TheHomeMag North Orange County October 2023

The world is running faster than ever. More things come easy and instantaneously from fast food to Instagram. We’ve learned to expect what we want, when we want it. Many of us are used to this instant gratification and don’t believe in the proverbial saying, “Good things come to those who wait.”

Allow me to share a story about delayed gratification and mastering self-control which can change your life. It’s The Marshmallow Test: Mastering Self-Control study. “The intelligent desire self-control; children want candy.” ― Rumi

In 1973, psychologist Dr. Walter Mischel reported on a self-control study that included using marshmallows, to see how 4-year-olds would resist temptation and delay gratification. He told a group of four-year-old children, that if they didn’t eat their marshmallow when he returned, they would receive another one. Some kids waited, whilst most quickly ate their

marshmallow. Mischel followed this group of kids for the next 14 years. The results were surprising. The kids that waited scored 210 points higher on SATs; were more socially competent; and experienced more personal and professional success.

This study showed that will power is a matter of learning how to control your attention and thoughts. We can’t control the world, but we can control how we think about it. The kids that were successful in holding off eating the first marshmallow used “taught” skills to change their focus away from the tempting marshmallow.

The real challenge we face is turning our self-discipline skills into habits, which can require years of diligent practice. This is where our role as parents is critical for our children’s success in later life. According to Mischel, even the most mundane routines of childhood—such as not snacking before dinner or saving up one’s allowance or holding out until Christmas morning to

open presents—are really exercises in cognitive training that teach our kids how to outsmart their desires! John Dryden said it best, “We first make our habits, and then our habits make us.”

Success in almost anything goes to those who are most persistent, disciplined and never give up. Just like the marshmallow kids, those who had the discipline to wait won the bigger prize. Those who wait and work hard for the larger picture often end up happier, healthier, and wiser.

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“The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack in will.” — Vince Lombardi

Delayed gratification is good for you.

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