LOVE
THE GREATEST GIFT Give your partner a gift that will last forever.
One of the most common relationship issues people face today is the struggle to express love in intentional and meaningful ways to someone else. Nearly everyone wants to show their partner that they care. Yet, many people struggle to do it in a way that speaks to their heart. If you find that this describes your situation, you may want to learn more about The Five Love Languages. Developed by Dr. Gary Chapman, an author and counselor, The Five Love Languages theorizes people tend to give love in the way they prefer to receive love. Since we don’t all have the same preferences as our partners when it comes to giving and receiving love, this is how relationships can start to get sticky. But by understanding our partners’ inherent love language, we can express our love to our partners more effectively—visit 5lovelangueages.com to learn more.
1 Words of affirmation
2 Quality time
4 Acts of service
3 Receiving gifts
5 Physical touch
This language is about giving the other person your undivided attention. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful to these individuals. Being there for them is crucial. Dr. Chapman says for some people, what makes them feel most loved is to receive a tangible gift. This doesn’t necessarily mean the person is materialistic, but a meaningful or thoughtful present is what makes them feel appreciated.
For these people, actions speak louder than words— lending a helping hand shows you really care. People who thrive on this language have very little tolerance for people who make more work for them.
To this person, nothing speaks more deeply than appropriate touch. That doesn’t mean only in the bedroom—everyday physical connections, like hand-holding, kissing, or any type of re-affirming physical contact is greatly appreciated. According to Chapman, even though we tend to favor one language more than the others we still enjoy traits of the others as well.
This language uses words to affirm other people. For those who prefer the words of affirmation language, hearing “I love you,” and other compliments are what they value the most. Words hold real value within this language.
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THE GRAND SEASON • AUGUST 2021
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