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Catching feelings for someone isn’t a conscious choice we make, CASUAL, and, typically, by the time we start worrying that we might be catching feelings for someone, it’s too late—feelings have already been caught. The only thing we can do if we’re worried that we might catch feelings for someone or have already caught feelings for someone is to stop seeing that person, CASUAL, in the hopes that their absence (or someone else’s presence) will make those feelings go away. But if the sex is great and the risk of heartbreak is worth it, no one would blame you for continuing to fuck this polysaturated guy. (Funny he can find the time to fuck you on the regular but doesn’t have the bandwidth to date you, not even a little bit.) But go in with your eyes open: if you keep fucking this guy, CASUAL, you’re gonna get more and more attached to him. You’re gonna catch more and more feelings, and then wind up getting hurt in the end.
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