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The Magazine For San Joaquin Women

Dr. Patricia Hatton ■

Helping Those In Need

Peek-A-Boutique Dragonfairy Body & Soul ■

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PUBLISHER Roger Coover PUBLICATIONS DIRECTOR Deitra R. Kenoly EDITOR Karen Bakhtegan CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Kim Robinson Charleen Earley Susie Bowers Sandra Gordon CONTRIBUTING PHOTOGRAPHER Sheridan Blackard GRAPHIC DESIGNERS Jason Ente Dan Loeffelbein COVER PHOTO BY Sheridan Blackard

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P NEWYEAR A

January 2012

Karen Bakhtegan Editor

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t’s hard to believe another year has passed so quickly, and here we are in 2012.

I guess it’s true what they say about time flying when you are having fun. It has been quite an adventure watching the pages of San Joaquin Woman Magazine come alive with each edition in 2011. We have so many amazing, talented, generous, and interesting women in our county. The best part is that there are so many more to meet, which means we can continue to introduce you to them, along with all the great businesses and products in our community, longtime and newcomers alike.

In this edition you will meet a local OB/GYN whose skills are only outweighed by her generosity, take a walk in the shoes of a local salon owner who goes the extra mile with each and every client, and gain insight into making 2012 your best year yet with sound advice from our resident Angel Whisperer Kim Robinson. You will also take a peek into a magical boutique, and sample a collection of eclectic hotels and spas that will inspire a bit of wanderlust.

Facebook.com/RecordSpecialtyPublications San Joaquin Woman magazine is published six times a year by The Record, 530 E. Market Street, Stockton, CA 95202. All information written for publication in San Joaquin Woman magazine is believed to be accurate. Readers must assume all responsibility for their own actions based on this information. Occasionally a product or company may be named in an article, but does not constitute an endorsement of said product.

San Joaquin Woman magazine assumes no responsibility for claims made by advertisers.

Photos and content become the sole property of San Joaquin Woman magazine and may be used, published or edited without limit or obligation to the author.

Copyright 2012. All rights reserved.

Reproduction is prohibited without the permission of the publisher. For more information, go to sanjoaquinwoman.com.

To advertise in San Joaquin Woman magazine, call (209) 546-8200

While moving swiftly into this new year, we are looking for fashionable kid photos, aged 0-5, for our Tot Culture feature, and girlfriend outings for our Chick Pics pages. Send high -resolution electronic photos to sjwoman@recordnet.com. …and for something really fun and new, Kim Robinson will be answering questions within her featured articles. So send your questions about how to reach your goals and get everything you want in 2012 to kimrobinsonintuitive@gmail.com and you just might find your answers in our next edition.

As always, any ideas, thoughts, or comments are welcome. Just let us know what you think, and what you want to see in upcoming editions, by emailing me at kbakhtegan@recordnet.com and remember to visit our facebook page and click the “like” button if you like what you see.

Cheers to 2012 and all it promises to be.

CONTENTS

BODY, MIND & SPIRIT

8 Dr. Patricia Hatton Helping Women in Need

12 Bibbidi-Bobbidi-Boo

by Kim Robinson

14 Living a Joyful Life FASHION 17 Gotta Have it!

Fun and functional fashion and accessories

PEEK-A-BOUTIQUE 20 Dragonfairy Body and Soul BEAUTY 24 Honey recipes for skin and hair A

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CAREER 28 Walking a Mile in Her Shoes

Marcella at Destinations Salon makes your day

GETAWAYS 30 Unique Boutiques

Hotels for the Traveler with Soul

FOOD 34 Warm your tummy and your soul with this yummy soup recipe CHICK PICS

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BY CHARLEEN EARLEY PHOTOS BY SHERIDAN BLACKARD

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ith over 10,000 babies delivered at her

hands, you could say Dr. Patricia Ann Hatton, M.D. of Stockton is responsible for a small city of people, but she’s not the type who would ever take credit.

Doctor of obstetrics and gynecology, Hatton owns the After Hours Medical Clinic for Women located on East Harding Way, and gives full credit to her Savior, for giving her the knowledge and talent to do what she does.

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INSPIRED BY THE GREAT PHYSICIAN DR. HATTON HELPS THOSE IN NEED “God has to be the center of my life,”

Her solo practice ran a span of 26 years

said Hatton, 61, a member of Evans African

from 1981 to 2007. In 2009, she became

Methodist Episcopal Church. “When I keep

Medical Director of the After Hours Clinic for

in that direction, I have no fear that my

Women, which is where you’ll find her doing

accomplishments will be obtained.”

what she loves best – helping others.

do the work and work hard, but you’ll end up on the right side.”

She talked about her greatest challenges in her field of work.

“I find it very challenging at times to

Her medical office receives patients of all

“Helping people is so fulfilling. I really

get certain insurance companies to approve

nationalities and all walks of life, with our

enjoy the fact that I’m able to help contribute

surgeries and procedures that are needed for

without insurance.

to society in general,” said Hatton, mother to

the patients,” explained Hatton, who is also a

John Patrick Nisby, 22, with her late husband

1986 Susan B. Anthony Award winner.

“We do not turn anyone away, and we base our fees on a sliding scale,” she said.

Born in East Bernard, Texas, and raised in Wallis, Hatton earned her BS degree at

John Nisby, a former Pittsburgh Steelers

“But the greatest joy of my job,” she added,

lineman and three-time Pro Bowl offensive

“is knowing that I have done something to

guard.

improve the patient’s quality of life.”

Houston Tillotson College in Austin, Texas,

When she’s not working, she can be found

Another joy of hers is giving back to her

where she majored in chemistry and minored

hiking, walking, reading Jane Austen books,

community through the non-profit organization

in mathematics.

golfing or traveling to see her mother Minnie

Ebenezer Economical Corporation.

“When I was a little girl, I thought I wanted to be a nurse. I loved the sciences and math

in Texas, or her son who is a junior at Boise State University.

“It sponsors a Saturday tutoring program,” said Hatton. “Free tutoring in math and

classes!” said Hatton, who was nominated

Growing up in a loving family of seven

Outstanding Young Woman of America in

siblings, Hatton credits her aunts, uncles,

1980.

grandparents and parents as her role

And when it comes to free advice, Hatton

models. One who stands out the most is her

talks about the one question she gets asked

grandmother Mable, Dickerson.

by everyone.

She later went to the University of Texas Medical School in Galveston, Texas, and did her

reading is offered to students in the fourth through twelfth grades.”

resident training in OB/GYN at the San Joaquin

“My grandmother always said to put God

“People ask me all the time, ‘what diet

County Hospital in French Camp from 1976 to

first and go forward with whatever you want to

should I follow?’” she said. “Eat healthy and

1980.

do, but put Him first,” she said. “You have to

exercise more. It’s really that simple!”

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BIBBIDI-BOBBIDI-BOO!

BY KIM ROBINSON

Guess what?

I’m about to tell you a secret… a BIG secret! So big in fact, that at first you might not perceive it as such. That’s okay though, for only those steeped in this “reality” called life generally catch it on the very first go round.

Are you ready? Pay attention now, because this secret is so profound it will completely change your life if you’ll let it.

Ready?

Drum roll, please...

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“IT’S ALL IN THE BABY STEPS, BABY!”

ou’re probably thinking, “they pay her to

instant by some seemingly cruel twist of fate.

may have forgotten we possess these magical

write this stuff?” But wait! I told you, it can

Or make illness and disease completely fade

powers. The spiritual amongst us know to ask

seem almost anti-climactic at first, but this is

from our lives so we can thrive and flourish

Divine Source for what they want. But then they

HUGE stuff! It’s the stuff all kinds of wonderful,

once again.

go about their way, waiting for it to magically

incredible and magnificent things are built on!

We

are

appear and when it doesn’t, they feel sadness.

The stuff that makes DREAMS come true…and

crazyfabulouswonderful (yes, it’s one word

The fact is there’s a formula we can follow

conversely makes nightmares recede. It can

in my world). We are in fact THE SPIRIT OF

that’s almost as exciting as the “Bibbidi-

even work magic on the type of dreams most

LIFE! We are gifted with the ability to wave

Bobbidi-Boo!” of Cinderella fame. It’s how we

of us have no idea how to fix, the ones we call

the magic wand of our thoughts and thereby

create and how we let go. Allow me to teach

shattered dreams. The dreams we never talk

engage the Universe and create WHATEVER

it to you…

about anymore that were dashed down in an

we desire. Somewhere along the line we

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Step1 Examine all your beliefs and behaviors and discard anything that no longer works and wasn’t put there by YOU! Too many times we allow the programming of others to create our lives. That stuff can be toxic, so let go of it NOW!

Step2 Starting with the end result in mind, imagine what it is that you want. Call me crazy, but I know the Universe works backwards…so “seeing” things as already done brings your desire to you faster.

Step3

Take those baby steps! Find small, non-scary things you can do to start bringing your dream into reality or to let go of your nightmare. The Universe will do most of the work for you, but by taking baby steps you put yourself in the space of receivership, and that allows the magic to flow! I can already see your little feet stepping, and hear you shouting, “COME ON UNIVERSE! …GIVE IT TO ME, GIVE IT TO ME!”

Step4

This one is ALL about the Universe. YOU don’t have to do a darned thing! (See, THIS is why I get paid the big bucks.)

Because as you sent out your very first thought, and took your first eensy, weensy step, the crazymagicalamazing Universe CREATED it all for you! Wham! Right here, right NOW! Just in a totally new NOW in the ethereal planes. All you have to do is visualize the end results once a day, adding in lots of “I’m doing THE HAPPY DANCE!” emotions and take baby steps. And before you know it, as if by magic, you suddenly have your “happily ever after.” And you don’t even have to go looking for pumpkins or mice in mucky fields in your glass slippers. Didn’t think I knew about those slippers, did you?

There’s one thing I’ve found that seems to make the baby steps easier, and I encourage you to use them also.

Affirmations somehow link us to the Divine in some mystical, magical, yet practical way that makes us feel better about ourselves and causes our receivership doors to open wide. Find me on Facebook if you’d like to share mine, or feel free to make up your own, just as you do your “creations.” You can even say “Bibbidi-Bobbidi-Boo!” when you’re done. That’s what I do.

Here’s to creating wonderful things, while wearing your glass slippers, doing the HAPPY DANCE and shouting, “COME ON, UNIVERSE!” I can just see the Angels dancing with you and hear them saying, “and they all lived happily ever after!” Please don’t even TRY telling them that fairytales have gone out of style.

Kim Robinson is an intuitive life coach in stockton. Combined with her unique gift of intuition, her non-standard approach helps people deal with issues such as grief, low self-esteem, anger, depression, substance abuse, compulsive behavior, financial difficulties, sexual abuse, control issues and weight and eating disorders, just to name a few.

WWW.KIMROBINSONINTUITIVE.COM DO YOU HAVE A QUESTION FOR KIM? email your questions to kimrobinsonintuitive@gmail.com and you may find your answers in the next edition of San Joaquin Woman Magazine.

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LIVING A JOYFUL LIFE FROM THE SOUL’S PERSPECTIVE

BY SUZIE BOWERS

People often ask me, “what does it mean to live a ‘Soul’ life?”

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lthough I could answer in many

different ways, what has become clear to me is that living a soul life means coming from a higher, wiser perspective and out of “victim” consciousness. From the Soul perspective there is an inner awareness that everything experienced on the human level is an opportunity for growth and learning. It is through the awakened consciousness that we find the inherent abilities to create the life circumstances we desire; the health, the relationships, the fulfilling career, the passion for life. The awakened consciousness leads us to our Soul perspective, the very essence of who we are, the energy that animates our lifeforce and is uniquely us.

When we live as our Soul, as an “awakened consciousness” we have a deeper awareness of the connection to the Divine Source of All That Is. From this level, we can no longer live as an unconscious, suffering, victim of life, but instead accept responsibility for every experience, the good as well as the “bad.”

Why is this important now? More than ever, we are living in a world where change and uncertainty have become the norm. We have all been touched by challenges and fearful messages locally and around the world as our way of life is exploding through an evolutionary shift. Changes are happening so rapidly that it almost takes your breath away.

Many have lost their homes, their careers, and in some ways even their identities that were associated with those “things.” Technology is causing a complete change in the very way we communicate.

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So how do we cope with our emotions

also able to focus his mind on forgiveness

were looking for answers for how this could

in a world of rapid change and uncertainty?

and find elusive beauty in the simple act of

happen to them or their loved one, and what

Do we blame others? Do we get offended, or

being alive. His choice of reaction, his choice

they could do about it.

do we bury our head in the sand and wallow

of perspective, allowed him to survive where

in sadness and depression? How we respond

others perished. Victor Frankl had found the

is our choice. From the perspective of our

connection to his Soul where every experience

Soul Self, there is no such thing as failure,

became “divine.” The personality or ego self is

only growth and learning. This is great news.

appalled by the horror, the Soul Self rejoices

We have the power to change ourselves and

in the potential growth of the experience. His

experience joy no matter what’s going on

“choice” embodied the essence of awakened

within or around us. It is our ego self that

consciousness. He refused to be a victim.

As a hypnotherapist, I know that everything we need to heal, to be healthy, happy and successful is available to us when we tap into the power of our own mind. All emotion follows thought. If you’re not feeling as good as you would like, stop and pay attention to what you’re thinking about and choose something

goes kicking and screaming into the night

Several years ago, I was asked to present

different. There is beauty everywhere. We live

when things do not turn out the way we had

at the St. Joseph’s Medical Center, Know Your

in a world of unlimited potential. Whatever

planned, or when we are jolted “awake” by

Mind Body and Spirit series – a fabulously

circumstance you find yourself in, this may

an unexpected tragedy, illness, loss, death or

enlightened series – offering alternative

be your opportunity to embrace what you’ve

change. Ego consciousness is the opposite

healing modalities and information to help

always dreamed of. Wherever you are at this

of Soul consciousness. When we live our

empower those in a health crisis. What I really

lives primarily from our ego-self, we get

wanted to get across to the participants and to

stuck in betrayal, dissatisfaction, blame and

“empower” them with, was that our thoughts

unhappiness. Where’s the fun in that?

literally create how we feel and affect our

moment in your life, start! Decide today to be happy no matter what may be “happening” in your life. What you focus on, you will get more of. Your thoughts and beliefs create your

I am reminded of the book by Victor Frankl,

body – that stress is absolutely a by-product

Man’s Search for Meaning, where after his

of our thinking, and that we have more control

entire family was executed, he was forced to

over our experiences than we have been

empowered experience, by changing your

endure and witness unspeakable atrocities

conditioned to believe. An audience of people

focus. Imagine for just a moment, that every

in a Nazi death camp, including starvation,

whose lives have been touched by cancer or

experience was perfectly designed by your

humiliation, sterilization and pain. Yet he was

some other form of “dis-ease” in the body

Soul-Self to help you grow and learn.

Since 1995, as a Certified Hypnotherapist and Soul Discovery Coach, Suzie Bowers has worked with people all over the world to assist them in overcoming and moving through self-defeating programs and beliefs, connect with their own inner wisdom, and pursue their passion. She is author of Ten Keys to Living a Soul Life, an instructional guide for finding happiness by experiencing life from the Soul perspective instead of ego consciousness.

Owner of California Hypnosis and Herbal Center, Suzie is located in Stockton, California.

experience. Today choose a different, more

For more information on St. Joseph’s Know Your Body, Mind & Spirit wellness series, please call (209) 461-6889.

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A T T GO IT!!

FA S H IO N

HAVE

Fun and functional items you could live without… but why would you want to?

PHOTOS BY SHERIDAN BLACKARD

RED SUEDE BOOTS NEED WE SAY MORE?

BY GIANNI BINI

AVAILABLE AT DILLIARD’S

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HOODIE MUFFLER IT’S A KNIT HOOD, SCARF, AND MITTENS ALL IN ONE!

BY MERONA

AVAILABLE AT TARGET

LUMINIZING BLACK MASK BOOST SKIN CLARITY AND RADIANCE WITH THIS INNOVATIVE PEEL-OFF MASK THAT LOOKS LIKE BLACK PATENT LEATHER ON YOUR SKIN

BY BOSCIA

AVAILABLE AT SEPHORA

HAND SHOT PROFESSIONAL HAIR DRYER THIS LATEST TECHNOLOGY ELIMINATES THE HANDLE, ALLOWING YOU TO COMFORTABLY HOLD THE BARREL FOR PRECISION STYLING

BY CHI

AVAILABLE AT ULTA BEAUTY

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FUSION BOTTLE INFUSE FRESH FRUIT FLAVOR INTO WATER, TEA, AND SPIRITS

BY PRODYNE

AVAILABLE AT HOME GOODS

RUSSIAN STYLE DOLL MEASURING SET MEASURE ONE CUP TO ONE PINCH WITH THIS UNIQUE SET THAT IS FUN TO USE AND EASY TO STORE

BY MATROYSHKA

AVAILABLE AT COST PLUS WORLD MARKET

PIGGY WIGGY TIMER THIS HANDY COOKING AND BAKING AID WILL BRING A SMILE TO EVERYONE’S FACE

BY JOIE

AVAILABLE AT BED, BATH AND BEYOND

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FEATURE

Dragonfairy

PHOTOS BY SHERIDAN BLACKARD

Magical

Where Something

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ragonfairy is a unique and charming metaphysical

store on Stockton’s Miracle Mile. Owned and operated

by Heather and Javier Torres, Dragonfairy carries candles, books, crystals, Tibetan and crystal bowls, drums, mythical figures, angels, spiritual tools and much more. It is the warm and personal touch that turns a visit to this inviting little shop into a soothing and relaxing experience the moment you step in the door.

Dragonfairy also offers a variety of classes that will help each individual to move to a higher understanding and awareness regarding the metaphysical world. Psychic readings and energy healing are offered as well.

2119 Pacific Avenue Stockton 209.463.1871

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Stop by or visit their website at www.dragonfairybodysoul.com for a list of events and classes.

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B EAUTY

HONEY IS A SWEET TREAT FOR SKIN Cucumber Honey Eye Nourisher

COURTESY OF THE NATIONAL HONEY BOARD

Makes 4 treatments

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anufacturers have used honey in

everything from hand lotions and moisturizers to bar soaps and bubble baths. One reason they use honey is for its wholesome, allnatural image; more and more consumers are demanding cosmetics and personal care

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1 Tbsp. aloe vera gel 2 tsp. cucumber, peeled with seeds removed ½ tsp. chamomile tea ½ tsp. honey

teep chamomile tea in boiling water. Set aside to cool.

In food processor or blender combine cucumber, aloe vera and honey. Blend on low setting. Add chamomile tea. Blend until smooth. Apply gently under eyes using ring finger.

Store in glass dish covered with plastic wrap in refrigerator for up to one week. Best applied chilled.

products made from natural ingredients. In the case of honey, however, image is just the beginning.

Sweethearts’ Chocolate Honey Scrub

First, honey is a humectant, which means it attracts and retains moisture. This

Potential Benefits: Aids in exfoliation while honey helps moisturize.

Makes 2 treatments

makes honey a natural fit in a variety of moisturizing products, including cleansers, creams, shampoos and conditioners.

Look for honey in store-bought beauty products, or simply add a squeeze of honey to your moisturizer, shampoo or soap at home.

For some extra pampering, try whipping up a simple beauty recipe yourself.

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6 Tbsp. unsweetened chocolate, grated 2 cups honey 2 cups kosher salt ½ cup grapeseed oil

n rubber mixing bowl, combine honey and grapeseed oil. Stir in chocolate and salt mixing completely. Consistency should be grainy and thick. Apply scrub to skin and gently massage all over the body. Remove with warm damp towels or rinse in shower.

Green Honey Glow Mask Makes 2 treatments

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4 cups fresh spinach 1 cup fresh mint 3 Tbsp. honey 1 piece (1-inch) ginger 1 ripe banana 2 egg whites

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Add honey and banana and blend until liquid consistency. Add egg whites, blend until all ingredients are mixed thoroughly. Transfer to porcelain bowl or glass dish. On clean skin apply a small amount of Green Honey Glow to entire face and neck. Apply using a fan brush or finger tips. Allow to remain on skin for 1520 minutes. Rinse and apply appropriate moisturizer. Store covered in refrigerator for up to one week.

Using honey, a natural humectant with antimicrobial properties, these recipes created by the National Honey Board will help hydrate skin while relaxing the soul.

Aloha Honey Hawaiian Delight Makes 2 treatments

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teep green tea in boiling water. Set aside to cool.

Peel papaya wedge and remove seeds. In blender or food processor, blend papaya and pineapple until pureed. Pour into glass bowl and combine honey and green tea. Mix well. Apply to face with fan brush or finger tips. Recline and rest for 10 to 15 minutes.

Remove completely with tepid water and soft facial cloth. Store in covered container in refrigerator for up to one week.

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HAPPY MEALS

BY SANDRA GORDON

“What did you do in school today?”

“Who did you play with at recess?”

“Did you see that article in the newspaper?”

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ating together as a family may not seem like such a big deal. But

it can make a big difference for your kids in terms of their self-image,

you threw peas in the lunch room. Mom threw peas? Who knew?

sense of security, self-esteem, and overall sense of happiness. “Regular

It’s no wonder that family meals are associated with lower teenage

family meals are probably the best psychological ‘daily vitamin’ parents

pregnancy rates, higher grade point averages, fewer eating disorders in

can give their children,” says Carleton Kendrick, Ed.M., L.C.S.W, a family

teens, and lower risk of depression. Moreover, the psychological benefits

therapist in Millis, Massachusetts and author of Take Out Your Nose

go both ways. A recent telephone survey of 2,008 U.S. households

Ring, Honey, We’re Going to

sponsored by Barilla found

Grandma’s. “They’re far more

that adults who eat with

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term than you might think

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“Family

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meals pay off for adults and

especially when you focus

children,” says William J.

on keeping the conversation

Doherty, Ph.D., professor of

positive. “Dinner can be a

family social science at the

wonderful time to hear about

University of Minnesota in

everyone’s day or anything

St. Paul, who helped Barilla

else your kids want to talk

analyze the survey results. It’s

about that you don’t usually

a ritual none of us really ever

take the time to discuss,”

outgrow. The key is to start the

says Vicki Panaccione, Ph.D.,

meal tradition when your kids

founder of the Better Parenting

are young, then keep it up.

Institute

Melbourne,

“When you get your kids into

Florida. It also gives kids the

the habit of family dinners,

chance to be themselves

they’ll keep doing it when

and share their opinions

they get older and become

within the safe confines of

more independent,” Doherty

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home, without risking the rejection of their peers. And even toddlers

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the time, for example, when you got sent to the principal because

says. In other words, when they morph into eye-rolling teenagers.

can begin to feel like a valued contributing member of the family when

To keep everyone coming back for more, turn off the TV and your cell

they skooch their chairs up to the dinner table and start to chime in.

phone and up the fun factor. Need ideas? We asked moms just like you

While the peas are being passed, the open forum also gives your kids

to share the unique ways they make meals memorable and festive for

the opportunity to learn about your family’s history and your past –

the whole family. Here’s what they said.

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“We have picnics on the dining room floor.”

“We have table talkers.”

“We have storybook dinners.”

“Every now and then, my family eats

“We have a ‘talk about it’ bowl, an actual

“When my 6-year-old son, Franklin,

dinner on the floor,” says Michelle Nicholasen,

bowl that my kids and my husband and I

gets interested in a character or a historical

the mom of five. “We spread out a tablecloth

can fill with conversation starters, such as an

happening, I create a meal around it,” says

or picnic blanket and eat something on the

article we’ve seen, a photo we’ve ripped out

Elura Nanos Kish. “For example, he’s been

ground that’s really a drag to clean up, like

of a magazine, or an object, like a funny sticker,

watching a DVD of an Australian storybook in

the rice in burritos or Chinese food. My kids

to later talk about at the table,” says Jeanne

which the characters eat pavlova (a meringue-

think sitting on the floor is weird and fun, and

Muchnick, the mom of two teenage girls. “If

based dessert with strawberries or kiwi) and

even funnier that my husband and I are doing

no one puts something in the bowl, I have a

lamington (sponge cake dipped in chocolate),

it, too. I notice that when we eat on the floor,

list of questions I’ve typed up and folded up

so we found recipes for these desserts and

my kids don’t complain as much about the

like Chinese fortunes that are meant to stir

made them for a little Aussie dinner party,

food and they can’t jockey for seats or get up

conversation, such as: What actor/actresses

along with shrimp on the barbie. If we center

and wander around like they sometimes do. It

would play you in the movie of your life and

dinner around a theme, it’s no problem to get

breaks us out of a rut.”

why? What’s the funniest story you know about

everyone excited about it.”

❧ “We light candles every night.”

“Eating by candlelight makes the dinner seem special and gets my kids to slow down, have a conversation, and linger at the table to share stories from the day long after the food is gone,” says Pamela MacPhee, the mom of three middleschoolers.

yourself as a baby? If you could change your

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name, what would it be? What activities would fit into your perfect day? Would you be willing to have nightmares every night for a year if you could be rewarded with extraordinary wealth?

If you could have one superpower, what would you choose? The questions have changed as my girls have gotten older. But over the years, we’ve found out some interesting stuff about each other. This game is even more fun to do

“My husband and sons do the cooking.”

“Every Tuesday night, my husband and sons plan dinner and prepare it. I love it because I have a night off, plus it’s a great way for the kids to learn to cook,” says Padi Selwyn, the mom of two.

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“We have DIY dinners.”

“My kids help make dinner an event.”

“I fix lots of finger foods.”

“At least once a week, I’ll put out all the

“My girls help me plan our meals for the

“My boys love to dip and dunk, so I

parts of the dinner separately and have my

week,” says Christine Bolzan, the mom of

often serve finger foods such as wings,

husband and son make their own version of

three girls ages 8, 6 and 3. “They’ll write the

ribs, celery stuffed with light cream cheese

whatever it is we’re having,” says Jill Houk.

grocery list for me, drawing items if they can’t

and Greek yogurt, and carrot sticks,” says

“With taco night, for example, I’ll put out corn

spell them. Then they’ll carry the list through

Georgia Orcutt, the mom of two. “I also fill

tortillas, refried beans, Spanish rice, shredded

the grocery store and check off items as we

a compartmentalized appetizer tray with

lettuce, chopped tomatoes, cheese, salsa,

find them. I think my girls have more fun with

sliced cucumbers, sliced peppers, pieces of

meat, and cheese. My husband and son love it

dinner because they’re included in the process.

string cheese, nuts, olives, crackers, and sliced

because they can make their own taco combos,

They’ve planned entirely green dinners – pesto

whole-grain breads along with Greek yogurt,

and I love it because I don’t have to be the

chicken, broccoli, honeydew melon, and a

hummus, tzatziki, even applesauce. They love

one to do all the work. Build-a-dinner works

salad. We’ve also had princess night, in which

to play with the combinations.”

great with pasta, burritos, pizza and even

everyone comes in costume and dinner is

dessert with company such as a make-your-

served on our good china.”

own sundae bar.”

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CAREER - WALK ING A MILE IN HER SHO E S

A CUT ABOVE One woman’s quest to make her clients’ day

BY CHARLEEN EARLEY PHOTOS BY SHERIDAN BLACKARD

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f you have a license and talent for shampooing,

trimming, cutting, styling and teasing tresses along with a penchant for all things hair, then you might have what it takes to walk a mile in Marcella Galante’s grey knee-high suede boots at her hair studio called Destination Salon.

Co-owner of the salon in Stockton off Pacific Avenue with her mother Arlene Dark, Galante knew she wanted to be a hair stylist ever since her junior year at Edison High School in Stockton.

Cutting hair for over 30 years now, I watched with great envy as Galante first massaged her Stockton client Geri Garibay’s neck, before shampooing her hair, followed by a color balance. That’s about the time I secretly tucked my own dry and damaged hair out of plain view.

“I never judge my clients and tell them what they’ve done wrong to their hair,” said Galante, as if she read my mind. “Because honestly, a woman’s gotta do what a woman’s gotta do!”

She labels her salon as a “day-maker” in which she goes above and beyond the typical wash, cut and style – she steps it up by doing extra things for her clients – thus ‘making their day.’

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For example, she starts each visit by offering her clients hot tea

with a small hand towel. It was almost like watching a magic trick. I tried

served in a clear glass mug, taking earrings out and placing them in an

it at home later, only to watch the towel pop off my head with just one

adorable wooden bowl, and placing their purses and jackets on hooks

inch of a turn.

behind full-length beveled mirrors – instead of on the floor or cluttered tables in front of small mirrors one finds in most hair salons.

While waiting on Garibay’s color to set, Galante began work on another client, Corene Phillips of Lodi, who works for and is family

“I love our full-length mirrors because I can see the whole person

to the Michael David Winery. A client of her for four years, and many

and not just the head while styling,” said Galante, who had the salon

conversations later, Galante laughed when she shared the story of not

redesigned from top to bottom in only six weeks by Billy Urbani of

knowing Corene was related to the winery through family, when Corene

Stockton and her brother Marco Galante.

mentioned something about taking a pie home from work.

During the first 15 minutes, she consults with her clients, asks

“I thought she just worked there!” laughed Galante. “When my

questions, reviews their records from past visits for products previously

clients come in, I don’t get involved with where they come from or what

applied, and proceeds with a shoulder and neck massage.

they do, so sometimes I don’t connect the dots!”

She said it’s not just about beauty anymore.

“There’s a shift in our industry. Hairdressers of yesterday were the rock stars, now the focus is on our clients’ total well-being in mind,

With dedicated clients coming from as far as Hawaii, Galante said they also come from all walks of life, all nationalities and hair types, and all ages, including children.

body and spirit,” said Galante. “As a day-maker, my goal is to be a good

“Babies’ first haircuts are always complimentary,” said Galante,

servant, connect with my clients on a human level and make them feel

grandmother to eight grandkids between her and her husband’s grown

good. Today it’s not about fancy trends, because models in designer

kids. “My clients come in for complimentary bangs cut, too.”

magazines do not apply to everyone.”

She follows the philosophy of David Wagner, world-renowned hairstylist and founder of Juut Salonspa Premier Aveda Salon and Spa

She also donates her time to cancer patients.

“She cut my hair just before my hair began to fall out,” said Garibay, now a three-year breast cancer survivor.

of Minneapolis, because it’s not just about hair, but about spiritual

“I support them through the processes,” said Galante.

and whole body wellness. Aveda also uses sustainable hair and body

Also a supporter of the American Cancer Society, local schools and

products, all of which Galante uses on her clients, and sells in her salon.

local charities, Galante bids goodbye to each of her clients with a warm

“It’s also about being a good listener and friend,” said Galante, who’s been cutting Garibay’s hair for the last 31 years. “I basically grew up with Geri and her family!”

After a seven- to 10-minute massage during the shampoo process, also known as the quiet zone, Galante creatively wraps her client’s head

hug.

“What I love about my job is going above and beyond,” she said.

“Doing random acts of kindness in making people feel good. I try to see each of my guests when they come in, as if it were the first time I saw them!”

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G E TAWAYS

Unique Boutiques for the Traveler with Soul

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BY KAREN BAKHTEGAN PHOTOS COURTESY JOIE DE VIVRE HOTELS

ollowing a recent visit to Southern California which included a stay at a high-priced hotel that left much to be desired, I

decided to do some heavy research before booking my next excursion. While browsing a popular travel site, I stumbled across the very unique Joie De Vivre collection of boutique hotels. Intrigued by the brightly colored photos displaying beautifully designed and very inviting guest rooms and common areas, I decided to visit their website and was instantly hooked.

I had to see for myself so I immediately booked a room at the Wild Palms in Sunnyvale. I found that, as inviting as

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the website had been, it was only a sneak preview of just how pleasant, relaxing and unique the experience would be. And this wasn’t even one of the properties with a spa.

I have now vowed to become a regular visitor to these glorious little hotels.

San Francisco-based Joie de Vivre Hotels are an eclectic collection of hotels, spas, restaurants and escapes in California. Each hotel is expertly designed to reflect the spirit of its location. From the politically-themed Citizen Hotel in Sacramento to the surfer-inspired Shorebreak Hotel in Huntington Beach, these hotels promise to engage all five of their guests’ senses.

The beautiful rooms, lobbies and grounds are relaxing and luxurious while surprisingly affordable.

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Almost half of the hotels are pet-friendly without weight restrictions. Most do not charge any pet fees, and simply require that pet policies are followed. The staff is committed to providing impeccable service and attention to detail to ensure your stay is both relaxing and unforgettable.

Joie de Vivre Green Dreams is focused on preserving the environment by incorporating sustainability into the company’s core business operations. The company is working toward green certification for all of its properties. The mission of the Green Dreams program is to adhere to the strictest environmental standards, engage in sustainable practices and maintain an impeccable quality of guest experience.

Several properties, including the luxurious Ventana Inn in Big Sur and the Carmel Valley Ranch in Carmel, offer a spa experience like no other while being surrounded by the most beautiful landscapes nature has to offer.

With current properties in San Francisco, the Central Coast, Silicon Valley, Southern California, Sacramento and Sonoma Wine Country, Joie De Vivre has recently welcomed two new properties to its collection – the Custom Hotel in Los Angeles at LAX, and The Saguaro in Scottsdale, Arizona.

More new hotels are coming soon to Palm Springs and Chicago.

For more information or reservations visit: www.jdvhotels.com

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QUICK, AND EASY SOUP RECIPE

Cheesy Broccoli Potato Soup PREPARATION

Melt butter in large saucepan over medium heat. Add onion and cook until tender. Add flour and stir until blended.

Gradually stir in broth. Heat until slightly thickened. Add milk, broccoli and potatoes. Cook over low heat for 30 minutes or until broccoli and potatoes are tender. Stir in cheese and seasonings.

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Servings: 12 Prep time: 15 minutes Cook time: 30 minutes Ingredients 4 tablespoons butter 1 cup onion, chopped ½ cup flour 4 cups chicken broth 4 cups low-fat milk 1 (16-ounce) package frozen chopped broccoli 2 cups potatoes, peeled and diced 1 ½ cups shredded cheddar cheese 1 tablespoon Worcestershire sauce 1 teaspoon salt ½ teaspoon pepper

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Red Hat Chapter, “Diamond Lil’s.”

Mardi Gras Celebration on Fat Tuesday ever y year at Chez Shari in Manteca.

State College over 30 years ago and lived together 35 years and going strong! These women all graduated from Fresno in touch and catch up. Pictured from left to right are in Delta Gamma sorority. They get together once a year to keep Lea, and Patricia DeMasters.

Bonnie Bloom, Kathleen Stevens, Kathy Efird, Terri Almeida, Judy

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Sewing club of 55 years always celebrates birthdays together.

Julie Stayrook, Pat Baglietto, Barbara Fedi, Andrene Mazzanti, Marianne Garibaldi, Alva Garibaldi, Candace Robards, Kim Tetz, Melodie Venn, Jill Kelley, Joanie Rogers, Barbara Boggs, Jolene Azevedo, Leslie Sachewsky, Diane Lally and Kerry Egan.

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