THELEAVEN.ORG | VOL. 43, NO. 26 | FEBRUARY 11, 2022
A LESSON IN LOSS
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Dick Forge, a member of Sacred Heart-St. Casimir Parish in Leavenworth, serves lunch at the Leavenworth Interfaith Community of Hope, a shelter offering assistance to those living in poverty.
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EAVENWORTH — There is an adage about grief that says it is “love with no place to go.” Dick Forge, a member of Sacred Heart-St. Casimir Parish in Leavenworth, knows grief and the heartache it leaves behind. Years ago, a drunk driver took the life of his only son Rick, who was just 5 years old. The grief he felt then was shared by his wife Kathy. Together, they got through the pain by pouring their love into their work, their church and their four daughters. But in February 2020, after 53 years of marriage, Forge lost Kathy, too.
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GET TO SEE THE PARENT WITHOUT VOLUNTEERS LIKE DAD. THIS ISN’T JUST A LITTLE THING. THIS IS HUGE. KAREN WOLKEN DICK FORGE’S OLDEST DAUGHTER
After a normal evening at home, the couple was preparing for bed. When Forge went into their bedroom, he found his wife unresponsive on the closet floor. “I grew up on a farm,” he said, “and I was around dead animals. “You can tell when their eyes are
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set — and her eyes were set. I knew she was really gone.” Kathy was rushed to the hospital and kept on life support just until her family could gather around her and a priest could anoint her. She was well-loved in the town of Leavenworth — as a teacher at Sacred Heart School, a church cantor and a leader in the religious education program. A thousand people showed up for her wake and funeral. “I lost a lot when I lost her,” Forge said of his wife’s sudden death. “I knew life wouldn’t be the same, and it hasn’t been. It’s tough. “Kathy was a wonderful wife. Rick was a wonderful boy.” “But you have to make the best of it,” he continued. “You just have to put one foot in front of the other and keep going.” Oddly enough, long before Kathy
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died, she prepared a path for her husband to grieve through, a place for his love to go.
A place for love Forge has always been a busy man. A graduate of Benedictine College in Atchison, he received the college’s Kansas Monk Award in 2005 for exemplifying its patron’s motto: “ora et labora” — “pray and work.” “Dad has always been very scheduled,” said his oldest daughter, Karen Wolken. He lives “work and prayer,” and that’s what Benedictine is about. He and Kathy raised their family in town for 25 years and then moved to a farm in 2000. >> See “SHE SAVED” on page 6
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