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childline e n i z a mag July 2008
issue 1
GIBRALTAR
These pages have been composed by the contributions of students from Bayside Comprehensive, The College of Further Education and Westside Comprehensive. This project was undertaken to celebrate Childline Gibraltar’s 2 year anniversary on 28th June 2008.
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Hannah Mifsud
things to do this sum summer mer
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Here are a few useful things you can do before school starts again don’t forget your camera to capture the perfect moment!
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Read the Childline Magazine
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Submit the Crossword inside for a chance to win great prizes!
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Have a themed movie marathon e.g. Harry Potter, Spiderman, Indiana Jones, musicals, chick flicks…
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Make a new friend – will definitely make you feel like you’ve gained something at the end of summer.
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Try a new hobbya new instrument or playing a sport. Joining a club could result in making new friends and discovering talents you never knew you had!
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Be a tourist for a dayWhy not visit our neighbours the apes or for something more refreshing go and see the dolphins.
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Help out an elderly person or contribute to charity It might seem boring but think of how grateful they’ll be and you might find this extremely rewarding when it’s over.
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Get a summer job This is a great way to gain independence and although it might not be easy, it will all be worth it when you see your pay cheque!
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Make a movie Whether with effects to make Steven Spielberg jealous or just a cheesy home video, this is a fun way to spend the day!
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Have a beach BBQ whether it is with a couple of close friends or a big group, it’s always fun to stay at the beach and bond.
Neil Frances, Andrew Olivero, Alexandra Rios, Elizabeth Tosso
C H ave no fear I won’t betray your trust L istening to your problems, no matter what D on’t be scared; help is at hand L ighten your load I nnocents must be protected N o to abuse: physical, emotional or sexual E radicate it once and for all! hildren can call
FREE PHONE HELPLINE NUMBER 8008. Open between 6pm and 10pm every day of the year AT HOME IN GIBRALTAR • SPRING/SUMMER 2007
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childline gibraltar by Karina Tewkesbury
Many of us have been through difficult stages in our lives and have needed to talk to someone about our problems. Whilst some may confide in close relatives or friends, we can all agree that sometimes it’s best to remain anonymous. Childline deals with all kinds of problems every single day. However big or small the problem is, you will always find a friendly voice to talk to. You can let go of your bottled up feelings with the security that it will remain in complete confidence. You can talk to someone at Childline for many reasons e.g. Bullying, relationship struggles, peer pressure, sexuality, abuse, alcohol, drugs and stress. A listening ear will be given in every situation and you can be assured you won’t be judged or scolded; you will just be offered support and guidance. Fortunately, calls are FREE whether you call from a landline, mobile or even a payphone*!! Remember, when you call Childline, you remain in control
and no one else will be contacted unless you are in a dangerous situation and someone else can help you. No matter where you are, help is just a phone call away! You can
ring Childline on 8008, seven days a week from 6pm to 10pm. *To ring from a payphone you may put in a coin. However, you will get your money back.
childline gibraltar’s
mission
Our mission is to end cruelty to children in Gibraltar. Our vision is a society in which all children are loved, valued and able to fulfil their potential. In other words, a society that will not tolerate child abuse whether sexual, physical, emotional, or neglect.
facts It’s free to call Childline, even from a mobile The number 8008 will not show up on your home phone bills. You don’t have to give your name until you are ready.
Childline Gibraltar is now on Facebook! Search for ‘Childline Gibraltar’ to find out more information and become a fan!
crossword
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Read the article about Childline to help you answer these questions. Cut out the crossword and hand it in to Khubchands, 55/57 Main street, by 15th September. If you do, you will to be entered into a prize draw to win one of our three great prizes:
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1st prize: A mobile phone from Khubchands
2nd prize: A £40 voucher from Music Corner
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3nd prize: A £20 voucher from Marble Arc The Prize Draw will take place on the 19th September 2008. Please ensure that you leave your phone number so that we can contact you if you are selected.
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1. Being tempted to do something you don’t want to do (4, 8) 4. This chemical slows down your reactions (7) 7. Childline’s phoneline opens at ___ (3) 8. This can be physical, emotional, sexual or neglect (5) 9. Childline’s phoneline closes at ___ (3) 11. The number of days a week Childline is available for you to call (5) 12. If you don’t tell Childline your real name you can remain _____ (9)
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2. You can call Childline to talk about your _________ (8) 3. If you dial 8008, you are ringing _________ (9) 5. You will always be offered a _______ ear (9) 6. When going through exams, many people may feel _____ (8) 10. It doesn’t cost you a penny to ring Childline, so it is____ (4)
AT HOME IN GIBRALTAR • SPRING/SUMMER 2007
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by Hannah Mifsud
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Answer these questions truthfully to figure out whether you and your companion have a healthy relationship - be it your parents, one of your siblings or your other half.
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Do you feel constantly controlled by this person? All the time. I’m the one who tells them where to go and what to do. Never.
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Is it a give and take relationship? I give and they take They give and I take We both give a little, and take a little
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Are they the only person you spend time with? Yes I never see anyone else. Only because I make sure they don’t spend time with anybody else. No, I see them frequently, but I am free to spend time with whoever I want.
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Do they ever say stuff that hurts you? Yes, I spend a lot of my time with them crying. I tell them things without worrying how it will make them feel. No, they worry about my feelings and try not to upset me. Do you spend a lot of time arguing? Yes we argue most of the time, they seem to like it. Only when they don’t do what I say No, we argue like anyone else, but it’s not like we spend all our time doing so.
Mostly C’s Your relationship seems to be very healthy. You both care about each other, and are understanding of one and other’s needs, you’re very lucky to have such an understanding companion, but remember if you don’t carry on working on it, the relationship could eventually become hostile. Mostly B’s Your relationship isn’t healthy, but it seems to have a lot to do with you. You may be upsetting your companion with the things you do and say, maybe you should try and calm down and listen to them. If you don’t you could end up losing them. Mostly A’s Your relationship isn’t very healthy, you seem to be receiving a lot of your companion’s hostility, maybe you should try and explain to them how you feel. If they love you, they’ll be willing to change.
Remember: If you are receiving a lot of hostility from someone, or you feel as though you are in an abusive relationship, the AT HOME IN GIBRALTAR 2007 volunteers at Childline are• SPRING/SUMMER always ready to listen, and try to give you advice. Just phone 8008 free.
Dear Lulu ...
Relationships
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Same Effects As Above Except That The Effect Is Usually Worse!
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3 types of bullying riddle
I start with the letter E I end with the letter E I usually contain only one letter Yet I am not the letter E! What am I?
By Philip Nilsson
Cyber Bullying: this type of bullying is very popular. It is when someone gets bullied online or are filmed whilst they are being bullied and then put up on the internet. Block it! If you want to stop someone from sending you instant messages or seeing you online, you can block their address. The way you do this will vary depending on the service you are using. Click on the Help menu and check how to block addresses – or get someone to help you.
Answer: An Envelope.
8 pointless facts
Chewing gum while peeling onions will stop you from crying It is almost physically impossible to lick your elbow Most lipstick contains fish scales If you pinch your nose whilst humming, you cannot continue humming. Coca-cola would be green if colouring weren’t added to it Pigs can’t look up to the sky A duck’s quack doesn’t echo and nobody know why
Physical Bullying: This is when someone is getting bullied by being hit which can hurt a lot. Verbal Bullying: This can hurt just as much as physical and cyber bullying but in a different way. It can make you feel miserable and alone whilst lowering your self esteem.
joke
Nothing, dumb and nobody were sailing in a boat. Suddenly nobody falls into the water, nothing told dumb to call the police and what do you think dumb said? Hello, I’m dumb. Nothing told me to call because nobody fell into the water!
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Dear Lulu ...
Bullying
I am 13 years old and do not have many friends. People at school pick on me because they say I am weird. They keep telling me that I’m a loner and that no one will want to be my friend. I enjoy going to school, and do well in my work and all teachers are really nice to me but the rest of my class isn’t. Why are people so mean? Can’t they leave me alone? I never say anything to them and I’m getting tired of this bullying! I need some advice. Unique Dear Unique, There are many teenagers like you out there. Some people prefer to concentrate more on their work and not disrupt the lives of others like the bullies are doing to you. Bullying is wrong and no one has to put up with it. If you do not have any close friends in school it’s ok, you can say hello and be friends with everyone and not have one close friend in particular. My advice is to speak to someone about it because a problem shared is a problem halved. If you don’t feel comfortable speaking to a teacher in school, call Childline on 8008 and they will try to help. Love Lulu
Dear Lulu ...
Exam Pressure
I’m really worried about my upcoming exams! I try to study and really try my best but it never seems enough. My parents tell me I need to pull my socks up and work harder but I’m doing everything I can. In school I get stressed because there is a lot of work that has to be done; then at home I’ve got homework and my parents are pushing me to aim higher and do better. It’s really getting to me! I can’t cope with the exam stress and my parents expecting so much from me. What if I try my best but still don’t do as well as they expect? The Stressed Student Dear Stressed Student, You should not be worrying about trying to exceed your parent’s expectations. The important thing is trying your best and knowing that you have done everything you can to get good grades. Your parents are trying to push you because they want to see you happy with your grades and make sure that you do well in school. Most parents do this, and it’s all because they care a lot for you and think that pushing you to the limit means helping you. Perhaps you should talk to your parents and tell them about this stress and that you are trying your best. If you feel you are unable to talk to them, call Childline on 8008 and they will try their best to guide you. Love Lulu
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acknowledgements These pages have been composed by the contributions of students from Bayside Comprehensive, The College of Further Education and Westside Comprehensive. Childline would like to thank all the students who submitted an article or a feature, for their hard work and contributions. Particular thanks go to the students from classes 9BXY, 9RXY and 8 RXY of Bayside school, who undertook this magazine as an English class project. Due to the high volume of submissions and the limited space for this first edition, we were unfortunately only able to include a small proportion of submissions. However we will be storing those articles that weren’t published in this edition for future 4 reference.
Special thanks go to the following whose submissions were selected: Mariam Akdi, Alister Dalmedo, Neil Frances, Julian, Karl, Hannah Mifsud, Philip Nilsson, Andrew Olivero, Alexandra Rios, Karina Tewkesbury, Elizabeth Tosso The Childline Magazine has been sponsored by the children of “We Care”, a Bonita Trust project. AT HOME IN GIBRALTAR • SPRING/SUMMER 2007