Gabby Douglas

The P revailing

WOM A N FOCUS ON THE

YES Spring

BEAUTY

FAVORITES

Soledad O'Brien SHARES WHY YOUR STORY MATTERS THE STORY OF

SHAHINA JAVED’S

FIGHT FOR GENDER EQUALITY IN INDIA

Looking Back:

A LEGACY

OF WOMEN

Who've Inspired Us An intimate conversation with

Olympic Gold Medalist

Gabby Douglas Olympics, cyber bullies, beauty line, and what's next

Yoga for self-love & self care

credits Sabrina Seymore founding editor-in-chief

Casey Adams Jones copy editor

Kenali Battle copy editor

CONTRIBUTORS alexis bell, kelsey hargrove, tina m. france, rachelle townsend, nikki dixon, dr. allison matthews, sabrina seymore, danielle hairston, ariane datil, makeda miller, tiffany bloomfeld, joyeeta datta, shahina javed, ariana datil, kelsey hargrove, nikki dixon, minister tina france, stakesha st. clair, alicia ruffin

PHOTOGRAPHERS max res photography, in his image photography, erin mcginn photography, laura dee photography, carla ten eyke photography, in his image photography

table of contents Cover story pg 21

4 Spotlight Contributors 9 Behind the scenes of the cover shoot

10 three daily habits

to super charge your spiritual life

11 Yoga for self-love

& self-care

13 style Guide 17 looking back:

a legacy of women who've inspired us

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Yoga for self-love & self-care pg 11

21 Gabby Douglas

shares her story

25 growing pains 26 spring beauty

favorites

33 the prevailing

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day wihtout women pg 47

47 day without women

social love @PrevailingWMag

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Seymore Speaks

(founding editor-in-chief) The Prevailing Woman magazine seeks to empower women globally, through stories that motivate, inspire and challenge of women to become independent thinkers and leaders. It gives me great pleasure to welcome you to the first issue of The Prevailing Woman Magazine. When women create opportunities to generate income, it not only impacts their families, it impacts their country’s economic standing. Considering our current political state, every woman deserves to know she is valuable, to have strength and dignity, and to ultimately know that she is empowered.

The Prevailing Woman magazine focuses on highlighting accomplishments and contributions to our community. It is dedicated to publishing stories about women in leadership, creators, innovative thinkers, and artists in their respective professions. The women who fill our pages are the embodiment of a woman who prevails in entrepreneurship, education, media and social justice platforms, to name a few. We want our readers to not only hear about their success, but also their strides towards future endeavors.

Copies of the high gloss, color magazine will be published quarterly. The goal of each issue is to be empowering and informative with a heavy focus on entrepreneurship. It will also appeal to women who have a general interest in the accomplishments within their respective industries; are seeking insight on ways to prevail in their careers; or desire to expand their network.

I am fortunate to be supported by a highly effective team; including my simply amazing public relations consultant and copy editor, Casey Adams Jones. Over the past year, she has done a fantastic job, shaping the magazine to ensure all content is edited and aesthetically pleasing. The magazine is backed up by a stellar cast of journalists, but I must high- light Alexis Bell, a freshman at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill.

Also, Carley Hummel, thank you for all of your hardwork in designing our beautiful magazine.

Last, I would like to thank all of our journalists, authors and bloggers, who have toiled in the production of their work, and have chosen The Prevailing Woman Magazine as a platform that they would like to publish in.

I hope you find this magazine will be resourceful, empowering, and entertaining!

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Spotlight Contributors Answer these three questions: 1. One or two Women who inspire you and why 2. The last book you read and a short description 3. What is your favorite quote or scripture and why

Alicia Ruffin Twitter: ArtsrybyAlicia Instagram: ArtistryByAlicia Title: Licensed Esthetician and Makeup Artist “Spring Beauty Favorites” pg. 26 1. Alexandra Butler, high profile makeup artist, has built her brand while uplifting others through her mentoring program. I admire Alex’s perseverance and humble spirt, after losing her job and building her highly sought out beauty services. As my mentor, she has been extremely helpful in my growth and success as a makeup artist.

2. "The Power of Being a REAL Woman" by Jennifer Keitt provides guidance in building intimate relationships, professional relationships. The author also shares daily affirmations to guide your life towards peace and progression.

3. My favorite quote is "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."

Ariane Datil Twitter/Instagram: @arianedatil Title: On-air Reporter "Day without Women" pg. 27 1. At my job, I'm introduced to women from all walks of life who are working towards achieving their goals. The one thing that unites all of those women, is their innate sense of strength and unwillingness to stop short of success. I'm not inspired by just one woman, I'm inspired by all women who fight and advance the integral role of women in society.

2. I have a healthy obsession with getting caught up on the stories of the women who shaped our world and had to fight for their claim to the throne. Every time I finish one of their stories I wonder why we still haven't had a woman President. Didn't we work this out hundreds of years ago? What happened?

3. "See what God can do through you." - Mission statement from Elevation Church. Just let that simmer. It doesn't even need explaining.

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Alexis Bell Twitter/ Instagram: @just_relexx Title: Broadcast Journalism and Political Science freshman at University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill 1. One of the women who inspires me is Sage Steele. She has excelled in sports journalism, a field I am pursuing and she does it well. I follow Sage on social media and watch her on SportsCenter and I admire the way she is able to balance her family with such a time-consuming career. Sage also inspires me to continue to wear my hair in its natural state while pursuing a career in broadcast journalism.

2. The last book I read was "Between the World and Me" by Ta-Nehisi Coates. This is a story written by the author to his 15-year-old son about living in America in a Black body. Coates incorporates personal and historical development into the story.

3. My favorite scripture is- "Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God's will for you in Jesus Christ," 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18. This is my favorite scripture because it reminds me to pray when things are going well for me, and to rejoice even when things aren't going my way. I am reminded that no matter the circumstance, it is a part of God's plan.

Carley Hummel Instagram: carley_hummel Website: carleyhummel.com Title: Graphic Designer 1. I know it can seem clichĂŠ, but I am inspired by my mom and two sisters. They are truly my rock, and make me a better person every day. Successful female journalist in a male-dominated field, Lisa Ling, also inspires me. She has taken her success even further by reporting in countries where there is little, to no equality. I find her journalism empowering and think of her as a true inspiration.

2. My favorite podcast, currently, is "Terrible, Thanks for Asking." In this podcast, author, Nora McInerny talks about life and the hardships it brings. I know it sounds sad, but it is extremely relatable and motivating.

3. "Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable--if anything is excellent or praiseworthy--think about such things," found in Philippians 4:8. I love this quote because I think it is so important to reflect on your life and take in all the good, even when it is small things.

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Women's Organization You Need to know Zonta International Zonta International has been bringing professional women and men around the world together for the common mission of empowering women since 1919. We give club members local opportunities to support their communities while also focusing on larger international projects that empower women and girls and bring about sustainable change to ensure that each generation is stronger than the last. We advocate to change laws, harmful cultural norms and overall attitudes that have hindered gender equality and human rights for all.

Learn more at www.zonta.org/addyourvoice.

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Women Impacting Public Policy (WIPP) Women Impacting Public Policy is a national nonpartisan organization advocating on behalf of women entrepreneurs—strengthening their impact on our nation’s public policy, creating economic opportunities, and forging alliances with other business organizations.

WIPP creates leadership opportunities for its members and builds alliances with other business organizations to increase its political clout. A well-respected voice on Capitol Hill and with the Administration, WIPP advocates on a number of issues that impact women entrepreneurs, including access to capital, procurement, taxes, regulation, healthcare and more. WIPP’s educational programming provides women entrepreneurs with the tools they need to grow, lead and succeed in business, making them a more powerful economic force in the U.S. and the world.

Learn more at http://www.wipp.org/

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BEHIND THE SCENES OF

the Cover shoot

Photo credit: Dajuan Jones of In His Image Photography

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The Prevailing Woman assembled a team of sought after writers, art directors, and content contributors in delivering profound and newsworthy articles, innovative visuals, and more importantly to push the agenda of what “The Prevailing Woman” stands for.

This project has been heavy on my heart for nearly two years. I’m thankful to have been afforded the opportunity to feature Olympic gold medalist, Gabby Douglas, on the cover of the first issue. As we researched many leading ladies, Gabby Douglas, was someone I believed would impact readers spiritually, mentally, emotionally, and physically. The moment we met, she was eager to begin the photo shoot. She displayed her high level of compassion and easy going personality!

“Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed.”

– Mark 1:35, New International Version

“From the fruit of their lips people are filled with good things, and the work of their hands brings them reward.”

– Proverbs 12: 14, New International Version

Three Daily Habits to Supercharge Your Spiritual Life By: Minister Tina M. France

When your alarm goes off in the morning, you wake up, get yourself ready and maybe other family members, too. Perhaps you brave carpool lines, or have a traffic-filled morning commute and nonstop meetings throughout the day. You stop by the grocery store for the last ingredient you need to make dinner and head home to cook then get yourself and your family ready to do it all again tomorrow.

It can be exhausting just thinking about all you have to get done in a single day. With all the many hats you wear, it can be challenging to take the time you need for yourself.

Obviously, there are many ways to recharge when your batteries are drained like a Spa Day or a girls night out. However, there’s one area of your life that tends to be the most overlooked self-care opportunity- your spiritual life!

Developing and maintaining your spiritual life will give you a daily recharge and help you maintain a healthy, balanced life.

Here are three daily habits that will help you focus your mind and energy for the day: Pray Early

“But if we walk in the light, as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, His Son, purifies us from all sin.”

– 1 John 1:7, New International Version

“Very early in the morning, while it was still dark, Jesus got up, left the house and went off to a solitary place, where he prayed.” – Mark 1:35, New International Version Making time to communicate with God before your daily morning routine is essential for setting the tone for your day. Morning Prayer acknowledges that your spiritual health is a priority. Prayer fills your mind with wisdom, peace and revelation, while helping you to rid your mind of fears, anxiety and stress.

Daily Declarations “From the fruit of their lips people are filled with good things, and the work of their hands brings them reward.” – Proverbs 12: 14, New International Version Words have power! When you speak positive declarations based on God’s Word from the scriptures, you speak God’s blessings and His perfect, divine Will over your life.

Model Christ “But if we walk in the light, as He is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, His Son, purifies us from all sin.” – 1 John 1:7, New International Version When you model Christ in your home and workplace, it creates an awareness of your actions and how you react to others. Kindness, forgiveness and love take precedence over anger, anxiety and malice when you seek to be like Christ on a daily basis.

Introducing these three daily habits is great way to supercharge your spiritual life whether the rigors of life are becoming overwhelming or things are going smoothly. Regardless of what life brings, a commitment to your spiritual well-being will go a long way in establishing continuing and lasting joy.

From The Well Ministries, an evangelistic ministry of Minister Tina M. France, sharing the hope of the Gospel with the world. For more information about From The Well Ministries, visit www.

FromTheWellMinistries.com.

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Yoga

for Self-Love & Self-Care

By: Kelsey E. Hargrove

BOW POSE/ DHANURASANA Benefits: Strengthens back and stretches abdomen, quadriceps, throat, thorax, psoas major

I’ve experienced a moment or two where a sense of self was lost or left behind. Perhaps a few of you may be able to relate. Whether it was getting lost in your work, a task, or in someone else.

So, how do we refresh, revitalize, and reboot?

Love has always been the answer. This means loving yourself, selfishly, and being okay with that. Taking time to invest in and reaffirm yourself is not an act of arrogance, but one of courage and boldness.

Selfishness vs. Selflessness. Find a healthy balance by simply taking time to open your heart and receive all the magnificence that you have to offer.

Yoga is also a good exercise for selflove and self-care. Grab a mat and let’s stretch!

CRESCENT LUNGE TWIST VARIATION Benefits: Strengthens the quadriceps and gluteus muscles; stimulates abdominal organs; improves digestion and elimination; stretches the psoas and hips; relieves sciatica pain, develops stamina and endurance in your thighs; helps to improve balance, concentration and core awareness.

TWISTED LOW LUNGE VARIATION/ ANJANEYSANA

LOW LUNGE WITH BACK BEND/ ANJANEYASANA Benefits: Releases tension in your hips; stretches your hamstrings, quads, and groin; strengthens your knees and helps build mental focus.

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Benefits: Releases tension in your hips; stretches your hamstrings, quads, and groin; strengthens the knees; helps build mental focus; stimulates digestion as well as circulation, tones abdominal muscles and reduces stress and anxiety Anjaneyasana can also serve as a cleanse and detox to the body.

SUPPORTED CAMEL USTRASANA Benefits: Stretches the front of the body- ankles, thighs, groin, abdomen, chest, and throat; strengthens the low back muscles; improves posture; stimulates the organs of the abdomen and neck.

Camel is no stranger to providing a really nice stretch to the deep hip flexors (psoas), as well.

WHEEL/URDHVA DHANURASA Benefits: Stretches the chest and lungs; strengthens the arms, wrists, legs, buttocks, abdomen, and spine.

Wheel stimulates the thyroid and pituitary glands, increasing energy and counteracting depression.

Research shows that this stretch can also be therapeutic for individuals with asthma, back pain, infertility, or osteoporosis.

HEART CENTERED WILD THING/ CAMATKARASANA

CAMEL/ USTRASANA Benefits: Stretches the front of the body- ankles, thighs, groin, abdomen, chest, and throat; strengthens the low back muscles; improves posture; stimulates the organs of the abdomen and neck.

Camel is no stranger to providing a really nice stretch to the deep hip flexors (psoas) as well.

Benefits: Stretches the chest, lungs, and shoulder areas; opens the front of the legs and hip flexors; builds strength in the shoulders and upper back.

WILD THING CAMATKARASANA Benefits: Stretches the chest, lungs, and shoulder areas. Wild thing opens the front of the legs and hip flexors, and builds strength in shoulders and upper back.

COW FACED POSE/ GOMUKHASANA MEDITATIVE CLOSING Benefits: Stretches the ankles, hips, thighs, shoulders, armpits, triceps, and chest This calming restorative posture is a nice full body bend to slow down the heart rate and come back to the intentions you set at the beginning of your practice.

Kelsey E. Hargrove is owner of Living for Synergy, LLC, a 200-hour yoga instructor, psychotherapist, and personal trainer.

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STYLE GUIDESPRING 2017

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8. Tory Burch Zoey Leather Logo Toe-Ring Sandal $195 Neiman Marcus 9. Sara Battaglia Sandy Leather Crossbody $635 Bloomingdales 10.Vanessa Mooney Knoxville Bolo Wrap Necklace $85 Revolve.com

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Looking Back:

A Legacy Of Women Who've Inspired Us Rosa Parks (1913-2005)

Also known as “the first lady of civil rights” the African-American Rosa Parks was an activist and the pioneer of civil rights in a racially segregated Alabama in the 1950s.

“I would like to be known as a person who is concerned about freedom and equality and justice and prosperity for all people.”

-Rosa Parks

Indira Gandhi (1917-1984)

Indira Priyadarshini Gandhi was an Indian politician and central figure of the Indian National Congress party, and to date the only female Prime Minister of India.

Queen Elizabeth

Elizabeth II has been Queen of the United Kingdom, Canada, Australia and New Zealand since February 6, 1952. Queen Elizabeth is the Head of the Commo-wealth and 12 countries have become independent since her accession.

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“I know of no single formula for success. But over the years I have observed that some attributes of leadership are universal and are often about finding ways of encouraging people to combine their efforts, their talents, their insights, their enthusiasm and their inspiration to work together.”

-Queen Elizabeth

Anne Frank (1929-1945)

Anne Frank was a teen writer who went into hiding during the Holocaust, journaling her experiences in the renowned work The Diary of Anne Frank.

“It's utterly impossible for me to build my life on a foundation of chaos, suffering and death.

I see the world being slowly transformed into a wilderness; I hear the approaching thunder that, one day, will destroy us too. I feel the suffering of millions. And yet, when I look up at the sky, I somehow feel that everything will change for the better, that this cruelty too shall end, that peace and tranquility will return once more.”

—Anne Frank

Audrey Hepburn (1929-1993)

Recognized as film and fashion icon, Hepburn was a British actress, model, dance and humanitarian. Hepburn’s influence as a style icon continues several decades later.

“The beauty of a woman must be seen from in her eyes, because that is the doorway to her heart, the place where love resides.”

-Audrey Hepburn

Hillary Rodham Clinton

Hillary Rodham Clinton is an American politician who was the 67thUnited States Secretary of State, U.S. Senator from New York, First Lady of the United States and Democratic Party’s nominee for President of the United States. She became the first female candidate to be nominated for president by a major U.S. political party.

“Always aim high, work hard, and care deeply about what you believe in. And, when you stumble, keep faith. And, when you're knocked down, get right back up and never listen to anyone who says you can't or shouldn't go on” -Hilary Clinton 18

“Be thankful for what you have; you'll end up having more. If you concentrate on what you don't have, you will never, ever have enough.”

-Oprah Winfrey

Oprah Winfrey

American media proprietor, talk show host, actress, producer and philanthropist, better known as Oprah Winfrey, was awarded the Presidential Medal of Freedom by President Barack Obama and honorary doctorate degrees from Duke and Harvard. Oprah Winfrey is ranked as the most influential woman in the world.

“I have learned that as long as I hold fast to my beliefs and values - and follow my own moral compass - then the only expectations I need to live up to are my own.”

-Michelle Obama

Michelle Obama

Michelle Obama is an American Lawyer and writer who was the First Lady of the United States from 2009-2017. She is married to the 44th President of the United States, Barack Obama, and wasthe first African-American First Lady. As a First Lady, Obama became a fashion icon, a role model for women, and an advocate for poverty awareness, nutrition, physical activity, and healthy eating.

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Viola Davis

Viola Davis is the only African-American to be nominated for three academy awards, winning one, and is the only African American actress or actor to win the Triple Crown Acting. In 2015 she become the first African American woman to win the Primetime Emmy Award for Outstanding Lead Actress in a Drama Series.

"Do not live someone else's life and someone else's idea of what womanhood is.

Womanhood is you.

Womanhood is everything that's inside of you.

-Viola Davis

Selena Quintanilla (1971-1995)

Selena accomplished more than most artists in her tragically cut short life span. “The Queen of Tejano� ranks among the most influential Latin artists of all-time and is credited for catapulting a music genre into the mainstream market.

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Gabby Douglas SHARES HER STORY

Known for her personable, kind-hearted nature and million-dollar smile, it’s hard to believe the Olympic gold medalist we have watched grow up before our eyes is now a 21-year-old woman. Gabrielle Douglas was born on Dec. 31, in Virginia Beach, Virginia. Douglas, the youngest of two sisters and one brother, was raised by her mother, Natalie Hawkins. It was at the 2012 Summer Olympics where we all got to see Douglas’ talent first-hand. It was there where she became the first African American to win gold in the women’s gymnastics individual all-around event. She also won team gold medals at the 2012 and 2016 Summer Olympic Games. Douglas and Hawkins sat down with beauty blogger, Jennell B. Stewart at the annual NuSol Natural Hair and Beauty Expo, where Gabby was the featured keynote speaker. The expo is a unique showcase offering seminars, vendors, and entertainment encouraging not only natural hair but a natural lifestyle.

Q. How old were you when you started gymnastics?

Douglas: I was around six when I started gymnastics. It was my older sister, Arielle, who got me started and convinced my mom to put me in. When I was a 3-year-old, I saw my sister in gymnastics, and knew I wanted to do that. It wasn’t long before I started doing cartwheels and soon taught myself one-arm cartwheels and aerials. My sister saw how well I was doing and told my mom to put me in. I’m the youngest of my family, so my mom really wasn’t feeling it at first because my older sister broke her wrist in two places. Everyone was so protective over me, but eventually, my mom agreed and I took my first rec class. I’ve been in love with gymnastics ever since.

Q. Tell us how about the moment when you realized that Gabby was different than the other girls in her gym, and what did you do to get her to where she is today?

Hawkins: Gabby was flipping off of everything, and I didn’t want her to get hurt, so I thought maybe I need to get her some professional training and enrolled her in her first class at the age of 6. She said she loved it and she progressed so quickly. Once she started learning skills, there was no stopping her. In 2008, at 7 years old, she was watching the Olympics and said “I can do that, too.” I saw that fire and passion in her and thought it was my job as a parent to nurse that. Eventually she told me that she wanted to move away, so I had to decide if I was going to allow her to pursue her dreams or selfishly keep her all to myself. I made the decision to be selfless, which came to be why she went on to accomplish her dreams.

At 14 years old, Douglas moved from Virginia to Iowa to take her training to the next level. In 2009, she won the gold on the uneven bars at the 2010 Pan American Championships, and in 2011, Douglas won a gold medal with the U.S. team at the World Championships.

Q. Gabby can you tell us how the transition from Virginia to Iowa felt for you?

Douglas: I moved away from Virginia Beach to Iowa, when I was about 14 years old. I wanted to move to Iowa to obtain a different style of coaching. I remember when I saw Shawn Johnson, another former Olympic medalist, with her former Coach Chow. I craved that same relationship. I was grateful for the gym I was at, but I felt like I had exceeded all opportunities for growth there. I knew I needed a better style of coaching. When I told my Mom I was moving to Iowa she immediately said “no you’re not,” but I explained to her that if I was going make this dream a reality, then I needed to be with a coach like him. I moved away and lived with a host family. It was different, but I was so excited about my new journey, and I remained close with my family. When my mom and sister helped me move there and they said, “Ok, see ya!”I was like, “Wait, where are you going?” I was so ready for the journey, but at the same time, I was so homesick. I loved it, but it was very hard.

Q: Mom, how did you manage with her being so far away from you?

Hawkins: I actually didn’t manage that well. I had a lot of sleepless nights. My oldest daughter Arielle and my other daughter Joy really had to encourage me. I don’t know what I would have done if I had no one on my side. My mom was not in agreement with the decision to let her move away. My dad hung up on me and wouldn’t talk to me for a few weeks. My friends told me I was crazy for sending her there with no family. My sister reminded me of the lack of diversity in West Des Moines, and they were like, “What are you doing?”

But I knew that she had the potential. I didn’t know what the outcome would be, but I believed in her talent and I believed in her passions. I couldn’t explain that to people. I know it looked crazy, like what kind of mom would do that? But I knew if she made history, then it would be worth it. I knew she had the potential to be the first. People would tell me gymnastics is a white sport, and that I was crazy and dreaming too big. I thought that somebody has to be the first, why not her?

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I think for a lot of parents, we

often make sacrifices and we don’t always know what the end result will be, but hearing you say things that we all can relate to gives a lot of us hope to moving on. Thank you for that.

Flashing forward to four years later at the 2016 Olympics, Gabby helped the U.S. Women’s Gymnastic Team win the gold again and gave impressive performance on the uneven bars. Expecting to be supported by your fans, Gabby Googled herself and saw that she was being attacked once again by cyber bullies.

Q: You witnessed these kinds of things before, but this one was different. Can you tell us about what this time was like?

By 2012, Douglas was 16 years old and went from what some would call the “underdog” to an Olympian taking home a team gold medal and becoming the first African American to win the individual all around gymnastics event, accomplishments her mom predicted and prayed for.

Q: Tell us about the moment when they put the Gold medal around your neck?

Douglas: It felt amazing, I can’t really explain it. Everything I worked so hard for and sacrificed for had paid off. It was so extraordinary to be up on that podium with the Gold. I gave it my all and I made it. I don’t think there’s a better feeling than, “I made it”. It felt so amazing.

I’ve never experienced anything like that but watching you, we all felt like we won gold medals. At that time, media attention really amped up.

Q: Ms. Hawkins, I understand that you made some real sacrifices to support your beautiful daughter.

Tell us about some of the sacrifices you made. We’ve heard about her traveling and you having to let her go and not be with you, but were there any other sacrifices that you can share?

Hawkins: Gymnastics is horribly expensive, so financially the expense was enormous. I worked 80 hours a week sometimes just to make sure my other kids weren’t neglected. My two daughters came to me midway through and told me they would give up their own sports because they believed in her that much.

I cried a lot then too. I felt inadequate. I felt that it wasn’t enough, and being in a sport where most of the parents are attorneys, teachers, doctors or they own their own companies, I just felt so small.

I would say part of the journey for me was to learn how to recognize that I had strength. I told myself not to look at anyone else and compare them to what I’m doing or what I have. Seeing Gabby sacrifice so much pushed me. Even though I had to work a lot, or sacrifice meals, sometimes we didn’t eat, have gas, hot water or air conditioning. It was a lot of sacrifices but I would say in the end it paid off. It all paid off. It all worked out.

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Douglas: In 2012, I received a lot of criticism about my hair and it was just like, “Oh, that’s very stupid.”But this time it was like my hair, my looks, pretty much everything. I was caught off guard and it was a hard Olympics for me.

I was already dealing with a lot of pressure out on the floor and competitions, but I also had to face cyber bullies. It was just not fun and I was so hurt because it was just lies. It really hurt, but some of the tweets I had to laugh at. It was hard to deal with.

I can’t imagine being under so much pressure at the Olympics representing America. To be able to realize your dream is something that everyone wants to be able to do, but then to be under attack by cyber bullies on top of that kind of makes you feel down after achieving such greatness.

Q: You’ve talked about laughing at the comments; you’ve talked about just letting them go.

Do you feel like any of what you were going through with social media affected you during your competition or were you able to separate it?

Douglas: I was able to separate it, but I wanted a team gold medal. I went back to my room and started reading the comments and at first I was laughing and then they got really, really mean. I

am doing a lot of things, some I can’t announce yet, but it is amazing.

was crying everyday because I didn’t qualify for certain competitions, or didn’t medal in certain competitions that I wanted to, competitions that I was favored to medal in. It was very difficult, but I separated the two, not only being down about the competition side of things, but also having to go online and see those comments, it was not good.

I know that you are actively on twitter and in January you actually tweeted, “best part of the day is taking your makeup off.” At this expo, we spend a lot of time celebrating everyone’s unique version of what it means to be natural, beyond just cleaning your face.

Q: What does taking your makeup off mean to you? Is it a way that you celebrate your natural beauty?

Douglas: I love taking my makeup off. When I finish an event, I love to get into my sweats and my oversized sweaters. I will walk into my room and do a quick change and my mom and my sisters say, “Oh my gosh you’ve changed so fast.”

I love to be comfortable and taking everything off is so relaxing. Washing my face and doing my whole hair and skin regimen and skin care regimen is so satisfying.

I think most women would agree that taking off their makeup and your bra is like freedom.

We want you to know that we really support you, everything you stand for. We’ve love what you have done, and we love the support and confidence that you have given to other black women, our black little girls. With that being said, as someone who is a beauty editor in the industry, I was so disgusted with the comments about your hair because I’m thinking, this girl is winning gold medals and yall are worried about her hair?

Q: Ms. Hawkins, I understand that you responded to the criticisms over Gabby’s hair, just like a mama should. Tell us about how these discussions made you feel, and what you did as a proud mom who sacrificed so much to hear such ignorant comments about Gabby’s hair.

Hawkins: I actually wanted to really go off, but I didn’t know if America, or the world for that matter, was ready for that. I felt like there was conversation that needed to be had. A lot of times in our community, it is so much about outward beauty, we don’t celebrate our inner beauty. I was receiving Google alerts to my phone trying to figure out what was going on, so that is how I initially started seeing it.

I was surprised like Gabby, “Her hair, again?

Her edges?” When you’re in gymnastics, you literally have to have your hair in a ponytail at all times. And, as you can imagine, for us it is horribly damaging. Every African American in the sport that I know, has damaged hair. I talked to Dominique Dawes for a while about it and she said that’s why she kept her hair short. It’s a challenge. So I thought maybe people just don’t understand, and I need to get on tv and tell the world to stop talking about stuff that doesn’t matter. We need to be celebrating one another, building one another up, not tearing each other down. People also said that she was bleaching her skin and at that point I wanted to go through the internet. We were too busy trying to win a gold medal, who has time for that?

I wanted to watch myself and I felt like it was important for me to lead by example. If I started going off and retaliating, what kind of example is that showing? Especially for young people who are on our feeds.

Q: I understand that you signed on as a change ambassador for Hack Harassment. Tell us about that role and if there is anything your supporters can do to help your effort?

Douglas: Hack Harassment is an organization that is dedicated to stop online bullying and hate. For me, I am really big on making social media more positive. There are too many negative things on social media nowadays. You can go on their site and take a pledge to not be a bully. I’m going to schools to sit down with kids and share with them that being a bully is not cool. I also tell kids who are being bullied to speak up and tell someone. Miserable people throw darts, so don’t stoop down to their level. I

Q: Ms. Hawkins, they say it takes community, and I know with Hack Harassment you’re bringing this to a global audience by telling people that they should not be cyber bullies and to make that pledge. At New Soul, we see ourselves as a community. What would you say to us as we moved forward on how we can all do better with supporting young women like Gabby?

Hawkins: Be vocal! That is one of the things we really want to focus on. When you say nothing, it says everything. You have to speak up, your actions really do speak louder. You need to be actively participating in your communities, finding positive ways to build each other up.

That is so important. Just a kind word can mean so much to someone. Pay one another compliments and be genuine.

Q: I hear that you’re an author. Can you tell us about your books and where we can find them?

Douglas: I have two books that came out about 4 years ago titled, “Grace, Gold, and Glory: My Leap of Faith“ and “Raising the Bar.” It was so exciting to be able to put my life story in a book. I never thought that would happen to me, and even the movie was so surreal. The first book was mainly about my life and the second was about what I did after the Olympics. I’m all about pictures, captions, quotes and scriptures, which are all in the book. It was really fun. My books are available on Amazon and at Barnes and Noble, as well as a few other bookstores.

Q: We also saw the Barbie in the presentation.

Hawkins: Yes, it is about to hit stores. She had two, but another will be released soon, and you can get it at Walmart. She has always loved Barbies and we feel like she can give girls that symbol that they can play with and say, “if Gabby did it, then I can too.”

Q: What’s next for Gabby Douglas?

Douglas: I am taking a break from gymnastics right now because after the Olympics, your body needs a break. It is so intense, mentally and physically. I just went to Tahiti with my family and it was amazing. There are so many things coming up for me, including my own lipstick line coming out, which I am super excited about and I want to pursue acting. Gabby has teamed up with cosmetics brand Beauty Bakerie, the leading cruelty free cosmetic brand, for a selection of shades. The Gabby Douglas and Beauty Bakerie collaboration will include a specially curated collection and a set of five Lip Whips designed by Gabby herself. As with all items by Beauty Bakerie, the collection will be vegan, cruelty-free, and gluten-free.

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Growing Pains Gaining clarity and peace is a self-seeking and rewarding gift that keeps on giving.

The art of silence can be broken down into three simple steps: seclude, listen and create.

Seclusion allows you time to tame your thoughts and take off your mask. Cleanse yourself of the toxic thoughts, people and energies that are consuming you. (Go on a fast or detox if you have found yourself indulging in reckless eating habits.) Secluding yourself will align you with the heavens. Talking to The Creator and setting intentions for your life will allow you to reach new heights.

Listening allows you to learn life lessons. It grants you the ability to overstand the position you are in now and identify what must be done to press forward. Then, you’ll begin to innerstand; learning more about yourself is the name of the game.

God made us in his image. Finding what it is that sets you apart will give you the spark needed to see things through. Once you have set aside time for yourself, you can sit back and watch the seeds you have sown blossom.

Creating allows you to set your plans in motion. Create the life you deserve. If you have a different vision for your life, then turn that into a reality. Set small goals for yourself to obtain weekly and monthly. Pace yourself for what The Most High is about to bestow upon you. This gives you time to transform into who you truly are and become a beacon of light.

Envision it. Speak it. Write it. Create it.

We’ve all heard the rich old saying Beauty is Pain. However, have we taken the time to see the beauty in pain? Pain allows you to realize your true strength. We often express how much we can't take, but the universe has a way of testing our full capabilities daily. By recognizing the beauty in pain, you’ll experience a season of growth in the midst of chaos. Practicing this also will help you face the harsh realities you’ll encounter as you grow into your higher self.

Often times, things are revealed to us as we grow. We begin to see people and situations for who or what they really are as our frequencies rise. We all have an intuition; if the vibe is not right, then trust that instinct and proceed with caution. As you grow, your light will brighten enough to spark the light inside of others. Growth is contagious.

Peace and Blessing, My thoughts, my views. Share with me, vibe with me. – Rose

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Soledad O’Brien Empowers Us to Tell Compelling Stories to Change the Narrative Written by Dr. Allison Matthews

On Tuesday, Jan. 18, 2017, Soledad O’ Brien delivered a keynote at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill for the annual Martin Luther King Day celebration about the role the community has in fighting inequality.

Soledad: We like to paint the image of Dr. King with a watered-down brush. In some places, they actually celebrate Great Americans Day. Like, he was a great American. He’ s just in there.

Today, the true message of Dr. Martin Luther King is more important than ever because of the contentious climate of the current conservative government administration. We are in a state of economic prosperity, but the gap between the rich and the poor has widened, racial tensions are swelling, and the resources we have available are not effectively reaching the people most in need.

There is an opportunity for individuals to fight for justice by telling compelling stories.

Soledad: I’ ve been a storyteller for nearly 30 years. It’ s really been quite an amazing career. I’ ve had the opportunity to tell those stories, and I’ ve learned the power that is associated with telling stories. If you’ re telling the story, obviously you can shape it the way you like. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. said, “If you have a vision for what you want this country to be, then it requires sacrifice, struggling and suffering.” As a journalist, I spent a lot of time trying to consider what exactly this means for me. I’ m not a big fan of suffering. I don’ t like sacrifice. Struggle is making it to a kickboxing class. What does that exactly mean in terms of today? I think what we need to do is remember that Dr. King’ s speeches were not just meant for us to steal a phrase, put it on a t-shirt and sing kumbaya. When I would do documentaries, people would say all the time, “Dr. King was like Jesus come to earth,” and I would say, actually, he wasn’ t. The big take away from these documentaries was that he was a regular man who decided that he would do great things. For the rest of us, we have that same opportunity.

The challenge for the community is to use the art of storytelling to highlight people’ s humanity, rather than characterize them based on their circumstances.

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Soledad: If you are frustrated, then figure out your strategy. What are you going to do?

Whether you’ re an individual or a big major brand, the narrative that exists about you is where the power lies. In film, in television, and in the news, someone often controls that narrative. Media can make you afraid of the immigrant family who just moved next door.

Media can make you flinch when a black guy gets in the elevator with you. Media can make you think all Latinas are spicy and that there

is this thing called the “sassy black girlfriend.”

This is the power of the media, and oftentimes we abuse that power. So when I ask myself what is my individual responsibility and what is the media’ s responsibility today, not only in the wake of Dr. King’ s message, but today when the country seems more and more divided, I would say that my responsibility is to both: give context to people’ s stories and push back hard on prevailing narratives.

Mrs. O’ Brien reflected on the power of her personal story to shape her perspective on the world and push back on prevailing narratives.

Soledad: My mom is Afro-Cuban. So she’s black and Cuban, and my dad is white and Australian. They met in the late 1950s in Baltimore, Maryland at Johns Hopkins University.

My dad had a car, so he would drive to daily mass and my mom would walk. My dad would basically hit on my mom and ask her if she wanted a ride, which she declined. Back then, you just didn’ t take a ride from a man you didn’t know, even if you were going to sit next to him in church apparently. One day, she said yes and they went on a date. In 1958, interracial marriage was frowned upon, you could get shot! At the restaurant, people would turn them away. Finally, my mom invited him back to her apartment. She’ s an amazing cook of Cuban food. The entire point of her telling this story to her six children, but really her four daughters, was not about discrimination. It was not about segregation. It was not about American politics in the 1950s. It was to tell us, “Girls, if you can cook, you can get a man.” Seriously. My parents decided to get married at the end of 1958 when interracial marriage was illegal in Baltimore.

Their friends said, ‘ Whatever you do, don’t have kids because biracial kids will not fit in anywhere.” I’m number 5 of 6 kids! My parents are obviously terrible listeners. My mother used to say, “Listen, if you wait for people to get comfortable with what you’ re doing, you might be waiting a long time. I suggest you just go ahead and do it.”

At the end of her speech at UNC’ s 2017 Martin Luther King Day celebration, I asked: Your speech about telling compelling stories to change bias is important. However, it’s also important to acknowledge the role that political and economic barriers play in inequality.

Oppression cannot be solved just by telling stories to change individual people’ s beliefs. How do we deal with systematic issues that perpetuate inequality?

Soledad: Yes, you’ re right. Systematic oppression shapes the way we interact and move in the world. It’ s important to also say that we will never eradicate bias, but we can recognize

it. And challenge it. We can chip away at it. We can erode the negative effects on our society by changing the narrative. I think my role is through compelling stories that elevate someone’s narrative. To me, this is the only solution as we try to figure out how we move forward today. The good news is that effects upon unconscious bias can be mitigated by the very same mechanism that causes it. It can be mitigated by seeing new faces, hearing new voices and understanding new stories. It can challenge an audience to think a little bit differently, and it creates systems that allow diversity to thrive.”

O’ Brien’ s experience growing up in an interracial household helped formed her approach to journalism. She aimed to challenge the status quo by portraying diverse people in human terms.

Soledad: Everyone’ s story matters. Part of the fabric of this nation is to make sure that we’ re telling all of our stories. We have to use these sometimes uncomfortable conversations as a springboard to deconstructing the biases that we have, really thinking about inclusion as everybody, and thinking about all of our stories being told as human stories with compassion.

The media exploits these biases. What gets covered? What is flogged in the news? What is the fix? It is simply to tell a different story.

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Create Your Own

Opportunities By: Alexis Bell

and empower women, as well as teach them the difference between the two concepts. Jordan Greene explained that encouraging means to cheer someone on, whereas empowering a person involves providing them with the tools to accomplish what you’re encouraging them to do.

MaxOut Publishing was founded out of Jil’s passion for and ability to plan. She created a personal planner and received numerous requests from family, friends and co-workers who wanted a copy. Soon after producing multiple copies of the personal organizer, titled “A Daily Action Planner,” MaxOut Publishing was birthed. The company works with authors through the publishing, distribution, and marketing process of their book projects.

Jordan Greene is also founder and chief executive officer of The People Resource Group.

Founded in January 2017, the company’s focus is to improve business performance for its clients by developing people, enhancing processes, and enabling systems. The firm caters to small businesses, nonprofits, and professional service organizations.

Jil Jordan Greene created her own career path and credits her internships secured during college and first post-graduation job to the fact that she did not wait to be recruited.

“I called every TV station in my hometown and asked could I audition for an internship at their TV station,” Jordan Greene said. “Most had already filled their internship positions and told me no, but one station invited me to still audition, so I did.”

They were so impressed with her that they obliged her request that a position be created for her.

It was with that same attitude and ambition that Jil launched three businesses: Women’s Youth Empowerment Network, MaxOut Publishing, and The People Resource Group.

The Women’s Youth Empowerment Network, founded in 2008, is an organization that hosts national conferences to encourage and empower women across the country. A couple of events the network hosts are makeup seminars and Fierce and Focused, Lioness and Leader, Intentional, and Empowered (F.L.I.E.) Chicks sessions.

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Although Jil has achieved much success, it was not accomplished without obstacles. Her first job out of college was a turning point in her life and taught a valuable lesson.

After returning from vacation, there was another person sitting at her desk. She learned that because of a costly error that was inadvertently made, management demoted her while she was out of the office.

Jordan Greene called this growth experience, a fumbling forward moment.

From this, she learned about the culture of corporate America and importance of being organized.

“Out of every challenge, should come a lesson you can move forward with,” Jil said. She overcame her obstacle by identifying five success principles- mentorship, plan, work ethic, personal development, and collaboration.

Principle #1: Mentorship Jordan Greene recommends having a mentor who is in a professional position that is at least two levels above where you are.

As she navigated through her career, her mentor’s guidance on proper protocol in professional settings was vital.

“My mentor taught me that decisions about where you sit in a meeting and when you choose to speak or remain silent are important,” Jordan Greene said.

Principle #2: Plan Jil’s book, “A Daily Action Planner,”started as her 90-day personal organizer, then evolved into workshops that helped people plan and write out their goals, and later became the foundation for MaxOut Publishing.

On numerous occasions she has been overlooked because she is a women of color. One instance in particular occurred when she was a human resources professional and had to escort a tall, White male employee to court for mediation. Upon checking in, the security officer prompted the employee to provide his signature where one from a supervisor or manager was required. The gentleman passed the pen to Jil and told the officer, “She’s the boss.”

Jil prides herself on staying grounded in her five principles and continues to encourage others to create their own opportunities in life instead of waiting for them to arrive.

“It’s amazing to me that people don’t see the value in planning, even in college,” she said.Jordan Greene strongly encourages mapping out a plan. While in her 20s, she mapped out her personal career plan in as much detail as she could. She included goals she wanted to reach by a certain age, jobs she planned to have, as well as her desired salary.

“One of my goals was to be a Vice President by the time I turned 40, and at 38, I accepted a VP position.” she said. “It’s important to have a plan, write it down, and stick to it. Most people don’t reach their goals, because they have checklists that aren’t tied to a larger plan inclusive of their purpose or passion.”

Principle #3: Work Ethic Jil credits where she is in life today to having a strong work ethic. She emphasizes creating your own opportunities, as she has successfully done in her own life. In her pursuit of internships, jobs, and even mentorships, she preferred to seek opportunities out rather than wait for a chance.

Principle #4: Personal Development Personal development is having something to anchor yourself down to. For Jil, it is self -confidence.

“I tell myself that I’m imperfectly beautiful,” said Jordan Greene. “This comes from a Bible scripture that I’ve kept close to me over the years and when I recite that, something inside of me stands up. I love myself. I love what I am and I love what I ain’t.”

She believes everyone should have something they are anchored to, so when times become tough, one knows what they stand for.

Principle #5: Collaborate Jordan Greene said she collaborates with everything she does and her philosophy on the principle is “If you want to do something good, go solo. If you want to do something great, collaborate.”

Despite her five success principles and starting businesses, Jil faced challenges in the workplace. “I was often the youngest and brownest professional at the table,” she said.

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Shahina Javed’s

Fight for Gender Equality in India

Written by: Shahina Javed Translated by: Joyeeta Datta Photography and Facilitation: Tiffany A. Bloomfield

I am Shahina Javed, I belong to a Muslim family of Rajabazar, which is in Kolkata. My family is made up of my father, mother, three brothers and myself. Shahina means bird; like a bird I also wish to fly and see the world, and learn many things. As I grew up, I came to realize the not only biological but societal difference between a boy and a girl. As a girl I cannot dress as I wish, I have to stay inside the house and speak softly; I cannot question anything for I am a girl. The reputation of my family is believed to be in my hands because I am a girl, and so these rules apply to me. In our locality girls study hard in order to get married to a wealthy man. The whole family expects a lot from this marriage; even the bride-to-be. She is trained by her family to endure the inhumane tortures that will come to her after marriage.

Everyone says that our society is what it is, and that a change is not possible. I argue with my family on a daily basis over these issues, but I have a hard time expressing my opinion properly. Maybe, without realizing, I too am attempting to abide to society’ s stereotypes of the ‘ ideal girl’ . I do not believe in it, but it is very hard to escape your daily reality; I do not feel it in my heart yet I help my mother do chores, I wear salwar kameez (traditional Indian outfit for women), and I speak softly.

After high school I became associated with a NGO and the filthy picture of brutality against women unfolded itself before my eyes. I came to know in detail about the miserable situations the women in our society live in; Jealousy is the reason behind violence against women, we are not given equal status to men; we are considered the second sex. I thus formed Roshni Centre, a youth group with young boys and girls in my locality, we raise our voice against the injustice on women and we handle many cases of domestic violence against women and children; illiteracy; poor health among mothers and adolescent girls; substance abuse by early adolescents and youths; and child trafficking.

I would like to share the story of Firdaus, a woman in my neighborhood. She had two children by the time she was thirty, and was beaten by her drunk husband every night. She explained the miserable situation she was going through to her family, but nobody listened despite her repeated calls for help.

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two children made reconsidering her marriage impossible. So, for the sake of her family’ s reputation, she tolerated the brutal tortures silently.

Eventually, Firdaus was burned alive by her husband and in-laws. I don’ t know how long she endured pain before death.

The story does not end here.

Firdaus’s husband established her murder as a suicide case. Since he is an influential man, no investigation was performed and the case has been closed forever. He compensated Firdaus’s family with two flats (property) in exchange for silence about her death.

Every day there is a “Firdaus” being tortured in similar ways, and dying.

Divorce is a social stigma in our society except when it comes to men. Husbands are allowed to separate from their wives when they please. However, women are not allowed to mention separation, even if they are victims of domestic abuse. Such brutality and injustice can only be stopped when society changes its views towards women. Therefore, I’ ve decided to fight for gender equality in the central Kolkata Rajabazaar area.

I’ m not successful every time, and sometimes I’ m shattered by incidents and setbacks that I come across, yet I revive my energy and strength against the struggle. A struggle against the stereotype that is thrust upon women by this patriarchal society, not by Allah (Urdu term referring to God).

I know that this is not easy work, and that to make change I must be in position of authority. For this reason, I decided to become a politician to bring essential changes to the system. There are quota seats for women living in my area, but this, of course, is conditioned. Most women involved have politically powerful male family members and are controlled by them. This patriarchal society would never allow a woman to have control. I face many challenges in my quest.

Questions are often raised about my attire, my character and the change that I talk about and passionately believe in. I was defeated in an election against four male candidates because of a conspiracy. They thought it would be impossible to control me if I were to win. After this defeat, my family and I were harassed and threatened, but I did not and will not give up.

I will always raise my voice of concern for any type of injustice against women.

Another goal of Roshni Centre is to provide women in my community with opportunities to break conventional ideas of what a woman should be or do. After many challenges, I was able to form a female football team in my community, and some women have become professional drivers.

This is not the end.

I’ ve started my journey and have a long way to go. I’ m very optimistic because although it might be difficult, it’ s not impossible to break through the archaic, conventional rules established by the system.

I know I’ m not alone in my fight to end injustices against women. We are a community of people making an effort towards this goal, and we will reach our destination soon.

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Stephanie Frazier Grimm Brings Birthday Joy to Most Vulnerable By: Alexis Bell

After Stephanie Frazier Grimm learned that a young boy, who had been hospitalized since birth, was spending his first birthday in the hospital, she began to wonder how the health care facility celebrated such special days.

“I started calling local hospitals and all of them told me that they did not do anything to recognize their young patient’s birthdays,” Grimm said. “It’s not that they didn’t want to, but that they just didn’t have the means to do it.”

Grimm believed that every child deserved to have a birthday celebration, and on Jan. 1, 2014 she launched The Confetti Foundation.

The Confetti Foundation is a nonprofit organization partnered with Children’s Hospitals in the United States. Volunteers come together in Newport, Rhode Island, where the foundation was founded, and make custom party boxes for the families of young patients. The boxes are packed with birthday essentials including handmade birthday cards, a birthday banner, plates, napkins, utensils and decorations. Since the foundation started, multiple hospitals across 43 states have “birthday fairies” and “birthday heroes” who deliver the birthday boxes.

“I love birthday parties, but I also love to see the camaraderie of people getting together and giving,” Grimm said.

The Confetti Foundation, however, is not Grimm’s first business. She founded Mama & Bambino in Nov. 2004, a company that makes customized accessories and gifts for mothers and their babies that she sold in 2006.

In addition, Grimm has been the owner and creative director for Couture Parties – a full-service boutique, event design and planning company – since May 2008. She said that she loves weddings and event planning, so it’s no wonder that she considers birthday celebrations to be momentous occasions.

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began to wonder how the health care facility celebrated such special days. “I’m an event planner with a huge network of industry friends,” Grimm said. “In December 2013, I made a post on social media that said ‘I’m starting a nonprofit, who wants to be on board?’”

It has been three years since The Confetti Foundation was founded, and since then the organization has assisted in the celebrations of more than 2,200 birthdays. The business quickly became successful, but Grimm still faced certain challenges.

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Empowering Women:

How Cook’s Blurred Vision Evolved into Clear Success

Carrie B. Cook, a native of Charlotte, North Carolina, was returning from China in May 2011 whenAlexis she fell illBell with a bacterial infection.

By: While hospitalized, she read the inspirational book “Sun Stand Still” by Steven Furtick, and was moved by what she describes as a distinct and divine assignment to do more to empower girls and women.

Cook wondered “what exactly does ‘more’ look like? And what is it supposed to be?” She was already tutoring and mentoring girls at local schools, and often times those girls had friends who wanted a mentor too.

“Sometimes the universe is pushing or pulling us in a certain direction,” Cook said. “We feel the urgency and calling to do something specific with our lives, but often we hold ourselves back with questions about where to begin, because we want a clear picture and plan.”

Cook said that the end goal doesn’t always have to be clear to get started.

That same summer, Cook organized a leadership event with 60 young women and girls for what would become the inaugural EmpowHERment Summit.

EmpowHERment Inc. is a Charlotte-based nonprofit organization committed to empowering a continuous network of girls and women to be leaders through mentorship, talent development and advocacy. The programs connects girls in grades six through 12 with women in their local communities. Cook, founder of EmpowHERment, says that empowering girls and women with resources, skills and networks helps them become better leaders. Middle school-aged girls participate in a 12-month leadership academy and the annual EmpowHERment Summit. When girls are in 9th grade, they can continue in those programs, and apply for the mentoring program where they receive a one-on-one mentor through a four-year comprehensive high school leadership develop43 THE PREVAILING WOMAN

with time, she built a team around her and delegated responsibilities, so that everyone owned their success.

“Ask your family and friends first, because everyone has a different skill set they can bring to the table,” she said. “Communicate a clear vision and ask for help.”

Cook said it is critical to have a team of believers and doers who will work to implement the vision.

She and her team have been able to reach hundreds of girls through the EmpowHERment program. It has quickly grown, from 60 girls attending the first summit in 2011, to more than 300 girls participating in 2016. The number of volunteers has quadrupled, with over 100 women volunteers participating in the annual summit and year-long programs.

ment curriculum. Cook said that it is important for women to have opportunities to share their experiences and knowledge with adolescent girls and to have the girls reciprocate that shared learning with their mentors and peers.

The first year of the mentorship program is dedicated to developing a leadership portfolio.

“Our participants can do anything that they set out to do, but we are there to help them develop a plan,” Cook said. “I encourage all of our girls to explore and be curious. I also tell them that experiencing failure is natural. And important.

We really try to emphasize that they don’t have to be perfect to lead.

Everyone fails something sometimes; the key is to fail forward. What did you learn from the experience to become a better leader?”

The girls work on civic advocacy projects in an area of their interest during their second year and participate in a service learning trip in the third year of the program. The EmpowHERment program ends with an internship through the Mayor’s Youth Employment Program in Charlotte, North Carolina, during their fourth year.

“When you empower girls and women, you can change entire communities,” Cook said.

Cook said that she started this nonprofit because there were organizations for women and separate organizations for girls, but there was no clear bridge organization that connected the two in an intentional way with this reciprocal leadership growth model.

While starting her nonprofit, Cook said that she learned two important lessons: monetize your

expertise and time, and do your research.

“Most people want to go out and start something and, I think that’s amazing if there truly is a need,” she said.

As an entrepreneur, Cook said it’s important to do research first and to ask, “What else exists like this?”

After vetting her idea with community organizers and leaders, Cook immediately started planning the first EmpowHERment Summit in 2011. Since she was just starting out, she partnered with another company to launch the event. While the partnership helped to jumpstart her business, Cook warns against diluting your brand. Partnerships are great, but you have to go in with a clear understanding of each party’s role, responsibility, expectation and brand.

One obstacle Cook faced as a social entrepreneur was spreading herself too thin. She was limited on resources and time to dedicate to her start-up, especially since she still had a full-time job.

“I was out in public, wearing my EmpowHERment shirt, and a lady stopped me and said, ‘Oh, my daughter went to that last year and she loved it,’” Cook said. That was a surreal moment.

Now, Cook is focused on ensuring that EmpowHERment stays true to its mission. As more people join her team, she has to ensure all personnel, staff and volunteers are on the same page.

“You have to know yourself and remember why you’re on this path,” she said. “Ask yourself, ‘Why was this thing important to me in the first place?’ If your answer is not rooted in your why, then when times get tough you won’t make it.

Your why is your mission, and the reason you were called to action. Don’’t ever lose your why.

“The path becomes clearer when you know your why,” said Cook. “It’s not just hard work, but it’s also heart work.”

She said that the search for resources was similar to the chicken and the egg scenario.

“People don’t want to just give you money without seeing what you’re doing and what you’ve accomplished,” she said. “But you need money and other resources to help build a solid foundation and establish measurable progress.”

Cook said that fortunately, she started to research budgets and resources ahead of time, to prepare for building EmpowHERment. She also worked with a committed team of volunteers to capture data and ask for evaluations before and after events. This allowed to demonstrate need, impact and results. To overcome her challenge 44

Leap in Faith,

Land in Your New Career By: Alexis Bell Julie Mowery is a professional harpist, wife and mother of two from Grand Rapids, Michigan who never thought her life journey would land her in Cancun, Mexico working for Back2Back Ministries.

Back2Back Ministries is an international Christian nonprofit that has been dedicated to meeting the spiritual, physical, educational, emotional and social needs of orphans since 1997. Back2Back Ministries launched a family preservation program in Cancun, Mexico in 2010. A year later, Julie and her husband moved to Cancun with their son to be co-directors of the site. The Mowery’s said that they were attracted to the job because it focused on helping people holistically. “We realized you can’t tell someone about Christ if they’re hungry and they’re living on the streets,”Mowery said. “ We have to build a relationships with them and show them that we care first.” Since moving to Cancun, Mowery has been committed to family preservation and orphan prevention. She said that her focus on strengthening families started with one woman she met in 2011.

“She had eight children and was at risk of losing some of the kids to the government shelter,” Mowery said. “The government contacted Back2Back and asked if we could provide support so that the children could stay with their mother. That experience spurred us on to create the Strong Families Program where we focus on providing support to children and parents.” In addition to leading projects like the Strong Families Program since being in Cancun, Mowery also has helped build a community center in Tres Reyes which is an impoverished community outside of Cancun.

With the help of Back2Back Ministries child sponsorship program (CSP), Mowery has helped more than 200 children and their families through programs that feed, tutor and provide services that pay for medical needs such as glasses.

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Mowery said that the transition to her current position was not easy.

“If you would have told me 10 years ago that I’d be here doing this today, I would’ve said, ‘there’s no way,’” she admitted.

Her journey started in the summer of 2000, when she realized fear was holding her back from saying “yes” to opportunities. After reading the book “If You Want to Walk on Water You’ve Got to Get Out of the Boat”

by John Ortberg, she decided to do one thing every summer to get her out of her comfort zone. Some of the challenges were physical, like climbing a rock wall. Some were emotional challenges where she tried new things she never thought she could do, such as running a mini marathon. Other challenges were social and took her to places she never would have gone before- serving in a soup kitchen and going on a mission trip to Guatemala. Over time, all of the little things shifted her in a new direction.

“Your life looks completely different when you don’t let fear dictate what you say yes to,” Mowery said.

“At first you don’t realize the impact that making small changes can have, but over the course

of five years, my life began to move in a totally different direction because I didn’t let fear keep me from saying yes,” Mowery said.

This would not be the last time books guided Mowery and gave her new direction. She and her husband both became avid readers to be better prepared for the job they would soon endure.

The career jump from a professional harpist to working in community development is something Mowery admits she was not adequately trained for. Although she felt unequipped for the job, she remained practical and embraced what would be a grand learning curve.

Mowery said that reading the book “When Helping Hurts” by Brian Fikkert and Steve Corbett helped prepare her to implement change in Cancun.

leaders were open to her questions and wanted to give their time to help.

“When you’re trying to overcome hurdles, you have to be intentional,” Mowery said. “You have to plan and ask questions.”

tired and asks herself, “Is there something else I could be doing?” But, she quickly answers her own question, reminding herself that there’s nothing else she rather do.

Although Mowery has overcome many obstacles, there are still challenges that confront her.

She still has trouble with the language and warns against compassion, fatigue, and not allotting enough time for rest.

“I still have a vision for what I want to see happen, and I know there is a lot left to be done,” she said. “Sometimes I wonder if I’m the best person to make it happen because I don’t speak the language, but I know this is my calling.”

Mowery said that there are days when she gets

“If you stay humble and teachable, you’ll get to a place where you can start making direct impacts on communities,” Mowery said.

Coupled with reading, Julie was not afraid to ask questions. One of the ways she made it through project management in Cancun was by meeting with people who had done it before.

“If you can find someone who is doing something better than you, learn from them,” she said.

Mowery interviewed leaders from community centers throughout the United States and tried to understand what they did that worked well to bring those pieces to Cancun. She said that 46

Day WITHOUT women

by Ariane Datil

It was March 8 and women across America were wearing red, not participating in work whether paid or unpaid and only spending their money at women owned businesses. Internationally the day is always known as International Womens Day, but this year in America everyone was calling it a Day without Women.

For me, as a new reporter, taking the day off just wasn’t an option so I knew that I needed to find a way to use my platform to help promote the bigger cause: pay (in)equity for women.

I asked my producer if I could cover #DayWithoutWomen through the eyes of three different women: an employment lawyer, a politician and a teacher. Through these points of view I planned to show how women who weren’t protesting were productively spending their day and whether or not the strike would be an effective way to promote change in our society.

I made a lot of calls and a many stops throughout my day each one helping me paint the full picture with bold colors.

First stop: Society Hill to meet with Vanessa Snyder. Vanessa was raised by a single mother who taught her and her sister that they could do anything they wanted. Now a litigation attorney at Axel Rod, a women owned law firm here in Philadelphia, Vanessa works predominantly in employment law and spends her free time putting together presentations about pay equity, or inequity (as it stands) in our country. Vanessa helped me lay down the facts in my story.

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But the facts get worse when you look specifically at pay (in)equity in our country.

Here’s part of our interview: Vanessa: We’ve never had a woman senator form PA, we have no women in congress representing us right now (this is crazy in 2017), we’ve never had a woman governor, and we’ve also not had a woman president.

Ariane: We’re not doing so well. Our report card looks pretty terrible. The report card I was referring to is our rating of women in Pennsylvania who participate in the legislative branch. Take a look at it for yourself.

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Vanessa: In terms of the pay equity issue, women in America only make 76 cents for every dollar that a man makes. In terms of African American women, they only make 69 cents for every dollar a man makes and Latinas....This is going to blow your socks off...55 cents for every dollar. ...These numbers factor in education and also experience...

Many contrarians claim that statistics about pay equity are never expressed as apples to apples.

Having looked at the study myself, I can confirm that the study Vanessa referred to compares the salaries of men and women who hold the same job, within the same company and have attained equivalent levels of education.

So we know, factually, that there is an issue. But how do we combat this issue of pay inequity and why is a strike the way women are choosing to accomplish this?

Second stop: I headed over to City Hall to speak with Philadelphia city councilwoman at large Helen Gym who, after giving all of her female staff the day off to observe the strike decided to spend her day with teachers at an informational picket.

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My story started at the front door of her office suite when I saw the sign on the door announcing that all female employees were observing the strike.

There was a skeleton crew of two men and the councilwoman running the ship. One of her male assistants directed me back to her office where Helen was waiting for me dressed head to toe in red - a clear declaration of her support for the cause.

My goal in talking to Helen was to figure out if a strike was the best option to get the message of pay (in)equity to the masses AND have it effect change. Ariane: What do you say to people who don’t think a strike is the best way to show the impact of women in society?

Helen: There are a lot of ways to show impact and a strike is one of them. I think it’s important for strikes to occur and to remind people to pay attention to what it means to have women’s work, paid and unpaid be a part of our society...

It this city sometimes we have to make noise and strike and then come back to work the next day to try to make change.

Well on that day, in that building work was definitely being done to combat party disparities based on gender. As I was leaving the building, heading back to the studio to present my story on-air I ran into a female teacher and some of her female students who were gathering at City Hall for a round table discussion about the issue.

Teachers were a major cause of tension on that day. When an entire school district in Alexandria, VA was forced to close for the day because so many teachers call out many people took to Facebook to express their frustrations.

I read through an extraordinary number of their posts. The overwhelming question: Did striking for this particular cause go against teachers’ commitment to providing an education to their students?

That leads me to me third stop: A rally and protest an Benjamin Franklin Parkway in Philadelphia.

I spoke to many teachers, but one in particular stood out the most; her name is Zoe Buckwalter.

Zoe: I want my students to know [the value of] the work that women do...especially my girls. When they grow up and they’re working and not being paid enough and they’re working in unfair conditions [I need them to know] they have the right to demand better conditions and I want to show them how to do that.

It was clear to me that the teachers who chose to observe the strike were also doing their part to help teach our young women that women are capable of accomplishing the same tasks as men.

It was also clear to me that a day without women (in the workplace) did not mean a day without work. In fact, from my point of view, there was There is so much work to do and there are many women ready and will to do it, but we need more. I’ll leave you with a story from Vanessa about how we need to instill in our young girls the belief that they are CAPABLE, they are ENOUGH and they are the KEY to a future that values and promotes EQUALITY. Vanessa: I recently attended The Ready to Run program put on by the Pennsylvania Center for Women & Politics (PCWP). Dana Brown, the Executive Director of PCWP, ended the event with her “ Asparagus Story.” My apologies if I get any of the exact facts wrong. She explained that a friend was asked to work on the staff of a new Governor. The Governor tasked the friend with reaching out to individuals the Governor wanted to appoint to fill various positions. The friend called the first name on her list, a woman, and explained to her that the Governor would be honored to appoint her to the Asparagus* Committee (*not really Asparagus). The potential appointee explained that she loved asparagus, she fed her kids asparagus every day, she studied asparagus her whole life—but—she just didn’t think she knew enough about asparagus to help the Governor and, thus, she must decline the appointment. The friend then called the next name on her list for the Asparagus Committee appointment, a man. The friend explained to the man that the Governor would be honored to appoint him to the Asparagus Committee, and he accepted.

We all have had an Asparagus moment. But, this little story is a good reminder that we must remember not second-guess our worth, knowledge, and capabilities. And eat your asparagus!

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