jackie October 2011 by The Examiner

VOLUME: 3

OCTOBER 2011

ISSUE: 12

jackie THE EXAMINER’S

Women & Family Magazine

■ Stunning centerpieces p3 ■ When Mom’s far, far away p14

Portia Bowers

■ Ch-ch-chilling drink ideas p18

By weekday a job; by weekend a kingdom p10

calendar Independence

“THE MAGNIFICENT MUSICAL TIME MACHINES, demonstration organ recitals, 3 to 3:30 p.m. Sundays, at Community of Christ Temple on even weekends; the Auditorium on odd weekends, Walnut Street and River Boulevard, Independence. Free. Visit www.CofChrist.org/ dome_spire/recitals.asp or call 816-833-1000. FARMERS/CRAFT MARKET, 5 a.m. to 1 p.m. Saturdays and Wednesdays, Truman Road and Main Street. Call 816252-8860. FARMERS MARKET, 3 to 7 p.m. Tuesdays and 10 a.m. to 2 p.m. Sundays, Hartman Heritage shopping area, Interstate 70 and Little Blue Parkway. Call 816-252-8860. SKILL BUILDERS – Educational programs for widows, widowers and caregivers, 9 a.m. to noon Tuesdays, The Palmer Center, 218A N. Pleasant St., Independence. No registration required. Call 325-6200. GATHER INN, for retired people, 9:30 a.m. to 12:30 p.m. Tuesdays, Community of Christ Stone Church Education Building, River Boulevard and Lexington Ave., Independence. Activities: 9:30 a.m. blood pressure checks; 10 a.m. Bible study; 11 a.m. program; noon lunch ($3.50). 254-2211. GALLERY WALK: Highlights Tour, 2 p.m. Thursdays, National Frontier Trails Museum, 318 W. Pacific Ave. Investigate various aspects of western settlement. Free with regular museum admission, $6 for adults; $5 for ages 62 and older; $3 for ages 6 to 17. Call 816-325-7575. GIRLS NIGHT OUT ON THE SQUARE – For women only, 5 to 9 p.m. Oct. 6, 116 W. Lexington Ave. There will be music, discounts, and treats in shops and restaurants. Free. Call 816-461-0065. “CLOTHING, ACCOUTREMENTS AND WEAPONS OF THE 1863 CALVALRYMAN,” 7 p.m. Oct. 6, Trails Museum. Historian Jim Beckner will show items, and give details and insights into the life and times of the Civil War. Cost, $6. Reservations requested. Call 816-325-7575. “A RIVER RUNS BY IT: The Story of Jackson County,” 7 p.m. Oct. 6, South Crysler Community of Christ, 3100 S. Crysler Ave. The book and presentation of author David W. Jackson, will be at the Jackson County Genealogical Society meeting. Sharron, 816-254-8582. DISABLED AMERICAN VETERANS AUXILIARY UNIT 10 GARAGE SALE, 8 a.m. to 4 p.m. Oct. 6, 7 and 8, 2529 Speck Ave. Ct. Proceeds help veterans, their families and the people in our community. ITTY BITTY FAMILY CAMPOUT, 5 p.m. Oct. 7 to 9 a.m. Oct. 8, George Owens Nature Park, 1601 S. Speck Road. Families with children up to 8 years old are invited for a camping trip. A few activities will be scheduled that evening, with lots of time to explore the park on your own. Must bring your own camping supplies. Cost, $10 per child. For reservations, call 816-325-7843. FRIDAY NIGHT GHOST TOURS ON THE SQUARE, 7, 8 and 9 p.m. Fridays Oct. 7 through 28. Experience a “ghostly” tour of the 1859 Jail, Marshal’s Home and Museum, plus a covered wagon live narrated tour that shares ghost stories and yarns of haunted places on the Square. Cost, $18; $12 for ages 7 to 11. Not recommended for children under 7. For reservations, call 816-461-0065. “GRANNY SMITH GOES TO WASHINGTON or SHE WAS THE APPLE OF HIS EYE,” presented by Encore Theatre, 7:30 p.m. Oct. 7, 14, 15; 2 p.m. Oct. 9 and 16, Powerhouse Theatre inside the Sermon Community Center, Truman and Noland roads. Cost, $7. Tickets may be purchased at the door. SHEPHERD’S CENTER OF INDEPENDENCE Adventures 2 JACKIE

This is part of the exhibit honoring Missouri’s fallen. | examiner photo/Steve Curd

{EDITOR’S PICK}

Remembering our Fallen of Missouri AN EXHIBIT AT THE MIDWEST GENEALOGY CENTER

his traveling display of memories and photographs of those who have died from wounds in a war zone since Sept. 11, 2001, runs through Oct. 11, at the Midwest Genealogy Center, 3440 S. Lee’s Summit Road. Hours: 9 a.m. to 9 p.m. Monday-Thursday; 9 a.m. to 6 p.m. Fridays; 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. Saturdays; 1 to 5 p.m. Sundays. For information: Visit online www.mymcpl.org/ genealogy or call 816-252-7228.

in Learning, 8:30 a.m. registration; 9 to 11 a.m. classes, Oct. 7 and 21, Christ United Methodist Church, 14506 E. 39th St. Choose from several activities and classes. Registration for classes, $1; $4 for lunch. Call 816-254-0521 for lunch reservations. TALKIN’ TRUMAN – Screen Gems, 11 a.m. Oct. 8, Harry S. Truman Library & Museum, 500 W. U.S. 24. Ray Geselbracht will share some interesting outtakes from a 1964 26-part series on the life and presidency of Harry S. Truman. Free with paid museum admission, $8 for adults; $7 for seniors; $3 for ages 6 to 15. Call 816-268-8200 or visit www.trumanlibrary.org. BEGINNING GENEALOGY with Cindi Fournier – for adults, 9:30 a.m. Oct. 8, Midwest Genealogy Center. This class looks at the fundamentals of beginning a genealogical research project. To register, call 816-252-7228. MICHAEL LONG QUEST TO WALK Horseshoe Pitching Benefit Tournament, Oct. 8, McCoy Horseshoe Courts,

Spring Street and U.S. 24. Contact Laura Estes at 816-7262966 or lauralaura2222@sbcglobal.net WAR BONDS: Songs and Letters of World War II – for families, 10 a.m. Oct. 11, Midwest Genealogy Center. This multimedia living history cabaret is interspersed with personal letters from the front and headline news of the period. To register, call 816-252-7228. “COPS SHOP BARBECUE” FUNDRAISER, 4 to 7 p.m. Oct. 13, Curt’s Famous Meats, 10101 E. Truman Road. The barbecue is planned and organized by citizens to subsidize funding to support the Englewood Arts District police substation. Tickets are $10 for a beef or pork sandwich, chips and cookie; $5 for beef hot dog, chips and cookie. Beverages available for purchase. BUNDSCHU NEIGHBORHOOD 9 CHILI SUPPER/ WHITE ELEPHANT FUNDRAISER, 5:30 to 7 p.m. Oct. 13, College Park Community of Christ, 1021 W. College St. Cost, $7 adults; $3 ages 4 to 7; under 4 free. Call 816-521-4067. OCTOBER 2011

FALL FESTIVAL, 9 a.m. to 7 p.m. Oct. 14 and 15, New Hope RLDS Church, 220 W. Moore St. There will be baked goods, a country store and homemade crafts. Chili, soup and sandwiches will be served throughout the day. GAITHER HOMECOMING, 7 p.m. Oct. 14; 1 and 7 p.m. Oct. 15, Independence Events Center, 19100 E. Valley View Parkway. Bill Gaither will present Gaitherfest, filled with Christian music, including the Gaither Vocal Band. For tickets, call 816-795-7577 or online at www.ticketmaster.com or www.independenceeventscenter.com. BIRD WALK, Oct. 15, James A. Reed Wildlife Area. You’ll meet at the Wild Bird Center, 4480 S. Noland Road, and drive to the walk site from there. Wear appropriate clothing and bring binoculars. To reserve a spot on the walk, or for questions, call 816-478-9399. CORN HUSK DOLL MAKING WORKSHOP, 10 to 11:30 a.m. Oct. 15, Trails Museum. Learn the history of corn husk dolls and how to make them. Cost, $15. To register, call 816325-7575 or online at www.frontiertrailsmuseum.org. “PETER AND THE WOLF” puppet show, 11 a.m. and 2 p.m. Oct. 15, Puppetry Arts Institute, 11025 E. Winner Road, Independence. $5 cost includes seeing the museum and a finger puppet for kids. For reservations, call 816-833-9777. TRAILS FROM THE SQUARE, 2 p.m. Oct. 15, tour meets at the Andrew Jackson statue on the Square. The staff of the Trails Museum will discuss early Independence and the role it played in the opening of the American West. Cost, $5. Reservation deadline: 3 p.m. Oct. 14. Call 816-325-7575. ANIMALS BEST FRIENDS CHILI SUPPER/BINGO FUNDRAISER, 6 p.m. dinner begins; 7 p.m. bingo/raffles, Oct. 15, St. Mary’s Catholic Church, 600 N. Liberty St. You’ll receive chili/crackers, drink, dessert and a bingo card for $7. Additional cards may be purchased for $1. “THE JAMES GANG RAID ON GLENDALE STATION,” 2 p.m. Oct. 16, Trails Museum. Railroad historian Armin Schannuth gives a lecture regarding a James Gang incident, which happen right in the “backyard” of Independence. Free with paid museum admission. Call 816-325-7575. BASIC U.S. MILITARY RECORDS WITH TIFF – for adults, 10 a.m. Oct. 18. Midwest Genealogy Center. This class will familiarize you with where to find military records and how to order them, from the Colonial Wars to World War II. To register, call 816-252-7228. BALLROOM DANCE CLASSES, intermediate 7:05 to 8:05 p.m.; beginners 8:05 to 9:05 p.m., Tuesdays Oct. 18-22, Sermon Center, Truman and Noland roads. Couples registration only. Cost, $25 per couple. Call 325-7370 to register. BRAIN DANCE – for children, for children walking to 2 years, 10:35 to 11:05 a.m.; ages 3 and 4, 11:10 to 11:40 a.m., Tuesday/Thursday Oct. 18-Nov. 10, Sermon Center. Participants will explore dance concepts, develop skills and create dances. Cost, $25 per child (includes parent). Call 325-7370 to register. ENGLEWOOD ART WALK, 5 to 9 p.m. Oct. 21, 10900 E. Winner Road. Seven galleries in the Englewood Station Shopping District, Winner Road and Sterling Avenue, open their doors to art lovers. See artists in action, demonstrations, and enjoy live music. Free. Call 816-2523372.

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Cover photo by karen Hacker at The Portrait Gallery, 124 S. Main St., Independence, 816-461-5400.

décor

decor

Centerpiece of attention Simple but stunning centerpieces for the kitchen table By Mary Carol Garrity | Scripps Howard News Service

o matter how crazy our schedules get, several nights a week my family tries to enjoy a meal at home. Why not make such

an important family gathering spot as the kitchen table as

beautiful as it is welcoming, by dressing it up with a stunning but simple centerpiece? Here are a few ideas to get you started.

Make your all-important family gathering spot as beautiful as it is welcoming by dressing it up with a stunning but simple centerpiece. SHNS PHOTO COURTESY OF NELL HILL’S

Story-tellers

Simple beauty

Lamps and fruit

Sometimes, I like to tell stories with my centerpiece designs. I’ve come up with some whoppers for my dining room table. But on my kitchen table, I try to keep things simple since this is a hardworking spot where function is paramount. Your centerpiece must not only be scaled appropriately for your kitchen and the table, it must also allow ample room for place settings and serving pieces. In addition, be sure it is short enough to see over so it doesn’t create a barrier to good discussion. One possibility includes a wooden dough bowl and pays tribute to the sea. Featuring the soft color palette of a restful beach, it pulls together iconic yet interesting accents that seem to have a tale to tell: a weathered hurricane lamp, a bowl made from driftwood and a stack of seashells. You could use all sorts of decorative tools to serve as the base of your kitchen-table tableau, like a tray or a framed mirror. Then, use your creativity to come up with a scene that speaks to you and your family.

People have been using flowers to dress up kitchen tables since the dawn of time, and no wonder. Beautiful blossoms make everything lovely. I think simple bouquets of yellow flowers, unceremoniously scattered in a cluster of green pottery vases, can be the perfect finishing touches to a great kitchen table. To pull off this supersimple look, pick out a quartet of similar green pottery vases. The variations in size and shape will give the display more movement and visual interest. If you like, snip some blossoms from your garden and tuck them willy-nilly into the vases. Or pick up an inexpensive cash-and-carry bouquet from the grocery store. The key is to make the bouquets look freshly picked. For a variation on this, get three to five matching vases and line them up at regular intervals down the middle of your table. Then, fill them with cuttings from your garden, from budding branches in the spring to evergreen boughs in the winter. By keeping the vases low and the bouquets tightly cropped, the overall display won’t be intrusive.

Hurricane lamps are one of my favorite decorating building blocks because you can reinvent them over and over again. Perfect chameleons, they instantly take on the look and feel of any display they are used in. Try making a simplebut-spunky centerpiece using three hurricanes, each filled with a few fresh lemons and limes. To give the grouping more visual interest, place one hurricane on a riser. Another fabulous way to use fresh fruit in a kitchen-table centerpiece is to simply place it in a lovely bowl. I like to fill a blue-and-white Asian pottery bowl with green apples in the summer; in the fall, it’s red pears. Another look that’s grabbed my attention right now is placing a long, narrow tray at the table’s center and filling it with a line of fruit, like a row of apples.

October 2011

JACKIE

paint it all pink

The conversation you dread This conversation – more or less in its actual form, but with some literary license – took place in late August between my mother and me. On page 5, you can read her reflection, following this conversation, on a breast cancer diagnosis. She will learn today, Oct. 6, if she will need chemotherapy.

om had her mammogram on a Saturday. Normally I go with her. It’s all routine. You pop in to the medical office, get your X-rays and your pink ribbon, and that’s it. This year, however, I was sleeping in after working a night shift, and my son drove his grandmother to her appointment. So I wasn’t with her when the technician said “Um, could you wait here for a few moments? The doctor is going to want to talk to you.” There was something suspicious going on in Mom’s left breast. It was only a 30 percent chance of it being cancer. But that was enough to scare me, and Mom’s reaction scared me even more. She has often just ignored life’s unpleasantness. She will walk away. Go to the privacy of

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SHEILA DAVIS her bedroom and shut the door. Cope through silence. And that seems to be how she intended to deal with whatever is going on inside her body. Oh, there are things that she has dealt with medically. She’s had back surgery, cortisone shots in her knee, a horrible staph infection that we feared might kill her. But for some reason, she wanted to give cancer the silent treatment. Her family physician’s nurse called her first thing Monday morning and said she needed to get in and also see a surgeon for a biopsy. OK, I told Mom, how about tomorrow? “No,” she said, “maybe next week.” Now, why on earth would she want to wait that long? Why? Because my son was leaving for college that week. She didn’t want to interrupt

his packing and farewells. Hey, he leaves Wednesday, make the appointment for Thursday, I said. And find out if your insurance covers the cancer center where my doctor is and where I get my chemo. You know what she said? “No, because if it is cancer I’m not going to do anything about it.” What? WHAT? What do you mean you’re not going to do anything about it? “I just don’t want to go through that.” You mean you want to just lay down and die, like your mother did? My grandmother died of breast cancer when she was only 54 years old. Her only son had been killed in a truck wreck three months after graduating from high school. Grandpa worked long hours at the Lake City Arsenal, so Grandma was suddenly alone at the farm. When she suspected she had breast cancer, she chose to ignore it. By the time she finally acknowledged it some three or four years later, it was too late. She died when I was 8, and it tore me apart. Good Lord, Mom, what if I had taken that attitude when I was diagnosed with cancer?

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“That’s different. You were young, and you had a little boy to raise.” Well, I’m not so young now, and my son is raised and heading off to college, but I’m still fighting through a relapse. I’m not giving up. “I just don’t want to go through that.” What? Are you afraid of losing your hair? A mastectomy? Mom. Mom. What do you think it would do to your g randson if you just gave up? “I’m 83 years old.” So? Half the people in the chemo parlor are your age. They’re fighting. “Well, we’ll cross that bridge when we come to it. It might not even be cancer.” That’s true. But please don’t just give up. There are worse things in life than chemotherapy. I know; I’ve been through about the worst of chemo. Granted, I wasn’t 83. But Mom, you can be a fighter; I’ve seen you. You don’t have to give cancer your silent treatment.

Sheila

paint it all pink

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For breast Cancer awareness Month, we want to hear your stories of surviving this disease. We will run some of your stories in the print edition and some at examiner.net. Submit them at our pink website, examiner.net/ pink or email to sheila.davis@ examiner.net from now through oct. 28.

32 days from denial to reality Sept. 25, 2011 – I’m 83 years old and I have breast cancer. I’ve said it – I’ve read it, and it still doesn’t seem real. I didn’t think “little old ladies” got breast cancer. Boy, was I wrong! I hadn’t had a mammogram for six years. Last May, my doctor said, “there are three things you need to do – get your pneumonia shot (check), get your shingles shot (check) and get your mammogram. – OK –

I had the mammogram on Aug. 20. It was a Saturday, and on Monday, the doctor called and said “you need to see a surgeon – can you go today?” What’s the hurry? – “little old ladies” don’t get cancer. Aug. 26, the surgeon said we need to do a biopsy. On Sept. 22, I had a mastectomy. So yes, “little old ladies” do get cancer – as well as young and middle-aged ladies. So, if you know someone, who, like me, thinks she’s immune, or has some other excuse for not having her mammogram – don’t take “no” for an answer! Do what I’ve told my daughters, granddaughters and nieces – Kick butt!!

Shyrle Davis

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do it yourself

How to install hardwood floors

By Rosemary Sadez Friedmann Scripps Howard News Service

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How to install hardwood floors

By Rosemary Sadez Friedmann Scripps Howard News Service

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Sanding is next. For wood flooring, it et’s talk hardwood floors. They flooring and more is recommended that at you RadarFrog sand it three are andFind always deals have beenon a rich times with successively finer grades of look in any home and in any paper. Be sure to sweep and vacuum the room. floor thoroughly after each sanding. Hardwood floors are naturally Now it is time to stain the floor. durable, so you will be able to enjoy the Apply stain generously with a brush beauty of that wood floor for many and follow the manufacturer’s recomyears — generations, even. mendations and directions. Do-if-yourselfers, the very first thing Once the stain is dry, apply the first to do after you buy the wood and bring it home is to let the wood adjust to the finish coat and let it dry. Once it is dry, site. Don’t do anything with it for the sanding is in order again. Sweep and first 24 hours. vacuum when finished. Finish by wipNext, prepare the room in which you ing with a lightly dampened lint-free cloth to clean the surface completely. intend to install the wood. Try to keep Sand, clean and coat once again. The dust to a minimum and keep the room temperature stable during the installation second or third finish coat will be what gives you the desired result. Sanding process. You might want to seal doorways between each coat is required. with plastic film and mask off any surYou’re done. Yes, it is a lot of work, faces you feel need to be protected. but just think of how proud you will be Solid hardwoods must be sealed on of your finished product. Then again, all sides, not just the top, because moisture can pass through the back, edges or you can hire someone to do it for you. ends as easily as from the exposed top. Either way, you will have a beautiful Pay particular attention to the sealing of floor that will be enjoyed for many, any ends that will be exposed to moismany years. ture, such as an exterior door or a ceRosemary Sadez Friedmann is an inramic or marble floor that will be terior designer in Naples, Fla., and aumopped. thor of “Mystery of Color.” Send your Now lay the floor as directed by the questions to DsgnQuest@aol.com. manufacturer.

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calendar from page 2 ENCHANTED FOREST, 7 to 9 p.m. Oct. 21, 22, 28 and 29, George Owens Nature Park, 1601 S. Speck Road. This non-scary event is sponsored by the Powerhouse Theatre Foundation and Independence Parks and Recreation. Cost, $3 per person. For details, call 816-325-7115 or 325-7370. PEACE COLLOQUY – “Creating Hope, Healing Earth,” Oct. 21-23, Community of Christ Temple, River Blvd. and Walnut St. Join in this spirit-filled colloquy of community building, learning, and encouraging each other as we pursue peace on Earth by fostering the healing of all of Creation. For details, call 816-833-1000, ext. 2355 or visit www.cofchrist.org/peacecolloquy. MYSTIC PUMPKIN FESTIVAL, 2 p.m. “till the ghosts go home” Oct. 22, Englewood Station shopping district, Englewood and Sterling Avenue. Activities: Halloweenthemed carnival games, costume contests, pumpkin painting, food, live entertainment, haunted fire truck rides, pet costume parade and more. This a free event. Concessions available for purchase. Call 816-886-1478 or visit www.englewoodstation.com. “CONCERT FOR THE EARTH,” 7 p.m. Oct. 22, Community of Christ Temple, River Blvd. and Walnut St. Join in an evening of songs about the interconnectedness of all life, the human journey and our planet. Freewill offering. For information, visit www.CofChrist.org/dome_spire. BEGINNERS LINE DANCE CLASSES, 8 to 9 p.m. Mondays Oct. 24-Nov. 28, Sermon Center. Learn country western dances. Cost, $20. Call 325-7370 to register. “LET YOUR SKELETONS DANCE,” 6 p.m. to midnight Oct. 28, Midwest Genealogy Center. This adults only lock-in includes dinner, door prizes and lots of genealogy. Cost, $35. For reservations, call 816-252-7228. SHOP HEALTHY, SHOP SMART – for seniors, 1:30 p.m. Oct. 28, The Fountains at Greenbrair, 2100 S. Swope Dr. A Hy-Vee dietitian will teach you how to choose foods that are both healthy and affordable when shopping. Open to area seniors. To register, call Sarah Albin at 816-257-5100. HALLOWEEN PARADE AND TRICK OR TREATING ON THE SQUARE, 1 to 3 p.m. trick or treating; 3 p.m. parade begins, Oct. 29. Shops with treats will display balloons outside. Call 816-461-0065 for trick or treating; 252-4745 for parade details. ALLEGRO COMMUNITY CHILDREN’S CHOIR, 5 p.m. Oct. 29, Community of Christ Temple, River Blvd. and Walnut St. Known for connecting with their audiences, this upbeat choir program enriches, inspires and transforms the lives of children through learning, sharing and performing beautiful music. Tickets are $15 at the door. For information, visit www.allegrocc.org. “GHOSTS OF THE CIVIL WAR,” 3 to 6 p.m. Oct. 30 (last tour begins at 5:30 p.m.), Woodlawn Cemetery on Noland Road. Join a guided tour of several Civil War related graves, and meet several “ghosts” in period costumes who will tell their stories. Raindate: Nov. 6. Cost, $10; children 13 and under are free. For questions, call the Trails Museum at 816-325-7575. ART EXHIBIT by local artist Deane McMillian, 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Monday-Saturday; 1 to 4 p.m. Sundays through October, Vaile Mansion, 1500 N. Liberty St. Cost, $6 for adults; $5 for seniors; $3 for ages 6 to 16. Call 816-325-7430 or visit www.vailemansion.org. “POSTCARDS FROM THE PAST,” Waggoner family correspondence on display, 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. MondaySaturday; 1 to 4 p.m. Sundays, through October, BinghamWaggoner, 313 W. Pacific Ave. Admission, $6; $5 for

seniors; $3 for ages 6 to 16. Call 816-461-3491 or visit www. bwestate.org. “MAJOLICA – THE SHAPE OF NATURE ON VICTORIAN POTTERY” exhibit by Madelyn Connelly, 9:30 a.m. to 4:30 p.m. Monday, Thursday-Saturday; 12:30 to 4:30 p.m. Sundays, through October, Chicago & Alton 1879 Depot, 318 W. Pacific Ave. Donations welcome. Call 816-3257955 or visit www.chicagoalton1879depot.org. “THE PRESIDENT’S PHOTOGRAPHER,” a National Geographic traveling exhibit, Oct. 21 through Jan. 22, Harry S. Truman Library and Museum, 500 W. U.S. 24. Exhibit includes 50 framed photographs taken by official White House photographers from 1963 to present day. Free with paid museum admission, $8; $7 for seniors; $3 for ages 6 to 15. Call 816-268-8200 or 800-833-1225. PUBLIC SKATE, Independence Events Center, 19100 E. Valley View Parkway. Public sessions are open to skaters of all ages and skill levels. These sessions take place at various times and are usually two hours long. Cost, $5; $3 for 12 and under and 55 and older, non-residents add $1 to each price. Skate rental, $2. For times, call the Skating Hotline: 816-795-7577. MOTHERS AGAINST DRUNK DRIVING has grief survivors meeting second Monday in Independence. Help for bereaved or injured victims, volunteers accepted. For time and location, call Michelle Fordemwalt, 816-295-1545. LA LECHE LEAGUE, Jackson County A.M. Group, 10 a.m., second Thursday, Trails West Public Library. For breastfeeding mothers and pregnant women interested in breastfeeding. Call Kayl, 816-254-5992. WOMEN’S EMPOWERMENT GROUPS, sponsored by the Child Abuse Prevention Association, 6:30 to 8:30 Mondays. For locations, call Karen Costa, 816-252-8388, Ext. 16. WIC NUTRITION PROGRAM, for women who are pregnant, breastfeeding or gave birth less than six months ago, 816-404-6460 or 257-2335.

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FARMERS MARKET, 7 a.m. to 1 p.m. Saturdays, Main and 11th streets. RUMMAGE SALE, 8 a.m. to 6 p.m. Oct. 7; 8 a.m. to noon Oct. 8, Timothy Lutheran School, 301 Wyatt Road. Sale includes clothes, toys, household items, nick knacks, concession stand, raffle and more. BRAIN DANCE – for children, 10 to 10:30 a.m. for ages 2 and under ($30); 10:45 to 11:30 a.m. for ages 3 and 4 ($35), Fridays Oct. 7-28, Vesper Hall, 400 N.W. Vesper St. Learn eight fundamental movement patterns to nursery rhymes that wire the central nervous system. Call 816-2280181 to register. SHREK: Round 5, I Speak for the Trees – for all ages, 6 to 10 p.m. Oct. 7 and 8, Burr Oak Woods Conservation Nature Center, 1401 N.W. Park Road. After many adventures, Shrek finally realizes there is no place like home. This allnew fairy tale will come to life as we meet characters along the trail. Help us celebrate the International Year of Forests. No registration required. Call 816-228-3766. CONSERVATION KIDS CLUB: Gone fishing – for ages 7 to 13, 6 to 8 p.m. Oct. 11, Burr Oak Woods Conservation Nature Center. Learn a few fishing secrets from top angler, Jim Hawes. Learn to land the big one, how to filet your catch, cook it and then taste it. Call 816-228-3766 to register. DANCE CLASSES, line dancing 6 to 7 p.m.; social dancing 7:15 to 8:15 p.m., Wednesdays Oct. 12-Nov. 9, Vesper

Hall. Cost for either class, $34. Call 816-228-0181 to register. SOCIAL AND EMOTIONAL TEACHING STRATEGIES, 6 to 8 p.m. Oct. 13, University of Missouri Extension. Participants will learn when and where the most effective “teachable moments” are related to social skills and identify the criteria for developing rules. Cost, $18. Call 816252-5051 to register. PRE-DANCE – for ages 4 to 6, 5:30 to 6:30 p.m. Thursdays Oct. 13-Nov. 10, Vesper Hall. Children will learn basic ballet, jazz and movement games. Cost, $40. Call 816228-0181 to register. WILD EDIBLES: Soup and fables – for adults, 6 to 8 p.m. Oct. 13, Burr Oak Woods Conservation Nature Center. Savor the bounty of a wild autumn harvest, share a warm and wild native tea and listen to stories around the campfire. Call 816-228-3766 to register. DANCE CLASSES, jazz 6:45 to 7:45 p.m.; adult ballet 8 to 9 p.m., Thursdays Oct. 13-Nov. 10, Vesper Hall. Cost for either class, $45. Call 228-0181 to register. STALKING THE WHITE-TAILED DEER – for adults and families with children 5 and older, 9 to 10:30 a.m. Oct. 15, Burr Oak Woods Conservation Nature Center. Join naturalist Kathleen as we explore the trails and discuss Missouri’s white-tailed deer. Call 816-228-3766 to register. DOGTOBER FEST 2011, 10 a.m. to 4 p.m. Oct. 16, Kemper Outdoor Education Center in Fleming Park, 8201 Jasper Bell Road. Activities: Contests and games, dock diving and Frisbee catching competitions, agility workshops, rescue groups and more. Admission is free, but you are asked to bring a dog food donation for local animal shelters. For more information and to register for an event, call 816-229-8980 or visit www.Dogtoberfest@jacksongov. org. BEGINNER BALLET – for ages 7 to 10, 5:30 to 6:30 p.m. Tuesdays Oct. 18-Nov. 15, Vesper Hall. Children learn ballet steps and positions at the barre and center room. Cost, $45. Call 816-228-0181 to register. CHESS CLUB FOR KIDS – for ages 8 and older, Tuesdays Oct. 18 through Nov. 22, Vesper Hall. Cost, $18 for first time students; $15 for returning students. Call 228-0181 to register. GOING BATTY – for all ages, 11 a.m. to noon Oct. 22, Burr Oak Woods Conservation Nature Center. Learn about the mysterious world of Missouri’s flying mammal. Call 816228-3766 to register. BELLY DANCE CLASSES, 7:15 to 8:15 p.m. for basic belly dance; 6 to 7 p.m. for basic technique, Mondays Oct. 24-Dec. 5, Vesper Hall. Cost, $60 for either class. Call 816228-0181 to register. NOT-SO-SPOOKY TALES – for ages 6 and older, 6 to 7:30 p.m. Oct. 27, Burr Oak Woods Conservation Nature Center. Take a night hike down the Missouri Tree Trail and search for nocturnal wildlife. Call 816-228-3766 to register. DRIVER SAFETY PROGRAM – Instructed by AARP, 1 to 5 p.m. Oct. 27, Vesper Hall. Refine existing skills and develop safe, defensive driving techniques. Cost, $12 for AARP members; $14 for non-members. Call 816-228-0181 to register. “BOO” SPRINGS HARVEST FEST AND PARADE Oct. 29, meet at 9:30 a.m. at 12th and Main streets and children can participate in the Blue Springs Halloween Parade. Immediately following the parade, children and their pets can compete in a costume contest. Trick or treat downtown merchants from 10 a.m. to 1 p.m. Booths will be set up for holiday-oriented activities, including crafts, games, face painting, an inflatable and haunted maze. All activities are

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free. For information, call 816-228-0137. STRANGE, CREEPY AND CRAWLY – for all ages, 1 to 2 p.m. Oct. 29, Burr Oak Woods Conservation Nature Center. Conquer your fears by learning fascinating facts about the sometimes intimidating and often misunderstood wildlife. Call 816-228-3766 to register. WIC NUTRITION PROGRAM, for women who are pregnant, breastfeeding or gave birth less than six months ago, 816-220-1007. TOUGH LOVE Blue Springs/Lee’s Summit support group, for families dealing with unacceptable adolescent behavior, 7:30 to 9:40 p.m. Tuesdays, First Christian Church. 913-492-1200. MOM TO MOM LUNCH CLUB, a support group for new moms, 1 to 2 p.m., first and third Tuesday of each month, St. Mary’s Medical Center Professional Building, 300 Mock Ave. Call 816-655-5585. LA LECHE LEAGUE of Blue Springs, 7 p.m., third Tuesday of each month, Parkview Church. For breastfeeding mothers and pregnant women interested in breastfeeding. Call Kayl, 254-5992 or Stephanie, 816-833-0250.

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LORD’S ACRE SALE Oct. 8, lunch is available starting at 11 a.m.; auction begins at 12:30, Oakland United Methodist Church, 30701 E. Truman Road, Buckner. The auction includes a hand-stitched quilt, as well as homemade apple butter, jellies, jams, assorted baked goods, produce, woodcrafts and more.

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FARMERS MARKET, 7 a.m. until sold out, Wednesdays and Saturdays through Nov. 5, Second and Douglas streets. 246-6598. GET YOUR ANTIQUES AND TREASURES APPRAISED, presented by the Jackson County Genealogical Society, 9 a.m. to 2 p.m. Oct. 8, Beautiful Savior Lutheran Church, 615 S.E. Todd George Pkwy. Appraisals by KC Auction Co. $10 for one item; $25 for three. Reserve your spot for appraisals by emailing waysandmeans@jcgs.org or call 252-8128.

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HALLOWEEN SPOOKTACULAR – for families with children kindergarten through 4th grade, tours start at 6:30 p.m. Oct. 14; and 6 p.m. Oct. 15. Extra fees apply. Reservations required. Call 697-2600, ext. 209 to register. JACK O LANTERN WALK, 6:30 to 9 p.m. Oct. 16. Take a self-guided tour with hundreds of Jack O Lanterns and luminaries, then enjoy refreshments at the end of the trail. Free with regular admission. CULTURED CABBAGE: Making sauerkraut, 1 to 4 p.m. Oct. 23. Learn the art of assembling a basic sauerkraut. Recipes, samples and variations will be given. Cost, $35; $29 for members. Registration deadline: Oct. 14. Call Linda at 697-2600, ext. 209 to register. BUILD A FIRE PIT BENCH, 9 a.m. to 1 p.m. Oct. 29. All materials will be provided. Finished bench measures 4-foot long by 18-inches wide and 18-inches tall. Cost, $97; $89 for members. Registration deadline: Oct. 17. Call Linda at 6972600, ext. 209 to register. Powell Gardens is open from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. daily. Regular museum admission is $9.50 for adults, $8.50 for seniors, and $4 for ages 5-12. Visit www.powellgardens.org for more activities and details. – Jillayne Ritchie JACKIE

wine 101

What’s all the wine jargon about? Someone came into the store for our wine tasting a couple of weeks ago, and while I was explaining a wine, the region it came from, and some of its history, I noticed that the customer was just looking at me like I was from outer space. I stopped and asked her what was wrong. She said to me, “ do you realize you are talking in a different language?” That stopped me dead in my tracks and I realized she was right. Worse yet, I swore I would never become that person who speaks only in wine, and apparently I was becoming just that. Wine jargon, wine lingo, call it whatever you want, it makes no sense to people who haven’t been around wine much. I can’t thank that customer enough for saying that to me! Here are few of the “wine words” I used and their explanations. This will also explain some widely used words on the wine labels or cards that hang on shelves describing the wine. Tannins – This refers to the astringency and bitterness in wine that makes

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you feel like you have cotton mouth; you taste them mostly on the sides of your tongue. Tannins occur naturally in all young plants and are used by the plant for self preservation. In grapes it’s the same thing. Grapes start out small, green and extremely bitter (full of tannins). This saves the grapes from being eaten before the seed inside ripens. Once the seed ripens the grape changes colors, the tannins soften and the grape becomes sweeter. More palatable for the birds. The birds then eat them and the seed is deposited in a new location! Many dry (not sweet) wine lovers want the ﬂavor of tannins in their

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wine. Sweet wine drinkers drink sweet wines because they hate the flavor of tannins in the wine. Crisp, aCidiC This is used to describe white wines, usually. Crisp means refreshing, crisp flavors like biting into an apple or lemon or some other citrusy fruit. Acidic is a term used for a wine that is tart or sour. Winemakers usually try to balance the acid in wines. Acid comes again from the grapes. Two types of acid found in grapes are tartaric acid and malic acid. If the acid is too low in wine it will taste dull or flat meaning it tastes watered down. If it is too high it will taste very sour almost vinegary. Being good at balancing the acid in wine is what makes regular winemakers into great winemakers. sOFT, sMOOTh, BOld Soft wines are light bodied wines. They are soft on your tongue, easy to drink; mellow. Soft would be the total opposite of harsh. Smooth wines, however, are a little heavier (medium bodied) in your mouth, but still not harsh or bold. Smooth wines are richer

than a soft wine and can be a fruitier red or a buttery Chardonnay. Bold wines are just that, BOLD. Right in your face, lots of tannins, a very heavy feeling in your mouth. Rich, with lots of ﬂavors going every which way. A lot of times you will get a lot of oak taste as well. BOdy This term is to describe the mouth feel. Light bodied wines you would compare to the feel of skim milk in your mouth. Medium bodied would compare to how 2 percent milk feels in your mouth and lastly heavy bodied is like whole milk. Hopefully this helped you with some of the lingo out there that makes wine so mysterious. I sure know that I learned something from my dear, sweet customer who prompted this article! Thanks for reading, and if you have any questions, feel free to give us a call or stop in and ask. I will try very hard to answer in English!

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by attending “Get energized! an intro to Wellness for the Cancer Survivor,” you'll learn how to address cancer-related fatigue and have better energy in your daily life. this free community wellness program will be from 11 a.m. to 12:15 p.m., oct. 18, at kansas City Cancer Center-east, 4881 n.e. Goodview Circle, lee’s Summit. Gain tips and tools to get stronger, feel better (both physically and emotionally) and reduce your overall risk for cancer recurrence and other diseases. For more information and/or to make the required reservation, call Sami papacek at 913-577-5834 or visit www.kccancercenter.com/wellness and click on the greenbox title information.

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the number of women who have received mammograms in the past 12 months at an hCa Midwest health System hospital is 37,772. according to the american Cancer Society, screening exams for early breast cancer detection, before they start to cause symptoms, is one of the best ways to ﬁght the disease. Midwest breast Care, a service of hCa Midwest health System, the largest healthcare network in kansas City, is marking the 26th anniversary of breast Cancer awareness Month by emphasizing the importance of early detection through its campaign, “no excuses. Get Screened.” hCa Midwest health System is also a major supporter of the american Cancer Society’s “Making Strides against breast Cancer” fundraising event scheduled for 9 a.m., oct. 29, at liberty Memorial in kansas City. in addition to sponsorship, hCa Midwest plans to support the walk by signing up 600 walkers who are motivated by personal and professional reasons to raise money to help in the cure and ﬁght against breast cancer. hCa Midwest’s fundraising goal is $20,000. – Jill ritchie

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the cutting edge

Summer shades fade to fall It’s closet turnover time! That is what I call it when it is time to get into the closets around my house and change out the clothes for the season. This is also a good time to get rid of any clothes that do not ﬁt, are out of style or are just used up. It simply makes sense that we look at everything that contributes to our style. This includes our haircut and hair color. They, too, can become out of shape, faded and used up. So here is a checklist of hairstyle things to consider when the season changes. Has your hair color become too light, over processed or dull? Fall is a perfect time to adjust your color tone and add a deeper shade (or two) to your current color formula. This will integrate a more toned effect a little at a time so you can gradually get to a deeper shade. This will be good for your skin tone as your summer tan fades. It also will look good with the

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MARY COSTANZOSCHWALLER richer colors in your wardrobe. Is your cut grown out, or are the ends in need of a healthy trim? Put some thought into cutting more than normal if the need is there. Have the pool and the sun done a number on the ends of your hair? If so, now is the time for a ﬁx. Does the drier air mean that your curls are not as curly as they were during our midwestern humid summer? Again a change in your cut and possibly a new styling product should do the trick here. Are your locks lacking shine and brilliance, due to summer sun and chlorine

exposure? Now is the time to check with your stylist to make sure you have the correct home care for the changes in your hair. An in-salon deep scalp and hair treatment would be very nice now. It will restore your scalp to its healthy self and add shine, subtleness and moisture to your hair. Even if this simple fall hair fashion checkup seems simple, you just have to give it a try. These little things will help bring your entire look together for all the neat looks that are hot, hot, hot this season! Have a beautiful day!

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ortia Bowers has always loved acting, but she never got into it in high school. After she started taking classes at the University of Missouri-Kansas City, she decided to give it a try, taking one acting class. What followed has changed the Independence resident’s life. “I tried really hard in high school so that no one would notice me. I was a wallflower,” she said. “But then in college, I decided to take that acting class. I just love meeting a new group of people every time I am on stage. It is a different experience every time.”

PORTIA BOWERS John’s wife. She has also played a drummer in the gypsy band and a Vulgarian Princess. “I never went into this thinking that I would be queen,” she said. “It was something I enjoyed doing. I have a lot of fun.” Stamberger said he continues to see the same qualities in Bowers that he did when she auditioned for “Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat.” “I see a willingness to do anything and to help in any way,” he said. “I love working with her as an actress because she loves to get notes and is always improving as an a actress.”

Becoming Queen

Bowers first auditioned for the role of queen six years ago. Unfortunately, she said, it was not the right time for her. Only two years after, however, she landed the role of Queen Anne Boleyn. That Bowers did not go into her very first audition one role has turned a weekend hobby into more of more than a decade ago thinking that one day, she a lifestyle. would be queen of the Kansas City Renaissance “This is a 24/7 job. I have changed my whole life Festival. She said it was just a chance to try somebased on the fair. Auditions start in April, we have thing new and says she thought it would be a sixrehearsal throughout the summer and the festival week commitment, and then she would be done. lasts into October,” she said. “I really want to make “I was a member of the chorus in ‘Joseph and being the Queen something I excel at. I am a supthe Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat.’ I was in the port system, mother to some and friend to others. I back,” she said. “It was a very interesting experireally want to strive for those types of relationships.” ence because it was an outreach program for Stone Four years after becoming queen, Bowers is still Church (in Independence). I met some great people in the role. As Queen, she does not have to audiand have nothing but happy memories. But that tion every year. As long as she is invited back and one audition changed my life.” she wants to remain in the role, she is Queen. Her The director of that musical was Jim Stamname, however, has changed to Queen Isabelle and berger, the director of entertainment for the Reshe has been through three kings in the last four naissance Festival. Bowers said he approached her years. one night after rehearsal and suggested she attend “It is hard because I am considered an old hat,” the festival’s academy. The next thing she knew, she she said of developing a relationship with a new was signed up for a class. king. “I know when things are supposed to happen “I was immediately hooked. It was something I and where I need to be. But I take for granted that had wanted to do for a while, but I was a really shy the King knows what he is supposed to be doing. person,” she said. “It was such a dream come true I do work well with others and help them so that for me.” they do succeed. I have been told I nurture others.” That first year, Bowers was a weekend performer. As Queen, Bowers is moving all day throughout Her first full-time position was as Fannie Little, Lit- the Renaissance Festival weekends. After she opens tle 10 JACKIE

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the gates, she moves from one side of the festival grounds to the other, presiding over Princess Teas, interacting with patrons, inspecting the Royal Princesses, leading the parade and presiding over the jousting venues. “It can be exhausting. I am running the entire day,” she said. “We are basically repeating the day over throughout the weekend. But the patrons are different, so in that regard, it affects what we are doing. We have a new experience with each person.” Stamberger said what makes Bowers a good queen is that she really cares about what she is doing. “She makes certain that the patron is her priority,” he said. “She has a sweet disposition, a big smile and the skills of a seasoned actress.” Festival performers also are responsible for their own costumes and props. Bowers said she is a “frugal queen,” and tries to keep her costume budget to about $1,000 each year. That includes the maintenance of two costumes and in some cases, a brand new costume if that is what is required. As Queen, she does receive a small stipend, but she said it is not enough to cover the gas to drive out to the fair grounds in Bonner Springs, Kan., or the costumes. “You don’t do this for the money,” she said. ”You do it because it is something you love to do.”

sance Festival. “Most culinary jobs are not 8 to 5 jobs,” she said. “They want you to work nights, weekends and holidays. But as a festival performer, you work weekends, have rehearsals at night and work through two holidays. That means I have had to make sacrifices.” In addition to her two jobs and serving as Queen Isabelle, Bowers is involved in two other theater productions. She is Flo Jones in the Renaissance Festival’s Phantom’s Feaste, a Halloween show set in 1957 during a Senior Class Prom. Bower’s has also gotten her first musical lead in the Midlife Player’s version of “The Rocky Horror Picture Show.” She will be playing Janet, who is a far cry from Queen Isabelle. “Midlife Players is a company for people older than 35. It is an opportunity to play roles that we are not normally cast in due to age, size or race,” she said. “I couldn’t believe when they asked me to play Janet. I was absolutely giddy.”

Living Life as a Queen

With rehearsal for two productions, two jobs and fulfilling her responsibilities as Queen, Bowers said her life is a juggling act most of the time. But she said she is not ready to call it quits to anything, especially the Renaissance Festival. “I love the kids,” she said. “They all believe in the A 1994 graduate of Hickman Mills High School, magic. They buy into it, especially when you call a little girl a princess. So many of these kids rememBowers initially went into the pharmacy school at UMKC. But after a couple of semesters, she realized ber their time here, and when they meet the queen. that pharmacy school was not where she wanted It is amazing how many people we touch.” to be. Instead, she transferred to Johnson County Bowers knows that there will come a time where Community College and entered into its culinary she will hang up her crown, but that does not mean arts program. she will leave the dirt-paved streets of Canterbury. “I have always enjoyed cooking,” she said. “I loved “I have already started thinking about my retireJCCC’s program because it teaches the practical ment plan,” she said. “I used to be a drummer for things that we were learning about in class.“ the gypsies, so it would be fun to do that again. I Bowers is the kitchen manager for the Commuwould also like to go over to food land and maybe nity Linc Café at Bayer Corporation. She also has a take over a booth. There is a candy shop over there part-time job at Hancock Fabrics. But Bowers said now, and I have always thought they need a witch her biggest challenge is finding a job she loves that character that runs it. It might be a pipe dream, but does not conflict with performing in the RenaisI would have a lot of fun doing it.”

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our faire queen SPECTRUM/ Portia Bowers Highest High Being Queen and landing my first musical lead. Those were both personal goals of mine. You can go no higher in the Renaissance Festival than queen, and it is awesome to be recognized for my talents with making lead in a musical. Both are really cool and really nice.

Photo by JILLIAN SHOPTAW/The Renaissance Festival

Lowest Low High school. High school was rough. I was an overweight student and was picked on. It was hard.

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Achilles’ Heel Lack of confidence. I don’t think I am as talented as everyone else does. I am the first one to put myself down. My friends always say that they wish I would see myself as everyone sees me.

Most Important Mentor Jim Stamberger. He gave me a shot in acting when no one else would. He has taught me so much about acting and about life. You has definitely been a positive influence on my world. Greatest Moment of Epiphany I think realizing that the role of Queen came with so much else. I have had some people tell me that they were nervous to talk to me because I am the queen. The role just has so much meaning to people. It is amazing to think that people are afraid to talk to me. I mean I am just Portia, but being queen comes with way more respect and responsibility than I realized. Smartest Thing I Have Ever Done Walking into the audition for “Joseph and the Amazing Technicolor Dreamcoat.”

Dumbest Thing I have Ever Done I weigh every decisions so that I try not to do stupid things. That said, I am certain I have done dumb things, but I am not sure what would be the dumbest.” What I Thought You Would be Doing With MY Life I though I would be doing the housewife and children thing Maybe working too, but I really thought I would be following in my mother’s footsteps, being married with kids. What I Still Really Want To Do I want to be a pastry chef somewhere, working in a job that I love. I, of course, still want to be active in the Renaissance Festival community. To find a job that I love where I could do both would be amazing.

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KEEP A GOOD CONNECTION By Molly Logan Anderson GateHouse News Service

ong gone is the ideal short commute to a 9-to-5 job. For many folks, the boundaries in which they search for work continue to stretch, including lots of drive time or out-of-town travel. For parents facing these types of workrelated requirements, staying connected to the home front can be a challenge. If travel is a mandatory component of your career, read on for expert tips on how to remain involved at home while traveling

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TIPS FOR PARENTS WHILE ON THE ROAD Maintain daily contact

Keep studies a top priority

“The bond between parents and children must be continually nourished to remain strong, especially during periods of separation,” says Elaine M. Hunter, author of “Parenting Away From Home: 301 Preparations, Tips, and Reminders” and traveling mother of two. “Neglecting to stay connected during times apart can create insecurity, resentfulness, anger and other feelings that can weaken the parent-child relationship.” Use all means at your disposal to build your connection, including texting, calls, email or social networking. Reinforce your presence by returning missed calls promptly.

Just because you’re on the road doesn’t mean that you can’t participate with schoolwork. Take advantage of technology and use email, fax machines or the phone to review homework or assist with studying. For the youngest kids at home that don’t yet have nightly assignments, consider making a recorded book with your voice so your little ones can hear you anytime. While listening to you, they won’t even realize that they’re brushing up on their pre-reading skills.

Promote understanding

Communicate face-to-face

Give support from afar

Families with regularly traveling parents face unique challenges and must pull together to ensure that the children get what they need in terms of information. “Parents can make separating less challenging by helping their kids understand the reasons and importance of their travels, and by communicating frequently with them while away,” Hunter says. Kids certainly will develop a better understanding as they grow, but their growing may lead to more difficult communication, advises Hunter. She recommends scheduling times to talk and agreeing on the best means of contact. Creating understanding and a plan for communication will help families stay connected.

Invest in good webcam technology or video calling software in order to share important events from afar. Singing a lullaby or reading a bedtime story via your computer is the next best thing to being there. “Face-to-face contact allows families to interact with each other visually and communicate more effectively by observing each other’s verbal and non-verbal expressions,” says Hunter. “Seeing each other’s face is also comforting, and parents can confirm their kids’ well-being.”

Don’t let your travels keep you from being your children’s biggest fan. If important activities are scheduled while you’re gone, show your support by remembering them and calling ahead of time to boost your child’s confidence. Knowing you’re rooting for their sporting event, concert or speech even though you’re far away bolsters their self-esteem.

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food

Halloween ch-ch-chills A Halloween Egg Cream (front) with “blood” for the occasion, Dracula’s Special (left) and a Pineapple Ghost will be welcome at any spooky do. These can be made to order for your thirsty trick-or-treaters.

Soda specialties your youngsters will love to slurp By Margaret Maples GateHouse News Service

Fountain sodas, long upstaged by bottled and canned goodies, are back, and they’re as cool and colorful as ever. But these luxurious creations aren’t restricted to ice cream shops. We’ve assembled a few recipes you can make at home, maybe for a Halloween party or as extra treats for your family. These are rather rich, and kids will be snacking on trick-or-treat swag, so we’ve kept servings on the small side.

Blood red For Dracula’s Special, start by tipping a tablespoon of raspberry syrup into each of two 8-ounce glasses. In a separate container, combine 1/4 cup of 2 percent milk and, a hint from the Internet, 2 teaspoons of vanilla instant pudding mix. Stir in 1 teaspoon of red food coloring and 3/4 cup of club soda. Divide this mixture between the two glasses, pouring it on top of the raspberry syrup. For a delicious finish, top each glass with two scoops of raspberry sorbet. MARGARET MAPLES/GHNS

Halloween Egg Cream Just for the spooky holiday, we mixed raspberry syrup and red food coloring to make “blood” and dribbled it into the egg cream. It’s gruesome, but your little trick-or-treaters will love it. • 1 tablespoon raspberry syrup (such as Monin)

• 1 tablespoon chocolate syrup (such as Hershey’s)

• 1/2 teaspoon red food coloring

• 1/3 cup vanilla soy milk, cold

• 1 tablespoon chocolate fountain syrup (such as Monin)

• 1/2 to 3/4 cup low-sodium or salt-free seltzer, cold

In a small container, combine raspberry syrup and red food coloring as fake blood. Set aside. Into a chilled 8ounce glass, place the chocolate syrups. Add soy milk and stir by hand until milk is light brown. Pour in seltzer and stir until a foamy head forms. A newly opened can or bottle works best. Pour a few drops of fake blood down the inside edge of the glass. Let it streak down. Serve immediately. Makes 1 drink (about 8 ounces).

Elusive flavor The Internet offers plenty of information on egg creams, including the fact that they should be consumed quickly, because they’re fragile. These treats were first made in Brooklyn in the 1890s by a Jewish immigrant named Louis Auster. But even with lots of help, the authentic New York egg cream is rarely found elsewhere. The flavor apparently doesn’t travel well. Maybe it’s the Fox’s U-Bet chocolate syrup, or the seltzer in Brooklyn. Continued on next page

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food Continued from previous page The problem is not eggs or cream, because egg creams don’t contain either of those ingredients. Some people say they never did; others say eggs and cream were dropped or substituted because of rationing during World War II. So we gave up on strict duplication and decided to break with tradition to make a Halloween Egg Cream (see recipe). It calls for different syrups, and it substitutes vanilla soy milk for cow’s milk, a helpful change for people who are lactose-intolerant. Then there’s the holiday look: We let a drop or two of fake blood ooze down the inside of the glass.

Float your boat

Dracula’s Special sounds horrific enough for Halloween, but it’s a raspberry sorbet float. MARGARET MAPLES PHOTOS/GHNS

This Halloween Egg Cream “bleeds” a mixture of raspberry syrup and red food coloring for a ghastly effect.

The Pineapple Ghost’s complexion is suitably pale, but this treat provides a vivid burst of pineapple-coconut flavor.

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If you like pina coladas, try the Pineapple Ghost: Place a tablespoon of coconut syrup in each of two 8-ounce glasses. In a separate container, whip together 1/4 cup 2 percent milk and 3/4 cup club soda. Divide this mixture between the two glasses, pouring it over the coconut syrup. Add two scoops of pineapple sorbet or ice cream to each glass. Finish with about 1 1/2 teaspoons of crushed pineapple on each float. Any of these recipes can be tweaked to suit your family’s preferences. And, of course, taste-testing is a chore your children are likely to enjoy.

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