful the whole thing was, but I had never put myself in the shoes of a Jewish child during that time. Carrie, age 17: Today I re membered that it is not about doing something big to make a
difference, but about something little, as a nor mal part of character treating others with re spect and correcting oth ers (or myself) gently when that is not being done. Meghan, age 11: What I will remember about this trip is looking at the memorial and thinking that part of it looked un finished and then I thought of all the unfinished lives, and all of these children’s stories that never got to be finished. Audrey, age 35: Ms. Suly say ing “if you can’t stand up to the bully then go stand next to the vic tim,” was my most moving “Ah ha” moment. If everyone would take this away with them there would be no audience for bully ing. Jean, age 54: I am so proud of young people today. They are far more accepting of others than I was. As an adult, I need to teach students that they create change, that they eliminate stereotypes, and that they can choose to end genocide. Kim, age 39: This program is a wonderful gift to our community. We should all know the stories of the Holocaust. Of the hate, the in justice, the pain…and also the love, strength, and amazing sur vival of some. Thank you. Elyse, age 18: I see parallels in the prejudices people had then and people have now….this is so im portant. Sasha, age 14: Through this trip, I have learned to open up more to acceptance, because even though I am different, I sometimes can discriminate. I will, from now on, never discriminate on another
solely on who they are. This expe rience has changed me greatly. Thank you. Josh, age 13: I think that even though we live in a world full of hate, evil, and violence, some where in the eye of this great hur ricane, there is hope, joy, and love for everyone. The problem is get ting there. And the Butterfly Proj ect is bringing us a step closer …. Tristan, age 11: A small drop of water creates a ripple, a block of ice makes a splash, a large boulder produces a wave. This is how our actions can change the world. Wanya, age 17: Today really touched me. It was a great experi ence. It made me pause and reflect on some of the things I do and say and it made me want to be a better person and change the world. The quotes above should pro vide a good sense of what partici pants learn in participating in the Butterfly Project. There is no bet ter way to experience the impact of a workshop than to attend one yourself. We invite middle school aged children through adults to at tend a Community Workshop on Sunday, October 16 from 1:30 3:30 PM. Register at the Levine JCC Customer Service Desk at 7043665007. LJCC members are free; nonmembers are $5 per participant. We hope to see you there.Y
McColl Center for the Arts Welcomes Israeli Artist Orit Hofshi The McColl Center for the Arts ArtistinResidence program sup ports artists by providing space
blending the sense of contempo rary reality (the proximate as well as the global) and recent events,” she says on her web site, orithofshi.com. “In my work, I am in terested not only in the subject per se, but also in what can take place in and around it, while creating tension between time and place. “I spend a great deal of time in various natural settings and am attracted to ex treme and rugged landscapes, taking nu merous photographs, which nourish my thinking and process Scanning 2016, Carved birch wood, drawing, ink ing in the studio,” she 48 x 50 inches declares in her artist statement. “The land for creative inquiry. This fall one scapes are typically proposed as of the talented artists is Orit Hof places, occupied and unoccupied, shi of Herziliya, Israel. touched and untouched, rarely Hofshi’s primary media are fully committed in a specific con print making, woodcutting, and text. In such dramatic natural con drawing. But beyond the mere texts, I find an emphasized sense materials that she uses to create of evolution, time and struggles, her pieces is her philosophy. “It’s not only as records of natural phe my concern to bring forth in my nomenon but also as reflections of works the continuous critical ob human history.” servation of the surrounding, Hofshi’s pieces are usually
large and intricate and she will have the use of the McColl Cen ter’s studio space until October 30. The McColl Center is open TuesdaySaturday, 105, with a late night till 9 PM on Thursdays; however, Hofshi will be unavail able on the dates leading up and including the major holidays in October. There will be an Open Studio event on October 8 that will include family friendly activ ities all day, and Hofshi will avail able then. (Continued on next page)
Audrey Singer from the McColl Cen ter for the Arts and Orit Hofshi visit Shalom Park.
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Visiting Israeli Artist at McColl Center for the Arts (Continued from previous page)
She is also planning to visit Shalom Park and par ticipate in events and classes here. Watch for an nouncements when Hofshi will be here. McColl Center for Art + Innovation is the primary venue for contemporary art in uptown Charlotte. Artists and engagement are essential to the Center. McColl Center supports artists who are at a place in their work of artistic, intellectual, or technical break
through. The Center is a place where artists push their own boundaries and supports artists who are be ginning a new project or working toward that process. The Center is at 721 N. Tryon St. and the phone for more information is 7043325535.Y
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Legacy Story The Fishkin Family Roni and Glenn Fishkin are among the 349 individuals and families in our community who have created 718 unique legacy gifts to support its future. Please take the time to read their story and thank them for their generosity. It is our hope that you will be inspired and encouraged to join them and others who have created legacy gifts to help sustain our Jewish community. By Roni Fishkin The decision to create a legacy was an easy one for us. We regard Shalom Park as a gift we were given when we moved from New York to Charlotte. Although clichéd, it remains true: it became a home away from home. And, it has been the gift that keeps on giving. I grew up in a traditional Reform Jewish home on Long Island and learned at an early age about leadership and volunteering from parents who emphasized community involvement. Glenn’s early experience was quite different. His family lived in places like South Dakota, New Mexico, and Maine before settling in New Jersey in the mid70s. Al though sometimes the only Jewish family around, his mom ensured Jewish traditions were present. We met in the early 80s at CNN by chatting on the company intranet – a precursor to online dating! We married in 1985 and moved here in 1992. What we thought would be a year in Charlotte – turned into a lifetime because of the Jewish community we found. In the minority, we recognized an enhanced sense of Judaism – very different than in New York. Our three boys grew up at Shalom Park. They swam on the JCC team, played hoopsters, tennis, soccer and went to day camp each sum mer. Relationships they forged on those fields, courts and classes remain the closest ones they have today. And, although they now live out of town, when they think of close friends, it is the ones from their JCC childhood that remain the closest. Despite distance and time, those re lationships are enduring. The JCC is also where we met our closest friends… dropping off at the Charlotte Jewish Preschool, sitting poolside for hours, or coaching athletic teams. These are not just friends they are our family. Without the JCC and Shalom Park – Charlotte would be a lovely place to live, but we wouldn’t have our heart and roots planted deeply in this city. We don’t know what the future holds for our family. We don’t know whether children and grandchildren will ever live here to enjoy the blessings of Shalom Park. We do know, however, that we consider it a sacred responsibility to make sure future generations have these advan tages. They were afforded to us by people that came before with their vision for the Charlotte Jewish community. That’s why a legacy gift resonated with us and why we made sure we were included.Y
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North Carolina Hillel is excited to welcome Jamie Schecter Kr usch as its first Assistant Director, Charlotte. As the organization’s first fulltime employee in Char lotte, Jamie will focus on building Jewish life at UNCCharlotte, as well as increasing NC Hillel’s vis ibility in the Charlotte area. Under its 2013 strategic plan, NC Hillel has dramatically ex panded its infrastructure to better support Jewish students around the state. In addition to its team at
the flagship at UNCChapel Hill, NC Hillel now employs staff serv ing students at NC State, UNC Greensboro, and UNCCharlotte, as well as Guilford College. This organizational evolution was crit ical to address North Carolina’s shifting Jewish campus demo graphics. Unlike a generation ago, the vast majority of Jewish stu dents attending UNC universities are no longer at UNCChapel Hill; they are now dispersed across the state’s campuses. With UNCCharlotte now the UNC system’s second largest and fastest growing university, NC Hillel made it a priority to create a fulltime staff position to sup port UNCCharlotte’s Jewish stu dents. This position’s importance for Charlotte’s Jewish community is underscored by the large num ber of Charlotteans attending UNCCharlotte, as well as the high percentage of graduates who remain in Charlotte after gradua tion. Jamie is excited to play an in tegral role in creating meaningful Jewish experiences with college students in Charlotte, her new found home. “The students are going to love her,” said Ari Gauss, NC Hillel executive director. “She has such great enthusiasm and en ergy, in addition to her extensive Jewish background, impressive resume, and love for the Charlotte Jewish community.” Jamie grew up in Dallas, where she was heavily involved in Jew ish life from a young age. She left Dallas to attend Indiana Univer sity, where she completed a B.A. in political science and criminal justice. As a student at Indiana, Jamie was very active with Hillel, participated on a Birthright Israel trip, and was a member of a Jew ish sorority. After graduating, Jamie relo cated to her newly adopted home town of Charlotte, where she
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Hebrew Highlights Hebrew High brings together the best elements of our commu nity to provide transformational experiences for our teens. Through Hebrew High’s dynamic and engaging environment, teens grow along their own pathways, as they forge their personal Jewish journeys. We are thrilled to welcome our newest group of teens to the He brew High experience. This year’s students will have more exciting Jewish learning opportunities than ever before. They will look at the world through a Jewish lens, in our new photography class and argue like Talmudic scholars in our Moot Beit Din competition. Others will create the ruach (spirit) found at summer camp in
the Camp CHS elective. All will participate in frank and open dis cussions about things that are meaningful to their own lives and the life of the community at large. Our first intergenerational class, “Better Together,” will pair 9th and 10th graders with people who are their grandparents’ ages. The two groups will share their views of the world, learning from each other and being friends as a result. Our flagship “Hebrew for Credit” program allows students to receive High School credit while connecting to the Jewish people and homeland through lan guage. Generously funded by the Jewish Federation of Greater Charlotte, the program builds a bridge to the secular community
as well. This successful program is in its fifth year and continues to grow. The Hebrew High community wishes all of our students, parents, and friends a year of fun, learning and Jewish discovery. Shana Tova. It’s not too late to enroll your 8th through 12th grade students
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Temple Solel, located in Fort Mill, SC, formed five years ago to provide a warm and inclusive con gregation affiliated with the Re form movement. This thriving group of over 60 congregants fos ters an environment for individu als and families to grow in their relationships with God and each other, blending Jewish tradition with the everyday Jewish life. An emphasis is also placed on the greater community through social action and Tikkun Olam. The Temple Solel congregation and families have been involved with Fort Mill Care Center, Rock Hill Attention Home for Children, and the Crohns and Colitis fundraising walks. We are involved in discus sions concerning Israel and how to portray her in a positive light for the world. Providing opportuni ties for our children to expand into becoming leaders in the commu nity solidifies and en sures that our Jewish culture continues. Even as a smaller congrega tion, Temple Solel has a significant number of b’nai mitz vah and offers Jewish education for the youth who are staying ac tive. Sisters Ashley and Julia Fox, who were both bat mitzvahed at Temple Solel, led a wonderful service recently on Au gust 12. The girls’ father and temple president, James Fox, played the guitar and led a rendition of “L’cha Dodi” in the musical style of Bob Dylan. Ashley and Julia encouraged worship in a style similar to that of Birkat Shalom, Rabbi Miri Gold’s congregation in kibbutz Gezer, Israel. Various handheld instru ments were handed out to the congregants, so they could participate in wor ship songs expressing a joyful sound. Lay leader Russ Cobe commented how spe cial it was to sit back to enjoy the service and what an honor it was having our post b’nai mizvah age youth still so involved. He was called back up later in the service and asked to play a very special version of “Hallelujah” on the keyboards. He sang the song with great passion. The weekend of August 2627, Temple Solel hosted a member of Rabbi Without Borders, Rabbi Ilan Glazer, for a variety of activ ities. The Friday night service came alive with nearly 40 adults and children in attendance. Rabbi Ilan (his father is known as Rabbi Glazer) led a variation of our Fri day night services, including some less familiar melodies. It truly brought forth a joyful noise to welcome the Sabbath. Saturday evening was inspir ing. Rabbi Ilan engaged young and old with his storytelling, music, puppets, and other visuals. He included some traditional Jew ish stories with roots back in “the old country,” including one story about how important bullfrogs are
in Jewish history. All of the sto ries taught an important life les son. Rabbi Ilan taught Temple Solel new nigunim. He told how he be came a magid by studying with other storytellers and honed his craft. Rabbi Ilan explained the custom of storytelling has a rich history in our culture. The eight stories he told were interesting, thought provoking, and spiritual. People commented how person able, engaging, and inclusive the services and activities were for all ages.
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are held every second and fourth Friday at St. Philip Neri Catholic Church at 7 PM. Leaders are cur rently preparing for High Holy Days coming in October. Seats are included as part of Temple Solel membership. Not a member? Please contact us for information how to attend. Rosh Hashanah morning services will be height ened by the dedication of a Torah recently transferred from Temple Hadar Israel in Newcastle, PA, under the auspices of the Jewish Community Legacy Project and URJ. The congregants of Temple Solel look forward to shar ing our joy over this greatlyanticipated sacred event. * October 2, 7 PM, Rosh Hashanah evening service * October 3, 10 AM, Rosh Hashanah morning service Tashlich service to follow * October 7, 7 PM, Shabbat Shuva * October 9, 10:30 AM, Memorial Service at The Hebrew Cemetery * October 11, 7 PM, Kol Nidre service * October 12, 10 AM, Yom Kippur morning service * October 12, 3 PM, Yom Kip pur afternoon service (Yizkor starts at 3 with Ne’ilah and con cluding services following.) Break the fast will be held after services conclude. For more information about Temple Solel call Roy and Wendy Wein berger 8036199707, find us Facebook or go to the website www.tem plesolelsc.org.Y
Rabbi Glazer, far left, leads Kiddush.
at Pardes and with Nava Tehila in Jerusalem. He completed trainings in the art of Sacred Hebrew Chant with Rabbi Shefa Gold, and in rit ual theatre with “Storahtelling.” Temple Solel felt very fortunate to be included in his busy schedule. Temple Solel offers a variety of warm and inclusive services throughout the year and wants to invite the community to attend to see what we are about. Services
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Havurat Tikvah Sets High Holidays Schedule Havurat Tikvah will welcome 5777 with its High Holiday serv ices at Avondale Presbyterian Church, MacLean Fellowship Hall, 2821 Park Rd. The layled services are always a highlight and delight of the Jewish obser vances during the year, bringing together both members and visi tors alike. Rosh Hashanah services on Oc tober 3 and 4 begin at 10 AM. Fol lowing services on both days, a kosher potluck dairy/veggie/parve luncheon will be served. During the afternoon on Octo ber 3, the congregation will as semble for Tashlich services at 3:30 PM at the bridge at Sugar Creek Greenway between Tran quil Ave and Plantation Pl. Kol Nidre services will be held on October 11 at 7:15 PM. Atten dees must be seated by 7 PM. On October 12, Yom Kippur services will continue at 10 AM,
with the Yizkor/Healing service occurring at approximately 12:30 PM. Services will continue at 5:30 PM after an afternoon break with a minchah discussion of “The Sunflower” by Simon Weisenthal. The day’s observance will con clude with N’eilah and the con cluding services at 6:40 PM followed by a kosher dairy/veg gie/parve breakfast potluck sup per at 7:40 PM. Visitors are always welcome. College students and firsttime guests may attend free of charge. Returning guests and friends of the congregation are asked to make a contribution at whatever level one can afford either in ad vance or after the High Holidays are completed. Machzorim will be provided. Attendees are asked to bring their own tallit and kippah. However, both will be available for those who either do not have or have not
brought them. Individuals are also welcome to bring their shofars to use during the shofar service and at the conclusion of Yom Kippur services. Childcare is available free of charge and must be requested in advance. Sukkot will be celebrated on October 23 at the deGroot resi dence. Check the website for more details as the date approaches. Student Rabbi Danny Moss will return to Havurat Tikvah for a Shabbaton on November 12 for a soulfilled Shabbat service and adult education program that evening. More information will be shared once it is firmed up in the next Charlotte Jewish News issue. Havurat Tikvah is a warm, sup portive and nurturing Jewish Re constructionist congregation with Shabbat services and a full spec trum of holiday observances, as well as religious educational op
tions for both adults and children. We are a diverse group of fami lies, singles, and Jewish and inter faith couples who participate in projects that promote social jus tice. We value and depend upon member participation and leader ship for our religious services, spiritual growth, and governance. Havurat Tikvah is an affiliate of the Jewish Reconstructionist Communities, in association with the Reconstructionist Rabbinical College. For more information on up coming services, programs, mem bership, or other queries, call 9802255330, write to Havurat
Tikvah, P.O. Box 12684, Char lotte, NC 28220, email member ship@havurattikvah.org, or visit havurattikvah.org. Havurat Tikvah is also on Facebook at face book.com/groups/havurattik vah/ Y
Happy Holidays from Temple Beth El As we celebrate the High Holy Days this year, we are grateful for both our temple family and our greater Charlotte Jewish commu nity. Some of our leaders were asked what they are thinking about and are pleased to share a few thoughts with you: Ginny Rosenberg, President At Rosh Hashanah, I tend to re flect on the past year and what I can do to be a better Jew, wife, parent, and friend. This year I add to the list what I can do to be my best as president of TBE. That means running efficient board meetings, listening to congre gants, increasing our endowment, and being a good Shalom Park partner. Beyond this, I am think ing about the upcoming presiden tial election, the Panthers season, and whether I can keep my car for another year. Rabbi Asher Knight Sometimes the High Holy Days can feel artificial and forced. There are the parking lots, tickets, lines at the bathroom, too much conditioning, uncomfortable seats, and prayers we may not know. Somehow the artificial
transforms into something real and soultouching. The music pulls a string in our hearts; the shofar knocks at the doorway to our soul, the prayers lead us to memories seemingly forgotten; we remember loved ones no longer with us, and we are com forted by the warmth of commu nity. These Days of Awe call out for our attention to see beyond the artifice and to recognize within ourselves that which is already present, to envision the potential of the future, and to consider all the ways in which our world needs our attention. May we all enter into a community of reflec tion and song and see ourselves and the world anew. Shanah Tovah! Cantor Andrew Bernard The High Holy Days are a wonderful time for us to come to gether as a community. With many new people in our midst, it is a chance for “oldtimers” to reach out and welcome new faces, and for those who are just joining us to experience firsthand the warmth and the richness of our community. In prayer and song and personal reflection we will
journey together through the Yamim Nora’im and embark on a new and exciting future. Rabbi Dusty Klass As we set our sights on 5777, I am thinking about how honored I am to be where I am and doing what I am doing. This time last year I was preparing to sololead High Holy Day services for the 30member community of Port Angeles, WA, in a space shared with the local UU Church. This year I am preparing, in partner ship with a phenomenal clergy team, to look out at a sea of faces and help lead our TBE family into a new Jewish year. What a differ ence a year can make. To noticing the moments in which we grow and change l’shana tova! Y
Join Temple Kol Ami for High Holidays Temple Kol Ami of Fort Mill, SC invites you to join us for the High Holidays. We are thrilled to be led this year by cantorial soloist Sara Sherman as well as our won derful lay leaders. For those who have been with us in the past, you will recall Sara’s beautiful voice and deep knowledge of the liturgy. She is an accomplished profes sional musician with a degree in piano performance from the Man hattan School of Music. She has won accolades for her piano pre sentations at music festivals worldwide and has performed at such iconic venues as Lincoln Center. We are excited to experi ence the Days of Awe with Sara. Schedule for High Holiday services is as follows: Erev Rosh Hashanah , October 2, 6 PM; Jun ior Congregation Service, Oct 3, 9
AM; Rosh Hashanah, Oct 3, 10 AM; Tashlich (Riverwalk in Rock Hill) , Oct 3, 12:30 PM; Kol Nidre, Oct 11, 7 PM; Yom Kippur, Oct 12, 10 AM; Yizkor, Oct 12, 12:30 AM (free and open to the public). All services are at Temple Kol Ami located at Unity Presby terian Church, 303 Tom Hall Street, Fort Mill, SC. Tickets are available for purchase at www.templekolamisc.org and is open to nonmembers as well as members. This year, tickets are free for Temple Kol Ami members aged 60 and above. For more information, please contact us at yorksynagogue@ gmail.com or 8037010149. Y
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Simchat Torah at Ohr HaTorah Is an Amazing Time of Joy The first month of the Jewish calendar year Tishrei, runs a wide range of Jewish expression. The New Year begins with awe and trepidation with Rosh Hashanah when we usher in the days of awe, a time when we experience the reverence of God and His rela tionship to His creations, culmi nating with Yom Kippur, the holiest day of the year. At the conclusion of Yom Kip pur, we experience a total trans formation from solemnity to great joy, as our lives have been cleansed and God has forgiven us for our inequities. We now pro ceed with joyfulness and happi ness as we enter the days of Sukkot. The joy is manifest and experienced in a tangible way by eating in the sukkah and partici pating in many festive Sukkot cel ebrations. All of these festivities are quite expressive of our collective mood and sense of joy in our Judaism. They have a rhythm which fol
lows an orderly and proscribed manner reflecting the true essence of the holidays. The exception to the rule is Simchat Torah when we go overboard in our joy and hap piness in dancing with the Torah. Simchat Torah does not com memorate a historic event nor is it tied down to a particular obser vance. The celebration of Simchat Torah is focused on the essence of Jew and his/her connection to God which brings us to an incredible expression of joy and merriment. Simchat Torah at Ohr HaTorah is an amazing time when the joy is pure and the happiness is gen uine. The celebration includes a delicious variety of holiday foods with an extensive wine bar and lots of dancing with the Torah. There will be flags for the children and they will lead the pre Hakofot service by reciting selected verses of the Torah. The Simchat Torah celebration at OHT is open to the community and will take place on Monday
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“One Simchat Torah evening, the Baal Shem himself danced together with his congregation. He took the scroll of the Torah in his hand and he danced with it. Then he laid the scroll aside and danced without it. At this moment, one of his disciples who was intimately acquainted with his gestures, said to his companions: “Now our master has laid aside the visible, dimensional teachings, and has taken the spiritual teachings unto himself.” – Martin Buber, “Tales of the Chasidim”
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AIPAC: Popcorn and Politics The 2016 Election and the Future of the U.S.Israel Relationship Thursday, October 20 6:30 PM Leadership Recep tion*, Upstream Restaurant The Koi Room, 6902 Phillips Pl., Charlotte, NC 28210 7:30 PM – Program, Regal Phillips Place Stadium 10, 6911 Phillips Pl Ct., Charlotte, NC 28210
An Olympic Menorah Bob Stein and his son Seth traveled to the Olympics in Rio de Janeiro this year and discovered this menorah constructed by the local Chabad Lubavitch in Copacbana Beach. According to their website, the local Chabad prepared for months for the influx of an expected 40,000 Jews for the Olympics by setting up kosher food concessions, making minyans available, and more. The Rio de Janeiro area is home to more than 30,000 Jews. There are many synagogues, ranging from ultraOrthodox to lib eral Reform, with a variety of architecture from imposing edifices to tiny shuls. The Steins were also very proud to see the Israeli flag waving among the flags of the nations at the Games. Y
Featuring Ann Lewis, Former White House Director of Communications for President Bill Clinton and Todd Harris, Media and Communications Strategist, Founding Partner in Something Else Strategies Space is limited • Business Attire For more information, please contact Kate Samuels at ksamuels@aipac.org or 678254 2624. Ann Lewis was a Senior Advi sor in the historic Hillary Clinton for President Campaign in 2008, where she oversaw outreach to women voters and to the Jewish community, and was a frontline member of the communications team. She served in the White House from 1997 – 2000 as Director of Communications and Counselor to President Bill Clinton; Director of Communications and Deputy Campaign Manager for the Clin tonGore ReElection Campaign
in 1995 1996; and Senior Advi sor to the campaigns of Hillary Rodham Clinton for U.S. Senate. In 2001, Lewis was the Rich man Visiting Professor at Bran deis University, teaching a course entitled “The West Wing and The Real World” and a Public Policy Fellow at the Annenberg School of Communications of the Uni versity of Pennsylvania. As the National Chair of the DNC Women’s Vote Center from 2002 2004, she led the Democratic Party’s major initiative to reach, engage, and mobilize women vot ers. Since 2010, she has coled trips of progressive women to Israel, sponsored by the American Israel Education Foundation. Todd Harris is one of the na tion’s preeminent media and com munications strategist, and a founding partner in Something Else Strategies. Politico called him “One of the brightest young minds in politics today,” and one of “50 Politicos to Watch” during the 2016 presidential election. Roll Call dubbed him “A spinner extraordinaire in the world of po litical communica tion.” Harris has served as an awardwinning media and campaign strategist for a who’s who of GOP officials
including Sen. Marco Rubio, Gov. Jeb Bush, Sen. John McCain, Gov. John Kasich, Sen. Kay Bai ley Hutchison, and Gov. Arnold Schwarzenegger. In 2010 he served as a senior strategist and media consultant for Rubio’s suc cessful comefrombehind cam paign for the U.S. Senate. Harris has advised some of the nation’s largest corporations, po litical committees and trade asso ciations including WalMart, Pfizer, Calpine Energy, Magnolia Pictures, the Republican National Committee, the National Republi can Senatorial Committee, the National Republican Congres sional Committee, the American Action Network, the Coalition for a Democratic Workplace, and many others. The mission of AIPAC is to strengthen, protect, and promote the U.S.Israel relationship in ways that enhance the security of the United States and Israel.Y *The Leadership Reception is open to AIPAC Club Members who generously invest a minimum of $1,800 to the AIPAC Annual Campaign.
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Alwyn Goldstein’s Success Lives on in Scholarship By Elizabeth Robertson Huntsinger, news@southstrand news.com For Georgetown native Roslyn “Roz” Goldstein Greenspon, things have come full circle. She’s established a scholarship in the name of her late father, longtime Georgetown business man Alwyn Goldstein, and, in doing so, she recalls how her fa ther had plans for one career be fore being forced into another venture that led him to George town – and, most importantly, success. The story of Alwyn Goldstein and his move to Georgetown goes back to the 1930s, but it wasn’t orginally how he envisioned his life. After nearly four years of study at the College of Charleston to be come a dentist, Alwyn, a native Charlestonian, was cautioned by his optometrist that his nearsight edness, detrimental to performing intricate dental work, would worsen with time. “He wanted to be a dentist, and this was in the middle of the 1930s,” Roz, who grew up in Georgetown but now lives in Charlotte, North Carolina, said of her father. “He was very near sighted. One of his professors at the College of Charleston, where he was studying dentistry, told him he was too nearsighted to do the close work involved, and that it would get worse. At that time, nearsightedness was like a handi
cap for that kind of work.” Faced with not finishing school, Alwyn told his father, Max Goldstein, he was going to get married instead — to the beautiful Thelma Engel of Charleston. Max, a 1904 immigrant from Latvia and successful men’s cloth ing store owner on King Street in Charleston, saw an excellent op portunity for his son. He told him he could only get married if he could afford to do so and sent his son to Georgetown to open a store on Front Street. In doing so, Alwyn not only began his marriage but his new career, too. International Paper Co. was opening a multimillion dollar paper mill up in Georgetown, and Max recognized that other busi nesses would find success in its shadow. Marriage suited the new busi nessman. “I was in love with that girl from about the time I was 8 or 9 years old,” Alwyn told the Georgetown Times in a 1995 in terview. “She was one of the most beautiful girls I had ever seen. Thelma had lived in Charleston all her life. Her parents were immi grants from Poland. We courted for a whole year and set our wed ding date.” Max’s plans fell easily into place. “They went to George town,” Roz said, “where his father rented a store for him and brought merchandise from his own store
on King Street in Charleston. Then his father left. ‘He gave me the keys and he drove away,’ my father said.” Born in Charleston at his fam ily’s home on King Street, Alwyn planned to stay in Georgetown only a few years. Instead, he be came one of Georgetown’s most beloved citizens. Alwyn’s was soon a Front Street icon in ready towear, serving the Georgetown community for the next half a cen tury. The newlywed couple’s first home was in Karnes Court, at the intersection of Screven and Duke streets. In 1941 they moved to 420 Front St. and rented from Lillian Brightman. During the early years of their marriage, Alwyn and Thelma had two children — daughter Roslyn, and a son, Steven, who received his degree from the Medical University of South Carolina in 1975 and now practices medicine. Roz said she fondly remembers growing up in Georgetown and spending time in her father’s store. “My mother helped him in the store,” she said. “I worked in the store from about the time I was about 8 years old, handing people things. If someone wanted a hat from a shelf, I would get it down for them. They called me Little Alwyn and and my mother Mrs. Alwyn.” In the 1995 Georgetown Times interview, Alwyn also credited his
other very loyal workers, among them four ladies who worked for him several decades. Annie Howard began at Alwyn’s in 1938, followed by Glossie Harper Scott in 1939. In the early 1940s, Effie Tindall Shackleford joined the staff, and Patricia Altman Tay lor worked there from 1968 to 1981. “My daddy was friends with everybody on Front Street,” Roz remembers. “My father was very friendly with everyone at the Georgetown Times. Everyone on Front Street knew him and called him Mr. Alwyn.” In a 1995 Georgetown Times interview, Alwyn said he experi enced the saddest year of his life when Thelma died on May 3, 1968. He found love and comfort the following year in a longtime friend, Frances Ward. “I knew she was the right one for me. She is a good person,” Alwyn said. “My father was married twice,” Roz said. “He was married to my mother for 32 years. She was only 52 when she died. After about a year and a half, he married Frances Ward. Frances and her husband had been friends of my parents, and her husband had died when he was only about 46. Frances was Baptist. She contin ued to be, and her family contin ued to be. My father was Jewish, and he and his family continued to be. We were all a happy family. We would go into Georgetown and celebrate Hanukkah together
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and Christmas together. Nobody had to give up their deepseated religious beliefs. We were very ecumenical.” In 1995, Alwyn said he would probably still be in business on Front Street if not for Hurricane Hugo in 1989. “The storm ripped the roof off Alwyn’s. Everything was ruined,” he explained. “He really knew the value of history and he kept it by dates,“ Roz said. “All of his photographs, he typed on the back who it was, the approximate date and how the person was related. We believe that my father meant me to keep up with his history of George town. Much of it will be at the Heritage Center of the College of Charleston and at the Georgetown County Museum.” “He always wanted me to have everything ready when he died. I asked what he and my stepmother (Continued on page 31)
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Shalom Park Community Garden Installs Birdhouses to Augment Pollination
Area Girl Scouts assisted and worked towards their bird badges.
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Shalom Park Garden volunteer, Jonathan Thull, shows the group where on the campus the bird足 houses will be installed.
Sunday, October 9th at 10:30 am A community-wide service for reflection and remembrance conducted by clergy from all area congregations. 1801 Statesville Avenue | Charlotte, NC 28206
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Vicki Parker, Jonathan Thull, and Sally Parker put the finish足 ing touches on one of the new birdhouses.
The birdhouses were installed on September 18 and can now be seen in many places in Shalom Park. There are are more scheduled to be installed.
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A Yom Kippur BreakFast with Just a Bit of Bling By Shannon Sarna (JTA) — For many families, the Yom Kippur breakfast is a bagels and schmearfilled in evitability — just add some lox, maybe some slices of tomato and orange juice, and everyone is happy. For other families, the break fast is one of the most important meals of the year — almost sa cred. Expectations can run high with such a special meal, and I know many people who anticipate the same dishes year after year after year. But what if you want to serve something a little more than just bagels, or veer a little off course from your usual blintz soufflé? These three newish dishes are just different enough to be exciting, yet they are similar enough to sat isfy your family’s biggest critic. Simple banana bread is hard to improve upon, but when you add chocolate chips and moist (and healthy) canned pumpkin, you have a crowdpleasing quick bread you can bake one or two days ahead of time. Quiche is one of the easiest makeahead comfort foods, and this version is brightened with fresh herbs, feta cheese, and lemon zest. Fresh fruit is also standard at breakfast meals. But by adding some cinnamon and candied wal nuts to autumn fruit, you can take
something simple and traditional and make it extraordinary. PUMPKIN BANANA CHOCOLATE BREAD This quick bread is so moist you don’t need anything to go with it. (Still, that shouldn’t stop you from serving it with some good quality Irish butter, if you’d like.) It’s a delicious sweet treat that’s perfect for ending a fast, celebrating the season and kicking off a sweet new year. Ingredients: 1/2 c. butter (1 stick) 11/2 c. sugar 2 eggs 1 t. vanilla 2 ripe bananas, mashed well 3/4 c. pumpkin puree (not pump kin pie filling) 1 3/4 c. unbleached allpurpose flour 11/2 t. baking powder 3/4 t. baking soda 1/2 t. cinnamon 1/4 t. ginger 1/4 t. nutmeg Pinch ground cloves 1/2 t. salt 1 c. semisweet chocolate chips, plus extra Sanding sugar (optional) Directions: Preheat oven to 350 F. Grease a lg. loaf pan and then coat inside with around 1 T. sugar, tapping out an excess (this is instead of flour). In a lg. bowl, cream butter and
sugar together. Add eggs, one at a time, and vanilla. Add mashed ba nana and pumpkin puree. In a med. bowl, mix together flour, baking powder, baking soda, cin namon, ginger, nutmeg, cloves, and salt. Add dry ingredients to wet ingredients in 2 or 3 batches. Fold in chocolate chips using a spatula. Pour batter into prepared loaf pan. Add a handful of addi tional chocolate chips on top and sanding sugar, if desired. Bake for 5560 min., or till a toothpick in serted in the middle comes out mostly clean. Allow to cool 10 min., then gently remove from pan. HERB, SPINACH, AND FETA QUICHE Quiche is the perfect make ahead dish. It can keep in the fridge for 23 days, and then be re heated in the oven at 300 F for 20 30 min. It can also be served at room temperature. While home made crust is flaky and delicious, you can also use a storebought crust in this recipe. For the crust: 21/2 c. unbleached allpurpose flour 1 t. salt 6 oz. butter (11/2 sticks), chilled and cut into cubes 4 T. vegetable shortening, chilled Scant 1/2 c. ice water For the filling: 3 lg. eggs 11/2 c. heavy cream or half and
half 6 oz. feta cheese, crumbled 8 oz. frozen chopped spinach, thawed and excess liquid squeezed out 1/4 c. fresh chopped dill 1/4 c. fresh chopped parsley a few sprigs of fresh oregano, leaves removed and chopped 1 t. lemon zest 1/2 t. salt 1/4 t. pepper Directions: To make the dough: In a food processor fitted with a blade, add all crust ingredients except for water. Pulse a few times to mix. Begin adding water just until a ball of dough begins to form. Do not overpulse. Remove dough and work on a lightly floured surface until you can shape the dough into a flat disk. Wrap in plastic and place in fridge for 12 hrs. or overnight. Preheat oven to 400 F. Roll out crust on a lightly floured surface until 1/4inch thick. Carefully roll the crust onto your rolling pin and lay on top of springform pan. Gently push the crust into the pan using tips of fin gers and thumbs. Prick the bottom of the crust with a fork all over. Bake for 79 min. Remove from oven and let cool slightly. Reduce oven temperature to 375. Whisk together eggs, cream or half and half, feta, salt, and pepper. Add spinach and herbs to egg mixture. Pour into prepared quiche crust,
taking care to try and evenly dis tribute the cheese and veggies. Bake for 3035 min. Serve warm or at room temperature. AUTUMN FRUIT SALAD If apples and pears aren’t your fruit of choice, you can add these flavors to any fruit you like: pineapple, berries, grapes, etc. To sweeten the salad even further, you can add a tablespoon of honey or, for a more sophisticated Mid dle Eastern twist, add a tablespoon of pomegranate molasses. Ingredients: 3 apples, diced 3 pears, diced 3/4 c. candied walnuts, roughly chopped 1/2 t. cinnamon 1 T. orange zest Juice of 1/2 lemon Directions: Whisk together cinnamon, or ange zest, and lemon juice. Add apples, pears, and walnuts to bowl and toss. Place in fridge till ready to serve, up to 3 hrs. Y
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Yom Kippur Lessons from My Quirky Jewish Mother By Diana Bletter (Kveller via JTA) My mother died on the morning right before Yom Kippur two years ago, and my sister and I were not at all sur prised. Irreverent, quirky, and eccentric, my mother always kvetched about Yom Kippur and would have done anything to miss
it. Dying right before the fast day, the holiest day of the Jewish year, meant my mother was up to her old tricks until the very end. It wasn’t because she was anti Jewish; she was fiercely Jewish, but she’d made up her own brand of Judaism. She always said that Jews should never apologize to
God: God should apologize to the Jews. On Yom Kippur, instead of following a traditional fast, she sat at the kitchen table all day as if on guard, manning the telephone, reading the newspaper, and watch ing the news on TV in case some thing bad happened, primarily to her people.
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A firstgeneration American, she rebelled against her Polish born mother’s traditions because she viewed them as a blend of su perstitions and limitations. Yet she was still my best teacher when it came to understanding what being a Jew was all about. To my sister, Cynthia, and me, she passed on an enormous sense of pride. Freud was Jewish. Ralph Lauren was Jewish. All the really talented peo ple on “Saturday Night Live” were Jewish. On Sunday mornings, armed with a cup of her strong, black coffee from her CorningWare per colator that seemed about as an cient as the Dead Sea Scrolls, a sesame bagel with the insides pulled out and a cigarette burning, she’d comb the Style section of The New York Times, studying the names and faces in every wed ding announcement, making her own calculations. She counted how many Jews she thought were lost (if the cou ple was married by an officiating minister), who was gained (if there was only a rabbi) or if it was a tie (both a minister and a rabbi or a judge). When Yom Kippur rolled around each autumn, her anger at God was reignited. On a macro scale, God let Hitler get away with the Holocaust. On a micro level, God caused her father to die of a heart attack when she was five, forcing my grandmother to raise five children on her own in the Bronx. Despite her outrage, my mother still trooped into the kitchen and followed my grand mother’s recipes for brisket, stuffed cabbage, matzah ball soup with matzah balls so light they de fied gravity, and kasha varnishkes. But she cooked while doing a dozen other things, so Cynthia and I held contests each holiday about who found the oddest item in her dishes: Besides the usual stray hairs, we discovered cigarette ashes, a fake fingernail, and a rub ber band. My mother claimed her belong ing to a people who had lost so much to the world and who, de spite it all, gave so much back. She was convinced that a Jew’s in heritance was the task of setting things right, and took Cynthia and me out of school to attend demon strations and marches for civil rights and liberal causes. There’s a Jewish saying, “If you save one life, you save the world,” and my mother taught me that with just your own life, you can try to at least improve something. With her pulse on Jewish American culture, she offered her scathing critiques to anyone who happened to be within the circum ference of her cigarette smoke. She railed against the stereotypes of the Jewish mother and the Jew ish American Princess because she sensed, far earlier than most social commentators, that these carica tures of Jewish women would push Jewish men away from Jew ish women. Intermarriage statis tics proved her right. That Jewish men laughed at Jewish women, distancing themselves, outraged her. She taught me that words have power.
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She wasn’t too thrilled, to put it mildly, when I picked up and moved from New York to Israel, leaving her behind, even though she was the one who sent me to Is rael when I was 16 in the first place. She ranted each time she called me, but she still paid for my four kids and me to fly back to visit her each summer. What was the lesson? You can — you must — rail against what is bashert, or fated for you, and then you have to do whatever you can to make things better. The last conversation I had with her was right before she slipped into unconsciousness, the night before I flew back to New York to be with her. Cynthia — who took care of her better than the best of caretakers in her house — had set up Skype for her and I got to see her in her favorite arm chair, the whirl of her oxygen ma chine stopping only so that she could smoke another cigarette. “I love you and I’ll always love you,” she told me into the camera. Then she shouted, “Cynthia! How do I shut this damn thing off?” Rain pounded the roof, light ning flashed and the thunder was louder than fireworks the night she died. It was the perfect theatri cal exit for my subversive mother. In the morning, after her soul left for who knows where, after the rains moved on, and the sky went back to empty and blue, a rabbi came to the house to make funeral arrangements. He stood at the foot of her bed, talking quietly to Cyn thia and me. I said politely to the rabbi, “I don’t think my mother would have wanted you seeing her when she’s dead.” And then I heard my mother’s voice, and I could have sworn I heard her grumbling I didn’t want to see him when I was alive. So, nu, as she would have said, she didn’t instill in me how to be a Jew in the conventional way. She didn’t teach me how to be lieve, but she taught me how to question. And is there anything more Jewish than that?Y (Diana Bletter is the author of the novel “A Remarkable Kind ness”(HarperCollins), the inter twined stories of four American women who are friends and mem bers of a burial circle in a small beach village in Israel. Her writ ing has appeared in The New York Times, The Wall Street Jour nal, Commentary, The Forward and other publications. Diana lives with her husband and chil dren in a real beach village in Is rael, where she is a member of a burial circle. She can be found at www.dianabletter.com. Follow her @dianabletter.)
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Ten Awesome Books for the Days of Awe (and After) By Victor Wishna (JTA) Here we are preparing to welcome a new Jewish year and a new fall season of Jewishy books, including the first novel since 5766 (by now almost 40 yearold) wunderkind Jonathan Safran Foer — perhaps you’ve heard the buzz. Presented below is JSF’s latest, plus nine other volumes, from the humorous to the humbling, that you’ll want on your reading list to help heighten the holidays. Here I Am: A Novel (Farrar, Straus and Giroux) By Jonathan Safran Foer
Here he is! Foer’s latest effort, his first novel in more than a decade, is (as expected) both ex tremely long and incredibly com plex. Inspired by Abraham’s concise claim of fatherly respon sibility in the Book of Genesis, the 592page narrative follows a Jew
ish American family as it fractures over a tumultuous four weeks dur ing which the world itself literally splits apart when a devastating earthquake in the Middle East leads to a major military escala tion in Israel. The stakes are high — but the questions raised by Foer are per sonal and get to the fundamental duties of being an American, a Jew, a parent and a spouse. A Gambler’s Anatomy (Doubleday) By Jonathan Lethem
Yes, it’s another book by an other very notable Jewish Jonathan. And if you’ve been waiting for a novel about an inter national backgammon hustler from Berkeley who also happens to be psychic, then this new tome from the National Book Critics Circle Awardwinning author of “Motherless Brooklyn” and “The Fortress of Solitude” is … well,
just what you’ve been waiting for. With an intriguing cast of charac ters (obviously) and full of unan ticipated twists (surely you anticipated that), Lethem’s latest is an artfully told story the likes of which could not emerge from the mind of any other writer. Searching for John Hughes: Or Everything I Thought I Needed to Know about Life I Learned from Watching ’80s Movies (William Morrow) By Jason Diamond
Millions of American children of the 1980s grew up obsessed with the films of John Hughes — from “Ferris Bueller’s Day Off” to “Pretty in Pink” to “The Breakfast Club” — but perhaps only Dia mond became convinced he must find Hughes and write the icon’s biography (despite lacking any experience or connections). In re counting the hilarious and hope less quest, Diamond’s memoir
tells the story of a Jewish kid from a broken home in suburban Chicago who found inspiration in Hughes’ similarly broken charac ters. Diamond moved to New York on a leap of faith, failed, per sisted and did, indeed, become a successful writer. So even if Dia mond never did write Hughes’ life story, he found richness in his own. Between Life and Death (Restless Books) By Yoram Kaniuk, translated by Barbara Harshav
In the highly regarded Israeli writer’s final work — he died in 2013 — Kaniuk has crafted a dreamlike, autobiographical novel describing the four months he spent comatose in a Tel Aviv hos pital, somewhere between the worlds of the living and the dead. A mix of memory, illusion, and imagination, the writing shifts
from recollection of a childhood spent among Holocaust survivors to a retelling of the 1948 War of Independence to a reflection on what it means to die. Originally published in Israel in 2007, “Between Life and Death” now has a chance to en trance American readers thanks to Harshav’s faithful and lyrical English translation. Hungry Heart: Adventures in Life, Love, and Writing (Atria Books) By Jennifer Weiner
The bestselling author behind the plussize heroinedriven nov els like “Good in Bed” and “In Her Shoes” puts herself in the pro tagonist’s role with this honest and entertaining collection of firstperson essays. From her ear liest days as the daughter of book ish Jewish parents in suburban New England — she learned to read at 4 and had her first poem published at 8 — Weiner’s mem (Continued on page 31)
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Here’s How to Turn “Epic Fails” into Fresh Starts
Five Reasons Sukkot is Great for Kids
By Elana Zelony Richardson, Texas (JTA) Ur bandictionary.com is an open source site where the average citizen contributes definitions to new and old words and slang. As the High Holidays approach, I’ve been contemplating the phrase “epic fail.” According to one entry on Urbandictionary.com, epic fail means “complete and total failure when success should have been reasonably easy to attain.” Epic fail defines most of the sins I contemplate during the High Holidays. I should have been able to succeed, but I didn’t because I’m human and I have weak nesses. I spend the period that be gins with the Hebrew month of Elul and culminates with Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur think ing of the many times when I eas ily could have been more kind, patient, and optimistic. It’s not that I’m incapable of those behaviors; I have a normal psyche and can be a good person. However, as a human, I failed to be my best self during the past year on numerous occasions. I know I’m not alone in my epic fail. Look at the stories we’re told about the Jewish people in the Torah. The epic fail of the Jewish peo ple was worshipping the Golden Calf, and the epic fail of Moses was smashing the Ten Command ments carved with God’s own fin ger. All the people had to do was
By Larry D. Bernstein (Kveller via JTA) Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur are boring. There, I said it. Seriously, what do Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur offer from a child’s per spective? Rosh Hashanah’s selling points are the shofar and raisins. Kids are hustled into the sanctuary and told to be absolutely silent while listen ing to the shofar. Keeping my kids silent without electronics in their hands is as difficult as finding a honey cake that I would actually eat. And as for raisins, my younger son doesn’t like them and pulls out them out from the chal lah — so much for his sweet new year. And then there’s Yom Kippur. Children spend the whole day in the basement of the synagogue. Their group leader is some bored teen willing to make 20 bucks for four hours while dealing with kids who don’t have elec tronics. Now even if your darling has friends at the synagogue and is content to play with them for hours, it’s not memorable. My children would just as soon be home than hang out at temple. The Days of Awe have passed, and all we can do is hope our sig nature made it into the Book of Life. But now we have Sukkot, the forgotten holiday. You would think it would be hard to get psy ched up for yet another holiday, but Sukkot rocks for children. It is
Rabbi Elana Zelony wait until Moses returned with God’s law, but they panicked dur ing their leader’s absence and sought security in a golden image. All Moses had to do was repri mand the people. Instead, he flies into a rage and smashes the holy tablets. They were capable of doing better. Here’s the good news. Elul, the month leading up to the High Hol idays, is one of contemplation. According to the midrash, on the first day of Elul, Moses began carving a second set of tablets with his own hands. Carving the second set of tablets is about start ing over again after failure. The High Holidays cycle de mands that we examine the ways we have failed, but it also gives us the strength to start anew. On the first of Elul (September 4 this year), we begin recarving our (Continued on next page)
(Sorry Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur) a 10 out of 10 on the child friendly meter. Here’s why. 1. You get to build a sukkah. My boys love climbing the ladder and using the mallet. OK, they end up using the mallet on each other half the time, but there’s never been any blood let. No harm, no foul. 2. You get to decorate the sukkah. For those children who are into arts and crafts, the sukkah is a great place to show their work. My children are not the crafty type, but even they enjoy hanging up their decorations from pre school days. 3. You get to eat in the sukkah. Doesn’t every child love a cook out? My children end up outside the sukkah and in our backyard. They go back and forth between eating and playing, except for dessert time. They are seated dur ing dessert time — don’t have to request that one. 4. You get to sleep in the sukkah. Children love camping. My boys and I spend one night each Sukkot sleeping in the sukkah. The best thing about this campout is you can run into the house in 18 seconds if it starts raining in the middle of the night. Trust me. 5. In addition to the sukkah, you have the lulav and etrog. Kids get to walk around the synagogue and shake a plant and fruit. That’s just weird and fun. For children, they don’t have to sit down. They
don’t have to sit still. Instead, it’s shake, shake, shake — shake your lulav. And how does Sukkot end? With the granddaddy of them all — Simchat Torah. If you look hard enough, I’m sure some bibli cal commentator says Simchat Torah means no shushing. Either that or one of the 613 mitzvahs is let children be loud on Simchat Torah. Simply put, shuls rock on Simchat Torah. There’s dancing and singing and mosh pits. My children turn off whatever volume control they have and go to town. Plus, there’s the junk food. You may remember a simple apple and flag from your days celebrating Simchat Torah as a child. Nice, but far from thrilling. Well, Sim chat Torah has changed. Today it’s candy. So much candy. My chil dren end up with a bag full of candy so big we have to negotiate their limit for the day. So I hope your children enjoy Sukkot and Simchat Torah. They need it after the High Holidays.Y (Larry D. Bernstein is a free lance writer, blogger, and educa tor. He and his family reside in North Jersey. He blogs at http://larrydbernstein.com/me myselfandkids.)
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Why I’m Going to High Holiday Services for the First Time in 25 Years By Paul Golin New York (JTA) I just bought Rosh Hashanah tickets for the first time ever. The last time I attended services for the High Holidays was on my parents’ dime. That was back before the World Wide Web, when Ross Perot heard a giant sucking sound and the voice of a generation was named Sir MixaLot. My reasons for fleeing syna gogue services are in many ways typical among socalled unaffili ated Jews, including the inter minable length and inaccessible liturgy of the ceremonies. Some of my reasons for return are also similar to others, such as becoming a parent. Yet I may be the only such Jew who, during the decades in be tween, spent countless hours con sulting with hundreds of synagogues and other Jewish or ganizations, from all streams of Judaism, to help them understand why they are not reaching Jews like me. Suggesting I am “unaffiliated” because I don’t belong to a syna gogue is part of the problem. In my group of friends, I am the “super Jew.” I’m the Jewish com munal professional and the Israeli history buff. I donate to Jewish causes and grapple with my Jew ishness almost every day. That’s why when it comes to identity, yesno binary descrip tions don’t work anymore, if they ever did. We are all somewhere along a spectrum in so many as pects of our lives. It may be easier for institutions to work with simple binaries (“Are you a member or not?” “Are you Jewish or not?”), but that lack of nuance is part of the reason why people walk away. We’re told that Judaism encour ages questioning and debate, but in practice there are longstanding barriers telling us who’s in and who’s out, and far too many self appointed border guards. How can you still be Jewish if you don’t believe in God? That’s the first false binary I had to over come to maintain my Jewish iden tity. I knew by age 11 that I didn’t believe. And I felt isolated in that knowledge because growing up I never heard a rabbi or teacher sug gest that while not all Jews believe in God, they can still derive mean ing and community from being Jewish. Surveys regularly show that half of American Jewry doubts there is a God who answers per sonal prayers. That’s an existential crisis. When the liturgy says God punishes the wicked and rewards the good, but Jewish history sug gested otherwise, our communal sermonizing turned elsewhere, to blame disaffiliation on a lack of Jewish education or the “scourge” of intermarriage. The second false binary I had to overcome was that to stay Jewish or have Jewish children, I must only marry a fellow Jew. It was much later in life that I heard of Secular Humanistic Ju daism, a small but spirited denom ination creating space for Jews like me who define Judaism as the
cultural and historic experience of the Jewish people. It understands that diversity is an opportunity for sharing and learning, and that all marriages — including intermar riages and gay marriages — are fully equal celebrations of love. After recently joining this movement’s leadership, it would be poor form for me not to attend my nearest affiliated congregation during the High Holidays. Yet that’s not the only motivating fac tor. I want to challenge the poten tially false binaries within my own thinking, like for example that my connection to Judaism will never be through ritual practice. Still, I continue to struggle with the denominational and congrega tional models, both of which are under siege by broader societal forces. As a communal insider, I fully understand why tickets to take my family to Rosh Hashanah services cost as much as a Broad way play. As an outsider, I’m really tempted just to take my family to a Broadway play. With incredible talent and re
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sources poured into each show, Broadway is the pinnacle of American theater, so it’s really un fair to compare it to High Holiday services at a midsize congrega tion. Yet this is the calculus that Jewish families undertake, in countless ways. The competition is not between synagogues in one denomination versus another, it’s between Hebrew school and soc cer practice, Shabbat services and HBO Go. How does your syna gogue bulletin compare to your local yoga studio’s handouts? Even more challenging is that I am genuinely moved by almost every Broadway play I attend. Will I be moved during High Holiday services? In the past there
have been moments, but obvi ously not enough to keep me com ing back. Ultimately, as a “consumer” of anything, I want a clear under standing of how participation will improve my life, improve the lives of my family members or help me improve the world. I believe it is through these criteria that most people determine how to spend their time. And crafting clear an swers is how Jewish organizations can articulate meaning to their constituents.
From what I’m already sensing among the amazing folks in our movement, they are ready to dig in on this challenge. I believe when we do articulate those an swers, it can help grow not only our own congregations but offer models for the larger Jewish com munity as well.Y (Paul Golin is the executive di rector of the Society for Humanis tic Judaism www.SHJ.org the congregational arm for Humanis tic Judaism in North America.)
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own smashed tablets. It’s hard work to hew meaning out of stone, but the effort leads to renewed relationship and hope for the future. Some choose to gather in small groups before the holidays, using the time to spiritually prepare. Find out if your local synagogues offer Elul classes. If a class isn’t possible, check out websites to help with your preparation for the High Holidays during Elul, including Jewels of Elul and Ritual Well. On Rosh Hashanah, if I see the blisters on my friends and family’s hands, I’ll point to my own. We’ll nod knowingly and smile at one another. We’ll affirm the hard work that went into recarving ourselves. Together, we’ll celebrate the New Year as an opportunity to start all over again.Y (Rabbi Elana Zelony, the spiritual leader of Congregation Beth Torah in Richardson, Texas, is a fellow with Rabbis Without Borders.)
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Ten Awesome Books for the Days of Awe
Alwyn Goldstein Lives on in Scholarship
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oir takes readers through ups and downs such as her first publisher’s advance, marriage, motherhood and weight issues, as well as di vorce and the trials of miscarriage (then there’s the part where her beloved father abandons his four kids and their lateinlife lesbian mother). You’ll also find some in sightful parenting tips and plenty of examples from her uproarious Twitter feed. The One Man (Minotaur) By Andrew Gross
Books on the Holocaust have long since become their own genre, but rarely is a Nazi death camp the setting for a fictional thriller. In Gross’ twist on history, it’s 1944 and the American effort to build a nuclear bomb — the Manhattan Project — lacks one vital component. The one man with the needed expertise is a Jewish physicist incarcerated in Auschwitz; the one man who can rescue him is a Jewish deskbound U.S. intelligence officer who had escaped from Nazioccupied Poland. Sounds crazy, no? As sus pense novels go, this one is rich in historical detail and reflective on the wideranging spectrum of human nature, from hope to bru tality. The Secret Book of Kings: A Novel (St. Martin’s Press) By Yochi Brandes, translated by Yardenne Greenspan
also a dramatic act of modern bib lical interpretation — yet just as compelling a read for the uniniti ated. Atlas Obscura: An Explorer’s Guide to the World’s Hidden Wonders (Workman Publishing Company) By Joshua Foer, Dylan Thuras, Ella Morton
Well, what do you know? Jonathan isn’t the only Foer with a new book this month. “Walking with Einstein” author Joshua Foer, along with cowriters Thuras and Morton, have compiled an uncon ventional travel guide featuring 700 “of the strangest and most cu rious places” in the world. These include a handful of Jewish desti nations, such as the last operating synagogue in Afghanistan and the Old Jewish Cemetery of Sarajevo, which has only recently been cleared of landmines placed dur ing the war in Bosnia and Herze govina. The book will be the first handheld edition of the web based “atlas” of the same name, which Foer and Thursa co founded, where Morton serves as associate editor. Leave Me (Algonquin) By Gayle Forman
Mischling (Lee Boudreaux Books) By Affinity Konar
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Here’s another dramatic, beau tifully rendered tale that begins at Auschwitz in 1944. Pearl and Stasha Zagorski are identical twins — part of the experimental population of siblings known as “Mengele’s Zoo” who were sub jected to horrors that would be unimaginable if Konar didn’t imagine them so vividly in her debut novel. After Pearl disap pears and the camp is soon liber ated by the Red Army, Stasha pairs up with a boy, also a twin, who is driven by vengeance and the hope that his lost sibling is also still alive. In their quest through devastated Poland and a world forever changed, the story manages to go beyond the ex pected in Holocaust fiction. Y
wanted written on their stones. Daddy said, ‘Well, Sugar, I just want to be known as a good citi zen of Georgetown.’ This might have been in 2009.” Alwyn Goldstein died on March 16, 2010. “My father was a very interest ing man,” Roz said. “He was a very determined man, and he cared about others. He loved doc tors and he loved the medical pro fession. He used to send young people that were going into medi cine money to go to college. I did n’t even know this until he moved up here.” “We found a letter from a young lady he helped who was telling my father that she was about to graduate from medical school. I think that he had bought her a microscope. He didn’t give scholarships. He would send something they needed. Or he would send money, and they didn’t ask for it. ... “As I was looking for a way to memorialize my daddy’s name, I thought about how he believed in college and how he believed in the medical profession. I decided to continue his concept of a scholar ship for a student who has good grades and an interest in going into the medical field but has fi nancial need. I wrote an applica tion that specifies those things.”
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Triggering comparisons to “The Red Tent,” Brandes, an Is raeli biblical scholar descended from a line of Hasidic rabbis, has penned an imaginative look at the ancient kingdoms of Israel. Bran des is one of the bestselling nov elists in Israel, and her latest is now available in Greenspan’s flowing English translation. Based on textual sources about those wellknown kings David, Saul, and Solomon, Brandes’ plot is rife with little twists to original narra tives that only knowledgeable, critical readers may spot. As such, this adventure story/mystery is
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There’s a bit of fantasy lived out in the first adult novel by best selling YA author Forman. Frazzled mom and magazine editor Maribeth Klein — who is recuperating from a heart attack that she didn’t realize she’d had because she was so busy taking care of her husband and twins — decides to just up and leave it all behind. In the course of relishing and reconsidering her newfound freedom and new relationships, Maribeth finds some of that per spective that always seems to come with distance. Though For man ties up all loose ends YA style, this understatedly feminist, characterdriven novel about fac ing fears and owning up to secrets is highly readable and relatable.
Georgetown High School 2016 graduating senior Miles Davis Prior is the first recipient of the Alwyn O. Goldstein Memorial Scholarship. “We had lunch with Miles, his mother and grandmother, George town High School Guidance Counselor Lee Owens, and Mayor Jack Scoville,” Roz said. “We hope to stay in touch with this young man, a rising freshman, and see where he’s going with his de gree. “My hope and dream is that one or more of these kids that get the scholarship will be really success ful in their chosen medical profes sion. That way, I think my father’s teaching and his memory will be around for a lot of years. “My sons, these boys of mine, called him Grampsy. He taught them so many things. He taught them to look at stocks. He didn’t graduate college – he opened a store and ran it by the seat of his pants.” As for what her father would think of the scholarship, Roz said, “My theory is that my father is in heaven saying, ‘Roz, this is a good idea.’” Y Reprinted with permission from The Georgetown Times.
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