Feb. 11, 2013 issue of IU Southeast Horizon

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Week of Feb. 11, 2013 | Volume 67 | Issue 16

“She is going to leave IUS as one of the best players to play here.” -Robin Harris, IUS women’s basketball head coach on Ashmere Woods’ final season as a Grenadier

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Dating is dead Relationship, dating trends change for college students By TINA REED Staff tinkreed@ius.edu With Valentine’s Day approaching, store fronts are displaying candy hearts, boxes of chocolates, red roses and gemstone jewelry, but when it is all said and done, does anyone have a date to partake in this romantic holiday? Justin Garcia, evolutionary biologist and researcher at The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University Bloomington, said in an article written in IU Media Relations that ‘dating is nearly dead.’ According to a study published in the Review of General Psychology last year, it was found that more students are hooking up, which leads to sexual encounters, instead of dating. Students are hooking up thinking it will lead to a first date, but instead, they are having more hook ups than first dates. “If we’re going to take college health seriously, we have to think of the context in which dating, love and sex occur,” Garcia said. “This is the context college students are experiencing—hookups first and then, maybe, relationships. We need to understand the physical and psychological consequences, both positive and negative.” College students are no longer dating to find a partner, Garcia said. “They go to movies together only after they’ve had a sexual encounter,” Garcia said. “It is not until the college student moves out of college campuses and into adulthood that more traditional dating occurs.” Philip Zimbardo, psychologist and a professor emeritus at Stanford University, said on TED talks, “Guys are flaming out academically and wiping out socially with girls and sexually with women.” TED talk is a conference that is held annually to unite opinionated speakers. Intimacy is a fear, not only associated in boys, but in girls also, Zimbardo said. “Excessive internet use, along with excessive video gaming and ‘porning’ arousals have become addictive resulting in social awkwardness,” Zimbardo said. “They don’t know what to say to the opposite sex.” With this in mind, Bernardo Carducci, professor of psychology and director of the Shyness Research Institute at IU Southeast, said, “Every great relationship, romantic or business or otherwise, begins with small talk.” The structure of communication is not random, Carducci said. When people learn the structure they will have the skill. Carducci is the author of “The Pocket Guide to Making Successful Small Talk: How to Talk to Anyone Anytime Anywhere about Anything.”

“Students or people in general don’t know how to get started,” Carducci said. “They think to get started they have to have this fabulous line, when all they really need to do is just be nice.” Shyness does not just disappear, Carducci said. The person just changes their focus. “The number one issue for shyness is meeting people and making friends,” Carducci said. “Once you are in a relationship your shyness disappears, because your focus is no longer on their self, but the focus is on the other person.” People who are shy focus on their faults and limitations, Carducci said. “Shy people walk around with a mirror in front of them, because once they get in front of a mirror they start adjusting their glasses, their hair and their make-up,” Carducci said. Thirty percent of students say they do not know how to make friends or talk to people, Dahlgren said. The Pathways class is being taught to students for them to learn how to interact with professionals in their field of choice. There is a Pathways networking event where the students pick the professionals who are to attend, Dahlgren said. “The professionals are set up as panels in front of the classroom and each speaker gets 10 minutes to talk to the students,” Dahlgren said. “The students will have a half an hour to ask each person on the panel any questions they may have.” These events are open to any student at IU Southeast, Dahlgren said. “Students at the end of the event will be able to introduce themselves and shake hands with the professionals,” Dahlgren said. Brigette Adams, faculty secretary of the School of Social Sciences, said she proofread Carducci’s “Pocket Guide to Making Successful Small Talk.” “The small talk book helped me to know how to talk to strangers in a lot of social situations,” Adams said. “I met my husband Dave, because of the suggestions that are in that book.” Adams said her husband was her tour guide on the island of Maui. “Because of my familiarity of Carducci’s work and of being able to talk with people, I was able to strike up a conversation with him and I actually asked him out on a date and he said yes,” Adams said. Adams and her husband have been married since 2008. “Before I read the small talk book, I would have never been on vacation by myself, let alone start up a conversation with a stranger,” Adams said. “It has really helped me socially.”

Students celebrate Spirit Week

Photo by Stephen Allen

Jed Thomas, business freshman, tosses a bean bag in a game of cornhole. To celebrate Homecoming activities were set up in The Commons for students to participate in. Some of the events included cornhole, musical chairs and water pong. For more on HOMECOMING, see page 8

Aloha from Meadow Lodge Students get a taste of paradise with Luau Party By NIC BRITTON Staff nmbritto@umail.iu.edu Though snow was piling up around campus on Jan. 31, Meadow Lodge embraced the tropical. The lodge was home to IU Southeast’s annual Spring Luau Party, hosted by Residence Life and Housing. This event was free and open to all students. It offered a variety of games and refreshments, as well as separate games for the young children present. The three-hour event was attended by a crowd of more than 40 people. The luau has been a campus tradition for the last few years, and is one of Residence Life’s signature events. Some other signature events include the ‘80s and Halloween parties, as well as Rock Fight, a battle of the bands. According to Cory Dixon, the event’s main host, this year’s luau was a notable departure from previous signature events. “Historically, all our big events are done in the Hoosier Room and consist of music, a dance floor and some light refreshments,”

Dixon said. “People usually meander around, eventually get bored and leave.” Dixon said the luau is consistently the event with the lowest attendance, so he decided to give the event a smaller, more laidback atmosphere. “I wanted to get rid of the loud musicand-dance set-up, throw it in a lodge, and pack it full of small games that people will get into,” Dixon said. “This was our first time throwing a signature event this way.” Some of the games played include a tropical-themed version of Pictionary, limbo and a hula-hoop competition. The night’s most popular game appeared to be “Pass the Pineapple,” a variant on hot potato that used a pineapple instead. About 20 people were playing the game at one point. A few students even embraced the snow outside. Some engaged in snowball fights, while others built snowmen. Also, a non-alcoholic mock-tail bar, which has frequently appeared at IUS events, was one of the main attractions. The beverages it serves have become popular among students attending the events. See LUAU, page 2

Photo by Nic Britton

Anna Sneed, elementary education senior, plays the ukulele during the Spring Luau’s “pass the pineapple” game. Meadow Lodge hosted an annual Spring Luau Party on Jan. 31. There were paradise-themed games and activities for the residents to participate in.

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