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Success Principles of Coaching In coaching, as in all things in life, there are concepts – principles – that when adopted enable us to experience better results than if we’re without them. At the Foundations of Coaching Success Training, you get a chance to go through these principles thoroughly – they are important foundation principles upon which other concepts can be built.

Success principle no. 2 Cause and effect THIS PRINCIPLE IN COACHING AND META DYNAMICS™ IS ALSO KNOWN AS RESULTS VERSUS REASONS.

The question to ask yourself when self-coaching and your client when coaching is “Which side of the equation are you on, right now?” Are you the type of person who is the cause of the things that happen in your life, or are you at the effect of things that happen to you? And the next question is: “WHICH SIDE IS MORE EMPOWERING?” TO BE AT CAUSE? OR TO BE AT EFFECT? We are either at the effect side of the equation, or at the cause side. We are either causing something to happen or we are experiencing the effects. Even doing nothing is an action! It’s our choice!

CAUSE AND EFFECT Great coaches have a crazy belief that you cause all the effects in your world. You create all that happens in your world. This statement can cause people to push back and react with emotional intensity. The client might want to know how they can possibly create everything that happens in our world. And the truth is — we don’t know that they do. Perhaps this belief of cause and effect is not true. The only question as coaches that we care about is: Does believing it’s true empower us? Does believing it’s true assist us to produce the results that we are looking for? Does it improve the quality of our lives? Even if you don’t believe it’s true yet, act as if it is. Pretend. In coaching and in Meta Dynamics™ it’s called the ‘as if’ frame. We act as if it is until it is. Regardless of whether our beliefs are true or not, they act as possibility filters. They determine what we allow ourselves to experience in our lives and what we will filter out as not possible. For example, if someone believes they are not at cause for anything in their life, even though they haven’t looked for a job and they spend all their time blaming others for their “bad luck” they are going to experience a certain type of world. Compare this experience to someone who believes that they are at cause. They will find a way to work. They won’t blame, they will take responsibility. They will be proactive in changing the circumstances of their life. People who go through life on the effect side of the equation have reasons. They’ will be able to tell you why they are not successful. “It was my ex-wife, my parents held me back, I didn’t get the breaks I deserved, the market, the school I went to, my boss…” And maybe all of that is true. But the question I care about is how satisfying is living a life like this able to be? How much joy, courage, love, empowerment or resourcefulness can someone feel if they live with their stories… with their reasons why they can’t. The only thing preventing you achieving what you want to achieve are the stories you tell yourself. People who go through life on the cause side of the equation have results. Believing this gives us maximum power to create the life you want. Your job as a coach is all about moving someone from effect to cause.

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